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Speaker 1: Don't worry I We'll tell you John, What do you

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Speaker 1: think wrong or right? Wrong? I thirty male, am getting

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Speaker 1: married in three months to my fiance, twenty eight female,

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Speaker 1: Nice and we decided to keep the ceremony pretty small,

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Speaker 1: by the way, this comes from Joseph Wedder And if

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Speaker 1: you want us to make your own stories, go to

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Speaker 1: our slash okay story Times thought about it. So, my

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Speaker 1: brother thirty five male, has been dating a woman let's

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Speaker 1: call her thirty two female Anna, for about a year.

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Speaker 1: They're not married and don't live together yet, but they're

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Speaker 1: clearly serious. However, Anna has been a problem since the beginning.

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Speaker 1: In the few instances we've interacted, she's made some snide

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Speaker 1: She said, our menu sounds too bas We chose traditional

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Speaker 1: Italian food, nothing fancy. What do you have? Do you

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Speaker 1: have something wrong with pasta salami?

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Speaker 2: Hey?

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Speaker 1: You know what? I only want to know one thing.

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Speaker 1: Where's the goubba goolaboles? Love my cousin's fresh seedy? Come on,

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Speaker 1: it's delicious. Hah. I've been watching a lot of sopranos,

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Speaker 1: doesn't see our marriage lasting long. My fiance feels uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: reason would be obvious. We don't want, you know, with all.

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Speaker 1: Get her off the guest list, get her off off

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Speaker 1: with her head. Put her in the stocks. Oh man,

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Speaker 1: give her some cement. Use you love those stocks? Water

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Speaker 1: Anna found out she wasn't invited, she blew up explosion

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Speaker 1: enough to melt steel beams, they say. She called me

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Speaker 1: saying it's a matter of respect. As my brother's partner.

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Speaker 1: She would automatically get an invite. The auto invite. My

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Speaker 1: if we don't invite her to. Now my parents have

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Speaker 1: She's like, no way, no way they could do that.

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Speaker 3: Does anyone object?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? She a hope, Yeah, she a hope. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And I'm not telling you need to go Jesus, but

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll send you to Jesus door, hit you with

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Speaker 1: feel like Infridianna had been sacrificing one of the most

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Speaker 1: someone who has been disrespectful to us. So am I

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Speaker 1: the a hole. We're going to dive into it. But chat,

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Speaker 1: what do you think, John, what do you think? Let

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Speaker 1: me know I think and reminds me again of the

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Speaker 1: of the crimes of it. Crimes. Well, they're crimes against humanity,

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Speaker 1: dear sir, they're crimes against all things that are good. First. Yes, Oh,

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Speaker 3: Okay, At first I was thinking like, hey, if if

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Speaker 3: anyone doesn't want to come, if you don't want someone

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Speaker 3: if that's worth it it yet have her at your wedding,

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Speaker 3: your wedding, John, thinking about you like her so much?

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Speaker 1: I don't love my saying sounds like you love her. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't not, No, I do not, John wats to Marianna.

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Speaker 1: All right? Yeah? Does that he annoying? Yeah? Yeah, that's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we should have a picture of his girlfriend like

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Speaker 1: I could just go, yeah, yes, it would be funny

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Speaker 1: multiple valid reasons Quan, you chose to have a small

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Speaker 1: Keeping the family peace should be said more often to

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Speaker 1: the problem person, not the victims of the crappy behavior.

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Speaker 1: Why aren't your parents encouraging your brother to keep the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean parents, and like already at the brother,

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Speaker 1: Well, if you want the parents to come, why don't

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Speaker 3: You are going to the ocean parents, ocean brother, ocean aunts, cousins,

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Speaker 1: Ocean, ocean ocean. Yeah, like nineteen seventies trash, like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, that'll be fine. That's that's crazy. They did that.

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Speaker 1: I'm doing it. That's great, Okay, cool, I'll do it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: But what do you really think, John.

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Speaker 3: I really think that man like the brother is already

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Speaker 3: I don't know, like unless again, unless we get a

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Speaker 3: to Ope. I don't have enough evidence yet, they deserve

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Speaker 1: Well, John, I am. I'm so glad you asked, because

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Speaker 1: Opie replied, thank you for all this. You've summed up

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Speaker 1: My parents seem to think that keeping my brother happy

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Speaker 1: And also it's just like it's like bad vibes, like

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Speaker 1: it's right, for what's right. It's about standing up for

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Speaker 1: what's right. Say it again, Say it again. Ah, the

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Speaker 1: luke you preach to us, because we will tell you.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, If that cost me some family goodwill, I

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Speaker 1: She doesn't support your marriage. And as this day is

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Speaker 1: Say it again A good say it a good say

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Speaker 1: and we got a little update. Oh baby, Hi everyone.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for your comments and advice on

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Speaker 1: The consequence, says, will be dire if you don't go

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Speaker 1: you're not like it. I feel like that's a little

430
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:56,720
Speaker 1: bit too close to live with family, you know.

431
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 3: Tell them Sam sell them. Yeah, that's too clear. Imagine

432
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 3: living that.

433
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: That would be nuts. I would never. I would literally

434
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:10,440
Speaker 1: never do it. Yeah, literally never do it. You would

435
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 1: never in your life.

436
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:13,160
Speaker 3: So, about four to five months ago, I started dating

437
00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 3: my boyfriend. We've known each other for two years and

438
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:20,240
Speaker 3: I've liked him the entire time. I love him so much.

439
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 3: The I know this is the man I'm going to

440
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 3: marry kind of love. He's always by my side and

441
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 3: just amazing. And we kept it a secret for a while,

442
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 3: and I wasn't comfortable having it be a public thing.

443
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 3: When I was comfortable with the idea of bringing it

444
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 3: to my family, I called my mom first that idea.

445
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 3: I will get to why, so stay tuned. She was

446
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,400
Speaker 3: happy for me, and we chatted for a while about him.

447
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 3: I asked for advice on telling my sister because she's

448
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 3: always been kind of judgmental about my friends and past

449
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 3: relationship interests. Also, my whole family has always been way

450
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:58,120
Speaker 3: too interested in my relationships. My mom didn't really give

451
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 3: me any though, So I thought hard about it and

452
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 3: decided I just bring it up to the whole family

453
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,360
Speaker 3: at Christmas about three months into my relationship.

454
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just gonna you know, just pure speculation here.

455
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,160
Speaker 3: But you put your seeing and I see you if

456
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 3: you don't want to, if you're like skeptical of like

457
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 3: telling your family for like the first few months, why

458
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:21,719
Speaker 3: do you think Christmas is the best place? That is

459
00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 3: like the that is like the highest stakes like introduction possible.

460
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, you are not wrong. Christmas is crazy, dude, But

461
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 1: I do think they're like there exists a culture of like, oh,

462
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 1: like are you bringing home? Like are you bringing home

463
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 1: someone for Christmas? I feel like there's often like that's

464
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 1: like the that usually is the holiday in which one

465
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 1: introduces their significant out there to their family, that is Thanksgiving.

466
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 3: But he's like, my family is hectic and it's only

467
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 3: three months in disaster.

468
00:24:57,480 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would do that. Possibly, I

469
00:24:58,840 --> 00:24:59,679
Speaker 1: don't know if I would do that.

