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Speaker 2: I discovered a family secret after I learned about my

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Speaker 1: Bloody hell, my mom is sickle cell.

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Speaker 2: So a few times I have donated my blood tour.

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Speaker 2: I know my mom's blood type is A because I

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Speaker 2: donate to her. And I know my blood type is oh,

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Speaker 2: because well I donate. That's sick, nice universal donor. Today,

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Speaker 2: I just went to donate blood with my dad just

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Speaker 2: because and I found out his blood type is A B. Cool.

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Speaker 2: Uh oh, Punnett Squares says, that's not.

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Speaker 1: Your dad really, yeah, Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: At first everything was all right. Then I started thinking

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Speaker 2: about what I learned in Biology of Piece, like mister

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Speaker 2: freaking I don't know, mister Clark said that that can't happen.

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Speaker 2: Is my dad?

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Speaker 1: Is that really?

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Speaker 2: My god?

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Speaker 1: Wow, the one time you paid attention in science class,

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Speaker 1: it's ruining your family and.

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Speaker 2: That's awesome for everyone. Don't pay attention. By the way,

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Speaker 2: this comes from Flashy Foot thirty two seventy seven, and

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Speaker 2: if you want to spend your own stories curdly our

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Speaker 2: slash okay, storytime severed it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and

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Speaker 2: we're here to give good advice, goofy, but we don't

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Speaker 2: have all the answers. We really know what we'd do,

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Speaker 2: so let us know what you would do in the comments,

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Speaker 2: and OP says in high school, I learned that if

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Speaker 2: you have a B type blood, then you cannot have

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Speaker 2: a child with OH blood. I was confused for a minute,

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Speaker 2: but I just let it go because what the heck?

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Speaker 2: I started thinking about it again and I looked it up.

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Speaker 2: It says a person who's genetic type is either AA

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Speaker 2: or AOH will have blood type A, those with genetic

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Speaker 2: type B B or BO will have blood type B,

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Speaker 2: and only those with genetic type OOH will have blood

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Speaker 2: type OH. A child with type OH blood can have

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Speaker 2: parents with type A, type B or type OH blood,

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Speaker 2: but not type AB.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's forget about this and look at the eyes.

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Speaker 1: Let's just do the eye one. The blood one might

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Speaker 1: not count in this case.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's probably fine, right, is my dad really my dad?

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Speaker 2: I'm really thinking about this and I want to ask

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Speaker 2: my mom, But what good would it bring to start

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Speaker 2: some mess with them if I do not know for sure?

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Speaker 2: Did my mom cheat on my dad? Am I adopted?

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Speaker 2: Does my dad know? It's all so confusing. I hope

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Speaker 2: I'm just wrong and paranoid, but I'm really thinking about this.

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Speaker 2: I kind of want to ask my mom about it,

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Speaker 2: but I don't want her to get mad. And we've

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Speaker 2: got an update two weeks later. What are you doing?

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Speaker 2: I know what I'm doing, but I want to hear

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Speaker 2: what you're doing.

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Speaker 1: Ignoring it?

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Speaker 2: Okay, you're ignoring I.

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Speaker 1: Mean that would be Is life nice? How much does

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Speaker 1: your dad pay for a lot? We're ignoring it?

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Speaker 2: Never think about it again. I was gonna say, if

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Speaker 2: you want to make sure before you ask your mom,

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Speaker 2: maybe a little dnatist, maybe a little maybe a little family

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Speaker 2: DNA test you see how everyone real is.

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Speaker 1: Because your mom does have sickle cell it might be

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Speaker 1: good to know who your biological father is, so you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, medical things you would want to know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Life's good. If life is good, I

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Speaker 2: How good is life?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Scale one to ten and then how much do you

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Speaker 2: want to know scale one's ten and then see where

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Speaker 1: Is exactly, and then you do the difference, and that's

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Speaker 2: Update two weeks later. Oh boy, I waited a couple

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Speaker 2: her when my dad was not there. No, I said

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Speaker 2: something like, Mama, I took a blood test with daddy

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're going into science, all right, all right.

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Speaker 2: I did not say that specifically, but something along those lines.

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Speaker 2: You didn't say, Mama, I took a blood bad blood

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Speaker 1: Didn't talk how you were four?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I swear she just looked at me for like

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Speaker 2: five minutes. Then it's like she fixed her mouth to

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Speaker 2: say an excuse, but just told me the truth. She

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Speaker 2: said her and my daddy were together, but my dad

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Speaker 2: was messing with a lot of other women, so she

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Speaker 2: they could. The other man decided to leave, and my

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Speaker 2: dad stepped up. Oh wow, your dad rare w from

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's go. Honestly, I'm forgetting that he cheated.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, damn, that was really cool of you.

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Speaker 1: Kind of it makes you know you're even now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess you both cheat on Jathern. When my

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Speaker 2: my mom got pregnant, and I've just been each other's

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Speaker 2: hurt about it because my life is basically a lie.

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Speaker 2: Not really, but they never planned on telling me. Hit

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Speaker 2: this from me, and I'm the only child my daddy

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Speaker 2: has who really doesn't even have his DNA dnah mena,

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Speaker 2: it doesn't matter this context.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's your dad. This is the first story

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Speaker 1: where I don't really care if you meet the barrio dad,

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Speaker 1: if this were the thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, he left, he left.

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Speaker 1: He left you. Your parents were going through this weird

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Speaker 1: tiff of kind of getting back at one another. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: they figured it out. They figured out it wasn't right

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Speaker 1: for him. Now they got you, dude, So you know, let.

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Speaker 2: The grown up problems be grown up problems. And it

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Speaker 2: seems like you have two people that love you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you could maybe get some college tuition out

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Speaker 2: True, unless he, like said, I don't want anything to

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Speaker 2: you know, he might have signed with his parenting rights

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Speaker 2: or something. But we got a little bit left. I

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Speaker 2: guess not telling me was there a way of protecting me,

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Speaker 2: But it just opened a lot of other doors.

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Speaker 1: I love my dad, That's what it says everyone.

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Speaker 2: I'm not changing it, guys still, and I wanted to

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Speaker 2: reach out to the other man when my mom told me,

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Speaker 2: but not so much anymore. My dad is my dad,

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Speaker 2: and I love him the same, maybe even more. I'm

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Speaker 2: glad my dad chose to be here for me and

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Speaker 2: raise me as his own. I really don't know if

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Speaker 2: I am the other man's child biologically well, science says

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Speaker 2: you are. Yeah, your blood says you are, and I

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Speaker 2: don't care to find out. I'm happy I finally know

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Speaker 2: my father's twin. Like my other siblings. I am joking well,

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Speaker 2: but thank you for all the nice replies, advice, and

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Speaker 2: suggestions on my original post. It means a lot. And

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Speaker 2: that's the end of the story.

