WEBVTT - Seeing possibilities, with Lisa Canning 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:09.320 Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 0:00:10.000 --> 0:00:14.920 This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:17.959 episode is going to be a longer one part of 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:21.160 the series where I interview fascinating people about how they 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:24.400 take their days from great to awesome and any advice 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.040 they have for the rest of us. So today I 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:30.800 am delighted to welcome Lisa Canning to Before Breakfast. Lisa 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:35.080 is known online as the Possibility Mom. She helps business 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:37.360 owners structure their lives to succeed. 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:38.480 She has also had. 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:42.120 A varied career in many areas, including design, which I 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:43.240 know she will tell us all about. 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:44.800 So, Lisa, welcome to the show. 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:46.920 Oh my gosh, it's a pleasure to be here. 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:49.479 Yeah, thanks for joining us. So why don't you tell 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:51.120 our listeners a little bit about yourself. 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:55.160 I have a winding road. I started out in interior 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:59.200 design with the wonderful opportunity to host an HGTV show. 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:03.040 Like literally, that is my introduction to both a television 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:05.800 place career. Yeah, not a terrible place to start. It 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:08.640 happened completely by accident, like to be very very frank, 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:12.559 but it was exciting, it was exhilarating. It turned into 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:16.480 a long career in lifestyle TV. I've worked with many, 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.800 many well known names. And then I had children at 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:23.440 the exact same rapid time that my interior design and 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:26.560 television career was growing. I now have very proud mom 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:27.840 of eleven children. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:29.040 They're all. 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:31.119 There's no multiples. These are all the questions I get asked, 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:32.679 Are there multiples? Are they all yours? 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:35.959 They're all. They're all mine, and one. 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.280 At a time, one at a time. But as you 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:42.320 can imagine, the pursuit of a very hands on, very 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:46.840 busy interior design career and television career became very quickly 0:01:47.400 --> 0:01:51.360 unsustainable with how rapid my family was growing. So I 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:55.680 made a very intentional pivot. So I guess you could 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:59.120 say where I started making some really significant changes in 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.640 terms of how I used my time, how I structured 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.360 my business, the things that I said yes to you, 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:05.800 the things that I said no to People started to 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:08.920 notice and started to ask me questions about that, And 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:11.880 that's where life and business coaching began. So that chapter 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:14.600 of my life, I primarily coach Catholic moms. I'm a 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:19.320 Catholic myself, and I really I think what I've gotten 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:25.320 good at is how to continue moving forward when life 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:29.079 feels epically chaotic, Like if you were to just distill down. 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:30.800 Because I can teach you how to build a business, 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:32.800 I can teach you how to have good thoughts about 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:36.280 you know, yourself, thoughts of self, compassion, positive thoughts about 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:38.000 the world. But if you were to really just kind 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:40.320 of put it all through a said Laura, I really 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:43.560 think it's when things are just so chaotic and seem 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:47.560 like you cannot survive. That's where I developed some strategies. 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:51.600 All right, So is your business primarily spent like coaching 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:54.480 and speaking and things like that, now, exactly, all right, 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:56.600 So that's how you're spending the bulk of your time. 0:02:57.000 --> 0:02:58.000 And I'm very. 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:00.200 Curious, I mean, because I see some of your your 0:03:00.240 --> 0:03:03.160 offerings advertised online and one thing that one headline that 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:06.600 caught my eye was wealth without Guilt. 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:08.000 Let's talk what is this? 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:10.119 This sounds a little bit like it's bringing in your 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.400 business owner and Catholic side altogether. 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:13.440 So what is this? 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.919 When I started as a life coach, I was coaching 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:21.679 a lot of faith based moms who wanted to build businesses, 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:26.360 but they felt enormous amounts of guilt around it. Both 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:29.200 around Is this what I should be doing with my time? 