WEBVTT - #49 Pool Party 0:00:00.000 --> 0:00:02.880 Hey Eastern, can you bring us in please? Hey? I 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:06.360 Suck at Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared and I 0:00:06.519 --> 0:00:13.560 heart radio podcast with Dean, Jason and Jared. This wonderful 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:17.680 day in Las Vegas. We're suck at Dating in Vegas. 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:21.360 We're recording live from the most pop and pool party 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:24.079 in all of Las Vegas. And when I say that, 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:27.240 I'm being a little bit facetious. Um. Anyways, thank you 0:00:27.280 --> 0:00:28.880 so much for joining us on this week's episode of 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:32.320 help I Suck At Dating. I'm Dean, joined in Studio 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:35.320 by in Studio also known as the Cabana next to 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:37.519 the Planet Hollywood Pool. We have a very special co 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:39.680 host with us today, not just a guest, but a 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:42.400 co host who is going to help guide this entire podcast. 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:46.639 You know him, you love him. Weighing at a hund 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:51.159 ninety pounds, standing tall at six ft two, Jason, I 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:56.200 don't want to say your last day and got the 0:00:56.240 --> 0:01:00.200 from Buffalo, New York. Come on from Buffalo, Buffalo. You 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:02.320 are just so I know this is a podcast. You 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:04.280 guys can't see. I just want to give you a 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:08.440 play by play. Jason right now is eating some buffalo 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:14.679 wings with ranch sauce. Ladies and gentlemen. I agree that 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.319 it's fake news because you're so publicly blue cheese and 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:20.680 here you are using ranch differ in your chicken wings 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:23.960 chicken wings. I don't eat Vegas chicken wings, first of all, 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:27.000 the second of all, the tat times. Anyways, thank you 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:30.000 so much for joining us here. We do appreciate you 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:32.920 having here. So why aren't you the bachelor? What's going on? Whyn't? 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:35.360 Let's get right into it, get right into it. I 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:37.199 don't know. That's a decision you did or a question 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:38.840 you have to ask someone else. I was. I was 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:42.440 willing to do it. And uh, it's all good. One 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:45.720 chapter ends, another begins, so we'll see. Well, you definitely 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:47.600 have a positive attitude about it, which is really good. 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:50.920 So what's dating life been, Poscho, Yeah, it's been. It's 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:54.160 been different, right, I mean, so for me, I'm looking 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:56.680 for someone like with quality and the right intentions, and 0:01:56.720 --> 0:01:59.280 it's different. But here's the thing is, because before you 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:03.160 went on TV, you were a very like sought after 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.800 attractive You're you're still the same like attractive person that 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:10.240 you are now, right, And so it's you. You made 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:12.680 it sound like a question like right, Well, the point. 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.200 The point is like before I want I was just 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:18.160 a dumbass. I'm sorry for cursing. I was just some 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.600 dummy who worked as a recruiter in Los Angeles. But Jason, 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:23.000 I feel it was always kind of a guy that 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:26.440 would be like people like I wanted to be with you, Right, 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:28.760 that's nice to you. Well, I can only imagine. Again, 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:31.160 I don't know even the show, and so it's I'm 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:33.600 sure it's changed for you to some extent, but like, 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:36.160 how has it really like Obviously, like people you go out, 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:37.639 like people notice you and recognize you, like all that 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:40.200 kind of stuff, But I don't necessarily imagine it being 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:43.200 that different for you. To me, it's it's not entirely different. 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:46.520 I think obviously it opens doors and intros to people 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:49.000 that I wouldn't have met otherwise. But for me, it's 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:52.440 like I don't like being so public with everything I 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:54.320 feel like. And then you go on a date and 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:55.960 you go on rend at the next day and people 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:57.920 are talking about who it was, or you don't go 0:02:57.960 --> 0:02:59.760 on a date, you just go to coffee with a 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:01.880 friend and you're new to a city and you have 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:04.560 people saying, oh they're dating, they're kissing they're holding hands, 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:07.120 et cetera. So for me, it's the whole public aspect 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:10.120 of it. That's just it kind of yeah, it's like 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.600 it's just different. It's just different. I was talking to Blake. 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:14.120 It's like you could go to lunch with your cousin 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:16.000 or something like that, and people are like, oh my god, 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:19.880 who is this. Who's he dating? One sudden, you're dating 0:03:19.880 --> 0:03:23.800 your cousin. It's that we don't do that in Buffalo. 