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Speaker 1: here to give you advice on anything and everything you

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Speaker 1: having issues with your family, or maybe you have a

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Speaker 1: question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I

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Speaker 1: want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts

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Speaker 1: in my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious

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Speaker 1: issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.

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Speaker 2: Of the beeB.

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Speaker 3: Hie Cheeky's. I hope you're doing well. It's been great

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Speaker 3: to see you like shining and thriving and succeeding in

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Speaker 3: your career and on your current life trajectory. Congratulations on

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Speaker 3: all your milestones. My question for you is what is

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Speaker 3: your take on how you know toxic growing up in

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Speaker 3: a Latino household could be. What I'm asking is in

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Speaker 3: a scenario where there's like a lot of comparison, like oh,

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Speaker 3: like puprima, is you know making this match or so

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Speaker 3: and so has this career and so and so does

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Speaker 3: constant compare and contrast type of dynamic, and I think

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Speaker 3: it's just silly, you know. I think that we should

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Speaker 3: all be proud of each other and celebrate our wins, right,

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Speaker 3: and there shouldn't be a lot of like competition. We

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Speaker 3: should uplift and motivate each other, Like do you ever

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Speaker 3: feel a sense of responsibility now, like to kind of

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Speaker 3: change things and break those generational curses, because I think

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Speaker 3: it's pretty strong and prevalent in Latino culture where we

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Speaker 3: tear each other down instead of celebrating each other, you

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Speaker 3: know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: I absolutely know what you mean, Tony.

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Speaker 1: I think this is a great topic for Cheege's and Chill,

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Speaker 1: so we can talk about it a little more because

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Speaker 1: it is something that I see that happens in Latino

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Speaker 1: and and that's not cool. Some people do change. I

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Speaker 1: I see that a lot, and that makes me sad,

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Speaker 1: and I do feel when it comes to me personally

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Speaker 1: why aren't you like your cousin Karina who's grade at

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Speaker 1: And I totally understand, and I uh, it's something that

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Speaker 5: Hi, Cheeky's. My name is Nancy. I'm from Phoenix, Arizona.

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Speaker 5: I admire you so much for everything you've gone through.

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Speaker 5: We have similarities when it comes to your favorite preacher.

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Speaker 5: Who do you get inspired by hearing the Word of

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Speaker 1: Ooh girl, these questions, I love them. Okay, so I

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Speaker 1: love Joyce Meyer, I love Joel Olstein, but my favorite

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Speaker 1: Meyer is I don't know where, I think in Texas.

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Speaker 1: them years ago. But right now, my favorite is Steven Fertik.

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Speaker 1: And they're also really good because you do English, they

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Speaker 4: But thank you. I appreciate that question. That's awesome. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Let's see, hello chickies. I just want to know if

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Speaker 4: Love you, Thank you, Angela. It is getting better.

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Speaker 1: And Okay, Johnny and my ex Angel, I don't talk

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Speaker 1: But I'm answering your question, Angela, So it's all good,

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