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Speaker 1: Period. What's up, y'all, it's your girl lex pe.

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Speaker 3: And it's your girls right in the call and you.

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Speaker 1: Are tuned in to another episode of Poor mind where

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Speaker 1: a drunk mine speaks sober thought. We gotta guess today,

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Speaker 1: we gotta guess. And let me tell y'all something.

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Speaker 2: I am so excited to have you on the couch

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Speaker 2: because y'all know I'm a reality TV show queen and honestly, this.

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Speaker 4: Is the first for us.

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Speaker 1: We've never had a reality start on the show. So

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Speaker 1: we have Clay from Love Is Blood in the building.

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Speaker 3: We had delicies.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, we had.

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Speaker 1: Right there, the goat the delicious Clay.

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Speaker 5: What's up? Thank you for having me. I'm good, I'm good.

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Speaker 5: I'm just I'm blessed. I'm sure.

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Speaker 4: So we gonna jump right into the thing.

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Speaker 5: Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: I want to talk about, first of all, how has

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Speaker 5: You know, I don't really think life has typically really

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Speaker 5: changed for me. I feel like with the rollout of

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Speaker 5: is Blind, I've been kind of like having my head

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Speaker 5: low because I didn't really get like the best I

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Speaker 5: would say overall, you know, response with the public. So

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Speaker 5: it's not like I'm like like, hey, I'm Clay, I'm outside,

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Speaker 5: Like I kind of just been in my foundation and

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Speaker 2: So I mean I want to kind of like hop

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Speaker 2: we're gonna hop right into it because I will say,

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Speaker 2: I don't know how reality TV works, never been on

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Speaker 4: Didn't have the best reaction to you.

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Speaker 2: So I know, with being somebody who's on the internet

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Speaker 2: I mean, because you were getting.

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Speaker 4: Attacked Yeah, left and right.

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Speaker 1: It was bad.

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Speaker 4: It was bad, So how did you deal with that?

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 5: So at first it was tough for me to deal with.

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Speaker 5: I would say I was always accustomed to looking at

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Speaker 5: used to interacting with people who you know, connect with

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Speaker 5: my business. So at first, going through it and people

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Speaker 5: are like my number got leaked and stuff like that.

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Speaker 5: So a lot of it was coming to my personal life.

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Speaker 5: you know, I started clicking on the people who were

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Speaker 5: talking stuff about me. Then I'm just like, all right,

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Speaker 2: You like we already not my hairline, Crispy talk about me.

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Speaker 5: You can't talk, you know, So I mean, yeah, I'll

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Speaker 5: it's like at the end of the day, you know,

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Speaker 5: my sister told me, she said, if you can see

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Speaker 1: Oh good, that's philosophy.

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Speaker 3: Maybe we should start.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well, for me, I can't look at any comments

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Speaker 3: Are you a responder?

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Speaker 5: You know? Sometimes like if if, if they saying something

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Speaker 4: So do you feel like you have thick skin?

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Speaker 5: I think I got fixed. I'm sensitive, for sure, but

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I definitely wanted to talk about you being

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Speaker 1: I can't wait because we're literally we went to Turks

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Speaker 3: That's what's up.

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Speaker 5: Originally know I'm from Jersey.

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Speaker 4: So do you like the South better?

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Speaker 1: You like it now?

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Speaker 5: The South treat me better hospitality.

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Speaker 3: And I'm sure you like the women too.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I like the women, but like, but don't get

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Speaker 4: Like when I see we got we're.

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Speaker 1: It'll seem like a ladies man, Like, obviously, you know

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Speaker 5: They so they recruit you on Instagram and.

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Speaker 2: LinkedIn and and I do a test that because remember

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Speaker 2: I told you he reminds me of the dude I

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Speaker 2: DMS to do it and he declined. So they definitely

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like like twenty five hundred followers, so I was

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Speaker 5: like real regular. Yeah yeah, So they recruited me and

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Speaker 5: I did about like seven series of interviews with them.

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Speaker 5: Uh and it was like probably like the video interview

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Speaker 2: Oh so you didn't even know it was you know what,

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Speaker 2: that makes a lot of sense. I'm not gonna lie

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Speaker 2: I I'm kind of skipping some questions, but I'll say this,

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Speaker 1: To get married.

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Speaker 5: Like eight days, it's a in terms of engaging, it's

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Speaker 5: eight days you got made? So no you heard the

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Speaker 5: They told me that the that the show, the overall

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Speaker 5: Then you go to the manic getaway. The romantic getaway

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Speaker 3: You know, but you also.

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Speaker 1: Had said to that you just personally, like outside of

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Speaker 5: So I think I got cold feet, honestly, And I

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Speaker 5: Nah the financial situation. AD had money saved up, so

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Speaker 5: And I'm not even listen, I'll lose out to those guys.

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Speaker 5: I preciend that.

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Speaker 2: Honesty because I think sometimes a lot of times people

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Speaker 5: Pause, though, really, yeah, yeah, let's do it. Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: To the pause because you did something that low key

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Speaker 1: You was dirty, Mack. You are a professional dirty man,

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Speaker 1: dirty max so hard. I said, you've been doing this

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Speaker 5: What do you mean, Matthew, I don't know. Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: But I get it though, because Matthew was I I

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Speaker 4: That's the type of energy he was on you. Was like, man,

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Speaker 1: You want me. I'm right here. I love a good

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Speaker 3: I feel like he just he was a better competitor.

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Speaker 4: I mean, but that's his opinion.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I got right there.

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Speaker 1: That was exactly I'm glad you admitted that because it

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Speaker 2: Type of conversation she was having with Matthew. You just

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Speaker 1: Matthew was speaking the same game to everybody though facts,

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Speaker 4: Like I'm him and I'm not competing with this.

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Speaker 1: It's part of it.

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Speaker 4: Was all straight ego.

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Speaker 1: But I like that. I like him a little dirty Max.

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna so but look he's back on that.

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Speaker 5: That's hilarious.

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Speaker 1: Did you feel about that moment?

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Speaker 5: Hey, I thought that was hilarious.

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Speaker 1: You be so mad when he walked into the room,

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Speaker 5: That's editing that I didn't like one thing about me,

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00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:26,919
Speaker 5: my dirty Mac. I'm not gonna let the dude know

441
00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:30,320
Speaker 5: he get any type of press dirty. I'm slick with it.

442
00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:32,120
Speaker 5: So they edited me were looking like I was looking

443
00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:33,920
Speaker 5: at I promise you I was not looking at that.

444
00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:38,760
Speaker 5: Because now respect to matt matt making money match, I

445
00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,400
Speaker 5: think he's in uh he does like investments for like

446
00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:44,720
Speaker 5: for businesses, so he's in finance, he's getting that back,

447
00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:47,359
Speaker 5: so he might have been having a different conversation with

448
00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:48,840
Speaker 5: He might have been like, I'm taking care of you.

449
00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,960
Speaker 5: I'm not Eve been losing out. You know. I'm looking back,

450
00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,040
Speaker 5: I'm like Matt saying the same thing two girls, but

451
00:19:56,160 --> 00:20:00,000
Speaker 5: shoot ship, yeah, telling let's get out of here right now.

452
00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:04,760
Speaker 5: I'm like, that was a hell of cold game at player.

453
00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:06,040
Speaker 5: I respected that.

454
00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:08,879
Speaker 1: I'm a dumb ass. I would have been going, Matthew,

455
00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:10,680
Speaker 1: you know what do you mean it?

456
00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:16,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, he loved he loved me, And I'm looking back

457
00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:18,080
Speaker 5: at like what I was doing in the pause. I

458
00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,000
Speaker 5: was like, bro, I don't even know how I made it,

459
00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:22,040
Speaker 5: because I was literally in the posset telling girls like,

460
00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:24,480
Speaker 5: let's trauma bond. What the hell are we doing here?

461
00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:29,400
Speaker 5: You crazy in there? Like I was just like dang man,

462
00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:32,000
Speaker 5: like but one thing, I'll say, me and ad though

463
00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:34,720
Speaker 5: it wasn't like that, like me and a d actually

464
00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 5: had like a spark from liked now of course just

465
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,120
Speaker 5: who I am. I'm gonna say something that gonna get

466
00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:44,240
Speaker 5: me in hot waters just because you know I talked

467
00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 5: too much sometimes, I'm saying, but we was we was

468
00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:51,000
Speaker 5: like we had that fire chemistry. Like even what they

469
00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:53,679
Speaker 5: show like my negative stuff in the pose that happened

470
00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:55,680
Speaker 5: like the first three days, like me and a D

471
00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:58,920
Speaker 5: locked in like day four, Matt was out of here

472
00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:01,439
Speaker 5: by day four. You know, we was there. We was

473
00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 5: there ten days so and then after every day the

474
00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:08,640
Speaker 5: dates get longer. So me like at the day four,

475
00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:11,359
Speaker 5: I think day four, we was having like our twenty

476
00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,640
Speaker 5: minute dates. After day four we was having like three

477
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 5: hour dates. So they didn't really show a lot of

478
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,720
Speaker 5: those clips, but you know, it makes sense. The juicy

479
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 5: stuff was in.

480
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:21,880
Speaker 3: Right right, right right.

481
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:27,320
Speaker 2: So what you wus say, ask I want to talk

482
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 2: about the reveal when you saw each other?

483
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:32,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, because well I wanted to ask one to go ahead,

484
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:33,720
Speaker 1: go ahead, you get into the review. So do you

485
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:36,159
Speaker 1: feel like y'all kind of like gravitated towards each other?

486
00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:38,159
Speaker 1: Because me and Lex was talking about these earlier and

487
00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,399
Speaker 1: you could let me know if you think I'm wrong,

488
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:42,360
Speaker 1: But I feel like black people, we.

489
00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 3: Know black people, boy c.

490
00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:48,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you was like lie like you can say

491
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 1: like you like you can tell when you were talking

492
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:53,359
Speaker 1: to another black person, like wherether you on the phone,

493
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 1: Like you know you're talking to customer service whatever the case.

494
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know what it is, but it's like

495
00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:03,160
Speaker 1: we just have a distinct Yeah, boy, you are very articulate.

496
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 1: You as you are.

497
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:10,439
Speaker 5: As you are, I'm gonna throw some like things in

498
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 5: there were like all right, he got like.

499
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 1: No, not even I think it's just it's like a

500
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,680
Speaker 1: little it's a thing you feel something you know you

501
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:18,880
Speaker 1: can't explain it. But I just feel like whenever I'm

502
00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:21,640
Speaker 1: talking to a black person on the phone, I know.

503
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,480
Speaker 5: You know it's funny though, I'm gonna be honest with you.

504
00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:27,000
Speaker 3: And y'all were two of the few black people that

505
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:27,880
Speaker 3: was on the show.

506
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 5: But there was other black women on there. Like I

507
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:36,119
Speaker 5: thought Jess was black. Really, Jess has very just has

508
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 5: slang in the pause, like you know, I'm not looking

509
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:40,439
Speaker 5: at her. I thought she was like not like she was.

510
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:42,520
Speaker 5: I ain't think she was full black.

511
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,320
Speaker 1: That's I said, come on, thought she was racial.

512
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,239
Speaker 5: I'm gonna put I'm gonna put the white flag and

513
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 5: me and Jess probably only like only I was on

514
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:55,080
Speaker 5: the posit with just like maybe like two days. So

515
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,159
Speaker 5: I'm just saying that, like sometimes you don't know you

516
00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,439
Speaker 5: know what I mean, because you didn't I don't think

517
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 5: AD knew I was black till like D three. Okay, yeah,

518
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,160
Speaker 5: you know, she ain't really know because we only dated

519
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 5: fifteen minutes. You know, I put my you know, my

520
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:09,080
Speaker 5: corporate voice.

521
00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 2: Okay, that's like, you know, I guess because I worked

522
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 2: in the corporate world for so long.

523
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: Like I can just tell, but I can tell. Like

524
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 1: that's why I was wondering.

525
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,120
Speaker 2: I was like, did you and AD just pick each

526
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 2: other because y'all were like, Okay, we're black, we can get.

527
00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:21,400
Speaker 1: Some air time.

528
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 5: Nah. Nah. Because I was talking to I had another

529
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 5: person I was talking to as well that we was

530
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 5: have a connection. But I mean it ain't. It didn't

531
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 5: last long. Like I do want to prefaceize, like me

532
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 5: and A D was rocking each other from day four

533
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:37,880
Speaker 5: to doing so like anybody talked to for three days.

534
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:41,680
Speaker 5: Let's let's be realistic, Like you ain't bringing up nobody

535
00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 5: talked to for three days. I don't even want to

536
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 5: get that right in two days. So I'm a yo,

537
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:51,199
Speaker 5: I'm that's a fact I couldn't be in todays depending

538
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 5: on how you look.

539
00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:52,480
Speaker 3: What's your sign?

540
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 5: I'm a virgo Virgo.

541
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 1: Virgo gang was a virgo that is surprising you are.

542
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 5: I'm a toy our sciences, Bible.

543
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 1: I know ourth signs be vibbing with each other. I'm

544
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,800
Speaker 1: really surprised that you be in love in todays, I'm.

545
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:13,640
Speaker 5: Very I'm a skipt I'll be skeptical, but like i'd

546
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 5: be like, you know, like if I see something that

547
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 5: I like, I'd be like, I'll be convincing my you

548
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying, Like I'm an over thingsion, delusion.

549
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:22,359
Speaker 5: We know.

550
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 1: It's the whole season.

551
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:25,119
Speaker 4: We know.

552
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 5: Now I'll be living in my own little bubble. But

553
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 5: it's all good. I like my bubble.

554
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 1: But I will say, Clay, I'm I'm very delusional as

555
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,439
Speaker 1: we I think delusion could be good sometimes, yeah, it can.

556
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 4: It can be a good thing. So now I want

557
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 4: to talk about the reveal.

558
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 2: Okay, the reason I want to talk about the reveal

559
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:42,399
Speaker 2: because obviously eighty is a very attractive one.

560
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:43,159
Speaker 4: Is so.

561
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: Is ad your typical type that you date? Like, if

562
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 2: you think about the women that you dated before a

563
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 2: d is that does she fall in the category of

564
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 2: the women that you usually date?

565
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 5: I think in terms of like relationships, if I showed

566
00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 5: you all the women that I dated they all had

567
00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:01,560
Speaker 5: different body types, you know, skin complex and what Ray

568
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:05,120
Speaker 5: Shermer said, I ain't got no type, you know, Like honestly, now,

569
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 5: I do know usually date black women. I'll say black women,

570
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 5: Spanish women, just being from Jersey was a heavy Dominican

571
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 5: and Puerto Rican community, but in terms of like who

572
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 5: actually met my mom black women? So you know, I

573
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:22,680
Speaker 5: heard that, But I was attracted to Ad. I felt

574
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:26,360
Speaker 5: like our physical was the best part of our relationship, honestly.

575
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 2: So right well, I think what the issue was is

576
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 2: like people thought that you were attracted to her like body,

577
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 2: but it was kind of like that's where it stopped

578
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 2: because a lot of times, like I'm not gonna lie,

579
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,919
Speaker 2: this was my interpretation ahead, so you can clear it

580
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 2: up for me.

581
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: I felt like you were attracted to her physically. I

582
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 1: felt like she was a little too cookie cutter for you.

583
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:51,159
Speaker 2: What you mean by cookie I think they like, you

584
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 2: want like a bad girl, like somebody that's fun and

585
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 2: turned up and kind of challenged you a little bit.

586
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:59,440
Speaker 2: I think Ad, obviously if you tign up the show,

587
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 2: you want to get married. I think a d this

588
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 2: is no shade to her because I think she's a

589
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 2: beautiful woman.

590
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 1: I was always rooting for Ad.

591
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,479
Speaker 2: I think she's gonna be an amazing wife to somebody.

592
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 2: But I think I have a friend like this that

593
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 2: we know is sometimes when we want to get married

594
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 2: so bad, they become cookie cutter and they will mold

595
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,120
Speaker 2: themselves to be exactly what this man, what they think

596
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 2: this man wants to be. And I think Ad was

597
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 2: trying so hard to fit in what a mold of

598
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 2: what she thought that she wanted to be.

599
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 4: I think it kind of bored you a little bit,

600
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 4: you gay.

601
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

602
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,959
Speaker 2: I think you were you were you look bored. Sometimes

603
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 2: it was given that you were bored a little bit.

604
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 2: So I think like when you saw her, you were like, okay, cool,

605
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 2: Like this is cool. You was like, I can work

606
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:39,880
Speaker 2: with that. I wish I would walk in the room

607
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:41,360
Speaker 2: and niggas tell me I can work with that.

608
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:49,880
Speaker 1: Yeah I can work with that. Class Given I could

609
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 1: work with that, then like if I was like I

610
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 1: would just be like, yeah, you do one.

611
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 5: Well, So you was mad if I'm an okay body commentary, it.

612
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:04,400
Speaker 2: Was always that body is tea. I know my body

613
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 2: needs a man to look at When my man looks

614
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,120
Speaker 2: at me, he'd be like, you are so beautiful.

615
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying. I don't understand why every time

616
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 5: I compliment her body, Like literally the wedding scene where

617
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 5: I said, okay, body please, I really wish I had

618
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,680
Speaker 5: to scream just fast for a minute, just fast forward

619
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 5: a minute. I said you look so beautiful twice Nobody, nobody.

620
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 5: I feel like nobody even picked that up. It's like, bro,

621
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 5: like I said she was beautiful sometimes that I didn't

622
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 5: go into the edit as well, but like at the

623
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:36,120
Speaker 5: wedding for sure, for sure, which I got killed, like

624
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 5: it's on the episode. I had to watch it back

625
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 5: just to make sure, like, please tell me if I'm wrong.

626
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I mean before the wedding though you saw

627
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 1: her for the first I can work with that.

628
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 5: Yeah, I did what you meant by that, because you know,

629
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 5: it's an unorthodox process where you don't see what the

630
00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,120
Speaker 5: people look like. So I was just kind of making

631
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:58,160
Speaker 5: a reference probably to that experiment, like, yeah, I could

632
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 5: work with that. You know, I thought Ad was attracted.

633
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 5: I'm not tracked to her face. Okay, so you are,

634
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 5: I'm attractive. And then I want to kind of chime

635
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 5: in with you said, I think Ad was fun. I

636
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 5: was never bored in our relationship. I feel like off camera,

637
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 5: me and A D had a good vibe, Like AD

638
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 5: is a type of girl I would date. Like when

639
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 5: we was off camera, I like a sexual girl. I

640
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 5: like a girl that's fun. AD was all that, She's bubbly,

641
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 5: She's like she lit, you know what I'm saying. So

642
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:26,439
Speaker 5: it was okay.

643
00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: So the chemistry was indeed there.

644
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 5: The chemistry was definitely there. It was I thought. I

645
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 5: thought Netflix did a not the best job of showing

646
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 5: our chemistry. I feel like if you talk to anybody

647
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 5: in the cast cast members, they say that the relationship

648
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 5: that they were most disappointed was me and A D

649
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 5: because we have magnetic chemistry.

650
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 2: Okay, because I'm not gonna lie I didn't see I didn't.

651
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 2: I didn't see it either, washing it that sparked that

652
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 2: fire because I'm a fire sign.

653
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: I need that passion. I need that.

654
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 4: So I'm like, where is it?

655
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 5: Same saying where is it? You know?

656
00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 1: Okay?

657
00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 5: So and also too, I mean you could protest as

658
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 5: being Earth sign, but like it's a little slower for

659
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 5: us to get that.

660
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 1: Like, no, I don't got that time it. I mean, well, yeah,

661
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 1: I do but that's first of all, don't listen to her,

662
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 1: as she'd be lying because all she dated Earth signed

663
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I bet and may be falling in love.

664
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 1: After the second day legs have dated a Virgo, she was.

665
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 2: Like, it's your experience with virgos, my virgo experience literally

666
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 2: first date, first date we went on, he was like

667
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 2: obsessed with me. We was kissing, making out like I have.

668
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 2: Even though I do date a lot of Earth signs,

669
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 2: it's never been slow boogie with me.

670
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 4: Niggas fall in love with me very quickly.

671
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:40,120
Speaker 1: I'm a good time.

672
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 5: See my fire sign experience, though, I feel like that's

673
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 5: just probably like that chemistry because I feel like with

674
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 5: the fire stigns I messed with it, do pop off

675
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 5: kind of like yeah, yeah, yeah, y'all, don't play, y'all,

676
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 5: don't play.

677
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 3: I feel the same way too.

678
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: Every fire sign experience I've had, like dating a fire

679
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 1: signing like it's quick, it's quick.

680
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 5: I just feel like for Earth times were so chill,

681
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 5: like we kind of like that, like we trying.

682
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 3: To peep the scene.

683
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 1: I feel like we be trying to feel the other

684
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 1: person ye first, before we figure out how we gone

685
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 1: maneuver and how we're gonna move. Were trying to see

686
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 1: what you want.

687
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 2: So I do want to ask this question because that's

688
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 2: going to lead you to our first topic.

689
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 4: We've been talking, we've been chatting. We got some more stuff.

690
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: Well before we get into the first topee, oh, go ahead,

691
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 1: we got an X time.

692
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 5: What are we drinking today?

693
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: Already?

694
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 5: Yeah?