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:26.519 I remember one time in a restaurant back home. I 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.560 was out one night and this waitress at this restaurant 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:33.160 called Basos to go to all the time. Long story short, 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:35.040 So one of the waitresses that worked there at a 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:36.720 at a different bar and I said, oh, hey, what's up. 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.360 I recognize from the restaurant. She's like, yeah, you coming 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:40.000 all the time. You're the one who always brings in dates. 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:43.040 I was like what. She's like, yeah, every time you 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:44.720 come in, you're with a different girl. And then I 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:46.400 was like, and I remember I went on a date 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:48.520 there one time, and I was like, that was one time. 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:50.040 Why did they think I'm with all these different girls? 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:51.440 And then I realized because I go in there with 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:53.520 my sister one of my best friends who's a girl 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:55.680 my cousin. And I was like, oh my god, they 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:57.640 think I'm all dating this girl. But it's the same thing, right, 0:03:57.680 --> 0:03:59.600 It's this guy from The Bachelor coming in with all 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:01.560 these differ women. So oh, he's just bringing He's just 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:03.840 dating seventeen girls at one time. You get this like, 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:10.280 there's a good story with Taylor. Actually we talked about Taylor. 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:13.000 So Taylor was so nice. She reached out and she said, hey, 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:14.480 I know you're new to Seattle. If you ever want 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.040 to get together, I could show the places to go 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:18.760 and things to do. So we got together, very casual, 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:22.719 very friendly, and um we left and as we left, 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:25.360 some guy said, hey, can I take a picture of 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:28.799 you with you? So he's like, all right, get together 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:30.480 and I'm like, well, don't you want to be in 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.040 the picture? Isn't that the premises. He's like, oh, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:36.680 So then he jumps in the picture, takes it, we 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.880 walked away say goodbye. I'm like that was kind of weird, right, 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:41.040 She's like, yeah, that was weird. Two hours later he's 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:44.000 all over the internet saying dating and everything, and literally 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:45.880 it was very just very friendly it was very nice 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:47.680 for her to reach out. She's an awesome person, but 0:04:48.200 --> 0:04:52.159 it was nothing more than welcome to Seattle and some 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:54.800 places to check out. So you're dating Taylor, Now, I 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:59.279 am not Taylor. She's great, but I'm just It's another 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:04.520 example totally exactly. Um, I don't think I have any 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:09.400 stories of that specific situation, but yeah, it's like you 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.800 go anywhere with anyone and then all of a sudden 0:05:11.920 --> 0:05:13.600 and it dies down. It dies down a little bit. 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:15.440 Like I was talking to Blake about this either day too. 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.720 Um it's like maybe like the first couple of months afterwards, 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:21.560 everyone's like super hyper involved in your love life, right, 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:25.400 and um it a year removed from my experience is 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:28.960 like people care a lot less now, which is great, 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.600 Like it's you can you can be more I guess 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:34.919 natural and that type of stuff. Um, but yeah, like 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:37.000 I think it's said discovery. You know, when you're starting 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:39.080 to date someone, there's a discovery phase like are you 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:40.680 gonna date them or you're not gonna date them? It's 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:42.479 gonna get serious? Is it gonna last? As a long 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.800 distance is not that tough? That process is like so 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:48.400 much more difficult now because as you're like kind of 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:50.480 treading through the water and trying to get to know 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.120 someone to see if that's gonna work out that direction. 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.720 There are so many things being said about where you're 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:57.479 going and what you're doing and how it's So I 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:01.680 went on a date last week actually that uh, this 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:03.520 is actually an important conversation for us to talk about. 