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Speaker 1: Hi, guys. It's Jen Fessler and Jackie Golschneider and we

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Speaker 1: are two Jersey Jays. Yes we are, Jen. How are you?

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Speaker 1: I am well, how are you? You had a big

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Speaker 1: night last night?

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Speaker 2: Last night I had I hosted the National Eating Disorder

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Speaker 2: Association Gala, which was such an amazing moment. I keep

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Speaker 2: wanting to call it full circle, but full circle means

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Speaker 2: you started, you end up at the place that you started,

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Speaker 2: So it's not but it's uh, it was amazing. It's

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Speaker 2: definitely like when I was, you know, very sick for

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Speaker 2: so long. It's NITO was an organization that I looked

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Speaker 2: to and so to now be like on the other

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Speaker 2: side of this illness and hosting the gala, it was

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Speaker 2: really special.

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Speaker 1: It was beautiful. It's really beautiful. I'm so proud of you. Seriously,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I know, maybe it's not full circle for you,

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Speaker 1: but full circle and maybe in terms of helping people

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Speaker 1: that are still struggling like you were, I don't know, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know it sounds cliche.

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Speaker 2: I do feel like that's my purpose, Like if they're

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Speaker 2: there is a reason for all of this or any

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Speaker 2: of this or all the years I struggled or the

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Speaker 2: reason why I have a platform. I do think it's

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Speaker 2: to help people not have to live like I lived.

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Speaker 1: But because it's so hard to hear the stories. Is

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Speaker 1: it hard to hear the stories? Jack, Does it bring

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Speaker 1: you back? No?

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Speaker 2: No, I have no like triggers in terms of other

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Speaker 2: people struggling.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't like set me off. I don't mean it

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Speaker 1: like that, but it just means me so it must

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Speaker 1: resonate with you. It's it's sad.

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Speaker 2: I like I want it to almost like shake them

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Speaker 2: and be like it's so much better like without.

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Speaker 1: It, you know, it's not the way it works.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, A lot were parents of people whose struggle. A

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Speaker 2: lot were people who turned to NITA thirty years ago

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Speaker 2: and then decided to get involved and have been on

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Speaker 2: the board.

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Speaker 1: There was a wide variety.

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Speaker 2: A lot of people there were recovered and just had

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Speaker 2: had you know, had you used NITA through the years

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Speaker 2: to recover. So it was a wide mix of people.

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Speaker 2: But it was a really nice It.

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Speaker 1: Was the first time we met. I don't and you

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Speaker 1: don't even remember meeting me there, but I remember meeting you.

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Speaker 1: It was at the dress for a success event. Of

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Speaker 1: course I remember meeting you. You ate you came with

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Speaker 1: a big suitcase full shoes, shoes and majors. But also

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Speaker 1: I just remember you speaking this room full of women

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Speaker 1: who had either been incarcerated or were coming out of

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Speaker 1: such you know, severe poverty and rest for success. It's

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Speaker 1: this amazing organization obviously that helps them to get jobs

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Speaker 1: and interview skills and so. But you spoke, and you

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Speaker 1: were able to connect so beautifully with these women, and

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Speaker 1: you know, you have never been obviously incarcerated, and you

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Speaker 1: didn't grow up in poverty, but you were able to

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Speaker 1: go out your own Everybody obviously has trauma in their life,

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Speaker 1: and everybody goes through stuff. But I just I will

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Speaker 1: speaker and also had such a great ability to connect

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Speaker 1: with these women who hadn't gone through you know, you

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Speaker 1: only imagine you talking to people who have gone through

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Speaker 1: the similar struggles. You know, must have been so great

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I do love public speaking. Maybe that's

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Speaker 2: why I love podcasting, or maybe I just have a.

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Speaker 1: Great co host. So yes, it's all me. You get

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Speaker 2: Crazy News Day. Uh, you know this will air a

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Speaker 2: few days after we record. But yesterday I saw that

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Speaker 2: Liam Payne died. That's that's crazy. Whenever a young person

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Speaker 1: It showed like him snapchat not snapchatting, what is it called? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was snapchat as it's not. I kept up with

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Speaker 1: his crap, but like right before and he was so lucid,

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Speaker 1: all turned yea addiction socks man, life can change? Really?

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Speaker 1: Did he have addiction issues? I knew nothing about it.

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Speaker 1: That's why I don't know for sure, because he's been alleged.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but I mean, that's what they're saying

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Speaker 2: Thirty one years old time. You know, don't sweat the

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Speaker 2: small stuff. That was a book, right, Did you ever

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Speaker 1: You know? A book I bought the other day.

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Speaker 2: I went through a want to change my life little

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Speaker 2: like thing the other day and I ran the Barnes

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Speaker 2: and Noble and I bought this book called Atomic Habits.

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Speaker 1: Did you ever read it, No, never heard of it.

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Speaker 2: It is phenomenal, really like the number one self help

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Speaker 2: book in the world. It's about making really small changes

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Speaker 2: to your habits and uh them compiling into these amazing

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Speaker 1: But speaking of that, yes, I was going to say,

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Speaker 1: you are teeing beautifully.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sort of like translates into what we're talking

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Speaker 2: about today, So why don't you take it away?

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Speaker 1: So you guys were actually very excited about today's episode,

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Speaker 1: and I know that both of us, actually Jackie, feel

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Speaker 1: like we're going to get a lot out of this

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Speaker 1: one because we're talking about chaos, about home organizing, about stuff,

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Speaker 1: And I know, because we've spoken about it, Jackie, that

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Speaker 1: we both suffer from Maybe we're not hoarders, but I

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Speaker 1: a result, really hard time. Yep. And as a result,

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Speaker 1: you know, you walk into my house, my house is neat,

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Speaker 2: Remember they had that closet where you open it and

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Speaker 1: Yes, that was my locker in high school, and I

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Speaker 2: But anyway, you know, it's hard because there's I don't

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Speaker 1: I have no problem. I hate stuff.

