WEBVTT - Should I Tell Them I Know The Truth? 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:04.840 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into 0:00:04.840 --> 0:00:07.200 the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast and I am 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:09.960 your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about 0:00:09.960 --> 0:00:11.920 your life so that you can live life on purpose 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:14.120 and for a purpose. And this is your first time 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:17.640 tuning in the welcome Vitamin D. It's upon of my name. 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:19.920 My name is Dawn and you get Vitamin D from 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:22.160 the sun. So I'm here to shed light into your life. 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:25.960 And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with 0:00:26.000 --> 0:00:29.080 celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:31.040 you want to be better and you want to do better, 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:33.800 then you're going to have to be able to see better. 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:36.800 So join me on this journey of living our best 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:40.800 lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:44.320 ass at. I met up within old improv friend the 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:48.280 other day. His name is Christian. We took in a 0:00:48.320 --> 0:00:50.919 minute together over at the ground Lands and I immediately 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:54.320 told him, I said, you're genius. I have a lot 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:57.520 to learn from you. Fast forward a couple of years later, 0:00:57.560 --> 0:01:00.840 I learned that he has taught all over the world 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:04.760 and probe has went through several programs schooling for it, 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.320 and I always said, I got a lot to learn 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:11.200 from you. Well, we probably haven't seen each other for 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:13.399 a couple of years now, we know, with everything going 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:16.640 on with the pandemic. When we sat down the other 0:01:16.720 --> 0:01:21.160 day and just yesterday in fact, and we had a 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.000 conversation about where we are in life and what we're doing. 0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:29.039 And you know, on this podcast, I've been constantly talking 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:33.800 about how I'm working on our vulnerability. Well, they say 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:37.720 vulnerability is your source of power, it's our way of connecting, 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:43.640 it's our way to saying I'm just like you. But 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.560 in this conversation with Christian, we talked about how important 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:48.840 it is to have vulnerability when it comes down to 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:52.760 your characters, because there's an emotion that you're conveying, there's 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:55.920 a point of view. But what he broke down something 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:57.480 and I want to share with you, is he talked 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:03.160 about the difference between being honorable and authentic. And immediately 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:06.880 I was like what, And he said, well, then, if 0:02:06.920 --> 0:02:10.520 you think about it, vulnerability is more than likely lead 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:15.760 by ego. I'm lane Dan, he said, because you're kind 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:18.240 of in the way of telling the story, you're instructing 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:21.320 it the way to go almost as if you are 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:26.200 giving it a direction versus Authentic is just whatever you 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:29.320 feel in that moment. Whatever you feel, that is what 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:34.280 you are expressing. Now, I don't believe neither are wrong, 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:37.639 but I do think how it is important to really 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:41.360 tap into our authentic selves because it's in our authentic 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:45.079 selves that we give ourselves permission to exist. We give 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:50.280 ourselves permission to breathe. Oftentimes we have a trouble with 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:54.799 vulnerability and opening up is because we can't control the 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.840 narrative after we've shared a part of us. So now 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.880 I share something with you, I can't and show your thoughts. 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:04.280 But what freedom is that? Being concerned with that rather 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.800 than feeling or being authentic of whatever it is in 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.160 that moment. And as I say, you grow from that moment. 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:14.120 Be that moment, exists in that moment. It's kind of 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:16.800 like when things are led by your ego. We causes 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:19.600 a lot of stress, causes you to hold onto things, 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:24.880 can't breathe, choked up, Relax and just work on being 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:29.040 You give yourself permission to feel whatever it is that 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:32.079 you need to feel in that moment. Be in that 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:37.520 moment and grow in that moment and grow from that moment. 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:42.800 Just be authentic, get your Vitamin D right with me, 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:50.200 and get excited about all right. It has been some time, 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:57.040 but it's time to dive into the Vitamin D. Email bag, Um, 0:03:57.080 --> 0:04:01.440 I have a letter right here, subject should I tell 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:06.119 them I know the truth? Dear Dawn, Hey there, I've 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:08.720 been listening for a while, and I think I finally 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:11.320 have the shuts but to reach out. I live outside 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:14.240 of St. Paul, Minnesota, and have been here all my life. 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:17.400 I actually don't have a lot of I'm too concerned about. 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:19.680 I've always been told that I have a good head 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:21.159 on my shoulders and that I have a lot of 0:04:21.160 --> 0:04:24.160 maturity for my age at twenty nine. That doesn't hit 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:27.000 the same way, but otherwise I take it as a compliment. 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:30.000 I have a good job in my own place, a 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:34.280 thriving relationship. My only real issue is with my parents. 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:37.600 They're actually my adoptive parents, but they've never told me. 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.040 I knew from like twelve that I wasn't biologically theirs. 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:43.920 When a late cousin told me, I think he was 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.839 trying to be mean, but honestly it was a release. 