Speaker 1: Listen as your day unfalse challenge what the futurese Try
Speaker 1: and keep your hair up to the sky. Lovers, they
Speaker 1: may cause you tears. Go ahead, release.
Speaker 2: Your fears, stand up and be counting. Don't be shamed
Speaker 2: to cry.
Speaker 3: You gotta be.
Speaker 2: You gotta be bad, you.
Speaker 1: Gotta be born.
Speaker 2: You're gonna be wiser. You gotta be hard, you gotta
Speaker 2: be tough, You gotta be stronger, you gotta be.
Speaker 3: Cool, You gotta be You gotta.
Speaker 1: Stay together, no loves saying to day herold what your
Speaker 1: mother said, be in the books your father with, trying
Speaker 1: to solve the puzzles in your sweet time.
Speaker 2: Some may have more question than you.
Speaker 4: Others take a different you.
Speaker 2: My oh mind, You're not everything out of a brumle
Speaker 2: dring out of a wiser. You're gonna be hard. You
Speaker 2: gotta be tough. You're gotta be stronger, you gotta be cool,
Speaker 2: you gotta be come.
Speaker 3: I gotta stay.
Speaker 1: Takegether and I know all. I know what I was
Speaker 1: saying to Day to ask no questions and cons on
Speaker 1: with not living in me like I think, still a face,
Speaker 1: welcome some staying guess I give you, Try to us,
Speaker 1: not stake to stay you sometimes your say unfolds, challenge,
Speaker 1: want the future, hose trying to keep your head up
Speaker 1: to the scirm loves tham it cause your tears, Oh head,
Speaker 1: release your fears, ma.
Speaker 2: Ma it. You're not any bad and you're gonna a
Speaker 2: bone dring of any wiser. You're not a a huh da,
Speaker 2: You're not to be stronger, You're not to.
Speaker 3: Be You're not a gotta take ye.
Speaker 4: That was Desiree.
Speaker 3: Check her out on Apple iTunes, and uh, you gotta
Speaker 3: be bad, you gotta be bold, you gotta be.
Speaker 4: Wiser, you gotta stick together. All I know, all I
Speaker 4: know is level save the day.
Speaker 3: It's funny because that song she talks about everything you
Speaker 3: need to be, but then it's like, fuck it, just
Speaker 3: level save it. You know what, if you're not any
Speaker 3: of those things, just just just go with love.
Speaker 4: That's a mantra to live by. Honestly, Desiree, you knew
Speaker 4: what the fuck you're talking about?
Speaker 2: You do?
Speaker 3: You did you do? Where are you at right out there?
Speaker 4: I do want to know, Like, what's Dessie doing now?
Speaker 4: That was a fucking pte.
Speaker 3: She's still eating off of that song for sure.
Speaker 4: For sure she's coming for us. So what's going on
Speaker 4: Erica this week?
Speaker 3: Well, I just thought we had had I smoked, so
Speaker 3: that there's that, okay, which is why I can't really
Speaker 3: communicate the moment.
Speaker 5: But at least on the same page. This is gonna
Speaker 5: be a real issue in the future.
Speaker 3: I'm just going to drink water. I spoke on a
Speaker 3: panel today, which thank god I wasn't high, because God
Speaker 3: knows I would have been saying some bullshit. I was
Speaker 3: already like a little loud, aggressive like I am.
Speaker 4: But I feel like the heat is too It's too
Speaker 4: hot in La to smoke before it gets starts cooling down. No,
Speaker 4: like it even we pulled over at the park today
Speaker 4: like we were in high school to smoke a joint
Speaker 4: before we started because we didn't want to smoke in
Speaker 4: the car and we didn't want to smoke in front
Speaker 4: of the baby. Well floor floor and uh I really, floor.
Speaker 3: Is like my second mother. So like I feel like
Speaker 3: I like I still have to hide. Yeah, I still hide.
Speaker 4: I had a whole seventh grade flashback when we pulled
Speaker 4: over to smoke.
Speaker 3: I know, I was like, where should we smoke? Where
Speaker 3: should we be smoked? My house was like around the corner.
Speaker 4: Like your backyard, We geniuses, it's four hundred degrees in
Speaker 4: uh the family band eyes and we were smoking at
Speaker 4: the park. It was like teenagers.
Speaker 3: And then what else? Anyway, it was great, It was great.
Speaker 3: It was put on through Hey Okay real make sure
Speaker 3: you follow them on Instagram and uh my girl Zoila
Speaker 3: Darton of the Word Agency put the event together. And
Speaker 3: it's really cool because they I guess, hey, hey, Okay
Speaker 3: really goes around to different cities and like just does
Speaker 3: different panels with different women, Like it's not always single parenting.
Speaker 3: This panel in particular was single parenting and then like
Speaker 3: if you're not a single parent, like maybe were raised
Speaker 3: by a single parent, and then discussing how single parents
Speaker 3: come together to support each other, what are some of
Speaker 3: the things that what are the myths of single parenting?
Speaker 3: What do you find hardest? And single parenting And it
Speaker 3: was cool to be like on a panel full of
Speaker 3: like women that are going through the same thing. You know,
Speaker 3: I think I connect with someone like that all the time,
Speaker 3: which is you. But I don't have any other single
Speaker 3: parents friends. All my friends are in relationships. Then have
Speaker 3: a bababies.
Speaker 4: You know, I just realized, actually I do, I do
Speaker 4: have some, like one of my closest friends. I do
Speaker 4: have some a couple of single mom friends that are
Speaker 4: by choice actually not like local though the only one
Speaker 4: who's here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, connecting with them in person was cool.
Speaker 4: I saw on the Live because I was supposed to
Speaker 4: be there, but I got caught up at court.
Speaker 3: Bitch is at court because of bitch ass neg is.
Speaker 4: That's a different story for a different day. Anyway, I
Speaker 4: saw a part of the.
Speaker 3: Live.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, yes she has worked either. Oh and
Speaker 4: the chick next to you. I think it damaged to
Speaker 4: Mela too. She was sacking about sucking because that's where
Speaker 4: it's socking. She's sucking about Oh how she thinks like
Speaker 4: she feels parents who are not single view her or
Speaker 4: like if they have a perspective at all. I was
Speaker 4: like kind of listening, but I was like, oh, that's interesting,
Speaker 4: because I'm sure we do come off differently, even to
Speaker 4: our friends who are in relationships and you know, like
Speaker 4: peers in that school and shit, yeah no.
Speaker 3: That was one of the questions when they asked, like,
Speaker 3: what are some of the myths of single parents, and like,
Speaker 3: I was like, when she started talking about that, immediately
Speaker 3: thought about like just married couples and even women just
Speaker 3: because we're all so like paired again each other all
Speaker 3: the time, and so many so much insecurity amongst women.
Speaker 3: I feel like I've felt it a little bit and
Speaker 3: I'm just starting iri school journey. But I've noticed that
Speaker 3: most of the kids at her school are come from
Speaker 3: two parent households, and I'm usually like the one dropping
Speaker 3: her all for dad picts her up sometimes. But I
Speaker 3: just see them like, some of.
Speaker 4: The moms look at me. Do you think it's you
Speaker 4: in your head? Or do you think.
Speaker 3: We can't fix it? Don't worry, We'll fix it. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 3: just put it down. It might be all in my head.
Speaker 3: But even she the fact, I thought maybe it was
Speaker 3: in my head. But when she even acknowledged it and
Speaker 3: talked about it, it made me think like, well, maybe it's
Speaker 3: not in my head, you know what I mean? Because
Speaker 3: I'd be going up to IVY school no bron, sometimes
Speaker 3: I be dropping, or sometimes i'd be going real real cute,
Speaker 3: you know what i mean, because I'm just like want
Speaker 3: to be cute that day, or I'm working on a
Speaker 3: shoot or something, I'm all done up, and they're like,
Speaker 3: oh fuck, that's b coming a hear not all that,
Speaker 3: but just I think also just the idea, like the
Speaker 3: mythst that the things we create in our own heads too,
Speaker 3: you know what.
Speaker 4: I mean, because I think that's a lot of it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the things that we create in our own heads
Speaker 3: because of our insecurity about single parents being single parents.
Speaker 4: Because like the gillet or whatever. Because I think it
Speaker 4: could be that honestly, even in my like my friend's circles,
Speaker 4: because I do know other moms, like I've close friends
Speaker 4: to her mom's but are in relationships. And I remember, well, okay, hi, Alana,
Speaker 4: I think like like a couple months ago, she was
Speaker 4: like yeah, because she's like, you know, you go out
Speaker 4: a lot or something like something kind of to that effect.
Speaker 4: And it's like, what just because you don't go out
Speaker 4: at all? Like I got defensive, and I realized, like, Okay,
Speaker 4: first of all, bitch.
Speaker 5: Who cares if she if she thinks she go out
Speaker 5: a lot?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 5: And is it me being defensive because I'm like, because
Speaker 5: you can't go.
Speaker 4: Nowhere right, not mind you you glued to this couch
Speaker 4: because you can't go don't may not go out a lot.
Speaker 4: It's medium, Okay, shut up, it's me, no, but I
Speaker 4: know I noticed it in myself or you know what
Speaker 4: I mean, and like, oh, she made to comment to
Speaker 4: me last night, and it was I was totally me
Speaker 4: and she's like, hey, you know you tend to date
Speaker 4: dumb guys. Okay, Like just because I had a couple
Speaker 4: of dumb ones.
Speaker 3: We all have.
Speaker 4: I was like that you don't remember before you got
Speaker 4: settled down this one and this s this, And I'm like,
Speaker 4: oh my god, I'm being like defensive again because I
Speaker 4: have been told I'm very defensive because I haven't told
Speaker 4: it a lot. I'm sure it's probably true. So yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean, if you.
Speaker 3: Keep hearing something, you have to take it into consideration.
Speaker 3: But still at the same time, like I'm not at
Speaker 3: the same time like it's you don't have to take
Speaker 3: into consideration. I just mean, like, you know, sometimes you
Speaker 3: take a look and be like am I no, No,
Speaker 3: I'm not, but yeah, or.
Speaker 4: Just become more aware of it, all right.
Speaker 3: I think for sure some of a lot of it
Speaker 3: is in my head because I'm just new to the
Speaker 3: single I mean, yeah, I'm still relatively new to being
Speaker 3: this same parent and adjusting and now having so many
Speaker 3: new experiences that I always imagined having with my partner,
Speaker 3: like going to school, like those are together together and
Speaker 3: stuff like I think there's an insecurity in me for sure,
Speaker 3: in it, but also, you know, I do believe there's
Speaker 3: probably truth on the other side of it too, like them. Look,
Speaker 3: a lot of people look at single women as like,
Speaker 3: what what happened? What's wrong with you? What did you do?
Speaker 4: Yeah, like what's the drama? What's the tea? Right?
Speaker 3: And sometimes anal t we just didn't work out together?
Speaker 4: What happened with you?
Speaker 3: Right? So it's like scandal, you know what.
Speaker 4: I noticed too, And this can also be my insecurity.
Speaker 4: Like scrolling through Instagram, I see a lot of I. Well,
Speaker 4: now now that we're like we do this, I see
Speaker 4: a lot more single moms like having images on the internet.
Speaker 4: But I feel like before I'm like, I tapped into
Speaker 4: this village, and I tapped into like the strong single
Speaker 4: mom and me the empowered single mom. I always saw
Speaker 4: images of like these perfect family, happy families on Instagram. Everybody,
Speaker 4: everybody works out, everybody gets along fucking great except me.
Speaker 3: Right right?
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, that's true.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it was cool to just be on that
Speaker 3: panel and discuss all those things and connect with the
Speaker 3: women on there, and it was just interesting, like like
Speaker 3: one of the girls didn't have uh isn't a single mom,
Speaker 3: she was raised by one. And on my way there,
Speaker 3: I was just like, wow, I do have so many
Speaker 3: amazing single women in my like single single mothers in
Speaker 3: my life. Like my mom is a single mother floor
Speaker 3: who helps me with Iri And it's like invaluable and
Speaker 3: is like my is my family was a single mother,
Speaker 3: you know, like my grandmother, No.
Speaker 4: She would.
Speaker 3: I think she separated from my grandfather when my mom
Speaker 3: was seventeen, So I mean it's still she's still a
Speaker 3: mother and it's just different. But thinking about all that,
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, there's just I do. Even if
Speaker 3: I don't have a lot of single parent friends, I've
Speaker 3: been raised by single women.
Speaker 4: You know. Yeah you forget that, Like how much that's
Speaker 4: made a difference in your life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I think
Speaker 3: that was what I took away from it too. Like
Speaker 3: even me, sometimes I can look at it as being
Speaker 3: single parenting as like this bad like daunting thing, like
Speaker 3: not bad, but like the alternative is better, yeah, like
Speaker 3: like negative, yeah, so much better.
Speaker 4: Yeah, single mom, I mean it's one person and said
Speaker 4: it too.
Speaker 3: Yes, babe, okay, I'm coming to try with each other. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like just the alternative must be better like this, stay
Speaker 3: if you if I if I only had a man
Speaker 3: that was making me happy and everything was great, like
Speaker 3: parenting would be better. It's just not that's not necessarily true.
Speaker 3: And I think that's what I took away from it.
Speaker 3: Like I think I know that, but like sometimes I forget.
Speaker 4: Take it off.
Speaker 3: Our kids are on Wednesday. This is their first time
Speaker 3: back together in a month or so, and they're wildent.
Speaker 4: They have a lot of requests and like Gauds are
Speaker 4: getting older, they're like being able to communicate better.
Speaker 3: My friend like stop communic a little bit like it.
Speaker 4: Luna is like super attituty like a lot of rolling eyes.
Speaker 3: I know I rolled her. I went at her dad
Speaker 3: yesterday and I was.
