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Speaker 1: Second date updated.

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Speaker 2: There's two types of people that you're going to meet

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Speaker 2: in the dating world. The neurotic uptight over planners like

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Speaker 2: Brook who have to schedule out every minute of the

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Speaker 2: entire evening months in advance, or they won't even have

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Speaker 2: a good time.

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Speaker 3: Is that true?

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Speaker 4: I can't show up on time for anything, let alone

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Speaker 4: like over planet.

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Speaker 3: Do you not know me?

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Speaker 2: Brook was literally yelling at me to put it in

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Speaker 2: your schedule.

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Speaker 1: Chap, put it in your schedule, and you're gonna forget you.

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Speaker 5: Have to travel for work and you're not gonna show up.

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Speaker 2: Okay, neurotic and then there's the chill suave go with

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Speaker 2: the flow.

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Speaker 1: Types like me.

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Speaker 2: I knew that they can make a good time happen

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Speaker 2: with anyone in any bathroom at any truck stop.

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Speaker 1: At any time. That's my promise. The tea has to

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Speaker 1: be a truck stop.

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Speaker 2: And one of our listeners says he's also the go

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Speaker 2: with the flow type, but he's worried it may have

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Speaker 2: been his undoing on his date. His name is Russell,

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Speaker 2: but we're gonna call him Russ, and he's not going

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Speaker 2: to fight us because he's chill with it.

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Speaker 1: What's up, Russ?

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Speaker 3: Nothing much. Yes, I am gonna go with the flow, dude,

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Speaker 3: that's for sure.

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Speaker 5: Guy, Russ is just like water. What I got it? Okay,

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Speaker 5: Then to every need.

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Speaker 1: Container, we have to turn this into like a physics

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Speaker 1: lest is the opposite of him. Yeah, let's let's let

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Speaker 1: me lead this conversation the chill type.

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Speaker 2: So, Russ, why don't you tell us about how you

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Speaker 2: how you met this person that you went out with.

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Speaker 1: What's her name by the way, her.

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Speaker 2: Name is Whitney, Okay, and how did you meet her?

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Speaker 3: Well, we met at this place. I probably shouldn't say

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Speaker 3: the name, but it's one of those drinking and dark places,

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Speaker 3: a bar.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I know that's what I was thinking to you.

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Speaker 3: I mean it's one of those newer places that electronically

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Speaker 3: keep score of the darts as you go, like you

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Speaker 3: know that place pop golf. Yeah, yeah, it's like that,

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Speaker 3: but for dark.

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Speaker 4: So again, it's just taking like old bar games and

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Speaker 4: charging better, charging people more for able excess.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I met Whitney there.

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Speaker 3: I was there with coworkers and she was part of

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Speaker 3: the group next to us.

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Speaker 1: You just met her in the wild.

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Speaker 3: In the wild, how.

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Speaker 5: Did you approach her? Like, how did you guys, strike

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Speaker 5: up a conversation.

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Speaker 3: I'm super totally naturally. Like, there's these tables between our

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Speaker 3: groups and we were sharing them to set drinks on

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Speaker 3: and she set hers down and I was just like

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Speaker 3: said to her, how's it going? You know? That's it?

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Speaker 5: Good pickup line?

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Speaker 1: Nice?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And she just leaned in and said, I'm just

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Speaker 3: going really good. And she whispered to me. She said,

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Speaker 3: because I'm cheating.

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Speaker 5: How do you cheat at an electronic games?

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Speaker 2: You're talking about darts, not about like relationships, right, funny,

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Speaker 2: that's awesome.

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Speaker 4: Were you able to get a date out of that

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Speaker 4: meeting or is this your one hangout?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I asked her as it was coming to a close,

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Speaker 3: I was like, hey, do you want to have Can

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Speaker 3: I get your phone? Ever? We want to hang out

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Speaker 3: sometime And she said yes.

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Speaker 1: That's awesome. So you spun that into a date a

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Speaker 1: few days later? Is that what happened?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? The next week?

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Speaker 5: Okay, what'd you guys do?

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Speaker 3: I didn't have a plan. I just said I'll come

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Speaker 3: pick you up if you're comfortable with that, and we

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Speaker 3: can just drive into the city and figure out something

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Speaker 1: Or there's a lot of truck stops outside of the city,

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Speaker 1: which also guide you to that. But you know, city

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Speaker 1: is one way to do it. Where'd you go?