470
00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 3: It's a but come Christmas, my family knew guess who

471
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:06,639
Speaker 3: told them my mother. I kind of knew that this

472
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 3: was coming. My momy yaps a lot, but even though

473
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,200
Speaker 3: I told her not to say anything, she still did.

474
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 3: It made me feel so angry, betrayed, and sad, sad

475
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:19,600
Speaker 3: that I didn't get the chance to say anything to

476
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 3: my family first. This greatly upset.

477
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 1: My sister, though the same sister from the title, and

478
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 1: I didn't know until about two weeks ago. She asked

479
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,359
Speaker 1: me to help out with the presentation for class. I

480
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 1: mentioned i'd be over shortly and my boyfriend was currently

481
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 1: at my place, but is perfectly capable of being alone.

482
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 3: Just some light jokes to breach the boyfriend topic in

483
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 3: a casual way, so.

484
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:44,959
Speaker 1: She doesn't tell her I have a boyfriend. She just

485
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: like throws it out there, sprinkles it as a casual joke.

486
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 1: I think that's fine. I think that's fun. What do

487
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 1: you think, che I think I think the sister's gonna

488
00:25:55,720 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 1: go banana wanat Klana's. But you didn't tell me. He

489
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: just told me.

490
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 3: It wasn't official, so I don't matter. I am just dirt.

491
00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:08,880
Speaker 3: The dirts didn't know about your boyfriend.

492
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 1: And neither did I. Worse than dirt scum that's what

493
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: I'm predicting. Pondscum. Pawn scum.

494
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:18,680
Speaker 3: Again, this was a terrible thing to say, apparently because

495
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 3: she got really cold, and when I went over, she

496
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 3: blew up into an argument, telling me that I've abandoned her,

497
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 3: that I don't care about her and never to talk.

498
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:33,880
Speaker 1: With her anymore. Wait, seriously, that is what That's wild?

499
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:35,440
Speaker 1: That is so over the top.

500
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,640
Speaker 3: No, I'm cutting off contact. That is so you didn't

501
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,760
Speaker 3: tell me. You joked about telling me your boyfriend cut

502
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 3: off contact?

503
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 1: Done? Goodbye? Uh, go go away? Drama, unnecessary drama. That's

504
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:49,640
Speaker 1: so too pretty freaking extreme. Yeah, it's way that's too much.

505
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 3: So she went on about her problems and how it's

506
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 3: all because of me having a boyfriend. Now a pause,

507
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,679
Speaker 3: How the heck are her mental issues because of my

508
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 3: life and I reallyationship.

509
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:01,920
Speaker 1: I don't get it either.

510
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 3: I consult her and apologize for not texting that much,

511
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 3: even if it's always been like that. I care about

512
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 3: my sister, I do. I love her a lot, but

513
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:14,159
Speaker 3: I don't want to be my sister's best friend. I

514
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 3: have my own life. I'm trying to live and navigates.

515
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 3: I have ambitions, aspirations that I strive for and it's

516
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 3: obvious that my sister is jealous of that. There are

517
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 3: a lot of examples of this. Choose any important thing

518
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 3: in life. My graduation, upset and crying, crabby during the

519
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 3: photos and complaining my senior art showcase where I got

520
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 3: an award, made my family late because she was self

521
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 3: conscious and crying, made them leave early afterwards. Me getting

522
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 3: a full time.

523
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: Job, same kind of thing.

524
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 3: How how can you get upset of someone getting a

525
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:46,879
Speaker 3: full time job.

526
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 1: Because she's jealous? Because she's jealous, she's a big old jellyfish.

527
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 3: So you got a job and didn't even offer me one.

528
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, you'd even give me a cut. Wow.

529
00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 3: Here, I was being a great sister all the years.

530
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 3: You didn't give me a freaking fifteen percent.

531
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 1: She thinks she's being a great sister, but I think

532
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 1: she's a sister that lacks any scruples. Scruples, No scruples.

533
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: There's not a scruple, insight, I was looking. I was

534
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: looking for a scruple. No scruples. What is that? What?

535
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: What's the scroup? What's a scruple? You never heard of

536
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: the word of scrupulous? Don't ask them, don't ask them

537
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 1: unscrupulous person. No tell, I'm Sam Well. An unscrupulous person

538
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 1: is a person who has no scruples. That's so true.

539
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: Unscrupulous means no morals, no values. Oh okay, okay, okay,

540
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: there's the definition. Yeah, LMEO, what did you find? No scruples?

541
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 1: That's what I found, not a one deep digging researched one.

542
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 1: Back to my relationship, though not that long ago. At

543
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 1: a birthday party for a friend, my sister kind of

544
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: cons me into being the designated driver because she wants

545
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: to drink. Okay, I do too, but of course I

546
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: can't say no to her or it's an issue.

547
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 3: So I drive down the street to the party. It

548
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 3: gets to be about twelve thirty one am and I

549
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 3: am exhausted. I want to leave, and my sister she

550
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 3: ignores me. I tell her more firmly that I want

551
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 3: to leave and that she can stay to call me

552
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 3: or have her friend that lives across the hall from

553
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 3: where the party was taking place to take her home something,

554
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 3: you know, anyway, more problems. More words, she is convinced

555
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 3: that I am leaving her to walk alone at three

556
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 3: am because I don't give a crap about our.

557
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: I walk this lonely road, only one that I have

558
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 1: ever known. Don't know where it goes bad. It's holy

559
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 1: me hell walk alone, were near.

560
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 5: When new Liz I walk there street, We're gonna get

561
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 5: you monetarized, so yelling and arguing in the middle of

562
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 5: the party where neither is know only the host and

563
00:29:58,600 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 5: the birthday person.

564
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 3: I am embarrassed and starting to cry, so I leave

565
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 3: into the hallway, sobbing at how she was treating me.

566
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 3: I'm in the hallway and can still hear her ranting

567
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 3: and raving to the other people. But I don't give

568
00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 3: a crap about her. How I'm selfish And it all

569
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 3: started because I got a boyfriend. Oh no, dude, bro

570
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 3: crashing out, sisters crashing out.

571
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 1: It seems I mean, she's probably just like built her

572
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 1: whole maybe life around being jealous of her sister or something.

573
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 3: And also I think she like depends on her as

574
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:29,479
Speaker 3: her like like like basically has someone depends on their

575
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 3: like romantic partner, their husband or wife, Like she's like, Okay,

576
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 3: you're just gonna like take everything yeah for me even

577
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:38,280
Speaker 3: more even worse. And I didn't even tell her when

578
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 3: I got my friend, how I never talked to her

579
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 3: unless I need something or to complain.

580
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: But if you need.

581
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582
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Speaker 3: of of something something special, oh something goofy, something that.

583
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Speaker 1: Will just get your you hot, and Bob do, I

584
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: got the gift for you.

585
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586
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587
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 3: all right there two thousand hours of full episodes. So

588
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Speaker 3: listen to more than two thousand hours, more than two

589
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Speaker 3: thousand hours.

590
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: We have more to the story. Actually a good, good

591
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:17,640
Speaker 1: bit left, a good chunk.

592
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 3: But sisters absolutely crashing out saying all of these things.

593
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 3: I feel like we're kind of reaching an impasse here.

594
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 3: What do we do? We are op, what do we do?

