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Speaker 1: So they were like, no, we're gonna take you out there.

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Speaker 2: WHOA, that's kind of crazy, Harlem Baker. Also thanks for

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Speaker 2: the five Canadian buckaroonys. I'm not an adoption expert, but

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Speaker 1: No, I think, I mean, in general, I'm proponent of adoption,

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Speaker 2: So go ask them. You know, you love them so much,

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Speaker 1: I think it's also interesting that Opie said, The mom said, oh, well,

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Speaker 1: The mom said that, But I think it is interesting

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Speaker 2: One hundred percent. I think generally what happens in the

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Speaker 1: So much for me, I want to give back. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Deserve a thousand thousand thousand percent. But ladies and gener

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Speaker 1: I think they respond to one comment.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, we don't hear much from a pee. But Sophia,

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Speaker 1: Really about to read it. I was like, wasn't I

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Speaker 1: reading it? Strawbo says, not the a hole. Your parents

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Speaker 1: That's not your problem. Tell your wife, I do not

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Speaker 1: They say, yes he is, but he's absolutely justified. To

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Speaker 1: You don't have to help them, I guess, but I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think also most kids like will recognize

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Speaker 2: I know, I know what you're saying. I personally believe

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Speaker 1: True period, period, and that's the end of that.

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Speaker 2: Story, and that's the end of that story. But I

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Speaker 1: And I think that if you are not fully ready

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: This is not a Yeah, this is not like a goldfish.

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Speaker 2: It's the goldfish pro addition. Yeah, okay, so upgrade your subscription, ladies.

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Speaker 1: And they don't have a three second memory. They're going

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Speaker 2: So and Riley, where how are we looking on episode

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Speaker 2: forget who said they were adopted, but if you were adopted,

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Speaker 2: I think that is. I think you have a very

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Speaker 2: I don't know. To me, that kind of makes you

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Speaker 1: Two sides to the adoption coin.

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Speaker 2: That is that is very true. That is very true.

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Speaker 2: Hit up, Riley and we'll get you on the old discord.

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Speaker 2: Great job with these stories, by the way, right length,

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Speaker 2: just better effect though better effect though. Oh we got

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Speaker 1: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: It's uh, sir, Harlem, harlem harlem. Can you hear us?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I can hear you.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, welcome, Welcome to the episode. Sou Do you

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Speaker 2: have a story that is kind of related to the adoption.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, Oh my gosh, Haarlem. So you were the

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Speaker 2: one that was adopted maybe super quick. Uh. Do you

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Speaker 3: Yes. Now, my background with being adopted is since I

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Speaker 1: So there eight of us.

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Speaker 2: Wow, And so it sounds like, yeah, so the parents

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Speaker 3: Well, actually there are three of us because the year

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Speaker 3: My brother was the only one they adopted as a baby.

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Speaker 2: Got you? Okay, awesome? Heck yah, Well I'm so glad

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Speaker 3: Be patient. You're not going to get a child, right

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Speaker 3: off the bat, there's going to be through thorough examinations,

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Speaker 1: Approved to be able to adopt.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think the circumstances with my brother was different than

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Speaker 3: You have to go through the psychological test.

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Speaker 4: Yeh.

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Speaker 3: Their home has to be inspected. I need to make

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Speaker 2: I think Harlem, that is a beautiful advice. To end

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Speaker 2: this note on, Harlem, thank you so much for your

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank youlcome. What a positive, what a positive.

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Speaker 2: We love We love it, especially when it's this is

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Speaker 1: Rise.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we are your parents were your parents? Okay,

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Speaker 2: so go clean your just kidding ladies and gentlemen. That's

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Speaker 2: all we got. That's all we got this episode.

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Speaker 1: We love you and seamorrow.

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Speaker 4: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

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Speaker 2: Time for okop relash Today. Effed up by accidentally watching

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Speaker 2: some sweet Schlongs during a flight. But it's not what

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Speaker 5: What just watching some sweet Sloans? You know some Is

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Speaker 5: this a mile high? You would think it is, But

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Speaker 2: Yesterday, I, twenty two male, was on a plane, a

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Speaker 4: What kind of move?

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Speaker 2: The movie I chose to watch was called Violation. Oh god,

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Speaker 2: so this was a movie my roommate had recommended to me.

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Speaker 2: It was almost as long as my flight was going

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Speaker 2: the thing is, I fell asleep while watching Violation. It's

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Speaker 2: But then I woke up to someone tapping me on

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Speaker 4: Why are you watching this flight?

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Speaker 2: I looked at my laptop and noticed a naked man

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Speaker 2: This dude's meat was literally flexing the details to too much.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry. This is just what I This is what

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Speaker 2: Yeah. As the flight attendant walked away, I heard a

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Speaker 1: It was so disturbing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, actually, like it could me children, grand you know,

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Speaker 4: Fair.

