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Speaker 1: may cause you tears. Go ahead, release.

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Speaker 2: Your fears, stand up and be counting. Don't be shamed

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Speaker 3: You gotta be.

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Speaker 2: You gotta be bad, you.

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Speaker 1: Gotta be born.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna be wiser. You gotta be hard, you gotta

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Speaker 2: be tough, You gotta be stronger, you gotta be.

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Speaker 3: Cool, You gotta be You gotta.

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Speaker 1: Stay together, no loves saying to day herold what your

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Speaker 2: Some may have more question than you.

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Speaker 4: Others take a different you.

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Speaker 2: My oh mind, You're not everything out of a brumle

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Speaker 2: gotta be tough. You're gotta be stronger, you gotta be cool,

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Speaker 3: I gotta stay.

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Speaker 1: Takegether and I know all. I know what I was

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Speaker 1: saying to Day to ask no questions and cons on

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Speaker 2: Ma it. You're not any bad and you're gonna a

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Speaker 2: You're not to be stronger, You're not to.

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Speaker 3: Be You're not a gotta take ye.

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Speaker 4: That was Desiree.

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Speaker 3: Check her out on Apple iTunes, and uh, you gotta

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Speaker 3: be bad, you gotta be bold, you gotta be.

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Speaker 4: Wiser, you gotta stick together. All I know, all I

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Speaker 4: That's a mantra to live by. Honestly, Desiree, you knew

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Speaker 4: what the fuck you're talking about?

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Speaker 3: You did you do? Where are you at right out there?

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Speaker 3: What else?

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Speaker 7: Uh okay, maybe close the door, Okay, thank you, Akron, Akron, Ohio, Ohio.

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Speaker 7: And it's for a third and fourth greater high risk

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Speaker 4: Or University of University of university.

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Speaker 3: Or like yeah, it even like provides transportation, transportation, lunch,

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Speaker 4: Oh no, and open and I thought that was cool,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, there's I mean in Chicago is so bad.

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Speaker 4: that's that's better than not doing it.

438
00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:32,159
Speaker 5: But anyhow, we support teen moms, but we encourage you

439
00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 5: to wait.

440
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:34,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, try to wait, because we're.

441
00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 4: Thirty every year fucking losing our minds.

442
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:40,040
Speaker 3: It's so crazy. My my friend that I've had since childhood,

443
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:41,439
Speaker 3: I was working with her the other day and I

444
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 3: was asking her how her younger sister's doing, because I

445
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,640
Speaker 3: haven't seen her in years, and she told me that

446
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,400
Speaker 3: she's like, oh, she's good. She's like she's good. She's

447
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 3: kind of fast, like she got caught. It's like dick

448
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:53,439
Speaker 3: in the bathroom in school.

449
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:55,440
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, she wants to be.

450
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:58,400
Speaker 3: Like a young mom. And I was like, she wants

451
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 3: to be a young mom like that? I never I mean,

452
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:01,960
Speaker 3: of course I know that exists, but that's the first

453
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 3: time I've ever heard someone tell me like I want

454
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:04,440
Speaker 3: to be a young mom.

455
00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,200
Speaker 4: I find I heard somebody else's.

456
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,480
Speaker 3: And I was like, is this this Kylie Jenner like thing?

457
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 3: Like what is going on?

458
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,160
Speaker 4: Is they show Teen Moms team?

459
00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 3: Is it all of it? Because really teen Moms doesn't

460
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:17,400
Speaker 3: really glorify No, if you're smart, if you're smart enough,

461
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 3: you'll know it's that.

462
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 4: Doesn't glorify it.

463
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 3: But Kylie Jenner, I mean, she makes it look like

464
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 3: she can live this fabulous because she can't. She can

465
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 3: this fabulous life have a baby data rapper and it's

466
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,919
Speaker 3: cute and she takes like cute photos and shit, but

467
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 3: that's not what everybody is at all, Like.

468
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 4: I do I fear that because that's the age of

469
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 4: social media and hello, we have girls. How do you

470
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:46,280
Speaker 4: like being instagram who she is in. How are we

471
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:50,640
Speaker 4: going to like prevent that from like shelter our kids

472
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 4: from thinking they should be instagram who she's too. I

473
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 4: don't know.

474
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,800
Speaker 3: I think that brings me to like talk about Beyonce's

475
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,880
Speaker 3: Vogue cover because she talks about that with you know,

476
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 3: talking about her son and teaching him how to respect

477
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 3: women and be his own have his own mind and

478
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:07,159
Speaker 3: age where like the Internet and Instagram are.

479
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 4: So you know important. So okay, So Beyonce is on

480
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 4: the cover of Vogue. She made I don't know made

481
00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:19,480
Speaker 4: them is the right word. But she hired like the

482
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 4: photographer of her choice, which was like this young kid

483
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 4: we Hyler.

484
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 3: Or something does some things. But yeah, in September, September

485
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:29,879
Speaker 3: issues like their biggest issue. I think it's Anna Wintour,

486
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 3: Anna Wintour's last issue and it's like a huge deal

487
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:34,160
Speaker 3: for and it's.

488
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 4: The first African American cover photographer. Yeah, which is what

489
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 4: the fuck you guys been doing this whole time? Like

490
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,959
Speaker 4: who knew? But these are things we don't realize. So

491
00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 4: she did this really deep ass interview or what do

492
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 4: I don't know?

493
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess it was an interview I think someone

494
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 3: asked her the question. They didn't post the framing of

495
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:58,320
Speaker 3: the questions.

496
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 4: Or maybe they just throughout words and she was spoke

497
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 4: sin Chrippert what they mean to her. So I got

498
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 4: really deep and we were reading it before we started

499
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:07,679
Speaker 4: so we could talk about it. And I'm pretty sure

500
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 4: we almost started crying.

501
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's I think what like really caught me.

502
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,280
Speaker 3: I guess I would say off guard is her candid,

503
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 3: her candidness about her pregnancy because there's always been so

504
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 3: much speculation about her pregnancy and if she had her

505
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 3: first baby and what the deal was with that, and

506
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 3: then her talking about she did talk about it in

507
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 3: that in the article, and then her and now having

508
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 3: this baby and oh my god, it's dancing just gonna

509
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 3: snap back. If she was really big she had twins,

510
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 3: and then like there was just all this body shaming

511
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:38,679
Speaker 3: even after she had the baby because she was bigger

512
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:39,400
Speaker 3: and gained weight.

513
00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 4: I didn't see her bigger. She was barely. I mean,

514
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 4: she was sick, she's sick.

515
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 3: She was again, she's still thicker than she's.

516
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 4: Ever been, and I love it.

517
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 3: She was bombed. She was bomb and that's what she

518
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 3: talks about. Just like taking her time with this kid,

519
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 3: like the first kid, Like she just felt like she

520
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:57,160
Speaker 3: had to get back, snap back real quick. And this time,

521
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,680
Speaker 3: you know, she had an emergency c section, which you

522
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 3: know she did. Yeah, she said, she said she had

523
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 3: an emergency c section. She had never rest before, that

524
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:08,479
Speaker 3: she was on bed rest for a whole month, and

525
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 3: that their babies were in what is it called?

526
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,360
Speaker 4: And she even like, I like that she shed light

527
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 4: on this the whole Sisyrian process that temporarily some of

528
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 4: your organs are removed in most sectors and people like

529
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 4: totally forget this part, like they literally removed ship. But

530
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 4: I'm able to get the baby out. So that's a

531
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 4: major recovery. Yeah, she had a major surgery.

532
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, I know, shit that should hurt. Okay, you

533
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 3: guys need to go in there and play.

534
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 4: Okay, know me to put a movie on? Yeah? Yeah,

535
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 4: So should I read a little snippet? Uh?

536
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,439
Speaker 3: Yeah? So then we So then we kept reading and

537
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:50,199
Speaker 3: she's talking about raising her daughter and her bull and

538
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:51,120
Speaker 3: her son.

539
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 4: Yeah. Are we gonna talk about the ancestry part?

540
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah sure?

541
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:57,159
Speaker 4: So she's okay, So people, we got a lot of

542
00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 4: the pregnancy posts, the poop yeah, okay, well we'll be back.

543
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 3: Br B. Sorry, we're back. Our kids are literally they're crazy.

544
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:30,960
Speaker 3: So I repooped in case you're wondering.

545
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:34,880
Speaker 4: Reminded me of we gotta comment on sun Cloud that said, sis,

546
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 4: y'all need to put those kids, give those kids some benadryl.

547
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 6: Yeah.

548
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 3: I was like, what, literally, someone told us to drug

549
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 3: our kids.

550
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:45,120
Speaker 4: I've tried it on our New York episode. I've given

551
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 4: a little better drill.

552
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:50,360
Speaker 3: She was sick. I've never given my give it works.

553
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 4: Anyway. We can't do our kids. Okay, that's illegal, so Beyonce. Okay.

554
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 4: So there's a lot of talk about what she says,

555
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 4: specifically about her postpartum body that she was really candid about,

556
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 4: but surprisingly we hadn't read the rest of the article.

557
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 4: That's actually also really interesting and touches on a lot

558
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 4: of pro like just a lot of interesting things that

559
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 4: she usually to talk about. So one of the things

560
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 4: that struck us, and it was very deep, was her

561
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:22,639
Speaker 4: take on ancestry, and she writes, I came from a

562
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:27,160
Speaker 4: lineage of broken male female relationships, abusive power, and mistrust.

563
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:29,439
Speaker 4: Only when I saw that clearly was I able to

564
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 4: resolve those conflicts. In my own relationship. Connecting to the

565
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:36,200
Speaker 4: past and knowing our history makes us both bruised and beautiful.

566
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 4: I researched my ancestry recently and learned that I came

567
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 4: from a slave owner who fell in love with a

568
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 4: married slave. I had to process that revelation over time.

569
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 4: I questioned what it meant and tried to put it

570
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 4: into perspective. I now believe it's why God blessed me

571
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 4: with my twins. Male and female energy was able to

572
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 4: coexist and grow in my blood for the first time.

573
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 4: I pray that I am able to break the generational

574
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 4: purses in my family and that my children will have

575
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 4: less complicated lives.

576
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 3: Like that's sad, so I mean again, And when I

577
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 3: read that, I thought of my friend Nadalita, who was

578
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 3: always talking about like letting go of like ancestral ancestual

579
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:22,240
Speaker 3: trauma that lives within us. And then Jamila Ben said

580
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 3: that there's some studies done that cells have memory, and

581
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 3: that makes total sense because we do bring like this

582
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 3: innate things that are like innately in us that are

583
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 3: passed on and on. Of course, like you know, society

584
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 3: and culture play a part and just how you were

585
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 3: raised and seeing images and listening to things, but there's

586
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 3: also something that's like deeply rooted, deeper than that, and

587
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 3: working on your ancestral trauma is something that people don't discuss.

588
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 3: They don't they even think about. I never even thought

589
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 3: about it. I didn't even know it was a thing.

590
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 4: What does that mean? Yeah?

591
00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know, I think beyond say, I mean,

592
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 3: obviously she's been educated on it and is working.

593
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 4: On that and acknowledging it.

594
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 3: Yeah. And yeah, that idea that both female and male

595
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: live can live inside of you, that's really kind of insane,

596
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 3: even just like having a boy in general.

597
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 5: And as a woman, you can grow a male male

598
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 5: inside of you.

599
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

600
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 4: And another thing I read that when women carry boys,

601
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 4: didn't that DNA stays in us till we die? But

602
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 4: I don't think it's the same for for little girls.

603
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:38,280
Speaker 4: And also if you have sex with the guy, raw,

604
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 4: if you get a guy's semen in your vagina, this

605
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 4: is very black and whint very I don't know the

606
00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 4: word I'm looking for you. I'm trying to say that

607
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 4: that all that semen, like their DNA stays in you

608
00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 4: until death too. What. Yeah, So they're doing studies.

609
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 3: On anybody, so every person's semen that's.

610
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 4: Been within me. They were doing they were doing studies

611
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 4: on deceased women's like sell your living like their bones,

612
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 4: and they kept finding DNA male DNA that wasn't of

613
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 4: their sons or their fathers, and come to find out

614
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 4: women store male DNA all.

615
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 3: Women Like this is just yet across the board.

616
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 4: Yep, I mean, I mean that that.

617
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 3: Would be different. I'm just saying you sure she was

618
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 3: not there?

619
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, she wasn't a little kimnock.

620
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 4: I mean, you know, I'd just be reading on the

621
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 4: internet like everybody else. So don't like mark my words

622
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 4: on this, but if anyone does know anything about that,

623
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 4: and uh, you know, if I'm wrong or if I'm.

624
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 3: Right, I mean, that's really interesting if that's true, Like,

625
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 3: that's really interesting and also scared because I definitely got

626
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 3: some shit I don't want. I don't.

627
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 4: I literally was like part of I know what to

628
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 4: tell Luna when she's a teenager. Let me tell you

629
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 4: what will happened. Let me tell you what happened, because

630
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 4: literally I wish someone would have told me that. I can't,

631
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 4: like that's my biggest I can't wait to be able

632
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 4: to like of course, she's growing, she's a older woman.

633
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 4: But like when you can really talk to your daughters

634
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 4: and really level up them, like yeah, you could like that, boy,

635
00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 4: but I'm gonna tell you right.

636
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:09,719
Speaker 3: Now that DNA will be all you don't want, be

637
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 3: sure right.

638
00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 4: Or just or.

639
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 3: That too. Yeah, And I think, you.

640
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 4: Know, like what made me really think about ancestral DNA

641
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 4: and like just cellular memory period, it's just as black

642
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 4: women or women, I mean, like slavery and the trauma

643
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 4: of that, you know, like like lots of women were

644
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 4: raped and in any like well every I'm sure like

645
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 4: most society have had violent times in their history, you

646
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying.

647
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you carry that sorrow in your bone right

648
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 3: in your blood like that. That history is deep, deep

649
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 3: and dark dark, and it doesn't just leave. It doesn't

650
00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 3: just lead to you, right, and your children when you're

651
00:32:56,320 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 3: growing that child, or when that's that former slave was

652
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 3: growing growing a child in her stomach, she was passing

653
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 3: some of that on.

654
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 4: That's why I think also it's so important.

655
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 3: Like when I was pregnant, I remember like reading a

656
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:11,240
Speaker 3: lot of stuff about really trying to like focus and

657
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 3: be as positive as you can when you're pregnant, because yeah,

658
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 3: you are kind of you are mixing cells and creating

659
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 3: a life and passing on that ancestral DNA and that.

660
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 4: Energy and that's and and whatever your energy is in

661
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 4: your tone and even talking to the womb and like

662
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 4: you're preparing, like you're preparing a woman for her like

663
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 4: her journey onwards. So someone's about to like exit you

664
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 4: and then walk this road and grow this road. So

665
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 4: like all the words, all the things you say, that shit,

666
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 4: that makes a difference.

667
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 3: But I think the beauty and all of that. And

668
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 3: just as a reminder, like from this article reading it

669
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 3: is that you don't have to that doesn't have to

670
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 3: define you. You can work on releasing that.

671
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 4: And acknowledging it and releasing it, which is most important.

672
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 3: Yes, what's going on?

673
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 4: I can't itch They're too itchy, you remember, don't know

674
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 4: they're too itchy. No more, we'll figure it out.

675
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 8: Watch Alpha Omega, watch the movie.

676
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 3: No, okay, put it on that Iri, I'm not putting

677
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 3: it on you, go put it on yourself, my goodness.

678
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 4: And then second she had this other part in the

679
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 4: article inside out.

680
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 3: Yet again, our girls are putting on more princess outfits.

681
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 3: This is a problem. And actually I recently talked to

682
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 3: another mom about going to Disneyland, and she told me

683
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 3: that there's an actual is it actual study that like

684
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 3: taking your kids to Disney right and doing the whole

685
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:51,280
Speaker 3: princess experience is detrimental to their health? Isn't actual study

686
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 3: or is there her personal research in mind? I don't know.

687
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 3: I need to research it more, but she was very convincing,

688
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,719
Speaker 3: and that, like, the princess syndrome is like more and

689
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 3: more in society popping up. Let me think about it. People,

690
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 3: girls have been wanting to be princesses since the beginning

691
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 3: of time. You know, it didn't just happen now, but.

692
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 4: Like and then, only fucking Megan makes it with the

693
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 4: fuck No, if any mom has ever been to Disney

694
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 4: and then the princess experience, please like your kid will

695
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:18,920
Speaker 4: never stop talking about it. Lu did when she was

696
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 4: fucking two. I'm pretty sure she might have been one

697
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 4: and a half. Honest to god, I don't even know

698
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 4: if she was too yet will not stop talking about

699
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:28,439
Speaker 4: it till this day.

700
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 3: I'm not taking care in the princess experience it like

701
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 3: I know my mom is gonna try.

702
00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 5: Oh for sure, and I'm sure it's like four hundred

703
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 5: dollars a.

704
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 3: Kid, Oh my god. But anyway, yeah, just about that.