Speaker 4: Like, she did this to me through the glass like
Speaker 4: forty seven times.
Speaker 3: I see you, liked where did you get this? O?
Speaker 4: God?
Speaker 5: And then she doesn't forget ship like remember I remember mom.
Speaker 4: When I'm like, don't say that in friend of people.
Speaker 4: Oh but speaking of single mom community period and being
Speaker 4: raised by single woman, well okay, that'll be jumping but
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, how do you think that's affected
Speaker 4: your personality? And which kind of brings us to today's topic.
Speaker 4: But let's go back for our current events. Let's bring
Speaker 4: it back. That's ringing back back. Sorry, just going a
Speaker 4: little too fast there. I'm trying to make find a
Speaker 4: final link and it just was too soon.
Speaker 3: That's a good question. But yeah, So if you don't
Speaker 3: know who okay, really, hey, okay, real is, I highly
Speaker 3: stay to follow them, follow a word dot agency, and
Speaker 3: follow all the beautiful, amazing women that I got to
Speaker 3: speak on a panel with. You can find them on
Speaker 3: our Instagram. I tagged all of them.
Speaker 2: Go.
Speaker 3: Then other than that, just say shit, girl work doing
Speaker 3: inappropriate things on the weekends.
Speaker 4: Okay, Like that's more what I'm talking about that I
Speaker 4: have no business doing what happened? Whatally?
Speaker 1: I am?
Speaker 4: Okay, what are you doing?
Speaker 3: I had a sexual encounter with a friend who has
Speaker 3: been my friend for a really long time, and I
Speaker 3: just don't know if what.
Speaker 4: Do you look at your text message because I'm a psycho.
Speaker 4: Oh I'm used to looking at people's say.
Speaker 3: Yeah with now you're okay, I'm getting the text on
Speaker 3: my on my computer. I had actually account with a
Speaker 3: friend who I've known for a very long time, and
Speaker 3: I just don't know how to feel about it. I
Speaker 3: don't know how to feel about it.
Speaker 4: Friend sexist, can be sketchy. It's a very touchy topic.
Speaker 4: It was like a long time coming. Oh there's been
Speaker 4: energy for a year, but it's just never matched up.
Speaker 3: And we kind of came to the point where an
Speaker 3: unspoken agreement was made that we're just gonna be friends,
Speaker 3: that we're not even gonna try anymore, you know, And
Speaker 3: so we accepted it. We didn't even talk about it.
Speaker 3: Was just like something that just happened.
Speaker 4: It just I mean, tequila and then tequila. Trust me,
Speaker 4: trust me, I know I'm going Tequila happened.
Speaker 3: And now I'm like, I don't know how to feel
Speaker 3: about it. I don't know how to feel about it.
Speaker 3: But how about you? That was my That was my weekend.
Speaker 4: I oh this weekend. For the first time, I attempted
Speaker 4: slightly to disconnect from Instagram. I don't really watch TV
Speaker 4: at all in general anyway, so I don't have cable.
Speaker 4: I didn't have to pay my internet bills, so I
Speaker 4: didn't have Netflix either. I was in silence. I wasn't
Speaker 4: in sight. Well, yeah, so I was just like trying
Speaker 4: to hear my own thoughts because it dawned on me
Speaker 4: that I'm very confused. I said, I know myself, but
Speaker 4: then like I'm faced with decisions and I'm like, I'm
Speaker 4: totally a lost. So I was kind of unplugged for
Speaker 4: like two days, even though like came Sunday night, I
Speaker 4: was like, I'm gonna sawload it again. I downloaded it
Speaker 4: for like ten minutes, which one went off Instagram.
Speaker 3: Oh you did, Okay, come here, come over here, here,
Speaker 3: I got her. I'm slip stuff, I think. Damn sorry,
Speaker 3: we're taking off a Sophia dress currently because it's itchy. Yeah,
Speaker 3: Disney Nick last, all our daughters have princess dresses on
Speaker 3: because apparently they're just so.
Speaker 4: I told them that their princesses in every image possible exactly,
Speaker 4: and I'm and we're perpetuating it. So okay, you're free. Good, Okay,
Speaker 4: then go get it and go put it on.
Speaker 3: Okay by yourself though, Okay, because you're a big girl,
Speaker 3: just painted your little moons. Okay, anyway, what we're talking about.
Speaker 4: Oh I tried to Okay, I tried to. Yeah, I
Speaker 4: don't know if it counts if we go to your
Speaker 4: friend's house, because then you just well, yeah, I went
Speaker 4: to my friend's house, but I didn't know but me
Speaker 4: not being in my phone, and I was how much she
Speaker 4: was on her phone. And then come Sunday, after I
Speaker 4: hung out with Erica, I cheated a little bit to
Speaker 4: see how many likes we got on our last post. Oh,
Speaker 4: the one with us kissing. Yeah, and then I realized
Speaker 4: after ten minutes I didn't really have anything on their
Speaker 4: business on Instagram, so I Brie deleted it and then
Speaker 4: downloaded it the next morning.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, how long was your How long was
Speaker 3: your Instagram? Fast?
Speaker 4: Two days? Yeah, weekend.
Speaker 3: You have to get past the three. I mean it's
Speaker 3: hard because we both have to, like we both like
Speaker 3: want to contribute on our page and stuff.
Speaker 4: That's going on over there. But I think you need
Speaker 4: to do five.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think I do, because that was it and I
Speaker 4: started to like it. Yeah, that's when you first started. Okay, okay, yeah,
Speaker 4: even like the pressure do not take a picture. I
Speaker 4: would even post half the pictures. I'm not a good poster.
Speaker 4: I admit I'll take four thousand selfies. Nobody will ever
Speaker 4: see them, though, now it's not pretty enough.
Speaker 3: You're sing my phone and looking at them you're gonna
Speaker 3: post and then you're like mine.
Speaker 4: I will literally go through it and my friend will
Speaker 4: be like, like, are you still fucking looking at that photo?
Speaker 5: I know, I just I don't like it anymore.
Speaker 3: It's stupid.
Speaker 4: What else happened this weekend? This week?
Speaker 3: What else?
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh, Lebron. I don't know if this is technically
Speaker 4: this week, but Lebron opened to school the promised school
Speaker 4: and Akron I promise school and Akron.
Speaker 7: Uh okay, maybe close the door, Okay, thank you, Akron, Akron, Ohio, Ohio.
Speaker 7: And it's for a third and fourth greater high risk
Speaker 7: school for the third and fourth graders. And they're guaranteed,
Speaker 7: like all these schools are guaranteed free tuition are guaranteed,
Speaker 7: a scholarship at Akron University.
Speaker 4: Or University of University of university.
Speaker 3: Or like yeah, it even like provides transportation, transportation, lunch,
Speaker 3: like filling up the pantry of your home.
Speaker 4: Oh no, and open and I thought that was cool,
Speaker 4: an open pantry for to take home for family. So
Speaker 4: like if you know people don't want you don't know
Speaker 4: what people kid, kids are going through and if they
Speaker 4: are hungry at home and not eating, like they have
Speaker 4: a place where people can just go like get stuff
Speaker 4: out of the pantry to take home, which is awesome.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they will assist in job placement for like parents.
Speaker 4: Oh that's dope. Yeah, because it's like a it's a
Speaker 4: structural thing. It trickles down, you know, if there's a
Speaker 4: troubled kid, it primarily probably has to do with that
Speaker 4: home stuff. I read also briefly about was scrolling that
Speaker 4: Dereck Rose was doing something similar to in Chicago, because
Speaker 4: I also scrolled today, got the scrolling. It's like the
Speaker 4: fucking news, huh that seven over the weekend there was
Speaker 4: seventy two there was a there's seventy two shootings in
Speaker 4: Chicago and maybe, like I want to don't quote me,
Speaker 4: like eleven or four eleven fatalities over the weekend and
Speaker 4: Chicago's bad and people don't really talk about it, like
Speaker 4: not enough. So yeah, there's ship that needs to be done.
Speaker 4: So I'm happy if people are stepping forward and doing that.
Speaker 4: Are stupid ass president, you guys share First of all,
Speaker 4: I don't want you help playing with that. Yeah, close
Speaker 4: that now, Lona, hey, close it. Now I don't even
Speaker 4: think she knows that. No, don't play with that. Oh
Speaker 4: my Jesus, the secret in the background, fucking with this
Speaker 4: attractive I'm fellow when it's ninety thousand, looks like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, there's I mean in Chicago is so bad.
Speaker 3: It's just every I feel like every weekend there's like
Speaker 3: a killer weekend there. Yeah, like what's going on? It's
Speaker 3: just gangs and gangs out there are just it's just
Speaker 3: really really bad, bad problem out there, and just like
Speaker 3: just there's just a sense of hopelessness. It's just like yeah,
Speaker 3: ingrained in that, like in the community out there.
Speaker 4: When that's in the environment, you can feel that. Shit.
Speaker 4: Even in Philly low key, Like I go there for
Speaker 4: a couple of days, I'm like, a, right, let's get
Speaker 4: out of here. It's like just bad, Like it's bad.
Speaker 4: I think you even had a conversation with like my
Speaker 4: aunt's friend's daughter, who at the time was like seventeen,
Speaker 4: and we were like trying to have a regular conversation,
Speaker 4: were at lunch, like what are you gonna do after
Speaker 4: like high school? She didn't go to high school.
Speaker 5: When her ged, she dropped out filling her boyfriend.
Speaker 4: She's like I don't know. I don't know, Like I
Speaker 4: like Instagram, like I don't know.
Speaker 5: I'm like, bitch, can you have a conversation.
Speaker 4: It was like embarrassing, and I just realized, like she
Speaker 4: don't know because nobody know, Like shut up for real,
Speaker 4: I don't wanna laugh, but like, yeah, I know, you know,
Speaker 4: like I mean this, it's true. There was just no
Speaker 4: sense of like I don't know, like one week, I
Speaker 4: feel like there was nobody seeing past like this barrier
Speaker 4: of this city, like when you're like in a community
Speaker 4: and it's closed and you don't actually get the opportunity
Speaker 4: to go outside of that community. You're locked in. You
Speaker 4: don't know shit outside of it.
Speaker 3: It's true.
Speaker 4: And hence, like a summer later, she got knocked up
Speaker 4: and I think she got a gdo Okay, I mean
Speaker 4: that's that's better than not doing it.
Speaker 5: But anyhow, we support teen moms, but we encourage you
Speaker 5: to wait.
Speaker 3: Yeah, try to wait, because we're.
Speaker 4: Thirty every year fucking losing our minds.
Speaker 3: It's so crazy. My my friend that I've had since childhood,
Speaker 3: I was working with her the other day and I
Speaker 3: was asking her how her younger sister's doing, because I
Speaker 3: haven't seen her in years, and she told me that
Speaker 3: she's like, oh, she's good. She's like she's good. She's
Speaker 3: kind of fast, like she got caught. It's like dick
Speaker 3: in the bathroom in school.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, she wants to be.
Speaker 3: Like a young mom. And I was like, she wants
Speaker 3: to be a young mom like that? I never I mean,
Speaker 3: of course I know that exists, but that's the first
Speaker 3: time I've ever heard someone tell me like I want
Speaker 3: to be a young mom.
Speaker 4: I find I heard somebody else's.
Speaker 3: And I was like, is this this Kylie Jenner like thing?
Speaker 3: Like what is going on?
Speaker 4: Is they show Teen Moms team?
Speaker 3: Is it all of it? Because really teen Moms doesn't
Speaker 3: really glorify No, if you're smart, if you're smart enough,
Speaker 3: you'll know it's that.
Speaker 4: Doesn't glorify it.
Speaker 3: But Kylie Jenner, I mean, she makes it look like
Speaker 3: she can live this fabulous because she can't. She can
Speaker 3: this fabulous life have a baby data rapper and it's
Speaker 3: cute and she takes like cute photos and shit, but
Speaker 3: that's not what everybody is at all, Like.
Speaker 4: I do I fear that because that's the age of
Speaker 4: social media and hello, we have girls. How do you
Speaker 4: like being instagram who she is in. How are we
Speaker 4: going to like prevent that from like shelter our kids
Speaker 4: from thinking they should be instagram who she's too. I
Speaker 4: don't know.
Speaker 3: I think that brings me to like talk about Beyonce's
Speaker 3: Vogue cover because she talks about that with you know,
Speaker 3: talking about her son and teaching him how to respect
Speaker 3: women and be his own have his own mind and
Speaker 3: age where like the Internet and Instagram are.
Speaker 4: So you know important. So okay, So Beyonce is on
Speaker 4: the cover of Vogue. She made I don't know made
Speaker 4: them is the right word. But she hired like the
Speaker 4: photographer of her choice, which was like this young kid
Speaker 4: we Hyler.
Speaker 3: Or something does some things. But yeah, in September, September
Speaker 3: issues like their biggest issue. I think it's Anna Wintour,
Speaker 3: Anna Wintour's last issue and it's like a huge deal
Speaker 3: for and it's.
Speaker 4: The first African American cover photographer. Yeah, which is what
Speaker 4: the fuck you guys been doing this whole time? Like
Speaker 4: who knew? But these are things we don't realize. So
Speaker 4: she did this really deep ass interview or what do
Speaker 4: I don't know?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess it was an interview I think someone
Speaker 3: asked her the question. They didn't post the framing of
Speaker 3: the questions.
Speaker 4: Or maybe they just throughout words and she was spoke
Speaker 4: sin Chrippert what they mean to her. So I got
Speaker 4: really deep and we were reading it before we started
Speaker 4: so we could talk about it. And I'm pretty sure
Speaker 4: we almost started crying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's I think what like really caught me.