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:51.200 My parents were kind of helicopter parents, always very concerned 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:54.520 that I was well adjusted, and it gave me some perspective. 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.039 I understood why they decided to keep it from me. 0:04:57.480 --> 0:04:59.839 They wanted to keep me from feeling some sense that 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.560 I wasn't theirs, and they also probably worry that if 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:05.000 I knew that, I would love them a little less. 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:09.960 That's hard, I get it, so I kind of kept 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:12.960 the charade up for all these years. Actually, for a 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:16.560 while I kind of forgot, But with things starting to 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:19.120 get back to normal, I couldn't shake this sense of 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:22.080 sensation that I wanted to reach out to my biological parents. 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:25.360 I've been doing some research and I'm pretty sure I've 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:28.040 tracked down my birth father. I want to meet him 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.200 so bad, but I know I have to tell my 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:33.760 parents before I actually take this step and understanding myself. 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:37.000 I want to tell my parents that I always consider 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:39.560 them my parents, and that I'm not mad at them 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:41.839 for trying to keep the image up for as long 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:46.120 as possible. I feel pretty well adjusted, but I would 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:49.640 be devastated if the search to know myself would hurt them. 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:51.760 So I'm reaching out in hopes that you can provide 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:57.760 some advice. Here's hoping. Hey, there, at twenty nine year old, 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:02.440 how you doing. Thank you for reaching out. This is 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:05.080 an example of being stuck between a rock and a 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:09.080 hard place. But it's only hard if you're leaning pressure 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:13.480 against it right flat out. I think you should go 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.640 ahead and tell your parents that you like to reach 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:19.160 out to your birth father. I mean, you're twenty nine, 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:21.480 you know, since you were twelve, and I'm not sure 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:25.120 when they adopted you, but starting at twelve years old, 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:27.160 that's seventeen years in the bag right there. If you 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:32.040 just known way, there's no love lost. And I love 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:35.040 the maturity of your mindset, are understanding where they're coming from. 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:37.920 I even appreciate the fact that you are cautious about 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.120 the decision that you're going to make. But at the 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:43.800 same time, don't lose yourself trying to save someone else. 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:47.200 God forbid, if anything would have happened to your birth father, 0:06:48.320 --> 0:06:50.719 you know that you have the opportunity to do something 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:53.000 and not doing it for the sake of someone else 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:58.359 would essentially only robs you. As I say, how you 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:01.960 do anything, it's how you'll do everything. We gotta get 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:05.040 in the motive communicating, We gotta get in the motive 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:10.240 serving ourselves, and this mode you're gonna have to show 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:15.240 up for yourself, and it's going to be uncomfortable, But 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:18.440 just as how you explain it to me, have that 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:23.920 sit down with your parents, because at some point, and 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:30.080 in actuality, you deserve to know. At some point we 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:33.320 realize that we are adults, and we're grown enough to 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:38.680 make our own decisions, to handle our responsibilities, to choose 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:41.640 to live our life how we choose to live our life. 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:45.640 So am I talking to the twenty nine year old 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:50.800 you or the twelve year wrote you? Twelve year old 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:54.440 I can understand you still figured it out. You don't 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:58.440 know what steps to take, you don't know which to turn. Well, 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:04.240 twenty nine year old, you've left a little You understand grace, 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:09.600 You understand that perspective, but more importantly, you understand right 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:13.120 now how important it is to communicate. So now that 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:15.840 it's time for you to speak for yourself, what you 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:19.760 got to say? I know what's going to be uncomfortable, 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:23.440 But how uncomfortable would it be if you never had 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:27.040 the chance or slipped away right in your fingertips, Because 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:29.320 you could have and then you start singing and shouldar 0:08:29.360 --> 0:08:32.960 could have withoud the blues. Have to sit down with 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:37.160 your parents, because God forbid anything happens. You don't want 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:40.040 this to develop in some sort of resentment. Perhaps there's 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.160 other things that you need to learn about yourself while 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:44.400 you do things a certain way. What's the connection to 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:48.400 your your lineage perhaps what type of um not on 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:51.200 a pessimistic side, what type of diseases or what's in 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:54.480 your bloodline? How do you know you to be connected 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:57.560 to you so that you can thrive as you and 0:08:57.640 --> 0:09:00.320 you know, I heard some people say, well, and this 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:02.880 is not what you're coming yet, but what if my 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.240 parents are who I thought they would you be or 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.439 who what if they were mean and they rejected me. Well, 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:11.000 you'll never know unless you try, So go ahead and 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:13.679 do that for yourself. Go ahead and have to sit 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:16.640 down with your parents, let them know that you know 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:23.160 and find yourself. Do something for yourself because you deserve that. Okay, 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:26.040 So yeah, that's