WEBVTT - "Made Whole" OUT NOW! 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:18.280 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black. We're black. Ambition ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition, 0:00:18.320 --> 0:00:22.479 Shit my neck, man just in here with this yellow one, 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:27.960 give me. That's what I said. So y'all didn't hear. 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:29.680 But as soon as many came on, I said, okay, 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:31.920 yellow you know that's that's black speak for like we 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:33.640 see you look fabulous, you know. 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:38.320 Or be like okay, Carls Yes, okay. 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:41.440 So sidebar before I forget, because you know how my 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:44.280 memory is. So I was in Washington, d C. This 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:49.839 weekend to launch the new book Made Whole, and so 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:51.680 it was awesome, and I'll talk a little bit about, like, 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:54.320 you know, like the event, but I was at the monument. 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:56.440 I took the kids, woman and familiar with with me. 0:00:56.880 --> 0:00:59.680 My two sisters, Tracy and Carol came and we took 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:01.880 them to this monument and this woman looked at me 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:04.440 and was like, oh my god, Oh my god. I 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:07.360 was like, okay, she was like oh my god. And 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:09.160 then her boyfriend was you could tell. He said, who 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:11.240 is it? He was like, She's like, you know that 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:18.319 podcast that I'm always listening to. Yes, yes, And she 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:21.520 was right wild, yes, she was like this is her 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:25.760 well one of her, you know, she was so excited 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.679 love and the way he looked like oh yeah, like 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:32.320 almost like that dag All podcast. But I just loved that. 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:34.360 I was like, wait out tell Mandy. And even at 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:37.679 the event, so I partnered with Mahogany Books, which is 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:40.720 this black On bookstore all my husband and wife. They 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:44.680 have three locations. Amazing. Romanda and her husband are totally amazing. 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:46.880 And it was like over one hundred and fifty people 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:49.880 came standing room only. At one point they had a DJ. 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:54.640 It was just a good black time. Yes, And so 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:58.120 what I love is everyone who stood up, you know, 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:00.000 they'd be like, you know, like to ask a question. 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:03.120 I would say a good eighty percent of them were like, Tiffany, 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:05.480 I love all that you do. You know, I love 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:08.440 the you know, I love the Budgetista. We all love 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:10.799 Brown Ambition. And to see over my head's like, I. 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:11.840 Was like, oh my god. 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:15.360 Literally it was like and I want to say it 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.359 because we took on in like five or six questions, 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:20.120 four people were just like and we love Brown Ambition 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:23.120 and like say hi to Mandy. I know you don't hug, 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:25.720 but it just yeah, it just felt really really really 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:28.280 like great because sometimes, like you know, me and Mandy 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:31.040 always say it like I always forget sometimes I'm just like, 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:33.320 I'm just here talking to my friend Mandy, and so 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:36.640 I forget that you guys are also listening and participating, 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:39.520 you know, and this like you know, So it's just 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:41.200 I love to see it like out in the wild 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:42.679 because you know, Mandy and I will talk. I'm like, 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:44.720 all right, Garlait, did we see our air right? 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:48.360 We were just talking like like we talked for an 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:51.360 hour twice this weekend. Yes, they exactly could have had 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:52.239 two shows. 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:53.760 In the can for real and it was really and 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:57.000 even before we were myself, Mandy and our producer Imani 0:02:57.040 --> 0:03:00.720 were just talking about how this season is really hard, 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:02.079 like everyone is so stressed out. 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:04.919 We're all having the exact same thought, which is, yes, 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:09.520 where's mom, where's the grown up? And I hate to 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:13.639 proliferate the pressure on moms, but the way we carry 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:17.680 women in general the holiday season and you don't realize 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.160 that as a kid, Yeah, I didn't know what was 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:21.360 coming for me as a woman. 