705
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 3: So that was one part of the the interview article

706
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 3: that we read with Beyonce. But then there was a

707
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 3: second part that really really struck me. And she was

708
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 3: talking about her son, and uh, she was just saying

709
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 3: she wants her she wants her kids to be ceoses.

710
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 3: Know that they don't have ceilings. For daughters, know that

711
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 3: they don't have ceilings. That they don't have to be

712
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 3: politically correct, as long as they're authentic, respectful, compassionate, and empathetic.

713
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:14,880
Speaker 3: And I'm like, damn, she hit every single one. Authentic, respectful, compassionate, empathetic,

714
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 3: and they don't have to be politically correct as long

715
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 3: as you are respectful, like yeah, yes, yes, amen.

716
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 4: Which I think is a big thing to like politically correct.

717
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: We so often like, oh, you gotta be like this,

718
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 4: you got to talk like this, you could have this

719
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 4: tone and for people to accept your certain way.

720
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:31,399
Speaker 5: But it's like, no, you can do what the fuck

721
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 5: you want as long as you're trueing.

722
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 3: Or just saying cursings too much long you know what

723
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 3: I mean, or offending people with your views yeah, beautiful.

724
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,319
Speaker 3: They can explore any religion, fall in love with any race,

725
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 3: and love who they want to love. And then this

726
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:48,880
Speaker 3: was the line that really, oh shit, what did I

727
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 3: just do with it? Got me? Me and Jamila read

728
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 3: it and I was like, am I crying? You're not crying?

729
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 4: I know. I was like, you're crying. No, I'm not

730
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 4: taking away.

731
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 3: Gass bitch, Like she says, I want the same thing

732
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 3: for my son, and I want him to know that

733
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 3: he can be strong and brave, but that he can

734
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 3: also be sensitive and kind. I want my son to

735
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 3: have a high emotional IQ where he is free to

736
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:11,959
Speaker 3: be caring, truthful, and honest. It's everything a woman wants

737
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 3: in a man, and yet we don't teach it to

738
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:14,240
Speaker 3: our boys.

739
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 4: I'm like, yes, I feel so passionately about that.

740
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 3: Those few sentences, last few sentences everything a woman wants

741
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:26,800
Speaker 3: in the man, and yet we do not teach it

742
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 3: to our boys.

743
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 4: That is the most important thing.

744
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 3: A men yance a men.

745
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 4: And the church says, yes, yeah, I just like that.

746
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:40,879
Speaker 3: That line just resonated to me. I mean, I don't

747
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 3: have a son, but like, and I'm sure you know,

748
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 3: I'm not to discredit moms and what they do. But

749
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 3: it's just not the focus. We're so busy teaching boys

750
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,399
Speaker 3: to be brave, to take risks, to like get out there,

751
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 3: be strong, so cry, boys will be boys.

752
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,439
Speaker 4: Don't cry. Pick up that that that doll baby, boys

753
00:37:58,440 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 4: don't play with that.

754
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, make the money, you know, and not be sensitive.

755
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 3: Especially they don't cry thing like not being like why

756
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 3: are you crying?

757
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 4: Are you okay?

758
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 3: What's wrong?

759
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 4: How are you hate that? Shit? I hate it?

760
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, they don't be a baby? Yeah, yeah, it's I mean,

761
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 3: it's something that's like ingreat I say it. That's you know,

762
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 3: that's the thing, Like I just say it because I've

763
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 3: heard it so many times. But yeah, you're absolutely right,

764
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 3: like you should not say that. You know, these are

765
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 3: little things that that are like implanted in our little

766
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 3: human's brains and they are like, oh.

767
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 4: Oh, don't do that, don't do that. I'm yeah, I

768
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 4: feel I find myself being trying to be opposite that

769
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 4: and like low key telling wounded, like to tough enough,

770
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 4: or like oh something's not fair, my life's not fair.

771
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 4: But I don't want to do it either way too much,

772
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, because it's not okay either

773
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 4: either way.

774
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 3: I mean, I think you have to. It's a healthy

775
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 3: balance both, like you don't want to go too far

776
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 3: off those like, well, life isn't fair. Figure this out

777
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 3: because then it takes like the joy and like the

778
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 3: I just not takes all the joy but just like

779
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 3: the joy of exploring life and you know, enjoying the

780
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 3: journey because you're just like, well, shit isn't fair. You know,

781
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 3: because I do the same thing too, Like I want

782
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 3: my daughter to know that she's not always going to

783
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 3: get what she wants, but I also want her to

784
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 3: know that if she works hard, she can get what

785
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 3: she wants. You know what I mean that she she

786
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 3: works hard, then she you know, puts out good energy

787
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 3: and good just just everything compact, being, compassion, being empathetic, everything.

788
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,480
Speaker 3: She said, like if you put all that out in

789
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 3: the universal receiver back, if that's.

790
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 4: What you want.

791
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 3: But yeah, so that article was like really surprising to me.

792
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 3: Not that I think Beyonce is like dumb. Clearly she ain't.

793
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:46,919
Speaker 3: She like builds an empire and you know, of course

794
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 3: she had help, but you know, like she's the one

795
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 3: who's calling the shots. So you know, I think I

796
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,919
Speaker 3: think she's finally just and what she said, She's finally

797
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 3: comfortable in a place like where she she doesn't have

798
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:02,320
Speaker 3: to she'll never have to worry about anything or please,

799
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:04,759
Speaker 3: doesn't have to please anybody but her damn self.

800
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:06,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, and she's like, I'm just getting to that place.

801
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 4: And it's like, Beyonce, just realize she doesn't have to please.

802
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 3: She says, I'm like just now growing from a child

803
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 3: into a young woman.

804
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what I mean. But it's real. If

805
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 4: you don't, if you don't address your inner child, that

806
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 4: ship will go to your till you die. You will

807
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 4: be like fighting the inner child and not even realizing

808
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 4: you're doing it, and like still being defensive, still not

809
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 4: recognizing shit, and trying to please people. And I'm sure

810
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 4: there's so much pressure to please everybody when you're fucking Beyonce.

811
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:35,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, taking care of people. Well you're rich, just help me.

812
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 3: What's the big deal? Why why can't you just do that?

813
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:41,479
Speaker 3: And feeling a lot of obligated and all types of shit.

814
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:46,359
Speaker 4: Speaking of Bee, who's obviously Okay, what do you think

815
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 4: you think Bee is the alpha woman?

816
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 3: By who?

817
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 4: Beyonce?

818
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm like my base?

819
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 4: Who's base Bay? Which Bay? Talking about baby?

820
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:01,040
Speaker 2: No?

821
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 4: The bed.

822
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:04,400
Speaker 3: Besis.

823
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 4: I think.

824
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:11,080
Speaker 3: She is. I don't know her enough, right, but if

825
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,399
Speaker 3: I was gonna outsider looking in, I would I would

826
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 3: think that she's an alpha woman.

827
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:20,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, a hundred. She's this article that like she's really

828
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 4: candid in it, I mean not candid, transparent, and like

829
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 4: I think before, Okay, everybody's gonna kill me. I'm not.

830
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 5: It's not that I'm not a huge Beyonce fan.

831
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 4: I think she's great. Oh my god, they're calling it

832
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 4: the Buddhist community. I'm a Buddhist, I chance sometimes, but

833
00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 4: they just keep calling me like the damn joke. Okay,

834
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:50,279
Speaker 4: let me not something very bad, like you said, Like

835
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 4: even her talking about candidly by like being pro black

836
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 4: and putting black people on the map because.

837
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 3: And supporting one another and bringing people in places that

838
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:00,080
Speaker 3: she you know, she knows she use her plot.

839
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 4: For platform for Yeah, so she's never really been that

840
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 4: open about it. So her being really real is like,

841
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 4: oh wow, it's a different. Uh, it's a different perspective

842
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 4: from her.

843
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, talk talk it out, talk it out, and

844
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:19,040
Speaker 3: close the door.

845
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,120
Speaker 4: She has another backpack close the door after where the

846
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 4: other one is. Oh okay, so what's today's topic, so that.

847
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 3: Leads us in today's topic. Today's topic, we wanted to

848
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 3: talk about the alpha female, and I was asking Jamila,

849
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 3: I said, like, do you consider yourself an alpha female

850
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:47,800
Speaker 3: or do you consider yourself an omega female? And and

851
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 3: through my research, I realized there's actually three categories. And

852
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 3: I was really interesting researching this because I've only ever known, like,

853
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 3: you know, the duality of them, and never knew there

854
00:42:57,680 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 3: was like something in between, which is beta. So it

855
00:42:59,880 --> 00:43:03,720
Speaker 3: goes alpha. There's either alpha female or male, beta female

856
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 3: or male or omega female or male. I mean all

857
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 3: have different traits. And reading both of them, reading all

858
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 3: three of them, it was interesting because I was like,

859
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:13,680
Speaker 3: I can kind of see myself in the not I'm

860
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 3: not really an omega honestly, I mean I think I

861
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 3: am empathy. Like, first of all, maybe we should break

862
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 3: down what the definitions of each one are so that

863
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 3: maybe even you listening, you can kind of decipher where

864
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 3: you think you fall on the spectrum, because I think

865
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:27,280
Speaker 3: we all kind of fall somewhere in between.

866
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,320
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I don't know if there's.

867
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 3: Like there's probably women that are male, even men that

868
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 3: are purely alpha.

869
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 4: Oh for sure.

870
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 3: So basically an alpha female kind of is just always

871
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 3: finds herself like her main goal is always to win.

872
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 3: She always is like one step ahead of the competition,

873
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:48,719
Speaker 3: usually like she's the one who leads the conversation.

874
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 4: She never second guessing herself.

875
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:56,160
Speaker 3: Super successful usually yeah, very successful. What else is it

876
00:43:56,440 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 3: that that?

877
00:43:58,280 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 5: And what I read is some of them it felt

878
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 5: like she was maybe detached.

879
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,919
Speaker 3: It says the attention is always on you, and that's

880
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:07,879
Speaker 3: how you like it. It doesn't mean you're necessarily want

881
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:10,399
Speaker 3: to be the center of attention. You just prefer knowing

882
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 3: that you're not the runt of the pack, so to speak,

883
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 3: Like you realize you think you carry your weight and.

884
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, so then there's the beta.

885
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 3: So then beta is like Alpha's second hand man. So

886
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:31,280
Speaker 3: beta is wants considers her himself in alpha, but always

887
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 3: feels like he or she needs to prove that to people.

888
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 3: It doesn't she she's she or he is not secure

889
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:38,280
Speaker 3: in that alpha.

890
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 4: Role.

891
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 3: There's so many different like conflicting like information on this,

892
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 3: so it's kind of hard to know for sure. Like

893
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:51,360
Speaker 3: then the beta was like, oh, like they're like the cheerleader,

894
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:53,360
Speaker 3: the supporter who Alpha goes to talk.

895
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 4: To the mediator, mediator, the submissive person, the one who's

896
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 4: more like submissive.

897
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 3: They weren't really that. I mean, they had some a

898
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 3: missive traits.

899
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 4: I guess omega beta Yeah, oh wait, oh sorry, we're

900
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 4: not there yet.

901
00:45:06,040 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 3: No, yeah, I know the beta. I think a lot

902
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 3: of women and men, I think mostly women can kind

903
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 3: of relate to the beta. When you're a beta woman,

904
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 3: you very much want to be the alpha, but you

905
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 3: simply don't see it in yourself. Some people say that

906
00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 3: betas are kind of defensive. Uh, you always feel like

907
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:30,239
Speaker 3: you're kind of battling the odds to gain some sort

908
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 3: of balanced footing with everyone else. Let me say, compensating

909
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 3: for you. Consider it, you're still a dominant woman.

910
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 2: Though.

911
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 3: I think betas are still dominant women. They have those

912
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:44,279
Speaker 3: alpha traits.

913
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:48,040
Speaker 5: But very little of the confidence to keep you on

914
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 5: that level.

915
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:51,760
Speaker 3: I guess. I guess they're kind of always fighting against

916
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:54,920
Speaker 3: the current, frustrated that that things don't come as easily

917
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 3: to you as they do to others, And sometimes it

918
00:45:58,280 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 3: makes you bitter.

919
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 4: Biggers are bitter, We're all a little bitter. Why not me?

920
00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 3: And then the omega is you're just like naturally empathetic,

921
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 3: like you feel you feel for people, and.

922
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 4: This one's the mediator.

923
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 3: This one's like the mediator. I think Beta Beta has

924
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:21,800
Speaker 3: a little bit of mediation too, but I think the

925
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 3: omega is more like a healer. You have a smooth over,

926
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:27,760
Speaker 3: smooth over like you take on a lot of people's problems.

927
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 4: You care deep people, you care deeply about.

928
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 3: Like what's going on with other people, and that that

929
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:36,399
Speaker 3: can sometimes be very draining to you. And you can

930
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:42,520
Speaker 3: feel taken advantage of. Yeah, all of these terms, and

931
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 3: also you're a little bit submissive. A lot of its submissive.

932
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:50,920
Speaker 4: Yeah again they should just our Internet research. And the

933
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 4: whole terminology comes from animals like dogs, like animals that

934
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:59,280
Speaker 4: run impacts. So it's not to be taken too literally.

935
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 4: But it is interesting because I think people's perception is

936
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 4: like I'm an alpha female.

937
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:05,520
Speaker 5: I'm an alpha fem, you know what I mean.

938
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:08,319
Speaker 4: And in some ways I think I am, but.

939
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 5: I see my I see him a little bit of

940
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 5: myself and all three of them, Like, we did.

941
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 3: A poll on my instagram, on both of our instagrams,

942
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 3: and I asked.

943
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:27,040
Speaker 8: You, got hey, hey, now stop yelling. Be nice, I said,

944
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 8: be nice. My god, I can't, hey, get out of

945
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 8: her face. Okay, it's yours.

946
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 4: It's fine.

947
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 3: Okay, today's a rough day, guys. It's a mercury retrograde.

948
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 3: She is fucking hard. How long is it too long?

949
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,359
Speaker 3: I don't know. I hope it's over soon. I think

950
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:54,840
Speaker 3: it's the end of this month. It's over anyway. So

951
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 3: we did a pull on my Instagram and Jamila's Instagram,

952
00:47:58,120 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 3: and what I found was that a lot of I asked.

953
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:01,840
Speaker 3: I asked men what do they prefer to date? Do

954
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 3: they prefer to date omega alpha women or omega women.

955
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 3: I didn't explain Beta because I was like, you know,

956
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:10,719
Speaker 3: these are the two most popular ones. Let's just see

957
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 3: which one.

958
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 4: I think you can explain all three. I did all three,

959
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:13,840
Speaker 4: and I asked.

960
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:17,000
Speaker 3: A woman what they think they are? Okay, so Mele

961
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:20,840
Speaker 3: said pretty much it was kind of pretty closely like

962
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 3: fifty to fifty. For me. It was more more in

963
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 3: the alpha actually, more men and women, because women's women.

964
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:31,720
Speaker 3: I asked them, if you date women, what do you prefer?

965
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:34,919
Speaker 3: So I had some female responses, but for the most

966
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 3: part it was mostly alpha, and then there were there

967
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 3: were definitely some Omega and I was really I was

968
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:43,479
Speaker 3: really shocked to see how many women prefer omega women

969
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 3: like women that date women prefer a submissive woman.

970
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:48,759
Speaker 4: Yeah.

971
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:52,800
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, cool, interesting, Yeah, And then I

972
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:55,720
Speaker 3: asked women, what do you what do you consider yourself?

973
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 3: And I assumed that most women would consider themselves alpha's

974
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 3: because I think everybody wants to believe that they have

975
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:05,719
Speaker 3: this super drive and they're super like, like everybody wants

976
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:08,160
Speaker 3: to be around them and not everybody.

977
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:08,560
Speaker 4: They know what they want.

978
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 3: I just thought, what more people would say that they

979
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 3: were alpha? Yes, but but uh, I think mostly they

980
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,799
Speaker 3: did mostly say they were alpha, but there was very

981
00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 3: close tie between. Really it was like mostly beta. It

982
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,279
Speaker 3: was like beta and alpha, and then there were some

983
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:34,279
Speaker 3: like there were some omegas for sure, which I don't know.

984
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:35,400
Speaker 3: What do you consider yourself?

985
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,800
Speaker 4: I thought, I've definitely thought I was an alpha female

986
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:43,319
Speaker 4: before I ride so deeply into this. I still think

987
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 4: I have a lot of alpha female characteristics, like I

988
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 4: could be the life of the party. I like to

989
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 4: talk to people. It's on, baby, Please close the door,

990
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 4: please please please. It's a bug. Okay, close the door.

991
00:49:57,560 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 4: Don't you don't want to be in here.

992
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 3: It's the bug is gonna come.

993
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 4: Bug is gonna come over there. Bye, it's it's over there.

994
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:08,400
Speaker 5: Okay, thank you, Okay, okay, we'll come healthy in a minute.

995
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 4: Is it over?

996
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 6: Oh?

997
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 4: I'm aggressive. I've also been told like I'm I can

998
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 4: be too honest and not like sugarcoat shit enough bye,

999
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 4: And I don't know, do you like to take control?

