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Speaker 3: Tyler is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 3: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a girl named
Speaker 3: Jessa who he went on a day with. So in
Speaker 3: a few minutes we'll call her and see if chat
Speaker 3: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
Speaker 3: another date. But first let's find out what happened on
Speaker 3: the date. Tyler, what's up man? How long has it
Speaker 3: been since you heard from Jessa?
Speaker 4: I mean it's been about a week and have not
Speaker 4: heard anything from her at all?
Speaker 2: Have you tried? How many times have you reached out
Speaker 2: to her?
Speaker 4: Not too much? You don't want to be like aggressively late.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I agree. I just was checking to see
Speaker 2: where you did.
Speaker 4: A double text is all I did, you know? Okay,
Speaker 4: texted the night after and then I text a couple
Speaker 4: of days later. That's really all I've done, Okay. I
Speaker 4: don't want to don't know, push her. It was fun.
Speaker 4: We had a great time, went out to dinner at
Speaker 4: and then ended up going to a second location, which
Speaker 4: is always a good you know, good sign you go
Speaker 4: to a second location that's a drinks. I went really well.
Speaker 4: We just went a lot of great conversation. I was,
Speaker 4: you know, I paid for everything. I wanted to make
Speaker 4: sure she never had enough worry about it. But I
Speaker 4: also made clear there was no obligations. I was just
Speaker 4: there enjoying my time with her because we really got
Speaker 4: along well and I was just really happy with the
Speaker 4: whole day. Like she was fantastic.
Speaker 2: So what do you think happened?
Speaker 1: Then?
Speaker 2: Why do you think she's ghosting you?
Speaker 4: I don't I honestly, I honestly don't know. The conversation
Speaker 4: never lagged. It never she never felt like it never
Speaker 4: seemed to me like there's any issue I was. I
Speaker 4: was a little sweaty, I dressed up and went out
Speaker 4: somewhere nice. Maybe I don't know. If I don't feel
Speaker 4: like I hope it wasn't that that seems kind of weird.
Speaker 4: I did pay for everything. It was expensive, so it
Speaker 4: was like super pricey, So maybe that was too much.
Speaker 4: I am worried that I put on like too much
Speaker 4: of an effort, but I really liked her, and I
Speaker 4: don't have a lot of free time, so like I
Speaker 4: wanted to make the effort because she seemed worth it.
Speaker 2: That's sweet.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm really not sure. I like, I know this
Speaker 4: sometimes if you put too much money into it the
Speaker 4: first day, like, it can turn somebody off. And so
Speaker 4: I am a little worried that that might be it.
Speaker 4: But it's so hard to tell because I really and
Speaker 4: then the night, you know, it went really well. Like
Speaker 4: I said, we had some drinks and then afterwards we
Speaker 4: just walked around a little bit and then she was
Speaker 4: waiting for Uber and they was really nice out and
Speaker 4: she looked really beautiful, and I asked her if I
Speaker 4: could give her a kiss, and she said yes. So
Speaker 4: it was just a very nice, you know, nice kiss,
Speaker 4: very you know, nothing like aggressive. And then she in
Speaker 4: her car and I text her and you know, and
Speaker 4: said I had a great time, and then have heard
Speaker 4: four since.
Speaker 2: So did you guys kiss on the lips?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I was just a little one though, Like what do
Speaker 4: you call a church kiss? Like a church weddy kiss?
Speaker 1: Ye.
Speaker 4: I was trying to be very respectful and you know,
Speaker 4: and I.
Speaker 3: Know it's a little bit less than my grandma kiss.
Speaker 2: Well, did it seem like she was really into you? Like,
Speaker 2: did you guys talk about seeing each other again at
Speaker 2: the end.
Speaker 4: Well, we did, and she seemed amenable to it, and
Speaker 4: like we talked back and forth, Like I mean, I
Speaker 4: always didn't want to talk about myself much, so I
Speaker 4: asked her a lot of questions about herself, and she
Speaker 4: was very engaging, and like we we told some pretty
Speaker 4: funny stories. We had some you know, just little things
Speaker 4: in common that were fun. You know, you can really
Speaker 4: tell me you have a spark with somebody, and there
Speaker 4: was a legitimate spark that I felt. So this is
Speaker 4: why they say if it was a bad day, I
Speaker 4: can see the ghost. I mean, you understand, it happens.
Speaker 4: But this was a really good one, and I was
Speaker 4: kind of really invested. Like I said, I'm really busy
Speaker 4: with work, and so when I find somebody that's worth
Speaker 4: my time, I put a lot of effort in because
Speaker 4: who knows when the next person might be around is
Speaker 4: worth my time. So it's really kind of sad that
Speaker 4: she ghosted because I was really into her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, did she say anything about wanting another date with you?
Speaker 4: She she seemed to like I said we should do
Speaker 4: this again, and she seemed, yes, of course, let's let's
Speaker 4: do the Like she knew there was not any she
Speaker 4: didn't shut down, and I mean we didn't make actual plans,
Speaker 4: but you know, she seemed to be like, Okay, yeah,
Speaker 4: that sounds great.
