WEBVTT - Clayton Sets the Record Straight 0:00:02.000 --> 0:00:04.960 Welcome back Bachelor Happy Hour listeners. It's good to be 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:07.400 back with you. I know this week is a little 0:00:07.440 --> 0:00:10.360 off because obviously we did not have an episode of 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:13.480 The Bachelor last night, so we have no recap, which 0:00:13.640 --> 0:00:16.120 is totally fine because we still have a great episode 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:19.680 coming up for you today. Yes, I definitely missed The 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:22.480 Bachelor this week, but I am so excited for today's 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:25.840 episode because Bachelor Nation, we have heard you when you 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:29.400 have said who is Clayton? We know nothing about him? 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:33.839 So guess what. The Bachelor himself is here today and 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:35.879 we cannot wait for you to all get to know 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:39.599 him a little bit better. Yes, the time has finally 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:41.879 come for us to give all of you people what 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:44.519 you want. Not only do we have his season to 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:48.280 talk with him about, but we also, if you don't remember, 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:51.800 never had him on during Michelle's season, So we have 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:55.720 a full recap with Clayton himself. We'll get into Michelle's season, 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:58.360 his time on her season, we'll get into his season. 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:02.240 But also there's just so much for him, so much 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:05.880 more for us to know about him as listeners. So 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:09.720 today we have a full episode. We'll get into all 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:11.600 of the tea, we'll get to know Clayton for who 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:14.319 he really is, what he thinks about this crazy world. 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:18.360 And I just have to say, let's just get into it. Serena, Huh, 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.080 I am so ready. Let's bring on the Bachelor. I 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:23.880 just want all of our listeners to know the real Clayton. 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:26.120 This is why we're having you here on Bachelor Happy 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:28.080 Hour today is to get to know you. Because we've 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:30.560 had so many people out there be like, who's Clayton? 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:33.120 We know nothing about him? While ladies and gents, today 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:35.319 is the day we now know that Clayton eats about 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:37.760 a thousand pounds in chipole a week. He's got a 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:40.240 Chipotle card well on the way. I can't wait to 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:42.520 hang out with you when that finally comes. If I'm 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:45.480 the Chipotle order like the person that works there and 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:47.720 I'm taking your order, Like hi, Clayton, Like what can 0:01:47.760 --> 0:01:51.560 I get you today? I got this down like to 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:55.200 a science. I would like two bulls ago with two 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:58.320 tour tias on the side. I went to salad dressings. 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:01.640 Both bulls will be the same. I get white rice 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:07.520 extra right rice, white rice, extra fahita, veggies, no beans, 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:11.520 half chicken, half steak, pico de gaio, corn, guac, lettuce, 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:16.960 and that's it. Yeah, the extra fahita veggis that is 0:02:17.040 --> 0:02:19.400 that is a move. That's a pro move. Clean. How 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:22.960 long have you been ordering this same thing from Chipotle? 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:26.720 Leave this in the podcast? Leave this in here? Ever 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:29.560 since I stopped, or ever since I graduated college. So 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:32.600 it's been I'm on six years now. The second I 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:35.880 want to no, no, Okay, So if you you obviously 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:38.320 are no longer in the NFL, you ordered two of 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:42.840 these bowls? How many times a week would you say? Well, 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:45.720 it probably probably once a week, maybe sometimes twice if 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:47.960 I'm feeling I treat myself a little bit. Okay, if 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.840 you eat this much right now, how much were you 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:54.679 eating when you played football? I would easily put down 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:57.520 two bowls when I was playing football one meal, like 0:02:57.600 --> 0:03:01.360 in one sitting. Yes, it was like people like people 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.160 would watch me fin every I wouldn't like to eat 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.040 a whole lot in the restaurant because people would just 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.200 turn and look at me and they'd be like, are 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:08.600 you going to actually eat both of those? And then 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:10.560 I would just proceed to like not breathe and just 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:14.440 shovel food. And you can eat that much food because 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:17.600 I get through like just over three quarters of the bowl, 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:20.839 and I'm just ashamed that I can't finish that last bit. 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:24.639 But I guess so whole that half your size. I mean, 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:26.800 everyone thinks that it sounds so great, but it's like 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:29.160 a hassle to have to put down that many calories 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:32.680 and just keep just keep in mind what you put 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:38.840 in also coming out. Wow, yeah, just whole new side? 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:41.800 Do you clean? I have? I don't hold back clean. 