1 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:08,959 Speaker 1: Everything and everybody's all right, all right, man, or to 2 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: just be Roscoe Wallace and just get through this nutty 3 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: ass date. Yeah, well, you know what you're right, Steve. 4 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 1: Let's take a break from the election. Okay, we've been 5 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 1: talking about it all morning. Let's switch gears. Time now 6 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:24,640 Speaker 1: for the Strawberry Letter and listen. If you need advice 7 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please submit 8 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click 9 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live 10 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 1: on the air, just like we're gonna read this one 11 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: right here, right now. Buggalo. But hold on time. We 12 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 1: got it for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Subject, 13 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: I don't owe your dad's girlfriend a thing. Oh damn. 14 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: They wanted to say something else, Yeah they did. Dear 15 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I've been with my boyfriend for seven years now, 16 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: and he was raised by his father and his father's 17 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: girlfriend has been a mother figure to him for the 18 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: past fifteen years. His father is a sweetheart when you 19 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 1: see it figure. His father is a sweet my kind 20 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: of his father's his girlfriend, his father's girlfriend, has been 21 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:30,040 Speaker 1: a mother figure to him for the past fifteen years. 22 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: His father is a sweetheart, and it is nice, but 23 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: I've always thought she is kind of weird. She had 24 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: a birthday recently and my boyfriend and I were invited 25 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 1: over to have cake and sing Happy Birthday. I told 26 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: my boyfriend we should take her a gift, so we 27 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: got her a twenty dollars VISA gift card and stuck 28 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: it in her birthday card. We had a good time 29 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: with them, and she said she'd open her gifts later. 30 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: I told her we gave her a small gift card 31 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,440 Speaker 1: so she could go get her nails done. A week 32 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: went by and my boyfriend's father called and he was 33 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: upset with us. He was yelling about his girlfriend's manicure 34 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: costing seventy dollars and said we were low down for 35 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: only giving her twenty. They're both stupid if they thought 36 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:14,399 Speaker 1: a full manicure was only twenty dollars. And furthermore, who 37 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: gets the service done without asking how much it will cost? 38 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: But they didn't, so they told my boyfriend that he 39 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 1: and I needed to come up with the rest of 40 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:26,520 Speaker 1: the money. I told him that I didn't owe his 41 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 1: dad's girlfriend a thing. She was yelling in the background 42 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:33,959 Speaker 1: that we played a dirty trick on her. I yelled 43 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,919 Speaker 1: back and called her stupid. My boyfriend said he was 44 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:39,679 Speaker 1: going to keep the peace by giving me the fifty dollars, 45 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: by giving them the fifty dollars. He took it to them, 46 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 1: and when he got back home I had nothing to 47 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: say to him. I'm mad that he didn't take He 48 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: didn't side with me and defend me. This isn't even 49 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: his mother and his dad doesn't think enough for her 50 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 1: to marry her, So why would he take her side? 51 00:02:56,760 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: What's up with that interesting? Interesting letter? Uh? You wrote 52 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: us a letter about twenty dollars. Now think about that. 53 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: Think about that, because that's what this letter is about. 54 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: I mean they're mad. Don't even worry about it. I 55 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: got her, Yeah, I mean they're mad that that because 56 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 1: you only gave her twenty dollars. Okay, but what happened 57 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: to it's the thought that counts, isn't that you know? 58 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: Isn't that the gracious way to do things around here? 59 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: Why couldn't she just say thank you and keep it moving? Uh? 60 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: Is this the first time she's ever gotten her nails done? 61 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: Because you're right, it caused way more than twenty dollars. 62 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 1: And yes, your man wants to keep the peace. You 63 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: were right about that again with his dad and uh. 64 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: That should let you know though where you stand after 65 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 1: seven whole years. You should be feeling some kind of 66 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: way because obviously you've been by his side all this time, 67 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: all this time, uh, and he sided with them. Maybe 68 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 1: instead of being so mad at them for not liking 69 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 1: your gift, you should be trying to figure out why 70 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,839 Speaker 1: you and you're so called man aren't married. You've been 71 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 1: with him, they've been together guys for seven years, and 72 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 1: you are you all aren't married, not even an engagement nothing. 