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Speaker 1: Hold on tight, we got it for you. Here. It

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter. Yeah, all right. Subject, my best

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Speaker 1: friend is either sprung or she's slow. Okay, here's Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: Three years ago, my best friend and my older brother

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Speaker 1: As soon as he started dating my friend, like I said,

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Speaker 1: I didn't need to know all of that, but it

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Speaker 1: I have told him that he's wrong for using women,

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Speaker 1: He started cheating on my friend two months ago and

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Speaker 1: I told her. She said she didn't care and she

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Speaker 1: cool with that. She still pays all the bills and

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Speaker 1: or have low self esteem. Should I press the assure

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Speaker 1: or let her live her best life with my sorry brother, listen,

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Speaker 1: do what your brother said. You're sorry, brothers, you called it.

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Speaker 1: Mind your own business. Okay, she's not going to listen

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Speaker 1: I would just use the word stupid. I mean, seriously,

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Speaker 1: because that's what she is. There's nothing you friend can

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Speaker 1: being a good man, a good woman, standing by her man.

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Speaker 1: Does she have low self esteem the lowest of the low? Yes,

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Speaker 1: I mean she has very low self esteem. She doesn't

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Speaker 1: they have low self esteem. She doesn't know that she

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Speaker 1: and I think you hit it on the head. She

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Speaker 1: let them do them because there's nothing you can do.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's all in the letter. Who if you

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Speaker 1: read the letter to her, do you think she'll get it? No? No,

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Speaker 1: she's doing what she wants to do because guess what,

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Speaker 1: There is the issue right there. That's what she wants,

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Speaker 1: this is a case of very very low self esteem. Junior. No, Shirley, No,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going with Sprong. No, no, no, no, she's slow.

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Speaker 1: Anytime you allow somebody do this much to you, you slow.

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Speaker 1: with her Sorry, brother, this is not her best life.

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Speaker 1: And yes, your brother is sorry, but no, you should

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Speaker 1: you on this one. Okay. First of all, Junior said,

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Speaker 1: for this whole thing that really relates to me, This

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Speaker 1: did not pay none of the bills. I paid all

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Speaker 1: I'm Jay, What are you complaining about? All right, thank you, Jay,

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Speaker 1: never been sprung before. Yeah, well I never said I

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Speaker 1: I don't matter you dropping him out and work in

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Speaker 1: my car. But you know, y'all Nisa to put some

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