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Speaker 1: I'm kind of curious what other people think about this,

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Speaker 1: about what like, if you're watching, would you care to

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Speaker 2: Really, because it seems like we already you know, have

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Speaker 2: one good dad. Yeah, and you know, it feels like

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Speaker 2: Opie basically knows that this guy is probably their father,

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Speaker 2: but doesn't feel any need to necessarily look into that person.

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Speaker 1: It'd be a different story if your mom looked up

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, and then I would be like, Okay, I

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Speaker 1: But this is also your life. Yeah, I'm just reading

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Speaker 1: about it, so I've only read eight hundred words.

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Speaker 2: Of your life, so I don't know too much. I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but based off that, I wouldn't bother same.

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Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story. And we got

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Speaker 2: another one coming right up.

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Speaker 1: I took a DNA test out of curiosity and found

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Speaker 1: out my dad is not my father.

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Speaker 2: Well we all know what curiosity did to the cat. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I just received my ancestry DNA results today and my

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Speaker 1: dad is not my dad. I did not see this coming.

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Speaker 1: This is going to be long, mostly because I want

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Speaker 2: Yeah. No, he said, this is a log of everything

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Speaker 1: God, I'm sorry, what is the equivalent of this in

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Speaker 1: like medieval times? Uh? Like, I'm putting this on a

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Speaker 2: It's like when you go to the town hall and

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Speaker 2: you're like a proclamation. I've got to say something.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, ok ye ye yeah that's what it feels like. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I like it all right. This basically turned into my

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Speaker 2: I'm buckled.

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Speaker 1: Click click. By the way, this comes from a Croc

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Speaker 1: seven And if you want some of your old stories,

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Speaker 1: you know exactly where to go. I'm Riley, I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna read this DNA story. Goofily, if you

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Speaker 1: love reading those? Here we go, everyone, we are baby.

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Speaker 1: This is a big one. Okay. My parents were twenty

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Speaker 1: was born for substance stuff. But when he got out,

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Speaker 1: family for a while. I feel you there, Opie.

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Speaker 2: Nice for a while, only for a while.

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Speaker 1: My mom had some mental health problems that resulted in

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Speaker 1: my mistreatment and our abandonment. When I was eleven. Oh,

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Speaker 1: my dad went to court to fight for custody of

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Speaker 1: me against her parents, my grandparents, whom I loved, but

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Speaker 1: I wanted to stay with my dad and he wanted

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Speaker 1: to keep me. My dad wasn't the best parent growing up,

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Speaker 1: but he was a cool dad, and I managed to

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Speaker 2: Okay, he's like, yeah, you can get a tattoo. That's

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Speaker 2: freaking sick and hope. He's like, I'm only twelve years old.

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Speaker 1: HEOPI got me a beer in Get you one two.

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Speaker 2: I'm a cool dad.

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Speaker 1: When I was a teenager, I was a mental chick

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Speaker 1: with a cool dad and we went to a lot

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Speaker 1: No one was gonna take care of Eddie. So his

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Speaker 2: He loved Eddie and your.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but every one of those times he loved Eddie.

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Speaker 1: Anyway? When I got a bit older, I became friends

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Speaker 2: She's Mexican two point zero.

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Speaker 1: Actually, they come with talkies.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they love talkies.

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Speaker 1: I wanted my mom's parents' side separate because I wanted

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Speaker 1: I think they were cousins. I courted the grandpa and

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Speaker 1: I feel like, looking through something like this, you should

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this feels like a bigger deal. But maybe op,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. It's like, all right, I'm gonna sit down

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Speaker 2: It's coming today. I'm just waiting.

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Speaker 1: I easily recognized a bunch of Hispanic surnames from my

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Speaker 1: of curiosity. A top match with someone named LG with

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Speaker 1: three four hundred and forty nine cente Morgan's who is

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Speaker 2: Center Morgan is a unit of measurement for genetic linkage

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Speaker 2: and recombination frequency, often used in genealogy to define the

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Speaker 2: one million base pairs in humans. So how many of them.

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Speaker 1: Three thousand, four hundred and forty nine three three four

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Speaker 2: That oh, Okay, so it just means that you are

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that means it could either be their parent or child. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this person doesn't have a tree though. They're managed by

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Speaker 2: I think Probably they're not on that website, like you know,

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Speaker 2: if they used ancestry.

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Speaker 1: No, maybe they're not.

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure my assumption.

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Speaker 1: What they're managed by someone else are gxxx, whom I

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Speaker 1: share one thousand, six hundred and twenty six cinem morgans

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Speaker 1: and whose parent or child is also LG's, making them

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Speaker 1: my half sibling or grandparents.

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Speaker 2: Ooh interesting.

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Speaker 1: This didn't even seem possible and felt like a mix

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Speaker 2: Well, it's gonna make your health worse, probably to learn

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Speaker 1: I told her I got my ancestry results back and

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Speaker 1: explain some things to me. So your father in LG

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Speaker 2: I didn't know. I actually had a summer where I

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Speaker 2: was with three men, and now I'm in a hotel

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Speaker 2: in Greece. No, not that again, Mama Mia.

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Speaker 1: Mama Mia goes to Mexico. She was shocked. It took

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Speaker 1: a minute to sink in. She said, it says that

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Speaker 1: I came to that conclusion. If I had tested on

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Speaker 1: and it probably would have been harder to fin find

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Speaker 1: what's the last name that starts with G. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: work Garcia Garcia. Oh well, unless he's not Hispanic?

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Speaker 2: I did. I did just kind of infer Yeah, he

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Speaker 2: might not be.

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Speaker 1: Her mom's a Spanic. Yeah, Oh cool, Garcia.

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Speaker 2: We'll see.

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Speaker 1: I just hate saying gxxxx.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we can call him Garcia, all right?

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Speaker 1: Is Garcia until proven other race till prison the diverse.

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Speaker 1: So to the Garcia family, she told me his name

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Speaker 1: and said he's from around town. She said she's never

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Speaker 1: never thought LG could be my father. Throughout her teenage years,

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Speaker 2: He's like, AH, I didn't really care about the cheating

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Speaker 2: they were always getting into in shenanigans.