0:03:22.200 --> 0:03:25.400 I just was excited about, like girl, Thanksgiving, however, that 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:28.720 didn't get to the table, not my problem. And Christmas, however, 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:30.400 all my toys, get under the tree again. 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:35.200 I tried my little list and leave it and then. 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:40.280 Get I mean, that's it. I mean. So, I was 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:42.880 just talking with Evanni and Man and Mandy just about 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:46.000 how like right now this morning, I was just felt 0:03:46.000 --> 0:03:48.520 really overwhelmed today. You know, the well while you're listening 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:50.680 to this ba fan, it will be the day after 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:55.920 the book came out officially, but that I feel a 0:03:55.920 --> 0:04:00.120 little overwhelmed that I want to make sure I'm real 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:04.760 consciously doing more being versus doing, Like that's the life 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:07.200 that I'm working toward. It is like I don't want 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:09.520 to have to always be in motion or you know, 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.680 like sometimes I just want to be like in one 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:13.720 spot and listening to a book or taking a walk 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:16.280 or when I feel like this last quarter has been 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:17.520 very very very busy. 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:19.599 And single tasking. 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:23.120 Yeah, not just all the things and so and I 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:26.480 was telling Emiani in particular, I was like, you start 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:28.840 to realize as you get older that like when you 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:33.200 were in school, they created breaks for you. There was 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:37.640 summer break, winter break, howiday break, you know, springs break, 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:41.720 there were weekends, you know, and as an adult, if 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:45.599 you're not careful, you'll you will forget that those breaks 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:49.880 were created externally and that you have to on purpose 0:04:50.160 --> 0:04:52.599 create breaks for yourself now. If not, you will just 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:54.599 work all the way through. And I've done that, like 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:56.320 no stop, work all the way through, all. 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:58.920 The way through the summertime, always since the month where 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:00.400 I'm just like, but why are we hear? 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:01.279 Child? 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:06.120 Doesn't I'm like thinking about friends, you know, it's also December. 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:10.200 Intentionally taking breaks is something that like, as an adult, 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:13.520 you're like, wait, I have to do it. If not, 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:16.760 I will just keep going until, like my body says, 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:18.360 lay down, you know. 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:21.440 And take a break for yourself too. It doesn't have 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:24.159 to be for a big family vacation, you know. The 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:26.520 other day and I was, I was really in a 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:30.839 spot of overwhelm and I called my mommy because as 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:32.880 you do. And I'm so grateful that I can. I 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:34.640 know some of us, a lot of people out there 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:37.120 don't have. Whether you're not, you don't And this is 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:38.839 the holiday, so it's like whether or not you have 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:42.040 a good relationship with your family, it all comes up 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:44.240 and if they're not no longer here, like how do 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:46.599 you move on without them? And so I just want 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:49.000 to hold space for everyone who's dealing with that, but 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:51.760 I did. I'm fortunate to have my mommy still here, 0:05:51.839 --> 0:05:54.280 so I called her and we were both just trying 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:56.560 to figure out what I could do to like chill out. 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:58.680 And it was like eleven am on a Tuesday, and 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:01.240 she said, you know what, take a bubble bath, right now, 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:04.120 go take a bath. And I was like, I can't. 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:09.800 Oh well, that's a great idea. And I took a 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:11.960 bath in the middle of the day and I did 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:15.680 a little meditation, like a five minute calm me meditation, 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:19.560 and just floated and it was I mean, I had 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:22.040 to clean the bathtub first because my son bathes in 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.400 there and I know where he's been, so it goes 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:28.000 a little bit of work to start. But yeah, even 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:30.680 just that like little half hour, you know, it really 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:34.720 reset me. So to anyone who's feeling that sense of overwhelm, 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:36.880 what's like, what's the one thing. 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:40.839 You can do just to like reset? Where's your saving 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:43.880 base walk? For me? I love a long hot shower. 