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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.

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Speaker 3: Valentines, Galentines, Gallantine.

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Speaker 1: I never celebrated a Gallantine. Why because I'll be having

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Speaker 1: a Valentine.

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Speaker 2: You can do both.

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Speaker 3: I'm try of hanging with bitches.

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Speaker 2: Of it.

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Speaker 3: Were back, y'all, We're back. What's up, y'all? It s

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Speaker 3: your co host a j Holiday.

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Speaker 2: And it's Tambama. I love y'all so much. I missed

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Speaker 2: y'all so much these few weeks without y'all. I've been

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Speaker 2: feeling sick. How you been feeling great?

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Speaker 3: I've been able to go to sleep at night, and

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Speaker 3: I have to think about another thing I gotta do

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Speaker 3: after get off from one job and do another.

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Speaker 2: This feels like a job to you, Yes, it does.

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Speaker 3: Like this is a lot of work.

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Speaker 1: I don't know like people probably think, even when we

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Speaker 1: do virtual it's it's a lot of work, you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: We probably be like it's fun skating. I mean, it's fun,

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Speaker 3: but it's still a lot of work.

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Speaker 1: I would prefer to just be doing this as life's work, right,

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Speaker 1: That's what we're working towards.

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Speaker 3: But I still don't want to talk on the mic

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Speaker 3: fever you want to.

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Speaker 2: Yep, I was.

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Speaker 3: In this capacity.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but just like more money you talking about.

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Speaker 3: This is easy work for them, damn dollars. So it's

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Speaker 3: just a lazy hustler.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what it is. Yeah, I'm a lazy ass.

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Speaker 1: I do not like chasing money. I don't like feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm hustling. I don't I don't like it.

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Speaker 2: I don't mind. Guess what y'all is Valentine's Day Week?

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Speaker 2: Does this come out before?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yes, this comes out right before Valentine's Guess what?

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Speaker 3: I got a Valentine?

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Speaker 2: This is my first year with a real Valentine, a

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Speaker 2: real one, because I had some fake wins in a decade.

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Speaker 2: Ain't that crazy that time? First of all, the time

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Speaker 2: between twenty sixteen and twenty twenty six doesn't even feel real.

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Speaker 1: It's weird when people were doing a challenge online like

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Speaker 1: the ten year, I'm like, twenty sixteen seems like yesterday.

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Speaker 2: It does not seem like a decade ago.

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Speaker 3: I look at pictures from then, I'm like, I just

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Speaker 3: took these pictures.

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Speaker 2: Right, But then I look at me from then. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: my back is a little bit bigger, so I know

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Speaker 2: it is a decade ago.

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Speaker 3: My wrinkle a little deeper. I've been getting acupunction.

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Speaker 2: How's that working for you?

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Speaker 3: It's working, it's working.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's a ghost.

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Speaker 3: It's working. It snatches your face.

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Speaker 1: It's temporary, obviously, right, but it still trains the muscle,

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Speaker 1: just like doing botox. So because I do Class pass.

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Speaker 1: Class Pass is a sixty dollars a month for twenty

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Speaker 1: eight credits. My ass, don't we get into the gym soil.

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Speaker 1: At the end of the month, I be having hell

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Speaker 1: of credits. I just go get acupuncture, use the mom.

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Speaker 1: So I'm paying six dollars a month for acupuncture.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's not bad, No, it's good.

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Speaker 1: But they do full body and then they do the

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Speaker 1: needling in the face too, like Linda jawline, and in

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Speaker 1: your air because apparently a pressure point in the air

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Speaker 1: like does the face.

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Speaker 2: Oh like for lymphatic drainers. Yeah, I might have to

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Speaker 2: try that. I'm actually scheduled to get chin Life Poe

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Speaker 2: on March twenty third.

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Speaker 3: Am you doing that for that? You shouting out the clinic?

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Speaker 2: I can doctor Sagar peateail. He's in Beverly Hills. So

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Speaker 2: I'm excited. I'm scared, but I'm also excited because y'all know,

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Speaker 2: i'd be like tucking my hair around my deck now

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Speaker 2: she'd be like, yeah, so when after all elongated, y'all

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Speaker 2: gonna get all the side profiles. And I'm excited for that.

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Speaker 2: But let's talk about it. Valentine's are you doing anything special?

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Speaker 3: I probably just do dinner and such, dick like, not

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Speaker 3: too much.

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Speaker 1: Just that's it, y'all say, pussy is not Valentine's predate present.

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Speaker 1: I know a lot of niggas that beg to differ.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot of men who don't get Kucci. So

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Speaker 1: the men who are just just over you're.

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Speaker 2: Ungrateful is what you are. That's what it is.

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Speaker 3: Y'all just over flooded with all his Cuchie like Cuchie

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Speaker 3: doesn't matter that ship, Christmas Birthday, Valentine. Cuccie is always again, right.

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Speaker 2: But you're gonna give him something else?

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Speaker 3: I do want, like I can't.

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Speaker 1: I don't really remember a time where I did like

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Speaker 1: a whole lot of gift giving to a guy on Valentine.

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Speaker 3: Valentines not times, Okay, yeah, I I want to do

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Speaker 3: some really nice stuff, you know, I'm trying to like

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Speaker 3: plan some wait he might hear this.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I can't say it. That's what I was just thinking,

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Speaker 2: Like I wanted to tell y'all, but I can't because

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Speaker 2: it's quarter prior to I'm definitely gonna surprise my new

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Speaker 2: guy for Valentine's Hmmm, I don't say.

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Speaker 1: Anything, so I didn't message him, and I asked him

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Speaker 1: about the size of these these sweats he likes to wear.

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Speaker 1: And I know he probably like this, you're trying to

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Speaker 1: buy me something, that's all. You're asking the size of it.

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Speaker 1: And he's like, I thought we weren't exchanging its, Like

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Speaker 1: I don't particularly need anything. We're gonna do dinner or whatever,

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Speaker 1: and he's coming into town. That's enough for me. I'm

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Speaker 1: not racked up on his ass for Christmas. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying.

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Speaker 2: To be conservative.

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Speaker 1: My God is growing up saving niggas money, right, finally saying,

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Speaker 1: I am considering a man's pocket for the first time

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Speaker 1: and not like there it's like a limit or anything

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Speaker 1: like that. But I just I'm cool. I think showering

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Speaker 1: him a little bit.

