Speaker 1: Episode ninety three, Frugal Self Care. Welcome to the Frugal
Speaker 1: Friends podcast, where you'll learn to save money, embrace simplicity,
Speaker 1: and live with your life. Here your host Jen and
Speaker 1: Jill mm hm m m m m mmm. Hello and
Speaker 1: welcome to another episode of Frugal Friends podcast. My name
Speaker 1: is Jen, my name's Jill, and we are talking all
Speaker 1: about how to find your inner peace without breaking your budget.
Speaker 1: It's that frugal self care that we all need. We
Speaker 1: all need self care. Yes on this topic is so
Speaker 1: near and dear to my heart because I train on this,
Speaker 1: have got all kinds of content on this in my
Speaker 1: regular everyday professional life. And we're gonna be talking about
Speaker 1: more than just take a bubble bath, because I think
Speaker 1: that that's what people think about when they think of
Speaker 1: self care is just a bath. No, that's it is
Speaker 1: on somebody's list on the internet. But y'all, that's so
Speaker 1: much more than that. So we're going to dive in
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Speaker 1: self care, and this one is going to be a
Speaker 1: great one. I want to challenge some of our views
Speaker 1: about self care, especially on a debt free journey or
Speaker 1: for busy moms or whatever the case is, because I
Speaker 1: think we need to be a little more self centered
Speaker 1: when it comes to our self care. I heard that
Speaker 1: on the three and thirty Moms podcast recently, is that
Speaker 1: we need to be more self centered, just putting ourselves
Speaker 1: in the center of our jars so that everything else
Speaker 1: can fit inside. So that's what we're gonna do today. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I think it's worth so I wouldn't even want
Speaker 1: to spend it a bit more positively because that sounds
Speaker 1: that sounds negative to like we have a negative connotation
Speaker 1: about like being selfish or being self centered, or somebody
Speaker 1: will do something for themselves and then they say, oh,
Speaker 1: I know, I'm being selfish. And and I would even
Speaker 1: challenge us to say, what if we were to talk
Speaker 1: about this as far as what is needed in order
Speaker 1: to care for others well or where can the boundary
Speaker 1: lines fall that is pleasant for you? Where you feel
Speaker 1: good about giving to other people because I think so
Speaker 1: often we do do do, do, do, and then there's
Speaker 1: this bitterness that can set in that is not good
Speaker 1: for anybody. So approaching this if that's you, If you
Speaker 1: have a hard time looking at self care because it
Speaker 1: seems like it's a selfish thing or it's a self
Speaker 1: centered thing and there's a negative connotation with that, well
Speaker 1: what if we were to look at it the other
Speaker 1: way of in order to care for other people well
Speaker 1: and to do it without bitterness, without frustration. Then these
Speaker 1: things are necessary to come first, come in the middle,
Speaker 1: come at the end where wherever you want to fit
Speaker 1: it in. But it's necessary to be able to accomplish
Speaker 1: the things that we want to accomplish. Yes, So our
Speaker 1: first article is from psych Central and it's on what
Speaker 1: self care is and what it isn't And this is
Speaker 1: the first result that pops up on Google when you
Speaker 1: google self care. I would have chosen it anyway, because
Speaker 1: you get a lot of articles from Bustle and Refinery
Speaker 1: twenty nine and all these like girly websites like how
Speaker 1: does self care and stuff? But I really wanted to
Speaker 1: take time to focus on on a psychological level what
Speaker 1: self care is so that we can identify what it
Speaker 1: is and what it isn't. So I like their definition
Speaker 1: here where they say self care is any activity that
Speaker 1: we deliberately do. There's effort involved in order to take
Speaker 1: care of our mental, emotional, physical health. And so it's
Speaker 1: a simple concept in theory, but it really can get
Speaker 1: tossed to the side, and we think that we have
Speaker 1: this unlimited capacity to just do everything in front of us,
Speaker 1: only to often get wiped out or end up in
Speaker 1: bitterness and frustration. Yeah, and self care is not something
Speaker 1: that you force yourself to do or something you don't
Speaker 1: enjoy doing. So I think for me, I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people equate self care with yoga, and I
Speaker 1: personally do not like yoga and so but for a
Speaker 1: while I thought, oh gosh, I have to do yoga
Speaker 1: because that's self care, but I never enjoyed doing it.
Speaker 1: And one day I was just like, this is not
Speaker 1: this is not for me. This doesn't refeel me, it
Speaker 1: doesn't light me up, it doesn't re energize me. It
Speaker 1: makes me feel awkward and like nervous about farting. So
Speaker 1: that's not self care for me. Like what self care
Speaker 1: for somebody else does not necessarily mean it's self care
Speaker 1: for you, And so you just throw off that um mindset.
Speaker 1: That's what it has to be because it's something you need.
Speaker 1: It's not selfish, but it's something that refuels you so
Speaker 1: that you can fills you up so that you can
Speaker 1: pour out to others. Yeah, and I look at it
Speaker 1: as you know, when you're on a plane and the
Speaker 1: flight attendant says, put on your own mask before assisting
Speaker 1: others with THEIRS. That's how I see self care is
Speaker 1: putting on your own mask before you start assisting others
Speaker 1: with theirs. It's just practical. M m. Yeah. I love
Speaker 1: that they have three golden rules here for self care.
Speaker 1: I love sets of three yes, because that's simple too.
Speaker 1: There's only so much we can take in all at once.
Speaker 1: So the first golden rule of self care that this
Speaker 1: article lists is stick to the basics. Don't try and
Speaker 1: find the most complicated, not gonna work for you kind
Speaker 1: of rhythm. I would call this the low hanging fruit.