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:46.000 I have like a bench of my shower since I'll 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:49.920 just sit there and be like, rain down, calm me. 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:59.200 I mean, I thought, I'm sorry, but I need it. 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:03.480 Water. It is, it truly is even the sound of it. 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:06.320 So sitting in a nice, steamy shower, you know. I 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:09.560 had my sister. I told she's we're the same, and 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:12.120 she was like, I'm really overwhelmed too. And I was like, well, 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.040 I took a bath. She's like, do you know how 0:07:14.080 --> 0:07:15.800 much work it is to take a bath. You got 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:17.480 a shower first because you don't want to set in 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:19.520 your own funk, which I had to do too. And 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:21.480 I'm like, hey, yeah, I did all that, and then 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:24.080 I had it like, you know, it's sometimes if it's 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:27.640 work to do the thing, maybe don't do that thing. Yeah, 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:30.640 but something even sitting in my car and just driving 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:32.800 to a pretty place, Yes, I love. 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:34.400 That's one of my favorite things too, is that because 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:36.520 I live by a park and I thought about that today. 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:37.840 I was like, maybe I should just drive to the 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.960 park or walk to the park and sit on the 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.080 bench and just like cause the trees are still you know, 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:45.320 largely they've lost a lot of their you know, pretty leaves. 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.080 They have changed colors, but there are still some trees 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:50.440 that are just magnificent. And you know, I love to 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:54.120 listen to like a book or like music. There's a 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:58.280 song that I I saw it on this guy's YouTube. 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:04.520 He's a is the a neurologist, what's another brain doctor? 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.360 Neurologists is a brain doctor? 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:10.600 No neuro certain Yeah, he's a neurologist. I'm not gonna 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:12.000 say nourose surgeon. But he's not a north He's not 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:15.120 a uh. But so he's a neurologist. And he shared 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:20.160 this a specific song that they had done this research 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:22.320 and study about that helped to bring helps to bring 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:25.840 down anxiety. It's called and I'm not gonna lie, it's 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:27.880 been working so when I wake up in the morning. 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:33.079 So after Darrell passed away, doctor Green, my therapist, I 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:34.400 was like, I woke up. I used to wake up 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:39.359 with so much anxiety, and she suggested me listening to Beethoven. 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:42.160 There was like some music like no no words, just 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:45.120 like classical music, and that really helped a lot first 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.320 thing in the morning to not start with so much 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:50.920 jarring energy. And so I saw this neual, this neurologist 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:53.880 say that there's a specific song that they've done research 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:57.440 on and that it creates a similar kind of like 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:01.360 slowing down, you know. And so let me tell you 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:03.080 the name of it. It's called Weightless. But I want 0:09:03.360 --> 0:09:08.560 I want to tell you who it's by. My library 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:20.560 playlist songs waitless, bye, wait okay bye Marconi Union. So 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:24.800 it's called wait list by Marconi Union. So literally I 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:27.520 put it on, I put it on repeat. And so 0:09:27.679 --> 0:09:29.120 I have certain things that I do in the morning, 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:31.400 you know, like get up, I make my bed, I 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:33.520 brush my teeth, so all what I'm doing these things 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:35.280 in the morning. I used to sometimes let me just 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:37.040 check my email real quick and then the wrap it 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:39.360 down the wrapper hole you go. And so I will 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:42.000 play this because I would say eighty percent of the 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:44.000 time I start my day with a walk. So I 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:47.319 will play this until I get outside walking. So it's 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:50.000 like it helps me to focus on no, no, no, we're 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:53.400 opening the windows, we're getting up, we're brushing teeth, we're 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.439 making bed, we're not doing any work things until you 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:58.480 get outside. Because once I get outside for the walk, 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:01.040 then the walk and the nature takes over and then 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:02.760 I can like you know, and so like, you know, 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:04.560 that's just something to think about. Like, but yeah, wait 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:07.679 Lists by Marconi Union. You know it's I mean, it's 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:09.240 you know, you're not going to jam it to it. 