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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for being suspicious of my

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Speaker 2: I hate the tests. The relationship tests.

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Speaker 1: Are Oh I hate them. Oh I didn't realize that's.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it must be a relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I hate one. Like, like I've seen a lot

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm super not comfortable being around your friend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what she got to test me with? Next?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? No, just like in general, like is she testing

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Speaker 1: But let's see what really Harper thirty two forty two

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Speaker 1: three says I thirty male have been dating my girlfriend

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Speaker 1: Olivia twenty three female for the last one year. For

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Speaker 1: the last one year?

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Speaker 2: Who says last one? I know?

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Speaker 1: I was like, what for the last year? We met

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Speaker 1: very welcoming to me, but they seem very immature compared

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Speaker 1: One of the girls is Harper.

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Speaker 2: A seven year difference is pretty massive.

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Speaker 1: Then being like, why are they so immature?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, they're like talking about studying for tests like

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Speaker 1: For some reason, her parents are the most excited about this,

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Speaker 2: Okay, but I see you in the chat.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I see I mean beyond what

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Speaker 2: Wait what test? Because it sounds like Olivia did not

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Speaker 3: I conspiracy theorized correctly. You.

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Speaker 1: Olivia thinks I'm overreacting. According to her, Harper is her

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Speaker 1: Although the test was stupid and Harper should apologize to me,

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Speaker 1: Happened like what would have happened if he went through

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Speaker 1: And should never be done.

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Speaker 1: Yes, but there was put another end.

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Speaker 3: Test.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you passed the test even though it clearly wasn't

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Speaker 3: That's a long distance relationship.

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Speaker 1: But I feel like he's he's using that as like

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't want to admit it, but that did

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Speaker 1: Olivia just kept on repeating that we would never really

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and if I kiss her, what would you do, Olivia? Yes, no, Yes,

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Speaker 1: Olivia was beyond mad at this point, but I told

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Speaker 3: Hold on, I get more.

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Speaker 1: You know what, I'm less on your side, Now.

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Speaker 3: What do you think?

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Speaker 1: Harper said. Harper started blowing up Olivia's phone with missed

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Speaker 1: Did it feel good? Also? Yes? What did?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 2: What was immature about what he did? The test?

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Speaker 1: The second test?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Oh yeah?

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Speaker 5: I feel any person Okay, I keep going, but I

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Speaker 1: I feel any person hitting on their friends partner deserves

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Speaker 1: testing my girlfriend's friend who tried to test me? And

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Speaker 1: there are two relevant comments. Creative Garden seventy one to

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Speaker 1: fifty five says not the a hole at least Olivia

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Speaker 1: that was never off the table for me. I know

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Speaker 1: it's easy to judge Olivia based on one incident. We

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Speaker 1: excited for her to move in. That's good. At least

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So all right, I think the question that I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Olivia needed proof.

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Speaker 2: Olivia, you needed Yeah, Olivia needed proof And like there

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Speaker 2: already was enough proof that this friend was a bad friend.

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Speaker 2: But if she, if Op had not done anything, then

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Speaker 2: that friend Harper could have caused a havoc in Olivia's life.

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Speaker 1: Have still turn it on on the boyfriend and then

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Speaker 1: like he was flirting with me.

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Speaker 2: Exactly, So it's like better to agree weed that person

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Speaker 2: out now? Yeah then wait, and so like I feel

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Speaker 2: the test was necessary, which goes against like, No.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it does, because I think testing your

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Speaker 1: like op knew that Harper was like actively right. I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's still is it still is create Like essentially,

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Speaker 2: what a test is is creating a false scenario. Yeah, test,

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Speaker 2: It's like you are testing the veracity of your your

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I do think in this case it is different. I

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Speaker 2: Are you saying question? Let's say you caught your partner

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Speaker 2: in the relationship going forward, and you were suspicious again

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Speaker 1: I think I think that we kind of talked about

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Speaker 2: That kind of yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so like if you're right, you're right.

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Speaker 2: Friends or partners, Yeah, because it's like basically you have

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Speaker 2: a you've eroded trust your point where you need to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and yeah, if you need to test them, your

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Speaker 2: But I feel like people have tested their partners and continued.

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Speaker 1: On, whereas people do that all the time. But I'm

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Speaker 1: just saying personally, like I think that, but like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: the trust isn't there, it's not there, Like your relationship

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Speaker 1: is not going to be the same if you do this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. So you're so what you're so inconcrete

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Speaker 2: what you're saying, we're good golden rules. What you're saying

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Speaker 2: is OP did nothing wrong in terms of like testing Harper,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so. I think if Harper found out

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think it's totally like, I just don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, where it's like you basically like you know someone's lying,

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Speaker 3: You proved to yourself that it's like like here.

