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Speaker 1: Today day's episode is all about how to silence your
Speaker 1: inner critic when it gets too loud and tells you
Speaker 1: to give up. How many of you in the last
Speaker 1: seven days have heard your inner critic say you're not
Speaker 1: good enough? Well, then this episode is for you. How
Speaker 1: many of you have heard your inner critics say you
Speaker 1: just can't get it together? Can you? Well, then this
Speaker 1: episode is for you. How many of you have heard
Speaker 1: your inner critic say, have you seen what they're doing?
Speaker 1: Have you seen how far behind you are already? Can
Speaker 1: you believe it's only the end of January and you've
Speaker 1: already fallen apart. If the answer is yes, this episode
Speaker 1: is for you. Research shows that only nine percent of
Speaker 1: people that make resolutions complete them. In fact, research goes
Speaker 1: on to show that twenty three percent of people quit
Speaker 1: their resolution by the end of the first week and
Speaker 1: forty three percent quit by the end of January. If
Speaker 1: you are one of those people, this episode is for you.
Speaker 1: And by the way, some of you may still be
Speaker 1: going on strong, but your inner critic is still loud.
Speaker 1: Even if you're nailing your new As resolution, you're getting
Speaker 1: it right, you're on point, you're still hearing that voice
Speaker 1: say you're not good enough, you're not strong enough, you're
Speaker 1: not moving fast enough, you're not getting better enough. So interesting, now,
Speaker 1: what's really interesting is we're not struggling because we broke
Speaker 1: our new As resolution. We break our new As resolution
Speaker 1: because of how we talk to ourselves. Think about that
Speaker 1: for a second. The reason we quit doing something is
Speaker 1: because of the story we tell ourselves about it. Think
Speaker 1: about the last time you quit something. Think about the
Speaker 1: last time you gave up on something. Think about the
Speaker 1: last time you had a habit that you couldn't keep up.
Speaker 1: Promise you that somewhere your inner critic told you that
Speaker 1: you should feel guilty, embarrassed, ashamed because of where you were,
Speaker 1: and there's no point in carrying on. You fell off
Speaker 1: once and your inner critic said, you're just going to
Speaker 1: fall off again, what's the point. Or you're doing something brilliantly,
Speaker 1: and your inner critic said, you're still behind, you'll never
Speaker 1: catch up. We don't fail because we're not disciplined. It's
Speaker 1: because of how we talk to ourselves when we mess up,
Speaker 1: when we lose a sense of discipline, a habit, a routine.
Speaker 1: The way we talk to ourselves is what steals away
Speaker 1: our momentum, our drive, our enthusiasm, our energy. It's how
Speaker 1: we speak to ourselves in the quiet moments, in the
Speaker 1: silent moments, in the moments in between, that defines what
Speaker 1: happened outside of it. Now, I'm sure all of you
Speaker 1: are listening right now and thinking, jay I can relate
Speaker 1: to all of this. And what's fascinating when I was
Speaker 1: looking at the research is there are two broad types
Speaker 1: of self criticism. From a researcher named Sullivan, a clinical
Speaker 1: psychologist based in Atlanta. Now, some of these thoughts this
Speaker 1: in a critic is first person I statements like I'm
Speaker 1: so lazy, I'm so complacent, I'm so not smart enough, right,
Speaker 1: whatever it may be, it's I'm so fill in the blank.
Speaker 1: And other people use second person language like you didn't
Speaker 1: go to the gym all week, or you're not good enough,
Speaker 1: or you're never going to get that job, or you
Speaker 1: can never start a podcast. This second type of statement
Speaker 1: tends to be really really challenging to listen to, and
Speaker 1: Sulomon says that our brains process those thoughts as if
Speaker 1: someone in a position of authority is talking to us.
Speaker 1: They know all our flaws, and they pretend like they
Speaker 1: can predict the future. Right when you're hearing that voice
Speaker 1: that says you can't do it, you're not good enough,
Speaker 1: you're not smart enough, it's actually even more challenging. So,
Speaker 1: whether you're hearing I'm so lazy, or whether you're hearing
Speaker 1: you're so lazy, I'm going to share with you seven principles,
Speaker 1: seven tips and hacks to help you navigate your inner
Speaker 1: critic and build a healthier relationship with the inner critic
Speaker 1: so that you can actually engage in a dialogue with it. Now.