Speaker 3: I guess I would say off guard is her candid,
Speaker 3: her candidness about her pregnancy because there's always been so
Speaker 3: much speculation about her pregnancy and if she had her
Speaker 3: first baby and what the deal was with that, and
Speaker 3: then her talking about she did talk about it in
Speaker 3: that in the article, and then her and now having
Speaker 3: this baby and oh my god, it's dancing just gonna
Speaker 3: snap back. If she was really big she had twins,
Speaker 3: and then like there was just all this body shaming
Speaker 3: even after she had the baby because she was bigger
Speaker 3: and gained weight.
Speaker 4: I didn't see her bigger. She was barely. I mean,
Speaker 4: she was sick, she's sick.
Speaker 3: She was again, she's still thicker than she's.
Speaker 4: Ever been, and I love it.
Speaker 3: She was bombed. She was bomb and that's what she
Speaker 3: talks about. Just like taking her time with this kid,
Speaker 3: like the first kid, Like she just felt like she
Speaker 3: had to get back, snap back real quick. And this time,
Speaker 3: you know, she had an emergency c section, which you
Speaker 3: know she did. Yeah, she said, she said she had
Speaker 3: an emergency c section. She had never rest before, that
Speaker 3: she was on bed rest for a whole month, and
Speaker 3: that their babies were in what is it called?
Speaker 4: And she even like, I like that she shed light
Speaker 4: on this the whole Sisyrian process that temporarily some of
Speaker 4: your organs are removed in most sectors and people like
Speaker 4: totally forget this part, like they literally removed ship. But
Speaker 4: I'm able to get the baby out. So that's a
Speaker 4: major recovery. Yeah, she had a major surgery.
Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, I know, shit that should hurt. Okay, you
Speaker 3: guys need to go in there and play.
Speaker 4: Okay, know me to put a movie on? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 4: So should I read a little snippet? Uh?
Speaker 3: Yeah? So then we So then we kept reading and
Speaker 3: she's talking about raising her daughter and her bull and
Speaker 3: her son.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Are we gonna talk about the ancestry part?
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah sure?
Speaker 4: So she's okay, So people, we got a lot of
Speaker 4: the pregnancy posts, the poop yeah, okay, well we'll be back.
Speaker 3: Br B. Sorry, we're back. Our kids are literally they're crazy.
Speaker 3: So I repooped in case you're wondering.
Speaker 4: Reminded me of we gotta comment on sun Cloud that said, sis,
Speaker 4: y'all need to put those kids, give those kids some benadryl.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was like, what, literally, someone told us to drug
Speaker 3: our kids.
Speaker 4: I've tried it on our New York episode. I've given
Speaker 4: a little better drill.
Speaker 3: She was sick. I've never given my give it works.
Speaker 4: Anyway. We can't do our kids. Okay, that's illegal, so Beyonce. Okay.
Speaker 4: So there's a lot of talk about what she says,
Speaker 4: specifically about her postpartum body that she was really candid about,
Speaker 4: but surprisingly we hadn't read the rest of the article.
Speaker 4: That's actually also really interesting and touches on a lot
Speaker 4: of pro like just a lot of interesting things that
Speaker 4: she usually to talk about. So one of the things
Speaker 4: that struck us, and it was very deep, was her
Speaker 4: take on ancestry, and she writes, I came from a
Speaker 4: lineage of broken male female relationships, abusive power, and mistrust.
Speaker 4: Only when I saw that clearly was I able to
Speaker 4: resolve those conflicts. In my own relationship. Connecting to the
Speaker 4: past and knowing our history makes us both bruised and beautiful.
Speaker 4: I researched my ancestry recently and learned that I came
Speaker 4: from a slave owner who fell in love with a
Speaker 4: married slave. I had to process that revelation over time.
Speaker 4: I questioned what it meant and tried to put it
Speaker 4: into perspective. I now believe it's why God blessed me
Speaker 4: with my twins. Male and female energy was able to
Speaker 4: coexist and grow in my blood for the first time.
Speaker 4: I pray that I am able to break the generational
Speaker 4: purses in my family and that my children will have
Speaker 4: less complicated lives.
Speaker 3: Like that's sad, so I mean again, And when I
Speaker 3: read that, I thought of my friend Nadalita, who was
Speaker 3: always talking about like letting go of like ancestral ancestual
Speaker 3: trauma that lives within us. And then Jamila Ben said
Speaker 3: that there's some studies done that cells have memory, and
Speaker 3: that makes total sense because we do bring like this
Speaker 3: innate things that are like innately in us that are
Speaker 3: passed on and on. Of course, like you know, society
Speaker 3: and culture play a part and just how you were
Speaker 3: raised and seeing images and listening to things, but there's
Speaker 3: also something that's like deeply rooted, deeper than that, and
Speaker 3: working on your ancestral trauma is something that people don't discuss.
Speaker 3: They don't they even think about. I never even thought
Speaker 3: about it. I didn't even know it was a thing.
Speaker 4: What does that mean? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know, I think beyond say, I mean,
Speaker 3: obviously she's been educated on it and is working.
Speaker 4: On that and acknowledging it.
Speaker 3: Yeah. And yeah, that idea that both female and male
Speaker 3: live can live inside of you, that's really kind of insane,
Speaker 3: even just like having a boy in general.
Speaker 5: And as a woman, you can grow a male male
Speaker 5: inside of you.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And another thing I read that when women carry boys,
Speaker 4: didn't that DNA stays in us till we die? But
Speaker 4: I don't think it's the same for for little girls.
Speaker 4: And also if you have sex with the guy, raw,
Speaker 4: if you get a guy's semen in your vagina, this
Speaker 4: is very black and whint very I don't know the
Speaker 4: word I'm looking for you. I'm trying to say that
Speaker 4: that all that semen, like their DNA stays in you
Speaker 4: until death too. What. Yeah, So they're doing studies.
Speaker 3: On anybody, so every person's semen that's.
Speaker 4: Been within me. They were doing they were doing studies
Speaker 4: on deceased women's like sell your living like their bones,
Speaker 4: and they kept finding DNA male DNA that wasn't of
Speaker 4: their sons or their fathers, and come to find out
Speaker 4: women store male DNA all.
Speaker 3: Women Like this is just yet across the board.
Speaker 4: Yep, I mean, I mean that that.
Speaker 3: Would be different. I'm just saying you sure she was
Speaker 3: not there?
Speaker 5: Yeah, she wasn't a little kimnock.
Speaker 4: I mean, you know, I'd just be reading on the
Speaker 4: internet like everybody else. So don't like mark my words
Speaker 4: on this, but if anyone does know anything about that,
Speaker 4: and uh, you know, if I'm wrong or if I'm.
Speaker 3: Right, I mean, that's really interesting if that's true, Like,
Speaker 3: that's really interesting and also scared because I definitely got
Speaker 3: some shit I don't want. I don't.
Speaker 4: I literally was like part of I know what to
Speaker 4: tell Luna when she's a teenager. Let me tell you
Speaker 4: what will happened. Let me tell you what happened, because
Speaker 4: literally I wish someone would have told me that. I can't,
Speaker 4: like that's my biggest I can't wait to be able
Speaker 4: to like of course, she's growing, she's a older woman.
Speaker 4: But like when you can really talk to your daughters
Speaker 4: and really level up them, like yeah, you could like that, boy,
Speaker 4: but I'm gonna tell you right.
Speaker 3: Now that DNA will be all you don't want, be
Speaker 3: sure right.
Speaker 4: Or just or.
Speaker 3: That too. Yeah, And I think, you.
Speaker 4: Know, like what made me really think about ancestral DNA
Speaker 4: and like just cellular memory period, it's just as black
Speaker 4: women or women, I mean, like slavery and the trauma
Speaker 4: of that, you know, like like lots of women were
Speaker 4: raped and in any like well every I'm sure like
Speaker 4: most society have had violent times in their history, you
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you carry that sorrow in your bone right
Speaker 3: in your blood like that. That history is deep, deep
Speaker 3: and dark dark, and it doesn't just leave. It doesn't
Speaker 3: just lead to you, right, and your children when you're
Speaker 3: growing that child, or when that's that former slave was
Speaker 3: growing growing a child in her stomach, she was passing
Speaker 3: some of that on.
Speaker 4: That's why I think also it's so important.
Speaker 3: Like when I was pregnant, I remember like reading a
Speaker 3: lot of stuff about really trying to like focus and
Speaker 3: be as positive as you can when you're pregnant, because yeah,
Speaker 3: you are kind of you are mixing cells and creating
Speaker 3: a life and passing on that ancestral DNA and that.
Speaker 4: Energy and that's and and whatever your energy is in
Speaker 4: your tone and even talking to the womb and like
Speaker 4: you're preparing, like you're preparing a woman for her like
Speaker 4: her journey onwards. So someone's about to like exit you
Speaker 4: and then walk this road and grow this road. So
Speaker 4: like all the words, all the things you say, that shit,
Speaker 4: that makes a difference.
Speaker 3: But I think the beauty and all of that. And
Speaker 3: just as a reminder, like from this article reading it
Speaker 3: is that you don't have to that doesn't have to
Speaker 3: define you. You can work on releasing that.
Speaker 4: And acknowledging it and releasing it, which is most important.
Speaker 3: Yes, what's going on?
Speaker 4: I can't itch They're too itchy, you remember, don't know
Speaker 4: they're too itchy. No more, we'll figure it out.
Speaker 8: Watch Alpha Omega, watch the movie.
Speaker 3: No, okay, put it on that Iri, I'm not putting
Speaker 3: it on you, go put it on yourself, my goodness.
Speaker 4: And then second she had this other part in the
Speaker 4: article inside out.
Speaker 3: Yet again, our girls are putting on more princess outfits.
Speaker 3: This is a problem. And actually I recently talked to
Speaker 3: another mom about going to Disneyland, and she told me
Speaker 3: that there's an actual is it actual study that like
Speaker 3: taking your kids to Disney right and doing the whole
Speaker 3: princess experience is detrimental to their health? Isn't actual study
Speaker 3: or is there her personal research in mind? I don't know.
Speaker 3: I need to research it more, but she was very convincing,
Speaker 3: and that, like, the princess syndrome is like more and
Speaker 3: more in society popping up. Let me think about it. People,
Speaker 3: girls have been wanting to be princesses since the beginning
Speaker 3: of time. You know, it didn't just happen now, but.
Speaker 4: Like and then, only fucking Megan makes it with the
Speaker 4: fuck No, if any mom has ever been to Disney
Speaker 4: and then the princess experience, please like your kid will
Speaker 4: never stop talking about it. Lu did when she was
Speaker 4: fucking two. I'm pretty sure she might have been one
Speaker 4: and a half. Honest to god, I don't even know
Speaker 4: if she was too yet will not stop talking about
Speaker 4: it till this day.
Speaker 3: I'm not taking care in the princess experience it like
Speaker 3: I know my mom is gonna try.
Speaker 5: Oh for sure, and I'm sure it's like four hundred
Speaker 5: dollars a.
Speaker 3: Kid, Oh my god. But anyway, yeah, just about that.
Speaker 3: So that was one part of the the interview article
Speaker 3: that we read with Beyonce. But then there was a
Speaker 3: second part that really really struck me. And she was
Speaker 3: talking about her son, and uh, she was just saying
Speaker 3: she wants her she wants her kids to be ceoses.
Speaker 3: Know that they don't have ceilings. For daughters, know that
Speaker 3: they don't have ceilings. That they don't have to be
Speaker 3: politically correct, as long as they're authentic, respectful, compassionate, and empathetic.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, damn, she hit every single one. Authentic, respectful, compassionate, empathetic,
Speaker 3: and they don't have to be politically correct as long
Speaker 3: as you are respectful, like yeah, yes, yes, amen.
Speaker 4: Which I think is a big thing to like politically correct.
Speaker 4: We so often like, oh, you gotta be like this,
Speaker 4: you got to talk like this, you could have this
Speaker 4: tone and for people to accept your certain way.
Speaker 5: But it's like, no, you can do what the fuck
Speaker 5: you want as long as you're trueing.
Speaker 3: Or just saying cursings too much long you know what
Speaker 3: I mean, or offending people with your views yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 3: They can explore any religion, fall in love with any race,
Speaker 3: and love who they want to love. And then this
Speaker 3: was the line that really, oh shit, what did I
Speaker 3: just do with it? Got me? Me and Jamila read
Speaker 3: it and I was like, am I crying? You're not crying?
Speaker 4: I know. I was like, you're crying. No, I'm not
Speaker 4: taking away.
Speaker 3: Gass bitch, Like she says, I want the same thing
Speaker 3: for my son, and I want him to know that
Speaker 3: he can be strong and brave, but that he can
Speaker 3: also be sensitive and kind. I want my son to
Speaker 3: have a high emotional IQ where he is free to
Speaker 3: be caring, truthful, and honest. It's everything a woman wants
Speaker 3: in a man, and yet we don't teach it to
Speaker 3: our boys.
Speaker 4: I'm like, yes, I feel so passionately about that.
Speaker 3: Those few sentences, last few sentences everything a woman wants
Speaker 3: in the man, and yet we do not teach it
Speaker 3: to our boys.
Speaker 4: That is the most important thing.
Speaker 3: A men yance a men.
Speaker 4: And the church says, yes, yeah, I just like that.
Speaker 3: That line just resonated to me. I mean, I don't
Speaker 3: have a son, but like, and I'm sure you know,
Speaker 3: I'm not to discredit moms and what they do. But
Speaker 3: it's just not the focus. We're so busy teaching boys
Speaker 3: to be brave, to take risks, to like get out there,
Speaker 3: be strong, so cry, boys will be boys.
Speaker 4: Don't cry. Pick up that that that doll baby, boys
Speaker 4: don't play with that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, make the money, you know, and not be sensitive.
Speaker 3: Especially they don't cry thing like not being like why
Speaker 3: are you crying?
Speaker 4: Are you okay?
Speaker 3: What's wrong?
