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Speaker 4: Thank you, nephew. Subject talk dirty to.

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Speaker 1: Me, but not that dirty, and to many dates, and

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Speaker 1: we're really digging each other. I was having a hard

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Speaker 1: so I decided we would have sex. He is very spiritual,

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Speaker 1: so we prayed before we had sex the first time.

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Speaker 4: Then we started getting freaky.

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Speaker 1: There is no way that this man can be quote

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Speaker 1: saved and make love the way he does and use

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Speaker 4: Filthy language he uses.

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Speaker 1: I thought he was happy to be getting so at first,

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Speaker 1: because he immediately started yelling profanity as loud as he could.

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Speaker 1: I've been told I am excellent in bed, but he

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Speaker 1: showed out too. Afterwards. I told him I like the

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Speaker 1: dirty talk, but not that dirty. I've never heard him

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Speaker 1: and I have tried to get used to it, but

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Speaker 1: I can't. We've been in a relationship for eight months,

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Speaker 1: curse words and strings them together to get his point across.

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Speaker 1: When I try to talk to him about his dirty mouth,

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Speaker 1: he suggests that we go back to being celibate. I

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Speaker 1: replace the cursing with soft.

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Speaker 4: Moans and groans.

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Speaker 1: He's talking about marriage, but I need him to stop

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Speaker 1: cursing during sex first. How do I fix this? Well,

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Speaker 1: there's no way you're going to be able to fix this.

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Speaker 1: This is not going to happen. He's not going to

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Speaker 1: stop cursing during sex. You said it in the letter.

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Speaker 1: That's his thing, and he proves it. Every time you

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Speaker 1: That's where he lets it all out in bed. That's

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Speaker 1: his release. Okay, he spends the rest of the time.

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Speaker 1: I guess being a good Christian and not cursing, but

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Speaker 1: thinking up new cursing combinations, like you said. But here

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Speaker 1: you go trying to change him. It's been eight months.

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Speaker 1: This is who he is, ma'am. He's not trying to

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Speaker 1: change for you. You've told him how you feel, and

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Speaker 1: you keep having sex with him. Okay, he said, you

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Speaker 1: guys could go back to being celibate.

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Speaker 4: But you no, you don't want that.

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Speaker 1: So it's either keep going with his over the top

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Speaker 1: dirty talk or no sex. I mean, you got to

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Speaker 1: make up your mind. What is it going to be, Steve.

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Speaker 1: I left all of this stuff for you right here.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I got ready to take some notes and

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Speaker 2: I just stopped. This is crazy.

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Speaker 3: Why take notes about something you know somewhere? Talk dirty

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Speaker 3: to me?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but not that duty lords.

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Speaker 3: Then, Steven Sherlan, I'm thirty years old and already divorced.

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Speaker 3: I took my ex husband from his wife, and then

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Speaker 2: Imagine that, I guess something we can imagine.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: They always say, if that's how.

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Speaker 3: You get them, that's how you're gonna lose them, That's

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Speaker 3: Hallelujah, hallelujah. Right after this, though, this letter takes a turn,

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Speaker 3: she met this guy in this building that was doing

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Speaker 3: Our day turned into many dates ever really taken each other.

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Speaker 2: Sex the first time.

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Speaker 3: This is where we need to take our first moment

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Speaker 3: of pause, because you all prayed before you had sex.

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Speaker 3: I've done a lot of prayers in my life. Come

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Speaker 3: on now, not one time have I prayed before sex.

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Speaker 3: What is this prayer that you must be have? Let

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Speaker 3: us pray. Lord, lay me down beside this water, but

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Speaker 3: don't let it be steal prayers, pray. I need some

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Speaker 2: We are praying before.

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Speaker 4: Six now, Yes, yes.

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Speaker 3: As I said, without the music, Lord, lay me down

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Speaker 3: beside the water, but don't let it be steal.

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Speaker 2: Let it shake and move. Lord, help me to hold

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Speaker 1: Thy rod.

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Speaker 2: And staff, really hold me.

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Speaker 4: Hold it right there.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I'm about to pray girl.

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Speaker 1: Part two of Steve's response coming up, which I'm sure

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Speaker 1: includes the rest of this prayer coming up in twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject talk

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Speaker 1: dirty to me, but not that dirty.

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Speaker 4: Okay, we'll get back into it right after this. You're

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Speaker 4: listening Hardy Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is talk dirty to me, but not that dirty.

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Speaker 3: We are going back to the prayer we left because

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Speaker 3: in this letter, this thirty year old woman has divorced

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Speaker 3: at metal husband by taking him from his wife.

