WEBVTT - Closure Call: Switch Sitch

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<v Speaker 1>You found it the Second Date Update podcast. It's Brook

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<v Speaker 1>and Jeffrey in the morning. Thank you so much for

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<v Speaker 1>being here, and we love hearing how you found us.

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<v Speaker 1>And we've gotten a lot of comments about viral tiktoks,

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<v Speaker 1>about people finding us even on Facebook.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, or friends to listen to us. Oh, that's

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<v Speaker 2>always when people say that one.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's always a good one. And today we got

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<v Speaker 1>a special tree. It's a closure call. You heard one

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<v Speaker 1>of these, you know, Like you've said before, Jose, it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of the most intense segment. Yeah, and this one,

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<v Speaker 1>out of all the closure calls we've ever done, definitely

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<v Speaker 1>took the most amount of energy to make it happen

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<v Speaker 1>for Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, think about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Some people hold all this weight for so long to

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<v Speaker 4>actually get that closure or have that conversation that they

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<v Speaker 4>never had.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it can be crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>And honestly, this one proves that our producer is amazing

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<v Speaker 1>to actually get this person the answers that they needed.

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<v Speaker 4>The fact that he can remember the next day even

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<v Speaker 4>follow up is.

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<v Speaker 3>Impressive to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you won't hear this to know we actually

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<v Speaker 2>like him.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a great Hey, here's the closure call.

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<v Speaker 3>Enjoy Despite what everyone listening may think. It actually takes

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of work to put on this mediocre radio show.

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<v Speaker 2>Preach Jeffrey mediocre.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a generous tune. Yeah, because it's hard to get

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<v Speaker 3>people to actually answer their phones for second date calls

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<v Speaker 3>and phone taps.

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<v Speaker 2>I blame gen Z. Yeah, you can blame us. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not answering.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes we wait days or weeks to get a response,

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<v Speaker 3>but nothing compares to what our producer had to go

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<v Speaker 3>through to make today's closure call happen. Because this all

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<v Speaker 3>started when one of our listeners received a mysterious message

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<v Speaker 3>on Facebook and what it said was so shocking she

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<v Speaker 3>had to find out if it was true. And now,

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<v Speaker 3>after a full year of our producer tracking this person

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<v Speaker 3>down trying to convince them to respond, we finally got

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<v Speaker 3>some answers and it might be the most email that

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<v Speaker 3>we've ever had this send. You're going to understand why

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<v Speaker 3>in your brand new closure call next. We've been doing

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<v Speaker 3>the closure calls for a while now, but today is

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<v Speaker 3>a first because we reached out to someone that our

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<v Speaker 3>listener has never even met before, never seen in person either.

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<v Speaker 2>Why would you need closure for someone who is not

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<v Speaker 2>part of your life at.

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<v Speaker 3>All, how does that work? These are good questions that

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<v Speaker 3>we should ask her, but they desperately need to get

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<v Speaker 3>closure on this, and from the little bit that I

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<v Speaker 3>do know, it is a very interesting, very shocking, mysterious story.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I was thinking, why is our producer picking this person?

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<v Speaker 3>Let's ask some of these questions to Marissa and welcome

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<v Speaker 3>to the show. Hey Marissa, how's it going?

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<v Speaker 5>Hey guys, it's going? Okay? How are you gars? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Are you like hitting up like Madonna to ask her

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<v Speaker 4>why she's not making music anymore?

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<v Speaker 1>She's actually still making an Issa good.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, good music, Thank you. Maybe we can speculate, but

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<v Speaker 3>let's just have Marissa tell us what made you email

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<v Speaker 3>the show for help?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, So this is kind of a crazy story. Kind

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<v Speaker 5>of blows my mind too. But this this chick name

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<v Speaker 5>asked and hit me up okay, instant our direct message okay,

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<v Speaker 5>and said she had a crazy story for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Did she tell you the story right away or was

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<v Speaker 1>it one of those like, I don't know, she's setting

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<v Speaker 1>you up for a scam or something? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly, yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 5>Think funny you mentioned that I thought it was a

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<v Speaker 5>scam at first, because it's so crazy. But she said

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<v Speaker 5>she just found out that thirty years ago she was

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<v Speaker 5>accidentally swapped at birth for another baby at the hospital

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<v Speaker 5>and that baby was me.

