Speaker 1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into
Speaker 1: the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast and I am
Speaker 1: your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about
Speaker 1: your life so that you can live life on purpose
Speaker 1: and for a purpose. And this is your first time
Speaker 1: tuning in the welcome Vitamin D. It's upon of my name.
Speaker 1: My name is Dawn and you get Vitamin D from
Speaker 1: the sun. So I'm here to shed light into your life.
Speaker 1: And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with
Speaker 1: celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if
Speaker 1: you want to be better and you want to do better,
Speaker 1: then you're going to have to be able to see better.
Speaker 1: So join me on this journey of living our best
Speaker 1: lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest
Speaker 1: ass at. I met up within old improv friend the
Speaker 1: other day. His name is Christian. We took in a
Speaker 1: minute together over at the ground Lands and I immediately
Speaker 1: told him, I said, you're genius. I have a lot
Speaker 1: to learn from you. Fast forward a couple of years later,
Speaker 1: I learned that he has taught all over the world
Speaker 1: and probe has went through several programs schooling for it,
Speaker 1: and I always said, I got a lot to learn
Speaker 1: from you. Well, we probably haven't seen each other for
Speaker 1: a couple of years now, we know, with everything going
Speaker 1: on with the pandemic. When we sat down the other
Speaker 1: day and just yesterday in fact, and we had a
Speaker 1: conversation about where we are in life and what we're doing.
Speaker 1: And you know, on this podcast, I've been constantly talking
Speaker 1: about how I'm working on our vulnerability. Well, they say
Speaker 1: vulnerability is your source of power, it's our way of connecting,
Speaker 1: it's our way to saying I'm just like you. But
Speaker 1: in this conversation with Christian, we talked about how important
Speaker 1: it is to have vulnerability when it comes down to
Speaker 1: your characters, because there's an emotion that you're conveying, there's
Speaker 1: a point of view. But what he broke down something
Speaker 1: and I want to share with you, is he talked
Speaker 1: about the difference between being honorable and authentic. And immediately
Speaker 1: I was like what, And he said, well, then, if
Speaker 1: you think about it, vulnerability is more than likely lead
Speaker 1: by ego. I'm lane Dan, he said, because you're kind
Speaker 1: of in the way of telling the story, you're instructing
Speaker 1: it the way to go almost as if you are
Speaker 1: giving it a direction versus Authentic is just whatever you
Speaker 1: feel in that moment. Whatever you feel, that is what
Speaker 1: you are expressing. Now, I don't believe neither are wrong,
Speaker 1: but I do think how it is important to really
Speaker 1: tap into our authentic selves because it's in our authentic
Speaker 1: selves that we give ourselves permission to exist. We give
Speaker 1: ourselves permission to breathe. Oftentimes we have a trouble with
Speaker 1: vulnerability and opening up is because we can't control the
Speaker 1: narrative after we've shared a part of us. So now
Speaker 1: I share something with you, I can't and show your thoughts.
Speaker 1: But what freedom is that? Being concerned with that rather
Speaker 1: than feeling or being authentic of whatever it is in
Speaker 1: that moment. And as I say, you grow from that moment.
Speaker 1: Be that moment, exists in that moment. It's kind of
Speaker 1: like when things are led by your ego. We causes
Speaker 1: a lot of stress, causes you to hold onto things,
Speaker 1: can't breathe, choked up, Relax and just work on being
Speaker 1: You give yourself permission to feel whatever it is that
Speaker 1: you need to feel in that moment. Be in that
Speaker 1: moment and grow in that moment and grow from that moment.
Speaker 1: Just be authentic, get your Vitamin D right with me,
Speaker 1: and get excited about all right. It has been some time,
Speaker 1: but it's time to dive into the Vitamin D. Email bag, Um,
Speaker 1: I have a letter right here, subject should I tell
Speaker 1: them I know the truth? Dear Dawn, Hey there, I've
Speaker 1: been listening for a while, and I think I finally
Speaker 1: have the shuts but to reach out. I live outside
Speaker 1: of St. Paul, Minnesota, and have been here all my life.
Speaker 1: I actually don't have a lot of I'm too concerned about.
Speaker 1: I've always been told that I have a good head
Speaker 1: on my shoulders and that I have a lot of
Speaker 1: maturity for my age at twenty nine. That doesn't hit
Speaker 1: the same way, but otherwise I take it as a compliment.
Speaker 1: I have a good job in my own place, a
Speaker 1: thriving relationship. My only real issue is with my parents.
