WEBVTT - RYAN'S ROSES- The Playdates

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<v Speaker 1>One or two point seven kiss FM. All right, is

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<v Speaker 1>it time for Ryan's roses? Yes it is. Let's get

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<v Speaker 1>to this now. So here's the email from medicoul in Torrance.

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<v Speaker 1>Dear Ryan, insistenly, I think my wife is cheating on

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<v Speaker 1>me with a dad from our son's school. Okay, Manice,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for coming on. Let's get some information here.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds complicated. So why is it you think your

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<v Speaker 1>wife's cheating on you with the dad? Well, um, we

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<v Speaker 1>basically started doing these play dates with a dad from

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<v Speaker 1>our school because he's single and he's got his son

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<v Speaker 1>who's about the same age as our sons. So we

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<v Speaker 1>basically agreed to start doing these play dates. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>basically the breadwinner, so I'm working full time. My wife's home,

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<v Speaker 1>so my wife is the one who is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>orchestrating these play dates. And oh, I'm kind of nervous. Sorry. Basically,

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<v Speaker 1>I just the play dates have gotten to be more frequent,

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<v Speaker 1>and at this point, like there's time she comes home

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<v Speaker 1>from these play dates. Her name is Angela. Um, like

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<v Speaker 1>smelling like wine, So I'm like, hmm, that's a little uncomfortable,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, why is there drinking happening? On play dates

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<v Speaker 1>with kids. And also like I don't know, I just

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<v Speaker 1>feel like when they text, so they're on their own,

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<v Speaker 1>separate like text threads, and they're like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, when you're just got just tells you like

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<v Speaker 1>she's just overly happy. She's always really excited when they're texting,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like, my heart of hearts is just telling

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<v Speaker 1>me like these are Dude's the dace that she should

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<v Speaker 1>make when I'm texting her her wife, not like some

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<v Speaker 1>random dad you know from our school. So I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just hate that I feel this way. But can

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<v Speaker 1>I ask you, okay, you think you don't trust your wife?

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<v Speaker 1>And why do you think she's with the man? Oh? Um, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>she seems like a lot, right, yeah. I mean she's

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<v Speaker 1>been with men in the past, so maybe it's my

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<v Speaker 1>insecurity even like to think that, I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 1>maybe maybe it's my insecurity thinking like maybe she's not

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<v Speaker 1>really happy. A lot of it could be a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of nothing. It could be a narrative that you've created.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what you're you're saying? I mean yes and no,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you know, like you know, when you have

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<v Speaker 1>that gut feeling and in the past when I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>listen to my gut, I always got burned. My guy

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<v Speaker 1>is just telling me it's it's weird. Here's the good news.

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<v Speaker 1>We will do everything we can to try and get

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<v Speaker 1>you some peace of mind. Here, try and find out

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<v Speaker 1>what the truth is. Do you want us to who

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<v Speaker 1>do you want us to call? Who are we calling?

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<v Speaker 1>So my thought was, my my wife is not very

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<v Speaker 1>lovey dovey, So I don't know if you've called her

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<v Speaker 1>about flowers that she even like give you the time

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<v Speaker 1>of day. So I felt like if you called him,

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<v Speaker 1>being that he's single, like he might send them to her. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let's get into this next here stand by, we will

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<v Speaker 1>We'll call him. We'll see who's top of mind, and

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<v Speaker 1>see if we can find out what's going on on

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<v Speaker 1>air with Ryan Seacrest. We're in Ryan's roses right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Medicol is married. She thinks her wife is hooking up

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<v Speaker 1>with a dad, cheating on her with a dad from school,

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<v Speaker 1>because the play dates have gotten frequent and they're spending

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of time alone together. And she said she

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<v Speaker 1>smells like wine when she comes back from this father's

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<v Speaker 1>this other parents house. So she thinks that some cheating

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<v Speaker 1>is going on with this manic. Um, your wife's name

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<v Speaker 1>is Angela. Let's see who's top of mind here. When

