WEBVTT - Becca & Thomas Return to ‘Paradise’ 

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<v Speaker 1>What's up Happy Hour listeners. I'm your host, Becca Kufrin,

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<v Speaker 1>and this week is looking a little different because Michelle

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<v Speaker 1>unfortunately cannot be here. So I brought in the one

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<v Speaker 1>and only reinforcer himself. We got Thomas here. Welcome back

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<v Speaker 1>to Happy Hour. Hun. I thought I was gonna impersonate

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<v Speaker 1>Michelle and try to like skate that one by everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to pretend? Hey everyone, it's Michelle Young here.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome another week of Bachelor Happy Hour. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you you couldn't fool anyone with this mustache

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<v Speaker 1>that you have going on. Yeah, you're right, that was

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<v Speaker 1>first and foremost. I polled us with a disrespect to

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<v Speaker 1>that one. Michelle's no one can take her place. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad to be back. This would be fun. Yeah. So,

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<v Speaker 1>for those of you who may or may not remember

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<v Speaker 1>the last time Thomas was on Happy Hour, well it

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<v Speaker 1>was months ago now, but at that point he also

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<v Speaker 1>had a mustache. He once again brought the mustache back,

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<v Speaker 1>not just for Happy Hour, but four November. We've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people dming us and commenting on our

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<v Speaker 1>photos on social about why he has the mustache. So

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<v Speaker 1>that is the reason why and for those who aren't

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<v Speaker 1>familiar with November, it's Men's Prostate Cancer Awareness month. Men's

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<v Speaker 1>prostate cancer is one of the leading causes and then

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<v Speaker 1>one of the leading actual forms of cancer that men have,

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just for awareness men got to support. If

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<v Speaker 1>I could grow mustache, I would in November. But we're

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<v Speaker 1>not here to talk about facial hair, as exciting as

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<v Speaker 1>it is. We obviously have to get into everything that

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<v Speaker 1>happened in Paradise this week because we, of course we're there.

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<v Speaker 1>We made a very quick appearance down there to kick

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<v Speaker 1>off these Sabie Hawkins nineties themed dance, which we'll get

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<v Speaker 1>into because that was so much fun. But Tommy, before that,

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<v Speaker 1>let's just chat with people. A lot of you wrote

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<v Speaker 1>in some different questions that we'll get around to answering later.

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<v Speaker 1>But we've had some big life changes since the last

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<v Speaker 1>time you were on. Obviously we were in the house

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<v Speaker 1>and it is complete demolition in there, still going through

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<v Speaker 1>this renovation. But if anyone missed it, Thomas recently proposed

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<v Speaker 1>to me, even though we were already engaged. He popped

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<v Speaker 1>the question real first full circle moment there. Yeah, so, now,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, this is so funny think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I've been engaged, does it count as four

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<v Speaker 1>times now since I proposed to you? All I know

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<v Speaker 1>is I made a joke to Becca the other day

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<v Speaker 1>that she's one ring away from becoming Thanos and she

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<v Speaker 1>still doesn't understand the reference. I've never seen Marvel, so

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<v Speaker 1>I don't get it. I thought it was like the

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<v Speaker 1>Elizabeth Holmes Blood Company or whatever. But whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>all I know is it feels good, and I'm glad

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<v Speaker 1>we got to celebrate that. And I'm glad I was

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<v Speaker 1>able to put a ring on it. Yes, exactly, So

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<v Speaker 1>what are you gonna say? I put a ring on it?

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<v Speaker 1>I put a ring? He did, yes, So obviously on

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<v Speaker 1>the show you saw us explain to my proposal to Thomas.

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<v Speaker 1>But he did something really, really wonderful too when he

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<v Speaker 1>proposed to me. It was so cute. I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>saw it coming. I'm not gonna lie. I wasn't a

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred percent surprised. But what really got me. What

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<v Speaker 1>was super special this time around, is he actually had

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<v Speaker 1>the ring for a while. I don't even know how

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<v Speaker 1>long you can tell everyone for how long you had it.

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<v Speaker 1>I learned for about three months before I did it,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's one of those things. I would have done

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<v Speaker 1>it a lot sooner if you didn't want it so bad.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh shut up. You made you put that in your

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<v Speaker 1>mind that I wanted doing so bad. But it was

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<v Speaker 1>actually really cute because he took a ton of photos

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<v Speaker 1>behind the scenes, behind literally behind my back when I

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<v Speaker 1>was taking naps or cooking or just preoccupied, and put

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<v Speaker 1>this whole photo compilation together of this ring. It's been everywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>He took it to Minnesota, it's been to different towns.

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<v Speaker 1>When she says preoccupied, that might be a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a generous statement, it's more so when she just

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<v Speaker 1>had no idea that I possibly would have a ring

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<v Speaker 1>on me. I mean we were in very public situations

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<v Speaker 1>like standing on baseball fields and at restaurants. He just

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<v Speaker 1>had no idea, And it was it was a game

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<v Speaker 1>to me almost at the end, and it was it

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<v Speaker 1>was that's probably why you wanted to keep it and

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<v Speaker 1>not put it on the finger, first little challenge to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>There was one point where I kept trying to see

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<v Speaker 1>how far I could push that envelope, and I was

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<v Speaker 1>convinced I was an end of proposing just on that

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<v Speaker 1>one instance, you turn around and you catch me trying

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<v Speaker 1>to take a funny picture. Well, I did almost see

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<v Speaker 1>it once. There was one time where I was picking

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<v Speaker 1>up the dog poop out of park and Thomas. Thomas

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<v Speaker 1>was holding a cup of coffee and it was behind

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<v Speaker 1>the cup of coffee on his thumb and I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I saw something sparkling and I was like, what is that?

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<v Speaker 1>But it was like seven in the morning. Again, I

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<v Speaker 1>was picking up dog poop. I was like, he's not

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<v Speaker 1>going to her pose over dog poop. Actually you probably would.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't be surprised. But that was the only time.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I did see it not knowing what it was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a funny picture. Yeah, I had to go

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<v Speaker 1>for it. Really added to that compilation. Yeah, it was great.

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<v Speaker 1>Um yeah, so we like, like you just said, we've

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<v Speaker 1>come full circle. So it's been really special. Um. Fun

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<v Speaker 1>to finally share it with the world and be able

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<v Speaker 1>to wear this baby on my finger. It was getting

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<v Speaker 1>a little lonely. Um. So that's that's our life right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Things are good, um and excitingly, she hasn't hit me

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<v Speaker 1>with that ring yet, seeing that the house isn't done yet. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I did actually punch you in the face when we

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<v Speaker 1>were sleeping. You said that was an accident. It was

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<v Speaker 1>wink wink, No, it was um. But this is a

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<v Speaker 1>great time. I think, let's just get into paradise because

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<v Speaker 1>that's where we met, that's where we fall in love.

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<v Speaker 1>We wouldn't be engaged today without those beaches of paradise.

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<v Speaker 1>So um, a lot went down and we saw the

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<v Speaker 1>aftermath of Rodney leaving. Um, let's let me just ask

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<v Speaker 1>you what we're like some top moments that stuck out

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<v Speaker 1>to you besides our moments like when we were down

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<v Speaker 1>there of this week, I would say my biggest takeaway

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<v Speaker 1>immediately was the strength of Brandon's words of affirmation towards Serene.

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<v Speaker 1>He has an ability to turn any scenario into a

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<v Speaker 1>way to just profess his love to her, and it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's to the point when everyone's beaten up rod

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<v Speaker 1>and he's gone, everyone's just hurting. He just looks her

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<v Speaker 1>in the face, just like, this is why I'm so

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<v Speaker 1>blessed to have you. This is why I love you

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<v Speaker 1>so much, is why it's so special to me. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>picturing they're sitting there having breakfast and he gets an

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<v Speaker 1>omelet or something and it's like these ingredients in here

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<v Speaker 1>they just mixed together perfectly. This is amazing. It reminds

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<v Speaker 1>me of us. I'm so lucky to have you. You

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<v Speaker 1>know who you know who? Brandon runds me of who you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take that man is ready to get engaged. That

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<v Speaker 1>man is ready to find love, to live love, and

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<v Speaker 1>he deserves it. No, but he really, truly, like ever

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<v Speaker 1>since him, not even on a chelseason between him at

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<v Speaker 1>the beginning of Paradise, he actually did remind me of you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I agree. I think that they obviously they're the

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<v Speaker 1>strongest couple on that beach right now. I mean we

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<v Speaker 1>saw firsthand, but I think that in that moment that

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<v Speaker 1>was like the first time we saw Brandon really break down.

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<v Speaker 1>Obviously he was in tears for Rodney leaving, but the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that Serene was there to comfort him and they

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<v Speaker 1>just had this moment where they were like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be with everyone else who want to be away,

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<v Speaker 1>and just like lean on each other. I think that

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<v Speaker 1>helped their relationship because they haven't really I mean, they

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<v Speaker 1>haven't themselves really been tested, but I think it was

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<v Speaker 1>a good strengthening moment for them. Let me ask you

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<v Speaker 1>a question on that. You said they haven't been tested yet,

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<v Speaker 1>But to me, it's almost like they haven't even had

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<v Speaker 1>a reason to be tested yet because they're just so

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<v Speaker 1>set forth on loving each other. Would you say that's

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<v Speaker 1>almost a test in itself, that nothing coming to that

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<v Speaker 1>beach can deter them. Well, I think, I mean, when

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<v Speaker 1>you're living on that beach, there's not really tests unless

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<v Speaker 1>they're like dramatic show planted tests, right, like they'll be

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<v Speaker 1>tested in the real world. I'm sure if they're sold

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<v Speaker 1>together in this moment in time, like they're probably being

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<v Speaker 1>tested outside of the show. But they haven't. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>they they it's not like they've had to go through

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<v Speaker 1>seeing each other go on dates with other people, like

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<v Speaker 1>since day one, since like our one, they were so

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<v Speaker 1>into each other and like adamant for one another that

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<v Speaker 1>they haven't like had to they haven't had other forces

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<v Speaker 1>come in to test them. Does that make sense? And

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<v Speaker 1>that's why like Rodley leaving, it wasn't even drama for

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<v Speaker 1>them and their relationship, but it was just a hard

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<v Speaker 1>moment that Brandon had to get through that Serene was

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<v Speaker 1>there for. That makes back. Maybe we're not making any

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<v Speaker 1>sense and their listeners are going to hear us be like,

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<v Speaker 1>what the hell are they talking about? But yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>was a cute moment. I want to get into Logan

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<v Speaker 1>and Kate's relationship because I know you have your thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>on it and your opinions watching it. I heard, I

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<v Speaker 1>heard the comments. We have talked at length about their

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<v Speaker 1>relationship on this podcast a few times, and I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like each week it just keeps kind of what's the word,

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<v Speaker 1>like snowballing in a bad way. They just I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think are ever going to be on the same page.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a couple of things going on. It's their love

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<v Speaker 1>languages are completely different. One of them is that Kate's

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<v Speaker 1>love languages. She wants Logan to get a laptop, logging

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<v Speaker 1>Indeed dot com and start applying for better jobs immediately.

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<v Speaker 1>And two, it's just they don't see I had eye. No.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they're just I think they just want different

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<v Speaker 1>things in life. They're at different places. But I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think the way that they communicate about those things is ever.

