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Speaker 1: being said, let's really get down to today's topic.
Speaker 2: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Do you forgive a cheater?
Speaker 2: Can you retrust a cheater? And cheating comes in many
Speaker 2: many forms. It could be cheating as as a friendship
Speaker 2: or obviously, as we mainly know, cheating in a relationship.
Speaker 2: Once a cheater, can you forgive a cheating you know,
Speaker 2: spouse partner?
Speaker 1: Can you trust them again? How do you move on? Personally?
Speaker 2: Let me start here, I have been cheated on. I
Speaker 2: wouldn't say that I have cheated and I know that. No,
Speaker 2: it depends what you consider cheating. If texting is cheating,
Speaker 2: I've definitely cheated. If flirting with other people is cheating,
Speaker 2: I've definitely flirted. But to me, everything is cheating. Obviously,
Speaker 2: once you start the emotional connection, you're definitely cheating. But
Speaker 2: the sexual part, to me, that's like the biggest cheat,
Speaker 2: right when you're physically exchanging you know, fluids, and you're
Speaker 2: like you're physically there. Oh, that's you're cheating, cheating, Like,
Speaker 2: we can't come back from that.
Speaker 1: It's terrible.
Speaker 2: If we're texting someone, but if you haven't met them,
Speaker 2: that's bad because you're entertaining them. You're using that mental
Speaker 2: space to entertain and that's really how relationships start. Once
Speaker 2: you get into the emotional part because in many occasions,
Speaker 2: you can have sex with someone, right, So I've heard
Speaker 2: from men you can have sex with them and still
Speaker 2: love your girl and it don't mean nothing.
Speaker 1: You're just having a moment. You had sex, Boom done,
Speaker 1: that's over.
Speaker 2: But in my case, I feel like if you have
Speaker 2: sex as a woman, for many of us, it becomes
Speaker 2: an emotional thing, right, It becomes an emotional an emotional experience.
Speaker 2: But then again, I don't know when you get to
Speaker 2: see it anymore, because these days, I feel like women
Speaker 2: are so empower where they just feel like, I just
Speaker 2: want to have sex.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have it. It doesn't mean anything.
Speaker 2: I'm just, you know, is a body, I'm a desire
Speaker 2: and then that's it and it's over. But cheating is
Speaker 2: definitely a sensitive emotional subject that you know, can trigger
Speaker 2: feelings and be feelings of betrayal, of being heard, of
Speaker 2: being angry. How do we surpass that? Do we go
Speaker 2: to therapy? Do we talk it out? Do we take
Speaker 2: a break? Do you believe in taking breaks? You know,
Speaker 2: if someone cheats on you, you know, I just think that
Speaker 2: we need a break to self reflect and then we
Speaker 2: come back. I don't know I don't believe in that.
Speaker 2: If we, if you, if any man ever comes to be,
Speaker 2: I need a break. That means you're not into me anymore,
Speaker 2: because I feel like, if you really want a relationship
Speaker 2: to work out, you gotta you gotta tug it out,
Speaker 2: you gotta stick it through, you gotta you gotta be
Speaker 2: in that space, whether we're not talking, but we're here
Speaker 2: together because we're trying to figure it out. The moment
Speaker 2: you give space, space gives opportunity, opportunity for somebody else
Speaker 2: to come, opportunity for them to realize the true self.
Speaker 1: Worth and be like, you know what, screw this. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna forgive you. I'm just gonna, you know, move on.
Speaker 2: And I will say, there's no perfect relationship. There is
Speaker 2: no perfect relationship. Even if you think all.
Speaker 1: This person cheating on me.
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm saying forgive your cheating, you know, partner,
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that.
Speaker 1: But think about this too.
Speaker 2: If you already put in so much time and effort
Speaker 2: and all these things, is there a possibility that.
Speaker 1: You can work things out?
Speaker 2: You know, I'm not saying the cheating is a mistake,
Speaker 2: because it's not a mistake. It's a choice. You chose
Speaker 2: to entertain this person. You chose to physically be in
Speaker 2: this place.
Speaker 1: You chose that. You know, nobody forced you. You decided
Speaker 1: to do that. However, there is no perfect relationship. There
Speaker 1: is no perfect relationship. It's tough out hearing these streets.
Speaker 1: And if you find someone that you are.