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Speaker 3: Well, so we drove in and I wasn't hungry, and

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Speaker 3: then I asked her if she wanted to get something

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Speaker 3: to eat, and she said she wasn't hungry either.

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Speaker 2: Oh, never trust that you didn't you should have still

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Speaker 2: bought her food.

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Speaker 1: Bro, I've learned from that mistake.

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Speaker 5: So what did you guys? Did you go get a

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Speaker 5: drink somewhere?

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Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, let's go get a drink. And

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Speaker 3: she's really not actually a big drinker. And it was

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Speaker 3: a week night and I was like, all right, so

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Speaker 3: no drinking, no food. I don't want to go sit

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Speaker 3: in a movie theater, you know. So we just drove around.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, wait, you you did what?

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Speaker 3: We drove around? That's it.

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Speaker 5: That was the day, just driving for how long?

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Speaker 3: About an hour and less than an hour and a half.

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Speaker 5: Was on like a pretty road or is this stop

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Speaker 5: like traffic?

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Speaker 1: Does that make a difference to you slightly?

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Speaker 3: I mean it was night and there were stop lights.

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Speaker 3: There was not some scenic drive in the country. No,

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Speaker 3: it was driving around in the city.

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Speaker 5: Okay, So now do you regret not having a plan.

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Speaker 3: Yes, honestly, she would admit it.

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Speaker 1: Well, how did that night end?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 1: Was it just driving the whole time?

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's about it. But but it wasn't as awkward

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Speaker 3: as it sounds like. That's the thing. We were talking

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Speaker 3: about our family, talking about our lives or work, and

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Speaker 3: you know, she was laughing. I was laughing, So it

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Speaker 3: wasn't like as painful as it sounds.

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Speaker 4: But I also I also wonder if it wasn't painful

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Speaker 4: for you because you had something else to do, like drive,

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Speaker 4: She's just sitting there.

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Speaker 5: It suggests something at that point.

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Speaker 2: Maybe we ended on a high note when they finished

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Speaker 2: the evening.

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Speaker 1: How did you guys leave it?

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Speaker 3: I dropped her off and we said we would do

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Speaker 3: it again. Do that again, no, I said, I joked,

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Speaker 3: and I said, you know, next time we'll have a destination.

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Speaker 3: And she was into it, you know. I said, let's

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Speaker 3: get to dinner, let's be hungry. Maybe a weekend.

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Speaker 2: And since then, how many times have you driven by

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Speaker 2: her house quietly?

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 1: How long has.

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Speaker 3: It been since since that night? It's been just.

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Speaker 5: Over a week, okay, and you've heard nothing or little.

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Speaker 3: Bit I only text her twice. She responded to the

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Speaker 3: first text and not to the second one. I'm not

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Speaker 3: going to keep bugging her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you can.

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Speaker 5: We're gonna You're gonna let us bugger.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna come back and we're going to try

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Speaker 2: and play it cool and suave.

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Speaker 1: But we're going to take a page out.

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Speaker 2: Of Brooks dating life and have a little bit of

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Speaker 2: a plan and ask her questions.

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Speaker 5: Small plan.

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Speaker 1: We won't yell at her and demand that she put

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Speaker 1: it in the calendar.

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Speaker 5: But more effective, wellfly.

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Speaker 2: Approach her and try and get you a second date

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Speaker 2: update right after this.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, man, hold on second date update.

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Speaker 2: You know what, I'm proud of our listener, Russell, because

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Speaker 2: he listens to his dates and gives them exactly what

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Speaker 2: they want. Whitney said she wasn't hungry, no food. She said,

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Speaker 2: she wasn't thirsty, no drinks.

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Speaker 1: She said she didn't really feel like doing anything.

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Speaker 2: And her wish is his command. They're just gonna drive

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Speaker 2: around the city and talk and talk.

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Speaker 1: Until they bore themselves to tears. Your wish is his command.

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Speaker 4: Until she said, Okay, I think it's time to drive

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Speaker 4: me home, right home.

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Speaker 1: Exactly what he did.

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Speaker 2: So why isn't our man getting a call back today?

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Speaker 2: I just hope she doesn't complain that he didn't set

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Speaker 2: anything up and plan out a date, because if he does,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to rush to his defense.

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Speaker 1: Brook if that happens, Would that turn you on too much?

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Speaker 2: Because I could dial back my natural heroic qualities.

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Speaker 1: If that's going to be a problem, I see.

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Speaker 4: I didn't know what you're referring me to be turned

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Speaker 4: on by my heroism?

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Speaker 1: That oozes out of my.