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<v Speaker 2>Whoa, whoa wait, she's claiming, how would she know.

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<v Speaker 5>What a swap sisters? I was like, Okay, that sounds really.

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<v Speaker 3>Weird, like swap sisters. Dude, it sounds like a show

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<v Speaker 3>on teals.

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<v Speaker 2>She's saying, your parents aren't your parents, that they're her parents? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>Crazy, right? So I deleted it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was a scam.

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<v Speaker 1>Questions, No way, dude, I would think it's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you can tell if you're related.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean if you do a DNA test.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you can do those tests, and a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people are finding out stuff like like, oh, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not really my dad is usually how it goes down, yea,

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<v Speaker 1>typically you know who your mom is, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, kind of makes more sense.

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<v Speaker 5>She sent me another message and she's like, this is

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<v Speaker 5>not a scam. So I hit up my parents and

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, mom, guy, can you tell me about this?

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<v Speaker 2>And they well, that's what happens with swap babies. The

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<v Speaker 2>parents don't know. That's the big like to do about it, right.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like back in the day, they'd take the babies

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<v Speaker 1>into a room. Now, you're never separated from your baby

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<v Speaker 1>after you give birth, really, unless you ask them to

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<v Speaker 1>take it away so you can sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>So your parents who raised you, they didn't believe it.

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<v Speaker 5>They thought it was a scam too, Like I'm elaborate, AI.

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<v Speaker 1>Saying, Oh my gosh, So wait, did you go to

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<v Speaker 1>Aspen's page?

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<v Speaker 2>Could you see any resemblance?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, so she sent me some pictures and what's weird

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<v Speaker 5>as the photos looked exactly like me of her parents.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait what oh you look like her parents?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? So I finally wrote back here and I was like,

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<v Speaker 5>how do you know all this information?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>And what else can you tell me?

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<v Speaker 2>What else can you tell me? Okay? What she say?

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<v Speaker 5>Her last message was something totally mysterious. She thinks her

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<v Speaker 5>mom and dad might know about it, but they're so

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<v Speaker 5>mad at me for bringing up they won't talk about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh so she's saying she actually doesn't even know all

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<v Speaker 1>the details. She just knows that their family all knows.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like some big family secret and they don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to Wow.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I think she might have gotten in trouble for

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<v Speaker 5>even reaching out to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh so the fact that.

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<v Speaker 4>They don't want any information, or hey, drop it like

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<v Speaker 4>that makes it sound like it is legits like asking

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<v Speaker 4>questions like I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean, I guess like if you have an adult child, right,

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<v Speaker 1>you've raised in your whole life, and then you just

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<v Speaker 1>then find out that they were swapped at birth, It's like, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Know you're twenty three, but we're sending you back to

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<v Speaker 3>the office.

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<v Speaker 2>Switch.

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<v Speaker 3>What's that saying? Like, you know, not knowing is bliss?

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<v Speaker 2>Ignorance is ignorance is bliss?

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe that was their stance on it, But like, how

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<v Speaker 3>are you feeling?

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<v Speaker 5>I'm just kind of freaked out, to be honest, like

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<v Speaker 5>this is the weirdest thing that I think has ever

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<v Speaker 5>happened to me, if it's true.

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<v Speaker 3>But oh yeah, and how long has this been going on?

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<v Speaker 3>You with the back and forth with this girl?

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<v Speaker 5>This happened four years ago?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh four years? Agow, Wait, you've been sitting on this

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<v Speaker 2>for four years? Did you get DNA tested with your parents?

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<v Speaker 5>No? But I think I found my mom on Facebook

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<v Speaker 5>but she wouldn't respond.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, you're already calling her my mom?

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<v Speaker 3>Wow? What should she call her?

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<v Speaker 5>Broke?

