Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Bec Tilly and Tanya rap an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing it scrub a dub. This
Speaker 2: is a Dear Bonya episode. It is back to back weeks.
Speaker 3: Different from Ask Banya. We've discussed this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's not Ask Banya, it's Dear Bonie.
Speaker 2: These are in depth questions that need in depth answers. Yes,
Speaker 2: and again this is just our experience. We're just answering unprofessionally, yes,
Speaker 2: but honestly about how we would handle the situations that
Speaker 2: y'all are going through if we.
Speaker 1: Were in your shoes, So like if you put your
Speaker 1: feet in our shoes, well, if we put our feet
Speaker 1: in your shoes, right, what we would do in that
Speaker 1: situation exactly? And we can only gauge from our.
Speaker 2: Perspective exactly, from our personal experience exactly, And that's where
Speaker 2: our answers come from the heart, all of us here
Speaker 2: in the scrubbing In.
Speaker 1: But I do feel wiser, if I must say so,
Speaker 1: because I'm older now, So I do tell you so
Speaker 1: much how quickly we forget? Yeah, yeah, but I do
Speaker 1: feel smarter and wiser.
Speaker 2: What time were you born? Though?
Speaker 1: On the eighteen nine something PM.
Speaker 2: So it's technically you haven't gotten there yet.
Speaker 1: It goes by the time I heard.
Speaker 2: Challenge, or just like because you forgot, I didn't forget.
Speaker 1: Where's my text message? Smarter?
Speaker 2: We're having a small day. So, yeah, you do feel wiser.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: I feel exponentially wiser than I did yesterday. Wow, you
Speaker 1: get ready for this advice.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to hear what you offered the Rubbers today.
Speaker 1: Yeah, watch what I do this year?
Speaker 2: Stay tuned.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sonic the Hedgehog just zooming around you.
Speaker 2: We have referenced Sonic on this podcast a lot, which
Speaker 2: is so unexpected.
Speaker 1: I know, I can't tell you why I want to
Speaker 1: be on that movie. I want to be a character.
Speaker 1: I want to be like the modern woman Hedgehog. I
Speaker 1: don't know if she exists, but if she does, I
Speaker 1: so badly want to voice her.
Speaker 2: You did an audition, you remember for the character and
Speaker 2: how your voice would sound if you.
Speaker 1: Get to be a I don't know if that made
Speaker 1: it to the movie company that makes those.
Speaker 3: Can we hear that again?
Speaker 1: I can't remember exactly how I did it. But she's
Speaker 1: kind of like this.
Speaker 2: She was really cute.
Speaker 1: She was have like a high, big voice, and she
Speaker 1: was like, come on, Sonic, my god, this it's cute.
Speaker 3: Right, Why can't you just be your regular voice. You've
Speaker 3: kind of a high pitch.
Speaker 2: Now you need to go back to your voice that
Speaker 2: used to have with air R.
Speaker 1: Rose. So I'm saving that.
Speaker 3: For I also want to have that. I think I
Speaker 3: have that.
Speaker 1: We have a packed by the time I'm thirty three,
Speaker 1: so I have you have for about six years. Well
Speaker 1: here's the thing. I think Andy is attractive.
Speaker 3: Andy, come here for a second. Thank you. He is
Speaker 3: a good looking guy.
Speaker 2: You think he's smart.
Speaker 1: I think he's attractive and smart, and I do think
Speaker 1: he's nice. Yeah, but we work together, so that's weird.
Speaker 3: That's a good Amy Rose voice right there. Yeah, Gypsy Rose.
Speaker 1: I also realized. I also realized, did you end up
Speaker 1: seeing Inside Out too? No?
Speaker 2: But I'm really excited too, Okay.
Speaker 1: So I also just want to put it in the
Speaker 1: universe that when Inside Out three comes out, I really
Speaker 1: want there to be a delulu emotion and I need.
Speaker 2: And I want to.
Speaker 1: Right, yes, I need this to happen.
Speaker 2: How do who makes some is that Pixar?
Speaker 1: Pixar? Yeah, well, we got.
Speaker 2: To find someone who works there because that's good.
Speaker 1: There, and like because think about what other emotions can
Speaker 1: there be, Like, there's only so many emotions, delusional has
Speaker 1: to be one of them, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're a cute idea.
Speaker 1: I like it, de Lulu. And then I'll come up
Speaker 1: with an amazing voice for that.
Speaker 2: I think you just be yourself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. So anyways, you know, just just dreaming
Speaker 1: big on this day.
Speaker 2: I love that manifesting big things in her voiceover.
Speaker 1: World career that is non existent at this point. But
Speaker 1: you know, reach for the stars and you land. Oh wait,
Speaker 1: what is it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, reach for the stars, you land on the moon.
Speaker 1: No, it's reach for the moon and you land amongst
Speaker 1: the stars. Yeah, for the moon.
Speaker 4: Keep your feet on the ground.
Speaker 1: No is that carest is my American Top forty host.
Speaker 2: Do you know what I was thinking about?
Speaker 1: What?
Speaker 2: I was watching Friends last night and it was an
Speaker 2: episode where Monica and Richard had just broken up and
Speaker 2: she gets a voicemail and then she like can't figure
Speaker 2: out if it's from like when they were together, or
Speaker 2: if it was like if he had contacted her after
Speaker 2: the breakup, and so she's like freaking out and then
Speaker 2: she tries to call him back and she's like, I'm breezy,
Speaker 2: and I was like, this is so tawn.
Speaker 1: I am Monica.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have a lot of Monica, a lot of Monica.
Speaker 1: Tendancies like truly, and I I consider myself a catch.
Speaker 1: When I look back on certain things in my relationship
Speaker 1: with Robbie, I'm like, God, bless that man, because I
Speaker 1: was a lottimes a lot.
Speaker 3: You will be a lot. It's a lot. It's a lot.
Speaker 1: Not too much, but not not not not for him.
Speaker 3: Let's let him answer that the perfect amount.
