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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Angie and this is Keon, your favorite

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Speaker 1: Okay Storytime host, and we've got great stories coming right up.

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Speaker 2: But before that, we have a quick two minute break

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Speaker 2: from the sponsors that keep this show alive. I moved

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Speaker 2: in with my boyfriend and his kids and now I

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Speaker 1: Just get out, then open the door.

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Speaker 2: Okay. So me, twenty three female, and my boyfriend thirty

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Speaker 2: the moment we met. Great conversation, great chemistry, and he

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Speaker 2: checked all my boxes for a partner. By the way,

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Speaker 2: this comes from Oregon Homebound and if you want some

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Speaker 2: Storytime separated it and I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and we're

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Speaker 2: here to give good advice goofully. But we don't have

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Speaker 2: all the answers. We just know what we would do

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Speaker 2: in this situation. So let us know what you would

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Speaker 2: do in the comments. So Opie says a little backstory.

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Speaker 2: I met him about a year after leaving my relationship

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Speaker 2: of eight years. He had also just ended his marriage

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Speaker 2: with the mother of one of his kids. I never

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Speaker 2: saw a partner having kids as a bad thing. I've

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Speaker 2: up to raise kids that aren't their own. My stepdad,

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Speaker 2: my step grandpa, my aunt, and uncle are non blood

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Speaker 2: are amazing loving step parents. When we met, I was

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Speaker 2: my partner of eight years. I'm also a part time student,

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Speaker 2: My plate is already full. When my boyfriend and I

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Speaker 2: He would mention that, since it's such a long drive

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Speaker 2: this off at first, because we had been dating for

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Speaker 2: it sound like he was into all of those things too,

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Speaker 2: my grandparents' wishes. They think the boyfriend is a good guy,

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Speaker 2: has the same outlook on life as I do. Another

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Speaker 2: for his children to either. They sit inside all day

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Speaker 1: That's insane.

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Speaker 2: That's so bad for a kid too. I mean, it's

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Speaker 1: This is such a terrible living style living living for anybody.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just so bad all the way.

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Speaker 1: I just want to know what was it like without

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Speaker 2: I'm sure that he just wasn't doing all of this.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure he was just doing the same thing that

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Speaker 2: It makes me sad. But since these are not my children,

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Speaker 2: I have no authority to put them into sports or

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Speaker 2: my grandparents and I'm welcome home anytime I please. Am

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Just a quick consensus from the comments, not the a hole.

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Speaker 2: People advise her to leave like her tampon strings on fire.

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Speaker 2: We do have an update though. About one and a

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Speaker 2: half months later, I finally left him.

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Speaker 1: Let's go a little too late, that's look too long,

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Speaker 1: but good job, you did it.

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Speaker 3: You did it.

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Speaker 2: Back in September, I made the post am I the

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Speaker 2: A hole for wanting to leave my boyfriend of six months,

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Speaker 2: and every comment said that I should leave him, So

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Speaker 2: I moved out October first. I know a lot of

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Speaker 2: So here we go. I, twenty three female, had a

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Speaker 2: who commented on my original post brought to my attention

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Speaker 2: By the way, I left October first and moved back

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Speaker 2: Life has gotten so much easier for me. I'm not

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Speaker 2: I stood firm in my choice, and life has been better.

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Speaker 2: He told me how disgusting he felt after and how

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Speaker 2: I can't or me so much that I had to go.

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Speaker 2: I had to go have a fling with my ex.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm a victim. Oh you did this so piece

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Speaker 2: You my gosh, basically telling me that it was my

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend called my job trashy, so I left him.

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Speaker 1: I'm Angie, and we're here to give good advice. Goofully,

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Speaker 1: I work at Hooters again because it's an easy job

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Speaker 1: and extremely flexible with my school schedule, not to mention

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Speaker 1: If you get back together, OP, I don't feel bad

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Speaker 1: Update two four months later. So it's been about four

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you look back and you say, what that were

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Speaker 1: Oh and we definitely just got back from Austin City Limits,

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Speaker 4: Come on.

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Speaker 1: Number one, It will never not amaze me how some

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Speaker 1: that is the end of that story too.

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend sent me a spicy picture, but she said

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Speaker 1: It's like Bob Ross said, we love our happy accidents.

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Speaker 2: We sure knew. I twenty four Mail have been dating

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Speaker 1: It and I'm Angie, I'm Keon.

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Speaker 2: We're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't

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Speaker 2: somewhere already. Is my girlfriend cheating on me? How do

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Speaker 2: I even find out? And there are some comments just

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Speaker 2: I wonder if that's what she meant when she said

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Speaker 2: Kabab says, my wife sends me spicy picks whenever I

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Speaker 2: and takes selfies all the time. Your girlfriend having picks

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Speaker 2: saved does not equal cheating. Talk to her about it,

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Speaker 2: Tell her how you feel. This subredda is chock full

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Speaker 2: Could she be cheating on you, sure, but the picks

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Speaker 2: Tell her that you did not expect her to send

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Speaker 2: It wouldn't hurt to let her know that you find

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Speaker 2: but I didn't expect it. If you don't trust her

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Speaker 2: this is a good idea. I really have no reason

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Speaker 2: the looks of these replies, self timer photos are not

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00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:29,440
Speaker 2: as difficult to stage as I may have thought. An

437
00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:32,640
Speaker 2: Opie replied to another comment, these are really good points.

438
00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:34,840
Speaker 2: My main thing was that I felt like somebody else

439
00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:36,520
Speaker 2: took those photos of her. But a lot of these

440
00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:39,280
Speaker 2: comments are suggesting that self timer photos for spicy picks

441
00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:43,399
Speaker 2: are pretty common. Birthday but says exactly, op makes it

442
00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,160
Speaker 2: sound like a rule that they don't send spicy picks,

443
00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:48,320
Speaker 2: but maybe she wants to. Maybe she was trying to

444
00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:51,359
Speaker 2: get some spicy texting started since their long distance, but

445
00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:53,639
Speaker 2: didn't want to come off as two forward since it

446
00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:57,320
Speaker 2: doesn't seem to be Opie's thing. OPI responds, right, it's

447
00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:00,399
Speaker 2: a good point that just because we haven't sent them before,

448
00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,080
Speaker 2: it doesn't mean that it's a strict rule, especially since

449
00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,440
Speaker 2: this is the first time doing long distance we do.

450
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:07,919
Speaker 2: You have an update from two weeks later. Thanks to

451
00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,280
Speaker 2: everyone for their replies. It really helped to put things

452
00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,919
Speaker 2: into perspective. For example, it was way more common to

453
00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:15,760
Speaker 2: take self timer pictures than I thought, and that it's

454
00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,120
Speaker 2: possible to check the metadata for a photo and find

455
00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 2: out some details like whether or not it was taken

456
00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:23,119
Speaker 2: on a self timer. I want to especially thank just

457
00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:26,439
Speaker 2: to talk about the relette for asking me if Christina

458
00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:28,200
Speaker 2: and I had actually dated for a full year yet

459
00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:30,920
Speaker 2: or if we had an anniversary coming up, because as

460
00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:32,639
Speaker 2: it turns out, we did. I don't know why I

461
00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:35,359
Speaker 2: didn't make the connection on my own, and as it

462
00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:38,679
Speaker 2: turns out, my girlfriend is not cheating on me. Yay.

463
00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:39,800
Speaker 1: Are you sure?

464
00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:40,560
Speaker 3: Are you sure?

465
00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:42,439
Speaker 2: A couple of days ago, I got a big package

466
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:44,680
Speaker 2: in the mail to celebrate our one year anniversary, among

467
00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 2: other things, that contained an envelope filled with multiple and

468
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:50,800
Speaker 2: spicy pictures of my wonderfully awesome girlfriend.

469
00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:54,080
Speaker 1: We put that in the mail, I guess, so that's all.

470
00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:57,200
Speaker 2: Right, sure, with the note saying I know you never asked,

471
00:20:57,240 --> 00:20:59,159
Speaker 2: but I wanted to give you something special since I

472
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:01,960
Speaker 2: can't be there with you. Among the photos was the

473
00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:05,120
Speaker 2: one that she accidentally sent to me. She also included

474
00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:08,080
Speaker 2: a USB with the photos uploaded along with the physical

475
00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,640
Speaker 2: copies so that I could have digital versions. A wow,

476
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,840
Speaker 2: she is making sure you can see her.

477
00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:19,000
Speaker 1: She said, said, who hah ha ha.