Speaker 1: They're actually my adoptive parents, but they've never told me.
Speaker 1: I knew from like twelve that I wasn't biologically theirs.
Speaker 1: When a late cousin told me, I think he was
Speaker 1: trying to be mean, but honestly it was a release.
Speaker 1: My parents were kind of helicopter parents, always very concerned
Speaker 1: that I was well adjusted, and it gave me some perspective.
Speaker 1: I understood why they decided to keep it from me.
Speaker 1: They wanted to keep me from feeling some sense that
Speaker 1: I wasn't theirs, and they also probably worry that if
Speaker 1: I knew that, I would love them a little less.
Speaker 1: That's hard, I get it, so I kind of kept
Speaker 1: the charade up for all these years. Actually, for a
Speaker 1: while I kind of forgot, But with things starting to
Speaker 1: get back to normal, I couldn't shake this sense of
Speaker 1: sensation that I wanted to reach out to my biological parents.
Speaker 1: I've been doing some research and I'm pretty sure I've
Speaker 1: tracked down my birth father. I want to meet him
Speaker 1: so bad, but I know I have to tell my
Speaker 1: parents before I actually take this step and understanding myself.
Speaker 1: I want to tell my parents that I always consider
Speaker 1: them my parents, and that I'm not mad at them
Speaker 1: for trying to keep the image up for as long
Speaker 1: as possible. I feel pretty well adjusted, but I would
Speaker 1: be devastated if the search to know myself would hurt them.
Speaker 1: So I'm reaching out in hopes that you can provide
Speaker 1: some advice. Here's hoping. Hey, there, at twenty nine year old,
Speaker 1: how you doing. Thank you for reaching out. This is
Speaker 1: an example of being stuck between a rock and a
Speaker 1: hard place. But it's only hard if you're leaning pressure
Speaker 1: against it right flat out. I think you should go
Speaker 1: ahead and tell your parents that you like to reach
Speaker 1: out to your birth father. I mean, you're twenty nine,
Speaker 1: you know, since you were twelve, and I'm not sure
Speaker 1: when they adopted you, but starting at twelve years old,
Speaker 1: that's seventeen years in the bag right there. If you
Speaker 1: just known way, there's no love lost. And I love
Speaker 1: the maturity of your mindset, are understanding where they're coming from.
Speaker 1: I even appreciate the fact that you are cautious about
Speaker 1: the decision that you're going to make. But at the
Speaker 1: same time, don't lose yourself trying to save someone else.
Speaker 1: God forbid, if anything would have happened to your birth father,
Speaker 1: you know that you have the opportunity to do something
Speaker 1: and not doing it for the sake of someone else
Speaker 1: would essentially only robs you. As I say, how you
Speaker 1: do anything, it's how you'll do everything. We gotta get
Speaker 1: in the motive communicating, We gotta get in the motive
Speaker 1: serving ourselves, and this mode you're gonna have to show
Speaker 1: up for yourself, and it's going to be uncomfortable, But
Speaker 1: just as how you explain it to me, have that
Speaker 1: sit down with your parents, because at some point, and
Speaker 1: in actuality, you deserve to know. At some point we
Speaker 1: realize that we are adults, and we're grown enough to
Speaker 1: make our own decisions, to handle our responsibilities, to choose
Speaker 1: to live our life how we choose to live our life.