Speaker 2: You're the perfect amount for Robbie. Yeah. Have we talked
Speaker 2: about during the break up, the not the Lulu things
Speaker 2: you did? But just like saying, yeah, have we talked
Speaker 2: about that on the podcast?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: But when you went to the snow, No, I didn't
Speaker 2: go that.
Speaker 1: I didn't even go to the snow.
Speaker 2: Pretended he went to the snow, rob you must have
Speaker 2: talked about obsessed with the snow like he loves he's
Speaker 2: like a snow bunny.
Speaker 1: And I know this, and uh, we were broken up
Speaker 1: and he would be the first person to watch my
Speaker 1: stories anything that one of my Instagram stories. He was
Speaker 1: like the first few.
Speaker 3: Always broken up at this point, no contact, Yeah.
Speaker 4: Because following you or was he just watching your stories?
Speaker 1: No? No, we never un followed each other. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: so he was still following me and watching all my stories.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, why did I think of this? I
Speaker 1: don't know, but I saw Tory moral you shout out
Speaker 1: to Tori, yes you love her? And I saw that
Speaker 1: she was in said snow somewhere and we kind of
Speaker 1: have like similar I mean not really, but like in
Speaker 1: the snow you all look the same, you know, and
Speaker 1: it was like ear and all that gear. I was like,
Speaker 1: Tory is very tall, very tall, and her hair is
Speaker 1: a lot darker than mine, but like whatever I was
Speaker 1: taking the snow, it doesn't really matter, like the big
Speaker 1: chuck things. And I was like, you gotta do your
Speaker 1: girl solid. Can you send me any photos of like
Speaker 1: you writing like a heart in the snow, or like
Speaker 1: your feet in the snow, or like you making snow
Speaker 1: angels in the snow, something that looks like it could
Speaker 1: be me in the snow. And she delivered. She sent
Speaker 1: me exclusive pictures that I posted.
Speaker 2: Immediately went up, immediately went right up, and guess what,
Speaker 2: immediately got a response from Robbie. What did he say?
Speaker 1: Just like something like so cool? Jealous? Where are you?
Speaker 1: And guess what I did?
Speaker 2: Left him on red?
Speaker 1: Didn't even open it?
Speaker 3: Oh ball exactly?
Speaker 2: Wait? Is that more baller than left him on Red?
Speaker 4: I think so.
Speaker 1: I think so too, because I doesn't even care to
Speaker 1: open it.
Speaker 4: Yes, it also implies you're getting so many dms you don't.
Speaker 3: So far to bury.
Speaker 1: That's buried.
Speaker 2: Interesting. I feel more savage if someone leaves me on
Speaker 2: red as opposed to them just never seeing.
Speaker 1: It, because I think sometimes, like I know, sometimes I'll
Speaker 1: read a d M and I won't respond. And it's
Speaker 1: not because I'm like mad or upset.
Speaker 3: I just you think someone on red feels more calculated.
Speaker 1: To me.
Speaker 3: It feels like they're playing a game. Oh they read it,
Speaker 3: but they're not going to responding it. You can't assume
Speaker 3: they're playing a game.
Speaker 4: Like what you said on Monday, the opposite of love
Speaker 4: is a different is not opening the DM.
Speaker 2: That's all. That's a lumineer's lyric. I can't take credit
Speaker 2: the opposite of loves and friends?
Speaker 1: No, And then he reached back out on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: Back out on Valentine's Day responded to one of my stories,
Speaker 1: left that one unread as well, what.
Speaker 2: Did you postal?
Speaker 3: Not?
Speaker 2: One that got his peaked is interesting.
Speaker 1: Heart shaped cookies with initials and I like blocked out
Speaker 1: one of the initials.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, so one cookie said, or.
Speaker 1: We don't know that, and then he and then he
Speaker 1: reached out after the golden globes. And then I was
Speaker 1: tired and hungover and I finally opened the d M.
Speaker 2: It's my time.
Speaker 3: Time.
Speaker 2: Do you still check to see who watches your story?
Speaker 1: I don't really like check to see, but like, if
Speaker 1: I go through the st people's names pop up, but
Speaker 1: I don't really check.
Speaker 2: Do you check?
Speaker 4: No, I see the likes? Who likes my story? That's
Speaker 4: very important to me.
Speaker 2: Do you know I just didn't know because you I mean,
Speaker 2: I do think that if that would be obsession check
Speaker 2: and if I didn't see her name within the first
Speaker 2: ten seconds.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well let me tell you. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: name this friend because I'm just not going to name her.
Speaker 1: But I wasn't even as bad as one of my
Speaker 1: other friends. Because she would constantly she would look at
Speaker 1: the number of followers that her ex had and if
Speaker 1: it knew exactly followers. Yeah, so whoever he was following,
Speaker 1: she had that number, okay, and if it went up
Speaker 1: anytime she would find out who he added, and then
Speaker 1: like look at that person? What person was? It's not
Speaker 1: a bad idea, it's not. It's actually a great idea
Speaker 1: if anyone out there needs that.
Speaker 2: Hasn't hurt anyone. No, no, that maybe you're your own feelings.
Speaker 1: Except your own sanity.
Speaker 2: It only affects your own Sandy always.
Speaker 4: I just love the idea of like seeing the number
Speaker 4: change and going like, oh, who do you follow Jersey Mike's.
Speaker 2: I saw it go down one and didn't realize it
Speaker 2: was you.
Speaker 1: Oh that would be that would hurt, that would hurt.
Speaker 2: All right, we gotta get to that. We're taking our
Speaker 2: own advice here. We gotta we gotta give.
Speaker 5: Breaks, all right, all right, right past, all right, we
Speaker 5: are back and ready to answer the hard hitting questions
Speaker 5: from our scrubbers.
Speaker 3: Are scrubbers, here we go. Follow up advice from Laura.
Speaker 3: Laura says it's me again, Laura, who had the challenges
Speaker 3: with her boyfriend traveling a lot because of his job
Speaker 3: with the sports agency. I took your advice. I really
Speaker 3: took a look at what our communication gaps were, and
Speaker 3: we came up with check in times and tools that
Speaker 3: helped make me feel really safe. I made never to
Speaker 3: focus on some hobbies and make time with my friends.
