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Speaker 1: Yeah, welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica

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Speaker 1: and I'm Mela. Happy Wednesday, Happy Wednesday. All we've made

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Speaker 1: it to Wednesday. Monday suck, but today's Wednesday. It's good

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Speaker 1: Mom's Wednesday. So it's a good day in the universe.

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Speaker 2: It is, it is. All of the stars are aligned

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Speaker 2: as always.

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Speaker 1: How are you? I'm doing much better. I was struggling

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Speaker 1: this morning.

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Speaker 2: I woke up just you know, life, life in and

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Speaker 2: I dropped a little off to school by like the

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Speaker 2: hair of my teeth that she was on time. And

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Speaker 2: then I went to my friend's house and I proceeded

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Speaker 2: to cry on the bed because I was like, am

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Speaker 2: I good mom? I don't know if I went over

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Speaker 2: the spelling words long enough.

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Speaker 1: She was like, are you okay? I was like no.

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Speaker 1: Then she micro dosed me. Oh, she gave me micro

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Speaker 1: dose mushrooms. Mushrooms, Yeah, micro do she doesn't have we

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Speaker 1: read on a mushroom episode. Wait, it was after the

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Speaker 1: mushroom episode that we.

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Speaker 2: Recorded episode on mushrooms, and then we recorded an episode.

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Speaker 2: But we can never do that amount of mushrooms and

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Speaker 2: do an episode that wouldn't make any sense.

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Speaker 1: We would be crying in a corner. It would make

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Speaker 1: sense we could make you cry. Mushrooms are good. But

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Speaker 1: that mushroom trip was well.

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Speaker 2: I think I think there's a misconception because I told

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Speaker 2: I told Orlando I took that she micro doesed.

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Speaker 1: Me's like, I don't think that's a good idea, and

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Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, no, it's better. It's what

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Speaker 1: you're supposed to do. It's a light.

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Speaker 2: When it's light, it's it helps really release relieve anxiety.

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Speaker 1: And I'm really sensitive to mushrooms right now. So it

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Speaker 1: did help.

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Speaker 2: And then I hit the indiculd joint a couple of

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Speaker 2: times and and I'm a little bit better. I got

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Speaker 2: three hugs, I picked four flowers. So I waited for

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Speaker 2: you and then I was like, I could you know I.

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Speaker 1: Could work perfect. I'm glad you're feeling better. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: You are a good mom, the excellent mom. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: It was between micro dosing and libderm. I don't know

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Speaker 2: if somebody told me that they're on some like anxiety medicine,

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Speaker 2: and now ever since they said it, I'm like.

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Speaker 1: It's been like popping up. That's what happens. It's like

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Speaker 1: the alard. It's the algorithm of life.

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Speaker 2: No, for real, I'm like, because this is time from God.

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Speaker 2: Don't need to get in pharmaceuticals.

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Speaker 1: But no, it's it's very off brand. It'd be very

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Speaker 1: off brand for me.

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Speaker 2: So I'm just going to continue on the mushroom and

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Speaker 2: meditation journey and hopefully it works.

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Speaker 1: How are you? I'm good, I feel good. I'm sore,

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Speaker 1: I've been working out and shit, I'm I'm good. My

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Speaker 1: eyelash is bothering me. I decided to put eyelashes on.

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Speaker 1: I took about twenty four minutes, and I'm allergic to glue,

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Speaker 1: but I was really dedicated. Did it anyway? Whouse the glue?

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Speaker 1: Your look? I want to be cute for YouTube. You guys,

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Speaker 1: go look on YouTube. Bitches, get on YouTube right now

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Speaker 1: and look at me. Okay, we're cute.

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Speaker 3: Look at me.

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Speaker 1: Look at as fucking lash as I put on. They

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Speaker 1: are whimsies. Whatever called Wispy's DEMI Wispy's bitch. Okay with

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Speaker 1: these on. I put them on and my eyes burning

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Speaker 1: a lot. But when I act like it's not, it's

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Speaker 1: perfectly fine. I'm just cute and everything's great.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, the ship women do to be cute we're

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Speaker 2: also matching.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I did not mean to do this. We are.

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Speaker 1: Our guest is also matching with us. We are Destiny's child.

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Speaker 1: We are and.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Mam Michelle, Mamachelle, you can be whoever you want.

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Speaker 1: Baby. You know what, there could be four b three

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Speaker 1: beances if we wanted to. I'm LaToya. Okay, she's really

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Speaker 1: I'm taking it back. I'm LaToya. Like I don't want

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Speaker 1: to be LaTavia. I don't want to be fair. I

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Speaker 1: don't want to be all the mother hose.

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Speaker 2: I've always been Kelly, Kelly. Kelly and Kelly have always

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Speaker 1: She's amazing. I love Kelly.

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Speaker 2: Yesterday, Eric and I went to the top of a

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Speaker 2: mountain and did a ritual because Jesse are home. Girre

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Speaker 2: All told us that's what we needed to do, and

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Speaker 2: so we took a loaf of bread, seven green apples,

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Speaker 2: my head, I was like, perfect, easy, easy, I cut

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Speaker 2: the apples, I cut the bread before we got there.

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Speaker 1: I took a backpack, I took a plate, and then

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Speaker 2: Of the mountain and we're like pulling out the staff

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Speaker 2: and then I'm like trying to crack the coconut.

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Speaker 1: Well, first I start trying to crack the coconut cause

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Speaker 1: she's arranging the plate and I'm like, wow, this is

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Speaker 1: what this In Costa Rica, they make it looks so

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Speaker 1: and then as she's trying, we're both trying to crashatively

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Speaker 1: trying to crack this coconut on the finally, I don't

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Speaker 1: three little secret dots on the back. I didn't know

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Speaker 1: And so I just I started just poking. We found

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Speaker 1: we finally opened the cot. No, we didn't. We just

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Speaker 1: shook it. It was the open it it was open.

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Speaker 2: It didn't crack it open like I had in my mind,

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Speaker 2: but we did. I shook the ship every piece of

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Speaker 2: into my head, and you know what, it was sticky

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Speaker 1: I fell asleep with that shit. I just washed it off.

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Speaker 1: that take that shower. Yeah, it was sticky. Felt like

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Speaker 1: someone came on my eyelids. Oh my god, it did

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Speaker 1: kind of feel like that, Like my eyelids were like stuck,

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Speaker 1: like stuck open. Maybe that's why I kind of liked it.

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Speaker 1: I kind of kept it was kind of sweet. Okay.

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Speaker 1: The ritual shout out to Sweet Instagram, Sweet Love Sanctuary,

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Speaker 1: make sure you follow Jessie. She actually joined us in

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Speaker 1: Costa Rica and she is amazing. She's tons of tons

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Speaker 1: of just spiritual lessons and rituals for you guys.

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Speaker 2: She's like our spiritual mentor homegirl.

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Speaker 1: We were just inviting new opportunities and all the things

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Speaker 1: that we are working on to cultivate.

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Speaker 2: Rapidly extibitious exhibitiously exhibition I shouldn't try and say words.

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Speaker 1: I don't really know how to say it.

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Speaker 2: In my mind it sounded really smooth, exhibitiously. Okay, well

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, we have a guest here today. Yes, hi, ladies, Hello,

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Speaker 4: we have sex blogger Sex with Ashley Ashley Cobb.

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Speaker 1: How are you dear? I'm good?

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Speaker 3: How are you good?

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Speaker 1: She's fresh off the plane.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm sleep is kicking my Well?

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Speaker 1: We have sativa for you, are we?

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Speaker 3: I'm a more of an edibles person.

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Speaker 1: I smoke.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe we should start asking that in our induction questions.

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Speaker 2: What do you prefer wine, smokes, edibles, microdo saying we

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Speaker 2: need to like just.

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Speaker 3: That's the mushrooms. Though I've never tried mushrooms that I

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Speaker 1: To like we, they're very the plant medicines. But I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I just feel like that have similar qualities

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Speaker 2: But I feel like mushrooms kind of really open you

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Speaker 2: up and clear you like, everything's very bright and vibrant.

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Speaker 2: You feel very one with the earth and with people.

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Speaker 2: I think you see people very clearly. I think you

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Speaker 2: feel energy very clearly. So it's like good to be

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Speaker 2: then it's really hard to fight any of your true emotions.

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Speaker 2: So if you're feeling really good or really like, something

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Speaker 1: But if you need to cry, it will happen.

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Speaker 3: So where can I get some warm here?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I'm got you. We got okay, don't worry. Thanks, Hallowe.

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Speaker 1: How long are you here for?

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Speaker 3: I'll leave monday?

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Speaker 1: you for having me. I have a question for you.

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Speaker 1: How did you start into being sex with Ashley? Because

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Speaker 1: we spoke a little bit before this, yes, and you

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Speaker 3: I grew up in church, very religious household. So I

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Speaker 3: So there was there is this, and I've told this

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Speaker 3: I was the Pinky Promise leader. Wow yeah yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: So I go from one extreme to the other clearly.

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Speaker 3: So yes I was, and I was all in. When

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Speaker 1: So that's I was gonna say. What was It was?

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Speaker 1: Something happened.

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Speaker 3: And I was celebented for like three years okay, and

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Speaker 1: MM. If you just denounced your your leadership, you're like

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Speaker 3: I was like, well, it was a gradual thing, and

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Speaker 2: And I never understood that about like about Christianity specifically,

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Speaker 1: I don't understand.

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Speaker 2: This, because I've done some religiousness in my day, but

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they taught that masturbation was still sing because you

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Speaker 1: I can't wait for Heather. I can't wait for Heather

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Speaker 3: She's She's the Queen of blocking.

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Speaker 1: If you're masturbating her sex life is boring, probably swinging

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Speaker 1: God designed this mouth, right, So how lit can it

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Speaker 2: Do you think God then gave us sex? And then

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Speaker 1: It too much? What the fuck don't you like, don't

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Speaker 2: That is what is scary to me. When you suppress

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Speaker 2: And this culture like promoting it to women and not

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Speaker 2: It kind of like, without it being said, if men

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Speaker 2: It kind of gives permission for a man to just

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Speaker 3: You, Yes, I mean, and honestly that's what a lot

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Speaker 1: Oh oh no, I don't like that. That's just sound

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Speaker 3: Whatever works.

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Speaker 2: So now, well, okay, so tell us about how your

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Speaker 3: So originally, so, I have a degree in public health,

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Speaker 1: Into congratulations, girl, you doing it? Are you on TV?

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Speaker 1: And shit? You know, like that's.

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Speaker 2: A big deal, and like that's that's that doesn't wonders

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Speaker 3: and open, right, and they're just you know whatever. The

439
00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:24,320
Speaker 3: black people we're still reserved we have them.

440
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Speaker 1: Clothed even at the sex party, like they're curious, but

441
00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:27,800
Speaker 1: they ain't gonna do all.

442
00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:32,600
Speaker 3: That lingerie on recovered. They're not doing too much. The

443
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:36,800
Speaker 3: white people around it's all hanging out. So even with that,

444
00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:39,200
Speaker 3: it's I think culturally we're just different. I think they

445
00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:43,199
Speaker 3: are just culturally just they talk about sex more and

446
00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:44,920
Speaker 3: they're more open with it. I'm not sure.

447
00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:48,400
Speaker 1: Well, I'll tell you well, there's been a lot less

448
00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:52,920
Speaker 1: repercussions for them talking about I mean, let's be honest,

449
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:55,120
Speaker 1: we see it every day. I mean even in our industry,

450
00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:58,040
Speaker 1: like the white women that talk about sex are getting

451
00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:02,560
Speaker 1: paid more than a TV shows they get, you know

452
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,480
Speaker 1: what I mean. And for us it's like, oh my god.

453
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Speaker 2: I don't know if we can I don't know if

454
00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 2: we can endorse that it's a little risky.

455
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:11,080
Speaker 3: Yeah that's really fat.

456
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,720
Speaker 1: But I think that I think also too. I think

457
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Speaker 1: because we've been to some sex clubs in New York

458
00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:21,119
Speaker 1: and I've only I've only actually ever been to like

459
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:23,239
Speaker 1: a black and brown sex club, so I don't really

460
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Speaker 1: know that they've never been to like just I've never

461
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,960
Speaker 1: been to white one, not a white one, but like

462
00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:37,200
Speaker 1: peoples a persons clubs I go to or they're all inclusive.