Speaker 1: What is right in front of you that is easy
Speaker 1: to grab. You're walking by a fruit tree and it's
Speaker 1: just right there and you pluck it off. We're not
Speaker 1: climbing up to the very tippy top, going across branches
Speaker 1: to find fruit. Just what's right there within your grasp
Speaker 1: that you can incorporate into a regular rhythm or routine.
Speaker 1: And we will get into some of these specifics, but
Speaker 1: we're laying the foundation first. Stick to the basics. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and self care also needs to be something you actively
Speaker 1: plan rather than just happens. So it should be some
Speaker 1: low hanging fruit, but you should plan on when you're
Speaker 1: going to grab it, because if you fail to plan,
Speaker 1: you plan to fail, and you will not incorporate your
Speaker 1: self care if it is not written down in your schedule. Yes,
Speaker 1: and also the third one is to be conscious about
Speaker 1: what's happening, kind of this idea of paying attention, being
Speaker 1: present in the moment too, in order to see is
Speaker 1: something sticking or not? Is this working or not? And
Speaker 1: I will add to this. So what is RESTful to
Speaker 1: us or life giving at one point in life or
Speaker 1: at one point in the month may not be what's
Speaker 1: RESTful to you a few weeks later, a few months later,
Speaker 1: a year later. We change and shift, Our needs change
Speaker 1: and shift, and our circumstances change and shift. So what
Speaker 1: we need at each point might look different. So this
Speaker 1: definitely isn't a prescriptive. This is what I do and
Speaker 1: I feel this way. Certainly. Sometimes we can have rules
Speaker 1: of thumb for ourselves, but it's worth paying attention to
Speaker 1: what works what doesn't. Sometimes watching a movie is just
Speaker 1: what I need it. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes I actually
Speaker 1: I need to be around really good friends and and
Speaker 1: have good conversation. Sometimes I just need to sleep. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it's the best thing we can do for ourselves than
Speaker 1: grasping for who knows what. Just go to bed and
Speaker 1: get some actual sleep. So keeping that in mind, but
Speaker 1: paying attention to you, all right, how did that impact me?
Speaker 1: How am I feeling? Am I more anxious or am
Speaker 1: I less anxious? If I'm more anxious than it didn't work,
Speaker 1: don't keep doing that thing that doesn't work, so be
Speaker 1: paying attention to it as you go. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: it's a good idea every season, like every quarter, to
Speaker 1: reevaluate where you are in your life and what self
Speaker 1: care practices you want to incorporate. So right now I
Speaker 1: have an eight month old and sleep is still one
Speaker 1: of my priorities for self care. And it used to
Speaker 1: be like self care could be doing things for me,
Speaker 1: but in the season of my life it's less doing
Speaker 1: things and just taking being intentional about my basic needs. Uh,
Speaker 1: and that will not always be like that, hopefully God
Speaker 1: help me. But giving yourself twenty minutes to say, Okay,
Speaker 1: what has my last quarter looked like? What is my
Speaker 1: next quarter going to look like? What have I been
Speaker 1: doing for self care? What do I want to keep?
Speaker 1: What do I want to add? So just doing that
Speaker 1: evaluation a few a few times a year, maybe if
Speaker 1: your life is not changing that rapidly. Yeah, And I
Speaker 1: think I want to highlight that piece of intentionality because
Speaker 1: these things won't just happen to us. Somebody posted on
Speaker 1: Facebook recently I saw this meme that said adulthood is
Speaker 1: basically saying, but in a few weeks, life will settle
Speaker 1: down over and over and over and over again. Meaning
Speaker 1: we're always busy. There is always something vying for our time, attention,
Speaker 1: and energy, and if we're not careful, we will give
Speaker 1: it away over and over and over and over again.
Speaker 1: So so while self care should be something that you
Speaker 1: actually enjoy, not stealing somebody else's self care that doesn't
Speaker 1: work for you, but it will take intentionality. There's there's
Speaker 1: this biblical concept. I know we all come from different
Speaker 1: faith backgrounds, but this one I think is true across
Speaker 1: the board of it takes effort to enter into rest.
Speaker 1: This this concept that we need to labor or make
Speaker 1: effort to experience rest, which we all know that to
Speaker 1: be true. It sounds like an oxymoron of like, wait,
Speaker 1: labor for rest, but it's a reality that need others,
Speaker 1: needs other attention to other people. Accomplishing things will always
Speaker 1: take over if we don't make effort to rest. It
Speaker 1: has got to be something that we intentionally set aside,
Speaker 1: otherwise it will never happen. Yes, I feel also personally
Speaker 1: attacked by that mean, because I always say, I just
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be busy for the next few weeks. I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna be busy for the next few weeks. And
Speaker 1: I've noticed myself saying that, And I always figure out
Speaker 1: something when I have some like a few weeks of downtime.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, I could like do this
Speaker 1: thing and like fill up this time. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: why did I do that? Yeah, exactly exactly, And and
Speaker 1: probably that depends on your personality type too, Like I
Speaker 1: I am that for sure of all right, I got
Speaker 1: ten minutes in between this appointment and that appointment, So
Speaker 1: what should I get done? I can, Yeah, it's it's
Speaker 1: it takes effort for me to let that happen. I
Speaker 1: felt really convicted about this as I was doing research
Speaker 1: for this episode last night, and so I actually stopped
Speaker 1: working when I felt like my mental capacity had been expended,
Speaker 1: and uh went and just folded some laundry and I
Speaker 1: used one of those facial masks that you got me, Jill,
Speaker 1: like when Kai was born. Yeah, I still you had
Speaker 1: that for like four months. Yeah, so I give it
Speaker 1: to you. I give it to you the end of
Speaker 1: the beginning of September. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've had
Speaker 1: it for a while and I finally used it and
Speaker 1: it was great for you. Yeah, it was great. So
Speaker 1: I took I tried to take this info to heart. So,
Speaker 1: although self care means different things to different people, there's
Speaker 1: a basic checklist that can be followed by all of us.
