Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2: Kelsey is on the phone today for our first Date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by Nate. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call him and see if he'll
Speaker 2: tell us why he is ghosting her and maybe get
Speaker 2: her a second date. But first, Kelsey, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Nate.
Speaker 3: Hey, it's been about a week.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, not too long. No, So in that time, though,
Speaker 4: how many times have you tried to hit him up?
Speaker 3: Oh? I have texted twice.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's not bad. No, it's not too bad. You
Speaker 5: get no response? Yeah, okay. What did you say to
Speaker 5: him in the last text you sent?
Speaker 3: Well, the last text I sent. I mean this kind
Speaker 3: of relates to like, you know, what happened on the date,
Speaker 3: so out of the blue. But I complimented he made
Speaker 3: me a breakfast sandwich, So I like told him that
Speaker 3: I was thinking about how good it was.
Speaker 5: That sounds amazing. Well that sounds like this Does that
Speaker 5: mean not great?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I did, Okay, tell us about it.
Speaker 3: Okay. So it was like a little bit different than
Speaker 3: a lot of other dates I've been on. We met
Speaker 3: at a bar when I was out with some friends
Speaker 3: of mine celebrating, and we just like kind of were
Speaker 3: in the corner chatting a lot, and we just like
Speaker 3: really clicked. There was instant chemistry, and you know, I
Speaker 3: was I was focusing on my friends that night. It
Speaker 3: wasn't really looking for anything, but I just couldn't stop
Speaker 3: talking to this guy. So after some drinks, we ended
Speaker 3: up going back to his place and yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: I had a breakfast sandwich, so you know what happened. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I truly thought it was just going to be a
Speaker 3: one night stand and like that was fine. But then
Speaker 3: in the morning, when I got up to leave, he
Speaker 3: grabbed my hand and he asked me to stay.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I know.
Speaker 5: So, yeah, that's weird that you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 3: Then thank you, I know, he said. It was like,
Speaker 3: you know, I know this is kind of backwards, but
Speaker 3: could we have a breakfast date right now in my house?
Speaker 3: And he handed me right, he handed me this like
Speaker 3: t shirt of his and told me to freshen up
Speaker 3: and get ready and he would make breakfast. And I
Speaker 3: mean it literally felt like I was in a rom com. Great. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so I walked into the kitchen. He had like coffee
Speaker 3: and juice. He was making me that breakfast sandwich. He
Speaker 3: wasn't wearing a shirt, he was just wearing shorts, and
Speaker 3: it was literally, I know, it was like I was
Speaker 3: like looking into my future. It was so romantic, and
Speaker 3: I was just like melting.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, I'd be blowing his phone up too, bro.
Speaker 5: Where did you get home?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 5: How long did you stay there?
Speaker 3: Well, we spent the whole day together, like breakfast, went
Speaker 3: secks and bed and we were watching movies and then
Speaker 3: it turned into having dier together. Yeah, it really felt
Speaker 3: like we'd known each other forever.
Speaker 5: It's like a full twenty four hours a lie. Yeah?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 2: Is there anything you can think of that would be
Speaker 2: a reason that he's ghosting it?
Speaker 3: I really I really racking my brain because I feel crazy,
Speaker 3: but everything seemed perfect. I truly can't figure it out.
Speaker 3: I mean, the only thing that I could maybe think
Speaker 3: of is I don't know if he thought I overstayed
Speaker 3: my welcome, Like after breakfast, he didn't say that he
Speaker 3: wanted me to stay, but it really felt like he did.
Speaker 3: And the more I thought about it, I started to
Speaker 3: wonder if maybe he was just being nice.
Speaker 5: I mean, I feel like if he wanted you to leave,
Speaker 5: he could have.
Speaker 3: Been like, oh, I gotta go run errands, like who's
Speaker 3: nice seeing you that.
Speaker 5: I never know to go. I tell people to leave.
Speaker 2: I uld just go. I got stuff to do. Respond, Yes,
Speaker 2: you're getta hang out if you want. Most of the
Speaker 2: time they say no. One time they said yes exactly.