Speaker 3: So far, so good, so thank you. But now he's
Speaker 3: leaving for the Olympics to do some scouring and I'll
Speaker 3: be gone and he'll be gone for a long time.
Speaker 3: I wanted to ask Becca, it seems like Haley's been
Speaker 3: gone for a long time, and you seemed to be
Speaker 3: handling it better than once you went on tour. This
Speaker 3: is what we just talked about on Monday. Did you
Speaker 3: approach this differently? My boyfriend and I usually only a
Speaker 3: part for a week at most, but he'll be gone
Speaker 3: for six weeks and I won't be able to visit
Speaker 3: due to work obligations.
Speaker 2: First of all, I'm so proud of you, both of
Speaker 2: you for focusing on where the gaps were and coming
Speaker 2: up with ways to help both of you get through
Speaker 2: this like in a healthy way. So Haley and I,
Speaker 2: I think what happened last year was there was just
Speaker 2: like certain things that I didn't feel safe about, and
Speaker 2: so when I would communicate those things, she would almost
Speaker 2: pull away because she had so much going on that
Speaker 2: it was almost like too much for her. So even though,
Speaker 2: like she would say all the things that in a typical,
Speaker 2: like healthy state would normally make me feel better, but
Speaker 2: because I would get into like a spiral and I
Speaker 2: couldn't like self soothe, I was.
Speaker 1: Just like, oh soothe, it is not the right word.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't like calm myself down. So therefore she
Speaker 2: really couldn't say anything that made me feel calm. So
Speaker 2: before she left for this time, we kind of figured
Speaker 2: out what were the things that I was needing, And
Speaker 2: I think, oh, something for me was that I love
Speaker 2: quality time. And I realized that for her, she felt
Speaker 2: like even if she was just checking in with me
Speaker 2: and letting me know what she was doing, that that
Speaker 2: was her giving me quality time. But what happened was
Speaker 2: she would be like, Oh, we're having so much fun
Speaker 2: and we're doing this, this and this, and I would
Speaker 2: just be like, I'm miserable and you're having so much
Speaker 2: without me, Like it made me like hurt my feelings
Speaker 2: so much. Yeah, which wasn't a healthy mindset, because you
Speaker 2: should be able to have fun without your partner and
Speaker 2: they should be able to have fun without you, right,
Speaker 2: but I was in a different mindset at that time,
Speaker 2: So this time it's been like she does check ins
Speaker 2: when she can. I also just know because I was
Speaker 2: up there her first week when the project kind of started.
Speaker 2: I saw what it was like during the day and
Speaker 2: how insane it was. So now I don't make up
Speaker 2: things of like why haven't I heard from her. I'm
Speaker 2: just like, I know what the schedule is like, and
Speaker 2: if I do hear from her she checks in or
Speaker 2: calls me, it's like a little bonus. But most of
Speaker 2: the time I know I'm going to talk to her
Speaker 2: at night, and then when she has time, we do
Speaker 2: things that we love to do that's quality time, like
Speaker 2: play games over the phone or like do things that
Speaker 2: we would do if she was already together. So I
Speaker 2: think that's just been helpful and also just you know,
Speaker 2: knowing that it really came from like confidence and security
Speaker 2: in my own self that had nothing to do with her.
Speaker 2: That's been a big part.
Speaker 1: I'm beca answered it perfectly, So I'm just gonna sprinkle
Speaker 1: a little thing in there. But like, if you feel something,
Speaker 1: say it, because I have an experience, like I don't
Speaker 1: roby and I don't have to be a part like
Speaker 1: this ever. But when he was in New York for
Speaker 1: that wedding, we were apart for four days, and like
Speaker 1: when he landed in New York, he was like, I
Speaker 1: miss you already, and I was like, that's so cute,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like we were living apart
Speaker 1: for whatever six hours, and I was like, that's so cute,
Speaker 1: and like you'd always say just little things like that
Speaker 1: about you know, like I he hit such a good
Speaker 1: time at the wedding, he had such a good time
Speaker 1: at you know, all the things he did around the wedding,
Speaker 1: but he was like, I wish you were there, and like,
Speaker 1: you know, just saying those little things means a lot.
Speaker 2: I was gonna say that too. Haley has done a
Speaker 2: really good job of being like I had so much fun.
Speaker 2: We did this, this and this, and it was so
Speaker 2: much fun. But it would have been even better if
Speaker 2: you were there. So it just gives me reassurance that
Speaker 2: she's thinking of me and missing me, which I already know,
Speaker 2: but it's nice to hear it. Yeah, So good luck,
Speaker 2: you're gonna be You're gonna be good and strong and
Speaker 2: six weeks when you have the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: That's a drop in the buckets.
Speaker 3: From Brianna. She says, I need help. There's a coworker
Speaker 3: in the IT department that I'm crushing on. I am
Speaker 3: the HR manager. We don't have a written policy about
Speaker 3: not dating coworkers, but on the organizational chart, I would
Speaker 3: be considered his superior.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 3: He's very professional, so I don't think he'd ever go
Speaker 3: out of the way to blur the line if he
Speaker 3: was interested in me. But I feel like I've been
Speaker 3: dropping handkerchief to nudge him in my direction, and I'm
Speaker 3: at a loss. I haven't pulled a Tanya and brought
Speaker 3: in blueberries for National Blueberry Day because we've talked about
Speaker 3: it being his favorite fruit. Oh no, do I push
Speaker 3: the gas and go for it or pump the brakes?
Speaker 2: That is so cute, and there is a National Blueberry Day.
Speaker 3: They're so high in antioxidants.
Speaker 1: It's a great, thoughtful superfood, honestly, but.
Speaker 2: It's a super food.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: And it's a superfood, yeah yeah, but that is very
Speaker 5: It's a blueberry and it's a blueberry, yeah.
Speaker 3: Exactly, it.
Speaker 2: Berry and it's a blueberry.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But what's a super food versus super It's a
Speaker 2: great food and it's a superfood.
Speaker 4: Super food when word being you now and super adjective space.