1000
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,880
Speaker 4: If I see someone's not taking the the control, I

1001
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:33,160
Speaker 4: can do it. What about you? What do you think?

1002
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:37,320
Speaker 3: But I'm also really empathetic, like, yeah, I think that

1003
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:41,800
Speaker 3: there's a healthy mix. I think there's a healthy mixture

1004
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:46,359
Speaker 3: for me. Though I I I I of course automatically

1005
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 3: thought I'm definitely an alpha. I know all my life

1006
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 3: I've been.

1007
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:50,879
Speaker 4: Like pretty.

1008
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 3: I like I I like to learn on my own.

1009
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 3: I like, like, you know, I was stubborn. I guess

1010
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 3: stubborn said in my ways, I know what I want

1011
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:03,480
Speaker 3: for the most part, in some ways some ways. I

1012
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 3: That's why it's confusing because in some parts of my

1013
00:51:05,239 --> 00:51:06,920
Speaker 3: life I know exactly what I want and what I

1014
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:09,040
Speaker 3: what my goal is, and then in other parts I don't.

1015
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:10,960
Speaker 3: So it's hard for me to say, like, yeah, I'm

1016
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 3: completely in omega like A, I mean, I'm sorry at alpha.

1017
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 3: Do I consider do I have omega traits. I think

1018
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 3: I'm empathetic to people's feelings, but maybe not as deeply

1019
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:25,359
Speaker 3: as some people are. Some people feel everything on such

1020
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 3: a deep level, and I sometimes people's feelings annoy me.

1021
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:31,839
Speaker 4: People feel annoy me too, But I do feel people

1022
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 4: on a deep level usually if I can understand. If

1023
00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:35,319
Speaker 4: I can, I can understand them.

1024
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:37,280
Speaker 3: If you're mostly unless I think you're stupid.

1025
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:39,000
Speaker 4: Not people's feelings annoying me.

1026
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 7: But I just.

1027
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 3: I guess I don't really know where I fall on

1028
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,360
Speaker 3: the spectrum. I really thought I was in alpha, but

1029
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 3: I think I definitely have traits of beta. I think

1030
00:51:49,360 --> 00:51:51,400
Speaker 3: I think you just as you grow and you on

1031
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 3: this journey of life, like you're not married to one

1032
00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:56,719
Speaker 3: thing or the other. I think maybe I could grow

1033
00:51:56,880 --> 00:52:00,960
Speaker 3: more into my alpha position, or maybe I could grow

1034
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:03,359
Speaker 3: more into my beta position, who knows, or maybe I'll

1035
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 3: tap more into my omega. It just I think that

1036
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 3: it's a constant, like it's a constant thing. Because even

1037
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 3: when I was talking to Nishe today about this, and

1038
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 3: she's like, I voted in your poll, what do you?

1039
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 4: And I asked an alpha female, I asked her.

1040
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:18,760
Speaker 3: What she thought I was, and she was like, ah, alpha,

1041
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:21,320
Speaker 3: and I was like really, And I was like, She's like,

1042
00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:24,799
Speaker 3: I voted myself beta. I felt more like beta if.

1043
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:27,399
Speaker 5: I think in Nisha, I think she's an alpha woman.

1044
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 3: She gets done. I'm like, I want to be more

1045
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:35,400
Speaker 3: like niche. But she feels like a beta. But in

1046
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:38,279
Speaker 3: her relationship she feels like an alpha. So I think

1047
00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 3: that's interesting too to even think about. Okay, where do

1048
00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 3: you like? Do you fall in different places on the

1049
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 3: spectrum of reparty to who you're dealing with?

1050
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Because then based on what we were reading

1051
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 4: it almost though, Key's felt as if like one group

1052
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,200
Speaker 4: of friends can't have multiple alphas.

1053
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 5: And I come from like I come from, like it's

1054
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,960
Speaker 5: my family, what is my tribe like around?

1055
00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 4: I think I intentionally on myself with like like minded,

1056
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:08,360
Speaker 4: strong opinionated women because I ten kind of sometimes to

1057
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 4: like weak women or people who don't have much attention,

1058
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 4: like much opinion. I'm like, oh you're weak, so I

1059
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 4: like but like we discussed too, like like yeah, I can.

1060
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 4: I can play my role when the role is right,

1061
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Like I don't always have

1062
00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 4: to be this raw, raw person. I could someone be

1063
00:53:25,040 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 4: like this and then that person's that. But that's why

1064
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 4: I think like the whole topic can be it's.

1065
00:53:29,640 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 3: Like a little bib Well, it seemed very biased.

1066
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's I hear different, Like it's it.

1067
00:53:34,920 --> 00:53:36,960
Speaker 3: Was interesting looking it up on the internet because I

1068
00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:38,919
Speaker 3: had to we had to educate ourselves because we didn't

1069
00:53:38,920 --> 00:53:41,239
Speaker 3: really know much about it, and like, I encourage you

1070
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 3: to go look into it too, because it's actually really interesting.

1071
00:53:44,480 --> 00:53:48,080
Speaker 3: But like it seemed like whoever was writing that the

1072
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 3: study on alpha like probably was an alpha because then

1073
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 3: they were like, you know, you're really strong, you're successful,

1074
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 3: da da da, and then if you're like Omega, then

1075
00:53:56,800 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 3: you're weak and you're and then and then we read

1076
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:01,320
Speaker 3: another article where the omega was like wonderful person and

1077
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:05,040
Speaker 3: she wasn't weak, she just was like and then there

1078
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:07,480
Speaker 3: was the beta like why beta women are so amazing

1079
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:09,720
Speaker 3: and alpha women are like terrible people.

1080
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 5: So it's clearly depending on the author of the article.

1081
00:54:13,520 --> 00:54:15,799
Speaker 3: But I see, I see cons in all of them,

1082
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 3: and I see pros and all of that.

1083
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:17,840
Speaker 4: What do you think, I.

1084
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:22,399
Speaker 3: I think I think you're like alpha beta.

1085
00:54:23,360 --> 00:54:26,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I guess it depends. And what was really

1086
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:28,839
Speaker 4: interesting about most of the articles that we wrote read

1087
00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:34,600
Speaker 4: or Not most One, particularly that although alpha women are

1088
00:54:34,840 --> 00:54:38,920
Speaker 4: very alpha, they prefer to be dominated in the bedroom,

1089
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 4: which me and Erica both agree we do like a

1090
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 4: monfuga who's gonna be like, choke you and thank you

1091
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 4: and listen to me, and we're like, oh okay. Because

1092
00:54:48,480 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 4: I think in life, when you're like constantly alpha alpha alpha,

1093
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:53,440
Speaker 4: or you're like calling shots like in the bedroom, you

1094
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:57,560
Speaker 4: want a man that's gonna like you want to be vulnerable. Yeah.

1095
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 3: I think that's where it comes down for me too,

1096
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 3: because when I read that, I was like, oh shit,

1097
00:55:02,200 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 3: that's me. Like I love to be dominated, you know,

1098
00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:08,040
Speaker 3: and but sexually, sexually because like I feel like in

1099
00:55:08,160 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 3: real life, I don't. I'm like, yeah, I see, I'm

1100
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:12,400
Speaker 3: telling me what to do too much.

1101
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:14,160
Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't. I do not feel like you anymore.

1102
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:18,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, uh, you can fall back. Yeah.

1103
00:55:18,480 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 4: Equal rights, no, literally, like even like equality even that

1104
00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 4: month in New York, A couple times Anthony was like

1105
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 4: telling me stuff and I was like, don't tell me

1106
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:29,799
Speaker 4: what to do. Mm hm, you know what I mean,

1107
00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:33,440
Speaker 4: Like I don't know, backing up, chill out, motherfucker. But

1108
00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, what's wrong with me? And

1109
00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 4: then at the same time, I'm like, but I want

1110
00:55:36,480 --> 00:55:38,759
Speaker 4: a Vian's man because sometimes but I haven't even told

1111
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 4: to sit the fuck down, bitch? Did you need to

1112
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 4: have a seat?

1113
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:42,640
Speaker 3: Okay? Yeah.

1114
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:45,759
Speaker 4: When I read with something some of the answers I

1115
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:49,239
Speaker 4: got from men, Oh yeah, my Erica, you were really

1116
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 4: deep into definition. I was very simple. Somebody wrote this

1117
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:59,960
Speaker 4: is Tim whenever he's so supportive. It's my dad's friend.

1118
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:02,880
Speaker 4: It's funny because I used to date a lot of

1119
00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:05,800
Speaker 4: submissive but I married in alpha. I like how I

1120
00:56:06,000 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 4: like having an alpha wife because she's on top of

1121
00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:10,640
Speaker 4: her ship and will put me in my place when needed.

1122
00:56:11,040 --> 00:56:12,839
Speaker 3: When dating a submissive was good.

1123
00:56:12,960 --> 00:56:15,719
Speaker 4: When dating a submissive a submissive I like this was

1124
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:18,320
Speaker 4: good because I wasn't looking for anything serious and she

1125
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:20,879
Speaker 4: would never push the issue for marriage, which I thought

1126
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 4: was interesting. Someone else wrote one who can do both.

1127
00:56:24,920 --> 00:56:29,440
Speaker 4: Another guy wrote right below his dickpic that he DMed

1128
00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 4: me a few weeks earlier. Can you see it in

1129
00:56:33,440 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 4: the mirror? Okay, don't ask. Submissive makes my nature rise,

1130
00:56:41,960 --> 00:56:45,920
Speaker 4: even if she is smarter, I don't know, but combined

1131
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:49,719
Speaker 4: with a I was thinking that it was directly associated

1132
00:56:49,760 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 4: with that nature rise right, Well, what do you want

1133
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:55,399
Speaker 4: to date?

1134
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 3: What would you consider Anthony?

1135
00:56:59,360 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 4: Oh wows question? Maybe there is a beta male?

1136
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, they were saying basically, it's like a hipster

1137
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:12,279
Speaker 3: like like Anthonys were his pants pretty tight?

1138
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 4: One of them women? Anyway? Well, yeah, because I think

1139
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:21,320
Speaker 4: he'll definitely put me in my place if needed, like

1140
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 4: bitch and okay, And but sometimes I feel myself like

1141
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 4: getting uncomfortable with somebody.

1142
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 5: Like you know what I mean, Like I get defensive,

1143
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:29,280
Speaker 5: which I don't know.

1144
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 4: Was that the beta sign?

1145
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 1: No?

1146
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:37,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I've also dated. It's interesting because it's like

1147
00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:39,120
Speaker 4: what do I label people as or what do they

1148
00:57:39,160 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 4: label themselves as? Because my baby's daddy, I felt like, what,

1149
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:46,240
Speaker 4: like was it an alpha male? Like probably? I think

1150
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 4: all men want to be alpha males.

1151
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:49,720
Speaker 3: Of course, because that's what society teaches them.

1152
00:57:50,000 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 4: But like in reality, he wasn't. And so like over

1153
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 4: the years, I lost respect because you weren't getting ship done,

1154
00:57:55,600 --> 00:57:58,240
Speaker 4: you weren't doing shit, so I constantly had to be

1155
00:57:58,320 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 4: on top of shit, like nothing would done unless I

1156
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 4: was like dictating and delegating, and that shit pissed me off.

1157
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 4: So I find myself trying to like fall back and

1158
00:58:07,480 --> 00:58:09,200
Speaker 4: being okay being told to do and even you know what,

1159
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 4: I also feel like I'm so used to being the

1160
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 4: the like the alpha that someone being like, you know,

1161
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:18,480
Speaker 4: you can share this load whatever you like, tell me

1162
00:58:18,560 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 4: what you need me to do, and send it my way,

1163
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:22,880
Speaker 4: like you can share this And I was like, oh

1164
00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 4: my god, like you can take care of some shit too,

1165
00:58:26,960 --> 00:58:28,760
Speaker 4: how relieve it? He literally said that, like you can

1166
00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:31,160
Speaker 4: whatever you need you need me to do or whatever

1167
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:33,680
Speaker 4: you need you keep forgetting that I'm here to share

1168
00:58:33,720 --> 00:58:35,680
Speaker 4: the load was exactly that. I was like, Oh my god,

1169
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:38,919
Speaker 4: I've I'm obviously allly dated losers in my life.

1170
00:58:39,240 --> 00:58:41,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I've never heard any men say that.

1171
00:58:41,840 --> 00:58:43,160
Speaker 3: That's pretty fucking amazing.

1172
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:45,600
Speaker 4: Are you reading a fucking book?

1173
00:58:45,680 --> 00:58:48,439
Speaker 3: He sounds like a beta beta alpha beta alpha.

1174
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 5: And then one time I was reading our natal charts

1175
00:58:50,560 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 5: and I was reading it to him.

1176
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:52,560
Speaker 3: I think he's more beta.

1177
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:54,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so, because there's like a spectrum.

1178
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:57,080
Speaker 5: And I was telling in the nail chart I read

1179
00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:58,920
Speaker 5: based on my birthday and his that.

1180
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:02,000
Speaker 3: Uh he's a cancer too.

1181
00:59:02,280 --> 00:59:04,840
Speaker 4: Yeah that but in this book he was cancer one

1182
00:59:04,920 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 4: and I'm Gemini cancer someone because that he needs, like

1183
00:59:08,320 --> 00:59:10,840
Speaker 4: even though he's really really smart, that he should take

1184
00:59:10,880 --> 00:59:13,200
Speaker 4: my word for things sometimes basically in so many words,

1185
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 4: and he was like, I'm okay with that. I was like,

1186
00:59:15,720 --> 00:59:17,800
Speaker 4: I'm cool with that, and I was like you are.

1187
00:59:18,720 --> 00:59:21,440
Speaker 4: Thank God, you're not trying to fight me. So I

1188
00:59:21,680 --> 00:59:26,440
Speaker 4: like that there's a pull, a push and pull, you know, balance,

1189
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:28,520
Speaker 4: because it's not one way or the other.

1190
00:59:28,880 --> 00:59:31,400
Speaker 3: And that doesn't necessarily have to mean that he's submissive either,

1191
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:33,439
Speaker 3: because when you said that, I was like, well, maybe

1192
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 3: he's the miss And I was like, well no, because

1193
00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 3: I think that just comes with like understanding and talking.

1194
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 3: It doesn't necessarily mean that and knowing what you're like.

1195
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:44,080
Speaker 3: Not everything has to be a struggle. Yeah, like, oh

1196
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 3: you're good at that.

1197
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:46,000
Speaker 4: This is what you think. I trust you.

1198
00:59:46,120 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 3: M hm okay, I'm gonna go with you. I'm gona

1199
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,920
Speaker 3: ride about that out. Yeah, because you know, my my

1200
00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 3: IRI's dad. When we would argue, he was constantly always

1201
00:59:57,280 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 3: telling me that. I was like, wouldn't let him be

1202
00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:02,320
Speaker 3: the man? Like that was one of our biggest arguments,

1203
01:00:02,360 --> 01:00:03,720
Speaker 3: Like you don't ever let me make the mad like,

1204
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 3: let me make the decision. I got this, like let

1205
01:00:06,280 --> 01:00:08,480
Speaker 3: me beat the man, like, just trust me. I'm I'm like,

1206
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,360
Speaker 3: I'm the captain of the football team and we're all players,

1207
01:00:11,600 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 3: but let me like lead the pack and that shit.

1208
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:17,760
Speaker 3: Like whenever he would say that shit to me, something

1209
01:00:17,840 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 3: in me was like, what the fuck are you talking about?

1210
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:23,320
Speaker 3: But then sometimes I'd be like I remember one time

1211
01:00:23,360 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 3: I finally was I gave in because I was just like,

1212
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:27,400
Speaker 3: you know what, fine, you're right, and I wasn't. I

1213
01:00:27,440 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 3: didn't really feel that way. I just didn't want to

1214
01:00:28,840 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 3: argue anymore. And part of me was like, how could

1215
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:33,600
Speaker 3: you do that, Erica, what are you talking about? You're right? No,

1216
01:00:33,720 --> 01:00:36,440
Speaker 3: I was a fuckingly not something. Maybe that's that alpha

1217
01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 3: in me though, I was like, I'm not submitting to

1218
01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 3: this shit and your ideas of who is the leader

1219
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 3: in this pack. So that's why I think sometimes two

1220
01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 3: alpha's can be It can be difficult because.

1221
01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:49,640
Speaker 4: I do think you're always supposed to have the like

1222
01:00:50,400 --> 01:00:52,640
Speaker 4: it's hard, it's hard for you to step down. But

1223
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:55,720
Speaker 4: is it hard for you to step down because I've

1224
01:00:55,760 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 4: seen you function up? Or yeah that's what it is. Yeah,

1225
01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:01,120
Speaker 4: that's really what I say. You're not actually doing a

1226
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:04,040
Speaker 4: good job, right, So that's when I'm interviewed. I trust

1227
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:08,280
Speaker 4: your decision making. But also I found in myself hardcore

1228
01:01:08,560 --> 01:01:11,120
Speaker 4: like it is hard for like, okay, not hard for

1229
01:01:11,200 --> 01:01:13,160
Speaker 4: me for let a man be a man. But maybe

1230
01:01:13,160 --> 01:01:15,200
Speaker 4: because of my past relationships, I'm so used to like

1231
01:01:15,480 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 4: being this other person, like it's hard to just relax.