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Speaker 2: I think we're going to do something probably like he's

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Speaker 2: playing it so I don't know, but I know it's

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Speaker 2: probably going to be something like because we're going to

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Speaker 2: go to Costa Rica on February twenty eighth and they.

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Speaker 3: Go to do Ayahuasca.

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Speaker 2: I want to go now, I would like that, but

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Speaker 2: he's not. He's not going to do that. But I'm

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Speaker 2: going to get a crown on my toom.

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Speaker 3: No, he don't do No going to Costa Rica for clown.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to get crown and I'm going to get

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Speaker 2: some feelings. He's going to get like all the dinnerwork

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Speaker 2: I need for the fraction of a call said it

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Speaker 2: is in the United States.

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Speaker 3: Did you get an estimate already?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't remember. It was like eight hundred dollars.

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Speaker 3: Wow, I might need to consider that.

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Speaker 2: And this is the dentist he's been going to for

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Speaker 2: a long time. That's how he knows that they're good.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, yeah, because I like, I know I probably

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Speaker 3: mentioned this the last couple episodes, but I just recently

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Speaker 3: had my mouth fucked up by the dentist and the

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Speaker 3: the what is it the people that clean my teeth first? Yen,

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Speaker 3: the hygenis Yeah. She was like, what do you do like.

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Speaker 1: And one of the things I told her I do

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Speaker 1: because she was saying how great my teeth were. I

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Speaker 1: don't come to the fucking Dennis.

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Speaker 3: It's like one of the things I.

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Speaker 2: Would not recommend that for everybody.

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Speaker 3: Well, right to keep your teeth.

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 1: I now have sensitivity and all types of shit happening

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Speaker 1: on the left side of my mouth that I didn't have.

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Speaker 1: I have a feeling in the front that is now

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Speaker 1: chipped randomly. I got this feeling ten years ago, twenty seventeen.

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Speaker 1: And why is it chipped? What did y'all?

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Speaker 3: What happened when y'all were cleaning my teeth?

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Speaker 2: It's just, oh, we got chipped in the Yeah, so

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Speaker 2: I'm like, what.

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Speaker 3: And this feeling that you gave me in the back

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Speaker 3: is messed up now it's something that's air getting back there. Pocket.

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Speaker 2: I got to replace my mom's partial because Bella got

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Speaker 2: a hold of her mouth. You know what that was.

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Speaker 1: I had a mouth guard and they would say, just

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Speaker 1: make sure you have any pets, make sure the dog.

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Speaker 3: Because they like they like.

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Speaker 2: So now I have to replace that.

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Speaker 3: You might as well take her to Costa Rica.

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Speaker 2: That's what I think I should do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So she can get a whole ship hip, right, Brandy.

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Speaker 3: So I guess we talked about love today a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's talk about it and the different dynamics, right,

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Speaker 1: because everybody, you know you have situationships on Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 3: How do you maneuver through that, Valentine?

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Speaker 2: I mean guys would like, like they'll pick a fight

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Speaker 2: with you early. Like I saw a nigga say on

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Speaker 2: what did he say? It was on social media? That

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Speaker 2: something about his check being like he was setting up

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Speaker 2: to play early on social media. So he's like, but

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Speaker 2: I won't get it to the fifteenth. Now, you got

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Speaker 2: to do nothing for me in the fort right, like

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Speaker 2: trying to set up their play where he don't have

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Speaker 2: to do something.

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Speaker 3: And it's real bad now because Valentine's is on a Saturday, right,

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Speaker 3: you lot at work where you at, what's excuse?

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Speaker 2: There's gonna be a lot of people who aren't gonna

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Speaker 2: deal with each other anymore because they didn't show up

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Speaker 2: on Valentine's.

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Speaker 3: I mean I've been there, man, middle finger to my

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Speaker 3: old life.

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Speaker 1: I remember being in my twenties and dating somebody who

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Speaker 1: was a pathological liar. But I was a pathological acting

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Speaker 1: like I don't know what the fuck going on, right,

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Speaker 1: and still messing with him, and he was like trying

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Speaker 1: to rush Valentines for me. One year I've had that boy, Like,

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Speaker 1: you know, the restaurant's going to be packed, this is

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Speaker 1: gonna be an all day ordeal. So you should have

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Speaker 1: picked where you needed to be at, which was most important,

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Speaker 1: because really, you let my feelings be the one to

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Speaker 1: get hurt because one thing, I don't like people playing

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Speaker 1: with me though, because you could have left my ass

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Speaker 1: at the house, right, it was terrible, like I feel

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Speaker 1: I think I ended up leaving him at the restaurant.

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Speaker 3: It was so bad.

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Speaker 2: And that's why I say I haven't had Avalentine in

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Speaker 2: ten years, because I did have one in prior in

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Speaker 2: that during that time span, but he like, I guess

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Speaker 2: he had more than one Valentine, and I guess I

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Speaker 2: was the early man Valentine because he was like, he

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Speaker 2: cooked me dinner, he did all the things, and yeah,

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Speaker 2: and then tried to act like his homeboy, like his

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Speaker 2: homeboy needed a ride and he had to go pick

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Speaker 2: him up, so he had to leave. I was like,

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Speaker 2: get him an uber.

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Speaker 3: He left you at the house.

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Speaker 2: I know he tried to leave me all I just left.

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Speaker 2: Where are you going? You go into another Valentine? Obviously,

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Speaker 2: bitch chance nigga.

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Speaker 1: So for women, right, I know, women sometimes they kind

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Speaker 1: of like try to seek men out, try to find

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Speaker 1: somebody specifically like for Christmas, for Valentine. If you're not official,

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Speaker 1: do you even deserve anything like shold this man feel

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Speaker 1: obligated to do something nice for you on Valentine?

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Speaker 2: Well, I guess it just depends on the dynamics of

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Speaker 2: are y'all sleeping together. If y'all sleep oh yeah, then

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Speaker 3: What if y'all ain't sleeping together yet, but y'all like dating?

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Speaker 2: And then I mean, flowers is a nice cond gesture,

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Speaker 2: is Valentine's Day. We may not be there yet, but

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Speaker 3: Like.

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Speaker 2: I don't celebrate val I hate it. I don't celebrate

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Speaker 2: Valentine's daans nigga.

