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Speaker 1: First Date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocates Law dot com.

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Speaker 2: Michelle is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Stevens.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if it's us, why he's ghosting her, and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Michelle, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Stephen.

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week and a.

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Speaker 2: Half, okay, And have you reached out.

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Speaker 3: To him in that time? Yeah, I texted him three times,

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Speaker 3: but then I was just like.

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Speaker 4: After the third text with no response, I felt like

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Speaker 4: I had to have some dignity.

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Speaker 2: And I saw her it's understandable.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So how was your date then?

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Speaker 2: What happened?

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Speaker 3: Well, it was actually a great date. We went on.

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Speaker 4: A picnic together and it was super cute, and then

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Speaker 4: we went on a little walk. It was just like

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Speaker 4: a lovely little hike.

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Speaker 3: It was.

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Speaker 4: It was also a great date, like it was the

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Speaker 4: kind of date that you would see in a rom

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Speaker 4: com And I felt so good after words, and we

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Speaker 4: you know, shared a romantic sunset kiss at the Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it was it was really lovely, and I didn't end

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Speaker 4: up going home with him, and then he was a

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Speaker 4: gentleman so he didn't.

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Speaker 3: Ask, But yeah, I felt great about it afterwards.

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Speaker 2: Why do you think he's not calling you back?

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Speaker 4: Well, I did mention on the date that I read

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Speaker 4: fairy smut book and.

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Speaker 2: Like him like fairy Born, this the kind of books

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Speaker 2: our friend read.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like demeanor kind of changed after I brought

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Speaker 4: that up, and so I thought maybe that put him

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Speaker 4: off or he was judging me about that, But like,

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Speaker 4: I'd like a chance to explain myself because I don't

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Speaker 4: think it's that weird, but anything, I feel like it's

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Speaker 4: that all right.

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Speaker 2: Our social media producer Gaby rees that stuff all the time. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: she's always talking about the fairies that are doing nast

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Speaker 2: each other.

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Speaker 1: But I want to know more so when you brought

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Speaker 1: that up, how did he react to it?

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Speaker 2: Was he like I read too.

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Speaker 1: Do you think maybe it's the fact that you read,

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Speaker 1: or that it's fairy porn.

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Speaker 4: It's definitely the fairy porn aspect and not the reading.

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Speaker 4: He just kind of went quiet, and then after a.

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Speaker 3: While he was like, oh, that's cool, and then he

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Speaker 3: didn't say anything else. So we changed the subject.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so his vibe kind of changed after that for

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Speaker 2: the rest of the date, or it was just that

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Speaker 2: one awkward moment.

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Speaker 3: I mean, for the rest of the hike, his vibe

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Speaker 3: definitely was different. Yeah, we kept hyping for a while

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Speaker 3: after that, but he seemed like he was super distracted.

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Speaker 1: But then he was fine when you guys kissed and

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Speaker 1: then did he say that he wanted to see you again?

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Speaker 4: At the end he was kind of like, yeah, I'd

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Speaker 4: love to see you again, but it felt sort of

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Speaker 4: half hearted, and then we parted ways, and I don't know,

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Speaker 4: he just seemed like tired and over it by the end.

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Speaker 3: It was weird.

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Speaker 1: So what about that makes you feel like you want

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Speaker 1: to talk to him again?

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Speaker 4: Well, I think feel like, up until the very end,

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Speaker 4: the date was so calm and so romantic, and I

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Speaker 4: hadn't had a date like that in such a long time,

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Speaker 4: and you know, I've been single for a couple of years.

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Speaker 4: I just like really enjoyed it. So I feel like

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Speaker 4: there is potential here. I just want to be able

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Speaker 4: to like clear up the very smutt issue.

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Speaker 2: If if that's what it is, all right, well, we'll

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Speaker 2: see if we can figure it out for you. Then

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Speaker 2: we'll play a song come Back, and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you,

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date if you still want one. Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, thank you, all right, we'll play a song

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Speaker 2: come back, do your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 5: Friend.

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Speaker 2: In the middle of today's first date follow up and

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Michelle is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Steven. So

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Speaker 2: we're about to call him and see if he'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another

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Speaker 2: date if she still wants one. But before we do that,

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Speaker 2: one of your fresh Everard's memory on your date with Steven.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So Steve and I went on a date about two

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Speaker 4: weeks ago. We went on a picnic, we went for

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Speaker 4: a hike. It was lovely and I had a great time.

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Speaker 4: But at one point I mentioned that I read Very

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Speaker 4: Smut book and how have changed? So I'm trying to

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Speaker 4: figure out what the problem is. He hasn't reached out

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Speaker 4: to me a half.

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Speaker 2: Well, are you ready to see if it was a

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Speaker 2: very smut that ruined your day?

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Speaker 3: I'm ready, I'm all right.

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Speaker 2: Here we go I'm gonna call him right now. Hello him,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Stephen. Please.