Speaker 1: And I love the first thing on this checklist. It's
Speaker 1: create a no list with things you don't like or
Speaker 1: you no longer want to do. So examples might include
Speaker 1: not checking emails at night, not attending gatherings you don't
Speaker 1: like like not answering your phone during lunch or dinner.
Speaker 1: When we were in premarital counseling, um our pastor said
Speaker 1: him and his wife grade events, so they'll put an
Speaker 1: event like out there because they I mean, they get
Speaker 1: invited to so many things, so they'll put the event
Speaker 1: out there and they eat have to give it a
Speaker 1: grade A to F and then they don't go unless
Speaker 1: it's uh, unanimously like an air B A C A
Speaker 1: C average. You can't even be a C average. It
Speaker 1: has to be a unanimously an air big Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Oh what if it's a funeral or something. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't think you're ever going to get an AIRB
Speaker 1: on that kind of thing. Well, if it's important, like
Speaker 1: an important funeral, that a like how excited I am
Speaker 1: about the event? It's a how how much do I
Speaker 1: want to go? Oh my, got it? Thanks for that clarification.
Speaker 1: If you were wondering, I'm sure you were. But no
Speaker 1: is a full sentence, and I give out nose graciously. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: saying no to things. But also so this this bullet
Speaker 1: point actually carries a lot to it because it's not
Speaker 1: just saying no to things, which is a part of
Speaker 1: self care. It's also our own personal boundaries and limitations.
Speaker 1: So I love that they gave the example of not
Speaker 1: checking emails. That's a boundary. That's not a saying no
Speaker 1: to an event or a person. That is, what do
Speaker 1: I want to do to be able to set these
Speaker 1: boundaries in places that are going to provide me with
Speaker 1: some rest and some self care? And so what does
Speaker 1: that look like in my life? Not keeping your phone
Speaker 1: in your room or not staying up past a certain time.
Speaker 1: These are great things for us to be able to say,
Speaker 1: I know that this impacts me negatively when I do X,
Speaker 1: Y and Z, so I'm going to put a boundary
Speaker 1: around this for myself. Yes, a few other things that
Speaker 1: should be on everybody's list. Healthy diet, enough sleep seven
Speaker 1: to eight hours r I P sleep in my life
Speaker 1: which pause pause on the sleep thing. There's actually studies
Speaker 1: showing that most of America is sleep deprived. Most of
Speaker 1: America is not getting the sleep that we need. Uh
Speaker 1: shout out to you Mama's Holy smokes. Thankfully, it's just
Speaker 1: the season, hopefully unless you keep popping them out. Um.
Speaker 1: But this is how they torture people, Like if if
Speaker 1: you're if you're ever going to torture somebody, well don't,
Speaker 1: don't do that. But when people are tortured, they usually
Speaker 1: deprive people of sleep. It is the most effective torture tactic.
Speaker 1: So holy smokes, let's not do this to ourselves. Yeah, amen,
Speaker 1: learn how much sleep you need and get it. Yes, exercise,
Speaker 1: So maybe that's yoga for you. For me, it's CrossFit.
Speaker 1: I'm a horrible crossfitter, but I enjoy it, so I
Speaker 1: do it. Uh, maybe it's running also like running, Maybe
Speaker 1: it's biking, it's going to the gym, doing whatever you
Speaker 1: do there. So just any exercise whatever that looks like
Speaker 1: to you. Following up with medical care, this was an
Speaker 1: interesting one that I did not think about. But it's
Speaker 1: not unusual to put off checkups or visit to the doctor.
Speaker 1: And we even have these well visits that are included
Speaker 1: in most of our health plans that go unused every year.
Speaker 1: So so making sure that you use those and stay
Speaker 1: on top of your health so that you can have
Speaker 1: peace of mind and don't stress about what's going on,
Speaker 1: like what that blemishes? Check out our medical episode two
Speaker 1: if that If this is something that you want but
Speaker 1: you are concerned about your budget. We do have some
Speaker 1: tips on medical care, reduced medical how to reduce some
Speaker 1: medical costs, So check out that episode. Engage with us
Speaker 1: in our community group too. If that is a piece
Speaker 1: of the concern or a barrier to getting these things done, yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll link to it in the show notes. And uh so,
Speaker 1: use relaxation exercises or meditation, spend time with your loved ones.
Speaker 1: Just relaxing and doing pleasurable things and things that fill
Speaker 1: you up is basically what it is saying. Awesome. Yes,
Speaker 1: our next article is from pure Wow, not as educationally
Speaker 1: backed as he's, still good free ways to practice self care.
Speaker 1: And I really liked the list and that's why it's here.
Speaker 1: Which all of what we've talked about so far has
Speaker 1: been free, other than the medical piece, which yes, it
Speaker 1: does cause something to care for our bodies, but I
Speaker 1: think it's it's dispelling this whole idea that self care
Speaker 1: is getting your hair done, getting your nails done, buying
Speaker 1: new clothes, going shopping, going out to dinner, doing this,
Speaker 1: doing that. None of what we're talking about has been
Speaker 1: that yet, so much of it is what boundaries are
Speaker 1: we setting, what are we learning about ourselves? Are we
Speaker 1: getting sleep like it. It is so much more than
Speaker 1: spending money, and I hope that that is the underlying
Speaker 1: message we can get across. If you can care for
Speaker 1: yourself and be well inside yourself without a ton of money,
Speaker 1: it really does not require money for sure. Oh yes, Jill,
Speaker 1: what were your takeaways from this one? Yes, so the
Speaker 1: first one that stood out to me actually wasn't until
Speaker 1: number twelve, which is but it resonates with me. So
Speaker 1: I'm not, yeah things, but number twelve is tidy up
Speaker 1: your house. And I think the reason I like this
Speaker 1: one so much and I recognized this for myself. I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's similar for you, Jen, but I
Speaker 1: realized that when my space is cluttered, it is often
Speaker 1: reflective of how my mental or emotional state feels of
Speaker 1: just being cluttered. And that's okay, that comes and goes
Speaker 1: at times. But when I can stop and realize, oh,
Speaker 1: that's what's happening, it can really help me to tidy
Speaker 1: up my physical space, which then can create space for
Speaker 1: me to breathe emotionally, mentally, spiritually. And it's something tangible
Speaker 1: that I can put my hands to and I can
Speaker 1: see a result to it, and then that's one less
Speaker 1: thing that's kind of on my plate, and I literally
Speaker 1: feel like a weight lifted when this happens, and I
Speaker 1: feel like I can exhale emotionally when the space around
Speaker 1: me is a bit more tidy, I feel like, okay,
Speaker 1: I can kind of tidy things up than untily emotionally, spiritually. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: it's one of the reasons we love minimalism is because
Speaker 1: the fewer things you have, the easier it is to
Speaker 1: tidy up, and the more often your space will be
Speaker 1: clear and tidy, and that helps your mental space going forward.