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:12.000 Yeah, it's just like that this this morning we're having 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.400 like parallel moments, I think because this morning I was 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:16.480 That's when we talked on Friday, when I was doing 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:22.600 a milk drop yes Yes, on the way to I 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:25.200 was like, I'm super woman, I'm gonna my I'm dropping 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:28.200 remming off with mother in law who lives thirty minutes away, 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.360 and I do the back and forth commute after a 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:32.959 drop off Rio and it is very helpful, but it's 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:37.040 also very challenging because she lives in a very congested 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:41.800 area in Manhattan called Inwood, and my god, the exit 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:43.599 exit nine, if you know what I'm talking about, on 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:46.600 eighty seven is just a cluster, you know what. And 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:48.640 most days I can go to the sunken place where 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.600 I live. Sometimes when the kids are crying and when 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:52.520 I'm on that particular exit on the highway and I 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:57.280 just need to breathe. But yeah, today was super stressful 0:10:57.320 --> 0:11:00.280 and I was taking again taking my son taking me 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:04.880 to a Boila's, but this time because of what happened Friday, 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:06.959 so I had to get up. He spent the night 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.080 for the first time ever. That was the first little 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:11.480 piece of stress. I had to get chapter one of 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:14.839 my book done. The second chapter one, Yeah, I did 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:19.920 it over again and anyway, so he stayed over, but 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:22.120 she ran out of milk at three am. And I've 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:25.760 been exclusively breastfeeding, which I did for Rio. But I 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.160 realized like it was the pandemic. We were never not 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:30.440 with each other, so it wasn't that it was nothing. 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:34.800 You know, this is very something. And so today I 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:39.560 brought formula with him, and I was like, you know, 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:41.840 I was gonna. I knew I was walking into like 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.360 having to explain to a boila, like here's the formula, 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:48.160 here's why. Luckily she was supportive. Sometimes you know, now 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:51.199 it's like flipped. Now you get shamed for not breastfeeding. 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:56.720 But just I can't. I can't. I can't be driving, 0:11:57.440 --> 0:11:59.520 you know, thirty minutes each way just to drop off 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:00.400 a baggie of milk. 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:02.160 But on the way. 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:06.600 Home, I just I could. I on my little hands 0:12:06.600 --> 0:12:10.400 free thing. I was like, play calming music, please, just something, 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.319 and it was, you know, it sounded like the background 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:15.839 music if you were to do like a meditation app. 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:18.440 It was it sounds like that. 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:20.320 Now you don't want to fall asleep. So I don't 0:12:20.320 --> 0:12:23.640 recommend it on the highway. But I drive a car. 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:27.040 I drive a Tezzi and fuck, I love this car. 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:28.400 I know we don't like you. 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:32.480 Know who, but I love this car all my god. Okay, 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:35.160 so there's an auto driving feature, I literally and it's 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:37.760 and I turned on the rainbow Road feature, so I 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:41.280 just like tapped the little the little gearshift for thinkingmajigger 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:43.800 twice and then the rainbow Road comes on and the 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:45.880 car is driving for me, and I just have my 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:49.160 hands right here and yes I'm paying attention and ten 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:51.400 and two and all that, and I'm holding on, but 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.040 a little piece of my brain can kind of float 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.920 because the car is sort of taking over for me 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:00.680 in that small way. So I the best I could 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:03.440 do today to get to get back to centered. 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:06.040 It's good to talk about these things because sometimes we 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:08.520 think that we're like alone and the overwhelmed with the 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:11.560 over the work or the whatever, and it's just nice 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:13.640 to know that you're not and that we are all 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:17.160 living kind of like these parallel lives. And then here's 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.080 some solutions. You know that if you found a thing, 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:20.320 so you. 