Speaker 1: These tips are super practical, super accessible. You'll be able
Speaker 1: to implement them right away from today. You won't have
Speaker 1: to buy something or develop a new skill or tool
Speaker 1: or whatever it may be. You'll be able to do
Speaker 1: this today. So take a screenshot of your favorite ones,
Speaker 1: make notes, share this with a friend, because this episode
Speaker 1: is going to help you become kinded to yourself, more
Speaker 1: compassionate to yourself, yet still let you be driven and ambitious.
Speaker 1: I think that's our worry. Our worry is that if
Speaker 1: we're not hard on ourselves, then we won't achieve great things.
Speaker 1: But we're scared that if we're too kind to ourselves
Speaker 1: then will be lethargic or complacent. Right, how many times
Speaker 1: have you ever thought to yourself, well, if I don't
Speaker 1: put pressure on myself, then I'm just going to coast.
Speaker 1: And how many times have you tried to think, well,
Speaker 1: I'm going to put so much pressure on myself, but
Speaker 1: that also limits your ability. So in this episode, I'm
Speaker 1: going to help you understand how do you navigate the
Speaker 1: inner critic so that you can still be ambitious and
Speaker 1: driven and succeed in whatever way you describe that word,
Speaker 1: and at the same time be kind, compassionate, and mindful. Now,
Speaker 1: let me ask you a question when was the last
Speaker 1: time you helped someone that you hate? If your answer
Speaker 1: was never, great, if your answer was actually, I do
Speaker 1: remember helping someone I hate, how consistently and how constantly
Speaker 1: did you help that person? Generally, we don't help people
Speaker 1: that we hate. We don't invest in people that we hate,
Speaker 1: especially not consistently or constantly. So think about this. We
Speaker 1: think we can hate ourselves into changing, but you can
Speaker 1: only love yourself into changing. Let me say that again.
Speaker 1: You can't hate yourself into changing because you don't invest,
Speaker 1: you don't give time, you don't give energy to someone
Speaker 1: you hate. So if you hate yourself, how can you
Speaker 1: bring out the best in yourself? If you hate yourself,
Speaker 1: how can you build a life that you're excited by it. So,
Speaker 1: just recognizing that this mindset of I'm going to criticize myself,
Speaker 1: I'm going to put pressure on myself, I'm going to
Speaker 1: hate myself into changing, I'm going to hate myself into
Speaker 1: being better doesn't make sense. And by the way, we
Speaker 1: do this to the people we love in our lives.
Speaker 1: We often think that if I make someone feel bad enough,
Speaker 1: they'll be good to me. If I make someone feel
Speaker 1: like they're messing up, they'll get better. How many times
Speaker 1: have people improved because of shame, because of guilt? How
Speaker 1: many people have you shamed into change? How many people
Speaker 1: have you guilted into change? How many people have you
Speaker 1: humiliated into change? And how many people have you criticized
Speaker 1: into change? Maybe they did it for a bit, but
Speaker 1: not long term. We can't guilt people into change. You
Speaker 1: can't shame people into change. You can't embarrass people into change,
Speaker 1: So stop doing it to yourself. You can't hate yourself
Speaker 1: into change. We change because someone believes in us. We
Speaker 1: change because someone loves us. We change because someone invests enough.
Speaker 1: You will change because you invest in your truelf. You
Speaker 1: will change because you believe in yourself. You will change
Speaker 1: because you love yourself. If you want to be better,
Speaker 1: be better with yourself. If you want to do more,
Speaker 1: be kinder to yourself. That's what you'll respond to. How
Speaker 1: many people in your life respond positively to hate, guilt,
Speaker 1: or shame, Yet we all still try to hate, guilt
Speaker 1: and shame ourselves into positive change. This is your reminder
Speaker 1: to be more compassionate, more kind, and more loving. I
Speaker 1: was saying this to a friend the other day. Who
Speaker 1: are saying that all he does is gives himself a
Speaker 1: hard time. He'll overanalyze every situation, every conversation, a presentation
Speaker 1: at work. He'll relive that moment again and again and
Speaker 1: again in his head and keep telling himself it should
Speaker 1: have been better, It could have been better if only
Speaker 1: he did this, if only he did that? What does
Speaker 1: that do? It makes him feel discouraged? But what if
Speaker 1: he said to himself, let's make a plan of how
Speaker 1: to be better next time. Let's make a plan of
Speaker 1: how we're going to improve next time. Let's actually take
Speaker 1: a look at what we did great and where we
Speaker 1: can grow. Let's look at both greatness and growth in ourselves.