695
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 1: I love that. So this drink of the week is

696
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 1: called the Love is Blind, and our guests likes whiskey,

697
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: so we have some whiskey in there. We have some

698
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: raspberry liquor, some lemon juice, and a little bit of

699
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: a gave. We have some feet foam, so that's what's

700
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: giving us kind of like that thick top and then

701
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: a little bit of bitters on top, and then as

702
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 1: the garnish, we have a beautiful basil and some raspberry

703
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: perfect for spring, summertime, getting in that zone we.

704
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 3: Outside looking for our boom.

705
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: Okay period.

706
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 4: I like this.

707
00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: It's very good. You like your drink.

708
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 5: I like it. I'm really feeling that I need to.

709
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: Try to what's up y'all? As your girl lex Peen

710
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: and is your girl dragging a call La? We haven't

711
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 1: seen y'all since last year and we coming.

712
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,960
Speaker 2: Back in a big way.

713
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: We on our motherfucking road.

714
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 5: You're you're.

715
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 1: What's good? Oh? You gotta okay? So I've been saying

716
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 1: here so it's him, fuck out of him, Suck out

717
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 1: of here, bitch. Yeah that ass you got me fucked up? Son?

718
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: Oh you did that? Sign out of here? Aqua pena.

719
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 5: Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh.

720
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 1: Y'all know, first of all, I love the Whist Coast.

721
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 1: We always have a time. Last year we had our

722
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 1: show out there and y'all was lead. We had the

723
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 1: best cloud ever. So I can't wait to see y'all again.

724
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 1: I know y'all gonna turn up for us and were

725
00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: coming out there again for the Netflix Festival.

726
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 2: Yes, Netflix is a joke fest. May tenth will be

727
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 2: at the Miracle Theater at seven thirty pm. I'm telling

728
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 2: you get your tickets right now. This is a show

729
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 2: you are not going to want to miss. So what

730
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 2: you're gonna do is go to Netflix is a joke

731
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 2: dot com. Get your tickets May tenth, poor minds seven

732
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 2: point thirty.

733
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 1: It's gonna be lead.

734
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 3: We gonna be there. Y'all need to be there, period, And.

735
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 1: Y'all know we're gonna have some special guest slide through

736
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 1: just waiting see.

737
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,719
Speaker 2: Were y'all able to drink in the part? Yeah, we're

738
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 2: drinking and going on the dates and stuff like that.

739
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: Do you feel like that.

740
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 4: Kind of affected No?

741
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 1: Okay, okay.

742
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 2: So I do want to ask this question because Johnny

743
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 2: and Amy were the only couple who got married this season.

744
00:32:55,320 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 2: They were very healthy in their communication. Their spark was there.

745
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: They rarely got in an argument and disagreements. It was

746
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: very healthy, beautiful love, and they put the people to sleep.

747
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 1: I was fast.

748
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 4: Shut out to y'all, but I'm not gonna lie.

749
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 1: It was a little bit of a snap fast forwarding

750
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 1: through their scenes.

751
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 4: I was, I'm not gonna lie.

752
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 2: I was I was going to see what was going

753
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 2: on with you and A definitely going to see what

754
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:26,280
Speaker 2: was going on with Jimmy and Chelsea, and then like

755
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 2: Ken and Brittany, even though they didn't last, I was

756
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 2: interested to see what that was.

757
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: I just we liked drama.

758
00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 2: So this goes into the first topic. Do you feel

759
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 2: like healthy relationships are boring?

760
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 5: That's a great question. I think when healthy people give

761
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 5: me perspective on like how to be married, it doesn't

762
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 5: really connect like that because I just feel like, especially men,

763
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 5: I kind of need a dude to give me perspective

764
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 5: that he kind of been outside a little bit. Yeah,

765
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 5: he's been through some stuff, like a reform dude. You

766
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying that probably I'll just talk to

767
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 5: my therapist. I said, I think I probably need my

768
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 5: wife need to be reformed.

769
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 2: A reformed I know, I agree with that, So I

770
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 2: need we need a little spot.

771
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 3: I mean, I can understand it, though I do.

772
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,399
Speaker 1: I would like a perspective from somebody if I really

773
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 1: do have to think about it, who has been through

774
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 1: shiit in a marriage, like real shit and they persevered

775
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,080
Speaker 1: and they got through the sheet versus like they're just

776
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 1: like we've just always been so in love since day one,

777
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:34,399
Speaker 1: and like it's just been perfect. He's never cheated, he's

778
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 1: never did anything. I've never stepped outside of the marriage.

779
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that like you should cheat, you

780
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But I'm just saying, like even

781
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:48,239
Speaker 1: with like financial things, like it's beyond cheating, it's beyond infidelity.

782
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:50,719
Speaker 1: But just like, have y'all been through some ship or

783
00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: have it been peachy?

784
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,840
Speaker 5: And I need to figure out from a dude, like

785
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 5: how did you deal with like nothing, Like, yeah, well,

786
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:58,800
Speaker 5: you know Johnny. Me and Johnny actually had that conversation

787
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 5: at the Bachelor party. It was air and you know,

788
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 5: and I love Johnny. Me and Johnny's actually one of

789
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 5: the closest guys that I'm you know, cool with on

790
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 5: the show. But we don't really see eye to eye

791
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 5: when it comes to like the relationship part, because you know,

792
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 5: I just feel like me the way I grew up,

793
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:14,959
Speaker 5: you know, like I need to talk to a guy

794
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 5: that see how he with stamps temptation because I feel

795
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 5: like with that was another thing that was on my head,

796
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 5: like have I really put in the work too, Like

797
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 5: if a bad chick just comes up to me and

798
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 5: you know, I've been there with Ady for six weeks,

799
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:31,879
Speaker 5: like truth be told, I loved her, but like it

800
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 5: wasn't a foundation to me that was like internal, it

801
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 5: was like I love this girl, but like this is cool.

802
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 5: It'd be some bad women outside and like and like

803
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 5: I hate, like I hate the inter gonna kill me

804
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 5: for this, but like you know, you know that they

805
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 5: out there, you know what I'm saying. But this is

806
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 5: the thing though, I like and I always knew that,

807
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 5: but like I wasn't really in that. Like I said

808
00:35:57,160 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 5: in the beginning, I wasn't in that mindset. And then

809
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 5: when I'm about to get married, it's like, dang, Like,

810
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:05,279
Speaker 5: did I like is just all gone? Like did I

811
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:08,839
Speaker 5: like work on myself to know that temptation ain't gonna

812
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 5: leave me astray? You know what I'm saying. So that's

813
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 5: what I'm doing now, honestly, to make sure that that's

814
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:14,360
Speaker 5: not a problem.

815
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 4: So when it came to talk.

816
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:18,320
Speaker 5: About that good stuff, they're like, let's get out of

817
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 5: here good back to toxic.

818
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 1: I just feel like, do you feel like the reason

819
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: like you didn't agree to say yes?

820
00:36:26,800 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 2: Like you said, it's because you weren't ready, But was

821
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 2: it because like you wasn't ready to give up going outside?

822
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 5: No? No, No, it was a multiple thing. I mean

823
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 5: I think there was a that was definitely like in

824
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 5: the back of my head, but like that's probably in

825
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 5: every man's head about to get married, you know what

826
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:45,840
Speaker 5: I'm saying. I like, men don't keep it real with

827
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 5: women on a one on one basis, but they keep

828
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 5: it real with other men, you know what I'm saying.

829
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 5: So so when I when I talked to guys. They

830
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 5: they pound me, they shay, Like, Bro, I appreciate what

831
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 5: you're saying. Married men for twenty years. I asked this

832
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:01,319
Speaker 5: one dude. He met me at the airport and he

833
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,360
Speaker 5: was like so and throwt he wanted that conversation with

834
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 5: me at I said, bro, Like, like, tell me about

835
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 5: your perspective on marriage. I said, Bro, it's tough. It's tough.

836
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 5: Like I said, what's your advice for me? He told me,

837
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 5: wait on forty five. Married men tell me merry men

838
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 5: all the time tell me to wait, and I feel

839
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 5: like I don't want to do that, so like I'm

840
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 5: trying to like get to That's why I'm like, it's

841
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 5: constant you no searching of like okay, that that perception

842
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 5: to kind of like let it click for marriage. And

843
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 5: this is what I'm working for because I want to

844
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 5: be a husband and I want to have kids. I

845
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 5: want I don't want to wait on forty five, Like

846
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:37,280
Speaker 5: I would love to find a woman like this year

847
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 5: like and be locked down, like I want to have

848
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,399
Speaker 5: a relationship, but i'mnna be honest, and I just feel

849
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 5: like it's not that popular. Like guys, we have our

850
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 5: own type of cold language. And we don't really speak

851
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,479
Speaker 5: that much with women because were women because we're gonna

852
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 5: get judged, you know. And I feel like when I

853
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 5: was transparent with it, you know, men see that, they

854
00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 5: see that, They're like, yo, this dude was saying a

855
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,840
Speaker 5: lot of stuff that I feel and he got ridicue

856
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 5: from it.

857
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 1: So what was their perspective, like as far as like,

858
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 1: you know, some of the meaning that you were talking

859
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 1: to when they was like, oh, you shouldn't get married

860
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 1: to you with forty five, Like, what was the reason.

861
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 5: They feel as though that? I think for them, I

862
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 5: think I'm not listening to their advice because I think

863
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 5: they came from a perspective of they see what's going

864
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 5: on in my life and they're like, man, I really

865
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 5: wish I could have been married later on the life.

866
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:28,320
Speaker 5: I wish I would have had a little more fun

867
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 5: before I locked in. And also too, like you know,

868
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,400
Speaker 5: I think for guys, man, I think that temptation, especially

869
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:37,880
Speaker 5: if you're getting money and like you just kind of

870
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 5: just you know, you use outside you got a relationship

871
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 5: that's not really a talked about thing with men, but

872
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 5: like that's a tough transition for like any guy that

873
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 5: you know, goes from high volume of women, so now

874
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 5: you just with one, and it's like there ain't no

875
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 5: platform when men talk about that struggle, you know, and

876
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 5: then like when you say it, women like well damn,

877
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 5: Like I'm I'm like, I'm so good. I should be

878
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:02,839
Speaker 5: that one person. It's like, yeah, you are that good,

879
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 5: you should be that one person. But it's like it's

880
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 5: anybody going through the addiction. Like I'll be you know,

881
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 5: I'll be doing my little dabble with my you know,

882
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 5: my draw you know whatever, my drugger choice is. It's

883
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 5: hard sometimes put it down, you know what I'm saying. Yeah,

884
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 5: it's just it ain't It ain't the easiest thing. I

885
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 5: think for men, I think we got we kind of

886
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:24,800
Speaker 5: came from a perspective of like we idolize having multiple

887
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 5: women having success, like where we're not really idolizing things

888
00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 5: that we should like family and and like that foundation

889
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 5: of love. We idolize the wrong thing. I think for

890
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 5: the black community, we you know, we hear it all time,

891
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,880
Speaker 5: even from women, high value men and and all this

892
00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:42,439
Speaker 5: other stuff. So you chasing different certain things and then

893
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:43,919
Speaker 5: you lose yourself in that.

894
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 2: You know, well, I agree to that that testament as

895
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:52,359
Speaker 2: far as like what we idolize, because I do want

896
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 2: to talk to you about this a little bit too,

897
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 2: because your dad was on.

898
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 4: The last episode.

899
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know, a lot of the season you

900
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 2: were talking about how you felt like you were gonna cheat,

901
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:01,840
Speaker 2: and you know, there.

902
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 4: Was a whole ongoing joke because.

903
00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 2: Everybody was like Ady could be like, hey, babe, what

904
00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:06,880
Speaker 2: you want for breakfast?

905
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: Well, I'm a cheat, So what you cooking?

906
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 4: Because I'm a cheat?

907
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 2: And it was like a lot like every time it

908
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 2: was like every time she would bring up everything, it

909
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 2: came back to you and how you felt like you

910
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 2: just could not be faithful. So in the last episode,

911
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 2: we were introduced to your father, and I'm not gonna lie.

912
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 2: I felt like it was the whole season when I

913
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 2: was watching and you were talking about like the infidelity

914
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 2: and how you were like it was hard for you

915
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 2: to settle down, which I'm glad.

916
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 1: That you told your truth, but.

917
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:40,399
Speaker 2: It was like you kept saying a lot about what

918
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 2: you saw in your parents, what was going on between

919
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 2: your parents. But I'm not gonna lie. When I saw

920
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 2: your daddy and I heard yo, I'm not I'm being honest,

921
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:51,799
Speaker 2: and I saw your daddy talking. I said, Oh, he

922
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:55,359
Speaker 2: a player, player from the Himalaya. I seen where you

923
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 2: get that shit from.

924
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 1: Cause even the way and even the way he was

925
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 1: talking to your mama, cause he was like, hey, he

926
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:03,919
Speaker 1: was ready to take your mama out for a date

927
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:05,399
Speaker 1: that night that she was gonna go.

928
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, And I love your mother.

929
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 2: She was so well spoken and well poised, and you

930
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 2: could tell she was like, I don't be trying to

931
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,840
Speaker 2: have this conversation with me right now. So do you

932
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 2: feel like that goes into our second time? It's like

933
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 2: it's cheating a learned behavior, because I honestly I thought

934
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:25,839
Speaker 2: a lot of the things that you were.

935
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 4: Saying was bullshit.

936
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 2: But when I saw your dad and then how you

937
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 2: spoke on your dad and how much you look up to.

938
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 1: Him, Yeah, I think a lot of.

939
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 2: The things that you have learned from your behaviors it's

940
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 2: from your dad.

941
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, one hundred percent. I mean my dad. I want

942
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 5: to say, I want to say, just before I get

943
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 5: into this, like my dad's put in the work. He's

944
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:49,399
Speaker 5: definitely he had a conversation with the family apologized because

945
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 5: I don't think he really knew the things that was happening, Uh,

946
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 5: that was affecting us, like especially me and my little brother.

947
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 5: You know, he really looks at us like his children.

948
00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 5: So he really poured into us the best way he could.

949
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 5: But when it comes to my relationships, it you know,

950
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 5: didn't really like manifest inter her like where I could

951
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 5: get relationship. But my dad, in terms of my entrepreneurship,

952
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 5: my goal get in like he poured into that. He

953
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 5: like he always told me like never let you know,

954
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:19,560
Speaker 5: don't depend on nobody, always be independent. So I feel

955
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 5: like a lot of my good attributes I got from

956
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 5: my dad, so you know, but you know, in terms

957
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,280
Speaker 5: of how I went about relationships, I looked at women

958
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 5: like soldiers in a sense, you know, from they're supposed

959
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 5: to go through, not go through something, not go through something.

960
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 5: But like the way how I was kind of brought up,

961
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 5: and not just from my dad, but just like my

962
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 5: grandfather as well, who passed away, you know, just like hey,

963
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 5: you know women in your life, like when I was

964
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 5: let's say, like my bad let me break up. So

965
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:51,839
Speaker 5: when I was running track, you'll finish track practice at

966
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:55,520
Speaker 5: seven pm. My grandpa sometimes be pissed that I got

967
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 5: to pick you up at seven pm. Why can't you

968
00:42:57,200 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 5: get one of your female friends to take you Always

969
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 5: kind of like, hey, you should have women help you

970
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 5: out with certain things, you know what I'm saying. So

971
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 5: I mind you, in high school, I was a little geek,

972
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 5: you know, I wasn't really I was just an athlete.

973
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 5: I wasn't really that guy until I got to college,

974
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. So this is all stuff

975
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:18,799
Speaker 5: that when I'm growing up, this is all in the

976
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 5: back of my head because it's not like I was

977
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 5: like getting women in high school and doing our stuff.

978
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 5: It just was talk to me when I wasn't. So

979
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 5: this is how I'm thinking that the relationships are supposed

980
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 5: to go, you know what I'm saying, Because I really

981
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,839
Speaker 5: didn't have like a relationship in high school. I really

982
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 5: was gonna in the books focused on sports. But I'm

983
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,720
Speaker 5: still having these conversations with the men in my life

984
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 5: and also too, the cool guys. They was cheating guys,

985
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 5: I was getting the girls they had all they had

986
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 5: multiple women. So like I get it, and what I'm

987
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 5: saying ain't popular. But like in society, the men that

988
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 5: are praised, especially in the black community, have multiple women

989
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 5: and to me when I was kind of growing up.

990
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 5: That's what I was idolizing, Like I wanted that. I

991
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 5: wanted that like accolade. I wanted that respect that those

992
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 5: men had because I felt like me being a good

993
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 5: guy and other people contesters. I feel like me being

994
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 5: a good guy was not working. Like I adopted.

995
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 1: To that though. Yeah, I mean, and I also to

996
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 1: kind of piggyback of what you said. I feel like

997
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 1: a lot of women are raised to feel like their

998
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 1: words is like valued by what they can endure. Yeah,

999
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 1: like what what you're willing to put up with. And

1000
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 1: then like sometimes you know, older generations, they'll like be like, well.

1001
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 3: You know, you gotta stick by your man.

1002
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 1: It's not gonna be easy, Like whatever whatever is going on,

1003
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 1: you gotta stay by your man, because a good man

1004
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: is hard to find. I do feel like people are

1005
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 1: raised that way and it's over. And that's just not

1006
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 1: in the black community either, that's in every community. Like

1007
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:00,319
Speaker 1: you're as a woman, you kind of just talk to

1008
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:02,399
Speaker 1: like turn the blind eye to a lot of sheep.

1009
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 1: As long as he's providing, as long as he's taking

1010
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 1: care of the household, as long as he's doing what

1011
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:08,319
Speaker 1: he needs to do.

1012
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:09,919
Speaker 3: Quote unquote as a man like.

1013
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: All of the other sheep that is not really going right,

1014
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:14,880
Speaker 1: and a relationship is okay because it's about like you

1015
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 1: being a Woman's about you being strong and being there

1016
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,520
Speaker 1: for your man and kind of being like the backbone.

1017
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 2: Yeah so no, so piggybacking off of that, do you

1018
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 2: feel like your mom made the right decision and like

1019
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:30,919
Speaker 2: getting a divorce from your dad?

1020
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, ultimately I think it was the right decision,

1021
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 5: but I don't know. I feel like we had a

1022
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 5: good family dynamic. I wasn't really privy to a lot

1023
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 5: of the stuff that was happening, and of course my

1024
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 5: dad would take me on the trip. But like that's

1025
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:53,280
Speaker 5: all I'm saying. It's so hard because I'm a kid.

1026
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:56,879
Speaker 5: I'm like eleven years old. It's not processing like what

1027
00:45:56,920 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 5: was really going what's really going on? And I feel

1028
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 5: like people are just like very hyper like I wasn't seventeen.

1029
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:05,000
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Speaker 1: Okay, what confused you're calling.

1054
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:05,800
Speaker 3: Them ladies untie?

1055
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,359
Speaker 5: Nah was like, I was looking like what.

1056
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 3: They be like, Oh, just call them unty or uncle.

1057
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 5: I thought this was regular, I thought to me and

1058
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 5: my view because I'm not even talking about my dad.

1059
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,439
Speaker 5: I'm talking about men because, like I said, I don't

1060
00:47:22,440 --> 00:47:25,839
Speaker 5: think men expose the same thing to women like they

1061
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 5: do to other guys and boys. Men, it's a different dynamic.

1062
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 5: I'm talking about in corporate sales management. I've seen it,

1063
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:39,400
Speaker 5: like I don't be seeing to me in my eyes,

1064
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 5: like marriage, it's like a guy holding down the household,

1065
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 5: but like the commitment is a great area when I

1066
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 5: talk to men. That's just my opinion.

1067
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 1: But why do you think men are not comfortable talking

1068
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 1: to women about things as comfortable as they are were

1069
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 1: like talking today. Do you feel like it's because they

1070
00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 1: feel like women are not gonna understand them.

1071
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 5: I remember when I was talking to one of my friends,

1072
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:05,920
Speaker 5: she was one of my homegirls, and she was kind

1073
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 5: of telling me the guys that she was attracted to,

1074
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,759
Speaker 5: and I was letting her know, I said, good luck,

1075
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:14,320
Speaker 5: it's gonna be hard to tie down some of those guys.

1076
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 5: Like she kind of like, you know, the typical I

1077
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 5: want you know this like to me who she was,

1078
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 5: I feel like she's a good girl, and I feel

1079
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 5: like the type of guy she should get was probably

1080
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 5: a line to something that had the same interest to her.

1081
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 5: But she's like one of them good girls like them

1082
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 5: bad guys. And I was like, I don't think that's

1083
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 5: your way because these guys are used to talking to

1084
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:36,720
Speaker 5: multiple women and they're getting money like the guys she wants,

1085
00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:39,040
Speaker 5: you know, the typical situation.

1086
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:39,880
Speaker 4: And I think it's.

1087
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 1: It's different categories because technically you could say you that

1088
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 1: god to though.

1089
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I'm willing to put that work into to

1090
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 5: get better. That's why I say it's all about interviewing.

1091
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:53,480
Speaker 5: You got to interview really well because like when you're dating,

1092
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 5: you got to understand where that person foundation, family dynamic.

1093
00:48:58,160 --> 00:48:59,839
Speaker 5: I think a lot of stuff matter, like people would

1094
00:48:59,840 --> 00:49:02,400
Speaker 5: be like some stuff shouldn't matter, loves matter. Now I

1095
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:04,760
Speaker 5: need to know you you got, how is your family dynamic?