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<v Speaker 2>The woman?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what her name is, but like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>don't know that one for a fact, and too like

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<v Speaker 1>your mom is still your mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, you got to be a biological mom.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a whole identity crisis because of this, and.

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<v Speaker 3>So your biological mom wasn't responding to your messages, and

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<v Speaker 3>that's when you reached out to us.

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<v Speaker 5>Right, my supposed biological mom that looks like me.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, is that the case? Wait? Is that

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<v Speaker 2>who you wrote with our producer? You wrote the biological

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<v Speaker 2>mom with the questions?

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<v Speaker 5>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>She actually emailed us about a year ago, it turns out,

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<v Speaker 3>and our producer has been working on this every single week,

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<v Speaker 3>trying to soften up the mom in.

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<v Speaker 2>Order to respond.

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<v Speaker 3>Marissa, you know that we wouldn't have you on the

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<v Speaker 3>show right now if she didn't answer us.

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<v Speaker 2>She finally answered after a year she said, stop contacting.

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<v Speaker 3>We got her responses back a couple of days ago.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. Wait, asthmen, are you sitting down? Are

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<v Speaker 2>you in a safe place? Sorry?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean Marissa, Yeah, okay, maybe you should lie down

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<v Speaker 3>for this one because it could get kind of emotional.

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<v Speaker 3>But we can help give you some fine reality when

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<v Speaker 3>we do your closure call right after this.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you, hold.

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<v Speaker 1>On frooking Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>This could be such an emotional closure call. I think

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<v Speaker 3>we need to have some sad piano music for it. No, wait, no,

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<v Speaker 3>I said, I said sad piano, not bad piano.

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<v Speaker 2>I see the mix up.

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<v Speaker 3>This is why I have to listen to the music

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<v Speaker 3>ahead of time. Stop this, yeah, let me let me

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<v Speaker 3>get some sad piano music. This is not It's kind

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<v Speaker 3>of impressive, but it doesn't fit the tone. Does I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like bring the music down?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, it's sad like emotional music.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I know I want to go back to the

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<v Speaker 1>happy one.

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<v Speaker 3>We're talking about swapped at birth because it just doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>feel right.

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<v Speaker 2>It was frustration. You're frustrated at the music, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 3>But swapped at Bert this is something that you don't

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<v Speaker 3>hear about much anymore, thankfully, because the hospitals are better

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<v Speaker 3>at not doing it. But thirty years.

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<v Speaker 1>Ago, or they're better at hiding it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, maybe that's the case thirty years ago. Though it

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<v Speaker 3>did happen to one of our listeners, Marissa. No, You've

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<v Speaker 3>got a random message on her socials from a girl

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<v Speaker 3>named Aspen claiming to be her swap sister, saying they

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<v Speaker 3>were accidentally swapped at the hospital and they've been raised

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<v Speaker 3>by each other's parents for years.

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<v Speaker 1>Which, by the way, I wouldn't google search the term

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<v Speaker 1>swap sister.

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<v Speaker 2>I just think that you're going to end up. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to see.

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<v Speaker 3>It's non official term. Aspen came up with it. But

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<v Speaker 3>the thing is, the details about it were a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit sketchy and there was some hesitation to answer everything.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why a year ago Marissa reached out to us

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<v Speaker 3>asking if we could contact her biological mom for her

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<v Speaker 3>and hopefully get her some closure on what really happened.

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<v Speaker 4>I usually if you hit us up a year in advance,

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<v Speaker 4>we don't get to it just because we're lazy.

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<v Speaker 3>Working on this a lot. Yeah, we're running out of

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<v Speaker 3>time thanks to all the bad piano music, so we

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<v Speaker 3>better just get to it. We sent four questions to

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<v Speaker 3>Marissa's mom, Marissa, are you ready to hear some answers

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<v Speaker 3>to this? I know you've been waiting a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yes, what musical track do you want him to

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<v Speaker 1>play behind it when he reads it?

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<v Speaker 3>What important?

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<v Speaker 2>Your tears in the back?

