WEBVTT - Can You Go Phoneless?

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<v Speaker 1>Get your hand us together, and we're going to start

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<v Speaker 1>to party.

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<v Speaker 2>Start part I'm ready to party.

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<v Speaker 3>The Elvis Duran after Party.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the after Party Podcast. Don't we love a podcast

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<v Speaker 2>after the party? Yeah, well, because that's what we're doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Could you imagine podcasting after an actual party?

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<v Speaker 2>No, not at all. So we were talking about the

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<v Speaker 2>need to detox from our phones, put them down. We're

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<v Speaker 2>so locked into our phones. We are forgetting about ourselves,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, because every time you pop online, you're really

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<v Speaker 2>not paying attention to yourself at all. You're paying attention

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<v Speaker 2>to something else always. Yeah, a lot of people are

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<v Speaker 2>calling in about this. Joanne on line nineteen. Joanne just

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<v Speaker 2>admits that out loud she hates her phone, and so

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<v Speaker 2>you actually give it up every Sunday a Sunday phone

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<v Speaker 2>free day for you, Joanne.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, Digital de Talks Day.

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<v Speaker 2>When and why did you start this?

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<v Speaker 4>I started it. I'm going to say about nine years ago.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh wow, Okay, my uncle sent me a video from

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<v Speaker 4>YouTube and it's like this love story that wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 4>happened if we were looking down at our phone. This

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<v Speaker 4>man walks around the park. He asked this woman for directions.

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<v Speaker 4>They fall in love, they have this great life. If

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<v Speaker 4>you were looking down at your phone, you wouldn't have met,

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<v Speaker 4>You wouldn't have had gotten married and had this wonderful life.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow. Kind of makes you wonder what we were all missing.

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<v Speaker 2>What we're all missing when we're on our phone all

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<v Speaker 2>the night. We'll never know because we're not paying attention.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a whole world going on out there. You do

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<v Speaker 2>know that, right? Scary there's a world going on out

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<v Speaker 2>there while you're on your phone. Something I said, yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>okay somehow So so Joanne, if someone needs to get

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<v Speaker 2>you on a Sunday, they have to call you. There's

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<v Speaker 2>no texting. Yes, your phone has to ring.

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<v Speaker 4>It actually has to ring if you text me. I

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<v Speaker 4>wake up on Monday morning and I have text messages.

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<v Speaker 4>I haven't responded to Facebook, you know, comments, all these

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<v Speaker 4>things that I just I don't respond to it, and

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<v Speaker 4>I tell them, you know, if you need me, you

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<v Speaker 4>better call me.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, So you had to train people over nine years.

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<v Speaker 2>It took nine years to train them to call you

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<v Speaker 2>on Sunday.

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<v Speaker 5>Correct.

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<v Speaker 4>And so my new friends do not like this, well, of.

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<v Speaker 2>Course, but let me ask you this, how does it

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<v Speaker 2>affect your life? Monday through Saturday. I mean, are you

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<v Speaker 2>using your phone less during those days as well?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes?

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<v Speaker 4>And it is my goal. You know how you get

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<v Speaker 4>like the uh usage once a week?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, it.

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<v Speaker 4>Is my goal to have that less every week. And

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<v Speaker 4>when it's higher, I'm like, what the hell did I do?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Why was I on my phone?

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<v Speaker 3>I have a question, do you on Monday, when you

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<v Speaker 3>have all of these other texts and everything that came

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<v Speaker 3>in on Sunday that you ignored, do you have to

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<v Speaker 3>play catch up on Monday? Or do you just not

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<v Speaker 3>answer those at all?

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<v Speaker 4>Depends on if I feel it's important enough. Okay, Like

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<v Speaker 4>sometimes I'm just like I don't care about you, move on.

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<v Speaker 4>But if it's like you know someone something somewhat important, sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, it's fair.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow. You know it's interesting, Joan, because we're about to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to someone else who is from what their parent

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<v Speaker 2>company they work for is in Germany, where they I

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<v Speaker 2>think legally not allowed to have their phones on nice

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<v Speaker 2>or even their company at least says you you cannot

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<v Speaker 2>respond to anything business wise on the weekends.

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<v Speaker 4>I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll get to that in just a second. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>any of the thoughts for Joanne, It sounds like she's

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<v Speaker 2>onto something pretty cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, a great idea. I might have to implement something

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<v Speaker 1>like that myself. Yeah, I'll talk to me. She just

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't want you to talk to her.

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<v Speaker 2>The question why, I mean, I feel like Sunday is

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<v Speaker 2>an important day. Why day? But aside from that, but

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<v Speaker 2>why not like a random weekday? I mean, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like Sunday would be the day that you would really

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<v Speaker 2>want to connect with people.

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<v Speaker 4>That's really my day to like recoup and get ready

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<v Speaker 4>for the week. You know, I work Monday through Friday.

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<v Speaker 4>I work at a town hall. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 4>be bothered. If you want to bother me and you're

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<v Speaker 4>like my dad, you know you're going to call me

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<v Speaker 4>and you want to hang out with me, and you're

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<v Speaker 4>going to pick up the phone. You want to hear

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<v Speaker 4>my voice. Yeah, I need to reset. I want to

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<v Speaker 4>be home on Sundays. I want to chill. I don't

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<v Speaker 4>want the stress of the phone. The phone is stressful.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, as you did, you took charge. You took charge

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<v Speaker 2>of your life, and it is your your rules. People

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<v Speaker 2>will follow them, including yourself, because you have to follow

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<v Speaker 2>your own rule as well. Joanne, thank you. That was very,

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<v Speaker 2>very very eye opening. We appreciate you being part of

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<v Speaker 2>the show.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you, thanks for talking to me.