Speaker 2: Really compatible, that you guys get along, that everything is great,
Speaker 2: but there was a cheating situation. Is there any possible
Speaker 2: way that you guys can work it out? Do you
Speaker 2: believe in talking to your mother, to your father, to
Speaker 2: your sisters, to your brother, to a family member about
Speaker 2: your personal relationship?
Speaker 1: Do you think that's helpful?
Speaker 2: You know, if you have maybe like somebody in the
Speaker 2: family who's been married for like thirty forty years, right,
Speaker 2: should you go to them and ask for advice? I
Speaker 2: would say most definitely, but hopefully not someone in your family.
Speaker 2: I think that getting advice from someone who's been through
Speaker 2: it already is super important. I think that it's the
Speaker 2: best way to go, not to be out here talking
Speaker 2: to your single friends. I'm not saying that your single
Speaker 2: friends can't give you good advice, right, but you single,
Speaker 2: you ain't got nobody, you haven't figured it out yourself.
Speaker 2: For those that have been married and through the good,
Speaker 2: through the bad, through the thin, they've been rocking together solid.
Speaker 2: Whether you sleep in the couch, I sleep in the band.
Speaker 2: So we can figure this out. I think it's important
Speaker 2: to get advice from people that are there in that space, right.
Speaker 2: I also think it's important not to give up that
Speaker 2: quickly on you know, don't give up so quickly on
Speaker 2: your relationship because of cheating. I know it's gonna sound crazy,
Speaker 2: y'all is gonna come for me. I'm not saying forgive
Speaker 2: your cheating partner. And it also, I guess it doesn't
Speaker 2: matter how much you've been cheating, does it, ladies? Because
Speaker 2: I feel like women forgive quicker than men do.
Speaker 1: Why is that? Is it because we're more accustomed to being,
Speaker 1: you know, forgiving? I don't know. I feel that men.
Speaker 2: Can't take the pain that they bring to women when
Speaker 2: they cheat. When a woman cheats on a man, he
Speaker 2: can go through a depression. All types of things is
Speaker 2: gonna happen. A woman is gonna cry, She's gonna probably
Speaker 2: feel insecure herself. She's gonna but deep down inside because
Speaker 2: she loves this person or cares about this person, she's
Speaker 2: gonna try to figure out a way to make things work.
Speaker 2: She's gonna try to figure out a way to push through.
Speaker 2: But that also has its limits. How much cheating, how
Speaker 2: much betrayal, how much disrespect, how much all of that
Speaker 2: hurts anger can you really take before you decide to
Speaker 2: just leave? In many occasions, I know that there's women
Speaker 2: that have stayed because of their kids, you know, because
Speaker 2: of their family. In many occasions, you know women and
Speaker 2: also man, I know men that been like you know
Speaker 2: what gentlemen whip put me seahos I do only because
Speaker 2: of my children. I want to see them grow. I
Speaker 2: want to be part of their life. I am so
Speaker 2: in love with my children that I am putting up
Speaker 2: with this situation with this woman right just so that
Speaker 2: I can be in this space. I'm trying to do
Speaker 2: the best that I can, but that can be very
Speaker 2: tough too. For example, I personally, I did the best
Speaker 2: that I could to stretch out my relationship with the
Speaker 2: father of my children because I really wanted to. I
Speaker 2: really wanted to have a family. I wanted to figure
Speaker 2: out how to bring this together. What can I do?
Speaker 2: In many occasions, you blame yourself for other people's behaviors
Speaker 2: you feel as a failure.
Speaker 1: You blame yourself because someone else.
Speaker 2: Chose to betray you or chose to and you feel
Speaker 2: like it's your fault. I must have done something. No,
Speaker 2: I feel that we're all adults, we're all grown. Whoever
Speaker 2: decides to cheat, whoever decides to betray, whoever decides to
Speaker 2: not complete their part of the agreement in the relationship,
Speaker 2: it is not your fault.
Speaker 1: You shouldn't feel guilty about it. You shouldn't feel bad
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: You shouldn't question your body, you shouldn't question your personality.
Speaker 2: You shouldn't question none of those things. I think that
Speaker 2: communication is key, right, and that's part of rebuilding a
Speaker 2: relationship after after someone has cheated.
Speaker 1: How do you rebuild, you know?