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<v Speaker 1>It never makes sense. They're never on the same page,

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<v Speaker 1>and I quite honestly feel like Logan is getting the

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<v Speaker 1>short end of the stick on Paradise. I felt so

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<v Speaker 1>bad for Logan in these two episodes on multiple fronts. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>one of the conversations he has McKay, it just sort

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<v Speaker 1>of pinned against the wall with nothing to do. And

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<v Speaker 1>then two when Gabby and Rachel came down. I come

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<v Speaker 1>from almost a biased perspective on this because I know

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<v Speaker 1>if we were in a situation on that beach and

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<v Speaker 1>the lead from my season came down, that would not

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<v Speaker 1>be anywhere close to an accurate representation of who I am,

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<v Speaker 1>right and that Logan was in that exact scenario. And

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<v Speaker 1>although history sort of repeated himself from his season with

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<v Speaker 1>Gabby and Rachel to his time switching between partners and Paradise,

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<v Speaker 1>but he wasn't really like would you say he was

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<v Speaker 1>switching between partners because he never really established anything substantial

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<v Speaker 1>besides maybe with Shane, but Sena was also going on

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<v Speaker 1>other dates with people. That's exactly my point because although

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<v Speaker 1>it's not that substantial in Paradise, in that scenario with

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<v Speaker 1>Kate and she's hearing those things from Gabby and Rachel,

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<v Speaker 1>that almost has Kate even go further out. Yeah, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely felt bad for Logan in that moment, especially

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<v Speaker 1>when Rachel was talking about it because Rachel has one

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<v Speaker 1>experience with him and that she can have her own

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<v Speaker 1>takeaways from her season and what he did. And that's fine,

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<v Speaker 1>But ultimately I feel like it was getting close to

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<v Speaker 1>like really bashing Logan for something that didn't need to

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<v Speaker 1>be that extreme like it made I think if I

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<v Speaker 1>was Kate, I would have been like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>like Logan's now seems like this terrible guy. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what who to believe or what to think, which

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<v Speaker 1>in reality, like wasn't even that big of a deal.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think, so I just felt yeah, and then

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<v Speaker 1>we saw like this small glimmer of hope for him

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<v Speaker 1>when Lindsay came down and I thought he was going

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<v Speaker 1>to say yes to going on that date with her.

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<v Speaker 1>In Partnery was like, do it, bro, just go on

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<v Speaker 1>that date just like see because you could tell that

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<v Speaker 1>they were both intrigued and interested. But I think only

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<v Speaker 1>out of respect for Kate and not having not wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to potentially deal with the exactly yes your words. But

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's that the reason why he said no

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<v Speaker 1>to Lindsay. I think had Kate, had he not had

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<v Speaker 1>a conversation with Kater, had she not just been like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>don't do this. I think he would have explored it absolutely,

0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:29.880
<v Speaker 1>because when Mary came in and she asked him directly

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<v Speaker 1>about that, he said, no, well, I think it's too

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<v Speaker 1>late in the game to consider these dates. Yeah, all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, Lindsay goes, oh, what's up? Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think they were both interested. I you know, at

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<v Speaker 1>this point in time, I don't know what happens to

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<v Speaker 1>Logan and Kate after this, like we'll find it at

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<v Speaker 1>three Union. But I wonder if now there's a world

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<v Speaker 1>where Lindsay and Logan could work out potentially, if that

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't happened yet, you know, maybe you guys need to

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<v Speaker 1>slip into each other's ms. We'll see what keep us posted,

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<v Speaker 1>because I would be interested in this. I would I

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<v Speaker 1>would like to see where that could maybe go this

0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:13.719
<v Speaker 1>episode um us going down there obviously, which actually is

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<v Speaker 1>a good segue to get into just Senia and and

0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:23.800
<v Speaker 1>Andrew and NC. But there was one thing I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to say overall before we get into that and our

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<v Speaker 1>time down there is this show, and maybe it's just

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<v Speaker 1>been more apparent in these Maybe it's been more apparent

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<v Speaker 1>in this season because I feel like there's several toxic relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>but I feel like, what who's displaying any sort of

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<v Speaker 1>toxic relationship? Okay, obviously elephant in the room, Genevieve and

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<v Speaker 1>Aaron also caton logan. I feel like every time we

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<v Speaker 1>see Aaron and Jen have a conversation and it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>go as planned and it turns into a fight and

0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:02.240
<v Speaker 1>she packs her bags and she leaves and she's ready

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<v Speaker 1>to get in the car down the jungle, like they

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<v Speaker 1>have this moment where like he seeks her out. They

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it, which they really they never really get anywhere.

0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:13.800
<v Speaker 1>They like put a bandit on it for five minutes

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<v Speaker 1>make out. Yeah, I agree that we both can agree

0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:22.560
<v Speaker 1>watching their relationship unfold is both itchy and painful. It's

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<v Speaker 1>painfully itchy, painfully itchy. So let's jump back and sort

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<v Speaker 1>of look at what's going on with another couple. Like

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<v Speaker 1>you were saying, Andrew NC, what's going on there? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought after just sending Andrew's conversation at the end

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<v Speaker 1>of episode one, after he went on the date with NC,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that was like I thought the book was closed,

0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:52.440
<v Speaker 1>the chapter was over. It seemed to me that Gesenia understood,

0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:54.600
<v Speaker 1>now you know Andrew might not be into her, he's

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<v Speaker 1>seeking someone else. Like, Okay, we have the closure we need.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why. Then the next episode, especially like when we

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<v Speaker 1>were down there, I was surprised that it was still

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<v Speaker 1>an ongoing issue between them. I was shocked because when

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<v Speaker 1>we got down there, I didn't even know Andrew had

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<v Speaker 1>any sort of history. It seemed like he was with

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<v Speaker 1>NC and that was going on when we initially walked

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<v Speaker 1>down Yeah, yes, yeah, let's get into that too. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So when Thomas and I were first asked to go

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<v Speaker 1>on to Paradise, honestly, we had no idea what we

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<v Speaker 1>were going to do until we were in Mexico. We

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<v Speaker 1>were just like, hell, yeah, get us back down on

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<v Speaker 1>that beach. We want to like make new good memories

0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:38.240
<v Speaker 1>there where we you know, we met there, but we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't leave there together last year. So we were all four.

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<v Speaker 1>We were so excited just to get back to the

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<v Speaker 1>place where we met and equally as sweaty as we

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<v Speaker 1>were the first time. So sweaty, but it was so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a blast. It was really cute to see

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<v Speaker 1>Thomas too, like take everything in now, like from this

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<v Speaker 1>point of view where it was, it was so much

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<v Speaker 1>more relaxing. We knew like once we got there that

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna be kicking off the day. But we were like,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't have to be part of the drama. We

0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:12.920
<v Speaker 1>don't have you know, we don't have to like figure

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<v Speaker 1>out our relationship. We know where we are. It was

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<v Speaker 1>just way more relaxing. We were like, we're not part

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<v Speaker 1>of these stories, Like we can just kind of have

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<v Speaker 1>fun and give advice and mess around and get the

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<v Speaker 1>tea whatever. But it was so special to be back.

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<v Speaker 1>We definitely had some highlights. We ate way too many

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<v Speaker 1>chicken nuggets and French fries still, that is. That was

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<v Speaker 1>the one thing where like if we're coming to Mexico,

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<v Speaker 1>can we please have the resort make us chicken nuggets?

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<v Speaker 1>Because that is what everyone used to eat every night

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<v Speaker 1>before roast ceremonies, well actually every day. And so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>everyone wants to know what like the Paradise diet is,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you do for a paradise pod nuggets, nuggets,

0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:58.320
<v Speaker 1>french fries in a hot take? You ask for a

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<v Speaker 1>side of honey and you get those in the That

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<v Speaker 1>was that was not a mean thing. Um. Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 1>we get there and we we were kind of I

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<v Speaker 1>would say not hesitant, but like a little nervous walking

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<v Speaker 1>in because we didn't know what we were walking into

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, and we didn't know who was still

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<v Speaker 1>going to be there. We didn't really know who would

0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:24.800
<v Speaker 1>be dating who, and we walk in and of course

0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:26.919
<v Speaker 1>everyone's like always on guard. I feel like when new

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<v Speaker 1>people walk in, they're like, what girls are? Guys are

0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:31.560
<v Speaker 1>coming in to like steal our people? And so I

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<v Speaker 1>think once they saw us, so like, oh we're good,

0:17:33.600 --> 0:17:35.920
<v Speaker 1>we're safe. Like these people are already basically married and

0:17:36.560 --> 0:17:38.240
<v Speaker 1>like to go to bed at eight eight pm, So

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<v Speaker 1>we're set um. But who was most who were you

0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:44.880
<v Speaker 1>who most extended to see? Well, looking walking down those steps,

0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:46.920
<v Speaker 1>I was hoping to see Rodney, so that one, that

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<v Speaker 1>one really hurt. Yeah, shame was plugged Rodney for Bachelor.

0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:53.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah he's been wanting to say that for a while,

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<v Speaker 1>so say it one more time, louder into the mic.

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<v Speaker 1>Rodney for freaking Bachelor. That man deserves the world. He does,

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<v Speaker 1>he really does. Yeah, we were bummed he wasn't there.

0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:04.560
<v Speaker 1>And then secondly, I was I was looking forward to

0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:08.040
<v Speaker 1>see see all my guys. I mean Andrew, he's always

0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:12.880
<v Speaker 1>delight to see Michael. Michael literally jumped into my arms

0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:15.800
<v Speaker 1>and he baby koaled me, and it just felt right.

0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:20.119
<v Speaker 1>I was excited to see Aaron. I know, Aaron to

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<v Speaker 1>me is one of the funniest people who I've I've

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<v Speaker 1>been around on the show or just in life general.

0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:29.760
<v Speaker 1>He's hysterical. I'm gonna ahead and say it, Aaron is

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<v Speaker 1>nectar it personality wise. Would I want my daughter to

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<v Speaker 1>day Aaron. Absolutely not. Oh, I would put a chastity

0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:41.040
<v Speaker 1>belt on him. Yeah, but what I get Absolutely No,

0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:42.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna put a chassis belt on him. But

0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:45.960
<v Speaker 1>I was excited to see everybody. It was a little

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<v Speaker 1>disappointing to see a lot of the people I cared

0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:54.000
<v Speaker 1>about in some pretty tough situations. Yeah, yeah, we I

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<v Speaker 1>mean I was. I was hoping to see Rodney. I

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<v Speaker 1>still wanted to see Justin two. Those were some guys

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<v Speaker 1>on tour with me that I got super close with,

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<v Speaker 1>so I was bummed that they weren't there, And it

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<v Speaker 1>was interesting. It was actually some of the couples I

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<v Speaker 1>would say we expected, Like definitely Brandon and Serene. I

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<v Speaker 1>just like had a feeling going in that they would

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<v Speaker 1>have hit it off, and I wasn't surprised to see that,

0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:20.840
<v Speaker 1>but almost all the other couples I was shocked by

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<v Speaker 1>who shocked you the most when I walked down those

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<v Speaker 1>steps all of them? Johnny and Victoria Fuller I think

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<v Speaker 1>was the biggest shock. Yes, that one was interesting, definitely.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think of who else and that was

0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:45.439
<v Speaker 1>the thing because I feel like, okay, let me think

0:19:45.440 --> 0:19:47.920
<v Speaker 1>of who else was coupled up. So Michael and Danielle.

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<v Speaker 1>I was not shocked by that. That one made sense

0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:52.119
<v Speaker 1>to me. That makes a lot of sense. They are

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<v Speaker 1>cute together. And one of my favorite things Daniel's actually

0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:59.840
<v Speaker 1>said that made me verbally say all that was not

0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:02.040
<v Speaker 1>a willing thing. It just came out of my body.

0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:04.520
<v Speaker 1>But when Danielle was saying that she wants to be

0:20:04.560 --> 0:20:08.080
<v Speaker 1>there both for Michael, oh yeah and James, Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 1>my freaking heart, are you kidding me? That was amazing.

