1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:04,080 Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: dot com and click submit Strawberry Letcher. We could be 5 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: reading your letter live on the air, just like we're 6 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. It could 7 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: be yours. You never know. All right, ladies, Jim's time 8 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: for the strawberry little My good friends, shut straw Thank you, junior. 9 00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: Subject he came home with bedbugs. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm 10 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 1: in my late thirties and I'm married to an older man. 11 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 1: We dated for a short period of time and he 12 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:41,720 Speaker 1: moved in with me before we got married four months ago. 13 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: My husband is mean. My home is in a cozy, 14 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: close knit community, and one of my neighbors recognized my 15 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: husband and couldn't wait to come give me some gossip 16 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: on him. She said, my husband was messing around with 17 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: her aunt a few months before he met me, and 18 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: she thinks he's been seeing her again since we got married. 19 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 1: She described her aunt as a slut that sleeps around 20 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:09,680 Speaker 1: and keeps a nasty house with cats and dogs all 21 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 1: over the place. She said her aunt tried to sleep 22 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: with her daddy, so nobody in the family deals with 23 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: her anymore. I couldn't wait to ask my husband about 24 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: the woman. He says he knows of her, but that 25 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: he's never slept with her or been to her house. 26 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:26,400 Speaker 1: I was sure to tell my neighbor that my husband 27 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: never fooled around with her aunt. My neighbor jokingly said, 28 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:33,919 Speaker 1: if my husband ever comes home with fleas lice or bedbugs, 29 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:37,680 Speaker 1: he is definitely still messing with her aunt. I didn't 30 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: pay her any mind until three weeks later, when I 31 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: was lying in the bed and my cabs and feet 32 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: started itching. I threw back my sheet and saw tiny 33 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: black dots on the sheets, and it looked like all 34 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: of them were moving. I woke my husband up and 35 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: accused him of bringing bedbugs home. I checked his khakis 36 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: and they had a few bugs too. He said the 37 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: bedbugs could have come from anywhere. We got rid of 38 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:08,080 Speaker 1: the bugs, but should I get rid of my husband too? 39 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:10,799 Speaker 1: Do you think my messy neighbor was right about this? 40 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: Please advise, Really you want advice from us, because you 41 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: already know the deal. Your husband is sleeping with the 42 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: nasty woman with the cats and dogs and all of that. 43 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: You're I mean, what now he's brought bedbugs home? This 44 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:33,639 Speaker 1: is so disgusting. So let me ask you something. Are 45 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 1: you gonna just wait for him to bring something even 46 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:39,519 Speaker 1: worse home while he's sleeping with her, like a rash 47 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: or an infection or a disease or something, And he's 48 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: lying about it, saying he knows of her, but he 49 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: never slept with her here. Right, So it looks like 50 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 1: your neighbor was correct about everything. I mean, she's nosy 51 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: and a gossip and all of that, but it looks 52 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: like she's got her fact straight because she's the one 53 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,799 Speaker 1: who told youstand about the bedbugs, and three weeks later 54 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: he brought them home. So I mean, you know, you 55 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,360 Speaker 1: can believe what you want to think in your head, 56 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: or you can believe what's what was right before you 57 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: and on you bedbugs on your Oh god, all right, 58 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 1: So believe her, all right, that's all. She's not lying 59 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:24,799 Speaker 1: about this bedbugs. Come on. It's making me a little 60 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: just thinking about it. Yeah, Steve, I'm a little toyin 61 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: on this letter. You don't believe it? Not really, It's 62 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: a lot going on, but there's so many different conflicting 63 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: statements in this letter. You're in your late thirties, you 64 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 1: marriage to this old dude. Now he moved in before 65 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: y'all got married four months ago. Your home is in 66 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 1: a cozy, close knit community. And one of my neighbors 67 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: recognize my husband and couldn't wait to give me some 68 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 1: gossip on you. If she said your husband was messing 69 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: around with her aunt a few don't go before we met, 70 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 1: and she thinks he's still seeing her since we got married. 