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Speaker 1: Ah. She cried and said she was sorry a lot,

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Speaker 1: I told her it's okay, it's over and done with

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Speaker 2: Yeah, half of the grave.

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Speaker 1: She asked me what I wanted to do, and I

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Speaker 2: I don't think he's like it's okay if they find out.

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Speaker 1: I think okay. The hardest part we'll be telling my dad.

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Speaker 1: I wish I could tell him in person and hug

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Speaker 1: really his daughter can only make things worse. She already

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Speaker 1: My blind uncle, who I really have been close with,

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Speaker 1: feel that way, Probably not, But I feel weird and

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Speaker 1: that time I spent researching his side of the family

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Speaker 1: thought those were my people. My last name shouldn't be

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Speaker 1: my last name at all. It should be something totally

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Speaker 1: know who that is. It's like being a stranger to yourself.

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Speaker 1: When I look in the mirror, I literally don't know

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Speaker 1: Looks a lot like him though, now that they're both

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Speaker 1: What what did the people do in the medieval Toms

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Speaker 2: I think they just like ignored them. Really yeah, if

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: So whenever David defeated Goliath, yeah, he went up to

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Speaker 1: King Saul. I think it's King Saul. King Saul was like, hey,

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Speaker 1: who who's your dad, Like basically, who's your friend? And

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Speaker 1: David could have done two things. He could own one

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Speaker 1: said you're my dad, and then he would have been like,

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Speaker 1: oh see my lidigage defeated the goliath. Or he could

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Speaker 1: have been like, I come from the family of Jesse, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: which would have been like, you're not my dad and

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna give glory to you the king.

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Speaker 2: Sure.

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Speaker 1: So that's that's what this feels like, You've already been

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Speaker 2: I agree, well, I feel like going off of that

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Speaker 2: Opie is saying, oh, I spent all this time looking

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Speaker 2: want to you know where you came from biologically, that's

442
00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:23,159
Speaker 2: you're right, and you can look into that and you

443
00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,840
Speaker 2: can do the research, but you know, you still have

444
00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:27,960
Speaker 2: this the connection that you have with his side of

445
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,040
Speaker 2: the family is not broken because of this.

446
00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:34,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. Ugh. So I stalked LG's Facebook to get

447
00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:36,840
Speaker 1: a good look at him and his daughter, and she

448
00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:39,920
Speaker 1: kind of looks like me when I was young, at

449
00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 1: my birth childhood, graduations, and even when I was getting

450
00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:46,240
Speaker 1: DNA testing done, there was never any hint for my

451
00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:49,720
Speaker 1: mom that my dad might not be my biological father.

452
00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:54,560
Speaker 1: So I never thought this was possible. Sophia, the impossible

453
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,399
Speaker 1: has happened. What this whole story?

454
00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:02,400
Speaker 2: Oh it's impossible. Look at you, GALLOPI breaking breaking the rules.

455
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 1: We got an update. Oh it looks like we might

456
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:09,320
Speaker 1: be contacting LG soon Woo.

457
00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:14,680
Speaker 2: Yeah. Really, I honestly think I think should tell her

458
00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:17,439
Speaker 2: dad the truth, just so that you can, you know,

459
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 2: you don't have that weighing on you. You get it

460
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,480
Speaker 2: out of the way. And if anyone in his I mean,

461
00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 2: I would hope that he is supportive of you, because

462
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:27,239
Speaker 2: it seems like he has been, And I hope that

463
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:29,520
Speaker 2: you know, if there is anyone who makes a fuss

464
00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:32,080
Speaker 2: on his side, he shuts them up. But I think

465
00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:36,719
Speaker 2: that it's still understandable that you would want to know where,

466
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 2: you know, who the person is that gave you half

467
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:40,159
Speaker 2: your DNA.

468
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:40,880
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

469
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:43,919
Speaker 2: I think that's very reasonable, and it just kind of

470
00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:46,560
Speaker 2: broadens your family. You have more people in your family

471
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:47,560
Speaker 2: now exactly.

472
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 1: That's always fun. I like that it makes thanksgivings more interesting.

473
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 2: Oh, absolutely massed potatoes.

474
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:58,200
Speaker 1: That's all. For having more people just means more mashed potato.

475
00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 2: Mass potatoes, more more pie. Oh man, I'm hungry. I

476
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 2: want bub goodbye.

477
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:10,439
Speaker 1: Oh that'd be great, please, I'd go. Update. Told my

478
00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:16,800
Speaker 1: mom to contact LG in person. Woo. Once he logs

479
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 1: on and sees that I'm his daughter, I'll probably delete

480
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:23,920
Speaker 1: or make my ancestry DNA private. I still don't know

481
00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,760
Speaker 1: what to do or how to tell my dad.

482
00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:27,919
Speaker 2: Oh man.

483
00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:32,240
Speaker 1: Updates will be forthcoming. Update two. My mom visited LG's

484
00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 1: business to tell him about my DNA discovery. She showed

485
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:39,879
Speaker 1: him my screenshots and a cinem Morgan chart as proof

486
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:44,360
Speaker 1: since it's not his account. Apparently, he was really shocked

487
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 1: and happy and surprised, but happy, he cried. She told

488
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 1: him I might want to talk to him about her

489
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 1: family history and medical information and got a little bit

490
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: of information out of him in those areas. So when

491
00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 1: you get around fifty year left and he's gonna give out, Yeah,

492
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,160
Speaker 1: And when you hit around sixty, your left toe noel

493
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:07,880
Speaker 1: on your right side of yeah, just falls off. Happening

494
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:09,080
Speaker 1: to my great grandpa.

495
00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it skips a generation sometimes sometimes, so excuse me.

496
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 1: She showed him pictures of me and told him about me.

497
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,879
Speaker 1: He said he'll definitely keep it quiet around town and

498
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 1: that he's not sure yet how he'll tell his wife.

499
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,359
Speaker 1: So I guess it went really well and the easy

500
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 1: part is over.

501
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:31,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, huh, that went really well. Yeah, it seems like

502
00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:33,879
Speaker 2: this guy wants to be in your life. You know,

503
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 2: when we had the previous story that that other dad

504
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 2: didn't really care at all, But it seems like this

505
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,440
Speaker 2: you have two Now you have two dads who both

506
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 2: love you.

507
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's awesome. He cried of happiness. Yeah, hold on,

508
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: people cry of sadness when this information hits him.