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Speaker 1: But also he needed to prove it to Olivia, who.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I don't think. I don't think we're going

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Speaker 2: up that I could deal with it, and she hopes

444
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,520
Speaker 2: we could still be friends, but she's lost any feelings

445
00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 2: for me and is fully in love with this new guy.

446
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:16,320
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

447
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:20,360
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, very mature way to tell your your your

448
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 2: boyfriend that you've been cheating on him.

449
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 3: Like literally, could you not just no break up first?

450
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:25,400
Speaker 2: Yeah?

451
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 3: Come on.

452
00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:30,879
Speaker 2: God, if she hadn't said that, I probably wouldn't have

453
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 2: made this plan. But now I had to teach her

454
00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:37,640
Speaker 2: a valuable lesson because this guy, he's not getting revenge,

455
00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 2: he's educating.

456
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 3: That is right, sitting down classes in session.

457
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 2: I was in a depressed state for a long time

458
00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 2: and couldn't bring myself to delete her number. And she

459
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,080
Speaker 2: thought I was her friend now, so she started to

460
00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 2: send me pictures of her and her new boyfriends. Stop

461
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 2: it with laughing emojis, No, with laughing Amo, she's laughing

462
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,640
Speaker 2: in her face. Oh my god, she's laughing in his face.

463
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 3: God. She didn't even care about how much she had

464
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:05,880
Speaker 3: hurt me. Wow.

465
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,880
Speaker 2: And then one fateful day, John Oh, while I went

466
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 2: through Tender, I found someone who looked quite familiar her

467
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:21,159
Speaker 2: new boyfriend. Of course, I wouldn't tell her that her

468
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 2: new boyfriend is on Tender. In fact, I just went

469
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,440
Speaker 2: and matched with him. Ooh, which was quite surprising because

470
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 2: I thought he was straight.

471
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:30,680
Speaker 1: Oh.

472
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,879
Speaker 2: He didn't stop me from starting a conversation. Bisexual Poppy

473
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,159
Speaker 2: was good a steamy conversation.

474
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 3: He didn't know who I was. She never told him.

475
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 3: She never told him. She was in a relationship while

476
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 3: she was flirting with him.

477
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 2: But this was perfect. We had longer conversations and he

478
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,200
Speaker 2: told me more and more about himself. Over the weeks,

479
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 2: we learned about each other and now I had a

480
00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 2: master plan.

481
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 3: Oh god, this is so devious.

482
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 2: I suggested that we could meet up with each other

483
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:08,639
Speaker 2: at a bar. He agreed. Keep in mind he was

484
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 2: still in a relationship with my ex girlfriend at the time.

485
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 2: The people man, Yo, the statistic fifty percent of men

486
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 2: cheating a relationship in twenty five percent of women cheating

487
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 2: a relations And.

488
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:22,320
Speaker 3: So now and then it's now that the bisexual component

489
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 3: is there.

490
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 2: Oh wow, there's just more options to cheat one whoa. Well,

491
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 2: we went to the bar and we had a great time,

492
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 2: and one date became and one date became two dates

493
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 2: became three dates became many more dates.

494
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:37,880
Speaker 3: Dang.

495
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,480
Speaker 2: It took a few months, but then I got him

496
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 2: to the point where he developed feelings for me. Oh

497
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 2: my god, I was his sexy, smutty affair.

498
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: Oh god, what he didn't know?

499
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 2: What he didn't now, John, I got in contact with

500
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:59,080
Speaker 2: my girlfriend's former ex boyfriend as well. Why did he

501
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 2: break up with her, you asked, John, Well, he broke

502
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 2: up with her because he came out as gay. I

503
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:09,119
Speaker 2: was in contact with both guys, the ex boyfriend and

504
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 2: the current boyfriend. In our conversations with my new boyfriend,

505
00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:16,639
Speaker 2: we talked about our sexual desires and he told me

506
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,200
Speaker 2: that he always wanted to have a threesome, So I

507
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:23,640
Speaker 2: suggested one with who other than the gay ex boyfriend.

508
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 3: Bro The chances, The chances insane, The odds are off

509
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 3: off the charts, ladies and gentlemen.

510
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 2: I knew he was his type because we kind of

511
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 2: look alike and he had feelings for me. So I

512
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 2: asked the gay ex boyfriend if you wanted to become

513
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:41,640
Speaker 2: the third and to my surprise, he said.

514
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 3: Yes, Wow, you got You gotta give it up for

515
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 3: the pure, like the execution you're the execution is flawsy credit,

516
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 3: like you need to run some fortune five hundred company

517
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:54,400
Speaker 3: because but wait, John.