Speaker 2: Food, Like it's a super food. It's in the category
Speaker 2: of like super foods. Yeah, it's also a super food.
Speaker 1: What does the name have to do is.
Speaker 4: A great lake and it's a great lake. Yeah, here's
Speaker 4: one for you. A grapefruit is not a grape fruit.
Speaker 2: Oh, but it's a great fruit, right right, right, right right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: How do these have anything to do with each other?
Speaker 1: What's a super food versus a super food?
Speaker 2: You said it?
Speaker 3: Superfood is a nutrient rich food kind official for health
Speaker 3: and well being?
Speaker 1: And what's a super food?
Speaker 2: Great?
Speaker 3: So super.
Speaker 2: Bloomberry is not super food.
Speaker 1: It's a superfood. I wouldn't say it's super food.
Speaker 2: That's an opinion for sure.
Speaker 3: It's injective.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's not like Michigan.
Speaker 2: It's a great leg, but it is a great late
Speaker 2: but that's a fact.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, back to you, Brianna.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, this feels she's giving Tanya energy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Kayler energy, and I don't like it. Oh no, yeah, Tanya,
Speaker 1: Kaylor I know, I know, I know, I know.
Speaker 2: Why do you think he's not into her? No?
Speaker 1: I don't think he's not into her. But like I
Speaker 1: did this all the time. I sent him what's his nuts?
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, it makes me so sad. I can't
Speaker 2: even think about this. It made me like a.
Speaker 1: National Cookie Day, and like he didn't deserve for me
Speaker 1: to send him cookies.
Speaker 2: This guy and they made out one night. He was
Speaker 2: like JoJo's brother's friend came in town and they like
Speaker 2: had a great night.
Speaker 1: We all went out to marry him.
Speaker 2: And then she sent him cookies and I was like, no, I.
Speaker 1: Was like national cookie. Did he like loved chocolate cookies.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm just one of the best chocolate chip
Speaker 1: cookies in Los Angeles? And I did and it went nowhere.
Speaker 1: And No, I sent him milk. I think it was
Speaker 1: like milk jar or something.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: At the time, he did not deserve that.
Speaker 1: He did not deserve that, And so like, I don't
Speaker 1: know if this guy deserves your blueberries. You're super busy.
Speaker 1: I just I don't like it because you're saying that
Speaker 1: he doesn't like to blur the lines, and so I
Speaker 1: don't want you to like put yourself.
Speaker 3: Out there, but I don't. I think you're right. I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't think this is going to work. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: I'm in with the heart wants what it wants, and
Speaker 3: shouldn't she go for it? I don't know, but I
Speaker 3: feel like this is not This feels wrong to me.
Speaker 3: This feels like it's not going to end well.
Speaker 4: I think he's also probably apprehensive of engaging because they worked,
Speaker 4: they were together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that never stopped me.
Speaker 4: You're in any case you are every way.
Speaker 1: And not case too.
Speaker 2: But here's the thing. You know, if someone's interested like you,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: Not really, I mean that they're not.
Speaker 3: Yeah, again, you're not the best person.
Speaker 2: I feel like you can get a vibe if someone's interested,
Speaker 2: even if it's in a work setting and everyone's trying
Speaker 2: to be professional, you can tell if someone's interested.
Speaker 1: Totally.
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, totally.
Speaker 1: I don't relate to that.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, maybe you can't tell. See my my gut
Speaker 2: is saying, what if y'all through like a little uh,
Speaker 2: like a little at a group per mixer, company mixer,
Speaker 2: a company mixer, like an end of summer bash, and
Speaker 2: y'all go, I don't know, to a bar, I don't
Speaker 2: where you live, Yeah, to bar somewhere that's sociable and
Speaker 2: like comfortable, and see what the vibe is and if
Speaker 2: you feel like there's some flirty behavior, I said, go
Speaker 2: for it.
Speaker 1: If you know how old you are. But if you
Speaker 1: can get him to take a shot with you, you know,
Speaker 1: it's game on. I'm just saying, if you do drink,
Speaker 1: if you're of age, and that's what you would like
Speaker 1: to enjoy on your weekends, if you can get him,
Speaker 1: like any guy I could get to take a shot
Speaker 1: with me, I knew, was like game.
Speaker 2: I think that's loose advice. Really yeah, I think people
Speaker 2: like free alcohol so dark, okay. I would have something
Speaker 2: a group setting where you see each other outside of
Speaker 2: a work setting, see if the vibe is there, if
Speaker 2: it's flirty, if you're even still into him outside of
Speaker 2: a work dynamic, and then I think you just kind
Speaker 2: of flirt and see if you get anything back, and
Speaker 2: if you don't move.
Speaker 3: On, haven't fired. I can't murder reassigned him to Siberia.
Speaker 3: I say, pumped the brakes unless you get some real
Speaker 3: evidence that he's interested back.
Speaker 2: What's real evidence?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 3: You got in blueberries? Maybe National Rubarb Day is coming up.
Speaker 3: He'll get you some rubarb pie. That would be evidence.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so if he returned the favor, I think if he.
Speaker 3: Returned to the favor, that's a positive sign. Or even
Speaker 3: anything a lingering touch, you know, like there's something eye contact.
Speaker 3: Eye contact is good contact.
Speaker 1: A lot of eye contacts.
Speaker 3: You actually feel assaulted from Ty's eye contact, exactly. Heartbroken
Speaker 3: anonymous scrubber. My boyfriend and I dated for nine months.
Speaker 3: We broke up in January. I felt he was the
Speaker 3: one I was supposed to marry. He was everything I
Speaker 3: prayed for. The breakup was unexpected, no cause, no arguments.
Speaker 3: He started pulling away over the holidays. We broke up
Speaker 3: a couple of weeks after he got back. The breakup
Speaker 3: was emotional for both of us. We cried and held
Speaker 3: each other. He felt he failed and leading a godly
Speaker 3: relationship and wanted to focus on his goals. He mentioned
Speaker 3: that who knows, maybe we'll get back together one day.
Speaker 3: We've continued to talk a couple times months each other.