509
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 2: They're like, no, I can't know.

510
00:23:54,200 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 1: It's crazy. You'll never which one, which one's worse. No, not, okay,

511
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 1: I just got thought, you'll never not know if you

512
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 1: have a secret kid out there. What Like, there are

513
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 1: very slim possibilities that you'll be like, oh my gosh,

514
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 1: it's a secret kid out there that's mine.

515
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 2: Because I would have had to give birth to my child.

516
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 1: You'd have to be conscious for nine months, yeah, or

517
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 1: you'd have to not be unconscious for nine months, yeah,

518
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 1: which those are slim possibilities. Yeah, but like you know

519
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:27,399
Speaker 1: what I'm saying.

520
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 2: I'm pretty good. I'm pretty good on that set.

521
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, yeah, that's my kid. I know that

522
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 1: for sure, my kid.

523
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:34,360
Speaker 2: No worry's there.

524
00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 1: Update three. LG told his wife That same evening, she

525
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 1: called my mom and asked her a lot of questions.

526
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 1: She was mad my mom never suspected anything and was

527
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: mad that LG and his daughter were deprived of a

528
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 1: relationship with me. She requested me on Facebook, but has

529
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 1: it said anything yet. I know it's going to be

530
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 1: harder to keep this a secret now, as we have

531
00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:58,360
Speaker 1: quite a few friends in common. I plan to call

532
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:01,480
Speaker 1: my dad sometime on March second, and I don't want

533
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 1: him to find out from someone else up. Day four,

534
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 1: called my dad around eleven am and asked if he

535
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 1: was alone because I had something important to tell him.

536
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 1: I told him I had taken a DNA test from

537
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:17,679
Speaker 1: ancestry dot com and that he was not my biological father,

538
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 1: and then I cried. He said, oh, honey, I thought

539
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,639
Speaker 1: I was. He said he loves me and it doesn't

540
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: change anything. I said, I know, and I hoped. It

541
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,719
Speaker 1: kind of came around to who it was, and I

542
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 1: said I had matches with LG and his family, and

543
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: he said, I can see that, but he also thought

544
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,120
Speaker 1: it was one of a couple. It could be implying

545
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 1: my mom had slept around and that he and my

546
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: mom had turbulent times back then. Oh so turbulent times.

547
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: So it seems like maybe he thought this whole time

548
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:56,160
Speaker 2: that it could have been someone else.

549
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,200
Speaker 1: Oh I see, but he like loved.

550
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 2: Op anyway, and you know, wanted to help when he

551
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 2: got out of prison. That's how I'm reading that.

552
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, because we.

553
00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 2: Know for sure it's LG now.

554
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:13,880
Speaker 1: So we stuck around. Hmmm hmmm. He said he's not

555
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:17,200
Speaker 1: going to tell his family members like my grandparents obviously,

556
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 1: and he's probably not going to tell his girlfriend either.

557
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 1: He said he's more worried about me and wanted to

558
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 1: make sure I was okay. As far as he's concerned,

559
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:30,200
Speaker 1: this doesn't change a dang thing. H That's awesome, what dude,

560
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 1: w dad?

561
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, excellent dad, Maybe not so good partner. We should

562
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 2: probably tell our girlfriend that we have that our child,

563
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,679
Speaker 2: our only child, is not our child, and if we

564
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 2: feel like we can't do that, then maybe that's not

565
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 2: the girl for us.

566
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: It seems like he's giving it some breathing room right now.

567
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, hopefully that's the answer, and not. I'm just never

568
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 2: she doesn't need to know.

569
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's a blabber math. He said other things too,

570
00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:58,880
Speaker 1: but I can't think of it right now because I'm

571
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,399
Speaker 1: crying and I have. Aside from the missing fifty percent

572
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: of my identity problem, the other difficult parts are feeling

573
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: sad and frustrated that my mom won't stop crying about

574
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 1: this ruining my life, and feeling sad for my dad,

575
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 1: who unknowingly raised and loved a child who wasn't biologically his.

576
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: I'm aware and grateful that my situation has turned out

577
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 1: a lot more pleasant than it could have been. We

578
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 1: got an up day five.

579
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 2: They just keep coming up.

580
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:28,080
Speaker 1: Day five, I decided to message Elg's wife on Facebook.

581
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 1: In summary, I told her that my dad now knew

582
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: he wasn't my biological father, that they can tell their

583
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: immediate family, but I mostly want to keep this private,

584
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 1: that I am willing to talk to them and everything,

585
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 1: and that I am having a bit of a hard

586
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:45,160
Speaker 1: time with this. And also, if everyone's confused, why did

587
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: she message LG's wife and I LG back where I'm from,

588
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 1: not a lot of husbands have Facebook. They just kind

589
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 1: of are you not in front with their wife's Facebook.

590
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:57,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like I couldn't contact LG. So you're

591
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 2: my go between.

592
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 1: Like that's how my parents are. My dad's a Facebook,

593
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 1: and it's just sort of like it's Patsy's Facebook. But

594
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:05,399
Speaker 1: if you want to get a hold of Sid, yeah,

595
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 1: go to Patsy's Facebook.

596
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 2: I had some like older uncles and aunts like back

597
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,719
Speaker 2: in the day who just had one like phone number,

598
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 2: and I was like, you texted that phone number and

599
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 2: it was like, you know missus as mister.

600
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just both of them. Yeah, that's all it runs. Yeah,

601
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: like a like a landline.

602
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:25,400
Speaker 2: I don't know.

603
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 1: I think that's what it might have been.

604
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 2: But you could text it.

605
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:31,960
Speaker 1: Oh m m hm hmmm.

606
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 2: I don't know.

607
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: Did they respond yeah, Sharon minutes, I don't know. She

608
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: gave me her phone number and asked if I could

609
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 1: call them. I did, and she said her LG and

610
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 1: their daughter were all together on the phone. We talked

611
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 1: with the wife mostly talking. I think she was feeling

612
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,479
Speaker 1: better about the whole thing after hearing my voice. We

613
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 1: talked a bit about our lives and physical traits, and

614
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 1: what we have in common. She said that they want

615
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 1: me in their lives, and I'm well come to call

616
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 1: or come over to their house anytime. They live two

617
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 1: to three blocks away from my dad. By the way.

618
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 2: Oh wow, wow, I'm assuming you live in a fairly

619
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 2: small town. But wow, your dad lived two to Your

620
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 2: biological dad lived two to three blocks away from you

621
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 2: this whole time.

