1 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:15,760 Speaker 1: So Bravo issued a response saying that cast members on 2 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: reality television are not held to NDA's for any reason 3 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 1: besides protecting storylines. That's just bullshit. People have been allegedly 4 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: threatened that if they speak about anything in any area, 5 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: including their experience on reality television or just anything like, 6 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 1: if they talk about anything that goes on, they will 7 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: get sued. It's certainly not about storylines, because you see 8 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:50,520 Speaker 1: storylines discussed everywhere on social media long before they air. 9 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 1: So it's just a bullshit response, and it's a way 10 00:00:55,600 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: for them to try to protect their reputation and make 11 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: it like there are no illegal practices and violations behind 12 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 1: the scenes. It's just a bullshit response. It's just a 13 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: bullshit response. Having been on reality television, you definitely don't 14 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:20,040 Speaker 1: feel like you can speak out about anything behind the scenes, 15 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: and storylines is never something that anybody even talks to 16 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:27,679 Speaker 1: you about not sharing. It's just not. I've never once 17 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:31,960 Speaker 1: heard of I've never once heard of Bravo or anyone 18 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 1: saying like, please protect the storyline. It's just not because 19 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:40,959 Speaker 1: nothing is the same when it's on camera, and all 20 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: the time storylines get revealed in the media and people 21 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 1: never get threatened to be sued. But many people have 22 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: been threatened to be sued by the powers that be 23 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 1: for talking about anything that goes on in production. So 24 00:01:54,360 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: that's just not true. But it's a great bullshit corporate answer. Okay, 25 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: So let's seal the practice on the Rachel Ariana vander 26 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:13,639 Speaker 1: Pump Rules saga. The Bravo PR machine is vander pumping. 27 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: The cast is out in droves speaking about this because 28 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: it's a circular reference. It's a for profit scandal all machine. 29 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,080 Speaker 1: And the more they talk about it, the more I 30 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 1: talk about it, the more money we pump into this atmosphere. 31 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 1: So it's been a big thing over here because I 32 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: had never really been immersed in this world, and now 33 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: I have a PhD in this world that I was 34 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: never really that interested in. So today I would like 35 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:46,639 Speaker 1: to just seal the practice. With any luck, we will 36 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:50,360 Speaker 1: not be talking about vander Pump Rules or this whole 37 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: group for a while, so let's close it out. Many 38 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: of you like when I talk about other things and 39 00:02:56,400 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: lipgloss and tortilla chips and other not important things. Let's 40 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:03,200 Speaker 1: just seal the practice and hope that we don't have 41 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: to talk about this for a while, shall we. So 42 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: I've been thinking a lot about difficult breakups and divorce, 43 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:28,239 Speaker 1: and people do compare a difficult divorce to a death. 44 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: There was even a debate on The Housewives about this 45 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: one time. And every experience is different. No two divorces 46 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: are the same, but there are many similarities. So if 47 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: you've ever been through a terrible divorce illegal divorce meaning 48 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 1: you are legally married and you have a legal custody battle, 49 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: you know. And more than I think, it's like sixty 50 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: percent of marriages end up in divorced. So many people 51 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: know what it's like to go through a wretched divorce 52 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 1: and custody battle. I am one of them. Now. Often 53 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 1: people have to stay in the same house because they 54 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 1: cannot afford They literally cannot afford to move out. And 55 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: it is torture for people, and it is so horrible, 56 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 1: And I've gotten letters and often one person uses the 57 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:25,920 Speaker 1: money as a power. I've spoken to people in situations 58 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 1: where the power control over money is so great that 59 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,719 Speaker 1: one person has to live in the same house with someone. 60 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: I mean, there are horrible stories. And if you know, 61 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: you know, and many of you, unfortunately know. There's another 62 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: reason that people sometimes stay under the same roof, and 63 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: it's called abandonment, meaning say you're married, you're legally married, 64 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: and you just want to get out of this house. 65 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:50,840 Speaker 1: You want to take your kid, and you want to 66 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: get out if one party leaves the residence, because you 67 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 1: can't just take your kid. You're married, you're legally married. 68 00:04:57,120 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 1: You can't just grab your kid because that's like almost kidnapping. 