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:33.440 So just the concept of is this how a good 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:38.240 mother spends her time? And then just around money, should 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:40.840 I pursue wealth? Is it wrong to get a little 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:44.400 bit more money? Is it wrong to desire getting my 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.240 nails done or you know, go on a date with 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:50.240 my husband with a little bit more ease? And so 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:53.200 that's where the title wealth without guilt was born. I 0:03:53.040 --> 0:03:58.040 just honestly, the many, many conversations with women who didn't 0:03:58.080 --> 0:04:01.200 feel free to pursue a business or pursue money. 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:03.320 So what do you tell them? I mean, how do 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:06.480 people get over that sort of guilt? So I'm a Catholic, 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:09.920 I discerned I view everything through there is a will 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:13.400 for your life that is beyond your very narrow focus. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.040 Right when we're stressed, when we're tired, we might just 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:19.359 like tunnel vision into that thing that is providing you know, 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:22.200 a lot a lot of stress. I view the world 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:24.680 with there is a big picture for us. There is 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:26.279 a great purpose for our life. 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:28.440 And so that's what I tell them. I tell them 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:31.440 that you've got some really unique gifts and talents. You 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:35.680 are there's something unrepeatable about you and you're meant to 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:38.599 use those gifts and talents at the service of others. 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:41.720 And so for some people we're serving primarily in the home. 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.920 We're all serving in the home. But for a lot 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:48.279 of people, there is a service that is meant to extend, 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:51.640 perhaps beyond the nuclear family into the local community and 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:55.000 even beyond that. And so it's a disservice, like we're 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:58.240 not doing a service to our creator, but as well 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:01.320 as to other people if we're not using those gifts 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:04.760 and talents and pursuing them to the best of our abilities. 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:07.240 But then, of course, in right order, and I think, 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:10.360 going back to my HGTV career, Laura, like that's I 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:12.919 had it in wrong order. I had this idea that 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:16.640 the most important thing you will ever do is make 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:20.920 money and be successful. And I knew that family was important, 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:23.320 like we all know family is important, but I could 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:28.920 not reconcile those things practically. It's like I had both 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:33.120 of those priorities very much like in front of me. 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:39.279 But when you saw my choices, I was always picking work, 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:43.200 always picking the needs of other people in terms of 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:46.800 my professional life and my family and myself. If I'm 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:49.279 being really honest, would constantly go on the back burner. 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:51.120 So that's what I tell the moms that come to me, 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:54.960 Because they're desiring the pursuit of excellence, the pursuit of 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:57.440 more money, the pursuit of building something that might have 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:02.240 even legacy and generational wealth. They're pursuing that, but they want. 0:06:02.000 --> 0:06:05.400 That in right order. But I love that you're saying 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:07.919 the two are not actually in conflict. That it is 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:14.040 possible to be a successful business owner and loving involved 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:18.080 parent of in many cases many many children. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:23.920 But there is a very important requirement. Absolutely, you can 0:06:24.040 --> 0:06:27.840 pursue many different things. Should we all pursue many different things? No, 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:29.880 you've got to discern that you've got to, like, you know, 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:33.440 prayerfully look at your life. There might be seasons where 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:37.360 you aren't as active outside the home, and then there 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:40.680 are seasons when children perhaps are more independent, where you 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:43.280 might be able to. But again, big caveat. We're not 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.800 all designed the same. But the practical thing that we 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:49.360 have to look at is we have a central nervous system. 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:55.560 I cannot emphasize that enough. Like we are bodies that 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:59.920 get tired, that get taxed, and do need to be refueled. 