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Speaker 2: And then I have other people who are like me,

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Speaker 1: And your parents they're old, but you have all of

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Speaker 1: my house became the place to just bring things. Jen,

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Speaker 1: Like it's so ridiculous that I have not just it's

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Speaker 2: I have like hospital records, I have like of like

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Speaker 1: I don't want any stuff now, of course everybody I'm

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Speaker 2: I know, I do feel a lot better when I

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Speaker 1: What do you guys do for people?

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Speaker 4: I like that just because we're from this area.

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00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:47,159
Speaker 3: But you have to bring your clothes to them, you know.

438
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 4: Obviously Vietnam vets and Salvation Army come and pick up.

439
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,359
Speaker 3: That's easy and they're reputable.

440
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, because they're everywhere.

441
00:21:56,200 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 4: A luxury item versus then can sign it get some.

442
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 1: So what does that mean? What does that mean?

443
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:05,520
Speaker 2: Because I know a consignment's store, but so so you

444
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:06,640
Speaker 2: trust these stores.

445
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 4: Well, you're getting some financial reimbursement, so you trust that

446
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,679
Speaker 4: you're getting something back for it. If listen, if you

447
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 4: can give it to a charity that you're connected to,

448
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 4: or a close friend or a family member and you

449
00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:21,679
Speaker 4: reap the benefits, or you know a housekeeper and you're

450
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 4: reaping the benefits of seeing them enjoy it, wonderful, But

451
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:26,480
Speaker 4: actually the box.

452
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 3: It really does.

453
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:30,400
Speaker 4: But if not, then get financial reimbursement, especially if it's

454
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 4: a luxury item or a bag.

455
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 1: Consignment stores tend to take a lot. There's a larger

456
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:38,640
Speaker 1: percentage of what they pay. I think because I've done.

457
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 1: I've consigned a couple of things and it's like eighty

458
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:42,480
Speaker 1: twenty or something towards.

459
00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:45,880
Speaker 4: So wow, New Jersey is great, and you do get

460
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 4: money back in Englewood. And but I do think that

461
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,159
Speaker 4: or the real real or the real real gives you

462
00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:59,640
Speaker 4: money back. But I do you you're repurposing, you are

463
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,920
Speaker 4: knowing you're taking it at a loss, but you're gaining space.

464
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: And the eighty twenty who gets the eighty they do.

465
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:09,919
Speaker 1: But that's I just use that. I'm just saying when

466
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,240
Speaker 1: I've done it in the past, it's been that kind

467
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:16,719
Speaker 1: of a breakdown. Wow, that's a lot. Yeah, and they

468
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,400
Speaker 1: have to pay their rent. They have to pay I

469
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:22,240
Speaker 1: know that's a lot. Well that's a loss.

470
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, So what do you do when, like you

471
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:30,439
Speaker 2: have items around your house that because I have so

472
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 2: much of this, I have never used them, or I

473
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:36,400
Speaker 2: haven't used them in a decade, but I see potential

474
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 2: future use, which I see everywhere everything I see potential

475
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 2: future use.

476
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 1: Right.

477
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 4: Well, so again you're constantly going to be going through

478
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:50,639
Speaker 4: your things, and whatever you can donate or purge, you

479
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,439
Speaker 4: should do that. And then if you have the space

480
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 4: to keep the things that you don't want to part with,

481
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 4: then don't part with them and keep it. I think

482
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 4: it all depends on the not just the value, but

483
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 4: like is it a generic item, because if it's like

484
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 4: old T shirts, and you know, trends change, fashion changes,

485
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 4: get rid of old that is going to be easily

486
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 4: replaceable versus certain clothing items or in any type of

487
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 4: item that you're just kind of like it's a little

488
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 4: more unique and maybe I'll revisit it. But space, because

489
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 4: it depends on both the item and the space. If

490
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:32,399
Speaker 4: the item is generic, donate it or you know, encourage it.

491
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 3: But if you have the space, it's not an issue.

492
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 4: If you need space, that's when you can realize I

493
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 4: haven't used it in a while, I haven't worn it

494
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:41,360
Speaker 4: in a while.

495
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 2: Right, Right, So we were talking about our closets and

496
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 2: gen has Jen has lost a ton of weight in

497
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 2: the past like two years, and I've gained a fair

498
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 2: amount of weight in the past like two years. And

499
00:24:57,840 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 2: we both have a lot of clothes that don't fit

500
00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:02,479
Speaker 2: us anymore. Jan has daughter in her twenties who she

501
00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 2: can Jen, do you share clothes with your daughter?

502
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 1: I share the clothes out that I have now because

503
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 1: Rachel it is always thinner than I was. But it's

504
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,200
Speaker 1: I know what you're gonna say, Jack, it's very hard,

505
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:18,199
Speaker 1: not just because they're necessarily luxury clothing items, but like

506
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:21,200
Speaker 1: what if the what ifs, Like what if I gain

507
00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 1: the weight and I don't want to throw out this

508
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,719
Speaker 1: pair of expensive genes because I've yoyoled my whole life,

509
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 1: so it's hard. And so I have, like you know,

510
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 1: the and I think lots of women have this, right,

511
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 1: like clothes of all different sizes for sure.

512
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, but in this case, again, both the item and

513
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 4: the space need to be considered. So if you have

514
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:50,159
Speaker 4: the space, it's great. But like Emma, right, and to

515
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:53,160
Speaker 4: your point of a daughter, I have a twenty year

516
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 4: old college age daughter and she is constantly in my

517
00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 4: closet repurposing all of my like good old things that

518
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 4: I never wanted to part with.

519
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:05,439
Speaker 1: Right. Does she do a good job.

520
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 3: She does a great job. Honestly.

521
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 4: She was just in Vegas all the college kids go

522
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:15,679
Speaker 4: like their senior year, and she was actually wearing something

523
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 4: that was my mother's from like thirty five years ago,

524
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 4: like this whole sequence back the top.

525
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 3: So again it's like, if you have the space pull

526
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 3: on to these things.

527
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:30,160
Speaker 4: And I will say this, if you don't have the space,

528
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 4: parting with it is hard, no doubt. Once you do,

529
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 4: especially if it's something it's might as well, it's a

530
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 4: what if it's something you haven't seen or used in

531
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 4: five two five years.

532
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 3: I once you do part with it, let it go.