0:20:11.280 --> 0:20:14.200
<v Speaker 1>So I'm glad to see they're going well. We had

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<v Speaker 1>Chaney and Joey. Chaney and Joey yep. I didn't expect

0:20:19.080 --> 0:20:21.000
<v Speaker 1>that one. I didn't even I had no idea who

0:20:21.040 --> 0:20:23.320
<v Speaker 1>the twins. I like kind of well, when we went

0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:25.000
<v Speaker 1>down there, we didn't know who the twins were because

0:20:25.720 --> 0:20:29.280
<v Speaker 1>Michelle and Gapper whoa Gabby and Rachel's season hadn't aired yet,

0:20:29.760 --> 0:20:33.840
<v Speaker 1>so we were shocked by them. Brinie and Tyler. Brinie

0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:36.000
<v Speaker 1>and Tyler seemed good together, which they were really cute

0:20:36.040 --> 0:20:40.879
<v Speaker 1>together and seeing Andrew, so that was the thing, like

0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:43.600
<v Speaker 1>when we saw them, they seemed great together. They were

0:20:43.640 --> 0:20:46.600
<v Speaker 1>holding hands as they were walking away, So to Thomas

0:20:46.680 --> 0:20:49.639
<v Speaker 1>and I right away were like, oh, they've it seemed

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<v Speaker 1>like they had been together for a while, a lot

0:20:51.240 --> 0:20:55.400
<v Speaker 1>longer than the two days that we'd later found out. Yeah. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and we and like from what we gathered just from

0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:02.920
<v Speaker 1>talking with everyone, the whole Dyssenia Andrew relationship didn't really

0:21:03.080 --> 0:21:06.520
<v Speaker 1>seem like a relationship. It didn't seem strong. It just

0:21:06.640 --> 0:21:09.080
<v Speaker 1>kind of seemed like, you know, they had given each

0:21:09.080 --> 0:21:14.440
<v Speaker 1>other their roses, but it was very noncommittal, not serious,

0:21:14.760 --> 0:21:18.680
<v Speaker 1>and so we thought him and ency were fast forward

0:21:18.680 --> 0:21:20.200
<v Speaker 1>to the end of the night though we had some

0:21:20.320 --> 0:21:23.560
<v Speaker 1>conversations separately and I could tell, we both could tell.

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<v Speaker 1>I think Andrew was not over Teddy, absolutely, like he

0:21:27.080 --> 0:21:29.760
<v Speaker 1>was still bringing up Teddy even though Teddy wasn't there

0:21:30.040 --> 0:21:33.479
<v Speaker 1>and had left three what three or four weeks earlier

0:21:33.680 --> 0:21:34.879
<v Speaker 1>prior to that, and I was like, why are you

0:21:34.920 --> 0:21:36.920
<v Speaker 1>still talking about Teddy if she's been gone this long.

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<v Speaker 1>So it makes sense in hindsight of like why he

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<v Speaker 1>finally removed himself and went home because he needed that

0:21:43.720 --> 0:21:45.919
<v Speaker 1>closure from her. Absolutely, And it's in his body language.

0:21:45.960 --> 0:21:48.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean, look at when he's talking to the girls

0:21:48.280 --> 0:21:51.640
<v Speaker 1>up until Ncy. He's not even making eye contact. He's

0:21:51.680 --> 0:21:53.840
<v Speaker 1>sort of laying in the middle of dog piles of

0:21:53.960 --> 0:21:59.200
<v Speaker 1>other couples, and he's somewhat isolated. He wasn't living smiley

0:21:59.240 --> 0:22:02.119
<v Speaker 1>face on the Big Toe, Andrew. He was sad faced

0:22:02.160 --> 0:22:05.280
<v Speaker 1>on the Big Toe. Andrew. Okay, let me ask you

0:22:05.520 --> 0:22:10.080
<v Speaker 1>this then, because we both know Andrew, and let me

0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:12.640
<v Speaker 1>just preface this to all of our listeners who don't

0:22:12.680 --> 0:22:14.800
<v Speaker 1>know Andrew. He was on tour with me for the

0:22:14.880 --> 0:22:18.760
<v Speaker 1>first week, but he was actually there with me longer

0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:22.280
<v Speaker 1>because we had rehearsals because he was our first boucher.

0:22:22.359 --> 0:22:24.760
<v Speaker 1>When I was on tour with him, and he was

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of guy that he would be talking to everyone.

0:22:29.359 --> 0:22:32.280
<v Speaker 1>He would be in the office with the crew, laughing

0:22:32.400 --> 0:22:34.520
<v Speaker 1>and joking, and I would be like down the hall

0:22:34.600 --> 0:22:37.440
<v Speaker 1>working and I would just hear Andrew laughing so hard,

0:22:37.560 --> 0:22:42.320
<v Speaker 1>he was like, what's the word magnanimous? Like with everyone

0:22:42.440 --> 0:22:46.640
<v Speaker 1>he just infectious, so charismatic, so fun loving, can kick

0:22:46.680 --> 0:22:50.200
<v Speaker 1>it with anyone, just have a good time. So knowing

0:22:50.320 --> 0:22:54.000
<v Speaker 1>that about him, do you think if I mean, obviously,

0:22:54.080 --> 0:22:57.400
<v Speaker 1>the premise of paradise is to find a partner, hopefully

0:22:57.440 --> 0:23:00.600
<v Speaker 1>fall in love, hopefully get engaged or break up and

0:23:00.640 --> 0:23:03.080
<v Speaker 1>then get engaged later on. You know who's to say,

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<v Speaker 1>But but do you think had he just been on

0:23:06.280 --> 0:23:09.440
<v Speaker 1>that beach, like without the pressure of having to date anyone, like,

0:23:10.200 --> 0:23:12.320
<v Speaker 1>without like having the pressure of like am I going

0:23:12.359 --> 0:23:14.480
<v Speaker 1>to give my rose and get my rose from Jesenia?

0:23:14.600 --> 0:23:17.000
<v Speaker 1>And that I felt like he could have lived on

0:23:17.080 --> 0:23:19.200
<v Speaker 1>that beach and had the best time and had such

0:23:19.240 --> 0:23:24.320
<v Speaker 1>a better experience if it was how do I want

0:23:24.320 --> 0:23:25.560
<v Speaker 1>to say, like does that make sense? Like if it

0:23:25.640 --> 0:23:30.520
<v Speaker 1>was more relaxing and like not like he felt forced

0:23:30.720 --> 0:23:34.080
<v Speaker 1>to be with somebody I felt for Andrew. One of

0:23:34.119 --> 0:23:36.520
<v Speaker 1>the things that really led to his name for clarity

0:23:36.560 --> 0:23:40.080
<v Speaker 1>with Teddy as well was not only his own anticipation,

0:23:40.520 --> 0:23:44.200
<v Speaker 1>but just the external anticipation around it. I mean, even

0:23:44.280 --> 0:23:46.560
<v Speaker 1>in his conversation with NC, he mentioned, Oh, yeah, I

0:23:46.920 --> 0:23:48.960
<v Speaker 1>kind of know who you are. And let's call a

0:23:49.000 --> 0:23:51.240
<v Speaker 1>spade a spade. These contestants say they know who each

0:23:51.280 --> 0:23:53.920
<v Speaker 1>other are. Yeah, they're looking at each other's instagrams and

0:23:53.960 --> 0:23:56.920
<v Speaker 1>they have an idea. And not only that, there's a

0:23:56.920 --> 0:23:58.560
<v Speaker 1>lot of people in the world who have ideas for

0:23:58.720 --> 0:24:01.240
<v Speaker 1>the people going on that beach. There was so much

0:24:01.560 --> 0:24:04.960
<v Speaker 1>pressure leading into the start of the season for Teddy

0:24:04.960 --> 0:24:08.639
<v Speaker 1>and Andrew to be a thing, both on Andrew himself

0:24:08.720 --> 0:24:10.600
<v Speaker 1>and just the world around him. I feel like that's

0:24:10.680 --> 0:24:13.840
<v Speaker 1>such a hard almost burden to walk into. It's hard

0:24:13.960 --> 0:24:16.320
<v Speaker 1>enough to be on that beach. So are you saying

0:24:16.840 --> 0:24:20.360
<v Speaker 1>because of that, because of social media? And I don't

0:24:20.400 --> 0:24:23.879
<v Speaker 1>want to say researching people, but knowing about them beforehand,

0:24:24.000 --> 0:24:26.040
<v Speaker 1>like that kind of set him up for failure. I

0:24:26.080 --> 0:24:30.320
<v Speaker 1>would say the expectation that people can create on others

0:24:31.520 --> 0:24:35.320
<v Speaker 1>through their perspective of what they were on a short

0:24:35.880 --> 0:24:40.359
<v Speaker 1>sample on screen can really mess someone up if that

0:24:41.119 --> 0:24:43.720
<v Speaker 1>person in reality doesn't match up to what they created

0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:46.600
<v Speaker 1>in their minds. Yeah, and for Andrew, I think that's

0:24:46.640 --> 0:24:50.080
<v Speaker 1>exactly what happened, and yeah, why things went so sideways

0:24:50.200 --> 0:24:53.800
<v Speaker 1>and he needs that clarity so badly because it's it

0:24:54.200 --> 0:24:57.080
<v Speaker 1>will rock your world down there. And Andrew's don't believe

0:24:57.200 --> 0:24:59.840
<v Speaker 1>like like you said, he's magnanimous. He's just this big

0:25:00.160 --> 0:25:03.600
<v Speaker 1>than life personality. To see him down like that, that

0:25:04.000 --> 0:25:06.800
<v Speaker 1>really hurt him. Yeah, and again he just didn't have

0:25:06.880 --> 0:25:09.639
<v Speaker 1>that closure because everyone we talked to him and he

0:25:09.720 --> 0:25:11.960
<v Speaker 1>had brought up what happened between him and Teddy and

0:25:12.000 --> 0:25:15.080
<v Speaker 1>how she just kind of left. Like he even said that,

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:18.200
<v Speaker 1>like when they were together, things were great, and it

0:25:18.359 --> 0:25:20.560
<v Speaker 1>was like certain times when the cameras were around, like

0:25:21.359 --> 0:25:25.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, when certain conversations like were being filmed, He's like,

0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:27.320
<v Speaker 1>that was kind of weird, Like I could tell she

0:25:27.480 --> 0:25:29.400
<v Speaker 1>was maybe a little bit more uncomfortable and not used

0:25:29.400 --> 0:25:31.800
<v Speaker 1>to that and didn't necessarily like the cameras. But he's like,

0:25:31.840 --> 0:25:34.200
<v Speaker 1>when they weren't around and it was just the two

0:25:34.280 --> 0:25:37.080
<v Speaker 1>of them, he made it seem like the relationship was great.

0:25:37.119 --> 0:25:41.000
<v Speaker 1>And I think he really was completely shocked that she

0:25:41.200 --> 0:25:43.720
<v Speaker 1>just up and left and didn't really I mean, I

0:25:43.800 --> 0:25:45.480
<v Speaker 1>know that they kind of had a conversation, but I

0:25:45.520 --> 0:25:48.320
<v Speaker 1>don't think at that point she was like I'm leaving goodbye,

0:25:49.080 --> 0:25:51.240
<v Speaker 1>Like she just kind of left him in the dust,

0:25:51.359 --> 0:25:54.440
<v Speaker 1>and he was still reeling from that weeks later. Well,

0:25:54.440 --> 0:25:58.440
<v Speaker 1>it just shows how difficult it is to actually put

0:25:58.480 --> 0:26:01.080
<v Speaker 1>yourself out there and be vulnerable go down onto that beach.