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:06.039 I feel like is I went on a date. We 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:08.560 went to a baseball game, and I was like, we 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.680 were driving home and she was like, yeah, Like I 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:13.240 was pretty hesitant to date you because your life is 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:16.359 so public and I want my life to be super private, 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:19.000 Like I'm a very private person. And she so she said, 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:21.520 like the barrier to entry for this date to me 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:23.839 was the fact that I don't want my life to 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:25.920 be publicized so much. And I was like, well, obviously, 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:27.920 like if we were to ever get to the point 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:29.839 of being girlfriend boyfriend, like I would respect that and 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:32.039 I wouldn't like plaster your face all over my Instagram 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:33.920 like that kind of thing. But it was a very 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:37.120 weird thing to hear, Like this girl was very verbally 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:40.160 like she was very aware of the fact that like 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:42.200 if she were to date me, then she would then 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:46.039 become like this person where her help personal life would 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:49.039 then become published would be girlfriend, right, And that's no, 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:51.000 that's like an action. The first time I've heard it 0:06:51.160 --> 0:06:52.200 was the first time I had heard it, and I 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:54.440 was like, that's do you make an incredible point. I 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:56.960 would never obviously want to make you, uh, force me 0:06:57.000 --> 0:06:59.080 in a position that makes you uncomfortable, but like that's 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:01.440 something that now has to be taken into conistration when 0:07:01.520 --> 0:07:04.839 dating Jackson or Dean. Obviously, Jared's engaged to Ashley, who 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:07.560 you know, you know, we've got our own feelings about Actually, 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:12.040 of course we love her, we love her, but it's 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:13.960 a weird thing for the single people that you know, 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:18.120 in my personal experience, I would say, if it were 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:19.840 up to me, I would not ever be in a 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:22.800 bachelor relationship again. And so now when I'm dating people 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:24.920 that aren't part of Bachelor Nation, who have not chosen 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:28.440 to make their lives public like we have, it makes 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:30.960 it more challenging. Yea. But even if you're in a 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:33.320 bachelor relationship, I mean, like it's up to two people 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:35.800 about how public or private your relationship is. You have 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:38.480 that option, which is always good. But I think coming 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:40.960 from an outsider who's not a part of franchise. Dating 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.320 someone who is who is very much part of it, 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:46.240 very much public figure, that does create a different dynamic 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:48.760 because you're, right, someone who's just lived this very normal 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:52.440 life and who hasn't, um, you know, really had the 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:55.640 exposure or hasn't been like it's weird having people talk 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.400 about you. I think that's one of the weirdest parts. 0:07:57.800 --> 0:07:59.560 And now, like, if you date someone from the franchise, 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:03.000 you're gonna be talked about in like evaluated and judged 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:04.840 and that's a really difficult position to be put in 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:07.200 for sure. Um, but it's interesting too. I want to 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.160 get your take on this, Jason, Like, going on dates, 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:12.000 do you find that there's like almost a different expectation 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:14.440 on a first date when you go and meet somebody, 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:17.160 because you know, back when I was single before the 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:18.760 man I'm you know, I was with the love of 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.840 my life, the most beautiful woman ever. Um. Get that 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:25.400 camera out of my face. Dean's video in me right now. Um, 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:28.120 But I want to get your idea about this. You know, 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:29.480 you go on a date and you meet someone for 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:32.760 the first time, but for them, if they're a fan 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:35.720 of the show, they know a lot about you and 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:39.040 I think, like you said, there's this discovery about a 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:40.800 first date that really doesn't happen when they go on 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:42.480 a date with you because they know so much about 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:45.520 you that I think there's different expectations on the first 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.359 date for somebody who's going on a date with you. Yes, absolutely, 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.280 And I don't I don't want to put, you know, 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:55.000 any barriers against anybody. I'm curious your opinion of this. Generally, 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:59.439 if someone is a fan of a show I'm starting off, 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.240 it's a turn to exactly your point, because they already 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:04.480 know all these things about me that I'm like, oh, 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:06.719 this is interesting, and someone doesn't know the show. I 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:08.839 didn't want to interrupt Jared while he was talking, but 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.800 I agree, I would almost not ten times out of ten, 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.400 I would prefer someone to not know anything about me, 0:09:15.920 --> 0:09:19.400 because then you're on the same playing level. And so 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:21.720 so for you, like I understand, like you had your 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.040 time of kind of getting over the breakup with Becca, 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:26.079 but then you like, it's been a while, so you've 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:29.440 like started dating again. So do you notice people like 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.000 already having like a like a maybe like an opinion 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:33.640 of you in their head, or like an understanding who 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:35.600 you are as a person because you especially went far. 