1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: My dad is pretending my wedding is not happening. This 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: is Okayop, Home to the Craziest true stories on Earth. 3 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: I'm Sophia and Riley. If your dad is trying to 4 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:17,440 Speaker 1: manifest something, what are you doing? 5 00:00:18,079 --> 00:00:19,960 Speaker 2: I can do it. 6 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: You do it, like you just have the wedding, and 7 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: then what is he gonna do? 8 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 2: It's a battle of Menifen Stations station is manifesting harder 9 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:31,640 Speaker 2: than yours, So I'm going to make it happen. 10 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: Yes, you just do it. Yeah, I feel like I 11 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:36,639 Speaker 1: feel like if he's pretending it's not happening, just make 12 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:37,160 Speaker 1: it happen. 13 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 2: Also, like, what kind of disappointment are you for your 14 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 2: parents not to show up? Like that's what I'm getting. 15 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: That's so harsh. I know, maybe they have a bad relationship, Riley, I. 16 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,199 Speaker 2: Know, but like kind I hate it for Ope, that 17 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 2: like is the case, But what did you do? 18 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: I feel like it might be on the dad. Oh, 19 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,840 Speaker 1: I feel like something's fishy with the dad. Oh, of course, 20 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,319 Speaker 1: but I really think something's fishy with Op. I think 21 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: something's fish with the dad. Only MOUSEI Shallon knows the answer. 22 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 2: Whatever, All right, let's let's figure it out. 23 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: Okay, Mousie Shallon says, So, my dad has always been 24 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: a very show off person, and now it's been about grades, 25 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 1: telling everyone how great his daughters are doing, telling off 26 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:19,679 Speaker 1: my sister for having a job. He can't show off. 27 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 1: What's a job you can't show off? 28 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 2: Oh? 29 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 1: Oh oh oh, I know what it means, But like, 30 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: what what is the example of a job you can't 31 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 1: show off? 32 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 2: Only fans like your dad, And you're like, oh, my 33 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:29,319 Speaker 2: daughter does only fans. 34 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 1: That's like first thing. 35 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 2: Okay, let me do another one. 36 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: What's a job you can't show off? So you're cute? 37 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: You a nonprofit flower shop? 38 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 2: Yeah? Are you run any sort of nonprofit? 39 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: Yeah? 40 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 2: You can't take a profit. 41 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: I feel like he could show about you. What do 42 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:46,680 Speaker 1: you think she is a secret agent and he legally 43 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: can't show He legally can't show it off. 44 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 2: Okay. 45 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:53,040 Speaker 1: When he divorced from my mom, he was a good 46 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: parent for a while and then he met Ava. Ava 47 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: was way younger, has had a lot of work done 48 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: and used to send him flirty messages when he was 49 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,559 Speaker 1: still married. That's a big old red. 50 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 2: Flag flag number one. 51 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: Yeah you get three strikes? Really? 52 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:09,080 Speaker 2: Yeah? How many red flags do you give people. 53 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:11,920 Speaker 1: I give people three strikes. You get three red flags 54 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:13,079 Speaker 1: depending on the red flag. 55 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 2: Or depending on the color of your hair. Does that 56 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 2: mean if you got like red hair, I'll give you five, 57 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 2: If you got blonde hair three, you got brunette hair, 58 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 2: I'm giving you two. Jesus, I'm just saying. 59 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:27,079 Speaker 1: These are I don't have the same system. 60 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 2: But like green well, how many green flags does it take? All? 61 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:30,520 Speaker 1: Right? 62 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 2: Question for the end? How many green flags does it 63 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 2: take to cancel out a red flag? Or is it 64 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 2: even possible? Yeah? 65 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 1: No, I think it is okay. They got married very 66 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: early on in the relationship because they've known each other 67 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: for ages. She told him not to text us too 68 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,679 Speaker 1: much because we are adults. She checks his phone all 69 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: the time. She forbade him from seeing us Christmas Day 70 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: or Saint Stephen's Day? What's Saint Stephen's Day? Because he 71 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:54,640 Speaker 1: needed to be with his new family and it would 72 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: have been disrespectful to her for him to see his 73 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: ex wife. And she's overall been an absolute nightmare. She 74 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 1: sounds horrible, But I as a Catholic, or as an 75 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:06,079 Speaker 1: ex Catholic, I don't know what Saint Stephen's Day? 76 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 2: I got you I got you. 77 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 1: I did fourteen years at that stuff, fourteen years, and 78 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:13,839 Speaker 1: maybe I needed another year. 79 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 2: I thought, this is a day after Christmas, Saint Stephen's Day. 80 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 1: Saint Stephen's Day, I've never heard of it. 81 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 2: What it is? 82 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 1: Is this like something that's celebrated in certain countries. 83 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 2: Oh, it's you're celebrating the life of Saint Stephen, a 84 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 2: Christian deacon in Jerusalem who was known for his service. 85 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 1: Did they celebrate it everywhere though? 86 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 2: And his status of Christian martyr? Huh? 87 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 1: Because like you have you heard of this? 88 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 2: Oh it's Irish thing? Okay, okay, I want to say that. 89 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 2: Let us know what Saint Stephen's is to you. 90 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, let us know if it's something that celebrated 91 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: in another country and I'm just not aware of it 92 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: Irish tradition. I think it's an Irish tradition. If you 93 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 1: guys know more, we don't educate us. She told him 94 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 1: not to text us too much because we are adults. 95 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: She checks his phone all the time. She forbade him 96 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: from seeing us Christmas Day or Saint Stephen's Day because 97 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: he needed to be with his new family and it 98 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: would have been disrespectful to her for him to see 99 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: his ex wife, and she's overall been an absolute nightmare. 100 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 1: She sounds horrible. Yeah, that's a second round flag. Not 101 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: letting him talk to his children. 102 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 2: It's old family. What are you talking about family? 103 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to you can only talk to your 104 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: new family. Your old family is in the past. 105 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,239 Speaker 2: That's why that's in the past. Let them stay there. 106 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:29,720 Speaker 1: That's so crazy. And he follows everything she tells him 107 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 1: to do. Now I'm getting married and told my dad 108 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: he's invited, but she's not. 109 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:37,960 Speaker 2: Ooh, the old family only. 110 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, o g family only, no new people. I've bet 111 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:45,080 Speaker 1: the woman once and I don't like her. Plus, I 112 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: know my father isn't a great person, and he'd be 113 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: making jabs in my mom about being older than Ava, 114 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: et cetera. To make it fair, my mom's boyfriend is 115 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,720 Speaker 1: also not invited, although he's a sweetheart. 116 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 2: Aw man, but I don't what does he. 117 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 1: Why I would there be very exclusive with the invite 118 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: I know, like I which I get it's thorough wedding, 119 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 1: but also why not invite the boyfriend if he's nice. Yeah, 120 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: it must be a small I'm assuming it's a small wedding. 