Speaker 1: I liked quite a few on here, so the first
Speaker 1: one I liked was take a walk. I live in
Speaker 1: a city where we have sunshine over three days of
Speaker 1: the year, and I just recently started taking being intentional
Speaker 1: about taking walks, and it's become something that I really
Speaker 1: enjoy doing. I have to get out of the house
Speaker 1: on Saturdays because Travis works nights and he sleeps during
Speaker 1: the day and Kai is loud, so we'll get out
Speaker 1: Saturday morning and go walk downtown and it's just been
Speaker 1: a beautiful time of like walking by the water, um,
Speaker 1: walking through the Saturday morning market, maybe listening to a
Speaker 1: podcast or audiobook while we're walking, I'll make my coffee
Speaker 1: at home and bring it with me, so I don't
Speaker 1: spend anything to do it, and it has been given
Speaker 1: something that's been given me life on the weekends. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's there's so many reasons why that's good. Being outdoors.
Speaker 1: It's a form of exercise that's a bit more leisurely.
Speaker 1: It's an opportunity for a friend to come along, and
Speaker 1: there can be awesome chats that happen on a walk.
Speaker 1: Love it. Oh yeah? So the one right right after
Speaker 1: yours is watch a Netflix movie or show that makes
Speaker 1: you laugh. So I like this one not necessarily just
Speaker 1: the watch a movie or show, because that doesn't usually
Speaker 1: always give us the rest that we need it it
Speaker 1: seems to be like what we need. But what I
Speaker 1: do like about this is the what makes you laugh,
Speaker 1: because playing and laughter and being able to engage in
Speaker 1: something lighthearted, especially depending on what type of work you do.
Speaker 1: For me, this one's really important because I am sitting
Speaker 1: in some really heavy stuff quite often, and I think
Speaker 1: it's important for us to recognize what is the type
Speaker 1: of work or labor that I typically do, and where
Speaker 1: can I find some joy or life or laughter that
Speaker 1: I can put back into myself. And if I could
Speaker 1: add to this, I think it is important to pay
Speaker 1: attention to what we entertain ourselves with and what we
Speaker 1: do in our leisure time because we can continue to
Speaker 1: pile on unrest on top of ourselves. So I'll unpack
Speaker 1: that a little bit more. For instance, this might be
Speaker 1: an extreme example, but I'll throw it out there. I
Speaker 1: work with trauma a lot, those who have experienced trauma
Speaker 1: a lot. For myself. It can be a temptation to you.
Speaker 1: Then go read a lot about trauma, or watch movies
Speaker 1: where individuals and the characters within the movies are traumatized.
Speaker 1: And I can just kind of like soak and marinate
Speaker 1: in this topic all the time because it's what I do.
Speaker 1: And I would challenge myself and all of us to
Speaker 1: look for something that is different from what we do
Speaker 1: all the time. And so, for me, entertainment has got
Speaker 1: to be lighthearted. It has got to be funny, it's
Speaker 1: got to be enjoyable. Otherwise it's not entertainment. That's like,
Speaker 1: that's more work again. And then I'm marinating in this stuff,
Speaker 1: and I'm becoming what I'm marinating in, and and so,
Speaker 1: and I do feel like that applies to anything, even
Speaker 1: if you're not working in you know, trauma work all
Speaker 1: the time. Even if you're in finance, Well, what are
Speaker 1: you doing with your leisure time? Are you constantly doing
Speaker 1: finance things? Are you then always looking at your budget?
Speaker 1: Are you only reading financial blog posts? Like that is
Speaker 1: where it could pile on the stress because it just
Speaker 1: feels like you're only doing what you usually do in
Speaker 1: your line of work. What would it look like to
Speaker 1: do something completely different, to read a blog about gardening
Speaker 1: or to go watch a movie about bumblebees, like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, just something totally different. Read up on whale
Speaker 1: milk because you scrolled past it earlier, but let's revisit
Speaker 1: that one. It's so interesting. I feel counseled right now
Speaker 1: because that is literally all I do. Thank you, you
Speaker 1: you know me, you know, thank you for counseling me
Speaker 1: on the air right now. I do need to have
Speaker 1: more diversity in my free time. When I come park
Speaker 1: my camper at your place, I'll come make sure that
Speaker 1: we look up videos of cow milk together, have different
Speaker 1: types of all the milks. Yeah, okay, is this life
Speaker 1: giving to you? This is not in my self care
Speaker 1: at all? So Another one that is on my self
Speaker 1: careless is number eight, which is put your phone on
Speaker 1: do not disturb. So I don't necessarily do this, but
Speaker 1: my phone is on silent of the time. I do
Speaker 1: not like to interrupt my life with ding's buzzes, vibrations,
Speaker 1: sounds like. I want to be fully present wherever I am,
Speaker 1: and that means sometimes I don't see a text or
Speaker 1: a miscall for thirty minutes, an hour, whatever, but my
Speaker 1: phone is there for for me, I'm not here from
Speaker 1: my phone, so that is always on silent, and that
Speaker 1: is a form of self care for me. Love it.