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Speaker 2: I locked eyes with her little small boy.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, dude, and she's like, mommy, what was he watching?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is so sad. And he made

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Speaker 2: it clear to me that he could spell SpongeBob. This

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Speaker 1: Also, you have heart.

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Speaker 2: I apologize to the mom and awkwardly looked away. I

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Speaker 4: We had a touch on this roommate though, like why

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Speaker 2: Wait wait how long?

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Speaker 4: He was watching it the entire flight? And then people

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Speaker 2: He was literally watching it as he was walking down

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Speaker 4: Yeah, a flight attendant didn't go up to him, and no,

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Speaker 2: I'm just in shock, utter shocked. In the flight, like

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I maybe, I'm not sure they didn't.

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Speaker 4: They say, didn't say anything. Well, more of the day.

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Speaker 4: You can watch porn on a plane, Yeah you can, children,

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Speaker 4: But if you have your own spooky, smutty stories to share,

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Speaker 4: go to our such okop show and submit them to us. Yes,

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Speaker 4: do it today. I fed up by making my dad

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Speaker 4: punch a dancer of the poll in GTA and then

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Speaker 2: Wait, wow, in front of the entire family.

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Speaker 4: Like the entire family.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, let's see where this goes.

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Speaker 4: Let me try that one more time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I was encouraged to post this here from a comment

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Speaker 4: goes against the rules. It's a funny story though. When

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Speaker 4: that game was so good, so good. I would always

439
00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:24,200
Speaker 4: play Said Andrea's at my friend's house because my parents

440
00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:25,399
Speaker 4: didn't have me play video games.

441
00:19:25,400 --> 00:19:28,920
Speaker 2: Same well bad rated video games. Yeah, I could play

442
00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:31,560
Speaker 2: video rated yeah yeah, or MA or m see, we

443
00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:32,400
Speaker 2: don't even know.

444
00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:35,320
Speaker 4: That's how bad we are playing video games. We spent

445
00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:38,720
Speaker 4: days hold in our basement taking turns playing and down there.

446
00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:41,080
Speaker 4: My parents didn't bother us too much. In order to

447
00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:43,600
Speaker 4: get tons of money for guns. We had yet to

448
00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:46,440
Speaker 4: figure out my parents dial up passwords, so cheats weren't

449
00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:48,119
Speaker 4: a thing for us yet. What we would do is

450
00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:51,120
Speaker 4: we'd go to the strip club and stand on stage

451
00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:54,320
Speaker 4: absorbing the money dudes throughout women and just let the

452
00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:57,880
Speaker 4: games sit for ten or twenty minutes. That's a great hat.

453
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Speaker 2: I love that, and I also love like just if

454
00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:03,520
Speaker 2: someone doesn't know, GTA just sounds so crazy. Like. In

455
00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:05,600
Speaker 2: order to get money for guns, we had to stand

456
00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:08,359
Speaker 2: in front of the pole dancers, so he got.

457
00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:12,920
Speaker 4: Into one Honest Days and Honest Days living I'm moving boxes.

458
00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:15,159
Speaker 2: Script from money Ma.

459
00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,840
Speaker 4: We had to be careful though, because sometimes the dancers

460
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,520
Speaker 4: of the pole would move and bump into CJ and

461
00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:25,200
Speaker 4: the balancers, but wrap the place up hikes. One day,

462
00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,720
Speaker 4: while I was playing, my mom yelled down to the

463
00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:31,720
Speaker 4: basement us to get ready. We're going to pizza hut. Heyo,

464
00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:34,320
Speaker 4: like a great time and a stroke of genius. I

465
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 4: drove to the GTA Dancing of the Pole Club, got

466
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:42,119
Speaker 4: on stage, and then turned the TV off and we left.

467
00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:46,040
Speaker 4: It was the best heist of the century. My dad, however,

468
00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:49,800
Speaker 4: was and as the beast highest because he's getting all

469
00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 4: that free money, all the money about. We would go

470
00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:54,720
Speaker 4: to the Dancing of the Pole Club and stand on

471
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,479
Speaker 4: the stage absorbing money. Dudes threw at the woman and

472
00:20:57,520 --> 00:20:59,639
Speaker 4: just let the game sit for ten or twenty minutes.

473
00:20:59,680 --> 00:20:59,960
Speaker 2: Genie.

474
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:03,560
Speaker 4: My dad, however, was at church at this time, practicing

475
00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:06,399
Speaker 4: for a gospel concert he was singing in. He always

476
00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:09,919
Speaker 4: filmed the practices so he could take notes at home

477
00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 4: upon playblack Oh God, so he could take notes at

478
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:17,679
Speaker 4: home upon playback, and this time was no different. So

479
00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:19,440
Speaker 4: this guy's like, this guy's super religious.

480
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,879
Speaker 2: Wow, Wait is he recording it in the basement or

481
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:22,440
Speaker 2: at the church?