478
00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:22,919
Speaker 2: Hello, who ha wow.

479
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:26,080
Speaker 1: That's crazy for your like one year anniversary.

480
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:29,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I'm assuming, I'm hoping there are kind

481
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 2: of other presents in there. But listen, I mean, if if,

482
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,320
Speaker 2: if you appreciate it, not a bad gift if you're

483
00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:37,640
Speaker 2: doing long distance.

484
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 1: Can you imagine that that went somewhere else.

485
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 2: Though, that would be bad.

486
00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:44,080
Speaker 1: That's why.

487
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,359
Speaker 2: And then having the digital photos.

488
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 1: Or like it was like sent to Opie's like parents

489
00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 1: house or like his like his house, my mom opens

490
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 1: my mail sometimes and I get really upset about it.

491
00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:55,520
Speaker 2: Dude, Yeah, my dad opens my mail sometimes.

492
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, why do you open that? He's like, it's

493
00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 1: for you. I'm like, yeah, it's for me. For me,

494
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 1: doesn't say your name, he'll.

495
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 2: Like feel it to like see what it is.

496
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,400
Speaker 1: Like, it's not for you.

497
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like come on.

498
00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:13,160
Speaker 1: So I would message your like, hey, next time, let

499
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:15,919
Speaker 1: me know you're doing that, because for the safety of

500
00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:21,399
Speaker 1: you and our relationship with us and the privacy of things, right,

501
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 1: be a little bit more careful.

502
00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, hopefully he lives on his own or something,

503
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 2: so there's probably a chance of him.

504
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,480
Speaker 1: But just like even a roommate or whoever, because your

505
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:32,200
Speaker 1: male can get stolen.

506
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 2: Onever, yeah, or lost. But it worked out luckily. Here

507
00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:39,280
Speaker 2: are a few extra details to better explain what happened.

508
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 2: Christina did indeed take the photos herself. I asked her

509
00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 2: nicely how she managed to do a self timer at

510
00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 2: such a good angle, because my initial reaction to the

511
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 2: photos were that someone else obviously must have taken them.

512
00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 2: She showed me through FaceTime how she was able to

513
00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 2: prop her phone up against some objects in her room,

514
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:57,120
Speaker 2: and that they were exactly from the angler she sent

515
00:22:57,160 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 2: them at. To further corroborate this story, Christina had actually

516
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 2: confirmed my address with one of our mutual friends a

517
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 2: few days before the accidental copy and paste situation went down,

518
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,359
Speaker 2: so she had in mind that she wanted to send

519
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: this package before, not as a cover up for accidentally

520
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 2: giving herself away. When I asked her how she accidentally

521
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 2: managed to send that particular picture, she said that she

522
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:20,119
Speaker 2: was copying and pasting the files from one folder to

523
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 2: the USB that she sent me. She forgot that the

524
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:25,879
Speaker 2: picture was still on her clipboard. When she tried to

525
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:29,119
Speaker 2: send me that jiff it didn't copy properly, and instead

526
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 2: she pasted what was on her clipboard previously. She said

527
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,639
Speaker 2: she was just relieved that it was me that she

528
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:37,120
Speaker 2: made this mistake on and not somebody else. Yeah, honestly,

529
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 2: that's a good point exactly, But yeah, that would be

530
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,880
Speaker 2: a very that would honestly be probably a more likely

531
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 2: mistake of like copying and pasting it to someone else

532
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 2: that would talk.

533
00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's look, Yeah, there is.

534
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 2: A little bit more though. Finally I took the advice

535
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 2: that many of you commented and messaged to me. I

536
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 2: checked the data on the image files, and they were

537
00:23:56,840 --> 00:24:01,120
Speaker 2: indeed taken recently on a self timer, so relief. Thank

538
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 2: you to everyone here for putting my mind at ease.

539
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 2: I would convince that everyone was going to say that

540
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 2: I was definitely being cheated on, but honestly, Christina has

541
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 2: never done anything to even make me suspect that she

542
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:13,919
Speaker 2: would be cheating. I am very happy and there are

543
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:16,199
Speaker 2: some comments. One commenter says, it's nice to see a

544
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 2: happy ending on here every once in a while. You lucky. Ever, Yeah,

545
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:26,639
Speaker 2: I'm well said. Another commenter says, reactivate Facebook, fire your lawyer,

546
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 2: ask your Jim for a refund. Sea blue Sea says, Jesus,

547
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 2: your girlfriend really trusts you. Sending physical and digital multiple

548
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:37,120
Speaker 2: copies of spicy pictures is a big deal, especially after

549
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 2: one year. I would never send a boyfriend that much material.

550
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 2: I know way too many people who have had their

551
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 2: spicy pictures leaked by their significant other. Yikes. I hope

552
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: that in the case of if you guys break up

553
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:49,919
Speaker 2: or go through a rough patch, you will either destroy

554
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 2: them or return them. She trusts you with these and

555
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 2: so don't do anything mean or stupid with them. If

556
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 2: things between you guys go south, red fox one says,

557
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 2: but he clearly doesn't trust her, poor her. Well, okay,

558
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 2: well I don't think so.

559
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:07,919
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it's I mean, he was just like genuinely

560
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:11,159
Speaker 1: like where did this tecknd yeah yeah.

561
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:13,679
Speaker 2: Final comment says glad it worked out, but I don't know.

562
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 2: If my boyfriend was that skeptical of me setting an

563
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 2: unclothed pick and questioned me, cheating and jumped to conclusions,

564
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 2: I would not be happy. And that's the end of

565
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 2: that story.

566
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 5: My husband chose my friend over me and it was

567
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:28,439
Speaker 5: the best thing ever go be with her. I have

568
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 5: thirty females suspected some things have been going on for

569
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,680
Speaker 5: a while now. They kept brushing it off. I thought

570
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 5: my husband, thirty one male, would never do that to me.

571
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 5: Since around April, he's been refusing my attempts to have

572
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:42,439
Speaker 5: a spicy sleep, most of the time sitting differently on

573
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 5: the couch so he wasn't facing away from me.

574
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 3: Just little things.

575
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,439
Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from Oh who asked me?

576
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 5: And if you want to spit your own stories, go

577
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 5: to the r swush Okay, story times, celebrite it. I'm Riley,

578
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 5: I'm Angie, and we're here to give good advice, goofully.

579
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 5: That's our only job and your job?

580
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 3: Is it common?

581
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 5: If you have anything you want to say? Oh, Be

582
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:00,720
Speaker 5: says it was with one of our good friends. She

583
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:02,640
Speaker 5: came to my house a few weeks ago. She had

584
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 5: texted me she had pretended to be there for me.

585
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 5: I found out because I rolled over and they were

586
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 5: having a Snapchat conversation.

587
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 2: Doing so many stories about Snapchat. Why are we Who's

588
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:15,640
Speaker 2: doing that?

589
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 3: Dude?

590
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,719
Speaker 5: That's like the most nefarious app you can be on.

591
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, disappearing messages.

592
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 5: She said she wished she could be there to hold him,

593
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 5: and he summarized that I tried to seduce him last

594
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 5: night and mocked it. I confronted him and he admitted it.

595
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 5: He said it was because quarantine was stressful. He did

596
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 5: not want to work things out. He thought of me

597
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 5: only as a friend in his heart. When I told

598
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 5: her husband, he confronted her. Apparently they actually kissed back

599
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 5: in February. Ooh, I think at that moment I was

600
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 5: never going to be enough for him. He used to

601
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 5: be so so happy. The week before they kissed, we

602
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,439
Speaker 5: celebrated Valentine's Day together. He bought us a nice bottle

603
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 5: of wine. For our anniversary. We had fun, We were perfect.

604
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:58,479
Speaker 5: I don't know where to go from here. We had

605
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 5: been married for only about a year. A year feel

606
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 5: like he took so much from me and didn't even

607
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:05,679
Speaker 5: want to go to therapy or work this out. I

608
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 5: didn't want to leave my house, but everywhere in it

609
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 5: I saw him, he chose her. I had been cheated

610
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 5: on in every relationship I had ever been in.

611
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 3: He was supposed to be my forever.

612
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 5: I didn't know what to do. I'd made therapy appointments,

613
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 5: but I was also laid off last month, so I

614
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:22,639
Speaker 5: had so much free time to analyze every single moment,

615
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 5: where he might have been lying to me, where I'd

616
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 5: made myself pathetic trying to cling to him. How do

617
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 5: I start to get through this update about four months later.

