Speaker 1: Pay y'all, Hey, what's up? And welcome to let's Red
Speaker 1: Table that. I'm Tracy teen Rope and I'm call Presley.
Speaker 1: How are you doing today? Tracy? You know how I'm doing?
Speaker 1: Come on all right and every days and that's exactly right,
Speaker 1: super duper excited. You and I both have some pretty
Speaker 1: dog on positive ways to look at things. You're sucessful,
Speaker 1: I'm every day amazing. And what I love about that
Speaker 1: is that you and I are also five three huh.
Speaker 1: And you and I also full figured or what they
Speaker 1: called BBWs right and we are. I love that. I
Speaker 1: love that we each on it right. That was one
Speaker 1: of the I want to say, like a pioneering moment
Speaker 1: when they asked us to do this podcast was I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, yes, you just accept us as we
Speaker 1: are and we appreciate Red Table Talk for that. Today's
Speaker 1: episode is super successful. It's quite Latifa. I mean I
Speaker 1: was getting right into it. I'm are yes, Yes, I
Speaker 1: love love love Queen Latifa. Like her, she was all
Speaker 1: about empowerment long ago. She started it out for a
Speaker 1: lot of black women to see positivity in our age
Speaker 1: group on television. I remember being in a position where
Speaker 1: there was no one on TV that really looked like me. Oh,
Speaker 1: absolutely absolutely. And then when women single came out, it
Speaker 1: was like, I relate to all of them. I bet
Speaker 1: this is true for you because you and I have
Speaker 1: that aquarious power, right, uh huh? Did you feel like
Speaker 1: you could identify with more than one character? I definitely
Speaker 1: co relate to more than one character. Definitely could relate
Speaker 1: to Queen Latifa. And then I had a little spirit
Speaker 1: of Maxine and Sinclair at the same time. Oh mg,
Speaker 1: I totally see that. I totally see that. I do,
Speaker 1: and I love it. I'm here for it because I
Speaker 1: related to, of course Queen Latifa, because Queen Latifa was
Speaker 1: a boss, she was, still is and still is a boss.
Speaker 1: And I'm glad that she's taking this whole weight issue
Speaker 1: and obesity as a charge for her. I'm grateful she's
Speaker 1: changing the game. That's it. She is changing the game.
Speaker 1: She's been changing the game. So here's a fun fact
Speaker 1: back in it had to be but she had to
Speaker 1: talk show. I actually won her fitness challenge. She had
Speaker 1: a fitness challenge. She got to talk about that. Listen,
Speaker 1: she had a fitness challenge on the show. I was
Speaker 1: already watching the show because I want to be a
Speaker 1: talk show host too, And again she had set the bar,
Speaker 1: had become a host, and I'm like, look at her
Speaker 1: doing her thing, still changing the game. But she had
Speaker 1: a fitness challenge with the trainer and I won the challenge.
Speaker 1: And I have since gained all that way back. But
Speaker 1: it was a great opportunity, and I want all these DVDs.
Speaker 1: I have no DVD player to play them on now.
Speaker 1: But you know, it just shows the times it was.
Speaker 1: It was just a great experience. How super cool is that?
Speaker 1: This is totally full circle for you. Okay, so now
Speaker 1: she is fighting against this whole notion that society is
Speaker 1: trying to get us to live up to these expectations
Speaker 1: that are completely unrealistic. Let's talk about Let me tell
Speaker 1: you my elementary school experience was probably the most challenging. Though.
Speaker 1: I was the tallest for the longest, and then I
Speaker 1: was like, oh I'm tall, but I was also developing,
Speaker 1: and I was the chubby. You know how many words
Speaker 1: we have for a little flat girls plump, I was full, y'all,
Speaker 1: was fluffy. I was all those things right. And my
Speaker 1: classmates were the opposite. First of all, they were not
Speaker 1: black and they were not fluffy. That part that is
Speaker 1: the challenge high school was trying to fit in and
Speaker 1: try to be something child. I don't know what we
Speaker 1: were trying to be. But when it comes to elementary school,
Speaker 1: I went to private school, and you know, although there
Speaker 1: is no competition as far as old we're all wearing
Speaker 1: the same thing. Baby, We're feeling these things out different, Okay.
Speaker 1: And when I say I was the first developing one,
Speaker 1: I was the first development with the brawl popping, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. That is a different conversation when
Speaker 1: you are fully developed in fourth grade and I'm playing sports,
Speaker 1: we are bouncing, we are looking different than our peers. Well,
Speaker 1: I can tell you that feeling different is part of
Speaker 1: the reason why I am so adamant now to let
Speaker 1: people know that I see them, affirm them, and love them.
Speaker 1: I don't want anyone to feel the way that you
Speaker 1: and I are saying we felt when we were in school.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm more so just trying to allow people
Speaker 1: to be who they are and remind them they are
Speaker 1: successful in every state of being as they are. They
Speaker 1: are enough, so yes, I think that those experiences clearly
Speaker 1: define the trajectory of our lives because now we're here,
Speaker 1: we've gotten to share a bit about how we feel.
Speaker 1: But we want to also share what you, our community,
Speaker 1: had to say about this Red Table Talk episode. One
Speaker 1: of the fans asked Queen Latifa how she stops negative
Speaker 1: self talk, so we ask you the same question. Here
Speaker 1: are some of your answers. To kick it off. VJ says,
Speaker 1: it just came to me. I was in my apartment.
Speaker 1: I walked past the mirror and I caught a glimpse
Speaker 1: of myself and it just hit me. I'm okay with me.
Speaker 1: I just cried and kept repeating it. We loved that
Speaker 1: because I feel like we all have those breakthrough moments
Speaker 1: of this is it. I love me, VJ. I love that.
Speaker 1: That's beautiful. Brown Betty said, I've learned from a queen
Speaker 1: on Rue Paul to name my inner saboteur then talk
Speaker 1: back to it like, ain't nobody asked your stupid ass
Speaker 1: Angie shut out to run back. She is a member
Speaker 1: of the Red Table Talk r v A group and
Speaker 1: an amazing comedian. And when I tell you, I read
Speaker 1: that in her voice. Oh that's good. I love it.
Speaker 1: Did I do her justice? Come on here, Brown Batty,
Speaker 1: Why do you name your saboteur Angie? Okay, for I
Speaker 1: the es in the world. Anybody ask you, Angie. I
Speaker 1: love it. I love it. I'm gonna do that too.
