Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
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Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Speaker 1: What arever the cases I want to hear from you.
Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're
Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help
Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and
Speaker 1: leave your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2: Ni Cheeky's, I want to remain anonymous. First of all,
Speaker 2: I want to say that I love you and your mom.
Speaker 2: Make sure we're same peace. You're such a doll and
Speaker 2: I had with everything that you do. You look great.
Speaker 2: I'm hoping to lose weight as you did. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Have a dilemma. What would you do if you know
Speaker 2: you're married with your husband. You guys been together for
Speaker 2: eight years and then you start to lose that connection,
Speaker 2: you start to fall out of love. You know, everything
Speaker 2: just became boring. How do you rekindle that. What do
Speaker 2: you recommend? What do you and Emilia do so you
Speaker 2: guys can keep up, you know, the flame going. I
Speaker 2: don't know. I'm lost. I don't know if I really
Speaker 2: want to continue this marriage. What advice can you give me?
Speaker 2: Thank you? Love you.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm going to respect the fact that you want
Speaker 1: to be anonymous. I get it, Okay, eight years. You know,
Speaker 1: my relationship with the media is fairly new. We just
Speaker 1: got married, like we've been together, like it's going to
Speaker 1: be four years soon. You know, I don't know what's
Speaker 1: going to happen when we are together eight years. I mean,
Speaker 1: I hope that we are still in love and still
Speaker 1: like super into each other. One thing that we told
Speaker 1: each other is always to communicate and to be honest.
Speaker 1: Like if I'm not feeling connected, we tell each other.
Speaker 1: I tell him straight up. I was like, hey, I
Speaker 1: feel disconnected from you, or he tells me, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: what can I do? What is it that you're missing?
Speaker 1: We actually had this conversation this morning. He's like, I
Speaker 1: haven't been here. He's been working and traveling a lot.
Speaker 1: He's like, I need a weekend with you. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: so what do you need to say? Just hug me.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, cool, Like it's a lot of communication.
Speaker 1: I think that you have been with this person for
Speaker 1: so long there is definitely room to grow. It all depends,
Speaker 1: like what is happening. It's hard to respond to like
Speaker 1: answer that question, but I think there is hope. There's
Speaker 1: hope because you've been with this person for a long time.
Speaker 1: There's there are things that you love about him. So
Speaker 1: definitely try to remember why you started dating this person,
Speaker 1: mayor and why did you decide to marry this person,
Speaker 1: and really try to rekindle that. You know, to like dates,
Speaker 1: date night is important, surprising him with the things that
Speaker 1: he likes, and or if he you're missing something, if
Speaker 1: he's not doing something for you, then you need to
Speaker 1: communicate that and try that. I feel like try until
Speaker 1: trying is no longer an option. People do fall out
Speaker 1: of love. That is something that is so scary to
Speaker 1: me too. But I think when you look at it
Speaker 1: as this is my companion. Because we change, we evolve,
Speaker 1: we're not attracted to the same things as we get older,
Speaker 1: so that's bound to happen. But I think when you
Speaker 1: fall in love with the person's soul and you know
Speaker 1: that you want this person with you forever. It's just
Speaker 1: all depends. Maybe you want something new. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like I need a little bit more information
Speaker 1: to be able to give you better advice, but definitely
Speaker 1: a communication. Really try to figure out what it is
Speaker 1: that missing and what he's missing as well, and if
Speaker 1: you really care about him. Maybe you're not in love,
Speaker 1: but you can fall in love again, like get to
Speaker 1: know each other again, because because there are different people
Speaker 1: from eight years ago, you know. So I wish I
Speaker 1: could give you better advice, But leave me another voice. No,
Speaker 1: let me know, give me more details. If you can,
Speaker 1: that way I can give you better advice. Okay, we're
Speaker 1: gonna move on to Celeste.
Speaker 3: Hey, Cheeky's. First of all, I wanted to tell you
Speaker 3: that I admire you so much and you motivate me
Speaker 3: on the daily. My question was how do you cope
Speaker 3: with infertility? I currently have a ten year old son
Speaker 3: and I haven't been able to get pregnant after him,
Speaker 3: and there's just some days that I just can't take
Speaker 3: the pain anymore. I really really want to have another baby,
Speaker 3: but I mean, if it's God's will that I don't.