Speaker 3: Once a month left time we met. It felt like
Speaker 3: we never broke up. We kiss each time we see
Speaker 3: each other. He knew I thought we would get married,
Speaker 3: but he wasn't there yet. While we were dating. Recently,
Speaker 3: he said he's getting closer to wanting to get back together.
Speaker 3: He suggested that if we did get back together, we
Speaker 3: would marry. In three months. He referenced Ross and Rachel
Speaker 3: and implied we might get married, saying to give it time.
Speaker 3: Do you think there's a chance we could get back together? Tanya?
Speaker 3: How did you stay patient and hopeful with Robbie when
Speaker 3: you knew he was the one? Thanks for your insight, Well,
Speaker 3: have you.
Speaker 1: Tried posting pictures? So no, First of all, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: That is like the worst thing ever when you are
Speaker 1: broken up with and you feel like that person is
Speaker 1: your person, there's no worse pain. So I'm sorry you're
Speaker 1: going through that. I feel like in my situation, we
Speaker 1: broke up around the holidays as well well, and that
Speaker 1: was so dark because it was the holidays and I
Speaker 1: was spending them alone. And then I remember my parents
Speaker 1: both got COVID and so I was really alone and
Speaker 1: it was such a dark time. But I still knew
Speaker 1: he was the one, Like I remember when we broke up,
Speaker 1: I was just like, this doesn't make sense, Like it
Speaker 1: just doesn't make sense. It doesn't feel right, And I
Speaker 1: think you kind of have to get to a place
Speaker 1: where you keep a hopeful hard because I always felt
Speaker 1: like we would get back together, but also have the
Speaker 1: reality that it might not happen. And I think I
Speaker 1: got to that point. I think once I cause we
Speaker 1: two for the first i'd say month, month and a
Speaker 1: half of our breakup, we still saw each other. We
Speaker 1: would hug and kiss and like do all that. And
Speaker 1: after a month and a half, yeah, like into January,
Speaker 1: we still would like not often, we weren't like seeing
Speaker 1: each other every day, but I saw him like once
Speaker 1: or twice we still talked, Like on New Year's we talked.
Speaker 1: I saw him in January we kissed. Uh. And then
Speaker 1: at that point I just cut it off. I was like,
Speaker 1: I can't do this. If we're like broken up and
Speaker 1: that's what you want, then I really have to be
Speaker 1: broken up. And that's when I started just cold turkeying it.
Speaker 1: I didn't respond to any of his call I would
Speaker 1: not answer his calls, I didn't respond to his dms.
Speaker 1: Like I was just cold turkey because that's the way
Speaker 1: that I had to move on process it. And then eventually, again,
Speaker 1: like Beck always says, whatever's meant to be will be,
Speaker 1: and then we ended up talking and we had a
Speaker 1: really big fight before we got back together, and then
Speaker 1: when then we got back together.
Speaker 2: I feel like he's trying to have his cake and
Speaker 2: eat it too. I feel like he has his cake
Speaker 2: and he's eating it too because he wanted the breakup,
Speaker 2: But then he's also getting to see you when he
Speaker 2: wants to see you, and kiss you when he wants
Speaker 2: to kiss you.
Speaker 1: The same advice you gave me when this was happening
Speaker 1: with Robbie, what he has.
Speaker 2: Wants because I was like, you ended this, so leave
Speaker 2: her alone. Leave me?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, leave her alone.
Speaker 3: Love me, Robbie. I do.
Speaker 1: I love Robbie.
Speaker 2: I'm so happy I'm coming together. But in the moment,
Speaker 2: I was like, leave her alone.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And that's how I feel because I feel like what's
Speaker 2: happening is that if he is not there, and he's
Speaker 2: if he doesn't see a genuine future with you, then
Speaker 2: he is keeping you in a place of heartbreak and
Speaker 2: a place of not being able to move on. And
Speaker 2: I think it's a very selfish move. And I also
Speaker 2: I come from like the religion world of like God
Speaker 2: told me we're not supposed to be together, and it
Speaker 2: is like my biggest ick. I'm sorry, I just do
Speaker 2: not like it. I think it's such a cop out
Speaker 2: and what he's doing is not godly to me, because
Speaker 2: if he really loved you and loved what God was
Speaker 2: telling him to do, he would let you move on,
Speaker 2: or he would say, hey, I want to be with
Speaker 2: you and be a man and be a partner to you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sounds like she needs to go cold Turkey.
Speaker 2: I think you go cold Turkey because I think that
Speaker 2: if you're meant to be, it'll happen. But I think
Speaker 2: you give yourself a chance to move one from him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I remember when I was cold Turkey, I
Speaker 1: did somebody. Somebody did try to set me up with
Speaker 1: someone and I did accept the date. It was like,
Speaker 1: I think it was still kind of covidy times. We
Speaker 1: did a FaceTime date. But the funny part is is
Speaker 1: this date that I had with this guy, we end
Speaker 1: up both talking about our exes the entire FaceTime. He
Speaker 1: was talking about his ex girlfriend. I was talking about Robbie.
Speaker 1: And we followed each other on Instagram and we still
Speaker 1: follow each other. He ended up getting back with his
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend. He is now married to her with a baby,
Speaker 1: and I ended up getting back with Robbie, we are engaged,
Speaker 1: and so it's just very very funny. But like I
Speaker 1: was open to it, Like I was like, yeah, let's
Speaker 1: like have a FaceTime date. And we were chatting for
Speaker 1: a couple of days.
Speaker 2: But yeah, it just well, that's what I'm saying. I
Speaker 2: don't I'm not saying you're never going to get back together.
Speaker 2: I just think that he's getting way too much out
Speaker 2: of this breakup and you're the one who's hurting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you might have to cald Turkey it. I
Speaker 1: hate to say it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you'll never regret focusing on yourself and living
Speaker 3: your life.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 3: You got to move on. And if you end up
Speaker 3: together one day, glorious. But if you count on that,
Speaker 3: you're only going to stay stagnant.
Speaker 1: You're not going to And I'm not going to encourage
Speaker 1: playing games because I don't think it's like a game.