Speaker 1: Marcus Johnson shout out to him. He is actually another
Speaker 1: Red Table Talk rb A member. He says, I've learned
Speaker 1: from practicing yoga that every person is different and has
Speaker 1: different gifts and challenges, and not one person is better
Speaker 1: or worse for it. We are all entitled to peace
Speaker 1: simply because we exist. I love that because it is
Speaker 1: the truth and we do deserve it. That is the truth.
Speaker 1: Gail Or Well Rhonda said, I stop and focus on
Speaker 1: my blessings and accomplishment. We love that. That's good. I
Speaker 1: love that. That's good. Daja Coldie says, first self awareness,
Speaker 1: noticing when I'm doing it. Then I explore my senses,
Speaker 1: what's going on in this exact moment, What do I hear, smell, see,
Speaker 1: et cetera. It always brings me back. Then I focus
Speaker 1: my energy towards something else. I love that ground yourself.
Speaker 1: That's good. T Draper Brazil said, you literally can't thank
Speaker 1: negative thoughts while speaking positively. Come on here at T
Speaker 1: Draper Brasil like that affirming, going back to those affirmations
Speaker 1: speaking out loud, speak over your life. We're here it
Speaker 1: all the time. But it's time to do, y'all. We
Speaker 1: gotta execute this season. We're going to take a quick break,
Speaker 1: but when we get back, we'll be joined by two
Speaker 1: incredible guests from our Red Table Talk community. We're bringing
Speaker 1: to fellow our t T community members to the virtual
Speaker 1: Red Table. I'm so glad Alsa Dean's Davis is unless
Speaker 1: Red Table That today because she relates to a lot
Speaker 1: of what Queen Latifa shared at the Red Table from
Speaker 1: people putting labels on her because of her size and
Speaker 1: b M I to try and to maintain her healthy
Speaker 1: view of herself and not let outside opinions affect that.
Speaker 1: Alisa gets it. Thank you, Alsa for coming on to
Speaker 1: share your story with us. Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1: And Vanity Eddie is joining us from Riverside, California today,
Speaker 1: but this is not her first time testing on a
Speaker 1: Red Table Talk production. If you could see her right now,
Speaker 1: you might recognize her from the fan wall in the
Speaker 1: Red Table Talk episode we're talking about today, of course,
Speaker 1: with Queen Batifa, and Vanity was not able to share
Speaker 1: how her body type has impacted her life on that episode.
Speaker 1: So that's what we had to come back today so
Speaker 1: we can give her that opportunity. So Vanity, thank you
Speaker 1: for coming to this virtual red table with us unless
Speaker 1: red table that how are you today? I am awesome, guys,
Speaker 1: and thank you, thank you, thank you for having me
Speaker 1: as a guest. No problem, the problem. We are excited
Speaker 1: that you are here. So let's jump into it. This
Speaker 1: is the part of the show where we reveal which
Speaker 1: moments made us pause, I mean really made us rewind
Speaker 1: the segment and listen again. So this is time for
Speaker 1: wait what wait, wait, wait what happened with that? I
Speaker 1: love the segment, right, so let's just jump on into it.
Speaker 1: One of the first moments of Worst was when Queen
Speaker 1: Latifa revealed that the cast of Living Single was told
Speaker 1: that they needed to lose weights. We helped create Living Single,
Speaker 1: so when you look at that picture, you see four
Speaker 1: different women, four different shades, four different types, and we
Speaker 1: looked like four women who would live in Brooklyn, right,
Speaker 1: But the word came down that we needed to lose weight.
Speaker 1: This was that it is a weight what for real?
Speaker 1: Because I remember the weight watching the show and loved
Speaker 1: every minute and I think it was the last thing
Speaker 1: I was thinking about, but they still brought it up.
Speaker 1: How d y'all feel about it? I was really shocked
Speaker 1: when the show was like what top in the African
Speaker 1: American Latino community Queen Latifa and approached her and said,
Speaker 1: you need to lose some weight and other cast members
Speaker 1: and y'all she's breaking revenue. Beside she is now y'all
Speaker 1: can turn about her weight. So yeah, I bothered me.
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree. I think it was crazy. I
Speaker 1: think about the time period when the show came out,
Speaker 1: so back then, when we were just really getting our
Speaker 1: foot in the door to be able to have mainstream
Speaker 1: black shows back then, I can see them asking absurd
Speaker 1: questions like that, or of having no expectations. Definitely wasn't realistic.
Speaker 1: I think they're crazy for even expecting them to want
Speaker 1: to do that, considering the whole idea of the show
Speaker 1: was to have black members on their exploiting themselves as
Speaker 1: they are. What else would they expecting? And the various
Speaker 1: sizes represented me and my friends. So I'm listening like what,
Speaker 1: And I wonder did they approached them after Friends came out?
Speaker 1: Because we can't even look at friends. I'm sorry not
Speaker 1: this in the show, But that didn't represent anybody because
Speaker 1: they had like no black people on the show. It
Speaker 1: didn't present me. It didn't represent me, like they had
Speaker 1: no black friend. It's like in New York City, Like
Speaker 1: you would never see black people walking around. It's New
Speaker 1: York City, So you're trying to con them. That's not
Speaker 1: even like reality to me living single, For me, watching
Speaker 1: that was reality. I had a friend that looked like May.
Speaker 1: Jane's character had a friend look like st Clair. I
Speaker 1: had a friend, you know, like Max. It's so to
Speaker 1: me that was so for them to approach them and say, hey,
Speaker 1: I want you to fit into this mode of what
Speaker 1: America wants. That kiss me off? And so yeah, you
Speaker 1: think about what did America want? Was it just wight prejudiced?
Speaker 1: That was the last remaining acceptable bias. I can't even
Speaker 1: get it out because it just it infuriates me. According
Speaker 1: to experts, weight prejudice is the last remaining social acceptable bias.
Speaker 1: Numerous studies have found children as young as three believe
Speaker 1: harmful stereotypes and biases towards overweight people, including that they
Speaker 1: are lazy, weak willed, unsuccessful and unintelligent. The fact that
Speaker 1: it is the last acceptable. That's the problem, right, right.
Speaker 1: I've experienced some way bias, right, But it was growing
Speaker 1: up I had to forgive myself because it was mainly sports,
Speaker 1: especially specifically gymnastics. I grew up and just could not
Speaker 1: fit those little guards. Man. I am built different. So
Speaker 1: that was my experience. So you always feel like you
Speaker 1: need to be smaller because everyone else is, or even
Speaker 1: cheerly the outfits. Back in high skill, I wanted to
Speaker 1: be a cheerleader. For me to be able to fit
Speaker 1: into that cheerleading outfit, I had to be around of
Speaker 1: ten twelve, and that was not realistic for me because
Speaker 1: a lot of those uniforms they kind of passed down.