Speaker 1: I also loved number of artein on here, which is
Speaker 1: create morning and nighttime routines. And you could pick or
Speaker 1: choose whether you want a morning routine or a nighttime routine.
Speaker 1: But I do think that that is important. Something that
Speaker 1: is structured to whatever degree of structure makes sense for you,
Speaker 1: something that you know, you can anticipate and sets a
Speaker 1: rhythm for you. So for me, that's coffee. Coffee in
Speaker 1: the morning, and because it's such a ritual honestly, like, yes,
Speaker 1: I like coffee, but especially with how many transitions and
Speaker 1: chaos that can be in my life of travel, living
Speaker 1: in different places, I at least know every morning I'm
Speaker 1: going to get coffee wherever I am, and it provides
Speaker 1: some security for me, and it provides a nice rhythm, routine, ritual.
Speaker 1: I would encourage nighttime routines, especially for people who have
Speaker 1: difficulties sleeping. This is so important. I know you've probably
Speaker 1: heard this time and time again, but here I am
Speaker 1: another voice just solidifying this that we need good sleep hygiene.
Speaker 1: If we're going to get the eight to nine hours
Speaker 1: of sleep that is really recommended, then you have got
Speaker 1: to have a good nighttime routine. And that doesn't mean
Speaker 1: you've got to do like five things and it needs
Speaker 1: to take an hour and a half before you fall asleep.
Speaker 1: But that does mean not putting blue light in front
Speaker 1: of your face a half hour before bed. It does
Speaker 1: mean knowing yourself. But here's some a couple of ideas.
Speaker 1: Whether that's a hot cup of non caffeated tea or
Speaker 1: cutting out caffeine past three pm, or getting a weighted blanket,
Speaker 1: or utilizing some magnesium before you go to bed, or
Speaker 1: consult with your doctor on that one. It's a nutrient whatever,
Speaker 1: but that helps me sometimes, um, especially if if it's
Speaker 1: anxiety that's kind of keeping us from being able to
Speaker 1: fall asleep. So that can be so helpful, not only
Speaker 1: not just for what's happening at night before what's happening
Speaker 1: through the night to be able to get the sleep
Speaker 1: that we need. Good word, Um, here are some of
Speaker 1: the things that are on this list that are not
Speaker 1: self care for me. So you know, you mentioned that
Speaker 1: watching a funny movie or show is good self care,
Speaker 1: but they also have a Netflix binge and I feel
Speaker 1: like that is good maybe in a season. I did
Speaker 1: a lot of Netflix binges right after giving birth because
Speaker 1: it's literally all I could do. Um. And then got
Speaker 1: into a habit of doing more TV than usual. So
Speaker 1: we actually did no TV January this month, and it
Speaker 1: helped us. I should have chosen more carefully what I
Speaker 1: was going to do instead of that time. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: used it to just do more work, but instead of
Speaker 1: it just instead of going straight to the TV, we
Speaker 1: tried to find other things to do. So we would
Speaker 1: read or do work or listen to a podcast or something.
Speaker 1: So that is so no screen is our form of
Speaker 1: self care this month. And then also looking at animals
Speaker 1: being cute. So I have been looking at a lot
Speaker 1: of baby Yoda memes, and I I have to say
Speaker 1: that I don't find it to be self care. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's funny and it's great, but it's also addictive and
Speaker 1: can get me sucked into my phone for too long
Speaker 1: and to where I just keep scrolling and scrolling and
Speaker 1: I should probably stop scrolling, put the phone down and
Speaker 1: go to bed. Those are my those are my only
Speaker 1: qualms with the list, and they're personal because self care
Speaker 1: is personal. Sometimes looking at animals or Yoda's being cute
Speaker 1: is self hair for some people, yes, not for me.
Speaker 1: In this season. The one that I did not resonate
Speaker 1: on here with on here is the look at positive
Speaker 1: affirmations on Pinterest. So that's fine if it works for you.
Speaker 1: I do feel like that this is a bit of
Speaker 1: a myth, and this is backed by research. I think
Speaker 1: I've mentioned it on a different podcast that research has
Speaker 1: actually been done on positive affirmations like that wave that
Speaker 1: went through a couple of years ago of like look
Speaker 1: at yourself in the mirror and be like you're so great,
Speaker 1: You're so wonderful, good jobs, thumbs up, that it didn't
Speaker 1: actually have impact on someone's psyche through the rest of
Speaker 1: the day. Mostly because it falls flat, like it's flattery.
Speaker 1: It is not really based on anything or connected to anything.
Speaker 1: It's just this kind of flattery. And most people don't
Speaker 1: like flattery. You want the truth. They on something that
Speaker 1: they can hang their hat on. So there are things
Speaker 1: that we can speak to ourselves that might be a
Speaker 1: little bit more rooted and grounded in some like actual truth,
Speaker 1: something we can hang our hat on where we can
Speaker 1: point back to. No, you're not going to fail, because
Speaker 1: remember that time that you thought you were going to
Speaker 1: fail in this circumstance and you did X, y Z,
Speaker 1: Like those are effective. But just the like hey you're great,
Speaker 1: you're amazing, like that doesn't. It doesn't. It doesn't do anything.
Speaker 1: So I'm not like, I'm not fully against affirmations. It's
Speaker 1: just that I think there has to be more meat
Speaker 1: to it. It just can't be fluffy flattery. It doesn't.