Speaker 2: I think that having conversations, going back out on dates,
Speaker 2: all those type of things, going to therapy, going to church,
Speaker 2: if you have to go see your local pastor be like, look,
Speaker 2: we love each other, but right now the energy has shifted.
Speaker 1: We can't, you know, we can't trust each other anymore.
Speaker 1: How do we fix this?
Speaker 2: Sometimes the biggest thing, sometimes though it is always the
Speaker 2: biggest foundation of a solid relationship is God, you know,
Speaker 2: being able to ask God to give you the strength
Speaker 2: that you need to forgive some that you really love
Speaker 2: because they have betrayed you, you know, because they have
Speaker 2: done you dirty, but you still want to make things work.
Speaker 2: I think that maybe going to church should be like
Speaker 2: the number one thing, going to see a pastor, you know,
Speaker 2: in prayer together in your bed before you go to sleep,
Speaker 2: both holding hands and praying to God to you know,
Speaker 2: give you strength to push through. Because I also have
Speaker 2: to say, these days, through social media, through dating apps,
Speaker 2: through everything else, cheating has become even more accessible. Yes,
Speaker 2: aren't there back in the days they were Chico Lavecina
Speaker 2: e lechiro. You know, you would chieve with your local
Speaker 2: people in your neighborhood, and I get those things right.
Speaker 2: But social media and the Internet now has exposed a
Speaker 2: whole different type of world now that in many occasions
Speaker 2: you may not even try to you may not even
Speaker 2: be trying to look for it, and it just comes
Speaker 2: to you. I'm talking about social media now has become
Speaker 2: a catalog for people looking to have either just sex
Speaker 2: or being into the relationship or you know, I have
Speaker 2: my man, but I want to cheat. I want to
Speaker 2: have a fling. I want to have an open relationship.
Speaker 2: I want to have a good time. You know. Now
Speaker 2: social media has become a catalog, so it's become very
Speaker 2: much more difficult to have a solid relationship. So hi forgiveness,
Speaker 2: forgiving your cheating partner. Have you ever been through it?
Speaker 2: By the way, hit me up on the comments. Have
Speaker 2: you been able to forgive them one hundred percent? Or
Speaker 2: do you think that? You say, yeah, I forgive you,
Speaker 2: But every so often they're still in the back of
Speaker 2: your mind.
Speaker 1: You can look at them and be like, are you
Speaker 1: cheating on me? Now?
Speaker 2: Who are you on the phone with? You're in the bathroom,
Speaker 2: wait too long? Why did you take your phone into
Speaker 2: the bathroom? Why did you turn around your phone? Do
Speaker 2: you think that makes you toxic? Do you think that
Speaker 2: after you've been cheated on? Those are the reasons why
Speaker 2: there's a lot of women that are toxic, those women
Speaker 2: that have been hurt and betrayed in the past. And
Speaker 2: now you started a new relationship with this woman that's
Speaker 2: been slightly damaged by her past experiences.
Speaker 1: Do you think that affects the new relationship.
Speaker 2: If you start a relationship with someone that's been hurt
Speaker 2: in the past, whether cheating you know, boyfriend or girlfriend.
Speaker 1: How do you help them heal?
Speaker 2: I think that that's very important these days. I think
Speaker 2: the healing is a very important part of it all.
Speaker 2: We're getting into relationships with people that have been hurt,
Speaker 2: with people that have been damaged, with people that are bringing.
Speaker 1: Their own baggage.
Speaker 2: And if we're not willing to understand what their experiences
Speaker 2: have been, what they've been through, how were we supposed
Speaker 2: to have a solid relationship with someone you have to
Speaker 2: push through. Don't do anything that's gonna make your significant
Speaker 2: other feel like you are being unfaithful. For example, if
Speaker 2: your a girl doesn't like you liking other females pictures
Speaker 2: on social media, don't do it. Look at it if
Speaker 2: you want, but don't do it. You know why, because
Speaker 2: it's gonna be that one like that one like to
Speaker 2: you gonna have been like, Oh, I just think that
Speaker 2: she's pretty. I think that she's sexy. I think that
Speaker 2: whatever the hell, but that one like in this other
Speaker 2: person's mind could be like a whole world of you
Speaker 2: may be cheating. If you were willing to like her publicly,
Speaker 2: you might be talking to her on DM. What about
Speaker 2: if you flew her in? What about if you already
Speaker 2: met her, that's too much. And feeling insecure these days
Speaker 2: is not just for women. Men go through it too.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of men now on social media as well.