Speaker 3: Then I guess I don't. But it's just some days
Speaker 3: are harder than others. So I just wanted to hear
Speaker 3: your advice and thank you.
Speaker 1: I love you, Oh Soles said, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: I love you too. Infertility, I know that that. Thank goodness,
Speaker 1: you have a baby already. That's a blessing because there's
Speaker 1: a lot of people that can't have children. At least
Speaker 1: you were able to have one. Now I understand that
Speaker 1: you want another baby. There are things that you can do.
Speaker 1: I've heard of acupuncture for infertility supplements. And I don't
Speaker 1: know how old you are, but I'm hoping and you
Speaker 1: sound young. I don't know, but I'm a little older.
Speaker 1: So for me, that's why I decided to do IVF
Speaker 1: because I wasn't sure when I was going to get pregnant,
Speaker 1: and I kind of wanted to do it naturally. And anyways,
Speaker 1: that's a whole other story. But how do you deal
Speaker 1: with it? I think for me personally, like if I
Speaker 1: if God decided that I wasn't meant to have a child,
Speaker 1: I would just say, okay, then that is his will.
Speaker 1: That is this is part of my journey and my
Speaker 1: story to tell I think because of my faith, i'd
Speaker 1: be able to cope with it a little better. I've
Speaker 1: been able to, but for sure not lose faith because
Speaker 1: I really do believe miracles happen. Go get check though,
Speaker 1: Go check your like your eggs count, and the not
Speaker 1: only the egg count, but how healthy your eggs are.
Speaker 1: There are certain things that you can drink or take
Speaker 1: should I say, to make sure that your eggs are
Speaker 1: as healthy as possible. It all depends on your age
Speaker 1: as well, but I think more than anything is that
Speaker 1: like doing everything that you can to make sure that
Speaker 1: your body's healthy to give birth. But yeah, and just
Speaker 1: pray a lot. I mean, I don't know, That's what
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 2: I cope.
Speaker 1: That's how I cope with everything. I pray and I
Speaker 1: meditate and I'm just like okay, and then it just
Speaker 1: makes you feel better. So hopefully that helps, and hopefully
Speaker 1: you're able to get pregnant and have another baby. But
Speaker 1: thank god you have one. That's a blessing in itself.
Speaker 1: Our next question comes from Elizabeth.
Speaker 4: Hi chi Geze.
Speaker 5: I love you and your family and your mother, and
Speaker 5: I love your good vibes that you've been sending out
Speaker 5: to the world. I wanted to see what your favorite
Speaker 5: type of wine was, and also I was kind of
Speaker 5: curious to know if you've ever either read or listened
Speaker 5: to the book Sacred Contracts. I think this is my
Speaker 5: third time listening to it, and for whatever reason, I
Speaker 5: just thought.
Speaker 4: Of you this time around. So I figured I just
Speaker 4: asked the question, and if you haven't read it, if
Speaker 4: you could, you know, listen to it. Maybe it's something
Speaker 4: you're interested in. Maybe not, but it did make me
Speaker 4: think of you.
Speaker 1: Okay, bye, Elizabeth, thank you so much for your question.
Speaker 1: I like it. Okay, so wine, I used to be
Speaker 1: a big wine drinker back in the days, like red wine,
Speaker 1: and I liked Merlau because I don't like sweet wine
Speaker 1: or too dry, so I feel like merlow is, like
Speaker 1: it's great. And then when I used to go to
Speaker 1: Olive Garden, I used to always ask for like the
Speaker 1: blush one. The pink one that they had was so good,
Speaker 1: but it was a little bit like too sweet. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm a tequila drinker. I want to get back into wine.
Speaker 1: I do. I will. So that that's the first part
Speaker 1: of your question, my favorite wine. The second part of
Speaker 1: your question was if I've ever read or heard the
Speaker 1: book Sacred Contracts. I have not, but I will definitely
Speaker 1: look into it because this morning I was thinking, I
Speaker 1: was like, I really need to find a new book
Speaker 1: to read. I like to read like two books at
Speaker 1: a time. I know, weird. I have one like for
Speaker 1: home and then one for the airplane when I travel.