1232
01:01:19,560 --> 01:01:24,480
Speaker 4: But also I realized men really really need to be

1233
01:01:24,600 --> 01:01:28,520
Speaker 4: reassured and really need to be low key coddled. I'm like, oh, baby,

1234
01:01:28,520 --> 01:01:30,120
Speaker 4: you're the man. Like, no, I want you to just

1235
01:01:30,280 --> 01:01:32,280
Speaker 4: like I told you, like, please stay the night. They

1236
01:01:32,280 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 4: don't stay with me, of course I won't, like they

1237
01:01:33,920 --> 01:01:37,840
Speaker 4: want to hear that shit m M. And I have

1238
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:40,920
Speaker 4: noticed it's not it's hard for me to be like

1239
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:44,120
Speaker 4: I have to remind myself to be verbally praising of

1240
01:01:44,280 --> 01:01:46,840
Speaker 4: my man a lot because I forget I feel like

1241
01:01:46,920 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 4: you just know and have my friends or like whatever.

1242
01:01:49,320 --> 01:01:52,880
Speaker 5: But like, I think men really need that and to

1243
01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 5: like feel like men.

1244
01:01:55,120 --> 01:01:56,720
Speaker 4: But like, what does that look like?

1245
01:01:57,600 --> 01:01:57,760
Speaker 6: You know?

1246
01:01:57,840 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 4: And does that mean you have to be like, oh,

1247
01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:03,360
Speaker 4: I'm hurt, take out the trash, you know, saying like.

1248
01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 5: That necessarily what like makes you feel like a man?

1249
01:02:05,400 --> 01:02:06,760
Speaker 4: Because I don't want to do that either, and I

1250
01:02:06,840 --> 01:02:09,080
Speaker 4: don't feel like fucking having to reassured Nick all the time,

1251
01:02:09,200 --> 01:02:12,280
Speaker 4: like yeah, yeah, this ship you should know that no one.

1252
01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 3: I feel like sometimes men are like late to like

1253
01:02:15,920 --> 01:02:20,440
Speaker 3: the female progression party, Like shit ain't happening like it

1254
01:02:20,560 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 3: used to. It Again, you didn't get the motherfucking memo

1255
01:02:22,960 --> 01:02:23,120
Speaker 3: and you.

1256
01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 4: Ain't doing the part, so I ain't treating you like

1257
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:25,400
Speaker 4: you right, And.

1258
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:29,600
Speaker 3: I'm like, you know what year it is, right, So yeah,

1259
01:02:29,680 --> 01:02:32,240
Speaker 3: I don't. I don't know. I think like for me,

1260
01:02:32,440 --> 01:02:35,480
Speaker 3: as far as dating goes, I've always felt like I

1261
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:37,760
Speaker 3: should be with an alpha because I feel like sometimes

1262
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 3: I do need someone to tell me to sit down,

1263
01:02:39,480 --> 01:02:42,480
Speaker 3: and I like that because that's a submissive in me

1264
01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:44,200
Speaker 3: that does kind of like that.

1265
01:02:44,680 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 4: And when it's when I feel it's appropriate and which

1266
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:52,360
Speaker 4: is controlling somebody who can who you can accept it from,

1267
01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:54,280
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Because not everybody could take

1268
01:02:54,280 --> 01:02:55,680
Speaker 4: you sit down and you're gonna take it the same way.

1269
01:02:55,760 --> 01:02:58,200
Speaker 4: But if someone really likes they just have a fucking seat.

1270
01:02:59,080 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 4: If someone's like you say, you do really respect them,

1271
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:01,480
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.

1272
01:03:01,520 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 3: It comes from respect, Like if I respect you, if

1273
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:07,000
Speaker 3: like we have a mutual respect. If I know that

1274
01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:12,360
Speaker 3: your alphaness and your need to couldn't like tell me

1275
01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:15,440
Speaker 3: to have a seat doesn't come from insecurity like you

1276
01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:20,240
Speaker 3: feeling like like you're inadequate, you're inadequate, then then I'm

1277
01:03:20,280 --> 01:03:22,200
Speaker 3: okay with it. But if I feel like it's coming

1278
01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:24,360
Speaker 3: from that type of place that I'm not okay with it.

1279
01:03:24,480 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 4: I'm not coddling that shit, right because either where you

1280
01:03:27,320 --> 01:03:29,840
Speaker 4: with it and you trust it and it's good, are you? Yeah?

1281
01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:32,200
Speaker 3: And I feel like a lot of times when I

1282
01:03:32,320 --> 01:03:34,400
Speaker 3: meet alpha males, and this is what I was saying, like,

1283
01:03:34,520 --> 01:03:36,160
Speaker 3: that's why this alpha thing is kind of a bit

1284
01:03:36,200 --> 01:03:39,600
Speaker 3: confusing to me because I think that a lot of times,

1285
01:03:39,680 --> 01:03:42,560
Speaker 3: not all the time, but men that consider themselves alpha

1286
01:03:42,600 --> 01:03:45,720
Speaker 3: men or even females, I'm sure too, this applies a

1287
01:03:45,800 --> 01:03:47,960
Speaker 3: lot of it. I feel like comes some of it

1288
01:03:48,120 --> 01:03:50,680
Speaker 3: comes from insecurity because they feel like they have to

1289
01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:54,680
Speaker 3: constantly assert themselves and it's not maybe they're just not

1290
01:03:54,800 --> 01:03:57,520
Speaker 3: true alphas. It really comes from God like a like

1291
01:03:57,600 --> 01:04:03,320
Speaker 3: a pretend alpha like persona right, right, And so I

1292
01:04:03,360 --> 01:04:06,000
Speaker 3: don't know, I think for me dating wise, like the

1293
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 3: people the men that I've dated overall have alpha qualities.

1294
01:04:12,480 --> 01:04:14,440
Speaker 3: I feel like the last guy that I was dating,

1295
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:16,640
Speaker 3: the who I spoke about in my.

1296
01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:21,520
Speaker 4: Last episode, who listened, by the way, listen to our

1297
01:04:21,600 --> 01:04:24,920
Speaker 4: episode and had an enlightenment. I was like, what we

1298
01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:26,880
Speaker 4: enlighten it? We enlightened that.

1299
01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:34,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, he did listen to the last episode. Which is

1300
01:04:34,080 --> 01:04:36,120
Speaker 3: really weird about having a podcast. Guys. It's just like

1301
01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 3: you want to tell your friends you've got your you

1302
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:40,280
Speaker 3: got a podcast, and the then you're like, wait, but

1303
01:04:40,320 --> 01:04:41,320
Speaker 3: don't listen to that episode.

1304
01:04:41,320 --> 01:04:42,440
Speaker 4: Okay, don't tell nobody.

1305
01:04:42,600 --> 01:04:45,520
Speaker 3: But actually I went back and listened, and that episode

1306
01:04:45,560 --> 01:04:47,040
Speaker 3: was pretty good. I I had to say, like, I

1307
01:04:47,120 --> 01:04:49,200
Speaker 3: got everything I needed to say out there, and I'm

1308
01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:51,440
Speaker 3: not mad at it, and it actually worked in my favor.

1309
01:04:51,560 --> 01:04:54,240
Speaker 3: Like me and him are now cool and working on

1310
01:04:54,320 --> 01:04:57,960
Speaker 3: a friendship. Friendship because healthy, healthy thing I.

1311
01:04:57,960 --> 01:04:58,520
Speaker 4: Can do right now.

1312
01:05:00,800 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 3: But wait, how did I lose track?

1313
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:05,320
Speaker 4: Oh?

1314
01:05:05,480 --> 01:05:08,760
Speaker 3: I think he has alpha qualities, but he also has

1315
01:05:08,840 --> 01:05:13,640
Speaker 3: beta qualities because, at least from what I've gathered from

1316
01:05:13,920 --> 01:05:16,880
Speaker 3: dating him so far, like he just seems like supportive,

1317
01:05:17,000 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 3: he's down to support and like he doesn't he does

1318
01:05:20,480 --> 01:05:21,960
Speaker 3: have his own company, so there is that.

1319
01:05:22,160 --> 01:05:24,880
Speaker 4: Like, why does that supportive mean? You're not an alpha bank.

1320
01:05:24,960 --> 01:05:26,920
Speaker 3: I don't know, but like that's I don't that's why

1321
01:05:26,920 --> 01:05:30,440
Speaker 3: these definitions are Oh wait, oh wait, wait wait? Did

1322
01:05:30,480 --> 01:05:33,960
Speaker 3: that definition of beta man? The guy who just yoga yoga?

1323
01:05:34,120 --> 01:05:37,480
Speaker 3: He dresses nicely like he does yoga, like he like

1324
01:05:37,600 --> 01:05:42,600
Speaker 3: asks you, like how you're feeling, and like, yeah, mistake

1325
01:05:42,720 --> 01:05:45,120
Speaker 3: is gay? Oh yeah he might. He might have feminine

1326
01:05:45,200 --> 01:05:47,920
Speaker 3: energy or you might mistake him as gay. Which actually

1327
01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 3: I was talking to him today about the alpha male

1328
01:05:51,320 --> 01:05:53,200
Speaker 3: thing or he was telling he was telling me about

1329
01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 3: his friend, the one that that thinks are cute and

1330
01:05:55,960 --> 01:06:01,120
Speaker 3: that he introduced him to some girl or something and

1331
01:06:01,200 --> 01:06:02,920
Speaker 3: the girl felt like he had feminine energy.

1332
01:06:03,360 --> 01:06:04,520
Speaker 4: Was like double dating over there.

1333
01:06:04,760 --> 01:06:07,160
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe going on dates every five seconds.

1334
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:07,480
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1335
01:06:08,680 --> 01:06:12,360
Speaker 4: It so happened in Venice. Guys, can we please go

1336
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:13,920
Speaker 4: out there and hang out with It's really cool. I

1337
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:15,800
Speaker 4: really want to hang out in Venice. Let's go. I'm

1338
01:06:16,280 --> 01:06:18,800
Speaker 4: like one time six years ago. Oh god, I just

1339
01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:23,400
Speaker 4: remember that. Oh god, I was a fucking car crash.

1340
01:06:23,760 --> 01:06:26,880
Speaker 3: Oh oh Jesus. But he was saying that and I

1341
01:06:26,960 --> 01:06:28,640
Speaker 3: and I said to him, I said, well, I don't

1342
01:06:28,640 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 3: really get that from him but you know, what I've

1343
01:06:31,880 --> 01:06:33,840
Speaker 3: found is that it probably has more to do with

1344
01:06:33,960 --> 01:06:37,360
Speaker 3: what she considers masculine energy more than more so than

1345
01:06:37,920 --> 01:06:40,440
Speaker 3: whatever he's doing. It's really her problem, not his problem.

1346
01:06:41,000 --> 01:06:44,720
Speaker 3: And uh and he was and he was like, wait,

1347
01:06:44,760 --> 01:06:46,920
Speaker 3: what did he say when I was telling him that, Like,

1348
01:06:47,080 --> 01:06:49,560
Speaker 3: I think I've struggled from the same thing, like how

1349
01:06:49,640 --> 01:06:51,760
Speaker 3: I define masculinity.

1350
01:06:51,280 --> 01:06:53,480
Speaker 4: Like you know how that looks back?

1351
01:06:53,520 --> 01:06:55,680
Speaker 3: Guy is very sweet, he's really nice.

1352
01:06:56,000 --> 01:06:58,720
Speaker 4: Even I saw a study that we associate like high

1353
01:06:58,760 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 4: pitched voices, like and it has nothing to do with

1354
01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:05,280
Speaker 4: shit even body language, you know, And it's just bullshit,

1355
01:07:05,400 --> 01:07:07,160
Speaker 4: it really is. So we have to get out of that,

1356
01:07:07,840 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 4: I know.

1357
01:07:08,920 --> 01:07:10,600
Speaker 3: But anyway, I don't know. I don't know what my

1358
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:12,760
Speaker 3: paaring I know for sure, I don't know if I'm not.

1359
01:07:12,880 --> 01:07:14,320
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know the future. But at this

1360
01:07:14,440 --> 01:07:17,600
Speaker 3: point in my life and in my relationships with men

1361
01:07:17,680 --> 01:07:20,840
Speaker 3: in general, up until this point, I don't think I

1362
01:07:20,880 --> 01:07:23,600
Speaker 3: could date an omega. I just can't. I don't really

1363
01:07:23,680 --> 01:07:24,200
Speaker 3: have a lot.

1364
01:07:24,160 --> 01:07:30,120
Speaker 4: Of respect for maybe I've the right omega met well.

1365
01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:32,080
Speaker 3: The by the definition just made me feel like a

1366
01:07:32,160 --> 01:07:35,400
Speaker 3: man that just can't make decisions, Like he's just not assertive,

1367
01:07:35,600 --> 01:07:37,520
Speaker 3: and I don't need him to be assertive all the time,

1368
01:07:37,640 --> 01:07:40,080
Speaker 3: but sometimes I need you to take the reins and

1369
01:07:40,320 --> 01:07:41,960
Speaker 3: like figure some shit out for me.

1370
01:07:42,440 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 4: Sometimes like passiontive passiveness really really annoys me.

1371
01:07:46,560 --> 01:07:50,120
Speaker 5: For instance, a mumbling asthma fucker.

1372
01:07:50,040 --> 01:07:52,560
Speaker 4: Like oh yeah, what the fuck did you say?

1373
01:07:52,760 --> 01:07:52,800
Speaker 2: What?

1374
01:07:53,800 --> 01:07:57,840
Speaker 4: Huh? Like if we're at a restaurant, you're like, yeah, okay,

1375
01:07:57,960 --> 01:08:01,120
Speaker 4: look like speak the fuck up, speak clearly, Like that

1376
01:08:01,320 --> 01:08:03,400
Speaker 4: makes me think that you're on omega. If I'm not

1377
01:08:03,480 --> 01:08:07,320
Speaker 4: with a man who's like clearly spoken, even a woman punctuating,

1378
01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:08,880
Speaker 4: like if I feel like I have the order for you,

1379
01:08:09,000 --> 01:08:11,240
Speaker 4: it's gonna irritate me. Even as a waitress, when I

1380
01:08:11,280 --> 01:08:13,840
Speaker 4: would see like men, this is when I didn't have

1381
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:15,840
Speaker 4: respect for like beta women. If I would see like

1382
01:08:15,960 --> 01:08:18,720
Speaker 4: a couple come, I've been a lot of observations based

1383
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:19,360
Speaker 4: on my cocktail.

1384
01:08:19,479 --> 01:08:22,439
Speaker 5: Dates would come to dinner and like order for the

1385
01:08:22,520 --> 01:08:23,160
Speaker 5: woman all the.

1386
01:08:23,160 --> 01:08:24,560
Speaker 4: Time, or she's like, babe, what do you think I

1387
01:08:24,600 --> 01:08:27,720
Speaker 4: should get? I'm like, oh my god, this bitch, thank you?

1388
01:08:28,400 --> 01:08:32,240
Speaker 4: Color it like I would it would It would irritate me,

1389
01:08:32,360 --> 01:08:36,160
Speaker 4: like this shit just has no voice at all, Like

1390
01:08:36,280 --> 01:08:37,840
Speaker 4: this makes me think you're like a pushover and that

1391
01:08:37,960 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 4: irritate me, or for a guy the other way around,

1392
01:08:40,200 --> 01:08:43,280
Speaker 4: like my ex like couldn't to.

1393
01:08:43,360 --> 01:08:46,080
Speaker 3: Me like effectively make phone calls, like like.

1394
01:08:46,920 --> 01:08:49,120
Speaker 4: What's going on over there? Why can't you call the

1395
01:08:49,160 --> 01:08:50,880
Speaker 4: cable company? Like what the fuck?

1396
01:08:51,120 --> 01:08:54,120
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I feel you. That's just everything takes forever.

1397
01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:56,920
Speaker 3: Everything needs to be reasoned, not some shit.

1398
01:08:56,960 --> 01:08:58,280
Speaker 4: It's just like, no, this is what it is.

1399
01:08:59,120 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 3: Yo.

1400
01:08:59,280 --> 01:09:00,679
Speaker 5: Okay, let me say this quick story.

1401
01:09:01,080 --> 01:09:02,479
Speaker 4: I just realized both of these stories have to do

1402
01:09:02,520 --> 01:09:04,840
Speaker 4: with food, which may be just like my inner psycho

1403
01:09:04,880 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 4: about food because I am a fat ass, like not

1404
01:09:08,680 --> 01:09:12,880
Speaker 4: literally obviously, but I need a lot. So okay twice okay,

1405
01:09:12,920 --> 01:09:14,880
Speaker 4: meet Anthony went to the tire restaurant. We got there

1406
01:09:14,880 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 4: at nine o five. He was pressing me in a

1407
01:09:16,080 --> 01:09:21,479
Speaker 4: curry ap parreyep parry up, parry up, be nice share.