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:02.000 Part of this might be that I am forty one 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:04.320 years old at the time of this recording. I am 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:07.920 in perimenopause time, so there's all kinds of you know, 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.360 hormonal changes. I obviously just had a baby that I'm nursing, 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:14.120 so there's all kinds of things are going on hormonally 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.680 that I think are making me very interested in this topic. 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.640 But we have to acknowledge that we have a central 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:23.360 nervous system that cannot run on empty, and so that 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.120 has to be taken into account in terms of the 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.280 things that we put in our calendar. So, yes, all 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:31.600 of these things can be pursued, but they have to 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:38.840 be pursued in this beautiful, holistic lens where you're honoring 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:42.480 the fact that we're humans and we also need rest, 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:45.280 and we also need time to breathe, and so that 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:48.040 has to be looked at and how we make our choices. 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:50.040 Got it all right, Well, we're going to take a 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:51.760 quick ad break and then I will be back with 0:07:51.840 --> 0:08:01.560 more from Lisa Canning. Well, I am back talking with 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.920 Lisa Canning, who has had a varied career working with HGTV. 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:08.520 She now coaches mostly Catholic moms, you're saying, who are 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:12.000 also business owners and with eleven kids, I know that 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:15.920 there is a lot of organizational strategizing going on in 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:18.520 your life. So I'm hoping you can share some of 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:21.200 that wisdom with us right now, because I know when 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:22.920 people hear that, they're like, it must be total chaos. 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:25.080 And I'm guessing that your life is not, in fact 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:27.560 total chaos. So let's talk about some of the systems 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:29.640 that you have going on right now. 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:32.480 I mean, it's often total chaos, just oh, keeping very 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:34.320 very very real. But here are some of the things 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:36.800 that I have actually I think gotten somewhat good at. 0:08:37.520 --> 0:08:40.280 And the first concept I'll go kind of mindset and 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:43.440 then very practical as well, so protection of time. So 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:46.640 this is a little bit of a mindset approach. What 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:49.679 I've learned is that if I want something to move forward, 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:54.440 so for example, weight loss, okay, and healthiness just like 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:57.120 healthiness in general, especially with as many children that I've had, 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:00.400 there have got to be certain appointments in my calendar 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:03.720 that move that goal forward. So what does that look 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:06.880 like for me? It's the protection of time to work out, 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:10.440 It's the protection of time to plan and think and 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:13.440 cook healthy meals from my family and to shop for 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:16.920 said meals, right, So there's times in my calendar where 0:09:16.960 --> 0:09:20.440 those are protected. I'm fierce about this with motherhood and 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:24.960 marriage as well, between four and six pm unless it 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:28.760 is like absolutely you know, necessary and can't be avoided, 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.560 That time is absolutely blocked off in my calendar for 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:33.960 connecting with my children when they get home from school. 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:38.400 Once those things are in the calendar and protected. And again, 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:41.400 so mindset, you fit in all the other things around. 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.160 I mean, this is not a novel concept, but I 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:49.040 find that when I let those important things go, I'm 0:09:49.120 --> 0:09:52.880 not as peaceful. I feel a lot more guilt, you know, 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:58.040 I can, I'm more reactive. These really essential components that 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:00.520 make me a healthy person but also help me to 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:04.160 show up well for my family are just so so important. Okay, 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:08.480 So that's number one, protecting those key things, and then 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:11.920 number two is then everything else in life that I 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:14.960 truly cannot show up for, right, Like, no one I 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:18.400 can't outsource my marriage, I can't outsource the mothering of 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:20.840 my children. I just cannot write, and I can't no 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:22.520 one else can take care of my health. Like these 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.720 are such hard concepts that I don't know. I'm pretty 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:27.080 hard headed, LORDA, I can be very uh you know, 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:29.400 oh