Speaker 1: When you think about the high school setting, they don't
Speaker 1: really buy new uniforms from time. They just pass them
Speaker 1: down because economically it works for them. And if I
Speaker 1: couldn't fit into any of those uniforms that they were
Speaker 1: passing down, then they weren't passing anything to me. And
Speaker 1: the way they large. I made the cheerlead squad, but
Speaker 1: if I want the cheer and fit in that uniform,
Speaker 1: I had to lose the weight they'd have to say
Speaker 1: it was implied. It was definitely. And the other option
Speaker 1: with sweatpants. I didn't want to wear sweatpants, you know,
Speaker 1: my first time making the high school cheering the squad,
Speaker 1: I wanted to look like everyone else. I end up
Speaker 1: drinking slim fast in high school, just doing things like
Speaker 1: that so that I could be able to fit into
Speaker 1: that cheerleading uniform. And here's the other part about that.
Speaker 1: Even if you are the same size, we know that
Speaker 1: the bodies are not the same. Like we literally could
Speaker 1: have the same size and look completely different. It kind
Speaker 1: of goes into the next wait what moment when Queenland
Speaker 1: here that she was told that she was technically obese
Speaker 1: because of her being. She was showing me different body
Speaker 1: types and she's like, this is what your b a maya's,
Speaker 1: this is what your weight is, and you fall into
Speaker 1: this category of obesity. I was mad at that. Off. Now, Tracy,
Speaker 1: I told you already. I make up my own being
Speaker 1: my number. Wait a minute, Wait a minute, this is white.
Speaker 1: What for real, y'all make um own because I don't
Speaker 1: like what y'all talking about. You heard this, Okay, what
Speaker 1: did you do? Car? Just make up my own I
Speaker 1: don't like and B and my for me, you know
Speaker 1: we're both short now we're five three. Upon believe I'm
Speaker 1: supposed to be a hundred and twenty pounds. I don't
Speaker 1: think I've been net since fourth grade something along those lines. Literally,
Speaker 1: if it was fourth grade, I was young, like I
Speaker 1: was little at that weight. But we know now. According
Speaker 1: to the Washington Post, the body max Index or b
Speaker 1: M I car was making up her own she's got
Speaker 1: a c m I was created two hundred years ago
Speaker 1: a guy who took the average height and weights of
Speaker 1: a group of white men and called this the ideal
Speaker 1: body type. These measurements do not reflect most bodies today,
Speaker 1: particularly women. And hello, non white people. Can anybody say
Speaker 1: hello and hello hello? No, no, point out one white
Speaker 1: man with some hips and we can talk. And just
Speaker 1: the fact that people who are childbearing like just generally
Speaker 1: hold and carry more weight. So that's another thing. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's not considered, especially if the standard was
Speaker 1: white men. Let me say this, I just want to
Speaker 1: know what do y'all think. Two hundred years ago the
Speaker 1: standard was established by white men using white men. Can
Speaker 1: we not modify the b M I to be more relevant?
Speaker 1: This is my first time ever hearing about that, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: I mean, hundred years ago, we weren't even free. I'm
Speaker 1: I can go on another tangent, but so we know
Speaker 1: you ain't counting us. Okay, no exactly, but let alone
Speaker 1: women who didn't have rights and freedom. So you take
Speaker 1: this right group of white in and you decide this
Speaker 1: is gonna be a standard. So it sounds about Yeah,
Speaker 1: it sounds about right for the times, but it definitely
Speaker 1: needs to change. You would think that someone at this
Speaker 1: point would have addressed it and to seem like everyone
Speaker 1: okay with this standard with not changing the b m I.
Speaker 1: And we're asking for the medical professionals to rally together
Speaker 1: on behalf of the people of America and modify the
Speaker 1: dog on b m I to be more inclusive of
Speaker 1: what Americans look like today, including women and people of color.
Speaker 1: Thank you on behalf of the four of us here
Speaker 1: at let's red table that. So here's something else we're
Speaker 1: gonna talk about that how has your bm I affected
Speaker 1: your life or your health care? So my b m
Speaker 1: I has affected my life mentally, you carry around this
Speaker 1: I'm overweight, I'm obese. For some people who are attempting
Speaker 1: to try to lose weight or you're trying to make
Speaker 1: decisions like healthy eating and only to see and it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter how hard I try, I'm still labeled obese
Speaker 1: because this index is saying that, like you still I'm
Speaker 1: only five four and I should you about maybe one
Speaker 1: thirty five. I've never reached that. Sometimes I deal with
Speaker 1: not feeling like I'll ever be ideal, so mentally that
Speaker 1: takes a toll on my self esteem to feel like
Speaker 1: I'm not what the standards should be healthcare. In terms
Speaker 1: of B and I, I think that it's not relevant
Speaker 1: because something's like I said, I've been playing sports all
Speaker 1: my life and since twenty I was diagnosed with hypertension.
Speaker 1: But it had nothing to do I think with my
Speaker 1: body weight. I look at my history and my mom
Speaker 1: she had a stroke at forty, my grandfather he had
Speaker 1: a heart attack at fifty. My family had a history.
Speaker 1: So it's more in my opinion or what it looks like,
Speaker 1: more hereditary versus you know, gotten is based on body weight.
Speaker 1: I've made healthy decisions to ensure that I had a
Speaker 1: healthy weight, and then by nineteen years old, I'm diagnosed
Speaker 1: with hypertension. So how does the B and I really
Speaker 1: affect my health care? Is it realistic? Because you have
Speaker 1: people that are smaller than me or and actually end
Speaker 1: within their being my index and have hypertension or have diabetes.
Speaker 1: I don't even think those two things correly at all.
Speaker 1: Think about all the other people right now who are
Speaker 1: making alterations to their body because of this B and
Speaker 1: my index. It carries so much on certain people and
Speaker 1: including myself, and for me, I don't even address it
Speaker 1: because it hasn't done anything to me but give me
Speaker 1: low self esteem. There's no solution, not at all. They're like,
Speaker 1: here's your being mine, have a great day. They just
Speaker 1: think you're unhealthy. So yeah, that's it. You're lazy, You're unhealthy,
Speaker 1: especially because that's because of this. I'm just lazy and healthy,
Speaker 1: eat fried chicken all day. That's ye I do. But still,
Speaker 1: I mean sometimes, okay, that's funny. What really bothers me
Speaker 1: is because I had no idea that this was created
Speaker 1: two years ago. So I've basically been like chasing a
Speaker 1: two under year old like standard white man created standard.