Speaker 2: That backfire. Don't say that. Yeah, did he give you
Speaker 2: that option? Did he say you could say if you
Speaker 2: want anything like that?
Speaker 3: No, he just like has on offering other things we
Speaker 3: could do.
Speaker 5: Oh, yeah, you know.
Speaker 3: For chatting, and yeah, we're watching a movie. And then
Speaker 3: he said you have like popcorn, and just like one
Speaker 3: thing kept leading to another. But maybe I just read
Speaker 3: it to leave before I you know, like I've put anotherituation.
Speaker 5: All right, well we'll figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back, and then call him
Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you
Speaker 2: and maybe get you a second date. Okay, okay, thank you,
Speaker 2: all right, we'll get your first day follow up, next.
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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first Date follow up
Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Kelsey is on the
Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by Nate. So we're about
Speaker 2: to call him and see if he'll tell us why
Speaker 2: his ghosts singer. But first, Kelsey, just break down your
Speaker 2: date for us real quick, one more time.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So, I had like a casual run in with
Speaker 3: a guy at a barrow with my friends. We spent
Speaker 3: the night together. One thing led to another, and I
Speaker 3: was gonna leave in the morning. Then he offered to
Speaker 3: make me breakfast, maybe this beautiful breakfast, and we ended
Speaker 3: up spending like almost twenty four hours together and having
Speaker 3: this incredible day. And now I've texted him twice and
Speaker 3: he has not texted me back. It has been a
Speaker 3: full week.
Speaker 5: Okay, so weird. Yeah, yeah it is. Are you ready
Speaker 5: for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, speak to Nate. Please.
Speaker 5: This is in Nate. How are you? This is the
Speaker 5: Jubile Show. It's a radio show. Hi Nate. I'm Nina. Hi,
Speaker 5: I'm Victoria and my name's Jubal. How are you.
Speaker 3: Hello, I'm okay, how are you good?
Speaker 5: Good? Have you ever listened to the show? Before.
Speaker 3: I think I have heard you guys before. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh wait, all right, cool, Well guess what, Nate, somebody emailed.
Speaker 5: Us about you.
Speaker 2: Okay, we do a segment on our show and it's
Speaker 2: called the first Day follow Up. So that's where if
Speaker 2: you go on a date with somebody and then you
Speaker 2: ghost them, that person can email us to give you
Speaker 2: a call and ask why you're ghosting them. So somebody
Speaker 2: that you're ghosting email.
Speaker 3: Us, got it? Yeah, I think I have an idea
Speaker 3: who that might be.
Speaker 5: Okay, who do you think it is?
Speaker 3: Is it Kelsey? By chance?
Speaker 5: Yes? It is Kelsey. She told us all about your date.
Speaker 2: It sounded awesome, Oh my gosh, by the way breakfast
Speaker 2: and everything.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it was kind of an awesome day date when
Speaker 7: breakfast date?
Speaker 5: Yeah, tell us why you're ghosting her?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I kind of look. Kelsey's awesome. She really is.
Speaker 7: I wasn't faking anything. She's funny, beautiful, really smart, easy
Speaker 7: to talk too. But the thing is that I've been
Speaker 7: kind of going through a whole bunch of stuff lately.
Speaker 3: So yeah, oh I'm.
Speaker 4: Sorry, Okay, if you don't mind sharing, like what kind
Speaker 4: of stuff?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's okay.
Speaker 7: So I lost my job recently, and I'm having to
Speaker 7: make plans to move back in with my parents to
Speaker 7: save money. Okay, so yeah, that's kind of going on
Speaker 7: right now, and I feel like a giant loser. So yeah,
Speaker 7: basically didn't think I was in a position to date
Speaker 7: someone like her with the financial mess that I'm in
Speaker 7: right now.
Speaker 2: Okay, So you didn't ghost her because you didn't like her.
Speaker 2: You ghosted her because you like her.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I guess, Yeah, definitely, I like her a lot.