121 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:12,159 Speaker 2: They better be small. 122 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: Because invite your parents' partners even if you don't like 123 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 1: one of them is kind of like a yeah, that's 124 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 1: that's messy. 125 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, you just got to deal with it for the day. 126 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how that's how it is. You gotta invite 127 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: the whole family. But I guess if it's small wedding, 128 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: that would you know, you could be like, I just 129 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:29,039 Speaker 1: want my parents there, and that's it. My dad's answer 130 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: to my invite has meant to pretend nothing is happening. 131 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:33,160 Speaker 1: I sent him a save the date and he sent 132 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:36,600 Speaker 1: me a thumbs up emoji. Okay, so he did. He registered, 133 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: He's there. He's thumbs up. 134 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 2: Is the thumbs up from a dad means a lot. 135 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:46,320 Speaker 1: That's yeah, that's like, I'm gonna be there. I'm bringing cookies. 136 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: I don't know. 137 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:50,039 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, no, no, I like expect cookies or like meatballs. 138 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: He hasn't asked me one question about the wedding, not 139 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 1: even the venue, even though he told me shortly before 140 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: meeting Ava that he was looking forward to me and 141 00:05:57,120 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: my sister getting married and how excited he was. Myself 142 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:03,480 Speaker 1: my fiance are different religions and cultures, so everyone's had 143 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: a lot of questions about how we were handling That 144 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:08,039 Speaker 1: turns out he hasn't told Ava I'm getting married. I 145 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: don't actually think he's going to show up. I think 146 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 1: he will say he's going to and then not show 147 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,040 Speaker 1: up at the last minute. But my sister thinks he'll 148 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:16,799 Speaker 1: show up with Ava and make a whole scene because 149 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: he told her Ava has just as much right to 150 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: be there as your mom. How was Ava there when 151 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: Opie was conceived? Was Ava there at birth? No, Aba 152 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: probably wasn't even born yet conceived. Anyone else dealt with 153 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 1: something similar? Do I need a backup to walk me 154 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:37,919 Speaker 1: down the aisle? Doesn't sound great? Yeah, there's also a 155 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 1: chance that he's just being somewhat dad like and not you. 156 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 2: Know, yeah, this still sound like dad activity. 157 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: It could be he's awful and he sucks, or it 158 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:48,680 Speaker 1: could just be dad activity. I think it could go 159 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: either way, but it seems I mean, OPI knows her 160 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: father better than us, so if this is like a pattern. 161 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, but the thumbs up about you just expect him 162 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 2: to be there. 163 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, well we're about to find out there are some 164 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: relevant comments. Okay, Sailor's IIRO says, I just want to 165 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: point out that your dad is an abusive relationship. His 166 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:06,159 Speaker 1: new wife is cutting him off from his family, his 167 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: support system so she could have more control over him. 168 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 1: He probably won't be allowed to go to the wedding 169 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: because she's not invited and probably wouldn't have been allowed 170 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 1: to eat, and probably wouldn't have been allowed to even 171 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: if she was. Your dad is an ass all on 172 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: his own, But I think it's important to recognize that 173 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 1: he's still capable of being abused and that it's happening. Mmmm. 174 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: That's yeah, that's really I mean, just based off of 175 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: what we know about this woman, Yeah, she's not letting 176 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 1: him talk to his family. Yeah, it sounds very abusive. 177 00:07:30,520 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 1: Opie responds, Yes, they both suck. He's always been a 178 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 1: cheater at least three other women during the span of 179 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 1: ten years that we have evidence of. 180 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 2: I know, he sucks. 181 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: In Eva's mind, she's probably like, oh, he's cheating. He's 182 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: cheated on all these women before. Obviously she's still abusive 183 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: and controlling. 184 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, if that's how they meet, he has every 185 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 2: right to feel that way, because yeah, that's how they met. 186 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 1: But like, yeah, I mean, she of course doesn't have 187 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: a right to keep him from his family and monitor 188 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 1: his phone, but it just seems like they should break up. 189 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 1: But Grumpy Smiler says, it sounds like he wants to come, 190 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: and he knows the only way him coming without his 191 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 1: wife is possible is if he lies about it getting 192 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: caught to be able to go, which speaks volumes about 193 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: their relationship. But if she checks his phone, you're causing 194 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 1: further risk of her finding out if you keep messaging 195 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: him about the wedding, stick to phone calls, so there's 196 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: no record. I hope he can make it and that 197 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: there's no trauma. That yeah, that's a good point. If 198 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: she's like checking in on like everything he does, then 199 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 1: maybe that's why he was like just thumbs up, no proof, 200 00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: which of course is not a healthy relationship. But it 201 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: seems like they're both not. 202 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 2: Healthy people, wealthly people. This is really messy. I hate 203 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 2: the fact that she's. 204 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 1: Like, yeah, you can't, like you can't go to your 205 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:41,559 Speaker 1: daughter's wedding. Well, we don't know that, she said that, 206 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 1: Opie says in response, and then sent him to save 207 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 1: the dates the second time, asking if he was coming. 208 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:48,200 Speaker 1: I didn't know that he hadn't told her at the time. 209 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 1: I have no idea why the wife wouldn't let him 210 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: go to his daughter's wedding if she's as amazing as 211 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: he says, no, no, no, no, Yeah, she sounds really controlling. 212 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 2: Yeah it feels like just trust me, she's awesome. 213 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 1: Yeah I swear, or she said I couldn't talk to you, 214 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:05,000 Speaker 1: but she's amazing. And then on why his mom's boyfriend 215 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 1: isn't invited, Far more drama. If I include him and 216 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:10,680 Speaker 1: exclude Eva, it's not worth the headache. He will for 217 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: sure not show up if I invite my mom's boyfriend 218 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: and not his wife. My mom understands that even though 219 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 1: my dad is not the best dad ever, I still 220 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 1: want him there. They aren't together that long, so she's 221 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:22,679 Speaker 1: okay with her boyfriends staying at home. Plus then he 222 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: could stay with the dogs and she doesn't have to 223 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: worry about getting a dog sitter. Most of the family 224 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 1: is going as well, so there's nobody to look after them. 225 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: We like the mom's boyfriend seems Chillem's chill. Yeah, I 226 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 1: don't know. I feel like they could just be like 227 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: she could just be like, hey, it's a small wedding. 228 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: I'm just maybe it's not a small wedding. We don't know. 229 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, hell, I don't know. 230 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: This is so tricky. 231 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:44,679 Speaker 2: I think she can't invite everyone. Yeah, even though it's 232 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:47,120 Speaker 2: gonna suck, I don't know. This is because like my 233 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 2: cousin had a wedding and her real dad came and 234 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:53,319 Speaker 2: then she he brought his girlfriend that she wasn't really 235 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 2: close to and she was cool with it. Took like 236 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 2: champ but then again to reach their own This is. 237 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: Tricky, but there's an update. So it turned out my 238 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 1: dad ended up telling Ava about my wedding and telling 239 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 1: her that she was invited to the wedding to avoid problems. 