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<v Speaker 5>Ron gonna start crying.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm joking, I'm joking Marissa, I mean this is crazy

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<v Speaker 1>because I mean you're going to finally, no, hopefully you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to hear from the mom.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah. Yeah, I mean this has been a time coming

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<v Speaker 5>just seeing some of these answers I've been looking for.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, it's just been such a mystery.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's get to the first one, and this is going

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<v Speaker 3>to be the first time I've read the answers to.

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<v Speaker 3>I was just handed the sheet with what she wrote back.

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<v Speaker 2>You needed to preread them, Jeff, so that you were

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<v Speaker 2>crying prod.

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<v Speaker 4>Went through all this.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure I needed to focus on the piano music.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's focus harder so it would have gone better.

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<v Speaker 3>But sure, question one, we said your daughter Aspen reached

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<v Speaker 3>out to years ago, telling me you were my real

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<v Speaker 3>biological mom. Is this true? So she wrote back.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, are you ready for this?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? Please?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, because if he said no, we would have had

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<v Speaker 3>to stop the segment and that would have been really annoying, Jeff.

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<v Speaker 3>But she wrote back, it is true, but Aspen didn't

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<v Speaker 3>reach out to you. I did.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to wait. I'm confused.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm confused.

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<v Speaker 2>So she faked.

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<v Speaker 3>She says, I made up a fake Facebook account for

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<v Speaker 3>her because I was too ashamed to speak directly to you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>So is Aspen the girl that you were really swapped?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, arssa?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you okay?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you have all the answers you need or would

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<v Speaker 3>you like to content?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, check on her? She sounds upset.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, No, it's it's just shocking. It's amazing and shocking,

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<v Speaker 5>and I can't thank you guys enough for reaching out

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<v Speaker 5>to her and helping me.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean it's not Wait, you just believe her

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<v Speaker 1>straight out the gate, like this is a woman who's

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<v Speaker 1>faking to be Aspen.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean, I really don't know what to believe.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm I'm really curious to know what she says. Next,

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<v Speaker 5>you almost wanted to be real.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, let's get to the second question, which was tell

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<v Speaker 3>me what you know about me getting swapped at birth?

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<v Speaker 3>How did you find out about that? She wrote back. Well, honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>when I reached out four years ago, I made it up.

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<v Speaker 3>What wait, she says?

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<v Speaker 2>Who is she?

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<v Speaker 1>Then?

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<v Speaker 3>I knew I wanted to speak with you, but I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't know how to do it without making it seem

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<v Speaker 3>like I was a terrible parent, Because the truth is

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<v Speaker 3>I gave you up for adoption at birth? Oh much,

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<v Speaker 3>she said, I'm sorry again?

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<v Speaker 2>Whoa?

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<v Speaker 4>So she still is your mom, but it wasn't a.

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<v Speaker 3>Swap again, so she was ashamed to admit the truth.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you know you were adopted by your by your mom?

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<v Speaker 5>Your parents?

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe the parents didn't know that they adopted her, No, definitely.

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<v Speaker 2>Could be in the dark, but the mom would be pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would your parents not come clean with you when

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<v Speaker 1>you approach them about being swapped at birth? They would

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<v Speaker 1>know you were like gonna find something out why.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know. I think it was just too much

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<v Speaker 5>for them, you know, and then just mentioning fuck thing.

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<v Speaker 3>We're getting a lot of text in it seventy five

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<v Speaker 3>nine to two from listeners who are supporting you. By

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<v Speaker 3>the way, Marissa, so keep those coming. We're going to

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<v Speaker 3>forward those to her after the segment so that she

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<v Speaker 3>could read them all. But this is already going way

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<v Speaker 3>different than we thought this call was going to be.

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<v Speaker 3>So I don't know if the third question is going

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<v Speaker 3>to be relevant still, because again we write all the

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<v Speaker 3>questions before we know the answers. But the third question was,

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<v Speaker 3>how do I know this is really my biological mom?

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<v Speaker 3>My parents who raised me are both shocked and know

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<v Speaker 3>nothing about it. Do you have any proof?