Speaker 1: It doesn't, It doesn't last, doesn't stick. Yeah, actions are
Speaker 1: definitely louder than words here are. Values are defined by
Speaker 1: the things that we do, not by the things that
Speaker 1: we say we value. So when you're making when you're
Speaker 1: making actions that are toward what you value or towards
Speaker 1: what you're going to uh, that is what defines what
Speaker 1: you value versus just saying like I value myself or
Speaker 1: I value my time, or I value self care, Like
Speaker 1: you really have to make actions that move towards that
Speaker 1: instead of just saying it, speaking of just doing and
Speaker 1: taking action, rather than just talking about it. And things
Speaker 1: that I value, things that bring me life and joy.
Speaker 1: It's the bill of the week. That's right. It's time
Speaker 1: for the best minute of your entire week. Maybe a
Speaker 1: baby was born and his name is William. Maybe you
Speaker 1: paid off your mortgage, Maybe your car died and you're
Speaker 1: happy to not have to pay that bill anymore. That's
Speaker 1: built buffalo bills, Bill Clinton, this is the bill of
Speaker 1: the week. Hey guys, this is Take nine team for
Speaker 1: me because I keep on messing up. I just wanted
Speaker 1: to let you guys know my favorite bill is my
Speaker 1: dog's insurance bill because it saves me a lot of stress. Um.
Speaker 1: I worked in the vet industry for over ten years,
Speaker 1: and I've seen some crazy, crazy bills anywhere is between, Like,
Speaker 1: you know, the average five thousand dollar bill two fifty
Speaker 1: thousand dollars and true panion actually cover that fifty tho
Speaker 1: dollars and the owners only had to pay five thousand dollars,
Speaker 1: So it's just in case of those huge emergencies. It's
Speaker 1: really nice to have insurance. And I know a lot
Speaker 1: of people are like, oh, I can say about that money,
Speaker 1: but you never know what could happen. And also if
Speaker 1: your dog ever gets like allergic to anything, um, they
Speaker 1: will cover the food as well. So if your dog
Speaker 1: needs to be on a special food, they will cover
Speaker 1: that food for its entire life. So you know, it's
Speaker 1: really important to me to have it. And my dog
Speaker 1: just recently went in to see a dental specialist to
Speaker 1: get a root canal done and extraction or lump removed
Speaker 1: in his mouth, and that all got somethway. And then
Speaker 1: at the same time he was in there, he went
Speaker 1: to go see the ophomologists and you know, they ended up, um,
Speaker 1: he ended up with panis. So all his medication is
Speaker 1: now covered. So I did the math. I'm up dollars
Speaker 1: with true panion. It's great. I recommend it. I would
Speaker 1: do it. Dave Ramsey hates it, but you know, um,
Speaker 1: he's not always right. So have yourselves a wonderful day,
Speaker 1: take care by Oh yeah, I honestly I personally agree
Speaker 1: with you, because all I ever hear about people with
Speaker 1: pets is like how expensive the pet bills are, like
Speaker 1: thousands of dollars and saw the fact that you're out
Speaker 1: on that is is less than one vet bill. And
Speaker 1: usually if there's one bill, there's other ones to follow.
Speaker 1: And pets are expensive. Man, you think kids are expensive,
Speaker 1: try having a pet. That's what I'm saying perfect. I
Speaker 1: think you described it so well, Kate with the It
Speaker 1: gives you peace of mind, particularly when the big emergencies
Speaker 1: come up of it, I might spend and especially yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean we care about our pets, and so you
Speaker 1: know if they still have a lot of life to live.
Speaker 1: Of course you're gonna you're gonna pay for that surgery.
Speaker 1: You're going to do that thing, and then that's just
Speaker 1: coming out of your pocket or you're going into debt
Speaker 1: for it. So to just have that peace of mind
Speaker 1: to know that all right, I've got this covered if
Speaker 1: need be. And I love your your confidence and what
Speaker 1: you need and what makes sense for your financial journey.
Speaker 1: Regardless of what Dave Ramsey agrees with or doesn't agree
Speaker 1: with right now, we're not none of us are always
Speaker 1: right on everything. Yeah, So Jill's there most of the time,
Speaker 1: but even she has been just don't tell my husband
Speaker 1: that he's going to hear this. Yeah, sometimes I'm wrong. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you want to submit your bill of the week
Speaker 1: and you want to tell us all about the bills
Speaker 1: that you enjoy, that makes sense to you. Even if
Speaker 1: there are other financial growers out there who might disagree
Speaker 1: with you. It's okay. We we don't mind controversy. So
Speaker 1: Friends podcast dot com, slash bill, leave us a bill, Yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you. Let's get controversial with our bills. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 1: Depending on how controversial, we might not play him. But right, yeah,
Speaker 1: we we've reserved that. Right and now after all of that,
Speaker 1: it's time for boo boo boo. So I was super
Speaker 1: convicted after doing research on this. So I wanted us
Speaker 1: to set some self care goals. Jill and I personally
Speaker 1: like one or two things on this list that we
Speaker 1: are going to do immediately or this weekend. How we
Speaker 1: are going to care for ourselves, because Jill, you just
Speaker 1: got back from like a really intense trip to Peru
Speaker 1: and you need some self care. I am just living
Speaker 1: my life and that's hard for me. And I'm here.
Speaker 1: I'm here on this earth and I need self care.
Speaker 1: So things that I am going to do in the
Speaker 1: next couple of days and this upcoming weekend and that
Speaker 1: I want to do regularly. It so this this is
Speaker 1: just a handful play. And in our outline that I
Speaker 1: have with Jen and I, I have it in like
Speaker 1: all caps and it's first and I talked about this
Speaker 1: in my trainings. To play is so important. And you
Speaker 1: can do your own research on this. There's a fantastic
Speaker 1: book called Play It Away. Lots of books about play,
Speaker 1: lots of research about play, journal articles about play and
Speaker 1: its benefits. It helps to reduce anxiety. It um increases
Speaker 1: blood flow to the brain. It bonds us with whoever
Speaker 1: we're playing with. Uh, it helps us to sleep better.