73 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 1: You mentioned that his father had married his girlfriend after 74 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 1: you know, a long time being together. She's been around 75 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: for fifteen years maybe like father, like son. So you see, 76 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: this letter really shouldn't be about twenty dollars. It should 77 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: be about what do you want from this relationship? Because 78 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 1: he has shown you, you know, when it gets really real, 79 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 1: what side he's on. Steve, Well, this is all her 80 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 1: bad look that she would write this letter in on 81 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: a morning like we're going through, right, Because I want 82 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 1: to open this letter with I don't kill or damn. 83 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: I would like to also add in the words of 84 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: Caller's beloved mother, Patricia Bolden, I could give lesson than 85 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: So now that we've opened the letter the way I 86 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 1: want to, Jimmy gone and read this letter. I've been 87 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 1: my boyfriend seven years now. He's raised by his father 88 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: and his father's girlfriend been a mother figured two him 89 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 1: for the past fifteen years. His daddy is sweetheart. Had 90 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: a birthday recently, and y'all saying it had birthday, had 91 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: a good time. And so you bought a twenty dollars 92 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 1: VISA gift card and slid it in her in her 93 00:05:41,360 --> 00:05:45,159 Speaker 1: birthday card, and you told her we gave you a 94 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: small gift. You was not lying, right, that was true, 95 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 1: giving you a small guilt. It ain't but three bills 96 00:05:54,640 --> 00:06:00,720 Speaker 1: smaller than a twenty. That's a ten to five one 97 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 1: you gave. Huh about the false smallest bill? That is 98 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 1: all right? So you are right, it's small if you 99 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: gave her a ten. I I don't even know how 100 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 1: I feel about this. When we come back after this break, 101 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to do this letter the right way. Oh, 102 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: I don't know, but in a very Unchristian life, all right, 103 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 1: I don't feel like being that good at Christian this 104 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: morning because we're still talking about this damn election. I 105 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:42,359 Speaker 1: wanted this to be over with Pribe two of Steve's 106 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after. We'll be 107 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening to show. All right, 108 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's get back to the Strawberry letter, 109 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 1: the subject I don't owe your dad's girlfriend a thing? 110 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:03,119 Speaker 1: All right, Yeah, this letter right here, man, at this time, 111 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 1: right here, it's about twenty dollars and seventy dollars. So 112 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: what this man that's been dating this woman for seven 113 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: years and was raised by his father and his father's 114 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: girlfriend from fifteen years, the girlfriend of fifteen years to 115 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: the father had a birthday party. So this woman who 116 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: wrote the letter and her boyfriend who was raised by 117 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 1: the father, and the fifteen year girlfriend, they go to 118 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: the birthday party and then you know, they went over 119 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: and saying we had birthday, got a kate, and then 120 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: she told her boyfriend and I'll take him a gift. 121 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 1: So they got a twenty dollars visa card and put 122 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: it in a birthday card. So they anton party, they 123 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 1: had a good time and everything, and they told her 124 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 1: the gift card was so she could go get her 125 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 1: nails done. So a week went by and then the 126 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 1: boy's daddy ended up calling them and he was mad. 127 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 1: He was hotted at him and stuff on the phone. 128 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: Calls his girl friends manicure cast seventy dollars and they 129 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: would low down for only giving her twenty dollars. Now, 130 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: the girl say they both stupid if they thought a 131 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 1: manicure was only twenty dollars. See, they don't see old 132 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: ass people. All you heard was you can go down 133 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 1: there and get manecure. So they took their old ass 134 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: down now talking about we want manicure. Here go on 135 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: my gift card or twenty dollars. Only get three fingers 136 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 1: twenty dollars, get three fingers and a baby total. She 137 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: does all you get for twenty dollars, but you are 138 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 1: Now they're mad. So the daddy then called and they're 139 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: mad at them and they're talking they about they low down. 140 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: So now anyway, the girl mad cause who gets a 141 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:59,199 Speaker 1: service done without asking how much? I'm pretty sure it's 142 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 1: posted do people that run them nail shops? They are ready, 143 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:08,840 Speaker 1: and no ignorant findn't come in there. It's posted somewhere. 