463
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:38,879
Speaker 3: I haven't.

464
00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 1: I have not.

465
00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:41,199
Speaker 3: I've been to a white club that had like a

466
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Speaker 3: black knight, but I haven't been to like a brown So.

467
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Speaker 1: Where is that at in Brooklyn? Brooklyn that shout out

468
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:53,080
Speaker 1: to Susia, Susia cool? I yeah, And so there it was.

469
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,600
Speaker 1: Everyone felt safe, everyone felt comfortable because everyone, like you know,

470
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 1: saw people that look like them. So I think that

471
00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:02,440
Speaker 1: I think that people, our people need a lot of

472
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 1: permission we do when it comes to that. I think

473
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 1: they need to see it and to see it first,

474
00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 1: and they'll.

475
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:11,440
Speaker 3: Be like, Okay, I can do that because I take

476
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 3: I take men that I see, friends whomever, that I

477
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 3: you know, whatever to the sex club because most well

478
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:19,320
Speaker 3: a lot of the black men that I know I

479
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 3: haven't really delp in those waters yet they hear about

480
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 3: it and they're curiously like, I don't know. So I'm like, okay, cool.

481
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 3: I go sest clubs. Well, I used to go prior

482
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 3: to pandemic pretty regularly, So I'm like, do you want

483
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:30,879
Speaker 3: to go to?

484
00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 5: Like?

485
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 3: Sure? So they'll go and they'll see what it's like

486
00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 3: because you know, they're like what I'm supposed to do.

487
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:38,160
Speaker 3: Let's go see and you don't have to do anything

488
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:40,040
Speaker 3: if you don't want to. But once they get there, like, okay,

489
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:42,080
Speaker 3: that's not that bad, right, So I think a lot.

490
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 1: Of bad not that bad. But you know, they have

491
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:48,880
Speaker 1: these preconceived notions of what goes on at these clubs.

492
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know. I just think it's

493
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Speaker 1: funny that like in any way, like consensual sex would

494
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Speaker 1: be deemed bad. Well, it's just different.

495
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 2: People are not used to it, and so that's like,

496
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 2: you know, there's this shock factor. But I found that

497
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 2: going to like sex parties are i don't know, more

498
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,399
Speaker 2: welcoming and like I have less anxiety. I feel like

499
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 2: people are more friendly. People are just like hey, deep hugs,

500
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 2: long stairs. It feels like it feels very spiritual and

501
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,920
Speaker 2: hippie to go to the like it doesn't feel like pressure.

502
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,920
Speaker 2: It just feels like liberation in club form.

503
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 3: So you for parties clothes.

504
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:26,560
Speaker 2: I guess what's the difference like an establishment like a

505
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 2: brick and mortar versus like how a.

506
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:33,120
Speaker 1: Club is like anyone can come, any can I feel

507
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:34,840
Speaker 1: like they're open door.

508
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 2: Does a club well, well, generally, in my experience, all

509
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 2: sex clubs are the like there's men have to come

510
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 2: with women or they have to.

511
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Speaker 1: Pay a very high ticket. The clubs that I've.

512
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,560
Speaker 2: Been to are membership only, so you have to buy

513
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 2: into the membership in order to en for entry, because

514
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 2: then it eliminates just just any schmegula.

515
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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not that much.

516
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess money the amount of money you're willing

517
00:23:56,800 --> 00:24:00,360
Speaker 2: to spend to invest in the space. So that's that's

518
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,160
Speaker 2: been my experience that it's always kind of a high

519
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:04,720
Speaker 2: ticket because that's how it eliminates a bunch of creeps.

520
00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 2: Or it's word of mouth, us fucking shout it out

521
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:08,920
Speaker 2: on the podcast. I don't know if we're supposed to

522
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:13,159
Speaker 2: do that, but like, I think it's more exclusive in

523
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: the way it's word of mouth or you have to

524
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,879
Speaker 2: other ones where like you have to know someone who's

525
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 2: invited you in order to have an entry.

526
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, rebe going Trapeze.

527
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Speaker 3: I've been once, cause I've been. I've been trappe since once.

528
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 3: Since I've been there, It's okay, it's it's not it's

529
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,440
Speaker 3: I don't think it's worth the hype.

530
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 2: I I I went years ago when I lived in Atlanta.

531
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 2: That's a big back in the day. Yeah, that was

532
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 2: literally like ten years ago.

533
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 1: Okay, cool, Yeah, yeah, it was. It was cool. Then.

534
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,639
Speaker 2: There was some there were some inclusive nights and there

535
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 2: was some more like bro black night.

536
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,159
Speaker 3: I went on black Nights in Trapeze and so, I

537
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 3: mean it was a lot of black, black black people there,

538
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 3: so that I was really impressive. But it was just

539
00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 3: like my go to sit close. I go for the

540
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 3: the things to do there, like your equipment, your rooms. Right,

541
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 3: that's the point of me going, I can fuck on

542
00:24:58,560 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 3: my house on a bed at my house.

543
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 1: That's the thing with clubs too.

544
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 2: They're generally like themed rooms so you can kind of

545
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 2: like fulfill fantasies. I've only been I have a faint memory.

546
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:09,480
Speaker 2: I've been to a couple like this, but there's there

547
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 2: are equipment and things that like make it actually like

548
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 2: a sex space, which you can't get at home. You

549
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 2: can't just write the niggas at your house like that's fun.

550
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 2: But at the club there's like I've been to one

551
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 2: there was like a teacher looking scene. I've been ones

552
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 2: that had like looked like a pool table scene, looked

553
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 2: like kind of like just a dark room you can't

554
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 2: see ship people are just gribing you. There's just all

555
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 2: these different type of like, yeah, that's.

556
00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 3: Part of the fun. So that's one thing I didn't

557
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 3: like about Trap had Bids and there was no really theme.

558
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:38,159
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, this is like boring.

559
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 1: So I'm sex clubs or deep dive into sex clubs.

560
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 2: There's also ones with breakfast face.

561
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 1: They have just porn on the TVs.

562
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 3: They strip clubs are like strip clubs. They have the

563
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 3: best food they do.

564
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 1: That's true probably in Atlanta more than anywhere. Back. I

565
00:25:58,040 --> 00:25:59,679
Speaker 1: have a question as far as you know, being a

566
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:02,639
Speaker 1: sex blogger, people probably assume that your sex life is

567
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 1: you know lit. I mean, as we're sitting here talking

568
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 1: about sex club sex clubs, which most people I'm listening

569
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 1: probably have not gone to, Like, do you think that's

570
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:15,919
Speaker 1: a misconception of you know, f people in this space

571
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:19,120
Speaker 1: of sex educators sex bloggers.

572
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:23,160
Speaker 3: You yeah, saying I think people people assume that, uh,

573
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 3: my life is like a porn porno and it's not.

574
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 3: I mean, I think I do things that are outside

575
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 3: the norm of everyday people. I guess, like, okay, sex clubs, right,

576
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 3: but I don't do anything I don't deem it's that

577
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 3: that crazy. It's very normal. I like regular vanilla six

578
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 3: most days. Most days, you know, missionary works. Like you know,

579
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:51,199
Speaker 3: I don't do anything out the norm typically. I just

580
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 3: every once in a while, I may, oh, I I'm

581
00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 3: into certain things. Let's try that. But I don't have

582
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 3: to do it every day. I think people assume because

583
00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 3: I do this, I have to do it every day,

584
00:26:59,320 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 3: and I.

585
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 1: Don't date outside your race?

586
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:02,400
Speaker 3: Would I do?

587
00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 1: You know? What'd you?

588
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 3: Ah? It came to the point now that the colors

589
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 3: are making me have to try other things?

590
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: Do you think because I asked you this? Because because

591
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 1: talking about just you know, black people and our I

592
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: guess our historically, our position on sex, and you know, religion,

593
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 1: and you being a sex blogger, us being women who

594
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: talk about sex for a living as well. I find

595
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:43,679
Speaker 1: that I find that white men are more open to

596
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 1: dating a woman in this space versus maybe a black man.

597
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: That is an interesting observation, and.

598
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 3: That is my struggle wifing a woman. They won't they

599
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:04,959
Speaker 3: won't that And that has been like my struggle. And

600
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 3: I've said this on a couple occasions. I was like,

601
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 3: I believe that if I was not doing what I

602
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,400
Speaker 3: was doing, i'd probably be married or something by now.

603
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 3: But because they you know, I have this public figure

604
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 3: I talk about six on the internet, right, men have

605
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,360
Speaker 3: a hard time with that. I have my male friends.

606
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 3: These are male friends that I know talk to all

607
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 3: the time. They swear that the only way I'm going

608
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 3: to find in love with a black man is if

609
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 3: he's bisexual.

610
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 2: I got a black man told me that recently too,

611
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:36,440
Speaker 2: like you're not gonna a black man is not checking

612
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 2: for you.

613
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 1: And I was like, why does it be bisexual? Because

614
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 1: why does this be.

615
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:45,760
Speaker 3: Kind of what kind of black They said this, and listen, no, no, no,

616
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 3: shame to bisexual black man. Nothing, you know, but this

617
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 3: is this is what my heterosexual This is what my

618
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 3: heterosexual male friends tell me. They was like, Oh, the

619
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 3: only person that's going to want to be with you,

620
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 3: like in terms of like a marriage type thing, it's

621
00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 3: going to be a a bisexual black man because they

622
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 3: be willing to be down as I'm down with.

623
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 2: I think I think that because because they have you

624
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 2: have to be open to that. They're rest sexual, so

625
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 2: they have to be open that you talk about sex.

626
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:09,479
Speaker 1: You know what.

627
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 2: I really this conversation irritates me because I'm really over

628
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 2: black men telling us what we're not going to get

629
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 2: and what we don't deserve based on their limited perspective

630
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 2: of us and of life and of other black men.

631
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 2: And I don't believe that, and I think it's very

632
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 2: it's very like it's detrimental, toy. And I think I

633
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 2: experienced this too, like it makes you question your worth.

634
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 2: It does as an educated black freethinking woman, like, damn,

635
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 2: if my heterosexual male friend Homie is telling me this,

636
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 2: then more than one, more than one, because girl, I

637
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 2: got this speech too.

638
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:51,800
Speaker 1: I don't even know if it was because I talk

639
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 1: about sex.

640
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 2: He was just like, no, like you're you're not If

641
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 2: you're looking for a husband, you're not gonna find one

642
00:29:56,720 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 2: that's black basically, which is like, I just feel like,

643
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: who the fuck do you think you are telling me

644
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 2: who I'm not gonna find because you speak for all

645
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 2: black men like e Her in the world.

646
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: I just I'm just like, and then and then.

647
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 2: Even to categorize who is going to be accepting of

648
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:16,680
Speaker 2: you as this type up this person only you know,

649
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 2: I think it's so it's disrespectful, and I think it's

650
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 2: kind of a reflection of how black men need to

651
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 2: shift in how they show up for us, and it

652
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 2: makes it.

653
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 3: So hard, like for me because I told my friend,

654
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 3: uh this, who told me this? One of the ones

655
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 3: told me. I was like, you know what, it kind

656
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Speaker 3: of like saddens me. I'm like, well, should I even

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662
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Speaker 3: Nothing's wrong dating bisexual men. But you know why, why

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Speaker 3: because you know on Instagram on your name is six

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Speaker 3: I'm out there or something. Well that's your assumption. You

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Speaker 1: I'm sure sex with Emily is doing just fine over there.

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Speaker 1: She might be married already, you've heard.

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Speaker 3: The gest she does good or she's married, Oh she

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Speaker 1: All the sex is with that are not black orting

679
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Speaker 1: and getting white? Yeah, it scares me.

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Speaker 2: It scares me that black women are expanding so quickly

681
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682
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683
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Speaker 2: keeping up. And it scares me because the truth of

684
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685
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686
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687
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688
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Speaker 2: even if I was born again Christian tomorrow. Like, when

689
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Speaker 1: Like what about Like?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I guess I could do a rebrand. Speaking

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Speaker 3: of rebrands, of y'all seen KRISTI, Yes, Elizabeth.

775
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Speaker 2: I was like, I was like I was looking at

776
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Speaker 2: I was like, first of all, this is my idol

777
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Speaker 2: in the ninth grade, so I know this is this bitch.