618
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 5: First of all, I just want to thank everyone here

619
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 5: for the support I received for the following from my

620
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 5: first post back in August. At the time, it truly

621
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 5: felt like my world was ending. It was important to

622
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 5: me to make this update because I need to tell

623
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:45,360
Speaker 5: everyone who is currently going through the same thing.

624
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 3: It gets better.

625
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, you were literally at the rock bottom.

626
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, it definitely gets better.

627
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 5: You will get so much better. I had one conversation

628
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 5: with my husband since everything had happened by his choice.

629
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 5: It lasted maybe five minutes and was like talking to

630
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 5: a robot. I know from others that he cries to

631
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 5: people about how he ruined his life, but I never

632
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 5: once gotten an apology or the same show of regret.

633
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 3: At this point, I don't care.

634
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 5: I know him and the other woman are still seeing

635
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 5: each other, and frankly, they deserve each other.

636
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 3: Good for them.

637
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 5: While I still feel angry occasionally, I no longer mourn

638
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 5: for once I once had. Instead, I'm so excited for

639
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,480
Speaker 5: the life I now get to live.

640
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 3: Huh.

641
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 5: I moved to a small, walkable city gave myself my

642
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 5: dream apartment. It makes me so happy to see how

643
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 5: I've decorated it, and I live in a cozy place

644
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 5: instead of our old, dreary house. I was the breadwinner

645
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 5: in our marriage, and he would make me feel awful

646
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 5: about wanting to pay for nice meals or do fun things.

647
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 5: Since moving here, I've done a ton of thooties fun

648
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 5: stuff and don't feel guilty. It's so refreshing. I've dipped

649
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 5: my toe into the dating pool again and had plenty

650
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 5: of mediocre dates from dating apps. Recently, I've found someone

651
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 5: who I've really clicked with and now enjoying how appreciated

652
00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 5: and desired he makes me feel. It's definitely early and

653
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 5: we're moving slow, but overall, dating has made me realize

654
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 5: that I am a.

655
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 3: Catch who doesn't have to settle.

656
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Speaker 5: Therapy has done wonders, and I'm so happy I immediately

657
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 5: dove into it. My therapist is proud of me.

658
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Speaker 3: I'm proud of me.

659
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Speaker 5: I've stopped looking at being divorced as a failure. He

660
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 5: failed me, not me. I'm genuinely happy and excited to

661
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 5: wake up each morning and no longer feeling like this

662
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 5: terrible weight is sitting on my chest. The holidays were

663
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 5: surprisingly easy, and I found myself so happy to spend

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Speaker 5: time with my family without having to compromise anything. So

665
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 5: all in all, life is so good and there's so

666
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Speaker 5: much ahead of it. Looking back, I can't believe I

667
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 5: wasted so much time thinking about how I could get

668
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Speaker 5: him to come home. I've made my own home and

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Speaker 5: my own happiness, and that was so worth it so

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Speaker 5: much more. I think this is just a sign all

671
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Speaker 5: those who are in relationships and feel it's kind of

672
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Speaker 5: weights that you don't want to have to maybe, I

673
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Speaker 5: don't know, drop it, drop it, look drop it. There's

674
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Speaker 5: there's more life out there. Yeah, Op was thirty. Yeah,

675
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 5: was in a marriage for a year. He cheated, dude,

676
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Speaker 5: I hope we started around.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I feel like that's always the thing. It's like,

678
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Speaker 2: it's so scary to end a relationship, even though you

679
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 2: know you should, you know you need to, but at

680
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Speaker 2: the off chance that you're wrong, then now you're going

681
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 2: to be lonely and miss them, you know. But then

682
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 2: it's like every time that happens and someone actually does

683
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 2: break up, they're like, oh my god, I cannot believe

684
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 2: I was dealing with that. I'm doing so much better. Yeah,

685
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 2: because we're Yeah, we're made to adapt, and that's what

686
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Speaker 2: you do after a breakup, you adapt any move on.

687
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Speaker 5: Wow, I can't believe this happened over five years ago.

688
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 5: Now in some ways it feels like it happened to

689
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Speaker 5: me in a different life. I still get messages asking

690
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 5: about this, and figured I could add some insight about

691
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 5: how my life looked a few years down the line.

692
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Speaker 5: After everything gets completely and utterly wrecked. Good news. If

693
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Speaker 5: you put in the work, it looks pretty incredible. First

694
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Speaker 5: of all, where's my ex husband?

695
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Speaker 1: Now?

696
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Speaker 5: I haven't had contact with him since September twenty twenty

697
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Speaker 5: and largely don't keep track of things.

698
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Speaker 3: But I see that this.

699
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Speaker 5: Man still follows me on Instagram and watches all of

700
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 5: my stories. I consider blocking him, but I just let

701
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 5: it be. I think it's a petty part of me

702
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 5: who's living a full life and is fine with rubbing

703
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Speaker 5: it in a bit. He and the affair partner did

704
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 5: get married after having a whoopsie kid, and I'm pretty

705
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 5: sure they had another, but they also both lost their

706
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 5: jobs as teachers. He got her a job at his school,

707
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 5: so she was working with an entire staff that knew

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Speaker 5: they had and an affair.

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Speaker 3: I had to move to the middle of nowhere.

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Speaker 5: Last I heard of them, the affair partner had been

711
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Speaker 5: texting his former best friend unhinged rants about not including

712
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Speaker 5: them in get togethers or allowing my ex husband to

713
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:42,479
Speaker 5: be a groomsman in his wedding. But enough about them,

714
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 5: because they already took up way too many pages of

715
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Speaker 5: my story. When we last left off, I think I

716
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 5: had just moved into the city shout out Richmond, Virginia

717
00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 5: and was largely just trying to find myself again. I

718
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Speaker 5: think the change of scenery was the best thing I

719
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 5: did for myself. I was never meant to live in

720
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Speaker 5: the suburbs and move into a beautiful little city where

721
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 5: I can walk to coffee shops, bakeries and bookstores honestly

722
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 5: help my mental health as much as the therapy. I

723
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 5: bought a house here a couple of years ago and.

724
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Speaker 3: Have settled in.

725
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Speaker 5: Then I got a puppy, a corgy named Billbo Beggins,

726
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 5: who really is the true love of my life. He

727
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 5: is the greatest thing to happen to me and is

728
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 5: such a fantastic chunky guy. We go to a local

729
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 5: dog park with a bar all the time and he

730
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 5: has his own little dog. Social group kids aren't something

731
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Speaker 5: I plan on, so basically he's my son. It hasn't

732
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 5: been all perfect. My dad passed away, my best friend

733
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 5: moved across the country, and I largely haven't really been

734
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 5: dating much over the past couple of years. Dating hasn't

735
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 5: been a huge priority for me, and my friends say

736
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 5: that I'm probably too picky. I say that I know

737
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 5: what it's like to be in a marriage with someone

738
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Speaker 5: who might love you, but doesn't like you, it's not

739
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 5: worth settling on. But while I may be single, I

740
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 5: am fulfilled and busy. My birthday Saturday, and I'll be

741
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 5: spending it in Paris at the Lady Got God Concert.

742
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 5: I just saw Sabrina Carpenter in Amsterdam, Taylor Swift in

743
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:11,479
Speaker 5: Lyon Springsteen and Edinburgh, Noah Kahn in Finway Park. Earlier

744
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 5: this year, I was able to visit kind of my

745
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Speaker 5: National Park and see the Brown Bears in the fall.

746
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Speaker 2: I want to travel the world and see all these

747
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 2: different artists like you.

748
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Speaker 5: I have a D and D group and a really

749
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 5: amazing village of people I love. I know I would

750
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Speaker 5: not be in this said space if I didn't go

751
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 5: to therapy and work out the why of me settling

752
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 5: for this man on the first place.

753
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Speaker 3: True story.

754
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 5: When planning our honeymoon in New Zealand, I of course

755
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 5: had planned the entire thing, despite him picking the location.

756
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 5: He refused to do any driving, so we had to

757
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Speaker 5: do a guided tour that left on specific dates. He

758
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 5: pretended not to be able to get a day off

759
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Speaker 5: work when we needed to leave, until I started crying

760
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 5: and begging him just to ask his boss, because literally

761
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 5: no other flights worked. That's when he said he actually

762
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 5: wanted the day off, but wanted to make sure I

763
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Speaker 5: was actually working hard.