71 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: How does she know this? She clearly said that your 72 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: husband was messing around with this her aunt a few 73 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 1: months before he met me, and she thinks he's still 74 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: seeing her again since we got married. She thanks that 75 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 1: why she described her aunt as a slut that sleeps 76 00:04:34,480 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: all over time, keep a nasty house, catch dogs all 77 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: over bit. She said her I tried to sleep with 78 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: her daddy, so nobody in her family deals with her anymore. Okay, 79 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 1: I couldn't wait to ask my husband about the woman. 80 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 1: Here's where the letter took a turn. He said he 81 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: knows of her, but he's never slept with her or 82 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 1: been to her house. What's the chance of your husband 83 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 1: knowing of this woman who just happens to be a slut, 84 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: who your messy neighbor says she recognizes your hook. What's 85 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: the chance of that? I mean, it don't make no sense. 86 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:23,479 Speaker 1: In this whole world we live in, it doesn't make 87 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: any sense. So right, what silly? Why do you say? 88 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 1: It doesn't make sense? Though? Explain that part? Why not? 89 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out. Know what I'm saying is 90 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:40,679 Speaker 1: what doesn't make sense is how he says to you 91 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: that he knows of this woman. Right, he says he 92 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 1: knows of her, but he's never slept with her or 93 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: been to her house. Of all the women in the world, 94 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: how does your husband even know of this woman? See, 95 00:05:56,839 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: your house is in the coast cozy close knick community, 96 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 1: and one of your neighbors recognize my husband. Your husband 97 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:10,719 Speaker 1: don't live that. How did your husband just out of everybody? 98 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 1: And then when you accuse him of this woman ask him, 99 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 1: he says he knows of her. Damn dog, you'd have 100 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: been better off just saying I don't even know who 101 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: you're talking to me. Yeah, he lies. Well, when you 102 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: said you you know, no, you know of her? That 103 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: kind of opened the door. Dog. Well, we ain't even 104 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 1: got to that part. Yeah anyway, all right, hold that thought, Steve. Okay, 105 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:45,479 Speaker 1: we'll have part two of your response coming up at 106 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:48,679 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour, subject he came home 107 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: with bed bugs. We'll get back into it right after this. 108 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:57,919 Speaker 1: You're listening to show. Come on, Steve, let's recap today's 109 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:06,360 Speaker 1: Strawberry letters. Subject he came home with bad bugs. Well, 110 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: this woman has a messy friend. They live in a 111 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 1: cozy neighborhood. Your man that you met, who's older, y'all 112 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: before y'all y'all got married four months ago. He moved 113 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: in one of your neighbor's recognize me and said, your 114 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: husband was messing around with her aunt a few months 115 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 1: before he met you, and she thanks, he's been seeing 116 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 1: her again since we got married. Who is this woman? 117 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:43,280 Speaker 1: Man that just comes damn, and I think he's still 118 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: seeing her. She said her aun't tried to sleep with 119 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 1: her daddy, so nobody and her family feels and her 120 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 1: honey money that line right there. I couldn't wait to 121 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 1: ask my husband about the woman. He says he knows 122 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: of her, but he's never slept with her, been to 123 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: her house. Dog. Of all the women in the world. 