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Speaker 3: I hate it. I don't celebrate Christmas and all shut

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Speaker 1: And I'm not even a like super into gift giving

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Speaker 2: You're right, just so you don't have to spend your money.

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Speaker 3: Well, you celebrate Christmas right now, you celebrate Valentine. I

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Speaker 3: it's not a super spectacular holiday or it's not.

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Speaker 1: But you know, if you don't show up for the

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Speaker 2: Right, even if you don't have a gift, at least

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Speaker 2: be there. Don't be nowhere else. But I think you

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Speaker 1: Like gifts too, right, the liking the by men's I

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Speaker 3: Actually my current I bought him a cologne that nobody

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Speaker 1: But he got a new fragrance that I actually like,

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Speaker 3: Is he special like.

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Speaker 2: That for Valentine?

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Speaker 3: So you got the men setting.

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Speaker 1: Up the hotel rooms with all the roses everybody, I

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I think social media puts an unrealistic expectation

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Speaker 3: Or you rent out the clubhouse and your apartment.

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Speaker 2: Club apartment complex and then it just be something with

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Speaker 1: Is too much imagic being pregnant. You mad the man

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Speaker 2: That's too much, right, because all that money that you're

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Speaker 2: But that's another story. Valentine's too, like, yeah, it can be,

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Speaker 2: but I want all the things though, So I don't

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Speaker 3: Here and like you want the things that's on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I want all the hotel with the flowers and

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Speaker 1: think sometimes women they don't really know who they know

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Speaker 3: You just not with that nigga from Instagram.

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Speaker 1: That's not your nigga, right, that's not He don't he

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Speaker 2: And he doesn't want to do that, but he does

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Speaker 2: want to. Like, you need new tires on your car, that.

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Speaker 3: Was one thing.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I didn't get you anything for Valentine, but

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Speaker 1: I just paid your car. Note that may not be

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Speaker 1: good enough for somebody they want both.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not saying like that's not good enough for

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Speaker 2: But if you had to choose, obviously the more responsible

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Speaker 2: And I think we're speaking more to young people in

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Speaker 2: like you may not be able to forties.

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Speaker 1: You don't think a lot of people spending Valentine Day

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Speaker 3: And I mean sometimes in men's mind like this is

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Speaker 3: I'm here with you on Valentine's Day. No, I didn't

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Speaker 3: see you and.

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Speaker 1: My girl or my my girlfriend or whatever, my lady,

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Speaker 1: but I'm here with you.

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Speaker 3: It speaks volumes right a little bit.

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Speaker 2: No, I do like, you chose this person to be

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Speaker 2: with on Valance, the day that we celebrate love. You

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Speaker 2: chose this person to be with you. I do think

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Speaker 2: that says something. But until you say I'm with you,

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Speaker 2: we are together? Y'all single, right, because a nigga will

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Speaker 2: definitely be like we together, y'all to damn. I was

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Speaker 2: I took your grandma to the hospital with you. I

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Speaker 3: No, hold on, I got a messy meme. Hold on,

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Speaker 3: I saw this meme when I said.

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Speaker 2: That, all right, why are you finding that I can take.

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Speaker 2: I just want to tell y'all that, like a decade ago,

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Speaker 2: on Valentine's Day, I would go nigga knock, like if

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Speaker 2: it sounds like people were in love and there, oh,

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Speaker 2: y'all playing music in that motherfucker and run that shit

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Speaker 2: used to be so much fun. I was such a

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Speaker 2: it was fun.

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Speaker 3: This is actually for another episode, but it's relevant.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 1: Men, be like, she's just a friend and it's literally

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Speaker 1: someone named nutted in.

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Speaker 3: Right, But unless unless.

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Speaker 2: Y'all have said that y'all are more than friends, then

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Speaker 2: you're just a friend that's been nunted in shit. That's

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Speaker 2: why you have to like say the thing, make people

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Speaker 1: This thing I saw online it was talking about like

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Speaker 1: a silent scorecard, like how women I think women we

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Speaker 3: We put more energy into things that we do.

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Speaker 1: Like men like they say any simple whatever, whatever, It's

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Speaker 1: just lazy, It's what I'm hearing, right, So what do

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Speaker 1: you think the difference between a man planning Valentines versus

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Speaker 3: In terms of questions?

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Speaker 1: Also like how not like women are going to do

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like men do more when

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Speaker 2: planning Valentine's I do? I do? I feel like men

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Speaker 2: now sometimes, Like I have a friend she gives her

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Speaker 2: man better gifts, so she's like this shit, I ain't

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Speaker 2: doing all of that because I always give him a

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Speaker 2: better like it's more thoughtful. So I'm just gonna give

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Speaker 2: him something simple this time because I know I'm not

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Speaker 2: going to get the same effort. But I feel like

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Speaker 2: on Valentine it's.

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Speaker 1: Like scorekeeper, because it shouldn't matter if this, if you

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Speaker 1: are a great gift giver, continue being a great gift giver.

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Speaker 1: It shouldn't be based on the gift.

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Speaker 2: But if you always get dope ass gift and this

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Speaker 2: nigga giving you some bullshit every time, that don't align

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Speaker 2: with anything like did you even think of me when

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Speaker 2: you buy me this, Like this nigga got her go

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Speaker 2: pro go pro camera.

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Speaker 3: You put on your hand. She don't do none of that.

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Speaker 2: She don't do nothing athletic, She don't go outside. But

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Speaker 2: you bought this for you. You know you bought this.

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Speaker 2: You gave it to me, But this is really for you.

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Speaker 3: I mean she can wear it while she gets.

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Speaker 2: With the go pro fuck out here.

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Speaker 3: That's still not good. I how to go pro like like,

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Speaker 3: I would use it too. But did a nigga get

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Speaker 3: you a camera? What the fuck? That camera? We kept

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Speaker 3: be taking pictures right now outside?

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Speaker 2: Get it? But I mean never, I got meta glasses.

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Speaker 2: I love my meta glasses, so go pro is similar.

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Speaker 3: That's on. That's on character meta glasses.

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Speaker 2: I wore them s to the planetarium. That sh it was.

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Speaker 2: I was looking like, I got the video. It's nice.

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Speaker 3: Don't bring them ship around me. That's the police ship.