no, somebody else can do that. No, no one 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:31.920 else can do that. And then it's just a very 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:35.720 simple concept of what can then be delegated, automated, or 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:39.920 simply deleted in specific seasons. So I do things like 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:44.000 grocery delivery that's like pretty clutch for me, and I'm 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:49.720 using AI kind of creatively anything clerical that can be 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:54.520 sped up through AI. So for example, I'm doing for 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:57.600 the holidays. Okay, as you can imagine, with eleven children, 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:02.000 I have many different like presents and cards and things 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.120 that I need to fill out. AI can help you 0:11:04.280 --> 0:11:08.520 like organize all that stuff. Even putting names of kids 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:12.199 on little like things you designed on canva. AI can 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:14.320 actually help you so that you're not sitting there doing 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.880 all that cute stuff yourself. So delegate, automate, delete all 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.880 the other things. Yeah, I love delegate, automate and delete. 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:23.200 But we still have I bet that. I mean, I 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:23.600 want to. 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:27.000 Talk to some about that, like automation of various systems. 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:29.400 I mean, like, do you have same things that you 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:32.320 eat over and over again? Is there like certain laundry 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:34.840 times and systems. Let's let's get into all that. 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:40.160 There's I have almost everything on repeating calendar appointments. 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:43.560 So, for example, this is so niche. 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:46.480 But like my contact lenses, I have too many things 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:49.680 in my brain that I cannot like, I just cannot 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:53.200 hold and so anything that could get slipped, So like 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:56.720 replacing my contacts monthly, I can't you expect me to 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:58.880 remember what day I'm supposed to change my contact You 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:00.640 think it picked like an easy day, like the first 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:02.080 or something, But no, I don't know. I make my 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:05.520 life so complicated, but I decomplicated, or I'd make it 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:09.320 less complicated by putting these recurring appointments in my calendar. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.400 I would say that I honestly, I keep it very simple. 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:17.280 I have about five rotating meals and they are honestly 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:22.440 designed based on my energy, so meaning none of them 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:24.800 are complicated to cook. But like I'll do some of 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:27.360 the more complicated meals that I enjoyed doing, but need 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:30.480 a little bit more languid time on the weekend when 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:32.800 there's a little bit more time, whereas week nights it 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:36.720 is so simple. I used to do a lot of 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:40.320 crock pot cooking and that would free up my time 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:44.960 and energy. But truly, just anything that you can put 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:47.360 on repeat, Like anything in my life that can be 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:52.200 put on repeat is on repeat. Groceries are basically on repeat, 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:55.760 and even the way I entertain, so we love to 0:12:55.800 --> 0:13:00.240 have people over. I basically cook the same meal when 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:05.000 I entertain. Laundry is pretty much daily, but again everything 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:09.840 is on It's often habits stacked with something else. So 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:13.520 coming home from school, it's my automatic after I've dropped 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:16.160 off the kids from school, who walk into my laundry 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:19.400 room and run a load like it's become so second 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:23.000 nature at this point, habits stacking many things together. 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:26.040 And I'm sure some of your kids need to contribute 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:27.720 to all this too, right, you have at least the 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:30.600 older ones are able to functions as sort of people. 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:32.480 Things could be delegated too, I would. 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:35.120 Imagine, and I'll just be very honest. All of that 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:39.240 is also very repeatable. So every child has the exact 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:43.959 same chore in the morning and in the evening, and 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:46.160 there's often fights about it, like they're like, why do 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:48.520 I have to do the dishwasher every time? I'm like, listen, 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:52.400 this is just how it's happening. This is how we 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:55.280 are being set up for success in our family. I'll 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:59.440 tolerate like they'll switch chores with each other sometimes whatever 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.920 that's negotiated on their own hidline. 