1096
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,279
Speaker 5: You got brothers, you got what's like? What's up? You know,

1097
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:08,960
Speaker 5: because that a lot of some of that stuff plays

1098
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 5: a factor. Like marriage ain't a simple thing like I

1099
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:14,839
Speaker 5: think people try to make it seem it's a you

1100
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 5: you emerging families as well, you know what I'm saying.

1101
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:20,919
Speaker 5: So if you have families that don't like each other,

1102
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 5: that's awkward during Thanksgiving, I can make the relationship, you know, plateau.

1103
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 5: I have no relationships where the families didn't get along.

1104
00:49:28,160 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 5: That called struggles and they got divorced years later. Because

1105
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 5: you don't have no support, you don't have nobody backing

1106
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 5: it up. That stuff matters.

1107
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 1: So yeah, But do you feel like your fear of

1108
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 1: commitment and.

1109
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 2: Maybe like you being afraid that you're gonna cheat or

1110
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 2: if you have cheated in the past and relationships, do

1111
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 2: you feel like that was a learned behavior.

1112
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 5: No, I think it wasn't a learned behavior. I think

1113
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 5: I just I tried to adopt that persona to be

1114
00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 5: seen and I got caught up up in there. You know,

1115
00:50:02,080 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 5: I don't think my I don't think anything that my

1116
00:50:03,840 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 5: dad did taught me because my dad was having all

1117
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 5: those conversations with me. I had my first girlfriend, I

1118
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:12,480
Speaker 5: was committed to her, I got my heart broken, didn't

1119
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 5: cheat on her. I was a good guy and just

1120
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 5: got my heart broken, like good guys. Like what I'm

1121
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 5: trying to say, like this is your villain origin story

1122
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:22,480
Speaker 5: because I'm not trying to be a villain. Like I'm

1123
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 5: going to therapy so I could like unlearned behavior, you

1124
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying, Like truthfully, like honestly, like I

1125
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 5: don't think having sex with multiple women for guys is

1126
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 5: a good thing to do. I think you're intertwining too

1127
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:36,920
Speaker 5: many energies. I think that you're constantly comparing, and I

1128
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 5: would I really wish that you know that I was

1129
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:41,879
Speaker 5: still the same good guy in high school. I really

1130
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 5: wish I had the confidence to say, like who I

1131
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 5: was was good enough. But I didn't feel like that,

1132
00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:49,280
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, Like I wasn't getting women

1133
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 5: coming up to me and saying, Clay, you good looking

1134
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:54,360
Speaker 5: and you're attractive. Women weren't seeing me. I wasn't getting

1135
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 5: guys coming up to me like Clay, you that nigga,

1136
00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:58,879
Speaker 5: Like I wasn't getting none of that. So it wasn't

1137
00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 5: until I started winning track meets women started liking me,

1138
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 5: I started getting money. Now I'm getting that validation like, oh,

1139
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:09,839
Speaker 5: I'm that guy, and that gets in your head like,

1140
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:11,880
Speaker 5: you know, not no villain or it's just ego, Like

1141
00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, That ego just kind of

1142
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 5: ramp it up. So that's why I said, when it

1143
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:19,120
Speaker 5: comes to men, we got to have conversation with men

1144
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 5: that are in the same like elk with us. Because

1145
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:24,440
Speaker 5: if I talk to some guy that I've been in

1146
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,280
Speaker 5: a committed relationship since he was fifteen. I'm not gonna

1147
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 5: relate relate to that. Understand what you're going Yeah, because like, bro,

1148
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:33,280
Speaker 5: you've been with the same girl since she was fifteen,

1149
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 5: I've been facing temptations from fifteen to thirty. You know

1150
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 5: that's and.

1151
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 3: What do y'all think about that?

1152
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 1: Because you know, typically in the Bible it says you're

1153
00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: supposed to meet that one person, settle down. Like dating

1154
00:51:48,719 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 1: really is not supposed to be a thing, because it's

1155
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 1: like you're supposed to like meet somebody and get to

1156
00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 1: know them for a little bit, then y'all get married, right, Yeah,

1157
00:51:57,239 --> 00:52:00,320
Speaker 1: that's why technically we're not supposed to have six before

1158
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:03,400
Speaker 1: marriage because it's like dating isn't really supposed to be

1159
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:07,200
Speaker 1: like this long, drawing out thing. Like you meet a person, Okay,

1160
00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:09,319
Speaker 1: like I'm bobbing with them. I feel like they the

1161
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:11,960
Speaker 1: one we get married. So I don't know, Like what

1162
00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:12,759
Speaker 1: do y'all think about that?

1163
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 5: Okay? Like what ad said, you got a test drive.

1164
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:18,920
Speaker 4: I'm I'm not gonna lie.

1165
00:52:18,960 --> 00:52:24,359
Speaker 1: She don't got a test drive, guard and wasn't having

1166
00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:29,320
Speaker 1: sex yet. It was Brittany, And yeah, Brittany, I'm sorry,

1167
00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 1: Like it's just not happening. I feel like we are

1168
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:35,839
Speaker 1: in a society where, of course people do over sexualize people.

1169
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:39,880
Speaker 1: I feel like they were definitely over sexualizing a d

1170
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 1: in some things. I felt like it was all about her.

1171
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 4: Body and the way she looks.

1172
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 2: An Ad is very smart, she's educated, she's beautiful. It's

1173
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,839
Speaker 2: but it was more about her body and a lot

1174
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 2: of times so I need it. But at the same time,

1175
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:59,000
Speaker 2: sex is natural. Sex makes the world operate. If we

1176
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 2: don't have sex and create, the world came operate. But

1177
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 2: sex is natural, true, but we're technically not supposed to

1178
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 2: be pro creating before Mary.

1179
00:53:08,160 --> 00:53:11,279
Speaker 1: That's that's that's cool, and I get that. However, I

1180
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:14,319
Speaker 1: agree with both of y'all because I personally feel like

1181
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 1: I gotta test drop the cards. Sex.

1182
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:19,319
Speaker 2: It's important in the relationship, right. I cannot be with

1183
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 2: somebody who the sex is not.

1184
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 1: You know what.

1185
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:22,719
Speaker 4: Since beginning here, I.

1186
00:53:22,719 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: Was gonna say this, Oh yeah, let's go ahead, it

1187
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 1: too the big bow, the big bow, the big bow

1188
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 1: bow bow bow about Okay, Well let me I'm gonna

1189
00:53:37,120 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 1: bring I'm the topic en, So we definitely want us

1190
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 1: to talk about like good sex and a bad situation

1191
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:49,839
Speaker 1: like having great sex with somebody, but you know when

1192
00:53:49,840 --> 00:53:51,520
Speaker 1: it's a situation that you don't need to be in,

1193
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:54,880
Speaker 1: and obviously like it's not necessarily.

1194
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:56,880
Speaker 3: That you and a d situation was like a bad situation.

1195
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:01,480
Speaker 1: But y'all definitely keeps talking about how good the sex was,

1196
00:54:01,840 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 1: and like even with watching the reunion, well she did,

1197
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:07,560
Speaker 1: she did. There was a.

1198
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 2: Scene where she was talking about like, you know, yeah,

1199
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:14,040
Speaker 2: she was saying, you know, like you five, she's gone

1200
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 2: a few you know, interviews.

1201
00:54:15,560 --> 00:54:19,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, second there, so maybe not you, but yes,

1202
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 1: like definitely have heard putting it on your class. You

1203
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:25,880
Speaker 1: ain't got the line. We know she was putting it

1204
00:54:25,880 --> 00:54:27,520
Speaker 1: on you. That's why you walked down that all you

1205
00:54:27,640 --> 00:54:32,040
Speaker 1: was still like decided okay, wait, so so I wanted

1206
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: to see and I wanted to segue into like, okay,

1207
00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: so obviously on the reunion, like when y'all were having

1208
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 1: a discussion of conversation and she was just kind of

1209
00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:44,879
Speaker 1: like they had asked her Vanessa, I think or Nick

1210
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:48,240
Speaker 1: had asked her, so would you like date him again?

1211
00:54:48,320 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 3: And she was like no comments, she want to move

1212
00:54:50,280 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 3: on to the next question.

1213
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 1: I feel like, is that because the sex was fired. Like,

1214
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:59,400
Speaker 1: even though you was very clear about the fact that

1215
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:01,439
Speaker 1: you didn't want to get married and you wasn't ready

1216
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:03,600
Speaker 1: for that, she's still like, well, I don't know, I

1217
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 1: might spend the block because I mean D five, Yeah,

1218
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:10,400
Speaker 1: that's what it was given to me. And I feel

1219
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:14,239
Speaker 1: like sometimes sex be clouding the judgment definitely, and it

1220
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:16,440
Speaker 1: will keep you in a situation where it's like, you know,

1221
00:55:16,520 --> 00:55:18,879
Speaker 1: this is not your future. You know, it's not about

1222
00:55:18,920 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 1: to be your husband. You notice, not the nigga that

1223
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:23,959
Speaker 1: you're gonna be with. But like the sex, because sex

1224
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: be crazy, and I feel like it probably be the

1225
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:27,239
Speaker 1: same thing for me.

1226
00:55:28,239 --> 00:55:28,479
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1227
00:55:29,320 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 2: Do you feel like the sex kind of clouded a

1228
00:55:33,960 --> 00:55:36,160
Speaker 2: lot of things that y'all had going on? Though, because

1229
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 2: obviously y'all have sexual chemistry, Like, we're right, we.

1230
00:55:38,640 --> 00:55:39,760
Speaker 4: Have sex, It's okay.

1231
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1232
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:42,120
Speaker 1: So do you feel like the sex that.

1233
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,240
Speaker 2: You and ad were having, Like, did that make things

1234
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:45,759
Speaker 2: more complicated for you?

1235
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah? Uh, when you have fire sex with someone,

1236
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 5: it definitely clouds the mind up. And you know, me

1237
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 5: and Adie had no problem in that, but we really

1238
00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 5: did have a good, like to me, good relationship outside

1239
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:06,280
Speaker 5: of the sex, Like our banter. Like I would say,

1240
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:10,359
Speaker 5: after we finished filming Love is Blind. We didn't hook up,

1241
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:13,399
Speaker 5: you know, so, but we still whenever we was rying

1242
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:16,279
Speaker 5: each other, we had that like magnetic dancer like that,

1243
00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:18,400
Speaker 5: like it could happen, you know, no, you know, I

1244
00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 5: squitch and shit, but like you know, it was it

1245
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,319
Speaker 5: was always like we still had that chemistry. But one

1246
00:56:24,400 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 5: hundred percent. Sex can definitely cloud your mind, you know.

1247
00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:29,920
Speaker 5: And I'm being honest with you, I haven't really thought

1248
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 5: too much in depth to see if like that clouded

1249
00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:35,800
Speaker 5: our mind. But I feel like me and A d

1250
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:37,680
Speaker 5: this is I don't know, I just like we had

1251
00:56:37,680 --> 00:56:41,480
Speaker 5: a good relationship, but it could I don't know, Like

1252
00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 5: it was six weeks, so you know, it could have

1253
00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:48,280
Speaker 5: clouded my mind, but I feel like it was honestly

1254
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:48,959
Speaker 5: like that banter.

1255
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:52,919
Speaker 2: So after the show wrapped, after the reunion raps, y'all

1256
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:56,320
Speaker 2: were no longer physical with each other because people thought

1257
00:56:56,600 --> 00:56:59,840
Speaker 2: that you had put her in the friend zone but

1258
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 2: was still having sex with her.

1259
00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 4: That's what people thought. They thought that, like, Okay, he.

1260
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:06,440
Speaker 2: Didn't want to get married, but he still wanted to

1261
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 2: like be physical with her, being around her, because you know,

1262
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:11,680
Speaker 2: we saw a lot of tiktoks and y'all were still

1263
00:57:11,719 --> 00:57:14,480
Speaker 2: hanging out because people were so confused that, like a D,

1264
00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 2: this man told you, no, why are you still around him?

1265
00:57:18,160 --> 00:57:20,440
Speaker 2: But you can confirm that y'all were just friends.

1266
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, me Ad was just friends. She's still on business.

1267
00:57:22,960 --> 00:57:24,320
Speaker 5: I tried her up, but like you know.

1268
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:25,479
Speaker 1: She gets tried.

1269
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:29,120
Speaker 5: Still, No, I haven't seen her.

1270
00:57:29,720 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: I mean you could send the texts.

1271
00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, so y'all are just y'all are platonic friends now.

1272
00:57:40,800 --> 00:57:42,680
Speaker 4: Platonic friends? But do you still love her?

1273
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 5: I love her? I still, I still. I feel like

1274
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 5: the altar scene, it was a lot. It was a

1275
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:52,040
Speaker 5: lot Me and a D would have to have like

1276
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:57,520
Speaker 5: a conversation because even like watching like the public backlash,

1277
00:57:58,080 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 5: I would say that definitely affected me AD's relationship where

1278
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:04,920
Speaker 5: I feel like we were super strong before the show dropped,

1279
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 5: and then when the show dropped, the relationship kind of

1280
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 5: like you know, you're hearing other people opinion. She felt

1281
00:58:10,640 --> 00:58:13,280
Speaker 5: like I played with her and I'm just like and

1282
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 5: even I'm hearing you talk and it's like if Clay

1283
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 5: wasn't given you was all into her, and I was like, dang,

1284
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 5: like they didn't show that they just didn't show that

1285
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 5: because I felt like I was like, I feel like

1286
00:58:24,520 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 5: me and A D had a very strong dynamic. I

1287
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 5: was still trying to date her after we finished.

1288
00:58:29,280 --> 00:58:31,520
Speaker 1: Filming, and she wasn't to date you.

1289
00:58:31,680 --> 00:58:35,040
Speaker 5: Well, I messed up, so I think it was a possibility,

1290
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:38,760
Speaker 5: but I'm this is me. I fd up. We were

1291
00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 5: supposed to meet up. She wanted to meet up with

1292
00:58:41,080 --> 00:58:44,240
Speaker 5: like the castmates. I was kind of like, you know,

1293
00:58:44,360 --> 00:58:46,400
Speaker 5: I'm not really trying to be around the castmates as

1294
00:58:46,440 --> 00:58:49,000
Speaker 5: I just said no. I didn't want to get questioned.

1295
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 5: I was like I knew what I was gonna have

1296
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 5: to deal with, you know now, you know, so like

1297
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:56,400
Speaker 5: I knew the castmates are gonna be like Clay, like

1298
00:58:56,440 --> 00:58:58,840
Speaker 5: what's going on? Because Ad was popular in the pause,

1299
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 5: like guys like Ad, Women like A loved and loved Ad.

1300
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:06,360
Speaker 5: So like it's like I said no to you know,

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Speaker 5: the prom queen, you know. Yeah yeah, so like and

1302
00:59:11,000 --> 00:59:12,680
Speaker 5: the back of my mind, I do a bad job

1303
00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 5: of it. Sometimes I'd be like, yeah, I go, but

1304
00:59:14,600 --> 00:59:17,000
Speaker 5: I'd be like I really don't want to go, you

1305
00:59:17,040 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 5: know what I'm say. And it was one of those situations,

1306
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:23,320
Speaker 5: and I guess AD was testing me and I didn't

1307
00:59:23,360 --> 00:59:25,960
Speaker 5: show up, and I think that was like the last straw,

1308
00:59:26,120 --> 00:59:26,280
Speaker 5: you know.

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00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:28,440
Speaker 1: I felt like after that she was kind of like done.

1310
00:59:28,720 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 5: She she didn't trust she didn't trusted me, she n't

1311
00:59:31,160 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 5: trust me.

1312
00:59:31,480 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 1: And you said you felt like you made a mistake.

1313
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:35,800
Speaker 1: So why ultimately did you end up feeling like you

1314
00:59:35,840 --> 00:59:36,480
Speaker 1: made a mistake.

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00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 5: I feel like I made a mistake because I didn't

1316
00:59:40,040 --> 00:59:44,360
Speaker 5: at the altar. I should have had because I saw

1317
00:59:44,400 --> 00:59:47,560
Speaker 5: Ad the day before, you know, and I was having

1318
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:50,439
Speaker 5: I was fifty to fifty that time. But I didn't

1319
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:54,440
Speaker 5: feel comfortable let her know that I was having that hesitation.

1320
00:59:54,680 --> 00:59:57,920
Speaker 5: So I didn't know how to articulate that, Like I

1321
00:59:57,960 --> 00:59:59,760
Speaker 5: felt like it was too late, like I felt like

1322
00:59:59,800 --> 01:00:01,920
Speaker 5: we was already at the altar. And also so I

1323
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:05,680
Speaker 5: was thinking about saying yes, you know. So it was

1324
01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 5: just a weird thing, like how do you how do

1325
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,360
Speaker 5: you communicate with somebody that you're gonna go to altar with?

1326
01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:13,600
Speaker 5: It's not like a suit, you know, a traditional relationship

1327
01:00:13,640 --> 01:00:16,360
Speaker 5: where you know, we prepare for this wedding six months

1328
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:20,720
Speaker 5: down there. It's no like it's only been like weeks

1329
01:00:20,720 --> 01:00:23,720
Speaker 5: on the spot. Six weeks are six weeks on the spot.

1330
01:00:23,960 --> 01:00:25,960
Speaker 5: So it's like, I didn't you know I'm gonna take ownership.

1331
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:28,320
Speaker 5: I didn't. I didn't articulate that.

1332
01:00:28,400 --> 01:00:30,600
Speaker 2: Well, you know what, I'll say this in your defense,

1333
01:00:30,880 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 2: I think that the Love is Blind producers they didn't

1334
01:00:34,120 --> 01:00:37,080
Speaker 2: stand on business because the first.

1335
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:37,919
Speaker 1: Season of Love is Blind.

1336
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Speaker 4: I know you didn't watch it. You were forced to

1337
01:00:40,840 --> 01:00:41,680
Speaker 4: walk down the ale.

1338
01:00:41,960 --> 01:00:44,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, you didn't have the option to be like, you

1339
01:00:44,120 --> 01:00:45,480
Speaker 2: know what, I don't want to marry them, so I

1340
01:00:45,480 --> 01:00:48,040
Speaker 2: don't want to waste their time. You had to walk

1341
01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:50,400
Speaker 2: down the aisle and you had to give them the answer.

1342
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 2: That's what was enticing about Love is Blind.

1343
01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you the the.

1344
01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,480
Speaker 2: Climax of the show was that this girl is and

1345
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 2: this is in this wedding dress, this man is in

1346
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:04,480
Speaker 2: this tuxed though, And I'm letting you know in front

1347
01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:06,240
Speaker 2: of my family and friends if I want.

1348
01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 4: To marry you or not.

1349
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:09,760
Speaker 2: So I can commend you for actually walking down the

1350
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:13,240
Speaker 2: island doing it, because I feel like y'all all needed

1351
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 2: to walk down the all because Jimmy, you took Chelsea

1352
01:01:16,760 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 2: to carve that goddamn ice.

1353
01:01:18,960 --> 01:01:22,640
Speaker 1: Bitch, beIN carving ice all day. Okay, only at the

1354
01:01:22,800 --> 01:01:24,440
Speaker 1: end of the day you tell her you know what

1355
01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:30,960
Speaker 1: cone because at least you went through with it, So

1356
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 1: I feel like, why would you do that? You got

1357
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:37,440
Speaker 1: the part of the point of it.

1358
01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:41,800
Speaker 5: They went out an amusement park where her to me,

1359
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:45,960
Speaker 5: Jimmy has a real villain. Jimmy had Jimmy.

1360
01:01:45,680 --> 01:01:47,520
Speaker 1: Being the real villain. Now he was the villain when

1361
01:01:47,520 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 1: he did Jessica, how he did whoa true? But okay,

1362
01:01:53,680 --> 01:01:55,400
Speaker 1: let me question y'all.

1363
01:01:56,040 --> 01:02:00,760
Speaker 2: Wait, wait, wait, I think when Jimmy, when Jessica's old,

1364
01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:03,000
Speaker 2: Jimmy she had a child.

1365
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:06,560
Speaker 3: She waited too long. For sure, she waited the child.

1366
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:08,560
Speaker 2: But I also feel like when he heard that she

1367
01:02:08,640 --> 01:02:10,760
Speaker 2: had a child, that made the decision.

1368
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:11,200
Speaker 1: Right there.

1369
01:02:11,240 --> 01:02:12,240
Speaker 4: He was still trying.

1370
01:02:12,280 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 1: He was he was still being like, oh well maybe,

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01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:17,320
Speaker 1: and then he was going back and forth between.

1372
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:20,760
Speaker 5: And if I could chime in, yeah, I would say

1373
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 5: Jimmy gave me no indication that he gave me. He

1374
01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:29,760
Speaker 5: gave me no indication that Jessica having a child deteriorate

1375
01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 5: his opinion. He always from day one. And I've had

1376
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 5: conversations with Jimmy. Jimmy's my guy. Yeah, we've had conversation

1377
01:02:37,280 --> 01:02:39,400
Speaker 5: off camera. I don't think he has any reason to

1378
01:02:39,440 --> 01:02:42,560
Speaker 5: lie to me. He pretty much said that the conversation

1379
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:44,840
Speaker 5: with him and Jessica had that last day, with what

1380
01:02:44,880 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 5: we've seen, was that made him say no. Because Chelsea

1381
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:52,480
Speaker 5: Chelsea is cool as hell. I know, like she's getting

1382
01:02:52,520 --> 01:02:55,960
Speaker 5: chilled with that Megan Megan Meghan Fox thing. I was

1383
01:02:56,000 --> 01:02:59,040
Speaker 5: shocked watching Chelsea's scenes because I didn't know like she

1384
01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:01,600
Speaker 5: was giving up like that. It was actually entertaining, but

1385
01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:04,240
Speaker 5: because I was like, I'm like, yo, Chelsea, like she

1386
01:03:04,400 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 5: like the type of girl that hangs out with the guys.