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Speaker 1: You were the first person that had those the virtual

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't remember what it's called. But I love

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Speaker 2: that shit too. But I do feel like men are

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Speaker 1: Why is that though, I wonder why why is it

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Speaker 2: You know, in Chicago days celebrate Sweetest Day. That's a

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Speaker 3: But sweeties sweetest.

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Speaker 2: I think it's sweetest. But I might be saying it wrong.

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Speaker 2: I don't live there, but I know they celebrate that,

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Speaker 2: and it was always like male like about your man.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we can celebrate many more.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we should celebrate the more and like

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Speaker 2: do better. What did didn't Kanye say, you got me

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Speaker 2: a sweater next year? Do better? Like she just got

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Speaker 2: the Nigga's sweater? Like, I think we do need to

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Speaker 2: because y'all do think. I say, y'all that kouchie is

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Speaker 2: just a gift enough. It's not.

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Speaker 3: No I'm giving kouchie. I'm just saying for men to

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Speaker 2: It is.

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Speaker 3: There's a lot of men who don't get kuci any day.

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Speaker 1: No, if you are lucky enough to have some cuccie

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Speaker 1: locked in for Valentine in life period.

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Speaker 2: But if you got this kuchie, the same kuchie on

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Speaker 2: the twelve, is it a gift on the fourteenth? Yes, No,

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Speaker 2: ain't that's the same two days ago. But why Okay,

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Speaker 2: imagine me not giving you that, Kuchie. This nigga about

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Speaker 2: to go crazy if you don't get that Kuci. I

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Speaker 2: know I get what you're saying. It don't feel like

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Speaker 2: a gift. I've had this gift many times before.

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Speaker 3: Why they be mad when you fall asleep. You can

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Speaker 3: be not playing the whole day to have sex and

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Speaker 3: you fuck around.

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Speaker 1: Go to sleep with a nigga if you want to.

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Speaker 1: I've had it happen to me. I'm thinking about this

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Speaker 1: dick from the time we left the house this morning.

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Speaker 1: When we get home and you had to sleep first,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna wake up with the snail trail on your forehead.

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Speaker 2: Yikes.

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Speaker 3: Take that ass up early in the morning with the

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Speaker 3: breakfast club.

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00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:07,880
Speaker 2: But no, I can't understand why just the same vagina

442
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 2: from the twelfth is not a gift.

443
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 3: It's part of it's part.

444
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:15,320
Speaker 2: It could be part of the gift, but it should

445
00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 2: not be the whole gift, especially if you want a

446
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,040
Speaker 2: man to do all this grandiose things so you can

447
00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 2: post it on Instagram for your friends. And all you

448
00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:27,199
Speaker 2: brought was the same cucci from two days ago, and

449
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 2: you ain't even bringing no new tricks out. You just

450
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:31,480
Speaker 2: doing the same shit you did two days ago.

451
00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 1: You know, if you bring out new tricks randomly with

452
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,719
Speaker 1: a nigga, he gonna think you smash somebody else yesterday,

453
00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 1: Like who taught you that?

454
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 2: Why?

455
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 3: Where you get that new trick?

456
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 2: From XXXT videos or whatever it's called.

457
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 1: It's Valentine's Day a love language test, you think, because

458
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 1: like what I'm saying, like women might do planning a

459
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:51,080
Speaker 1: little bit better.

460
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 3: You say men play better for Valentine. I guess they

461
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:54,000
Speaker 3: usually do all.

462
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like they have to plan for Valentine's Day.

463
00:22:56,920 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 2: The woman isn't like, oh I got reservations here. That's

464
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:04,360
Speaker 2: not typical for Valentine's Day's the man who does that, right?

465
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:08,200
Speaker 3: I don't know. I'd be playing the shit because I

466
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 3: don't want to eat someplace you take me some bullshit.

467
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 2: I need to know what we are.

468
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 1: I will, yes, I'm playing in the restaurant we eat,

469
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 1: not because I need to make sure it's gonna be

470
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 1: some good food in the menu.

471
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I be pissed going places in that it's nothing

472
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:22,360
Speaker 3: on there. I want to eat.

473
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 2: I'm like I would have closed my eyes and see

474
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 2: what happened on Valentine's da Right, you could at.

475
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:30,320
Speaker 1: Least get a good steak somewhere, like I need to

476
00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 1: make sure they got I don't know, some type of shrip,

477
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 1: something apasta, but your man should know that about you, right, yeah,

478
00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: and then picket, I'm also from Charleston. It's not so

479
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 1: I don't mind it, Okay. I like the plan of

480
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 1: food regardless. I feel even if we was going someplace

481
00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 1: neither one of us was from.

482
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,399
Speaker 3: Like, I'm in charge of the food.

483
00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm real particular. You know about what she eat.

484
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 2: I don't want no bullshit now, But I feel like

485
00:23:59,080 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 2: I got off the question.

486
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 1: What was it? It's Valentine's a love language test?

487
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 2: You think it can be? I mean, especially if your

488
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 2: love languages gifts like mine.

489
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:19,360
Speaker 3: You don't give no guests, you hate me, basically, That's

490
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 3: what I'm hearing.

491
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 2: So yeah, I guess it can be a love language

492
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 2: test because you know you words of information, acts of service,

493
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 2: what are they? Physical touch? I mean, I guess you're

494
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 2: gonna do literally all.

495
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 1: Of them, Valentine, we have one or I like, I

496
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 1: do all the love languages, and I feel like there's

497
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 1: another love language.

498
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:40,960
Speaker 3: We talked about toxicity.

499
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,919
Speaker 1: That's one that's some people's love language, and I like

500
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:49,240
Speaker 1: my love language is consideration because all that ship, you're

501
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 1: considering what it is that I like, So all of

502
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,920
Speaker 1: those things should fall under consideration.

503
00:24:56,160 --> 00:25:00,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess that's like all of it. It's all

504
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:01,400
Speaker 2: of it in one.

505
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:02,120
Speaker 3: That's it.

506
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:09,480
Speaker 1: Just do all the things. This has romantic or red flag.

507
00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 1: He gets jealous because he loves me. What where are

508
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 1: we going at with that?

509
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 2: That's definitely.

510
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: What if you was with somebody who did all these

511
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 1: things on Valentine and then like that was it for.

512
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 2: The rest of the year, rest of your relationship. But

513
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm not because I don't need shit.