0:26:01.760 --> 0:26:03.119
<v Speaker 1>I mean a lot of the guys who we know

0:26:03.240 --> 0:26:07.080
<v Speaker 1>bigger than life off the cameras, it's hard. And I

0:26:07.119 --> 0:26:09.239
<v Speaker 1>just want people to really realize that these people are

0:26:09.400 --> 0:26:13.159
<v Speaker 1>opening their hearts out and they're doing it in a

0:26:13.359 --> 0:26:17.240
<v Speaker 1>very very public way, and it is hard. Yeah, and

0:26:17.480 --> 0:26:20.919
<v Speaker 1>we definitely know, like out of the guys that were

0:26:21.000 --> 0:26:25.080
<v Speaker 1>closest to that, it was I think just what you said,

0:26:25.119 --> 0:26:26.879
<v Speaker 1>it was harder than they expected. I think they went

0:26:26.920 --> 0:26:28.159
<v Speaker 1>down and being like, it's going to be such a

0:26:28.200 --> 0:26:31.520
<v Speaker 1>fun summer. We will be with our friends, we'll meet

0:26:31.560 --> 0:26:36.880
<v Speaker 1>some beautiful, smart, fun women, we'll have drinks flowing, we'll

0:26:36.920 --> 0:26:39.640
<v Speaker 1>get tam we'll go swimming, And it was so much

0:26:39.680 --> 0:26:43.000
<v Speaker 1>more than that that I think it really rocked them. Well,

0:26:43.040 --> 0:26:45.879
<v Speaker 1>that's one of the beauties about Paradise because you have

0:26:46.359 --> 0:26:49.000
<v Speaker 1>you get rocked, well not necessarily that, but you have

0:26:49.080 --> 0:26:51.920
<v Speaker 1>these core group of guys who had such an amazing

0:26:51.960 --> 0:26:55.159
<v Speaker 1>experience on their seasons with bachelorettes, and then when they

0:26:55.200 --> 0:26:57.359
<v Speaker 1>go to Paradise, it's it's a new it's an entirely

0:26:57.400 --> 0:27:00.159
<v Speaker 1>new ball game. And yeah, people like me who I

0:27:00.680 --> 0:27:04.879
<v Speaker 1>hated my experience on The Bachelorette. It was one of

0:27:04.960 --> 0:27:09.919
<v Speaker 1>the worst six month windows I think I personally had

0:27:09.960 --> 0:27:12.440
<v Speaker 1>to live through filming it, not knowing what's going on

0:27:13.160 --> 0:27:16.400
<v Speaker 1>and having the way through those waters after the fact

0:27:17.119 --> 0:27:19.600
<v Speaker 1>and when I got to Paradise and I told you this,

0:27:19.680 --> 0:27:22.440
<v Speaker 1>when we're on that beach, I would have lived through

0:27:22.520 --> 0:27:26.440
<v Speaker 1>that a million times over if it meant that I

0:27:26.600 --> 0:27:29.240
<v Speaker 1>was able to live the life we are today. And

0:27:29.400 --> 0:27:34.640
<v Speaker 1>that's why I think it's it's it's it's being down

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:40.080
<v Speaker 1>on that beach and just living in our dynamic and

0:27:40.200 --> 0:27:43.520
<v Speaker 1>also vicariously through the people that we know close on

0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:47.479
<v Speaker 1>that beach. It really just solidified things, just the way

0:27:47.520 --> 0:27:50.800
<v Speaker 1>that I feel and how much I applaud everyone who

0:27:50.840 --> 0:27:57.520
<v Speaker 1>opens themselves up down there because it is so hard. Yeah,

0:27:57.720 --> 0:28:00.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's something that I always want are listeners

0:28:00.520 --> 0:28:02.080
<v Speaker 1>and the viewers of the show to keep in mind.

0:28:02.119 --> 0:28:05.239
<v Speaker 1>It's like you see again, we say this over and over.

0:28:05.320 --> 0:28:08.000
<v Speaker 1>You see two hours, well in this case, four hours

0:28:08.160 --> 0:28:11.199
<v Speaker 1>once a week of things that are being filmed twenty

0:28:11.240 --> 0:28:13.679
<v Speaker 1>four to seven. It's it's so much more. No one

0:28:13.880 --> 0:28:16.399
<v Speaker 1>unless you're there, will ever be able to understand. But

0:28:17.000 --> 0:28:20.080
<v Speaker 1>it really, really really is as fun as it is too,

0:28:20.160 --> 0:28:22.640
<v Speaker 1>and it's worthwhile as it can be. It's hard. It's

0:28:23.240 --> 0:28:26.760
<v Speaker 1>the transition off the show back into the real world

0:28:26.920 --> 0:28:29.960
<v Speaker 1>two is difficult. It's just it's a lot. So I'm

0:28:30.040 --> 0:28:33.000
<v Speaker 1>feeling for a lot of these people right now. But

0:28:33.600 --> 0:28:36.960
<v Speaker 1>let's get into the fun stuff. Because it wasn't all

0:28:37.080 --> 0:28:39.240
<v Speaker 1>tears when we were there. There was a lot of

0:28:39.840 --> 0:28:45.760
<v Speaker 1>laughs and dancing and nineties goodness to come from some

0:28:45.920 --> 0:28:51.280
<v Speaker 1>of this week. We Thomas and I were there, we

0:28:51.400 --> 0:28:55.320
<v Speaker 1>filmed all day. We filmed all day and we didn't

0:28:55.320 --> 0:28:57.400
<v Speaker 1>even say for the whole thing. We left early. We

0:28:57.520 --> 0:29:02.880
<v Speaker 1>fell asleep downstairs by Wells because it was just everything

0:29:03.000 --> 0:29:05.000
<v Speaker 1>was just going on so much longer. I think a

0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:07.120
<v Speaker 1>lot of it had to do with the conversation between

0:29:07.600 --> 0:29:10.680
<v Speaker 1>Jenia and Andrew, and then Andrew and Ncy, so we

0:29:10.920 --> 0:29:13.080
<v Speaker 1>just tapped out, We're like, mom and dad are too

0:29:13.120 --> 0:29:15.480
<v Speaker 1>old for this. We cannot it has passed minute. I

0:29:15.560 --> 0:29:18.560
<v Speaker 1>need to go to bed. But in context, that made

0:29:18.680 --> 0:29:21.160
<v Speaker 1>Andrew saying dude and brow so much to ency and

0:29:21.240 --> 0:29:24.360
<v Speaker 1>that breakup so much more relatable. He's like dude in

0:29:24.480 --> 0:29:27.880
<v Speaker 1>an insert it's four am. Yeah, I gotta get out

0:29:27.880 --> 0:29:30.080
<v Speaker 1>your dude, I can't do it. I'm broken, I'm tired.

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:32.120
<v Speaker 1>I need to go to bed. Oh right. At that point,

0:29:32.200 --> 0:29:34.959
<v Speaker 1>he was like, these relationships are done. There's less than

0:29:35.000 --> 0:29:37.320
<v Speaker 1>a week left of paradise. Let me get some sleep

0:29:37.360 --> 0:29:39.760
<v Speaker 1>and just tap out early. I totally understand. He was

0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:45.600
<v Speaker 1>emotionally physically everything just drained exhausted. Yeah, which is so

0:29:45.760 --> 0:29:47.560
<v Speaker 1>sad because we spent a good check of the night

0:29:47.640 --> 0:29:50.640
<v Speaker 1>with him and he was so upbeating. They were having

0:29:50.680 --> 0:29:53.320
<v Speaker 1>a great time. Intel Jennia pulled him. It was such

0:29:53.360 --> 0:29:56.360
<v Speaker 1>a good time. It's celebrating the music's great. People are

0:29:56.400 --> 0:29:59.680
<v Speaker 1>having fun, there's different events. It was so fun to

0:30:00.200 --> 0:30:04.080
<v Speaker 1>live the nineties nostalgia too, because we had just celebrated

0:30:04.200 --> 0:30:09.440
<v Speaker 1>your thirtieth birthday, which was nineties themed, and oh the night.

0:30:09.520 --> 0:30:12.880
<v Speaker 1>I swear it was the best decade. We could go

0:30:13.000 --> 0:30:15.240
<v Speaker 1>on and on about our love for the nineties. I

0:30:15.280 --> 0:30:18.320
<v Speaker 1>think half the people there didn't even live through half

0:30:18.360 --> 0:30:21.560
<v Speaker 1>of the night. Unfortunate Michael went to his first Stadies

0:30:21.600 --> 0:30:24.880
<v Speaker 1>Hawkins in nineteen ninety eight. Yeah, good for him. It

0:30:25.040 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 1>was so fun and it was fun been with Wells too,

0:30:27.120 --> 0:30:30.000
<v Speaker 1>like it was it was cool. We've we've obviously seen

0:30:30.080 --> 0:30:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Wells like in his bartending role down there and like

0:30:34.040 --> 0:30:35.880
<v Speaker 1>the guy that we could go to for advice and

0:30:36.040 --> 0:30:40.160
<v Speaker 1>jokes and just to talk. But seeing him and there

0:30:40.280 --> 0:30:41.800
<v Speaker 1>was a lot that got cut out. I think just

0:30:42.240 --> 0:30:45.480
<v Speaker 1>either we were terrible at hosting or just through to timing.

0:30:45.520 --> 0:30:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna just chalk it up to the timing with

0:30:47.640 --> 0:30:50.960
<v Speaker 1>all the drama, but like we actually kicked off the

0:30:51.160 --> 0:30:54.560
<v Speaker 1>night and Wells is like such a pro at the

0:30:54.640 --> 0:30:57.800
<v Speaker 1>one liners at the welcomes, Like it was cool to

0:30:57.880 --> 0:31:00.480
<v Speaker 1>see him in that element too. That was something we

0:31:00.560 --> 0:31:05.000
<v Speaker 1>hadn't necessarily really seen before. I guess yeah, Wells does

0:31:05.080 --> 0:31:08.880
<v Speaker 1>a lot more than bartend. That is very apparent behind

0:31:08.920 --> 0:31:10.840
<v Speaker 1>the scenes. He's a trooper. He stayed through the end.

0:31:10.920 --> 0:31:13.160
<v Speaker 1>He did not have out early, So poor one out

0:31:13.200 --> 0:31:15.200
<v Speaker 1>for Wells because he puts up with a lot. What

0:31:15.320 --> 0:31:17.720
<v Speaker 1>were some of the highlights you saw during the nineties party? Like,

0:31:17.800 --> 0:31:21.680
<v Speaker 1>what was the coolest thing to you? I think just

0:31:22.360 --> 0:31:27.520
<v Speaker 1>for me personally, it was seeing how especially the girls,

0:31:27.560 --> 0:31:30.040
<v Speaker 1>but the guys too, we're going to style themselves and

0:31:30.160 --> 0:31:35.600
<v Speaker 1>accessorize because I like I wish everyone would have known

0:31:35.680 --> 0:31:37.200
<v Speaker 1>that this was coming, because I feel like we could

0:31:37.200 --> 0:31:39.920
<v Speaker 1>have gone all out. You know, it's like everyone kind

0:31:39.960 --> 0:31:42.000
<v Speaker 1>of may do with what they had in the moment.

0:31:42.320 --> 0:31:47.080
<v Speaker 1>But it was cool to kind of see old school

0:31:47.160 --> 0:31:49.480
<v Speaker 1>styles come back. That's why I liked. And then just

0:31:49.600 --> 0:31:52.640
<v Speaker 1>the music and like the phrases that we used back

0:31:52.720 --> 0:31:56.480
<v Speaker 1>in the day. Dance moves, the dance moves, the dance off.

0:31:56.760 --> 0:31:58.400
<v Speaker 1>The men killed that. I'm getting it to the men.

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:01.400
<v Speaker 1>I will say if we all saw that in real life.

0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:05.840
<v Speaker 1>The men crushed it. At a moment where Tyler jumped

0:32:05.880 --> 0:32:09.120
<v Speaker 1>back and was cradle on everyone's arms and they threw him. Yeah,

0:32:09.440 --> 0:32:12.400
<v Speaker 1>near Andy landed like a superhero. They crushed it. It

0:32:12.560 --> 0:32:16.080
<v Speaker 1>was so good. Um, I liked the character. I really

0:32:16.120 --> 0:32:18.240
<v Speaker 1>wish we would have gotten our character. How do you

0:32:18.280 --> 0:32:23.720
<v Speaker 1>say caricatures? Caricature? Are drawings are big enough in real life?