1387
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:07,480
Speaker 5: Like she cool as hell.

1388
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 2: Yes, Chelsea Chelsea in the beginning, she gives cool. Chelsea

1389
01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 2: was very insecure.

1390
01:03:13,960 --> 01:03:19,600
Speaker 1: Though why so much every and no tears be fall?

1391
01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 5: We ain't never seen that side, So Jimmy, Jimmy was

1392
01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:25,520
Speaker 5: the only one kind of seeing that. I felt like

1393
01:03:25,680 --> 01:03:29,440
Speaker 5: Jimmy everything he told me, I seen it, And I

1394
01:03:29,440 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 5: don't think he Jimmy ever lied to me. I don't

1395
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 5: think every day try to gash up the whole Jessica

1396
01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:38,800
Speaker 5: and him thing. I never heard or seen Jimmy when

1397
01:03:38,800 --> 01:03:41,040
Speaker 5: he chose Chelsea ever, try to go back to Jessica.

1398
01:03:41,120 --> 01:03:42,880
Speaker 3: Do you think the letter was too much? That's what

1399
01:03:43,040 --> 01:03:43,680
Speaker 3: that's what it was.

1400
01:03:44,400 --> 01:03:45,200
Speaker 1: The letter.

1401
01:03:46,720 --> 01:03:47,640
Speaker 5: Talking about Sarah and.

1402
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:52,880
Speaker 1: No, the letter that Jessica gave Jimmy.

1403
01:03:51,400 --> 01:03:52,280
Speaker 3: You's your husband.

1404
01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:54,680
Speaker 1: I feel like that was like, what was a bit

1405
01:03:54,760 --> 01:03:57,040
Speaker 1: much for him where he was like, yeah, no, I'm

1406
01:03:57,040 --> 01:03:57,840
Speaker 1: not doing.

1407
01:03:57,800 --> 01:04:00,320
Speaker 5: I'm not sweet. I think that was sweet. I think

1408
01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:03,920
Speaker 5: that they had the argument already. They had the argument already,

1409
01:04:03,960 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 5: But honestly, I might have the timeline messed up because

1410
01:04:07,200 --> 01:04:09,800
Speaker 5: they you know, the editing, you know. From what all

1411
01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:12,280
Speaker 5: I know is that Jimmy told me that Jessica was

1412
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:15,120
Speaker 5: in the consideration Jessica was. I think, you know, he

1413
01:04:15,240 --> 01:04:18,720
Speaker 5: was contemplating between Chelsea and Jessica the whole time, and

1414
01:04:18,880 --> 01:04:21,480
Speaker 5: he told me because I saw him right after the review,

1415
01:04:21,680 --> 01:04:24,800
Speaker 5: right after the proposal. So when he broke up with Jessica,

1416
01:04:25,280 --> 01:04:28,520
Speaker 5: he was very upset about that conversation him and Jessica had.

1417
01:04:28,880 --> 01:04:31,280
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie even watching the show, like, I

1418
01:04:31,320 --> 01:04:35,520
Speaker 2: think Jessica kind of got caught up and everybody seeing

1419
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:38,919
Speaker 2: her too, because once the guy saw her, they were like, oh, whoa,

1420
01:04:39,040 --> 01:04:40,520
Speaker 2: this is what you look like. So that's why she

1421
01:04:40,600 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, I can't wait for Jimmy to see me,

1422
01:04:42,400 --> 01:04:45,360
Speaker 2: but I ain't gonna lie. Jimmy was pushing p a

1423
01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 2: little bit because he.

1424
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:50,320
Speaker 5: Was like, okay, cool, Jimmy, get Jimmy, Get Jimmy, Jimmy

1425
01:04:50,320 --> 01:04:52,320
Speaker 5: get girls, don't get twisted.

1426
01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:54,440
Speaker 1: Country.

1427
01:04:55,000 --> 01:04:58,120
Speaker 5: Look, no, I went I went outside with Jimmy two

1428
01:04:58,160 --> 01:04:58,640
Speaker 5: weeks ago.

1429
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:03,280
Speaker 1: Jimmy, so he does seem like a country player. Yeah.

1430
01:05:03,320 --> 01:05:05,920
Speaker 2: So when Jimmy saw Jessica, he was like, yeah, she's fine,

1431
01:05:06,400 --> 01:05:09,680
Speaker 2: but okay, what else he was He did not give

1432
01:05:09,760 --> 01:05:11,800
Speaker 2: me the impression like he was like, oh, I seen

1433
01:05:11,880 --> 01:05:13,880
Speaker 2: Jessica because I'm not gonna lie. I was like, oh,

1434
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 2: I can't wait till he sees Jessica.

1435
01:05:15,400 --> 01:05:17,560
Speaker 5: I was thinking that too, but we all thought that.

1436
01:05:18,440 --> 01:05:20,040
Speaker 5: When we was going to lake House. He was like, yo,

1437
01:05:20,200 --> 01:05:22,360
Speaker 5: we I can't wait to see how Jimmy when he

1438
01:05:22,440 --> 01:05:26,760
Speaker 5: sees Jessica response, Jimmy, I gotta give, I gotta get

1439
01:05:27,560 --> 01:05:30,919
Speaker 5: Jimmy kept that screench face, Hey did.

1440
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:32,720
Speaker 2: Okay, So let me ask you this. Though you think

1441
01:05:32,800 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 2: Chelsea looks like Megan Fox, I.

1442
01:05:34,680 --> 01:05:37,840
Speaker 5: Think she has a resemblance of Megan Fox's too nice.

1443
01:05:38,960 --> 01:05:41,040
Speaker 5: I think she has like nah beyond.

1444
01:05:40,760 --> 01:05:41,560
Speaker 1: I swear agree.

1445
01:05:41,800 --> 01:05:42,800
Speaker 3: I have to agree he.

1446
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:44,560
Speaker 5: Has some resemblans of Mega five. But I think you

1447
01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:46,680
Speaker 5: probably thinking about the body and over.

1448
01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:52,480
Speaker 1: I'm talking about it, like if you do it like these,

1449
01:05:52,600 --> 01:05:56,680
Speaker 1: I think, no forehead, no chin, that's the that's a

1450
01:05:56,720 --> 01:05:58,840
Speaker 1: part of them. Not But what I'm saying, I'm talking

1451
01:05:58,840 --> 01:06:02,640
Speaker 1: about strictly like lit Snow's eyes. I get it. She

1452
01:06:02,880 --> 01:06:06,160
Speaker 1: has like a longer chin, like she has a different

1453
01:06:06,400 --> 01:06:09,120
Speaker 1: jaw structure, a different issue. And I think her forehead

1454
01:06:09,160 --> 01:06:11,840
Speaker 1: is a little bigger than Megan Fox's forehead. But like,

1455
01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:18,920
Speaker 1: if we're talking about this, cousins cousins, Yeah.

1456
01:06:18,800 --> 01:06:21,720
Speaker 5: I think so too. So I like when when I

1457
01:06:21,760 --> 01:06:25,440
Speaker 5: heard the comment, no, I would have been like I

1458
01:06:25,440 --> 01:06:27,520
Speaker 5: would have been thinking, like Jimmy, like I'm gonna tea

1459
01:06:27,600 --> 01:06:31,520
Speaker 5: Megan Fox out the other side, right, the body and everything.

1460
01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:34,640
Speaker 5: But uh, you know, but it wasn't that. It was

1461
01:06:34,920 --> 01:06:35,120
Speaker 5: to me.

1462
01:06:35,280 --> 01:06:37,600
Speaker 2: I'm looking at the face. It does not give Megan fun.

1463
01:06:37,640 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 2: I think the only thing they had on is that

1464
01:06:39,840 --> 01:06:43,160
Speaker 2: how they have piercing like their eyes are. Chelsea has

1465
01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:47,760
Speaker 2: beautiful eyes, and Chelsea is not ugly Jesse, But does

1466
01:06:47,800 --> 01:06:49,600
Speaker 2: she look like Megan Fox. No, I think they just

1467
01:06:49,640 --> 01:06:50,640
Speaker 2: have piercing eyes.

1468
01:06:50,720 --> 01:06:52,240
Speaker 1: I think that's a resembling.

1469
01:06:52,640 --> 01:06:54,600
Speaker 5: I think it's the way how Chelsea rolled it out,

1470
01:06:54,680 --> 01:06:57,360
Speaker 5: like yeah, you know, girlfriend.

1471
01:06:57,520 --> 01:07:01,760
Speaker 1: She was like, what is his name? His name? Because

1472
01:07:01,760 --> 01:07:03,480
Speaker 1: she was like, has anybody ever told you look like

1473
01:07:03,480 --> 01:07:06,360
Speaker 1: a celebrity? She asked him that because she wanted her

1474
01:07:06,840 --> 01:07:09,000
Speaker 1: to add he wanted I mean, she wanted him to

1475
01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:09,440
Speaker 1: ask her.

1476
01:07:09,600 --> 01:07:11,600
Speaker 5: I'm gonna have to confirm with Chelsea and Jimmy had

1477
01:07:11,600 --> 01:07:15,480
Speaker 5: that conversation with That was hilarious because that was Chelsea.

1478
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:20,120
Speaker 5: That was I love. That was me watching Love Is Blind.

1479
01:07:20,880 --> 01:07:23,000
Speaker 5: The joy I got was watching Jimmy and Chelsea.

1480
01:07:23,600 --> 01:07:27,560
Speaker 1: That was it was. It was very very entertaining, very

1481
01:07:27,680 --> 01:07:28,720
Speaker 1: very entertaining.

1482
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:30,320
Speaker 5: I told you that Jimmy all the time, like, bro,

1483
01:07:30,480 --> 01:07:31,440
Speaker 5: you ate every scene.

1484
01:07:31,920 --> 01:07:33,440
Speaker 4: I mean, I'll say.

1485
01:07:33,200 --> 01:07:36,840
Speaker 2: This, Jimmy, I think we wanted Jimmy to be the

1486
01:07:36,920 --> 01:07:39,640
Speaker 2: villain in the beginning, but I think the way Jimmy

1487
01:07:39,680 --> 01:07:41,880
Speaker 2: really tried, he really tried with Chelsea.

1488
01:07:42,080 --> 01:07:43,440
Speaker 4: He did, he really.

1489
01:07:43,480 --> 01:07:46,160
Speaker 2: Tried, because at one point I was like, come on now, Chelsea,

1490
01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:48,040
Speaker 2: come on now, dolls.

1491
01:07:48,200 --> 01:07:51,320
Speaker 1: So who were like your favorite cast members because obviously

1492
01:07:51,720 --> 01:07:55,960
Speaker 1: from literally no no, I mean like on his season.

1493
01:07:55,680 --> 01:07:59,160
Speaker 2: Okay, because I want to know from season one?

1494
01:07:57,200 --> 01:08:03,880
Speaker 5: I now watching them, Well, yeah, all you do. Okay, Now,

1495
01:08:04,680 --> 01:08:14,200
Speaker 5: once I finished, like't be, I'll.

1496
01:08:14,120 --> 01:08:18,840
Speaker 2: Make sure y'all share the content like subscribe, follow all

1497
01:08:18,880 --> 01:08:20,439
Speaker 2: that good stuff. And let me say this before we

1498
01:08:20,479 --> 01:08:24,559
Speaker 2: close out, y'all. There is one Twitter account that is

1499
01:08:24,560 --> 01:08:28,480
Speaker 2: connected to poor Minds. It's p oh, you are underscore

1500
01:08:28,920 --> 01:08:31,360
Speaker 2: in my n d S. Y'all are tagging the wrong

1501
01:08:31,439 --> 01:08:34,479
Speaker 2: poor Minds page. If you see at poor minds with

1502
01:08:34,560 --> 01:08:36,920
Speaker 2: no underscore, that is at fake page, do not follow

1503
01:08:36,920 --> 01:08:37,439
Speaker 2: that page.

1504
01:08:37,439 --> 01:08:37,759
Speaker 1: Okay.

1505
01:08:38,120 --> 01:08:41,519
Speaker 2: They block me Andrea and the poor Minds page on

1506
01:08:41,560 --> 01:08:47,680
Speaker 2: both so we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one TikTok.

1507
01:08:48,040 --> 01:08:50,439
Speaker 2: It is p oh, you are underscore in my.

1508
01:08:50,439 --> 01:08:50,840
Speaker 5: N d S.

1509
01:08:51,000 --> 01:08:54,120
Speaker 1: I right, and we got a hell a fake Facebook page.

1510
01:08:54,520 --> 01:08:56,599
Speaker 3: The Facebook page our face.

1511
01:08:56,800 --> 01:08:59,559
Speaker 1: The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the

1512
01:08:59,640 --> 01:09:01,759
Speaker 1: least mount of file report. So if you don't face,

1513
01:09:01,800 --> 01:09:04,519
Speaker 1: the one that's hours got the least amount of file.

1514
01:09:04,640 --> 01:09:07,600
Speaker 1: The one that's not us got like two hundred and fifty.

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01:09:07,360 --> 01:09:10,200
Speaker 2: Thou make if you actually look at the content because the.

1516
01:09:10,200 --> 01:09:13,599
Speaker 1: Caption is like whoever it is, don't speak English, because their.

1517
01:09:13,479 --> 01:09:15,320
Speaker 3: Captures are like bumba claude.

1518
01:09:15,320 --> 01:09:20,720
Speaker 1: Should men should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes? No,

1519
01:09:21,000 --> 01:09:27,519
Speaker 1: check answer below block block Like, that's literally what the captions.

1520
01:09:27,680 --> 01:09:29,240
Speaker 1: I'm like you, what that DG is?

1521
01:09:29,320 --> 01:09:31,080
Speaker 3: Bumba claude, bumba claude.

1522
01:09:32,200 --> 01:09:34,519
Speaker 1: I want to know who your favorite cast members were

1523
01:09:34,800 --> 01:09:36,479
Speaker 1: from obviously from your season.

1524
01:09:36,520 --> 01:09:37,959
Speaker 3: Obviously you say you were cool.

1525
01:09:38,280 --> 01:09:40,640
Speaker 6: Pool with Jimmy, So will I was cool with all

1526
01:09:40,640 --> 01:09:45,240
Speaker 6: the guys, like besides like Matt, because I ain't I'm

1527
01:09:45,520 --> 01:09:50,240
Speaker 6: I ain't talk to Matt. We know, yeah, but I'll

1528
01:09:50,280 --> 01:09:53,800
Speaker 6: say all the guys, Ken, Johnny, Me and Johnny is

1529
01:09:53,840 --> 01:09:54,240
Speaker 6: real tight.

1530
01:09:54,320 --> 01:09:56,880
Speaker 5: Me and Johnny talk probably three times a week. Me

1531
01:09:56,920 --> 01:09:58,720
Speaker 5: and Jimmy probably talk once a week. Me and Kim

1532
01:09:58,760 --> 01:10:01,000
Speaker 5: probably talk once a week. Me and Jeremy don't talk

1533
01:10:01,000 --> 01:10:03,519
Speaker 5: as often. But me and Jeremy actually link up in person.

1534
01:10:03,560 --> 01:10:05,000
Speaker 5: Will probably rode some skis together.

1535
01:10:06,040 --> 01:10:07,840
Speaker 1: Jeremy was worse than you. You were not the worst

1536
01:10:07,920 --> 01:10:08,519
Speaker 1: villain on the show.

1537
01:10:08,920 --> 01:10:10,559
Speaker 5: I didn't think I was a villain. But that's all good.

1538
01:10:10,600 --> 01:10:12,479
Speaker 1: But I mean he would like to take you as

1539
01:10:12,520 --> 01:10:15,120
Speaker 1: a villain. Yeah, Jeremy awful.

1540
01:10:15,320 --> 01:10:18,040
Speaker 5: Yeah. I think for me, I'm the villain because I

1541
01:10:18,080 --> 01:10:19,960
Speaker 5: went to the altar and I said no, and nobody

1542
01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:22,080
Speaker 5: else went to the altar. Like if Jeremy went to

1543
01:10:22,080 --> 01:10:24,800
Speaker 5: the altar. If Jimmy went to the altar, like I

1544
01:10:24,840 --> 01:10:27,280
Speaker 5: probably would have been protected a little bit more. Now

1545
01:10:27,800 --> 01:10:29,400
Speaker 5: I think only only a little bit, because the black

1546
01:10:29,400 --> 01:10:30,720
Speaker 5: community was still jumped on me.

1547
01:10:30,840 --> 01:10:33,720
Speaker 2: True, but I think people basis up the show. In

1548
01:10:33,760 --> 01:10:36,280
Speaker 2: the first season, all the couples had to go to

1549
01:10:36,320 --> 01:10:39,080
Speaker 2: the altar and nobody worse than Shake. Shak was on

1550
01:10:39,120 --> 01:10:41,439
Speaker 2: like season four two, Shake was season two.

1551
01:10:42,040 --> 01:10:42,960
Speaker 1: Shake was awful.

1552
01:10:43,439 --> 01:10:47,080
Speaker 5: But did Shake have like the best reunion? Like the

1553
01:10:47,120 --> 01:10:50,040
Speaker 5: whole reunion went against Shake and he he held.

1554
01:10:49,880 --> 01:10:52,679
Speaker 2: His own asshole. He was like standing ten toes down

1555
01:10:52,680 --> 01:10:53,599
Speaker 2: and he didn't give a fuck.

1556
01:10:53,680 --> 01:10:55,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I thought that was good.

1557
01:10:55,360 --> 01:10:57,639
Speaker 2: County shows Now, like he gets invited to reality shows

1558
01:10:57,680 --> 01:11:00,000
Speaker 2: to be the villain, like he was on a reality show.

1559
01:11:00,240 --> 01:11:03,280
Speaker 4: Was like a morosa Johnny Bananas.

1560
01:11:03,560 --> 01:11:04,040
Speaker 1: He does that.

1561
01:11:05,320 --> 01:11:07,720
Speaker 2: Yes, Like they had a show on VH one and

1562
01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:09,519
Speaker 2: it's like all the villains and.

1563
01:11:09,439 --> 01:11:11,840
Speaker 1: He was on there. Shake was awful. I think that.

1564
01:11:12,840 --> 01:11:15,240
Speaker 2: I think for you, Clay, I'm gonna give you my

1565
01:11:15,360 --> 01:11:16,400
Speaker 2: honest review as a.

1566
01:11:17,960 --> 01:11:21,280
Speaker 1: A consumer of I think with you.

1567
01:11:21,560 --> 01:11:23,880
Speaker 2: I think you're not perfect, You're a flawed human, but

1568
01:11:24,040 --> 01:11:26,880
Speaker 2: we all are. Because guess what if Drea was on camera,

1569
01:11:26,880 --> 01:11:29,519
Speaker 2: if I was on camera anybody else, our flaws are

1570
01:11:29,520 --> 01:11:30,040
Speaker 2: gonna show.

1571
01:11:30,320 --> 01:11:31,160
Speaker 4: And I think it just.

1572
01:11:31,160 --> 01:11:34,559
Speaker 2: Wasn't as forgiving because obviously it's edited. But I think

1573
01:11:34,640 --> 01:11:38,799
Speaker 2: that you were a man dating and going through feelings

1574
01:11:38,880 --> 01:11:41,080
Speaker 2: and emotions and you had to do it on national

1575
01:11:41,120 --> 01:11:44,000
Speaker 2: TV and a lot of people couldn't do what you did.

1576
01:11:44,160 --> 01:11:47,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, facts, And I don't think.

1577
01:11:47,160 --> 01:11:50,639
Speaker 2: Your intentions were to ever hurt anybody's feelings.

1578
01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:51,719
Speaker 4: And that's what I can say.

1579
01:11:52,160 --> 01:11:55,519
Speaker 2: I think truly, like when I saw Shake, Shake was

1580
01:11:55,520 --> 01:11:57,960
Speaker 2: in the pods asking girls could he put them on

1581
01:11:57,960 --> 01:11:58,519
Speaker 2: their shoulders?

1582
01:11:58,560 --> 01:12:00,760
Speaker 1: Could he hold you up? Because he's trying to low

1583
01:12:00,800 --> 01:12:01,639
Speaker 1: key ask are you.

1584
01:12:01,640 --> 01:12:02,240
Speaker 4: Fat or not?

1585
01:12:02,880 --> 01:12:05,120
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? That type ship.

1586
01:12:05,320 --> 01:12:07,000
Speaker 2: So when I say that, it's like I think that

1587
01:12:07,080 --> 01:12:10,200
Speaker 2: when you went in the pods, you had genuine intentions.

1588
01:12:10,240 --> 01:12:13,559
Speaker 1: And let me say these so advocating for you a

1589
01:12:13,560 --> 01:12:18,479
Speaker 1: little bit. I don't think nothing is wrong with asking

1590
01:12:18,680 --> 01:12:19,880
Speaker 1: what somebody look like.