518
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,239
Speaker 2: It gets crazier. Oh god, I'm honestly still surprised how

519
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 2: all of this worked out without her noticing, but it did.

520
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 2: And then the day of the threesome occurred, and that's

521
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 2: when I decided to go nuclear. He hasn't got nuclear yet.

522
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,960
Speaker 2: He's going nuclear right now in front of her. The

523
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 2: two guys came to my apartment. I led them to

524
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 2: the bedroom and they started talking to each other, making

525
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 2: small talk with their big cocks. While they talked, I

526
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 2: took a selfie from a safe distance, close enough that

527
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 2: she could see their faces, but far enough away that

528
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:30,360
Speaker 2: they wouldn't notice. Oh, I see, and the action started.

529
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 2: Of course, I won't go any of course I won't

530
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 2: go into any details here. But god damn, did I

531
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:41,439
Speaker 2: enjoy myself more than anything in the world.

532
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 1: Oh.

533
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 2: A few days after I told him how. A few

534
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,200
Speaker 2: days after this, I told him that, now that I

535
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 2: granted him the wish of the freeze. A few days later,

536
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 2: after I told him that, now that I granted him

537
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,240
Speaker 2: the wish of a threesome, I wanted something in return.

538
00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 2: I told him that I don't want to be in

539
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 2: a any longer. I told him, hey, I have feelings

540
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 2: for you, and that you should break up with her

541
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 2: or I will break up with him. Oh it's an ultimatum.

542
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 3: Baby.

543
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 1: Wow.

544
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 3: For a second, I thought, wait, so does she know?

545
00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: She doesn't know yet?

546
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 3: Wow? Wow wow wow wow wow wow.

547
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 2: I knew it was hardcore manipulative, but I had a plan,

548
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 2: and I had full control over him. He was my

549
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:28,400
Speaker 2: puppet and I could do whatever I wanted.

550
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 3: Jeez, girl.

551
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,440
Speaker 2: So I guess what he did, John tell me Sam.

552
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 2: He broke up with her. And it gets worse.

553
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:41,640
Speaker 3: He threw her out. Oh she was living with him,

554
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 3: they were living together. Oh my god.

555
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 2: I even got him to move out of his apartments

556
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 2: and move in with me, meaning she lost both her

557
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 2: home and her boyfriend.

558
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:52,639
Speaker 3: Wow.

559
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 2: And the story could have ended here and it would

560
00:27:55,240 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 2: be crazy. But it doesn't stand no, no what because

561
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 2: after she texted me as a friend and said with

562
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 2: crying emojis that her boyfriend dumbed.

563
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 3: Her and that she regrets leaving me and that she

564
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 3: just wants me back.

565
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 1: Oh.

566
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 2: I then said, wait your boyfriend? Are you talking about

567
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 2: this guy? And I sent her the selfie. I took

568
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:27,919
Speaker 2: pro the selfie not only with that boyfriend, but her

569
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,959
Speaker 2: ex boyfriend as well. Oh my She called and texted

570
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,200
Speaker 2: me several times, but I ignored her, and my plan

571
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 2: was almost successful. There were only there were only three

572
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 2: things left that I had to do.

573
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 3: He wasn't done with three things left. My god, this

574
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 3: is like an assassin or something.

575
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 2: The first was I told her mother with receipts, who

576
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 2: hates infidelity more than anything because her father cheated on

577
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 2: her mother with another woman.

578
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I can say like father, like daughter.

579
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 2: Her mother was angry, but thank me for telling her,

580
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 2: and from what I've heard, her mother cut ties with her.

581
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 2: But I admit that I don't know if it actually happened,

582
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 2: and I don't think that it happened. It would be

583
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 2: funny if it was true. The second thing I did

584
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 2: was dumping him because, unfortunately for him, although he was

585
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 2: hot as hell, he was a dirty cheater too, and

586
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 2: I hate infidelity as well. The last thing I did

587
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 2: was I went out with the gay ex boyfriend and

588
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 2: after a few dates, we got together and I'm happy

589
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 2: to say we're officially a couple. In the end, I destroyed.

590
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 2: In the end, I destroyed both her and the guy

591
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 2: she cheated on me with. But I couldn't be more

592
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 2: proud of myself. Man Ah, wow, I am speechless. This

593
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: man is the most devious, deviant DJ that ever. They

594
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 2: call the subred Nuclear Revenge for a reason. Bro, this

595
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 2: went nuclear.

596
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 3: This was like like like an Earth nuke. Geez wow, damn.

597
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 3: If you thought that's true, it was crazy.

598
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 2: Check out this one where op he gets his fiance

599
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 2: arrested for cheating on him or chick. The link in

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00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 2: our bio