Speaker 7: I don't know, it's just a weird conversation, Like I
Speaker 7: don't know how to really broach that subject. Hey, nice
Speaker 7: to meet you. I got fired and I have to
Speaker 7: go sleep in my childhood bedroom again.
Speaker 5: Like the way you said that was perfect. I've been there, honestly.
Speaker 4: But sometimes you have to give people an opportunity to
Speaker 4: show you who they are, you know. I mean, I
Speaker 4: know that it's kind of uncomfortable, especially since you just
Speaker 4: met her, But it sounds like you guys had an
Speaker 4: amazing time and connection. I just feel like, you know,
Speaker 4: a conversation could have or could be worth it for you.
Speaker 3: You're probably right.
Speaker 7: Everything's just kind of happening all at once, so it's
Speaker 7: a lot. It's a little heavy, that's all. It just feels.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, the conversation could happen because she's actually on
Speaker 2: the phone and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 6: Okay, Hello, Hi, you're ghosting me because you've lost your job,
Speaker 6: Like you didn't think I could handle that.
Speaker 3: I it's not that I don't think you can handle it.
Speaker 7: It's more just I.
Speaker 3: Don't want to drag you into my problems right now.
Speaker 7: I'm you know, we just met.
Speaker 3: I'm I'm not some delicate flower, Nate. I'm the kind
Speaker 3: of woman who stands up for her guy and like
Speaker 3: helps him get back on his seat. You should have
Speaker 3: told me. That's really sweet of you to say that.
Speaker 7: And I don't even know if I need outside help yet, Kelsey,
Speaker 7: I'm still kind of like figuring it all out.
Speaker 3: Like I said, it just happened.
Speaker 7: Then.
Speaker 3: I know I'm a catch. I still like myself. It's
Speaker 3: not like that, but I.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I didn't think you'd want to date me. You know,
Speaker 7: you like nice things, you deserve nice things.
Speaker 3: Fine, then you'll give me all of that when you're
Speaker 3: back on your feet.
Speaker 7: I guess, Okay, Well, yeah, I just don't want to
Speaker 7: feel pressured like while I'm trying to get stuff together.
Speaker 3: I just need a genuine reset right now. So as
Speaker 3: long as you know that's what's.
Speaker 5: Going on, that's fair.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll meet you where you are.
Speaker 5: Cause you're okay with this situation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, he's a human being. Life happens, for sure.
Speaker 4: But do you think that puts pressure on a new
Speaker 4: relationship in the beginning?
Speaker 3: I guess so. But I think also if you know
Speaker 3: this went anywhere and it is early, it would make
Speaker 3: us really strong together to have gone through this so early.
Speaker 5: On good point.
Speaker 3: Call me a hopeless romantic, but that's how I feel
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 5: To Nate, you think your mom would like Kelsey?
Speaker 3: Uh? Yeah, I definitely think so.
Speaker 7: I mean, everything she's saying is incredibly sweet and understanding.
Speaker 7: So I didn't know you would take it like that.
Speaker 7: To be honest with you, that's incredibly sweet.
Speaker 3: Well, I feel like you underestimated me a little bit.
Speaker 3: I guess I did.
Speaker 2: I think I did well, Nate, would you like to
Speaker 2: go on another date with Kelsey?
Speaker 5: We'll pay for it, probably have to. It happens everybody.
Speaker 5: You'll get back on your feet.
Speaker 3: That was that was really funny.
Speaker 7: Yes, Yeah, I do want to go on a second date.
Speaker 3: Let's let's just try to take it slow though.
Speaker 7: I don't want to feel like I have to fix everything,
Speaker 7: you know, right away.
Speaker 3: But yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2: Congratulations Kelsey you got another date. And Nate, congratulations to
Speaker 2: you too.
Speaker 3: Thank you guys. I'm excited to see you. Yeah, me too.
Speaker 3: But just know that from now on.
Speaker 7: If we do stuff, that has to be at your place,
Speaker 7: because my mom will get pretty mad.
Speaker 3: So yeah, we can do that. Jubles First Deed Fall