240 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: Oh yikes, she got her self address booked, a hotel, 241 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: et cetera. My dad tried to convince me to invite her, 242 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 1: but his biggest selling point was that he thought it'd 243 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 1: be an amazing time to introduce Ava to my mom 244 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: and my mom's whole family. 245 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:21,400 Speaker 2: Oh no, red flag, red flag. 246 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 1: Ew these these both both these people suck. Why he 247 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 1: would think my mom would want to meet this woman 248 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 1: is beyond me, and that she would feel excluded otherwise 249 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: she being Ava. 250 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:33,680 Speaker 2: Do you think sorry, do you think that the dad 251 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:36,840 Speaker 2: did on Opie's mom with this woman. 252 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:41,199 Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh yeah, because because Opie said that they got 253 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 1: together really quickly afterwards. Wow, So I feel like, yeah, 254 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: if he had a history of it, I feel like 255 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 1: he definitely cheated with Ava before. Also, just the wording 256 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:51,360 Speaker 1: of oh, this is a great time to introduce Ava 257 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 1: to your mom and her family. Why why would you 258 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: want to introduce your current wife to your center family? 259 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 2: Hey remember the great times we had. 260 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: I feel like that, like that this goes back to 261 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:07,439 Speaker 1: him being like, I want to show off how young 262 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: she is. 263 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 2: Yo, Oh my gosh. Yeah, this is a show off. 264 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, which is so weird. And also if the mom's 265 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:17,839 Speaker 1: not allowed if he brings he ends up bringing Ava 266 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 1: and the mom's not allowed to bring her boyfriend, Like 267 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:22,920 Speaker 1: she shows up with no one. That's messed up. 268 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 2: That is messed up. I think that. 269 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: I think op he just needs to allow everyone. 270 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:29,440 Speaker 2: In, Yeah open the gates, or or not in by 271 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 2: the dad. 272 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 1: At all, because I feel like those are the only 273 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:32,520 Speaker 1: two options. 274 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 2: That's are GOODA She's gonna have to find someone. 275 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 1: To just to walk down the aisle, Yeah, that's what 276 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like, unfortunately, Ava seems like she sucks. But 277 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:41,719 Speaker 1: if you want your dad there it feels like it's 278 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: that's the only way. Yeah, which because it's like. 279 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 2: Her day mm hmm. 280 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:49,559 Speaker 1: About him, Yeah, absolutely, it's very selfish. He always rubs 281 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:52,200 Speaker 1: in our faces his new family, even calling it his 282 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: new family. Oh my god, he sucks. Keeps canceling every 283 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 1: dinner he sets up with my sister due to some 284 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:01,079 Speaker 1: emergency involving Ava, or tells us to call Ava mom. 285 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: Both me and my sister are way beyond the point 286 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:06,959 Speaker 1: of calling some random person a mom since we both 287 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 1: moved out, and he's being ridiculous, Ike, yeah, you can't call. 288 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 1: You can't make someone call like a step mom mom. 289 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:18,480 Speaker 1: If she's let you talk about I want to and 290 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: she won't let me talk to you. Yeah, yeah, you 291 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:23,840 Speaker 1: can't call that. They're not going to talk to you. 292 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: Come on, Yeah, you have to put in the work. 293 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:26,960 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 294 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:29,680 Speaker 1: He called me again and again, trying to convince me, 295 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 1: and I said no, explaining that I knew the only 296 00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: reason he wanted to bring his wife to the wedding 297 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:35,880 Speaker 1: was to upset Mom and that I wasn't going to 298 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 1: let the two of them do that. He makes jabs 299 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: at my mom every time he's around her about how 300 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: great his new wife is ew I thought the whole 301 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 1: thing was over until I send him some information about 302 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:47,560 Speaker 1: the wedding, and I guess he started feeling guilty and 303 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: told us that he booked the flight for Ava as well, 304 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:52,920 Speaker 1: and he booked himself on the same flight as my mom, 305 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:55,720 Speaker 1: changed his whole flight plans just so he could be 306 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 1: on the flight with her, so that my mom and 307 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:00,720 Speaker 1: Ava could still meet Akaa, he could. They'll rub his 308 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:02,640 Speaker 1: new wife in her face and try and screw with 309 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:05,199 Speaker 1: my mom's head by putting her down and making comparisons. 310 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 1: This guy's a psychopath. What he changed his whole flight 311 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:16,160 Speaker 1: plans so that his current wife could meet his ex wife? 312 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 2: What this is crazy? 313 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god, they're both abusive Ava and the I mean, like, 314 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 1: I know we figured that out. 315 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:26,960 Speaker 2: But like I couldn't imagine going out of my way 316 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 2: to book a flight just to show my show up 317 00:13:29,679 --> 00:13:31,400 Speaker 2: my ex be like, hey, look at my new girl, 318 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:31,840 Speaker 2: Look at. 319 00:13:31,760 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 1: My new girl, look at my new wife. It's not 320 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 1: that's so weird, that's whack. And then Ava would just 321 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: go off and shop while he was at the ceremony. 322 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if this is true or if he 323 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:44,680 Speaker 1: was going to try and bring her to the wedding 324 00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: and hope she didn't get kicked out. 325 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 2: He's coming to the wedding. 326 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's already about a drugs. She would throw a 327 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:51,760 Speaker 1: fit if she was unable to come to the wedding. 328 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 1: I'm trying to convince my mom to change her flight 329 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 1: so he can't get inside her head twelve hours before 330 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:58,880 Speaker 1: the wedding. I don't know if I should uninvite him. 331 00:13:58,920 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 1: I honestly think you should invite him. Yeah, this is 332 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:05,640 Speaker 1: so childish, Like I like, I totally get wanting to 333 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 1: have your dad at the wedding and wanting to have 334 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:10,439 Speaker 1: him walk you down the aisle, but like this is just. 335 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 2: So gonna be acting like this. 336 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, if I feel like the only two options 337 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 1: are invite Ava or kick them both out of the wedding, 338 00:14:18,760 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: and it's seeming like kicking them both out of the 339 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 1: wedding is the best option. 340 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 2: Like this, he's horrible. 341 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 1: He's horrible, Like he's actively trying to like show up 342 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 1: Ava to the mom so far that he like books 343 00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 1: a new flight, Like how long is this flight? 344 00:14:33,480 --> 00:14:33,520 Speaker 2: Is? 345 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:36,000 Speaker 1: He is he booking a scene next her? 346 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 2: Three four hours? 347 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 1: I'm wondering if he's trying to like book a scene 348 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:41,920 Speaker 1: next her or something. Probably it seems like he's doing 349 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 1: Oh my god, he's crazy. There are some more relevant comments. 350 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 1: Oh boy, Zoe Fiona says, why does he know so 351 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:50,920 Speaker 1: many details of your mom's travel plans? So true? Yo, 352 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:52,920 Speaker 1: Why is he privy to this information? 