482
00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 4: They record the church service and then he reviews the

483
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 4: tapes in the basement.

484
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:27,399
Speaker 2: Ah, no, you're.

485
00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:33,840
Speaker 4: Religious when you're reviewing tapes of the day. Big game today. Well,

486
00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,359
Speaker 4: my mom and brothers and I were still at the hut.

487
00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 4: He arrived at home and plugged his camcorder into the VCR.

488
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:43,320
Speaker 4: We had just one VCR and it was connected to

489
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 4: the basement TV. Back at the hut, my mom gets

490
00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 4: a phone call. She says. She puts her napkin down

491
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 4: and slowly looks at the table and says okay, okay,

492
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 4: okay a few times in the phone in this really

493
00:21:57,280 --> 00:22:00,560
Speaker 4: calculating specific way that she always did, and she knew

494
00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:02,960
Speaker 4: us kids were in trouble before we did. Oh no,

495
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 4: that that that mom's sixth sense.

496
00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 2: That you you know when it's coming, you can feel

497
00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:08,800
Speaker 2: it in your soul.

498
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,840
Speaker 4: The wrath of a mom is worse than our wrath

499
00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:15,919
Speaker 4: against Adam Levine, our arch nemesis, who we will pass

500
00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 4: and followers very soon. So uh make sure it does

501
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,880
Speaker 4: abort us so we could dominate Adam Levine.

502
00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:24,360
Speaker 2: Smash the follow so we can show him how talentless

503
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 2: he is.

504
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 4: Fricke, Adam Levine, We're coming for you.

505
00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 2: You know, I was gonna say earlier, like we said

506
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 2: something about Jesus. I was like, you know, who probably

507
00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 2: hates Jesus, Adam Levine.

508
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,480
Speaker 4: Naturally, it was at this point that we kids knew

509
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 4: we were in trouble, just like Adam Levine knows he's

510
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,199
Speaker 4: in trouble when he sees our stuff. That's right for

511
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:46,600
Speaker 4: what though we didn't know. After a very quiet minivan ride,

512
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,800
Speaker 4: we get home and my mom says, boys, why don't

513
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 4: we go down to the basement. Your dad wants to

514
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:56,120
Speaker 4: show you his gospel practice downstairs. No, it was then

515
00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 4: at this point we knew why we were in trouble.

516
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 4: So we draw our feet down the stairs and lo

517
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,119
Speaker 4: and be old. My dad is sitting on the couch

518
00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 4: TV on and a dancer of the poles polygonal milkers

519
00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:16,199
Speaker 4: juicy milkers swung stiffly back and forth on screen to

520
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:19,639
Speaker 4: en vogues my love and with CJS standing mere inches

521
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:24,439
Speaker 4: away collecting money. Oh no, my dad starts in. Boys,

522
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 4: I don't even know where to begin. This PlayStation was

523
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 4: a blessing to you for Christmas, and this is how

524
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 4: you repay us by breaking our trusts, just like Adam

525
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 4: Levine broke our trust.

526
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 2: By having no talent. No talent, Adam.

527
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 4: Levine, he's holding the controller up now, gesticulating with it.

528
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 4: Here I am practicing to bring glory to God. But

529
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,320
Speaker 4: he was cut off as he inadvertently squeezed the controller,

530
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 4: causing CIJ to punch the dancer of the pole. My

531
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,840
Speaker 4: entire family stands in silence, watching together as the bouncers

532
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:04,119
Speaker 4: in the club the place for what seems like an eternity,

533
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:08,120
Speaker 4: the tying stops and CJ appears in front of the hospital.

534
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 4: I look back and see my mom silently weeping into

535
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 4: her hand. I look at my dad as a single

536
00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 4: tear rolls down his cheek and prays under his breath.

537
00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 4: After another eternity of silence, without a word, my dad

538
00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 4: bends down, disconnects the PlayStation, walks back to the family computer,

539
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:32,639
Speaker 4: disconnects it, goes to his car, and drives away. For

540
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 4: the next four months, he kept the PS two and

541
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 4: PC locked in his office at work. Gildr. I wasn't

542
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:41,880
Speaker 4: allowed to play GTA growing up, of course, got caught

543
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:45,359
Speaker 4: playing it. My dad interrupted his own lecture by accidentally

544
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:48,359
Speaker 4: punching a dance of the poll and immediately asking for

545
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:49,399
Speaker 4: God's forgiveness.

546
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 2: You know what's so sad is my immediate reaction to

547
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 2: the end of that story is like what happened to

548
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 2: the money in GTA? Where they able to say because

549
00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 2: it probably needs so much money in GTA.

550
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 4: All of their all of their hard work, collecting all

551
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 4: those all those club dollars from those deuicy milkers.

552
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:10,320
Speaker 2: Shaken about, lost forever, those milkshakes sha