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:38.679 You got third right, so a third right apron me 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:42.120 right exactly. But like you you introduced her your family, 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:45.160 you her family, I'm not mistaken. And so it's like 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:47.520 people don't necessarily have to know you to know you. 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:51.480 And now you're dating, especially in Seattle. It's a big city, 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:52.880 but it's kind of a small town. I feel like 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.559 as well, Um, so you do you notice that or like, 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:57.480 have you noticed that? That's interesting because on the show, 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:00.240 you know, my best friends came to surprise me met 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:03.000 her best friends, and she met my family right, and 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:05.599 everyone got exposed to my parents and my brother and 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:09.200 his relationship. And to your point, you go on the 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:13.200 States and they're asking you about your best Oh yeah, 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:16.520 your friend from Vancouver or your buddy from Rochester, and 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:19.360 it's almost like, wait a second, we didn't cross that, 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:22.320 but we didn't get we didn't get there yet. So 0:10:22.400 --> 0:10:24.080 I think that adds a different element to it. So 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:27.200 it's the public perspective. And then you know, coupled with 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:29.920 the whole you know, they know so much about you 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:34.559 before you go on the dates. And again I've been 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.480 I've been talking down on it because it can suck 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:39.920 sometimes but at the same time it kind of is 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:41.760 good because then they know what they're getting with helth into. 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:44.320 You know, it's like, oh, you know, I've aired out 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:46.480 my grievances for the world, and you still want to 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.080 go on a date with me after seeing those things? 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:50.120 So why would you not? Because I would think that 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:52.640 I would be more hesitant to. But why would you 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:55.480 not want to date someone from the franchise? There's I 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:57.680 think you know that earlier. There's just so much pressure 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:01.200 in it, and as I come to find out, I 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:04.120 don't really do well, especially with the relationships when there's 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:07.040 a lot of pressure on in them. Um, And like 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:08.960 I said, I went on this day date recently, like 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:10.880 I've just started dating again, maybe within the past like 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:15.880 three or four weeks, and even then, it's like I 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:18.400 kind of had a conversation recently where it's like, okay, 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.880 like where are we gonna go after the third date? 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:23.760 And I'm sitting there and I'm like, this is like 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:25.200 exactly what it is. It's like, you we try to 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:27.960 define something before it has to be defined, and that's 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.520 what bachelor relationships were always like It's like okay, well, 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:33.560 like you're a date or two into it and you're like, okay, 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:35.800 I'll call your boyfriend girlfriend. It's like, well, can we 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:37.840 take some time to figure this out for ourselves, And 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:42.480 especially when it's a bachelor relationship, the public doesn't for you, right, 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.080 Like if you post a picture with like we were 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:45.760 just talking Jared and I were talking about Jordan's from 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:49.360 New Zealand and um, Jacqueline, now it seemed to be dating, 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:53.760 and it's like you then let people define a relationship 0:11:53.840 --> 0:11:56.520 for you so soon and the way before you like 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:59.280 even allowed to yourself to define it for yourself. Um. 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:01.280 And because of that, I just don't really ever see 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:03.679 myself being in a bachelationship. It doesn't stop you though, 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:05.160 And you could speak to this shared I mean, so 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:07.520 you start dating then your boyfriend girlfriend. And I was 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:11.600 just with Raven and Adam last weekend adorable love them, 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.600 but all the questions about their relationship is when are 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:16.560 you getting engaged? Why do you're moving in? Right? So 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:18.920 it's always it's just a different phase, different questions. People 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:20.800 want the answers, and people always want the next step. 