533
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 1: I've fought so much stuff that I've gotten rid of

534
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 1: and I struggle with it, you know, putting it in

535
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 1: the bag, and then I literally just you never think

536
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 1: about it again. It's not in the closet, so it's

537
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 1: so and all of a sudden, I can actually how

538
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:00,959
Speaker 1: about the fact that I can actually see things in

539
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 1: my closet and they forgot to become new again? Exactly,

540
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 1: that's exactly right. Yeah, I love that.

541
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 2: Do consignment stores take like the expensive clothing because I know,

542
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 2: a luxury item, but like I have a lot of

543
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:24,439
Speaker 2: pants from let's say, like Veronica Beard that are or

544
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 2: Alison Olivia and they're really tiny sizes.

545
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 1: Who is real real? Yeah, I heard mixed things.

546
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 4: You have to be willing to take the pictures and

547
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 4: you know, but people do get money back.

548
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: What does real real do? What's the process there?

549
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:41,679
Speaker 2: You?

550
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: I think you call them, they send you a box.

551
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 4: They send you boxes, and they come to you and

552
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 4: they kind of send back what doesn't sell, They send

553
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:50,240
Speaker 4: you checks.

554
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: It's oh, really cool. Maybe I'll have them come over

555
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 1: and they take good clothes. Yeah, finer clothes, right, that's

556
00:27:59,320 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 1: all they take.

557
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, they don't know.

558
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 2: But even just the thought of that makes me nervous,

559
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,199
Speaker 2: Like I'd all like what you said, Jen, like the

560
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 2: yo yoing of it, I'm and then I'll start thinking like, oh, well,

561
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: maybe I could just take this to a tailor and

562
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 2: get the waist taken out, or maybe another option, maybe

563
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 2: my daughter is going to want it. So I have

564
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:22,159
Speaker 2: a very hard time with this stuff. Well sometimes I

565
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 2: think I just need to change my mindset. So can

566
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 2: you talk to us a little bit about what are

567
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 2: the benefits of clearing out your space?

568
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:29,360
Speaker 1: Oh?

569
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:34,640
Speaker 4: Okay, One is I think it just saves time when

570
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 4: you're looking for something.

571
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 3: It's easier to know where it is.

572
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 4: When everything is clean and has a place and has

573
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 4: its own space, it's easier to clean up, and it's

574
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:45,760
Speaker 4: easier to find things.

575
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 3: You just are more organized.

576
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 4: Yes, And I would say like clutter can just be

577
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 4: very distracting, and so an organized, neat space always makes

578
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 4: you feel soothing and tranquil, which ultimately that's our goal

579
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 4: when we leave our clients, we just want to leave

580
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 4: them feeling tranquil and at peace and less.

581
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 3: Cluttered and come.

582
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 4: And I think also I practice speech pathology practice speech pathology,

583
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 4: and I work with children who are extremely distracted. And

584
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 4: actually I got into this because I was organizing place

585
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 4: bases for children who were so easily distracted, and I

586
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 4: found when I organized their one room in their home

587
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 4: to it increase their focus. So even for children, increasing

588
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 4: their focus, but as well for adults. And an office

589
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 4: that's clean and serene and tranquil and neat and organized

590
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 4: and tidy, it just it's less distracting and you're able

591
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 4: to I also think that it improves the appearance of

592
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 4: your home. If you walk into someone else's home that

593
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 4: is clutter free and neat and tidy, it looks bigger,

594
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 4: it looks more space. It's just your causets look bigger

595
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 4: if you open them and it's not all stuffed in

596
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 4: and you can see things and find things. And obviously,

597
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 4: if one day down the road you wanted to sell

598
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 4: your home, it's it's a huge advantage to have it organized.

599
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 1: How do you start, you guys, like you know, a

600
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 1: lot of times I just feel so overwhelmed, Right, I

601
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 1: have a between my basement and all the drawers, and

602
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: is it just? And I do when I do do it,

603
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 1: like even my makeup drawer, I say, okay, just this,

604
00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 1: let's just do the makeup shore today. And it's a

605
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 1: small deal.

606
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 4: Start small as our number one advice. I think if

607
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 4: you just begin organizing one small area and you can

608
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 4: get that one small area under control, that's a win.

609
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 2: You've just try to commit to like a certain number

610
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 2: of minutes a day or a certain like area per week,

611
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 2: or like.

612
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 3: Well.

613
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 4: I go on in but no, if I was advising

614
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 4: someone else, then you know, do as much as you can.

615
00:30:58,360 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 3: Don't start too big.

616
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 4: Are it in makeup draws perfect or do a gene section.

617
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 4: Do it in sections and it will feel less overwhelming.

618
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you.

619
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 4: Declutter by category, you know, today I'm not going to

620
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 4: do my entire closet.

621
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 3: I'm just going to do genes.

622
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 4: Then the next day I'm just going to do sweaters

623
00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 4: and then make piles.

624
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: You know.

625
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 4: One pile is donate, one is purge, one is consigned,

626
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 4: one is keep right.

627
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 3: And now you have.

628
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 4: Different sections for different items. And I also think putting

629
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 4: like items together sometimes helps you visualize the excess you have.

630
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I did not realize just how many

631
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 4: black sweaters I had, or just how many picture frames

632
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 4: I have that I'm holding on to that don't even

633
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 4: hold pictures. And once you put a bunch of like

634
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 4: items together, you realize just how much of each item

635
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 4: you have, and you're more willing to let go of

636
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 4: some of it.

637
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 3: Right.

638
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know a problem that I have is these

639
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 2: four children of mine, and they just every time I

640
00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 2: get rid of one thing, they bring in six more.

641
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 2: And so, like take for example, their shoe area. So

642
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 2: I have three teenage boys and one teenage girl, and

643
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 2: like my like shoe area where everyone takes the shoes

644
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 2: off when they walk into the house is absolutely it

645
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 2: gives me a stomach ache every time I walk by it.

646
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 2: Like I almost kill myself every time I walk by

647
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 2: it because I almost trip on a shoe.

648
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: There's sixteen pairs of sneakers, sixteen pairs of.