Speaker 1: I mean, like my white has fluctuated. You can tell
Speaker 1: you that since I was a child, like I've gone
Speaker 1: up and down, been anywhere from a size twenty six
Speaker 1: to a size ten as an adult, and I'm proodical
Speaker 1: size eighteen now and lot I have to do with
Speaker 1: me chasing the idea of what a healthy b M
Speaker 1: I is and with a healthy images. So that's I'm
Speaker 1: really floored by that. So I think, of course, that's
Speaker 1: definitely affected me in my life, and for me, my
Speaker 1: way is more about just my health. I've gotten to
Speaker 1: the point I'm comfortable with who I am, how I look,
Speaker 1: but I do want to be healthier. So that's why
Speaker 1: I chase not being my But I takes a healthy lifestyle,
Speaker 1: like having a healthy lifestyle is one thing, and I
Speaker 1: think anytime you associate numbers right with it, it makes
Speaker 1: it challenging. So my b M I is not in
Speaker 1: the range that is appropriate. And so I go every
Speaker 1: year and it never has been. By the way, hello,
Speaker 1: I can say that without any issue. It never has been.
Speaker 1: I love myself and all my assets. Okay, this last year,
Speaker 1: it's time for me to come up on another wellness check.
Speaker 1: So I get a full series, the whole battery of
Speaker 1: tests run, y'all, and my doctor looks at me and
Speaker 1: sees this this extra pandemic weight and goes um. You know, so, Tracy,
Speaker 1: if we ever included the A one C test with you,
Speaker 1: and I looked at him, started laughing, and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you see all these extra assets now, so you got
Speaker 1: to say to yourself, she's short and fat, so she's
Speaker 1: got to be die you're bad act Let's test it.
Speaker 1: So I said, we haven't done an A one C before.
Speaker 1: Let's do one now so I can show you that
Speaker 1: I'm not diebetic. Get the test back. I was not diabetic,
Speaker 1: I was nowhere near. I wasn't pre diabetic. I was nothing.
Speaker 1: And I told him with glee, don't let this fat
Speaker 1: fool you. I don't have anything. I have nothings. And
Speaker 1: so the whole construct of being overweight and being obese
Speaker 1: is such a horrible mind f right, because you see
Speaker 1: that there are people who are super slim who are
Speaker 1: also unbelievably unhealthy, and they call that skinny fat a
Speaker 1: lot of times. And then why does it have to
Speaker 1: still be something fat healthy getting unhealthy? It's healthy. Period.
Speaker 1: Back to Vanity's point, this is a lot of this
Speaker 1: is just genetics. You just cannot stop certain things. I
Speaker 1: definitely have kidney failure in my family. There are some
Speaker 1: things that I need to address as well. But I
Speaker 1: do have hypertension as well. And when it came like,
Speaker 1: my doctor was like, I need you to know you're
Speaker 1: so healthy. It's not like there's a lot that you
Speaker 1: can do. Of course, you can work out what have you,
Speaker 1: but I need you to know you're probably still need
Speaker 1: to take this medicine. So let me tell y'all something.
Speaker 1: And this was at work. This was a few years ago.
Speaker 1: This guy, he and I had this conversation about him
Speaker 1: being diabetic and him having hypertension, and he came to
Speaker 1: me and said, hey, Tracy, and I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: how are you doing. The name remains anonymous, we'll just
Speaker 1: call him Sam. So Sam says, with a regular Coca
Speaker 1: cola in his hand and a couple of ice So, Tracy,
Speaker 1: how are you doing? What you're sugar? And I said,
Speaker 1: I don't have sugar. You don't I said no. He said,
Speaker 1: what do you mean. I said, no, you are the
Speaker 1: one with diabetes. I don't have diabetes. I said, what
Speaker 1: are you doing with this regular coke? And so then
Speaker 1: he comes back, he goes, you know what, you're right,
Speaker 1: You're right. Let me go ahead and get rid of
Speaker 1: somebody gave us to me, I don't even want it.
Speaker 1: So he walks away and he comes back. He goes, okay,
Speaker 1: so Tracy, now, how is your hypertension? How your blood pressure?
Speaker 1: I said, my blood pressure is fine. What are you
Speaker 1: talking about? I think society makes the criminator? Yeah, and
Speaker 1: this is this is chit chat, this regular conversation. So
Speaker 1: then this is what got me. I said to him,
Speaker 1: I don't have any health issues. And this was his response, y'all.
Speaker 1: He said, so you mean to tell me you're just
Speaker 1: walking around here healthy And I was like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I am. And he couldn't believe it. And I thought,
Speaker 1: now something is really wrong with that. Okay, So going
Speaker 1: them out with b M I a measurement of health
Speaker 1: that was not made with all bodies in mind. We
Speaker 1: learned that two in five Americans are considered obese, and
Speaker 1: four and five Black women are considered obese. So we
Speaker 1: have this non inclusive view of what health is telling
Speaker 1: all of us, specifically Black women, that we have a
Speaker 1: health problem when we really don't. As Tracy gave us
Speaker 1: that perfect example, like it's just so automatically understood. The
Speaker 1: women at the Red Table talked about some of the
Speaker 1: reasons why black women can be heavier, like a lack
Speaker 1: of access to produce, but I think it's also because
Speaker 1: of just this inherited survival mentality. I feel like we
Speaker 1: just are on the go and if you know, an
Speaker 1: emotional either sometimes that's just a part of the plan.
Speaker 1: We talk about a lot of things linear as if
Speaker 1: it can be prevented, but a lot of things stack
Speaker 1: on top of things to create a certain health issue
Speaker 1: for those who have it, but definitely not automatically created
Speaker 1: or linked to the b M. I So when you're
Speaker 1: hearing these statistics, ladies, what sparks in your mind for me?
Speaker 1: I think they just need to do more research and
Speaker 1: talk to more people in different communities somewhere where those
Speaker 1: resources are limited, and not just the food, just the knowledge.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about their whatever, because a lot of people
Speaker 1: don't even understand or not empowered with the information on
Speaker 1: what's healthy what's not healthy. It's so interesting that you
Speaker 1: talked about people eating what they have and not having
Speaker 1: knowledge about different food options or even nutritional education and awareness.
Speaker 1: That is an attention to the food deserts that you mentioned. Car.
Speaker 1: That is definitely one of the things that may lead
Speaker 1: to this number being accurate with the four out of five.
Speaker 1: Let me say what I know about black people and
Speaker 1: what we come from. Historically, Car has this saying leftover
Speaker 1: slave stuff, right, Car, Yes, I do. And the leftover
Speaker 1: slave stuff in this case was that slaves had to
Speaker 1: eat whatever they had available, and it wasn't fresh produced,
Speaker 1: it wasn't leaning cuts of meat. It was literally scraps.