what I'll say. I say that you 0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:29.079 go ahead and you talk to your adoptive parents, let 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:30.959 them know. And you know, I'm very impressed by the 0:09:31.000 --> 0:09:34.040 fact that you're not holding any resentment towards them for 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:37.199 all these years of them not telling you. That's a 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.720 lot of maturity in itself. So the fact that you've 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:42.760 been able to hold this water for this long. I 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:45.200 think it's time for you to let it out second 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:48.640 rate and say, Okay, that had nothing to do with it, 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:52.640 but um yes, go ahead and tell them. Serve yourself, 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:54.760 find you, find some new things, and who knows, maybe 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:57.480 you all can have dinner one day and collaborate. Okay 0:09:57.520 --> 0:10:00.360 I might have reached, but speak up for you yourself 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:04.040 and go ahead and do that. Okay, all right, So 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:06.480 now it's that time where I love it. I'm going 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:08.960 to dive into the vital chest. Now, you know, the 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:11.280 vita chess is where we have terms in there, terms 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.480 that I like to use. Right, put on my improv 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:15.640 hat and I give you another way of looking at 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:17.680 the words. So when you hear, you're like, oh I 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:22.600 remember doing this something like this. Okay, So I'm gonna shake, shake, shake, shake. 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:31.280 My body would have been invited chess. Okay, one, two three. 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:44.040 I got a word and the word is manifest. Yes, manifests. 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:49.240 We know manifests is having it so that things can 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:51.920 come into fruition. Now, I want to look at my 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:54.080 phone right now because I want to get the Dictionary 0:10:54.520 --> 0:11:02.680 definition of manifest and by definition it says clear or 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:09.839 obvious to the eye or mind. Mm hmm, placing it 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:14.600 into reality. When I was looking at this world right now, 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:20.160 I see man I fast and as a verb a 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:24.480 list to display or show by one's acts or parents, 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:30.360 to demonstrate what are you manifesting in your life? What 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:34.360 are you speaking into existence? Are you acting as if 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.360 you are? You know? As Meek Mill says, if you 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:40.000 want it, you got to see it with a clear 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:42.760 I view. What are you saying? What do you want? 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:46.840 It's signed a manifesto reality? Call it forward, bring it 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:48.920 to fuition. You know you've got powers to do that. 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:51.640 You know you've got the ability to speak life. You 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:54.319 know I got life tatted in my mouth. So it's 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:57.240 sign for you to get excited about it. Where things 0:11:57.240 --> 0:12:01.280 are coming? All right, let's get some housekeeping. Um. If 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:04.280 you enjoyed this episode and you want to tell somebody 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:05.960 or perhaps you think you should be on the show, 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.520 I want to encourage you to shoot an email Vitamin 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:11.120 D had doing day speaks dot com. Also, if you 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:13.439 have a letter that you would like to cement because 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:16.160 you need advice, own relationships, your purpose, just a situation 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:18.400 that what you're going on. I want to encourage you 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:22.319 to email me Vitamin D at dawn Day speaks dot com. Now, 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:23.800 you know I say this every time. I want to 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:25.880 be clear so that you understand we are on the 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:30.120 same page when you're write it in know that I'm 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.920 gonna keep it real with you, because what do I say? 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.080 If you want to be better and you want to 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:39.160 do better, you have to be able to see better. Okay, 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:42.240 So I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. I'm gonna give it 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:48.520 to you all in real. Oh baby, I like it raw. Hello, somebody? Um, Also, 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:52.840 can you tell somebody to tell somebody else to tell 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:55.679 somebody else that don't think? Out a podcast and it's 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:58.800 called Vitamin D with Dawn Day available wherever you get 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:02.160 your favorite podcast. You can do it now, you can 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.720 do it later. You know, I said I'm gonna be 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:08.280 here for a long time, so let's get an early 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:11.679 start at it right. Also, I want to encourage you 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:14.959 to check us out on social media. You get some 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:16.720 behind the scenes of what we're doing in the studio, 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:20.360 some of our guests, some memes, things to making chuckle 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:26.600 overall things to make you feel good. Oh yeah. Follow 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:31.520 us on on social media at Vitamin d doing day. Okay, 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:35.280 I'm lunching on today, clearly anywhere, go ahead and follow us. 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:37.240 I would love to hear from you. I would love 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:39.599 to connect. I would love to spread this light and 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:43.520 keep shedding a light over and over and over again. 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:47.160 And I can do that with you. So what you say, 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:50.440 all right, well, it is time for me to head 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.920 out of here. You know, always say I'm in the 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:57.600 business of making dreams come true. And our damn sure 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:00.400 ain't gonna forget about mine. So one telling the time, 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:05.120 always remember you and your greatest ass get your right 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:09.840 in Indy right here with me, and get excited about 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:10.920 your lives.