144 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:11,719 Speaker 1: She just sat down, pulled out her gift card time 145 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: she ready for her manicure. Well, we got twenty on it. 146 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: So they told the boyfriend that they told her. The 147 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: father and the mother told a boyfriend that he and 148 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: this woman that wrote this letter need to come up 149 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: with the rest of the money, which was seventy dollars. 150 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: I told him that I didn't owe his daddy's girlfriend 151 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: a damn thing. See, so really what this letter was saying, 152 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:41,319 Speaker 1: I don't owe your funking mama step mama, which ain't 153 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: even your step mama, damn step mama girlfriend, babysitter that 154 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: something like that because she ain't got no title. So 155 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: I don't owe huh, sugar honey, I don't ask me 156 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 1: by this sugar mine that iced tea, no damn more, 157 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:06,719 Speaker 1: because I don't give us sugar iced tea. And I 158 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: mean that, and I mean, man, you can shut the 159 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: front door to me about this hill. She in the 160 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 1: background yelling talking about they played a dirty trick on it. 161 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 1: So then a girl y'all is back and called her stupid. 162 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:31,319 Speaker 1: So my boyfriend said he gonna keep the piece by 163 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 1: giving them fifty dollars. Now, come on, now, you gotta 164 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 1: understand a man's role is to solve problems. We have 165 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: a problem. You got played. You stupid for going down 166 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:45,200 Speaker 1: that thinking a manicure only twenty dollars. So he took 167 00:10:45,200 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 1: it to him when he got back home. You I didn't. 168 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: She didn't have nothing to say to him, and now 169 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 1: she mad because he didn't side with her or defend her. 170 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:58,840 Speaker 1: He what you want him to do? He trying to 171 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: fix the problem, just his daddy and the woman that 172 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 1: raised him. You said that, so he just took the 173 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 1: fifty over there. It's no side to take. He took 174 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: the side of the ignorant so the ignorant could stop 175 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:18,839 Speaker 1: being ignorant. That's the side he took. Now at this inn, 176 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: aiming to his mother and his dad. Don't think enough 177 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 1: for her to marry her? You bring the boyfrid for 178 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 1: seven years? Yeah, what the heir he think of? You? See, 179 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,720 Speaker 1: be careful about throwing that rock over the fist because 180 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 1: that rock could come back over the fence. See. So 181 00:11:36,880 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 1: why should he take her side? Because he trying to 182 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: keep the peace. Now listen to me, let's be honest. 183 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:49,280 Speaker 1: You pity for sitting him here arguing with two old 184 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: ass people over a twenty You pity she mo pity 185 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 1: and stupid for expecting y'all to pay for the whole 186 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: manner cure. It was in the birthday car. It's twenty dollars. 187 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 1: We all we did was I got five on it. 188 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:12,840 Speaker 1: That's all this was. Yeah, we just got something on it. 189 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,680 Speaker 1: This your birthday? And how you know when do you 190 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 1: get at what age is you're supposed to stop counting 191 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:24,439 Speaker 1: what people give you for your birthday? You old, You're 192 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: just lucky, your ass is still a lie. Take that 193 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:34,880 Speaker 1: twenty and be happy, be grateful somebody still thinking about you. 194 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:38,199 Speaker 1: And now let me say this before we get out 195 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: of here. Don't write us no more this week about 196 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 1: nothing stupid, because we don't have the time of patience 197 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 1: for y'alla. We got this fool still in the damn 198 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:54,680 Speaker 1: White House. He fended go to the Supreme Court because 199 00:12:54,679 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 1: he probably gonna lose this election. We got all kinds 200 00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:00,280 Speaker 1: of problem. You car him no more with this shiver 201 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:04,240 Speaker 1: hard ice cream. More calls after this, phone calls after this, 202 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:07,800 Speaker 1: you're listening to the same Horday Morning Show.