Speaker 1: But I know in our situation, because I went so
Speaker 1: cold Turkey and Robbie, he thought that I had moved
Speaker 1: on and that he lost me forever and that freaked
Speaker 1: him back.
Speaker 3: That's jarring. Absolutely thinks he's going to marry you in
Speaker 3: three months if you get back together. First of all,
Speaker 3: that's other all bs, or he really believes it. But
Speaker 3: either way, you're better off focusing on you and moving on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I don't think you should get married after
Speaker 2: three months, even if you'll, even if you disregard our
Speaker 2: advice and get back together with him, I would say,
Speaker 2: don't do that.
Speaker 3: Red flags plenty right here.
Speaker 1: Yeaheah, well, not necessarily, not necessarily.
Speaker 2: Yeah, from the information we're sing, I think you focus
Speaker 2: on yourself.
Speaker 3: I agree, you'll never regret doing that, and you're better.
Speaker 2: You're better than being at his beck and cal whenever
Speaker 2: he decides he's lonely and wants to see you and
Speaker 2: kiss you.
Speaker 3: That's not okay. Preach from anonymous. My husband and I
Speaker 3: have been married fifteen years. We've got three kids. He's
Speaker 3: a great husband, he's a great dad, but we struggled
Speaker 3: for years with him having a porn addiction. I get it,
Speaker 3: guys look at porn from time to time, even though
Speaker 3: I don't love it. But I have found him so
Speaker 3: many times in our home with the kids in the
Speaker 3: next room on our family iPad, and I'm so tired
Speaker 3: of fighting this battle with him. He agrees it's a problem,
Speaker 3: then it'll stop for weeks and then later I'll find
Speaker 3: it again. I love him so much. I don't want
Speaker 3: it to rip our family apart, but I feel so disrespected.
Speaker 3: We are going to start therapy together next week try
Speaker 3: to work through this, but honestly, I'm afraid our problems
Speaker 3: have gone past the porn and now into him not
Speaker 3: respecting me enough to stop. Any advice you can give
Speaker 3: me I would greatly appreciate, especially Mark and Easton's mail perspectives.
Speaker 3: Oh oh nice. I mean, look, yes, it is a
Speaker 3: respect issue. It's not. I mean I shouldn't be so
Speaker 3: cavalier about actual porn addiction, sex addiction. These are things
Speaker 3: that I am not terribly familiar with, understand very much.
Speaker 3: So I don't want to be dismissive of those things, right.
Speaker 1: Because I'm curious when she says porn addiction, because I
Speaker 1: feel like there's a difference between what makes it porn addiction.
Speaker 4: Using the family iPad?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, do sound like signs. But let's say it wasn't.
Speaker 3: Let's say it was alcohol. Would you say he doesn't
Speaker 3: respect me enough to quit alcohol? So if it's a
Speaker 3: legitimate addition addiction, then I think we need to have
Speaker 3: some patients and go through the process, and therapy is
Speaker 3: the right thing, right, But if you don't feel like
Speaker 3: it's an actual addiction, which you would know better than we,
Speaker 3: then then yeah, then it sounds like a respect issue
Speaker 3: and he needs to understand where your boundaries are because
Speaker 3: there is no right and wrong in relationships. It's respecting
Speaker 3: the other person's wishes for what is right and wrong
Speaker 3: in a relationship.
Speaker 4: I agree completely, But they say addiction is when you
Speaker 4: continue the behavior in the face of like severe consequences
Speaker 4: or something like you you get drunk at work or like,
Speaker 4: you know, you drive drunk, something like that. And I
Speaker 4: think that he's again I don't know too much about
Speaker 4: it either, but I think that it probably fits the bill.
Speaker 4: And she probably said like, hey, if you keep doing this,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna leave. Maybe maybe she said that, and that
Speaker 4: on some level, yeah, that he keeps doing it, keeps
Speaker 4: doing to try probably trying to hide it from her,
Speaker 4: And uh, I don't know that that needs to be addressed.
Speaker 4: That's that's you know, I'm not saying porn is bad,
Speaker 4: but like, I don't know if he if this is
Speaker 4: like really affecting their intimacy, affecting his personal life, like
Speaker 4: is he like that's.
Speaker 1: The whole thing. Like I think you have to take
Speaker 1: take like a what's it called bird's eye. I've had many,
Speaker 1: weirdly many conversations with men about porn. I was like
Speaker 1: very into this topic. I don't remember when, but maybe
Speaker 1: like ten years ago it.
Speaker 3: Was in your porn era it was porn Area.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we will because I'm fascinated with like why men
Speaker 1: like why women are like not or maybe I shouldn't generalize,
Speaker 1: but that's true. Yeah, I feel like it doesn't do
Speaker 1: for women what it does for men, Like why, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just feel like men just do like
Speaker 1: it for some reason.
Speaker 3: Men are much more visual than women.
Speaker 1: Yeah, whatever. But so what I've gathered is if it's
Speaker 1: something that is impacting your sex life with your husband,
Speaker 1: then it's definitely something that he needs to take into
Speaker 1: account and he should, you know, respect your wishes. If
Speaker 1: it's if he's doing it on the family iPads and
Speaker 1: the kids can see it or hear it or whatever, like,
Speaker 1: that's also a major problem. If it's something that he's
Speaker 1: doing that he does from time to time that's not
Speaker 1: affecting your kids, your sex life, anything like that, it's
Speaker 1: it's like golfing or something, you know, something that he
Speaker 1: likes to do or whatever. If you don't like it,
Speaker 1: you just have to just like everyone's going to have
Speaker 1: some of those things that you don't like. But I
Speaker 1: think if it's affecting your kids, your family, and your
Speaker 1: sex life, then you have to set boundaries and you
Speaker 1: have to like figure that out.