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<v Speaker 1>we offer him the roses, We're gonna call him to

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<v Speaker 1>one or two. Seven is the number stand by after

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<v Speaker 1>this if you want to chime in, but Medico, we

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<v Speaker 1>need you to say Ryan, you my permission to call,

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<v Speaker 1>and then his name on Kissam go ahead. Okay, Um, Ryan,

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<v Speaker 1>you have my permission to call. We're gonna call him

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Okay, okay, come phone, Okay, here we go,

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<v Speaker 1>good luck? All right? Hey, thanks? Hell Hi, can I

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<v Speaker 1>speak to Chris please? This is Chris. Hi, Chris. My

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<v Speaker 1>name is Landon. I'm calling from blooms in South Bay.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you doing? I'm doing good. How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good? Thank you for taking my call. We actually

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<v Speaker 1>deliver in Redondo, Torrance, Manhattan, and today we're offering local

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<v Speaker 1>residents a promotion of a free dozen red roses. That

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<v Speaker 1>means you can send them to anybody that you like.

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<v Speaker 1>They are free. I don't need cash, credit card, anything

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<v Speaker 1>like that. Um, just the name of the person you

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<v Speaker 1>want to send them to in a note. Oh well,

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<v Speaker 1>I got bad news. I'm single, so I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>have anybody to send them to. Oh, there's nobody that

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<v Speaker 1>you want to send free flowers to? Mm hmm, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I guess, I guess you could send them

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<v Speaker 1>my sister. Um, okay, anybody else. You're not you're not

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<v Speaker 1>dating anybody or anybody that's romantic in your life that

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<v Speaker 1>you'd want to send them to. No, I'm like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm single, you know, I mean, like, do you mean

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<v Speaker 1>my sister's address? Though her name is Emily? Okay, Emily. Hey, Chris,

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<v Speaker 1>your voice is being broadcast on the radio. My name

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<v Speaker 1>is Ryan Seacrest. You are on the air with us.

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<v Speaker 1>We're calling you about a situation. If you just have

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<v Speaker 1>a second, here are you? If I say the name Angela?

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<v Speaker 1>Does that do you know someone named Angela? Yeah? Our

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<v Speaker 1>kids play together great. Can you tell me about your

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with Angela? Um? Yeah, I mean, like she's a

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<v Speaker 1>cool person, and our kids play together and hang out

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. And when you hang out a lot, how

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<v Speaker 1>do y'all hang out? What do you do? What are

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<v Speaker 1>the kids doing? Just some context here, Um, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>just like normal parents stuff, just you know, like kids

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<v Speaker 1>watch stuff like Paw Patrol and you know, stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 1>We just hang out and chol whatever. I'm any little

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<v Speaker 1>help here. Um, Angela is married to Madrissa. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>aware of that? Yes? Yeah, I'm aware. It has been

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<v Speaker 1>brought to my attention that Angela Medico's wife will come

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<v Speaker 1>home from your play dates after maybe having some glasses

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<v Speaker 1>of wine. Is that the case? I mean yes, sure,

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<v Speaker 1>like she'll bring over some wine every once in a while,

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<v Speaker 1>she'll bring it for the both of us, I guess,

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, like I don't drink that much. So

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<v Speaker 1>is there any attraction to Angela? Do you have any

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<v Speaker 1>attraction to her? Uh? I mean I wouldn't say I'm

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<v Speaker 1>attracted to her, but like I think she's a good person,

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<v Speaker 1>and like I said, she's married, and like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>do that kind of stuff. So, Chris, I have marry

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<v Speaker 1>Soul on the line, and if you can just stay

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<v Speaker 1>on for a second. She believes something's going on between

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<v Speaker 1>you and her wife and Angela. Can you speak to

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<v Speaker 1>that to her? Mary Soul? Okay him, Yeah I do.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you tell Chris, why do you feel this? Mary Soul? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean my wife comes home smelling like wine. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys text consistently like we're trying to have our quality

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<v Speaker 1>time at night, and I feel like you guys are