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:22.360 They want the next step. And don't get me wrong, 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:24.319 there are people in vaschlation that I would definitely date 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:27.880 like I'm interested, uh, like whatever it is interested in, 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:33.480 but it's it's it's such a turn off for me 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.240 because I'm like, okay, like I think you're cute, I 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:37.679 think you're interesting, but I don't think I can necessarily 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:39.880 date you because of the connotations that are the pressure 0:12:39.920 --> 0:12:41.800 that's gonna be involved with it. Well, I also think 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.000 that's why Ashley and I, for a lot of reasons, 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:46.360 but one of them, waited two months to actually come 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:48.280 out about our relationship because we didn't want to post 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:50.839 a picture a week into dating, be like, hey, we're 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:52.360 dating now, because we knew that there would be a 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:54.400 lot of outside pressure put onto it. So we wanted 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:56.360 to be like, listen, let's take our time, let's keep 0:12:56.400 --> 0:12:58.640 this private, let's work on each other. Because once we 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:01.200 started dating, we had an idea that this was gonna 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:05.480 be a lifelong partnership, marriage type relationship. And then a few, 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:07.520 you know, a week or so, honestly, like a couple 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:09.120 of weeks in dating, and we both knew where this 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.280 was going. Um, but we still wanted to wait and 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:13.640 really just grow our love and and and and we did, 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:15.920 like we didn't We've known each other three years, but 0:13:16.000 --> 0:13:18.360 it took like a month and a half into actually 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:22.880 dating before I wanted to drop the L word on um, 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:24.600 and that was cool. There was no pressure. It was 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:27.319 just like a very natural progression, which was really nice 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:29.720 to have. So I can understand your hesitations about dating 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.240 someone within the Bachelor franchise because there is this pressure 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:34.560 of like, oh, well, you're there for love, so now 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:36.080 you guys are in love, you're gonna get married. And 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:37.959 this is the most fantastic thing I've ever seen when 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:39.840 it's like, well, we were just two people dating trying 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:41.440 to figure things out, like we don't know if it's 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:44.040 gonna work out or not. We have no idea. Um, Jason, 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:46.760 is there anyone in Bachelor World that you're interested in? 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:49.600 I gotta ask you. I gotta you didn't even answer 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:52.200 my question. There's someone that I've never met personally that 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:54.040 I have texted a few times that I have a 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:56.800 very harmless schoolgirl crushed on. What season was she on? 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:01.079 I'm not gonna tell you. That'll definitely give it a 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.200 was she on the past? Either are your NIX season? Now? 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:07.640 She wasn't. She's an old school O. G O, G 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:10.320 Wait what about you, though, Jason? I have to see. 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:13.760 I think you know, I already got Colton right now recruiting. 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:15.160 He's saying the ones that I don't like that. I 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:18.200 think I'm gonna up and I already told some of 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:20.320 the producers I'm like, having my back here, let's go, 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:23.560 let's find this. So, um, I'm gonna hold off on 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:25.120 that one. So would you be open to the idea 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.760 of doing Paradise next year? I would be? Yep, absolutely, 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:30.240 I was this past summer. Absolutely not. I just wasn't 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.280 ready for us. Yeah, And I wouldn't do it unless 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:35.320 I was ready. Um, But for next summer, yeah, absolutely, 0:14:35.320 --> 0:14:36.920 Maybe we'll be on the beach together. Who knows? Blake, 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:42.680 would you do it for those ladies? And studio are Cabana? 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:44.760 I just got over here, Come over, Blake? Should we 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:50.520 go rock? We got? We needed a studio and so 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.960 so Blake, what's up? Joined This has helped I suckon dating. 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:57.000 You're on the podcast with Dean, Jason and myself. So 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.440 what's going on? How's life, bro? How's the life post Bachelor? 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:01.360 It's good? It it's good, it really is. It's it's 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.080 a strange feeling. It's pretty surreal, but it's fun. Um. 