0:32:23.800 --> 0:32:27.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't I don't need that that hit to the

0:32:27.880 --> 0:32:30.280
<v Speaker 1>You have nice ears, your ears are that big. Let's

0:32:30.280 --> 0:32:31.840
<v Speaker 1>do a caricature and let's see what you say. You're

0:32:31.840 --> 0:32:34.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna look at me differently forever. Okay, we'll get one done. Yeah,

0:32:34.920 --> 0:32:36.400
<v Speaker 1>we wanted to do one there. We just ran at

0:32:36.440 --> 0:32:40.360
<v Speaker 1>the time. Um, you were able, though, to spend more

0:32:40.440 --> 0:32:43.800
<v Speaker 1>time with the guys and just have your man chats

0:32:43.960 --> 0:32:47.560
<v Speaker 1>if you will. Um, who did you that you didn't

0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:50.120
<v Speaker 1>know that you met that night? Really surprised you that

0:32:50.200 --> 0:32:52.840
<v Speaker 1>you liked well. I spent a lot of my time

0:32:52.920 --> 0:32:55.320
<v Speaker 1>talking to the people that I knew. The majority of

0:32:55.480 --> 0:33:00.520
<v Speaker 1>my conversations were with Michael, Andrew and Aaron, and I

0:33:00.760 --> 0:33:02.800
<v Speaker 1>just wish we could have known that's what they were

0:33:02.920 --> 0:33:05.960
<v Speaker 1>arguing about the day before, because when I'm talking to Aaron,

0:33:06.080 --> 0:33:07.800
<v Speaker 1>first thing, I say, I'm like, bro, you're talking to

0:33:07.880 --> 0:33:10.000
<v Speaker 1>girls this time around. I'm so proud of you. I'm

0:33:10.040 --> 0:33:12.560
<v Speaker 1>happy for you. And then he tells me he's in love,

0:33:13.080 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 1>and Michael's rolling his eyes and he's laughing. I'm like,

0:33:15.360 --> 0:33:17.560
<v Speaker 1>all right, what's going on? Michael spiletts and he goes,

0:33:18.240 --> 0:33:21.600
<v Speaker 1>he is in the most dysfunctional relationship I have ever

0:33:21.680 --> 0:33:24.360
<v Speaker 1>seen in my life, and then everyone starts laughing. Aaron

0:33:24.400 --> 0:33:26.920
<v Speaker 1>included that was the consensus of like what everyone was

0:33:27.000 --> 0:33:30.280
<v Speaker 1>telling us, though we'd had no idea. Someone could tell

0:33:30.320 --> 0:33:33.400
<v Speaker 1>you something and until you see it, Yeah, there is

0:33:33.440 --> 0:33:37.840
<v Speaker 1>no grasping the depths of that non nectar. They Yeah,

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:40.440
<v Speaker 1>when we went down there. I will say we weren't

0:33:40.480 --> 0:33:44.680
<v Speaker 1>shocked to see them together, obviously because of what happened

0:33:44.680 --> 0:33:47.720
<v Speaker 1>at the tell all with when Shai called out Genevieve

0:33:47.760 --> 0:33:51.320
<v Speaker 1>for like, what was it like cooking up with Aaron allegedly,

0:33:52.080 --> 0:33:54.600
<v Speaker 1>But so we weren't shocked. I was like, of course

0:33:54.760 --> 0:33:58.640
<v Speaker 1>they're gonna be together after that storyline, like that would

0:33:58.640 --> 0:34:00.960
<v Speaker 1>be such a misopportunity. Of they weren't. So we weren't

0:34:00.960 --> 0:34:04.560
<v Speaker 1>shocked by that. But they look they physically look good together.

0:34:04.800 --> 0:34:08.400
<v Speaker 1>They have almost two similar personalities, and it's like what

0:34:08.440 --> 0:34:10.400
<v Speaker 1>happens when you put dynamite in a bearable with some

0:34:10.480 --> 0:34:18.279
<v Speaker 1>more dynamite, you get genn to be of an Aaron pain. Yeah, yeah,

0:34:18.360 --> 0:34:19.960
<v Speaker 1>it was. But yeah, everyone that we had talked to

0:34:20.080 --> 0:34:23.200
<v Speaker 1>their like their relationship. Man, we don't know if they're together,

0:34:23.320 --> 0:34:26.240
<v Speaker 1>when they're not together, if they're happy, if they're not happy.

0:34:26.360 --> 0:34:30.840
<v Speaker 1>It just I think we left being like, I don't

0:34:30.960 --> 0:34:32.839
<v Speaker 1>think they're going to work out in the real world.

0:34:32.920 --> 0:34:34.920
<v Speaker 1>It was not a thought. It was there is no

0:34:35.080 --> 0:34:38.480
<v Speaker 1>way in heck that That also is a good transition

0:34:38.520 --> 0:34:41.480
<v Speaker 1>to conversation from Michael and Danielle. It's more than just

0:34:41.560 --> 0:34:44.319
<v Speaker 1>a relationship. With a significant other. It's bringing someone else

0:34:44.400 --> 0:34:47.920
<v Speaker 1>in to be a potential mother figure to his son. Yes,

0:34:48.200 --> 0:34:50.120
<v Speaker 1>and I was asking about that and he was. He

0:34:50.239 --> 0:34:52.920
<v Speaker 1>was all in on Danielle. However, he's very reserved at

0:34:52.960 --> 0:34:55.360
<v Speaker 1>the point where he's only said I love you to

0:34:55.440 --> 0:34:59.520
<v Speaker 1>one person on this planet, and that is his wife Laura,

0:35:00.040 --> 0:35:02.560
<v Speaker 1>up until that point. Then really we're talking said that

0:35:02.640 --> 0:35:05.719
<v Speaker 1>before he said that he's only told one of the

0:35:05.800 --> 0:35:07.400
<v Speaker 1>person he's loved them. That's what he told me when

0:35:07.440 --> 0:35:10.680
<v Speaker 1>we're sitting there. Oh okay, Michael, in his life, to

0:35:10.800 --> 0:35:13.000
<v Speaker 1>that point when we're having that conversation, he had only

0:35:13.040 --> 0:35:15.840
<v Speaker 1>said I loved you to one other person on the planet.

0:35:16.520 --> 0:35:19.560
<v Speaker 1>And the fact that when we're talking, he's saying, you

0:35:19.560 --> 0:35:21.839
<v Speaker 1>can see a future outside of there with Dan Yelle

0:35:21.880 --> 0:35:24.920
<v Speaker 1>and what that looks like like, that made me have

0:35:25.239 --> 0:35:27.880
<v Speaker 1>sore cheeks just from smiling, because that's a that's a

0:35:27.960 --> 0:35:31.040
<v Speaker 1>powerful thing. So that was the conversation with Michael, and

0:35:31.080 --> 0:35:33.399
<v Speaker 1>I was elated to hear it. But he hadn't told

0:35:33.440 --> 0:35:35.480
<v Speaker 1>Danielle he loved her. That's what I'm saying, the only

0:35:35.560 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 1>person he has ever said he's loved. But then he

0:35:38.880 --> 0:35:42.839
<v Speaker 1>was getting to that point with Danielle. He never used

0:35:42.880 --> 0:35:44.600
<v Speaker 1>the word love, but he was saying he was getting

0:35:44.600 --> 0:35:49.239
<v Speaker 1>to a point where getting close gotcha or just like

0:35:49.400 --> 0:35:52.480
<v Speaker 1>on that trajectory potentially. Yeah, Okay, we'll have to see

0:35:52.520 --> 0:35:54.600
<v Speaker 1>what because I don't know how that one ends. But

0:35:54.719 --> 0:35:57.440
<v Speaker 1>that was just cool to see as far as conversations

0:35:57.480 --> 0:36:00.279
<v Speaker 1>that we had there, Okay, gotcha. And then and he

0:36:00.320 --> 0:36:02.560
<v Speaker 1>was just going through it. Yeah, we've been over us.

0:36:03.000 --> 0:36:07.280
<v Speaker 1>Sad big toe, Andrew sad big toe. He was happy

0:36:07.320 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 1>big toe the first couple of days on the beach

0:36:09.040 --> 0:36:12.759
<v Speaker 1>and then sad big toes. He literally drew a happy

0:36:12.840 --> 0:36:16.640
<v Speaker 1>face on his toe. He win literally one of the

0:36:16.719 --> 0:36:19.680
<v Speaker 1>first days. The image of Andrew's foot is unfortunately just

0:36:19.760 --> 0:36:22.960
<v Speaker 1>seared into my brain. Now I don't remember this at all.

0:36:23.040 --> 0:36:26.640
<v Speaker 1>He drew a happy, a happy face on his toe. Yeah,

0:36:26.719 --> 0:36:28.880
<v Speaker 1>what did I miss? He had open exposed feet to

0:36:28.920 --> 0:36:31.279
<v Speaker 1>the world to see. Wow. I think I didn't do

0:36:31.320 --> 0:36:35.320
<v Speaker 1>that because your feet are nasty. I have one ugly foot. Okay, fine,

0:36:35.320 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, yeah, okay, let's get into um, let's get

0:36:48.760 --> 0:36:54.120
<v Speaker 1>into our experience just together down there, because it was

0:36:54.280 --> 0:36:57.800
<v Speaker 1>kind of like a walkthrough memory memory lane. We we

0:36:58.040 --> 0:37:01.360
<v Speaker 1>obviously walked everywhere on that beach, we revisited some of

0:37:01.440 --> 0:37:04.399
<v Speaker 1>our favorite places. We had, like one specific daybed where

0:37:04.440 --> 0:37:08.680
<v Speaker 1>we would always have our little conversations or mini dates,

0:37:09.160 --> 0:37:11.040
<v Speaker 1>and so we of course went to go laid there.

0:37:11.160 --> 0:37:12.960
<v Speaker 1>We laid on the big bubba bed where we used

0:37:12.960 --> 0:37:16.400
<v Speaker 1>to take naps with everyone. We got our favorite foods,

0:37:16.400 --> 0:37:20.800
<v Speaker 1>our favorite drinks, We saw our favorite bartenders and chefs.

0:37:21.520 --> 0:37:25.640
<v Speaker 1>What was like your highlights, your like favorite thing that

0:37:25.800 --> 0:37:27.719
<v Speaker 1>you saw or that you really wanted to do when

0:37:27.760 --> 0:37:29.600
<v Speaker 1>you were there. I just wanted to sit there and

0:37:29.680 --> 0:37:32.080
<v Speaker 1>take it all in. And I had the chance to

0:37:32.160 --> 0:37:34.399
<v Speaker 1>do that, and it was amazing. It was also nice

0:37:34.440 --> 0:37:36.760
<v Speaker 1>sitting on the daybed and then walking away not crying

0:37:37.239 --> 0:37:39.880
<v Speaker 1>like when we left Paradise. That was a pretty good feeling.

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:42.399
<v Speaker 1>And I hope a lot more people this season get

0:37:42.440 --> 0:37:46.279
<v Speaker 1>to experience that. Though. Coming full circle and me dealing

0:37:46.360 --> 0:37:47.840
<v Speaker 1>that with you, that was that was pretty cool. That

0:37:47.960 --> 0:37:51.560
<v Speaker 1>was our test, Honey, look at us now. Oh oh,

0:37:52.120 --> 0:37:54.640
<v Speaker 1>we have to share the butterfly story. Oh my gosh,

0:37:55.000 --> 0:37:57.759
<v Speaker 1>we have to share the butterfly story. And I'm gonna

0:37:57.840 --> 0:38:01.880
<v Speaker 1>let you tell it. But basically, Thomas is going to

0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:04.239
<v Speaker 1>tell you his side of this story. And when we

0:38:04.320 --> 0:38:08.040
<v Speaker 1>were there. The complete opposite now happened, and the fact

0:38:08.080 --> 0:38:11.200
<v Speaker 1>that we were together to experience it as an engaged

0:38:11.360 --> 0:38:15.120
<v Speaker 1>couple was It's like, there are very few moments in

0:38:15.200 --> 0:38:17.200
<v Speaker 1>life where you get the chills and you're like, oh

0:38:17.280 --> 0:38:19.800
<v Speaker 1>my gosh, like there's something greater at work here, and

0:38:19.880 --> 0:38:21.799
<v Speaker 1>I think that was one of those moments for us.

0:38:22.440 --> 0:38:25.960
<v Speaker 1>So you just tell the people what you experienced last

0:38:26.040 --> 0:38:28.879
<v Speaker 1>year and this year. So this is the final day,

0:38:29.280 --> 0:38:34.799
<v Speaker 1>heading into overnight last year, last year, Yeah, and we're separated.