622
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 1: Your mom didn't have to go far. Dang gosh. I'm

623
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 1: going to conclude this. I've spoken to l G again

624
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 1: and they seem like a really nice family who are

625
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 1: welcoming me with open arms. So on that front, it's

626
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 1: all good. Yes, what a relief. This is probably the

627
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 1: best case scenario.

628
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you get three parents, now you get you get

629
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 2: you just continue to expand your family.

630
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 1: And your your third new parent isn't that far away

631
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: from your second parents.

632
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't have to drive anywhere. It's great.

633
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 1: It's all around the block. Hey, I'm gonna go see

634
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: new dad.

635
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 2: Walking over, walking over to see new dad.

636
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,959
Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley, Your's favorite southern bale. We're going

637
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 1: to get back to these stories, but here's three minutes

638
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,200
Speaker 1: worth of thats from our sponsors. I'll probably find time

639
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 1: to speak to a therapist because I still need to

640
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:14,280
Speaker 1: deal with things internally and with my mother, who feels

641
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 1: really upset that she has ruined my life by doing

642
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,479
Speaker 1: something thirty years ago. I also need to deal with

643
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 1: things with my father, because although he raised me and

644
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: we bonded when I was a teenager, I have a

645
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 1: lot of damage from the things I was exposed to,

646
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 1: and I haven't had a close relationship with him since

647
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 1: I moved out for college at eighteen. Really, since this

648
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 1: is the truth, I'm glad I know, but I wish

649
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: it never happened so I didn't have to fill any

650
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 1: of this. Deal with the internal things, but the external

651
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: things look pretty great from here.

652
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like everything is going your way.

653
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,480
Speaker 1: Imagine learning you have a third parents.

654
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then it just goes like perfectly.

655
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 1: I live right around the corner from you. Pretty sick

656
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:56,400
Speaker 1: would be.

657
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 2: Nice, would be a lot to, you know, deal with.

658
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: I would have a pretty hard time with that.

659
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 2: That'd be a lot to take in.

660
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: It would make sense why I'm stopped at six foot.

661
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I knew I got taller.

662
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 1: It's because my dad wasn't really my dad.

663
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 2: I've seen I was about to say you look too

664
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 2: much like him. But that's the end of that story,

665
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 2: and we've got another one coming right up. I joke

666
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 2: to my mother about the name she gave me. She

667
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: hasn't stopped sobbing.

668
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: Since Why did you make her cry?

669
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 2: My first name, Waverley is the street my mom grew

670
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 2: up on. It's not the place she grew up on.

671
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 2: My middle name is where I was conceived. My last

672
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 2: name is a noun. It feels like a mad lip.

673
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 2: I've never felt any strong way towards my name, other

674
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 2: than wishing I had a girlier name when I was

675
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: a kid. But I've always felt a little frustrated at

676
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 2: the fact that my mom named me like one of

677
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 2: those security question scams on Facebook. My siblings all were

678
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 2: named a bit more normally. No, by the way this

679
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,480
Speaker 2: comes from, it's Waverley, okay, And if you want to

680
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 2: spit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

681
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 2: story time subvered it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we're

682
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 2: here to give good advice. Gooflee. But we don't have

683
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 2: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, So

684
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: let us know what you would do in the comments.

685
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 2: So op's name is Waverly, place she was conceived and

686
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 2: a noun. I'm gonna guess Waverly SINAI apple.

687
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: Where's a noun. I'm thinking of a verb last name,

688
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 1: not even a noun. Oh my gosh, Okay, I'm thinking

689
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:30,479
Speaker 1: Waverley CanCon moose.

690
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 2: Okay, I see, I was doing like the hospital, but

691
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 2: that also she could have meant the actual place.

692
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 1: So do you know anybody's name that is where their

693
00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: parents were conceived?

694
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 2: No? I do? Oh wait did you say's conceived? Oh? Wave,

695
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 2: it was conceived, I thought, I thought. I don't know

696
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 2: why my brain read born.

697
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 1: No, no, no conceived.

698
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 2: Okay, wait, yeah that makes sense. They were conceived, So

699
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 2: then's the spicy sleep and cedars on it. Okay, wait,

700
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 2: can'tkub makes a lot more sense. But I'm changing mine.

701
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 2: I'm changing one, so it's Waverley Bora Bora computer. There

702
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 2: you go, that's your name. Anyways. My sister is pregnant

703
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 2: and didn't want a baby shower, so we had a

704
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 2: nice dinner for three days ago. Instead, we got onto

705
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 2: the topic of names, and my family starts giving their

706
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 2: input and I tell her you could always take mom's

707
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 2: approach and just do a madlib. My sister laughs, and

708
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 2: my mom throws herself onto the table and burst in.

709
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: To dare you did this to her? She can make

710
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 1: a joke about this.

711
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,479
Speaker 2: That's crazy, that's crazy. You literally go you can do

712
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 2: the mad libs? She goes, Ah, girl, we're in a restaurant.

713
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 1: I think, control yourself. I mean, every time someone says

714
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 1: my name, you might hear auto parts after it.

715
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do. I just in my head, I always

716
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 2: hear it.

717
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 1: Right.

718
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 2: She starts wailing about her She didn't know I hated

719
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 2: my name so much, How awful she is as a parent. Oh,

720
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 2: I should just change my name and be done with her.

721
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 2: My simply And I cansole her, or try to, and

722
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 2: after like twenty minutes with no success, my sister tells

723
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 2: me I should leave so I don't upset her anymore.

724
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,320
Speaker 2: I tell my mom to leave. Like what, you laughed

725
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 2: at this? You laughed at that?

726
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 1: It is Waverley's fault. How dare you?

727
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:24,240
Speaker 2: Waverly? Ken Coon Moose, my boyfriend together for three years,

728
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,440
Speaker 2: is fuming the whole way home, saying I knew that

729
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:28,760
Speaker 2: would upset her and I put him in an awkward spot.

730
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 2: How has he put in an awkward spot. Why is

731
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:31,839
Speaker 2: everyone blaming you?

732
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 1: Dude? You were being hilarious.

733
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 2: You can also make jokes like why is your mom

734
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 2: so sensitive?

735
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 1: I don't think that since of Hubert does not run

736
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 1: in the family.

737
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 2: Apparently he's been frustrated with me since my sister also

738
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 2: says I did it on purpose to upset her. We've

739
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 2: always had a rocky relationship, and then I ruined her

740
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 2: dinner because I was jealous of her for having a baby.