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.200 It's a weird platform. That's what I saying. This is 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:07.400 what I always say. It's like a cool it's a 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:09.000 weird platform that we've been given where we kind of 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:10.880 like we can you know, we meet people, we can 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:12.520 make a smile just by being ourselves, you know, which 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:14.200 is really fun. That's a weird thing to be able 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.200 to do. So that's fun. Um And obviously, you know, 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:19.480 dating again. You know, I'm back out there, so that's fun. 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:22.920 So yeah, so you're are you? Are you single? I 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:29.240 am single? I am single. No more competing for the 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:31.280 same girl, though, Can we all agree on that we're 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:33.200 done with that until you guys both go on paradise 0:15:33.240 --> 0:15:36.040 and like the same girl. It's always gonna work out that. 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:39.480 What a lucky girl that will be. I imagine being 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:43.160 a having to choose between Jason and Blakes, like the 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:46.840 luckiest girl in the world girl and flush out here. 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:50.360 It's already hot. I will say Becca. I met Becca, 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:53.280 and she's a sweetheart. The fact that she had Garrett, 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:54.880 who I've never actually met personally but seems like a 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:57.800 great guy. Blake, Jason and Colton, who obviously we all adore. 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:00.960 The luckiest girl in the world. Maybe the best final 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:03.520 four I've ever personally seen. Great. I'm not a big 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:06.000 fanner reality television. I didn't really watch many seasons, but 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:08.720 absolutely actually always says it was the best top four 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:12.040 since Caitlyn season. So that's a that's a pretty good one. 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:19.480 What about Dean, Peter and Brian and Eric that's okay. Anyways, 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:24.040 she loves you guys too, anyway. Okay, So for the 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.360 listeners out there, me, we went out last night, not 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:28.760 so not so much Jared because he's a married man. 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:31.800 I was back in the room by eleven o'clock. Jason 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:37.600 and I'm looking forward to Yeah, Yeah, we all are Blake. Jason, myself, 0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:39.880 Ben Higgins, Nick, and a couple other buddies went out 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:44.600 to uh pool party last night and Vegan and I 0:16:44.640 --> 0:16:47.920 just need to take another minute to let Jason blush 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.800 real quick, because this man's ability to open is hero 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:55.320 to the point where he needs to. He's maybe the 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:59.480 best wing man out there, America's wing man. They were 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:01.920 sitting on a bed at a pool last night, like 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:04.280 just drinking whatever it is, and I look over at Jason. 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:06.119 I was like, Jason, that girl over there's really really cute. 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:07.600 He like tasking on the show. He's like, didn't come 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:10.520 here real quick. Literally, we walk fifty ft over to 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:14.240 this girl. We walk up to her, and Jason like 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:15.879 leans in, is like, hey, my friend. I don't know 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:17.400 what exactly what he said. I would imagine it's along 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:18.760 the lines of, Hey, my friend over there thinks you're 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:20.600 really cute. I'm just like standing there like a freaking nerd, 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.440 sipping my drink. And it was three girls and one guy, 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:26.399 and you could tell this guy was so upset. He 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:30.080 was He's like, these two guys came over and the 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:32.520 trying to steal all three of my girls. I just 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:34.800 I needed to take a moment just to appreciate Jason 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:38.159 for his ability and willingness to help my pledge. That's 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.919 the New York of me, right something, go get it all? Right? So, 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.040 Jason Blake, what's your go to opening line? Like, if 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:44.919 you're going to if you're going walking up to a 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:47.560 girl here at the Veiggas pool party to hit on them, 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:50.880 what would your opening line be? Real, I'll go first. 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:53.480 I'm not a big opening line kind of guy. And 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:56.199 here's why. I think an opening line for everyone out there, 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:58.479 all the males out there listening, I think an opening 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:02.200 line instantly brings someone's guard up. Okay, so you drop 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:04.439 some line and you do some stupid thing and you 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:07.159 try and get attention, and instantly their guards up. I'm 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:08.959 the opposite. I want to be like, listen, I'm not 0:18:09.000 --> 0:18:11.640