Speaker 1: And if you are coming from generations of cooking using
Speaker 1: those items, using the method that food was prepared, you
Speaker 1: are literally going to consume that. That is what you
Speaker 1: grew up eating, that's what you're gonna teach your children
Speaker 1: to eat, and that may not be the necessarily healthiest option,
Speaker 1: right And if you are, on top of it, living
Speaker 1: in food desert, that compounds the issue. And so the
Speaker 1: idea of knowing that four out of five black women
Speaker 1: maybe obese, First of all, I have issue with that
Speaker 1: word altogether obese. My wife and I laughed because she
Speaker 1: says obe sounds like old, beast, old, big old, something
Speaker 1: right like it? We like that, Why not just bigger
Speaker 1: than the average of American because that is somewhat of
Speaker 1: a basis of what they're going upon. But is it
Speaker 1: is it really bigger than the average American when the
Speaker 1: average American science and size of fourteen. I don't know
Speaker 1: it's going up since then, Like seriously, yeah, what is
Speaker 1: the size of an average American? Really? Size sixteen? Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: keep going up? We all big old. I was telling
Speaker 1: Tracy to like on top of the eating scraps and
Speaker 1: things that we only had and somewhat mirroring and continuing
Speaker 1: that throughout our life. You know, I tend to be
Speaker 1: an emotional eater. You just gotta be honest with who
Speaker 1: you are and where you are. Baby me and my
Speaker 1: son was celebrating everything in COVID. Hey, you bought the cake.
Speaker 1: You just listen. We can only go to the grocery
Speaker 1: store brought us the cake today. We're just gonna celebrate
Speaker 1: life in our culture or as African Americans, black women,
Speaker 1: whatever you wanna call us. It's so much going to
Speaker 1: the left. Sometimes the cake feels right. I just sometimes
Speaker 1: people want to cupcake a Snickers. You're not yourself when
Speaker 1: you're hungry. So many subliminals as well as we're on
Speaker 1: the go chasing dreams and doing whatever. A lot of
Speaker 1: us are just eating out of survival, out of habit
Speaker 1: or trying to find a little some type of silver
Speaker 1: lining in their day. Okay, even on everybody hates Chris
Speaker 1: Love that show. I feel like that mom had that turtle.
Speaker 1: She had those turtles randomly. She always wanted, just like
Speaker 1: small things like that create a bigger just to have
Speaker 1: a moment, just a moment, just to have a moment, moment.
Speaker 1: So as a mom, I feeling the moments that we
Speaker 1: have are connected to food and all. The other part
Speaker 1: of that for women of color is that we had
Speaker 1: historically bodies that had to bear the labor of a land. Right,
Speaker 1: We bore the children, We had to work the fields,
Speaker 1: we had to work in the house. There was work
Speaker 1: that needed to be done. Your body naturally reacts to
Speaker 1: what you give it, and so you're going to be bigger.
Speaker 1: Man stayed pregnant. My grandmother had nine children, her mother
Speaker 1: had eight. Like it's just certain things generationally were different.
Speaker 1: So I know a Lisa grandmother. Yeah, she had my
Speaker 1: mom's me thirteen and then three died at birth. But yeah,
Speaker 1: so she had ten children. Yeah, and that's been pregnant
Speaker 1: probably from I don't know, maybe aged eighteen to one child. Okay,
Speaker 1: and the way that pregnancy took my body through to
Speaker 1: do it ten times. This is the thirties and forties
Speaker 1: and fifties right here, was not what it is now. Hey,
Speaker 1: these women were amazing. We talked about the ridiculousness of
Speaker 1: Queen Latifa and the cast of living single being as
Speaker 1: to lose weight. But one beautiful part of that story
Speaker 1: was that shot Kim, Queen's business partner, absolutely stood by
Speaker 1: her and was like, no way. You know you're not
Speaker 1: gonna do this. You're not gonna She's not changing the thing.
Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, a Lisa, have you had
Speaker 1: support like this went outside and Launce just try to
Speaker 1: make your body their issue. My family, my parents, I
Speaker 1: can tell a story too. I don't have one too deep.
Speaker 1: But when I was like probably about Tenery Levin and
Speaker 1: it's a family member who drinks a lot in the
Speaker 1: family and he was drinking a lot and he made
Speaker 1: a comment to me and he was like, oh man,
Speaker 1: you've gotten so fat. And I'm a little girl. Ryan
Speaker 1: is a grown man telling me this. So my other
Speaker 1: cousin who's a year younger than me, stood up for
Speaker 1: me and then and to this day I still tell
Speaker 1: him that I still don't want to cry. He just
Speaker 1: started going off on him. You old drunk man. You
Speaker 1: shouldn't be talking to her like that. And this cousin
Speaker 1: says that I saw you about three months ago. I said,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say his name. I will never forget,
Speaker 1: even as a teen year old girl, how you stood
Speaker 1: up for me. For the most part of my family
Speaker 1: have always had support. No one's ever made me feel
Speaker 1: some kind of way about it. That one uncle when
Speaker 1: he was told that liquor reveal who he was. But
Speaker 1: I had someone there to support me. That meant the
Speaker 1: world to me. And even now, as a forty four
Speaker 1: year old woman, I still recall that, and it's crazy,
Speaker 1: but that's the kind of support that we have to
Speaker 1: give each other in our community and our children. Regardless,
Speaker 1: you never forgot how the uncle made you feel, and
Speaker 1: you never forgot how the cousin supported you, and that
Speaker 1: is powerful. And the fact that you said just thinking
Speaker 1: about it and the support you got can make you
Speaker 1: cry because people don't understand that sometimes their words hurt
Speaker 1: and they last right in regardless of all things I've done,
Speaker 1: successs I had in my life, that still sits with me.
Speaker 1: This tenor dold girl. We're sitting here being ridiculed, culled
Speaker 1: by her adult uncle. And I forgive him because he
Speaker 1: has a drinking problem, you know, but still my cousin.
Speaker 1: I love on him more because of how he reacted
Speaker 1: as a child. He knew it wasn't right and he
Speaker 1: took up for me. He was younger than you. He
Speaker 1: was younger than me, or you're younger. Yeah, just the
Speaker 1: way we carry things though it's a luggage that you
Speaker 1: didn't even know how to handle, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like you just kind of look at it like in
Speaker 1: one a blurb of a moment, but you carry that.