741
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 1: I'm not Oh man, oh, this is.

742
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 2: This is a lot. Everyone's really hating on e opie.

743
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,760
Speaker 1: This is way worse than bombing in front of an audience.

744
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 2: Yeahs as it in front of your family.

745
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 1: Aspiring comic. I would rather bomb yeah in front of

746
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 1: fifty audiences before doing.

747
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 2: This, derailing an entire family evening and then everyone is

748
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 2: mad at you. My other siblings have stayed mostly out

749
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 2: of it, but told me to apologize to her mom,

750
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:20,800
Speaker 2: which I did. I called and told her how sorry

751
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 2: I was and that I really did like my name.

752
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 2: She starts saying I don't need a lie despair an

753
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 2: old woman's feelings, and that she should be apologizing to

754
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:34,359
Speaker 2: me for saddling me with such a burden, girl, Get

755
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 2: it together. I tried some more, but she keept wallowing.

756
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:40,800
Speaker 2: Ever since, she's been making three to four Facebook posts

757
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 2: per day about how she's a bad mom and grateful

758
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 2: that her children still love her despite all her failures.

759
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:49,840
Speaker 2: My family has started reaching out, trying to be sure

760
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 2: everything is okay.

761
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,839
Speaker 1: What the actual f I didn't mean.

762
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 2: To say it maliciously. I genuinely harbor no ill will

763
00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 2: towards my mother. I feel like everything is spiraled out

764
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 2: of control, and I feel like this is some weird

765
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 2: revenge thing she's trying to do. But was I actually

766
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 2: mean enough to deserve the revenge? Was I really that

767
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 2: out of line? Am I the ale for saying my

768
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 2: mom name me like a mad libs? And there's an update?

769
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 2: But why do you think Riley?

770
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: As a comedian, what you need to do is doubled down. Yeah,

771
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: come a comic, Yeah, get a special out about your family,

772
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: uh huh, and just roast them.

773
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 2: Use it all, use it all.

774
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 1: You make a like, make a bunch of money, because

775
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 1: it seems like no one that's around you actually cares

776
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 1: about your joke, and you need to be put in

777
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 1: a place where they.

778
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 2: Will they'll appreciate it better because this is ridiculous. You

779
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:42,919
Speaker 2: made one comment, just why, and everyone is free, even

780
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 2: if it genuinely, even if it was a mean comment,

781
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 2: like if you said you're a bad mom or whatever,

782
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 2: like I don't like you. If this was the reaction

783
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 2: and it continued and she started posting on Facebook and

784
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 2: everyone turned around and said, why did you do that?

785
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 2: You're awful, it would still be an overreaction.

786
00:36:59,360 --> 00:36:59,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

787
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 2: Update everyone, it's the artist formerly known as Waverley. Wait,

788
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 2: you should be like every time you would introduce yourself,

789
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 2: you should be like, it's Waverley. Now you do the

790
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:14,240
Speaker 2: w oh I didn't see the other thing wavery just kidding.

791
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:17,479
Speaker 2: I didn't change my name, did change my whole life around,

792
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 2: though what. I wanted to post this update for a

793
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 2: lot of reasons, but mainly to express my gratitude. I

794
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 2: didn't have a lot of friends at the time, and

795
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,720
Speaker 2: most of them were my boyfriend's friends. I truly didn't

796
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 2: feel like I had anyone else to go to about this,

797
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:32,640
Speaker 2: So I'm thankful for everyone who took the time to

798
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:36,319
Speaker 2: reply to my original post and provide insight. It was

799
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: a lot to sift through, and honestly, really painful. It

800
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 2: felt like I was finally being validated after years of

801
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 2: gaslighting myself. I always had a feeling that something was wrong,

802
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 2: but pushed it aside for the sake of being part

803
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 2: of the family. The period after I posted was truly

804
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 2: one of the lowest of my life, but also one

805
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 2: of the most empowering.

806
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:56,879
Speaker 1: What just off the job?

807
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, off of one. I imagine that this is a

808
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 2: pattern of behavior where mom constantly gets worked up over

809
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 2: small things and then blames other people. A lot of

810
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:11,319
Speaker 2: people told me to cut out my boyfriend, but I

811
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,879
Speaker 2: didn't see the point. I didn't understand the accusations of narcissism.

812
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:16,280
Speaker 1: You put him in an awkward spot.

813
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, he was like, I felt awkward, how dare you?

814
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 2: We had a dice dinner and then I felt awkward,

815
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 2: You've ruined my life. But when I sat down with him,

816
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 2: explained how badly him siding with my mom hurt me,

817
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 2: how it hurt to watch him turn against me when

818
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,799
Speaker 2: I needed his support. His response was, you did that

819
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 2: to yourself. Bye, Then bye, I'm gone. I'll see you

820
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:38,879
Speaker 2: later or never.

821
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 1: There is no humanity. Yeah, in this relationship.

822
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,600
Speaker 2: That was the light bulb moment. I needed, and they've

823
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:45,760
Speaker 2: been together for two years.

824
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm glad you found your worth.

825
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 2: We broke up. I moved in with my brother for

826
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 2: a little while to get back on my feet. There

827
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 2: were a lot of recommendations to go no contact with

828
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 2: my mom, but I had a really hard time with

829
00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 2: the idea of it. Talking it over with her was

830
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 2: mostly unsuccessful. She kept degrading herself and sending me all

831
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 2: these backhanded apologies that made me feel worse. Everything ended

832
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:10,320
Speaker 2: in me apologizing.

833
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:13,879
Speaker 1: What is happening here? Your mom needs to go to therapy.

834
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 2: Desperately, and your whole family needs to stop allowing this

835
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,279
Speaker 2: because they are letting her get away with this, and

836
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 2: they're encouraging this behavior, and it's not okay. I don't

837
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 2: like it.

838
00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 1: Your parents you got to have thick skin. Yeah, kids

839
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: say the most strnest things.

840
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,239
Speaker 2: They really do. Like you're telling me that over the

841
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 2: course of however long you've been alive and wity years,

842
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess at least the eighteen years that

843
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 2: you presumably lived with her. Yeah, you never said anything

844
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,439
Speaker 2: to you know, hurt her or get under her skin

845
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 2: or whatever.

846
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 1: But the second you come up with one very clever joke.

847
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 1: She gets this upset falls apart, like there definitely has

848
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: been a pattern, but like, why why is she like this?