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<v Speaker 1>texting and I don't know, Like these play dates started

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<v Speaker 1>once every few weeks and now it's a weekly thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And like my son told me, like he doesn't even

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<v Speaker 1>like like I mean, he doesn't even I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>plays like he says, like he's like kind of over it,

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<v Speaker 1>Like he's not even that close with your son, So

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<v Speaker 1>why do we keep having these like play dates. I

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<v Speaker 1>just feel like there's investment happening here, and it's not

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<v Speaker 1>the investment that I expect from my wife into other relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I know that if she is going outside

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<v Speaker 1>in my marriage, she's not going to tell me. But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm hoping you have the decency to let me know,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you're that sounds like something you need to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to your wife about. If you're feeling is kind

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<v Speaker 1>of were having these issues, like you should probably really

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<v Speaker 1>talk to her, talk to her because something is happening,

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<v Speaker 1>like are you sleeping with my wife? It's not that simple,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm sorry, I gotta go, Like you you should

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<v Speaker 1>probably talk to her. I'm I'm guessing my sister is

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<v Speaker 1>not getting flowers, like I don't know what's going on here,

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<v Speaker 1>but you really should talk to her. But yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna I really gotta get going here, Chris, thank you

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<v Speaker 1>very much for your time. So I don't know that

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't believe Chris. I think Chris seemed pretty transparent

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<v Speaker 1>with us on the phone. I don't know. Well, what

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<v Speaker 1>about talking to your wife? Can you be direct with

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<v Speaker 1>your wife Angela about this now? This call? Well, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I have to be. I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>have to be because obviously, like this is going to

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<v Speaker 1>get back to her, so I feel like I have

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<v Speaker 1>to put it out there and have them Yeah. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's number one. But something definitely is going on.

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<v Speaker 1>She's going over there. They're having in depth conversations at

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<v Speaker 1>the very least, they're having a most you know, but

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<v Speaker 1>do you think she's cheating? It was weird and I

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<v Speaker 1>think you guys are gonna agree. Ryan, Like when he

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<v Speaker 1>was like you were like are you attracted to her?

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<v Speaker 1>And he's like she's a good person, Like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know who does that? I mean, my wife is hot.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like if you knew he was on

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<v Speaker 1>the radio talking to you, like, why would he put

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<v Speaker 1>himself out if he was like, yeah, she's hot, like

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<v Speaker 1>we hooked up. Like if he knowingly was on the

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<v Speaker 1>radio in that moment like that, that was just a

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<v Speaker 1>weird absordiny. My wife is beautiful, like she she's a model,

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<v Speaker 1>she's beautiful, So for him to say she's like a

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<v Speaker 1>good person was kind of awkward. Well, here's what we

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<v Speaker 1>discovered them. You're uncomfortable regardless of what is happening, because

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<v Speaker 1>this is happening. So that's the point. And if you're uncomfortable,

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<v Speaker 1>we got to solve that. So I think you need

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<v Speaker 1>to go to your wife and talk about this conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to go to your wife. I need to

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<v Speaker 1>find out what's going on and then get to why

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<v Speaker 1>you're feeling uncomfortable and how you resolve that. And if

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<v Speaker 1>your wife loves you and there's nothing going on, she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do what she needs to do. Are you comfortable,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you think? I think so? I feel like you're right.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to have this conversation with Angela as soon

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<v Speaker 1>as you can. I well, it'll be a very uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>Gotta be uncomfortable, but you gotta go through that before

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<v Speaker 1>you get to the good news, right or the good

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<v Speaker 1>stuff for the betterness. So good luck to you and

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<v Speaker 1>let usself anything else we can do. Medicinal Ryan, you

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<v Speaker 1>you need a career in marriage therapy because I think

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<v Speaker 1>you got it. Well. One can give advice, can't take

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<v Speaker 1>their own. All right, you take care. You heard it here.

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<v Speaker 1>First side hustle marriage therapy, Well you probably need some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of degree for that. But marriage