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Speaker 1: I was on vacation and I walked onto the beach

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Speaker 1: this man came over to me and was like asking

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Speaker 1: We're going to get into that people are so desperate

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Speaker 2: And I'll explain because I.

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Speaker 1: Screwed up, but so I believe that the man was

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Speaker 1: chair and she was telling me the story, and another mom,

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Speaker 1: like this blonde mom walked up to me and she goes,

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Speaker 1: there was a man who walked up to your daughter

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Speaker 1: and it was not appropriate. And brim I was like,

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Speaker 1: she was just telling me that, and the mom's like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: like that was not appropriate. So we got you and

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Speaker 1: it was just like this community just like it's just

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Speaker 1: the mom. You know, moms are the nosiest, yendahest bitches alive.

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Speaker 1: But thank God, because you know, they're scoping it out.

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Speaker 1: They're on vacation. This is their time. They got to

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Speaker 1: fucking figure out everything. It's going out with everybody. They

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Speaker 1: doing laundry, they're taking their kids to school, they're ripping

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Speaker 1: their hair out. Their roots are you know, fucking silver.

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Speaker 1: They're just trying to hang on by a thread. They're

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Speaker 1: let loose, and part of that is like gossiping and

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Speaker 1: And you see the hostility come through overall on a

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Speaker 1: little crazy. It's like they're getting a little crazy because

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Speaker 1: But anyway, I digress because I'm gonna get into that

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Speaker 1: story about this lunatic by the beach. But this woman

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Speaker 1: I just love that mom community that like mama bear

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: I was on the plane coming home and Brynn was

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Speaker 1: back in first class. She was so happy to be

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Speaker 1: away from her kids after a week. She's like, I

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Speaker 1: have a fifteen year old daughter and you know her

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Speaker 1: her hair was falling out too, after a vacation with

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Speaker 1: her kids. So you can't win for losing because she

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Speaker 1: went a way to relax and as she was with

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Speaker 1: to relax after a vacation with her kids. But you know,

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Speaker 1: it's just rough going, like being on a plane and

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Speaker 1: was like a mom no, like she was looking to

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Speaker 1: it's touching story. Man, don't come talk to my child

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Speaker 1: unless I'm present. It's just fucked up and creepy. And

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Speaker 1: you know, the beach, because you know, a fourteen year

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Speaker 1: fuck away from my kid, any person, like frankly, any man,

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Speaker 1: So it is a fine line between your kid not

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Speaker 1: last minute vacation Brennan I three nights in Turks and Caicos.

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Speaker 1: Real impulsive, just like, let's do something we never do.

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Speaker 1: Let's just not have it planned, let's just go together,

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Speaker 1: So the first day in we were paddle warning and

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Speaker 1: isn't what happens. We end up swimming and going to

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Speaker 1: nice dinners and having a great time. But like, I

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Speaker 1: don't want any obligations. This is not the activation trip.

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Speaker 1: This is not Costa Rica zipline and take a jungle tour,

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Speaker 2: This is not that. This is like land, you goddamn ass.

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Speaker 2: You wanted to go. We agreed to go.

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Speaker 1: We could have gone to the Hamptons and gone ice

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Speaker 2: Instead we decided to go to Turk.

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Speaker 1: So enjoy the water, see you in a couple of days.

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Speaker 1: And I have a very good kid at just being alone.

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Speaker 1: Like she's just a very independent soul. She's like an artist.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Jeremy's for and Brin's for too.

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Speaker 1: Yay, they can be best friends for the next three

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Speaker 1: Like I know, you're not friends with them, you don't

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Speaker 1: If like he's excited you were coming in, it's going

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Speaker 1: So we were in the water and there was this

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Speaker 1: He was like fourteen, and he looked cute enough, and

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Speaker 1: Napoleon Dynamite types. So now she's sort of I go, great, Brun,

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Speaker 1: Like what's not to like the tube? But like I

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Speaker 1: So then I said, Okay, do you not want to go?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if she thought like maybe it would

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Speaker 1: I said to the guy, I'll pay for half of it.

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Speaker 2: But I just was like, where's this kid? So she

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Speaker 2: Where's Brnn and where are you and where are you

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Speaker 1: And now like on vacation with people that I don't know,

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Speaker 1: And the cautionary tale is like it's great for you

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Speaker 1: enter the Witness Protection program on vacation, you're making up stories.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, no, we have malaria, you know, Brenna Scurvey,

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Speaker 1: she can't come out, like so she's like hiding half

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Speaker 1: it's not a great idea when they're thirteen for parents

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Speaker 1: I almost think it's better for them just be annoying

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Speaker 2: And I've had it too. You get excited in the.

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Speaker 1: Beginning of a weekend and you like, you know, people

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Speaker 2: Everyone thinks it's fun.

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Speaker 1: And then you're like, all right, we're not on vacation

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Speaker 1: with you, like we're doing our own thing. So vacations

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Speaker 1: And I say that because like a kiddie pool, you know,

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Speaker 1: And they seem really cool on vacation and then you're like, yeah,

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