Speaker 1: It increases relational harmony, It increases the likelihood of experiencing
Speaker 1: like peace and joy inside ourselves. Like there's there's so
Speaker 1: much um. The book Play It Away is about this
Speaker 1: guy who was a workaholic and basically burnt himself out
Speaker 1: in the work that he was doing, like high Power,
Speaker 1: I believe, like CEO of a company, and how he
Speaker 1: kind of journeyed through, walked through that experience of burnout
Speaker 1: and just at his wits and mentally and emotionally, and
Speaker 1: how play, just play yang is what helped him get
Speaker 1: back to a more stable point mentally, emotionally, physically, anyhow.
Speaker 1: Super important, But it looks different for everybody. For me,
Speaker 1: one of the ways that I play is actually with kids.
Speaker 1: So thank goodness, my nieces and nephews are in town
Speaker 1: right now, and the second I get off from podcasting,
Speaker 1: I am going to go play with them. We're doing
Speaker 1: ninja training. We are digging through like cute little figurines.
Speaker 1: We are dressing little stuffed bunny animals, and we are
Speaker 1: just playing and laughing and it is so good for
Speaker 1: my soul. Oh, I love that. Oh my gosh. One
Speaker 1: thing that I'm going to do is call a friend,
Speaker 1: not you, Jail. This doesn't count. I is not you.
Speaker 1: But I want to call other friends that I don't
Speaker 1: talk to a lot, because I feel one of the
Speaker 1: places where I really, where I really fail in life
Speaker 1: is maintaining relationships with people who are not right in
Speaker 1: front of me. And Jill has been like the only person.
Speaker 1: Jill has been the only person that I've been able
Speaker 1: to maintain a relationship with. It doesn't live in my
Speaker 1: city that I don't see on a weekly basis, and
Speaker 1: that's because we have a side hustle together. I mean,
Speaker 1: maybe that's maybe that's what I need to do with
Speaker 1: all of my friends, is to start a segal money involved.
Speaker 1: For me to maintain a relationship, there has to be
Speaker 1: money involved, ask my husband. But I want to call
Speaker 1: a friend and catch up and uh and yeah, because
Speaker 1: relationships are life giving to me and I just take
Speaker 1: them for granted. So that's that's one of my things.
Speaker 1: And speaking of life giving, actually this weekend, I am
Speaker 1: going to go away with some friends, some life giving friends.
Speaker 1: And it's okay to have relationships that are varying degrees
Speaker 1: of life giving. That's that happens. Some people take more
Speaker 1: than they give and that's just the season that they're
Speaker 1: in and and that's okay. But we also need to
Speaker 1: make sure that we've got people who where there's more
Speaker 1: reciprocity in the relationship. It may only be one to
Speaker 1: three people, but finding those people and regularly spending time
Speaker 1: with them. So for me, I've got two really great
Speaker 1: friends and we're just going away to Philly for the night.
Speaker 1: She got an awesome deal in a hotel and we're
Speaker 1: just going to have fun with a couple of girlfriends. Yay,
Speaker 1: that sounds so good. The other thing I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: is make a gratitude list. I want to write down
Speaker 1: things that I'm thankful for. And I actually, uh spoiler,
Speaker 1: when Travis listen to this, started making one about him
Speaker 1: and just all the things that I'm thankful for that
Speaker 1: he does and the person that he is. And because
Speaker 1: I heard this in an audio book and how there
Speaker 1: was this husband who was unhappy in his marriage and
Speaker 1: saw somebody make a gratitude list for his wife and
Speaker 1: then he started doing it and like it just transformed
Speaker 1: their entire relationship, marriage, family, And I'm like, why wait
Speaker 1: until things are bad, let's do They'll do all things
Speaker 1: they're good, And so that's I want to do it
Speaker 1: for other areas of my life as well. Just in general.
Speaker 1: It's awesome. And you know that is the simple thing,
Speaker 1: Like going back to our very first article of the
Speaker 1: Golden Rules, and the foundation of all of this self
Speaker 1: care stuff is the simplicity. And I think sometimes we think, oh, man,
Speaker 1: I'm so exhausted that what I need must be such
Speaker 1: a massive thing. I'm so exhausted. But man, when am
Speaker 1: I going to be able to take off for three
Speaker 1: weeks and go on an elaborate vacation. And no, that's
Speaker 1: that's not what we often need. Those things are great,
Speaker 1: they're fantastic, they can be life giving, but I think
Speaker 1: we would be so shocked to realize how simple it
Speaker 1: can be to bring us up out of a place
Speaker 1: of feeling absolutely exhausted. And I think what you're describing,
Speaker 1: Jen is one of those pieces that we would so
Speaker 1: easily overlook but has a profound impact, like what you're
Speaker 1: saying of it saved a marriage, just the simple act
Speaker 1: of being grateful. And I will say, even from a
Speaker 1: more like clinical perspective, this gratitude piece, there's a lot
Speaker 1: of research on that too, and I'll spare you like
Speaker 1: all of that, but to say, where there is if
Speaker 1: you're noticing this in yourself of bitterness or frustration or
Speaker 1: a constant pattern of feeling like tired, worn out, upset, angry,
Speaker 1: this is the antidote gratitude. Again, it sounds very simple,
Speaker 1: but it is. And so where you can start creating
Speaker 1: a rhythm and a routine of gratitude, of listing things
Speaker 1: out every day, of looking for the gratitude pieces even
Speaker 1: in the midst of something awful, My goodness, that perspective
Speaker 1: shift and that practice of saying, Okay, I had a
Speaker 1: really sucky week, but where is the gratitude piece, or
Speaker 1: I kind of I call this the kindness? Where was
Speaker 1: the kindness in that time? Like, so you just said
Speaker 1: I just got back from Peru, which is true, and
Speaker 1: it was a really difficult trip. However, I am practicing
Speaker 1: to look at the kindnesses in the time where a
Speaker 1: lot of people were sick on the trip. I had
Speaker 1: to take on more than I thought that I would
Speaker 1: have to take on. However, the gratitude for me and
Speaker 1: it was that I did not get sick. I was
Speaker 1: able to do the pieces that I had to take on,
Speaker 1: and we had a final day, an unexpected day where
Speaker 1: we were able to enjoy a beautiful pool and like
Speaker 1: jungle surroundings layout in Hammocks. So I'm choosing to look
Speaker 1: at those pieces, and it is drastically changing my outlook
Speaker 1: and my perspective on the trip. And I feel a
Speaker 1: whole lot freer inside myself because I'm choosing to look
Speaker 1: at the kindnesses and sit in gratitude rather than like,
Speaker 1: oh my word, look at all the things that sucked.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that that's super easy or super fun,
Speaker 1: and that is not to discount the difficult stuff. We
Speaker 1: can still look at that, we can still mourn it,
Speaker 1: but we will be better off inside ourselves if we
Speaker 1: can discipline ourselves to practice this. Oh that's such a fantastic,
Speaker 1: such a good word to finish this episode out on.