1408
01:09:24,600 --> 01:09:27,519
Speaker 3: Irie's pushing her face against the glass and her whole

1409
01:09:27,520 --> 01:09:28,240
Speaker 3: face was smashed.

1410
01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:32,280
Speaker 4: Oh, young babe, not Anthony, young babe. And we went

1411
01:09:32,360 --> 01:09:33,680
Speaker 4: to Okay, so we went to tire food. He was

1412
01:09:33,720 --> 01:09:34,960
Speaker 4: pricing me and we need there but out there. We

1413
01:09:35,040 --> 01:09:36,960
Speaker 4: got there at literally nine oh six. We balked in.

1414
01:09:37,360 --> 01:09:40,360
Speaker 4: He's like, oh, I saw, I'm sorry, we closed fifteen minutes.

1415
01:09:40,479 --> 01:09:43,080
Speaker 4: So he was like he got the attitude immediately, and

1416
01:09:43,320 --> 01:09:44,640
Speaker 4: of course it was me who was like kind of

1417
01:09:44,680 --> 01:09:47,040
Speaker 4: taking my time, so he was like, we'll order to

1418
01:09:47,080 --> 01:09:48,920
Speaker 4: go immediately. He's like, we'll order to go. In my head,

1419
01:09:48,960 --> 01:09:50,600
Speaker 4: I'm like okay, He's like I don't really want to

1420
01:09:50,640 --> 01:09:51,840
Speaker 4: order to go tho, Let's go somewhere else.

1421
01:09:51,920 --> 01:09:52,800
Speaker 6: And I was like no.

1422
01:09:53,640 --> 01:09:54,800
Speaker 4: I was like, if you want to eat, you're gonna

1423
01:09:54,800 --> 01:09:57,280
Speaker 4: eat here. So I'm like, you guys, don't close in

1424
01:09:57,360 --> 01:09:59,760
Speaker 4: fifteen minutes. You actually closed in nine thirty. That's what

1425
01:09:59,800 --> 01:10:02,240
Speaker 4: we right online, and that's how he came. So we're

1426
01:10:02,240 --> 01:10:04,599
Speaker 4: either gonna eat here or we're gonna not eat at all.

1427
01:10:05,479 --> 01:10:08,040
Speaker 4: So she's like okay, Holly up owed it quickly, but

1428
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:10,680
Speaker 4: I was like, you're to let the bitch pumkin like,

1429
01:10:11,000 --> 01:10:14,160
Speaker 4: we're not. No, we sit in, down, we eat in.

1430
01:10:14,800 --> 01:10:17,280
Speaker 5: And then another time, which I almost fucking exploded.

1431
01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:21,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, painting with that what that brush thing?

1432
01:10:22,520 --> 01:10:25,400
Speaker 4: So we ordered food on fucking one of those to

1433
01:10:25,479 --> 01:10:26,880
Speaker 4: go apps whatever delivery apps.

1434
01:10:27,479 --> 01:10:31,240
Speaker 5: He puts the order in, he orders it to he

1435
01:10:31,439 --> 01:10:34,360
Speaker 5: orders it to his house, not the house that we're at.

1436
01:10:34,400 --> 01:10:37,280
Speaker 4: Which is down the street. He waits for five minutes

1437
01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:39,759
Speaker 4: for the The only way you can change the address

1438
01:10:39,840 --> 01:10:42,680
Speaker 4: if if the bitch pops up contact the driver. He

1439
01:10:42,800 --> 01:10:44,880
Speaker 4: literally been standing in his phone for like fifteen minutes straight.

1440
01:10:44,880 --> 01:10:46,600
Speaker 4: I'm like, dude, whunch, you just called the restaurant and

1441
01:10:46,640 --> 01:10:48,960
Speaker 4: tell them to have the driver change the address when

1442
01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:51,439
Speaker 4: they get there. No, twenty minutes goes by. He sucks

1443
01:10:51,520 --> 01:10:53,720
Speaker 4: his phone. Finally it must have popped up. He calls,

1444
01:10:53,840 --> 01:10:56,360
Speaker 4: tells the bitch Okay, I'm gonna text you. Sorry, I say,

1445
01:10:56,439 --> 01:10:58,280
Speaker 4: bitch A lot for me to be so woman in powered.

1446
01:11:00,080 --> 01:11:02,360
Speaker 4: He text. He tells the bitch the new address. He

1447
01:11:02,479 --> 01:11:05,880
Speaker 4: text her like ten minutes later. I see I hear him.

1448
01:11:05,920 --> 01:11:08,639
Speaker 4: I'm sitting next time, he's on the phone like, oh, okay,

1449
01:11:09,040 --> 01:11:10,240
Speaker 4: all right, just leaves on the porch.

1450
01:11:11,120 --> 01:11:13,760
Speaker 3: Okay bye. I'm like, she left it on the porch.

1451
01:11:13,840 --> 01:11:15,559
Speaker 4: It's here right now. He's like, oh, why we leave

1452
01:11:15,600 --> 01:11:17,719
Speaker 4: on the porch. He's like, she went to my house.

1453
01:11:18,000 --> 01:11:19,200
Speaker 4: I'm gonna tell me you'll get it. I was like,

1454
01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:23,760
Speaker 4: I exploded. I was like, why the fuck would you

1455
01:11:23,920 --> 01:11:26,400
Speaker 4: like this bitch leave it at your house.

1456
01:11:26,920 --> 01:11:27,400
Speaker 2: We're here.

1457
01:11:27,720 --> 01:11:30,280
Speaker 4: You text her the address as a callarback, callar back,

1458
01:11:30,520 --> 01:11:32,679
Speaker 4: He's like, I just so get it. I was fucking

1459
01:11:33,280 --> 01:11:34,800
Speaker 4: I don't think I've ever yelled at him so hard.

1460
01:11:35,160 --> 01:11:37,479
Speaker 4: He was like, this shitch just a monster. I was like,

1461
01:11:37,760 --> 01:11:39,960
Speaker 4: I cannot believe you let this bitch drop that food

1462
01:11:40,000 --> 01:11:41,880
Speaker 4: off at your house. Now, why would we pay for

1463
01:11:41,920 --> 01:11:43,080
Speaker 4: her to deliver it? And she didn't deliver it?

1464
01:11:43,160 --> 01:11:43,599
Speaker 3: Here? Right?

1465
01:11:44,439 --> 01:11:46,719
Speaker 4: I was hot? Okay, so I am a fat ass,

1466
01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:50,439
Speaker 4: which is the conclusion of both these stories. Shit like

1467
01:11:50,560 --> 01:11:51,479
Speaker 4: that annoys the ship.

1468
01:11:51,600 --> 01:11:53,240
Speaker 3: Well do you think that's just man shit?

1469
01:11:53,479 --> 01:11:53,719
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1470
01:11:54,120 --> 01:11:57,080
Speaker 4: Or is that that's not that's man like?

1471
01:11:57,400 --> 01:11:58,639
Speaker 2: I just like I was hot.

1472
01:11:58,960 --> 01:12:02,360
Speaker 3: I just think certain men are not necessarily problem solvers

1473
01:12:02,400 --> 01:12:05,000
Speaker 3: in that way. They can problem solve some other shit

1474
01:12:05,120 --> 01:12:07,599
Speaker 3: really well. Sometimes a lot of times mailing a picture

1475
01:12:07,680 --> 01:12:11,280
Speaker 3: do well, like you know, other shit, but like when

1476
01:12:11,320 --> 01:12:14,560
Speaker 3: it comes to like the details and coordinating things and

1477
01:12:14,640 --> 01:12:17,920
Speaker 3: times and locations, not a strong point, not a strong point,

1478
01:12:18,040 --> 01:12:21,000
Speaker 3: not a strong point. But I don't know, I just

1479
01:12:21,160 --> 01:12:25,960
Speaker 3: omega omega And it's just I just I don't know.

1480
01:12:26,040 --> 01:12:28,559
Speaker 3: I just I think because growing up I had an

1481
01:12:28,600 --> 01:12:31,720
Speaker 3: omega male in my life around me so much, and

1482
01:12:31,800 --> 01:12:35,000
Speaker 3: I just watched an annoyance all the time. I was

1483
01:12:35,040 --> 01:12:37,040
Speaker 3: always just like hurry up, what are you? What are

1484
01:12:37,080 --> 01:12:37,799
Speaker 3: you mumbling?

1485
01:12:38,200 --> 01:12:39,439
Speaker 4: What what are you saying?

1486
01:12:40,040 --> 01:12:42,800
Speaker 3: Or like what like I just and then being raised

1487
01:12:42,840 --> 01:12:45,439
Speaker 3: by like such an alpha female and seeing that was

1488
01:12:45,600 --> 01:12:48,760
Speaker 3: just like confusing to me. But it doesn't it work

1489
01:12:48,840 --> 01:12:51,840
Speaker 3: in some way some way some some alpha females some

1490
01:12:51,960 --> 01:12:54,639
Speaker 3: relations just like an alpha male likes an omega woman.

1491
01:12:55,280 --> 01:12:57,800
Speaker 3: Some a lot of alpha females need an omega man.

1492
01:12:57,880 --> 01:13:00,160
Speaker 3: They want to be lifted up, they want some want

1493
01:13:00,240 --> 01:13:03,400
Speaker 3: to just listen to their problems and and support them

1494
01:13:03,920 --> 01:13:06,320
Speaker 3: and take on their ship and just be their little

1495
01:13:06,360 --> 01:13:09,400
Speaker 3: their cheerleader on the side. And that's and that's okay too.

1496
01:13:09,640 --> 01:13:12,639
Speaker 3: I just know for myself at this point in my life,

1497
01:13:12,760 --> 01:13:15,360
Speaker 3: I mean, anything could happen, but I can't see myself

1498
01:13:15,400 --> 01:13:17,920
Speaker 3: with someone that way. I just feel like I I

1499
01:13:19,560 --> 01:13:21,880
Speaker 3: like a man that takes initiative and I can we

1500
01:13:22,000 --> 01:13:24,200
Speaker 3: can like not that omegas don't have goals and are

1501
01:13:24,280 --> 01:13:26,479
Speaker 3: running on you, but just I just want to see

1502
01:13:26,520 --> 01:13:28,840
Speaker 3: that you are taking control and your assertive. I love

1503
01:13:28,840 --> 01:13:31,680
Speaker 3: a man that has his own shit. Can like if

1504
01:13:31,720 --> 01:13:34,240
Speaker 3: he has a company, like he's running it well, he

1505
01:13:34,439 --> 01:13:38,000
Speaker 3: has employees like Okay, this sounds really like shallow, but

1506
01:13:38,200 --> 01:13:39,400
Speaker 3: like he hasn't.

1507
01:13:40,600 --> 01:13:43,680
Speaker 4: If you have employees, if you the manager alone, are just.

1508
01:13:43,720 --> 01:13:46,479
Speaker 3: Like you're excelling in whatever field you're doing, like you

1509
01:13:46,880 --> 01:13:49,519
Speaker 3: at it, like watching like my like like for example,

1510
01:13:49,600 --> 01:13:52,680
Speaker 3: like it's gonna sound really shallow, but it's just it's

1511
01:13:52,760 --> 01:13:56,639
Speaker 3: not even shallow. It's just I loved watching the father

1512
01:13:56,760 --> 01:13:59,560
Speaker 3: of my child on stage. Of course, I just have

1513
01:13:59,680 --> 01:14:03,760
Speaker 3: to watch him like do what he does best and

1514
01:14:04,120 --> 01:14:06,200
Speaker 3: him I can see it coming off of him. I

1515
01:14:06,240 --> 01:14:08,439
Speaker 3: can see him radiating. I can see how people are

1516
01:14:08,479 --> 01:14:12,760
Speaker 3: reacting to his radiance, and you know, like his confidence,

1517
01:14:12,840 --> 01:14:15,479
Speaker 3: that's abstraction, like two musicians period.

1518
01:14:15,560 --> 01:14:17,639
Speaker 4: It's a confidence and it doesn't have to be necessarily.

1519
01:14:17,760 --> 01:14:19,600
Speaker 3: And when I realized it's not just that, it's like

1520
01:14:20,000 --> 01:14:22,240
Speaker 3: any man who's doing something in a field, in his

1521
01:14:22,400 --> 01:14:25,439
Speaker 3: field or just excelling have something that I'm not maybe

1522
01:14:25,520 --> 01:14:27,280
Speaker 3: good at in my life, I can look up to

1523
01:14:27,360 --> 01:14:29,080
Speaker 3: that and be like damn, well, like I don't know

1524
01:14:29,120 --> 01:14:31,040
Speaker 3: how to do that. That's sexy that you do though,

1525
01:14:31,720 --> 01:14:35,160
Speaker 3: like you know, and so I don't know this whole

1526
01:14:35,640 --> 01:14:42,160
Speaker 3: this whole research of these three personality traits was just

1527
01:14:43,280 --> 01:14:46,439
Speaker 3: was really interesting and I don't know, like, what do

1528
01:14:46,520 --> 01:14:48,880
Speaker 3: you guys think, do you I mean, do you think

1529
01:14:49,040 --> 01:14:52,240
Speaker 3: that if you're in alpha you'd be able to date

1530
01:14:53,320 --> 01:14:55,639
Speaker 3: and omega? Do you prefer that as a woman? I mean,

1531
01:14:56,040 --> 01:14:58,519
Speaker 3: we live in such different times now too, like where

1532
01:14:58,600 --> 01:15:00,200
Speaker 3: women are more empowered than ever.

1533
01:15:00,400 --> 01:15:05,400
Speaker 4: And I don't know, I think I actually I met

1534
01:15:05,439 --> 01:15:08,639
Speaker 4: a woman once met like a crazy trip to Miami

1535
01:15:08,680 --> 01:15:10,639
Speaker 4: when I say, for a month. One of the chicks

1536
01:15:10,680 --> 01:15:12,880
Speaker 4: I met, who was Paula Hammers, and she like exposed

1537
01:15:12,880 --> 01:15:14,400
Speaker 4: it to me for the first time. She was an

1538
01:15:14,400 --> 01:15:17,000
Speaker 4: alpha female, and throughout the trip we were like, this

1539
01:15:17,160 --> 01:15:18,800
Speaker 4: is a long time ago. We were going on like

1540
01:15:19,680 --> 01:15:21,600
Speaker 4: the man hunt and her and the other girl we

1541
01:15:21,680 --> 01:15:24,120
Speaker 4: were with, I don't know what kind of crazy four

1542
01:15:24,160 --> 01:15:27,160
Speaker 4: sum we were trying to conspire, but they were really

1543
01:15:27,280 --> 01:15:29,680
Speaker 4: into like man that I continue to keep in mind.

1544
01:15:29,680 --> 01:15:32,200
Speaker 3: I was like twenty one, I thought we're like Loki gay.

1545
01:15:32,400 --> 01:15:33,719
Speaker 4: I'm like, what the fuck?

1546
01:15:35,000 --> 01:15:35,759
Speaker 3: Why am.

1547
01:15:37,640 --> 01:15:39,920
Speaker 4: But come to find out there was this one guy, Tyler,

1548
01:15:40,040 --> 01:15:43,040
Speaker 4: the bartender at a gay club. He's super beautiful, super

1549
01:15:43,120 --> 01:15:46,880
Speaker 4: well chiseled, you know, Miami super like he was pretty

1550
01:15:47,479 --> 01:15:51,559
Speaker 4: and like soft spoken and like yeah, anyway, we took

1551
01:15:51,600 --> 01:15:55,720
Speaker 4: him home to our hotel. I passed out. I don't

1552
01:15:55,760 --> 01:15:57,360
Speaker 4: know how I passed out. They had a whole, full

1553
01:15:57,600 --> 01:16:00,280
Speaker 4: blown pop in threesome while I was sleep on the back.

1554
01:16:00,680 --> 01:16:02,640
Speaker 4: The next morning, I was like, why I missed it?

1555
01:16:02,880 --> 01:16:06,320
Speaker 4: Like his dick was huge? What I was like, I

1556
01:16:06,360 --> 01:16:09,640
Speaker 4: thought he was gay? She was like no. And then

1557
01:16:09,760 --> 01:16:12,040
Speaker 4: years later he damned me like I really went home

1558
01:16:12,080 --> 01:16:13,720
Speaker 4: with you guys cause I wanted to get to be

1559
01:16:13,920 --> 01:16:17,120
Speaker 4: with you. And I was like, oh okay, And he

1560
01:16:17,240 --> 01:16:20,600
Speaker 4: changed my perspective because like what we generally put in

1561
01:16:20,680 --> 01:16:23,439
Speaker 4: this box, in this category, it doesn't have to be that.

1562
01:16:23,640 --> 01:16:24,519
Speaker 4: So there is a balance.

1563
01:16:24,520 --> 01:16:26,160
Speaker 3: I think different women like different shit.

1564
01:16:26,640 --> 01:16:29,360
Speaker 4: Even if you are at alpha, you could you know whatever.