69 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:02,400 Speaker 1: So let's say you want to go out and you 70 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 1: just want to stay at your friends during the time 71 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 1: that you're not with your kid, which by the way, 72 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:08,840 Speaker 1: hasn't been defined yet because no one has said what 73 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 1: the schedule is, and if you're dealing with a monster, 74 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: there's no schedule, and so the person will try to 75 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: control and take the kid and like it's it's horrible, 76 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,159 Speaker 1: but you love your kids, so you have to be 77 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,279 Speaker 1: there and deal with this person that has become your 78 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 1: instant enemy. In many cases, the person's recording you, following you, 79 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: threatening you. I've been through all of it. Okay, I've 80 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:33,040 Speaker 1: been through hacked computers, I've been through emotional abuse. I've 81 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: been through all of it. So I really I know 82 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: what it's like. So you stay because of your child, 83 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:43,279 Speaker 1: but you are suffering in your home. You are that's 84 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: the desperate. When you're desperate, you are suffering in your 85 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 1: own home. And if one party says I cannot do 86 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,480 Speaker 1: this anymore, even for the child, I'll leave and then 87 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:56,719 Speaker 1: find a way to go back and visit or get 88 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: my child and find some way before the courts say 89 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 1: what's going to happen, because it seems like everything's in 90 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 1: an emergency, Like you want to call the judge, but 91 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 1: lawyers will say, that's not an emergency. You don't know 92 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: the schedule yet, but you're like, no, this person's torturing 93 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:11,919 Speaker 1: me and we don't have a literal schedule, So what 94 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: are you gonna do? Grab your child by the arm, 95 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:16,719 Speaker 1: kidnap them from school? Like if you know, you know? 96 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:21,919 Speaker 1: So one thing that a parent wants to do is 97 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: not have the child experience that stress. I've been through 98 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: this where I want to stay somewhere else and find 99 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 1: a way to create some organization and take my child 100 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:35,039 Speaker 1: when I can. Again, no court has made ruling yet, 101 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: so there's no set and stone thing. And if you 102 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:39,560 Speaker 1: have a difficult X and if you know, you know, 103 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:44,599 Speaker 1: there's nothing that there's no guardian, there's no principle, there's 104 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:49,919 Speaker 1: nobody saying what's what. So I had a situation where 105 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: I said I have to go stay with a friend. 106 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: I cannot have my child witness this toxicity. And the 107 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:02,040 Speaker 1: lawyers will say to you, that's abandonment because in some states, 108 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: if one person leaves the marital residence, it's almost like 109 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: you're leaving the marital residence, meaning you're forfeiting either the 110 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 1: residence or possible custody. Even if you're spending a lot 111 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 1: of time with your child, it's appeared to be called abandonment. 112 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 1: All these things aren't literal based on what's going on. 113 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 1: The courts have to have certain rules based on a 114 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: majority of experiences. So there is something called abandonment, and 115 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: lawyers will say you cannot leave the residence. In my case, 116 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: I did that and the judge applauded it because they 117 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: said that no child should ever experience an environment like this. 118 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: So you have to try to make a decision for 119 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: the child, the best interests of the child, they are 120 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: the number one priority. You're having your own experience, and many, 121 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: many bitter and spiteful exes will try to torture the 122 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: other parent because they hate the other parent more than 123 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: they love the child, so they try to be and 124 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 1: they threaten and like, there are a lot of examples 125 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 1: of this. These are situations where you're desperate. You're desperate, 126 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 1: all the options are terrible and you don't know what 127 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: to do. And it's by design because in divorce, if 128 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 1: one person folds and gets weak, they just want it 129 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 1: to be over. Sometimes people make bad divorce decisions, they 130 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:23,679 Speaker 1: go for bad agreements because they just want the suffering 131 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: to be over. And that's by design by one party. 132 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 1: And it doesn't have to be the party that has 133 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 1: more money. It could be the party that has nothing 134 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:32,680 Speaker 1: to lose. It could be the party that's been really bitter. 135 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: It could be the non moneyed spouse. There's so many 136 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 1: different options. It could be the really really rich spouse 137 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: that just wants to use money and turn off the 138 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:45,320 Speaker 1: electricity or turn off you turn off the credit cards, 139 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 1: or turn off you know, the gas bill. Any way 140 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:52,080 Speaker 1: that one person suffers. And I've heard all of these examples. 