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Speaker 5: I feel safe, okay.

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Speaker 1: Russell, do you feel safe?

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Speaker 3: I feel safe?

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Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, Russell.

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Speaker 4: I mean I think we know what we're gonna hear here,

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Speaker 4: but I think it's going to be easy to get

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Speaker 4: you another chick.

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Speaker 1: What are we going to hear here?

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Speaker 5: That she was bored? It was a boring date?

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Speaker 1: Why do you always bring them down right before we do?

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Speaker 1: Why do you always do that?

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Speaker 2: I think she's gonna I think it's going to be

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Speaker 2: a scheduling conflict and she wasn't bored at all, or

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm the one bringing the.

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Speaker 1: Moon between there. There, we'll find it. Okay, let's hope.

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Speaker 3: There's somewhere in between there.

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Speaker 5: The part is actually kind of good news. It's not

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Speaker 5: your fault that.

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Speaker 1: Because they didn't kiss.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, did you guys kiss?

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Speaker 3: No, we didn't because.

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Speaker 2: She didn't ask for a kiss. If she had asked

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Speaker 2: for one, though, he would have planted one on her.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's still cheating, like my husband drive for an

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Speaker 4: hour with a random woman in a car that.

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Speaker 1: Went Michael, if you're listening, turn the car round. Now,

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Speaker 1: we gotta get back to business.

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Speaker 3: Here.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna call Whitney. Let's dial her number and see

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Speaker 2: if she picks up. Here we go, Hello, Hi, We're

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Speaker 2: looking to speak to Whitney.

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Speaker 5: Speaking Hello Whitney.

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Speaker 6: Hi, who's this.

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Speaker 1: We like the sound of your voice. We're a radio show.

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Speaker 5: She's got what.

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Speaker 2: We're a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in

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Speaker 2: the Morning.

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Speaker 1: Are you serious? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Not all the time, but right now, Okay.

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Speaker 1: We're wacky.

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Speaker 2: We do try and do some fun stuff like Alexis

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Speaker 2: tell him about it.

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Speaker 4: We call people good good.

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Speaker 1: Good question. Because we do.

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Speaker 2: This segment is called a second date update, and that's

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Speaker 2: where we try and help listeners get another date after

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Speaker 2: they went out with someone one time and want to

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Speaker 2: see him again.

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Speaker 6: Oh okay, that makes sense.

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Speaker 2: So one of our listeners has asked us to reach

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Speaker 2: out to you specifically.

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Speaker 1: His name is Russell. Oh you remember Russell. You guys

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Speaker 1: like drove around the city for a while.

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Speaker 5: He asked you out after you guys met at that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we did.

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Speaker 6: I was out with my sister, my best friend, her husband,

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Speaker 2: Know, well that's great, but we want to talk about

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but we do know your sister is probably great.

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Speaker 1: She's awesome.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the whole family, I'm sure. But what did you

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Speaker 6: He was okay, okay, okay looking.

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Speaker 5: Oh oh.

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Speaker 1: Just call him ugly.

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Speaker 4: It's better than okay, okay, hold on, though he pulls

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Speaker 5: I mean, you'd already met him in person and agreed

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I didn't know fully about him. But after

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Speaker 6: And sometimes that's positive.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes that can be.

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Speaker 4: Negative, okay, And it can't change the way you're attracted

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Speaker 2: So what did you learn that changed your mind about him?

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Speaker 6: He lived with his parents?

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Speaker 4: Oh well that was okaytable.

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Speaker 6: He's co dependent on his parents.

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Speaker 5: Who wait wait wait, wait, go hold on. I think

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Speaker 2: I mean yeah, I mean we've definitely heard other listeners

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Speaker 5: In between roommates.

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Speaker 4: I mean, there's so many different reasons why you would

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Speaker 2: We thought it may have been something that he like

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Speaker 3: It sounds like.

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Speaker 6: No, no, no, he didn't do anything wrong. But he

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Speaker 1: Provide, Okay.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know we've heard that as a deal

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Speaker 2: I can understan why you wouldn't want to bring that

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Speaker 6: It's a deal breaker.

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Speaker 5: How come? Like, why is it for you?

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Speaker 6: Because he needs to have his own money, he needs

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Speaker 4: Okay, you're like an independent woman who's out on your own,

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I do wonder what Russell would have to say about that,

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Speaker 2: because I need to let you know, Whitney, he is

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Speaker 4: He is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, another thing we do, right, But Russell is there?