595
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: I think what we do here? Change your name, go

596
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: into the hills, Wow, create a new life. We'll move

597
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 1: away from sister because I think, I mean, I'm kiding

598
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 1: about that. But the sister like knows where you live,

599
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: you know, she lives in the same building down the hall.

600
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: I feel like she can like really mess up your life.

601
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be hard to create like a

602
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 1: barrier boundary here. Yeah, yeah, I don't know.

603
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,239
Speaker 3: And also little thing I'm picking up on. But like

604
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 3: the mom stable was like, oh, I want you guys

605
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 3: to live together. I feel like the whole family is

606
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 3: kind of that. She's a little crazy, and she's like,

607
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 3: oh that's true. I didn't even think about that.

608
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: But yeah, oh you deal with her, Yeah, you deal

609
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: with her. Yeah.

610
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 3: Oh crap, if if Opie, if she can go and

611
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 3: knock on Opie's door, is she gonna call mom and

612
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 3: just yeap, yeaper, you're off for two hours.

613
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: That is a excellent point, my dear Watson. Yeah, dude,

614
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 1: extremely shrewd deduction. I do, I really do think this

615
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 1: is uh uh, this is an offload of of the

616
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: sister because she's a little a little wacky oh.

617
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and very tacky. Oh yeah, but there is more.

618
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 3: It hurt hearing about how much she just hates me.

619
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 3: I'm embarrassed because she is wasted yelling in this party

620
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 3: of people that she doesn't know very well. I go

621
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 3: back to see if I.

622
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 1: Can get her to stop and if I'm taking her

623
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: home or not. She yells at me to just Effie leave. Yeah.

624
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 1: A little bit too much, too much, a little bit

625
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 1: too much?

626
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 3: So I do I go sob in the stairwell with

627
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 3: the party host, who's a good friend of mine. She

628
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 3: consoles me through an awful panic attack and sobfest that

629
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 3: what my sister said was unwarranted and an awful thing

630
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 3: to say time and place, you know. She talks to

631
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 3: me about my boyfriend and calms me down enough for

632
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 3: me to drive home and call him. Overall, it was

633
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,479
Speaker 3: the single most awful night of my life.

634
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: Oh and it.

635
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 3: Wasn't even on my own wasted self that was the cost.

636
00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:28,920
Speaker 1: Come on, awful night of your life. That's rough. She

637
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: has yet to apologize for how she acted, and I

638
00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: don't think she will because I have abandoned her for

639
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: my boyfriend. So am I the a hole? Before we

640
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 1: get into the comments, No, you're not the a hole.

641
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 1: The sister is a piece of work. That I mean.

642
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: I don't know how you deal with it, but I mean,

643
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 1: like you gotta set boundary somehow. But yeah, maybe it

644
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 1: be hard. It's like it feels like you're being offloaded.

645
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe it's just like, hey, like I want to

646
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 3: be in your life, like I love you as my sister,

647
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 3: I do, but like if you keep doing stuff like

648
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 3: this like I'm it's.

649
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: It's gonna be hard to have any kind of relationship

650
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: with you.

651
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 3: It's gonna hard to be hard to want to continue

652
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 3: with you.

653
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not gonna want to continue, but we do

654
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:11,279
Speaker 1: have to walk a lonely road. The only one that

655
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 1: I have ever known, only one, only one I have

656
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 1: ever known, is like, not gonna know where it goes,

657
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 1: not at all. But you know it's only me, and

658
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: you know I walk along, you do walk along. Yeah,

659
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:25,919
Speaker 1: I don't know. Well, if you got us, Donna, you'll

660
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 1: never Dona done. No, No, don't doubt yourself.

661
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 4: You do know, you do know, and we and I

662
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:36,760
Speaker 4: want to know how this story ends, too well, Producer Riley,

663
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:38,800
Speaker 4: I got you. We got some realm of comments with

664
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 4: commented number one. Why are you entertaining her crap? Stop

665
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,800
Speaker 4: blaming your hijacker your life. No is a complete sentence.

666
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 3: And frankly i'd block her and put her on a

667
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 3: six month no contact timeout. And you need therapy to

668
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 3: unpack why you let your family walk all over you.

669
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 3: Boundaries are a thing. Figure them out and set them

670
00:34:56,440 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 3: down hard. Don't let anyone, much less your mom or

671
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 3: your sister cross those hard boundaries, those rock hard boundaries,

672
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 3: and for the love of God, move put some distance

673
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 3: between you and your sister. Living in the same complex

674
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 3: isn't a good thing right now. Maybe try finding something

675
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 3: closer to your work, but at least a good thirty

676
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 3: minutes walking distance from her. You are not a child.

677
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,240
Speaker 3: Stop letting them treat you like one, not the a hole.

678
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 3: And then commentary number two says, do you go to

679
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 3: her mostly to complain and when you need something? I

680
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 3: feel like I'm missing a huge piece here. She was

681
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,680
Speaker 3: this selfless sister that's sacrificed to give you a better

682
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 3: life with her childhood. Now she's the devil.

683
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 1: Ope. He did mention that in the beginning, what am

684
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 1: I missing? Ope?

685
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 3: Your response to that, I don't just go to complain.

686
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 3: I talk to her about our favorite games and shows

687
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:45,960
Speaker 3: and all of that, just not twenty four to seven

688
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 3: like how it was living with her. I think part

689
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 3: of the change between us has been her own mental

690
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 3: struggle too. It's not like she talks to me about

691
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 3: that though, Like how I'm still private about parts of

692
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 3: my life. I'm not upset with her for not confiding

693
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 3: in me, but she upset that I don't. I don't

694
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:05,359
Speaker 3: understand what she wants from me, and then Opie also

695
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 3: says this in the comment section, a comment for everyone

696
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 3: who has given me advice on this, thank you so

697
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,280
Speaker 3: much for your kind words and tough love. I felt

698
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,360
Speaker 3: very much alone in this until I can fight it in.

699
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 3: My boyfriend about it and decided to mention it here.

700
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 3: He has one hundred percent by my side, and I

701
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,839
Speaker 3: think he would have some strong words if he'd met

702
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,319
Speaker 3: my sister. I'm definitely going to consider low contact with

703
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:25,800
Speaker 3: my sister.

704
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,760
Speaker 1: I think that's like, I think that's necessary at this point.

705
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 3: I liked your earlier idea in another story of time

706
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 3: out timeouts, that that timeouts that are increasing with time.

707
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 1: So it's like your first time out is like a month,

708
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:44,319
Speaker 1: and then if you do something whack, then it's two months.

709
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 1: There's four months those eight months.

710
00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 3: Because it kind of builds in like, hey, you have

711
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 3: some time to like think about and you know, come

712
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 3: correct back to me, and it also gives you some

713
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 3: space and you know it's it's an elegant solution.

714
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 1: Elegant solution, right, I'm all about that elegance. Oh yes

715
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: he is. You see the top of his head, elist gentleman.

716
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 1: Oh baby, now that's for my mom.

717
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 3: I'm not sure what to do with her. Therapy has

718
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 3: been considered for a while regarding my family, and this

719
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 3: situation has pushed me into it to actually find it,

720
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 3: fingers crossed that things will get better. If they don't,

721
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 3: I might just have to run away with my partner.

722
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 3: Oh no, what a terrible thought.