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Speaker 3: This is Steven.

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Speaker 2: How are you man? My name is Jewbel. I'm calling

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Speaker 2: from a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Stephen, I'm Nina also on the show.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I am Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Oh what okay?

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Speaker 2: What have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I've heard of it. Okay, why don't.

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Speaker 2: Well do a thing on the show? It's called the

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Speaker 2: first Date follow Up? What that is? If you go

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Speaker 2: out on a date with somebody and then you ghost them,

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Speaker 2: that person can email us to call you and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh, and you did.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's from somebody named Michelle. Okay, and Michelle

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Speaker 2: told us a little bit about your date. She says

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Speaker 2: she really liked you, and she's wondering why you're ghosting

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Speaker 2: or can you tell us?

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Speaker 5: Oh? I mean I like Michelle. She's a really nice girl.

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Speaker 5: I don't I got nothing bad to say about her.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what. I don't know what to say.

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Speaker 5: She you know, she's just uh, she's pretty cool.

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Speaker 1: Well, then how come you didn't respond when she reached

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Speaker 1: out to you three times.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: She's like really like she's like very physically fit and

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Speaker 5: like she looks beautiful and and like that's not like

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Speaker 5: a knock on anybody. But she likes to like hike

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Speaker 5: and stuff, and like I'm just kind of not.

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Speaker 3: Into all that.

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Speaker 2: You're not into the hiking and stuff.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean it's not like I don't like enjoy

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Speaker 5: yoga and she and we went on this hike that

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Speaker 5: like it was hot and I'm like a gamer by heart, dude,

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Speaker 5: Like it wasn't that like it wasn't necessarily her. I

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Speaker 5: just figured like if that's the type of date that

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Speaker 5: Like I'm really like I'm not lazy, but I'm just

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Speaker 3: A good time.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, she thought it might be because she's into

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Speaker 2: those adult fairy smart books. Oh no, no, that was

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Speaker 2: about the reason at all.

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Speaker 3: No, No, not at all. Actually, like I thought that

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Speaker 5: Like I'm like like like I'm a gamer, like I I.

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Speaker 2: Was gonna say, yea, if you're a gamer, that's yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, I mean like I'm not like, you know, creepy

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Speaker 5: I don't. I don't find it weird, Like I like

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Speaker 5: there's gamer or stuff that I kind of like. That

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Speaker 5: I thought was pretty like, I thought that was cool.

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Speaker 3: I just don't like.

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Speaker 5: To freaking I just didn't want to keep walking around

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Speaker 2: All right, cool, Thanks for being honest with man. I

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Speaker 2: appreciate that. Now, Like you know that Michelle is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and she's been listening and wants to talk

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Speaker 2: to you.

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Speaker 1: No, TI.

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Speaker 5: Share what's up?

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Speaker 3: Set up? Why were you so down to go for

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Speaker 3: a hike? I would have been fine with not doing that.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I just thought I was just trying to be like easy,

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Speaker 5: but then I realized, like how much. So you talked

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Speaker 5: and I just felt like I don't want to do

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Speaker 5: that all day every day.

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Speaker 3: So dude, you didn't mind the fairy smut at all?

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Speaker 5: No? Now, no, no, dude, actually, like I'm I think

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Speaker 5: I would like to hear more about that.

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Speaker 4: Okay, great, wells maybe yeah, no, we don't have to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean not it's totally cool.

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Speaker 5: But I mean, like if you if you really like hiking,

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Speaker 5: like what's going to happen, like, you know, a couple

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Speaker 5: like I really am not it's not something I enjoy.

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Speaker 2: It at all, Like is that.

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Speaker 3: Going to be a problem.

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Speaker 4: I mean I can probably like keep it to myself somewhat.

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Speaker 4: But how inactive are you really? I mean, do you

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Speaker 5: I mean like I'm like my friends joke with me

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Speaker 5: and they say that I'm accidentally fit.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm I'm not inactive. I just like I'd

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Speaker 5: Like playing games like I E good and I do stuff.

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Speaker 5: But I don't like to just like set out on

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Speaker 3: That's not That's not what I like to do.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, we might have to get you a wee

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Speaker 4: fit or something like. We might have to find some

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Speaker 4: compromise here.

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Speaker 1: That seems fair.

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Speaker 2: Okay, then Steven, would you like another date with Michelle?

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Speaker 2: We'll pay for it. We're not going to pay for

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Speaker 2: a wee fit, but we'll pay for it the date.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I'm totally down, just as long as uh,

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Speaker 5: you know, maybe we could uber there and go like.

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Speaker 2: Well, congratulations, Michelle, you got another date.

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Speaker 4: Yeay, yay, Okay, I'm yeah, I'm down to take a

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Speaker 4: car there, and I do have some smut recommendations for

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Speaker 4: you when you're ready.

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Speaker 1: You play your cards right, So we you a bedtime

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Speaker 1: story First date follow up