Speaker 4: How are you hate that? Shit? I hate it?
Speaker 3: Yeah, they don't be a baby? Yeah, yeah, it's I mean,
Speaker 3: it's something that's like ingreat I say it. That's you know,
Speaker 3: that's the thing, Like I just say it because I've
Speaker 3: heard it so many times. But yeah, you're absolutely right,
Speaker 3: like you should not say that. You know, these are
Speaker 3: little things that that are like implanted in our little
Speaker 3: human's brains and they are like, oh.
Speaker 4: Oh, don't do that, don't do that. I'm yeah, I
Speaker 4: feel I find myself being trying to be opposite that
Speaker 4: and like low key telling wounded, like to tough enough,
Speaker 4: or like oh something's not fair, my life's not fair.
Speaker 4: But I don't want to do it either way too much,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, because it's not okay either
Speaker 4: either way.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think you have to. It's a healthy
Speaker 3: balance both, like you don't want to go too far
Speaker 3: off those like, well, life isn't fair. Figure this out
Speaker 3: because then it takes like the joy and like the
Speaker 3: I just not takes all the joy but just like
Speaker 3: the joy of exploring life and you know, enjoying the
Speaker 3: journey because you're just like, well, shit isn't fair. You know,
Speaker 3: because I do the same thing too, Like I want
Speaker 3: my daughter to know that she's not always going to
Speaker 3: get what she wants, but I also want her to
Speaker 3: know that if she works hard, she can get what
Speaker 3: she wants. You know what I mean that she she
Speaker 3: works hard, then she you know, puts out good energy
Speaker 3: and good just just everything compact, being, compassion, being empathetic, everything.
Speaker 3: She said, like if you put all that out in
Speaker 3: the universal receiver back, if that's.
Speaker 4: What you want.
Speaker 3: But yeah, so that article was like really surprising to me.
Speaker 3: Not that I think Beyonce is like dumb. Clearly she ain't.
Speaker 3: She like builds an empire and you know, of course
Speaker 3: she had help, but you know, like she's the one
Speaker 3: who's calling the shots. So you know, I think I
Speaker 3: think she's finally just and what she said, She's finally
Speaker 3: comfortable in a place like where she she doesn't have
Speaker 3: to she'll never have to worry about anything or please,
Speaker 3: doesn't have to please anybody but her damn self.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and she's like, I'm just getting to that place.
Speaker 4: And it's like, Beyonce, just realize she doesn't have to please.
Speaker 3: She says, I'm like just now growing from a child
Speaker 3: into a young woman.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what I mean. But it's real. If
Speaker 4: you don't, if you don't address your inner child, that
Speaker 4: ship will go to your till you die. You will
Speaker 4: be like fighting the inner child and not even realizing
Speaker 4: you're doing it, and like still being defensive, still not
Speaker 4: recognizing shit, and trying to please people. And I'm sure
Speaker 4: there's so much pressure to please everybody when you're fucking Beyonce.
Speaker 3: Yeah, taking care of people. Well you're rich, just help me.
Speaker 3: What's the big deal? Why why can't you just do that?
Speaker 3: And feeling a lot of obligated and all types of shit.
Speaker 4: Speaking of Bee, who's obviously Okay, what do you think
Speaker 4: you think Bee is the alpha woman?
Speaker 3: By who?
Speaker 4: Beyonce?
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm like my base?
Speaker 4: Who's base Bay? Which Bay? Talking about baby?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 4: The bed.
Speaker 3: Besis.
Speaker 4: I think.
Speaker 3: She is. I don't know her enough, right, but if
Speaker 3: I was gonna outsider looking in, I would I would
Speaker 3: think that she's an alpha woman.
Speaker 4: Yeah, a hundred. She's this article that like she's really
Speaker 4: candid in it, I mean not candid, transparent, and like
Speaker 4: I think before, Okay, everybody's gonna kill me. I'm not.
Speaker 5: It's not that I'm not a huge Beyonce fan.
Speaker 4: I think she's great. Oh my god, they're calling it
Speaker 4: the Buddhist community. I'm a Buddhist, I chance sometimes, but
Speaker 4: they just keep calling me like the damn joke. Okay,
Speaker 4: let me not something very bad, like you said, Like
Speaker 4: even her talking about candidly by like being pro black
Speaker 4: and putting black people on the map because.
Speaker 3: And supporting one another and bringing people in places that
Speaker 3: she you know, she knows she use her plot.
Speaker 4: For platform for Yeah, so she's never really been that
Speaker 4: open about it. So her being really real is like,
Speaker 4: oh wow, it's a different. Uh, it's a different perspective
Speaker 4: from her.
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, talk talk it out, talk it out, and
Speaker 3: close the door.
Speaker 4: She has another backpack close the door after where the
Speaker 4: other one is. Oh okay, so what's today's topic, so that.
Speaker 3: Leads us in today's topic. Today's topic, we wanted to
Speaker 3: talk about the alpha female, and I was asking Jamila,
Speaker 3: I said, like, do you consider yourself an alpha female
Speaker 3: or do you consider yourself an omega female? And and
Speaker 3: through my research, I realized there's actually three categories. And
Speaker 3: I was really interesting researching this because I've only ever known, like,
Speaker 3: you know, the duality of them, and never knew there
Speaker 3: was like something in between, which is beta. So it
Speaker 3: goes alpha. There's either alpha female or male, beta female
Speaker 3: or male or omega female or male. I mean all
Speaker 3: have different traits. And reading both of them, reading all
Speaker 3: three of them, it was interesting because I was like,
Speaker 3: I can kind of see myself in the not I'm
Speaker 3: not really an omega honestly, I mean I think I
Speaker 3: am empathy. Like, first of all, maybe we should break
Speaker 3: down what the definitions of each one are so that
Speaker 3: maybe even you listening, you can kind of decipher where
Speaker 3: you think you fall on the spectrum, because I think
Speaker 3: we all kind of fall somewhere in between.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I don't know if there's.
Speaker 3: Like there's probably women that are male, even men that
Speaker 3: are purely alpha.
Speaker 4: Oh for sure.
Speaker 3: So basically an alpha female kind of is just always
Speaker 3: finds herself like her main goal is always to win.
Speaker 3: She always is like one step ahead of the competition,
Speaker 3: usually like she's the one who leads the conversation.
Speaker 4: She never second guessing herself.
Speaker 3: Super successful usually yeah, very successful. What else is it
Speaker 3: that that?
Speaker 5: And what I read is some of them it felt
Speaker 5: like she was maybe detached.
Speaker 3: It says the attention is always on you, and that's
Speaker 3: how you like it. It doesn't mean you're necessarily want
Speaker 3: to be the center of attention. You just prefer knowing
Speaker 3: that you're not the runt of the pack, so to speak,
Speaker 3: Like you realize you think you carry your weight and.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so then there's the beta.
Speaker 3: So then beta is like Alpha's second hand man. So
Speaker 3: beta is wants considers her himself in alpha, but always
Speaker 3: feels like he or she needs to prove that to people.
Speaker 3: It doesn't she she's she or he is not secure
Speaker 3: in that alpha.
Speaker 4: Role.
Speaker 3: There's so many different like conflicting like information on this,
Speaker 3: so it's kind of hard to know for sure. Like
Speaker 3: then the beta was like, oh, like they're like the cheerleader,
Speaker 3: the supporter who Alpha goes to talk.
Speaker 4: To the mediator, mediator, the submissive person, the one who's
Speaker 4: more like submissive.
Speaker 3: They weren't really that. I mean, they had some a
Speaker 3: missive traits.
Speaker 4: I guess omega beta Yeah, oh wait, oh sorry, we're
Speaker 4: not there yet.
Speaker 3: No, yeah, I know the beta. I think a lot
Speaker 3: of women and men, I think mostly women can kind
Speaker 3: of relate to the beta. When you're a beta woman,
Speaker 3: you very much want to be the alpha, but you
Speaker 3: simply don't see it in yourself. Some people say that
Speaker 3: betas are kind of defensive. Uh, you always feel like
Speaker 3: you're kind of battling the odds to gain some sort
Speaker 3: of balanced footing with everyone else. Let me say, compensating
Speaker 3: for you. Consider it, you're still a dominant woman.
Speaker 2: Though.
Speaker 3: I think betas are still dominant women. They have those
Speaker 3: alpha traits.
Speaker 5: But very little of the confidence to keep you on
Speaker 5: that level.
Speaker 3: I guess. I guess they're kind of always fighting against
Speaker 3: the current, frustrated that that things don't come as easily
Speaker 3: to you as they do to others, And sometimes it
Speaker 3: makes you bitter.
Speaker 4: Biggers are bitter, We're all a little bitter. Why not me?
Speaker 3: And then the omega is you're just like naturally empathetic,
Speaker 3: like you feel you feel for people, and.
Speaker 4: This one's the mediator.
Speaker 3: This one's like the mediator. I think Beta Beta has
Speaker 3: a little bit of mediation too, but I think the
Speaker 3: omega is more like a healer. You have a smooth over,
Speaker 3: smooth over like you take on a lot of people's problems.
Speaker 4: You care deep people, you care deeply about.
Speaker 3: Like what's going on with other people, and that that
Speaker 3: can sometimes be very draining to you. And you can
Speaker 3: feel taken advantage of. Yeah, all of these terms, and
Speaker 3: also you're a little bit submissive. A lot of its submissive.
Speaker 4: Yeah again they should just our Internet research. And the
Speaker 4: whole terminology comes from animals like dogs, like animals that
Speaker 4: run impacts. So it's not to be taken too literally.
Speaker 4: But it is interesting because I think people's perception is
Speaker 4: like I'm an alpha female.
Speaker 5: I'm an alpha fem, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: And in some ways I think I am, but.
Speaker 5: I see my I see him a little bit of
Speaker 5: myself and all three of them, Like, we did.
Speaker 3: A poll on my instagram, on both of our instagrams,
Speaker 3: and I asked.
Speaker 8: You, got hey, hey, now stop yelling. Be nice, I said,
Speaker 8: be nice. My god, I can't, hey, get out of
Speaker 8: her face. Okay, it's yours.
Speaker 4: It's fine.
Speaker 3: Okay, today's a rough day, guys. It's a mercury retrograde.
Speaker 3: She is fucking hard. How long is it too long?
Speaker 3: I don't know. I hope it's over soon. I think
Speaker 3: it's the end of this month. It's over anyway. So
Speaker 3: we did a pull on my Instagram and Jamila's Instagram,
Speaker 3: and what I found was that a lot of I asked.
Speaker 3: I asked men what do they prefer to date? Do
Speaker 3: they prefer to date omega alpha women or omega women.
Speaker 3: I didn't explain Beta because I was like, you know,
Speaker 3: these are the two most popular ones. Let's just see
Speaker 3: which one.
Speaker 4: I think you can explain all three. I did all three,
Speaker 4: and I asked.
Speaker 3: A woman what they think they are? Okay, so Mele
Speaker 3: said pretty much it was kind of pretty closely like
Speaker 3: fifty to fifty. For me. It was more more in
Speaker 3: the alpha actually, more men and women, because women's women.
Speaker 3: I asked them, if you date women, what do you prefer?
Speaker 3: So I had some female responses, but for the most
Speaker 3: part it was mostly alpha, and then there were there
Speaker 3: were definitely some Omega and I was really I was
Speaker 3: really shocked to see how many women prefer omega women
Speaker 3: like women that date women prefer a submissive woman.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, cool, interesting, Yeah, And then I
Speaker 3: asked women, what do you what do you consider yourself?
Speaker 3: And I assumed that most women would consider themselves alpha's
Speaker 3: because I think everybody wants to believe that they have
Speaker 3: this super drive and they're super like, like everybody wants
Speaker 3: to be around them and not everybody.
Speaker 4: They know what they want.
Speaker 3: I just thought, what more people would say that they
Speaker 3: were alpha? Yes, but but uh, I think mostly they
Speaker 3: did mostly say they were alpha, but there was very
Speaker 3: close tie between. Really it was like mostly beta. It
Speaker 3: was like beta and alpha, and then there were some
Speaker 3: like there were some omegas for sure, which I don't know.
Speaker 3: What do you consider yourself?
Speaker 4: I thought, I've definitely thought I was an alpha female
Speaker 4: before I ride so deeply into this. I still think
Speaker 4: I have a lot of alpha female characteristics, like I
Speaker 4: could be the life of the party. I like to
Speaker 4: talk to people. It's on, baby, Please close the door,
Speaker 4: please please please. It's a bug. Okay, close the door.
Speaker 4: Don't you don't want to be in here.
Speaker 3: It's the bug is gonna come.
Speaker 4: Bug is gonna come over there. Bye, it's it's over there.
Speaker 5: Okay, thank you, Okay, okay, we'll come healthy in a minute.
Speaker 4: Is it over?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 4: I'm aggressive. I've also been told like I'm I can
Speaker 4: be too honest and not like sugarcoat shit enough bye,
Speaker 4: And I don't know, do you like to take control?
Speaker 4: If I see someone's not taking the the control, I
Speaker 4: can do it. What about you? What do you think?
Speaker 3: But I'm also really empathetic, like, yeah, I think that
Speaker 3: there's a healthy mix. I think there's a healthy mixture
Speaker 3: for me. Though I I I I of course automatically
Speaker 3: thought I'm definitely an alpha. I know all my life
Speaker 3: I've been.
Speaker 4: Like pretty.
Speaker 3: I like I I like to learn on my own.
Speaker 3: I like, like, you know, I was stubborn. I guess
Speaker 3: stubborn said in my ways, I know what I want
Speaker 3: for the most part, in some ways some ways. I
Speaker 3: That's why it's confusing because in some parts of my
Speaker 3: life I know exactly what I want and what I
Speaker 3: what my goal is, and then in other parts I don't.