353 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 2: Is he pilot? 354 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 1: He knows because he asked, and we figured he was 355 00:14:56,120 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: trying to avoid being on the same flight as her. Guikes, 356 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:02,880 Speaker 1: And there's another update. I think about the wedding. What 357 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: do you think is going to happen? 358 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 2: Okay? Predictions predictions? AA shows up or Eva? 359 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, Eva, Eva, I've been saying Eva. 360 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:16,280 Speaker 2: Whatever it might be Eva not fun. Mom shows up, Yeah, 361 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:18,920 Speaker 2: and she's like, let me in, and then it's a 362 00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 2: whole thing. And then they both leave. Yeah, and then 363 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 2: Opi cries and then at the end of it it 364 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 2: turns out to be a great thing. 365 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 1: That's the end, that's the whole story. 366 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 2: What do you think happens? 367 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:32,840 Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I think Ava and dadd show up 368 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:37,720 Speaker 1: to the wedding, okay, and I don't know, pause the 369 00:15:37,760 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: scene and they get kicked out of the wedding. I 370 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 1: don't know, but I just think it's like, honestly, good 371 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:46,240 Speaker 1: on real mom, Like good on real mom. Oh my gosh, 372 00:15:46,360 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: being a freaking trooper being like like to find out 373 00:15:49,560 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 1: that real mom was like, no, invite your dad to 374 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:55,600 Speaker 1: the wedding, like you need to have a relationship with 375 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: him after he's been pulling stuff like this these stunts. No, 376 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: couldn't be me. 377 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 2: She's a real sweetheart. 378 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 1: She's yeah, she's a trooper. 379 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 2: Like she brought something like a little dish to the wedding. 380 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:09,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, she brought a dish to the wedding. She brought 381 00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 1: cookies to the wedding. 382 00:16:11,080 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 2: Yes, she would do that. She would. 383 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know this dab would not, wouldn't. He's a 384 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 1: fake fan. It would be mad. 385 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:19,200 Speaker 2: At the random cousin getting in his way and he 386 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 2: would like shove their head, get out of my way. 387 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, he honestly got He missed out on a 388 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 1: great marriage. Up, great lady, there is another update. Oh, 389 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: wedding has happened. It just took a bit of time 390 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:37,200 Speaker 1: to update because it's my life and it all went 391 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,800 Speaker 1: south and was too rot to try to write in 392 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 1: a coherent way. It still probably won't be super coherent, okays. 393 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:47,800 Speaker 1: I asked him to change his flight because he had 394 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 1: specifically asked me what flight my mom was on so 395 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: he could avoid her. He had said, so he lied. 396 00:16:53,840 --> 00:16:55,760 Speaker 1: My dad told me he changed flights and that he 397 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 1: didn't vent some lie to tell Ava. He also said 398 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: I was a horrible person for not leaving him when 399 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:03,080 Speaker 1: he told me that he had not booked the flight 400 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:05,159 Speaker 1: out of spite. But he told my mom he booked 401 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:07,199 Speaker 1: the flight on purpose so that she could meet his 402 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:09,679 Speaker 1: new wife. And what reason would there be for wanting 403 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:11,560 Speaker 1: them to meet other than to be an a hole. 404 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 1: That's one hundred percent of the spike. So I don't 405 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:15,399 Speaker 1: care if he says this is not a spike. What 406 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 1: other reason is there? Why do you need your new 407 00:17:17,480 --> 00:17:19,840 Speaker 1: wife to meet your ex wife on a flight? He 408 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:22,679 Speaker 1: said three times during the marriage that they know of, 409 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: and they're not sure whether or not Eva is a fourth. 410 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:27,160 Speaker 2: You've already done it, Like you've already done it. 411 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 1: You don't need a freaking rub it in her face 412 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:32,920 Speaker 1: that you are a scumbag. You were alone, Jesus. I 413 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:34,840 Speaker 1: thought the whole thing was resolved, and my mom was 414 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 1: really adamant that she wanted my dad to be there 415 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 1: because I don't have a great relationship with him. I 416 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:40,919 Speaker 1: wonder why, and she knew it would have meant the 417 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:43,240 Speaker 1: end of the relationship if I uninvited him. 418 00:17:43,280 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 2: Ooh, that's a good point. 419 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:47,520 Speaker 1: Fast forward two days after the conversation, my dad rebooked 420 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:49,399 Speaker 1: his flight and sent me a message to say he 421 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,159 Speaker 1: had changed flights. Then that evening he calls me. I 422 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:55,240 Speaker 1: answered the phone and I could hear someone screaming down 423 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:59,600 Speaker 1: the phone. Whoa, Oh my god. Turns out Ava got 424 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:02,720 Speaker 1: her hands on my dad's phone, read the messages where 425 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 1: I asked him to reschedule the flight, and she rang me, 426 00:18:05,440 --> 00:18:08,560 Speaker 1: shouting down the phone that I am unhinged, I am 427 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 1: a horrible person. I'm ft in the head. She said 428 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:13,159 Speaker 1: that I'm so weird because I'm in my thirties and 429 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:16,199 Speaker 1: I still talk to my parents. What this one was 430 00:18:16,240 --> 00:18:18,439 Speaker 1: really weird because am I meant to stop at a 431 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 1: certain age, and that I'm jealous of the fact that 432 00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:21,640 Speaker 1: my dad is a new life. 433 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 2: Oh god, oh my god. 434 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 1: She's like, you're thirty years old. You're never allowed to 435 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 1: contact your parents ever again. Oh this lady's crazy. 436 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:34,400 Speaker 2: Oh my god. What You should never be too old 437 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 2: to call your parents. 438 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:38,679 Speaker 1: No, you can call your parents at any age. 439 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:40,000 Speaker 2: Ike. 440 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:43,720 Speaker 1: That's so heartbreaking that if that's her life, you can't 441 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 1: talk to your parents after thirty, that's the cutoff point. 442 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:47,919 Speaker 2: You're too old. 443 00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:51,520 Speaker 1: Damn's got three more years. Oh and then after that, 444 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:54,040 Speaker 1: he's not allowed to talk to my parents. This is 445 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 1: really unhealthy. But we already knew that she needs therapy. 446 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:58,159 Speaker 1: We knew, we knew that, we knew that, so it 447 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:00,600 Speaker 1: would be continuous. I was very calm and said that 448 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:03,240 Speaker 1: I'm sorry she's upset, that the issues around the wedding 449 00:19:03,280 --> 00:19:06,160 Speaker 1: aren't really related to her directly, and that my dad 450 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:08,439 Speaker 1: was trying to upset my mom. I also said my 451 00:19:08,480 --> 00:19:10,840 Speaker 1: mom's partner is not coming either, so it wouldn't be 452 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 1: fair to have her there. She started shouting that my 453 00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 1: mom was a fat, old cow, and I lost it. 454 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:16,600 Speaker 2: Whoa, she sucks? 