514
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 2: I don't want to lie. That's about to lie. I

515
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 2: was about to lie so bad. Sometimes you just gotta

516
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 2: know yourself a little bit more. I was about to say,

517
00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 2: I don't need shit all year, Like I want three

518
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 2: bigger gifts a year, Valentine's, my Birthday, and Christmas, and

519
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 2: luckily they're like spaced out about three boots apart. Yeah, right,

520
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 2: so you have enough time to get those gifts and

521
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 2: you know, and then the rest of the year, I

522
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 2: don't need shit. That's how I feel.

523
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 3: In case of tire attire, they don't count that shit

524
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 3: do count?

525
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 1: I just I just thought I just bought you four

526
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,400
Speaker 1: set of tires last month, and now Valentine's coming.

527
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 2: Up, and so so I would consider that. Obviously, I

528
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 2: would be like, Okay, well I don't just flowers still

529
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 2: coming here with something? Right? Damn, don't come in here

530
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 2: with nothing.

531
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 3: Don't just come with dick.

532
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:28,480
Speaker 2: Don't just come with no, we can't you bet not

533
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,160
Speaker 2: just come with Dick and.

534
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:31,320
Speaker 3: Take that back to the house.

535
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 1: I don't even know where this is going at with

536
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,120
Speaker 1: a romantic or a red flag, but it says constant

537
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 1: texting equals carrying or control grand gestures after bad behavior.

538
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 3: I don't know what the hell that's about.

539
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:52,120
Speaker 2: Grand gestures after bad behavior like doing like nice things

540
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 2: if you did something wrong, like buying me shit to

541
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 2: get back in my good grace. I like that, at

542
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 2: least I like to like, don't just come in here

543
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 2: and talk about you sorry? Where are the gifts.

544
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 1: Change action and a gift you make up bag something nice?

545
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 1: I'm just not even in a space where I want

546
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 1: to be in any situations with somebody making me that mad.

547
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 3: They gotta make up with me.

548
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,440
Speaker 2: Well, that's what I just feel like, that's reality. Like

549
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 2: we're all human, We're gonna be flawed and make mistakes,

550
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna probably we're gonna have to make up

551
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 2: at some point. You know who you with that ain't

552
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 2: gonna that's never that's never gonna.

553
00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: I'm not saying they're gonna fuck up, but do we

554
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 1: gotta make up? You just feel like people be people,

555
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 1: don't do what you want to do, and then think

556
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to make up with you?

557
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 3: Out with people?

558
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 2: No more what you mean?

559
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 3: So if y'all be.

560
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 2: Good forever, that's all happen in real life. It does,

561
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 2: it can.

562
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 3: Remember I was staying high.

563
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 1: I saw this couple on Instagram and it was a

564
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 1: white couple. They would be interviewed on the street and

565
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 1: they had to married for like thirty years or something

566
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 1: like that, and they said the key to their successful

567
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 1: marriage because they was like.

568
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 3: It was just walking holding hands still like all each other,

569
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,199
Speaker 3: right it was.

570
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,640
Speaker 1: She said that they are they both try to one

571
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 1: up each other and how happy they.

572
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 3: Can make the other.

573
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 2: Oh that's beautiful.

574
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,439
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, if we know what

575
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,479
Speaker 1: would make our partner sad, So whyever do those things?

576
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, but sometimes people do things notot it's not their

577
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 2: intention to hurt you, you know.

578
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 3: In relationships.

579
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 1: I mean I can see like you leaving shit around

580
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:34,240
Speaker 1: the house, right, maybe you're just not the cleanest person,

581
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: and you try really hard to pick up behind yourself,

582
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: but you just can't seem to do it. But anything else,

583
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 1: like cheating, you could not have done that. Yeah, you lyon,

584
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: I don't know, fucking money up. You could have not

585
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 1: done those things.

586
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 2: Yeah. But people are gonna make mistakes, you know. I

587
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 2: just feel like you just gotta give them grades to

588
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 2: make mistakes, and they're gonna make bad choices. And I

589
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 2: love a makeup. I love to make up. You used

590
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 2: to start fights just to make up. You don't like

591
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 2: makeup sex? There's a lesson.

592
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: No, if we I don't be I don't want to

593
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 1: have to keep making up.

594
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 2: We don't have to keep making up. But I'm just saying, like, yeah,

595
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 2: it's like an intense level of passion that comes with

596
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 2: a makeup, you know, like after a dispute. No, I

597
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 2: don't want to, Like if we don't know what I'm talking,

598
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying.

599
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 1: I know exactly what you're saying. But what I'm saying

600
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 1: is I have to be happy to have sex, first

601
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 1: of all. And if we are constantly always having yes,

602
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 1: make up, sex do be filled with a lot of passion.

603
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 3: But it gets to a point to where I don't

604
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,200
Speaker 3: want you to touch me. Why are we always having it?

605
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 3: Why we gotta be mad at each other to have

606
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 3: this type of passion?

607
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. Why cannot we Why can't

608
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: we have this passion and happy? We got to create

609
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 1: environments to be pissed at each other so we can

610
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 1: fuck the shit out of each other. No, I want

611
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 1: to do this. I want to fuck you just like

612
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: this and happy about it.

613
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's not real, not all the time it happened,

614
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 2: or not all the time, you know, Like after you've

615
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 2: been with someone so long and y'all y'all been together

616
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 2: for a while, sometimes that passion can wane. That passion

617
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 2: can wane.

618
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 3: And this you can wane. You can make me gonna

619
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 3: be on a nigganame Wayne.

620
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 2: Sorry, all right, I'm sorry, but but but what I'm

621
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 2: saying is that passion can weigne sometimes and sometimes it

622
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 2: takes something like a fight, can spice it, bring some

623
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 2: little spice and bring some intentions.

624
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's how I want to spice

625
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 1: it up, because I am a very I'm vindictive first

626
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 1: of all, like secretly, and then also if i'm I

627
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 1: feel like, if you're doing things and you're constantly arguing

628
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 1: or whatever, you know, you're falling out of love.

629
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 3: You're not falling in love.

630
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: So I don't never want to do anything to be

631
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: falling out of love with the person I'm with if

632
00:30:58,200 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 1: I want to be with them.

633
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 3: The argument, I'm out of there.