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Speaker 3: All right? I think, Yes, I am on the line,

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Speaker 3: and I'm just it blows me away to hear you

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Speaker 6: Wait what, Oh, yes, I do live with your parents?

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Speaker 1: You do?

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Speaker 3: Yes, Yes, I do?

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Speaker 5: What hold on you mean? What do you mean you

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Speaker 6: I mean I live with my mom and my dad.

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Speaker 6: One of us needs to have our own planes.

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Speaker 5: I honestly kind of get her on that.

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Speaker 4: It'd be really hard to date if you both lived

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Speaker 5: Judge somebody else for.

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Speaker 1: It, hypocritical.

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Speaker 6: I can, and I do.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So what.

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Speaker 2: We're learning here is the reason that you're not going

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Speaker 1: That's a deal breaker for you.

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Speaker 5: Exactly, why, Okay, how are we going to hang out?

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Speaker 6: How are we going to hang out?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 3: Where?

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Speaker 6: Am I gonna hoot dinner for im?

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Speaker 3: At?

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Speaker 2: It's kind of sexy if you think about it, If

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Speaker 2: you're like, so, do you want to go back to

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Speaker 4: I could see how that would really set in for you.

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Speaker 4: After you spend just an hour in his car together.

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Speaker 6: Exactly, you're going to spend a lot more.

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Speaker 5: Hours and cars together.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I would have gone back with him to his house,

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Speaker 6: but we didn't have anywhere to go.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Oh Russell, you're staying awfully quiet during this.

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Speaker 3: To her, I think this was completely ridiculous, Like we

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Speaker 4: Get out of it.

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Speaker 3: Things are crazy now and I am saving towards a goal, okay,

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Speaker 3: And it's like, I just don't know why you put

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Speaker 3: double standard.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I put it on you because you're the man and

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Speaker 6: you need to get this done.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, this nineteen fifty.

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Speaker 1: I mean, well, we're coming heading back a lot of

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Speaker 4: So if we get out of that conversation, I mean

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Speaker 4: maybe Russell, you just have a better like you have

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Speaker 4: a plan of how you guys would hang out, and

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Speaker 4: maybe that would change your mind.

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Speaker 1: It's a good idea. We can move forward from this.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, how would you guys hang out if you

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Speaker 3: Really good question. That is a good question.

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Speaker 2: I mean, as the man, how would you step up

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Speaker 3: I mean we could go on dates, get to know

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Speaker 3: you travel a lot. There's a lot of times where

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Speaker 5: Get into a real solution. Two point zero.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I get the house to yourself one time, or

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Speaker 2: if they are home, tie a bandana around the doorknob

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Speaker 4: That's probably a thing in Jeffrey's house is a sad part.

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Speaker 1: We've got a lot of colorful I.

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Speaker 5: Feel like his mom uses it more than he does.

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to that room there. It seems like

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Speaker 2: you guys have this thing in common. People die to

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Speaker 2: find things that they have in common with people in

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Speaker 4: If you can leave an hour hanging out in the

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Speaker 4: you want to be with, you may be missing out.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to throw that away.

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Speaker 2: That's why we'd love to offer to send you guys

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Speaker 1: If you're up for giving him another chance, Whitney, nothing has.

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Speaker 6: Changed since the start of this conversation. If he gets

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Speaker 2: Sorry, Russell, it looks like we're not going to be

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Speaker 5: Parents ruined it again.

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Speaker 6: Jeff Hey, if you have any cute friends that have

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Speaker 5: Come though.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Jose's got his own place, Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 1: What a disappointment, man.

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Speaker 2: I think she's really not seeing the benefits of this situations.

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Speaker 2: I remember hooking up at my parents place when I

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Speaker 5: It's not.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean the parents don't hear as well.

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Speaker 1: They can't run up the stairs as fast you're able

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Speaker 5: More, but it's your curfew. It's probably two hours later.

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Speaker 1: Not to mention, free PB and jays. As many as

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Speaker 1: you can eat. After you're done fooling around, you have

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Speaker 1: I have always.

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Speaker 4: I was actually like telling her not to be so judgy,

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Speaker 4: but after that, yeah, down.

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Speaker 1: I actually might move back in with my parents after this.

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Speaker 2: I want to make sure to follow Brook and Jeffrey

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Speaker 2: and all of our social media is by the way,

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Speaker 2: at Broken Jeffrey. You can hear all of our second

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Speaker 2: Date podcasts too. They're up online wherever you get yours

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Speaker 5: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning