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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocates Law dot com.

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Speaker 2: Bobby is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Mila. So in

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Speaker 2: a second we're gonna call her and see if she

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and hopefully get him

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Speaker 2: another day. But first, Bobby, how long has it been

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Speaker 2: since you heard from Mela there?

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Speaker 3: It's been about ten days.

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Speaker 2: Have you tried to reach out to her in those

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Speaker 2: ten days?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I've texted her like twice, center a meme or two,

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Speaker 4: but it's been nothing.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 5: Sure?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So we met a pot look that a mutual

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Speaker 4: friend friend was throwing and it was her Ada makes

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Speaker 4: you know, everyone bringing like a homemade dish thing, and

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Speaker 4: I love to cook.

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Speaker 3: I love being in the kitchen.

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Speaker 4: So I brought my mom's famous big past role and

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Speaker 4: it might have been slightly overcooked, but it was still

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Speaker 4: edible and I think really good. And Mela showed up

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Speaker 4: with like this like amazing, like professional charcutery board, so

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Speaker 4: many different cheeses. I could not stop eating it. And

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Speaker 4: we talked for like the entire night, like for so long.

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Speaker 4: You know, it was like it was a really good vine.

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Speaker 2: That's great.

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Speaker 1: So did you feel like Mila was into the vibe?

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Speaker 1: Does she love that you were eating her cheese?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Absolutely, Like we we were talking with a group outside

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Speaker 4: and it felt like it was just us too, because

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Speaker 4: like we were just talking between us like the entire time,

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Speaker 4: back and forth, and uh, like we were talking about

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Speaker 4: like cooking too, like the best way to may walk,

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Speaker 4: which you know I have some very strong feelings about.

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Speaker 3: So, I mean it felt really natural and good.

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Speaker 2: Why do you think she might be ghosting you?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Well, the only thing I can think is that I

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Speaker 4: might have like overdone it at the pot luck, like

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Speaker 4: we I think I tried to impress her too much.

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Speaker 4: But basically, she mentioned that how much she loves flond

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Speaker 4: and I tried to like whip one up from scratch,

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Speaker 4: just like using whatever I could find in the kitchen.

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Speaker 4: I thought it'd be like really cute and romantic, but

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Speaker 4: it did not go very well, Like I set off

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Speaker 4: the smoke alarm and the flawn turned out more like

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Speaker 4: like a soup.

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Speaker 2: That's pretty impressive that you were able to make an

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Speaker 2: impromptu flawn. Yeah, I'm just trying to picture it. She's like,

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Speaker 2: I love flawn, and you go, bet watch this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I might have. I might have been feeling a

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Speaker 3: little too.

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Speaker 2: Confident, okay, And did the flawon taste any good?

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Speaker 3: You know it? It tasted fine.

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Speaker 4: The consistency was a little weird, but she like laughed

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Speaker 4: it off, you know. But then she got like kind

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Speaker 4: of quiet after that. So I don't know, I like,

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Speaker 4: I don't know if I had to give her the

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Speaker 4: inch or I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's like, how do you recover from a fire alarm?

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Speaker 1: I mean that's quite a like, I mean, or the

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Speaker 1: whole party's got to stop for a second and then

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Speaker 1: restart up again.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean he was quick. We just worked the

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Speaker 3: smoke alarm out of the ceiling.

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Speaker 2: It was no big deal, all right. And so the

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Speaker 2: flawn or the failed flawn, I guess, is the only

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Speaker 2: thing you can think of that might be the reason

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Speaker 2: that she's ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because like everything else went like so naturally at

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Speaker 3: the party. So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Tell us what happened with Mela again.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so we met had a pot look, but a

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Speaker 4: mutual friend put together and we really hit it off,

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Speaker 4: your like talking all night, and then I tried to

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Speaker 4: impress her by like making a flawn from scratch and

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Speaker 4: it did not go very well. But it's not like

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Speaker 4: anyone got hurt or anything. But you know, I think

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Speaker 4: I might have just turned her off.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I've never known anybody that's gotten injured from a flaw,

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Speaker 2: but it happens. It's possible. We'll see. Are you ready

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Speaker 2: for us to call her?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Want a dollar front uber right now?

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Speaker 5: Hello?

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Speaker 2: Hi, man, I speak to Mela. Please. This is she Mila.

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Speaker 2: How are you? This is the Jubil Show. It's a

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Speaker 2: radio show.

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Speaker 3: Hei, Miila.

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Speaker 2: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and I'm Jubil. How are

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Speaker 2: you doing?

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Speaker 5: Oh my god? Are you serious?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Do you listen to the show ever?

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Speaker 5: I have heard you guys before. This is this is wild?

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Speaker 2: Thank you? Well, you've never heard a first aid follow up?

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Speaker 2: What you do on the show. That's a segment where

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Speaker 2: if you're ghosting somebody, you can email us and then

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Speaker 2: we call that person and see if they'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about

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Speaker 2: you from somebody. Do you know who would email us?

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Speaker 5: Is it about Bobby?

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Speaker 2: Yes, it is about Bobby. He told us all about

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Speaker 2: meeting you at the party, and I said, it's been

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Speaker 2: about ten days that you guys really hit it off,

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Speaker 2: liked you a lot, but doesn't know why you're not

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Speaker 2: calling him back. Would you mind telling us? Uh?

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Speaker 5: Sure?

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Speaker 6: So Okay, first off, Bobby is sweet, really sweet, but

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Speaker 6: he's kind of chaotic.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay.

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Speaker 6: The potmuk was fun that I've never seen someone try

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Speaker 6: to make a flawn.

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Speaker 5: Out of nothing.

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Speaker 2: He told us about that he thinks that him trying

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Speaker 2: to make a flawn and then setting off the fire

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Speaker 2: alarm and all that stuff might be the reason that

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, I mean it was. It was very sweet.

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Speaker 6: It was kind of insane, but it was very sweet.

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Speaker 6: But there was this girl there, Emily, who would not

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Speaker 6: stop flirting with him. She was trying to help him.

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Speaker 6: She was like, oh my god, you're so brave for

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Speaker 6: making this flawn. It's amazing. It was not an amazing flawn,

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Speaker 6: you know. And I'm just I'm not interested in chasing anyone. Well,

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Speaker 6: i mean the fire alarm did go off, though, you know,

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Speaker 6: I'm just I'm not interested in like fighting over some guy.

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Speaker 2: You know, he's nice, but he said he texted you

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Speaker 2: a couple of times.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I mean, I just it seems messy and

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Speaker 6: chaotic and not for me.

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Speaker 2: Like you think that the other girl that was flirting

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Speaker 2: with him, he's also interested in her.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I assume so because she was so flirty.

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Speaker 6: So I'm just kind of like, that's cool, do your thing,

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Speaker 2: Did he flirt back though? Was he given her the

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Speaker 6: I mean, he was so excited about the flawn that

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Speaker 6: I'm not sure. He just seemed really really excited about everything,

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Speaker 6: so kind of yeah, like someone is.

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Speaker 2: A little less excited about life.

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Speaker 6: There was just a chaotic element to it that I'm

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Speaker 6: just not sure about, you know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, Well, thank you for telling us why you're

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Speaker 2: not calling him back. Speaking of chaos, Mila, I don't

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Speaker 2: know if you know this or not, but Bobby is

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Speaker 2: actually on the phone and wants to talk to me.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 3: Wait, wait me, Like you really think Emily was flirting

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Speaker 3: with me? Really?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: She ate two pieces of that fun like nobody wanted

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Speaker 6: to eat the fawn.

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Speaker 3: Well, I thought she was just being nice.

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Speaker 5: Like, I mean, she was. She was being nice, but

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Speaker 5: like in a get into your pants kind of way.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 6: I mean she was like grabbing your arm while you

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Speaker 6: were cooking, and she kept like laughing at literally everything said.

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Speaker 5: I mean, probably this is what women do when they're

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Speaker 5: into you.

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Speaker 4: I guess I didn't notice, honestly, I was really just

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Speaker 4: trying to make sure I didn't like burn up the kitchen.

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Speaker 2: Well fair, because you almost in Neil, where were you

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Speaker 2: this whole time?

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Speaker 1: Like were you off in a corner watching him make

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Speaker 1: it while Emily was flirting with him, or were you

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Speaker 1: standing there trying to like still get attention.

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Speaker 6: No, I was kind of off in the corner at

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Speaker 6: that point, like I sensed it, and I just was

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Speaker 6: like I'm out, you know, like it's just I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Maybe it's like self defense.

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Speaker 6: I'm just not interested in getting in the middle of

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Speaker 6: like something that was clearly happening, Like you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I get that.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you're just too tired, like like look.

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Speaker 2: At me, I'm so cute, Like it's exhausting.

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Speaker 6: But yeah, you don't really do that, you know. I

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Speaker 6: was just kind of like, you're sweet, don't have fun.

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Speaker 6: She's all over you, like trying not to burn anything down.

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Speaker 2: Well, Mela, would you like to go on another day

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Speaker 2: with Bobby? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I guess I misread it because I thought

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Speaker 6: you were into Emily, But if she's not in the picture,

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Speaker 6: I would.

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Speaker 5: Be open to that. Y, you.

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Speaker 2: Got another date with Mila.

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Speaker 4: Well, actually, now that I like know this about Emily,

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Speaker 4: I think I kind of want to text her.

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Speaker 2: What wow, shameless?

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean she's like really into me like that

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Speaker 4: and like kind of keeping not to go for it.

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Speaker 5: Oh well, I guess I did read it right. I

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Speaker 5: don't know what to do now. I feel really weird.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, Mela, like no offense, but like thanks

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Speaker 4: for telling me, like you're you, You're you're really cool,

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Speaker 4: like your guacrus sounds awesome. But I mean Emily is

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Speaker 4: like really pretty and.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow interesting. All right, Well back to that chaotic thing. Meila,

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Speaker 2: thank you for your time, and Bobby, good luck with Emily.

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Speaker 2: I guess I'm sorry.

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Speaker 6: Wow, that's okay, kind of what I expected to be honest,

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Speaker 6: So there you go.

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Speaker 3: Wow, guys, thanks so much for doing this. This is

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Speaker 3: so cool. This is.

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Speaker 6: You.

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Speaker 5: Wills first date follow up