Speaker 3: So it's hard for me to say, like, yeah, I'm
Speaker 3: completely in omega like A, I mean, I'm sorry at alpha.
Speaker 3: Do I consider do I have omega traits. I think
Speaker 3: I'm empathetic to people's feelings, but maybe not as deeply
Speaker 3: as some people are. Some people feel everything on such
Speaker 3: a deep level, and I sometimes people's feelings annoy me.
Speaker 4: People feel annoy me too, But I do feel people
Speaker 4: on a deep level usually if I can understand. If
Speaker 4: I can, I can understand them.
Speaker 3: If you're mostly unless I think you're stupid.
Speaker 4: Not people's feelings annoying me.
Speaker 7: But I just.
Speaker 3: I guess I don't really know where I fall on
Speaker 3: the spectrum. I really thought I was in alpha, but
Speaker 3: I think I definitely have traits of beta. I think
Speaker 3: I think you just as you grow and you on
Speaker 3: this journey of life, like you're not married to one
Speaker 3: thing or the other. I think maybe I could grow
Speaker 3: more into my alpha position, or maybe I could grow
Speaker 3: more into my beta position, who knows, or maybe I'll
Speaker 3: tap more into my omega. It just I think that
Speaker 3: it's a constant, like it's a constant thing. Because even
Speaker 3: when I was talking to Nishe today about this, and
Speaker 3: she's like, I voted in your poll, what do you?
Speaker 4: And I asked an alpha female, I asked her.
Speaker 3: What she thought I was, and she was like, ah, alpha,
Speaker 3: and I was like really, And I was like, She's like,
Speaker 3: I voted myself beta. I felt more like beta if.
Speaker 5: I think in Nisha, I think she's an alpha woman.
Speaker 3: She gets done. I'm like, I want to be more
Speaker 3: like niche. But she feels like a beta. But in
Speaker 3: her relationship she feels like an alpha. So I think
Speaker 3: that's interesting too to even think about. Okay, where do
Speaker 3: you like? Do you fall in different places on the
Speaker 3: spectrum of reparty to who you're dealing with?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Because then based on what we were reading
Speaker 4: it almost though, Key's felt as if like one group
Speaker 4: of friends can't have multiple alphas.
Speaker 5: And I come from like I come from, like it's
Speaker 5: my family, what is my tribe like around?
Speaker 4: I think I intentionally on myself with like like minded,
Speaker 4: strong opinionated women because I ten kind of sometimes to
Speaker 4: like weak women or people who don't have much attention,
Speaker 4: like much opinion. I'm like, oh you're weak, so I
Speaker 4: like but like we discussed too, like like yeah, I can.
Speaker 4: I can play my role when the role is right,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Like I don't always have
Speaker 4: to be this raw, raw person. I could someone be
Speaker 4: like this and then that person's that. But that's why
Speaker 4: I think like the whole topic can be it's.
Speaker 3: Like a little bib Well, it seemed very biased.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's I hear different, Like it's it.
Speaker 3: Was interesting looking it up on the internet because I
Speaker 3: had to we had to educate ourselves because we didn't
Speaker 3: really know much about it, and like, I encourage you
Speaker 3: to go look into it too, because it's actually really interesting.
Speaker 3: But like it seemed like whoever was writing that the
Speaker 3: study on alpha like probably was an alpha because then
Speaker 3: they were like, you know, you're really strong, you're successful,
Speaker 3: da da da, and then if you're like Omega, then
Speaker 3: you're weak and you're and then and then we read
Speaker 3: another article where the omega was like wonderful person and
Speaker 3: she wasn't weak, she just was like and then there
Speaker 3: was the beta like why beta women are so amazing
Speaker 3: and alpha women are like terrible people.
Speaker 5: So it's clearly depending on the author of the article.
Speaker 3: But I see, I see cons in all of them,
Speaker 3: and I see pros and all of that.
Speaker 4: What do you think, I.
Speaker 3: I think I think you're like alpha beta.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I guess it depends. And what was really
Speaker 4: interesting about most of the articles that we wrote read
Speaker 4: or Not most One, particularly that although alpha women are
Speaker 4: very alpha, they prefer to be dominated in the bedroom,
Speaker 4: which me and Erica both agree we do like a
Speaker 4: monfuga who's gonna be like, choke you and thank you
Speaker 4: and listen to me, and we're like, oh okay. Because
Speaker 4: I think in life, when you're like constantly alpha alpha alpha,
Speaker 4: or you're like calling shots like in the bedroom, you
Speaker 4: want a man that's gonna like you want to be vulnerable. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think that's where it comes down for me too,
Speaker 3: because when I read that, I was like, oh shit,
Speaker 3: that's me. Like I love to be dominated, you know,
Speaker 3: and but sexually, sexually because like I feel like in
Speaker 3: real life, I don't. I'm like, yeah, I see, I'm
Speaker 3: telling me what to do too much.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't. I do not feel like you anymore.
Speaker 3: I'm like, uh, you can fall back. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Equal rights, no, literally, like even like equality even that
Speaker 4: month in New York, A couple times Anthony was like
Speaker 4: telling me stuff and I was like, don't tell me
Speaker 4: what to do. Mm hm, you know what I mean,
Speaker 4: Like I don't know, backing up, chill out, motherfucker. But
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, what's wrong with me? And
Speaker 4: then at the same time, I'm like, but I want
Speaker 4: a Vian's man because sometimes but I haven't even told
Speaker 4: to sit the fuck down, bitch? Did you need to
Speaker 4: have a seat?
Speaker 3: Okay? Yeah.
Speaker 4: When I read with something some of the answers I
Speaker 4: got from men, Oh yeah, my Erica, you were really
Speaker 4: deep into definition. I was very simple. Somebody wrote this
Speaker 4: is Tim whenever he's so supportive. It's my dad's friend.
Speaker 4: It's funny because I used to date a lot of
Speaker 4: submissive but I married in alpha. I like how I
Speaker 4: like having an alpha wife because she's on top of
Speaker 4: her ship and will put me in my place when needed.
Speaker 3: When dating a submissive was good.
Speaker 4: When dating a submissive a submissive I like this was
Speaker 4: good because I wasn't looking for anything serious and she
Speaker 4: would never push the issue for marriage, which I thought
Speaker 4: was interesting. Someone else wrote one who can do both.
Speaker 4: Another guy wrote right below his dickpic that he DMed
Speaker 4: me a few weeks earlier. Can you see it in
Speaker 4: the mirror? Okay, don't ask. Submissive makes my nature rise,
Speaker 4: even if she is smarter, I don't know, but combined
Speaker 4: with a I was thinking that it was directly associated
Speaker 4: with that nature rise right, Well, what do you want
Speaker 4: to date?
Speaker 3: What would you consider Anthony?
Speaker 4: Oh wows question? Maybe there is a beta male?
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, they were saying basically, it's like a hipster
Speaker 3: like like Anthonys were his pants pretty tight?
Speaker 4: One of them women? Anyway? Well, yeah, because I think
Speaker 4: he'll definitely put me in my place if needed, like
Speaker 4: bitch and okay, And but sometimes I feel myself like
Speaker 4: getting uncomfortable with somebody.
Speaker 5: Like you know what I mean, Like I get defensive,
Speaker 5: which I don't know.
Speaker 4: Was that the beta sign?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I've also dated. It's interesting because it's like
Speaker 4: what do I label people as or what do they
Speaker 4: label themselves as? Because my baby's daddy, I felt like, what,
Speaker 4: like was it an alpha male? Like probably? I think
Speaker 4: all men want to be alpha males.
Speaker 3: Of course, because that's what society teaches them.
Speaker 4: But like in reality, he wasn't. And so like over
Speaker 4: the years, I lost respect because you weren't getting ship done,
Speaker 4: you weren't doing shit, so I constantly had to be
Speaker 4: on top of shit, like nothing would done unless I
Speaker 4: was like dictating and delegating, and that shit pissed me off.
Speaker 4: So I find myself trying to like fall back and
Speaker 4: being okay being told to do and even you know what,
Speaker 4: I also feel like I'm so used to being the
Speaker 4: the like the alpha that someone being like, you know,
Speaker 4: you can share this load whatever you like, tell me
Speaker 4: what you need me to do, and send it my way,
Speaker 4: like you can share this And I was like, oh
Speaker 4: my god, like you can take care of some shit too,
Speaker 4: how relieve it? He literally said that, like you can
Speaker 4: whatever you need you need me to do or whatever
Speaker 4: you need you keep forgetting that I'm here to share
Speaker 4: the load was exactly that. I was like, Oh my god,
Speaker 4: I've I'm obviously allly dated losers in my life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I've never heard any men say that.
Speaker 3: That's pretty fucking amazing.
Speaker 4: Are you reading a fucking book?
Speaker 3: He sounds like a beta beta alpha beta alpha.
Speaker 5: And then one time I was reading our natal charts
Speaker 5: and I was reading it to him.
Speaker 3: I think he's more beta.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so, because there's like a spectrum.
Speaker 5: And I was telling in the nail chart I read
Speaker 5: based on my birthday and his that.
Speaker 3: Uh he's a cancer too.
Speaker 4: Yeah that but in this book he was cancer one
Speaker 4: and I'm Gemini cancer someone because that he needs, like
Speaker 4: even though he's really really smart, that he should take
Speaker 4: my word for things sometimes basically in so many words,
Speaker 4: and he was like, I'm okay with that. I was like,
Speaker 4: I'm cool with that, and I was like you are.
Speaker 4: Thank God, you're not trying to fight me. So I
Speaker 4: like that there's a pull, a push and pull, you know, balance,
Speaker 4: because it's not one way or the other.
Speaker 3: And that doesn't necessarily have to mean that he's submissive either,
Speaker 3: because when you said that, I was like, well, maybe
Speaker 3: he's the miss And I was like, well no, because
Speaker 3: I think that just comes with like understanding and talking.
Speaker 3: It doesn't necessarily mean that and knowing what you're like.
Speaker 3: Not everything has to be a struggle. Yeah, like, oh
Speaker 3: you're good at that.
Speaker 4: This is what you think. I trust you.
Speaker 3: M hm okay, I'm gonna go with you. I'm gona
Speaker 3: ride about that out. Yeah, because you know, my my
Speaker 3: IRI's dad. When we would argue, he was constantly always
Speaker 3: telling me that. I was like, wouldn't let him be
Speaker 3: the man? Like that was one of our biggest arguments,
Speaker 3: Like you don't ever let me make the mad like,
Speaker 3: let me make the decision. I got this, like let
Speaker 3: me beat the man, like, just trust me. I'm I'm like,
Speaker 3: I'm the captain of the football team and we're all players,
Speaker 3: but let me like lead the pack and that shit.
Speaker 3: Like whenever he would say that shit to me, something
Speaker 3: in me was like, what the fuck are you talking about?
Speaker 3: But then sometimes I'd be like I remember one time
Speaker 3: I finally was I gave in because I was just like,
Speaker 3: you know what, fine, you're right, and I wasn't. I
Speaker 3: didn't really feel that way. I just didn't want to
Speaker 3: argue anymore. And part of me was like, how could
Speaker 3: you do that, Erica, what are you talking about? You're right? No,
Speaker 3: I was a fuckingly not something. Maybe that's that alpha
Speaker 3: in me though, I was like, I'm not submitting to
Speaker 3: this shit and your ideas of who is the leader
Speaker 3: in this pack. So that's why I think sometimes two
Speaker 3: alpha's can be It can be difficult because.
Speaker 4: I do think you're always supposed to have the like
Speaker 4: it's hard, it's hard for you to step down. But
Speaker 4: is it hard for you to step down because I've
Speaker 4: seen you function up? Or yeah that's what it is. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that's really what I say. You're not actually doing a
Speaker 4: good job, right, So that's when I'm interviewed. I trust
Speaker 4: your decision making. But also I found in myself hardcore
Speaker 4: like it is hard for like, okay, not hard for
Speaker 4: me for let a man be a man. But maybe
Speaker 4: because of my past relationships, I'm so used to like
Speaker 4: being this other person, like it's hard to just relax.
Speaker 4: But also I realized men really really need to be
Speaker 4: reassured and really need to be low key coddled. I'm like, oh, baby,
Speaker 4: you're the man. Like, no, I want you to just
Speaker 4: like I told you, like, please stay the night. They
Speaker 4: don't stay with me, of course I won't, like they
Speaker 4: want to hear that shit m M. And I have
Speaker 4: noticed it's not it's hard for me to be like
Speaker 4: I have to remind myself to be verbally praising of
Speaker 4: my man a lot because I forget I feel like
Speaker 4: you just know and have my friends or like whatever.
Speaker 5: But like, I think men really need that and to
Speaker 5: like feel like men.
Speaker 4: But like, what does that look like?
Speaker 6: You know?
Speaker 4: And does that mean you have to be like, oh,
Speaker 4: I'm hurt, take out the trash, you know, saying like.
Speaker 5: That necessarily what like makes you feel like a man?
Speaker 4: Because I don't want to do that either, and I
Speaker 4: don't feel like fucking having to reassured Nick all the time,
Speaker 4: like yeah, yeah, this ship you should know that no one.
Speaker 3: I feel like sometimes men are like late to like
Speaker 3: the female progression party, Like shit ain't happening like it
Speaker 3: used to. It Again, you didn't get the motherfucking memo
Speaker 3: and you.
Speaker 4: Ain't doing the part, so I ain't treating you like
Speaker 4: you right, And.
Speaker 3: I'm like, you know what year it is, right, So yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't. I don't know. I think like for me,
Speaker 3: as far as dating goes, I've always felt like I
Speaker 3: should be with an alpha because I feel like sometimes
Speaker 3: I do need someone to tell me to sit down,
Speaker 3: and I like that because that's a submissive in me
Speaker 3: that does kind of like that.