723
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 1: Sarcastic. I see uop, And that's it. That's it, and

724
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 1: that's it. That's freaking it, you know.

725
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 3: Oh so I think basically just what we said, you know,

726
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,839
Speaker 3: have at least some sort of space and distance yea

727
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 3: from his sister. She's doing too much.

728
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 1: I think that's it.

729
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 3: You're doing absolutely too much.

730
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, my cousin promised a concert ticket to my fiance,

731
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: then sold it behind her backs and played victim. How

732
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: dare you you? Capitalist? Pig?

733
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 3: Not for tea swizzle.

734
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: It sounds like entrepreneurship right there. No buckle up, This

735
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: is a long and stupid story. Oh we love those.

736
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 1: Me twenty six female and my twenty nine female fiance

737
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 1: I will call her have been together for five and

738
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:06,320
Speaker 1: a half years, getting married in eight months. Longtime listener,

739
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: first time writing in when Taylor Swift tickets went up

740
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: for sale, my twenty female cousin, I will call her

741
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 1: d got floor seats for eight hundred bucks.

742
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:19,160
Speaker 2: Do you realize that is a steal?

743
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:21,400
Speaker 1: How much your swift tickets.

744
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 2: Bro an arm and a leg? And I don't know

745
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:25,440
Speaker 2: ey'm the swifty. I just know they're an arm and

746
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:28,440
Speaker 2: a leg. Eight hundred is for timingy tickets too.

747
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 1: I got floor seats for a hundred. I don't know

748
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: if it's eight hundred each, but I think that's a chat.

749
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:35,920
Speaker 1: Let them know. Yeah, that sounds great. These were the

750
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 1: original verified Fans sale tickets. By the way, this comes

751
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 1: from Immediate Escape nine thirty six and if you want

752
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 1: to submit your own stories, go to our slash Okay

753
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: storytime sub wrote it so out by the time, my

754
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 1: cousin was dating somebody and planned to take them. They

755
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 1: broke up, so my cousin offered eight ticket to s.

756
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: They planned and a bought matching outfits and texted about

757
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: it for almost a full year. Then on October seventeenth,

758
00:38:56,680 --> 00:39:00,320
Speaker 1: d Doug. I'm gonna say, Doug faced time so my

759
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: fiance to tell her she forgot. She put them on

760
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: stub hub ten months ago and sold the tickets for

761
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:13,720
Speaker 1: eight thousand dollars. We love times the price she purchased

762
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: them for through a verified fan sale. YEO, probably just profit.

763
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: That's crazy, that's crazy.

764
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,720
Speaker 2: I'm telling you. I'm telling you that the eight hundred

765
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 2: dollars was nothing.

766
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 1: It was unfortunate as my cousin was one of the

767
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 1: few lucky fans that actually got tickets at face value

768
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 1: and then still ended up selling them for an enormous markup.

769
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 1: But besides that, it was hard for me to believe

770
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:42,399
Speaker 1: that this was entirely an accident, as to put them

771
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:45,280
Speaker 1: up on StubHub you would need to click. I agree.

772
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 1: Many times she has said she forgot they were there

773
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 1: and promised it was an accident, but then also said

774
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: she avoided checking her stub Hub because she didn't want

775
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 1: to see if they were gone. She was never transparent

776
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 1: with us that the tickets she had prom missed run

777
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 1: stub Hub prior to all this happening so really quick.

778
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: This person whose guy breaks up with a girlfriend, it's like, hey,

779
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 1: I'm going to take your fiance the cousin, Right, that's

780
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 1: what happened, Right, it's still his tickets. It's like kind

781
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 1: of a lame to like promise it, but it's like

782
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 1: still his tickets, you know. Yeah, and also asking a

783
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 1: dude to be like, yeah, take my fiance or lose

784
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:28,399
Speaker 1: eight grand, like is a rough choice to have someone make. Yeah,

785
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,360
Speaker 1: still like Dick moved to not tell them, yes, yes,

786
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 1: of course, but I understand like the you know, that's

787
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: a difficult choice to make.

788
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,439
Speaker 3: And I have literally done that before where I put

789
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 3: a ticket like on resale and completely forgot about it

790
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, yeah, I'm going to go

791
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 3: to this ticket was gone. I've literally had that happen before,

792
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 3: So I think it is a plausible scenario.

793
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, especially maybe it was like maybe it was like

794
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 1: you put it on and you forgot that you put

795
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: it like you put it on immediately forgot you put

796
00:40:57,360 --> 00:41:00,319
Speaker 1: it on, and then but you have to have you

797
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 1: have to agree to the price that the well, for.

798
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 3: Me, the one I did it was like in the platform,

799
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 3: so it was like one click and you're done, right,

800
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 3: So it was in the the checkout, Yeah, I was

801
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 3: like less of a whole thing.

802
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: So I don't know, but they could be lone. Deirdre

803
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: said to Sally she was going to try to repurchase

804
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 1: tickets with the money she sold them for and would

805
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,800
Speaker 1: keep in touch if prices went down and she was

806
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: able to find some. Everyone was devastated, of course, but

807
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,439
Speaker 1: Sally said to Deirdre, I work full time. I don't

808
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 1: have time to look for more tickets, so I'm leaving

809
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: that completely in your hands. And Deirdre fully agreed and

810
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 1: said she understood and was doing ticket researching. It's important

811
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 1: to add on a FaceTime call. Sally was completely crushed

812
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 1: by this news, but did not blame Deirdre for this

813
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 1: and wasn't angry with her. Okay, that's good. Yeah. October eighteenth,

814
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 1: my friend reached out to me that they had an

815
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 1: extra ticket. Their partner offered up her ticket so Sally

816
00:41:49,080 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 1: could go, and I jumped at the opportunity, paid two

817
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 1: hundred dollars for nosebleed seats just so I knew she

818
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: wouldn't be missing out on the opportunity. If Deirdre had

819
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 1: reached out and told me she repurchased ticket and still

820
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 1: planned to take Sally, we would have given the ticket back,

821
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 1: as the plan was always still for Sally and Deirdre

822
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 1: to find a way to go together. From October seventeenth

823
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:13,959
Speaker 1: to November fifteenth, Deirdre had zero communication with us said

824
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 1: nothing about buying more tickets, so Sally did not mention

825
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 1: the ticket offered by my best friend to protect her

826
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: feelings and so she didn't feel bad or left out

827
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:25,840
Speaker 1: if she was never able to repurchase tickets. On November eleventh,

828
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 1: Deirdre saw on Instagram story posted by my friend who

829
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 1: offered the ticket, tagging Sally saying how excited she was

830
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 1: for the concert. Deir detected Sally about the story, and

831
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 1: Sally said, yes, she had one ticket to go. She

832
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 1: apologized for not telling her about it and not communicating

833
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 1: that Deirdre never answered her message. Then, on the day

834
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: of the concert, Deirdre posted on Instagram she had repurchased

835
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 1: more front row seats and was at the concert with

836
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 1: her mom, whoa I think as like a fumm, I'm here.

837
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:02,240
Speaker 3: With my mom, but not you, I'm front row baby.