1591
01:12:20,320 --> 01:12:23,759
Speaker 2: That's that it is though with that show, because I love.

1592
01:12:23,640 --> 01:12:28,680
Speaker 1: Is supposed to be blind. I get what yourself, I

1593
01:12:28,720 --> 01:12:33,040
Speaker 1: get what you're saying. Licks. However, it's like I feel

1594
01:12:33,040 --> 01:12:35,400
Speaker 1: like if I ask you, though, you will give me

1595
01:12:35,439 --> 01:12:38,559
Speaker 1: a little hint like, okay, so if somebody, so, if

1596
01:12:38,560 --> 01:12:41,040
Speaker 1: you went on a show and somebody was like, okay,

1597
01:12:41,240 --> 01:12:43,040
Speaker 1: like I really like you, but I'm not gonna lie,

1598
01:12:43,080 --> 01:12:47,200
Speaker 1: Like physical attraction is really important, can you kind of

1599
01:12:47,240 --> 01:12:49,040
Speaker 1: like give me a little hint like what, I'm thick

1600
01:12:49,080 --> 01:12:54,240
Speaker 1: as fuck, I'm bad as fuck to if she said at,

1601
01:12:54,680 --> 01:12:55,320
Speaker 1: you will be like.

1602
01:12:55,640 --> 01:13:03,680
Speaker 5: I sy that she let me know, let me but

1603
01:13:03,720 --> 01:13:04,120
Speaker 5: they didn't.

1604
01:13:04,400 --> 01:13:07,000
Speaker 3: That part that fucked up.

1605
01:13:09,040 --> 01:13:09,559
Speaker 1: Because I would.

1606
01:13:10,240 --> 01:13:14,000
Speaker 5: I don't want to say that conversation was a conversational prompt,

1607
01:13:14,000 --> 01:13:16,000
Speaker 5: but what's your biggest fear? So I was just saying,

1608
01:13:16,000 --> 01:13:18,040
Speaker 5: my biggest fear is that fall love with you, and

1609
01:13:18,080 --> 01:13:21,320
Speaker 5: I'm not trying. Yeah, I thought that was honest, you know.

1610
01:13:21,439 --> 01:13:24,200
Speaker 4: I mean, I mean honest, but I'm not gonna lie

1611
01:13:24,320 --> 01:13:24,519
Speaker 4: for that.

1612
01:13:24,560 --> 01:13:27,080
Speaker 5: They put that on the Netflix trailer they did.

1613
01:13:27,520 --> 01:13:29,479
Speaker 1: I feel like because I said, oh this, nigga, why

1614
01:13:29,479 --> 01:13:32,640
Speaker 1: are you even here? Physical attraction is important, it is,

1615
01:13:32,680 --> 01:13:35,639
Speaker 1: But if your physical traction is that important to you,

1616
01:13:35,640 --> 01:13:37,040
Speaker 1: you don't need to go on this show. But he

1617
01:13:37,080 --> 01:13:40,080
Speaker 1: said he didn't know, right, he didn't know that I

1618
01:13:40,360 --> 01:13:42,200
Speaker 1: was But That's what I'm saying. I could never go

1619
01:13:42,280 --> 01:13:49,320
Speaker 1: on What Love at first sight.

1620
01:13:46,880 --> 01:13:48,719
Speaker 5: When you were you married and you see the person

1621
01:13:48,800 --> 01:13:52,200
Speaker 5: the first time, I'm not doing it. Mom wanted me

1622
01:13:52,200 --> 01:13:54,600
Speaker 5: to actually go in that show. She advocated me to

1623
01:13:54,640 --> 01:13:56,559
Speaker 5: go and loves Blinde but she I mean to go

1624
01:13:56,600 --> 01:13:58,000
Speaker 5: and Love's Blue, but she thought I was married at

1625
01:13:58,000 --> 01:14:00,639
Speaker 5: first sight and she thought that it was like therapist.

1626
01:14:01,000 --> 01:14:03,960
Speaker 1: Now I'm like, worse, I'm not live married.

1627
01:14:04,000 --> 01:14:05,800
Speaker 2: I have to get attracted to you. I don't care

1628
01:14:05,800 --> 01:14:08,000
Speaker 2: if the world finds you ugly. I need to find

1629
01:14:08,000 --> 01:14:11,320
Speaker 2: you attracted. I've never cared if this person can think

1630
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:12,280
Speaker 2: you ugly that I don't give.

1631
01:14:12,800 --> 01:14:17,240
Speaker 1: I liked fine to me, like I got that physical

1632
01:14:17,240 --> 01:14:19,720
Speaker 1: attraction to him, like I don't know, I want to

1633
01:14:19,800 --> 01:14:20,720
Speaker 1: jump all over him.

1634
01:14:20,760 --> 01:14:21,559
Speaker 3: I need to feel that way.

1635
01:14:21,600 --> 01:14:23,240
Speaker 4: Okay, So before we move on, I do want to

1636
01:14:23,280 --> 01:14:23,800
Speaker 4: ask you this.

1637
01:14:24,240 --> 01:14:28,120
Speaker 2: If once you get ready and you feel like, okay,

1638
01:14:28,160 --> 01:14:29,800
Speaker 2: I'm ready to set down, I'm ready to be married,

1639
01:14:29,840 --> 01:14:32,519
Speaker 2: would you spend the block with ad and marry her?

1640
01:14:34,439 --> 01:14:35,920
Speaker 5: I would say, me and A D probably haven't have

1641
01:14:35,960 --> 01:14:39,760
Speaker 5: a conversation. I feel like it was a lot of

1642
01:14:40,479 --> 01:14:43,599
Speaker 5: shots was thrown not from us, but like from other

1643
01:14:43,680 --> 01:14:47,719
Speaker 5: people that I feel like affected our relationship because honestly,

1644
01:14:47,760 --> 01:14:50,519
Speaker 5: we were super cool for going to the show. So

1645
01:14:50,880 --> 01:14:53,120
Speaker 5: I do on really feel comfortable answering that because me

1646
01:14:53,200 --> 01:14:54,799
Speaker 5: and her haven't talked since the reunion.

1647
01:14:55,120 --> 01:14:57,799
Speaker 1: Wow? Yeah, so and how long was it reunion?

1648
01:14:58,240 --> 01:15:04,280
Speaker 5: Maybe four weeks ago? Oh but we were talking consistently

1649
01:15:04,520 --> 01:15:08,800
Speaker 5: right like you know, so uh you know, I would say,

1650
01:15:08,880 --> 01:15:12,559
Speaker 5: I would have to yeah she did she ate you know?

1651
01:15:13,479 --> 01:15:16,439
Speaker 1: Yeah you funny Clay. But I know your DMS is

1652
01:15:16,479 --> 01:15:19,000
Speaker 1: going up now, so after the show, I know the

1653
01:15:19,040 --> 01:15:20,120
Speaker 1: girls be up in there.

1654
01:15:20,280 --> 01:15:22,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, so how is your dating life now?

1655
01:15:22,200 --> 01:15:22,280
Speaker 5: Like?

1656
01:15:22,320 --> 01:15:23,000
Speaker 4: Are you single?

1657
01:15:23,080 --> 01:15:23,639
Speaker 1: You're dating?

1658
01:15:23,720 --> 01:15:24,479
Speaker 4: What's going on with you?

1659
01:15:24,720 --> 01:15:26,040
Speaker 5: I'm just going therapy chilling?

1660
01:15:26,640 --> 01:15:27,559
Speaker 4: So you're not dating right?

1661
01:15:27,640 --> 01:15:28,080
Speaker 5: Not dating?

1662
01:15:28,320 --> 01:15:30,080
Speaker 3: You be responding to the DMS.

1663
01:15:30,280 --> 01:15:32,040
Speaker 5: I'll be like saying thank you, you know what I'm saying.

1664
01:15:32,080 --> 01:15:35,439
Speaker 5: People would be like, uh, be like what's up now?

1665
01:15:35,520 --> 01:15:41,040
Speaker 5: I just like it and I say praying hands nothing.

1666
01:15:41,439 --> 01:15:43,200
Speaker 1: You're just not interested in dating right now.

1667
01:15:43,360 --> 01:15:46,719
Speaker 5: I feel like I'm like too busy to like date.

1668
01:15:46,800 --> 01:15:48,640
Speaker 5: Like I feel like someone is gonna have to be

1669
01:15:48,720 --> 01:15:52,839
Speaker 5: like I don't know, like like if you're just saying like, Oklay,

1670
01:15:53,720 --> 01:15:55,880
Speaker 5: I loved you on the show, like that's not gonna

1671
01:15:55,920 --> 01:15:58,479
Speaker 5: be like yo, let me try to hogher aight, this girl,

1672
01:15:58,680 --> 01:16:01,000
Speaker 5: it's like, YO, appreciate you, I feel like, and some

1673
01:16:01,040 --> 01:16:02,880
Speaker 5: women be like, Yo, you're so good looking, You're the

1674
01:16:02,880 --> 01:16:03,360
Speaker 5: best looking.

1675
01:16:03,560 --> 01:16:06,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, thank you, Like I like you ain't you

1676
01:16:06,840 --> 01:16:07,880
Speaker 1: ain't trying to hear that sheet.

1677
01:16:08,240 --> 01:16:10,360
Speaker 5: Nah, I feel like I'm I don't know, I kind

1678
01:16:10,360 --> 01:16:12,760
Speaker 5: of I need to see how you're gonna change my life?

1679
01:16:12,800 --> 01:16:15,120
Speaker 5: What's up? Okay, talk that game.

1680
01:16:15,240 --> 01:16:15,799
Speaker 1: I'm deeper.

1681
01:16:15,920 --> 01:16:18,320
Speaker 5: I'm looking for something deeper and also too, like I'm

1682
01:16:18,360 --> 01:16:22,080
Speaker 5: going to therapy. I know that I want to be

1683
01:16:22,200 --> 01:16:24,920
Speaker 5: a husband, so like I don't want to just jump

1684
01:16:24,960 --> 01:16:28,040
Speaker 5: out from the show and try to like use the

1685
01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:30,320
Speaker 5: the momentum that I got to try to you know,

1686
01:16:30,680 --> 01:16:33,000
Speaker 5: get women and have sexual women, you know what I'm saying,

1687
01:16:33,120 --> 01:16:36,479
Speaker 5: Like I'm trying to actually, like you know, build some

1688
01:16:36,520 --> 01:16:40,600
Speaker 5: type of mental Ford two where like although the temptations

1689
01:16:40,640 --> 01:16:43,080
Speaker 5: hot right now where I could kind of like all right, cool,

1690
01:16:43,120 --> 01:16:45,360
Speaker 5: Like I'm not about to fold because right now it's

1691
01:16:45,360 --> 01:16:47,840
Speaker 5: the highest, like my DMS is going crazy. But I

1692
01:16:47,840 --> 01:16:49,519
Speaker 5: feel like I've been doing a real good job of

1693
01:16:49,560 --> 01:16:51,559
Speaker 5: like not responding and yeah and.

1694
01:16:51,479 --> 01:16:53,080
Speaker 1: Doing the right thing. So I do want to ask

1695
01:16:53,080 --> 01:16:53,799
Speaker 1: you a question.

1696
01:16:53,600 --> 01:16:56,760
Speaker 2: Though, so a lot of times when people go on

1697
01:16:56,800 --> 01:16:59,639
Speaker 2: reality shows, especially Love is Blond, they say they hate

1698
01:16:59,640 --> 01:17:01,680
Speaker 2: the editor said, hey thoo, they made them look. You

1699
01:17:01,720 --> 01:17:06,679
Speaker 2: know the producers. I know, specifically Lauren from season one,

1700
01:17:07,240 --> 01:17:09,240
Speaker 2: She's done a lot of like kind of speaking out

1701
01:17:09,400 --> 01:17:13,040
Speaker 2: just about the treatment of specifically the black people on

1702
01:17:13,080 --> 01:17:17,160
Speaker 2: the cast, how they edit things, how they make things look. So,

1703
01:17:17,600 --> 01:17:20,280
Speaker 2: how do you feel moving forward with your relationship with

1704
01:17:20,320 --> 01:17:23,200
Speaker 2: Netflix and the Love is Blind show? Like would you

1705
01:17:23,240 --> 01:17:26,519
Speaker 2: do more reunions or do collaborations with them? Or you

1706
01:17:26,560 --> 01:17:28,120
Speaker 2: kind of feel like, you know what, I don't like

1707
01:17:28,120 --> 01:17:31,000
Speaker 2: how y'all made me look, And I'm not fooling with it.

1708
01:17:32,520 --> 01:17:36,960
Speaker 5: I think that that's my sentiment. But I'm an open

1709
01:17:37,280 --> 01:17:42,280
Speaker 5: communication guy also too, Like with my edit, I said

1710
01:17:42,320 --> 01:17:44,960
Speaker 5: all the things that I said, so like I said, like,

1711
01:17:45,000 --> 01:17:48,519
Speaker 5: I'm a guy that holds myself accountable. I think Love

1712
01:17:48,560 --> 01:17:50,720
Speaker 5: is Blind was a great experience for me, even with

1713
01:17:50,800 --> 01:17:53,559
Speaker 5: the backlash, because it showed me the way that I date,

1714
01:17:53,600 --> 01:17:56,679
Speaker 5: in the toxic things that I do. So it's gonna

1715
01:17:56,720 --> 01:18:01,000
Speaker 5: make me a better partner. So I appreciate even though

1716
01:18:01,040 --> 01:18:03,479
Speaker 5: Love is Blind focused on a lot of my negative stuff,

1717
01:18:03,600 --> 01:18:06,280
Speaker 5: I probably didn't need to get my ego boosted anymore.

1718
01:18:06,880 --> 01:18:11,400
Speaker 5: So I don't have a bad relationship with Netflix. I

1719
01:18:11,479 --> 01:18:13,960
Speaker 5: like Chris Chris Cohen, who's the CEO. He called me

1720
01:18:14,600 --> 01:18:17,040
Speaker 5: and he let me know that he was happy that

1721
01:18:17,040 --> 01:18:18,800
Speaker 5: that I went through the process and I made my

1722
01:18:18,880 --> 01:18:21,559
Speaker 5: decision at the alter. So I don't have no bad

1723
01:18:21,600 --> 01:18:25,040
Speaker 5: blow with them. Although I didn't like the fact that

1724
01:18:25,080 --> 01:18:27,760
Speaker 5: they didn't show some of my in depth conversations with

1725
01:18:27,840 --> 01:18:30,640
Speaker 5: a D I do appreciate the fact that I was

1726
01:18:30,680 --> 01:18:32,320
Speaker 5: able to be a fly on the wall with my

1727
01:18:32,400 --> 01:18:35,280
Speaker 5: relationships and be able to see, like, Okay, there's things

1728
01:18:35,360 --> 01:18:38,599
Speaker 5: I need to do better. I'm not tripping on the edit.

1729
01:18:38,479 --> 01:18:40,759
Speaker 4: Like that, would you do another reality show?

1730
01:18:42,000 --> 01:18:43,640
Speaker 5: They kind of beat me up a little bit, but

1731
01:18:44,200 --> 01:18:46,640
Speaker 5: you know it depends. I mean, I'm a capitalist, so

1732
01:18:46,760 --> 01:18:47,840
Speaker 5: the money talking.

1733
01:18:47,600 --> 01:18:49,640
Speaker 1: You know, I know that's right. I know that's the

1734
01:18:49,720 --> 01:18:51,880
Speaker 1: right period. So I did want to ask you real

1735
01:18:51,920 --> 01:18:54,799
Speaker 1: quick too before we move on to the next digment.

1736
01:18:56,160 --> 01:18:59,360
Speaker 1: I know that you're a really big mental health advocate,

1737
01:18:59,800 --> 01:19:01,960
Speaker 1: and so I wanted you to kind of touch on

1738
01:19:02,080 --> 01:19:04,320
Speaker 1: that a little bit and how like you maybe found

1739
01:19:04,320 --> 01:19:07,720
Speaker 1: your therapist then got into getting therapy because maybe you

1740
01:19:07,720 --> 01:19:09,400
Speaker 1: can help like some of the black men out there

1741
01:19:09,439 --> 01:19:11,120
Speaker 1: who are a little his team. We're going to therapy

1742
01:19:11,160 --> 01:19:13,040
Speaker 1: because I know that's a big thing in our community,

1743
01:19:13,080 --> 01:19:15,400
Speaker 1: like so many people. And that's me and a with me,

1744
01:19:15,600 --> 01:19:17,680
Speaker 1: Like people just be feeling like, oh, I don't need

1745
01:19:17,720 --> 01:19:19,240
Speaker 1: to go to therapy and this and is wrong with me.

1746
01:19:19,400 --> 01:19:21,280
Speaker 3: So I would like for you to touch on that

1747
01:19:21,360 --> 01:19:22,040
Speaker 3: a little bit too.

1748
01:19:22,439 --> 01:19:25,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was on the same mindset, like you know, therapy,

1749
01:19:25,240 --> 01:19:28,040
Speaker 5: I don't really need it. Like, once I really want

1750
01:19:28,080 --> 01:19:30,200
Speaker 5: to be with somebody, it's going to just happen and

1751
01:19:30,240 --> 01:19:32,600
Speaker 5: work out. And like I said, when I kind of

1752
01:19:32,600 --> 01:19:34,760
Speaker 5: went through this experiment, and I'm like, man, I got

1753
01:19:34,800 --> 01:19:37,000
Speaker 5: some roadblocks because I love this girl, but like I

1754
01:19:37,040 --> 01:19:40,240
Speaker 5: can't move past certain things. So I just think for

1755
01:19:40,320 --> 01:19:43,679
Speaker 5: black men, you know, as men, we have to have

1756
01:19:43,720 --> 01:19:46,800
Speaker 5: this tough external and you know, always be tough, and

1757
01:19:46,880 --> 01:19:49,880
Speaker 5: sometimes even being emotional, you kind of get ridiculed. It's

1758
01:19:49,920 --> 01:19:52,439
Speaker 5: good to have a therapist because you have somebody that's

1759
01:19:52,520 --> 01:19:56,040
Speaker 5: unbiasing in life, that can give you some proper perspective

1760
01:19:56,280 --> 01:19:58,680
Speaker 5: where you could cry and not feel judged, where you

1761
01:19:58,720 --> 01:20:01,120
Speaker 5: could you know, let your emotion out and not feel judged.

1762
01:20:01,160 --> 01:20:03,240
Speaker 5: And I feel like as men, we always try to

1763
01:20:03,240 --> 01:20:05,920
Speaker 5: be the toughest guy. And I would say, even when

1764
01:20:05,920 --> 01:20:08,160
Speaker 5: I cried on the show, that was such a good

1765
01:20:08,200 --> 01:20:10,479
Speaker 5: release from me because I ain't cried before that for

1766
01:20:10,520 --> 01:20:13,439
Speaker 5: three years. So that's why I kept on crying because

1767
01:20:13,479 --> 01:20:16,360
Speaker 5: it was so much stuff built built into me. And

1768
01:20:16,400 --> 01:20:18,559
Speaker 5: I feel like for men, we don't tap into that

1769
01:20:18,600 --> 01:20:21,519
Speaker 5: emotion enough. Whenever we do feel sad, like let's say

1770
01:20:21,560 --> 01:20:24,120
Speaker 5: a deal doesn't happen, or we do get our heartbroken,

1771
01:20:24,400 --> 01:20:26,280
Speaker 5: we kind of just like, manf it, We're gonna go

1772
01:20:26,400 --> 01:20:28,720
Speaker 5: have sex with another girl or do something else. And

1773
01:20:28,760 --> 01:20:31,800
Speaker 5: like you, that's that pain is still there, So like

1774
01:20:31,840 --> 01:20:34,280
Speaker 5: we need to be able to speak that speak on

1775
01:20:34,320 --> 01:20:36,840
Speaker 5: that pain, let it go, you know, because carrying that

1776
01:20:36,880 --> 01:20:39,400
Speaker 5: ain't gonna do you no good. So that's why a

1777
01:20:39,439 --> 01:20:42,920
Speaker 5: therapist is really good because it's somebody that is not

1778
01:20:43,000 --> 01:20:45,800
Speaker 5: in your life that's going to judge you. It's a

1779
01:20:46,439 --> 01:20:51,080
Speaker 5: unbiased perspective and you could just be yourself. Nobody's judging you.

1780
01:20:51,479 --> 01:20:53,759
Speaker 5: Anything you got going on, you can let that therapist

1781
01:20:53,880 --> 01:20:57,040
Speaker 5: know and it's a safe space for you. So to me,

1782
01:20:57,280 --> 01:20:59,479
Speaker 5: when I walk out my therapy sessions, I feel like

1783
01:20:59,520 --> 01:21:02,080
Speaker 5: a better man. I feel way more like I could,

1784
01:21:02,240 --> 01:21:04,160
Speaker 5: I could come on to talk to y'all and be

1785
01:21:04,280 --> 01:21:07,000
Speaker 5: vulnerable and not trip on how the world gonna see

1786
01:21:07,040 --> 01:21:09,599
Speaker 5: me because it's my life, Like I don't really care

1787
01:21:09,640 --> 01:21:11,600
Speaker 5: what other people really thinking about me. Like at the

1788
01:21:11,640 --> 01:21:12,840
Speaker 5: end of day, I'm trying to do what's best for

1789
01:21:12,920 --> 01:21:15,760
Speaker 5: me and my woman. My wife is gonna be able

1790
01:21:15,800 --> 01:21:17,640
Speaker 5: to that's my wife that I'm gonna be able to

1791
01:21:17,720 --> 01:21:20,120
Speaker 5: identify that she's gonna be identify me, and like what

1792
01:21:20,160 --> 01:21:22,200
Speaker 5: I got going on. If you there's gonna be a

1793
01:21:22,240 --> 01:21:23,799
Speaker 5: lot of people who are not gonna like what I say,

1794
01:21:23,920 --> 01:21:25,519
Speaker 5: but there's gonna be one person that likes it. And

1795
01:21:25,520 --> 01:21:28,160
Speaker 5: I'm only marrying one person, right, I don't.