Speaker 4: And when it's when I feel it's appropriate and which
Speaker 4: is controlling somebody who can who you can accept it from,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Because not everybody could take
Speaker 4: you sit down and you're gonna take it the same way.
Speaker 4: But if someone really likes they just have a fucking seat.
Speaker 4: If someone's like you say, you do really respect them,
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: It comes from respect, Like if I respect you, if
Speaker 3: like we have a mutual respect. If I know that
Speaker 3: your alphaness and your need to couldn't like tell me
Speaker 3: to have a seat doesn't come from insecurity like you
Speaker 3: feeling like like you're inadequate, you're inadequate, then then I'm
Speaker 3: okay with it. But if I feel like it's coming
Speaker 3: from that type of place that I'm not okay with it.
Speaker 4: I'm not coddling that shit, right because either where you
Speaker 4: with it and you trust it and it's good, are you? Yeah?
Speaker 3: And I feel like a lot of times when I
Speaker 3: meet alpha males, and this is what I was saying, like,
Speaker 3: that's why this alpha thing is kind of a bit
Speaker 3: confusing to me because I think that a lot of times,
Speaker 3: not all the time, but men that consider themselves alpha
Speaker 3: men or even females, I'm sure too, this applies a
Speaker 3: lot of it. I feel like comes some of it
Speaker 3: comes from insecurity because they feel like they have to
Speaker 3: constantly assert themselves and it's not maybe they're just not
Speaker 3: true alphas. It really comes from God like a like
Speaker 3: a pretend alpha like persona right, right, And so I
Speaker 3: don't know, I think for me dating wise, like the
Speaker 3: people the men that I've dated overall have alpha qualities.
Speaker 3: I feel like the last guy that I was dating,
Speaker 3: the who I spoke about in my.
Speaker 4: Last episode, who listened, by the way, listen to our
Speaker 4: episode and had an enlightenment. I was like, what we
Speaker 4: enlighten it? We enlightened that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he did listen to the last episode. Which is
Speaker 3: really weird about having a podcast. Guys. It's just like
Speaker 3: you want to tell your friends you've got your you
Speaker 3: got a podcast, and the then you're like, wait, but
Speaker 3: don't listen to that episode.
Speaker 4: Okay, don't tell nobody.
Speaker 3: But actually I went back and listened, and that episode
Speaker 3: was pretty good. I I had to say, like, I
Speaker 3: got everything I needed to say out there, and I'm
Speaker 3: not mad at it, and it actually worked in my favor.
Speaker 3: Like me and him are now cool and working on
Speaker 3: a friendship. Friendship because healthy, healthy thing I.
Speaker 4: Can do right now.
Speaker 3: But wait, how did I lose track?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: I think he has alpha qualities, but he also has
Speaker 3: beta qualities because, at least from what I've gathered from
Speaker 3: dating him so far, like he just seems like supportive,
Speaker 3: he's down to support and like he doesn't he does
Speaker 3: have his own company, so there is that.
Speaker 4: Like, why does that supportive mean? You're not an alpha bank.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but like that's I don't that's why
Speaker 3: these definitions are Oh wait, oh wait, wait wait? Did
Speaker 3: that definition of beta man? The guy who just yoga yoga?
Speaker 3: He dresses nicely like he does yoga, like he like
Speaker 3: asks you, like how you're feeling, and like, yeah, mistake
Speaker 3: is gay? Oh yeah he might. He might have feminine
Speaker 3: energy or you might mistake him as gay. Which actually
Speaker 3: I was talking to him today about the alpha male
Speaker 3: thing or he was telling he was telling me about
Speaker 3: his friend, the one that that thinks are cute and
Speaker 3: that he introduced him to some girl or something and
Speaker 3: the girl felt like he had feminine energy.
Speaker 4: Was like double dating over there.
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe going on dates every five seconds.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: It so happened in Venice. Guys, can we please go
Speaker 4: out there and hang out with It's really cool. I
Speaker 4: really want to hang out in Venice. Let's go. I'm
Speaker 4: like one time six years ago. Oh god, I just
Speaker 4: remember that. Oh god, I was a fucking car crash.
Speaker 3: Oh oh Jesus. But he was saying that and I
Speaker 3: and I said to him, I said, well, I don't
Speaker 3: really get that from him but you know, what I've
Speaker 3: found is that it probably has more to do with
Speaker 3: what she considers masculine energy more than more so than
Speaker 3: whatever he's doing. It's really her problem, not his problem.
Speaker 3: And uh and he was and he was like, wait,
Speaker 3: what did he say when I was telling him that, Like,
Speaker 3: I think I've struggled from the same thing, like how
Speaker 3: I define masculinity.
Speaker 4: Like you know how that looks back?
Speaker 3: Guy is very sweet, he's really nice.
Speaker 4: Even I saw a study that we associate like high
Speaker 4: pitched voices, like and it has nothing to do with
Speaker 4: shit even body language, you know, And it's just bullshit,
Speaker 4: it really is. So we have to get out of that,
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 3: But anyway, I don't know. I don't know what my
Speaker 3: paaring I know for sure, I don't know if I'm not.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know the future. But at this
Speaker 3: point in my life and in my relationships with men
Speaker 3: in general, up until this point, I don't think I
Speaker 3: could date an omega. I just can't. I don't really
Speaker 3: have a lot.
Speaker 4: Of respect for maybe I've the right omega met well.
Speaker 3: The by the definition just made me feel like a
Speaker 3: man that just can't make decisions, Like he's just not assertive,
Speaker 3: and I don't need him to be assertive all the time,
Speaker 3: but sometimes I need you to take the reins and
Speaker 3: like figure some shit out for me.
Speaker 4: Sometimes like passiontive passiveness really really annoys me.
Speaker 5: For instance, a mumbling asthma fucker.
Speaker 4: Like oh yeah, what the fuck did you say?
Speaker 2: What?
Speaker 4: Huh? Like if we're at a restaurant, you're like, yeah, okay,
Speaker 4: look like speak the fuck up, speak clearly, Like that
Speaker 4: makes me think that you're on omega. If I'm not
Speaker 4: with a man who's like clearly spoken, even a woman punctuating,
Speaker 4: like if I feel like I have the order for you,
Speaker 4: it's gonna irritate me. Even as a waitress, when I
Speaker 4: would see like men, this is when I didn't have
Speaker 4: respect for like beta women. If I would see like
Speaker 4: a couple come, I've been a lot of observations based
Speaker 4: on my cocktail.
Speaker 5: Dates would come to dinner and like order for the
Speaker 5: woman all the.
Speaker 4: Time, or she's like, babe, what do you think I
Speaker 4: should get? I'm like, oh my god, this bitch, thank you?
Speaker 4: Color it like I would it would It would irritate me,
Speaker 4: like this shit just has no voice at all, Like
Speaker 4: this makes me think you're like a pushover and that
Speaker 4: irritate me, or for a guy the other way around,
Speaker 4: like my ex like couldn't to.
Speaker 3: Me like effectively make phone calls, like like.
Speaker 4: What's going on over there? Why can't you call the
Speaker 4: cable company? Like what the fuck?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I feel you. That's just everything takes forever.
Speaker 3: Everything needs to be reasoned, not some shit.
Speaker 4: It's just like, no, this is what it is.
Speaker 3: Yo.
Speaker 5: Okay, let me say this quick story.
Speaker 4: I just realized both of these stories have to do
Speaker 4: with food, which may be just like my inner psycho
Speaker 4: about food because I am a fat ass, like not
Speaker 4: literally obviously, but I need a lot. So okay twice okay,
Speaker 4: meet Anthony went to the tire restaurant. We got there
Speaker 4: at nine o five. He was pressing me in a
Speaker 4: curry ap parreyep parry up, parry up, be nice share.
Speaker 3: Irie's pushing her face against the glass and her whole
Speaker 3: face was smashed.
Speaker 4: Oh, young babe, not Anthony, young babe. And we went
Speaker 4: to Okay, so we went to tire food. He was
Speaker 4: pricing me and we need there but out there. We
Speaker 4: got there at literally nine oh six. We balked in.
Speaker 4: He's like, oh, I saw, I'm sorry, we closed fifteen minutes.
Speaker 4: So he was like he got the attitude immediately, and
Speaker 4: of course it was me who was like kind of
Speaker 4: taking my time, so he was like, we'll order to
Speaker 4: go immediately. He's like, we'll order to go. In my head,
Speaker 4: I'm like okay, He's like I don't really want to
Speaker 4: order to go tho, Let's go somewhere else.
Speaker 6: And I was like no.
Speaker 4: I was like, if you want to eat, you're gonna
Speaker 4: eat here. So I'm like, you guys, don't close in
Speaker 4: fifteen minutes. You actually closed in nine thirty. That's what
Speaker 4: we right online, and that's how he came. So we're
Speaker 4: either gonna eat here or we're gonna not eat at all.
Speaker 4: So she's like okay, Holly up owed it quickly, but
Speaker 4: I was like, you're to let the bitch pumkin like,
Speaker 4: we're not. No, we sit in, down, we eat in.
Speaker 5: And then another time, which I almost fucking exploded.
Speaker 3: Yeah, painting with that what that brush thing?
Speaker 4: So we ordered food on fucking one of those to
Speaker 4: go apps whatever delivery apps.
Speaker 5: He puts the order in, he orders it to he
Speaker 5: orders it to his house, not the house that we're at.
Speaker 4: Which is down the street. He waits for five minutes
Speaker 4: for the The only way you can change the address
Speaker 4: if if the bitch pops up contact the driver. He
Speaker 4: literally been standing in his phone for like fifteen minutes straight.
Speaker 4: I'm like, dude, whunch, you just called the restaurant and
Speaker 4: tell them to have the driver change the address when
Speaker 4: they get there. No, twenty minutes goes by. He sucks
Speaker 4: his phone. Finally it must have popped up. He calls,
Speaker 4: tells the bitch Okay, I'm gonna text you. Sorry, I say,
Speaker 4: bitch A lot for me to be so woman in powered.
Speaker 4: He text. He tells the bitch the new address. He
Speaker 4: text her like ten minutes later. I see I hear him.
Speaker 4: I'm sitting next time, he's on the phone like, oh, okay,
Speaker 4: all right, just leaves on the porch.
Speaker 3: Okay bye. I'm like, she left it on the porch.
Speaker 4: It's here right now. He's like, oh, why we leave
Speaker 4: on the porch. He's like, she went to my house.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna tell me you'll get it. I was like,
Speaker 4: I exploded. I was like, why the fuck would you
Speaker 4: like this bitch leave it at your house.
Speaker 2: We're here.
Speaker 4: You text her the address as a callarback, callar back,
Speaker 4: He's like, I just so get it. I was fucking
Speaker 4: I don't think I've ever yelled at him so hard.
Speaker 4: He was like, this shitch just a monster. I was like,
Speaker 4: I cannot believe you let this bitch drop that food
Speaker 4: off at your house. Now, why would we pay for
Speaker 4: her to deliver it? And she didn't deliver it?
Speaker 3: Here? Right?
Speaker 4: I was hot? Okay, so I am a fat ass,
Speaker 4: which is the conclusion of both these stories. Shit like
Speaker 4: that annoys the ship.
Speaker 3: Well do you think that's just man shit?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Or is that that's not that's man like?
Speaker 2: I just like I was hot.
Speaker 3: I just think certain men are not necessarily problem solvers
Speaker 3: in that way. They can problem solve some other shit
Speaker 3: really well. Sometimes a lot of times mailing a picture
Speaker 3: do well, like you know, other shit, but like when
Speaker 3: it comes to like the details and coordinating things and
Speaker 3: times and locations, not a strong point, not a strong point,
Speaker 3: not a strong point. But I don't know, I just
Speaker 3: omega omega And it's just I just I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just I think because growing up I had an
Speaker 3: omega male in my life around me so much, and
Speaker 3: I just watched an annoyance all the time. I was
Speaker 3: always just like hurry up, what are you? What are
Speaker 3: you mumbling?
Speaker 4: What what are you saying?
Speaker 3: Or like what like I just and then being raised
Speaker 3: by like such an alpha female and seeing that was
Speaker 3: just like confusing to me. But it doesn't it work
Speaker 3: in some way some way some some alpha females some
Speaker 3: relations just like an alpha male likes an omega woman.
Speaker 3: Some a lot of alpha females need an omega man.
Speaker 3: They want to be lifted up, they want some want
Speaker 3: to just listen to their problems and and support them
Speaker 3: and take on their ship and just be their little
Speaker 3: their cheerleader on the side. And that's and that's okay too.
Speaker 3: I just know for myself at this point in my life,
Speaker 3: I mean, anything could happen, but I can't see myself
Speaker 3: with someone that way. I just feel like I I
Speaker 3: like a man that takes initiative and I can we
Speaker 3: can like not that omegas don't have goals and are
Speaker 3: running on you, but just I just want to see
Speaker 3: that you are taking control and your assertive. I love
Speaker 3: a man that has his own shit. Can like if
Speaker 3: he has a company, like he's running it well, he
Speaker 3: has employees like Okay, this sounds really like shallow, but
Speaker 3: like he hasn't.
Speaker 4: If you have employees, if you the manager alone, are just.
Speaker 3: Like you're excelling in whatever field you're doing, like you
Speaker 3: at it, like watching like my like like for example,
Speaker 3: like it's gonna sound really shallow, but it's just it's
Speaker 3: not even shallow. It's just I loved watching the father
Speaker 3: of my child on stage. Of course, I just have
Speaker 3: to watch him like do what he does best and
Speaker 3: him I can see it coming off of him. I
Speaker 3: can see him radiating. I can see how people are
Speaker 3: reacting to his radiance, and you know, like his confidence,
Speaker 3: that's abstraction, like two musicians period.
Speaker 4: It's a confidence and it doesn't have to be necessarily.