Speaker 1: Let's not be blind to our flaws. Let's not be
Speaker 1: falsely flattering or complimentary. We don't want that either. But
Speaker 1: let's focus on greatness and growth within ourselves. After a presentation,
Speaker 1: asking yourself, what was great about it? Okay? Where can
Speaker 1: I grow? After a phone call a tough one? What
Speaker 1: was that great? At? What can I grow at? So
Speaker 1: quick to judge ourselves and point out all the growth
Speaker 1: and actually not even growth. We point out the guilt,
Speaker 1: but we avoid the growth and the greatness. Remember, you
Speaker 1: can only love yourself into change. You can only love
Speaker 1: yourself into change. You can't hate yourself into change. Step
Speaker 1: number two, this is a really important step. Give your
Speaker 1: inner critic and name. If we want to remove that
Speaker 1: idea of you're lazy or I'm lazy, we have to
Speaker 1: shift to recognizing that your inner critic is an external voice,
Speaker 1: that it isn't your voice, it's not how you feel
Speaker 1: about yourself. And this is a really really important tool
Speaker 1: because this next point that I want to share in
Speaker 1: these both are correlated and connected. Is your inner critic.
Speaker 1: It's not your voice because someone said it to you first.
Speaker 1: You may think it's your belief, but it's not your belief.
Speaker 1: You heard it from someone before. I remember having a
Speaker 1: client whose mom used to tell her that she looked overweight,
Speaker 1: that she looked fat, that she didn't look good when
Speaker 1: she was a young girl, and as she grew older,
Speaker 1: no matter how her body shaped and shifted and everything else,
Speaker 1: she still had that in her voice. No matter what
Speaker 1: she wore, if she wore a color that her mother
Speaker 1: didn't like, she heard her mother's voice. What happens, though,
Speaker 1: is that over time, the person's voice merges into sounding
Speaker 1: like yours. If you repeat someone else's statement. Enough, in
Speaker 1: your mind, it sounds like it's your own voice. So
Speaker 1: I want you to think about it who said it
Speaker 1: to you first, and you might even name it that person.
Speaker 1: So if it was your mom, if it was your dad,
Speaker 1: if it was the teacher at school that kept saying
Speaker 1: something to you that has become that voice, maybe let's
Speaker 1: give that name to that voice. That way we can
Speaker 1: recognize that it's a conversation between us and our teacher,
Speaker 1: or us in our parents, as opposed to us and ourselves.
Speaker 1: We start recognizing that it isn't how we feel about ourselves,
Speaker 1: that this is an adopted belief, that this is a
Speaker 1: belief that we've picked up. How does that help? When
Speaker 1: you give your inner critic a name, you start recognizing
Speaker 1: that this is a conversation, That this is a relationship
Speaker 1: that you've built that you can distance from, that you
Speaker 1: can disconnect from, that it isn't something within you. And
Speaker 1: when you identify who said it to you first, you
Speaker 1: also start to recognize how careful we have to be
Speaker 1: in the influences we allow into our space. And now
Speaker 1: we don't want to find other people who reaffirm that voice. Often,
Speaker 1: if we had a parent that treated us that way.
Speaker 1: We also find a partner who treats us that way
Speaker 1: because it feels familiar, it feels relatable, and Tick not
Speaker 1: Harnt talked a lot about this, this idea that we
Speaker 1: crave familiar pain. So you would rather repeat a toxic
Speaker 1: familiar pattern than break it to experience an unfamiliar uncertain pattern.
Speaker 1: So you would rather choose toxic familiarity than untoxic uncertainty.