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<v Speaker 2>You're very welcome. Arleen is online eighteen, who I was

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<v Speaker 2>talking to earlier. Hi Arlen, how you doing good? You

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<v Speaker 2>doing well? So, Arlene says, my parent company is in

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<v Speaker 2>Germany not allowed to have their phones on or even

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<v Speaker 2>smart watches or anything like that during the workday. They

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<v Speaker 2>need to lock up these phones in their desks. They

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<v Speaker 2>can check them at breaks only. And you always find

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<v Speaker 2>it crazy when people visit you in the US and

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<v Speaker 2>they see you wearing no you find it crazy when

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<v Speaker 2>you visit the US and you see people wearing their

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<v Speaker 2>smart watches and have their cell phones on them at

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<v Speaker 2>all times, you do find it crazy. What we're doing

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<v Speaker 2>here is insanity, right, Arlen?

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<v Speaker 4>Agree? Agree?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean I'm in the US here, and you know

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<v Speaker 5>we're I g said, like you guys, you're used to it.

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<v Speaker 5>It's with you. We even are company in the US.

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<v Speaker 5>Most of us work from home. We need our phone

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<v Speaker 5>to just log into our computers. But still, of course

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<v Speaker 5>you use it for that, but then of course you're

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<v Speaker 5>checking it throughout the day. Anytime the Germans come here

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<v Speaker 5>and they see us, they're like, what are you doing? Like,

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<v Speaker 5>how can you have that out? You know why? You know,

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<v Speaker 5>why do you need it? You know the interesting and

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<v Speaker 5>logging on? But then why do you need it? After that?

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<v Speaker 2>Wow? Didn't even know that? Do we know this?

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<v Speaker 1>No? No?

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<v Speaker 5>And I don't know if it's every company out there,

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<v Speaker 5>but like, I mean, this is a pretty big company

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<v Speaker 5>in Germany that I work that we're the parent company of.

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<v Speaker 5>And yeah, they even they're smart watches like they The

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<v Speaker 5>first I got introduced to it to them was a

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<v Speaker 5>few years ago. One of their interns was here, which

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<v Speaker 5>is a college student, and she was like, you guys

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<v Speaker 5>who were smart watches? Were like, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 5>And then she explained to us they have to walk

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<v Speaker 5>them up. They're not allowed to.

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<v Speaker 1>Have Now I like it. Yeah, but also how many

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<v Speaker 1>times are we in here and we're talking about something

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<v Speaker 1>and you look around and people are on their phone,

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<v Speaker 1>not paying attention anything the time, and then we repeat,

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<v Speaker 1>we repeat what someone just said because we're not paying attention.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the first place I've been where the phones

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<v Speaker 1>were allowed to be out during the show. The other

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<v Speaker 1>shows that I was at, if you had your phone out,

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<v Speaker 1>one of the hosts saw you oh my god, the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the world.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I get scary sweating now he's sweat.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you use this the phone for research though, I

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<v Speaker 2>mean in the moment stuff. Yeah, sometimes, But how do

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<v Speaker 2>we how do the rest of us know that? I

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<v Speaker 2>won't tell you this, Arlene. Back when people started bringing

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<v Speaker 2>their laptops into the room, and I used to get

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<v Speaker 2>all pissed off because I would try to get people's

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<v Speaker 2>attention and they were on their laptop doing something I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. And we were considering making it illegal to

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<v Speaker 2>have your laptop on in the room. That's and that's

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<v Speaker 2>back before cell phones were you know, they took the

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<v Speaker 2>place at the laptop.

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<v Speaker 5>Actually, yeah, your small laptop.

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<v Speaker 2>We can always bring it back.

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<v Speaker 5>I like it. Yeah, I mean we have done. We've

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<v Speaker 5>done in the US here because most of what's were remote.

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<v Speaker 5>We have you know, company meetings online, you know, via

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<v Speaker 5>our WebEx we use. And they started now we have

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<v Speaker 5>to have our cameras on because they knew people were listening,

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<v Speaker 5>but what else were they doing on their phone or

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<v Speaker 5>something else and not really engaging. And so now unless

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<v Speaker 5>for some reason you have some reason you can't put

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<v Speaker 5>your camera on. Your camera's got to be on.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so funny.

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<v Speaker 3>Whenever we have like a big iHeart meeting, I'm at

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<v Speaker 3>home and sometimes I'm cleaning and my camera off and

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<v Speaker 3>i have my airpot in and I'm listening. But I'm

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<v Speaker 3>cleaning and I'm doing this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but you're not. You're not paying attention to one. No,

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's why. That why it's illegal for us to

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<v Speaker 2>be on our phones while we're driving. Yeah, because I

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<v Speaker 2>mean I've done to myself. I'll be on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>with someone and I'll find myself running a red light.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, and so I stopped doing it because you

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<v Speaker 2>need to be paying attention. And so I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>it's anything. They're not asking for too much for your

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<v Speaker 2>full attention while you're on their dime and you're working

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<v Speaker 2>for them and trying to problem solve for the company.

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<v Speaker 2>I get it, all right.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I mean, go back ten twenty years ago, we

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<v Speaker 5>did not have it, and come we had no problem with.

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<v Speaker 2>It then, you know, yeah, right, all right, any of

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<v Speaker 2>the thoughts for Arlene or questions, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I like this. I like this idea though.

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<v Speaker 3>We're moving to joy right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all right, Arlene, thank you and thanks for listening

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<v Speaker 2>to you so we sure do appreciate you very very

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<v Speaker 2>very much.

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<v Speaker 5>Thanks you guys have a great days after party.