1565
01:16:29,840 --> 01:16:32,400
Speaker 4: And then I bet you even though I missed that threesome,

1566
01:16:32,720 --> 01:16:35,280
Speaker 4: I bet you he took control in the bedroom surprisingly

1567
01:16:35,479 --> 01:16:38,680
Speaker 4: and that was probably she probably was onto something. She

1568
01:16:38,760 --> 01:16:42,400
Speaker 4: even Beta men we beta no Omega a Mega man

1569
01:16:42,520 --> 01:16:44,000
Speaker 4: in the bedroom are like, they.

1570
01:16:44,040 --> 01:16:47,000
Speaker 3: Probably want more aggressive. That's her want to be assertive, yes,

1571
01:16:47,520 --> 01:16:49,360
Speaker 3: whereas Alpha was like to be dominated.

1572
01:16:49,400 --> 01:16:52,200
Speaker 4: So maybe it's something you should try, maybe, right, I

1573
01:16:52,320 --> 01:16:52,760
Speaker 4: did you know what.

1574
01:16:52,800 --> 01:16:55,360
Speaker 3: My ex was? I did dated Omega once and he

1575
01:16:55,479 --> 01:16:58,360
Speaker 3: was incredibly insecure, but then he was very but he

1576
01:16:58,479 --> 01:16:59,560
Speaker 3: was very caring.

1577
01:17:00,920 --> 01:17:04,679
Speaker 4: And this sex was eve end up being gay.

1578
01:17:05,479 --> 01:17:08,040
Speaker 3: No, he's definitely not kidding. Okay, although a lot of

1579
01:17:08,080 --> 01:17:09,160
Speaker 3: gay men are attracted to me.

1580
01:17:09,680 --> 01:17:10,640
Speaker 4: I know. That's why I asked you.

1581
01:17:10,760 --> 01:17:12,800
Speaker 3: I recently had that too, Like I'm like, oh, this

1582
01:17:12,920 --> 01:17:14,320
Speaker 3: is still a video, this is still a thing.

1583
01:17:14,800 --> 01:17:18,479
Speaker 4: The video you guys, Oh my god, Wait, he's gonna

1584
01:17:18,520 --> 01:17:21,840
Speaker 4: listen to this? Oh god, maybe not won't listen to

1585
01:17:21,920 --> 01:17:26,479
Speaker 4: star who could? Good if you're listening, turn your shit up. Okay,

1586
01:17:26,560 --> 01:17:30,800
Speaker 4: this is for you. Erica has been like had a

1587
01:17:30,920 --> 01:17:34,280
Speaker 4: DM boo that, like someone mutual introduced them via DM.

1588
01:17:34,360 --> 01:17:37,479
Speaker 4: They started like FaceTime and texting. So, yes, the other day,

1589
01:17:37,520 --> 01:17:39,920
Speaker 4: We're at the Brea at the pool and I'm taking yourselfie.

1590
01:17:39,920 --> 01:17:41,680
Speaker 4: First of all, I'm nosy to shoot, so like with

1591
01:17:41,760 --> 01:17:44,240
Speaker 4: all my friend. Oh, so I was taking yourself in

1592
01:17:44,360 --> 01:17:46,280
Speaker 4: Eric's phone and I'm like at the same time, she

1593
01:17:46,320 --> 01:17:48,639
Speaker 4: gets a text message that comes through and I'm reading

1594
01:17:48,680 --> 01:17:51,240
Speaker 4: it and it's like, hey, I just.

1595
01:17:51,520 --> 01:17:53,400
Speaker 3: I just found this, but I could see it's like

1596
01:17:54,080 --> 01:17:55,879
Speaker 3: a video or a still.

1597
01:17:57,360 --> 01:18:00,360
Speaker 4: And I'm like, yeah, some guy, who is this so

1598
01:18:00,479 --> 01:18:02,519
Speaker 4: and so? Because you just got a new video, so

1599
01:18:02,680 --> 01:18:05,400
Speaker 4: we proceed to look at it together. I can't even

1600
01:18:05,439 --> 01:18:08,599
Speaker 4: describe this for podcast purposes. It's too bad to even describe.

1601
01:18:08,800 --> 01:18:11,400
Speaker 4: I literally wish can we Oh we can't, we can't, Okay, sorry.

1602
01:18:12,240 --> 01:18:16,160
Speaker 9: He is taking a full blown selfie video of himself

1603
01:18:16,760 --> 01:18:19,320
Speaker 9: shirtless in the bathroom, like kind of like you know how,

1604
01:18:19,560 --> 01:18:22,120
Speaker 9: you know how bitches on Instagram like lip sync to

1605
01:18:22,240 --> 01:18:23,720
Speaker 9: songs for no reason.

1606
01:18:23,520 --> 01:18:24,479
Speaker 3: And post selfies.

1607
01:18:24,720 --> 01:18:26,760
Speaker 4: It's like that, but he's shirtless. He's doing like a

1608
01:18:26,800 --> 01:18:29,479
Speaker 4: little poudy lip and then he does the signature what

1609
01:18:29,560 --> 01:18:32,960
Speaker 4: I've warned you guys back in many many episodes again

1610
01:18:33,080 --> 01:18:35,679
Speaker 4: is my man by when you put the arm over

1611
01:18:35,960 --> 01:18:38,400
Speaker 4: back over the head to strike a pose.

1612
01:18:41,080 --> 01:18:43,960
Speaker 3: No, sit down, no more kill it no.

1613
01:18:47,080 --> 01:18:50,080
Speaker 4: And it's like a fully like fifteen second video basically

1614
01:18:50,160 --> 01:18:53,400
Speaker 4: after just him pouting doing sexy what he thinks are

1615
01:18:53,439 --> 01:18:54,280
Speaker 4: sexy looks.

1616
01:18:54,080 --> 01:18:56,519
Speaker 3: And he like grabbed his chest like his boot but

1617
01:18:57,280 --> 01:18:58,320
Speaker 3: brea breast.

1618
01:18:58,520 --> 01:19:01,040
Speaker 4: Trust Oh my god, I'll show me another one from

1619
01:19:01,040 --> 01:19:02,800
Speaker 4: another guy. But we're gonna look that one up second.

1620
01:19:02,840 --> 01:19:06,200
Speaker 4: Ohd But okay, this is just a PSA announcement for

1621
01:19:06,280 --> 01:19:08,320
Speaker 4: all single men. Okay, First of all, that guy is

1622
01:19:08,360 --> 01:19:11,360
Speaker 4: thirty eight and single. And this is why no woman,

1623
01:19:11,680 --> 01:19:14,599
Speaker 4: I repeat, for the ten percent of male listeners, spread

1624
01:19:14,640 --> 01:19:17,640
Speaker 4: the word. Tell your homies to fucking tune in. No

1625
01:19:18,200 --> 01:19:23,600
Speaker 4: woman wants any man sending a fucking selfie video that

1626
01:19:23,760 --> 01:19:26,920
Speaker 4: she did not request that you just found. And if

1627
01:19:26,960 --> 01:19:29,720
Speaker 4: you have some, hide them, put them deep dark in

1628
01:19:29,800 --> 01:19:32,479
Speaker 4: the hidden albums of your soul, because we don't want

1629
01:19:32,520 --> 01:19:34,280
Speaker 4: to see that. Shoot. I don't want to see a

1630
01:19:34,360 --> 01:19:37,439
Speaker 4: nigga looking at himself, nikan he's fucking cute and sexy

1631
01:19:37,760 --> 01:19:40,240
Speaker 4: looking at his abs in the fucking mirror or the

1632
01:19:40,320 --> 01:19:43,720
Speaker 4: selfie caml Okay, that is for the bitches, solely for

1633
01:19:43,920 --> 01:19:44,439
Speaker 4: the bitches.

1634
01:19:45,040 --> 01:19:46,880
Speaker 3: And if I send you and I don't even release

1635
01:19:46,920 --> 01:19:49,639
Speaker 3: some videos of that, like I've never sent a video.

1636
01:19:49,760 --> 01:19:51,320
Speaker 3: I've never I don't think I've ever sent a video

1637
01:19:51,400 --> 01:19:53,960
Speaker 3: like that, like me like looking like at the camera,

1638
01:19:54,160 --> 01:19:57,000
Speaker 3: like seductively, like maybe a picture. Maybe I have a

1639
01:19:57,320 --> 01:20:00,679
Speaker 3: full blown video if I'm showing tits and some cooch. Yeah,

1640
01:20:00,680 --> 01:20:01,800
Speaker 3: but it's like I'm about.

1641
01:20:01,520 --> 01:20:03,519
Speaker 4: To know that that. But this was not No, this

1642
01:20:03,760 --> 01:20:06,520
Speaker 4: was not that. I don't know what it is. But literally,

1643
01:20:07,640 --> 01:20:08,320
Speaker 4: do not do it.

1644
01:20:09,240 --> 01:20:09,519
Speaker 3: Do not.

1645
01:20:10,520 --> 01:20:13,639
Speaker 4: I told first one we showed Erica's friend. He thinks

1646
01:20:13,680 --> 01:20:18,080
Speaker 4: that equates the sociopath. I thought it equated to bisexual.

1647
01:20:17,720 --> 01:20:19,680
Speaker 3: Which showed my gay. Yeah, he's a gay male. And

1648
01:20:19,760 --> 01:20:22,640
Speaker 3: he told me he's gay, and I was like what.

1649
01:20:23,720 --> 01:20:24,920
Speaker 4: I said the same thing, I said, do you think

1650
01:20:24,920 --> 01:20:31,240
Speaker 4: he's gay? It's either very gay or it's very into

1651
01:20:31,320 --> 01:20:32,280
Speaker 4: yourself narcissist.

1652
01:20:32,320 --> 01:20:34,200
Speaker 3: I think it's more so that, and that's what turns

1653
01:20:34,240 --> 01:20:36,480
Speaker 3: me off because I don't I think I attract narcissists

1654
01:20:36,600 --> 01:20:38,320
Speaker 3: and I just can't. I don't want to do that.

1655
01:20:38,360 --> 01:20:39,439
Speaker 3: I can't do it again.

1656
01:20:39,479 --> 01:20:41,360
Speaker 4: My second question was how the fuck old is he

1657
01:20:41,479 --> 01:20:43,320
Speaker 4: that he thinks that this is okay? And thirty eight

1658
01:20:43,439 --> 01:20:45,360
Speaker 4: was not an appropriate answer. I was looking more along

1659
01:20:45,439 --> 01:20:50,439
Speaker 4: the ages of eighteen. It was so disturbing or like forty.

1660
01:20:50,280 --> 01:20:52,080
Speaker 3: Five, because you know, like they think that's hip, like

1661
01:20:52,120 --> 01:20:54,160
Speaker 3: they're trying to be hips oh with like the camera,

1662
01:20:54,720 --> 01:20:56,080
Speaker 3: but like, I.

1663
01:20:56,040 --> 01:20:58,640
Speaker 4: Don't know, stop being hip, yo. Honestly, even if you're

1664
01:20:58,640 --> 01:21:01,200
Speaker 4: taking to me selfies, don't post. No bitches want to

1665
01:21:01,200 --> 01:21:03,519
Speaker 4: see you taking Hella selfies. I don't even want to

1666
01:21:03,560 --> 01:21:06,880
Speaker 4: see other bitches taking Hellas selfies. If you go all selfies,

1667
01:21:07,200 --> 01:21:08,519
Speaker 4: I don't want to see it and they all look

1668
01:21:08,560 --> 01:21:08,880
Speaker 4: the same.

1669
01:21:09,160 --> 01:21:11,600
Speaker 3: Video really threw me off. He's really fine too, so

1670
01:21:11,800 --> 01:21:13,400
Speaker 3: like it really disappointed me.

1671
01:21:13,720 --> 01:21:14,960
Speaker 4: Your gaitar is fucking off?

1672
01:21:17,640 --> 01:21:22,760
Speaker 3: Oh god, I don't know. Yeah, but should we talk

1673
01:21:22,800 --> 01:21:24,559
Speaker 3: about a horri? Should we do a horry real quick?

1674
01:21:24,560 --> 01:21:24,880
Speaker 4: Oh yeah?

1675
01:21:24,880 --> 01:21:26,920
Speaker 3: I didn't share my horri from last week because I

1676
01:21:26,960 --> 01:21:32,560
Speaker 3: got scared Oho stories.

1677
01:21:33,080 --> 01:21:36,320
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, bitch, now's the time. There's no ain't no

1678
01:21:36,640 --> 01:21:38,360
Speaker 4: ain't no fear on the pod. I know.

1679
01:21:39,960 --> 01:21:42,000
Speaker 3: We I've been away for a while, so like my like,

1680
01:21:42,080 --> 01:21:43,600
Speaker 3: I feel like I got like I felt like a

1681
01:21:43,680 --> 01:21:46,439
Speaker 3: first time podcaster jitters, you know, liked our first episode,

1682
01:21:46,439 --> 01:21:48,040
Speaker 3: were like, should we talk ever since I in the

1683
01:21:48,080 --> 01:21:50,599
Speaker 3: paid sex episode? Bitch, I don't want to hear apork? Okay,

1684
01:21:51,160 --> 01:21:54,639
Speaker 3: I don't want to hear shit. Oh my gosh. Okay.

1685
01:21:54,760 --> 01:21:57,840
Speaker 3: So my horri actually happened on my first night in

1686
01:21:57,880 --> 01:22:02,760
Speaker 3: Barcelona and my girls went up to this like rooftop.

1687
01:22:03,520 --> 01:22:05,719
Speaker 3: It was like a three sixty view of the city.

1688
01:22:05,760 --> 01:22:09,120
Speaker 3: It was like so amazing. We're drinking up there, been

1689
01:22:09,200 --> 01:22:10,519
Speaker 3: up there for a few hours, and then we like

1690
01:22:10,600 --> 01:22:13,559
Speaker 3: see these guys when they're drinking too, and we start

1691
01:22:13,640 --> 01:22:17,080
Speaker 3: talking to them. And we discovered that they're from Sardinia, Italy.

1692
01:22:17,240 --> 01:22:19,920
Speaker 3: They barely speak any English. We're speaking Spanish, so we're

1693
01:22:20,120 --> 01:22:22,200
Speaker 3: like getting we're kind of like, you know, we're communicating

1694
01:22:22,280 --> 01:22:25,879
Speaker 3: or whatever. And we discovered that they are a bachelor

1695
01:22:25,920 --> 01:22:31,840
Speaker 3: party group. So the bachelor was this Italian man, very

1696
01:22:32,160 --> 01:22:36,639
Speaker 3: very very attractive, very attractive. His name was Gigi.

1697
01:22:36,760 --> 01:22:38,920
Speaker 4: You don't have to have pictures. I have pictures.

1698
01:22:39,040 --> 01:22:48,080
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Giovanni wa namee Gianni, Gianni that sounds Italian.

1699
01:22:48,720 --> 01:22:52,800
Speaker 3: It was someone with a g okay, And so we

1700
01:22:52,960 --> 01:22:54,280
Speaker 3: had a great time. We like went to go eat

1701
01:22:54,320 --> 01:22:57,240
Speaker 3: at this restaurant drink More, had this like amazing spread

1702
01:22:57,280 --> 01:23:01,840
Speaker 3: of a dinner with like oysters, your face, baya and

1703
01:23:02,160 --> 01:23:03,559
Speaker 3: more alcohol. It was great.

1704
01:23:03,600 --> 01:23:06,280
Speaker 5: And then you always just really get men horny for real, girl,

1705
01:23:06,320 --> 01:23:10,880
Speaker 5: I was horny's girl. Yeah, I mean always horny the

1706
01:23:10,920 --> 01:23:12,240
Speaker 5: scorpiel bitch, I'm talking to you, okay.

1707
01:23:12,280 --> 01:23:16,439
Speaker 3: But also he really was really sexy and like he

1708
01:23:16,520 --> 01:23:18,640
Speaker 3: told me he was the bachelor, and I automatically like, oh,

1709
01:23:18,640 --> 01:23:19,000
Speaker 3: I can't do.

1710
01:23:19,080 --> 01:23:20,760
Speaker 4: Want to you didn't want to?

1711
01:23:21,080 --> 01:23:23,040
Speaker 3: No, I didn't want to. I mean I did, but

1712
01:23:23,120 --> 01:23:25,000
Speaker 3: then I felt like, oh my god, like I was

1713
01:23:25,080 --> 01:23:27,519
Speaker 3: going to be married and someone fucked my fiance.

1714
01:23:27,760 --> 01:23:28,840
Speaker 4: I don't really think i'd get mad.

1715
01:23:28,960 --> 01:23:31,800
Speaker 3: I started relating, making it really personal, and I was

1716
01:23:31,880 --> 01:23:34,760
Speaker 3: like and then I was like we all went out

1717
01:23:35,080 --> 01:23:36,800
Speaker 3: and then he was like come back to my room,

1718
01:23:36,840 --> 01:23:38,200
Speaker 3: and I was like, no, I'm gonna go hang with

1719
01:23:38,280 --> 01:23:40,040
Speaker 3: my friends. I was like trying to be like good.

1720
01:23:40,560 --> 01:23:41,760
Speaker 3: So I went to hang out with my friends and

1721
01:23:41,800 --> 01:23:44,160
Speaker 3: they were all like on their own like dick adventures,

1722
01:23:44,200 --> 01:23:47,040
Speaker 3: basically like plotting and scheming. So I was like, well,

1723
01:23:47,040 --> 01:23:48,479
Speaker 3: fuck this, I want to go back and meet up

1724
01:23:48,479 --> 01:23:50,439
Speaker 3: with Gigi. So I called Gigi.