838
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 1: To be honest, I did one hundred percent fantastically text

839
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 1: her and say have fun at the concert. It was

840
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 1: pretty obvious at this point that Deirdre was upset that

841
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 1: Sally was now going with someone else. This caused a

842
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: fight over the next two days later, which led to

843
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:18,799
Speaker 1: a FaceTime call that she wanted her mom to be

844
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 1: there for but I said no, because we were all

845
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,439
Speaker 1: adults and don't need our moms to resolve conflicts. During

846
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 1: the call, Deirdre demanded Sally apologize for not telling her

847
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: she had purchased another ticket. She had already apologized over

848
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 1: text before, but still apologize again on the call. Deirdre

849
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: also made her apologize for not advising her of the

850
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: tickets to spare her feelings, because in her mind, she

851
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,760
Speaker 1: is an adult and can handle her own emotions really quickly.

852
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: On that, I do think that is like a mess

853
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 1: up on their part to not say that they purchased

854
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 1: more tickets. I totally agree. It's definitely a failure of

855
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 1: communication on both sides for sure, But I do think

856
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 1: there is some failure to communicate on op side totally.

857
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 3: You just be like, hey, we're getting this ticket like

858
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 3: just in case, like basically as a backup in case

859
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 3: you don't find anything easy. Yeah, right, you know, just

860
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 3: to make sure like any reasonable person I feel like

861
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 3: would understand that.

862
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, because of her mind, she's an adulting can handle

863
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 1: her own emotions. Even went as far as to say,

864
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 1: how dare you tell me what I would and would

865
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 1: not be upset over Deirdre dragged about getting better seats

866
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: second time around, said, I got to see Taylor Swift.

867
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 1: Instill made two and a half thousand dollars. You robe

868
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 1: it in my face. All tickets, outfits, hotels are purchased

869
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: for the show. We're on our mom's credit cards. She

870
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 1: spent none of her own money. I bought Sally the

871
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:39,760
Speaker 1: backup ticket. I drove us five hours to the concert venue.

872
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:42,399
Speaker 1: I found us last minute place to stay because all

873
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 1: hotels were fifteen hundred dollars a night. Yikes. My poor

874
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 1: fiance had pneumonia for three weeks leading up to the concert.

875
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: Not overly important to the story, but important to me.

876
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,359
Speaker 1: And during the FaceTime call, I said that I will

877
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 1: never understand how somebody could accidentally put front row Taylor

878
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 1: Swift tickets on stub Hub and avoid checking if they saw.

879
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: Deirdred demanded I understand that she and her own words

880
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 1: had no clue. I put them up for sale. Nobody

881
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 1: could agree, so it took two months apart and we

882
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:11,359
Speaker 1: didn't speak. Fast forward to yesterday. I got a very long,

883
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:14,320
Speaker 1: aggressive text from Deirdre that starts with this is the

884
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 1: last time I'm reaching out before I give up she's

885
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 1: demanding I apologize for dragging this on for so long

886
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 1: and treating her like a child and not an equal

887
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 1: in the situation. And if I can't apologize for my

888
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,840
Speaker 1: faults in this situation, that she doesn't want to continue

889
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:29,880
Speaker 1: a relationship with me, I'm not going to want to

890
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 1: continue a relationship with you if you don't freaking listen

891
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 1: to our podcast that we release every weekday and weekend

892
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 1: multiple times a day. Oh now, you can listen while

893
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 1: you're doing other stuff, So listen to our podcast on Spotify,

894
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:44,799
Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts by just searching. Okay, storytime, freaking do it.

895
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: We got a little bit more to this story really quick.

896
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 1: But what do you think about uh Ohpe's need to

897
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:52,240
Speaker 1: apologize in the situation?

898
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 3: I think kind of, like what we were saying a

899
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 3: minute ago, everyone's kind of done something wrong at some

900
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 3: point in this story, and I feel like what should

901
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 3: have been said was, hey, look, you know, I realized

902
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 3: I might have messed up, but you know, initially with

903
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 3: not keeping a better track, But honestly, I was hurt

904
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 3: when I realized that she was she was going without

905
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 3: me and that's my friend, and like this is gonna

906
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:17,839
Speaker 3: be this like great thing, and like I'm hurt and

907
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:20,160
Speaker 3: honestly like, look, I apologize for what I would be wrong,

908
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 3: but I do want to hear an apology from from

909
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 3: y'all as well. Like I feel like the energy she's

910
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 3: reaching out with is just gonna kind of lead to

911
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 3: she's like, you know, come apologize me, or it's over

912
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 3: and we're not gonna talk to you. I feel like

913
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:34,840
Speaker 3: that's just what's gonna happen with this kind of energy.

914
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 1: That's that I think. Yeah, I agree, whack energy from

915
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,800
Speaker 1: her side, but also a little whack energy from op side.

916
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:42,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, every everyone's done something wrong in this story.

917
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,359
Speaker 1: Everyone kind of sucks here. But it's a quote from

918
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 1: one of her texts, Sally got to go to the concert.

919
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,719
Speaker 1: If you can't see how she played just as big

920
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:52,799
Speaker 1: a part in the misunderstanding as I did, then that's

921
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 1: on you. She neglected to tell me she had another ticket.

922
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 1: I guess in hopes to go twice or like she said,

923
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:00,399
Speaker 1: so she wouldn't hurt my feelings, which is due because

924
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 1: I'm not a child. She is somehow bringing in that.

925
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 1: We never offered to help her pay for anything, but

926
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:07,240
Speaker 1: we never got to that stage. The tickets were sold

927
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 1: a month before going and if anything, I would be

928
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:11,799
Speaker 1: talking to my aunt about it, considering she was the

929
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 1: one that spent all the money. And there are some

930
00:47:14,600 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 1: comments and they say, not the a hole. It sounds

931
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,919
Speaker 1: like the cousin is mad your fiance didn't miss out.

932
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 1: You did good. This is exactly how a thoughtful partner behaves,

933
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: and not the a hole. I feel like the cousin

934
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 1: never sold her ticket and just wanted to go with

935
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 1: her mom instead. Whyless the ticket for sale in the

936
00:47:29,560 --> 00:47:32,359
Speaker 1: first place if you intend on going together makes no sense.

937
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:34,760
Speaker 1: And nope, he replied. Her reasoning for selling a ticket

938
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 1: was I'm a nosy which and wanted to see how

939
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:39,320
Speaker 1: much money I could get from them instead of simply

940
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 1: checking stub hub and seeing what other people were selling

941
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:45,920
Speaker 1: their tickets for another reply, Yeah, I highly doubt she

942
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 1: actually sold them. Here's the thing. If she did, she

943
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 1: wouldn't have magically gotten two more front row tickets for

944
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,879
Speaker 1: the concert for her and her mom. Even if her

945
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:57,040
Speaker 1: mom paid, they would have been astronomical. She had no

946
00:47:57,080 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: intention on taking your wife, huh to any screenshots or

947
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:03,800
Speaker 1: any real proof that tickets were sold.

948
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 3: I mean so like my understanding is like when you're

949
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 3: on the generally, like when you're on the floor, it's

950
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:10,880
Speaker 3: like basically you can get right up to the stage

951
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 3: and then a lot of like arenas. The seats are

952
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 3: actually like around the floor, so you're actually like way

953
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 3: further back. So I think it is possible that the

954
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 3: front row seats were actually like way cheaper than the

955
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 3: floor seats. Yeah, and that she's still like would have

956
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,080
Speaker 3: been six and a half grand. Yeah, I know that

957
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 3: is two floor seats are way more expensive. Yeah, So

958
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:32,880
Speaker 3: I feel like that is plausible that she still had

959
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 3: a little leftover after getting too front receipts oh.