Speaker 2: Your girl's DM is loaded of men that are waiting
Speaker 2: for you to fuck up for two seconds to take
Speaker 2: your place, do you know? And I also think it's
Speaker 2: important for women if you're in a real relationship and
Speaker 2: men don't entertain it, don't entertain it because even saying hi,
Speaker 2: thank you, oh my god, yes you said I'm beautiful,
Speaker 2: even the smallest little things like that can destroy a good,
Speaker 2: solid relationship with someone that actually has a real foundation.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying. And something else I want to know.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Ladies, help me figure this out. Do you really believe
Speaker 2: that once a cheatter, always a cheater. Do you think
Speaker 2: that once they cheat one time, they repeat the same patterns.
Speaker 2: Can you forgive them and be like, okay, you know
Speaker 2: what you do know me, once you said you were sorry,
Speaker 2: you're not even do it again.
Speaker 1: Do you think that people can.
Speaker 2: Actually just make mistakes of like, oh, you know, I
Speaker 2: was going through a vulnerable moment and I just cheated
Speaker 2: on my girl, or I just cheated on my man,
Speaker 2: but I really love my man. Can you cheat and
Speaker 2: still love your partner, meaning like I just went and
Speaker 2: had sex, I just want to entertain this person because
Speaker 2: I was bored, because I was emotionally not fulfilled or whatever,
Speaker 2: and still realistically love your partner.
Speaker 1: Can you I don't know. I'm trying to figure it out.
Speaker 2: You guys tell me, because I am the type of
Speaker 2: woman personally, don't know. Personal I am the type of
Speaker 2: woman that if I push and push and push and
Speaker 2: push before I go ahead and cheat, I will try
Speaker 2: to the end of me. That's something very common in women.
Speaker 1: When a woman.
Speaker 2: Cheats, usually she's already tired, she's over it, she's already
Speaker 2: tried to fix her relationship for a long time. Men,
Speaker 2: in the other hand, can have sex or cheat and
Speaker 2: still come back home like nothing happened, Like this is
Speaker 2: my girl. You were just a fling or you were
Speaker 2: just the moment, right. I I can't if I cheat,
Speaker 2: I don't. I can't cheat. That's too much pressure.
Speaker 1: That's another thing.
Speaker 2: The pressure of cheating is a lot you gotta be
Speaker 2: worried about. They get Let me turn my phone or around,
Speaker 2: let me put my phone on silent. What about if
Speaker 2: you call me? What about if you text me? What
Speaker 2: about if you FaceTime me and my girl picks up
Speaker 2: the phone, my or my guy is like, Yo, who's this?
Speaker 2: You gotta be deleting conversations. You gotta be You got that, listen.
Speaker 2: That is a lot of work. Mentally, is very stressful.
Speaker 2: I know that maybe in the beginning it will be
Speaker 2: fun and you got it. But once you know, some
Speaker 2: time passes, emotions are gonna get involved. You know something
Speaker 2: is gonna happen, or you're gonna feel like, oh no,
Speaker 2: this is this is too much.
Speaker 1: So I'm not a good cheater. It doesn't work for me.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Usually whenever, even if I start one.
Speaker 2: Relationship right back to back to the other, I've already
Speaker 2: finished one. And by the time I finish that one,
Speaker 2: we've already been been done while being together. That means
Speaker 2: that either we're not even having sex anymore, but we're
Speaker 2: supposedly still together.
Speaker 1: You know, because I've heard that too.
Speaker 2: Oh if you cheat and then you start a relationship
Speaker 2: like the next day or the next week, oh, you're
Speaker 2: already cheating. No, not necessarily, because we see people that
Speaker 2: get divorced and like a month later, they're already engaged
Speaker 2: to someone else. The way that love is set up
Speaker 2: or new relationships, there's no guide book. There's no rule
Speaker 2: book on how to find love, on how to be
Speaker 2: in a relationship.
Speaker 1: You know, you never know when things are going to happen.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, you know, you have to live your
Speaker 2: life and live for you, because if you live based
Speaker 2: off people's opinions, you're never going to be happy. Rebuilding
Speaker 2: trust is the most challenging process of it all.