649
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 2: Crops, there's flip flops, there's night shoes, there's going out shoes,

650
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 2: there's sambas.

651
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do with this stuff I have.

652
00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 2: I bought myself one of those plastic hanging shoe racks

653
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 2: that I put over the door, and the whole thing

654
00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 2: is like collapsing because there's just too many shoes in there.

655
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do with all the shoes. Help.

656
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 4: So in terms of everyday shoes, obviously, see the mud room,

657
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 4: like the area you're talking about is where they should be.

658
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 4: But like, is there room in your daughter's closet for

659
00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 4: her dress shoes that maybe she only wears once a

660
00:32:58,360 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 4: month or you know, less frequently, or even I mean

661
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:06,959
Speaker 4: even putting a space in your garage for cleats, you know,

662
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 4: a rack in the garage and you're where you're entering

663
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 4: the mudroom. But that can help with like the excess

664
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 4: spillover and the stuff.

665
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 3: That you don't necessarily want.

666
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 1: That's a good nice piled.

667
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 4: Coming inside from outside. Anyway, my son used to before

668
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 4: we had a mudroom. He used to come in and

669
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:26,680
Speaker 4: the entire turf field would be in my in my

670
00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 4: like he had all.

671
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 3: Those little I was like, what is going on here?

672
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 3: Take it off outside?

673
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 4: So doing it in the garage makes it a little

674
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 4: neater as well.

675
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 1: Jet is an empty nester. So yeah, so for me,

676
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 1: it's not the cleats anymore. But I go, I get

677
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:43,520
Speaker 1: very jealous when my see like the women that keep

678
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 1: the shoes in boxes or the clear boxes, so you can,

679
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: of course that's you, yeah my shoes. Yeah, like well,

680
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 1: so my shoes are piled up on top of each other,

681
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 1: you know, I have all the shoes shells. But but

682
00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 1: we've weigh we've way outgrown the shelves. There's way more

683
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: so you know, it's just so sloppy and it looks

684
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 1: and I walk into a closet, you know, and I'm

685
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:11,719
Speaker 1: like to have I look at the Kardashians, Look how

686
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: they keep their shoes, but they don't do their own

687
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 1: ship the obviously obviously, obviously.

688
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 3: I do love them. I would like those closets.

689
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 4: I love the domestic fins and mine open easily, and

690
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 4: I just love them because I can see what's inside.

691
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:28,800
Speaker 1: And it protects the shoes they're me.

692
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 4: I can't say enough about them, but they where do

693
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 4: you get them? Amazon? Ikea? Yeah, like they make tea

694
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 4: anywhere anywhere. The Container store has really nice ones. And

695
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,439
Speaker 4: Amazon and Ikea have perfectly fine clear shoe boxes yep.

696
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 3: And they they stack and they open easily. Yeah, they

697
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 3: are good.

698
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 1: I don't have them, but either when you yeah.

699
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 4: For putting them on, Like sometimes there's a shelf on

700
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 4: top of the closet, and that could be a place

701
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 4: where you, like, maybe you put the winter boots there

702
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:05,399
Speaker 4: in the summer, in the summer, shoes there in the winter,

703
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 4: just as.

704
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:07,800
Speaker 1: That's a good idea, okay.

705
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 2: I also ward shoe boxes tell me that it's okay

706
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 2: to get rid of them.

707
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: They're beautiful, Like how do you get rid.

708
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 2: Of like like a thick brown shoebox, right.

709
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,479
Speaker 4: Because once you get rid of it, you're not going

710
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 4: to miss the box. I've thrown out like nice beautiful boxes,

711
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 4: and I don't miss them.

712
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: I see some women like decorating their closet with.

713
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:33,600
Speaker 4: Them, right, unless it's decorative or if you're knacking the

714
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 4: shoes on top of each other, you do know, like,

715
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 4: oh those are the Louis, those are the Chanelle you know, right?

716
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 1: What about Clocka books because I have so many that

717
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:46,239
Speaker 1: are it's just shameful. I have from my guest room.

718
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 1: I use that closet as well, but it's not enough

719
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 1: room and it's not that like in the Ploka books

720
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 1: are just they're not in the bags. They give you

721
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:58,719
Speaker 1: these beautiful dust bags, and that's not me. I just

722
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: I don't have the patience for that. So they're all

723
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: just kind of Yeah.

724
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:04,959
Speaker 4: They do make clear divide your dividers. That just help

725
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 4: stand them up and you can kind of squeeze.

726
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 1: More in, yeah, to use all the shape and yeah, so.

727
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 3: That I like them. I don't use them per one bag.

728
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 4: I'll put like three clutches in one section and then

729
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,919
Speaker 4: you know it, just you can kind of consolidate and

730
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 4: put more together and they do keep their shape. I

731
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 4: also like putting like dress the evening bags in one

732
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 4: section or large large totes.

733
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 1: Okay, what are these containers? How do I buy them?

734
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 3: Not container viders?

735
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 1: Dividers?

736
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 3: You can get them on Amazon as well.

737
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 1: Yep, what are they called? Just like cock a book divider.

738
00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 3: But yeah, they're looseight, they're clear.

739
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: Oh I love that. I'm going to do that and

740
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: I'm going to throw away my boxes. So do you

741
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 1: have any like hard and fast rules.

742
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 2: I was telling Jen that I heard once that if

743
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,440
Speaker 2: you have an item you haven't used in a year,

744
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 2: if you could replace it in under twenty minutes for

745
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 2: under twenty dollars, that you should get rid of it.

746
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 2: But that seems like almost half my house. So by

747
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 2: can I just show you there's a plant behind me?

748
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 2: You see this plant? So that plant is in a

749
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 2: black like vs that I probably paid maybe like fifty

750
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 2: dollars for. I have moved this plant. Now it's sitting

751
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 2: in the corner of my dining room. I've moved it

752
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: from room to room to rooms to see if there's

753
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:21,279
Speaker 2: anywhere that I like it and I hate it, but

754
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 2: I can't bring myself to.

755
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 1: Throw it out right, Like, what's your rules?

756
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 2: What's an easy rule to follow that we should be

757
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 2: comfortable with that'll make a lot of this easier.