1725
01:23:50,680 --> 01:23:54,120
Speaker 4: Sorry, why did be acting the phone?

1726
01:23:55,280 --> 01:23:57,120
Speaker 3: You know what, I did you a favor. It is

1727
01:23:57,160 --> 01:23:59,400
Speaker 3: the last hurrah. You know, hopefully he'll be faithful for

1728
01:23:59,439 --> 01:24:00,439
Speaker 3: you for the rest of your life.

1729
01:24:01,080 --> 01:24:02,479
Speaker 4: I gifted it to you. Probably not.

1730
01:24:03,439 --> 01:24:06,639
Speaker 3: So anyway, I go back to his room and when

1731
01:24:06,680 --> 01:24:09,120
Speaker 3: I get there, it's like a very small room, like

1732
01:24:09,200 --> 01:24:11,360
Speaker 3: the bathroom and the bedroom are like basically on top

1733
01:24:11,360 --> 01:24:13,479
Speaker 3: of each other. So I go and I'm like, I

1734
01:24:13,680 --> 01:24:15,200
Speaker 3: use your restroom. He's like okay. So I go in

1735
01:24:15,200 --> 01:24:17,320
Speaker 3: the bathroom and I'm like peen, and I'm like fuck,

1736
01:24:17,840 --> 01:24:20,160
Speaker 3: I kind of have to shit, like.

1737
01:24:20,320 --> 01:24:21,280
Speaker 4: I kind of do.

1738
01:24:21,439 --> 01:24:23,280
Speaker 3: But I was like, I can't shit in here. This

1739
01:24:23,439 --> 01:24:25,640
Speaker 3: room is so fucking small, Like I can't be in

1740
01:24:25,720 --> 01:24:27,200
Speaker 3: here for like twenty minutes. He's gonna be like what

1741
01:24:27,400 --> 01:24:29,040
Speaker 3: is she doing in there? And so I was like,

1742
01:24:29,120 --> 01:24:31,080
Speaker 3: fuck it, I'll just hold it. It's not that serious.

1743
01:24:31,160 --> 01:24:34,599
Speaker 3: I can definitely have sex and be fine. So I'm like, okay,

1744
01:24:35,680 --> 01:24:36,120
Speaker 3: this is good.

1745
01:24:36,280 --> 01:24:36,760
Speaker 4: You can't this.

1746
01:24:36,920 --> 01:24:38,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is already going. People are like, did she

1747
01:24:38,680 --> 01:24:39,240
Speaker 3: shit on him?

1748
01:24:41,479 --> 01:24:42,120
Speaker 4: Keep listening.

1749
01:24:42,479 --> 01:24:46,200
Speaker 3: So I get out of the bathroom, like we start

1750
01:24:46,240 --> 01:24:49,680
Speaker 3: hooking up, kissing. He takes his clothes off. He has

1751
01:24:49,720 --> 01:24:52,760
Speaker 3: on like those little like like a speedout underwear, like

1752
01:24:52,960 --> 01:24:55,439
Speaker 3: very European, you know, like the ones that aren't boxer briefs,

1753
01:24:55,479 --> 01:24:58,639
Speaker 3: like like like the bikini style underwear. And I'm like, okay,

1754
01:24:58,720 --> 01:25:06,040
Speaker 3: that's kind of cute. He takes He pulls his hands

1755
01:25:06,120 --> 01:25:11,599
Speaker 3: down uncircumcised, which not shocked but hope it was hoping.

1756
01:25:11,840 --> 01:25:14,320
Speaker 3: Maybe not, But you know what else I can I'm

1757
01:25:14,320 --> 01:25:14,920
Speaker 3: making my work.

1758
01:25:14,960 --> 01:25:16,200
Speaker 4: You can pull down. Yeah.

1759
01:25:16,240 --> 01:25:18,519
Speaker 3: I was in a relationship with someone for three years

1760
01:25:18,560 --> 01:25:19,519
Speaker 3: who was on circum size.

1761
01:25:19,560 --> 01:25:19,960
Speaker 4: I got this.

1762
01:25:21,479 --> 01:25:27,200
Speaker 3: It's actually not that serious. So it's small. But I'm like,

1763
01:25:27,320 --> 01:25:31,200
Speaker 3: I'm here, fuck it, we're doing yolo. So we start

1764
01:25:31,240 --> 01:25:33,120
Speaker 3: having sex and it's cool, you know, we're like and

1765
01:25:33,240 --> 01:25:35,400
Speaker 3: doing our thing, and then like he flips me over,

1766
01:25:35,640 --> 01:25:37,960
Speaker 3: we start Jesus Christ.

1767
01:25:38,479 --> 01:25:39,880
Speaker 4: Okay, go go go.

1768
01:25:40,320 --> 01:25:42,320
Speaker 3: I definitely don't need my child hearing this. Goddamn wory.

1769
01:25:42,760 --> 01:25:43,040
Speaker 4: Okay.

1770
01:25:44,160 --> 01:25:47,040
Speaker 3: So then he turns me over. We start doing it

1771
01:25:47,160 --> 01:25:49,840
Speaker 3: doty style, and I hear him like pull out and

1772
01:25:50,000 --> 01:25:53,639
Speaker 3: like spit on his dick, and I was like, okay,

1773
01:25:53,800 --> 01:25:55,920
Speaker 3: like that's that's the sound I've heard many times in

1774
01:25:55,960 --> 01:25:59,040
Speaker 3: my life. Not that you need to do that, because

1775
01:25:59,080 --> 01:26:02,559
Speaker 3: a girl is ready all the time. I stay ready.

1776
01:26:03,880 --> 01:26:07,760
Speaker 3: So he spits on the deck and immediately shoves his

1777
01:26:07,840 --> 01:26:11,519
Speaker 3: dick in my ass like unannounced and just like pumps

1778
01:26:11,600 --> 01:26:12,040
Speaker 3: really hard.

1779
01:26:12,160 --> 01:26:12,800
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

1780
01:26:12,880 --> 01:26:15,479
Speaker 3: And I was like and I'm like thinking, like wait,

1781
01:26:15,600 --> 01:26:18,680
Speaker 3: what the fuck is happening? Ow, oh my god, I

1782
01:26:18,800 --> 01:26:21,200
Speaker 3: have to shit? Like am I shitting on him?

1783
01:26:21,439 --> 01:26:22,600
Speaker 5: I can't even effortlessly.

1784
01:26:22,720 --> 01:26:26,120
Speaker 3: He just no, like no warning, just like in there

1785
01:26:26,240 --> 01:26:29,280
Speaker 3: like oh real quick, like like I was you gotta

1786
01:26:29,439 --> 01:26:31,240
Speaker 3: It was almost like he knew I was gonna say no,

1787
01:26:31,560 --> 01:26:33,040
Speaker 3: so he needed to get it in real quick.

1788
01:26:33,160 --> 01:26:33,400
Speaker 4: Okay.

1789
01:26:33,479 --> 01:26:36,160
Speaker 5: He's like those a madecan girl, And at first.

1790
01:26:36,040 --> 01:26:37,160
Speaker 4: I was in shock.

1791
01:26:37,280 --> 01:26:39,200
Speaker 3: So it like all happened so fast, and I was

1792
01:26:39,280 --> 01:26:41,519
Speaker 3: like wait, wha what huh huh wait do I like this?

1793
01:26:41,640 --> 01:26:43,240
Speaker 4: Oh wait after ship? Oh no?

1794
01:26:43,720 --> 01:26:46,880
Speaker 3: And so then like at some point I really felt

1795
01:26:46,880 --> 01:26:48,880
Speaker 3: like I was shooting because it was.

1796
01:26:48,840 --> 01:26:49,519
Speaker 4: All up been there.

1797
01:26:51,040 --> 01:26:53,720
Speaker 3: So then I was like whoa, whoa, like stop, and.

1798
01:26:53,800 --> 01:26:55,240
Speaker 4: He's like it was the wrong uh.

1799
01:26:57,360 --> 01:26:59,120
Speaker 3: I swear that's what he said.

1800
01:26:59,200 --> 01:27:03,520
Speaker 6: It was the wrongs your fucking Luigi.

1801
01:27:04,320 --> 01:27:05,120
Speaker 4: Like you're in the Mario.

1802
01:27:05,720 --> 01:27:07,120
Speaker 1: It's like, what are you doing?

1803
01:27:07,800 --> 01:27:09,000
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, I'm a sor.

1804
01:27:09,320 --> 01:27:14,160
Speaker 4: Hurts, like fuck, got hurts your accident right now.

1805
01:27:14,360 --> 01:27:20,200
Speaker 3: So then I'm like, okay, regroup. Then so we start

1806
01:27:20,280 --> 01:27:23,840
Speaker 3: kissing and then he puts the condom. He starts he

1807
01:27:24,200 --> 01:27:27,240
Speaker 3: puts his dick back in me like regularly, and I'm like, whoa,

1808
01:27:27,439 --> 01:27:29,960
Speaker 3: you gotta like, you gotta change the condom. You can't

1809
01:27:30,040 --> 01:27:32,360
Speaker 3: just go from dick to like, no, you can't double,

1810
01:27:32,520 --> 01:27:34,680
Speaker 3: you can't go from ass Okay. So then he goes

1811
01:27:34,760 --> 01:27:36,800
Speaker 3: and changes the condom and I'm like, oh my god, Okay.

1812
01:27:36,960 --> 01:27:38,360
Speaker 3: So at this point I'm just like I just want

1813
01:27:38,400 --> 01:27:40,000
Speaker 3: to come, Like I just want to come, like this

1814
01:27:40,200 --> 01:27:43,160
Speaker 3: is clearly some I failed mission, but like, at least

1815
01:27:43,160 --> 01:27:45,120
Speaker 3: I got to walk out of here with something sort

1816
01:27:45,160 --> 01:27:48,360
Speaker 3: of pleasure. So he gets on top of me again.

1817
01:27:48,400 --> 01:27:50,960
Speaker 3: He starts, you know, doing it. I'm I'm like into it.

1818
01:27:51,080 --> 01:27:53,360
Speaker 3: It's kind of like it's kind of like foggy because

1819
01:27:53,360 --> 01:27:56,200
Speaker 3: I was pretty drunk, but I'm pretty sure I was

1820
01:27:56,200 --> 01:27:58,720
Speaker 3: into it. And then out of nowhere again and we're

1821
01:27:58,760 --> 01:27:59,600
Speaker 3: and he's on top of me.

1822
01:28:00,280 --> 01:28:03,400
Speaker 4: How did he he like lifted me up?

1823
01:28:04,400 --> 01:28:09,600
Speaker 3: Oh my ducksh he's stuck in really little, and I

1824
01:28:09,760 --> 01:28:13,840
Speaker 3: was like, yo, wa no, it's like it was like,

1825
01:28:13,960 --> 01:28:16,559
Speaker 3: oh my god. Yeah, it wasn't like how many inches

1826
01:28:16,600 --> 01:28:20,240
Speaker 3: is that? Like that's like five five inches?

1827
01:28:20,640 --> 01:28:25,240
Speaker 4: No, that's not five girl, that's four hard. I don't know.

1828
01:28:25,439 --> 01:28:28,000
Speaker 3: It wasn't that big anyway, So was it skinny?

1829
01:28:29,120 --> 01:28:30,880
Speaker 4: It was like average okay?

1830
01:28:31,400 --> 01:28:31,599
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1831
01:28:33,560 --> 01:28:39,040
Speaker 3: So anyway, he did that again, and I again protested, well,

1832
01:28:39,040 --> 01:28:40,880
Speaker 3: at least you know what, honestly, I'm gonna be keep

1833
01:28:40,880 --> 01:28:42,960
Speaker 3: it real. This time, I was like maybe I can

1834
01:28:43,040 --> 01:28:45,920
Speaker 3: do this, like maybe I'll try. Let me just try,

1835
01:28:46,160 --> 01:28:49,200
Speaker 3: like okay, like because I'm said missive, I'm like, you

1836
01:28:49,280 --> 01:28:51,240
Speaker 3: know what, this is what's gonna bring him pleasure. Let

1837
01:28:51,280 --> 01:28:51,639
Speaker 3: me try.

1838
01:28:52,360 --> 01:28:53,040
Speaker 4: I couldn't do it.

1839
01:28:53,120 --> 01:28:55,320
Speaker 3: I literally every time he pulled out, I literally felt

1840
01:28:55,320 --> 01:28:56,280
Speaker 3: like poop was coming out.

1841
01:28:56,200 --> 01:28:56,559
Speaker 4: Of my bed.

1842
01:28:57,560 --> 01:28:59,320
Speaker 5: Two in your head, you're like, well, what this doesn't

1843
01:28:59,320 --> 01:29:00,080
Speaker 5: work out the way i've.

1844
01:29:00,240 --> 01:29:03,080
Speaker 3: But honestly, there was nothing on it, like because I

1845
01:29:03,479 --> 01:29:05,840
Speaker 3: surprisingly like he pulled out and I was like ready

1846
01:29:05,880 --> 01:29:07,760
Speaker 3: to see some crazy shit and there was nothing. And

1847
01:29:07,800 --> 01:29:09,920
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, but we didn't. You didn't finish

1848
01:29:10,000 --> 01:29:12,519
Speaker 3: that way. Like after like about one and a half minutes,

1849
01:29:12,560 --> 01:29:15,360
Speaker 3: I was like, I can't do this. Put on another condom.

1850
01:29:15,439 --> 01:29:18,360
Speaker 3: We finished. I was like, all right, peacegg I gotta

1851
01:29:18,400 --> 01:29:22,600
Speaker 3: go show. But I just was like, did this just

1852
01:29:22,760 --> 01:29:27,080
Speaker 3: really happen to me? Like like I felt, I honestly

1853
01:29:27,160 --> 01:29:29,920
Speaker 3: felt bad thinking about his wife afterwards, like this is

1854
01:29:30,040 --> 01:29:33,320
Speaker 3: her future only but sex, because I guess. And then

1855
01:29:33,320 --> 01:29:35,040
Speaker 3: I was talking to my friends like, oh, yeah, that's

1856
01:29:35,520 --> 01:29:37,800
Speaker 3: I guess a lot of like Italian men like anal size.

1857
01:29:37,800 --> 01:29:40,560
Speaker 3: I think you're yeah, and also if you have a

1858
01:29:40,600 --> 01:29:41,640
Speaker 3: small penis, that's a thing.

1859
01:29:42,120 --> 01:29:44,679
Speaker 4: There's like a whole documentary that flocks about a famous

1860
01:29:44,720 --> 01:29:47,160
Speaker 4: porn star I think who's Italian and he's like really

1861
01:29:47,200 --> 01:29:47,719
Speaker 4: into Hona.

1862
01:29:48,360 --> 01:29:50,559
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not really into ano.

1863
01:29:51,080 --> 01:29:54,000
Speaker 5: Okay, so I think I said this before, Well, no,

1864
01:29:54,800 --> 01:29:56,240
Speaker 5: small dick's like ask sex.

1865
01:29:57,200 --> 01:29:59,519
Speaker 3: I didn't realize that because I guess I've been very

1866
01:29:59,560 --> 01:30:02,160
Speaker 3: blessed with my dick selections. But I had a lot

1867
01:30:02,200 --> 01:30:04,240
Speaker 3: of small penises most asses.

1868
01:30:04,320 --> 01:30:07,439
Speaker 4: She'd only like small dick assets because I don't want

1869
01:30:07,479 --> 01:30:10,000
Speaker 4: a big dick in my belt, I don't want to

1870
01:30:10,040 --> 01:30:11,920
Speaker 4: do it. And if your big dick is too big,

1871
01:30:12,040 --> 01:30:16,000
Speaker 4: I know. Yeah. The only time I've ever had like

1872
01:30:16,080 --> 01:30:17,680
Speaker 4: anal and it kind of felt good was if the

1873
01:30:17,760 --> 01:30:18,479
Speaker 4: dick was smaller.

1874
01:30:19,080 --> 01:30:22,080
Speaker 3: I just feel like, will I ever ship the same again?

1875
01:30:22,479 --> 01:30:24,960
Speaker 3: Because honestly, when I went to the Bastic City, well,

1876
01:30:25,000 --> 01:30:27,120
Speaker 3: I mean, if you have it all the time, when

1877
01:30:27,160 --> 01:30:29,320
Speaker 3: I went home, I know this is TMI. When I

1878
01:30:29,400 --> 01:30:32,240
Speaker 3: got back to the hotel, I had so.

1879
01:30:32,400 --> 01:30:38,240
Speaker 6: Much gas, there was so much, so much are coming out.

1880
01:30:38,840 --> 01:30:41,240
Speaker 6: I was like, who does this all the time? And

1881
01:30:41,439 --> 01:30:42,519
Speaker 6: how well the thing is?

1882
01:30:42,560 --> 01:30:42,800
Speaker 3: I heard?