0:38:35.040 --> 0:38:38.120
<v Speaker 1>The men are in their areas, the women are in

0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:40.920
<v Speaker 1>their quarters, and we're all just waiting to see what

0:38:41.000 --> 0:38:43.800
<v Speaker 1>happens for me. In my heart, in my mind, I'm like,

0:38:43.920 --> 0:38:45.839
<v Speaker 1>I want to leave this beach with Becca. I want

0:38:45.880 --> 0:38:49.440
<v Speaker 1>to make sure she knows that. I know we're not

0:38:49.520 --> 0:38:51.359
<v Speaker 1>ready for an engagement. I know it's going to take time,

0:38:51.400 --> 0:38:53.319
<v Speaker 1>but I just want to be able to have that time.

0:38:53.640 --> 0:38:55.839
<v Speaker 1>And in my head, in my heart, I know that's

0:38:55.880 --> 0:38:58.400
<v Speaker 1>what's going to be. And while I'm sitting there just

0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:00.680
<v Speaker 1>thinking about what I want to say to or I

0:39:00.840 --> 0:39:03.960
<v Speaker 1>look up and I see a butterfly and just fly

0:39:04.160 --> 0:39:07.560
<v Speaker 1>into the room and land on the wall directly across

0:39:07.640 --> 0:39:10.759
<v Speaker 1>from me. And the reason why that's important is in

0:39:11.239 --> 0:39:14.440
<v Speaker 1>Latin culture. But it is a black butterfly. I'm getting there,

0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:17.680
<v Speaker 1>oh sorry. And Latin culture there is an omen of

0:39:17.719 --> 0:39:20.800
<v Speaker 1>a black butterfly of death. And if this butterfly lands

0:39:21.239 --> 0:39:24.840
<v Speaker 1>on a house or within like a loved one or

0:39:25.080 --> 0:39:29.120
<v Speaker 1>something of that nature, oh you don't want that, but

0:39:29.440 --> 0:39:32.600
<v Speaker 1>but but it represents imminent death is near. And for me,

0:39:32.680 --> 0:39:35.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm already uncertain going into this conversation I'm about to

0:39:35.480 --> 0:39:38.200
<v Speaker 1>have with Becca, and right when I see that black

0:39:38.280 --> 0:39:42.080
<v Speaker 1>butterfly come in and just lands directly across from me,

0:39:42.880 --> 0:39:45.600
<v Speaker 1>it completely just sunk into me and it completely just

0:39:45.680 --> 0:39:48.000
<v Speaker 1>absorbed my bone. But I was just like, oh, man,

0:39:48.400 --> 0:39:50.640
<v Speaker 1>this is not going to be good. She's going to

0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:54.600
<v Speaker 1>break up with me. You said that, weren't you talking

0:39:54.640 --> 0:39:57.919
<v Speaker 1>to Joe or Kenny at that point? And I looked, yes,

0:39:58.440 --> 0:40:01.960
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh. So this butterfly comes in, I have

0:40:02.120 --> 0:40:05.400
<v Speaker 1>this revelation. I'm like, she's breaking up with me. I

0:40:05.600 --> 0:40:07.759
<v Speaker 1>know what it is. The universe just told me. So

0:40:07.840 --> 0:40:11.719
<v Speaker 1>I look over to Joe and going back to his experience,

0:40:11.960 --> 0:40:15.080
<v Speaker 1>I said, hey, Joe, remember that time that you were

0:40:15.120 --> 0:40:18.759
<v Speaker 1>down here and you and Kendall broke up. He's like, yeah,

0:40:19.840 --> 0:40:22.800
<v Speaker 1>what what what it's like? What did that look like

0:40:22.880 --> 0:40:26.479
<v Speaker 1>when you guys got back together? What do you mean? Well,

0:40:27.160 --> 0:40:29.560
<v Speaker 1>I think I'm about to get dumped and I want

0:40:29.600 --> 0:40:31.480
<v Speaker 1>to do anything I can to make sure that this

0:40:31.680 --> 0:40:35.520
<v Speaker 1>isn't goodbye. And then we went down. I got dumped

0:40:36.400 --> 0:40:39.279
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, So going full circle a year later, what

0:40:39.440 --> 0:40:42.799
<v Speaker 1>happens when we're leaving Paradise this time? So as we're

0:40:43.040 --> 0:40:47.719
<v Speaker 1>leaving Paradise, that specific resort we'd spent the day there,

0:40:47.840 --> 0:40:51.880
<v Speaker 1>talked to everyone, like, had our special moments alone on

0:40:52.040 --> 0:40:55.600
<v Speaker 1>that beach, and we're about to get into our car

0:40:55.719 --> 0:41:00.239
<v Speaker 1>to take us away, and this truly the big guess

0:41:00.320 --> 0:41:03.040
<v Speaker 1>butterfly I've ever seen flew by, but it was a

0:41:03.239 --> 0:41:07.640
<v Speaker 1>white butterfly this time. Were hand in hand about to

0:41:07.800 --> 0:41:11.279
<v Speaker 1>leave and and we were already smiling, joking because we

0:41:11.360 --> 0:41:13.440
<v Speaker 1>were like, we get to leave together this time, no

0:41:13.600 --> 0:41:16.560
<v Speaker 1>more tears. And this butterfly just comes and flies right

0:41:16.719 --> 0:41:19.759
<v Speaker 1>on over us. And I think we got a video

0:41:19.880 --> 0:41:23.319
<v Speaker 1>of it, maybe if we did all share it on Instagram,

0:41:24.239 --> 0:41:29.080
<v Speaker 1>But it was such a crazy cool moment, Like Thomas

0:41:29.160 --> 0:41:32.520
<v Speaker 1>had obviously shared the butterfly, the black butterfly story to

0:41:32.640 --> 0:41:35.120
<v Speaker 1>me months ago, like you know, when we first got

0:41:35.160 --> 0:41:39.439
<v Speaker 1>back together after the big breakup. But yeah, like I said,

0:41:39.520 --> 0:41:42.360
<v Speaker 1>just a moment that you truly feel like something bigger

0:41:42.840 --> 0:41:44.600
<v Speaker 1>is at play in this universe and that it was

0:41:44.640 --> 0:41:48.400
<v Speaker 1>just the sign we needed. And so I think that

0:41:48.560 --> 0:41:53.360
<v Speaker 1>was that was probably like the most cool, my favorite

0:41:53.400 --> 0:41:55.960
<v Speaker 1>memory of when when we were down there this time around.

0:41:56.680 --> 0:41:58.840
<v Speaker 1>That was amazing. That was that was probably one of

0:41:58.840 --> 0:42:00.439
<v Speaker 1>the moments where it just hits you in the chests.

0:42:00.520 --> 0:42:04.359
<v Speaker 1>You're like, wow, yeah, this is this place is special. Yeah,

0:42:04.920 --> 0:42:07.960
<v Speaker 1>it was. And I don't think too many people leave

0:42:08.040 --> 0:42:12.640
<v Speaker 1>that beach, Like, regardless of how people's stories end, whether

0:42:12.719 --> 0:42:15.560
<v Speaker 1>it's good or bad, I don't think very many people

0:42:15.680 --> 0:42:19.759
<v Speaker 1>leave and like I want to come back, and you

0:42:20.200 --> 0:42:22.319
<v Speaker 1>are one of those people that are, like, I would

0:42:22.360 --> 0:42:25.279
<v Speaker 1>stay at this resort. I love it here. It's so

0:42:25.520 --> 0:42:28.120
<v Speaker 1>magical and so yeah, to be able to go back

0:42:28.200 --> 0:42:31.320
<v Speaker 1>and spend a few days there and a day with

0:42:31.440 --> 0:42:34.960
<v Speaker 1>the cast was really exciting for us. So I don't

0:42:35.000 --> 0:42:37.080
<v Speaker 1>need to do what Ashley and Jerry didn't, like stay

0:42:37.080 --> 0:42:38.879
<v Speaker 1>a full week and stay in the boom boom room,

0:42:38.960 --> 0:42:43.239
<v Speaker 1>Like that's not for me anymore. But one day was good. Well,

0:42:43.560 --> 0:42:45.640
<v Speaker 1>when we have kids, there's a chance we're go begging

0:42:45.680 --> 0:42:47.680
<v Speaker 1>to go down there for a week, like, guys, please

0:42:47.760 --> 0:42:50.520
<v Speaker 1>somebody take our kids, let us go. Yeah, I could

0:42:50.560 --> 0:42:52.080
<v Speaker 1>be speaking too soon. We might have kids in a

0:42:52.120 --> 0:42:55.040
<v Speaker 1>couple of years and need to go in a stink

0:42:55.120 --> 0:42:58.799
<v Speaker 1>up the boom boom room like they did. Done. Let

0:42:58.840 --> 0:43:03.480
<v Speaker 1>me ask you this, So Thomas doesn't know too much

0:43:03.520 --> 0:43:09.120
<v Speaker 1>about the spoilers. So who do you think will end

0:43:09.239 --> 0:43:12.920
<v Speaker 1>up leaving together as a couple and who what relationships

0:43:12.920 --> 0:43:15.520
<v Speaker 1>do you think might not make it. We'll say I

0:43:15.600 --> 0:43:18.560
<v Speaker 1>think they should have let Brandon Serene get engaged like

0:43:18.640 --> 0:43:21.600
<v Speaker 1>two weeks ago and just let them have fantasy suites

0:43:21.640 --> 0:43:24.160
<v Speaker 1>for for the last month of paradise. They could have

0:43:24.200 --> 0:43:27.160
<v Speaker 1>gotten to the boom boom room like they were. They

0:43:27.200 --> 0:43:30.120
<v Speaker 1>should have just let That's one thing we learned. No

0:43:30.200 --> 0:43:32.040
<v Speaker 1>one went to the boom boom room. And it's true.

0:43:32.120 --> 0:43:34.239
<v Speaker 1>And when we were there on the beach, I feel

0:43:34.239 --> 0:43:38.879
<v Speaker 1>like so many couples were going to the boom boom room. Yeah, yeah,

0:43:39.560 --> 0:43:42.640
<v Speaker 1>it got Maybe maybe the springs were a little too

0:43:42.800 --> 0:43:44.440
<v Speaker 1>used and they're like, oh, we don't want those two

0:43:44.520 --> 0:43:48.160
<v Speaker 1>broken in Okay, So okay, So definitely Brandon Serene if

0:43:48.480 --> 0:43:52.680
<v Speaker 1>if they shoot, Yeah, if they're not married, they'll probably

0:43:52.680 --> 0:43:55.520
<v Speaker 1>get married the same time. We do you think, Yeah,

0:43:55.719 --> 0:44:00.160
<v Speaker 1>they might already be married. Who knows, I would man,

0:44:00.320 --> 0:44:03.160
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, that's a given. I will say I don't.

0:44:03.200 --> 0:44:05.600
<v Speaker 1>I hope Michael and Danielle are together. I hope they're

0:44:05.600 --> 0:44:09.200
<v Speaker 1>able to figure something out, just because I don't know

0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:12.439
<v Speaker 1>much about Danielle. In fact, I don't know anything about Danielle. Yeah,

0:44:12.640 --> 0:44:17.279
<v Speaker 1>but I know Michael's a type of person who who

0:44:17.440 --> 0:44:21.080
<v Speaker 1>really deserves that level of happiness. And I know James

0:44:21.680 --> 0:44:25.160
<v Speaker 1>he wants that for his family as well, which is

0:44:25.560 --> 0:44:27.680
<v Speaker 1>an incredible things. He's like, he's a little kid and

0:44:27.800 --> 0:44:31.200
<v Speaker 1>he's super aware. So I hope they work out. Um.

0:44:31.239 --> 0:44:34.680
<v Speaker 1>I hope Andrew gets whatever clarity he needs. That was

0:44:34.920 --> 0:44:38.799
<v Speaker 1>that was That was tough. I hope Rodney's bachelor. Yep,

0:44:38.960 --> 0:44:42.720
<v Speaker 1>I agree. I'll second that we can do two seasons

0:44:42.760 --> 0:44:45.920
<v Speaker 1>in one year. We've done it before, we could do

0:44:46.080 --> 0:44:49.800
<v Speaker 1>it again. I don't see the twins leaving in a relationship.