1796
01:21:28,439 --> 01:21:30,840
Speaker 1: That's what people be feeling to realize you only got

1797
01:21:30,840 --> 01:21:34,720
Speaker 1: to impress that one person person. So you look at

1798
01:21:34,720 --> 01:21:35,639
Speaker 1: you with the growth.

1799
01:21:35,840 --> 01:21:37,360
Speaker 3: So how did you find your therapies?

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01:21:38,280 --> 01:21:40,240
Speaker 5: So actually, so I had a male therapist at first,

1801
01:21:40,240 --> 01:21:41,720
Speaker 5: and he was like kind of want I'm therapist that

1802
01:21:41,840 --> 01:21:44,400
Speaker 5: like through Bible verses at you, and that just wasn't

1803
01:21:44,439 --> 01:21:47,360
Speaker 5: working with me. I'm like, you can't, like you can't

1804
01:21:47,400 --> 01:21:57,400
Speaker 5: just throw John three verse five. Yeah, that's kind of energy.

1805
01:21:57,600 --> 01:22:01,400
Speaker 5: Was love the world and you know it's funny too.

1806
01:22:01,439 --> 01:22:04,240
Speaker 5: At the wedding they did, they did Proverbs three, verse five.

1807
01:22:05,080 --> 01:22:07,519
Speaker 5: That's the verses. I told ad it was manipulating a

1808
01:22:07,560 --> 01:22:10,000
Speaker 5: little bit because I'm like, that ain't even a wedding verse.

1809
01:22:10,040 --> 01:22:14,040
Speaker 5: That's the wedding that versus still right, they convinced me

1810
01:22:14,080 --> 01:22:19,720
Speaker 5: to not get But they funny though. But but I

1811
01:22:19,760 --> 01:22:22,040
Speaker 5: actually went through another therapist, but I only did one

1812
01:22:22,080 --> 01:22:24,760
Speaker 5: session with her. My sister did a session with the

1813
01:22:24,760 --> 01:22:26,639
Speaker 5: therapist that I have now. Shout out to Miss Tony.

1814
01:22:27,040 --> 01:22:29,720
Speaker 5: She's been real good. She gives me homework. So every

1815
01:22:29,720 --> 01:22:31,519
Speaker 5: time after a session, I see her once a week.

1816
01:22:31,760 --> 01:22:33,479
Speaker 5: She asked me do things. She asked me look at

1817
01:22:33,479 --> 01:22:36,680
Speaker 5: YouTube videos. She wants me to start practicing meditation. I

1818
01:22:36,680 --> 01:22:39,280
Speaker 5: will say that I'm a little off a normal meditation,

1819
01:22:39,439 --> 01:22:42,160
Speaker 5: just off of my schedule. Now, I no meditation works,

1820
01:22:42,520 --> 01:22:44,240
Speaker 5: but it's just hard for me to make the time

1821
01:22:44,280 --> 01:22:47,800
Speaker 5: for it. But she sends me meditation. She sends me things.

1822
01:22:47,840 --> 01:22:49,479
Speaker 5: And one of the things that she's like very toned

1823
01:22:49,479 --> 01:22:52,640
Speaker 5: in on is like, okay, Clay, like, let's identify your childhood,

1824
01:22:52,840 --> 01:22:56,760
Speaker 5: Let's identify what made you happy. Let's identify different things.

1825
01:22:56,800 --> 01:22:59,240
Speaker 5: Because I would say that the things that I've been

1826
01:22:59,280 --> 01:23:03,080
Speaker 5: chasing in my life, that's stuff that like doesn't really

1827
01:23:03,120 --> 01:23:05,400
Speaker 5: make me happy. But it's like kind of like what

1828
01:23:05,479 --> 01:23:07,640
Speaker 5: I told you, like I adopted this persona to be

1829
01:23:08,160 --> 01:23:10,720
Speaker 5: validated by other people, and that is kind of like

1830
01:23:10,760 --> 01:23:12,519
Speaker 5: what's been feeling me. So I had to go back

1831
01:23:12,520 --> 01:23:14,920
Speaker 5: into my kid essence, like, all right, what makes me happy?

1832
01:23:14,920 --> 01:23:17,120
Speaker 5: Being on my friends, being on my family, being around

1833
01:23:17,200 --> 01:23:21,000
Speaker 5: love money? Although I do love money, I'm a capitalist

1834
01:23:21,520 --> 01:23:24,120
Speaker 5: that gets stressful. And you and you sometimes you chasing

1835
01:23:24,160 --> 01:23:26,719
Speaker 5: that money so much you're not even happy. And I realize,

1836
01:23:26,760 --> 01:23:29,360
Speaker 5: like me having a genuine conversation, being with friends, being

1837
01:23:29,360 --> 01:23:32,759
Speaker 5: with family, that's my happiness. So getting back to that essence,

1838
01:23:32,760 --> 01:23:34,000
Speaker 5: you know, Okay.

1839
01:23:33,720 --> 01:23:35,680
Speaker 1: I think that's very interesting. So what did you have

1840
01:23:36,080 --> 01:23:38,120
Speaker 1: a woman therapies? Like I feel like most of the

1841
01:23:38,120 --> 01:23:40,439
Speaker 1: time when I think about me and they always like

1842
01:23:40,520 --> 01:23:43,000
Speaker 1: have male therapies and like women a lot of the

1843
01:23:43,000 --> 01:23:46,720
Speaker 1: time have women therapies. Yeah, I feel like it be

1844
01:23:46,800 --> 01:23:49,000
Speaker 1: makes for I guess how I got friends that i'd

1845
01:23:49,040 --> 01:23:52,200
Speaker 1: be talking to. It'd be a mixture, but just a

1846
01:23:52,240 --> 01:23:54,800
Speaker 1: piggyback off of what you said as far as like

1847
01:23:54,840 --> 01:23:55,760
Speaker 1: the homework that she gives you.

1848
01:23:55,760 --> 01:23:57,839
Speaker 2: Because I love my therapy. She always gives me homework.

1849
01:23:58,120 --> 01:23:59,640
Speaker 2: But I will say the main thing I took from her.

1850
01:23:59,680 --> 01:24:03,360
Speaker 2: I'll tell this all the time. Journaling. Yeah, because the

1851
01:24:03,400 --> 01:24:06,000
Speaker 2: reason journaling I always talk about how important it is

1852
01:24:06,160 --> 01:24:08,760
Speaker 2: is because with journaling, like you said, we have to

1853
01:24:08,800 --> 01:24:10,559
Speaker 2: look back on our childhood and look at the things

1854
01:24:10,600 --> 01:24:13,120
Speaker 2: that affected us. That means we have to look back

1855
01:24:13,160 --> 01:24:17,519
Speaker 2: on our past. I can look back two years ago

1856
01:24:17,560 --> 01:24:19,320
Speaker 2: what I was feeling in this moment right now because

1857
01:24:19,320 --> 01:24:20,960
Speaker 2: I journaled it and I wrote it down, and I

1858
01:24:20,960 --> 01:24:23,800
Speaker 2: can look at my growth. So every day, even if

1859
01:24:23,800 --> 01:24:26,240
Speaker 2: nothing happened that day, I sit down and I write

1860
01:24:26,240 --> 01:24:29,400
Speaker 2: how I felt this day, what I'm going through this day.

1861
01:24:29,600 --> 01:24:32,679
Speaker 2: So journaling has literally changed my life when it comes

1862
01:24:32,680 --> 01:24:35,800
Speaker 2: to growth, because sometimes you don't get to look back

1863
01:24:35,840 --> 01:24:38,920
Speaker 2: and really see the growth that you've made. But I

1864
01:24:38,920 --> 01:24:41,200
Speaker 2: can guarantee you if you wrote down how you feel

1865
01:24:41,240 --> 01:24:43,640
Speaker 2: a year ago and you read that today, you'll be like, wow,

1866
01:24:43,960 --> 01:24:46,479
Speaker 2: that's a fact. Even three months ago, I'll be looking

1867
01:24:46,520 --> 01:24:49,040
Speaker 2: at my journal interest I'll be like, oh my goodness,

1868
01:24:49,080 --> 01:24:49,960
Speaker 2: this is crazy.

1869
01:24:50,080 --> 01:24:52,519
Speaker 5: Wait give me so give me perspective, cause journaling, to

1870
01:24:52,560 --> 01:24:55,479
Speaker 5: me is tough because like I just it's like the

1871
01:24:55,479 --> 01:24:56,840
Speaker 5: same thing with meditation, Like.

1872
01:24:58,760 --> 01:25:00,800
Speaker 1: It's a habit for me. So I'll say this.

1873
01:25:00,880 --> 01:25:03,000
Speaker 2: So now sometimes when I journal, I didn't do nothing

1874
01:25:03,000 --> 01:25:05,679
Speaker 2: that day but stay in the house. So I'd be like, Okay,

1875
01:25:05,720 --> 01:25:08,479
Speaker 2: so today I stay in the house. I cleaned up

1876
01:25:08,479 --> 01:25:12,160
Speaker 2: a little bit, I had a conversation with this person

1877
01:25:12,160 --> 01:25:14,920
Speaker 2: and we would talk about X, y Z. So a

1878
01:25:15,000 --> 01:25:17,240
Speaker 2: year from now, I can look back on that and like, Damn,

1879
01:25:17,240 --> 01:25:18,760
Speaker 2: I was talking to this person about this.

1880
01:25:18,960 --> 01:25:19,920
Speaker 1: That's not even shit.

1881
01:25:19,960 --> 01:25:22,160
Speaker 2: I care about Why am I even engaging in a

1882
01:25:22,200 --> 01:25:23,080
Speaker 2: conversation like that?

1883
01:25:23,600 --> 01:25:24,400
Speaker 5: You see what I'm saying.

1884
01:25:24,479 --> 01:25:26,600
Speaker 2: So it can be like the smallest thing that you

1885
01:25:26,640 --> 01:25:29,200
Speaker 2: could be, like why was I engaging in that? You

1886
01:25:29,240 --> 01:25:31,960
Speaker 2: know what was I doing? And I'm like, oh, cause,

1887
01:25:32,000 --> 01:25:34,400
Speaker 2: like now I'm in a gym, real tough. So I'll

1888
01:25:34,640 --> 01:25:37,200
Speaker 2: always journal and I talk about my gym things. So

1889
01:25:37,320 --> 01:25:39,920
Speaker 2: even when I look back on my journals entries from

1890
01:25:39,920 --> 01:25:41,360
Speaker 2: a year ago, I'm like, Damn, I wasn't in the

1891
01:25:41,360 --> 01:25:44,320
Speaker 2: gym at all, And I think about how I feel

1892
01:25:44,360 --> 01:25:46,559
Speaker 2: so much better now because I'm looking at my journal

1893
01:25:46,680 --> 01:25:48,479
Speaker 2: entry from four months ago and I'm like, man, I

1894
01:25:48,560 --> 01:25:50,720
Speaker 2: left the gym I feel so good today. I'm like, man,

1895
01:25:50,720 --> 01:25:53,160
Speaker 2: look how happy the gym makes you. So it just

1896
01:25:53,200 --> 01:25:56,120
Speaker 2: be like little stuff so it don't got to be alone.

1897
01:25:56,880 --> 01:25:58,920
Speaker 2: Sometimes I literally write that, Hey, I don't feel like

1898
01:25:58,960 --> 01:26:00,519
Speaker 2: writing in my journal today, but I do it because

1899
01:26:00,520 --> 01:26:02,519
Speaker 2: I know I need to. I had a slow day today.

1900
01:26:02,760 --> 01:26:05,960
Speaker 2: This is how I'm feeling. I'll write something better tomorrow.

1901
01:26:06,120 --> 01:26:07,679
Speaker 5: Yeah, I gotta do a better job at that because

1902
01:26:08,120 --> 01:26:09,800
Speaker 5: I feel like I did it at the start of

1903
01:26:09,840 --> 01:26:12,760
Speaker 5: the year last year, like like like when I was

1904
01:26:12,760 --> 01:26:15,200
Speaker 5: doing Love as Black Spares, I was journaling. Yeah, so

1905
01:26:15,400 --> 01:26:17,160
Speaker 5: one day I'm gonna read what I was saying, cause

1906
01:26:17,160 --> 01:26:19,200
Speaker 5: that's and I think.

1907
01:26:19,000 --> 01:26:21,720
Speaker 1: Sometimes if writing isn't for you, maybe you can record it.

1908
01:26:21,800 --> 01:26:22,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think so.

1909
01:26:22,760 --> 01:26:24,760
Speaker 2: I phone they have an app now, so if you

1910
01:26:24,960 --> 01:26:26,960
Speaker 2: just like be on your phone, they have a journaling

1911
01:26:27,000 --> 01:26:28,880
Speaker 2: app now. So I think there's a lot of different

1912
01:26:28,880 --> 01:26:29,800
Speaker 2: ways you can journal.

1913
01:26:29,880 --> 01:26:32,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's a good, good poa sart in corporating.

1914
01:26:32,080 --> 01:26:33,439
Speaker 4: That, Yeah, yeah for sure.

1915
01:26:33,640 --> 01:26:36,120
Speaker 1: This girl that I follow on social media, we've been

1916
01:26:36,120 --> 01:26:37,960
Speaker 1: following each other for a long ast time, and we

1917
01:26:38,000 --> 01:26:40,479
Speaker 1: got each other in our close friends. She had posted

1918
01:26:40,520 --> 01:26:42,080
Speaker 1: in her close friends the other day she was like,

1919
01:26:42,160 --> 01:26:44,600
Speaker 1: I don't really know Journally, it don't really work for

1920
01:26:44,680 --> 01:26:46,679
Speaker 1: me because I'm just more of an on site person.

1921
01:26:47,560 --> 01:26:49,400
Speaker 1: What you mean, like, I don't feel like I need

1922
01:26:49,400 --> 01:26:50,920
Speaker 1: to write this, she'd in my journal, I'm gonna just

1923
01:26:51,040 --> 01:26:53,160
Speaker 1: let you know you got me fucked up, Like I'm

1924
01:26:53,160 --> 01:26:55,160
Speaker 1: gonna just talk to you and let you know, like

1925
01:26:55,400 --> 01:26:56,840
Speaker 1: this is how I feel.

1926
01:26:57,160 --> 01:26:59,960
Speaker 3: I don't want to deal with this or whatever the situation.

1927
01:27:00,120 --> 01:27:02,240
Speaker 2: Maybe when I think about journal, I don't think it's

1928
01:27:02,240 --> 01:27:04,519
Speaker 2: about what a person has done to you. I think

1929
01:27:04,560 --> 01:27:06,439
Speaker 2: it's more like the internal thing.

1930
01:27:06,560 --> 01:27:09,200
Speaker 1: Right, But I guess she was just saying she feels

1931
01:27:09,240 --> 01:27:12,200
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna just let it out regardless, like I'm

1932
01:27:12,200 --> 01:27:14,200
Speaker 1: gonna just let whoever know how I feel.

1933
01:27:14,360 --> 01:27:16,240
Speaker 2: But what if you're dealing with something internally that has

1934
01:27:16,280 --> 01:27:19,960
Speaker 2: nothing to do with anybody else, who you gonna let know?

1935
01:27:21,040 --> 01:27:22,880
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I mean, yeah, but it's

1936
01:27:22,920 --> 01:27:27,000
Speaker 1: like you as a person, you know how you feel, right.

1937
01:27:26,880 --> 01:27:29,959
Speaker 4: But you really don't though, because there's.

1938
01:27:29,800 --> 01:27:33,360
Speaker 1: Things tell me what it's internal. If it's me feeling

1939
01:27:33,439 --> 01:27:36,040
Speaker 1: this way, even if I'm writing it in a journal,

1940
01:27:36,080 --> 01:27:37,240
Speaker 1: I'm not letting nobody know.

1941
01:27:37,320 --> 01:27:38,479
Speaker 3: I'm just writing it out right.

1942
01:27:38,560 --> 01:27:41,200
Speaker 2: But guess what two years ago today, what were you

1943
01:27:41,280 --> 01:27:43,080
Speaker 2: doing and how did you feel. It'd be sometimes that

1944
01:27:43,160 --> 01:27:45,040
Speaker 2: I look at old Poor Mind's episodes, I'll be like,

1945
01:27:45,120 --> 01:27:45,800
Speaker 2: I said.

1946
01:27:45,560 --> 01:27:48,240
Speaker 1: That, right, I mean, I agree. I think that I

1947
01:27:48,720 --> 01:27:52,280
Speaker 1: do journal more of these days. But I think it's cool.

1948
01:27:52,280 --> 01:27:54,120
Speaker 1: But sometimes I think I kind of fall off with

1949
01:27:54,240 --> 01:27:58,120
Speaker 1: it too, because I don't necessarily think that I'm a

1950
01:27:58,120 --> 01:27:59,799
Speaker 1: person who looks back on things.

1951
01:28:00,080 --> 01:28:01,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know that.

1952
01:28:01,840 --> 01:28:04,200
Speaker 1: Also just depends on the type of person you are,

1953
01:28:04,280 --> 01:28:05,920
Speaker 1: because if you're a person who you like to look

1954
01:28:06,000 --> 01:28:08,599
Speaker 1: back on things to be in documentary growth and be like,

1955
01:28:08,680 --> 01:28:10,840
Speaker 1: oh well I was going through this and now I'm

1956
01:28:10,880 --> 01:28:12,519
Speaker 1: not like that no more, and I don't think this

1957
01:28:12,600 --> 01:28:15,880
Speaker 1: way anymore, versus like if you're a person that you

1958
01:28:15,960 --> 01:28:19,600
Speaker 1: just kind of go through life and move on, move on.

1959
01:28:20,320 --> 01:28:22,400
Speaker 2: I always say this when I talk to about because

1960
01:28:22,439 --> 01:28:26,320
Speaker 2: my fellow get into journaling. Yes, I look at like

1961
01:28:26,360 --> 01:28:29,840
Speaker 2: losing weight. When you lost weight and you look in

1962
01:28:29,840 --> 01:28:32,840
Speaker 2: the mirror, you be like, oh my god, I don't

1963
01:28:32,840 --> 01:28:35,559
Speaker 2: see no difference because you see yourself every day.

1964
01:28:36,479 --> 01:28:38,200
Speaker 4: But if you take a picture.

1965
01:28:37,880 --> 01:28:41,200
Speaker 2: From day one today ninety, you be like, oh day ninety,

1966
01:28:41,200 --> 01:28:42,680
Speaker 2: I look like, oh my god, I look like this

1967
01:28:42,800 --> 01:28:43,200
Speaker 2: day one.

1968
01:28:43,680 --> 01:28:46,080
Speaker 1: That's how journaling is for me. Everybody's different.

1969
01:28:46,400 --> 01:28:48,519
Speaker 2: Some people they don't want to see that day one picture.

1970
01:28:48,760 --> 01:28:49,800
Speaker 2: That's not gonna help them.

1971
01:28:49,880 --> 01:28:49,960
Speaker 5: Me.

1972
01:28:50,360 --> 01:28:52,360
Speaker 1: I need to look at that day one picture and see.

1973
01:28:52,400 --> 01:28:55,479
Speaker 1: I will say this even when I do journal, like

1974
01:28:55,720 --> 01:28:57,880
Speaker 1: even looking back to like me journaling at the end

1975
01:28:57,960 --> 01:28:59,280
Speaker 1: of last year, I haven't read.

1976
01:28:59,160 --> 01:29:02,519
Speaker 4: This she Yeah, see I when I'm feeling.

1977
01:29:01,800 --> 01:29:05,639
Speaker 1: That, Yeah, it's April and I have not read that, yeah,

1978
01:29:05,680 --> 01:29:08,240
Speaker 1: this whole year, you know what I mean. It's like

1979
01:29:08,280 --> 01:29:10,320
Speaker 1: I never really look back on stuff, Like even with

1980
01:29:10,360 --> 01:29:13,080
Speaker 1: text messages. I have my text messages to wear after

1981
01:29:13,120 --> 01:29:14,920
Speaker 1: a year day de lead because these are nothing that

1982
01:29:15,000 --> 01:29:17,320
Speaker 1: I want to like look back on.

1983
01:29:17,720 --> 01:29:22,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely I have, like maybe every like six months,

1984
01:29:22,360 --> 01:29:25,840
Speaker 2: I sit down and I'll read my journals, especially if

1985
01:29:25,840 --> 01:29:27,560
Speaker 2: it's like it's a day I'm feeling something, I'm like,

1986
01:29:27,600 --> 01:29:28,439
Speaker 2: what's going on today.

