Speaker 1: Brooking jewels. Second, it's always tough when you're single and
Speaker 1: you have a kid trying to figure out when the
Speaker 1: proper time is to drop that on a person you're dating.
Speaker 1: I don't have a kid, thankfully, you think for the world, yes,
Speaker 1: But if I did, I would think the best time
Speaker 1: would be on a first date when they come to
Speaker 1: your house to pick you up. Oh, just like show
Speaker 1: them the kid in. You're just like, hey, coming along,
Speaker 1: you're buying us both, then the right, and then you
Speaker 1: introduced the kid like, hey, this is your new mommy. Right.
Speaker 1: That's the best time to do because then they're kind
Speaker 1: of roped in at that point they're not gonna be
Speaker 1: a jerk and tell the kid, no, they're not. That
Speaker 1: was kind of the issue that Chuck had on his
Speaker 1: first date with a girl named Kim. He emailed us
Speaker 1: and wants us to call Kim today. Hey, Chuck, how
Speaker 1: you doing? Hey, what's up guys? Not much, Chuck, Thanks
Speaker 1: for the email. Thank you. So, Chuck, are you the
Speaker 1: father or was the date the mother who has a kid?
Speaker 1: I am the father. You are the father, And apparently,
Speaker 1: according to your email, when you told this girl that
Speaker 1: you had a kid, she didn't react very well to it,
Speaker 1: and you think that's the reason she's not calling you
Speaker 1: back today. I think so, yeah, it's got to be
Speaker 1: all right. First of all, tell us a little bit
Speaker 1: about Kim. Oh. She was awesome. We met online. She
Speaker 1: had a great profile. It's a great sense of humor.
Speaker 1: She was just like, I mean, she's awesome. So you
Speaker 1: don't put online that you have a kid or anything else.
Speaker 1: I did not put that on my profile. Now why,
Speaker 1: I guess has a lot of the dates that go
Speaker 1: on there, they're usually just one date, first date, and
Speaker 1: that's it because you didn't click. But with Kim, it
Speaker 1: was different. Just right off the bat, it was just
Speaker 1: sort of like we really clicked and thought that it
Speaker 1: was important to tell her when and how did you
Speaker 1: break the kid news to her? Chuck As we were
Speaker 1: walking downtown, I felt the moment. It was kind of
Speaker 1: a heavy moment, and I was just like, you know,
Speaker 1: I really like you, Kim, and I'd like to go
Speaker 1: on another date, but I have to tell you, you you know,
Speaker 1: right off the bat that I do have a six
Speaker 1: year old boy, and you know, so it was more
Speaker 1: like I wanted her to know about me, you know, right,
Speaker 1: you said it like that though, like, hey, I like
Speaker 1: you and I want to go out again, so I'm
Speaker 1: going to tell you I have a kid. That's kind
Speaker 1: of an awkward way to say it. It's kind of sweet,
Speaker 1: like he's saying he's complimenting her, he's showing interest, he's
Speaker 1: showing vulnerability. I don't think it's bad at all. I
Speaker 1: just think any first date where you're like, I like
Speaker 1: you a lot, it's going to scare people away. YEA sweet.
Speaker 1: I mean it would have been really great if she
Speaker 1: would have had a positive reaction to it, but it
Speaker 1: was like kind of hit her and then her eyes
Speaker 1: just went to the ground and she didn't say anything
Speaker 1: for a couple of minutes. So so you said, hey,
Speaker 1: I have a kid actually, and she went you sort
Speaker 1: of a non verbal that's what you felt, kind of yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: has this happened to you before? Yeah, I will say,
Speaker 1: Chuck that having online dated sometimes it's just the fact
Speaker 1: that girls feel like you hid something from them, or
Speaker 1: you deceived the like on your profile, it's not necessarily
Speaker 1: the information. Did you ask her what she thought about kids?
Speaker 1: Not really, we didn't really get into it. It's pretty
Speaker 1: kind of obvious what she thinks about kids. If you
Speaker 1: bring up the fact that you have a kid and
Speaker 1: she just stops talking to you on your date, I
Speaker 1: think it's a lot of information the process kelling right there.
Speaker 1: So if you think you know why she's not calling
Speaker 1: you back, you're pretty sure it's a fact that you
Speaker 1: have a kid. What do you hope to get out
Speaker 1: of a second date update? I guess it's more like
Speaker 1: just to see what she's thought about it, because she
Speaker 1: never really expressed what she thought. She never really told
Speaker 1: me what she thought about it. It was just kind
Speaker 1: of like she was busy, you know, she had to
Speaker 1: check her schedule. How long ago was this date? Last week?
Speaker 1: Last week? So it's been a week since you heard
Speaker 1: from her. How many times have we tried to call her? Uh?
Speaker 1: Just a couple. Yeah. And did she say that she
Speaker 1: wants to go out again? She said, we'll see. Oh god,
Speaker 1: that's what I will see. That's what parents say to
Speaker 1: their kids when they're not going to get something. You said, Hey,
Speaker 1: I'd like to go out again. She said, we'll see
Speaker 1: about that. Yeah. Oh no. Because I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: was something wrong. She kind of reflects, She's like, no,
Speaker 1: nothing's wrong, and she just kind of sat. I gotta
Speaker 1: check my schedule, you know, and then that was it.