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Speaker 2: Then he cheated on her.

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Speaker 3: She was enjoying the day in life, and then she

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Speaker 3: decided she was going to give her life to Christ. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: She met a Maine in the building on a hell

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Speaker 3: of vado conversation, struck up and found out that he

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Speaker 3: had given him life to Christ too. Had one day

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Speaker 3: turned into a lot of dates. She was having difficulty

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Speaker 3: keeping her hand off the main she said, let's go

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Speaker 3: on and have sex anyway. Uh, he be a spiritual

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Speaker 3: Maine too, said, let us pray, let us have prayer

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Speaker 3: before we have sex. I've been a Christian a long time.

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Speaker 3: I don't pray for many things. I even prayed for

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Speaker 3: thousands and ten thousands of things. I ain't never prayed

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Speaker 3: before sex. So I was only imagining what in the

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Speaker 3: world could this pray befoll sex. Be Let's go, Deacon,

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Speaker 3: I said, Lord, lay down beside the steal water, but

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Speaker 3: don't let the water be still. Ah then ask him, Lord,

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Speaker 3: since it's the first time, help me to hold out,

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Speaker 3: Help me to hold on. Lord, because the first time

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Speaker 3: in Uni go by kind of quick. But I'm asking

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Speaker 3: you to let me to hold down. And then I

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Speaker 3: realized I had to go deeper. I said, thy rod

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Speaker 3: that whatever you want. Though I walk in the valley

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Speaker 2: Because I'm up in him doing the best that I can.

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Speaker 2: Ah didn't realize.

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Speaker 3: That do unto others as you would had him do

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Speaker 3: under you. So whatever you do to me, I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: show it up, spent around, and do it right back

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Speaker 3: to you. The presex prayer. The others that you would

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Speaker 3: have him do unto you a beginning to think of that.

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Speaker 3: I said, die shall not kill, but I.

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Speaker 2: Don't say hurt it though. Lord, I'm just trying to

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Speaker 2: head it without kiddidate. Ah, just probably put the and

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Speaker 2: that was our presex prayer.

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Speaker 3: We moved on and uh, then we started getting freaky.

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Speaker 3: And there's no way that this man can be saved

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Speaker 3: and make love the way he does. I have to personally,

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Speaker 3: uh interject here and disagree with you.

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Speaker 2: Personally.

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Speaker 3: Gonna have to jump in here and defend my brother

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Speaker 3: now because you made a statement. You said there is

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Speaker 3: no way this man can be saved and make love

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Speaker 3: the way he does. Well, as the reader of this letter,

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Speaker 3: I must say, and you did write in to me,

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Speaker 3: and sureley, I totally.

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Speaker 2: Disagree with you. Come I having to be saved well

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Speaker 2: and have done some things.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Lord, listen that have made a many question me.

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Speaker 3: This is ruth and boy, I've been told hold on.

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Speaker 2: What you're doing.

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Speaker 3: I thought you knew the Lord, Wait a minute, what

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Speaker 3: what are you doing? I'm just I'm doing my thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what to tell you. I'm just doing

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Speaker 3: no way you can be saved and make love the

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Speaker 3: way he do. Now Christians do it? Where do you

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Speaker 3: think little Christians? Colch that it's some people that's in

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Speaker 3: the church. That's baby making mechs anyway it again, and

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Speaker 3: and and and use all the filthy languages he uses.

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Speaker 3: I thought he was happy to be getting some at first,

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Speaker 3: but he immediately start yelling profanity as loud as he could.

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Speaker 3: I've been told I'm excellent in bed, but he showed

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Speaker 2: What did he say to it though?

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Speaker 3: What he calls I can't repeat that, But this is

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Speaker 2: I'll get to that in a minute.

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Speaker 3: I told him I liked the dirty talk, but not

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Speaker 3: that dirty. I've never heard him utter a curse word

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Speaker 3: until we're having sex.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's usually when it come out. That is usually

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Speaker 3: It's this, it's his thing, and I've tried to get

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Speaker 3: he acts like it's better than the last town and

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Speaker 3: he uses new curse words and strings them together like

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Speaker 3: nobody else to get his porter. Because let me stop

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Speaker 3: you again, I'm gonna tell you right now, he ain't

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Speaker 3: using no.

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Speaker 3: Ain't none. I've used them all, My brothers have used

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Speaker 3: them all. And you can stop this here he's stringing

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Speaker 3: them together in new way. No he not, ain't no

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Speaker 3: new cuss words. We've used them all, me and my brothers.

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Speaker 4: And how do you.

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Speaker 2: Stop all that? Yeah? You just thirty. You ain't met nobody.

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