1987
01:29:28,479 --> 01:29:30,920
Speaker 1: I'll look back and I'm like, oh, okay, okay, You're on.

1988
01:29:30,880 --> 01:29:31,519
Speaker 5: The right track.

1989
01:29:31,880 --> 01:29:34,519
Speaker 2: So I just think it just depends with what you're

1990
01:29:34,560 --> 01:29:36,400
Speaker 2: going through. I feel like, if you've never tried it,

1991
01:29:36,400 --> 01:29:37,400
Speaker 2: maybe try it.

1992
01:29:37,600 --> 01:29:38,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I feel like you should.

1993
01:29:39,000 --> 01:29:41,200
Speaker 1: If you try it, maybe you'll like it.

1994
01:29:41,200 --> 01:29:44,200
Speaker 2: It worked for some people, it's done wonders for me

1995
01:29:44,280 --> 01:29:46,000
Speaker 2: because Chelle, I'll be a mess.

1996
01:29:46,520 --> 01:29:48,160
Speaker 5: So what I'll be doing now, I'll just be like

1997
01:29:48,200 --> 01:29:50,040
Speaker 5: when I be having my therapy sessions, I just have

1998
01:29:50,160 --> 01:29:52,000
Speaker 5: my notes tap up. Yeah, I kind of like write

1999
01:29:52,040 --> 01:29:55,280
Speaker 5: notes down. But you know I did journal before. I

2000
01:29:55,360 --> 01:29:58,040
Speaker 5: just felt like that to me to be consistent, because

2001
01:29:58,080 --> 01:29:59,599
Speaker 5: I'll just be like, you know, some days it just.

2002
01:29:59,520 --> 01:30:02,680
Speaker 4: Don't be s every day, Like, yeah, I write in

2003
01:30:02,760 --> 01:30:03,639
Speaker 4: my ship every day.

2004
01:30:03,760 --> 01:30:05,280
Speaker 5: That's that's a habit.

2005
01:30:05,400 --> 01:30:05,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have.

2006
01:30:06,640 --> 01:30:08,760
Speaker 5: When I was doing the show, I was journaling because

2007
01:30:08,760 --> 01:30:11,280
Speaker 5: we ain't have no TV. We had nothing. That's that's all.

2008
01:30:12,240 --> 01:30:16,000
Speaker 5: So I'll read those because that was entertaining. I'm one

2009
01:30:16,040 --> 01:30:17,479
Speaker 5: day I'm gona read that ship on YouTube.

2010
01:30:17,640 --> 01:30:19,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I said.

2011
01:30:19,080 --> 01:30:20,519
Speaker 4: Also, if you don't want to write, because I think

2012
01:30:20,560 --> 01:30:21,320
Speaker 4: sometimes people.

2013
01:30:21,120 --> 01:30:24,800
Speaker 5: Just don't want to, of course I like that. That's

2014
01:30:24,840 --> 01:30:26,639
Speaker 5: a good I think I'm gonna do that, like probably

2015
01:30:26,680 --> 01:30:28,760
Speaker 5: do like some voice Orcord like hey, because I do

2016
01:30:28,840 --> 01:30:31,640
Speaker 5: my walks in the morning, like I like kiss my

2017
01:30:31,720 --> 01:30:33,760
Speaker 5: skin and just going to walk talk talk with God,

2018
01:30:34,320 --> 01:30:36,720
Speaker 5: and I can like probably like record myself and.

2019
01:30:36,920 --> 01:30:39,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, what was that movie Avatar? I remember how they would.

2020
01:30:39,400 --> 01:30:41,720
Speaker 2: They made them document everything every day and they was

2021
01:30:41,720 --> 01:30:45,640
Speaker 2: like recording. So I feel like, just record something and

2022
01:30:45,720 --> 01:30:47,360
Speaker 2: even if you don't do it every day, you can

2023
01:30:47,400 --> 01:30:51,200
Speaker 2: do it every week. Give a summary of your Yeah,

2024
01:30:51,320 --> 01:30:53,679
Speaker 2: I don't have to do it every day, just something,

2025
01:30:53,920 --> 01:30:55,360
Speaker 2: write something down.

2026
01:30:55,520 --> 01:30:55,920
Speaker 3: I agree.

2027
01:30:58,000 --> 01:31:01,040
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You'll know. Okay, So now

2028
01:31:01,080 --> 01:31:01,840
Speaker 1: we're gonna move on.

2029
01:31:02,040 --> 01:31:05,559
Speaker 2: We in our favorite segment of the week, your pour

2030
01:31:05,640 --> 01:31:06,799
Speaker 2: your Heart Out segment.

2031
01:31:07,200 --> 01:31:09,360
Speaker 1: Did they give us the poor your heart? Yes?

2032
01:31:09,400 --> 01:31:10,599
Speaker 3: Do we have to pour your heart out?

2033
01:31:10,640 --> 01:31:11,040
Speaker 1: Cards?

2034
01:31:11,120 --> 01:31:32,240
Speaker 2: You guys, make sure you email us at ask Poor

2035
01:31:32,360 --> 01:31:35,000
Speaker 2: Minds at gmail dot com if you want your questions

2036
01:31:35,360 --> 01:31:38,000
Speaker 2: answered on the show. If you are a Patreon member,

2037
01:31:38,040 --> 01:31:39,519
Speaker 2: make sure you put that in the subject line and

2038
01:31:39,560 --> 01:31:41,240
Speaker 2: you get to skip the line.

2039
01:31:41,360 --> 01:31:42,519
Speaker 3: Do you give good advice?

2040
01:31:42,560 --> 01:31:44,200
Speaker 5: Clay, I don't know.

2041
01:31:44,600 --> 01:31:48,200
Speaker 1: He's like, I don't know. I ain't the best advice giver.

2042
01:31:49,640 --> 01:31:51,760
Speaker 5: It depends who a lord.

2043
01:31:51,840 --> 01:31:53,880
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm gonna get into question this.

2044
01:31:54,520 --> 01:31:54,760
Speaker 5: Damn.

2045
01:31:54,800 --> 01:31:58,080
Speaker 1: It's a long asked question. Actually, well, if say question

2046
01:31:58,160 --> 01:31:59,799
Speaker 1: number one with my say question number.

2047
01:31:59,640 --> 01:32:01,760
Speaker 4: Two, mind said question number one? I guess it don't matter.

2048
01:32:01,760 --> 01:32:03,120
Speaker 1: You want to go first or you.

2049
01:32:03,120 --> 01:32:05,960
Speaker 3: Know, man, is yours long not short? Okay, go you

2050
01:32:06,000 --> 01:32:06,400
Speaker 3: go first.

2051
01:32:06,479 --> 01:32:10,240
Speaker 2: Okay, Hey, lex Andrea, sit back because this is a

2052
01:32:10,240 --> 01:32:13,080
Speaker 2: good one. I've been talking to this guy who's twenty

2053
01:32:13,080 --> 01:32:15,639
Speaker 2: six and I'm a thirty one year old female. We

2054
01:32:15,680 --> 01:32:18,639
Speaker 2: started talking after he's slid in the DMS. But here's

2055
01:32:18,680 --> 01:32:22,440
Speaker 2: the bad part. Our moms are best friends. But AnyWho,

2056
01:32:22,920 --> 01:32:25,880
Speaker 2: we've been fucking and talking and I'm catching feelings fast.

2057
01:32:26,160 --> 01:32:28,519
Speaker 2: But also he has a baby on the way. I

2058
01:32:28,520 --> 01:32:30,800
Speaker 2: don't know what to do. I need your help. Should

2059
01:32:30,800 --> 01:32:32,880
Speaker 2: I just let it continue and play out or leave

2060
01:32:32,960 --> 01:32:35,800
Speaker 2: him alone? Side note, he says him and the baby

2061
01:32:35,840 --> 01:32:38,439
Speaker 2: mama aren't getting back together. But I'm old enough to

2062
01:32:38,520 --> 01:32:42,120
Speaker 2: know that shit can change. But please help me. Being

2063
01:32:42,200 --> 01:32:48,000
Speaker 2: thirty one and being aside, we know better.

2064
01:32:49,120 --> 01:32:49,439
Speaker 1: Girl.

2065
01:32:50,280 --> 01:32:52,200
Speaker 4: I'm never dealing with a man who got a baby

2066
01:32:52,200 --> 01:32:52,599
Speaker 4: on the way.

2067
01:32:53,040 --> 01:32:56,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, just off of the way, off top, because a

2068
01:32:56,400 --> 01:32:59,280
Speaker 2: newborn is a lot of work. If you're a man

2069
01:32:59,400 --> 01:33:00,920
Speaker 2: or a woman and you have a newborn and you

2070
01:33:00,960 --> 01:33:03,200
Speaker 2: have time to date, you're not being a good parent.

2071
01:33:03,800 --> 01:33:06,720
Speaker 2: That's just my honest opinion, because I've been there with

2072
01:33:06,760 --> 01:33:12,360
Speaker 2: a newborn. I was there with my sister and her baby.

2073
01:33:12,439 --> 01:33:16,680
Speaker 2: Daddy whenever they had my oldest nephew, and it's a lot,

2074
01:33:16,960 --> 01:33:19,280
Speaker 2: and they were both there present and I will still

2075
01:33:19,280 --> 01:33:23,280
Speaker 2: being there. It takes a village, for real, A good

2076
01:33:23,320 --> 01:33:26,880
Speaker 2: father to a newborn does not have time to date.

2077
01:33:27,479 --> 01:33:31,000
Speaker 5: What about if the woman is keeping the newborn away

2078
01:33:31,000 --> 01:33:34,080
Speaker 5: from the father and he wants to be president in life?

2079
01:33:35,240 --> 01:33:37,880
Speaker 2: A woman, a real woman, that that's not You're not

2080
01:33:37,960 --> 01:33:39,920
Speaker 2: keeping child away from the father.

2081
01:33:40,120 --> 01:33:40,840
Speaker 1: She needs the help.

2082
01:33:40,960 --> 01:33:43,240
Speaker 5: I always gonna say that because I have a homeboy

2083
01:33:43,280 --> 01:33:44,240
Speaker 5: who just went through that.

2084
01:33:44,680 --> 01:33:45,719
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm not saying it doesn't.

2085
01:33:46,080 --> 01:33:47,160
Speaker 3: It definitely happens.

2086
01:33:47,200 --> 01:33:48,280
Speaker 4: I'm not saying it doesn't happen.

2087
01:33:48,560 --> 01:33:53,640
Speaker 2: But that's a very slight that's.

2088
01:33:52,880 --> 01:33:53,559
Speaker 1: A very like.

2089
01:33:53,680 --> 01:33:56,760
Speaker 2: He has an interesting case because I'm telling you of

2090
01:33:56,760 --> 01:33:58,520
Speaker 2: the time, a woman with a newborn.

2091
01:33:58,280 --> 01:34:00,200
Speaker 4: She wants you to be there, she wants you to.

2092
01:34:00,240 --> 01:34:05,280
Speaker 2: He he needs some That's a part of depression, is real, Okay?

2093
01:34:05,439 --> 01:34:08,120
Speaker 1: I mean a red flag for for sure is a

2094
01:34:08,200 --> 01:34:10,040
Speaker 1: nigga having a baby on the way trying to date me.

2095
01:34:10,640 --> 01:34:11,920
Speaker 3: What you mean you got a baby on.

2096
01:34:11,800 --> 01:34:14,240
Speaker 2: The way and he's twenty six, he younger than you?

2097
01:34:14,240 --> 01:34:18,000
Speaker 2: You thirty one? That girl, move on and mama's best

2098
01:34:18,000 --> 01:34:20,800
Speaker 2: friends y'all supposed to be cousins.

2099
01:34:21,160 --> 01:34:23,000
Speaker 4: I agree, y'all kissing cuzin.

2100
01:34:22,800 --> 01:34:25,160
Speaker 5: That's when the toxic should get in there. She having

2101
01:34:25,160 --> 01:34:26,360
Speaker 5: a good sex, that big.

2102
01:34:26,120 --> 01:34:27,080
Speaker 4: Is not that good girl.

2103
01:34:27,560 --> 01:34:28,960
Speaker 3: We just talked about their play.

2104
01:34:29,560 --> 01:34:33,040
Speaker 1: It's the sex, the sad sex, bad situation, that's what's

2105
01:34:33,040 --> 01:34:35,640
Speaker 1: making her right there. Little yeah, but girl, let that

2106
01:34:35,680 --> 01:34:37,880
Speaker 1: she go. Yeah, let that go. We can all agree.

2107
01:34:37,960 --> 01:34:39,880
Speaker 5: Let this she go. So he doing well in life,

2108
01:34:40,479 --> 01:34:40,800
Speaker 5: but she.

2109
01:34:40,720 --> 01:34:43,760
Speaker 2: Didn't say that. She just said he was twenty somethings. Yeah, yeah,

2110
01:34:43,800 --> 01:34:45,880
Speaker 2: she just said he was twenty six. But I mean,

2111
01:34:46,280 --> 01:34:47,920
Speaker 2: given the way the economy is, no, I'm not going

2112
01:34:48,000 --> 01:34:50,360
Speaker 2: to assume, but nine times out of ten, twenty six

2113
01:34:50,479 --> 01:34:53,080
Speaker 2: year old, they just he's still trying to figure life out.

2114
01:34:54,280 --> 01:34:57,960
Speaker 5: A nigg fucking for red.

2115
01:34:58,520 --> 01:35:01,080
Speaker 2: I mean, it's going on. I'll give it up for

2116
01:35:01,080 --> 01:35:04,200
Speaker 2: a little bit of rent. Rent h now, y'all lucky

2117
01:35:04,280 --> 01:35:07,519
Speaker 2: A young I wouldn't know what I would be doing

2118
01:35:07,600 --> 01:35:08,600
Speaker 2: right now because.

2119
01:35:08,360 --> 01:35:10,840
Speaker 1: With these rent prices now, rent is crazy right now?

2120
01:35:10,880 --> 01:35:13,479
Speaker 2: Oh lord, I just thank God every day my rents

2121
01:35:13,479 --> 01:35:15,080
Speaker 2: so high.

2122
01:35:15,360 --> 01:35:20,559
Speaker 1: Go ahead, I don't pay, you know, it's least high. Question.

2123
01:35:21,800 --> 01:35:24,840
Speaker 1: Now I'm preparing myself it's alone. It's long and long,

2124
01:35:25,760 --> 01:35:31,679
Speaker 1: all right, remaining anonymous. Hey lex Andrea, I love y'all

2125
01:35:31,680 --> 01:35:34,960
Speaker 1: so much. Let me get right into this. I'm sorry

2126
01:35:35,040 --> 01:35:36,240
Speaker 1: it's long with just listen.

2127
01:35:36,320 --> 01:35:36,719
Speaker 3: Okay.

2128
01:35:37,160 --> 01:35:39,840
Speaker 1: So I've been with my cheating, lying ass baby daddy

2129
01:35:39,880 --> 01:35:43,840
Speaker 1: for fourteen years, since I was fifteen years old. Okay,

2130
01:35:44,040 --> 01:35:47,200
Speaker 1: so about six years we took a break, he moved out,

2131
01:35:47,240 --> 01:35:49,160
Speaker 1: and a lot of shit went down during the six

2132
01:35:49,240 --> 01:35:52,879
Speaker 1: month break. He got somebody pregnant, made her gett an abortion.

2133
01:35:53,400 --> 01:35:55,880
Speaker 1: I got pregnant by him or the other nigga, I

2134
01:35:55,880 --> 01:35:58,639
Speaker 1: don't know because I was fucking both of them, honestly, but.

2135
01:35:58,560 --> 01:35:59,759
Speaker 3: I got rid of the baby.

2136
01:36:00,280 --> 01:36:04,320
Speaker 1: Anyways, me and baby Daddy came back together and we

2137
01:36:04,360 --> 01:36:07,200
Speaker 1: went to get tested together. For all my life, I've

2138
01:36:07,200 --> 01:36:10,040
Speaker 1: stayed on top of my screenings, but this time he

2139
01:36:10,200 --> 01:36:13,240
Speaker 1: specifically asked for us to get a herpee test, which

2140
01:36:13,240 --> 01:36:15,320
Speaker 1: in all my days, I never knew it was a

2141
01:36:15,360 --> 01:36:18,560
Speaker 1: blood test or that I wasn't even getting tested for it.

2142
01:36:18,680 --> 01:36:20,880
Speaker 1: When I go to the doctor and say test me

2143
01:36:20,960 --> 01:36:24,439
Speaker 1: for everything, So mine comes back.

2144
01:36:24,280 --> 01:36:25,959
Speaker 3: Positive and he is his negative.

2145
01:36:26,520 --> 01:36:30,000
Speaker 1: And more so, I can't pinpoint who gave it because

2146
01:36:30,080 --> 01:36:35,040
Speaker 1: I never had a case or blister, not shit on me. Ever, still,

2147
01:36:35,080 --> 01:36:39,240
Speaker 1: after finding out nothing, literally ever, I custs my doctors

2148
01:36:39,280 --> 01:36:41,719
Speaker 1: out from here to hell because I just couldn't wrup

2149
01:36:41,800 --> 01:36:44,360
Speaker 1: my head around how I have checked my pussy every

2150
01:36:44,360 --> 01:36:47,720
Speaker 1: three to six months since I started fucking. And I'm

2151
01:36:47,720 --> 01:36:51,360
Speaker 1: finding out this information at twenty four. So now the

2152
01:36:51,439 --> 01:36:54,639
Speaker 1: present day, I am thirty years old and I don't

2153
01:36:54,640 --> 01:36:57,559
Speaker 1: want my baby daddy no more. I'm done. But he

2154
01:36:57,680 --> 01:36:59,280
Speaker 1: the only one that knows I have this.

2155
01:36:59,360 --> 01:36:59,599
Speaker 3: Sheit.

2156
01:37:00,080 --> 01:37:01,840
Speaker 1: But I want the courage to be honest with the

2157
01:37:01,880 --> 01:37:03,479
Speaker 1: next person I decide to be with.

2158
01:37:03,880 --> 01:37:06,200
Speaker 3: How do I tell them? Am I fucked for life?

2159
01:37:08,200 --> 01:37:09,000
Speaker 1: First of all?

2160
01:37:09,080 --> 01:37:10,840
Speaker 2: This is why I said I'm not judging you and

2161
01:37:10,880 --> 01:37:13,360
Speaker 2: I don't want to be. This is why sex education

2162
01:37:13,760 --> 01:37:16,160
Speaker 2: is important and we need to get this shit beyond

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01:37:16,200 --> 01:37:16,839
Speaker 2: sixth grade.

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01:37:17,600 --> 01:37:19,720
Speaker 4: Do y'all know sex well?

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01:37:19,760 --> 01:37:22,800
Speaker 2: What I'm saying is but sex ed is taught in

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01:37:22,880 --> 01:37:26,840
Speaker 2: sixth grade like you had it in high school. But

2167
01:37:26,880 --> 01:37:30,160
Speaker 2: that's not what the average curriculum is. It's because that

2168
01:37:30,280 --> 01:37:37,120
Speaker 2: is absolutely insane that everything that she just said, because

2169
01:37:37,400 --> 01:37:40,519
Speaker 2: why we're not teaching why are we still putting connors

2170
01:37:40,560 --> 01:37:42,760
Speaker 2: on bananas in sex ed?

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01:37:43,000 --> 01:37:43,920
Speaker 4: I mean because there's.

2172
01:37:43,760 --> 01:37:45,680
Speaker 1: No reason she should be like, oh, I never had

2173
01:37:45,680 --> 01:37:47,559
Speaker 1: a cold sore. I never had it. I didn't know

2174
01:37:47,600 --> 01:37:49,880
Speaker 1: what blood tests. That's crazy to me.

2175
01:37:50,320 --> 01:37:52,960
Speaker 3: STDs LI dorm me for a long.

2176
01:37:53,000 --> 01:37:56,520
Speaker 1: Come on now, yeah, come on now.

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01:37:56,600 --> 01:37:58,640
Speaker 3: All of them and they do teach us that.

2178
01:37:59,400 --> 01:38:02,519
Speaker 2: And like I said, I'm not judging you, but at

2179
01:38:02,520 --> 01:38:04,960
Speaker 2: the end of the day, you have to live your

2180
01:38:04,960 --> 01:38:09,840
Speaker 2: life differently, and you have to be honest with people,

2181
01:38:09,960 --> 01:38:12,200
Speaker 2: because let me tell you how fucked up it is.

2182
01:38:12,280 --> 01:38:14,360
Speaker 2: I think that if you know that you have something

2183
01:38:14,400 --> 01:38:17,160
Speaker 2: and you're sleeping with people, that's literally a criminal offense.

2184
01:38:17,240 --> 01:38:18,679
Speaker 3: Now it is you can go to jail.

2185
01:38:18,800 --> 01:38:20,040
Speaker 2: That you can go to jail for that if you

2186
01:38:20,160 --> 01:38:22,240
Speaker 2: if you're sleeping with people knowing that you have something

2187
01:38:22,240 --> 01:38:24,439
Speaker 2: and you're not letting them be known. So I feel

2188
01:38:24,439 --> 01:38:27,679
Speaker 2: like with this, you don't have to be with somebody

2189
01:38:27,760 --> 01:38:31,439
Speaker 2: just because he knows. But you have to be honest.