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Speaker 1: I love this bitch. And I was like I said,

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Speaker 1: I was like, this is smart. I like it. I'm intrigued. Again,

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Speaker 1: if you know what one thing about she can come

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Speaker 1: back and come back and come back and be whoever

782
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Speaker 1: the fuck she wants to be every time. And I

783
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Speaker 1: I fucked with that for she was like fuck this,

784
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Speaker 1: I'm about to go fuck with Bill maher.

785
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Speaker 2: He'll understand me, Well, I heard these a little undercover racist.

786
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Speaker 2: I do love Bill maher, but I heard he was

787
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Speaker 2: a little weird, but I don't know we got we

788
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Speaker 2: actually already slid into her d.

789
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Speaker 1: I saw Elizabeth, I was like, what's up? Are you

790
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Speaker 1: coming on the show? So hopefully I'm gonna.

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Speaker 3: Be writing about her next week for gosp Agasms because

792
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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I love it.

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Speaker 2: I and she's not, like she's not there's no mention

794
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Speaker 2: of the previous life of that person.

795
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Speaker 1: No, she's a speaker, yeah, book speaker, But like, is

796
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Speaker 1: that because she has to do that? Because like she

797
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Speaker 1: couldn't she can't navigate in the world as a black

798
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Speaker 1: woman who's talked about sex, who's pioneered almost this space

799
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Speaker 1: and ways, and like, is she finally just like fucking things?

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Speaker 2: I don't want a man who that like what the public,

801
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Speaker 2: how the public sees me, it's going to be you're

802
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: easily moved by that? Like that to me, you're weak

803
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Speaker 2: if these like if someone's perspective of me, if you

804
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Speaker 2: know me personally, and someone else's perspective or there may

805
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Speaker 2: be perspective of me, makes you not want to fuck

806
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Speaker 2: with me because for fear of whatever the fuck your

807
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Speaker 2: fear is, I already know you're not my person, Like

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Speaker 2: I'm cool with like actually move all the like easily intimidated,

809
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Speaker 2: scared men who need like the girl next door out

810
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Speaker 2: of my fucking way because you're not gonna vibe and

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Speaker 2: eventually like I'm gonna feel bad, You're gonna feel bad.

812
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Speaker 2: And I just think, where are the real niggas.

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Speaker 3: At There are stincts you're in dangerous spech.

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Speaker 1: They are. And I think that the men. I think

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Speaker 1: there's men doing the work, but there's certain work that

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Speaker 1: they don't feel like they have to do or they

817
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Speaker 1: don't want to do, and and this category is one

818
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Speaker 1: of them.

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Speaker 3: And thanks that they're good.

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Speaker 1: They're good with how they feel about how they want

821
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Speaker 1: their wife to be. Like that's not so. I feel

822
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Speaker 1: like that's like there's work that they're doing. But this

823
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Speaker 1: category is like I don't know, it's gonna take a minute,

824
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Speaker 1: it's gonna take a while, it might never happen, and no,

825
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Speaker 1: go ahead.

826
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Speaker 3: And I think a lot has to do with that

827
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Speaker 3: whole new like Kevin.

828
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Speaker 1: Samuel, I'm gonna throw up. And we're in high priced

829
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Speaker 1: whatever high value men high value, You ain't high value.

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Speaker 1: I just saw you up the street. If Kevin look

831
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Speaker 1: at us and be like one cent, I have a

832
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Speaker 1: theory about Kevin. I'm not gonna share because I don't.

833
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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure no one thinks he's not gay too.

834
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Speaker 1: I don't think he likes women at all. Also, what

835
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Speaker 1: was I gonna say? Fuck? I forgot Yeah, I mean

836
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Speaker 1: I think that in this space that I'm in. And

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Speaker 1: this has been something that's been coming up for a

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Speaker 1: while now for me, feeling like it's really empowered in

839
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Speaker 1: the space that I'm in, and like the work that

840
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Speaker 1: I'm doing, and like the the the just like the

841
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Speaker 1: support that we get from the community. And s're just

842
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Speaker 1: like you like, yeah, keep going, keep going. So You're like, Okay,

843
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep going. I'm gonna trailblaze this space. And

844
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Speaker 1: then I'm like, how about fuck? Wait, wait, no one,

845
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Speaker 1: no one wants to just like wife me. No one's

846
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Speaker 1: trying to see do you see? But that's the thing thing,

847
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Speaker 1: like I'll fuck you, but I want wife. What does

848
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 1: that say about you? But So I had this conversation

849
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Speaker 1: with my friend and she was like, well, it's true,

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Speaker 1: it's true. She's in this space as well, and she

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00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 1: was like, it's true. She's like, you know, we carry

852
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Speaker 1: this heavy burden, like we want to do the work.

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Speaker 1: We want to like change the narrative, and as a result,

854
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,800
Speaker 1: there's sacrifices to be made. And some of those sacrifices

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Speaker 1: are marriage. Some of those sacrifices are maybe the men

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Speaker 1: that would be perfect for us had we not chosen

857
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Speaker 1: this career. Maybe the sacrifices are I don't know. There's

858
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Speaker 1: just so many different sacrifices, kind of like the.

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Speaker 2: Jesus thing, you cut off a part of myself to

860
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Speaker 2: appeace to your liking. It's like it's just like it's

861
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Speaker 2: like the patriarchy in different forms.

862
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Speaker 3: I mean, I guess we could like change careers, but

863
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Speaker 3: do we really want to do that.

864
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Speaker 1: Even this guy that I've been hanging out with, his

865
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Speaker 1: like he's not at all, But I was. I was

867
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Speaker 1: literally telling him about this. I was like, you know,

868
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Speaker 1: I had some conversation and I've just been feeling like,

869
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Speaker 1: am I not going to like, am I not going

870
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 1: to find a person? He's like a friend of mine

871
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: and we have sex and I was like, I'm not

872
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,759
Speaker 1: gonna find like my husband because of the work that

873
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 1: I do. Like, I told him that I had this

874
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:16,479
Speaker 1: conversation with my mom and she basically said that, like, yeah,

875
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:18,359
Speaker 1: men don't want to bring home women that are like

876
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 1: sexually liberated on the internet, whether or not they know, like,

877
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:24,280
Speaker 1: because on the internet they get a like a small

878
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 1: dose of who you are. They don't really get to

879
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 1: know the Erica that is intelligent, un nurturer. Not they

880
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 1: get the intelligence, but the unnurturer and all these other

881
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: things that are the makings of you. They get this

882
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 1: these clips. Yeah, And he was like, yeah, I know

883
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,439
Speaker 1: because my mom, you know, she's Jehovah's witness. And I said,

884
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, your mom would not fuck with me.

885
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 1: She was like yeah. And I was like, so, Nikka,

886
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,239
Speaker 1: what are we doing, because like, you ain't gonna bring

887
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: me home to your mother, Like what the first? What

888
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: the fuck is this? And that's true, you don't want

889
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:54,919
Speaker 1: to go to them moms. I was just like, well,

890
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 1: it was fine because whatever, we're casual for friends. But

891
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 1: I really thought, like, huh, that's so interesting that you're

892
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: sitting here fucking me and I don't know, I mean,

893
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:12,879
Speaker 1: Our relationship is friendship at its core, and I really

894
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 1: do enjoy it, and whether I meet his mom or

895
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,239
Speaker 1: not is not really a big deal to me. But

896
00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:19,879
Speaker 1: I just thought it was so interesting that, like, yeah,

897
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 1: it's playing into that idea of like, yeah, men will

898
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 1: sleep with you, and they'll have conversations with you, and

899
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,320
Speaker 1: we'll have deep conversations, and they will like you, and

900
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 1: they'll tell me how smart you are, and they'll do

901
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 1: all the things except the one thing. And I was like, so,

902
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 1: am I gonna just like, am I gonna have to

903
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: marry a white man?

904
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 2: No, You're gonna have to marry a man who has

905
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: a mom who was a wild woman, who was a

906
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 2: trailblazer and taught him that. Like the women show up

907
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 2: different ways, and there's not that many of them, but

908
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 2: I know they exist.

909
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:50,320
Speaker 1: But also like Van, but will I like that man?

910
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 1: What is that? What do you mean? I just mean like,

911
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 1: sometimes not everything adds up like the trailblazer.

912
00:42:56,120 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, No, what I mean like sometimes the man

913
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 2: who accepts you may not like yourself.

914
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like his mom is all these things, Yes,

915
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 1: like that, because I feel like I've met that man too.

916
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 1: I've met that man that accepts me, and then there's

917
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:08,919
Speaker 1: things there.

918
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, I think it's just we have

919
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 2: to wait for our person overall, like there's it's it's

920
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 2: a god thing like he like whomever the universe brings

921
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:18,399
Speaker 2: to us will come at the right time.

922
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 3: But here's the thing too with it. You know what

923
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 3: do I have to be sixty for?

924
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 1: Like?

925
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:23,879
Speaker 3: How old do I have to wait?

926
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: I would be like you should do a test. Maybe

927
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 1: I should stop talking about sex for like three hundred

928
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:30,359
Speaker 1: and sixty five days block like all like we're gonna

929
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 1: do all kosher, gonna Elizabeth, Okay, I'm gonna We're gonna

930
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 1: do a rebranding of Good Moms with three hundred. We're

931
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 1: gonna be a mom mom brand. Bitch, we could if

932
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 1: we tried, and he will probably wait and we're gonna

933
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 1: come back. We're gonna have husbands and we're gonna go

934
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,240
Speaker 1: crazy again. Got him anyway?

935
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:47,400
Speaker 3: Got you?

936
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:52,720
Speaker 2: His van made him posts recently that was like really interesting.

937
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 2: It was very like direct and harsh. I couldn't find

938
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 2: it last time I looked, but it was like men

939
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 2: kill me, Like do you know your mom sucked dick?

940
00:43:58,680 --> 00:43:58,839
Speaker 3: Yeah?

941
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:00,399
Speaker 1: And got fucked for you.

942
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 2: To get here, And I was like Dad, Like, niggas

943
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 2: be like, oh no, because my mama.

944
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:05,879
Speaker 1: Like nigga, your mama got fucked for you to get here.

945
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 2: Like let's not forget mom sucked dick too, specifically yours

946
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 2: bro like you, I don't know. I think there's it's

947
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: detrimental to remove I say this all the time. I'll

948
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 2: say it again. I think it's detrimental to try and

949
00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 2: remove sexuality and sensuality from the divine feminine, because that's

950
00:44:24,160 --> 00:44:26,879
Speaker 2: a part of our existence. And when you do that,

951
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: you have boys slash men who grow up into a

952
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 2: world thinking they're supposed to find fucking the virgin Mary,

953
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:35,760
Speaker 2: and it doesn't exist.

954
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 3: It does not exist. Men want these women, They want

955
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 3: women who they don't want virgins per se, but they

956
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 3: want you to be a virgin like they don't. They

957
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 3: don't want a little version. They want you to know

958
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:49,080
Speaker 3: something about six but they don't want know.

959
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: They want you to pretend not know too much.

960
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:52,799
Speaker 3: You can't know too much. They don't want to think

961
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 3: that you're out there. What are the fuck that means? Right?

962
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 2: So that's what we were talking about today. We wanted

963
00:44:56,840 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 2: to talk about misconceptions of the free slash wild woman.

964
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 2: What is the misconception misconceptions of the free woman? Because

965
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 2: I feel like you said, like men don't think that

966
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 2: we are nurturers, that we're domesticated, and that we want

967
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:14,800
Speaker 2: to be married, that we want to be held down.

968
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 2: And I think that is such a misconception. I'm such

969
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 2: a nurturer and I'm such a mother, and I'm such

970
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 2: a like I'll make dinner, you.

971
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 1: Know what I mean?

972
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 3: Like, I like, I'm.

973
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 1: I mean whatever, Who can fuk about being domesticate? First

974
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 1: of all, that's that's like for a dog.

975
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 2: But I feel like too, I've come encounter with like

976
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 2: other people specifically, like I've met in this space who

977
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:40,920
Speaker 2: I feel like pressure, Like am I supposed to be kinky?

978
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:43,359
Speaker 1: Like I don't kink up every night? Like if can

979
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:44,719
Speaker 1: we just fuck regular? Can you calm down?