960
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:36,439
Speaker 1: He says, I do know for a fact she sold

961
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 1: the original tickets. They were sections B one front row

962
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 1: floor tickets on the right side of the stage, and

963
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 1: her second purchase tickets were directly in front of the

964
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 1: diamond coming through. This is so bizarre. I don't think

965
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:48,719
Speaker 1: anyone is blaming her for selling the tickets for ak

966
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:51,480
Speaker 1: that's smart, But to then be mad that your fiance

967
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: was offered the opportunity to go is childish. It seems

968
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 1: like she was being petty and she could have gotten

969
00:48:57,000 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 1: tickets early, but didn't really try until Sally had another option,

970
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: so stupid fight, especially because she's acting like a child.

971
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 1: He says, I hear you ak's ak, but from the

972
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:10,280
Speaker 1: get go, she should have communicated they were on StubHub.

973
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: Comment for not the a hole. You cannot accidentally put

974
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 1: tickets for sale on stub Hub. I've sold tickets there

975
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:19,960
Speaker 1: at face value because scalping sucks and it takes multiple

976
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,640
Speaker 1: steps and nope, replied. She claims she's a dumb butt

977
00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 1: and doesn't read any of the terms and conditions, so

978
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:29,240
Speaker 1: she had no idea what she was agreeing to. When explaining,

979
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,319
Speaker 1: I have no clue how somebody could do that. I

980
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,480
Speaker 1: am now the bad guy. I need to apologize for that.

981
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 1: In comment five, I'm so confused. Why are you entertaining

982
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:40,200
Speaker 1: this a hole? How did she make your fiance apologize

983
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:42,320
Speaker 1: for going to the concert? Is she mad your fiance

984
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: went to the concert? I think she's more mad of

985
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 1: the lack of the communication and.

986
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:51,400
Speaker 3: Also that she I think with the lack of communication,

987
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:54,440
Speaker 3: she didn't realize that she still did want to go

988
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:56,359
Speaker 3: with her, but that this was kind of like her

989
00:49:56,440 --> 00:50:00,319
Speaker 3: backup option. Yeah, you know, and ended up need to

990
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:01,200
Speaker 3: use that backup off.

991
00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not the a hole for not standing up

992
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 1: to your wife and entertaining this nonsense. Nope, replies, My

993
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 1: fiance apologized because she's a bigger person than her and

994
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 1: thought giving her apology she asks for would mean we

995
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:14,959
Speaker 1: could move on. I've entertained this for the simple fact

996
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,280
Speaker 1: I'm defending my fiance and all of it. My cousin

997
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:19,839
Speaker 1: is pointing all blame at my fiance and I will

998
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: not let her. So she is now mad at me.

999
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 1: She's claiming my fiance had his this secret extra ticket

1000
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: we never told her about. This is a copy paste

1001
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 1: text from her. So, yes, you're defending Sally was effing

1002
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:33,200
Speaker 1: up because she effed up. I have no idea whose

1003
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:35,520
Speaker 1: decision it ultimately was to not tell me about the

1004
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 1: extra ticket. Either way, neither of you took accountability for that,

1005
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 1: and this is literally what created this entire mess. Sally

1006
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 1: took accountability and apologized about three times for it. That's

1007
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 1: a lot of apologies, a lot of apologies. I don't know.

1008
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 1: I think like both. I think there's both there's a

1009
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 1: holary on both sides. I think there's lots of communication

1010
00:50:54,239 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: on both sides. I think both sides are a little overreactive.

1011
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 1: I think everyone's kind of a hile here. Yeah. Everyone

1012
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 1: kind of sucks here. Yeah, but let us know what

1013
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 1: you think. We have bad takes some times, and you guys,

1014
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 1: let us know. So you took a yet oh they do.

1015
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 2: I'm confused, Like, how do you forget about a te

1016
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:09,280
Speaker 2: Swift ticket?

1017
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:11,320
Speaker 3: I mean John John said he forgot about it and

1018
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 3: it was a jay Z concert, not gonna lie. I

1019
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 3: was so sad, bro I made like ten dollars on

1020
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 3: the ticket, and I'm like, I hate myself.

1021
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:21,240
Speaker 1: That's fair. That was very sad. This is an episode

1022
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 1: from Deep within the Archives.

1023
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:28,760
Speaker 3: Time for okop rewam today. Effed up by accidentally watching

1024
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 3: some sweet slongs during a flight. But it's not what

1025
00:51:31,760 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 3: you think. What just watching some.

1026
00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:39,439
Speaker 1: Sweet schloans long you know some Is this a mile high?

1027
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:42,960
Speaker 1: You would think it is, But it's nuts, all right,

1028
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:43,479
Speaker 1: let's hear.

1029
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 3: Yesterday, I twenty two mail was on a plane, a

1030
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:49,319
Speaker 3: two hour flight scheduled to land at eight pm. I

1031
00:51:49,360 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 3: had the window seat and there were two other passengers

1032
00:51:51,640 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 3: sitting next to me who were a young couple. The

1033
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:55,720
Speaker 3: woman was sitting in the middle and she was squeezing

1034
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 3: her boyfriend's hand the entire time. Most likely anxiety. Now,

1035
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,319
Speaker 3: the weather was pretty bad and I could relate to how.

1036
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 1: The woman was feeling.

1037
00:52:02,200 --> 00:52:04,720
Speaker 3: But instead of cutting off the blood circulation in another

1038
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 3: person's hand, I tried to distract myself with a movie

1039
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:08,759
Speaker 3: on my laptop.

1040
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:10,240
Speaker 1: What kind of movie?

1041
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:10,359
Speaker 2: Oh?

1042
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 3: The movie I chose to watch was called Violation? Oh god,

1043
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:18,319
Speaker 3: so this was a movie my roommate had recommended to me.

1044
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:20,319
Speaker 3: It was almost as long as my flight was going

1045
00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 3: to be, so I thought, why not, let's do it. Well,

1046
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 3: the thing is, I fell asleep while watching Violation. It's

1047
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 3: a super fed up revenge movie. You'll love it, my

1048
00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 3: roommate said to me. I was sold. But the thing is,

1049
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:37,839
Speaker 3: my roommate did not mention that it was also super boringday.

1050
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 3: The movie did one thing right, though, It managed to

1051
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 3: put me right to sleep during a turbulent flight.

1052
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: Amazing.

1053
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 3: But then I woke up to someone tapping me on

1054
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:48,279
Speaker 3: the shoulder. It was the passenger next to me, and

1055
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:50,839
Speaker 3: at that moment I also noticed that one of the

1056
00:52:50,880 --> 00:52:54,320
Speaker 3: flight attendants was staring me down. I removed my headphones,

1057
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:56,879
Speaker 3: thinking oh, we were about to land or something like that.

1058
00:52:57,160 --> 00:52:59,640
Speaker 3: The flight attendant wanted to inform me that some of

1059
00:52:59,680 --> 00:53:03,320
Speaker 3: the past messengers were uncomfortable with what I was watching.