141 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 1: So when I say, I stand by the fact that 142 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 1: a breakup with a legal marriage and a custody battle 143 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:12,439 Speaker 1: is very different than a breakup that is not legally binding, 144 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: and that doesn't have kids. It doesn't mean that I 145 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: don't have compassion for someone who goes through a terrible breakup. 146 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,960 Speaker 1: It means that I am allowed to say, and I 147 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: have institutional knowledge on the topic, that a non legal 148 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: marriage without children is not the same breakup as a 149 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 1: breakup that I'm describing a really harsh, toxic breakup. I'm 150 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 1: also going to double down and say that unless you 151 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 1: are destitute or desperate, there is no reason why you 152 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: would live under the same roof as someone who really 153 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: really hurt you or from a very toxic, harsh breakup. 154 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: It's just and I'm going to triple down and say 155 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: that if you go through a terrible, terrible breakup and 156 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:12,679 Speaker 1: then a windfall of money and business opportunities comes, you're 157 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 1: in rare air. That's a rarity. Most people that get 158 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: cheated on and broken up with don't have an influx 159 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 1: of opportunities. It does not invalidate the fact that you've 160 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:27,200 Speaker 1: gone through something terrible. It just helps. Most people that 161 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:31,360 Speaker 1: go through bad divorces and custody battles don't have a 162 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: vehicle to make a lot of money off of that experience. 163 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 1: And yes, I'm talking about my recent podcast with Rachel. 164 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm talking about vander Pomp rules because I validate Ariana's 165 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:46,360 Speaker 1: experience as a woman who went through a breakup and 166 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: was cheated on. I also validate Rachel's experience of a 167 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: woman who did terrible things for seven months, was duplicitous 168 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: and cheated, but then was emotionally abused in the process. 169 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: So it made two wrongs, don't make a right. She 170 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: went to an emotional health facility for three months that 171 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: she paid for, it wasn't paid for, and she worked 172 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: on herself. I am allowed to validate her experience as 173 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 1: much as I am validating that Arianna was cheated on 174 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:19,200 Speaker 1: and broken up with. And it may be unpopular, but 175 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,040 Speaker 1: I can handle the fact that two things can be 176 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: going on at the same time. Ariana can have been 177 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:31,559 Speaker 1: cheated on. I can also say that breaking up with 178 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:35,319 Speaker 1: someone when it's not legally binding and not having children 179 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:38,320 Speaker 1: and going through a custody battle is not the same thing. 180 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 1: It's not the same thing. I've gone through both. I 181 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 1: have not been in a relationship for ten years, so 182 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:48,439 Speaker 1: that's a different experience, and I validate that as a 183 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 1: real relationship. It's also a for profit scandal. Scandalal is 184 00:11:54,120 --> 00:12:00,560 Speaker 1: a for profit cheating scandal where two people have profited 185 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: and one person has not. That may be unpopular, and 186 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: that's okay, but it's a for profit scandal, and the 187 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 1: more that we talk about it, the more money that 188 00:12:11,160 --> 00:12:14,040 Speaker 1: they make. And nothing would be better than going through 189 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: a horrible breakup and then being financially rewarded for it, 190 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 1: and a breakup that is not legally binding and a 191 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 1: custody battle. A breakup where you don't have children and 192 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: you're not legally married is not the same as a 193 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 1: custody battle and a legally binding marriage that ends up 194 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: in divorce. That is a brutal experience. It is a 195 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 1: brutal experience. I cannot see a situation besides desperation and 196 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:54,080 Speaker 1: destitution and maybe a for profit scandal that would allow 197 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:56,600 Speaker 1: for me to live under the same roof with someone 198 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 1: that i'd gone through a horrible breakup with. I can't 199 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 1: imagine working with and living with someone under these circumstances 200 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 1: unless I was completely desperate or destitute or profiting off 201 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: of the scandal. Sorry, it's not popular. I validate Ariana's experience. 