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:05.240 So I was gonna say, that's like employees at a restaurant shift, 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:08.240 you know, trading shifts, right, because one can't make it, 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:09.760 it's still they got to deal with it. 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:11.320 I mean, but is it one kid. 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:13.320 Empties the dishwasher every morning and somebody else has a 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:16.280 different shore every morning or is there a rotation there? 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:19.680 No, it's literally like one child empties a little dishwasher, 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:24.200 the other child fills the dishwasher, and there's a child 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:27.280 to wipe all counters, there's a child to sweep. I've 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:30.240 got all kinds, all ages, all stages. I have some 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:33.960 kids who change diapers. That's like their job in the morning, 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:38.880 make sure that child has a clean diaper. And it's 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:43.520 I wouldn't say it's like perfect or it's peaceful, but 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:46.720 what it is is expectations have been said. I really 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:49.320 think that's what it is, Laura. When people ask me, 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.600 I don't understand, how do you survive? You must be 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:54.520 so like overwhelmed, And again it is chaotic. It is 0:14:54.600 --> 0:15:00.440 overwhelming at times, but everyone has an expectation in the 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:04.200 family for what it looks like to contribute and to 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:09.880 have our household be successful, and that expectation has been 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:12.520 set and it's reinforced. I'm sure that it works in 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:14.640 some families to do short charts that are cute and 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.400 you rotate a wheel and you move it around. 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:16.920 That's great. 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:19.800 In my family with as many moving pieces as I have, 0:15:20.320 --> 0:15:23.960 doesn't work for me. The expectation is clear and it's repeatable. 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:27.200 Yeah, well, I've certainly found I mean, my family is 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:30.200 nowhere near as large as yours, but especially with my 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:32.800 youngest kid, I found things were actually easier because I 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:36.080 had older children who you know, could pinch hit in 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:38.040 the moment, and like, you know, I could run somewhere 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.800 for twenty minutes and leave a kid with you know, 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:44.000 the little guy with the older siblings, and it was great. 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:46.480 It was like, oh, I have I have more help 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:47.640 with that. Now. 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.280 I'm curious though, I mean, there's always one off things, right, 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:52.320 I mean, you know, things can be repeatable, but then 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:54.560 like I don't know, four of the kids are in 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:56.440 band or something and they have a concert this week 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:59.600 and it's a new thing that has come in. Do 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:02.640 you have a planning time where you look at these 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:05.960 one off aberrations that are not so easy to just 0:16:06.240 --> 0:16:08.000 set up on automated systems. 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.600 I learned this a really long time ago, and that's 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:16.640 just simply to look at your calendar for the week 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:20.760 ahead and so on Sunday evenings is typically when I 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:24.240 do it, and it is to point, like truly, the 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:28.120 specific goal for me of the look ahead is what 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:32.600 is an anomaly? And then you're planning for Okay, maybe 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:34.720 that evening. Then I do need to pick up dinner, 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:37.640 so forget the simple meal. I'm picking up dinner, or 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:42.160 even like we have a cleaner that's on repeat. Okay, 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:45.120 our cleaner comes every two weeks. It's set and forget. 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:47.840 But there might be weeks where you know, oh I 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:50.360 have somebody coming over for the weekend, like my mom's 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:52.480 coming to watch the kids on the weekend. It actually 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:54.640 would be helpful if the cleaner got there on Friday 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:56.840 so that the bedroom in the bathroom is all clean, 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:58.320 you know, that kind of thing. So there might be 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:02.640 things that need to be shift shifted given these unique situations. 0:17:03.280 --> 0:17:05.520 So I learned that a really long time ago, and 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:08.480 it is a really really good practice again for the 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:12.440 practical things. But we cannot forget on the mindset coach, 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:16.320 So I'm always going to go this like the ability 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:22.920 to create really great thoughts for yourself, to be able 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:24.840 to look at a week and be like, where am 0:17:24.840 --> 0:17:29.280 I going to need? Like Lisa at her best, where 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.119 is there going to be time in the week where okay, 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:35.240 you can just chill? You know, where do we know? 