980
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 2: What do you mean even try something new? We just

981
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 2: had sex three times? Like, relax, we don't need to

982
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 2: try something new. We just started having sex. This is

983
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:55,799
Speaker 2: new somebody right, Like somebody told me that shout out

984
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:56,360
Speaker 2: to Orlando.

985
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 1: I'm like someone meaning la at w a, No, I'm

986
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:05,240
Speaker 1: just kidding.

987
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 2: But I was like, yo, even when I first started

988
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,399
Speaker 2: fucking with him, I was like, I felt a lot

989
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 2: of pressure, Like, you do you think I'm freaky because

990
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:14,359
Speaker 2: I have a sex like a podcast I talk about sex.

991
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: I know you do, but you need to relax. And

992
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: I was like, am I not freaky? Fuck? This is

993
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:18,760
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure.

994
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:21,960
Speaker 2: Even now, like I'm less shy, We're like closer, so

995
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:23,719
Speaker 2: I'd be like, you need to fucking chill, Like we

996
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 2: don't live in the same city. We need to like

997
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 2: have sex four times regular before you ask me anything,

998
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 2: you know what I mean.

999
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 1: But it's like all these like just because.

1000
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,839
Speaker 2: We're open and we talk about certain things and we're

1001
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 2: curious because that's really what it is, curious to weigh

1002
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 2: out different options of what pleasure looks like for us.

1003
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: That suddenly we're just like, oh, you got spanked on

1004
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 1: the internet. You had flame to you back by a man,

1005
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 1: Like it's just this. I think also, men are intimidated.

1006
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 1: I think that they get intimidated and they think that

1007
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: like they can't live up to whatever sex we desire.

1008
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:56,880
Speaker 1: I heard that a lot, Yeah, and that like because

1009
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 1: we are very vocal about our needs on the internet,

1010
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, what if I can't fulfill that. I am.

1011
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:06,240
Speaker 1: I also being having a podcast in a platform people

1012
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: think you're gonna get talked about. You might.

1013
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:13,839
Speaker 3: You don't know how many times. And am I write

1014
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 3: about me and your blog? I don't. I don't talk

1015
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 3: about me and in my blog clearly you haven't read it.

1016
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 3: I don't talk about me, but they really do ask

1017
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:24,279
Speaker 3: me that about me.

1018
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, it wasn't good. It wasn't special enough. I

1019
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: don't care. Yeah. I think that all those things that

1020
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 1: you listed are the misconceptions. I mean, yeah, I think

1021
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 1: that there's that. I think that that we sleep around that. Yeah,

1022
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:46,799
Speaker 1: that any that anyone has access to us. Hmmm, yeah,

1023
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 1: those are the things I would say.

1024
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 2: Okay, do you think that with us talking about the

1025
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 2: misconceptions of free women?

1026
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: Do you guys? I know I do.

1027
00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 2: Do you guys have any design for your partners that

1028
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:05,759
Speaker 2: may actually be like like, could you date yourself if

1029
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 2: you had a man? For instance, Yes, Orlando is on

1030
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 2: only fans. Okay, it's doing porn full blow and porn

1031
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:14,920
Speaker 2: that get over there, you know, And it's like I

1032
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 2: had to ask myself, huh, this is like like this

1033
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 2: is my partner and this could you know go so

1034
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 2: many ways, but like, can I sit with this forever?

1035
00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 2: Like if this is a long term thing, this this

1036
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:31,319
Speaker 2: is fine with me, you know, and I had to

1037
00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:34,959
Speaker 2: really like consider I'm like, damn, I can't be a hypocrite,

1038
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 2: you know, Like if you accept me, I gotta accept

1039
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:37,439
Speaker 2: you too.

1040
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,799
Speaker 1: So like, are you guys? Like obviously we all have.

1041
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 2: Boundaries, you know, we don't have just because we do

1042
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:43,840
Speaker 2: certain things that we're free women. We don't have to

1043
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 2: accept everything that comes with people. But the things that

1044
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,719
Speaker 2: we were asking for, do you think that you are

1045
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 2: you could handle?

1046
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:53,840
Speaker 3: I actually prefer to date someone who's not in the

1047
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 3: sex world per se, Like I don't I don't want

1048
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 3: to da a dom or anything like that.

1049
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:01,919
Speaker 1: Why I just.

1050
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 3: Don't, like because well because doms typically are engaged with

1051
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:08,160
Speaker 3: other people, and I.

1052
00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: Just I just don't want to share you as not

1053
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:12,719
Speaker 1: really but.

1054
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 3: I don't want I don't want people to share my

1055
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 3: man right that know me? Like, oh that sex what

1056
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 3: actually is?

1057
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:21,160
Speaker 1: Man?

1058
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 3: I don't want that.

1059
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 2: I'm happy you said that, Like for people to know

1060
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 2: what's going on in your world right.

1061
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 3: Now, if it was a thing where like nobody knew

1062
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 3: who I was, maybe a little different. I just don't

1063
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:33,480
Speaker 3: want people to be like, oh, I actually do.

1064
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 1: Too, yeah yeah, something about like the ability to yeah.

1065
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:43,120
Speaker 3: So, but I do. I do like men who are

1066
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:47,799
Speaker 3: free and want to explore. Like I like men who

1067
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 3: are open to certain things. I said, I'm not particularly

1068
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:55,320
Speaker 3: monogamy monogamish, but like, I want to mine who's open.

1069
00:49:55,520 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 3: So if you're if you're a person who just want

1070
00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 3: to do regular, degular sex all the time, like you

1071
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 3: don't want to try nothing, it's not gonna work.

1072
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 1: I go back and forth with this. Right would date

1073
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,000
Speaker 1: somebody maybe I don't know if I would date a

1074
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:13,280
Speaker 1: podcast or I don't know. I prefer someone that understands

1075
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 1: my life for sure, I understand someone. I would prefer

1076
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:21,400
Speaker 1: someone who is okay, was is open to talking about sex,

1077
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 1: because that helps our relationship if you do it, if

1078
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:28,359
Speaker 1: you do it all the time, especially as a man,

1079
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 1: I feel like it makes it a lot easier in

1080
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:33,400
Speaker 1: the relationship because are all assumptions because I have experiences

1081
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:39,800
Speaker 1: that's true. But uh, do I want my man talking

1082
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 1: about his sex life on the internet as long as

1083
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:46,680
Speaker 1: it's I don't really I don't really mind it as

1084
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 1: long as like I'm not hearing some shit for the

1085
00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:52,719
Speaker 1: first time on the podcast, which I've been guilty of.

1086
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 1: But I've had to learn my lessons in that as well.

1087
00:50:56,239 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 1: Then then No, I mean I couldn't. I couldn't be upset.

1088
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:04,920
Speaker 1: Now are there other qualities about myself that I don't

1089
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:07,480
Speaker 1: that I would date? No, I don't want to date me.

1090
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: I need someone who's like a lot more aloof than me,

1091
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:13,279
Speaker 1: Like I need someone who's a little lighter, who's like

1092
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 1: more funny, Like I'm funny bitch, but I'm like kind

1093
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:18,279
Speaker 1: of like I'm like a serious funny bitch, and I

1094
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:20,799
Speaker 1: need to make it that's goofy, like that's Those are

1095
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 1: the kind of men that I like, and not light

1096
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:30,919
Speaker 1: skin specifically, you know, like at all, like a nigga

1097
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:32,960
Speaker 1: you try to see to night is light skin you mean,

1098
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:34,080
Speaker 1: so full of shit bitch is.

1099
00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:35,479
Speaker 3: But I'm not.

1100
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:41,360
Speaker 1: Men that I like. Like, I like dark skinned men period.

1101
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 2: I like a light skin man with a beard. But

1102
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 2: I also like just find men. I like people, and

1103
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 2: I like fine men, and I preferably like a man.

1104
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 2: I like men who are open and and open minded

1105
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 2: and again and like are curious about trying your stuff too,

1106
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:59,200
Speaker 2: and like not I try to date a nigga who

1107
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:02,400
Speaker 2: was so fucking vanilla and it was over forty, and

1108
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:03,919
Speaker 2: I was like, how have you lived your whole life

1109
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 2: with this big ass stick being vanilla as hell in

1110
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 2: the bed?

1111
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 1: This is the worst. And he was very in his

1112
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:14,279
Speaker 1: head about thinking that I was so sexually you know, experienced,

1113
00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 1: which I am, that he couldn't like live up to

1114
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:18,400
Speaker 1: these standards.

1115
00:52:18,840 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 2: And he couldn't he didn't have those tools. But if

1116
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:25,400
Speaker 2: he wasn't so in his head, maybe shit, try, Like

1117
00:52:25,719 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 2: I don't think he was sexual enough, and I don't

1118
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:30,359
Speaker 2: think he was in touch with his sexuality at all.

1119
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 2: I think he had been so guarded and to me,

1120
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,600
Speaker 2: like sex is important to me, pleasure is important to me,

1121
00:52:35,640 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 2: and I liked it, like that's a part of intimacy

1122
00:52:38,080 --> 00:52:40,480
Speaker 2: that I enjoyed, like learning and laughing in the bedroom,

1123
00:52:40,520 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: and like, you know, not that there has to be pressure,

1124
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 2: but if it's something that you're over forty and you

1125
00:52:45,040 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 2: haven't poured into at all, you haven't tapped into it,

1126
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 2: you haven't even scratched the surface because you just don't care.

1127
00:52:50,080 --> 00:52:53,400
Speaker 2: You'd rather hike. Yeah, no, it's not that's not probably

1128
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 2: not compatible in that way.

1129
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:57,600
Speaker 3: Right because I had. I had a dude a couple

1130
00:52:57,640 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 3: of years ago. He was forty ish dinner, but he

1131
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 3: was very like, very vanilla. He We're just gonna do

1132
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 3: regular sex peanuts with John six. That's it. That's that's

1133
00:53:06,880 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 3: all he would do. And he was not interested in

1134
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:11,319
Speaker 3: doing anything else. Like I was like, are you gonna

1135
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 3: try it? Is? No, I'm good. He just could you know.

1136
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:17,399
Speaker 3: He just was strictly just we're gonna do this right here,

1137
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:19,360
Speaker 3: what I've been doing for the last thirty years. I

1138
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:21,800
Speaker 3: ain't trying to announce. This works for all the other bitches,

1139
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 3: so why don't work for you?

1140
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: Right?

1141
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1142
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:30,520
Speaker 1: So now, oh, to be a trailblazer. It's a lonely,

1143
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:35,399
Speaker 1: lonely path. Once there were three young ladies, but now

1144
00:53:35,440 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 1: they're old. They're old and together and dickless.

1145
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 2: Yes, because the men could not handle the trail blazer.

1146
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: They've trailed the way.

1147
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 3: But.

1148
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 2: Then the forest tucked behind the trees, making tinctures, spinster masturbating.

1149
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: Oh god, well, Ashley, Yes, I have some questions for

1150
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:05,759
Speaker 1: you from ours. So we have one young lady who's

1151
00:54:05,800 --> 00:54:09,880
Speaker 1: written into the show, and she wants to know is

1152
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:13,040
Speaker 1: it natural to go through waves of feeling hyper sexual

1153
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 1: and non sexual or should it be balanced?

1154
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 3: It's natural because I go through that, like I go

1155
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:20,799
Speaker 3: through it. I went through this whole uh not too

1156
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:23,120
Speaker 3: long ago, this whole phase of I wasn't even like

1157
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:25,839
Speaker 3: remotely interested in him A six. I don't know if

1158
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 3: it was like seasonal or what, but I was like,

1159
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 3: I'm good or I didn't even want to masturbate, like

1160
00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 3: I'm good, I don't. I don't want to. It's natural.

1161
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 3: I think it's hormonal sometimes with us. Sometimes sometimes it

1162
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:36,240
Speaker 3: can be seasonal, but it's it's natural.

1163
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:36,480
Speaker 1: I don't.

1164
00:54:36,520 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 3: I think people feel like you're supposed to be like

1165
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 3: horny all.

1166
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:43,600
Speaker 1: The time, and I feel the same way. I've gone through.