Speaker 2: Tyler. When you said earlier that you were sweaty, Like
Speaker 2: how sweaty?
Speaker 4: Oh we're not talking like you know, buckets, but I
Speaker 4: mean it was, it was kind of sweaty. It's just
Speaker 4: you know, I think I overdressed a little bit for
Speaker 4: the weather. The restaurant had a keat on, so yeah,
Speaker 4: just a little bit of you know, forehead tweat. But
Speaker 4: I'm not like just enough that I was worried about it.
Speaker 4: I was more subconscious than anyone.
Speaker 3: All right, Well, we'll play a song, come back, and
Speaker 3: then call her and see if she'll tell us why
Speaker 3: she's ghosting you.
Speaker 2: And maybe get to another date.
Speaker 3: Okay, fantastic a right, Plus, I'll come back get your
Speaker 3: first day follow up next if you're just joining us
Speaker 3: for today's first date follow up. Tyler is on the phone,
Speaker 3: and Tyler is getting ghosted by Jessa. It's been about
Speaker 3: a week now and he hasn't heard from her. So
Speaker 3: in a few minutes, we're gonna call her and see
Speaker 3: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting and maybe get
Speaker 3: him another date. But first, Tyler, why don't you catch
Speaker 3: everybody up on your situation with Jessa.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Jess how I went out on our first day
Speaker 4: to uh. It was a really nice, nice time, really
Speaker 4: kind of expensive restaurant. They went off for drinks afterwards.
Speaker 4: I paid for everything and h and then we really
Speaker 4: got along. Well, I kissed you goodbye and haven't heard
Speaker 4: from her since. I'm kind of worried. Maybe because I
Speaker 4: paid too much for this for the meals and she
Speaker 4: thought I was trying to show off, or or maybe
Speaker 4: because I was a little sweaty during it.
Speaker 2: All right, well, are you ready for us to call her?
Speaker 4: Yes? Please?
Speaker 2: All right, here we go.
Speaker 3: Hello him, I aspeaking to Jessa. Please, Hey, Jessa, how
Speaker 3: are you? My name is Jewbell and I host a
Speaker 3: radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show. Hi, Jessa, I
Speaker 3: mean also on the show.
Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, a lot of you.
Speaker 4: Hi?
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's that? How are you doing today?
Speaker 5: I'm okay, what what's going on?
Speaker 3: We do a segment on the show it's called the
Speaker 3: first eight follow Up. That's where if you go out
Speaker 3: on a date with somebody and then you ghost them,
Speaker 3: that person can ask us to get you on the
Speaker 3: phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got
Speaker 3: an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, Well, I mean I am on a dating app,
Speaker 5: so this could be going a couples all right, Okay.
Speaker 2: Wait to put yourself out there. Well, I'll tell you
Speaker 2: who it is. Okay, Okay, his name is Tyler.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, that's a recent one. Okay, because this thing
Speaker 5: does happen to me where somebody will ghost me for
Speaker 5: like months. I just had a guy reach out to me.
Speaker 5: Win went on one date ten months ago. He stopped
Speaker 5: talking to me and then was like, you're gonna so okay, no,
Speaker 5: this is very recent.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm like you Tyler, Yeah, it's been a week
Speaker 2: since he talked to him. Yeah, is that ghost him? Yeah?
Speaker 5: I mean honestly, like the date, like there was nothing
Speaker 5: like bad that happened or anything.
Speaker 4: He just I don't know.
Speaker 5: It kind of feels like maybe our our lives aren't
Speaker 5: going to match.
Speaker 1: Up, like he did seem really tired on the date,
Speaker 1: and I think he's just like super busy. He might
Speaker 1: be like a workaholic, and I just didn't feel like
Speaker 1: he had like time to date somebody, So I just
Speaker 1: kind of was like, I'll just cut it loose. It's
Speaker 1: been one date, so like, you know, it's easier to
Speaker 1: ghost people than to like be like your life isn't
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, It's just like it's awkward.
Speaker 5: It just it just didn't feel like it was gonna
Speaker 5: work out.
Speaker 1: He works like all the time, Like I feel like
Speaker 1: even going on this date with me was like they
Speaker 1: feel like you know, I mean, he made it work obviously,
Speaker 1: but it just didn't feel like he's gonna have time.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's really it.
Speaker 5: Like it's nothing crazy like it was.
Speaker 1: Wasn't like oh god, he you know, didn't tip or
Speaker 1: you know that's a deal breaker, but like, okay, well,
Speaker 1: it just it just like didn't feel like it was
Speaker 1: gonna work out, like I really I want, like I'm
Speaker 1: looking for that like fairytale romance, you like want to.
Speaker 5: Spend all your time together and fall in love. Is
Speaker 5: like not that, you know after one date. But it
Speaker 5: just didn't feel like it was gonna I was gonna
Speaker 5: get what I wanted out of it.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I did post him. What's that?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: What's that saying?