1060
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 1: On my last People are like this guy watching this flight.

1061
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:13,279
Speaker 1: I looked at my laptop and noticed a naked man

1062
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 1: sitting in a chair with a blindfold and a fully

1063
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 1: exposed eric. What is this movement?

1064
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:26,840
Speaker 3: This dude's meat was literally flexing the details too too much.

1065
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:30,120
Speaker 3: I had no context of what was happening at this scene,

1066
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:34,360
Speaker 3: but I instantly closed my laptop and apologized, I'm.

1067
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 1: Sorry, this is just what I This is what calms me.

1068
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:43,280
Speaker 1: It's my special resent man. You should try it sometimes. Yeah.

1069
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 3: As the flight attendant walked away, I heard a female

1070
00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:49,319
Speaker 3: passenger behind me thank the flight attend Thank you.

1071
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 1: It was so disturbing. What there's like children on the flight?

1072
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:56,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, actually, like it could me children, grand you know,

1073
00:53:56,320 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 3: elder people. When I looked at the couple next to me,

1074
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:01,480
Speaker 3: I realized the boyfriend was now sitting next to me

1075
00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 3: and not his girlfriend for real.

1076
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 1: I obviously made.

1077
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:08,040
Speaker 3: The girlfriend uncomfortable as well, hence the swap. The two

1078
00:54:08,080 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 3: of them avoided eye contact with me at all costs,

1079
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 3: even when we landed. When it was time for my

1080
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:15,720
Speaker 3: section to get up and grab our luggage, the female

1081
00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 3: passenger behind me said I should be ashamed for playing

1082
00:54:19,040 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 3: dirty movies on a plane where there's children around. Fair

1083
00:54:22,160 --> 00:54:24,760
Speaker 3: I locked eyes with her little small boy.

1084
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 1: Oh no, dude, and she's like, mommy, what was he watching?

1085
00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:31,520
Speaker 3: Oh my god, this is so sad. And he made

1086
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 3: it clear to me that he could spell SpongeBob.

1087
00:54:34,239 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 1: This por kid. He's like, I can spell SpongeBob. Also,

1088
00:54:37,719 --> 00:54:38,880
Speaker 1: you have heart.

1089
00:54:39,200 --> 00:54:41,840
Speaker 3: I apologize to the mom and awkwardly looked away. I

1090
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 3: could feel people staring at me. Fuck that movie.

1091
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:44,799
Speaker 2: Yo.

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00:54:45,239 --> 00:54:47,719
Speaker 1: We had a touch on this roommate though, like why

1093
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 1: is this roommate suggesting this kind of movie? And two

1094
00:54:51,480 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 1: when I actually I had an experience like this on

1095
00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 1: a flight web Oh really, I wasn't the guy watching

1096
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 1: you know, dirty movies. But there was this guy on

1097
00:54:57,920 --> 00:55:01,840
Speaker 1: an airplane that was literally watched porn on full blast,

1098
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 1: like on his phone, just like no shame about it,

1099
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 1: just watching porn. And people made a comment like oh

1100
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: nice broke, like subtly shaming for it, but he gave

1101
00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 1: zero fox Wait wait how long he was watching it?

1102
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:15,879
Speaker 1: The entire flight? And then people saw it more when

1103
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: he was walking fast because he still had the porn

1104
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 1: on as he was walking down the aisle. He was

1105
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 1: literally watching it as he was walking down the aisle. Yeah,

1106
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:25,759
Speaker 1: a flight attendant didn't go up to him. And oh

1107
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 1: no what the man must be very addicted to porn

1108
00:55:29,320 --> 00:55:31,400
Speaker 1: if he has to watch it going down the aisle.

1109
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,440
Speaker 1: I'm just in shock, utter shocked in the flight. Like

1110
00:55:34,440 --> 00:55:36,359
Speaker 1: the flight attendants must have seen it. I don't know

1111
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:39,359
Speaker 1: I have Maybe I'm not sure they didn't they say,

1112
00:55:39,360 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: didn't say anything.

1113
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 3: Well, more of the day. You can watch porn on

1114
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 3: a plane, Yeah you can, children, But.

1115
00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:47,239
Speaker 1: If you have your own spooky smutty stories to share,

1116
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:50,439
Speaker 1: go to our such okop show and submit them to us. Yes,

1117
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:54,680
Speaker 1: do it today? I fed up by making my dad

1118
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:58,879
Speaker 1: punch a dancer of the poll in GTA and then

1119
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 1: having him ask for forgiveness from God in front of

1120
00:56:02,520 --> 00:56:06,880
Speaker 1: the entire family. Wait, wow, in front of the entire family.

1121
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 1: Like the entire family. Okay, okay, let's see where this goes.

1122
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:12,400
Speaker 1: Let me try that one more time. Yes, I was

1123
00:56:12,520 --> 00:56:15,800
Speaker 1: encouraged to post this here from a comment I made elsewhere,

1124
00:56:15,880 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 1: even though it didn't happen today or even this decade.

1125
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:21,200
Speaker 1: So mods please remove it if it goes against the rules.

1126
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 1: It's a funny story though. When I was young, my

1127
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:27,239
Speaker 1: brothers and I snuck a copy of San Andreas into

1128
00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 1: the house class we spent Yeah, dude, that game was

1129
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:33,080
Speaker 1: so good, so good. I would always play Said Andrea's

1130
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:34,799
Speaker 1: at my friend's house because my parents didn't have me

1131
00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: play video games. Same well, bad rated video games. Yeah,

1132
00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:41,640
Speaker 1: I could play video rated yeah or MA or m see,

1133
00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 1: we don't even know. That's how bad we are playing

1134
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:47,280
Speaker 1: video games. We spent days hold in our basement taking

1135
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:50,200
Speaker 1: turns playing and down there. My parents didn't bother us

1136
00:56:50,200 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 1: too much. In order to get tons of money for guns,

1137
00:56:53,280 --> 00:56:55,880
Speaker 1: we had yet to figure out my parents dial up passwords,

1138
00:56:55,880 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 1: so cheets weren't a thing for us yet. What we

1139
00:56:57,760 --> 00:57:00,040
Speaker 1: would do is we'd go to the strip club and

1140
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 1: stand on stage absorbing the money dudes through at women,

1141
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:06,400
Speaker 1: and just let the games sit for ten or twenty minutes.

1142
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 1: That's a great hat.

1143
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 3: I love that, and I also love like, just if

1144
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:13,719
Speaker 3: someone doesn't know, GTA just sounds so crazy, Like, in

1145
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:15,800
Speaker 3: order to get money for guns, we had to stand

1146
00:57:15,880 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 3: in front of the pole.

1147
00:57:16,840 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 1: Dancers, so he got in the one honest days and.

1148
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 3: Honest days living I'm moving boxes on scrip from money Ma.

1149
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 1: We had to be careful though, because sometimes the dancers

1150
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:31,680
Speaker 1: of the pole would move and bump into CJ and

1151
00:57:31,720 --> 00:57:35,760
Speaker 1: the balancers. But the place up hikes. One day, while

1152
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:38,320
Speaker 1: I was playing, my mom yelled down to the basement

1153
00:57:38,440 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 1: us to get ready. We're going to pizza hut. Hey.