1167
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:45,920
Speaker 1: I've definitely had moments where literally I felt like I

1168
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 1: was in heat and I was just like it was

1169
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 1: it's yeah, it's nuts. And then there's moments where I'm like,

1170
00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 1: i'd be like I should master rate, and then I

1171
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 1: just forget. I'm like, I don't feel like like it yeah,

1172
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 1: or like I know that I can have sex, but

1173
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:03,239
Speaker 1: I just I'll go through like it. Sometimes it'll be

1174
00:55:03,239 --> 00:55:07,359
Speaker 1: months where I don't really feel like it. I think

1175
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 1: that happened more so though after I went, I started

1176
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 1: abstaining from sex, and I just got used to it

1177
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,359
Speaker 1: and then started having sex again. And then it took

1178
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:19,719
Speaker 1: me a it took me a second to kind of

1179
00:55:19,760 --> 00:55:25,800
Speaker 1: get back into like the mindset of like my body

1180
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 1: wants to have sex.

1181
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:29,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, because like once you like for me, like I'm

1182
00:55:29,400 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 3: not in a relationship, so honestly, to be honest, I

1183
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:39,680
Speaker 3: have I have bursts of when I have like six frequently,

1184
00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:41,880
Speaker 3: Like if I'm dating someone, of course we have six regularly

1185
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 3: for a couple months, then I'll be single again. For

1186
00:55:44,040 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 3: got on to howel loan so I'm used to I

1187
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:49,240
Speaker 3: can I can go probably a year or two probably

1188
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 3: and just this massive bay and just be fine. But

1189
00:55:52,040 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 3: because I've been doing it for so long, right.

1190
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 1: A speaking masturbation, I have a question for you. If

1191
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:02,680
Speaker 1: you use a vibrator exclusively, mm hm, can you break

1192
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 1: your clip?

1193
00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 3: Break it not?

1194
00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:08,400
Speaker 1: Like can you like become desensitized? And does it last forever?

1195
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:09,399
Speaker 1: Can you get it back?

1196
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:12,160
Speaker 3: Yes? So what happens is when you use a vibrator

1197
00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:14,359
Speaker 3: like so I use like a wand all the time,

1198
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:18,719
Speaker 3: that's my my vibrator of choice. So my body and

1199
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 3: my brain are used to that sensation. Right, that's what

1200
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 3: I use all the time because I know no man.

1201
00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:26,640
Speaker 3: So when I get a man, right, it's gonna be

1202
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 3: harder for him to make me come because I'm used

1203
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:36,439
Speaker 3: to that WAND hits and you know humans can't do Kate.

1204
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 1: Do you think the wand can like fuck your clip up?

1205
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:40,919
Speaker 3: Up mine?

1206
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 1: But like so what do you mean like beat it up?

1207
00:56:42,800 --> 00:56:45,799
Speaker 3: Like you don't use all the time? You use like

1208
00:56:46,080 --> 00:56:46,799
Speaker 3: some right loop.

1209
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 1: You fine, but what's the one?

1210
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:52,320
Speaker 2: But you're putting it on your clip like it's like

1211
00:56:52,400 --> 00:56:53,760
Speaker 2: peanut folic shaped.

1212
00:56:54,160 --> 00:56:56,960
Speaker 3: No, the WAND is like, let me tell your picture

1213
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:58,839
Speaker 3: like the wind like on Sex and the City.

1214
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:03,640
Speaker 1: The wands like you can put it in you. Okay,

1215
00:57:03,640 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 1: you can put it in you, but you mostly.

1216
00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:07,160
Speaker 3: Just well I use the one who can't put in you.

1217
00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 3: So like I have different I have several different ones.

1218
00:57:10,400 --> 00:57:13,880
Speaker 3: So like this one, oh, the want the back massager?

1219
00:57:15,239 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 3: So I have the microphone, yes, the microphone, So I

1220
00:57:18,240 --> 00:57:20,120
Speaker 3: have three. I have want to you plug in this

1221
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 3: size kind of miniager? Want to have several one? I

1222
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:27,920
Speaker 3: have to go to toy anyway. So I used all

1223
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:30,440
Speaker 3: the time with right lube. It works, but my body's

1224
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 3: used to me use no one, and so when I

1225
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 3: have when I when I get a partner, I'm probably

1226
00:57:34,240 --> 00:57:36,400
Speaker 3: gonna I know, I'm going to have to not messurbate

1227
00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:38,400
Speaker 3: with the wine for a while and get my body

1228
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:41,040
Speaker 3: used to a human touch. That's all you have to do.

1229
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I need to chill off the vibrators.

1230
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:44,280
Speaker 3: That's it.

1231
00:57:44,560 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, I was like, am I like desensitizing

1232
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:50,320
Speaker 1: my pussy? Like if I have sex? Like I was

1233
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:52,120
Speaker 1: having sex and I was rubbing my clip and I

1234
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 1: was like this, I feels going to be so much

1235
00:57:53,560 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 1: better with a vibrator. And I was thinking, I was

1236
00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:58,200
Speaker 1: like this is great. But like I've used a vibrate

1237
00:57:58,240 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 1: doing of course, so have I I don't want to

1238
00:58:00,960 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 1: have to every time like that, you know, like it

1239
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 1: let me let me help you out, I know, but

1240
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 1: like sometimes you just want to have it, you know,

1241
00:58:09,480 --> 00:58:11,760
Speaker 1: you want to have some vanilla bomb ass. That's true,

1242
00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 1: you know. And I'm like, I don't want to damage

1243
00:58:14,360 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 1: my clitoris because I'm a vibrating kind of bitch. I really,

1244
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: I you know what, Like I like to hump things.

1245
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:23,560
Speaker 2: And also like if I put the vibrator on for

1246
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 2: like five like thirty seconds. I'm just it's gonna be over.

1247
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:28,120
Speaker 2: I can come really quickly. Maybe I need to work

1248
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 2: on that. That's when I dive into my tantrum.

1249
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 1: You have to breathe through it. I have to tease yourself.

1250
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:35,040
Speaker 1: You have to make it work for you. You can't

1251
00:58:35,120 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 1: just go and.

1252
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:38,320
Speaker 3: You even put it like less than other place to

1253
00:58:38,880 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 3: other place on your vobile and you have to just

1254
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:43,040
Speaker 3: put you like travel glitters and move it down and

1255
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 3: go back up and circle.

1256
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:47,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know. I just rather a man.

1257
00:58:47,640 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 2: But also wait, okay, so I found I have a discovery.

1258
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:56,479
Speaker 2: I is. I'm so excited. I know, like I got

1259
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:59,520
Speaker 2: I finally invested in the roads that everybody's talking about

1260
00:58:59,520 --> 00:59:01,640
Speaker 2: on the internet. I normally it's fuck to the game,

1261
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 2: but I ordered it from Tastes Vitamin. This is not

1262
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:08,440
Speaker 2: an ad I specifically, And Yo.

1263
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:13,479
Speaker 1: What the fuck? Like, what the fuck that motherfucker there?

1264
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:16,160
Speaker 1: I was like, oh shit, I like you said one time.

1265
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 3: Is that your first suction toy?

1266
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 2: Excuse me, no, but that shit because it vibrates and

1267
00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 2: it sections and it's small, I don't know, you can

1268
00:59:23,800 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 2: like sit on top of it.

1269
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:30,320
Speaker 1: Yo. I was like, this is dangerous. She texted me,

1270
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:36,680
Speaker 1: she said, because actually I got one, and she was mad.

1271
00:59:36,760 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: She was so pissed that I got it, and she

1272
00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:41,560
Speaker 1: got another vibrator from this brand okay, and she was like,

1273
00:59:41,600 --> 00:59:43,720
Speaker 1: where the fuck is my rose? She even emailed the

1274
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:46,960
Speaker 1: brand and was like, so I saw that Erica got

1275
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:50,120
Speaker 1: the rose and I did it. And literally the subject

1276
00:59:50,160 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 1: line was where is my rose? That was the subject

1277
00:59:53,120 --> 00:59:56,439
Speaker 1: line to the brand. And I was like, wow, lucky,

1278
00:59:56,520 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 1: this brand is a friend of ours, right, Psycho? Did

1279
01:00:00,440 --> 01:00:02,760
Speaker 1: I really make the subjects? It was? I was like,

1280
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:05,480
Speaker 1: this bitch is crazy. And she was like, where is

1281
01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:10,720
Speaker 1: my rose? Question? Mark eyes ogyesy so. And then she

1282
01:00:10,760 --> 01:00:13,240
Speaker 1: wrote the message and they were like, we did it

1283
01:00:13,240 --> 01:00:15,840
Speaker 1: on purpose. We wanted you each to have a different one.

1284
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:19,120
Speaker 1: And obviously they love me more. They sent me the road.

1285
01:00:19,520 --> 01:00:23,720
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, talk about favoritism. It's cool. I

1286
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 1: ordered it.

1287
01:00:24,640 --> 01:00:25,640
Speaker 3: Did you like your ropes?

1288
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:30,200
Speaker 1: Yes? I did? I did. I like all those section toys.

1289
01:00:30,200 --> 01:00:31,800
Speaker 1: She was like, sorry, I used it already, I'd let

1290
01:00:31,840 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 1: you have it. I was like, I remember when the

1291
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:38,880
Speaker 1: first womanizer came out. That was like when I tried that,

1292
01:00:39,160 --> 01:00:40,920
Speaker 1: that was a game changer for me. I was like,

1293
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:46,919
Speaker 1: is it other suction toys. Sometimes it takes it takes

1294
01:00:46,960 --> 01:00:50,520
Speaker 1: a little adjusting. You gotta everyone's clip is different, it's

1295
01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 1: behind different things. You got to adjust ship and but

1296
01:00:54,840 --> 01:00:57,000
Speaker 1: but there's some there's specific toys. I feel like that

1297
01:00:57,160 --> 01:01:00,320
Speaker 1: really like kind of curate to like all include sieve

1298
01:01:00,400 --> 01:01:03,240
Speaker 1: body because it's hard. It's hard to have one toy

1299
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:07,720
Speaker 1: for all women. It really is impossible. Yeah, it's kind

1300
01:01:07,720 --> 01:01:10,920
Speaker 1: of like trying to find your like makeup shade and

1301
01:01:10,960 --> 01:01:14,560
Speaker 1: like me, like us trying to find the same shape, Like, no, bitch,

1302
01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:16,000
Speaker 1: now you need another toy.

1303
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:17,680
Speaker 3: Yes, it doesn't work.

1304
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:22,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, So anyway, that was my question. We have a

1305
01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 1: few one okay, so okay, where did the questions go?

1306
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:31,600
Speaker 1: Can y'all have her talk about men getting over their

1307
01:01:31,640 --> 01:01:34,840
Speaker 1: fear of anal play? How does a man get over

1308
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:38,520
Speaker 1: his fear of anal play? You as me a bunch

1309
01:01:38,560 --> 01:01:39,280
Speaker 1: of women this question?

1310
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:40,320
Speaker 3: Is he a black man?

1311
01:01:41,840 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 1: I know this girl, so I'm gonna assume yes.

1312
01:01:43,680 --> 01:01:50,640
Speaker 3: Black man. Black men. Black men typically either follow the

1313
01:01:50,640 --> 01:01:55,560
Speaker 3: category of hell no and maybe so if he's like

1314
01:01:55,600 --> 01:01:58,440
Speaker 3: a strictly hell no, does I just don't even bother

1315
01:01:58,840 --> 01:02:01,040
Speaker 3: because you know, because some and the I'm strictly against

1316
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:02,400
Speaker 3: I don't want you to try to cource me to

1317
01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 3: do it. So if he's like, no, I'm good and

1318
01:02:04,280 --> 01:02:09,520
Speaker 3: just leaving me. But if he's like maybe right, so

1319
01:02:09,560 --> 01:02:11,560
Speaker 3: then you can work your way up like doing like

1320
01:02:11,600 --> 01:02:15,360
Speaker 3: the you know, working paraneum, using like a vibrator on

1321
01:02:15,480 --> 01:02:17,960
Speaker 3: like the anus, you know, stuff like that. We can

1322
01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:20,680
Speaker 3: do stuff that's outplay without sticking our fingers and stuff in.

1323
01:02:20,760 --> 01:02:22,800
Speaker 3: See if he likes that first, and then you can

1324
01:02:22,840 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 3: work work your way into sticky things in there. You

1325
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:27,520
Speaker 3: be surprised. I like, I know men who like there

1326
01:02:27,720 --> 01:02:29,240
Speaker 3: their ass lick yould be surprised with me.