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<v Speaker 1>That's still a valid question, I mean valid questions. Still,

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<v Speaker 1>we're like, what if this is still someone who's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>she already lied about you know, the whole story.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh what did she say?

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<v Speaker 3>She wrote back, there are birth records that I had you,

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<v Speaker 3>and we both have the same color blonde hair as

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<v Speaker 3>I've shown you in the pictures I sent. I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>sure I'm ready for a DNA test, but it would

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<v Speaker 3>also prove it as well. Huh, I'm sorry, lady. She

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<v Speaker 3>keeps saying I'm sorry at the end of every answer,

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<v Speaker 3>so she clearly feels pretty bad.

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<v Speaker 2>But she shouldn't feel bad.

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<v Speaker 1>You have a great life, like I mean, if she

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't provide you with what you needed as a child.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't understand. So that means my parents are lying

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<v Speaker 5>or something, or she's lying.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, somebody is not telling the truth in this situation,

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<v Speaker 1>that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe trying to protect you. One party is trying to

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<v Speaker 3>protect you from something. But let's go to the fourth

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<v Speaker 3>question because we are running out of time here. It says,

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<v Speaker 3>is there anything else that I should know about? What happened.

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<v Speaker 3>We like to leave it kind of open in general

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<v Speaker 3>for them to fill in the blanks.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, thank god we did, since we didn't know what

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<v Speaker 2>the hell was going on was.

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<v Speaker 3>Taking a turn. But your mom wrote back. She said,

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<v Speaker 3>there is obviously a lot to tell you, but I'm

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<v Speaker 3>sure you're angry at me about how I handled it.

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<v Speaker 3>I am getting older, though, and I just wanted to

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<v Speaker 3>have a chance to get to meet my daughter and

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<v Speaker 3>know you, She says. I don't expect you to forgive me,

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<v Speaker 3>but I would love to meet up with you in

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<v Speaker 3>person if you're willing.

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<v Speaker 5>I guess I just needs some time to think about it.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I'm curious too, but I have so many

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<v Speaker 5>unanswered questions at this moment, even for my parents to

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<v Speaker 5>raise me.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I know it feels like you have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot to deal with before you even think about meeting

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<v Speaker 1>up with this woman who claims to be your biological mom. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like who's your dad then?

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<v Speaker 5>Too?

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<v Speaker 2>Like there's so many up.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a woman who, like we've tried to reach

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<v Speaker 3>out to on Facebook, and is clearly used to lying.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't know if any of this is actually true,

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<v Speaker 3>so I wouldn't necessarily come in with guns of blazing.

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<v Speaker 1>I totally agree. I would come in super guard it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like I said, somebody's lying to you, my

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<v Speaker 1>instinct would be this woman because you don't even know her.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, you would trust your parents more.

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<v Speaker 3>You need to bring your current parents with the biological

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<v Speaker 3>mom and have them meet and maybe something will be.

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<v Speaker 2>Comport What does your birth certificate say?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know. I haven't really got it.

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<v Speaker 3>Go get it.

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<v Speaker 4>We'll wait.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe you come back with it later. But I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>I know this is a lot of information that was

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<v Speaker 3>just tossed on you. We'll give you some time to process.

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<v Speaker 3>But do you feel like maybe it helped get you

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<v Speaker 3>a step towards closure?

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like I have a lot more questions, to

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<v Speaker 5>be honest.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, yeah, I was thinking opens everything up, doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>close anything.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll stay in touch with you and hopefully we can

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<v Speaker 3>do a closure call update and figure out what's really

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<v Speaker 3>going on if you do meet up with your biological mom,

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<v Speaker 3>if she is your biological mom.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, okay, thank you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to give you a hug right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Give me some happy piano music to play us out,

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<v Speaker 3>please tense?

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<v Speaker 4>All right?

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<v Speaker 3>That was a dramatic, A successful.

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<v Speaker 2>Closure, successful jeff at all.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, well it was a.

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<v Speaker 2>Closure call, yeah, with zero closure.

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<v Speaker 3>It's Brook and Jeffrey the other one in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what you get when you email us for help.

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<v Speaker 1>Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.