1154
00:57:41,920 --> 00:57:44,480
Speaker 1: Like a great time and a stroke of genius, I

1155
00:57:44,640 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: drove to the GTA Dancing of the Pole Club, got

1156
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 1: on stage, and then turned the TV off and we left.

1157
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:56,200
Speaker 1: It was the best heist of the century. My dad, however,

1158
00:57:56,760 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 1: was and as the last highest because he is getting

1159
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:02,480
Speaker 1: all the free money about. We would go to the

1160
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:05,440
Speaker 1: Dancing of the Pole Club and stand on the stage

1161
00:58:05,640 --> 00:58:07,960
Speaker 1: absorbing money. Dudes threw at the woman and just let

1162
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:11,440
Speaker 1: the game sit for ten or twenty minutes. Genius. My dad, however,

1163
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,720
Speaker 1: was at church at this time, practicing for a gospel

1164
00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 1: concert he was singing in. He always filmed the practices

1165
00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:22,320
Speaker 1: so he could take notes at home upon playblack Oh God,

1166
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 1: so he could take notes at home upon playback, and

1167
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 1: this time was no different. So this guy's like, this

1168
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: guy's super religious.

1169
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,080
Speaker 3: Wow, Wait is he recording it in the basement or

1170
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 3: at the church?

1171
00:58:32,960 --> 00:58:35,440
Speaker 1: They record the church service, and then he reviews the

1172
00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 1: tapes in the basement. Ah right, no, you're religious when

1173
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 1: we're reviewing pape to the Dame. No big game today. Well,

1174
00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:46,560
Speaker 1: my mom and brothers and I were still at the hut.

1175
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 1: He arrived at home and plugged his camcorder into the VCR.

1176
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 1: We had just one VCR and it was connected to

1177
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: the basement TV. Back at the hut, my mom gets

1178
00:58:56,200 --> 00:58:59,160
Speaker 1: a phone call. She says, She puts her napkin down

1179
00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:03,919
Speaker 1: and slowly looks at the table and says okay, okay,

1180
00:59:04,560 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 1: okay a few times in the phone in this really

1181
00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 1: calculating specific way that she always did when she knew

1182
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:13,160
Speaker 1: us kids were in trouble before we did. Oh no,

1183
00:59:13,240 --> 00:59:16,120
Speaker 1: that that that mom's sixth sense that you you know

1184
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:19,280
Speaker 1: when it's coming, you feel it in your soul. The

1185
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 1: wrath of a mom is worse than our wrath against

1186
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 1: Adam Levine, our arch nemesis, who we will pass and

1187
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:29,640
Speaker 1: followers very soon. So uh, make sure it does abort

1188
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:32,000
Speaker 1: us so we could dominate Adam Levine.

1189
00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:34,560
Speaker 3: Smash the follow so we can show him how talentless

1190
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 3: he is.

1191
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 1: Frickeing Adam Levine, We're coming for you. You know, I

1192
00:59:38,000 --> 00:59:41,120
Speaker 1: was gonna say earlier, like we said something about Jesus,

1193
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 1: I was like, you know who probably hates Jesus, Adam Levine. Naturally.

1194
00:59:45,200 --> 00:59:47,959
Speaker 1: It was at this point that we kids knew we

1195
00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:51,200
Speaker 1: were in trouble, just like Adam Levine knows he's in

1196
00:59:51,240 --> 00:59:53,600
Speaker 1: trouble when he sees our stuff. That's right for what

1197
00:59:53,760 --> 00:59:56,840
Speaker 1: though we didn't know. After a very quiet minivan ride,

1198
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:59,919
Speaker 1: we get home and my mom says, boys, why don't

1199
00:59:59,920 --> 01:00:02,680
Speaker 1: we go down to the basement. Your dad wants to

1200
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:06,320
Speaker 1: show you his gospel practice downstairs. No, it was then

1201
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:09,440
Speaker 1: at this point we knew why we were in trouble.

1202
01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:11,760
Speaker 1: So we drag our feet down the stairs and lo

1203
01:00:11,960 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 1: and be old. My dad is sitting on the couch

1204
01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:21,200
Speaker 1: TV on and a dancer of the poles polygonal milkers

1205
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 1: juicy milkers swung stiffly back and forth on screen to

1206
01:00:26,680 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 1: en vogues my love and with CJS standing mere inches

1207
01:00:29,880 --> 01:00:34,640
Speaker 1: away collecting money. Oh no, my dad starts in, Boys,

1208
01:00:34,880 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 1: I don't even know where to begin. This PlayStation was

1209
01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 1: a blessing to you for Christmas, and this is how

1210
01:00:41,800 --> 01:00:45,720
Speaker 1: you repay us by breaking our trusts, just like Adam

1211
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:47,439
Speaker 1: Levine broke our trust.

1212
01:00:47,280 --> 01:00:48,400
Speaker 3: By having no talent.

1213
01:00:48,600 --> 01:00:52,280
Speaker 1: No talent, Adam Levine. He's holding the controller up now,

1214
01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 1: gesticulating with it. Here I am practicing to bring glory

1215
01:00:56,360 --> 01:01:00,000
Speaker 1: to God. But he was cut off as he inadvert

1216
01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:04,680
Speaker 1: squeeze the controller, causing CJ to punch the dancer of

1217
01:01:04,720 --> 01:01:09,120
Speaker 1: the pole. My entire family stands in silence, watching together

1218
01:01:09,200 --> 01:01:12,880
Speaker 1: as the bouncers in the club to the place. For

1219
01:01:12,960 --> 01:01:16,720
Speaker 1: what seems like an eternity. The tying stops and CJ

1220
01:01:16,880 --> 01:01:19,400
Speaker 1: appears in front of the hospital. I look back and

1221
01:01:19,480 --> 01:01:23,360
Speaker 1: see my mom silently weeping into her hand. I look

1222
01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 1: at my dad as a single tear rolls down his cheek,

1223
01:01:27,960 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 1: and as she prays under his breath. After another eternity

1224
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:36,040
Speaker 1: of silence, without a word, my dad bends down, disconnects

1225
01:01:36,040 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 1: the PlayStation, walks back to the family computer, disconnects it,

1226
01:01:40,440 --> 01:01:43,240
Speaker 1: goes to his car, and drives away. For the next

1227
01:01:43,280 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 1: four months, he kept the PS two and PC locked

1228
01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:49,840
Speaker 1: in his office at work. GILDR. I wasn't allowed to

1229
01:01:49,880 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 1: play GTA growing up, of course, got caught playing it.

1230
01:01:52,880 --> 01:01:55,960
Speaker 1: My dad interrupted his own lecture by accidentally punching a

1231
01:01:56,080 --> 01:01:59,560
Speaker 1: dance of the poll and immediately asking for God's forgiveness.

1232
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 3: You know what's so sad is my immediate reaction to

1233
01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:04,200
Speaker 3: the end of that story is like what happened to

1234
01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:06,680
Speaker 3: the money in GTA? Where they able to say because

1235
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:09,280
Speaker 3: it probably need so much money in GTA.

1236
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:12,560
Speaker 1: All of their all of their hard work collecting all

1237
01:02:12,600 --> 01:02:16,920
Speaker 1: those all those club dollars from those deuicy milkers, shaking

1238
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:18,920
Speaker 1: about lost forever

1239
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 3: Those milkshakes, shaking about