634
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 2: I just feel like a relationship, as long as you

635
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 2: stick it out, you're gonna fall in and out of

636
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 2: love a thousand times. Within that relationship you be together

637
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 2: for years and years and years.

638
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 3: Thomas, like, you know, only married nigga in the room.

639
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but but it isn't like when you get married.

640
00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 1: I mean all to me, all relationships is more so

641
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,600
Speaker 1: about like how much you can put up with somebody else, right.

642
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, that is still

643
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 3: the person who ship you want to put up with.

644
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

645
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 3: Right, but y'all not y'all not really falling out of

646
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 3: love though.

647
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you've had kill. You'll wake up and

648
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 2: be like, I kill this motherfucker the day if he's

649
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,720
Speaker 2: say what word to be but you still love him,

650
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 2: but you're just not in love right now. And then

651
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 2: some time will pass and you fall back in love

652
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 2: for whatever reason you go there. Let's say you go

653
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: through something hard together and you you realize again the

654
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 2: thing that made you fall in love with him in

655
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: the first place. You know, like it's just like a.

656
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 3: Right stuff.

657
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: Though I don't know, because life is hard stuff. I

658
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 1: don't know. I know being in love is definitely a

659
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 1: state of mind. I just don't want to be in

660
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 1: a situation where my state of mind is out of

661
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 1: love more than it is in love, you know, just

662
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 1: because if it gets to that point, I'm out of there.

663
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, But you ain't never been

664
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 1: laid next to it. And I got the fuck this

665
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 1: motherfucker the day if he says.

666
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 3: Something no I and I had to get up out

667
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 3: of there, because eventually, if it's too many of those days,

668
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 3: there's no love left. Right. You might love this person,

669
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 3: you care about them, you care about their well being.

670
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 3: You don't want nothing to happen to them. I love

671
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 3: my ex boyfriend.

672
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 2: I don't.

673
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: We haven't spoken since uh since he left, right since

674
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 1: since we broke up.

675
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 3: But I care about his well being. Not that I

676
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 3: love and love with him, but I fell out of

677
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 3: love and I just fuck.

678
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 2: But when you're in a marriage, sometimes people go through

679
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 2: years where they don't like their person and then they

680
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 2: come back and they're back in love. But they decided

681
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 2: to I might not stay in that commitment because they

682
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 2: decided to make that commitment. You hear people say that

683
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 2: I didn't like that nigga for at least seventy ten

684
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 2: years whatever our marriage.

685
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 1: And I might not be built for marriage then, you know,

686
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 1: because I beholding grudges. So it's gonna be like if

687
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 1: it's some real serious, severe shit, I'm not getting over

688
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: it easy, you know what I'm saying, Like I matter

689
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 1: of fact, I necessary that because I'll stay in the thing.

690
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 1: But I got resentment while in the thing, Like I

691
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 1: don't want that anymore. For me, I've been in relationships

692
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 1: and having holding on a hell of resentment. I can't

693
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 1: move past the thing and it's just miserable. So I

694
00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 1: can't imagine being married to somebody legally, and you just have.

695
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 3: To deal with bullshit that people give you, because I'm

696
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 3: not giving you bullshit to deal with, You're given the

697
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 3: relationship bullshit to deal with.

698
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just think like when you get

699
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 2: into it with somebody that you really really see that

700
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:10,839
Speaker 2: future with, you're gonna stick it out. You're gonna stick

701
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 2: it out because I've seen you stick it stay in

702
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,319
Speaker 2: things that weren't suited for you for longer than you

703
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:16,719
Speaker 2: should have.

704
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:18,880
Speaker 3: So I think saying, though, maybe I didn't stick it

705
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 3: out in those situations longer, that's what that person thinks.

706
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 3: Those people would think I abandoned them. I didn't stick

707
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:29,879
Speaker 3: it out longer. I didn't whether this my fucking acts.

708
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 1: Because you got homeboys who have cheated on their fucking girls,

709
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:36,319
Speaker 1: cheated on their wives, and they are still together. He

710
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 1: was like, so and so said, we're supposed to stay together, Like, no, nigga,

711
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 1: I leave niggas.

712
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 3: And I have told you that before, I have told

713
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 3: you I'll leave. I'm a runner, I'm a track star

714
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:49,839
Speaker 3: for real.

715
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:52,919
Speaker 1: So no, it's not too much of sticking out because

716
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: a lot of times it's the woman endurance that keeps

717
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 1: the relationship going in the first place.

718
00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:02,439
Speaker 3: Is we've endured all the her. Yeah, we have sat

719
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 3: and endured all a hurt for us to get to

720
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 3: twenty years of marriage. What did the man endure? You

721
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 3: ain't have likely because I got a little fat one

722
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 3: day and he went outside his house and complete your

723
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 3: happiness someplace else, because over there is fun because ain't

724
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 3: no bills over there, ain't no kids over there, and

725
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 3: you had to come over here to me. And I'm

726
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 3: here with the kids in the house and the possibilities

727
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 3: and that. I don't want to be over there either,

728
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 3: you know? Did I say I got the way you're

729
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 3: fighting it. I'm over here with this bitch too. That

730
00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 3: bitch house is late, but she got ebt.

731
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 1: It's fun over here. Yeah, So yeah, I don't know.

732
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 1: I just feel like if you talk to older women,

733
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,680
Speaker 1: I don't want this is Valentine's Day, so I don't

734
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 1: want to like overshadow it, like the relationship.

735
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 2: Because this was supposed to be a happy los.

736
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 3: Woes and stuff like that. But I think if you talk.

737
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 1: To a lot of older women who probably divorced now,

738
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:58,760
Speaker 1: they don't ever want to be married again.

739
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 3: They feel like it was the worst mistake than they

740
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 3: fucking life.

741
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:06,480
Speaker 1: Those women, right, it was because their endurance that they

742
00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 1: got forty fifty our grandmother's it was their endurance of

743
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 1: bullshit that got the marriage to fifty years.

744
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 3: The man just is fun.

745
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 2: But then but in turn, there's there's women who have

746
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:22,479
Speaker 2: been in their marriages and they both had to deal

747
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 2: with their other person.

748
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 3: That's the thing.

749
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 1: I just know that I don't think I'm gonna be

750
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,320
Speaker 1: able to find somebody that will deal with my bullshit,

751
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 1: but you will for six years shut out and I'm

752
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: still in it with you.