455 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:18,680 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you can't say that. No, no, no, 456 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 1: I don't even care like no, she's oh if she 457 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:24,199 Speaker 1: comes to the wedding, I'm physically throwing her out. I 458 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 1: absolutely lost it. And this whole thing, my mom has 459 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 1: said nothing bad about Ava because she's a saint and 460 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: Ava is the devil. I told her I never had 461 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:34,679 Speaker 1: any issue with her. Until now, but that she's a 462 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 1: crazy bee who is super controlling, and that I was 463 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:40,440 Speaker 1: so glad I never invited her, and then I hung 464 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:42,720 Speaker 1: up because by that stage it had been two minutes 465 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 1: of her shouting at me, and I didn't feel like 466 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:46,760 Speaker 1: there was any point in talking any longer. The whole 467 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:48,720 Speaker 1: time this was going on, my dad was in the 468 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:52,240 Speaker 1: background saying feebly, oh no, don't be mad at her, 469 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: while she was shouting down the phone at me. 470 00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:55,520 Speaker 2: Don't be mad. 471 00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh no, don't be mad. Oh yo, 472 00:19:59,480 --> 00:19:59,960 Speaker 1: oh my god. 473 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:00,360 Speaker 2: Oh. 474 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:03,199 Speaker 1: Anyway, next day, my dad calls me and says that 475 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 1: Ava was upset because he didn't tell her about changing 476 00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:08,240 Speaker 1: the flights, and that I was I was awful for 477 00:20:08,359 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 1: responding to her like that. He's gone, he's out at 478 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 1: the wedding. He also said, do you really think that 479 00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:13,439 Speaker 1: this is my fault? 480 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:13,960 Speaker 2: Yeah? 481 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:18,840 Speaker 1: And I said yes, And he said, do you really 482 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: refuse to take any responsibility? My god, he's so well responsibility, 483 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 1: you responsibility, he saw, Oh, none of this would have 484 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 1: happened if you had invited her like I asked you to. 485 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:32,880 Speaker 1: And I said, does he actually think he has any 486 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 1: say in my wedding? When he didn't even ask me 487 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,200 Speaker 1: what type of ceremony. I had never asked to see 488 00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:41,720 Speaker 1: my dress or get involved in any way monetary or otherwise. 489 00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:44,040 Speaker 1: He asked me if I was still invited, and I said, 490 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:48,479 Speaker 1: obviously not, as she should because he's awful. You and 491 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 1: Eva are awful, and they're awful together, terrible people. He 492 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 1: then told me to be careful what I wrote in 493 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:56,320 Speaker 1: my messages to him, because she was monitoring his phone, 494 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 1: and I said, I'm not speaking to him again, so 495 00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:02,199 Speaker 1: that won't be a problem. She Oh, my god, I'm like, 496 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:05,600 Speaker 1: I feel bad because this is like so obviously an 497 00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:08,520 Speaker 1: abusive relationship. He's also such an awful person. 498 00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's letting it happen like it's it's. 499 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, there's so many bad things in this. 500 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:15,240 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 501 00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:16,640 Speaker 2: Ah. 502 00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:18,879 Speaker 1: The wedding was good. My mom walked me down the 503 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,080 Speaker 1: aisle and there was nobody there to cause drama. So 504 00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:23,399 Speaker 1: in the end, it a hole worked out for the best. Nice. 505 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,280 Speaker 1: The whole thing was just a lot more dramatic than 506 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 1: I originally thought it would be. We thought he might 507 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 1: end up not coming because he was too entangled in 508 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: his lies, but for sure did not expect the call 509 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:34,919 Speaker 1: I got, and it was very close to the wedding 510 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:38,400 Speaker 1: when all the drama happened. Uh yikes, Oh my god. 511 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:42,240 Speaker 1: I'm really glad that the mom walked because honestly, even 512 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:46,440 Speaker 1: if the dad hadn't like had it come and AVA 513 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,399 Speaker 1: hadn't like made that call, I don't think he should have. 514 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:51,120 Speaker 1: I don't think he should have been able to walk 515 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 1: her down the aisle when he's not been there for like. 516 00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 1: I know it's a tradition, but I feel like, if 517 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: you have a parent who's just time after time not 518 00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:03,080 Speaker 1: there for you and sucks, then choose the parent who Yeah. 519 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 2: That's what happened to my cousin's wedding. Her mom walked 520 00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,760 Speaker 2: her down other than her dad because the dad was 521 00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:12,159 Speaker 2: like not the best kind of oka, kind of like 522 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,879 Speaker 2: this guy. Yeah you know my aunt then got a 523 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 2: new girlfriend. Yeah yikes. 524 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. No, if you have a parent who sucks, you 525 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:22,040 Speaker 1: can make it is your decision to you don't have 526 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:23,200 Speaker 1: to let them walk. 527 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 2: You down there, your wedding, your your rules. Yeah rules, 528 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:31,520 Speaker 2: what did you say, life rules? Were they the right 529 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 2: for doing this? Like not? 530 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 1: Absolutely? I think I think it's a credit to how 531 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: much they want, like op and her mom wanted this 532 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:42,679 Speaker 1: relationship with the dad to work, that they were willing 533 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,199 Speaker 1: to try and invite him to the wedding, and the 534 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,800 Speaker 1: fact that like over and over, he just kind of 535 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,240 Speaker 1: proved that he wasn't cut out for it, cut out 536 00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 1: for it. It's just yeah, No, I think it was 537 00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 1: totally a fair decision because again I will repeat, I 538 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,399 Speaker 1: think the only two decisions that would have that you 539 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,200 Speaker 1: could have gone with were inviting Ava and the add 540 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,720 Speaker 1: to the wedding or inviting that neither of them. Like, 541 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:04,840 Speaker 1: I still think that those were the only two decisions 542 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:08,240 Speaker 1: because Ava through a fit we've saw, Yeah, the only 543 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:10,280 Speaker 1: solution was to not invite either of them. 544 00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 2: My real thing is, like, why was she so Ava 545 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 2: so up in arms about coming to the wedding. 546 00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 1: She doesn't even talk. 547 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 2: She wanted dad to focus on the new family. 548 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I think she just wanted to 549 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,359 Speaker 1: be involved, gotcha. Like I feel like she wants to 550 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,400 Speaker 1: Ava has this thing where she wants to be involved 551 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: in every aspect of the dad's life. Mmmm, and like 552 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,720 Speaker 1: she wants to control, like we already know she's so controlling, 553 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 1: and the dad is like, I feel like only really 554 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 1: focused on what. It seems like the physical aspects of Ava, 555 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:41,400 Speaker 1: like her being young and probably like pretty and stuff, 556 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:43,679 Speaker 1: and so that's what he's getting out of it. It 557 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:46,199 Speaker 1: doesn't seem like he's getting anything else out of the relationship. 558 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:50,520 Speaker 1: But yeah, so Ava's just controlling everything and the dad's 559 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:51,440 Speaker 1: letting it happened. 560 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 2: Would you would cut her off or cut the dad 561 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,359 Speaker 2: out of the wedding earlier than the phone call? I 562 00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:57,720 Speaker 2: would have Yeah. 563 00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:00,359 Speaker 1: I think. I think the changing the flight, I would 564 00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 1: have been like, you know what, don't come if this 565 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 1: is why you're you know, I don't know, but this 566 00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:07,639 Speaker 1: is again ops like actually like trying to maintain a 567 00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:08,879 Speaker 1: relationship with their fogs. 568 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,000 Speaker 2: Because they know if this doesn't work out. 569 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:11,320 Speaker 1: That's it. 570 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:11,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 571 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, it's yeah. The dot like doesn't want 572 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:16,920 Speaker 1: to Yeah, it's really sad. 573 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:20,480 Speaker 2: Okay, So the original question that I had, Yeah, how 574 00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 2: many green flags cancel out a red flag? 575 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:26,360 Speaker 1: I think it depends on what the red flegs are, 576 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,800 Speaker 1: because there are some red flags that are smaller than others. 