202 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,880 Speaker 1: I validate anyone who's broken up with someone and for 203 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: it to be twisted and for it to be portrayed 204 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:26,480 Speaker 1: that I don't validate someone's relationship because they don't have kids. 205 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:31,400 Speaker 1: It's not true. I validate every relationship that doesn't end 206 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:34,600 Speaker 1: up in children. I just am saying that a custody 207 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:37,440 Speaker 1: battle and a brutal divorce is very different than a 208 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: breakup that's not legally binding. Sorry. I validate Ariana's experience 209 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:47,320 Speaker 1: as someone who's been cheated on and hurt. I also 210 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 1: validate Rachel's experience as someone who has cheated for seven months, 211 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: made horrible mistakes, went away to an emotional health facility 212 00:13:56,120 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: for three months on her own dime, made no money 213 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:01,880 Speaker 1: from a scandal that is a for profit scandal. It 214 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:17,439 Speaker 1: may be unpopular, but it doesn't make it false. Oh 215 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 1: my god, the podcasters are so obsessed with the fact 216 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 1: that this podcast went to number one as a result 217 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 1: of having Rachel on, So just be in the beginning 218 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 1: was top five, was four and five, and I was 219 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: really excited about that. It had never been to number one. 220 00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 1: And yes, it went to number one for almost a week, 221 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:43,480 Speaker 1: which was amazing, And other podcasters are really criticizing that, saying, well, 222 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 1: if she hadn't had Rachel then it wouldn't have gone 223 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:48,840 Speaker 1: to number one, well exactly, but we did have Rachel 224 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:52,080 Speaker 1: and if jay Leno didn't have Hugh Grant on years 225 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 1: ago after his scandal with Divine Brown, and jay Leno 226 00:14:55,960 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 1: didn't have Hugh Grant sit down on the couch and 227 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 1: say to Hugh Grant first sent in as he sat down, 228 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:04,680 Speaker 1: what the heck were you thinking after this scandal where 229 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: Hugh Grant was with this prostitute. That night, jay Leno's 230 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:11,160 Speaker 1: show went to number one and beat David Letterman for 231 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:16,160 Speaker 1: the first time and it didn't flip back. So it's hysterical. 232 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 1: Other podcasters that are you know that want to comment 233 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:21,960 Speaker 1: on but she wouldn't have been to number one. Who cares. 234 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:26,160 Speaker 1: I don't care how. I definitely don't care how we 235 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 1: went to number one, and we will go to number 236 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 1: one again. But it's so seeding with jealousy and so 237 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: focused on other people's success and so focused on other 238 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: people's journey instead of your own. And it's hilarious because 239 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 1: it's really triggered people. So I say to you, in business, 240 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 1: if you're doing something that is legal and ethical and 241 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 1: moral and correct and smart business and you get to 242 00:15:48,560 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: number one, you fucking grab that trophy and you own it. 243 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 1: You be excited. So yeah, we got to number one 244 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:57,040 Speaker 1: because Rachel's team reached out to me because it's something 245 00:15:57,160 --> 00:16:01,960 Speaker 1: very intelligent that I said, because we orchestrated and kept 246 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:06,080 Speaker 1: a secret an interview that is exactly how I heart myself, 247 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 1: and Rachel and the listeners who tuned in for one, two, 248 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: and three wanted it to go. So you can jump 249 00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:15,080 Speaker 1: up and down and criticize it as much as you want. 250 00:16:15,080 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 1: You can also be frustrated because you've gone to the 251 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:21,080 Speaker 1: powers that be and asked why you didn't get the 252 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:24,320 Speaker 1: interview and have vocally been very loud about the fact 253 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 1: that you wanted the interview. And many of the people 254 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 1: that are criticizing the podcast are people that have trashed 255 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:33,880 Speaker 1: this girl. So they trashed this girl, which I never did, 256 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:37,720 Speaker 1: and they wanted the interview, and now they're mad that 257 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: I got the interview, and they keep finding all these 258 00:16:40,440 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 1: different reasons why they're mad. The first one was that 259 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:44,720 Speaker 1: I didn't watch all of the shows, which I never 260 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 1: wanted to watch all the shows, and she didn't want 261 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:48,800 Speaker 1: me to watch all the shows. So the people that 262 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 1: the millions of people, the three million people that listen 263 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: to one, two, and three, they could have stopped. They're happy. 264 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 1: She's happy, I'm happy. Iheart's happy. There's like a handful 265 00:16:58,000 --> 00:17:02,040 Speaker 1: of podcasters and bloggers that are and TikTokers that aren't happy. Well, 266 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:05,080 Speaker 1: go talk to a therapist because we're all thrilled. And 267 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:08,159 Speaker 1: we did go to number one, and yes, that was 268 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:11,120 Speaker 1: called smart. So let me ask you a question. All 269 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:14,680 Speaker 1: these bloggers that say that we're clout chasers, So these 270 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:21,680 Speaker 1: bloggers and podcasters, they say number one cloud chaser, did 271 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 1: it to be relevant? I'm curious what is everyone else 272 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,760 Speaker 1: doing a podcast for. It seems to me that the 273 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:31,439 Speaker 1: people that are doing podcasts are doing it for a 274 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,240 Speaker 1: profit with the hopes of a profit. It also seems 275 00:17:34,240 --> 00:17:37,160 Speaker 1: like they'd prefer to be number one, the number one million, 276 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:41,679 Speaker 1: So it seems like it's a for profit venture. And 277 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:45,359 Speaker 1: I'm happy to give them the name of some people 278 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:48,120 Speaker 1: on the ground, my team in Hawaii. If they want 279 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:50,720 Speaker 1: to do a four charity podcast, that would be amazing. 