753
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 2: Contract that's all the marriages, right, Yeah, but yeah, I

754
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 2: don't think.

755
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 1: I just never I've never gotten the same amount of

756
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 1: grace in a relationship that I give, right, So I

757
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 1: just I don't know. I'm taking South on the grace back.

758
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 1: Maybe that's what I don't know. I'll see when it happens.

759
00:36:57,160 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 2: I hope that this relationship you're in is the one

760
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 2: that you know.

761
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 1: It's already different, right, And some days I'd be like,

762
00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 1: am I good enough for this nigga?

763
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,319
Speaker 2: Like I really be thinking, and that's good when you

764
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:08,919
Speaker 2: feel that way.

765
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 3: Am I good enough? Like? Am I finished doing all

766
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 3: my bullshit so that I don't hurt him?

767
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 2: Because I just feel like healthy in my head and

768
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:23,280
Speaker 2: this might be stupid, but are crazy, but in my head,

769
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship is when both of you feel like

770
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:29,919
Speaker 2: you don't deserve each other. You know, I always feel

771
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: like the men are always like damn, how did I

772
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 2: get hurt? Right, and I'm like, yeah, how the fun

773
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 2: did you get? But with this new guy, I also

774
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 2: in turn feel like damn, he's so good, Like how

775
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: am I so lucky to have this guy? And I

776
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:44,799
Speaker 2: don't typically feel like that, So I just think like

777
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 2: that's important when you both are feeling like you aren't

778
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 2: even worthy of the other person.

779
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 3: We talk about love.

780
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:57,439
Speaker 1: Okay, see how full circle came right back around to love?

781
00:37:57,680 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, so yeah, that's how I feel because,

782
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 1: like I told you before, I feel like in this

783
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 1: particular relationship, it's almost like.

784
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:11,240
Speaker 3: My last relationships. I was like fretting over nigga cheating,

785
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:13,439
Speaker 3: lying and whatever, and now I was like, oh my god,

786
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 3: like I don't know what.

787
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 1: I would do if something happened to this person. That's

788
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 1: how I feel about him, Like the worst shit I

789
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 1: was feeling about these niggas. I'm gonna beat this nigga

790
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 1: asked if he did such and such stuff because I

791
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: know he was outside doing such and such a sight.

792
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 1: So now just to know, like I'm just afraid, like

793
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,280
Speaker 1: I just I'll be scared.

794
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 2: I really be scared.

795
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:35,240
Speaker 3: Good something gonna happen.

796
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:36,879
Speaker 2: No, that's not good.

797
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 1: No, I know I'm not trying to manifest it or

798
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 1: anything like that, but it's just like that is how

799
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: that's how much I love him, Like I'm afraid that

800
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,360
Speaker 1: I could be hurt by this motherfucker, like for real.

801
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 2: By him doing something or just the loss of the

802
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 2: loss of Yeah, that's fair and that's and there's some

803
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 2: beauty in that.

804
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 3: In a weird k you get it, Thomas, Okay, hold on,

805
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 3: let me add a little a little bit of context.

806
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 1: My significant other is a little younger than me, and

807
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 1: I was talking to a friend the other day and

808
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 1: I told him that I was like, you know, he

809
00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:20,879
Speaker 1: a little younger than me, because he said, y'all talking

810
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 1: about marriage and shit.

811
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:25,239
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's only been like a little while.

812
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:27,760
Speaker 1: For real, when you meet people like who are good people,

813
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: it just seems like you've always known them, Like it's

814
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: almost like ancestral, you know, like you've been known this

815
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 1: person for a long time. But he was like, you know,

816
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,919
Speaker 1: sometimes men need like a little nudge, And I told

817
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 1: the nigga that, right.

818
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, I told my homeboy.

819
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:47,239
Speaker 1: My homeboy that I was dating a younger man, and like,

820
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:49,720
Speaker 1: I really was not trying to pressure him about marriage

821
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 1: and shit like that because I still want him to

822
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 1: do all the things, you know what I'm saying with

823
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:57,479
Speaker 1: or without me. And he was like, it don't matter

824
00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: that that shit don't matter. Shit Still, some sometimes men

825
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: I need a little bit, need a little push.

826
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 3: So I told him that.

827
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: He was like, all right, go ahead, listen to your homeboy.

828
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 3: So I'm like, what you're saying, if I push you,

829
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm gonna push you out the door type shit.

830
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 2: If that can happen.

831
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 3: I mean, And at this point, I really don't care.

832
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 1: So if I were to like really like listen, because

833
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:18,800
Speaker 1: I have he has to consider me the thing that

834
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 1: I have.

835
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,919
Speaker 3: To consider him. So if me like one of these

836
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 3: things like push you away, then maybe we're not supposed

837
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:25,800
Speaker 3: to be together.

838
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 2: So let me ask you this. If you're with someone

839
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,280
Speaker 2: who's making you happy, providing you with a good life,

840
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:37,279
Speaker 2: like like basically changing your life for the positive. But

841
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 2: they say they don't want to be a husband ever,

842
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 2: and that's something that you want.

843
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 1: Some days you say yeah. Some days I don't know

844
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 1: that I want to be somebody's wife. Some days I

845
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:49,240
Speaker 1: don't know if I want to coapitate with somebody every

846
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: fucking day like long. This might be for the Gemini, Okay, I.

847
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 2: Get I like, I like where my own night in

848
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 2: the same space, honestly.

849
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:01,319
Speaker 1: KICKI pomer Just recently she was on the Breakfast Club.

850
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 1: I saw her as something else and she was saying,

851
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: like I could be with a man, a man his eyes,

852
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 1: but I don't.

853
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:08,320
Speaker 3: I don't ever. I mean he could live across the

854
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 3: way or.

855
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 1: Something, you know how she talked, But I don't ever

856
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:12,759
Speaker 1: want him in the house, Like I feel like a

857
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 1: lot of women like it is hard cohabitating with another person.

858
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 2: I agree, let alone. I'm mad my last relationship lasted

859
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 2: as long as it did because that was that Nigga

860
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 2: was deployed six months after year.

861
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,720
Speaker 3: You didn't even know him. He didn't even know him,

862
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 3: like he was.