Speaker 1: Did you give her like a kiss or hug or
Speaker 1: anything at the end of the date. Was there any
Speaker 1: affection at all? No, she got into records to trouble away. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it sounds like you just got shut down. All right, man,
Speaker 1: we're gonna play a song. Come back, call her and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. Okay, okay, cool, thanks guys,
Speaker 1: All right, man, hanging looking jubil in the morning seate.
Speaker 1: Today's second date update seems pretty clear cut as to
Speaker 1: why Chuck, who's on the phone with us right now,
Speaker 1: is not getting a call back from Kim. Chuck went
Speaker 1: out with a girl named Kim he met online. He
Speaker 1: told her during the date that he has a six
Speaker 1: year old son. After he told her that, she got
Speaker 1: very cold and awkward and ended the date by saying, well,
Speaker 1: see we'll go out again. I'm kind of busy, so anyway,
Speaker 1: have a good one. Not even a high five. Just
Speaker 1: hopped in the car and took off. So Chuck is
Speaker 1: pretty sure that's the reason that she's not calling him back.
Speaker 1: Before we call her and see if we can get
Speaker 1: her on the phone, Chuck, I didn't really get a
Speaker 1: clear answer from you, like what you hope to do here?
Speaker 1: Do you hope to change her mind if she doesn't
Speaker 1: like kids? I mean, yeah, you know, I'm hoping that
Speaker 1: she can really appreciate the fact that I did like
Speaker 1: her and I had a really great time on the date.
Speaker 1: And I'm kind of hoping that if if it was
Speaker 1: a kid, which I'm not one hundred percent sure a kid,
Speaker 1: I'm hoping that maybe she can work through that with me,
Speaker 1: if she's willing to work through it. All right, that's
Speaker 1: a lot to get a person to change on a
Speaker 1: phone call, trying to get them to switch religion or right,
Speaker 1: and do you have the child full time? Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 1: this is not gonna It would be a lot easier
Speaker 1: to sell if you didn't have it all the time.
Speaker 1: It an what's your kid's name? Chuck, Henry, Henry's little Hank,
Speaker 1: the relationship runer? All right, Henry, All right, we're gonna
Speaker 1: give her a call right now. See, we can get
Speaker 1: her on the phone and hopefully get you a second date.
Speaker 1: I just I just hope that she really appreciates that
Speaker 1: I went through all this trouble, you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: I wrote a long email to you. Guys, we're doing
Speaker 1: this on the radio. I hope that she understands like
Speaker 1: I really do like her. All right, well we'll give
Speaker 1: her a call here and see if that works. Okay, Hello,
Speaker 1: Hi is Kim there? Yeah? This is Kim. Hey Kim,
Speaker 1: how are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil
Speaker 1: in the Morning, the radio show. Okay, I'm just calling
Speaker 1: you because I want to talk to you about something.
Speaker 1: If you have a moment, I'm sorry, I'm I have
Speaker 1: no idea who you are. I know I can tell
Speaker 1: host a radio show. We do a segment on that
Speaker 1: show called second Date Update. You recently went out with
Speaker 1: one of our listeners. He liked you so much that
Speaker 1: he sent a very long email into the show about
Speaker 1: your date and how much he wants to see you again. Okay,
Speaker 1: you apparently ended your date with him, not even saying
Speaker 1: that you wanted to go out again, just by going, oh,
Speaker 1: we'll see maybe we can hang out. You know who
Speaker 1: I'm talking about? Yeah, I think so. His name is Chuck. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Can we talk about Chuck for a minute. I'd really
Speaker 1: rather not to be honest with you, really, I mean,
Speaker 1: I you know, that's kind of my personal business. Right,
Speaker 1: we don't have to air anything else about yourself, Like,
Speaker 1: we just want to know if Chuck did something wrong
Speaker 1: on your date. He feels like the fact that he
Speaker 1: has a kid turns you off? Is that what did it? Well? Yeah,
Speaker 1: to be honest with you, yes, it is it because
Speaker 1: he lied on his profile? Or is it because you
Speaker 1: don't like children or don't want your own children? I
Speaker 1: guess I should say it's that he has a kid.
Speaker 1: That's the bottom line. So you just don't like kids, which, Hey,
Speaker 1: by the way, I support No, that's I mean I
Speaker 1: like kids. Kids are great. I have a kid. Wait
Speaker 1: do you have a kid? Yeah? What Wait? Does he
Speaker 1: tell that you have a kid? Tell him, No, you
Speaker 1: didn't tell him that you have a kid too, and
Speaker 1: you withheld that information from your online dating profile. I'm
Speaker 1: guessing yeah, which is one of the reasons why I
Speaker 1: don't fault him for that. So you don't want to
Speaker 1: see him again because he has a kid, Because you
Speaker 1: have a kid. Yeah, I'm not interested in beginning a
Speaker 1: relationship with anybody who has kids. I don't want any
Speaker 1: more children. I mean, I don't know if you guys
Speaker 1: have kids. But it's incredibly difficult, and I have my
Speaker 1: hands full and that's my prerogative. I didn't see that
Speaker 1: coming at all, Kim. I just thought you were going
Speaker 1: to be completely against kids. Yeah, I mean I like kids.