577 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 2: I feel like a small red flag is a big flag. 578 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 1: I know. I think it can be a pink flag, 579 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,440 Speaker 1: I think because I think there are like bright red flags, 580 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,360 Speaker 1: which mean like we can't proceed. Yeah, but I think 581 00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 1: there are like pink flags where you're like, that's that's 582 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:45,879 Speaker 1: a red flag that I'm like, I'm gonna watch. I'm like, 583 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: keep an eye on it. But we can proceed if 584 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,560 Speaker 1: there are a bunch of other green flags, which I 585 00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 1: guess to your point, I don't know. I feel like 586 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 1: that there have to be I don't know, like an 587 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:56,280 Speaker 1: overwhelming amount of. 588 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:58,920 Speaker 2: An overwhelming amout. You can't even put an I. 589 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 1: Can't write a number to it because like I feel like, 590 00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:02,560 Speaker 1: I don't I don't count the amount of green flags. 591 00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 1: I just count red flags. 592 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. I feel like green flags are like because are 593 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,000 Speaker 2: what draw you to a person? Yeah, you have to 594 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 2: have matching green flags. Yeah, red flags or red flags 595 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,359 Speaker 2: you can't. I don't think there are any amount of 596 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:16,119 Speaker 2: green flags to cancel out a red flag. 597 00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:19,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess. I guess red a green flag or 598 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:21,360 Speaker 1: green flags can cancel pink flags. 599 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,720 Speaker 2: I didn't know pink was a color. You just make 600 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 2: the sound. 601 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:25,119 Speaker 1: I didn't know pink was a color. 602 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 2: No, Like in this grand scheme of things. 603 00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 1: You heard it here first. Riley's just heard about pink 604 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 1: for the first time ever. 605 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 2: Heard or seen what. 606 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what I'm saying, but 607 00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,399 Speaker 1: the point is I think that it depends on the 608 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 1: red flag. Yeah, okay, okay, let's hear this next. Worry 609 00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 1: my inlaws just like me and I don't know what 610 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:48,960 Speaker 1: to do. 611 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,560 Speaker 2: What you do, Riley, be more of a people pleaser 612 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,000 Speaker 2: and do whatever you gotta do. Yeah, make them like. 613 00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:00,240 Speaker 1: You send them a card that says I'm sorry sorry. 614 00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you could do that. People like cards 615 00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:06,480 Speaker 2: and money. 616 00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 1: Money, send the money a card with the twenty dollars 617 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: Target gift card, bribe them and say I'm sorry sorry, 618 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:19,720 Speaker 1: that's r r Y Sorry are you sorry? Like yeah, no, 619 00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:22,520 Speaker 1: oh he said s r r y, not sr r Y. 620 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,199 Speaker 1: I think you said s o r r Y. And 621 00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 1: I was like, that's sorry like that, yeah, yeah sorry, 622 00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:31,520 Speaker 1: And that's all you say and then they'll love you 623 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:32,960 Speaker 1: so easy? 624 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 2: Is that? 625 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:34,479 Speaker 1: It's easy? 626 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,879 Speaker 2: You know what else is fun about the story? But 627 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:45,440 Speaker 2: it's a I use it? 628 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:49,439 Speaker 1: Is it an okay he submitted story. 629 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 2: If you have a crazy waxy story, please go to 630 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 2: our subreddit, do our slash okay op show and put 631 00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:57,160 Speaker 2: that thing in there. 632 00:26:57,440 --> 00:27:00,720 Speaker 1: So now that we know it's an okay user Okay fan, 633 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:05,119 Speaker 1: who this fan is suitable? Mistake fifty seven eighteen. You 634 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,639 Speaker 1: you heard our advice. Yep, you get them a card 635 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,159 Speaker 1: with the gift card twenty dollars gift card at Target 636 00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 1: that says Surrey. No, oh, I love you. But let's 637 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:17,520 Speaker 1: read your story. Maybe we'll get more insight. Yeah, we'll 638 00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:19,320 Speaker 1: tell you what kind of card to get. Yeah, yeah, 639 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:22,200 Speaker 1: it should be funny or serious exactly. I work night shift. 640 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:24,639 Speaker 1: I'm aware that sleep is hard to come by at times, 641 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:26,640 Speaker 1: but I still try to be around and do things 642 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,480 Speaker 1: with my family. In July, my husband's sister sold her 643 00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:31,679 Speaker 1: home and moved in with us. This was supposed to 644 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,760 Speaker 1: be a temporary arrangement until she could buy land in 645 00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:37,679 Speaker 1: another state and move away. Recently, we've all started to 646 00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 1: play Pokemon. Oh oh, oh, that's fun. 647 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:43,120 Speaker 2: That's such a cute, cute family Like. 648 00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,400 Speaker 1: You'll go around and did you ever play Pokemon? 649 00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:46,120 Speaker 2: Go? I did it? 650 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:46,800 Speaker 1: Oh, I did. 651 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:52,160 Speaker 2: For like a couple of weeks, I gave up on Pokemon, but. 652 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:53,560 Speaker 1: I know a lot of people still have fun with it, 653 00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 1: so you know, enjoy. There was to be Elite raids 654 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:59,320 Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day. I had woken up Tuesday the thirteenth 655 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,680 Speaker 1: at around one I was never able to get back 656 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,720 Speaker 1: to sleep. Then I had to work a ten hour shift. 657 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,679 Speaker 1: That's horrible. At eleven thirty pm, I received a message 658 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:09,720 Speaker 1: from my husband that said, op, do you wish to 659 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:13,200 Speaker 1: join us for a namorous elite raid tomorrow twelve one, 660 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,920 Speaker 1: five or six? What does this mean? The time? 661 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,879 Speaker 2: What do you mean or second of the time? 662 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:24,960 Speaker 1: Me? Yes, husband, okay? When me probably twelve or one. 663 00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,320 Speaker 1: That was it. That was the only text exchange about 664 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 1: the raid I even had. I was given zero other information. 665 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,080 Speaker 1: I got off work the next morning and ran errands. 666 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,359 Speaker 1: I laid down in bed at about ten forty five am, 667 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 1: and my husband woke up at eleven thirty am. I 668 00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 1: never fell asleep. I had been under the impression it 669 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:43,680 Speaker 1: was just us three. As I live in the country, 670 00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 1: I assumed we were either making the seventeen minute drive 671 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,440 Speaker 1: back into the town I worked to play, or that 672 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,640 Speaker 1: we were driving the ten minutes to the nearest town. 673 00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 1: When we walked outside, his sister went to her car. 674 00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:55,640 Speaker 1: My husband was carrying the keys to his car, and 675 00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:58,120 Speaker 1: that was the first I knew we were taking separate vehicles. 676 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,320 Speaker 1: We made the ten minute drive and stop up at 677 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 1: a gas station. Then we drove out of town. At 678 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:04,800 Speaker 1: this point I thought maybe we were going to the 679 00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:08,560 Speaker 1: city to play, but I was very wrong. So is scary. 680 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,440 Speaker 1: We instead drove to a town half an hour away 681 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: and stopped at a baseball field. We met up with 682 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,520 Speaker 1: my husband's other sister, who had brought her three kids, 683 00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 1: ages five, three, and one months old. We entered the 684 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,480 Speaker 1: raid and lost, so we were joined to make a 685 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 1: second attempt. Wait, I don't know. I didn't play it long. 686 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 1: I'm presuming like a fight with other people, other users. 