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:37.359 Oh my gosh, I have this to look forward to, 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:41.680 and so you can create the thoughts and the energy 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:45.720 and the margin if needed, to support yourself to show 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:47.000 up in your best way. 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:49.920 Absolutely all right, We're going to take one more quick 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:51.680 ad break and then we will be back with more 0:17:51.760 --> 0:18:01.800 from Lisa Canning. Well, I am back with Lisa Canning. 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:06.919 We are talking organizational strategies with her household of many. 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:09.640 But let's talk a little bit about Christmas, because even 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:13.680 something like making a Christmas gift list or a Christmas budget, 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:19.360 it's just a different matter when you have so many people. 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:23.600 So I am curious how far ahead that tends to 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:26.800 start and what the holiday planning process looks like for you. 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:32.760 I used to do holidays really last minute, and if 0:18:32.760 --> 0:18:35.600 I'm honest, obviously like sometimes things happen where things are 0:18:35.680 --> 0:18:41.679 last minute, but more and more I am tending towards like, 0:18:41.760 --> 0:18:43.840 how can I actually get it all done in November? 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:48.119 So this will be the first year where I actually 0:18:48.200 --> 0:18:50.040 I think I'm going to try to wrap. I'm going 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:53.399 to try to do everything, like literally everything that I 0:18:53.520 --> 0:18:56.000 possibly can, put it all in a massive like I 0:18:56.040 --> 0:18:57.840 don't know where I'm going to store it. That's the problem. 0:18:57.880 --> 0:18:59.879 I have no idea where I'll store all this, but 0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:02.960 I will figure that out. But I'm going to tempt 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:04.840 to get everything done in November. But a couple of 0:19:04.880 --> 0:19:08.280 things that I do have is everything is in a 0:19:08.320 --> 0:19:11.600 Google sheet, So I have records of what I've gotten 0:19:11.680 --> 0:19:14.760 my children for the last I don't know, maybe ten 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:20.240 years in a Google sheet with prices and with categories. 0:19:20.400 --> 0:19:23.440 So I tend to get everybody gets something to where 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:26.840 everybody usually gets a book, and then everybody gets something 0:19:26.920 --> 0:19:32.000 kind of fun. And that's been just so helpful because 0:19:32.119 --> 0:19:34.360 I can do a lot of the planning in advance. 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:38.280 I can shop Black Friday sales and you know, just 0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:40.840 get get it done. And that's also how I stay 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:43.720 in budget. So I swear by this Google sheet that 0:19:43.760 --> 0:19:44.360 I've created. 0:19:44.640 --> 0:19:47.600 Google sheets are very helpful and just out of curiosity. 0:19:48.080 --> 0:19:51.080 Are you aiming for the same dollar amount for each kid? 0:19:52.560 --> 0:19:57.160 Do my children listen to this podcast? So okay, very 0:19:57.280 --> 0:20:03.280 very honest. The little kid kids who are unaware of 0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:08.040 what things cosed are not proportionate to the price that 0:20:08.119 --> 0:20:10.240 I spend, the dollar amount that I spend on their 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:13.119 older teenagers, like like their siblings who are teenagers. 0:20:13.160 --> 0:20:14.760 So I mean, it is. 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:18.399 Pretty and I'll be very transparent. It's dark like like 0:20:18.600 --> 0:20:21.320 it's like I think I literally spent on my two 0:20:21.400 --> 0:20:23.880 year old last year twenty five dollars, like like literally, 0:20:24.160 --> 0:20:27.399 whereas the teenagers are getting into the like the two hundred, 0:20:27.440 --> 0:20:30.560 two hundred and fifty type of you know, realm in 0:20:30.600 --> 0:20:33.560 my family. If this is interesting to people, we do, 0:20:34.320 --> 0:20:37.119 or at least last year, we did group gifts, so 0:20:37.160 --> 0:20:39.600 the older kids got a bigger gift and then they 0:20:39.600 --> 0:20:41.639 got a few small things to open, and then the 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.720 younger kids got a group gift and then a few 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:47.480 small things open and then something we did last year 0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:50.879 that I anticipate we do this year again is a trip, 0:20:51.080 --> 0:20:54.760 so just some type of experience. Last year we went 0:20:54.800 --> 0:20:58.119 to go see a beautiful concert in a town not 0:20:58.200 --> 0:21:05.000 too far away, extravagant necessarily, but we value experience, and 0:21:05.080 --> 0:21:07.400 again in a family as large as mine, it also 0:21:07.520 --> 0:21:09.560 is just kind of practical. It's like we all get 0:21:09.560 --> 0:21:12.960 to enjoy it. It's all somewhat you know, age appropriate 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:15.040 for all, and we create fun memories. 0:21:15.280 --> 0:21:15.760 I love that. 0:21:16.200 --> 0:21:20.000 And the group gift idea is fascinating. I ponder that one. 0:21:20.480 --> 0:21:24.080 We'll see if maybe we'll make that happen this year. So, Lisa, 0:21:24.080 --> 0:21:26.399 I always ask my guests this question, what is something 0:21:26.440 --> 0:21:30.000 you have done recently to take a day from great 0:21:30.560 --> 0:21:31.280 to awesome? 0:21:33.720 --> 0:21:39.600 So I am a Catholic. My face informs everything I do, right, 0:21:39.800 --> 0:21:45.120 So for me, going from great to awesome is really 0:21:45.280 --> 0:21:51.040 taking time to reflect and contemplate when I go. When 0:21:51.080 --> 0:21:53.280