1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voice mailbox for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: What are the cases I want to hear from you? 8 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're 9 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: leave your question at the sound of the beat. 12 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's. 13 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 3: So Okay. So I met this guy about twenty years ago, 14 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 3: and then we both went separate ways, and right now 15 00:00:57,600 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 3: we're reconnecting, and I think he likes me, or he 16 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 3: sends me like signals that he likes me, But at 17 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:10,039 Speaker 3: the same time, he keeps telling me how he has 18 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 3: all this other woman he calls them, but then he 19 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 3: tells me like we're dating. So I am very honestly, 20 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 3: I don't even know what to think anymore. Can you 21 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 3: please help me? 22 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: M Marie Mama, No, there's nothing to be confused about 23 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: if he's straight up telling you you uh uh. I 24 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 1: mean at least I'm not the type of woman that 25 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: wants to share. You're my man, I'm your woman. It 26 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:47,559 Speaker 1: is what it is one on one. But if he's 27 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: just like trying to figure it out and you're just 28 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: one of the bunch, girl, no, you should not be 29 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: an option. You need to know your value and give 30 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: yourself your place because he never will, so you got 31 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: to cut it off. I'm gonna be real with you, 32 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: like if trust me, I feel it in my heart 33 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,519 Speaker 1: he's not ready because if he was, his actions would 34 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 1: be matching his words. You can tell me all this 35 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: and this and blah bringing that freaking moon to me. No, 36 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: don't tell me, show me. And I feel like he's 37 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 1: showing his ass. So that's all I'm going to say. 38 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 1: Made mm hmmy ma. I hope I need to hear 39 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: about this again. So you need to tell me. You 40 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: need to update us here onto your cheeks because I 41 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: need to know. We need to know. Next question comes 42 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: from Eric. 43 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 4: Hey, chickies, my question to you is I have always 44 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:05,239 Speaker 4: come from a very family. Recently, due to my sexuality, 45 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 4: my family has become very toxic. Towards me to a 46 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 4: point that I really don't feel comfortable being around them anymore. 47 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:19,000 Speaker 4: I know that at times your family has been very toxic. 48 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 4: What advice would you give me? Do you think it's 49 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 4: okay for me to walk away from certain people that 50 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 4: are toxic in my family? 51 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: Eric, I'm so sorry that you're going through that. People, 52 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: even if it's your family, especially if it's your family, 53 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 1: I feel like should accept you for the way you 54 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: choose or don't choose to live your life, because I 55 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: feel like that's a whole other episode as far as sexuality, 56 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: and like I just feel like it's no one else's 57 00:03:56,320 --> 00:04:00,040 Speaker 1: business but yours. And if you are being vulnerable and 58 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 1: sharing this with certain family members and they're becoming toxic 59 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: towards you, then I absolutely feel that it is okay 60 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: for you to create a boundary and for you to 61 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: love people from afar because the world has so many 62 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: different opinions and so many different things when it comes 63 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 1: to sexuality, that it is just like the people that 64 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 1: are your family and your blood should not make it 65 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:27,480 Speaker 1: harder for you. And if they're not accepting you, then 66 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: with all in all, then I'm sorry you should just 67 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: create some space some healthy space for yourself so that 68 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 1: you're able to flourish and be proud of who you are. 69 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: And if that means certain people are not going to 70 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 1: be in your life, even if they do carry your 71 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:52,279 Speaker 1: same blood and you carry theirs, it is okay. Is 72 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: absolutely okay for you to say, you know what, I'm 73 00:04:55,560 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: going to love you from here. So that is my 74 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 1: advice to you, And don't feel bad about it. If 75 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,919 Speaker 1: someone is making you sad, if someone is making you 76 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: feel negative feelings in any way, then I would say, hey, 77 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 1: I want to be happy. Let me go towards the 78 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: people that make me happy and love me for who 79 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 1: I am. So shine bright, baby, shine bright. All right, guys, 80 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: we have a question from an anonymous listener. Let's see. 81 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 2: So I'm married. My coworker is married. We had an 82 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 2: affair for about five years. It's been about three years 83 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 2: since we stopped, and he wants to start up again. 