Speaker 1: But part of those verbals are one of the reasons
Speaker 1: that contribute the white And that's the thing you want
Speaker 1: to realize. One person can really jack you up in
Speaker 1: the head. So people have to really be careful with
Speaker 1: the words that you was, especially with young people, because
Speaker 1: they can carry that a Lisa, you've talked about having
Speaker 1: an experience in school when you were bullied. I also
Speaker 1: want to know from everyone else if you were heavier
Speaker 1: than your classmates as a child, what was the school
Speaker 1: and like growing up like for you, do you wish
Speaker 1: they would have acted differently? Or were they on point
Speaker 1: and supported you or tell us about any childhood experience
Speaker 1: as you had. Unfortunately growing up, so I end up
Speaker 1: moving down south for my high school years. And when
Speaker 1: I moved down so I moved down my grandparents in
Speaker 1: this little town in South Carolina, and at age thirteen,
Speaker 1: politics curses coming out, and my grandparents these countries religious
Speaker 1: cover that up. Even talked to me about losing some
Speaker 1: weight problem. Yeah, and then my grandma, I'm like, I'm
Speaker 1: shaped just like her. She's boughten curvy too. Now we
Speaker 1: talked about eat. My grandma she was from the South,
Speaker 1: so she cooked everything with like porking and so like
Speaker 1: she wasn't helping the situation. But yeah, I was telling
Speaker 1: me like these things to do, even try to not
Speaker 1: eat as much, not supporting me and who I was,
Speaker 1: to the point where I, like I said, I'm always
Speaker 1: trying to lose weight. So yeah, definitely I did not
Speaker 1: have a lot of support. I can remember in high school,
Speaker 1: I was the problem by myself because none of the
Speaker 1: guys wasn't even it was interested, and I don't evenink
Speaker 1: they were interested. And the fast for that, what I'd
Speaker 1: to get together a goal to the goal we have
Speaker 1: our own problem. One day, I'm down for that problem.
Speaker 1: It did affect me because I didn't have that support.
Speaker 1: I didn't have that cousin Alicia that had jumped in
Speaker 1: and said, hey, you're perfect. How you are? I really struggled.
Speaker 1: I really struggled throughout high school because I couldn't do
Speaker 1: anything with this. But it doesn't matter how much you're in,
Speaker 1: how much I worked out, how much some fast I drank,
Speaker 1: how much I starved myself, and a lot of those
Speaker 1: things were unhealthy. I was not knowing whatever it was,
Speaker 1: practicing unhealthy habits nutritional habits instead of my parents, my
Speaker 1: family telling me, hey, this is what you can do
Speaker 1: to help you have a better healthy lifestyle. But I
Speaker 1: get it. They were older. They didn't really understand because
Speaker 1: as you go back again, you talk about them not
Speaker 1: having the resources and not being able to teach me
Speaker 1: better ways to better habits or eating habits and nutritional habits.
Speaker 1: At first, I wanted to be mad with them because Grandma,
Speaker 1: you told me how to eat that corn bread staple,
Speaker 1: right right, I want to tap into that like we
Speaker 1: Number one, cornbread was the thing of and rice, And
Speaker 1: I think about the things that we used to we
Speaker 1: were trying to stay full because we knew that there
Speaker 1: was a lax of goes back to that growing up
Speaker 1: in survival. But then also talking about our parents having
Speaker 1: the resources, I definitely want to say this, asking my
Speaker 1: parents to work out didn't make any sense to the
Speaker 1: It just was not a part of their culture. Again,
Speaker 1: a resource they didn't have. And when we look back,
Speaker 1: like they took me to my sports and stuff, but
Speaker 1: they had to work. So after two jobs, walk three
Speaker 1: miles for what you know what I mean, it just
Speaker 1: wasn't a part of the culture. I know my Grandmo
Speaker 1: didn't work out, but also their life was the workout.
Speaker 1: Like I was just gonna say she worked out plenty,
Speaker 1: it was just anaerobic workout. It was anaerobic exercise because
Speaker 1: and to the point of black, I think that most
Speaker 1: of the food, the corn bread and fed and beans
Speaker 1: and rice was literally you had to have some stick
Speaker 1: to your ribs kind of food to do some of
Speaker 1: the things that they did. Just from that day. They
Speaker 1: had hard living. And our life is so much more
Speaker 1: sedendary than it was. Work from home is what what
Speaker 1: you do again? What is Let me tell you. I
Speaker 1: can tell from my childhood. Some of you relate to
Speaker 1: this if you have other siblings or family members. My sister,
Speaker 1: my older sister, whom I absolutely adore, was lighter scanned
Speaker 1: and super petite. So then the younger sister here, I
Speaker 1: come along, and I'm the darker skinned and I'm short,
Speaker 1: but I'm thick, not slim thick, as the folks said.
Speaker 1: I was the chubby sister, right, So it was always
Speaker 1: for me the comparison with my sister. And she was
Speaker 1: not like just a little petite like she was teen
Speaker 1: ninety petite, y'all. She was like size four petite. Okay.
Speaker 1: I think I was born a size four, so you know,
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't ever get to that, okay, And
Speaker 1: so there was always a difference for me. And then
Speaker 1: the sad part, I'm like, Alisa, is my dad had
Speaker 1: absolute fat prejudice. He had one percent fat prejudice. I
Speaker 1: remember him telling me when I was, I want to say,
Speaker 1: maybe in my early twenties, that he looked at me
Speaker 1: and said, which I wasn't even near the size I
Speaker 1: am now by the way he looked at me, and
Speaker 1: he said, he's just a shame. I just can't I
Speaker 1: can't shame you in the losing weight. My dad definitely
Speaker 1: told me I was fat, and don Man went on
Speaker 1: fact the girl like that that the same thing my dad.
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna tell you what I told my dad.
Speaker 1: Rest in peace, daddy. I'm here on earth and I'm
Speaker 1: telling the truth on you as we speak. I said,
Speaker 1: looking here, daddy, you are not going to shame me
Speaker 1: into losing weight because I am with my body all
Speaker 1: the time. I feed my body, I washed my body,
Speaker 1: I clothed my body. I love my body. So you're right,
Speaker 1: you're not going to shame me into losing weight. And
Speaker 1: to that, he said, what's wrong with you is that
Speaker 1: you need to eat more pork. You eat all that,
Speaker 1: all them bergies and all that stuff. You need to
Speaker 1: eat more pork, which goes back to what we talked about.
Speaker 1: From what they knew. What my dad knew was his
Speaker 1: family worked, they were laborers. They had hearty food and
Speaker 1: hardy meals, and they burned it off. That's not my lifestyle.
Speaker 1: Right until the day he died, he was quick to
Speaker 1: tell you that I was fat. When I say that,
Speaker 1: last generation didn't care what people thought. I heard the
Speaker 1: story about Blue Ivy. Blue Ivy was talking to jay
Speaker 1: Z or dad, and she was like, what you said
Speaker 1: made me sad? And jay Z listened, And when I
Speaker 1: told my dad, he said something that made me sad.