Speaker 1: It's Yeah, thank you, Jill, thank you. I'm grateful for you, Jen,
Speaker 1: and so grateful for our listeners. Yes, I'm grateful for
Speaker 1: all of you and whether you are listener subscriber in
Speaker 1: our FRU Girlfriends community on Facebook, I think about you guys,
Speaker 1: and I'm thankful for you, and I'm thankful for all this. Yes, So,
Speaker 1: and be encouraged that you can do these things. You
Speaker 1: can care for yourself well, you can be aimed at
Speaker 1: well being even if you have zero dollars in the bank. Amen,
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Speaker 1: and mixed by Eric Seria. Okay, Jen, holy smokes, we
Speaker 1: have got to talk about this because I love it
Speaker 1: so so give it to so very much. I'm on
Speaker 1: the whelk. It's not whale milk, but pretty soon it
Speaker 1: will be. I know it will be. We've talked about
Speaker 1: it enough today. So I'm in the Frugal Friends Facebook
Speaker 1: community group, just hanging out doing what I do, and
Speaker 1: op Up pops the most amazing post that we have
Speaker 1: got to talk about this. This woman, this strong, fearless, powerful,
Speaker 1: formative old woman, is in her hotel room being frugal
Speaker 1: on a no spend challenge, being resourceful, cooking ramen on
Speaker 1: an iron. Stop it, I'm right now, I'm not. I'm
Speaker 1: not going to stop. I'm not. She's not going to stop.
Speaker 1: No one's going to stop, and I'm gonna going to
Speaker 1: stop her. I'm gonna support that all day long. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that this is what you should do. Be
Speaker 1: careful of, consult with a doctor. Don't do what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: don't do everything that you see. However, I am so
Speaker 1: proud of this woman and the things that she's accomplished.
Speaker 1: And turns out she's not the only one in this thread.
Speaker 1: We've got. We've got other women rolling up towels to
Speaker 1: hold the iron up like upside down, but so that
Speaker 1: it stays flat. She was cooking burgers in foil burgers
Speaker 1: and veggies and foil on top of an iron. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, yep, that's Karen. Oh this is a great
Speaker 1: It is so next level and I can't uh link
Speaker 1: to Spoon University. I made five recipes using a clothes iron. Wow, y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all are the real deal, real deal. What a good
Speaker 1: way of describing it. Inspiring, motivating. You are my people,
Speaker 1: and I my heart is literally beaming that we have
Speaker 1: created a group where this is what we talk about,
Speaker 1: the real deal stuff of being resourceful. You are the
Speaker 1: people who who uh make nations great like you are
Speaker 1: the people who who preach who who countries are built
Speaker 1: upon that kind of resourcefulness. My goodness, you will be okay.
Speaker 1: You are a freaking survivor, and I am so glad
Speaker 1: to call you my people that I love that we
Speaker 1: have a space together because this There aren't even words.
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm so beaming inside my spirit. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: sitting on twenty two requests to join our group actually,
Speaker 1: and it is this group has taken out a life
Speaker 1: of its own and I don't even I can't even
Speaker 1: express my gratitude for a Yeah. So shout out to
Speaker 1: all of our frugal friends in the frugal friends community
Speaker 1: on Facebook. Y'all, nothing nothing to say except you the
Speaker 1: real deal and nothing's going to stop you. You are
Speaker 1: going to accomplish over the moon. My word, I show
Speaker 1: and I don't even think you're hitting all the keys.
Speaker 1: I think you can bribe you can keep going for
Speaker 1: a few more stanzas. Okay, uh. I showed this to
Speaker 1: some of my friends like this picture, and oh my word,
Speaker 1: everyone who's seen it loves it. And I think I
Speaker 1: love it to a greater degree than they do. Um,
Speaker 1: but I just I love this group. I love what
Speaker 1: you all are doing. I love seeing how you're accomplishing
Speaker 1: your financial goals and just proving that you you can.
Speaker 1: It's a mindset thing to think if you're in a
Speaker 1: hotel room without a microwave, without a coffee pot, without
Speaker 1: a fridge, that you can't make ramen, and you guys
Speaker 1: are like, Nope, that's not true. I'm gonna make this.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make myself a burger and some veggies, and
Speaker 1: you're just you would ever want. Oh my goodness, I'm
Speaker 1: so every smiling. Can you hear it? Can you tell
Speaker 1: as I'm talking that I am smiling so hard? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you all are myself care, Thank you, M M