1327
01:02:29,280 --> 01:02:32,760
Speaker 1: And I think, yeah, start looking the balls a lot there,

1328
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:38,040
Speaker 1: start there, like maybe like take a few sessions, and

1329
01:02:38,120 --> 01:02:40,720
Speaker 1: if you're gonna invest in this man, yeah, if he's

1330
01:02:40,720 --> 01:02:42,320
Speaker 1: like a long term man, to do a couple of

1331
01:02:42,400 --> 01:02:43,560
Speaker 1: jokes like you let me.

1332
01:02:43,920 --> 01:02:46,840
Speaker 2: I'm not just kidding, Yeah, a little ice smacking around

1333
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 2: the house, but something.

1334
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, but some people, some people really I just know,

1335
01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:54,200
Speaker 1: I don't know like that. I don't know if that's

1336
01:02:54,240 --> 01:02:56,440
Speaker 1: a necess necessary tip. I love it.

1337
01:02:56,760 --> 01:02:58,560
Speaker 2: It's gets you used to I'm hey, I'm man, if

1338
01:02:58,560 --> 01:03:01,080
Speaker 2: you're coming in, I guess it isn't.

1339
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:02,640
Speaker 1: Like black men. I don't know.

1340
01:03:02,760 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess some men would be cool. It

1341
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:06,280
Speaker 3: just kind of depends on the man. You have to

1342
01:03:06,320 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 3: know what what men you have, and then you'll be surprised. Honestly,

1343
01:03:09,600 --> 01:03:11,880
Speaker 3: some man I think it's at the level of do

1344
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:15,600
Speaker 3: they trust you one trust? Are they comfortable with you?

1345
01:03:15,720 --> 01:03:17,320
Speaker 3: Do you feel like we're gonna try to You're gonna

1346
01:03:17,320 --> 01:03:20,520
Speaker 3: tell your friends not to be able to trust you that, Okay,

1347
01:03:20,560 --> 01:03:22,200
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do this, and it's not going to be

1348
01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:24,400
Speaker 3: around town that you know, I'll let you play in

1349
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:25,360
Speaker 3: my ass to.

1350
01:03:25,520 --> 01:03:27,440
Speaker 1: You're definitely gonna tell your friends, you.

1351
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:29,480
Speaker 2: Know, but you'd be surprised to be careful what you

1352
01:03:29,520 --> 01:03:30,920
Speaker 2: asked for a girl, because I play with a few

1353
01:03:30,960 --> 01:03:33,400
Speaker 2: niggas that ask for the first time and they are crackheads.

1354
01:03:33,520 --> 01:03:36,240
Speaker 1: Yeah I want to do They're like, oh my god,

1355
01:03:36,320 --> 01:03:38,040
Speaker 1: you make it feel so open and comfortable. I can't

1356
01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:41,400
Speaker 1: tell anybody else. Can I come over? I'm like, no,

1357
01:03:41,800 --> 01:03:48,160
Speaker 1: I don't feel like that right now, ask somebody else what.

1358
01:03:48,680 --> 01:03:50,840
Speaker 1: So one of these questions are about booty play. Why

1359
01:03:51,200 --> 01:03:53,840
Speaker 1: bitches are just dying to play with men's booties, like

1360
01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:54,800
Speaker 1: just begging for it.

1361
01:03:55,440 --> 01:03:57,560
Speaker 3: Pagan is like a training topic for last.

1362
01:03:57,760 --> 01:04:00,200
Speaker 1: Because whitemen are feeling really empowered. They're just ready to

1363
01:04:00,240 --> 01:04:02,320
Speaker 1: just fully go it step into their dom role like

1364
01:04:02,480 --> 01:04:07,160
Speaker 1: they're getting their energetic penises. Maybe this is a question

1365
01:04:07,200 --> 01:04:08,840
Speaker 1: that I is it gay if a man likes to

1366
01:04:08,920 --> 01:04:14,320
Speaker 1: ask like no or fingered no, or wants wait, or

1367
01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 1: wants a woman to be or wants to be a

1368
01:04:16,480 --> 01:04:20,560
Speaker 1: woman's slave. No, no, no, no no. Those are all

1369
01:04:20,640 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 1: kinks and things of pleasure. My husband hasn't made me

1370
01:04:24,720 --> 01:04:27,840
Speaker 1: come in months. I asked him to go down on

1371
01:04:27,880 --> 01:04:33,480
Speaker 1: me and he laughs. What the fuck? He laughs? He laughs? Divorce.

1372
01:04:33,920 --> 01:04:36,360
Speaker 2: I would order the rose and stare him in the

1373
01:04:36,400 --> 01:04:38,680
Speaker 2: eye while you play with it, and just like take

1374
01:04:38,680 --> 01:04:40,960
Speaker 2: your time and then come really hard in front of

1375
01:04:41,040 --> 01:04:42,720
Speaker 2: him and look super happy after and.

1376
01:04:42,640 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 1: Just get up. You think they'll because then he'll be

1377
01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:45,640
Speaker 1: like I want to do that.

1378
01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:48,120
Speaker 2: Maybe his like his testosterone will be like jealousy and

1379
01:04:48,160 --> 01:04:50,320
Speaker 2: he'll try to he'll try to like fuck that toy.

1380
01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:54,800
Speaker 3: So I wonder I'm not done. Oh, okay, there's more. Continue.

1381
01:04:54,880 --> 01:04:56,640
Speaker 1: My husband hasn't made me come in months. I asked

1382
01:04:56,680 --> 01:04:58,960
Speaker 1: him to go down on me and he laughs. Meanwhile,

1383
01:04:59,120 --> 01:05:02,040
Speaker 1: I let him come all over me. How do I

1384
01:05:02,080 --> 01:05:04,360
Speaker 1: get to how do I get him to respect my

1385
01:05:04,560 --> 01:05:09,240
Speaker 1: sexual desires? I don't want sex to be transactional, like

1386
01:05:09,280 --> 01:05:11,280
Speaker 1: you make me come once, I make you come once.

1387
01:05:11,320 --> 01:05:11,920
Speaker 1: I'm dying.

1388
01:05:12,880 --> 01:05:18,360
Speaker 3: So first of all, I wonder is him eating you out?

1389
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:20,120
Speaker 3: Has that been the thing he hasn't done ever?

1390
01:05:22,400 --> 01:05:24,880
Speaker 1: It sounds like he did it before, but she didn't

1391
01:05:24,920 --> 01:05:26,640
Speaker 1: say that. She just says he laughs, I asked to

1392
01:05:26,680 --> 01:05:28,480
Speaker 1: go down on me and he laughs. Did you guys

1393
01:05:28,480 --> 01:05:29,400
Speaker 1: take the pinky promise?

1394
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:32,120
Speaker 3: And then y'all just started fucking Like there's a thing

1395
01:05:32,240 --> 01:05:36,440
Speaker 3: like women like you know, there's certain things I need

1396
01:05:36,480 --> 01:05:39,439
Speaker 3: in order to keep continuing having sex with people. So

1397
01:05:39,640 --> 01:05:42,320
Speaker 3: it's certain things I know I need. You're not doing.

1398
01:05:42,360 --> 01:05:44,960
Speaker 3: We're not gonna have sex, right, so she needs she

1399
01:05:45,000 --> 01:05:47,840
Speaker 3: needs to stop. I stop having sex with him and

1400
01:05:47,880 --> 01:05:50,560
Speaker 3: be like, okay too, it's both, we're both getting pleasure.

1401
01:05:50,960 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 3: I'll just really do my own thing.

1402
01:05:54,280 --> 01:05:58,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah listening, Yeah you think it's funny. Yeah, I

1403
01:05:58,640 --> 01:06:00,080
Speaker 1: know a nigga who doesn't think it's fun.

1404
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:02,480
Speaker 3: Because because because I can, I can beat you at

1405
01:06:02,480 --> 01:06:04,919
Speaker 3: your game. Don't fuck with me just like.

1406
01:06:04,920 --> 01:06:07,840
Speaker 1: Well, he's not a priority priority to you. I can

1407
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:11,000
Speaker 1: pay someone like, there's there's options, let's talk about it,

1408
01:06:11,200 --> 01:06:11,880
Speaker 1: and you won't like it.

1409
01:06:12,000 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 3: You won't like the options.

1410
01:06:13,600 --> 01:06:16,680
Speaker 1: And also, I know women and nobody women, nobody, no

1411
01:06:16,720 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 1: woman wants to feel like I'm forcing you to get

1412
01:06:18,240 --> 01:06:18,720
Speaker 1: my pussy.

1413
01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:20,280
Speaker 2: That's what we're not gonna do. If I have to

1414
01:06:20,280 --> 01:06:22,040
Speaker 2: have this conversation with you again, I'm not gonna even

1415
01:06:22,080 --> 01:06:25,360
Speaker 2: want you to. And that's the problem.

1416
01:06:25,520 --> 01:06:25,919
Speaker 1: That's true.

1417
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:28,400
Speaker 3: She needs she needs to stop having sex with him

1418
01:06:28,480 --> 01:06:32,320
Speaker 3: all together and just be like, okay until we both mutually.

1419
01:06:32,160 --> 01:06:36,880
Speaker 1: She's putting on a show over there order yeats's all

1420
01:06:36,920 --> 01:06:39,240
Speaker 1: the stops and what the fun?

1421
01:06:39,880 --> 01:06:43,400
Speaker 3: He has no reason to do to change why because

1422
01:06:43,400 --> 01:06:46,560
Speaker 3: he can airthing he wants, he gets, he's he's enjoying sex,

1423
01:06:46,920 --> 01:06:48,600
Speaker 3: so he has no reason to do any better.

1424
01:06:50,200 --> 01:06:58,080
Speaker 1: Okay, girl, see sex immediately hear me the sex? Well

1425
01:06:58,080 --> 01:07:00,560
Speaker 1: those are That's that concludes the question that we have

1426
01:07:00,680 --> 01:07:03,160
Speaker 1: for today. I don't know. Do we have a horry

1427
01:07:03,200 --> 01:07:04,880
Speaker 1: we can share? I feel like we should have a

1428
01:07:04,880 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 1: horror story to share. Did we have any that they

1429
01:07:08,840 --> 01:07:12,880
Speaker 1: look and you know, so you say you don't have

1430
01:07:12,920 --> 01:07:14,600
Speaker 1: no sex, Actually don't have no horror stories.

1431
01:07:15,120 --> 01:07:28,960
Speaker 3: Actually sex life is real plain things. I had six October. No, yeah, October.

1432
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:29,800
Speaker 1: Was it good?

1433
01:07:30,680 --> 01:07:32,800
Speaker 3: Yes, it was good. Actually it was with the person

1434
01:07:32,840 --> 01:07:33,520
Speaker 3: I was dating at the.

1435
01:07:33,440 --> 01:07:36,600
Speaker 1: Time, Okay, got it? So that I hate when that happens,

1436
01:07:36,600 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 1: when you stop dating them and then you can't get

1437
01:07:38,200 --> 01:07:40,400
Speaker 1: the sex anymore. I have one of those. I have

1438
01:07:40,440 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 1: a crazy guy that I his sex is so good,

1439
01:07:42,760 --> 01:07:46,640
Speaker 1: but he's so crazy that, like I can't sleep with him,

1440
01:07:46,760 --> 01:07:49,960
Speaker 1: but I dream about his sex. It's really fucked up.

1441
01:07:52,040 --> 01:07:52,320
Speaker 3: Different.

1442
01:07:52,600 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I forgot.

1443
01:07:53,160 --> 01:07:54,240
Speaker 3: That's why you can't count bodies.

1444
01:07:55,880 --> 01:08:00,480
Speaker 1: The counting bodies? Oh my god, who does that? Yeah?

1445
01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:03,560
Speaker 3: Not mean because we're guessing if I'm counting, because I

1446
01:08:03,560 --> 01:08:04,560
Speaker 3: don't know.

1447
01:08:04,280 --> 01:08:07,840
Speaker 1: Who's count Yeah, but men really do want that. They

1448
01:08:07,880 --> 01:08:08,720
Speaker 1: want that purity.

1449
01:08:08,880 --> 01:08:10,720
Speaker 3: I just want to ask me that before in all

1450
01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:12,760
Speaker 3: of my my thirty seven years of living I.