687 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: I think there are like gyms or something in it 688 00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:34,880 Speaker 1: that you can you have to go find them. 689 00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,160 Speaker 2: Raid battle is a cure when a boss Pokemon takes 690 00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:42,280 Speaker 2: over a gym. Your goal is to defeat this powerful Pokemon. 691 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:47,000 Speaker 2: If you and your fellow trainers are successful, would be rewarded. Okay, Okay, 692 00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:48,600 Speaker 2: now we know the battle. 693 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:50,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a battle. Okay. So they entered the raid 694 00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,040 Speaker 1: and lost, so we were joined to make a second attempt. 695 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,680 Speaker 1: My husband was making comments the whole time about how 696 00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:58,760 Speaker 1: this time we were doing worse and we were going 697 00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 1: to lose, et cetera. That's not tea that's you gotta 698 00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,480 Speaker 1: you gotta boost morale, man, that is not how you. 699 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:07,480 Speaker 2: You guys are not carrying. 700 00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:12,280 Speaker 1: You guys, we're gonna lose. No, you gotta be like guys. 701 00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,120 Speaker 1: I know that we failed last time, but we're gonna 702 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,800 Speaker 1: do better. We're gonna go out there. I gotta raid 703 00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:19,320 Speaker 1: this gym and we're gonna win. 704 00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,640 Speaker 2: You can't, I'm sorry, husband, you can't like say this 705 00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:24,080 Speaker 2: like a five and three year old. 706 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,040 Speaker 1: Oh my god, we have the five and three year 707 00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,840 Speaker 1: old playing. I think they were just there. I think 708 00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:29,880 Speaker 1: they're just running around. 709 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:31,640 Speaker 2: I don't know who you're playing with. 710 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:36,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. Also, poor poor Opee, who's you know, been exhausted 711 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:41,000 Speaker 1: and been working, got zero sleep? Yeah, tbh, I didn't 712 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,640 Speaker 1: really care. I was just exhausted and spending time with everyone. 713 00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:46,920 Speaker 1: My husband's sister came up to the window and made 714 00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:49,760 Speaker 1: a comment to him about seeing the kids. I wasn't listening. 715 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:52,480 Speaker 1: I only noticed when she was walking away. My husband 716 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:54,800 Speaker 1: then said to me, are you okay driving home? And 717 00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,800 Speaker 1: I replied honestly and said no. I further stated it 718 00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 1: was due to how long I had been awake in 719 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:03,040 Speaker 1: the past, I have nearly fallen asleep just making a 720 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:05,400 Speaker 1: twenty minute drive, and that was when I had had sleep. 721 00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:07,400 Speaker 1: I did not trust myself to make a nearly forty 722 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 1: minute drive back home after being awake for almost twenty 723 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,560 Speaker 1: four hours. Yeah, that's a totally valid That is so valid. 724 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:15,880 Speaker 1: I know, like when I'm sleepy, I'm like, you know, 725 00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,760 Speaker 1: it's not good when you're tired and your eyes are 726 00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:20,840 Speaker 1: closed and you're on the road, especially if you're like 727 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,760 Speaker 1: your husband like didn't tell you that he was making 728 00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,440 Speaker 1: this forty minute drive to get there, which is also 729 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,440 Speaker 1: like a long drive. I don't know. Maybe they're really. 730 00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:30,840 Speaker 2: Committed to the Drawbo life. 731 00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:32,920 Speaker 1: That's a long drive to make. I did not think 732 00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 1: my husband was mad or upset. He's stressed to his 733 00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:37,960 Speaker 1: sister multiple times that I needed sleep. I never once 734 00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:40,080 Speaker 1: stated a thing about sleeping. I never made it a 735 00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 1: big deal. I was just there. My husband turned on 736 00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 1: his car and immediately drove away to take me home. 737 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,360 Speaker 1: I was confused. I take responsibility for not asking him why. 738 00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:51,040 Speaker 1: I cannot change my lack of reaction or refusal to 739 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:51,640 Speaker 1: ask questions. 740 00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,400 Speaker 2: Man, you're tired, You're tired. 741 00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:56,480 Speaker 1: We got home, I went to bed. My husband got 742 00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,640 Speaker 1: on his phone and video chatted with the kids and 743 00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:01,120 Speaker 1: his sisters. I fell asleep and woke up roughly two 744 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,840 Speaker 1: hours later, and then I saw our group child sister 745 00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,960 Speaker 1: in law, So whose choice was it to not even 746 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,400 Speaker 1: say goodbye to the kids that were crying to say 747 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,800 Speaker 1: hi to you, sister in law? Like, genuinely, I'm really 748 00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:14,600 Speaker 1: effing pissed because I can guarantee it was all you. Opee, 749 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,240 Speaker 1: husband said my fault, she needs sleep, sister in law, 750 00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:20,600 Speaker 1: No not, everything is your effing fault to that husband. 751 00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,520 Speaker 1: Sister in law, three minutes to say hi and goodbye 752 00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:26,160 Speaker 1: to them isn't going to make an effing difference. I'm 753 00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:28,520 Speaker 1: tired of you taking the fall for shitty effing actions 754 00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:31,560 Speaker 1: because your wife thinks everything is her way or the highway. 755 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:33,440 Speaker 1: If it was going to be that big of a 756 00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,400 Speaker 1: deal that you get back, oh pee, that's why I 757 00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: brought my car so you could have access to get 758 00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:41,200 Speaker 1: home on time, to sleep on time. But now husband 759 00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:44,640 Speaker 1: gets to take the mental hit, and you'll probably manipulate 760 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:46,960 Speaker 1: to him to think this is all on him when 761 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:50,720 Speaker 1: it's not. Husband. I can come back, sister in law, 762 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 1: No point in wasting gas. You can just call me 763 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:56,719 Speaker 1: and say hi to them. Me OPI he asked if 764 00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,520 Speaker 1: I thought I could drive myself. I said no, I 765 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:00,959 Speaker 1: did not make him do shit. But that's effing awesome, 766 00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: sister in law laughing face emoji me, what the f 767 00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 1: did you want me to do? Sister in law effing 768 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:09,120 Speaker 1: jump out of the passenger seat. If I knew it 769 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 1: was going to be an issue, I would have stayed home. 770 00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:14,800 Speaker 1: Sister in law the party face emoji like blowing out the. 771 00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:18,400 Speaker 2: What is this? 772 00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:20,719 Speaker 1: We were trying to include you? If it was going 773 00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:22,640 Speaker 1: to be that big of a deal that husband needed 774 00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:24,920 Speaker 1: to drive you home and you couldn't drive yourself, then 775 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,120 Speaker 1: you should have said that when I asked at the window, 776 00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:30,760 Speaker 1: instead of ignoring everything I say. Like always, the whole 777 00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 1: point of me driving my own car was so that 778 00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:34,840 Speaker 1: you could get home in time to sleep, and husband 779 00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:36,880 Speaker 1: and I could stay for the kids. Like I said 780 00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:40,080 Speaker 1: that at the house lmfao. I chose not to respond 781 00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,440 Speaker 1: to her anymore at this time, but did see she 782 00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,720 Speaker 1: posted on Facebook, sister in law, one thing I don't 783 00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:49,280 Speaker 1: think play about is my nieces and nephews. Mother in law, 784 00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 1: what prompted that, sister in law? Your daughter in law, 785 00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,480 Speaker 1: mother in law? What's the problem. Sister in law removed 786 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,480 Speaker 1: your daughter in law comment, Oh my gosh, she's just 787 00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:02,480 Speaker 1: starting problem. Ah, that's not your fault. 