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:22.720 Know what I realized too. If you're listening to broad Ambition, 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:25.520 I hope that you're doing something because usually people listen, 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:28.199 like in the car oh, maybe while you're taking a walk. 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:30.640 I hope that right now, like I hope broad ambition 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:33.280 can be you know, if that helps you can be 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:35.840 a companion to your Yes, we'd love to be your 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:39.840 companion saw moment, because tis the season for all the 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:44.400 the things. Yes, absolutely. My therapist told me I need 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:46.679 to start a and I actually did. I started a 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:50.200 Trello board for my ideas because when I'm telling you, 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:53.600 I am my own worst enemy. It's my creativity because 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:58.480 I'll be like, what if I totally could Yeah, I 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:00.360 could do a lot of things. Like I'm in the 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:02.760 middle of one of my wild ideas, which does to 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:06.480 redo the basement for You's birthday, which is six days, 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:08.880 and I have all the things kind of laying here, 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:10.880 and I'm just like you think I can get a 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:12.720 task crabit on Thanksgiving? 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.599 Yeah, probably not Thanksgiving, but weak. 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:19.440 Like I don't know, but it's, you know, one of anyway. 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:21.880 So I'm trying to find a safe space, like a 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:25.640 not a safe space, a place to put my ideas 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:29.520 before they become a thing that destroys me. And I 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:33.760 back myself into corners with all my ideas, Tiffany, And 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:37.440 that's actually been nice I started it, and I have 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:39.680 like a little I won't tell you all my crazy ideas. Well. 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:41.400 One of them was to run a ten k and 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:44.840 have my my sister friend neighbor train me, which I 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.520 started to do and before I realized I can't commit. 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:52.560 To drink for you're also do you just had the baby? 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:57.160 You are working on the book, and so even just 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:59.480 saying like, you know you're gonna move your body and walk, 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:03.640 and but I not to not to jump shark, but 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:07.960 I would love for you to put on your journalist's hat. Okay, 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:09.440 you know because today it. 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:10.160 Never comes off. 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:14.640 Oh, today is made whole, like launch day. So I 0:15:15.960 --> 0:15:18.360 would love like, so we're gonna name this episode actually 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:20.520 made whole. Let's be let's let's let's name it that. 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:22.720 And so I would love for you if I was 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:26.640 a guest on the show, hi, you know, just to 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:29.200 interview me so the girls can learn more about the 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:33.480 book that's coming out and where they can get it. 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:34.360 Let me get my book? 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:37.600 And she notice she didn't tell me I was working today, 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:40.480 you guys, I don't usually work during brown ambition. 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:44.920 But okay, now today's book episode, that's what I said it. 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:47.440 Where's my where's my free press copy? I know, you 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:50.400 know what, I totally for reader. I was like, what 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:55.920 did I say? I got your damn first book right 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:59.320 behind me free promo? Anyway, who my hair is blocking in? 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:01.840 That's my Now It's fine because I know a little 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.160 bit about Maidhole. Well, the first thing I want to 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:08.680 ask you, well, first, congratulations, because to get immediately, like 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:11.120 the only person I know who got a workbook after 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:13.960 the book was Michelle Obama. They were like, do a workbook? 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:17.280 So and I know that workbooks were becoming more popular, 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:20.640 but it's like a companion to a book that resonates. 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:24.320 And so first, congrats, thank you. 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:28.320 And second, what did they tell you? Did they what 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:31.000 is the workbook? Like? What is it? And then what 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:33.400 was your approach to creating it and making it your own? 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:35.440 To go with Get Good with Money? 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:38.440 So almost immediately they wanted me to do like a workbook, 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:41.760 you know. But you know, Jera had passed away, and 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:44.440 I was just like, I'm not doing anything, leave me alone. 