0:44:49.840 --> 0:44:56.760
<v Speaker 1>I can't. Yeah, definitely not. Um, we like Brittany and Tyler,

0:44:57.000 --> 0:45:01.440
<v Speaker 1>I could see them leaving together. Definitely. Aaron and Genevieve

0:45:01.560 --> 0:45:06.279
<v Speaker 1>will not last too much longer it will last either. Unfortunately,

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:11.360
<v Speaker 1>those those two relationsheem very short lived in me definitely. Okay,

0:45:12.320 --> 0:45:17.959
<v Speaker 1>what is any advice that you would give people who well, okay,

0:45:18.040 --> 0:45:21.839
<v Speaker 1>how about this that you would give to couples who

0:45:21.920 --> 0:45:26.200
<v Speaker 1>are now still together like going through this or about

0:45:26.239 --> 0:45:29.319
<v Speaker 1>to be like public now their relationship will be all over.

0:45:29.960 --> 0:45:32.560
<v Speaker 1>Who can finally like scream it from the rooftops. What

0:45:32.600 --> 0:45:36.239
<v Speaker 1>advice would you give to them? This is advice that

0:45:36.440 --> 0:45:40.200
<v Speaker 1>I hope isn't coming too late, and I'm speaking from

0:45:40.280 --> 0:45:43.200
<v Speaker 1>our own experience. The best advice I could give to

0:45:43.440 --> 0:45:47.160
<v Speaker 1>a couple leaving that beach isn't that time when you're

0:45:47.160 --> 0:45:48.719
<v Speaker 1>not allowed to be out in the open and out

0:45:48.800 --> 0:45:52.399
<v Speaker 1>in public and really putting yourself in that relationship out there,

0:45:53.000 --> 0:45:55.800
<v Speaker 1>make sure you're doing everything you can to build that

0:45:55.920 --> 0:46:00.239
<v Speaker 1>relationship on a pillar of stone and not stand. What

0:46:00.360 --> 0:46:03.840
<v Speaker 1>I mean by that is when you're on that beach

0:46:04.040 --> 0:46:05.880
<v Speaker 1>and you don't have a care in the world and

0:46:06.200 --> 0:46:08.560
<v Speaker 1>life is not going to get better than that moment,

0:46:09.400 --> 0:46:14.080
<v Speaker 1>it's really easy to not have those pivotal and important

0:46:14.120 --> 0:46:17.279
<v Speaker 1>conversations about who we are, who do we want to be?

0:46:17.480 --> 0:46:21.480
<v Speaker 1>Who do we want to be together? And when you

0:46:21.680 --> 0:46:25.000
<v Speaker 1>have that alone time off the beach and real life

0:46:25.080 --> 0:46:28.000
<v Speaker 1>creeps in, make sure you're taking every opportunity you can

0:46:28.120 --> 0:46:31.680
<v Speaker 1>to spend that quality time and have those conversations and

0:46:32.000 --> 0:46:35.440
<v Speaker 1>have the intentionality to start shaping that life that you

0:46:35.560 --> 0:46:39.000
<v Speaker 1>both agree on. For us, we spent the first four

0:46:39.120 --> 0:46:44.239
<v Speaker 1>months in secrecy, having small picnics and having super in

0:46:44.360 --> 0:46:48.320
<v Speaker 1>depth intimate conversations and playing games and playing with the dogs,

0:46:48.440 --> 0:46:53.439
<v Speaker 1>and really, when you look at our lives today, it's

0:46:53.520 --> 0:46:57.560
<v Speaker 1>so similar to those original early moments we had when

0:46:57.600 --> 0:47:01.759
<v Speaker 1>we left the beach. And to have that continuity off

0:47:01.800 --> 0:47:05.000
<v Speaker 1>of the conversations, off of the actions, off of the ideals,

0:47:05.520 --> 0:47:09.000
<v Speaker 1>that's what allowed us to be planning a marriage and yeah,

0:47:09.239 --> 0:47:12.480
<v Speaker 1>planning for a future. I agree. We had the luxury

0:47:12.520 --> 0:47:16.319
<v Speaker 1>and maybe and maybe it was like a little bit

0:47:16.560 --> 0:47:19.200
<v Speaker 1>the fact that, like you were so mature and ready

0:47:19.440 --> 0:47:22.719
<v Speaker 1>to find somebody and like really be a partner. And

0:47:23.080 --> 0:47:26.440
<v Speaker 1>maybe I had some understanding of like because I had

0:47:26.440 --> 0:47:28.200
<v Speaker 1>already gone through it a couple of times, of like

0:47:28.320 --> 0:47:32.520
<v Speaker 1>how everything was going to feel when it was publicized,

0:47:32.560 --> 0:47:36.520
<v Speaker 1>of like we really sat down and like were ourselves

0:47:36.680 --> 0:47:38.759
<v Speaker 1>like this is who I am, this is what I want,

0:47:38.840 --> 0:47:40.959
<v Speaker 1>this is what I'm hoping for. But like we didn't

0:47:41.000 --> 0:47:46.759
<v Speaker 1>really have to like like lie about who we were

0:47:47.239 --> 0:47:49.319
<v Speaker 1>because we at that point where like, if it doesn't

0:47:49.360 --> 0:47:50.719
<v Speaker 1>work out, it doesn't work out, and no one's going

0:47:50.760 --> 0:47:52.239
<v Speaker 1>to know. And if it does, it's going to be great.

0:47:52.360 --> 0:47:55.560
<v Speaker 1>But to just stay true to who you are as

0:47:55.560 --> 0:47:58.719
<v Speaker 1>an individual and what you want in a partnership, who

0:47:58.840 --> 0:48:02.200
<v Speaker 1>you're looking for, what qualities like a ligne and so

0:48:02.480 --> 0:48:04.920
<v Speaker 1>that I think is so so so important. One thing too,

0:48:05.040 --> 0:48:08.680
<v Speaker 1>that actually we should just share with anyone, whether you

0:48:09.280 --> 0:48:12.920
<v Speaker 1>are just starting to date somebody or you've been dating

0:48:13.040 --> 0:48:17.080
<v Speaker 1>for a while. There is a game that I don't

0:48:17.120 --> 0:48:19.759
<v Speaker 1>remember who recommended it to me, but it's called We're

0:48:19.880 --> 0:48:23.040
<v Speaker 1>Not Really Strangers, and it is one of the best

0:48:23.120 --> 0:48:26.759
<v Speaker 1>ways to get to know somebody. It's what was there,

0:48:26.800 --> 0:48:29.960
<v Speaker 1>like three different categories and it's three different levels, Yeah,

0:48:30.000 --> 0:48:34.880
<v Speaker 1>three different levels, and it's just really really intentional questions

0:48:35.200 --> 0:48:38.720
<v Speaker 1>that help you get to know the person you're sitting

0:48:38.760 --> 0:48:41.839
<v Speaker 1>across the table with. And it was so beneficial for us,

0:48:42.560 --> 0:48:45.520
<v Speaker 1>and so we would just spend like a couple of nights.

0:48:45.600 --> 0:48:48.879
<v Speaker 1>The interesting about that is we actually never got past

0:48:48.960 --> 0:48:52.480
<v Speaker 1>the first level or finished even close to someone's a round. No,

0:48:52.600 --> 0:48:54.480
<v Speaker 1>we got to like two, didn't we. We would do

0:48:54.719 --> 0:48:57.479
<v Speaker 1>like three to four cards and then our conversation would

0:48:57.560 --> 0:49:03.160
<v Speaker 1>naturally just take on its own phone. Yeah. Yeah, so

0:49:04.320 --> 0:49:08.080
<v Speaker 1>it's such a great game. I highly highly recommended. This

0:49:08.200 --> 0:49:10.080
<v Speaker 1>is not even like an AD. I call you out

0:49:10.160 --> 0:49:13.040
<v Speaker 1>right here, name four questions from that because we pulled

0:49:13.080 --> 0:49:15.080
<v Speaker 1>it out and it was a great concept. We never

0:49:15.239 --> 0:49:18.440
<v Speaker 1>used it. I have one in my wallet. I saved

0:49:18.520 --> 0:49:21.839
<v Speaker 1>one special one. Yeah, it's skilled. We're not really strangerous. Again,

0:49:21.880 --> 0:49:23.680
<v Speaker 1>this is not an ad. This is I'm not doing

0:49:23.719 --> 0:49:26.360
<v Speaker 1>a promotion with them unless they want to pay me

0:49:26.400 --> 0:49:29.120
<v Speaker 1>in the future. But it was such a good game,

0:49:29.440 --> 0:49:35.160
<v Speaker 1>so beneficial, highly highly highly recommend m so friendy couples

0:49:35.200 --> 0:49:38.440
<v Speaker 1>in paradise who are together now and still in hiding,

0:49:38.680 --> 0:49:41.359
<v Speaker 1>pick up that game, take it for a spin one

0:49:41.480 --> 0:49:46.000
<v Speaker 1>or two nights and you will not be disappointed. But now, Tommy,

0:49:47.120 --> 0:49:50.520
<v Speaker 1>it's the time because you are such a good supporter,

0:49:50.560 --> 0:49:52.120
<v Speaker 1>and I know you listen to this podcast that we

0:49:52.200 --> 0:49:58.040
<v Speaker 1>got to share the resources, so you know how this works.

0:49:58.040 --> 0:50:01.640
<v Speaker 1>But to any listeners who are new to Happy We here,

0:50:01.719 --> 0:50:04.880
<v Speaker 1>think it's so important for everyone to stay informed and

0:50:05.000 --> 0:50:08.800
<v Speaker 1>just be called accountable. So we are sharing resources on

0:50:08.960 --> 0:50:11.880
<v Speaker 1>this podcast and then also on our Instagram accounts that

0:50:11.960 --> 0:50:13.960
<v Speaker 1>anyone can go to and find and pull up and

0:50:14.080 --> 0:50:18.319
<v Speaker 1>either quickly listen to or watch or purchase as a book.

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<v Speaker 1>So I will let you start this time, Tommy, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>take it away. The resource that I want to talk

0:50:26.320 --> 0:50:28.960
<v Speaker 1>about today, it is a book. The book is called

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<v Speaker 1>The Color of Law. The Color of Law is by

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<v Speaker 1>Richard Rothstein and what it entails it's a deep dive

0:50:36.920 --> 0:50:40.840
<v Speaker 1>through why geographic boundaries happen. What I mean by geographic

0:50:40.920 --> 0:50:45.920
<v Speaker 1>boundaries is what Richard Roston goes into is why do

0:50:46.000 --> 0:50:50.880
<v Speaker 1>we have predominantly black communities. Why do we have a

0:50:51.280 --> 0:50:56.640
<v Speaker 1>disparity between school systems, Why do we have a disparity

0:50:56.800 --> 0:51:01.240
<v Speaker 1>in potential job opportunity? Why is it so much harder

0:51:01.840 --> 0:51:06.920
<v Speaker 1>for the African American community in minority communities to surpass

0:51:07.920 --> 0:51:11.480
<v Speaker 1>the obstacles in their way from where they live and

0:51:11.719 --> 0:51:15.120
<v Speaker 1>what their surroundings are. And what rich Rossi does is

0:51:15.200 --> 0:51:21.880
<v Speaker 1>he goes into an actual empirical breakdown of different governing policies,

0:51:22.600 --> 0:51:27.160
<v Speaker 1>different procedurals, and different just community I'm going to use

0:51:27.160 --> 0:51:33.000
<v Speaker 1>the word mishaps that led to these minority driven just

0:51:33.360 --> 0:51:38.440
<v Speaker 1>redlined areas, and to push that dialogue further, I'm actually

0:51:38.640 --> 0:51:41.760
<v Speaker 1>going to give away four copies of the book anyone

0:51:41.840 --> 0:51:46.600
<v Speaker 1>who is interested in learning more about the different plights

0:51:46.760 --> 0:51:50.600
<v Speaker 1>that minorities, specifically African American community has faced when it

0:51:50.719 --> 0:51:53.320
<v Speaker 1>comes to where they live in the communities that have

0:51:53.480 --> 0:51:57.000
<v Speaker 1>essentially been created for them. Send me a picture with

0:51:57.160 --> 0:52:01.200
<v Speaker 1>a drawn on mustache and what we started. I have

0:52:01.280 --> 0:52:02.840
<v Speaker 1>a mustache, and I have to figure out who to

0:52:02.880 --> 0:52:06.759
<v Speaker 1>give these books to somehow, and you and send you

0:52:06.840 --> 0:52:08.960
<v Speaker 1>like a reason of why they would want to read it,

0:52:09.080 --> 0:52:10.800
<v Speaker 1>or like what they're hoping to learn from it or

0:52:10.920 --> 0:52:13.640
<v Speaker 1>takeaways or who they could share it with. That's a

0:52:13.800 --> 0:52:15.880
<v Speaker 1>lot better of an idea that what I came up with.