84 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. 85 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:58,719 Speaker 1: Okay, So this is called your cheekies, right, So you're 86 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 1: asking me, and I know now, I know why it's anonymous. 87 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 1: You don't want me to know your name, which is fine. 88 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: I'm assuming you're still married. I'm assuming he's still married, babe. 89 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: Stop a no penis in the world. That good for 90 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 1: you to cheat on your man. And if you're not 91 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: happy with your man, leave his ass. But do not cheat. 92 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: And I'm telling you because it will. It will come 93 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,920 Speaker 1: and bite you in the ass one way or the other, 94 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,279 Speaker 1: even if your man never finds out that you're cheating 95 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 1: on him, or you just like, Okay, we want to 96 00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: start up again and we'll just do it one time. Well, 97 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 1: that one time's going to turn into two and to 98 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: three and then you're going to be in it another 99 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:41,240 Speaker 1: three years of your life. And it's completely toxic. You 100 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: are inviting toxicity into your life by doing that. If 101 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: that's what you want to do, then you need to 102 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 1: be single. What you're going based off of is the 103 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 1: adrenaline of like, oh my god, this is exciting and 104 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 1: this and that. Then that's something you got to talk 105 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 1: to your husband about. Then you need to put on 106 00:06:57,160 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: a wig. Then you need a freaking I don't know, 107 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: do something type of role playing with your man so 108 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:03,599 Speaker 1: that you can get that out of you if that's 109 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:06,840 Speaker 1: what you're craving. But this is your cheekies, and I'm 110 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:08,359 Speaker 1: gonna be row with your cheeks is telling you no, 111 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 1: you're asking me. I'm gonna be like, do not start that. 112 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: You are playing with fire, bab You are playing with fire. 113 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: And if you think leaving your man for this other 114 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: person and he's cheating on his wife, girl is gonna 115 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: do the same thing to you. So mm hmm, I'm sorry. 116 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: I gotta be road with you. Shame on you, do 117 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: not do that again. If you already stopped it, don't start. Okay, 118 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 1: you heard it here on your cheekys. Baby, This episode, 119 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 1: you guys, is like real caliente. Okay, and I'm getting hot. Okay. 120 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: Last question, Esperanza. Let's see what you gotta say girl, 121 00:07:52,800 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: and my goodness. 122 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 2: Okay. 123 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 1: So Esperance is asking me in Spanish, what do I 124 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: feel about one of my uncles being in this thing 125 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: called casala formosos, which is like kind of like a 126 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: big brother and everyone's in the house and they don't 127 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: have any contact with outside world, and it's like a 128 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: huge thing. Right now, Oh, that has contesta Esperanza, Esperance, 129 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 1: buenolupes mobien andmosos. Novel Programma be as Quantas calls us 130 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:36,199 Speaker 1: is the in TikTok Ladaki stembiendo almbre. The tral Artista 131 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:45,679 Speaker 1: is the express movie in La Kastan was not in 132 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: contact mass movie posueno for felies is as felis you're 133 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: mosqu So. Anyways, I was telling Esperanta you guys that 134 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: of course I would love for my uncle to win. 135 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 1: If he's happy, then I'm happy, And I know it's 136 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: very I'm excited, and I'm happy that people are getting 137 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:17,439 Speaker 1: to see the man behind the artist and getting to 138 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,079 Speaker 1: know him in a different way, because it's it is 139 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 1: a very vulnerable situation, like you're there with those people, 140 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:25,319 Speaker 1: you're talking about the most intimate things and parts of 141 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:28,800 Speaker 1: your life with no contact, you know, to the outside world. 142 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: I don't know if i'd be able to do it, 143 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 1: to be honest, so I like admire him for that. 144 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: That's basically what I was telling Esperanza, So esperan Is 145 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:48,080 Speaker 1: and you guys, thank you so much for your questions. 146 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: Thank you for taking the time to listen to Dear 147 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: Cheeky's and Cheeky's and chill. 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