758
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 4: Well, for wonder, if it's not bringing your joy, and

759
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 4: if it's not serving a purpose, let it go. You

760
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 4: will not miss it, right, and be okay with it

761
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:40,760
Speaker 4: to your point, you will.

762
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 3: Not miss it. Yeah, And I do think.

763
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 4: Taking a time to just be like how many of

764
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 4: all of taking like items together and being like how

765
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 4: many scissors off these supplies or kitchen utensils or donate niggers?

766
00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 3: How many?

767
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:02,320
Speaker 4: How many pairs of sneakers that you know are serving

768
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:05,560
Speaker 4: the exact same purpose? Get rid of these are the

769
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 4: only two pairs that I actually wear. I don't need

770
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 4: the others. So putting all like items together, it helps

771
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 4: you kind of realize, oh, minimily do.

772
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:14,839
Speaker 3: Have a lot of this. I could part with some

773
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 3: of it when.

774
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:18,800
Speaker 1: I get like samples my buy's expensive skincare or whatever,

775
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,759
Speaker 1: so they give you like the huge palch good one. Yeah,

776
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 1: and how many samples I have products. Yeah, so I'm like, well,

777
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:28,840
Speaker 1: I'll take them on vacation, so I don't have to

778
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:30,440
Speaker 1: bring the bottle, right.

779
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 3: To say, put them in a travel bag.

780
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:34,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a great, right, But I also don't mix

781
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,360
Speaker 2: up my skincare like that. So I have these beautiful

782
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 2: skincare samples, I don't know what to do with them,

783
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,720
Speaker 2: grow them out.

784
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 4: Or give them to your daughter, let or you know

785
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 4: her friends like that could be like a fun Here

786
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 4: is some beauty that's true, and that's like fun where

787
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 4: I love the concept of putting in a little travel

788
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:53,720
Speaker 4: bag for when you go away.

789
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 3: That's great.

790
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you guys do the thing where you have

791
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:06,799
Speaker 1: your travel toiletries separate, Like I've wanted to do this

792
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 1: for so long and I haven't. Like you have so

793
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 1: that when you're going. I hate packing, everybody does. But

794
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,320
Speaker 1: where you have your travel toiletries you've bought that separate

795
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: from your you do that, Jack. I have a.

796
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 2: Bag of travel toiletrees that's always packed that every like

797
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 2: two years. I make sure I like clean out the

798
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 2: product because it is probably old. But yeah, I have

799
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 2: it always ready to go and I carry it on.

800
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 2: It's fall in three ounce containers, and every.

801
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: Want to spend the money on buying the stuff to

802
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:36,720
Speaker 1: put into the travel, like buying an extra whatever serum.

803
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: I don't do that. I don't buy the extra one.

804
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 2: I get the little three ounce containers from CBS and

805
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:43,920
Speaker 2: I fill up from my existing stuff.

806
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 3: That's perfect.

807
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 4: And I have toothbrush, like certain basics like toothbrush, yeah,

808
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 4: always in there.

809
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 1: Yeah.

810
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:55,760
Speaker 2: So what's your role with like like, oh, some people

811
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,439
Speaker 2: say if you haven't used it in a year, get

812
00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 2: rid of it. That to me is horrifying, but like

813
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:04,720
Speaker 2: one is not enough time. What's like for clothing.

814
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: Let's say, if you haven't touched it in how long

815
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: should you get rid of it?

816
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:11,399
Speaker 4: So let's say you did your closet, you went through

817
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 4: your closet, like I make a pile of I haven't

818
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 4: worn this in a year. If it's still there the

819
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:20,440
Speaker 4: next year and you still haven't worn it again, if

820
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:23,720
Speaker 4: space isn't an issue and a part of you, that's

821
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 4: like maybe maybe, but get rid of some of it,

822
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 4: right because chances are you're not going to miss it.

823
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:31,720
Speaker 4: You didn't miss it for that year or the year before.

824
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:35,879
Speaker 4: So I think right, old T shirts, tank tops, like

825
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 4: those things over time they've had.

826
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 3: It, they need to go.

827
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:43,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, I put my after my wedding. The day after

828
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 2: my wedding, I didn't get my dress cleaned or anything.

829
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 2: I just put it in a garment bag and I

830
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 2: haven't yet.

831
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 1: To open it.

832
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 2: It's just been sitting in my closet for seventeen years.

833
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 2: It's probably all yellow now, but I mean, I'm going

834
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 2: to keep it. I'm not asking you if I should

835
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 2: get rid of it, but I just I'm like, I

836
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: have so much stuff that I've just like stuck into garment.

837
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, we're on this show. We have

838
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 1: so many dresses. I have so much clothing that like

839
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 1: reminds me of things that I did, but like I'm

840
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 1: not wearing it anymore. You guys see this Unrevolve. They

841
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:18,280
Speaker 1: have oh croissants, Yes, croissants to say that's a brilliant.

842
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: I was afraid to do it though, I was starting

843
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 1: to do it, and then I was like, what if

844
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 1: this I'm doing it? You guys know we're talking about

845
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 1: I'm Revolved. They have this thing now where they buy

846
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: back clothes and it's certain items. Certain items. Yeah, they don't.

847
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 2: Offer you a ton, but some of the stuff that

848
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 2: they so they send you like the pictures of the

849
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 2: things that they're willing to take back, and you probably

850
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 2: take like a seventy percent loss on it. But if

851
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 2: you're not wearing it as because you're getting something back,

852
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 2: I'm going to look into rent the runway.

853
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 1: But I've done it. I've done it many times.

854
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:57,239
Speaker 4: You probably are wearing it like dresses all the time.

855
00:41:58,040 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 4: You're not going to keep repeating.

856
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, Well, af after I had kids, like immediately

857
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 2: after having kids, I was like, I'm never gonna wear

858
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:07,880
Speaker 2: heels again. So I went through a phase for a

859
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 2: few years of buying Todd's flats, you know, like the

860
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,359
Speaker 2: iconic with the bumps on the back, and so I

861
00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 2: have like eight pairs of Todd's flats that after like

862
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 2: a year of that, I was like, you know what,

863
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:19,800
Speaker 2: I hate flats.