0:52:16.719 --> 0:52:20.040
<v Speaker 1>We're giving away four books. Yeah, okay, send me a

0:52:20.160 --> 0:52:24.120
<v Speaker 1>message saying the Colored Law, what you want to learn

0:52:24.200 --> 0:52:26.000
<v Speaker 1>from it, and who you would share that information with,

0:52:26.360 --> 0:52:28.799
<v Speaker 1>and we will choose four people to send those books too.

0:52:28.840 --> 0:52:31.000
<v Speaker 1>You could do a post on Instagram. Make it easy, sir,

0:52:32.360 --> 0:52:36.160
<v Speaker 1>I overcomplicated that. Yeah we got this, okay, Well you

0:52:36.280 --> 0:52:39.600
<v Speaker 1>find them on Instagram. Again. This is not Samus plug,

0:52:39.680 --> 0:52:42.120
<v Speaker 1>but that's I like that. I like that you're continuing

0:52:42.400 --> 0:52:45.439
<v Speaker 1>to pass it on and move it forward. That's good.

0:52:45.680 --> 0:52:47.960
<v Speaker 1>We haven't had any anyone on the podcast that has

0:52:48.000 --> 0:52:51.160
<v Speaker 1>done that, So kudos. You get extra Brownie points tonight, Thomas.

0:52:51.239 --> 0:52:55.080
<v Speaker 1>I hope I get actual brownie Okay. So the one

0:52:55.400 --> 0:52:57.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to share this week, the resource I'm sharing

0:52:57.760 --> 0:52:59.879
<v Speaker 1>is it's a movie that came out several years ago

0:53:02.000 --> 0:53:05.919
<v Speaker 1>and it's so good. I watched it with my mom.

0:53:06.719 --> 0:53:08.200
<v Speaker 1>It was in the midst of COVID. It was when

0:53:08.200 --> 0:53:10.200
<v Speaker 1>I was going through my breakup and you know, it

0:53:10.280 --> 0:53:13.200
<v Speaker 1>was like in the middle of the Black Lives Matter movement.

0:53:14.239 --> 0:53:16.400
<v Speaker 1>And the movie is called The Hate You Give and

0:53:16.560 --> 0:53:19.719
<v Speaker 1>it's I to be honest, I don't know if it's

0:53:19.719 --> 0:53:21.800
<v Speaker 1>on Netflix or how you can find it. Just do

0:53:21.920 --> 0:53:23.920
<v Speaker 1>a quick Google search. I will share this on my

0:53:23.960 --> 0:53:26.880
<v Speaker 1>Instagram stories and try to find a link for everyone.

0:53:27.239 --> 0:53:30.680
<v Speaker 1>But it's basically about the main character is this young

0:53:30.760 --> 0:53:35.000
<v Speaker 1>woman growing up in high school and she goes to

0:53:35.200 --> 0:53:41.279
<v Speaker 1>a predominantly white, prestigious private school, but she lives in

0:53:44.280 --> 0:53:50.640
<v Speaker 1>mainly black community that's obviously like less wealthy, less privilege,

0:53:50.719 --> 0:53:52.719
<v Speaker 1>just a lot less means and so it's kind of

0:53:52.760 --> 0:53:56.280
<v Speaker 1>like her navigating through this life as a young woman,

0:53:56.400 --> 0:53:58.360
<v Speaker 1>you know, high school is not easy for anyone, and

0:53:58.480 --> 0:54:02.000
<v Speaker 1>kind of bouncing between like her identity, like how like

0:54:02.640 --> 0:54:06.359
<v Speaker 1>when she feels like she assimilates more with the black

0:54:06.360 --> 0:54:08.279
<v Speaker 1>community and the white community and trying to fit in

0:54:08.360 --> 0:54:12.160
<v Speaker 1>at this like prestigious school. It's really really powerful, it's

0:54:12.160 --> 0:54:16.120
<v Speaker 1>really special. Have you watched it? I'm not you haven't. Well, shit,

0:54:16.280 --> 0:54:18.120
<v Speaker 1>now I know what we can watch tonight for moving night.

0:54:18.560 --> 0:54:22.040
<v Speaker 1>But it's called The Hate You Give. It will move

0:54:22.120 --> 0:54:25.320
<v Speaker 1>you to tears. It's so beautifully done. I don't I

0:54:25.400 --> 0:54:27.120
<v Speaker 1>don't remember who the director is. I can find it

0:54:27.200 --> 0:54:29.480
<v Speaker 1>really quick, but that is the one again. I will

0:54:29.520 --> 0:54:31.840
<v Speaker 1>share it on my Instagram as well, just like Tommy

0:54:31.880 --> 0:54:36.360
<v Speaker 1>will do with his. And that is the resource section

0:54:36.440 --> 0:54:41.239
<v Speaker 1>for the podcast. Thanks Thomas. And now you, my friend,

0:54:41.360 --> 0:54:45.560
<v Speaker 1>get to do your Rose and Thorn and you can

0:54:45.680 --> 0:54:48.440
<v Speaker 1>do it. I'll let you do it like either this

0:54:48.600 --> 0:54:52.880
<v Speaker 1>whole season of Paradise or of just this week whatever

0:54:52.920 --> 0:54:56.279
<v Speaker 1>you feel like, Okay, I will do this week and

0:54:56.640 --> 0:55:00.279
<v Speaker 1>my thorn would be the conversations the Beach was having

0:55:00.480 --> 0:55:05.080
<v Speaker 1>about the age difference between Mara Flow and the twins,

0:55:05.239 --> 0:55:06.960
<v Speaker 1>And the reason why that's a thorn to me is,

0:55:07.880 --> 0:55:10.760
<v Speaker 1>I look at I'm gonna use Joe and Serena again.

0:55:11.400 --> 0:55:14.560
<v Speaker 1>There's an age difference there and they've created such a

0:55:14.600 --> 0:55:17.439
<v Speaker 1>beautiful life together. Why is it when a woman comes

0:55:17.480 --> 0:55:20.319
<v Speaker 1>in who's older and she goes to take out these

0:55:20.400 --> 0:55:24.200
<v Speaker 1>young strapping lads that now it's an issue saying yeah,

0:55:24.440 --> 0:55:29.320
<v Speaker 1>and you're my young strapping lad, I will call yes exactly, okay,

0:55:29.440 --> 0:55:31.880
<v Speaker 1>thank you to me that that wasn't a fair conversation

0:55:31.920 --> 0:55:33.920
<v Speaker 1>to be Yeah, I mean Mara and Flow, they're out

0:55:34.000 --> 0:55:38.600
<v Speaker 1>here doing everything they can to be opened the relationships. Yeah,

0:55:38.640 --> 0:55:40.279
<v Speaker 1>they were in a tough spot. Yeah, they take out

0:55:40.280 --> 0:55:44.200
<v Speaker 1>the youngest guys, so what good for them? Good for them?

0:55:44.719 --> 0:55:49.040
<v Speaker 1>Good for them? And my rose love knows no age.

0:55:49.600 --> 0:55:52.439
<v Speaker 1>My Rose is basin in a reality that I don't

0:55:52.440 --> 0:55:54.960
<v Speaker 1>know it's real, but it's entertaining for me to believe

0:55:55.000 --> 0:55:57.759
<v Speaker 1>that it's real. And that is when Eliza went to

0:55:57.960 --> 0:56:02.520
<v Speaker 1>visit Justin in Baltimore. I was so just captivated by

0:56:02.640 --> 0:56:05.279
<v Speaker 1>the cloth coverings Justin had on his couches. And the

0:56:05.400 --> 0:56:07.840
<v Speaker 1>reason why I was really drawn to those is because

0:56:08.200 --> 0:56:11.399
<v Speaker 1>Justin is a painter and I am convinced as those

0:56:11.440 --> 0:56:15.440
<v Speaker 1>cloth couches covers because he paints people on those couches

0:56:15.920 --> 0:56:18.680
<v Speaker 1>and French girl, just like a French girl. So my

0:56:18.880 --> 0:56:23.320
<v Speaker 1>rose is your rose. My rose is the hypothetical paintings

0:56:23.600 --> 0:56:27.480
<v Speaker 1>of people Justin has done on his cloth covered couches,

0:56:27.640 --> 0:56:30.840
<v Speaker 1>not even into the butterfly. That is your rose, not

0:56:31.360 --> 0:56:33.440
<v Speaker 1>the chicken. N Maybe I want Justin to paint me.

0:56:33.600 --> 0:56:37.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Oh my okay, well, ladies and gents,

0:56:37.239 --> 0:56:40.840
<v Speaker 1>you heard it from Thomas first. Justin, please let Thomas

0:56:40.960 --> 0:56:43.560
<v Speaker 1>know where those couchcloth covers are because I don't care

0:56:43.560 --> 0:56:45.880
<v Speaker 1>about the couch cloths. I care about the painting that

0:56:46.000 --> 0:56:48.799
<v Speaker 1>happens on the couch cloths, the hypothetical painting. I need

0:56:48.880 --> 0:56:51.239
<v Speaker 1>to see what these look like. Now, It's all I

0:56:51.320 --> 0:56:53.600
<v Speaker 1>could stare at the entire scenes. It is such the

0:56:53.760 --> 0:56:57.080
<v Speaker 1>difference between us. Thomas pays attention to the little list

0:56:57.160 --> 0:57:02.279
<v Speaker 1>of details and I don't see. Well, the little details

0:57:02.360 --> 0:57:05.840
<v Speaker 1>open up a world of possibilities, like Justin painting people

0:57:05.920 --> 0:57:08.719
<v Speaker 1>on them. Wow, it's amazing. We got to call him

0:57:08.719 --> 0:57:11.560
<v Speaker 1>after this and see if he has painted portraits on

0:57:11.719 --> 0:57:13.960
<v Speaker 1>that coach or if he has those cloth covers for

0:57:14.200 --> 0:57:17.320
<v Speaker 1>other reasons. We will hopefully find out very soon that

0:57:17.440 --> 0:57:19.400
<v Speaker 1>might have been the weirdest rows you've ever gotten here

0:57:19.920 --> 0:57:22.960
<v Speaker 1>one it's because I'm a sunflower guy. I don't know

0:57:23.000 --> 0:57:26.600
<v Speaker 1>what to tell you. Oh yeah, okay, well, Thomas, it

0:57:26.720 --> 0:57:28.680
<v Speaker 1>was so much fun having you. Thank you, my dear.

0:57:29.320 --> 0:57:36.200
<v Speaker 1>You're welcome back anytime. I think I'll keep you so funny. Everybody,

0:57:36.320 --> 0:57:39.280
<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much, Thomas. It was a blast having

0:57:39.360 --> 0:57:41.360
<v Speaker 1>you on. But the biggest thing goes out to all

0:57:41.400 --> 0:57:43.880
<v Speaker 1>of our Bachelor Happy Our listeners. You know, we couldn't

0:57:43.920 --> 0:57:46.360
<v Speaker 1>be here every week without all of you, so thank you,

0:57:46.440 --> 0:57:49.200
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0:57:49.240 --> 0:57:51.960
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