Speaker 1: I don't want to have to raise anybody else's kids
Speaker 1: or would be intimately involved in anyone else's children's lives.
Speaker 1: You know, want like an instant family of four? Yeah? No,
Speaker 1: none of that. Like pretty bunch situation I don't want
Speaker 1: to happen. But Kim, don't you think like dating someone
Speaker 1: who also has a child, maybe you could relate more
Speaker 1: to them. They would be more understanding of your trials
Speaker 1: and tribulations through life. Well, yeah, I mean absolutely, which
Speaker 1: is why I would be happy to be his friend.
Speaker 1: But it's my perspective that I don't want a romantic
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody like that. What about and we'll get
Speaker 1: you off the phone here in a minute. I appreciate
Speaker 1: you spending some time with us and talking to us
Speaker 1: about this. Why though, wouldn't you just say to him then, like, hey,
Speaker 1: I have a kid too, that's cool, and then you
Speaker 1: can blow him off however you want. But why not
Speaker 1: say anything about the fact that you have a kid.
Speaker 1: The date went well. I mean I really did like him.
Speaker 1: I got the feeling he liked me, and I was
Speaker 1: pretty sure that if I told him I had a kid,
Speaker 1: that would open the door to more negotiation about a
Speaker 1: second date. And like the hard line with me, as
Speaker 1: much as I liked him, I'm not interested. So absolutely
Speaker 1: no chance of him going out with you again. No,
Speaker 1: not unless he gets rid of the kid. Maybe then
Speaker 1: my possibility. Kim, thank you for your time. I appreciate it. Okay.
Speaker 1: I do also have to let you know that Chuck
Speaker 1: is actually on the phone and hurt everything that you
Speaker 1: just said. Really, yes, I have to say, I am
Speaker 1: speechless right now. Are like, So what are you just
Speaker 1: looking for a single? No? No kid guys? Yeah, exactly
Speaker 1: like I. Like I said, I have enough to handle
Speaker 1: on my own and that's just something I've decided for
Speaker 1: me and my son. That's what I'm looking for. And
Speaker 1: when you're a kid, they come first, and to me,
Speaker 1: that is a priority for the two of us. Social
Speaker 1: and something else. Kim, I had to have something in
Speaker 1: my teeth or something. I don't really. I hope you
Speaker 1: can understand where I'm coming from, Kim. Is there any
Speaker 1: way we can get you to waiver on it just
Speaker 1: a little bit and give Chuck a second date. Just
Speaker 1: make an exception to your rule one time. No, have
Speaker 1: you ever dated a guy with a kid and it
Speaker 1: just didn't work out? No? But I mean I am
Speaker 1: one of those people where I like my own kid,
Speaker 1: but I don't really like to be around anyone else. Hey, Kim,
Speaker 1: if we take Kim and Chuck, if we take the
Speaker 1: kids out of this whole thing, did you like Chuck
Speaker 1: other than that? Yeah, totally okay, So you had a
Speaker 1: great time. You liked him a lot. The only reason
Speaker 1: is that he has a kid and you have a kid,
Speaker 1: and you don't want to get into a relationship with
Speaker 1: someone with a kid. Right. It's just so weird. I
Speaker 1: feel like this could happen. I don't know why. I
Speaker 1: don't know why. It is so weird to me. No.
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like I'm like explaining myself over
Speaker 1: and over here. But you know, I said that was
Speaker 1: the only thing about that first date that was wrong,
Speaker 1: and it's the big thing. And I don't bend on it,
Speaker 1: you know, I try to stay as open as I can.
Speaker 1: You know, it takes something comes along that's really great,
Speaker 1: and I felt really great, And I think that's try
Speaker 1: for you. That's just not how I do it. Okay, Kim,
Speaker 1: Not to be the dead horse, but let's do it anyway.
Speaker 1: Would you like to go out on a second date
Speaker 1: with Chuck? We will pay for it, not please, Kim? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I thought maybe after asking you like six times in
Speaker 1: a row, if there was any way we could get you,
Speaker 1: you might cave then if I said I would pay
Speaker 1: for the date. But no, you won't go out with Chuck. No,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what. We'll be friends and we'll go
Speaker 1: and play dates. You. I'll keep on asking you on
Speaker 1: you go out, you guys. Yeah, that's I was gonna say.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be awkward when you guys are friends. Now
Speaker 1: in every five seconds he's asking you to go out.
Speaker 1: But I guess I'll let you guys talk it out, Okay, Kim,
Speaker 1: Now that you know Chuck really wants to talk to you,
Speaker 1: maybe at least you guys can talk on the phone
Speaker 1: and see if you want to hang out as friends
Speaker 1: and take your kids to the kid park whatever you
Speaker 1: let them off from run around while you guys talk, right,
Speaker 1: all right? One of those things you know you guys
Speaker 1: can figure it all out all right. Broken Jupil in
Speaker 1: the morning