1883
01:30:43,040 --> 01:30:46,479
Speaker 4: Once you get heard from a bird, once you get

1884
01:30:46,520 --> 01:30:49,400
Speaker 4: past a certain point and you like work your way

1885
01:30:49,479 --> 01:30:51,840
Speaker 4: up slowly like then, then that's when the pleasure comes in.

1886
01:30:51,920 --> 01:30:53,720
Speaker 3: It's like, well here's the thing, here's the thing. I've

1887
01:30:53,800 --> 01:30:56,240
Speaker 3: had anal sex before, and I've actually enjoyed it before.

1888
01:30:56,360 --> 01:30:59,240
Speaker 3: I was more like it wasn't planned, but like it

1889
01:30:59,400 --> 01:31:01,519
Speaker 3: was like just discussed a little bit, not discussed, like

1890
01:31:01,560 --> 01:31:03,479
Speaker 3: we were having sex. And then I was like, I

1891
01:31:03,880 --> 01:31:06,000
Speaker 3: like we we built up to it. It wasn't just

1892
01:31:06,080 --> 01:31:08,599
Speaker 3: like abrasive and it's I haven't done it many times

1893
01:31:08,600 --> 01:31:11,240
Speaker 3: in my life. No, have I experienced pleasure from it? Yeah?

1894
01:31:12,120 --> 01:31:14,200
Speaker 3: I have, Yes, I have.

1895
01:31:14,400 --> 01:31:15,040
Speaker 4: It's possible.

1896
01:31:15,120 --> 01:31:18,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's hits. It's like a different sensation that's like

1897
01:31:18,600 --> 01:31:22,240
Speaker 3: if you get the right place, it can be pretty awesome.

1898
01:31:22,360 --> 01:31:24,639
Speaker 3: And it's like it's just freaking nasty for me. Yeah,

1899
01:31:25,400 --> 01:31:28,679
Speaker 3: if it can be awesome, but when it's unexpected and rape?

1900
01:31:30,960 --> 01:31:34,599
Speaker 4: Did to know I'm not unexpected in rape?

1901
01:31:34,960 --> 01:31:37,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, you gotta have you have to have warning. Even

1902
01:31:37,280 --> 01:31:38,559
Speaker 5: I talked to some of my gay friends.

1903
01:31:38,600 --> 01:31:39,599
Speaker 4: I don't know if you have a lot of gay

1904
01:31:39,640 --> 01:31:41,080
Speaker 4: guy friends, I don't know if you discussed this, but

1905
01:31:41,479 --> 01:31:44,599
Speaker 4: I discussed it. They prepare, yes, like they starve themselves

1906
01:31:44,640 --> 01:31:46,960
Speaker 4: for twelve hours, which I was like, Oh, they prepare.

1907
01:31:47,160 --> 01:31:48,800
Speaker 3: They they mentally prepared.

1908
01:31:48,479 --> 01:31:52,120
Speaker 4: Because I don't. I can't fuck comfortably. Yeah, I can't

1909
01:31:52,160 --> 01:31:54,240
Speaker 4: fuck complicate. This is the thing further to be comfortable

1910
01:31:54,280 --> 01:31:56,760
Speaker 4: with somebody, very comfortable because anything could happen. Let's keep

1911
01:31:56,800 --> 01:32:00,760
Speaker 4: that in mind. Second of all, if you like, you

1912
01:32:00,840 --> 01:32:03,519
Speaker 4: got to be prepared, like you know, like have gone.

1913
01:32:04,240 --> 01:32:06,200
Speaker 3: You know, there's a whole process to that. It's not

1914
01:32:06,280 --> 01:32:07,439
Speaker 3: like a surprise type of thing.

1915
01:32:07,520 --> 01:32:08,000
Speaker 4: I don't think.

1916
01:32:09,240 --> 01:32:11,840
Speaker 3: I mean, I've never prepared for it, and it's been

1917
01:32:12,520 --> 01:32:14,559
Speaker 3: I've never prepared for anal sex, and any time I've

1918
01:32:14,600 --> 01:32:17,160
Speaker 3: ever had it, I've never had anything come off, come

1919
01:32:17,240 --> 01:32:19,400
Speaker 3: out and expect it, which is very surprising.

1920
01:32:19,520 --> 01:32:21,519
Speaker 4: Like I don't know how I've never had that happen.

1921
01:32:22,120 --> 01:32:24,360
Speaker 3: Because also I'm a bitch with a lot of stomach issues,

1922
01:32:24,400 --> 01:32:26,920
Speaker 3: So I'm like I do I always have always had

1923
01:32:26,920 --> 01:32:29,719
Speaker 3: stomach issues, struggle with stomach issues my entire life IBS.

1924
01:32:29,840 --> 01:32:31,720
Speaker 3: But I think as I've gotten older, I don't really

1925
01:32:31,760 --> 01:32:34,400
Speaker 3: have them anymore. But like for a time, like it

1926
01:32:34,520 --> 01:32:36,080
Speaker 3: was like there's no way I can do anal Like

1927
01:32:36,640 --> 01:32:39,760
Speaker 3: there's it just seemed like I'm trying to get shit out.

1928
01:32:39,840 --> 01:32:41,280
Speaker 4: Why would I want to put anything else in?

1929
01:32:41,880 --> 01:32:44,000
Speaker 3: You know. But the one time that I with the

1930
01:32:44,040 --> 01:32:48,679
Speaker 3: few times that I did have anal sex with my ex,

1931
01:32:50,640 --> 01:32:52,680
Speaker 3: I really did enjoy it and he doesn't have a

1932
01:32:52,800 --> 01:32:53,599
Speaker 3: small dick.

1933
01:32:53,920 --> 01:32:56,080
Speaker 4: You know, really you had to really get mentally prepared

1934
01:32:56,120 --> 01:32:56,280
Speaker 4: for that.

1935
01:32:56,880 --> 01:32:59,320
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, you gotta like lub it up and everything.

1936
01:32:59,560 --> 01:33:01,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, like a loop. Do you like to get your assy?

1937
01:33:01,880 --> 01:33:06,120
Speaker 4: And yeah, me too? Look everything, look look me everywhere?

1938
01:33:06,400 --> 01:33:09,920
Speaker 3: Ye why why but why you look that? You can't

1939
01:33:09,960 --> 01:33:10,559
Speaker 3: look that right?

1940
01:33:10,680 --> 01:33:12,880
Speaker 4: The like Yeah, the weirder the spot, the more of

1941
01:33:12,960 --> 01:33:13,360
Speaker 4: into it.

1942
01:33:13,560 --> 01:33:14,080
Speaker 3: Let's do it.

1943
01:33:14,760 --> 01:33:20,000
Speaker 4: I'm a nasty bitch, so to be completely honest, me too,

1944
01:33:20,360 --> 01:33:20,680
Speaker 4: me too.

1945
01:33:21,640 --> 01:33:24,280
Speaker 3: But yeah, that's my horry. And I have another horri

1946
01:33:24,360 --> 01:33:26,080
Speaker 3: I have many horries from that trip. So just keep

1947
01:33:26,160 --> 01:33:28,240
Speaker 3: tuning in all month and you'll hear.

1948
01:33:28,880 --> 01:33:30,559
Speaker 4: Eventually we'll get to the end of them. We'll get

1949
01:33:30,560 --> 01:33:32,360
Speaker 4: to the end of them. Maybe by Christmas.

1950
01:33:32,520 --> 01:33:38,040
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding reybe maybe, but yeah, shout out to

1951
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Speaker 3: congratulations getting married next month.

1952
01:33:41,640 --> 01:33:43,519
Speaker 4: Congratulations see you and your wife.

1953
01:33:45,960 --> 01:33:46,160
Speaker 3: I know.

1954
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Speaker 4: So is that conclude today's episode?

1955
01:33:49,439 --> 01:33:54,240
Speaker 3: I think that concludes our episode. And definitely make sure

1956
01:33:54,280 --> 01:33:56,280
Speaker 3: you guys are following us. Definitely make sure you guys

1957
01:33:56,320 --> 01:34:00,640
Speaker 3: are liking us on iTunes and Spotify. Yeah, like and like,

1958
01:34:00,760 --> 01:34:02,679
Speaker 3: leave a comment if you guys are failing us, please

1959
01:34:02,720 --> 01:34:05,400
Speaker 3: we really appreciate if you just leave a review, because

1960
01:34:05,840 --> 01:34:07,759
Speaker 3: you know, then we can get more people to listen.

1961
01:34:08,040 --> 01:34:10,439
Speaker 3: And we love connecting with people and just listening to

1962
01:34:10,520 --> 01:34:15,400
Speaker 3: your stories. And today I think I might have solidified

1963
01:34:15,560 --> 01:34:18,000
Speaker 3: a location for a meetup. Fingers crossed.

1964
01:34:18,320 --> 01:34:21,840
Speaker 4: Oh oh oh oh okay, keep going. No, Also for

1965
01:34:22,000 --> 01:34:26,400
Speaker 4: all our LA people, we are definitely doing El Toedo

1966
01:34:26,560 --> 01:34:30,919
Speaker 4: Brunch because has anybody fucking been there? Yo, it's popping.

1967
01:34:31,439 --> 01:34:35,160
Speaker 3: El Toedo Brunch is the secret gem of Los Angeles.

1968
01:34:35,240 --> 01:34:38,280
Speaker 4: No literally on Van Eys and fucking no. Yeah, Ventura

1969
01:34:38,920 --> 01:34:40,880
Speaker 4: in the guy Ukaku. I'm sure that you know.

1970
01:34:40,920 --> 01:34:43,519
Speaker 3: There's Altaido's everywhere, like I think we can go anywhere.

1971
01:34:43,760 --> 01:34:46,799
Speaker 3: Oh okay, okay, but that was specifically was popping.

1972
01:34:46,880 --> 01:34:48,360
Speaker 4: Well you know why. I thought it was like it

1973
01:34:48,520 --> 01:34:52,120
Speaker 4: was becoming like it's becoming rare because this girl was like,

1974
01:34:52,160 --> 01:34:54,280
Speaker 4: oh yeah, we used to have one in San Diego.

1975
01:34:54,400 --> 01:34:56,519
Speaker 4: We were about to drive back. I met her in

1976
01:34:56,560 --> 01:35:00,320
Speaker 4: the buffet line and we we saw Elterito and we

1977
01:35:00,400 --> 01:35:02,479
Speaker 4: pulled over so we could eat here before we went

1978
01:35:02,560 --> 01:35:04,559
Speaker 4: back for brunch. So it made me think they were

1979
01:35:04,600 --> 01:35:07,920
Speaker 4: starting to close and the wells.

1980
01:35:07,120 --> 01:35:08,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean there's not they have clothes, a lot

1981
01:35:08,920 --> 01:35:10,679
Speaker 3: of El toritos. There's as many.

1982
01:35:11,040 --> 01:35:14,000
Speaker 4: They should open them for Sunday because they had everything.

1983
01:35:14,880 --> 01:35:16,680
Speaker 3: Bitch, I just want to the fact that she went

1984
01:35:16,720 --> 01:35:18,679
Speaker 3: before a long ash drive. I hope she wasn't driving,

1985
01:35:18,680 --> 01:35:20,559
Speaker 3: because there's no way I could drive to San Diego

1986
01:35:20,640 --> 01:35:23,960
Speaker 3: after that fucking brunch that ship was. There was everything.

1987
01:35:24,080 --> 01:35:27,000
Speaker 3: There was tacos, there was enchiladas. There was three different

1988
01:35:27,040 --> 01:35:27,679
Speaker 3: types of sevice.

1989
01:35:27,880 --> 01:35:33,360
Speaker 10: Therelet barlet waffles, banana foster being made live with cinnamon,

1990
01:35:33,439 --> 01:35:38,280
Speaker 10: butter and ice cream, like pastry, all the Mexican bread drama,

1991
01:35:38,520 --> 01:35:40,160
Speaker 10: churros like it.

1992
01:35:40,240 --> 01:35:45,919
Speaker 4: Was fruit cereal like literally, it was the most amazing

1993
01:35:46,000 --> 01:35:49,760
Speaker 4: twenty six dollars with the bottomless mimosa I've ever experienced.

1994
01:35:49,800 --> 01:35:52,080
Speaker 3: And I was only pissed that we didn't get high.

1995
01:35:51,920 --> 01:35:55,679
Speaker 4: First, Like what the fuck were we thinking? You knew

1996
01:35:55,720 --> 01:35:58,040
Speaker 4: it was good because we didn't even drink our mimosas

1997
01:35:58,080 --> 01:35:59,960
Speaker 4: we only had one and we didn't even drink.

1998
01:36:00,439 --> 01:36:02,280
Speaker 3: No, we drink like a quarter of that because we're

1999
01:36:02,479 --> 01:36:04,479
Speaker 3: focused on the food and got too full.

2000
01:36:05,040 --> 01:36:07,360
Speaker 4: It was delicious. So that's definitely going to be one

2001
01:36:07,400 --> 01:36:09,479
Speaker 4: of the meetups, even if it's just like y'all bitches,

2002
01:36:09,520 --> 01:36:10,080
Speaker 4: I'm going.

2003
01:36:10,040 --> 01:36:12,599
Speaker 3: Yeah, even even it's just two of you. And today

2004
01:36:12,720 --> 01:36:15,560
Speaker 3: I met one of our listeners, Taylor, and it is

2005
01:36:15,600 --> 01:36:18,639
Speaker 3: so cool to like because we've I've never actually met

2006
01:36:18,720 --> 01:36:21,120
Speaker 3: any of you guys, so it was really cool to

2007
01:36:22,040 --> 01:36:24,320
Speaker 3: see her, like see her connect with her in person

2008
01:36:24,560 --> 01:36:26,320
Speaker 3: in person and be like, oh my god, like we

2009
01:36:26,400 --> 01:36:29,080
Speaker 3: have this like secret little connection you know me? Yeah,

2010
01:36:29,280 --> 01:36:31,240
Speaker 3: like you know so much about me and I want

2011
01:36:31,280 --> 01:36:33,240
Speaker 3: to know about you because that's only fair.

2012
01:36:33,560 --> 01:36:36,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, and like even if you're far away, and we

2013
01:36:36,240 --> 01:36:37,960
Speaker 4: do we do love the love. We do like the

2014
01:36:38,040 --> 01:36:40,439
Speaker 4: shout outs and then like, hey, how you doing because

2015
01:36:40,720 --> 01:36:42,960
Speaker 4: I've been telling everybody like who DMS is my business?

2016
01:36:43,040 --> 01:36:44,560
Speaker 4: Like you're going through what? Oh my god, girl, me

2017
01:36:44,640 --> 01:36:49,400
Speaker 4: too because literally, so if you got some like questions,

2018
01:36:49,439 --> 01:36:51,720
Speaker 4: are going through some shit, don't hesitate because we're here.

2019
01:36:51,840 --> 01:36:53,080
Speaker 4: We're your village. Yeah.

2020
01:36:54,040 --> 01:36:56,639
Speaker 3: Anyway, well thanks for tuning in you guys. This episode

2021
01:36:56,720 --> 01:36:57,840
Speaker 3: is hella long, and.

2022
01:36:58,479 --> 01:37:01,240
Speaker 4: I don't know we said us every week we're yelling

2023
01:37:01,280 --> 01:37:04,040
Speaker 4: at the kids forty seven times, but somehow we still

2024
01:37:04,080 --> 01:37:04,760
Speaker 4: managed to keep on.

2025
01:37:05,200 --> 01:37:08,639
Speaker 3: This week was I'm sorry, guys, like they were really

2026
01:37:08,720 --> 01:37:11,400
Speaker 3: extra today. I'm like low key disappointed.

2027
01:37:11,000 --> 01:37:12,920
Speaker 5: Maybe it turned maybe it turned four.

2028
01:37:13,320 --> 01:37:17,720
Speaker 4: This will get easier, maybe to get a lock on

2029
01:37:17,760 --> 01:37:18,040
Speaker 4: the door.

2030
01:37:18,040 --> 01:37:23,200
Speaker 3: I don't know one together, but anyway, we will catch

2031
01:37:23,320 --> 01:37:25,160
Speaker 3: up with you guys next week.

2032
01:37:26,000 --> 01:37:37,960
Speaker 1: Die yeast as your day unfolds. Challenge one to keep

2033
01:37:38,040 --> 01:37:41,320
Speaker 1: your hose trying to keep your head up to the

2034
01:37:41,640 --> 01:37:47,519
Speaker 1: screwm love a steam It cause your tears. Oh ahead,

2035
01:37:47,680 --> 01:37:49,559
Speaker 1: release your fears, Ma.

2036
01:37:51,320 --> 01:37:58,639
Speaker 2: Ma Ita, And you're gonna ain't bone dringna, ain't wise.

2037
01:38:00,080 --> 01:38:03,080
Speaker 2: You're gonna be hard, You're gonna be tough, You're gonna

2038
01:38:03,160 --> 01:38:07,720
Speaker 2: be stronger, You're gonna be You gotta be com you

2039
01:38:07,880 --> 01:38:08,799
Speaker 2: gotta stat again.

2040
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Speaker 3: Sa