Speaker 1: Let me say that again, you would rather choose toxic
Speaker 1: familiarity than untoxic uncertainty because we'd rather deal with problems
Speaker 1: that we're aware of than the challenge of a new problem.
Speaker 1: So often what we do is, if our parents believed
Speaker 1: a certain thing about us, we find a partner who
Speaker 1: believes it as well, or we do the opposite. We
Speaker 1: try and find the partner who adores us and makes
Speaker 1: that feeling go away. But guess what, it doesn't because
Speaker 1: the voice is still in our heads. We're looking for
Speaker 1: the partner who tells us the opposite without forgetting the
Speaker 1: message we've gained from our parents. So give your inner
Speaker 1: critic a name. Name it after that teacher or that parent,
Speaker 1: so you can make it a conversation or give it
Speaker 1: an imaginary name to even weaken it further, to remove
Speaker 1: that authority from it and who said it to. You.
Speaker 1: First recognize that this isn't your voice, and actually say that.
Speaker 1: Whenever you hear that in a voice, say this is
Speaker 1: not me, this is not my voice. I am not
Speaker 1: my thoughts, I am not my mind. Actually repeat that
Speaker 1: with me right now. I am not my thoughts. I
Speaker 1: can choose my thoughts. I can choose which thoughts to
Speaker 1: give energy to. I can choose the voice inside my head.
Speaker 1: Step number four is remove the I am statement. Instead
Speaker 1: of saying I am late, say I am experiencing laziness,
Speaker 1: I'm experiencing whatever emotion it may be, allowing yourself to
Speaker 1: create some distance from that emotion or what I accept is.
Speaker 1: I may say I am feeling lazy and I am
Speaker 1: going to make a plan, I am feeling tired, and
Speaker 1: I'm going to get to bed early tonight. So if
Speaker 1: you're accepting it, you can say the I am, but
Speaker 1: you're still saying I am feeling instead of saying you
Speaker 1: are right. That distance allows you to disconnect from that
Speaker 1: inner critic. It allows you to create some space between
Speaker 1: you and that inner critic, so you can now fill
Speaker 1: that space with enthusiasm and energy. The repetition of I'm lazy,
Speaker 1: I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough, I can't
Speaker 1: do that. What that does is it creates a story
Speaker 1: and a narrative that you repeat and perpetuate in your life.
Speaker 1: Step number five, This one has probably been my favorite
Speaker 1: one because I think what we often try and do
Speaker 1: is we try to silence the inner critic before taking
Speaker 1: the right step. And this is pretty tough because the
Speaker 1: inner critic doesn't go away. I still have an inner
Speaker 1: critic today, right after all these years, I still have
Speaker 1: an inner critic. It still shows up. It still turns
Speaker 1: up because over years I'd heard things, You're not good
Speaker 1: enough of that, you can't do that, You're going to
Speaker 1: lose everything, you don't deserve this. Whatever it may have
Speaker 1: been right, it still appears. And what I've realized is
Speaker 1: that I have a few choices with it. I can
Speaker 1: either think, Okay, I need to get rid of this though,
Speaker 1: and then I'll live my life right. Once I get
Speaker 1: rid of this though, then I'll take action. And actually
Speaker 1: it's the opposite. Don't let it stop you from making
Speaker 1: the right choice or taking action. You can be self
Speaker 1: critical and still work out. You can be self critical
Speaker 1: and still meditate. So often what we do is our
Speaker 1: mind says, oh, you've missed meditation yesterday, what's the point
Speaker 1: of meditating today? And then you think, all right, well,
Speaker 1: let's not meditate today. Well, no, you can be critical
Speaker 1: of yourself and still turn up to meditation. You can
Speaker 1: be critical of yourself and still work out. And it's
Speaker 1: better to take the right action because the right action
Speaker 1: will allow you to gain more strength to have a
Speaker 1: healthier conversation. You'll then be able to say, well, I
Speaker 1: worked out today and I feel great, So I'm going
Speaker 1: to keep working out. And guess what, I feel great
Speaker 1: when I work out, So I'm going to keep working out.
Speaker 1: I'm going to keep building that muscle. So don't let
Speaker 1: something stop you from making and taking the right choice
Speaker 1: and right decision. So many of us block ourselves because
Speaker 1: of a couple of misses, because of a belief about ourselves.