849
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:55,840
Speaker 1: What the heck?

850
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 2: My sister had her baby. Congrats to your sister, even

851
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 2: though she it was a little nasty to you.

852
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: What'd she name it?

853
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 2: Behaviorally? Whole family went to visit her and she told

854
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 2: us the name top ten, very traditional, probably like Emily.

855
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

856
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:14,799
Speaker 2: My mom made a comment about me scaring her out

857
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:19,319
Speaker 2: of exercise in creativity without any crocodile tears or hysterics.

858
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 2: Now everything is Opie's fault.

859
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 1: I think your mom hates you. Yeah, this is what

860
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:27,280
Speaker 1: it is. Your brother's name's Ben, your sister names Anna,

861
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:28,280
Speaker 1: and your name Waverley.

862
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 2: Also, if your mom set that in front of your sister,

863
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,799
Speaker 2: I hope your sister got mad at your mom for

864
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 2: criticizing how she named her kid.

865
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 1: She name something simple that was so boring.

866
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 2: I hate that name. It was pure hostility from her,

867
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 2: and it was another light bulb. I brushed it off,

868
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 2: apologized to my sister, duck around for another thirty minutes,

869
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 2: and that was it. That was the last time I

870
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 2: spoke to my mom. My brother harassed me about it.

871
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:55,359
Speaker 2: So I moved out of his place and into an

872
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:56,720
Speaker 2: extended stay hotel.

873
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 1: Oh why is no one on your side? Family?

874
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 2: So I got a job a few states away, got

875
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 2: an apartment, packed up my life, and pretty much entirely

876
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 2: started over. I haven't spoken to any of my family

877
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 2: members in almost a year. There's been a lot of therapy,

878
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 2: as recommended. It's been a painful, sad, lonely, and frustrating experience.

879
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 2: But I'm also so much better off. I have new friends,

880
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 2: I actually like my job a lot better now, and

881
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 2: I'm creating my own weird little family with my pets,

882
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 2: a family that I'm really a part of. And that's

883
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 2: the end of the story. Sad. That was sad, dude.

884
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:33,960
Speaker 2: I thought you were going to fix it and figure

885
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 2: out why she treated you like this, But she just sucks.

886
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 1: Crazy that you had to move over a joke?

887
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:40,280
Speaker 2: Yeah?

888
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: Wow? No?

889
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 2: Literally?

890
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 1: Why is everyone in your family made of glass? Yeah?

891
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 2: They're like, what is it?

892
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 1: I told my son his dad is his biological father.

893
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:53,480
Speaker 1: He left without letting me finish.

894
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 2: Uh. Oh, I had more to say.

895
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:59,399
Speaker 1: My son's father just got out of prison and contacted

896
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 1: me about seeing him. He was in jail awaiting trial

897
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,880
Speaker 1: when my son Kin was born and I did not

898
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 1: put his name on the birth certificate. When I got married,

899
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: my husband adopted Kin. By the way, this comes from

900
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 1: trying to be a good mom. And if you would

901
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 1: to speak your own stories, you know exactly where to go.

902
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 1: My name's Riley, I'm Sophia. We're gonna read the story, goofy.

903
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: If you have anything to add, please add down below. Up,

904
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 1: he says. Ken is sixteen now and he has no

905
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 1: idea his dad isn't his biological father at sixteen.

906
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:33,959
Speaker 2: That's on you, right, Why didn't we write this long?

907
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: I am a huge component of giving all of my

908
00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 1: kids all the hard talks before they're thirteen.

909
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 2: I agree. I think we can give them the information

910
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 2: they need to know in an age appropriate way.

911
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 1: The second they turned twelve, we're talking about pornography, drugs,

912
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 1: duratt at all the dark sides of the web. Just

913
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:54,879
Speaker 1: do everything everything out there.

914
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 2: I do think that actually is important because I think,

915
00:42:57,719 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 2: you know, you want to do it before they get

916
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: exposed to it so that they, you know, treat it

917
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 2: in a safe way. But especially in terms of like

918
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 2: adoption or finding out that this person is his father yeah, Yeah,

919
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:13,680
Speaker 2: that's pretty important and then they can come to terms

920
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 2: with it in a healthy way.

921
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. I was real quick on that. My dad did

922
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: spend a lot of time talking about drugs alcohol before

923
00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 1: I turned teenage. Yeah, and look at the person I

924
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 1: am today exactly. I was at a crossroads, but I

925
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 1: decided that Ken is almost an adult. I had to

926
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 1: be honest with him. My husband and I sat Ken

927
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: down and told him the truth that his bio dad

928
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 1: wanted to meet him. Ken was furious with me and

929
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 1: didn't want to finish talking to us. He went to

930
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 1: his friend's house. Kim didn't even give me a chance

931
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 1: to explain why I did what I did. I wanted

932
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 1: kN to have a happy, normal childhood, unburdened by the

933
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 1: knowledge that his father is a criminal. What kind of criminal?

934
00:43:55,480 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like, don't tell Ken that. Don't be like, oh, yeah,

935
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,439
Speaker 2: father is a criminal. I think you could you could

936
00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 2: have said when you were you know, when he was younger,

937
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 2: your father made some mistakes. He you know, got in

938
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 2: trouble with the law, and that's why he like he

939
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 2: hasn't been in your life. And even now you could

940
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:18,359
Speaker 2: have said that, you.

941
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 1: Know, this is what happens when procrastination against the best

942
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:21,360
Speaker 1: of you.

943
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like, just wait, just wait, Like sixteen is

944
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 2: the most emotionally vulnerable time for a young boy, and

945
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 2: you waited until then.

946
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:34,760
Speaker 1: I wanted him to have a healthy male role model.

947
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 1: Kean has thrived. Dan is doing great in school. He

948
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:41,360
Speaker 1: has friends and even mentors little middle schoolers through a

949
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 1: program at school. I think my deception helped him.

950
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 2: Oh, he's like, I did the right thing, man. I

951
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 2: think he would have been fine. You know, like if

952
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:54,840
Speaker 2: you grow up kind of just never knowing anything different

953
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 2: than your dad, you know, your dad is who your

954
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,239
Speaker 2: dad is. I think he would have I think he

955
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 2: would have been fine. I think you're not giving him

956
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 2: enough credit.

957
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,800
Speaker 1: Not Hey, it's Smiley right of the year from Okay storytime.