124 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: How did you get accused of this? And then you 125 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 1: say I know of her? How? But that's how stupid 126 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 1: he is. He's god, have said, I have no idea 127 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 1: what you're talking. I don't know the woman like that. 128 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: You can't need. So then I couldn't wait to tell 129 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 1: my neighbor that my husband never fooled around with her. 130 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: My neighbor jokingly said, well, your husband never come home 131 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: with fleas, lights and bed bugs. Definitely still messing with her? 132 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 1: What is in her damn house? Who is famous for fleas, 133 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:48,559 Speaker 1: lice and bed books? So I didn't pay any minded to. 134 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:52,440 Speaker 1: Three weeks later, I'm laying in bed, my calves and 135 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: feet started you. I threw back my sheets and saw 136 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: tiny black dots on the sheet and looked like all 137 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 1: of them was moving. Well, now them, it's fleas them, 138 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,679 Speaker 1: it's fleas bad bugs. I've never seen woman. I heard. 139 00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 1: They're a little bit different. I checked his khakis and 140 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: they had a few bugs too. He said, the bad bugs, 141 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 1: bad bugs could have come from anywhere. That's a true statement. 142 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:22,559 Speaker 1: We got rid of the bugs, But should I get 143 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: rid of my husband too? Do you think my message 144 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,679 Speaker 1: neighbor was right about this please vine see now we 145 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:32,199 Speaker 1: got a little plump because your husband stop. I know 146 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:37,079 Speaker 1: I know of her, but I ain't never been on 147 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:41,079 Speaker 1: her house. He's lying, U bro, How do you know 148 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: of a random woman that some random other woman accused you? 149 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: Why didn't you just say I don't know this woman? 150 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 1: But because not but now the but what they're good 151 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 1: to do with what you're supposed to say. That's why 152 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:03,800 Speaker 1: you're man. Though I'm mad about the bed bugs. It's 153 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:16,679 Speaker 1: what you're supposed to say. The standard man, A dumb 154 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 1: ass man. I know you're gonna turn yourself in with 155 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 1: ignorant information now due I think it's him possible it's 156 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,079 Speaker 1: the bugs in the pockets because you got to take 157 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: them pants off somewhere and you laid down at the 158 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: foot of the bed. You had already said they were 159 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:44,079 Speaker 1: down there by your uh calves and and and and 160 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: and ankles beat, so they have the foot of the bed. 161 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: That's where the khakis was laid. But it's a bunch 162 00:10:53,520 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: of them though. They're everywhere because she's itching. H is 163 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 1: she in this damn house? The woman with the catch dogs, 164 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:13,840 Speaker 1: the lights, the fleas, the chicks, the big bugs? Wow? 165 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:17,839 Speaker 1: How she living? In this nasty house and hook go 166 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: over there. I was. I dated a girl one time, 167 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 1: long time ago, and had a nasty house. That date 168 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:32,319 Speaker 1: was so short I felt she had a baby too. 169 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 1: I felt bad for the baby. Where can he eat 170 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:43,440 Speaker 1: in him? Really? Nah? Man? I went, damn, fine chick, 171 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:48,760 Speaker 1: nice looking, Lord, have mercy? Why is all this? And 172 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:51,200 Speaker 1: I'm sitting on the couch man after work one day. 173 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: You know, I worked a forward motor company. You know 174 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: I ain't mad. So I'm looking around this house going 175 00:11:57,320 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 1: I got on work clothes and I'm trying to get up. 176 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: I ain't got no where to see. And you know 177 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: how stuff be happening to you just be looking around 178 00:12:08,360 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 1: like yes, it's there's something over that movement. You can't 179 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 1: ever be comfortable, You can't ever just she said, whoa, 180 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 1: I just don't be having time to clean this house up. 181 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 1: It's so big. This is the last house ain't And 182 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 1: that's the one thing I cannot stand. A woman who's 183 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 1: not clean. A dude not being clean, okay, a woman 184 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 1: not clean. That's scary, you know, because I'm already not 185 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:49,080 Speaker 1: the need this guy and and nasty and like messy 186 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:52,680 Speaker 1: or junkie or two entirely different things. Yeah. I can't 187 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:54,959 Speaker 1: deal with a junkie woman either, because, like I say, 188 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: I'm not the needest guy in the war. Yeah, yeah, 189 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:01,840 Speaker 1: I can't with the bad bugs. I'm done, I'm out, 190 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 1: all right. Listen, Thanks Steve. 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