788 00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,240 Speaker 2: Ope, I don't like the sister in law. 789 00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 1: No, she's horrible. No, this is so like, that's so 790 00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:11,320 Speaker 1: unfair to be like so clearly. I mean, I feel 791 00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:14,640 Speaker 1: like it's pretty obvious when people are tired, and especially 792 00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,960 Speaker 1: if OPI was like not fully responding to conversation and 793 00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 1: like in the car. Yeah, no, it would be clear 794 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:23,120 Speaker 1: that she was tired. And to like make this all 795 00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:26,920 Speaker 1: about yourself when they already drove forty minutes to go 796 00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:27,319 Speaker 1: meet you. 797 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:31,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's yeah, No, that's not I do wish like UOP, 798 00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:34,880 Speaker 2: like that you had the option to like stay back 799 00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:36,800 Speaker 2: and I have to join the red and you just 800 00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:37,960 Speaker 2: ketch up on sleep. 801 00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: Yeah no, that's yeah. 802 00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:41,279 Speaker 2: They really feel like you had an option there. 803 00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. I was unable to stop crying at work that night. 804 00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:47,120 Speaker 1: I waited until early Friday morning to talk to my husband. 805 00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:49,440 Speaker 1: He stated that he did not say any more to 806 00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 1: her after initially stating it was his fault because he 807 00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,440 Speaker 1: didn't see a point given that she refused to listen. 808 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 1: He said it was never decided beforehand that I was 809 00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,440 Speaker 1: going to be driving myself back. You didn't know that 810 00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:03,000 Speaker 1: was the plan until sister in law asked after the raid. 811 00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,279 Speaker 1: So yes, I missed where sister in law asked me 812 00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:08,000 Speaker 1: anything because she was talking to my husband initially, so 813 00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,080 Speaker 1: I didn't see a point and even paying attention to 814 00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:12,399 Speaker 1: their conversation. So I'll take the hit for that one. 815 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:13,520 Speaker 1: I am the e cole. 816 00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 2: Wait a second, I feel like the sister in law 817 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,959 Speaker 2: was just trying to find ways to poke at you, yeah, 818 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,080 Speaker 2: or like be like oh, like initially, like if I'm 819 00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,080 Speaker 2: talking to you and like Sam's over there and I'm 820 00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:25,880 Speaker 2: talking to you, and I asked Sam like one thing 821 00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:28,239 Speaker 2: while he's on his phone and I get upset about it. 822 00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:28,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. 823 00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 2: No. 824 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,879 Speaker 1: Also, I'm imagining it was like we're talking, we're talking, 825 00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,200 Speaker 1: we're talking, and then Op's like this, and if you're 826 00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,399 Speaker 1: talking at her and she doesn't look and they don't 827 00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:42,400 Speaker 1: look like they're receiving any of the information, you go, hey, hey, sorry, 828 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:42,920 Speaker 1: I'm talking. 829 00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, a little tab bluhm in man. 830 00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 1: Come on. My husband's other sister then stated I was 831 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,080 Speaker 1: the a hole and didn't tell the full story. What 832 00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,319 Speaker 1: is the full story? You ask that I was mad. 833 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,440 Speaker 1: We lost the raid. I was mad and somehow manipulated 834 00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:00,920 Speaker 1: my husband into driving off and take me home because 835 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:04,120 Speaker 1: I emotionally abuse him. Oh, I just needed to get 836 00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:05,759 Speaker 1: this off my chest. I don't know what to do. 837 00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,120 Speaker 1: My house doesn't feel like my home anymore. I did 838 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,480 Speaker 1: nothing and got attacked for it. Kicking her out isn't 839 00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:13,120 Speaker 1: an option. I just need advice. Plus, how would you 840 00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,439 Speaker 1: handle this situation? What is the right way? How could 841 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,520 Speaker 1: I have handled it better? First of all, don't give 842 00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:19,080 Speaker 1: him a card. 843 00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:20,200 Speaker 2: They don't deserve it. 844 00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:22,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I take it back. Yeah, they don't deserve a 845 00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:26,560 Speaker 1: target gift card at all. Second of all, it's insane 846 00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,920 Speaker 1: that the sisters living with them and still throwing this 847 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,959 Speaker 1: kind of stuff. You can't be causing drama when they're 848 00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:32,440 Speaker 1: housing you. 849 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:36,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, you gotta be grateful. Yeah, it's very nice that 850 00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:39,799 Speaker 2: you and your husband have taken them in. Yeah this 851 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:43,160 Speaker 2: is maybe like be sweet and be like, hey, this 852 00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:44,400 Speaker 2: is actually what was happening. 853 00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:47,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like unfortunately, if you want to, you know, 854 00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:50,120 Speaker 1: fix the relationship, you got it. Yeah, you gotta like 855 00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:52,040 Speaker 1: text her or talk to her at your home and 856 00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:55,880 Speaker 1: be like, hey, I'm really sorry that like you perceived 857 00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:58,719 Speaker 1: that I like, you thought that I was ignoring you 858 00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,400 Speaker 1: or anything. I was really I hadn't had you know, 859 00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,840 Speaker 1: I hadn't slept in twenty four hours, and I just 860 00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:06,880 Speaker 1: really wasn't. I didn't have the brain capacity to interact 861 00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:07,280 Speaker 1: with people. 862 00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:09,440 Speaker 2: And if you're a non confrontational person, you got a 863 00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:13,080 Speaker 2: confort but you have to be confrontational, thank you. 864 00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,080 Speaker 1: You have to confront it evartially. But you could tend 865 00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,160 Speaker 1: her attacks and just be like, hey, I totally understand 866 00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,640 Speaker 1: where you're coming from. I truly didn't mean any offense. 867 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,320 Speaker 1: I just had an off d in it was very tired. 868 00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,360 Speaker 2: Now what if the sister in law, since she always 869 00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,759 Speaker 2: makes excuses, what if they don't receive it very well? 870 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,919 Speaker 1: At that point, that's all you can do. I think. 871 00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:32,879 Speaker 1: I think if she doesn't receive it, that's on her. 872 00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:34,920 Speaker 1: I don't think you. I personally don't think OP did 873 00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:37,080 Speaker 1: anything wrong. I think they were just really tired. 874 00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:37,640 Speaker 2: Yeah. 875 00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:39,440 Speaker 1: I mean, when you're tired, you can be grumpy. And 876 00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:41,360 Speaker 1: it doesn't seem like Ope was being grumpy. They just 877 00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:43,080 Speaker 1: like they were just like I need to go home. 878 00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,680 Speaker 2: I fel like sister in law was pissed that OPI 879 00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,719 Speaker 2: didn't spend time with the kids. Yeah, should ope. I 880 00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:52,360 Speaker 2: mean I think it the right thing. I mean, it 881 00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,840 Speaker 2: sucks that you have to apologize, but I'm sorry. I 882 00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:57,399 Speaker 2: do want to hang out with the kids. Does X time? 883 00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, putting a giving a new day, and this is 884 00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,640 Speaker 1: all if you want to keep that relationship. Of course, again, 885 00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:04,680 Speaker 1: I don't think this is your fault, but if you 886 00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:06,920 Speaker 1: want to maintain a relationship, I do think you kind 887 00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,359 Speaker 1: of have to concede a little bit. Yeah, but yeah, 888 00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:12,200 Speaker 1: I think you can get offering another day and being like, hey, 889 00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:14,800 Speaker 1: so again, sorry, love to catch up with the kids. 890 00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:16,440 Speaker 1: Both my husband and I would love to catch up 891 00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:18,200 Speaker 1: with the kids. Does this day work for you? I 892 00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,239 Speaker 1: think that's I think is that the whole story? That 893 00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:22,920 Speaker 1: is is that's the whole story. But you know what, 894 00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:25,680 Speaker 1: we have more of what's that This next story