1451
01:08:12,680 --> 01:08:14,800
Speaker 1: Have, I've had many men ask me that. Boy once,

1452
01:08:14,880 --> 01:08:17,519
Speaker 1: I had boys asked me that, like t in high school,

1453
01:08:18,240 --> 01:08:18,760
Speaker 1: grown as.

1454
01:08:18,840 --> 01:08:22,080
Speaker 3: Forty year old man. One one one grown man asked

1455
01:08:22,120 --> 01:08:25,880
Speaker 3: me what's my body count? And I was like, like,

1456
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:27,599
Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't know what it is.

1457
01:08:27,840 --> 01:08:29,400
Speaker 1: What you said, Yeah, I was like, I was like,

1458
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:31,519
Speaker 1: did you ask him his No? I don't care.

1459
01:08:31,680 --> 01:08:34,439
Speaker 3: I was like, what, No, I don't. I don't know.

1460
01:08:34,479 --> 01:08:35,880
Speaker 3: Why do you want to know? But I just want

1461
01:08:35,920 --> 01:08:39,240
Speaker 3: to know. I pick a number, that's what it is.

1462
01:08:40,520 --> 01:08:43,559
Speaker 1: I don't know one right, And then you're like what

1463
01:08:43,600 --> 01:08:45,679
Speaker 1: you want to hear? Okay, shut the fuck up. It's

1464
01:08:45,680 --> 01:08:49,080
Speaker 1: this plic it's on me three that that makes it better? Now,

1465
01:08:49,200 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 1: like what diffence make ray? I'm like, you're gonna fuck

1466
01:08:52,360 --> 01:08:55,760
Speaker 1: me either way, so so it doesn't matter. It doesn't

1467
01:08:56,160 --> 01:08:59,120
Speaker 1: that's my favorite thing. I guess it doesn't matter like.

1468
01:08:59,439 --> 01:09:01,680
Speaker 3: Lot was, as long as we get tested and we're

1469
01:09:01,720 --> 01:09:05,000
Speaker 3: both whatever. It doesn't even matter what what didn't fuck

1470
01:09:05,040 --> 01:09:07,720
Speaker 3: your friend, your daddy, your brother, It doesn't.

1471
01:09:07,439 --> 01:09:10,759
Speaker 1: Matter, not your dad, matter is that will happened?

1472
01:09:10,880 --> 01:09:15,240
Speaker 3: Okay? Especial age, you can fuck your daddy or you Oh.

1473
01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 1: God, oh god. I had a friend whose dad would

1474
01:09:17,640 --> 01:09:18,360
Speaker 1: tried to fuck me.

1475
01:09:19,040 --> 01:09:21,759
Speaker 3: Is a cute No, okay, because some dads are cute.

1476
01:09:22,760 --> 01:09:24,559
Speaker 1: I like, fifty year old man, you do is out

1477
01:09:24,600 --> 01:09:25,320
Speaker 1: your age? That's like that?

1478
01:09:25,439 --> 01:09:26,960
Speaker 3: No, well, my age teen years old than me, so

1479
01:09:27,040 --> 01:09:29,719
Speaker 3: forty seven, forty eight ish, but it's almost at fifty

1480
01:09:30,320 --> 01:09:32,880
Speaker 3: so you know, hey, but there are some fifty four

1481
01:09:32,960 --> 01:09:36,840
Speaker 3: year old people not fifty four fifty two wish and

1482
01:09:36,960 --> 01:09:39,760
Speaker 3: fourish people that I know currently who you know, Mike

1483
01:09:39,760 --> 01:09:42,720
Speaker 3: could get it are very handsome and you know, built, and.

1484
01:09:43,040 --> 01:09:44,840
Speaker 1: I like an older man. That's like my thing.

1485
01:09:45,160 --> 01:09:48,400
Speaker 2: I'd like like a salt and pepper kind of middle age,

1486
01:09:48,600 --> 01:09:53,520
Speaker 2: like dablished, established, extra resources, yeah, very excessive resources.

1487
01:09:53,520 --> 01:09:55,639
Speaker 1: Maybe a Porsche. Yeah.

1488
01:09:55,720 --> 01:09:58,720
Speaker 2: I had like grown children, yeah, grown grown children that

1489
01:09:58,800 --> 01:09:59,960
Speaker 2: are with their mother.

1490
01:10:00,520 --> 01:10:05,479
Speaker 1: You rubbing your hands her, plotting on her. Extra old man.

1491
01:10:06,920 --> 01:10:13,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, you have lotion on your hands? What I'm high?

1492
01:10:13,680 --> 01:10:15,439
Speaker 1: I was really envisioning him. I saw it.

1493
01:10:15,560 --> 01:10:18,120
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, she's I think that maybe our

1494
01:10:18,160 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 3: guys are to be older men. You think, I.

1495
01:10:21,600 --> 01:10:24,200
Speaker 1: No, Well, I don't know. Then if they had older

1496
01:10:24,200 --> 01:10:25,519
Speaker 1: guys and then I'm like, are you too tired?

1497
01:10:25,520 --> 01:10:28,720
Speaker 2: Like if they start getting sleepy before around me, I

1498
01:10:28,760 --> 01:10:30,760
Speaker 2: start sleep, I'm like, this is not gonna work.

1499
01:10:31,200 --> 01:10:32,960
Speaker 1: They're like either older men are always already sat in

1500
01:10:33,000 --> 01:10:35,400
Speaker 1: their ways and their ideals and blah blah blah, or

1501
01:10:35,439 --> 01:10:36,400
Speaker 1: they don't give a fuck. Now.

1502
01:10:36,400 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 2: Older men usually have more like I feel like, I

1503
01:10:38,560 --> 01:10:41,080
Speaker 2: think you're right. Older men have more respect for women

1504
01:10:41,200 --> 01:10:44,040
Speaker 2: like us. I think they they are seasoned enough to

1505
01:10:44,120 --> 01:10:44,880
Speaker 2: know that.

1506
01:10:45,439 --> 01:10:49,320
Speaker 1: I think they they don't care. They're still single. I'm

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01:10:49,320 --> 01:10:50,360
Speaker 1: still single at six.

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01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:53,759
Speaker 3: And they like, Okay, I don't really need the whole

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01:10:53,840 --> 01:10:57,519
Speaker 3: like typical wife thing are had she divorced theiring wife

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01:10:57,520 --> 01:11:00,080
Speaker 3: two or three. By now, their kith of grown, not

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01:11:00,200 --> 01:11:03,799
Speaker 3: looking really for typically a mother because their kids are

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01:11:03,840 --> 01:11:06,240
Speaker 3: they are teenagers, are grown, so they kind of like more.

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01:11:07,120 --> 01:11:09,759
Speaker 1: I think they're more smart so they recognize real.

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01:11:10,040 --> 01:11:13,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, they've been through that food. Yeah already. So if

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Speaker 3: you're forty eight or fifty looking at this, Hello there, Hi,

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01:11:18,240 --> 01:11:19,560
Speaker 3: my name is Erica.

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01:11:19,840 --> 01:11:26,960
Speaker 1: I'm Mila. I'm lots of fun. I cannot we must

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01:11:26,960 --> 01:11:28,360
Speaker 1: travel though I can cook. We can.

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01:11:28,439 --> 01:11:28,639
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:29,800
Speaker 1: Oh do you guys follow that.

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01:11:29,800 --> 01:11:33,000
Speaker 2: There's a couple online. There's like a like they always dancing.

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01:11:33,040 --> 01:11:36,840
Speaker 2: But it's like an older Latin like gray haired, find.

1523
01:11:36,640 --> 01:11:40,800
Speaker 1: Sexy cool got like cool daddy. Yeah I know you do,

1524
01:11:41,320 --> 01:11:43,479
Speaker 1: send him, send me. They can dance.

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01:11:43,680 --> 01:11:45,880
Speaker 2: He's like like spicy gus we wearing cool glasses and

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01:11:46,000 --> 01:11:47,760
Speaker 2: nice suits. He looks like he has ship to do.

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01:11:48,000 --> 01:11:50,640
Speaker 2: That's another thing. Older men who have money like have

1528
01:11:50,760 --> 01:11:52,479
Speaker 2: shit to do. They're not't worry about you, like yeah,

1529
01:11:52,560 --> 01:11:54,719
Speaker 2: go bye. They're like, you want to go do your podcast?

1530
01:11:54,800 --> 01:11:55,559
Speaker 2: Cool commed later, I.

1531
01:11:55,920 --> 01:11:57,680
Speaker 3: Want to be fucked. When they want to be fucked.

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01:11:57,720 --> 01:11:59,559
Speaker 1: They don't care. They have ship to do. If you

1533
01:11:59,560 --> 01:12:01,200
Speaker 1: have a nigga shit to do, he ain't thinking about

1534
01:12:01,200 --> 01:12:04,000
Speaker 1: what you're doing. Really like if he knows who you

1535
01:12:04,000 --> 01:12:05,320
Speaker 1: are and he has ship to do.

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01:12:05,439 --> 01:12:07,439
Speaker 3: That's the older one. For the young actually still do

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01:12:07,520 --> 01:12:09,280
Speaker 3: care a little bit because they're still trying to like

1538
01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:11,840
Speaker 3: build like this whole family ideal in their head.

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01:12:11,920 --> 01:12:14,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, they haven't learned like already done that.

1540
01:12:15,080 --> 01:12:17,160
Speaker 3: I need I need. I like men who there's just.

1541
01:12:17,080 --> 01:12:19,120
Speaker 1: Certain body types that I can't get past. With the

1542
01:12:19,160 --> 01:12:22,640
Speaker 1: older man. It's like the hangy like the skin is

1543
01:12:22,640 --> 01:12:26,040
Speaker 1: a little looser, the titties, like the nipples are facing downward,

1544
01:12:26,600 --> 01:12:28,640
Speaker 1: like there's just a few. But I don't want and

1545
01:12:28,800 --> 01:12:32,160
Speaker 1: one day my titties anna be touching the floor. I know, huh,

1546
01:12:32,800 --> 01:12:34,439
Speaker 1: but I don't want to do that. I don't want

1547
01:12:34,439 --> 01:12:37,400
Speaker 1: to do that. But so I don't know. I'm conflicted.

1548
01:12:38,040 --> 01:12:42,120
Speaker 1: I found a whory quick one. Now you're conflicted on

1549
01:12:42,520 --> 01:12:47,240
Speaker 1: older bodies. It's not the amount of bodies, it's the

1550
01:12:47,320 --> 01:12:50,080
Speaker 1: age of the body. This is my problem. We don't

1551
01:12:50,080 --> 01:12:53,639
Speaker 1: believe in ageism. I'm not, but I'm gonna get old

1552
01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:55,200
Speaker 1: one day and I'm going to watch this video and

1553
01:12:55,240 --> 01:12:56,360
Speaker 1: hate myself.

1554
01:12:55,880 --> 01:12:58,479
Speaker 3: But can I say, well, I know.

1555
01:12:58,560 --> 01:13:00,639
Speaker 2: My more concern is if they work at that age,

1556
01:13:00,680 --> 01:13:03,759
Speaker 2: you have to be very healthy and active, correct, because

1557
01:13:03,880 --> 01:13:04,920
Speaker 2: we need that, you know.

1558
01:13:05,000 --> 01:13:06,599
Speaker 1: And that's another thing you don't know. You can get

1559
01:13:06,640 --> 01:13:08,960
Speaker 1: married early and then well how long are they going

1560
01:13:09,000 --> 01:13:10,640
Speaker 1: to be healthy and active? Because if you marry them

1561
01:13:10,640 --> 01:13:12,519
Speaker 1: at that age, only five more years or like a

1562
01:13:12,600 --> 01:13:15,080
Speaker 1: whole other age, Like it's a whole other you know,

1563
01:13:15,360 --> 01:13:18,599
Speaker 1: we're in another time. He went from we went from

1564
01:13:18,640 --> 01:13:20,960
Speaker 1: saxty to sixty to sixty to seventy, and you're still

1565
01:13:21,240 --> 01:13:27,280
Speaker 1: thirty seven. But I'm just saying, you gotta like, no,

1566
01:13:27,400 --> 01:13:29,240
Speaker 1: you gotta pick the golden age. You gotta pick the cold.