863
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 2: Gone half the year most years, and it was like

864
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 2: it gave me a chance to miss miss him and

865
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 2: just spend time with myself. So it was just like

866
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 2: the blessing. Yeah, and I just think like that would

867
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 2: be ideal for me. A nigga go six months out

868
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 2: the year, Like I'm.

869
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 3: All in love, but this nigga lives in motherfuckers uh

870
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 3: in Jersey.

871
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 1: So what if we were actually living in the same

872
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:57,839
Speaker 1: house together. Am I going to still love him the same?

873
00:41:58,080 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 2: Right?

874
00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 3: Or is this what we're talking about? The absent flows

875
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:00,799
Speaker 3: the ship?

876
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:01,239
Speaker 2: Yeah?

877
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 1: I feel like when you're living with somebody, you have

878
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,880
Speaker 1: to you have to be super considerate of the other persons,

879
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 1: considerate of their housemate.

880
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 2: And we used to let our apartment was we were

881
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 2: living in Florida, and our apartment was so tiny. It

882
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:15,359
Speaker 2: was like the smallest little apartment, but it was like

883
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Speaker 2: on the beach and it was very nice, but it

884
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Speaker 2: was so small. And I swear like I remember like,

885
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Speaker 2: now this nigga's getting sent to war, and I'm like,

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00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 2: where does the war start? Because all ready for this

887
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Speaker 2: to go, this nigga farted and I could smell it

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Speaker 2: in the kitchen, that's how small the apartment was. In

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Speaker 2: the living room, I could smell his I was like,

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Speaker 2: it's the war today, God, and that's.

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Speaker 3: Just awful that you want to send a nigga, off

892
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Speaker 3: the fight, get out your face.

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Speaker 2: So I know what you're saying.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if I'm ever get over this demon.

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Speaker 3: I don't know thise like this single demon. I don't

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Speaker 3: know because it's tough cohabitator.

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Speaker 1: That is one one of the things that my last relationship,

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00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: and because I know it's possible for a man to

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Speaker 1: be just like me because I've had it before. But

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Speaker 1: then it comes that person then comes with some other shit.

901
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 1: So I can have somebody that.

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00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 3: Watched just as much as me, that cleans up behind itself.

903
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,399
Speaker 2: But he's a degenerate gambler, you know, or he's just.

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Speaker 1: Something fucking maniac that's like or I don't know, a mara,

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Speaker 1: you know. I have to consider the things like maybe

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Speaker 1: he just I'm a maniac in one way.

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Speaker 3: He might have been a maniac in another way. I

908
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:33,959
Speaker 3: don't know. But yeah, like.

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00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 2: This relationshipship is hard, It's very hard, but it's beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Like I wouldn't like trade it. Like you know how

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00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:43,719
Speaker 2: they say it's better to have loved and lost than

912
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 2: never to have loved at all. That shit is so true.

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Speaker 2: I would not trade never having anyone like this. Ten

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Speaker 2: years of being like for real single and then like

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00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 2: meeting somebody that I actually really feel like I could

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Speaker 2: be in alignment with for the first time in a

917
00:43:57,040 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 2: long time. It's beautiful and it's very new, and I

918
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:02,799
Speaker 2: know that I have a lot of like because being

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00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:05,959
Speaker 2: single for ten years and then trying to like date

920
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:11,320
Speaker 2: somebody for real is hard because I have just dating.

921
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:15,240
Speaker 2: It's just different because I have to consider another person

922
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Speaker 2: in a different way for the first time in a

923
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 2: long time, you know. So I've just been out here

924
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 2: doing what I want. I see it with my phone

925
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 2: like that, who gonna say to? Who gonna check me?

926
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Speaker 3: But I still have to, like I flip my phone

927
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Speaker 3: on everybody.

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Speaker 2: I have to navigate my life now in a different way,

929
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Speaker 2: and I have to, like because I mean, it's very new,

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Speaker 2: so I have to like get rid of some people

931
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Speaker 2: and change some things and navigate some things. So because

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Speaker 2: I mean, we're not together yet, so still it's still

933
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 2: like but I can see it going that way, you know.

934
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Speaker 2: So we're gonna see what happened, y'all. Y'all pray for me, Okay,

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Speaker 2: Happy Valentine, Happy Valentine.

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Speaker 1: I'm excited to hear about your Valentine I can't wait.

937
00:44:57,960 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 2: To tell you all about it because I feel like

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Speaker 2: it's gonna be special.

939
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:04,799
Speaker 3: I think, hmm, yeah, actually to be his girlfriend on Valentine.

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00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 3: I hope that's enough about love.

941
00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 2: What you want to do? Now? This is the last last, Yeah,

942
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 2: that's it.

943
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

944
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 1: I feel like we talked about, do it feels nice,

945
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:25,240
Speaker 1: do what feels natural, show up for your person, be honest, okay,

946
00:45:25,280 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 1: with yourself first and foremost, and have a very good

947
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:34,880
Speaker 1: time doing all the things.

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Speaker 2: That's good. That's good, that's good. Co host, All right,

949
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:46,880
Speaker 2: so here's myne go ahead, co host. The best love

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00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 2: is self love. Right, So, before I could even have

951
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 2: a good Valentine and be focused on the next person,

952
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 2: I had to love Tammy. And I think twenty five

953
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 2: was the year that I one got whooped. I got

954
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 2: beat up by circumstances and the environment and all these things,

955
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 2: and I had to practice a new level of loving myself,

956
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,319
Speaker 2: which put me in a better position to love someone else.

957
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 2: Hey that's a word. That's a bar right there. So

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00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 2: if you are single and you're not with anyone this

959
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:27,240
Speaker 2: year for Valentine's Day, it's okay, just love on yourself

960
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:30,120
Speaker 2: this year because it's coming. The more you pour into yourself,

961
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 2: the more the love you're gonna attract it to yourself.

962
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 3: So yes, yes, you are deserving.

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Speaker 2: Amen.

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Speaker 1: Okay period. Let the church say dot. We talked back

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Speaker 1: say amen. Clocking All right, y'all. So if you enjoyed

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Speaker 1: j Holiday two point zero on instagrams kick it town.

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Speaker 2: Because she said every day it's Thursday. But we got

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Speaker 2: enough episodes out day right, Yeah, we need them downloads,

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Speaker 2: So go ahead every day, every.

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Speaker 3: New episodes every Thursday.

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Speaker 3: Remember speak now and never hold your love.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it.

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