Speaker 1: You know, being able.
Speaker 2: To to just trust that person. How do you move
Speaker 2: past that? How do you trust again after someone has
Speaker 2: cheated on you? Is it possible? I believe it is.
Speaker 2: With a lot of work and effort, I believe it's possible.
Speaker 2: I also do believe that in the back of their minds,
Speaker 2: once you cheat and you have I've been able to
Speaker 2: forgive them for it. There's a part of me that
Speaker 2: feels like, oh, they think you soft because they know
Speaker 2: that you really love them. So it's like, yeah, you
Speaker 2: forgave me, but I'm still gonna do it again. Now
Speaker 2: this time I'm going trying to do a better sound
Speaker 2: and get caught or she just leaves and me like
Speaker 2: you know what, you betrayed me, You're disrespectful, you cheated
Speaker 2: on me.
Speaker 1: I trusted you and is over.
Speaker 2: But then the next person that you get, what does
Speaker 2: that guarantee you that they're not.
Speaker 1: Gonna cheat on you?
Speaker 2: I had a friend that recently just filed for divorce
Speaker 2: because her man cheated on her.
Speaker 1: It wasn't one cheat. If you cheated like multiple, multiple, multiple.
Speaker 2: Different type of women in a course of like fifteen years.
Speaker 1: That you've been married, is that for should you forgive?
Speaker 2: And that's another thing I'd be asking because I wonder,
Speaker 2: like I've always wanted to get married, that that was
Speaker 2: my dream since that was a little girl, my white dress,
Speaker 2: blah blah blah blahh and they great, fantastic. These days,
Speaker 2: the concept of love, relationship, commitments, all those things have changed.
Speaker 2: We have so many people now that are in open
Speaker 2: relationships because they don't want to feel like they're being
Speaker 2: cheated on, because they don't want to feel as if, okay,
Speaker 2: you know, I don't know, now I got to forgive
Speaker 2: you for cheating on me. Meanwhile, if we're both in
Speaker 2: a com you know, in an understanding that we're in
Speaker 2: an open relationship, you get to do your thing, I
Speaker 2: do my thing too, and we're so cool.
Speaker 1: Man. That's a tough one right there.
Speaker 2: I can never be in an open relationship because I
Speaker 2: am very panicky about STDSG. You know, that's just me.
Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of people are not thinking
Speaker 2: about all those things too. Cheating is not just the
Speaker 2: fact that of betrayal. It also comes with the physical aspect.
Speaker 2: You know. I know a lot of beautiful women who
Speaker 2: have been burnt and they don't say anything because I
Speaker 2: even told them, did you tell this person that you
Speaker 2: know that you're They're like, no, they didn't ask me,
Speaker 2: so I don't got to say. I don't gotta tell.
Speaker 2: And that's a terrible mindset. But we find a lot
Speaker 2: of men that will go out and about to have
Speaker 2: a good time. Right you selfishly decided to make a
Speaker 2: decision of enjoying your body, enjoying yourself while having a partner.
Speaker 2: Now you go home, you have sex with your partner,
Speaker 2: and now you burn your partner as well.
Speaker 1: All these things can really really like you really got
Speaker 1: to think it through these days.
Speaker 2: Imagine just going out to have a good time and
Speaker 2: starting to feel weird a week later, going to the
Speaker 2: doctor and finding out you have an STD, you know, gone.
Speaker 1: Rhea, syphilis, herpes, HIV.
Speaker 2: Like, there's so many things to protect yourself, and that
Speaker 2: doesn't just come from you know. I'm not saying to
Speaker 2: be panicky and have when it comes to it, because
Speaker 2: I guess that's maybe one of the reasons why I'm
Speaker 2: also panicky sexually, and I have been practicing celibacy til
Speaker 2: I find someone that I'm like, you're for me, and
Speaker 2: I'm for you, and we're here.
Speaker 1: Let's dug it out. Cool. If you feel like you need.
Speaker 2: To be sexually satisfied with multiple women or multiple men
Speaker 2: out here in these streets, then you need to be
Speaker 2: out here in these streets because I'm trying to be
Speaker 2: inside the house. I'm not trying to be part of that,
Speaker 2: but I think that is important to all. So think
Speaker 2: about that, you know, And the same thing goes for women.