Speaker 3: And when I realized it's not just that, it's like
Speaker 3: any man who's doing something in a field, in his
Speaker 3: field or just excelling have something that I'm not maybe
Speaker 3: good at in my life, I can look up to
Speaker 3: that and be like damn, well, like I don't know
Speaker 3: how to do that. That's sexy that you do though,
Speaker 3: like you know, and so I don't know this whole
Speaker 3: this whole research of these three personality traits was just
Speaker 3: was really interesting and I don't know, like, what do
Speaker 3: you guys think, do you I mean, do you think
Speaker 3: that if you're in alpha you'd be able to date
Speaker 3: and omega? Do you prefer that as a woman? I mean,
Speaker 3: we live in such different times now too, like where
Speaker 3: women are more empowered than ever.
Speaker 4: And I don't know, I think I actually I met
Speaker 4: a woman once met like a crazy trip to Miami
Speaker 4: when I say, for a month. One of the chicks
Speaker 4: I met, who was Paula Hammers, and she like exposed
Speaker 4: it to me for the first time. She was an
Speaker 4: alpha female, and throughout the trip we were like, this
Speaker 4: is a long time ago. We were going on like
Speaker 4: the man hunt and her and the other girl we
Speaker 4: were with, I don't know what kind of crazy four
Speaker 4: sum we were trying to conspire, but they were really
Speaker 4: into like man that I continue to keep in mind.
Speaker 3: I was like twenty one, I thought we're like Loki gay.
Speaker 4: I'm like, what the fuck?
Speaker 3: Why am.
Speaker 4: But come to find out there was this one guy, Tyler,
Speaker 4: the bartender at a gay club. He's super beautiful, super
Speaker 4: well chiseled, you know, Miami super like he was pretty
Speaker 4: and like soft spoken and like yeah, anyway, we took
Speaker 4: him home to our hotel. I passed out. I don't
Speaker 4: know how I passed out. They had a whole, full
Speaker 4: blown pop in threesome while I was sleep on the back.
Speaker 4: The next morning, I was like, why I missed it?
Speaker 4: Like his dick was huge? What I was like, I
Speaker 4: thought he was gay? She was like no. And then
Speaker 4: years later he damned me like I really went home
Speaker 4: with you guys cause I wanted to get to be
Speaker 4: with you. And I was like, oh okay, And he
Speaker 4: changed my perspective because like what we generally put in
Speaker 4: this box, in this category, it doesn't have to be that.
Speaker 4: So there is a balance.
Speaker 3: I think different women like different shit.
Speaker 4: Even if you are at alpha, you could you know whatever.
Speaker 4: And then I bet you even though I missed that threesome,
Speaker 4: I bet you he took control in the bedroom surprisingly
Speaker 4: and that was probably she probably was onto something. She
Speaker 4: even Beta men we beta no Omega a Mega man
Speaker 4: in the bedroom are like, they.
Speaker 3: Probably want more aggressive. That's her want to be assertive, yes,
Speaker 3: whereas Alpha was like to be dominated.
Speaker 4: So maybe it's something you should try, maybe, right, I
Speaker 4: did you know what.
Speaker 3: My ex was? I did dated Omega once and he
Speaker 3: was incredibly insecure, but then he was very but he
Speaker 3: was very caring.
Speaker 4: And this sex was eve end up being gay.
Speaker 3: No, he's definitely not kidding. Okay, although a lot of
Speaker 3: gay men are attracted to me.
Speaker 4: I know. That's why I asked you.
Speaker 3: I recently had that too, Like I'm like, oh, this
Speaker 3: is still a video, this is still a thing.
Speaker 4: The video you guys, Oh my god, Wait, he's gonna
Speaker 4: listen to this? Oh god, maybe not won't listen to
Speaker 4: star who could? Good if you're listening, turn your shit up. Okay,
Speaker 4: this is for you. Erica has been like had a
Speaker 4: DM boo that, like someone mutual introduced them via DM.
Speaker 4: They started like FaceTime and texting. So, yes, the other day,
Speaker 4: We're at the Brea at the pool and I'm taking yourselfie.
Speaker 4: First of all, I'm nosy to shoot, so like with
Speaker 4: all my friend. Oh, so I was taking yourself in
Speaker 4: Eric's phone and I'm like at the same time, she
Speaker 4: gets a text message that comes through and I'm reading
Speaker 4: it and it's like, hey, I just.
Speaker 3: I just found this, but I could see it's like
Speaker 3: a video or a still.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, yeah, some guy, who is this so
Speaker 4: and so? Because you just got a new video, so
Speaker 4: we proceed to look at it together. I can't even
Speaker 4: describe this for podcast purposes. It's too bad to even describe.
Speaker 4: I literally wish can we Oh we can't, we can't, Okay, sorry.
Speaker 9: He is taking a full blown selfie video of himself
Speaker 9: shirtless in the bathroom, like kind of like you know how,
Speaker 9: you know how bitches on Instagram like lip sync to
Speaker 9: songs for no reason.
Speaker 3: And post selfies.
Speaker 4: It's like that, but he's shirtless. He's doing like a
Speaker 4: little poudy lip and then he does the signature what
Speaker 4: I've warned you guys back in many many episodes again
Speaker 4: is my man by when you put the arm over
Speaker 4: back over the head to strike a pose.
Speaker 3: No, sit down, no more kill it no.
Speaker 4: And it's like a fully like fifteen second video basically
Speaker 4: after just him pouting doing sexy what he thinks are
Speaker 4: sexy looks.
Speaker 3: And he like grabbed his chest like his boot but
Speaker 3: brea breast.
Speaker 4: Trust Oh my god, I'll show me another one from
Speaker 4: another guy. But we're gonna look that one up second.
Speaker 4: Ohd But okay, this is just a PSA announcement for
Speaker 4: all single men. Okay, First of all, that guy is
Speaker 4: thirty eight and single. And this is why no woman,
Speaker 4: I repeat, for the ten percent of male listeners, spread
Speaker 4: the word. Tell your homies to fucking tune in. No
Speaker 4: woman wants any man sending a fucking selfie video that
Speaker 4: she did not request that you just found. And if
Speaker 4: you have some, hide them, put them deep dark in
Speaker 4: the hidden albums of your soul, because we don't want
Speaker 4: to see that. Shoot. I don't want to see a
Speaker 4: nigga looking at himself, nikan he's fucking cute and sexy
Speaker 4: looking at his abs in the fucking mirror or the
Speaker 4: selfie caml Okay, that is for the bitches, solely for
Speaker 4: the bitches.
Speaker 3: And if I send you and I don't even release
Speaker 3: some videos of that, like I've never sent a video.
Speaker 3: I've never I don't think I've ever sent a video
Speaker 3: like that, like me like looking like at the camera,
Speaker 3: like seductively, like maybe a picture. Maybe I have a
Speaker 3: full blown video if I'm showing tits and some cooch. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but it's like I'm about.
Speaker 4: To know that that. But this was not No, this
Speaker 4: was not that. I don't know what it is. But literally,
Speaker 4: do not do it.
Speaker 3: Do not.
Speaker 4: I told first one we showed Erica's friend. He thinks
Speaker 4: that equates the sociopath. I thought it equated to bisexual.
Speaker 3: Which showed my gay. Yeah, he's a gay male. And
Speaker 3: he told me he's gay, and I was like what.
Speaker 4: I said the same thing, I said, do you think
Speaker 4: he's gay? It's either very gay or it's very into
Speaker 4: yourself narcissist.
Speaker 3: I think it's more so that, and that's what turns
Speaker 3: me off because I don't I think I attract narcissists
Speaker 3: and I just can't. I don't want to do that.
Speaker 3: I can't do it again.
Speaker 4: My second question was how the fuck old is he
Speaker 4: that he thinks that this is okay? And thirty eight
Speaker 4: was not an appropriate answer. I was looking more along
Speaker 4: the ages of eighteen. It was so disturbing or like forty.
Speaker 3: Five, because you know, like they think that's hip, like
Speaker 3: they're trying to be hips oh with like the camera,
Speaker 3: but like, I.
Speaker 4: Don't know, stop being hip, yo. Honestly, even if you're
Speaker 4: taking to me selfies, don't post. No bitches want to
Speaker 4: see you taking Hella selfies. I don't even want to
Speaker 4: see other bitches taking Hellas selfies. If you go all selfies,
Speaker 4: I don't want to see it and they all look
Speaker 4: the same.
Speaker 3: Video really threw me off. He's really fine too, so
Speaker 3: like it really disappointed me.
Speaker 4: Your gaitar is fucking off?
Speaker 3: Oh god, I don't know. Yeah, but should we talk
Speaker 3: about a horri? Should we do a horry real quick?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah?
Speaker 3: I didn't share my horri from last week because I
Speaker 3: got scared Oho stories.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, bitch, now's the time. There's no ain't no
Speaker 4: ain't no fear on the pod. I know.
Speaker 3: We I've been away for a while, so like my like,
Speaker 3: I feel like I got like I felt like a
Speaker 3: first time podcaster jitters, you know, liked our first episode,
Speaker 3: were like, should we talk ever since I in the
Speaker 3: paid sex episode? Bitch, I don't want to hear apork? Okay,
Speaker 3: I don't want to hear shit. Oh my gosh. Okay.
Speaker 3: So my horri actually happened on my first night in
Speaker 3: Barcelona and my girls went up to this like rooftop.
Speaker 3: It was like a three sixty view of the city.
Speaker 3: It was like so amazing. We're drinking up there, been
Speaker 3: up there for a few hours, and then we like
Speaker 3: see these guys when they're drinking too, and we start
Speaker 3: talking to them. And we discovered that they're from Sardinia, Italy.
Speaker 3: They barely speak any English. We're speaking Spanish, so we're
Speaker 3: like getting we're kind of like, you know, we're communicating
Speaker 3: or whatever. And we discovered that they are a bachelor
Speaker 3: party group. So the bachelor was this Italian man, very
Speaker 3: very very attractive, very attractive. His name was Gigi.
Speaker 4: You don't have to have pictures. I have pictures.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Giovanni wa namee Gianni, Gianni that sounds Italian.
Speaker 3: It was someone with a g okay, And so we
Speaker 3: had a great time. We like went to go eat
Speaker 3: at this restaurant drink More, had this like amazing spread
Speaker 3: of a dinner with like oysters, your face, baya and
Speaker 3: more alcohol. It was great.
Speaker 5: And then you always just really get men horny for real, girl,
Speaker 5: I was horny's girl. Yeah, I mean always horny the
Speaker 5: scorpiel bitch, I'm talking to you, okay.
Speaker 3: But also he really was really sexy and like he
Speaker 3: told me he was the bachelor, and I automatically like, oh,
Speaker 3: I can't do.
Speaker 4: Want to you didn't want to?
Speaker 3: No, I didn't want to. I mean I did, but
Speaker 3: then I felt like, oh my god, like I was
Speaker 3: going to be married and someone fucked my fiance.
Speaker 4: I don't really think i'd get mad.
Speaker 3: I started relating, making it really personal, and I was
Speaker 3: like and then I was like we all went out
Speaker 3: and then he was like come back to my room,
Speaker 3: and I was like, no, I'm gonna go hang with
Speaker 3: my friends. I was like trying to be like good.
Speaker 3: So I went to hang out with my friends and
Speaker 3: they were all like on their own like dick adventures,
Speaker 3: basically like plotting and scheming. So I was like, well,
Speaker 3: fuck this, I want to go back and meet up
Speaker 3: with Gigi. So I called Gigi.
Speaker 4: Sorry, why did be acting the phone?
Speaker 3: You know what, I did you a favor. It is
Speaker 3: the last hurrah. You know, hopefully he'll be faithful for
Speaker 3: you for the rest of your life.
Speaker 4: I gifted it to you. Probably not.
Speaker 3: So anyway, I go back to his room and when
Speaker 3: I get there, it's like a very small room, like
Speaker 3: the bathroom and the bedroom are like basically on top
Speaker 3: of each other. So I go and I'm like, I
Speaker 3: use your restroom. He's like okay. So I go in
Speaker 3: the bathroom and I'm like peen, and I'm like fuck,
Speaker 3: I kind of have to shit, like.
Speaker 4: I kind of do.
Speaker 3: But I was like, I can't shit in here. This
Speaker 3: room is so fucking small, Like I can't be in
Speaker 3: here for like twenty minutes. He's gonna be like what
Speaker 3: is she doing in there? And so I was like,
Speaker 3: fuck it, I'll just hold it. It's not that serious.
Speaker 3: I can definitely have sex and be fine. So I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: this is good.
Speaker 4: You can't this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is already going. People are like, did she
Speaker 3: shit on him?
Speaker 4: Keep listening.
Speaker 3: So I get out of the bathroom, like we start
Speaker 3: hooking up, kissing. He takes his clothes off. He has
Speaker 3: on like those little like like a speedout underwear, like
Speaker 3: very European, you know, like the ones that aren't boxer briefs,
Speaker 3: like like like the bikini style underwear. And I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: that's kind of cute. He takes He pulls his hands
Speaker 3: down uncircumcised, which not shocked but hope it was hoping.
Speaker 3: Maybe not, But you know what else I can I'm
Speaker 3: making my work.
Speaker 4: You can pull down. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was in a relationship with someone for three years
Speaker 3: who was on circum size.
Speaker 4: I got this.
Speaker 3: It's actually not that serious. So it's small. But I'm like,
Speaker 3: I'm here, fuck it, we're doing yolo. So we start
Speaker 3: having sex and it's cool, you know, we're like and
Speaker 3: doing our thing, and then like he flips me over,
Speaker 3: we start Jesus Christ.
Speaker 4: Okay, go go go.