Speaker 1: So am I talking to the twenty nine year old
Speaker 1: you or the twelve year wrote you? Twelve year old
Speaker 1: I can understand you still figured it out. You don't
Speaker 1: know what steps to take, you don't know which to turn. Well,
Speaker 1: twenty nine year old, you've left a little You understand grace,
Speaker 1: You understand that perspective, but more importantly, you understand right
Speaker 1: now how important it is to communicate. So now that
Speaker 1: it's time for you to speak for yourself, what you
Speaker 1: got to say? I know what's going to be uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: But how uncomfortable would it be if you never had
Speaker 1: the chance or slipped away right in your fingertips, Because
Speaker 1: you could have and then you start singing and shouldar
Speaker 1: could have withoud the blues. Have to sit down with
Speaker 1: your parents, because God forbid anything happens. You don't want
Speaker 1: this to develop in some sort of resentment. Perhaps there's
Speaker 1: other things that you need to learn about yourself while
Speaker 1: you do things a certain way. What's the connection to
Speaker 1: your your lineage perhaps what type of um not on
Speaker 1: a pessimistic side, what type of diseases or what's in
Speaker 1: your bloodline? How do you know you to be connected
Speaker 1: to you so that you can thrive as you and
Speaker 1: you know, I heard some people say, well, and this
Speaker 1: is not what you're coming yet, but what if my
Speaker 1: parents are who I thought they would you be or
Speaker 1: who what if they were mean and they rejected me. Well,
Speaker 1: you'll never know unless you try, So go ahead and
Speaker 1: do that for yourself. Go ahead and have to sit
Speaker 1: down with your parents, let them know that you know
Speaker 1: and find yourself. Do something for yourself because you deserve that. Okay,
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's what I'll say. I say that you
Speaker 1: go ahead and you talk to your adoptive parents, let
Speaker 1: them know. And you know, I'm very impressed by the
Speaker 1: fact that you're not holding any resentment towards them for
Speaker 1: all these years of them not telling you. That's a
Speaker 1: lot of maturity in itself. So the fact that you've
Speaker 1: been able to hold this water for this long. I
Speaker 1: think it's time for you to let it out second
Speaker 1: rate and say, Okay, that had nothing to do with it,
Speaker 1: but um yes, go ahead and tell them. Serve yourself,
Speaker 1: find you, find some new things, and who knows, maybe
Speaker 1: you all can have dinner one day and collaborate. Okay
Speaker 1: I might have reached, but speak up for you yourself
Speaker 1: and go ahead and do that. Okay, all right, So
Speaker 1: now it's that time where I love it. I'm going
Speaker 1: to dive into the vital chest. Now, you know, the
Speaker 1: vita chess is where we have terms in there, terms
Speaker 1: that I like to use. Right, put on my improv
Speaker 1: hat and I give you another way of looking at
Speaker 1: the words. So when you hear, you're like, oh I
Speaker 1: remember doing this something like this. Okay, So I'm gonna shake, shake, shake, shake.
Speaker 1: My body would have been invited chess. Okay, one, two three.
Speaker 1: I got a word and the word is manifest. Yes, manifests.
Speaker 1: We know manifests is having it so that things can
Speaker 1: come into fruition. Now, I want to look at my
Speaker 1: phone right now because I want to get the Dictionary
Speaker 1: definition of manifest and by definition it says clear or
Speaker 1: obvious to the eye or mind. Mm hmm, placing it
Speaker 1: into reality. When I was looking at this world right now,
Speaker 1: I see man I fast and as a verb a
Speaker 1: list to display or show by one's acts or parents,
Speaker 1: to demonstrate what are you manifesting in your life? What
Speaker 1: are you speaking into existence? Are you acting as if
Speaker 1: you are? You know? As Meek Mill says, if you
Speaker 1: want it, you got to see it with a clear
Speaker 1: I view. What are you saying? What do you want?
Speaker 1: It's signed a manifesto reality? Call it forward, bring it
Speaker 1: to fuition. You know you've got powers to do that.
Speaker 1: You know you've got the ability to speak life. You
Speaker 1: know I got life tatted in my mouth. So it's
Speaker 1: sign for you to get excited about it. Where things
Speaker 1: are coming? All right, let's get some housekeeping. Um. If
Speaker 1: you enjoyed this episode and you want to tell somebody
Speaker 1: or perhaps you think you should be on the show,
Speaker 1: I want to encourage you to shoot an email Vitamin
Speaker 1: D had doing day speaks dot com. Also, if you
Speaker 1: have a letter that you would like to cement because
Speaker 1: you need advice, own relationships, your purpose, just a situation
Speaker 1: that what you're going on. I want to encourage you
Speaker 1: to email me Vitamin D at dawn Day speaks dot com. Now,
Speaker 1: you know I say this every time. I want to
Speaker 1: be clear so that you understand we are on the
Speaker 1: same page when you're write it in know that I'm
Speaker 1: gonna keep it real with you, because what do I say?
Speaker 1: If you want to be better and you want to
Speaker 1: do better, you have to be able to see better. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. I'm gonna give it
Speaker 1: to you all in real. Oh baby, I like it raw. Hello, somebody? Um, Also,
Speaker 1: can you tell somebody to tell somebody else to tell
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Speaker 1: I would love to hear from you. I would love
Speaker 1: to connect. I would love to spread this light and
Speaker 1: keep shedding a light over and over and over again.
Speaker 1: And I can do that with you. So what you say,
Speaker 1: all right, well, it is time for me to head
Speaker 1: out of here. You know, always say I'm in the
Speaker 1: business of making dreams come true. And our damn sure
Speaker 1: ain't gonna forget about mine. So one telling the time,
Speaker 1: always remember you and your greatest ass get your right
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