764
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Speaker 3: To choose good flights.

765
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Speaker 5: I chose to marry that, and it was a lot

766
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 5: to unpack in therapy, but I'm glad I didn't because

767
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 5: without it, I don't think I'd have built this life

768
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Speaker 5: for myself. At the end of the day, what happened

769
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 5: to me set me up to live a happier life

770
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Speaker 5: than what I was living, so some ways and thankful

771
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Speaker 5: for the experience, crappy as it was. If you're in

772
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Speaker 5: the middle of something terrible, unfair and world shattering and

773
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:28,839
Speaker 5: world shattering to you just know it's not forever. While

774
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,320
Speaker 5: this experience has made me a bit of a believer

775
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 5: in karma, I also know that there was a lot

776
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Speaker 5: of work to get myself out of that big black

777
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Speaker 5: mental hole. Sometimes it seems that I would slide back

778
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Speaker 5: into it, but by looking forward and fearing myself out,

779
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 5: I eventually called my way out. I think you can too,

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Speaker 5: and you're worth fighting.

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Speaker 3: For the good ending. Oh my gosh, I know I love.

782
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Speaker 2: A good ending. We don't get a lot.

783
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Speaker 5: We don't because not a lot of people like listening

784
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Speaker 5: to that or writing about it honestly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I feel like people wouldn't really only

786
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:04,360
Speaker 2: go to Reddit when they have like problems. Yeah, but

787
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Speaker 2: it's so nice when people come back and are like,

788
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Speaker 2: the people need this.

789
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Speaker 3: Yeah, because we did.

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Speaker 5: People got to hear this, dude, we truly do.

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Speaker 3: Wow. Good for you, Obie, good for you. I liked

792
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Speaker 3: your little ramble at the end there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was sweet.

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Speaker 3: It's cute. And that's the end of the story. We're

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Speaker 3: going to read the next one.

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Speaker 2: My husband deleted messages with his ex after she babysat

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Speaker 2: our baby.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, get out of there.

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Speaker 2: for a babysitter for my six month old baby. My

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Speaker 2: family aunt and grandma was taking care of him, but

809
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Speaker 2: for personal reasons they had to stop and we were

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Speaker 2: looking for a replacement. I didn't want a babysitter. I

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Speaker 2: don't trust others outside of my family to take care

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Speaker 2: of my baby because he can't say if they do

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Speaker 2: I'm Riley, and we're here to give good advice goofully,

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Speaker 2: But we don't have all the answers. We just know

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Speaker 2: we would do in the situation, So let us know

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Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments. My husband, let's

821
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:25,800
Speaker 2: call him Steve, was looking and asking around, same as me.

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00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 2: We both worked to night shifts and it was really

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Speaker 2: hard to find a sitter. Plus, as management, sometimes we

824
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 2: have to stay at work to solve issues that keep

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00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 2: us for longer. And then he talked with his ex,

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Speaker 2: let's call her Helen. Helen and I met about a

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Speaker 2: year before I met Steve. We were working in the

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Speaker 2: same area and had a cordial relationship until I got

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Speaker 2: a promotion and went to second shift. Helen offered to

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Speaker 2: be the babysitter. She also has a kid in school,

831
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Speaker 2: and after some conversations and because of the pressure of time,

832
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 2: she watched my baby for two days. She sent me

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00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 2: pictures and videos and was really nice. Okay, as I said,

834
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:00,359
Speaker 2: we had a cordial relationship, but after talk a little

835
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,360
Speaker 2: bit more, I liked her better. Later on, I was

836
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:05,840
Speaker 2: looking on Steve's phone Facebook Messenger for the reading payment

837
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 2: Helen agreed to have, and instead I found a weird

838
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:13,320
Speaker 2: conversation that started from her with sorry I fell asleep,

839
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:17,360
Speaker 2: he he he. Everything before that was deleted per context.

840
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 2: My husband doesn't delete anything, conversations, photos, videos, text nothing.

841
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 2: We both know each other's past codes and have nothing

842
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 2: to hide, and I had to delete a lot of

843
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:29,440
Speaker 2: things with his consent, mostly picks up his ex from

844
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 2: his phone because why keep it. Anyway back to the point,

845
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 2: he deleted the conversation and my alarms went off. I

846
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 2: was so confused about it that I couldn't sleep that

847
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 2: night and texted his previous girlfriend, I know, not ideal

848
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:44,960
Speaker 2: for some info. Let's call her Sally.

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Speaker 3: How many ex girlfriends are gonna bring it to the fold?

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00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, why do we know all of his ex girlfriends?

851
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 3: What's happening.

852
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 2: Way, why is he still in touch with them? I mean,

853
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:54,320
Speaker 2: I guess he was working with Helen whatever. But Sally,

854
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 2: I mean, like, if it's helping you get down to

855
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:58,839
Speaker 2: the bottom of things, I'll meet. Sally and I had

856
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,480
Speaker 2: a good relationship. We just each other reels on Instagram

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00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 2: or Facebook. Sally assured me that he never treated on her,

858
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 2: but that she completely hates Helen for mistreating Steve during

859
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 2: their relationship, and that she made him delete her on

860
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Speaker 2: his social media and her phone number. That didn't calm

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00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:15,879
Speaker 2: me down, but I was planning to talk to him

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00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 2: the next day anyway. Now here's the conversation. I sat

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00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:21,319
Speaker 2: him down, asked him why he deleted the conversation with her,

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00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 2: and his first answer was, why are you reading my messages?

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Speaker 2: Obviously not a good start. I explained myself why and

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Speaker 2: asked again. I don't remember every detail, but he was

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Speaker 2: not giving me a real answer and was evading the situation.

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Speaker 2: He told me that the reason was because Helen said

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Speaker 2: that she finds me attractive, but she didn't want me

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Speaker 2: to know. I told him that it was dumb to

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Speaker 2: delete a conversation for that, knowing I was an open

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Speaker 2: minded person. And that it made no sense.

873
00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:48,240
Speaker 3: I think that he's lying.

874
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:50,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like that's totally a lie, Like, oh,

875
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 2: it's just about you. Ellen. Just thought you were a

876
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 2: hot babe, that's all.

877
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 3: I'm not buying it.

878
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 2: I let it pass for a few days, but my

879
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 2: mind was going crazy. I could stop thinking about it,

880
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:04,240
Speaker 2: and I was still postpartum with lack of sleep. Hormones

881
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 2: were crazy, and I was not feeling like myself at all.

882
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 2: I then went to his friends. I don't have a

883
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 2: lot of friends in the area. I'm from another country

884
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 2: and moved from a different state. Plus was in a

885
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 2: different schedule to the previous friends I had, and as

886
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 2: a new mom, I shut down from social events. First

887
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:22,920
Speaker 2: time mom fears and it is my first real relationship.

888
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 2: I didn't know how to react or if I was

889
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 2: being just insecure. His friends let's call them Kathy and Carrie,

890
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:33,480
Speaker 2: both amazing women in long term relationships. Knew Helen before me,

891
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 2: during and after she was Steve's girlfriend. Kathy was in

892
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 2: my house with her boyfriend now husband, I don't remember

893
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 2: for what reason, and Steve was not in the house,

894
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,280
Speaker 2: and I took the opportunity to ask her for advice

895
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 2: to see if I was just crazy or if it

896
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 2: was actually an issue. She as blunt and honest as always,

897
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 2: told me that Helen was a flirty witch and to

898
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:56,200
Speaker 2: be careful not to trust her.

899
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:58,879
Speaker 5: Uh oh, here it is.

900
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 2: Everybody hates how Ellen. That's what show we're on.

901
00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 3: Just keeps flirting with everybody.

902
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 2: Such a flirt and friends with her ex, babysitting her

903
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 2: ex's baby.

904
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:09,399
Speaker 3: So complicated, I get it.

905
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:12,960
Speaker 2: She said that Helen openly flirted with her boyfriend in

906
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 2: front of her and a bunch of other people, plus

907
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 2: that she treated Steve like crap when he was too nice.

908
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:21,759
Speaker 2: But she ensured me that Steve would never cheat on me,

909
00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 2: that he was completely crazy about me. That was obviously

910
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:27,919
Speaker 2: a huge alarm going off. To be honest, I didn't

911
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 2: suspect my husband cheated on me, but it was suspicious

912
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 2: that he deleted her conversation and only hers. Carrie, on

913
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 2: the other hand, was a little bit more calming. We

914
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 2: texted and I explained the situation. She said that Helen

915
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:42,760
Speaker 2: was misinterpreted as flirty, but she considered her ditzy instead,

916
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:45,399
Speaker 2: but that I needed to talk with Steve and make

917
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 2: sure to let him know how I was feeling same

918
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 2: as Kathy. Carrie told me that Steve was happy with

919
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 2: me and he loves me and our baby the most

920
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 2: to do anything like cheating obviously. I talked with Steve

921
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: again about it, and he said that the real reason

922
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 2: was because they were talking about Sally and him used

923
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:03,399
Speaker 2: to do bye silly in bed.

924
00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 3: What is that, Steve? Steve, stop it.

925
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 2: I'm talking Okay. So, first of all, sorry lied to

926
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 2: you before. What I was actually doing was texting my

927
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 2: ex about what my other ex and I used to

928
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 2: do in bed while I'm in a relationship with a child.

929
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 2: I'm in a marriage with a child. Uh. That was

930
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 2: even more ridiculous to me. Why was he talking about

931
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 2: his ex with another ex? How did they get to

932
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 2: start in that kind of intimate situation. He explained that

933
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 2: he is open and talks about spicy sleep with his friends.

934
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 2: I responded with I also talk about spicy sleep with

935
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 2: my friends, but she was not a friend, she was

936
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 2: an ex, and that if he was missing something to

937
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 2: be talking with her like that, he should have talked

938
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 2: to me about it. He apologized to make me feel

939
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 2: guilty and jealous for deleting the conversation. He accepted that

940
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 2: it was inappropriate, and then he asked her to send

941
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 2: a recording of the conversation to prove to me that

942
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 2: he was not looking for anything. She too, apologized to

943
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: him for letting me think that there was something going on.

944
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 2: She never texted me to apologize at all, and she

945
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:06,760
Speaker 2: sent this screenshot recording. I don't have the video anymore,

946
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 2: but the conversation was pretty platonic at first. They were

947
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 2: talking about PC setups and gaming. She always initiated the

948
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 2: conversation with questions about the house remodeling and up and

949
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:19,080
Speaker 2: headset updates, things that she could have gone to Google

950
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 2: or YouTube for. Suddenly, she mentioned one of her gaming

951
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 2: friends and how she was attracted to her. Escalated the

952
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 2: conversation to how delicious I looked, and that she would

953
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 2: be happy to join us and eat me up if

954
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,800
Speaker 2: she could. My husband brushed her off with a yes,

955
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 2: my wife is delicious, and that we are happy and

956
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: not swinging, but if we ever decided to, he would

957
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 2: let her know.

958
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 5: He's just got to run by you somehow, and that's

959
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 5: what he's got to figure out to make this happen.

960
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 2: I mean, at least we have proof of this. I

961
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 2: feel like at least this is getting out. I don't.

962
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 2: I think if I was opia would not want to

963
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 2: hear that, but at least like we're getting to the

964
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,359
Speaker 2: bottom of things. She quickly changed her approach and said

965
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 2: to not tell me about that because she would be embarrassed,

966
00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 2: and proceeded to ask him about Sally and the content

967
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:04,320
Speaker 2: that she did with him before content she did with him, Hello,

968
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 2: what what are they doing?

969
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:07,320
Speaker 6: Hopefully a podcast?

970
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 2: They're making movies out here for more context, Sally had

971
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:15,320
Speaker 2: or has an of account and some of the content

972
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,600
Speaker 2: in it was with my husband and I used to

973
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:21,360
Speaker 2: be non monogamous. Steve wasn't really detailed about anything and

974
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: mostly gave short responses, but was still answering her questions

975
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 2: and keeping the conversation going. Helen gave him details of

976
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 2: a video she made with an X and that the

977
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,800
Speaker 2: guy deleted it and she was upset about it. Steve

978
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 2: just answered, like, oh, what a d bag or something.

979
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 2: I guess she fell asleep after that, because that was

980
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 2: the next message she got, the one that I found.

981
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 2: After that, we cleared that I was right to be

982
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 2: upset and that it was disrespectful from him to engage

983
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:48,840
Speaker 2: in a conversation about intimacy with his ex. He offered

984
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 2: to unfriend her on Facebook again and to not talk

985
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 2: to her anymore, but that was not my intention. I

986
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,360
Speaker 2: love my husband and the relationship that we have. I

987
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 2: explained to him that I was not trying to forbid

988
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 2: him to have female friends or talk to them, and

989
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 2: I trusted him to have his exes on social media.

990
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 2: That was until every time I saw her face, I

991
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:10,239
Speaker 2: remembered how fake our friendship of a few weeks was

992
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 2: and how she texted my husband with double intentions. So

993
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 2: Helen is no longer in his social media. I do

994
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 2: still have her though. Keep your friends close and your

995
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 2: enemy is closer. You never know when you will need them.

996
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 2: And she just had another baby. No baby, daddy. This

997
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:27,560
Speaker 2: happened about a year ago, and I just want to

998
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 2: let it go, but it still bothers me, so I'm

999
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 2: letting it out off my chest. Any advice, please.

1000
00:44:32,480 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 3: Good steps? I think steps.

1001
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:37,959
Speaker 2: I totally agree that's what to do. Yeah, I think, yeah,

1002
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:41,760
Speaker 2: it's good that he is distancing himself from Helen because

1003
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 2: that is weird. He I just needed to process it.

1004
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 2: But now I'm back at like, Yeah, I guess if

1005
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:49,360
Speaker 2: they talk about their of if you're like into that,

1006
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 2: that's just what you do, and it's just a genuine

1007
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 2: business conversation, if you will. I feel like she shouldn't

1008
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 2: be asking him about the content that he did with

1009
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 2: his other ex and then get out of there and

1010
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 2: then share her stuff that she made when that wasn't

1011
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 2: like a professional thing at all or to make money.

1012
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:12,240
Speaker 5: You know, it was all weird, all weird, and and yeah.

1013
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 2: I just I don't like Helen. Don't like how she's

1014
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 2: creeping up on your man, and I don't like how

1015
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:17,440
Speaker 2: your man.

1016
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:20,080
Speaker 3: Is letting it happen exactly. Yeah, and that's the end

1017
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:21,839
Speaker 3: of the story. We're gonna read the next one.

1018
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:27,080
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1019
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:28,960
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1020
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1021
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Speaker 6: I planned my friend's bachelorette party and ended up with

1022
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 6: my bank account frozen. Did your friends steal your money? I,

1023
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 6: thirty two female, was asked to be part of a

1024
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 6: bridal party for my husband's longtime friend and his soon

1025
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 6: to be wife twenty nine. I accepted, assuming this would

1026
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 6: be a good way to bond with the bride more

1027
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:56,279
Speaker 6: despite her bridal party being a bunch of women she

1028
00:45:56,360 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 6: had previously already soured my opinion of any way, this

1029
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:04,000
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1030
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 6: want to set your own stories, go to the r

1031
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 6: slash okay storytime subreddit.

1032
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:08,320
Speaker 2: I'm Carly, I'm.

1033
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 6: Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice goofully,

1034
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:14,840
Speaker 6: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

1035
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 6: what we would do, So let us know what you

1036
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 6: would do in the comments, and Opie says. A week

1037
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 6: or so later, the bride texted me asking if I

1038
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 6: would help plan the bachelorette party since her maid of

1039
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 6: honor twenty two was unable to do so because she

1040
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 6: had never planned a trip outside of Disney World before.

1041
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 6: I stupidly agreed, thinking this was another great bonding opportunity

1042
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 6: for the bride and me. Besides, I was supposed to

1043
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 6: have help from the mother in law, so the burden

1044
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 6: wasn't supposed to be fully on me. We started planning

1045
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 6: in a group chat with the bride made of honor

1046
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 6: and myself. The bride said she wanted a lake house

1047
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 6: vibe with a parent trap summer camp theme, but also

1048
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 6: wanted it somewhere that would require sweaters and coziness. My

1049
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 6: family has a house in upstate New York that we

1050
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 6: could use free of charge. I offered that, and the

1051
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 6: bride was seemingly all excited for it. She didn't want

1052
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:10,840
Speaker 6: us to run it by the other three ladies in

1053
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 6: the bridal party, so we didn't. When we were selecting

1054
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:16,720
Speaker 6: the dates for the party, the bride said she didn't

1055
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 6: care when as long as it was sweater and that

1056
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 6: the Maid of Honor and I could attend. Again, no

1057
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:29,240
Speaker 6: running it by the other ladies. Once we selected dates,

1058
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 6: the bride said to send out the invite. Since the

1059
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 6: Maid of Honor was hardly responding other than telling me

1060
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 6: what dates she could make it and denying the selected

1061
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 6: dates by the bride and me due to my honeymoon.

1062
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 6: As I had just gotten married as well, I went

1063
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 6: ahead and made an invite. I was given approval from

1064
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 6: both the bride and Maid of honor to send it,

1065
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,759
Speaker 6: so I did. During the planning for the day to day,

1066
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:56,279
Speaker 6: I attempted to coordinate with the Maid of honor. She

1067
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 6: would agree with all of my game suggestions and schedule ideas.

1068
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 6: It was easier for me to pitch ideas since I

1069
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 6: know the area, the house, the lake, etc. I understood that,

1070
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 6: but I did expect the Maid of Honor to have

1071
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:13,399
Speaker 6: opinions and ideas other than just being a yes man.

1072
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 6: So with minimal help, I put together a bunch of

1073
00:48:17,239 --> 00:48:21,879
Speaker 6: interactive customized games, such as what did the Ranger Say?

1074
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 6: Where we guess what the groom would say and then

1075
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 6: a video of the groom's actual answer would play, and

1076
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 6: Camp Bride Jeopardy, where all the questions and answers were themed.

1077
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 6: After the bride, groom and bridal party, everyone's bedroom was

1078
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 6: going to have a little campfire, and I even got

1079
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:43,759
Speaker 6: an entire indoor s'mores kit since we're all mostly from

1080
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 6: Florida and the New York autumn cold would probably not

1081
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 6: be what we wanted to do for long periods of time.

1082
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 6: Everyone had custom sweaters and hats made for them and

1083
00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 6: camp themed goodies, snack boxes and more. The bride wanted

1084
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:01,840
Speaker 6: over the top, and as her friend, I attempted to deliver.

1085
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 6: Despite no help from the Maid of Honor other than

1086
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:07,760
Speaker 6: a random approval here and there since she never answered

1087
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,879
Speaker 6: her phone, she agreed she would send me some money

1088
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:12,759
Speaker 6: to help pay for the stuff, and that was good

1089
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:14,800
Speaker 6: enough for me. Well, once we had a game plan,

1090
00:49:14,960 --> 00:49:17,319
Speaker 6: it was time to get flights to New York. We

1091
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 6: wanted to fly together since the Maid of Honor has

1092
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 6: a fear of flying, so I made sure our plans

1093
00:49:22,080 --> 00:49:25,239
Speaker 6: revolved around when she could fly up and back with

1094
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 6: her work schedule and her comfort. Again, she said she

1095
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 6: would be paying me back for the flights. I booked

1096
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 6: the flights sorry. The next day, the bride paid me

1097
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 6: back for her flight out. Then two weeks went by

1098
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:40,760
Speaker 6: with no payment from the Maid of Honor. I kindly

1099
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 6: reminded her I needed her to pay me back, and

1100
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:48,760
Speaker 6: she asked for another week extension. No. Reluctantly, I said okay.

1101
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 6: About a week later, I got a text from the

1102
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:54,040
Speaker 6: Maid of Honor asking if she could pay me back Viazel.

1103
00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 6: I said sure, though I'd prefer Apple pay. She said

1104
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 6: she already sent it viazel. I know buy it then

1105
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:02,879
Speaker 6: and saw only one of her two flights had been

1106
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 6: paid back for. She claimed she'd pay me the rest

1107
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:10,920
Speaker 6: in the next two weeks. Again reluctantly, I agreed. Eventually,

1108
00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:14,400
Speaker 6: the trio group chat for planning went silent since the

1109
00:50:14,440 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 6: Maid of Honor didn't answer much, so it went from

1110
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:19,920
Speaker 6: the group text to individual texts between the Maid of

1111
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 6: Honor and myself, and then between the bride and myself.

1112
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:25,439
Speaker 6: A week after I got paid for the first flight,

1113
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,239
Speaker 6: the Maid of Honor asked me to cancel the outgoing

1114
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 6: flight since she could no longer go out that day,

1115
00:50:31,400 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 6: but wanted me to rebook her flight for the next day.

1116
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 6: And that's when I would say, I'll cancel it, but

1117
00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:41,880
Speaker 6: you're buying the next one, Yeah, rebook her flight for

1118
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,280
Speaker 6: the next day. I thought it was an odd request,

1119
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 6: so I asked the bride if the Maid of Honor

1120
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 6: was all right or if something happened to change where

1121
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:52,880
Speaker 6: she needed to change her flight. Since I figured, given

1122
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 6: they were best friends, the bride would have already been

1123
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 6: made aware of this change, she had not been. I

1124
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 6: worked with the Maid of Honor to find her another

1125
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 6: flight out and explained that since she changed her flight,

1126
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:06,560
Speaker 6: she would have to uber to the house as the

1127
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:09,680
Speaker 6: airport is forty five to sixty minutes from the house,

1128
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:12,239
Speaker 6: and she would be arriving late at night on the

1129
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,319
Speaker 6: day that I would have to be setting up the

1130
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 6: house and running errands for the bachelorette weekend. Given that

1131
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:21,440
Speaker 6: we're all adults and that the invitation explained everyone is

1132
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 6: responsible for their own transportation, I didn't think this was

1133
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 6: a big deal. The Maid of Honor lost her mind,

1134
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:31,880
Speaker 6: saying she didn't feel safe taking an uber and essentially

1135
00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 6: it was my responsibility to make sure she got from

1136
00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:37,279
Speaker 6: the airport to the house. I said point blank that

1137
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:39,880
Speaker 6: I would not be doing that. The bride agreed with

1138
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 6: me privately that I shouldn't have to do that, and

1139
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 6: that I should tell the Maid of honor she had

1140
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 6: already been no help in planning and had dropped the ball,

1141
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,959
Speaker 6: as made of honor, considering she had been silent since

1142
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 6: the entire bridal party chat had been made. Also, you

1143
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 6: can rent cars at an airport.

1144
00:51:54,840 --> 00:51:58,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, the easy to solve your problems.

1145
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 6: The only people talking in the bridal party chat where

1146
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,640
Speaker 6: the bride and myself, despite there being three other women

1147
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,279
Speaker 6: in addition to the Maid of Honor in that chat.

1148
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 6: So I did what the bride told me to do.

1149
00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:12,160
Speaker 6: I told the Maid of Honor she had dropped the

1150
00:52:12,200 --> 00:52:14,759
Speaker 6: ball and hadn't bothered to help with any of the

1151
00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 6: planning ideas for games or anything, and that the bride

1152
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 6: was well aware that I had done all of the work.

1153
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 6: The Maid of Honor responded that she wouldn't be going

1154
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:26,360
Speaker 6: on the trip and refused to pay me back for

1155
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:29,560
Speaker 6: her second flight. It was a few hundred bucks and

1156
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:32,760
Speaker 6: that sucked, but she was not worth the argument. Dude,

1157
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 6: cancel the flights.

1158
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 4: Maybe should get flight insurance. Yeah, I think I think

1159
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:40,239
Speaker 4: that's the issue. Always get that flight insurance.

1160
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:43,279
Speaker 6: This resulted in bride getting mad at me that I

1161
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:46,600
Speaker 6: mentioned that anyone with eyes, including the bride, could see

1162
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:49,359
Speaker 6: that the Maid of Honor had dropped the ball, since

1163
00:52:49,400 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 6: she doesn't even respond to the bride in the bridal

1164
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:54,880
Speaker 6: party chat at a minimum. I sucked it up and

1165
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:57,880
Speaker 6: apologized to the bride, but apparently it caused an argument

1166
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 6: between the Maid of Honor and the bride because the

1167
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:03,720
Speaker 6: Maid of Honor assumed the bride was talking behind her back,

1168
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:06,760
Speaker 6: which she was, but the bride wanted to save face,

1169
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 6: so she denied it.

1170
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 2: Obviously.

1171
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 6: I have the text messages showing otherwise. Now that the

1172
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 6: Maid of Honor has dropped out, I am able to

1173
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 6: solidify the rest of the party plans with the bride

1174
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:20,800
Speaker 6: much faster since she is responsive like a normal person.

1175
00:53:21,400 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 6: Everything was set, paid for, and sent up to the

1176
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:26,799
Speaker 6: house in New York for the party, which we were

1177
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 6: about a month and a half away from. I had

1178
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:32,359
Speaker 6: a family trip planned to the house that we take

1179
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:35,120
Speaker 6: every summer and was going to make sure all the

1180
00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:38,399
Speaker 6: party supplies were there and do some light setup Once

1181
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 6: in New York. Everything was going great. I was enjoying

1182
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 6: my family trip and spending time with my husband and

1183
00:53:44,840 --> 00:53:49,359
Speaker 6: parents until one morning my bank called me, waking me up,

1184
00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 6: telling me my account had been frozen and marked for fraud. Obviously,

1185
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 6: this was confusing to me since I hadn't done anything fraudulent.

1186
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:02,080
Speaker 6: They connected me with the proper Department, only to find

1187
00:54:02,120 --> 00:54:04,399
Speaker 6: out that the maid of honor had flagged her Zell

1188
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 6: payment to me as fraud and now the bank had

1189
00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:11,400
Speaker 6: to lock down my account to investigate. I explained that

1190
00:54:11,480 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 6: I had proof she knowingly sent me the money for

1191
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,920
Speaker 6: the flights she owed me money for. I sent them

1192
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:18,839
Speaker 6: the proof, and they said it should have been enough

1193
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 6: to clear my account and stop the fraud investigation.

1194
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:23,320
Speaker 2: Should have should have been.

1195
00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:26,359
Speaker 6: Long story short. A week later and we're back home.

1196
00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 6: I still didn't have access to any of my money.

1197
00:54:30,160 --> 00:54:32,560
Speaker 6: At this point, I had called the bank five different

1198
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 6: times and made zero progress. So I threatened to close

1199
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:39,759
Speaker 6: the account altogether, and they unlocked the count instantly since

1200
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:41,720
Speaker 6: it was proven I didn't commit fraud.

1201
00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:43,440
Speaker 2: Geez, that suck.

1202
00:54:43,840 --> 00:54:47,279
Speaker 6: That's crazy though, because of the whole ordeal, Zell has

1203
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 6: locked me out from ever using them again and gave

1204
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:53,440
Speaker 6: them Maid of Honor her money back. Come on, so

1205
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 6: now I'm out even more money for this entire party,

1206
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,560
Speaker 6: which has now gone over two thousand dollars.

1207
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:01,600
Speaker 4: I feel like you have to tell the bride and

1208
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:03,600
Speaker 4: be like, hey, you gotta pay me back for this.

1209
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:06,760
Speaker 4: It's a little crazy. This is ridiculous. Your friends stole

1210
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 4: my money not paying for all this.

1211
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 6: Now that I'm back home, I try to get the

1212
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:14,960
Speaker 6: rest of the bridal party hyped for the weekend away.

1213
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 6: I put together little games for them to play in

1214
00:55:17,520 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 6: the chat thread so we can get to know each other.

1215
00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:22,359
Speaker 6: Since most of us have no friendship with each other.

1216
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:25,360
Speaker 6: The only person any of us know is the bride.

1217
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 4: It's a strange vibe for your first weekend to be

1218
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:29,720
Speaker 4: like the bridal party weekend.

1219
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,759
Speaker 6: I gave them the itinerary, complete with a spa day

1220
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 6: apple picking and a bunch of bride themed games. I

1221
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:40,440
Speaker 6: asked that everyone solidify everything in the next two weeks,

1222
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:42,560
Speaker 6: since I would be going out of the country on

1223
00:55:42,640 --> 00:55:46,400
Speaker 6: my honeymoon, so obviously I wouldn't be responsive to their

1224
00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:49,839
Speaker 6: questions about the trip. During that time, no one had

1225
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 6: any questions, so my husband and I went off on

1226
00:55:53,040 --> 00:55:55,839
Speaker 6: our trip. During the honeymoon, I got a text from

1227
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 6: one of the bride'smaids. Would you guys pick me up

1228
00:55:58,560 --> 00:56:04,360
Speaker 6: from the airport at twelve fifteen am Thursday night? Sorry, no,

1229
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:08,239
Speaker 6: your girl doesn't want to miss the apple orchard Friday.

1230
00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:12,359
Speaker 4: Then freaking get an Uber or a rentalari or a

1231
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:13,240
Speaker 4: rental car.

1232
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:14,840
Speaker 2: I'm not picking you up at midnight.

1233
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 6: Given I explained I wouldn't be handling batch party stuff

1234
00:56:18,680 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 6: on my honeymoon, I thought the bride would do the

1235
00:56:21,320 --> 00:56:24,800
Speaker 6: responsible thing and step in and explain that the invite

1236
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:29,279
Speaker 6: says everyone's responsible for their own transportation and that they

1237
00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 6: can Uber schedule a car service, etc. But no, she didn't,

1238
00:56:34,200 --> 00:56:38,040
Speaker 6: So the bridesmaid responded with I'll take no response as

1239
00:56:38,080 --> 00:56:42,640
Speaker 6: a yes, LMAO. That's wild. Since bride didn't answer, I

1240
00:56:42,719 --> 00:56:45,400
Speaker 6: took the time at three am local time for me

1241
00:56:45,640 --> 00:56:49,240
Speaker 6: and said exactly the following I won't be picking anyone

1242
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 6: up at the airport. Sorry, I'm on my honeymoon and

1243
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:54,760
Speaker 6: told y'all I won't be responsive during that time.

1244
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:58,560
Speaker 4: Dude, honestly, you should just be like Venmo, request the

1245
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 4: bride and then drop this webbing.

1246
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, it's too much.

1247
00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:06,439
Speaker 6: This set off the bridesmaid, and she responded with, oh wow,

1248
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:09,680
Speaker 6: that's a little unexpected, considering you're the one that planned

1249
00:57:09,719 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 6: all this and know the area. I'm not comfortable taking

1250
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:15,480
Speaker 6: an uber at twelve thirty am, but I'd be more

1251
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:17,920
Speaker 6: than happy to chip in for gas as needed. I

1252
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 6: can change plans and fly in Friday and uber during

1253
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 6: the day alone, as far as your honeymoon goes. I

1254
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 6: see you've been posting often, so I assumed your phone

1255
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 6: worked to text too.

1256
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:29,200
Speaker 2: Shut up.

1257
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:32,959
Speaker 4: Each shot up, I'd be like, oh, you want to fight.

1258
00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 6: I assume your phone worked the last four months we've

1259
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 6: been planning this, and you've have inside. I'm not the

1260
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:42,600
Speaker 6: maid of honor, so I responded with everyone's flying in

1261
00:57:42,680 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 6: at different times. If everyone coordinated flying together, that would

1262
00:57:46,320 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 6: be one thing, but running back and forth to the

1263
00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 6: airport isn't on the schedule. I'm not a chauffeur. Uber

1264
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:55,160
Speaker 6: and Lyft have it now where women can request women

1265
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 6: drivers for safety and comfort. I offered my home not

1266
00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 6: to be everyone's life lackey.

1267
00:58:00,520 --> 00:58:01,160
Speaker 4: For the weekend.

1268
00:58:01,440 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable driving around on dark roads

1269
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 6: in the middle of the night.

1270
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:06,440
Speaker 2: Anyway.

1271
00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, my phone works, but I'm enjoying the time with

1272
00:58:09,720 --> 00:58:13,840
Speaker 6: my husband not working on this. I asked months ago

1273
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 6: not to have to worry about any of this on

1274
00:58:16,240 --> 00:58:19,800
Speaker 6: my honeymoon. I was also supposed to just be helping plan,

1275
00:58:20,160 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 6: not doing the whole thing alone and running around to

1276
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:26,920
Speaker 6: get everyone. That was never asked of me from the start.

1277
00:58:27,320 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 6: Given all the BS I've dealt with for this trip,

1278
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 6: I didn't think this was all that bad of a response. However,

1279
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 6: all of a sudden, everyone in the chat is going

1280
00:58:36,120 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 6: off on me, telling me I need to be more respectful.

1281
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 6: Maid of Honor decides to tell me I needed to

1282
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:43,400
Speaker 6: work on my entitlement.

1283
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:46,040
Speaker 4: And then I respond to her and say, Hey, you

1284
00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:47,840
Speaker 4: owe me freaking whatever.

1285
00:58:47,520 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 6: Amount g O and a Zell and my Belle's block.

1286
00:58:50,960 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 4: Give me back my zell. You freaking said that it

1287
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:54,600
Speaker 4: was a fraud charge.

1288
00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:56,240
Speaker 6: Yeah, you want to talk about.

1289
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:57,800
Speaker 2: That one I'm talking about when when you said he

1290
00:58:57,880 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 2: was a fraud.

1291
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:02,440
Speaker 6: Charge, I said, Okay, whatever you say, I won't go

1292
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:04,840
Speaker 6: back and forth with you out of respect for the bride.

1293
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 6: They keep going after me, and I say that none

1294
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 6: of them know the full extent to which I'm told.

1295
00:59:10,880 --> 00:59:13,400
Speaker 6: They do know the whole story, which tells me that

1296
00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:15,840
Speaker 6: Made of Honor and Bride have told everyone else made

1297
00:59:15,880 --> 00:59:18,440
Speaker 6: of honor side of the story and not anything that

1298
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:22,560
Speaker 6: bride actually told me privately, because that would make bride

1299
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 6: look bad. I don't know how that would make the

1300
00:59:24,520 --> 00:59:25,520
Speaker 6: bride look bad well.

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00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:27,360
Speaker 4: Because I think she was talking about made of honor

1302
00:59:27,400 --> 00:59:28,320
Speaker 4: behind her back or something.

1303
00:59:28,360 --> 00:59:29,440
Speaker 2: Given what made of honor.

1304
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 4: Is honor, she sucks, I would drop on this money.

1305
00:59:33,760 --> 00:59:34,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is crazy.

1306
00:59:35,520 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 6: I was told that I took over as made of honor,

1307
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:41,320
Speaker 6: which I didn't nor did I want to. I simply

1308
00:59:41,360 --> 00:59:44,560
Speaker 6: did what the bride asked of me every step of

1309
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:48,360
Speaker 6: the way and got her permission every step of the way.

1310
00:59:49,080 --> 00:59:52,240
Speaker 6: In response to the argument, Bride then says, I appreciate

1311
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:55,360
Speaker 6: everyone and all they're doing of traveling for me and live,

1312
00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:58,400
Speaker 6: offering her house to us, and all the stuff that

1313
00:59:58,440 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 6: she's done to make it a fun week and for everyone,

1314
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 6: But I don't want to do any of this. I'm

1315
01:00:03,160 --> 01:00:06,080
Speaker 6: not going. I'm not going to be uncomfortable around everyone

1316
01:00:06,120 --> 01:00:08,960
Speaker 6: and feel awkward with all of this. This is supposed

1317
01:00:08,960 --> 01:00:11,760
Speaker 6: to be an exciting time for me and be made

1318
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:13,920
Speaker 6: all about me, and it's not. You know who shouldn't

1319
01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 6: be worrying about all this, Opie, because she's on her

1320
01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:18,520
Speaker 6: honeymoon and she could get She should get to enjoy

1321
01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:20,640
Speaker 6: her honeymoon, which should be all about her right now.

1322
01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:23,840
Speaker 4: Canceling everything, Venmo requesting everyone saying, I don't care if

1323
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:24,920
Speaker 4: you're calling it off.

1324
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:28,760
Speaker 2: Pay me back. This is insane. Pay me back.

1325
01:00:29,280 --> 01:00:31,600
Speaker 6: I should be the one being selfish in this, since

1326
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 6: it's my time right now. This is me being selfish.

1327
01:00:34,560 --> 01:00:36,560
Speaker 6: I don't want the trip. I have nothing but respect

1328
01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 6: for you all and appreciate you all individually, and we

1329
01:00:39,520 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 6: can just keep it that way. No one needs to

1330
01:00:42,160 --> 01:00:44,640
Speaker 6: be friends and no one needs to do this trip together.

1331
01:00:44,880 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 6: It just won't go well. I'm sorry to you all,

1332
01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:51,600
Speaker 6: but I'm not going. Yeah, I go and text the

1333
01:00:51,640 --> 01:00:54,720
Speaker 6: Bride asking if I was being rude. Bride agrees that

1334
01:00:54,760 --> 01:00:57,440
Speaker 6: nothing I said was really out of pocket. But Bride

1335
01:00:57,480 --> 01:01:00,400
Speaker 6: also didn't do crap to defend me or say that

1336
01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:02,880
Speaker 6: I was doing what she asked of me. I tried

1337
01:01:02,920 --> 01:01:05,160
Speaker 6: to swallow my pride and just make the best of

1338
01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:08,400
Speaker 6: the situation. Since the money is spent and I can't

1339
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:11,600
Speaker 6: get it back anyway, my husband and I offer to

1340
01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 6: take bride and groom up anyway and make it a

1341
01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:17,120
Speaker 6: couple's trip. They agree and seem excited for it. Honestly,

1342
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:19,040
Speaker 6: was kind of hoping for that, but yeah, I feel

1343
01:01:19,040 --> 01:01:20,480
Speaker 6: like that's honestly best case scenario.

1344
01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:23,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, like, just go on the trip anyway.

1345
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:25,720
Speaker 6: But make it get couples couples retreats.

1346
01:01:25,320 --> 01:01:27,160
Speaker 2: And maybe maybe you could get some more friends in

1347
01:01:27,240 --> 01:01:27,600
Speaker 2: on it.

1348
01:01:27,800 --> 01:01:30,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, I feel like there's got to be at least

1349
01:01:30,320 --> 01:01:33,080
Speaker 6: a couple bridesmaids that maybe weren't chiming in that.

1350
01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:34,680
Speaker 2: Maybe you could text separately and.

1351
01:01:34,640 --> 01:01:36,600
Speaker 6: Be like, yeah, we're still doing it on the sub

1352
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:44,480
Speaker 6: secret I don't know, secret bachelorette, secret bachelorette. This past weekend, bride,

1353
01:01:44,600 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 6: groom and maid of honor went on a little weekend trip,

1354
01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:50,320
Speaker 6: which I know the bride was hyped for, so I

1355
01:01:50,440 --> 01:01:52,880
Speaker 6: was happy for her and understood she was busy, so

1356
01:01:53,000 --> 01:01:55,680
Speaker 6: didn't expect to hear from her about the trip we

1357
01:01:55,760 --> 01:02:00,439
Speaker 6: had planned, but yesterday morning she canceled that at the point.

1358
01:02:00,520 --> 01:02:03,600
Speaker 6: I see, we're not friends. Otherwise she would have stood

1359
01:02:03,640 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 6: up for me, even minimally, instead of letting me instead

1360
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:09,880
Speaker 6: of letting me get eaten by the wolves. I haven't

1361
01:02:09,880 --> 01:02:12,560
Speaker 6: responded yet since I wanted to speak with my husband

1362
01:02:12,600 --> 01:02:15,400
Speaker 6: on the matter first and haven't had time to do

1363
01:02:15,480 --> 01:02:17,520
Speaker 6: so since he's been sick and sleeping.

1364
01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:19,439
Speaker 2: So am I the a hole?

1365
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:21,600
Speaker 6: If I were to ask bride and groom to pay

1366
01:02:21,640 --> 01:02:24,120
Speaker 6: us back for the party they asked us to plan

1367
01:02:24,320 --> 01:02:27,640
Speaker 6: then canceled despite knowing I can't be refunded for anything.

1368
01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:29,400
Speaker 2: That's the end, no story.

1369
01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:33,480
Speaker 4: No, I think you should ask if they don't give

1370
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:34,120
Speaker 4: you that money.

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01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:36,520
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's insane, that would be crazy.

1372
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:39,120
Speaker 4: Two thousand dollars at least for the flight.

1373
01:02:39,240 --> 01:02:41,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean earlier, like something.

1374
01:02:42,040 --> 01:02:44,360
Speaker 6: There's a lot and this is a lesson that maybe

1375
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:46,200
Speaker 6: next time we get some flight insurance, we get some

1376
01:02:46,280 --> 01:02:47,400
Speaker 6: refundable things.

1377
01:02:47,560 --> 01:02:51,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, anytime you're paying for like most like people other people, Yeah,

1378
01:02:52,040 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 4: like fight insurance is the way unless it's like you've

1379
01:02:54,600 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 4: done this before and they're like super deeper trustworthy.

1380
01:02:56,960 --> 01:02:59,600
Speaker 6: But it's always just easy to do, Like even if

1381
01:02:59,680 --> 01:03:01,560
Speaker 6: sasst worthy, there's

1382
01:03:01,800 --> 01:03:04,000
Speaker 4: So many different reasons and it's just I think better

1383
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:05,760
Speaker 4: and that's the end of the story.