864
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: I'm never wearing flats again. I'm going back to heels.

865
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 2: And I have a lot of Todd's flats that I

866
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 2: have never touched again, and like, I'm not wearing Ballerina flats.

867
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 2: They're just not me, and so I don't know what

868
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 2: to do with them. So I think the real real

869
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 2: is probably like my only option that all right.

870
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna call them.

871
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:41,359
Speaker 2: So when you go into people's houses. Oh, and then

872
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,359
Speaker 2: I have something really important to ask you.

873
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 1: Do people ever freak out? Are they like, stop touching myself?

874
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:48,399
Speaker 1: Because that's the way that I feel like I can

875
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: never have someone in. But maybe I could like, what

876
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 1: is the process like for you guys?

877
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 4: Well, we really are always so super sensitive because it's

878
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 4: your personal belongings. Don't want you to feel in any

879
00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 4: way like we're coming in like gangbusters. We just we

880
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 4: really take that into consideration and understand how valuable and

881
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 4: meaningful your belongings are. And you know what Laurence said before,

882
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:18,800
Speaker 4: When we come into your home, we want to build

883
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 4: a rapport with you so that you feel comfortable with

884
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:24,839
Speaker 4: us being there, and then we kind of get into

885
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 4: a groove and you do feel comfortable.

886
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that we have to go.

887
00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:31,399
Speaker 1: Through people's stuff and find like something bad.

888
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 2: I don't like, something dirty, like you open a woman's

889
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 2: store and find her vibrators.

890
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 4: Like, But I would say say that one of the

891
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:43,400
Speaker 4: reasons we do our free consult is really to establish

892
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:46,279
Speaker 4: a rapport and make sure that they're comfortable with us

893
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:49,319
Speaker 4: and that they know that we understand the sensitivity and

894
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 4: privacy and you know of what's going on and if

895
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 4: you know, if there's things you don't want us, getting.

896
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 3: Very respectful of that as well.

897
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, I just don't know how I can imagine

898
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 1: being you, Like I I don't thought of taking on

899
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:06,479
Speaker 1: my own closet and my and what do you think

900
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 1: it is? I don't know if for me that would

901
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:12,760
Speaker 1: be to have to all day look in someone else's closet,

902
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 1: go through it, organize it, take out their crap, go

903
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 1: through the dressers. You enjoy your work like I love

904
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 1: you love it? Like it just sounds so horrible. No,

905
00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:24,760
Speaker 1: it probably no. I think it sounds like like popping,

906
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 1: is it? Like as much as you it's like you're

907
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 1: doing it. It's physical too. It's like it's definitely hard

908
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: for sure.

909
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 2: But they don't have the sentimental like attachment.

910
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 4: Which do so when we do homes, we call each

911
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 4: other like I can't do my own myself.

912
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 3: I genuinely believe you need someone else to be like

913
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:49,080
Speaker 3: get rid of it. That is heard.

914
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 1: I think the Sex the City episode when they were

915
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 1: going through Carrie's closet. You remember that one. I remember

916
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 1: that one when she was getting rid of all of

917
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 1: her stuff. I'm so cute. Well she got rid of something.

918
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 2: Can I talk to you about jewelry because that is

919
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 2: probably my biggest problem. So my issue is that, like,

920
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 2: so you have all this jewelry. I'm not saying that

921
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 2: I have all like tons of diamonds hanging around my closet,

922
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 2: but like, I have a lot of jewelry, and not

923
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 2: all of it's super expensive. But I don't know what

924
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 2: to do with it because I don't want it out

925
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 2: in the open. So like all this beautiful like hanging

926
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 2: shit that they sell at home goods, I can't buy

927
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:32,640
Speaker 2: that because I have a lot of workers in my house.

928
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 2: Of course, I'm not saying workers are not trustworthy, but

929
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 2: I don't know them.

930
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 1: I don't want it.

931
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 2: Sitting there when the cable guy comes to fix my

932
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 2: cable in my room.

933
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:44,080
Speaker 1: So I need to hide it. But I can't hide it.

934
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 2: In anything that keeps my jewelry from tangling. I have

935
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 2: necklaces that I haven't worn in years because they are

936
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 2: in one giant knot and I can't untangle them.

937
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 4: Well, they do sell stackable trays that you could put,

938
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 4: you know, that are individually so you could put each

939
00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 4: of your necklaces and then so that they're not out,

940
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 4: you could put them, you know, in a draw in

941
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 4: your closet that's easily accessible for you, but sort of

942
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 4: hidden underclothes so it's not.

943
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 3: Out like under your tank tops or under your t shirts.

944
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 4: You put the actual the drawers that lay the trays,

945
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 4: trays that lay flat would be good for necklaces not

946
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 4: being tangled for you.

947
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:26,680
Speaker 1: What do you mean, So are they divided into sections?

948
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, you can put like probably two per section, but

949
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 4: like with a little tiny lip, you know, like not

950
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 4: just picture the felt a felt tray with little lips,

951
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 4: so you could lay your necklaces down and they won't

952
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 4: hit the other one, the one next.

953
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,880
Speaker 1: So they have a section for like ear rings and rings.

954
00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 4: And you can do it yourself as well, you know,

955
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 4: because you can buy different compartments based on what you have.

956
00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 1: Where do you get that stuff? And then you're organized

957
00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: with your jewelry. No, I'm not organized with anything. I

958
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 1: mean I organized when I moved into my house. The

959
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 1: very clever owner had created the to the jewelry doors,

960
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: so you open in their section and whatever they have,

961
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 1: but it overflows, and you know, proud itself, and I'm

962
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:18,360
Speaker 1: not no, I'm not great with it. Is your jewelry

963
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 1: drawer locked? No, I know, that would be a good

964
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 1: idea to make it a lot.

965
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:27,320
Speaker 3: And then she hides the key.

966
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:29,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, that would be so much even just.

967
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, it's like a road drawer and it has

968
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:39,080
Speaker 4: to actually pull out felt things, and she stores a

969
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 4: lot in there. I mean, it's probably obvious in there

970
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:43,879
Speaker 4: if someone were to break into your.