Speaker 1: How many of you have missed out on a great
Speaker 1: opportunity that was offered to you because somewhere you felt
Speaker 1: you don't deserve that opportunity. Maybe you bumped into someone
Speaker 1: and they said, to hey, message me, I'd love to
Speaker 1: talk to you about this opportunity, and you didn't even
Speaker 1: message because you were so scared that you'd mess it
Speaker 1: up and you'd rather not even turn up. You'd rather
Speaker 1: not even go there. How many of you in your
Speaker 1: life have tried something and because it didn't work out
Speaker 1: one day, because one day didn't go wrong, you changed
Speaker 1: your belief about yourself. Please, please, please. Your inner critic
Speaker 1: is a retrainable voice. Your inner critic is not a truth.
Speaker 1: Your inner critic is not a reality. Your inner critic
Speaker 1: is a changeable, trainable voice. And that's what we're trying
Speaker 1: to do here. We're trying to make it a voice
Speaker 1: that is like your coach in your mind, that is
Speaker 1: going to excel and allow you to want to do better.
Speaker 1: Ask yourself, when you want a friend to improve, when
Speaker 1: you want to encourage, cheer and enthuse your how do
Speaker 1: you talk to them? How would you explain them to
Speaker 1: be better? And this is an activity that I want
Speaker 1: you to do. Find the area of your life where
Speaker 1: you most overthink, overanalyze, and overwhelm yourself. What's something that
Speaker 1: triggers you regularly into your inner critic giving you a
Speaker 1: hard and tough time. Let's say that when you make
Speaker 1: a mistake at work, that's when you're the kind of
Speaker 1: person that wants to lock yourself in a bathroom and completely,
Speaker 1: you know, attack yourself. In that moment, I want you
Speaker 1: to ask yourself this question. How would I connect with
Speaker 1: a friend, How would I connect with a loved one
Speaker 1: if they just told me this news? How would I
Speaker 1: talk to them? Not? What would I say to them?
Speaker 1: How would I talk to them? I'm sure it's with love.
Speaker 1: I'm sure it's with empathy. Sure it's with compassion. Okay,
Speaker 1: Now what would you say to them? You wouldn't just
Speaker 1: say to them, Hey, it's all going to be fine.
Speaker 1: And you wouldn't say to them, oh, you've really messed
Speaker 1: up this time. You're the worst. You're going to get fired.
Speaker 1: You'd say, Hey, let's figure out how we can avoid
Speaker 1: this mistake in the future. Let's figure out how to
Speaker 1: improve this situation right now. Let's build the skill set
Speaker 1: we need in order to perform better. Notice how the
Speaker 1: way you talk to yourself transforms how you talk to
Speaker 1: others and how you listen to others. I've realized that
Speaker 1: when I miss a day of going to the gym,
Speaker 1: giving myself grace allows me to commit again tomorrow. Making
Speaker 1: myself guilty mayn't force me to work out today, but
Speaker 1: it doesn't last. Let's have a day where I eat unhealthy,
Speaker 1: or a couple of days where I ate something that
Speaker 1: I know wasn't good for me, and then I can
Speaker 1: beerate myself. I can criticize myself, I can slander myself.
Speaker 1: I can do all of that stuff. But if I
Speaker 1: actually ask myself, Hey, why did that happen? What was
Speaker 1: it about that day that drove me to that decision? Oh?
Speaker 1: I was tired? Oh I was jet lagged. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: that was the day I was feeling really stressed. Understood. Okay,
Speaker 1: so let me make sure that I'm resting more. Let
Speaker 1: me make sure that I'm sleeping better this weekend, and
Speaker 1: then I'll make better choices. Checking in with yourself and
Speaker 1: asking yourself, why was that? Why did I do that?
Speaker 1: Why did I miss going to the gym? What was
Speaker 1: the reason? Rather than being like you miss going to
Speaker 1: the gym, You're the worst? Now, a couple more things
Speaker 1: I want to mention to you. We have to start
Speaker 1: journaling our winds and good moments. We have to start
Speaker 1: sharing them more deeply. What we usually do is when
Speaker 1: something good happens in our life, we celebrate for a day,
Speaker 1: but when something bad happens in our life, we cry
Speaker 1: for a month. It's no wonder that our negative thoughts
Speaker 1: become more pronounced. Right. If you get something wrong, you
Speaker 1: literally tell yourself every day for a week, I'm the worst.