Speaker 2: I'm just really I mean, I feel hopeful that y'all
Speaker 2: are going to therapy because a lot of people if
Speaker 2: he was like, I'm not going to therapy, I don't
Speaker 2: need therapy, then I would be like, I don't really
Speaker 2: know what to say to encourage you. But I do
Speaker 2: feel like there could be I think him the willingness
Speaker 2: to go and like have these conversations with a professional
Speaker 2: I think will be very helpful. And I think you'll
Speaker 2: also be able to express feelings in a safe setting
Speaker 2: that maybe you haven't even been able to get through
Speaker 2: to him about. And I think it'll be good for
Speaker 2: your relationship in general. But I really, I really feel
Speaker 2: for you because whether it's porn or alcohol or drugs, like,
Speaker 2: addiction is a disease, and yeah, it overtakes people, and
Speaker 2: I think it's I think you're at a point where
Speaker 2: you're able to.
Speaker 1: Hopefully and like when someone's off the especially your partner
Speaker 1: in life, you don't want to just abandon them, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you also don't want to be disrespected for
Speaker 2: the rest of your life. So you have to be
Speaker 2: able to set that boundary and know that going into
Speaker 2: therapy that you're doing everything you can and you can't
Speaker 2: change him, right, you can't. You can't make him stop,
Speaker 2: And that's the that's the part about control with your
Speaker 2: partner that's really hard.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think therapy really help you understand where he's coming
Speaker 3: from and help him understand where you're coming from.
Speaker 2: I agree.
Speaker 3: Yes, Becca, it's time for a break. Can you do
Speaker 3: the dusty honors?
Speaker 2: My gosh? Well, we have one more email and then
Speaker 2: who is most likely to superlative fun at the end
Speaker 2: of the episode. But we're going to take a break,
Speaker 2: so we'll be right back. All right, we are back.
Speaker 2: We have one more email from anonymous.
Speaker 3: All right, here we go. An email from anonymous. She says,
Speaker 3: my friend of almost thirty years cheated on her husband.
Speaker 3: My husband and I were very much friends with her husband.
Speaker 3: We've been on trips with them, and back in April
Speaker 3: of twenty three, my friend cheated on her husband with
Speaker 3: one of my husband's friends who she met at our house.
Speaker 3: My husband I knew about the affair and felt complicit
Speaker 3: because we would continue to see her with her husband
Speaker 3: and we continue to see her with the other guy.
Speaker 3: My friend's marriage ended shortly thereafter once she found out
Speaker 3: she was pregnant with the other man's baby, and now
Speaker 3: she's divorced. But my friend and a new partner have
Speaker 3: rewritten the timeline. They act like it wasn't an affair,
Speaker 3: and their husband knew she wanted a divorce. And I've
Speaker 3: struggled with this because we socialized with them as a
Speaker 3: couple during the affair and I was her sounding board
Speaker 3: during that time. Her new partner jokes about breaking up
Speaker 3: marriages and getting with married women, which bothers me. He
Speaker 3: previously cheated on his wife like a decade ago. I
Speaker 3: don't know if we should stay friends with these people
Speaker 3: or not be around them at all. When I expressed
Speaker 3: my guilt to her, she denied the affair and said
Speaker 3: she thought I was okay with it. I'm questioning how
Speaker 3: long to stay friends with someone before deciding their relationship
Speaker 3: is toxic due to differing life values. Should I consider
Speaker 3: a hard cut off or a soft cut off? Moving forward?
Speaker 3: So it sounds like decided because I'm.
Speaker 2: Glad you know what you need to do because you're
Speaker 2: the what's the quote about the company you keep?
Speaker 1: Yeah, ships don't sink because there's water.
Speaker 3: Eat, that's the one.
Speaker 1: Ships don't sink because there's water outside their boat. They
Speaker 1: sink because there's water inside their boat.
Speaker 2: Well, no way that goes with this, but that's beautiful. Ye,
Speaker 2: it does.
Speaker 1: Get them out, Get them out of your boat.
Speaker 2: Oh, they're they're the water and they're the water.
Speaker 1: Get that water out of your boat.
Speaker 2: Well, you know, I was just going to say something about,
Speaker 2: like the company you keep is a reflection of you
Speaker 2: and your husband, And I think that the fact that
Speaker 2: you listen to her talk about the affair and then
Speaker 2: she feels comfortable enough denying it to your face is
Speaker 2: a a red flag bigger than let me.
Speaker 1: Tell you she's a narcissist. Yeah, And it's very obvious
Speaker 1: to me because these people, these narcissists, they will make
Speaker 1: up these stories in their head and they'll believe them
Speaker 1: to be true because it pertains to their narrative or
Speaker 1: what they want, and it's very scary and it's very weird,
Speaker 1: and I also would just like again, but it's not
Speaker 1: a blanket statement. I don't think cheaters are bad. I
Speaker 1: just think cheaters there's a character flaw in there.
Speaker 2: Well, to me, there's there's cheating and having remorse and
Speaker 2: regret and shame about it. And then I think there's
Speaker 2: cheating and laughing and bragging about it talking about breaking
Speaker 2: up there.
Speaker 1: But that's only part of the story. I'm sure I can.
Speaker 1: I feel like very confident in saying that. I'd say
Speaker 1: like eighty percent of people who cheat have some sort
Speaker 1: of guilt or shame or remorse.
Speaker 2: I know. I'm saying this guy does not the god
Speaker 2: she cheated.
Speaker 1: I'm sure that he does. Behind closed doors, he's probably
Speaker 1: just like making a joke of it, blah blah blah blah,
Speaker 1: and where she doesn't know him one hundred percent of
Speaker 1: the time.
Speaker 2: She said her new partner jokes about breaking up marriages
Speaker 2: and getting with married women.
Speaker 1: I know, but I'm saying he maybe just does that outwardly,
Speaker 1: but we don't know what he feels inwardly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's his that's the character that he's presenting right,
Speaker 2: I'm not saying character, you're surrounding yourself.
Speaker 3: This all is just.
Speaker 1: Bad and I don't like her, I don't like him,
Speaker 1: and I just feel like you need to distance yourself asap.
Speaker 2: I agree. I think the hard cut off or soft
Speaker 2: cut off, I think you just have a conversation and
Speaker 2: say I love you. We've been through so much together,
Speaker 2: but I've had a really hard time with how you've
Speaker 2: handled this and and denying the truth that I was
Speaker 2: a part of during this time of your life and.