971
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 1: I know, but at least it makes it harder to

972
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 1: you know. You know.

973
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:53,280
Speaker 2: One of my other problems is so like my dad

974
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:56,280
Speaker 2: and my mom, they live in separate homes. They're still married,

975
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,879
Speaker 2: but they live separately for twenty five years. They both

976
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 2: keep everything, and they have tons and tons and tons

977
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 2: of paperwork. But I went to my dad's house to

978
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:08,399
Speaker 2: try to help him organize a few years ago, and

979
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 2: he had literally I opened his like one of his

980
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:16,280
Speaker 2: kitchen cabinets, and he had fifty mugs and fifty plates.

981
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 2: And then I said, Dak, can I throw out half

982
00:48:18,160 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 2: of it?

983
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:20,399
Speaker 1: What do you need to throw out half? I said,

984
00:48:20,400 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 1: do you live alone? How many mugs do you need?

985
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 1: You know? And then but then I started to look

986
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:27,359
Speaker 1: at the mugs and I was like, oh, I got

987
00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 1: this one in fourth grade, right, I don't want to

988
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:32,440
Speaker 1: throw that out, and like there's a little sand at

989
00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 1: the bottom when you finished drinking, And.

990
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 2: Like I had a problem throwing out his moors.

991
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:40,360
Speaker 1: You know, I don't know where to start sometimes.

992
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it sounds like he has them all in

993
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 4: one spot, which is the first step he you know,

994
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 4: on all the mugs are together, If they're all fitting

995
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 4: in that one cabinet designated for mugs, then like what's

996
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:53,920
Speaker 4: it to you whether there's two mugs in.

997
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 3: There which are practs twenty or twenty.

998
00:48:57,040 --> 00:48:59,879
Speaker 4: When it starts to overflow and they no longer fit

999
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 4: fit in that area, that's when it's time to purge, right,

1000
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:05,840
Speaker 4: Like I don't believe in storing anything and putting it

1001
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 4: in the basement or putting it in the attic ways,

1002
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 4: you'll never do it.

1003
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 3: So as long as there's room for it and it's not.

1004
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 4: Bothering anyone, and he's not downsizing or going to a

1005
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 4: smaller space. If they make him happy, and they make

1006
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 4: you happy for now and they bring you to the spot,

1007
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 4: keep them right. But the second there's one mug too many,

1008
00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 4: he's got to choose and get rid of one to

1009
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:29,919
Speaker 4: make space for the new.

1010
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 1: I think it's good to check because, like, for instance,

1011
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:36,000
Speaker 1: my husband had a shot glass collection and I just

1012
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 1: wasn't having it. I did too. Well, guess what, he

1013
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 1: doesn't have it anymore. But he realized that he doesn't

1014
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 1: have it anymore. He was not pleased. He should probably ask,

1015
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 1: but oh yeah, yeah, he was pissed. I have to say,

1016
00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:50,920
Speaker 1: maybe not my but I'm like, I never thought he

1017
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: would even notice. It was like put away in like

1018
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,319
Speaker 1: like we're our bar area in a corner and a

1019
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:59,800
Speaker 1: million years, I didn't think he would notice. Yep, they've gone.

1020
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 2: Now, yeah, here's a here's what I really struggle with.

1021
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 2: And I wish I could take you over to it.

1022
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 1: But I am so. I'm not a hoarder.

1023
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 2: Obviously, hoarding is a serious mental illness, right, but I

1024
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 2: use the term very loosely. I'd say something that I

1025
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 2: do actually tend to hoard is alcohol. And so when

1026
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:22,480
Speaker 2: I get a nice bottle, I don't drink it, and

1027
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 2: I leave it improperly stored on top of my like

1028
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 2: in my like whip bar area. And first of all,

1029
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 2: I have bottles that have been sitting there for fifteen years.

1030
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:36,439
Speaker 2: That I are probably not good anymore, but I don't

1031
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:37,359
Speaker 2: want to throw them out.

1032
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,840
Speaker 1: I can say, al bad, Yes, I think so.

1033
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:43,880
Speaker 2: If it's not stored properly, do they makes it can

1034
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:44,959
Speaker 2: sometimes come over?

1035
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:46,720
Speaker 1: Do they? Okay?

1036
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 2: So I bought a bottle of crystal fifteen years ago

1037
00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:53,359
Speaker 2: when crystal was popular, right. More than that, I don't

1038
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:55,200
Speaker 2: want to throw out the crystal because it costs me

1039
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:58,160
Speaker 2: like two hundred bucks. I don't want to drink the

1040
00:50:58,200 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 2: crystal because it will probably make me ill right now,

1041
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 2: because it's been improperly sort for twenty years. Do they

1042
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 2: make people who can come to your house and be like,

1043
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:07,279
Speaker 2: throw this out, through this out, it's going to make

1044
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 2: you sick.

1045
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 3: Alcohol is not one that we've Yeah, I don't. I

1046
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:13,400
Speaker 3: don't know how to.

1047
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 4: I would say, if you're willing to throw it away

1048
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 4: and you don't care, you're not drinking it, you're not

1049
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:19,920
Speaker 4: regifting it, you're not.

1050
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,000
Speaker 1: Well, I would regift it. But I don't want to

1051
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 1: make other people sick.

1052
00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 2: I want to.

1053
00:51:25,360 --> 00:51:26,800
Speaker 1: I want I love regifted.

1054
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 3: You'll make them sick. Maybe it got better, maybe it's

1055
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 3: worth more now. I think we have to research first

1056
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 3: with the.

1057
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 4: Alcohol, like the specific alcohol and if it gets better

1058
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 4: or worse.

1059
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:37,880
Speaker 2: Right, I know I need to go through and just

1060
00:51:37,920 --> 00:51:41,359
Speaker 2: spend some time like googling how long does this last? Right?

1061
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 1: And if it? And on that note, if you're going

1062
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 1: through your pantry the second that's something hits the expiration date,

1063
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:50,879
Speaker 1: do you have to throw it out? Or like, what's

1064
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 1: the rule with that? Does does shit list longer?

1065
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:54,279
Speaker 3: Does I do?