Speaker 1: My dad said, if I can't talk to you, how
Speaker 1: the world gonna talk to you? So things like that,
Speaker 1: him telling me no man wants the fat girl, Like
Speaker 1: why am I worried about what a man wanted? Six?
Speaker 1: I don't even know why that see even but it's
Speaker 1: just their language that was like their hearts. I think
Speaker 1: they were saying and doing, like you said, Tracy, the
Speaker 1: best that they could to help us be accepted and
Speaker 1: be better than them. It's interesting because here we are saying,
Speaker 1: with the exception of a Lisa, that we had family members,
Speaker 1: our parents, saying things to us that were not positive,
Speaker 1: that were negative things associated with our bodies when we
Speaker 1: were young. And while they may have been preparing us
Speaker 1: in their minds, what they were really doing was traumatizing us,
Speaker 1: throwing their insecurity as well. Again, I did sports and
Speaker 1: watch my mom do as every other woman probably in
Speaker 1: the eighties and nineties, every fad diet there was. We
Speaker 1: can count on society to send you to feed into
Speaker 1: the mindsets that we have and one consequence of the
Speaker 1: negative use society has for bigger body people that Red
Speaker 1: Table did not dive into is diet culture. Car and
Speaker 1: you just talked about this. We all know these fad
Speaker 1: diets that pop up can be so harmful to people's health. Vanity.
Speaker 1: Have you ever gotten something to a diet and what
Speaker 1: happened because of it? Oh my god, Keto, calories that
Speaker 1: in carbs count the carbs counting, calories fasting, so many
Speaker 1: different and what happened. I'm still fat? You know what. No,
Speaker 1: I don't identify. I identify myself as bigger body that's identified.
Speaker 1: It's so interesting because I think the key in that
Speaker 1: it is the fad. That word it's a fad diet.
Speaker 1: It's not a modified lifestyle. And you think about diet,
Speaker 1: that word on its own has died in it. Like
Speaker 1: it's not when you last, it's temporary, you know what.
Speaker 1: I completely agree. One of Queen Latifa's main points in
Speaker 1: this episode was about how the language we used to
Speaker 1: talk about weight and body types is the problem, not
Speaker 1: our actual bodies. Okay, let me say that one more time.
Speaker 1: It's not our bodies, y'all, it is the language. And
Speaker 1: I'm like obese, right, So I was like, no, right,
Speaker 1: because I didn't see myself that way. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But that's the problem, and that's why I'm here because
Speaker 1: that word brings a connotation with it, and the connotation
Speaker 1: is the problem. I'm so happy to Queen Latifa points
Speaker 1: this out. Do you feel the terms we used to
Speaker 1: describe curvy women are harmful? Like we talked about obese,
Speaker 1: what else? Thick, slim, thick? Great? At the same time,
Speaker 1: sometimes it comes off as derogatory, it comes off a
Speaker 1: little over sexual It's already bad that our body over
Speaker 1: sexualized anyway, but then we had all these terms on
Speaker 1: top of it. I'm okay, miss me with it. Even
Speaker 1: like some clothing stores in retail, like I remember, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna It's a well known clothing store that's been
Speaker 1: around four years, and I remember because I've been shopping
Speaker 1: there since I was in a teenager. Because I've the
Speaker 1: size probably like a size twenty when I was in
Speaker 1: high school. They would say, we're gonna either be a
Speaker 1: size one, two, or three, like in a store, so
Speaker 1: you would fit the range, and you're gonna either be
Speaker 1: a triangle, an apple, a pair or an inverted triangle,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, come up to be called an inverted
Speaker 1: triangle or apple or a pear? Why my fruit? And
Speaker 1: then also like they would say, and I guess where
Speaker 1: our glass well sales hour glass? So everyone wants to
Speaker 1: be an hour glass, right, But if you're not in
Speaker 1: your apple glass figure right, and I'm one of a
Speaker 1: parachape on, small can topping, larger to bottom, I guess
Speaker 1: they're trying to make you feel comfortable in who you are,
Speaker 1: which you're also you know, other women feel bad about
Speaker 1: themselves because I'm not an hour glass, So I guess
Speaker 1: I can call himself an apple or a pear or
Speaker 1: inverted triangle and that it's just super annoying. I don't
Speaker 1: know what. We're trying to stay hard and it didn't
Speaker 1: last for a long time. But then also they would say,
Speaker 1: you need a size too, and I'm not a size too,
Speaker 1: but I guess they wanted you to feel your size too.
Speaker 1: You're a size to pear shape, and I'm like, what
Speaker 1: the hell like, you're a big girl. No, I'm a
Speaker 1: size twenty. I'm the bottom. Let me own who I am,
Speaker 1: tell me what I'm supposed to be, and calling me
Speaker 1: a piece of damn fruit. I'm not a piece of fruit.
Speaker 1: What are some of the times that feel empowering to you? Curvy, voluptuous?
Speaker 1: I'm okay with for a figure just successful, because do
Speaker 1: I have to describe as something I definitely remember going
Speaker 1: through life, especially in my adult ages, and like pieces
Speaker 1: of my life by weight. I was at my lowest
Speaker 1: adult weight here, I was at my highest adult weight
Speaker 1: here on this vacation and versus what was the memory
Speaker 1: cys like, so trying to stop that and rechange that
Speaker 1: narrative for myself moving forward. That's a gift that we
Speaker 1: can really share with people to know that if you
Speaker 1: are really experiencing joy in the moment, don't associate what
Speaker 1: your weight is, yes, because you're literally robbing yourself of
Speaker 1: the joy of that experience. That is so true. I
Speaker 1: remember looking back and I don't know if you guys
Speaker 1: said this is true for you too, and thinking at
Speaker 1: this way, Oh gosh, when I was x y z WAD,
Speaker 1: I thought it was really big. Now look, I wish
Speaker 1: I could go back to being that side. The way
Speaker 1: we beat ourselves up randomly, Like Vanity said, this, being
Speaker 1: my characters goes with you like a shadow like a ghost.
Speaker 1: Just it's crazy you still big. You get that new
Speaker 1: pick three number on the scale boy, And I don't
Speaker 1: know why I call it pick three number, because it
Speaker 1: because listen, for some reason, I was looking for a
Speaker 1: number on the scale, right, and I could just eat
Speaker 1: a cupcake and still be looking for that number. Girl.