Speaker 1: I should have done better. But if you get something right,
Speaker 1: you may say once, oh, yeah, I did good. And
Speaker 1: whether we're being modest, whether playing ourselves down, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be, we're training our mind to say, when I
Speaker 1: do something wrong, I go really hard on myself. And
Speaker 1: when I do something well, I consider it to be easy.
Speaker 1: I consider it to be expected. We expect greatness from ourselves,
Speaker 1: and so we only amplify our weaknesses and flaws. Next
Speaker 1: time you do something right, next time you do something well,
Speaker 1: I want you to journal it deeply. I want you
Speaker 1: to share it with a friend. And by the way,
Speaker 1: I got into a bad habit of this when a
Speaker 1: few years ago, when I was really grateful that so
Speaker 1: many of my dreams were coming true, when I was
Speaker 1: speaking to friends, I started to play down my achievements
Speaker 1: because I didn't want to make other people feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: And while I was well intentioned. What ended up happening
Speaker 1: is I started becoming more negative because what I was
Speaker 1: doing is I was amplifying my negative experience and minimizing
Speaker 1: my positive experience. Now, if you do this consistently, what
Speaker 1: ends up happening is your spending more time talking about
Speaker 1: the mistakes and flaws and spending less time talking about
Speaker 1: your successes. No, I'm not telling you to be arrogant
Speaker 1: and walk around being like, look what I achieve, Look
Speaker 1: what I did. That's not the point. But the point
Speaker 1: is if you don't deeply cherish, welcome, celebrate your success,
Speaker 1: is deeply you're training your mind to be more critical
Speaker 1: than the cheerleader. We need to strengthen the cheerleader in
Speaker 1: our mind, not the arrogant person, not the egotistic person,
Speaker 1: but the cheerleader that says you're doing great, you're on
Speaker 1: the right path, you're making the right choices, keep going.
Speaker 1: Not the voice that says you're the best in the world.
Speaker 1: No one's as good as you. Everyone else sucks, Right,
Speaker 1: it's not that voice. So notice the difference between the critic,
Speaker 1: the cheerleader, and the person who's actually cheating you. Right,
Speaker 1: we're not trying to be cheated by our ego. We're
Speaker 1: trying to be challenging and enthused by the cheerleader. Final step,
Speaker 1: at the end of every day, write down three things
Speaker 1: you did that day that you did well. Three things.
Speaker 1: It could be as simple as washing the dishes and
Speaker 1: saying to yourself today, I did a really good job
Speaker 1: washing the dishes. It could be you got the laundry done.
Speaker 1: It could be that you wrote that article, you launched
Speaker 1: that podcast, you got to the gym. Whatever is, what
Speaker 1: are three things you did that you did well today
Speaker 1: that you made happen today. We have to start retraining
Speaker 1: that thought because guess what, most of us, when our
Speaker 1: head it's the pillow, will list all the things we
Speaker 1: didn't do. This isn't positive thinking. This is improving the
Speaker 1: conversation in your head. If your head it's the pillow
Speaker 1: and you go, I didn't do that, I didn't do that,
Speaker 1: I didn't do that. Basically, what you're saying is you're
Speaker 1: a failure. But if you said to yourself, Okay, I
Speaker 1: didn't do those three things, but I did that, and
Speaker 1: I did that and I did that. All right, I'm
Speaker 1: doing okay, I'm doing good. I can do better, but
Speaker 1: I'm doing good. I really I hope that this episode
Speaker 1: helps you silence, calm, and navigate your inner critic. I'm
Speaker 1: hoping that you can be kinder and more compassionate to
Speaker 1: yourself so that you can be more successful, so that
Speaker 1: you can achieve more, so that you can be more impactful.
Speaker 1: And I'm wishing you a year of productivity, performance, but
Speaker 1: also patience, calmness, and love. Thank you so much for listening.
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