280 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:54,200 Speaker 1: But I think that it is for profit number one, 281 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 1: but number and for clout and for relevance. So yeah, 282 00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:00,920 Speaker 1: if you're relevant, you go to the top. If you're 283 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:03,360 Speaker 1: for cloud you go to the top. If you're not 284 00:18:03,440 --> 00:18:05,439 Speaker 1: for clout, you go to the bottom. I don't know 285 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:07,640 Speaker 1: if they went to business school, but like that's kind 286 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:10,160 Speaker 1: of how that stuff works. Okay, let's break that down. 287 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:12,679 Speaker 1: First of all, nobody knows what my relationship is with 288 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:14,920 Speaker 1: Rachel and whether I care about her or I don't. 289 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 1: But now are we in the Sharing is Caring podcast universe? 290 00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:23,800 Speaker 1: So let me ask you this. All the people that 291 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:27,320 Speaker 1: all of these podcasts trash on reality TV, like that's 292 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:30,720 Speaker 1: literally the business of these podcasts. They trash reality TV? 293 00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:34,159 Speaker 1: Do they care about the people that they're trashing? Are 294 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 1: they only having guests on that they care about? Have 295 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: we called Oprah and asked her if she deeply cared 296 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:43,159 Speaker 1: about every single guest she's ever had on? Do we 297 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,480 Speaker 1: call The Today Show and Good Morning America and ask 298 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:47,960 Speaker 1: if they care deeply about every guest they've ever had 299 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: on while they run a for profit business. It is 300 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:54,920 Speaker 1: so obvious and so stupid and such dumb business and 301 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:58,840 Speaker 1: such dumb people who are saying that I didn't really 302 00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: care about Rachel, Well, if you're going to be jealous, 303 00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 1: please don't be stupid. At the same time, try to 304 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:07,280 Speaker 1: be one or the other jealous and stupid is a 305 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:12,159 Speaker 1: terrible combination, like and you have to have your facts 306 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 1: back in you. So everybody who has a podcast who's 307 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:18,040 Speaker 1: criticized whether I cared about Rachel or not needs to 308 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:21,240 Speaker 1: make sure that every person they ever talk about including me, 309 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:25,119 Speaker 1: Because if they're talking about me and they're saying that 310 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:30,400 Speaker 1: I don't care and it's because I'm doing this for profit, 311 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 1: are they not talking about me for their profit on 312 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,160 Speaker 1: their podcast and did they really care about me? Because 313 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:39,920 Speaker 1: I didn't get any Christmas cards from them. I didn't 314 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 1: get any muffin baskets from these Sharing is Caring podcasts. 315 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:46,800 Speaker 1: So I'm so sorry everybody that we went to number 316 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:48,439 Speaker 1: one and that I had Rachel on and that it 317 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 1: was just a terrible exploitation, because I'm going to in 318 00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:55,920 Speaker 1: the future google Gaga that every single podcast guest and 319 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 1: make sure that I want to snuggle with them and 320 00:19:57,720 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 1: give them a lollipop and a Teddy Bear because they're 321 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:03,439 Speaker 1: my friends. We have to snuggle. I want to snuggle 322 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:05,720 Speaker 1: with all my podcast guys. I'm gonna call up Mark 323 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 1: Cuban and be like, why didn't we snuggle? Do you 324 00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 1: think I care about you? Matthew McConaughey, are you thinking 325 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:14,440 Speaker 1: about whether I care about you? Before I have you on? 326 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:18,159 Speaker 1: Hillary Clinton? Did you and Bill talk about whether I care? 327 00:20:18,640 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 1: I had you on because I care about you. You're 328 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:24,119 Speaker 1: my friend. I'm only gonna have people that I really 329 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,919 Speaker 1: love and care about on the podcast because this is 330 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:30,880 Speaker 1: Valentine's Day and it's a Hallmark card and only podcasts 331 00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:38,359 Speaker 1: with the ones you love. Fucking bullshit, sell your bullshit elsewhere. 332 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:43,640 Speaker 1: Bethany doesn't care about these people. She doesn't care. Oh, 333 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:47,200 Speaker 1: this is the caring podcast network, where we only care 334 00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:51,720 Speaker 1: enough to talk about the ones we love. Like what 335 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:56,480 Speaker 1: be smart? When you're gonna be jealous, please be smart. 336 00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:58,680 Speaker 1: Don't be jealous and stupid at the same time. It's 337 00:20:58,680 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 1: a terrible combination.