2190
01:38:31,560 --> 01:38:34,160
Speaker 2: I don't know how. I mean, thank God, I've been blessed.

2191
01:38:34,160 --> 01:38:37,120
Speaker 2: I don't have anything like that that's incurable or anything

2192
01:38:37,160 --> 01:38:38,920
Speaker 2: like that, so I never have. So I can't tell

2193
01:38:38,960 --> 01:38:41,519
Speaker 2: you how to have that conversation, but you do need

2194
01:38:41,560 --> 01:38:44,679
Speaker 2: to figure out a way to have that conversation because

2195
01:38:44,720 --> 01:38:47,880
Speaker 2: you need to have that conversation. Yeah, I agree, And

2196
01:38:48,000 --> 01:38:50,200
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people kind of underestimate. I mean,

2197
01:38:50,240 --> 01:38:52,400
Speaker 2: there's a whole community, you gotta what's the It's like

2198
01:38:52,439 --> 01:38:55,479
Speaker 2: one in four people have hurpes, so a.

2199
01:38:55,400 --> 01:38:58,240
Speaker 1: Lot of people. Your baby dad even testing right now,

2200
01:38:58,280 --> 01:39:01,360
Speaker 1: he probably got that shit too. Now you probably you

2201
01:39:01,520 --> 01:39:07,479
Speaker 1: just exactly exactly did he tell you his results came back?

2202
01:39:08,360 --> 01:39:13,640
Speaker 1: Did he show you? Okay, So all jokes aside. I

2203
01:39:13,680 --> 01:39:14,120
Speaker 1: feel like.

2204
01:39:16,000 --> 01:39:18,720
Speaker 2: We need to lean on each other with support communities

2205
01:39:18,720 --> 01:39:21,440
Speaker 2: as well, a little more like I think finding community

2206
01:39:21,479 --> 01:39:22,080
Speaker 2: is important.

2207
01:39:22,320 --> 01:39:26,680
Speaker 5: So so he suggested that she has an STD and

2208
01:39:26,720 --> 01:39:28,679
Speaker 5: then he was negative and she was positive.

2209
01:39:28,800 --> 01:39:30,920
Speaker 4: Exactly. Something ain't right now with water.

2210
01:39:31,320 --> 01:39:35,080
Speaker 2: I feel like he got that he got somebody else pregnant.

2211
01:39:35,120 --> 01:39:37,320
Speaker 2: You got pregnant? Thought it was his thought. It was

2212
01:39:37,360 --> 01:39:42,559
Speaker 2: the why is y'all the people people on the corner

2213
01:39:42,680 --> 01:39:48,240
Speaker 2: he pregnant. You're the mom and baby daddy pregnant. Why

2214
01:39:48,320 --> 01:39:50,960
Speaker 2: is everybody where the condoms at? I ain't hear nothing

2215
01:39:51,000 --> 01:39:53,479
Speaker 2: about no com y'all are not afraid enough for me?

2216
01:39:56,360 --> 01:39:59,080
Speaker 1: You like lamb skin, I feel like you can still

2217
01:39:59,080 --> 01:40:00,559
Speaker 1: get a little one too, for lambkin.

2218
01:40:00,800 --> 01:40:03,360
Speaker 3: I heard that lamb skin like you can still get STDs.

2219
01:40:03,760 --> 01:40:08,160
Speaker 1: Oh really, because it has fours in it. Sin with fours,

2220
01:40:09,080 --> 01:40:12,360
Speaker 1: that's why it feels so natural. Really, you better get you.

2221
01:40:12,320 --> 01:40:15,439
Speaker 5: A thin damn. I ain't that you gotta get you.

2222
01:40:16,080 --> 01:40:19,280
Speaker 5: I'm thinking I'm protecting you.

2223
01:40:19,360 --> 01:40:21,080
Speaker 3: Better get you a Magnum and Tiest.

2224
01:40:22,479 --> 01:40:24,200
Speaker 4: But the maximum ultra thin.

2225
01:40:24,360 --> 01:40:25,160
Speaker 1: They're so thin.

2226
01:40:27,160 --> 01:40:30,040
Speaker 4: The Magnum ultra thins are so I don't use coms.

2227
01:40:30,160 --> 01:40:31,599
Speaker 5: But good for you.

2228
01:40:31,760 --> 01:40:37,280
Speaker 1: But uh, when we were using condoms, Magnimum ultra thin.

2229
01:40:37,560 --> 01:40:40,360
Speaker 1: But I do. But in his defense, though, I do

2230
01:40:40,400 --> 01:40:45,040
Speaker 1: think that they do have lambskin condoms that protects against CD.

2231
01:40:45,320 --> 01:40:49,280
Speaker 5: So well, Magnum has the lambskin thing. But honestly, I

2232
01:40:49,320 --> 01:40:50,040
Speaker 5: never looked at it.

2233
01:40:50,439 --> 01:40:51,080
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna lie.

2234
01:40:51,120 --> 01:40:53,960
Speaker 2: I haven't used lambskin columns in a very long time

2235
01:40:53,960 --> 01:40:56,400
Speaker 2: because I diated one guy a long time ago who

2236
01:40:56,439 --> 01:40:59,800
Speaker 2: was allergic to l tex so he had to use

2237
01:41:00,800 --> 01:41:01,720
Speaker 2: using lambskin, and I.

2238
01:41:01,640 --> 01:41:04,000
Speaker 1: Never had a problem with it. But I know then

2239
01:41:04,160 --> 01:41:05,160
Speaker 1: this was a long time ago.

2240
01:41:05,240 --> 01:41:06,960
Speaker 2: When I did my research on it, it was like,

2241
01:41:07,240 --> 01:41:09,680
Speaker 2: you know, it's lambskin, so skin has poors in it.

2242
01:41:09,760 --> 01:41:14,360
Speaker 2: So the comn the seamen can get through the pores in.

2243
01:41:14,280 --> 01:41:16,320
Speaker 3: The Okay, it does say that.

2244
01:41:16,400 --> 01:41:19,760
Speaker 1: It says natural lambskin condoms do not protect do not

2245
01:41:19,800 --> 01:41:22,640
Speaker 1: prevent the spread of STDs because of the presence of

2246
01:41:22,680 --> 01:41:26,559
Speaker 1: tiny pores and holes that may allow viruses such as HIV,

2247
01:41:26,720 --> 01:41:30,120
Speaker 1: hippocitis beating herpes to spread. It's important to know that

2248
01:41:30,200 --> 01:41:33,040
Speaker 1: male condoms cannot completely protect you and your partner from

2249
01:41:33,080 --> 01:41:36,080
Speaker 1: contracting the STD. I know a little something now. I've

2250
01:41:36,080 --> 01:41:37,720
Speaker 1: been fucking for a long time.

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01:41:37,520 --> 01:41:41,360
Speaker 5: Now, so I was today years old I found out lambskin.

2252
01:41:41,640 --> 01:41:44,120
Speaker 1: But that's all right, though. That's I don't think you

2253
01:41:44,120 --> 01:41:45,960
Speaker 1: got to ask your stuff. You gotta be like, why

2254
01:41:46,000 --> 01:41:48,040
Speaker 1: these feel way better than late?

2255
01:41:48,439 --> 01:41:50,479
Speaker 5: Well? You know I so you know a dude brought

2256
01:41:50,479 --> 01:41:53,400
Speaker 5: it to him, like yo, bro, like because you know condoms.

2257
01:41:53,439 --> 01:41:58,360
Speaker 5: You know, condoms got that drench, that smell that should

2258
01:41:58,479 --> 01:42:01,080
Speaker 5: make a whole room smell like a locker rooms. I

2259
01:42:01,120 --> 01:42:05,200
Speaker 5: feel like depending on who you mess with to get worse.

2260
01:42:06,280 --> 01:42:11,800
Speaker 1: She ain't use no bora shower before it gets real

2261
01:42:11,920 --> 01:42:19,000
Speaker 1: stak in the field, but lay work as it is necessary,

2262
01:42:19,080 --> 01:42:20,600
Speaker 1: though t tree oil to.

2263
01:42:22,040 --> 01:42:24,600
Speaker 4: I love to pop me one for a night on

2264
01:42:24,640 --> 01:42:25,320
Speaker 4: the town.

2265
01:42:26,200 --> 01:42:29,360
Speaker 1: Not a night outside but but for real though, Like

2266
01:42:29,479 --> 01:42:31,880
Speaker 1: that's why I think that it's such a difference in

2267
01:42:31,960 --> 01:42:35,800
Speaker 1: how latex feels and how the lambskin condoms feel because

2268
01:42:35,840 --> 01:42:39,240
Speaker 1: it's literally like a second skin. Yes, and so yeah,

2269
01:42:39,280 --> 01:42:41,880
Speaker 1: it has like the poores, it has the holes in it, and.

2270
01:42:41,880 --> 01:42:44,600
Speaker 4: You like to be meet to meet, which is understandable.

2271
01:42:44,120 --> 01:42:46,160
Speaker 1: And they feels like need to meet them near with

2272
01:42:46,240 --> 01:42:49,360
Speaker 1: the lambskin. But I'm not that I know my health

2273
01:42:49,520 --> 01:42:53,479
Speaker 1: because I sound like a pro. You never used the lambskin, no,

2274
01:42:53,520 --> 01:42:54,960
Speaker 1: I said, I sung, like I know.

2275
01:42:55,080 --> 01:42:57,840
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I will say I think that you you

2276
01:42:58,000 --> 01:43:00,400
Speaker 2: have to find your community of people who have had

2277
01:43:00,400 --> 01:43:03,320
Speaker 2: these conversations before. Like I said, I can't give you

2278
01:43:03,360 --> 01:43:05,920
Speaker 2: advice on that because I've never had to have that conversation.

2279
01:43:06,120 --> 01:43:08,599
Speaker 2: But I do think that you need to figure out

2280
01:43:08,640 --> 01:43:11,360
Speaker 2: how to have that conversation. But don't stay with your

2281
01:43:11,360 --> 01:43:14,200
Speaker 2: baby daddy just because he knows, you know what I'm saying,

2282
01:43:15,120 --> 01:43:18,160
Speaker 2: like because he not some of my some of the

2283
01:43:18,200 --> 01:43:19,599
Speaker 2: milk ain't clean with him either.

2284
01:43:19,439 --> 01:43:22,320
Speaker 1: Because like Clay just said, why did he suggest? Yeah,

2285
01:43:24,760 --> 01:43:26,799
Speaker 1: that's not sitting right in my spirit?

2286
01:43:28,920 --> 01:43:31,360
Speaker 3: He suggested. Then his she was nigga even yo sho,

2287
01:43:31,800 --> 01:43:32,360
Speaker 3: I don't.

2288
01:43:32,120 --> 01:43:35,559
Speaker 1: Know how he got somebody pregnant, made her have an abortion.

2289
01:43:36,680 --> 01:43:39,479
Speaker 1: Y'all is nasty. Y'all need to stay away from each other.

2290
01:43:40,320 --> 01:43:42,640
Speaker 1: It's getting too long. I don't think they're nasty. I

2291
01:43:42,680 --> 01:43:45,640
Speaker 1: just think they a little I'm sorry, guy, y'all can

2292
01:43:45,720 --> 01:43:46,200
Speaker 1: judge me.

2293
01:43:46,880 --> 01:43:48,920
Speaker 2: If you get pregnant and you don't know who your

2294
01:43:48,920 --> 01:43:51,240
Speaker 2: baby daddy is, you're nasty.

2295
01:43:52,280 --> 01:43:53,680
Speaker 1: You let niggas busting you.

2296
01:43:53,760 --> 01:43:56,960
Speaker 2: If two niggas busting you in a certain vicinity of

2297
01:43:57,040 --> 01:44:00,960
Speaker 2: time to where you would be confused on hold it,

2298
01:44:01,400 --> 01:44:04,760
Speaker 2: that's nasty. Yes, maybe I'm being judgy and I'm a

2299
01:44:04,800 --> 01:44:09,000
Speaker 2: freak bitch. So if I'm calling you nasty, you're nasty.

2300
01:44:09,880 --> 01:44:14,240
Speaker 2: I'm a freaky exactly. So it's like, uh, you can't

2301
01:44:14,600 --> 01:44:17,960
Speaker 2: y'all be letting people busting y'all all willing it. Sorry, Sorry, Claire,

2302
01:44:17,960 --> 01:44:21,960
Speaker 2: I know you're trying to reinvent you.

2303
01:44:21,960 --> 01:44:24,320
Speaker 4: You like the nuts and.

2304
01:44:24,320 --> 01:44:29,040
Speaker 1: Ship Oh love is like right, like say go home

2305
01:44:29,040 --> 01:44:35,160
Speaker 1: and throw all them lamb skins.

2306
01:44:32,880 --> 01:44:36,280
Speaker 5: Expensive to like it's like thirty five.

2307
01:44:37,320 --> 01:44:39,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I said. I was in a relationship

2308
01:44:39,800 --> 01:44:40,240
Speaker 1: with God, like.

2309
01:44:40,160 --> 01:44:42,760
Speaker 2: He could not use latexs he could not use and

2310
01:44:42,800 --> 01:44:44,559
Speaker 2: we had to use LAMB scan. But after I did

2311
01:44:44,560 --> 01:44:47,280
Speaker 2: my research, I was like, oh, we don't.

2312
01:44:47,640 --> 01:44:48,360
Speaker 1: I don't like that.

2313
01:44:48,800 --> 01:44:51,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Not she was having

2314
01:44:51,280 --> 01:44:52,639
Speaker 4: a ball with the lamp skin.

2315
01:44:53,240 --> 01:45:00,960
Speaker 5: I feel like I felt like I found my knick. Yo.

2316
01:45:02,400 --> 01:45:04,880
Speaker 5: I'm talking dudes like yo, They're like, yo, bro, I'm

2317
01:45:04,920 --> 01:45:09,080
Speaker 5: not really feeling these condoms YA got You try these,

2318
01:45:10,400 --> 01:45:15,240
Speaker 5: You're gonna it's gonna feel like about like candy. I

2319
01:45:15,439 --> 01:45:18,120
Speaker 5: pass it out because that's I don't know if you

2320
01:45:18,160 --> 01:45:20,240
Speaker 5: heard the price. They're expensive.

2321
01:45:20,439 --> 01:45:22,680
Speaker 4: You're about to get a brand deal right now.

2322
01:45:22,720 --> 01:45:24,439
Speaker 3: I need to give him a.

2323
01:45:25,120 --> 01:45:28,599
Speaker 1: He got a brand deal and bad time he's coming.

2324
01:45:30,960 --> 01:45:31,320
Speaker 1: I love.

2325
01:45:32,160 --> 01:45:32,719
Speaker 5: I'm using.

2326
01:45:33,479 --> 01:45:35,599
Speaker 1: Let the people know, like what you got coming up,

2327
01:45:35,640 --> 01:45:37,519
Speaker 1: what you got going on? Where they can find you

2328
01:45:37,560 --> 01:45:38,679
Speaker 1: at all that good stuff?

2329
01:45:39,000 --> 01:45:41,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, well you could definitely find me on my Instagram

2330
01:45:41,880 --> 01:45:46,920
Speaker 5: at clay Grave Sandy that's g R S C L

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01:45:46,960 --> 01:45:50,040
Speaker 5: A Y Underscore, g R A V E s A

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01:45:50,240 --> 01:45:53,640
Speaker 5: N D E. And then also you can rent out

2333
01:45:53,720 --> 01:45:56,280
Speaker 5: jest Ski. We got jes Ski's, we got boats. We're

2334
01:45:56,280 --> 01:45:59,360
Speaker 5: bringing jet cars out here, so that's gonna be lit.

2335
01:45:59,560 --> 01:46:03,640
Speaker 5: So you can find out at at Wave Underscore Rentals.

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01:46:04,000 --> 01:46:07,880
Speaker 5: So Waves Sandy Underscore Rentals. I set that wrong, Waves

2337
01:46:07,880 --> 01:46:12,400
Speaker 5: Sandy everything. Yeah, yeah, please do, please.

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01:46:12,200 --> 01:46:15,760
Speaker 1: Do because I like Charlotte. It's like another It's lucky time,

2339
01:46:15,840 --> 01:46:16,760
Speaker 1: like Atlanta a little bit.

2340
01:46:17,520 --> 01:46:19,479
Speaker 5: It's getting there and shout out to bel Air. Butlair

2341
01:46:19,520 --> 01:46:22,920
Speaker 5: said they you know, they're gonna support the business. They're

2342
01:46:22,920 --> 01:46:25,760
Speaker 5: gonna support stuff. So we're gonna be throwing like parties,

2343
01:46:25,840 --> 01:46:28,639
Speaker 5: you know, also as well and Charlotte, I'm gonna bite

2344
01:46:29,479 --> 01:46:31,160
Speaker 5: by Atlanta family out there. You know what I'm saying.

2345
01:46:31,200 --> 01:46:33,920
Speaker 5: You know, Lanta's Atlanta's second home, so you know, and

2346
01:46:33,960 --> 01:46:35,720
Speaker 5: i'ma be out here too. I might even come out

2347
01:46:35,720 --> 01:46:37,920
Speaker 5: here and throw something like may do you a little local.

2348
01:46:40,520 --> 01:46:44,240
Speaker 1: Sho Okay, So shout out to Clay Love is blind.

2349
01:46:44,040 --> 01:46:45,160
Speaker 4: And we'll see y'all next week.

2350
01:46:45,520 --> 01:46:45,680
Speaker 5: Ya.

2351
01:46:47,200 --> 01:46:51,840
Speaker 1: We gotta saying right now, you're gonna feel loss.

2352
01:46:51,960 --> 01:46:54,720
Speaker 5: I don't feel it. You're gonna feel this.

2353
01:46:57,320 --> 01:46:58,200
Speaker 4: Who's sad?

2354
01:46:58,960 --> 01:47:08,120
Speaker 1: Oh? Oh sing it dry? Say it right?

2355
01:47:08,280 --> 01:47:08,720
Speaker 5: What's up?

2356
01:47:09,800 --> 01:47:10,480
Speaker 1: Yeah?

2357
01:47:11,600 --> 01:47:17,040
Speaker 5: Me and my people get riding your hommide. Yeah.

2358
01:47:17,240 --> 01:47:22,240
Speaker 1: I saw her out in a Hummabee hit the park party.

2359
01:47:22,880 --> 01:47:26,200
Speaker 1: I hope that you walk this period your girls gonna

2360
01:47:26,320 --> 01:47:33,000
Speaker 1: ride say all day on a lie. You know that.

2361
01:47:33,080 --> 01:47:37,439
Speaker 1: I like your baby girl? You know what's you know

2362
01:47:37,680 --> 01:47:40,519
Speaker 1: what I need? They want to say?

2363
01:47:40,840 --> 01:47:41,360
Speaker 4: Say what?

2364
01:47:41,640 --> 01:47:42,000
Speaker 5: You know?

2365
01:47:42,120 --> 01:47:46,120
Speaker 1: What about it? Baby girl? You know what's up?

2366
01:47:49,640 --> 01:47:54,640
Speaker 5: Yeah? I'm you know.

2367
01:47:59,360 --> 01:48:03,639
Speaker 1: I messed up? Girl?

2368
01:48:03,960 --> 01:48:04,599
Speaker 5: What's up?

2369
01:48:05,479 --> 01:48:05,879
Speaker 1: Okay?

2370
01:48:07,439 --> 01:48:09,480
Speaker 4: Hey, Mama's and I'm toning.

2371
01:48:09,840 --> 01:48:13,240
Speaker 5: Right around two in the morning, looking fluff flowing sun

2372
01:48:13,320 --> 01:48:14,160
Speaker 5: dress song.

2373
01:48:15,600 --> 01:48:16,000
Speaker 3: Coming on?

2374
01:48:17,040 --> 01:48:21,759
Speaker 5: You got me? Why open damn hoping? Baby?

2375
01:48:21,800 --> 01:48:27,200
Speaker 1: Don't from you know what I want? I would say

2376
01:48:27,200 --> 01:48:28,800
Speaker 1: what's say what? You know what?

2377
01:48:28,800 --> 01:48:31,639
Speaker 5: I like it? Baby girl?

2378
01:48:31,720 --> 01:48:32,680
Speaker 3: You know what's up?

2379
01:48:32,800 --> 01:48:34,160
Speaker 1: And you know what money?

2380
01:48:36,040 --> 01:48:36,120
Speaker 5: What?

2381
01:48:36,320 --> 01:48:36,640
Speaker 4: Say what?

2382
01:48:36,800 --> 01:48:37,280
Speaker 3: Say what?

2383
01:48:37,520 --> 01:48:40,960
Speaker 1: You know all about it? Baby girl?

2384
01:48:41,040 --> 01:48:45,280
Speaker 3: You know what you.

2385
01:48:47,960 --> 01:48:48,759
Speaker 5: Want saying?

2386
01:48:48,800 --> 01:48:51,360
Speaker 1: You girl, you know what's up?

2387
01:48:51,600 --> 01:48:59,599
Speaker 5: You know what's up? I'm he won't say you tell

2388
01:48:59,720 --> 01:49:00,840
Speaker 5: me Whatso.

2389
01:49:02,880 --> 01:49:07,080
Speaker 1: First of all, we're outside, shout out to Clay and

2390
01:49:07,880 --> 01:49:15,719
Speaker 1: the lamps. What's y'all? Next week? That was a boss