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's I don't like to read the
Speaker 1: same Anyways, that's a whole other episode, but okay, I
Speaker 1: will do that, Elizabeth. The next question comes from another
Speaker 1: anonymous listener.
Speaker 6: All right, let's see, Hey, Cheeky's so, I want to
Speaker 6: remain anonymous for this, but if you want to put
Speaker 6: a face to this message, I guess he can ask
Speaker 6: behind the scenes because we follow each other on Instagram.
Speaker 6: So straight to the point, I'm currently dealing with ad
Speaker 6: l Man d L meaning you know, downlow and out
Speaker 6: off the closet, very straight passing. And when we first
Speaker 6: started talking last year, I already knew what it was,
Speaker 6: you know, just sex. But a couple of things transpired
Speaker 6: with them this year to where I felt like we're
Speaker 6: progressing into you know, you know, something in the city
Speaker 6: that he's staying in at the moment he is dating
Speaker 6: and the girlfriend now she read our messages and you know,
Speaker 6: he's new to her, so I really don't like she's
Speaker 6: just like, you know there. But I've been knowing him
Speaker 6: and I just felt like, should I keep talking to him?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 6: Is it something I should fight for or leave alone?
Speaker 6: Because you know, dating right now, especially in the gear road,
Speaker 6: is very superficial. So I'm like, at this point, I'm
Speaker 6: just gonna want to take what I can, you know,
Speaker 6: because it's been a while since I've talked to somebody
Speaker 6: in this way and I'm kind of bored. But I
Speaker 6: know it definitely deserves better. But should I keep tagging
Speaker 6: along with the antics or trying to move on and
Speaker 6: you know, not talk to nobody. I guess.
Speaker 1: Papasito, you already know the answer. And you know what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you. If you know me and we
Speaker 1: follow each other on Instagram, you know what I'm about.
Speaker 1: If you listen to my podcast, you know what I'm about.
Speaker 1: I think that you're wasting your time. Straight up, you're
Speaker 1: wasting your time. This guy is straight ish, he's in
Speaker 1: the closet. He is not ever going to be able
Speaker 1: to give you the place that you deserve because he
Speaker 1: is not comfortable yet with his own sexuality. Once he
Speaker 1: comes out, hopefully he does and says, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm bisexual. Great, then maybe you have a chance. But
Speaker 1: he's still talking to girls on the side, like he's
Speaker 1: very confused, and you're gonna get all wrapped up in
Speaker 1: this confusion of his and you're only gonna end up hurt.
Speaker 1: And it's not fair to this girl. It's not fair
Speaker 1: to you. It's not good karma for you knowing that
Speaker 1: this is his truth and you're okaying it, like you
Speaker 1: are not giving yourself your place and you are lowering
Speaker 1: your standard so much and as much as it's gonna hurt,
Speaker 1: I would say, bang it out one last time if
Speaker 1: you want just to get it out of your freaking system,
Speaker 1: bang it out real good and then block them and
Speaker 1: go find another penis to sit on, because I just
Speaker 1: sorry if that sounds really like harsh, but like you
Speaker 1: can't like get a vibrator, like do something, love yourself
Speaker 1: enough to say I need to walk away from this
Speaker 1: because I'm not getting what I want and I deserve
Speaker 1: out of this. If you don't give yourself your place,
Speaker 1: no one else will. And this guy seems confused, so jess,
Speaker 1: you gotta let him be confused on his own and
Speaker 1: not get involved, because someone's gonna get hurt for sure,
Speaker 1: and I hope it's not you. So that is my advice.
Speaker 1: And wow, these are really good questions, guys, great questions,
Speaker 1: different questions. I love that. This is why I love
Speaker 1: Dear Cheekys, and I hope and pray that you guys
Speaker 1: enjoy it as much as I do. To be able
Speaker 1: to listen to you guys and believe me, everything that
Speaker 1: I tell you, I would tell my sister, I would
Speaker 1: tell a friend. I am truly giving you my best advice.
Speaker 1: And sometimes I don't have advice. I sometimes I'm like,
Speaker 1: I have no idea, But I just want you guys
Speaker 1: to know that I care and that I'm here and
Speaker 1: that if you have a question, it could be about anything.
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