Speaker 1: Just push your pick three number today, because you know what,
Speaker 1: you know what the logic was, though. It's because we
Speaker 1: had been literally sad that you had to be a
Speaker 1: certain size, a certain number had to be on the
Speaker 1: scale right right. That is true. You call it pick
Speaker 1: three though, because I don't care. And I hate to
Speaker 1: say I don't care, because I know people hear that
Speaker 1: and be like, oh, you don't care about our waiter.
Speaker 1: It's just a longer life goal for me. So once
Speaker 1: you know more about your body, I promise it feels
Speaker 1: a lot better because it can consume you otherwise. Quinlanity
Speaker 1: for openly shared that she has considered obese, something that
Speaker 1: most people are not eager to disclose, but she did
Speaker 1: so to explain the problem with obesity is the associations
Speaker 1: we pair it with. If you're comfortable sharing at Lisa,
Speaker 1: we know that you have some stories or what labels
Speaker 1: have doctors or others giving you based on your size,
Speaker 1: and how did that affect you mentally being in school
Speaker 1: and being bully, being called fat, or someone assuming that
Speaker 1: because you are overweight, you're lazy, or you're slow, or
Speaker 1: even sometimes I'm trying to question your intelligence, they will, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because you look a certain way. That means you're not
Speaker 1: taking care of yourself, which means you're not very smart,
Speaker 1: which means which means you're also fat. Like it can
Speaker 1: just definitely trickle down so much different things. My parents,
Speaker 1: I really value them in the fact that they always
Speaker 1: taught me self a seem they really did, and so
Speaker 1: it would be difficult to get that at home and
Speaker 1: then go out and you have other people see your
Speaker 1: different ways. I was always kind of battling with that,
Speaker 1: but I did have the comfort at home annoying that
Speaker 1: you know what, You're still beautiful, godless what size you are.
Speaker 1: And so I think for me growing up, I had
Speaker 1: to realize, Okay, I am smart. I feel like what's
Speaker 1: the movie with smart? Yeah, because the world in society
Speaker 1: and people a lot of times in school and say
Speaker 1: you're in the playground and you got to pick your
Speaker 1: teammates whatever, and being the last person pick cause they
Speaker 1: assume because on a certain size, I can't run as
Speaker 1: fashion or I'm lazy, or as an adult when it's
Speaker 1: time to go on the vacation or your girl tripping
Speaker 1: with your girlfriends, and I tend to be the bigger
Speaker 1: one in the group. Right. There is a vibe when
Speaker 1: y'all go out to eat and it's a booth and
Speaker 1: they're kind of looking like, girl, can you fit here?
Speaker 1: Girls like me? But this is that Do they literally
Speaker 1: ask you if you can fit in the boot? No?
Speaker 1: I feel like it's always implied these are my girlfriends,
Speaker 1: they love me. But I mean, even when you're out
Speaker 1: to eat at a restaurant or when you're just people
Speaker 1: who assume or they'll look at your certain way. I
Speaker 1: can't believe you ordering that. Maybe it is my insecurity
Speaker 1: or what I feel based on past experiences, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. But there's definitely sometimes an inkling of
Speaker 1: can you fit here? Like small moments that I feel
Speaker 1: like people who maybe an average size don't have to
Speaker 1: think about. It's definitely assumptions, but it's also like people
Speaker 1: putting their insecurities on you too. I think that's all
Speaker 1: too like you're saying, you're on a plane. The seatbelt
Speaker 1: might be kind of tight, but I can buck up,
Speaker 1: and I don't have a flight atend. Walk by, Can
Speaker 1: I see your seatbelt? I don't think anybody else in
Speaker 1: my mind, I'm like, I hope you're trying to do
Speaker 1: a job, because right you don't want to get crazy
Speaker 1: to get bucked about, and I don't I'm talking about here.
Speaker 1: It is because you don't want to embarrass the situation
Speaker 1: more because you stick about being overweight and being black whatever.
Speaker 1: That's the biggest thing for me is I think just
Speaker 1: people a lot of times putting their insecurities on me.
Speaker 1: Have you never thought? I know? I know my mind
Speaker 1: right now. My mind is blown. Don't get me wrong.
Speaker 1: When I'm walking the room, I don't care. I'm probably
Speaker 1: gonna be the biggest personality there. I'm gonna be the
Speaker 1: biggest everything there when I walk in a room. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I think what you want, but you can feel it
Speaker 1: sometimes you can feel that energy. I can tell you
Speaker 1: a flight attendant doesn't have to ask me if they
Speaker 1: need to see my seatbelt because I'm walking in with
Speaker 1: my own damn extender. About that wait a minute, you
Speaker 1: got Amazon, Amazon, come on here, and I needed my
Speaker 1: asset's a wide and I want to make sure they
Speaker 1: covered when I get on the plane. Yes, it's the
Speaker 1: extender for me. That's a good idea. I'm real body aware, right,
Speaker 1: don't play games with me asking me to see my
Speaker 1: dog on seatbelt, Bring me a beverage, man in a snake,
Speaker 1: bring me some cookies. We are absolutely delighted that you
Speaker 1: joined us today. I'm telling you I enjoyed you both,
Speaker 1: Vanity and a Lisa. Thank you so much for being
Speaker 1: with much. We got a schedule a date for that
Speaker 1: problem though. That's right, we love it. We got to
Speaker 1: virtual problems. Let's red tape of that prom date is
Speaker 1: a love it. We're going to take a short break
Speaker 1: right now, and when we return, we'll share our top
Speaker 1: five takeaways from this episode. Listen. Discussing this episode has
Speaker 1: been such a learning experience from me, so I'm excited
Speaker 1: to finally share our top five thoughts. I love the
Speaker 1: top five thoughts. This is part of the show where
Speaker 1: we speed through five thoughts slash takeaways from the episode.
Speaker 1: Let's fire them off. Number five, choose love for yourself
Speaker 1: always not Some of the not part of time every
Speaker 1: day always. Number four, it's not about weight, it's about health.
Speaker 1: There's so much more to it, as we discussed today. No,
Speaker 1: you know what, I you know what I always tell people,
Speaker 1: don't let the fat fool you. And that's it, am
Speaker 1: I right, that's the post and that's it. Don't let
Speaker 1: the fat fool right. Number three, start your body positivity
Speaker 1: journey right now every day. Don't wait. Love on yourself.
Speaker 1: I agree. Number two self talk is powerful. Yeah, what
Speaker 1: you tell yourself is important. What others have told you
Speaker 1: is important as well, And as we talked about with
Speaker 1: our guests, sometimes you may need to remove that from
Speaker 1: your mind. Get it out of there. So remember those
Speaker 1: things that actually matter to you. Hold onto those. And
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