Speaker 1: What I appreciate your soft approach, but a narcissist is
Speaker 1: not going to hear that.
Speaker 2: Well, they're not going to hear anything, So it doesn't matter.
Speaker 2: I'm saying, what what's going to make her feel good
Speaker 2: to move forward?
Speaker 1: Sure?
Speaker 3: You saying you're saying hard cut off? Just stop?
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, just ignore.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's all bad.
Speaker 2: I just think we don't know if they're best friends.
Speaker 2: It kind of seems like they were a couple friends, right,
Speaker 2: So if she's your best friend, like it was me
Speaker 2: and you, I think I would have a conversation.
Speaker 1: If it was me and you and you were having
Speaker 1: an affair on Haley, I would step in before any
Speaker 1: of this, I'd be like, this is not right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But if I was like I'm not, that's not
Speaker 2: I'm fine, We're fine.
Speaker 1: Don't worry about us murder. I'm kidding.
Speaker 2: I'm kidding, But I'm just saying, like, we don't know
Speaker 2: how close they are, they're like best friends. I think
Speaker 2: it's warrants a conversation of like, hey, I love you
Speaker 2: and I don't agree with this, so I don't I
Speaker 2: don't see this being friends and if it's if it's
Speaker 2: not that, then yeah, just cut it off.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I just feel like narcissist are very scary people to
Speaker 1: deal with, so like trying to have a rational conversation
Speaker 1: with one is gonna it's gonna send you into a tailspin.
Speaker 1: So just say yourself, she knows.
Speaker 2: If she's a if she's someone who is receptive to
Speaker 2: a conversation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Yeah.
Speaker 3: This is from Jazz. Love the name jazz by the way.
Speaker 3: I like that jazzmine can become jazz or jazz or
Speaker 3: men a lot of men's or jazz me.
Speaker 1: Really it's a jazz me jazzy.
Speaker 3: I mean, I really enjoyed this segment where you didn't
Speaker 3: know who is most likely to and thought i'd offer
Speaker 3: some questions from a similar game we play at parties.
Speaker 3: So here you go, so i'll read the question that
Speaker 3: we'll do. The three two one is that we did
Speaker 3: last time? Yeah, the same time.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: Who is most likely to be pulled over for driving
Speaker 3: too slow? Three two one? Wow? What did you say?
Speaker 2: So?
Speaker 3: I said? Becca? Becca said my shocked. I'm very speeds
Speaker 3: said that because you're always late for stuff.
Speaker 2: That's not because of no, I'm just see you being
Speaker 2: very rule follower. I give you your follower vibe. I've
Speaker 2: driven with Tanya.
Speaker 3: It's so scary and Tanya East both said.
Speaker 1: Tanya, I mean, I'm pretty grandma vibes.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I get that.
Speaker 2: But she also is like chaotic, so it's it might
Speaker 2: be slow, but you're moving around.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna use it.
Speaker 2: One song and that's all she plays for your drives,
Speaker 2: so's a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Who is most likely to have a twenty minute conversation
Speaker 3: with Siri? Three two one time?
Speaker 2: Just being bored?
Speaker 1: And I don't even have Siri? Thank you everyone? I
Speaker 1: disabled mine?
Speaker 3: Oh wow, and everything iPhone, your iPad, your Apple TV,
Speaker 3: no serious.
Speaker 1: SERI wow by Siri?
Speaker 3: I guess we were wrong on that one. Yeah, whould
Speaker 3: you say, Mark, why why would I do that?
Speaker 1: East's too smart.
Speaker 2: Though I almost said he think he would know how
Speaker 2: to shut it up because Easton knows how to Like.
Speaker 2: Eastern's curious, so I could see him just asking questions like.
Speaker 4: Once you first came out, I talked to you for
Speaker 4: a week.
Speaker 2: There you go.
Speaker 3: That's like he was right.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 3: Who is most likely to just want to cuddle three
Speaker 3: two one? I don't know, wow A willing time? Yeah,
Speaker 3: well that's true, but you also like to go beyond cuddling.
Speaker 3: You don't want to limit it to cuddling very often?
Speaker 1: I think, mind just a cuddle?
Speaker 3: Can I do that? Who was most likely to traple
Speaker 3: a kid on Black Friday? Three to one.
Speaker 2: Item that you've been eyeing.
Speaker 1: On sale that was like a post malone circuit.
Speaker 3: Yeah you would you.
Speaker 2: I would never do Black Friday. That's scary, all right?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I would hurt someone.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay. Who is most likely to drive three plus
Speaker 3: hours in the hopes of hooking up three to one?
Speaker 2: Wow?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Who is most likely to play just one song at
Speaker 3: every party? Three two one?
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Who is most likely to be mentally undressing you right now?
Speaker 3: Three two one? Who most likely you want to be
Speaker 3: exclusive after just one day? Three too?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 3: Who was most likely to Facebook or instagram? Stock? Three two?
Speaker 2: One time?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it is so easy. Who is most likely to
Speaker 3: sit at a stop sign waiting for the turn greene?
Speaker 3: Three too? One time? That's our show.
Speaker 2: I think Jazz set you up to be targeted like
Speaker 2: that jazz.
Speaker 1: Are you gonna do me like that? Jazz? Me super food?
Speaker 1: Come on? Speaking of man, I saw a meme the
Speaker 1: other day that was like, it was for Love Island
Speaker 1: and she goes, I wonder what my sims are doing
Speaker 1: right now, And that's like exactly how I feel about
Speaker 1: that show. Oh yeah, yeah, it does feel like that.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, anyway, all right, well you guys would have
Speaker 1: laughed if you watch AnyWho that's watching.
Speaker 2: It was a tough because I gave you a lat
Speaker 2: but it was dark. Happy birthday, Tanya the Scrubbers. I
Speaker 2: know you'll already be wishing her happy birthday, but here's
Speaker 2: your reminder.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: We love y'all. Have a great weekend. We'll be back Monday.
Speaker 2: Well I don't know Monday, Tuesday.
Speaker 1: We could Wednesday Friday, all right. We love you so much,
Speaker 1: love you bye.