Speaker 2: You could have gone outside to have a good time
Speaker 2: and just you know, oh, this guy was really cute,
Speaker 2: and then a month.
Speaker 1: Later you come, you know, pregnant or whatever.
Speaker 2: So I'm just saying, let's think about let's think about
Speaker 2: the whole picture when it comes to cheating, when it
Speaker 2: comes to forgiving the person that you're with you you
Speaker 2: can lose a really good relationship because of cheating. You
Speaker 2: can lose your trust, you can lose their friendship, you
Speaker 2: can lose everything you've ever built with someone because of
Speaker 2: a couple of minutes of having fun, of having a
Speaker 2: good time. You can physically be damaged. You know, you
Speaker 2: can physically go through a terrible situation because of just
Speaker 2: having a good time for a little bit. I think
Speaker 2: if you want to be if you want to be
Speaker 2: single and you want to have fun, you go ahead
Speaker 2: and you do that, but don't be in a committed
Speaker 2: relationship with someone who is supposedly trying to be faithful
Speaker 2: to you and you go and you do them dirty
Speaker 2: behind their back.
Speaker 1: You know, it.
Speaker 2: Affects the trust, It affects your self esteem, It affects
Speaker 2: the way that they view themselves, that they view relationships.
Speaker 2: It affects your sexual experience with this person, because now
Speaker 2: every time you have sex in the back of your mind,
Speaker 2: you're thinking about this person.
Speaker 1: That they cheated on.
Speaker 2: You know, you question that whoever it is that they
Speaker 2: cheated on, was there sex better?
Speaker 1: You know, why did you go so many times to
Speaker 1: the same person?
Speaker 2: What were you looking for that I'm not providing for
Speaker 2: you where you're looking for comfort, where you're looking for
Speaker 2: a different type of sexual experience, which happens in many occasions.
Speaker 2: You know, if you like bondage, if you like a
Speaker 2: certain type of sexual experience that your partner is not
Speaker 2: giving you at home, You're gonna go find it somewhere else.
Speaker 2: If you have someone that likes to be very conservative sexually,
Speaker 2: for example, because sex is a very important part of
Speaker 2: a relationship and is one of the reasons why people
Speaker 2: cheat for the most part. But if you are with
Speaker 2: someone that's very conservative and you like to have you know,
Speaker 2: wild sexy fun, you know, sex, and this person is
Speaker 2: not providing that. Are they not providing it because you
Speaker 2: don't want to tell them? Are they not providing it
Speaker 2: because you feel embarrassed? I think it is important to
Speaker 2: have the those conversations.
Speaker 1: Listen. I don't want to cheat on you. I don't.
Speaker 2: I but but there's things that I'm into, there's things
Speaker 2: I want to experience, there's things I want to experience.
Speaker 2: And before I go out of my way to do
Speaker 2: it with somebody else and do it the wrong way,
Speaker 2: I'd rather do it with you. All those things are
Speaker 2: important to me, I don't know if you understand where
Speaker 2: I'm coming from.
Speaker 1: If you agree, let me know because I want to
Speaker 1: know your opinion.
Speaker 2: There's so many things that we could talk about when
Speaker 2: it comes to forgiving, you know, forgiving a cheating spouse,
Speaker 2: for getting a cheating boyfriend girlfriend, There's so many layers
Speaker 2: into it.
Speaker 1: Do you forgive? Do you not forgive? How do you
Speaker 1: move on? You know?
Speaker 2: Do we go to therapy, do we have an open relationship,
Speaker 2: do we try different sexual experiences?
Speaker 1: Do we talk to our family? To I done? Though?
Speaker 2: There's so many layers to this is so complex that
Speaker 2: I want to know your opinion.
Speaker 1: Oh cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater. Mmm, I don't know. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to figure it out just like y'all.
Speaker 2: But anyways, with that being said, that brings us to
Speaker 2: the end of today's episode. God, I really want to
Speaker 2: know your opinion. Have you ever forgiven someone this cheated
Speaker 2: on you? Did it work out? Is it worth even
Speaker 2: forgiving them because you.
Speaker 1: Just let it go? I'm not show bar.
Speaker 2: Anyways, listen to the end of today's episode on Exactly Amada,
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