Speaker 3: I definitely don't need my child hearing this. Goddamn wory.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 3: So then he turns me over. We start doing it
Speaker 3: doty style, and I hear him like pull out and
Speaker 3: like spit on his dick, and I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: like that's that's the sound I've heard many times in
Speaker 3: my life. Not that you need to do that, because
Speaker 3: a girl is ready all the time. I stay ready.
Speaker 3: So he spits on the deck and immediately shoves his
Speaker 3: dick in my ass like unannounced and just like pumps
Speaker 3: really hard.
Speaker 4: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: And I was like and I'm like thinking, like wait,
Speaker 3: what the fuck is happening? Ow, oh my god, I
Speaker 3: have to shit? Like am I shitting on him?
Speaker 5: I can't even effortlessly.
Speaker 3: He just no, like no warning, just like in there
Speaker 3: like oh real quick, like like I was you gotta
Speaker 3: It was almost like he knew I was gonna say no,
Speaker 3: so he needed to get it in real quick.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 5: He's like those a madecan girl, And at first.
Speaker 4: I was in shock.
Speaker 3: So it like all happened so fast, and I was
Speaker 3: like wait, wha what huh huh wait do I like this?
Speaker 4: Oh wait after ship? Oh no?
Speaker 3: And so then like at some point I really felt
Speaker 3: like I was shooting because it was.
Speaker 4: All up been there.
Speaker 3: So then I was like whoa, whoa, like stop, and.
Speaker 4: He's like it was the wrong uh.
Speaker 3: I swear that's what he said.
Speaker 6: It was the wrongs your fucking Luigi.
Speaker 4: Like you're in the Mario.
Speaker 1: It's like, what are you doing?
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, I'm a sor.
Speaker 4: Hurts, like fuck, got hurts your accident right now.
Speaker 3: So then I'm like, okay, regroup. Then so we start
Speaker 3: kissing and then he puts the condom. He starts he
Speaker 3: puts his dick back in me like regularly, and I'm like, whoa,
Speaker 3: you gotta like, you gotta change the condom. You can't
Speaker 3: just go from dick to like, no, you can't double,
Speaker 3: you can't go from ass Okay. So then he goes
Speaker 3: and changes the condom and I'm like, oh my god, Okay.
Speaker 3: So at this point I'm just like I just want
Speaker 3: to come, Like I just want to come, like this
Speaker 3: is clearly some I failed mission, but like, at least
Speaker 3: I got to walk out of here with something sort
Speaker 3: of pleasure. So he gets on top of me again.
Speaker 3: He starts, you know, doing it. I'm I'm like into it.
Speaker 3: It's kind of like it's kind of like foggy because
Speaker 3: I was pretty drunk, but I'm pretty sure I was
Speaker 3: into it. And then out of nowhere again and we're
Speaker 3: and he's on top of me.
Speaker 4: How did he he like lifted me up?
Speaker 3: Oh my ducksh he's stuck in really little, and I
Speaker 3: was like, yo, wa no, it's like it was like,
Speaker 3: oh my god. Yeah, it wasn't like how many inches
Speaker 3: is that? Like that's like five five inches?
Speaker 4: No, that's not five girl, that's four hard. I don't know.
Speaker 3: It wasn't that big anyway, So was it skinny?
Speaker 4: It was like average okay?
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So anyway, he did that again, and I again protested, well,
Speaker 3: at least you know what, honestly, I'm gonna be keep
Speaker 3: it real. This time, I was like maybe I can
Speaker 3: do this, like maybe I'll try. Let me just try,
Speaker 3: like okay, like because I'm said missive, I'm like, you
Speaker 3: know what, this is what's gonna bring him pleasure. Let
Speaker 3: me try.
Speaker 4: I couldn't do it.
Speaker 3: I literally every time he pulled out, I literally felt
Speaker 3: like poop was coming out.
Speaker 4: Of my bed.
Speaker 5: Two in your head, you're like, well, what this doesn't
Speaker 5: work out the way i've.
Speaker 3: But honestly, there was nothing on it, like because I
Speaker 3: surprisingly like he pulled out and I was like ready
Speaker 3: to see some crazy shit and there was nothing. And
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, but we didn't. You didn't finish
Speaker 3: that way. Like after like about one and a half minutes,
Speaker 3: I was like, I can't do this. Put on another condom.
Speaker 3: We finished. I was like, all right, peacegg I gotta
Speaker 3: go show. But I just was like, did this just
Speaker 3: really happen to me? Like like I felt, I honestly
Speaker 3: felt bad thinking about his wife afterwards, like this is
Speaker 3: her future only but sex, because I guess. And then
Speaker 3: I was talking to my friends like, oh, yeah, that's
Speaker 3: I guess a lot of like Italian men like anal size.
Speaker 3: I think you're yeah, and also if you have a
Speaker 3: small penis, that's a thing.
Speaker 4: There's like a whole documentary that flocks about a famous
Speaker 4: porn star I think who's Italian and he's like really
Speaker 4: into Hona.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not really into ano.
Speaker 5: Okay, so I think I said this before, Well, no,
Speaker 5: small dick's like ask sex.
Speaker 3: I didn't realize that because I guess I've been very
Speaker 3: blessed with my dick selections. But I had a lot
Speaker 3: of small penises most asses.
Speaker 4: She'd only like small dick assets because I don't want
Speaker 4: a big dick in my belt, I don't want to
Speaker 4: do it. And if your big dick is too big,
Speaker 4: I know. Yeah. The only time I've ever had like
Speaker 4: anal and it kind of felt good was if the
Speaker 4: dick was smaller.
Speaker 3: I just feel like, will I ever ship the same again?
Speaker 3: Because honestly, when I went to the Bastic City, well,
Speaker 3: I mean, if you have it all the time, when
Speaker 3: I went home, I know this is TMI. When I
Speaker 3: got back to the hotel, I had so.
Speaker 6: Much gas, there was so much, so much are coming out.
Speaker 6: I was like, who does this all the time? And
Speaker 6: how well the thing is?
Speaker 3: I heard?
Speaker 4: Once you get heard from a bird, once you get
Speaker 4: past a certain point and you like work your way
Speaker 4: up slowly like then, then that's when the pleasure comes in.
Speaker 3: It's like, well here's the thing, here's the thing. I've
Speaker 3: had anal sex before, and I've actually enjoyed it before.
Speaker 3: I was more like it wasn't planned, but like it
Speaker 3: was like just discussed a little bit, not discussed, like
Speaker 3: we were having sex. And then I was like, I
Speaker 3: like we we built up to it. It wasn't just
Speaker 3: like abrasive and it's I haven't done it many times
Speaker 3: in my life. No, have I experienced pleasure from it? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I have, Yes, I have.
Speaker 4: It's possible.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's hits. It's like a different sensation that's like
Speaker 3: if you get the right place, it can be pretty awesome.
Speaker 3: And it's like it's just freaking nasty for me. Yeah,
Speaker 3: if it can be awesome, but when it's unexpected and rape?
Speaker 4: Did to know I'm not unexpected in rape?
Speaker 5: Yeah, you gotta have you have to have warning. Even
Speaker 5: I talked to some of my gay friends.
Speaker 4: I don't know if you have a lot of gay
Speaker 4: guy friends, I don't know if you discussed this, but
Speaker 4: I discussed it. They prepare, yes, like they starve themselves
Speaker 4: for twelve hours, which I was like, Oh, they prepare.
Speaker 3: They they mentally prepared.
Speaker 4: Because I don't. I can't fuck comfortably. Yeah, I can't
Speaker 4: fuck complicate. This is the thing further to be comfortable
Speaker 4: with somebody, very comfortable because anything could happen. Let's keep
Speaker 4: that in mind. Second of all, if you like, you
Speaker 4: got to be prepared, like you know, like have gone.
Speaker 3: You know, there's a whole process to that. It's not
Speaker 3: like a surprise type of thing.
Speaker 4: I don't think.
Speaker 3: I mean, I've never prepared for it, and it's been
Speaker 3: I've never prepared for anal sex, and any time I've
Speaker 3: ever had it, I've never had anything come off, come
Speaker 3: out and expect it, which is very surprising.
Speaker 4: Like I don't know how I've never had that happen.
Speaker 3: Because also I'm a bitch with a lot of stomach issues,
Speaker 3: So I'm like I do I always have always had
Speaker 3: stomach issues, struggle with stomach issues my entire life IBS.
Speaker 3: But I think as I've gotten older, I don't really
Speaker 3: have them anymore. But like for a time, like it
Speaker 3: was like there's no way I can do anal Like
Speaker 3: there's it just seemed like I'm trying to get shit out.
Speaker 4: Why would I want to put anything else in?
Speaker 3: You know. But the one time that I with the
Speaker 3: few times that I did have anal sex with my ex,
Speaker 3: I really did enjoy it and he doesn't have a
Speaker 3: small dick.
Speaker 4: You know, really you had to really get mentally prepared
Speaker 4: for that.
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, you gotta like lub it up and everything.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like a loop. Do you like to get your assy?
Speaker 4: And yeah, me too? Look everything, look look me everywhere?
Speaker 3: Ye why why but why you look that? You can't
Speaker 3: look that right?
Speaker 4: The like Yeah, the weirder the spot, the more of
Speaker 4: into it.
Speaker 3: Let's do it.
Speaker 4: I'm a nasty bitch, so to be completely honest, me too,
Speaker 4: me too.
Speaker 3: But yeah, that's my horry. And I have another horri
Speaker 3: I have many horries from that trip. So just keep
Speaker 3: tuning in all month and you'll hear.
Speaker 4: Eventually we'll get to the end of them. We'll get
Speaker 4: to the end of them. Maybe by Christmas.
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding reybe maybe, but yeah, shout out to
Speaker 3: congratulations getting married next month.
Speaker 4: Congratulations see you and your wife.
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 4: So is that conclude today's episode?
Speaker 3: I think that concludes our episode. And definitely make sure
Speaker 3: you guys are following us. Definitely make sure you guys
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Speaker 3: you know, then we can get more people to listen.
Speaker 3: And we love connecting with people and just listening to
Speaker 3: your stories. And today I think I might have solidified
Speaker 3: a location for a meetup. Fingers crossed.
Speaker 4: Oh oh oh oh okay, keep going. No, Also for
Speaker 4: all our LA people, we are definitely doing El Toedo
Speaker 4: Brunch because has anybody fucking been there? Yo, it's popping.
Speaker 3: El Toedo Brunch is the secret gem of Los Angeles.
Speaker 4: No literally on Van Eys and fucking no. Yeah, Ventura
Speaker 4: in the guy Ukaku. I'm sure that you know.
Speaker 3: There's Altaido's everywhere, like I think we can go anywhere.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, okay, but that was specifically was popping.
Speaker 4: Well you know why. I thought it was like it
Speaker 4: was becoming like it's becoming rare because this girl was like,
Speaker 4: oh yeah, we used to have one in San Diego.
Speaker 4: We were about to drive back. I met her in
Speaker 4: the buffet line and we we saw Elterito and we
Speaker 4: pulled over so we could eat here before we went
Speaker 4: back for brunch. So it made me think they were
Speaker 4: starting to close and the wells.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean there's not they have clothes, a lot
Speaker 3: of El toritos. There's as many.
Speaker 4: They should open them for Sunday because they had everything.
Speaker 3: Bitch, I just want to the fact that she went
Speaker 3: before a long ash drive. I hope she wasn't driving,
Speaker 3: because there's no way I could drive to San Diego
Speaker 3: after that fucking brunch that ship was. There was everything.
Speaker 3: There was tacos, there was enchiladas. There was three different
Speaker 3: types of sevice.
Speaker 10: Therelet barlet waffles, banana foster being made live with cinnamon,
Speaker 10: butter and ice cream, like pastry, all the Mexican bread drama,
Speaker 10: churros like it.
Speaker 4: Was fruit cereal like literally, it was the most amazing
Speaker 4: twenty six dollars with the bottomless mimosa I've ever experienced.
Speaker 3: And I was only pissed that we didn't get high.
Speaker 4: First, Like what the fuck were we thinking? You knew
Speaker 4: it was good because we didn't even drink our mimosas
Speaker 4: we only had one and we didn't even drink.
Speaker 3: No, we drink like a quarter of that because we're
Speaker 3: focused on the food and got too full.
Speaker 4: It was delicious. So that's definitely going to be one
Speaker 4: of the meetups, even if it's just like y'all bitches,
Speaker 4: I'm going.
Speaker 3: Yeah, even even it's just two of you. And today
Speaker 3: I met one of our listeners, Taylor, and it is
Speaker 3: so cool to like because we've I've never actually met
Speaker 3: any of you guys, so it was really cool to
Speaker 3: see her, like see her connect with her in person
Speaker 3: in person and be like, oh my god, like we
Speaker 3: have this like secret little connection you know me? Yeah,
Speaker 3: like you know so much about me and I want
Speaker 3: to know about you because that's only fair.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and like even if you're far away, and we
Speaker 4: do we do love the love. We do like the
Speaker 4: shout outs and then like, hey, how you doing because
Speaker 4: I've been telling everybody like who DMS is my business?
Speaker 4: Like you're going through what? Oh my god, girl, me
Speaker 4: too because literally, so if you got some like questions,
Speaker 4: are going through some shit, don't hesitate because we're here.
Speaker 4: We're your village. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Anyway, well thanks for tuning in you guys. This episode
Speaker 3: is hella long, and.
Speaker 4: I don't know we said us every week we're yelling
Speaker 4: at the kids forty seven times, but somehow we still
Speaker 4: managed to keep on.
Speaker 3: This week was I'm sorry, guys, like they were really
Speaker 3: extra today. I'm like low key disappointed.
Speaker 5: Maybe it turned maybe it turned four.
Speaker 4: This will get easier, maybe to get a lock on
Speaker 4: the door.
Speaker 3: I don't know one together, but anyway, we will catch
Speaker 3: up with you guys next week.
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