1066
00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 4: Because my son is like the expiration date like police,

1067
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 4: Yes he is. So if it's one day expired, he's like,

1068
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:07,319
Speaker 4: it's gotta go. So I tend to toss things that

1069
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 4: are expired.

1070
00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 3: And I think and it lasts forever?

1071
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:15,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think right, So when he goes to college,

1072
00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 4: I wants.

1073
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:17,799
Speaker 1: I meant to just say, Jackie, you can bring if

1074
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:19,400
Speaker 1: you want all your old alcohol. If you want to

1075
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 1: just bring it here, we could test it. We can

1076
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,960
Speaker 1: crystal right over to my house. Yes, well I have

1077
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 1: don par I have all of this. I'll take it,

1078
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 1: no problem, Like this is so pretty.

1079
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:34,480
Speaker 4: I don't want to think a gift as well, give

1080
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 4: like champagne. I have to research.

1081
00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:40,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you gifts, you know, I got to

1082
00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:42,839
Speaker 1: do a little research on that. Nobody's having you guys

1083
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 1: over to go through their liquor cabinet. They got bigger problems, right, I.

1084
00:52:46,160 --> 00:52:48,759
Speaker 2: Know, But this this makes me want to so what

1085
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 2: kind of people call you? Is it people whose homes

1086
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 2: are just so completely out of control? Or is it

1087
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:55,439
Speaker 2: like normal homes that just want more?

1088
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:58,440
Speaker 3: Like it runs the gamut.

1089
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 4: I think our niche has become we've kind of attached

1090
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 4: ourselves or gotten acquaintance with a bunch of real estate

1091
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 4: brokers who have been to refer us.

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Speaker 3: So our niche has.

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Speaker 4: Become people who are moving and downsizing or or moving

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00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 4: to bigger But usually it's the downsizing that's more overwhelming,

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00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 4: and we kind of begin at that level. The first

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00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:27,839
Speaker 4: purge is when you're packing. The second purge is when

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00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 4: you're moving them in donating, you know, consigning, keeping packing

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00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:38,919
Speaker 4: everything in an organized way, like items together. So their

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00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 4: books may be everywhere in their house, but when we

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00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,960
Speaker 4: pack them, we pack them all together, so that when

1101
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 4: we're unpacking, we can be like, Okay, let's put all

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00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:47,680
Speaker 4: the books in the bookshelf or in the living room

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00:53:47,800 --> 00:53:49,799
Speaker 4: or to the den or wherever it may go.

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Speaker 3: That's been our niche.

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00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:54,880
Speaker 4: But we I mean, are being.

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Speaker 3: A lot of referrals.

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00:53:55,760 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 4: Yes, people will you know, email us and they're either.

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00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:02,280
Speaker 3: Moving or they have.

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00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:06,480
Speaker 4: A closet that they need to attack and they just

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00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:09,240
Speaker 4: need really the handholding to get it done.

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Speaker 1: Just speaking of referrals, I was going to say, tell

1112
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,319
Speaker 1: our listeners where to find you, please.

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00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 4: Meat freaks home dot com or on Instagram or Facebook.

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00:54:18,680 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 3: It's neat freaks home.

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00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:23,600
Speaker 2: And I know people who have used them, and they

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00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:26,360
Speaker 2: are I have never used you, guys, but I know

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00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 2: that people grieve about.

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Speaker 1: You guys, So thank you so much.

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00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:34,439
Speaker 2: Okay, So I think I'm ready to call the real

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00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:37,160
Speaker 2: real and I'm ready to throw out all my shoeboxes.

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Speaker 1: Ok and then I'm going to attack my kids.

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00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 4: Shoes unless you stack them up on the higher part

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Speaker 4: of your closet.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to go or shoe boxes. Yes, I'm going

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00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:49,120
Speaker 1: to order actually the jewelry things. Okay. So we have

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Speaker 1: all cut out for us. Thank you, ladies, so much.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Once I'm all cleaned out, I'll invite everybody over and

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00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: we could drink my old alcohol.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:04,319
Speaker 1: I love you guys, Thank you, Thank you guys. That

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Speaker 1: was great. Okay.

1133
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Speaker 2: I feel like I could throw some stuff out now

1134
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:10,839
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't need all of this ship, but

1135
00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:12,719
Speaker 2: that all it really does get me, like I can't

1136
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:13,920
Speaker 2: regive that depressing.

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00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:17,680
Speaker 1: Also, the alcohol gets you unless I don't like anyone.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yes, well there's always there's always that well,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, it is it's hard to do,

1140
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 1: but I know that when I do it, which is

1141
00:55:24,520 --> 00:55:26,720
Speaker 1: not often, I feel so good. It is like popping,

1142
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:29,399
Speaker 1: is it a little? It's like so I wouldn't want

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00:55:29,400 --> 00:55:31,400
Speaker 1: to do it for other people, like like God bless

1144
00:55:31,400 --> 00:55:33,440
Speaker 1: these two women, because that would sound like the worst

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00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: job ever to me. Oh love.

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Speaker 2: I think if you can make money like helping people

1147
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:39,839
Speaker 2: do something that's going to bring them joy, I think

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00:55:39,880 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 2: that's the yeah, yeah in theory, but like in practice

1149
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 2: going through people's stuff, and I can't I just because

1150
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:46,720
Speaker 2: I can't bear to do my own.

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00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:48,360
Speaker 1: So I know it's.

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00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 2: Also a timing issue like this, there's not a lot

1153
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:52,560
Speaker 2: of time left in the day.

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Speaker 1: Agree, We're busy, We're busy.

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Speaker 2: Jen Fessler, all right, well, I've miss seeing your beautiful

1156
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:00,080
Speaker 2: face today.

1157
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:02,719
Speaker 1: Seeing your beautiful face, yes, but I'm gonna see you're

1158
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:03,800
Speaker 1: recording separately.

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00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 2: But that was great, and uh, I feel like I'm

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00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:10,880
Speaker 2: ready to go clean out of closet.

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Speaker 1: But I hope it was helpful to you guys like

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Speaker 1: it was to us. Definitely all right, So until next time,

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Speaker 1: two Jersey Jays were out.