1567
01:13:30,000 --> 01:13:32,639
Speaker 1: You gotta not too not too young, not too good

1568
01:13:32,680 --> 01:13:36,240
Speaker 1: age old, but not too old because healthy many years.

1569
01:13:36,360 --> 01:13:41,120
Speaker 1: Daisy's fifty, How many acts this person? Active years? Is important? Yeah?

1570
01:13:41,160 --> 01:13:43,880
Speaker 1: How many active years can I get out of you

1571
01:13:43,920 --> 01:13:44,639
Speaker 1: in my young age?

1572
01:13:45,280 --> 01:13:48,160
Speaker 3: About twenty years? So I'm thirty seven, so twenty years

1573
01:13:48,200 --> 01:13:50,040
Speaker 3: i'll be fifty seven. I'd be almost sixty so.

1574
01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:52,240
Speaker 1: No, but I'll give him till seventy five they're still

1575
01:13:52,840 --> 01:13:54,040
Speaker 1: and then what am I supposed to do? And then

1576
01:13:54,040 --> 01:13:55,880
Speaker 1: at that point I can have other lovers. Well, you

1577
01:13:55,880 --> 01:13:59,040
Speaker 1: know that's that's that's kind of that, that's that's kind

1578
01:13:59,080 --> 01:13:59,639
Speaker 1: of the black when.

1579
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:04,040
Speaker 3: Have short line, expect to see, don't see. Yeah, they

1580
01:14:04,080 --> 01:14:07,200
Speaker 3: have the high the highest mortality, right, blackmess, So you're dying.

1581
01:14:06,960 --> 01:14:13,200
Speaker 2: At so we can't even go older. The most morbid

1582
01:14:13,320 --> 01:14:16,160
Speaker 2: sex show ever. Okay, I have a horri This is

1583
01:14:16,160 --> 01:14:19,160
Speaker 2: from our slack. If you guys haven't joined Patreon, join

1584
01:14:19,240 --> 01:14:21,120
Speaker 2: Patreon so you can find tribe and slack.

1585
01:14:21,479 --> 01:14:23,240
Speaker 1: You can you know, meet up with other people in

1586
01:14:23,280 --> 01:14:23,759
Speaker 1: your city.

1587
01:14:23,880 --> 01:14:26,439
Speaker 2: You can leave horries because we all need a place

1588
01:14:26,439 --> 01:14:30,160
Speaker 2: to tell a friend. And we have just a lot

1589
01:14:30,160 --> 01:14:31,640
Speaker 2: of cool stuff going on over there, a lot of

1590
01:14:31,680 --> 01:14:32,720
Speaker 2: a lot of secret.

1591
01:14:32,400 --> 01:14:34,400
Speaker 1: Chats like the link in our episode description.

1592
01:14:35,280 --> 01:14:45,280
Speaker 2: Anyway, here's her horih stories. My on again, off again

1593
01:14:45,520 --> 01:14:47,240
Speaker 2: X was coming into town for a visit and I

1594
01:14:47,280 --> 01:14:49,320
Speaker 2: was supposed to pick him up originally, but he got

1595
01:14:49,360 --> 01:14:52,280
Speaker 2: an attitude and told me don't bother. So I helped

1596
01:14:52,320 --> 01:14:54,479
Speaker 2: up with this beautiful, fre girls faced girl I matched

1597
01:14:54,479 --> 01:14:57,800
Speaker 2: with on bumble She was gorgeous, eager, and naked from

1598
01:14:57,840 --> 01:14:59,599
Speaker 2: the waist down when I walked in the door.

1599
01:15:00,800 --> 01:15:02,920
Speaker 1: Take it from the waist down. We just, like god,

1600
01:15:02,960 --> 01:15:05,200
Speaker 1: a shirt off and her pussy was out clearly. Well

1601
01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:08,559
Speaker 1: God damn, she was ready. I need to get on bubble. Okay,

1602
01:15:10,479 --> 01:15:12,040
Speaker 1: I just had a whole visual a nice.

1603
01:15:11,960 --> 01:15:15,719
Speaker 2: Freckle fished girl. Yeah wow, I like freckles too. After

1604
01:15:15,760 --> 01:15:18,280
Speaker 2: a glass of red and a brief conversation, we were

1605
01:15:18,400 --> 01:15:22,400
Speaker 2: naked and thoroughly enjoying each other. That food was that full,

1606
01:15:22,560 --> 01:15:25,719
Speaker 2: was blowing my phone up the entire time. We came

1607
01:15:25,840 --> 01:15:29,519
Speaker 2: and I left with the half hearted promise to return sometime.

1608
01:15:30,160 --> 01:15:31,800
Speaker 2: I called him back when I got in the car,

1609
01:15:31,880 --> 01:15:34,799
Speaker 2: and long, hoary short, I had her on my breath

1610
01:15:34,800 --> 01:15:36,800
Speaker 2: while I picked him up. I brought him back to

1611
01:15:36,840 --> 01:15:40,040
Speaker 2: my house and I fucked him too. That's what the

1612
01:15:40,080 --> 01:15:41,120
Speaker 2: fuck I'm talking about.

1613
01:15:41,200 --> 01:15:45,360
Speaker 1: Okay, little wine, little freckle face pussy, you got the

1614
01:15:45,400 --> 01:15:47,400
Speaker 1: best of all the worlds. Baby, You got pussy and

1615
01:15:47,520 --> 01:15:50,880
Speaker 1: dick every one, one day, twenty four hours, got to

1616
01:15:50,920 --> 01:15:54,200
Speaker 1: explore all parts of your sexuality. You win, yes and

1617
01:15:54,200 --> 01:15:56,640
Speaker 1: and alone like you didn't have to share. It was

1618
01:15:56,720 --> 01:15:59,400
Speaker 1: That's great. I was good. Congratulations.

1619
01:16:02,160 --> 01:16:04,800
Speaker 2: Can you tell our listeners where they can find you, Ashley?

1620
01:16:05,120 --> 01:16:08,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you can find me on Instagram at six.

1621
01:16:08,880 --> 01:16:13,439
Speaker 1: With oh wait, we didn't do the tarot? Okay, wait, actually,

1622
01:16:13,479 --> 01:16:15,240
Speaker 1: can you share an affirmation? Oh?

1623
01:16:15,280 --> 01:16:18,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, so did we do anything? No, there's an affirmation

1624
01:16:18,240 --> 01:16:22,639
Speaker 3: that I found. I really feel like to me. So

1625
01:16:23,000 --> 01:16:26,719
Speaker 3: this one says my pussy is magic and my sex

1626
01:16:26,840 --> 01:16:27,840
Speaker 3: is sacred.

1627
01:16:28,360 --> 01:16:32,479
Speaker 1: My pussy is magic and my sex is sacred. Oh

1628
01:16:32,600 --> 01:16:34,519
Speaker 1: I received that. I'm gonna write that down.

1629
01:16:34,560 --> 01:16:38,200
Speaker 2: My pussy is magic and my sex is sacred. That

1630
01:16:38,280 --> 01:16:39,759
Speaker 2: shit is motherfucking true.

1631
01:16:40,200 --> 01:16:41,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is true.

1632
01:16:43,240 --> 01:16:48,879
Speaker 2: Today Ashley pulled the five of car the five of Cups,

1633
01:16:50,720 --> 01:16:52,400
Speaker 2: and the five of Cups looks a little scary when

1634
01:16:52,439 --> 01:16:55,439
Speaker 2: you turn it over. A cloaked man and a dark

1635
01:16:55,520 --> 01:16:59,640
Speaker 2: cloak facing the water. The water is running behind him, like,

1636
01:17:00,320 --> 01:17:02,519
Speaker 2: and there's five cups.

1637
01:17:02,520 --> 01:17:03,799
Speaker 1: Two three are.

1638
01:17:04,080 --> 01:17:06,080
Speaker 2: Are knocked over. And now that I look closer, it

1639
01:17:06,120 --> 01:17:07,400
Speaker 2: looks like maybe there's blood.

1640
01:17:08,280 --> 01:17:10,040
Speaker 3: If this is something bad, it don't tell me no.

1641
01:17:09,920 --> 01:17:12,800
Speaker 1: No, no's wine.

1642
01:17:13,360 --> 01:17:19,680
Speaker 3: Okay, so not know someone's dying today.

1643
01:17:20,280 --> 01:17:22,080
Speaker 2: The Five of Cups shows a man in a long

1644
01:17:22,120 --> 01:17:24,479
Speaker 2: black cloak looking down on three cups. And have been

1645
01:17:24,560 --> 01:17:28,519
Speaker 2: knocked over, symbolic of his disappointments and failures. Behind him

1646
01:17:28,680 --> 01:17:32,599
Speaker 2: stand two cups representing new opportunities and potential. But because

1647
01:17:32,640 --> 01:17:35,360
Speaker 2: he is so fixed on his losses the overturned cups,

1648
01:17:35,560 --> 01:17:39,240
Speaker 2: he misses the opportunities available to him. The background, a

1649
01:17:39,240 --> 01:17:41,240
Speaker 2: bridge crosses a large flowing river that leads to the

1650
01:17:41,320 --> 01:17:44,080
Speaker 2: security of the castle or home on the opposite side

1651
01:17:44,080 --> 01:17:48,400
Speaker 2: of the river bank. If only he could move over,

1652
01:17:48,920 --> 01:17:51,320
Speaker 2: move over the turn cups the bridge is a message

1653
01:17:51,360 --> 01:17:54,240
Speaker 2: to build a bridge and get over it. The five

1654
01:17:54,280 --> 01:17:56,719
Speaker 2: of cups often appears in taro reading when a situation

1655
01:17:56,800 --> 01:17:59,439
Speaker 2: hasn't turned out the way you expected and you were sad, regretful,

1656
01:17:59,479 --> 01:18:02,479
Speaker 2: and disappointment. Instead of moving on with your life, you

1657
01:18:02,520 --> 01:18:05,200
Speaker 2: were choosing to wallow and your self pity. All you

1658
01:18:05,200 --> 01:18:07,120
Speaker 2: can focus on right now is what went wrong and

1659
01:18:07,160 --> 01:18:10,719
Speaker 2: how you failed. Sweetheart, it's time to get over it. Sure,

1660
01:18:10,880 --> 01:18:13,519
Speaker 2: feel the feels, but set yourself up a time limit

1661
01:18:13,600 --> 01:18:15,920
Speaker 2: for your self pity, and then pull yourself together and

1662
01:18:15,960 --> 01:18:18,680
Speaker 2: move on. The five o' cup suggests you're stuck in

1663
01:18:18,680 --> 01:18:21,559
Speaker 2: the past and can't let go. Old moons and bitter

1664
01:18:21,680 --> 01:18:24,360
Speaker 2: memories fledge your mind as you think about what happened,

1665
01:18:24,640 --> 01:18:26,880
Speaker 2: you may blame yourself or believe you're a victim of

1666
01:18:26,920 --> 01:18:30,360
Speaker 2: life circumstances. These emotions are holding you back.

1667
01:18:30,920 --> 01:18:32,920
Speaker 3: Ooh, that's very relatable.

1668
01:18:33,479 --> 01:18:33,800
Speaker 1: It is.

1669
01:18:34,320 --> 01:18:39,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, so, uh, short story. So I was talking to

1670
01:18:39,439 --> 01:18:43,120
Speaker 3: my ex yesterday yesterday, yes yesterday. He's getting married.

1671
01:18:46,560 --> 01:18:49,519
Speaker 1: Well, thank you Ashley for coming on. Do you guys

1672
01:18:49,520 --> 01:18:51,720
Speaker 1: make sure you check out our episode description. All of

1673
01:18:51,760 --> 01:18:53,640
Speaker 1: Ashley's info is in there. Make sure you guys go

1674
01:18:53,760 --> 01:18:57,719
Speaker 1: follow her. Make sure you follow our Patreon, follow our Twitter,

1675
01:18:58,120 --> 01:19:00,600
Speaker 1: just follow us everywhere. We'd be funny saying shait we

1676
01:19:00,680 --> 01:19:04,800
Speaker 1: be talking stuff. Sometimes we're smart. Everything is in the

1677
01:19:04,800 --> 01:19:24,439
Speaker 1: episode description. So see you next week. Bye bye mm

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Speaker 1: hm