0:16:44.680 --> 0:16:48.840 But I realized that there were people who might have 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:51.480 read Get Good Money who might have felt a little 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:55.000 overwhelmed because it's really like a textbook, you know, Like 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:57.040 I like to think of Gigo money like kind of 0:16:57.080 --> 0:17:00.640 like yeah, just like kind of like if I'm dating myself, 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:04.520 this encyclopedia for like the core components of your financial 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:10.920 life budgeting, savings, that credit, earning, investing, insurance, financial team, networth, 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:14.359 estate planning. Those are the ten steps to financial wholeness. 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.760 But then I knew that there were people who were like, 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:21.200 I wanted something that feels lighter, or I can kind 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:24.600 of get to the work more quickly, and so that 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:26.880 to me is the purpose of a workbook, you know, 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:28.760 Like I read like one of my favorite books is 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:32.879 called like the Twelve the twelve Week Year, So it's 0:17:32.920 --> 0:17:35.399 this great book, and I was like, basically it was 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:37.080 a book that helped to reset the way I thought 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:40.320 about getting things done, helped to get me excited about like, oh, 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:42.240 what I could normally get done in a year, I 0:17:42.240 --> 0:17:43.880 can get done in twelve weeks. But then I got 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:45.639 the work book because I'm like, now I'm ready to 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:49.040 do the work, Like walk me through the actual steps 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:51.159 although and get your money. I was pretty good at 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:54.720 doing that, but with made whole, I was like, here 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:57.480 are the steps to do the work that I'm talking about, 0:17:57.640 --> 0:18:00.440 not just here are the steps in word form. Here's 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:03.080 what it looks like visually, Like say, if it was 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:07.600 a budgeting step, I show you someone's actual budget, you know, like, 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:11.080 here's what it looks like when properly done. And then immediately, 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:13.919 which is important, here's a blank space for you to 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:16.320 do the work right after learning about it, so you. 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:17.200 Can write in this thing. 0:18:17.720 --> 0:18:20.399 Yes, it's a hard cover workbook. Yes, so that was 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:22.720 important to me. Yeah, and also it's important to me 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:24.600 that it was a hardcover workbook and that it was 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:26.520 wider because I wanted to have like so if you're 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:29.560 watching it, we could see it. So here it is like, 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:31.080 so here, I'll show you the difference. So this is 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:31.840 because like I don't. 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:34.000 I don't have a copy yet, just to reiterate that 0:18:34.359 --> 0:18:38.200 I forgot it. But yeah, that looks nice for people 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:39.000 who have one. 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:43.440 Body. And then this is madeholds. He made wholes a 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:46.199 little wider, and because it's meant to like in a 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:48.560 little bit thinner, a little skinnier, she a little slim. 0:18:48.680 --> 0:18:51.760 This is fix here. But also too, I wanted it 0:18:51.800 --> 0:18:54.240 that wider because I wanted when you opened it, like 0:18:54.280 --> 0:18:55.879 you could you know, because I'm like I would use 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:58.040 workbooks so you should be able to open it, lay 0:18:58.040 --> 0:18:59.040 it flat and do the work. 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:04.359 Oh yeah, and it just relaxes, and so it was 0:19:04.400 --> 0:19:05.000 important to me. 0:19:05.200 --> 0:19:08.240 Then, you know, it was like, read the step, and 0:19:08.240 --> 0:19:11.359 the steps are a little bit more, you know, more 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:14.360 concise than a get er with money, but then look 0:19:14.400 --> 0:19:16.520 at it visually and then here's a chance to do 0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:18.640 the step. So that was really important. So that's one 0:19:18.640 --> 0:19:21.080 of the ways that it's different. Something else too that 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:25.680 I integrated into made holes that I know that as 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:29.159 an educator, I know that sometimes people get really overwhelmed. 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:31.720 You know, it's like, oh, this is you know, maybe 0:19:31.720 --> 0:19:35.320 this chapter is ten fifteen pages. I'm feeling overwhelmed. I'm 0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:38.159 not doing all this. So and some of the chapters 0:19:38.200 --> 0:19:40.600 where it made sense, I added something called a quick start, 0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:43.080 which is if you don't do any of these. So, 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:46.320 for example, with the budgeting chapter, I have a whole 0:19:46.359 --> 0:19:49.200 budgeting system and you might not feel ready to quite 0:19:49.200 --> 0:19:50.840 do it. So I'm like, even if you don't do 0:19:50.880 --> 0:19:54.960 the whole budgeting system, here is a split it before 0:19:55.000 --> 0:19:58.160 you get it step where if you don't do your budget, 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:00.879