Speaker 6: Though people will always make time for what it is
Speaker 6: that they want to make time for, for the people
Speaker 6: that they want to spend time with. I don't know,
Speaker 6: just kind of feels like maybe it was a a
Speaker 6: little quick or maybe, you know what, he needs to
Speaker 6: just slow down, like he needs to slow down.
Speaker 5: I mean, I feel like he needs to slow down.
Speaker 5: I mean I get it, like I work a lot too,
Speaker 5: but yeah, I don't know. I mean, that's really it,
Speaker 5: Like maybe that's not a good enough reason to go somebody.
Speaker 5: But like when you're on the app, it's such a
Speaker 5: like I don't know if we can curse, but it's
Speaker 5: such like a show. Yeah, you gotta sometimes just get
Speaker 5: in and out and move on, because you know, you
Speaker 5: wait ten months and you might hit you up again anyway.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, who are we to tell you why
Speaker 2: you shit or shouldn't got people? Yeah, I mean he
Speaker 2: didn't even wait ten months. He waited a week.
Speaker 5: He waited a week. We're still in the statute of limitations.
Speaker 3: Thanks for being honest with us. Appreciate that. Yeah, sure,
Speaker 3: I should let you know that he's actually on the
Speaker 3: phone too. Tyler is on the phone listening and wants
Speaker 3: to talk to you.
Speaker 5: Oh am, I in trouble.
Speaker 2: Now, I don't know.
Speaker 5: No, you know, O Hi Hi, oh hey Tyler. So
Speaker 5: how's it going?
Speaker 4: Well? You know, I think you said it's more awkward
Speaker 4: to try to tell somebody and then he just ghosted,
Speaker 4: but this is probably more awkward.
Speaker 5: Yeah, this is a little awkward. Now, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: I am sorry about that. But yeah, no, you know,
Speaker 4: I do. I do work a lot, and and I
Speaker 4: was tired, but like when something does matter to me,
Speaker 4: I do make the effort for it. I do put
Speaker 4: in the effort to make space when things are important
Speaker 4: to me. And so I want you to know that
Speaker 4: that that is something that I'm working working on. But
Speaker 4: also I'm already aware of. And I did make a
Speaker 4: time for our date because it was important because I
Speaker 4: think we got along really well and I could tell
Speaker 4: we're going to go well. And I am I'm willing
Speaker 4: to put some flexibility into my schedule. Like I like
Speaker 4: my work, but I also like having someone to spend
Speaker 4: time with and you know, go do things with and
Speaker 4: all of that. And then you know, I love that
Speaker 4: a little bit more than work.
Speaker 5: Okay, so you think you're going to be able to
Speaker 5: like let loose a little bit, maybe.
Speaker 7: A little bit, somebody who's willing to be like, hey,
Speaker 7: let's go do something, or give me a little encouragement
Speaker 7: to stop working for a bit, because it's hard when
Speaker 7: you work from home, it's really hard to stop working.
Speaker 4: You're just constantly working. And so if I have somebody
Speaker 4: that I'm like, hey, let's go that I want to
Speaker 4: spend time with, then that's a good intensive for me
Speaker 4: to stop working. And so I'm one hundred percent willing
Speaker 4: to work on that and talk about it and everything.
Speaker 4: But I want to talk about it. I'd like to
Speaker 4: be able to, you know, actually talk about it, not
Speaker 4: just not hear from somebody for a bit.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, honestly, I didn't know that. I mean,
Speaker 5: I guess I didn't know you had any kind of
Speaker 5: like feelings that way after one date. But that is
Speaker 5: good and refreshing to hear. So I guess I'm glad
Speaker 5: I answered the phone this time.
Speaker 4: Me too, Me too. And obviously you have all the
Speaker 4: pressure of the radio behind you. Say yes. Everyone want
Speaker 4: to make you, make you say yes to a second
Speaker 4: day right now. But if you do want to go
Speaker 4: on a second date, I would love to, but I
Speaker 4: would lead to you to maybe text me privately later on.
Speaker 4: I want I don't want you to feel pressure if
Speaker 4: you don't want to.
Speaker 5: You know what actually this is, this is going well,
Speaker 5: so yeah, I feel good about it. We can we
Speaker 5: can give it another shot, especially.
Speaker 1: If you're you know, open about the time issue and
Speaker 1: willing to make some like assuming we want to make
Speaker 1: more time for each.
Speaker 2: Other, then yeah, so you'll go on another date with Tyler.
Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, even better, sure.
Speaker 2: So Tyler doesn't have a problem spending money.
Speaker 5: But I love.
Speaker 2: Congratulations Tyler, you got another date.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much. I'm glad. Okay, great, Well I'm
Speaker 4: so excited, just so thank you. I probably next time
Speaker 4: I will be like so sweaty.
Speaker 5: What so sway? What did I miss them? Okay, all right, okay,
Speaker 5: I'll let it go. I don't know about it. Juble's
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