958
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:09,359
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to these stories. But here's

959
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 1: three minutes worth of ads from our sponsors. Still, my

960
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 1: son feels betrayed and currently won't answer my calls. My

961
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:19,400
Speaker 1: husband managed to get a text saying he is okay

962
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: and to give him some space. But that's it. Was

963
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 1: I wrong for trying to protect him, and people on

964
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 1: the reddit are calling him the ale.

965
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I understand why you did it, and

966
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 2: you're at the end of the day, you're the parent,

967
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 2: so you can do whatever you want.

968
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 1: It's the tree thing. The best time to plane a

969
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 1: tree was twenty years ago. The second best time plane

970
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:45,280
Speaker 1: a tree is today.

971
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 2: Should have could can't tell you what to do in

972
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 2: the past because it already happened. You can't change it.

973
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 2: So what do we do now?

974
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 1: Damage control?

975
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 2: Yes, we try, you know. We get your your husband

976
00:45:57,360 --> 00:45:59,359
Speaker 2: to keep going to your son and say, I am

977
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 2: no father, I love you. Nothing can change that. It's

978
00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:04,880
Speaker 2: of that, yeah, because that's probably what he's afraid of

979
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:06,759
Speaker 2: a little bit. And then you go to him and say,

980
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm sorry that I lie to you,

981
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 2: and that is a betrayal and I can see that now,

982
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:14,200
Speaker 2: m M. And I would like to work with you

983
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:16,239
Speaker 2: to find out whatever you want to.

984
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 1: Know exactly updates. I know most people here think I'm

985
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 1: a terrible mother, so you probably don't want to hear

986
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: from me again.

987
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 2: Oh come on, oh Pete, don't pull the mother from

988
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 2: last time. Don't don't cry on the table. Let's just

989
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:32,880
Speaker 2: hear the update.

990
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 1: We make mistakes, However, if anyway out there is struggling

991
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 1: with a similar situation to the one I had. Maybe

992
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 1: this could help you.

993
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:40,279
Speaker 2: Here we go.

994
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 1: My son and I sat down and had a long talk.

995
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:47,319
Speaker 1: He wanted to know everything about his biological father. I

996
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 1: told him there are some things I would prefer not

997
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 1: to tell him, but would if he insisted. He insisted.

998
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 2: You know, He's like, I'll tell you. I don't want to,

999
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 2: but if you want me to tell you, I'll tell

1000
00:46:58,960 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 2: you the things you want to know.

1001
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 1: Tell me.

1002
00:47:00,840 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 2: It's like you're tell me. It's like a police officer

1003
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 2: is investigating someone and then the person is like, officer,

1004
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 2: I'll tell you if you want to know, but I

1005
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 2: don't want to tell you. But if you want to know,

1006
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 2: I'll tell you. And the police officers like.

1007
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, we want to know. We want the confession.

1008
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 2: Okay, I did it, so I.

1009
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 1: Told him everything. It was very hard for him and

1010
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 1: he had a lot of complicated emotions about it. He

1011
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 1: asked if his biological father knows where we live. He doesn't.

1012
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:35,320
Speaker 1: All he has is my email. However, we aren't exactly hidden,

1013
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 1: and finding us is a possibility. I asked if he

1014
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 1: wanted me to respond to the email or ignore it.

1015
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: My son asked me to email his biological father and

1016
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:49,319
Speaker 1: ask him to leave us alone. Oh okay, what did

1017
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 1: this guy do? I feel like this is the context

1018
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:52,919
Speaker 1: we need.

1019
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 2: I feel like it is important, but it seems pretty bad,

1020
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:58,799
Speaker 2: or at least it seems like maybe he's still not,

1021
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:02,319
Speaker 2: you know, a straight and narrow path. He wasn't the

1022
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 2: substance guy. That was the last guy.

1023
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:08,240
Speaker 1: Guy probably got ten to fifteen in prison.

1024
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:09,799
Speaker 2: Who was the someone that was the rest?

1025
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 1: That was that was last last story? Yeah, two stories

1026
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 1: ago with the new with the three parents, right LG.

1027
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:20,160
Speaker 1: He asks if his biofather knows our current last name,

1028
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 1: and I said he shouldn't. He told me that he

1029
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 1: has hurt that I lied to him. He feels like

1030
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:27,879
Speaker 1: he can't trust me as much as he once did.

1031
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 1: I told him I was sorry, and that part of

1032
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 1: growing up is learning that parents aren't perfect and don't

1033
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 1: have all the answers, SLA. I should always make the

1034
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 1: right choices. We got a little bit left. You're just

1035
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 1: working on damage control.

1036
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're doing a pretty good job. I would say.

1037
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 2: It seems you know, seems like you've gotten through to

1038
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 2: him and he's not necessarily forgiven you, but you know,

1039
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 2: he wants to talk to you, So that's the start.

1040
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 1: Agreed. He had a long talk with my husband. He

1041
00:48:57,520 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 1: said he still considers my husband dad, and then they

1042
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 1: hugged it out. All in all, I regret my decision.

1043
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:05,839
Speaker 1: I think it would have been better to tell him

1044
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:09,759
Speaker 1: at a younger age that his dad isn't his biological dad.

1045
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 1: Then he would have had time to adjust instead of

1046
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 1: finding out everything at once. As it is, this is

1047
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:18,839
Speaker 1: still a huge revelation to deal with at the time

1048
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 1: in his life where he already got a lot on

1049
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,760
Speaker 1: his shoulders. And a comment left by op on this post,

1050
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Speaker 1: We've been really good lately. We've been decorating the house

1051
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 1: for Christmas and talking a lot. We had a couple

1052
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:35,480
Speaker 1: of meetings with the school guidance counselor not exactly therapy,

1053
00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:38,720
Speaker 1: but more like moderated discussion. It was really helpful.

1054
00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 2: Oh well, look at that.

1055
00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 1: I love that your son seems like a ken, seems

1056
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 1: like a really good kid. Yeah. The fact that he's

1057
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 1: taking time to mentor other middle schoolers.

1058
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like he just needed time to process exactly.

1059
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:53,399
Speaker 2: He's doing good.

1060
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:53,839
Speaker 1: Good.

1061
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 2: Also, what did what did your husband do? Yeah?

1062
00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 1: What what did he do? Probably don't want to know

1063
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:04,920
Speaker 1: just why does it look like this? Please tell us.

1064
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:06,839
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story and the end

1065
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:08,960
Speaker 2: of the episode. So if you love us, make sure

1066
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:09,600
Speaker 2: to subscribe.

1067
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Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.