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:44.600 I like you. You seem like a great guy. You're 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:47.680 the reason why I never want to have boys because 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:50.720 they eat so freaking much. Like I used to date 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:53.880 a football player in college and he would daily eat 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.360 a loaf of bread with all of the sandwiches and 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:59.560 the toast. I'm like, I never want boys. You guys 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:04.360 are going to be dry. It's expensive, ry, damn the 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:06.560 gross and yeah, my poor mom we have I have 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:08.920 two younger brothers and they also eat like a bunch 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:12.960 of horses. So it's it was whoever could eat the fastest, 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:15.040 because my parents would cook the food and then it 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:17.840 was like, here's here's all the food we have, and 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:19.880 once it's gone, it's gone. So that's I think where 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:21.800 I had to like learn how to re eat in 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:23.840 a way that was like if I was going out 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:25.640 on dates, I had to like catch myself because I 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:27.560 would be like face. I would be like face in 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:30.320 the plate, Like you gotta like free eat before the date, 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:31.919 like you have a free date meal and then you 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.080 go and you have your second dinner and then it's 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:38.640 probably a post date meal the way out. Yeah. I 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:40.400 literally people will see me like when I was at 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:42.200 my work when I worked medical sales, I'd bring this 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:44.360 big old trough of food in and I would put 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:46.600 my arm around it and like literally like be like 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:49.600 right here, and it's like almost like a protective mechanism 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:54.760 that I'm like, you're not coming my food exactly. I'm 0:04:54.760 --> 0:04:56.880 picturing like Gain melf In, Lord of the Rings with 0:04:56.920 --> 0:04:59.039 a stick like thou shall not pass you intern of 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:02.159 your chipole bowl. Oh yeah, I've had I even had 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:03.520 a couple of times people like can I try that? 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.120 And they said, like the way my eyes darted up 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:11.040 with them like excuse me, absolutely not slowly please exactly. 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:12.720 Oh my gosh, I feel like we could talk about 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:15.680 food and chipol all day, all day. I hope we 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:18.520 were recording all of this first and foremost we want 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:20.760 to welcome you officially to Batch your Happy Hour because 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.839 this is your first time here, so welcome. Thank you 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:25.680 guys for having me. I'm excited. Yes, we could talk 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:28.840 all day about food, but there are other dimensions of me, 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:30.839 so we can try to touch on those other dimensions 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:33.719 outside of the whole foodie I love it well. So 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.880 I'm glad that you mentioned the other dimensions because we'll 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.240 get into all of the fun stuff of your time 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:42.880 on Michelle season of your own season, but before that, 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:45.839 you've kind of, I mean, you've really had such a 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:51.080 unique experience as personally because you've never watched yourself until 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:54.320 now on TV, because when Michelle's season was airing, you 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:57.480 were actually in the midst of your own season filming, 0:05:57.560 --> 0:05:59.680 So there's so much that you've missed. This is really 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:03.640 your first time watching yourself back on TV, hearing yourself 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:06.520 back on TV, hearing what everyone back on your season 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:09.119 has to say. It's it's just like a weird world. 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:11.240 And I know from experience, and I know Serena knows 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:14.839 from experience what that feels like. So first and foremost, 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:19.080 how are you doing now that everything's done filming, it's 0:06:19.160 --> 0:06:22.200 finally airing? Like, how are you dealing with the social 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:27.120 media and the dms and all of that craziness. Yeah, 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:30.240 I think at first it was kind of quiet, so 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.080 I was able to respond as much as I could, 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:34.720 and again, very just appreciative for the whole opportunity. So 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.599 I wanted to be able to let people know, like, hey, like, 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:39.839 thank you for reaching out. It means a lot. Then 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:42.320 the first episode aired and all of a sudden, it's 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:44.479 like it's just like opened the floodgates. And at that 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:48.880 point I started to get overwhelmed, and yeah, I would 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:51.440 I'd be lying if I said it was all sunshine 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:56.280 and roses. I have definitely fallen victim to reading everything, 0:06:56.360 --> 0:07:00.800 which again everybody's told me stop reading all the comments, 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:04.320 but I my thought was, if I know what's out there, 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:07.440 there's no surprises. What I found those again is now 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.720 I'm watching the show and I see the comments, and 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:14.200 I understand a lot of these thoughts that people are 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:15.880 throwing out there on the Internet, and they're saying, well, 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:18.440 we're not seeing this and we're not seeing that, and 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.160 I'm seeing a lot of this for the first time myself. 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:23.600 Just I mean, I'm sure we'll jump into some of 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:27.360 the episodes, but like the last episode with what all 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:30.400 had happened with the drama, I didn't even know that 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:32.760 was going on, and so like, I'm watching it now 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:36.040 for the first time, and I'm like, wow, okay, this 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:39.000 was all happening while I was off talking with other women, 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:44.520 and I had I had seen that and realized what 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:47.080 was occurring, I think I would have responded to it. 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:48.760 I mean, I know I would have responded to it, 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:52.680 but people have to understand I didn't see that. I'm 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:55.720 actually now watching it for the first time with everybody else, 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:59.160 and so it's news to me. A lot of what 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:02.440 I'm seeing now, and that's it is challenging because again 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:04.200 I see people that are coming after me and my 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:07.640 character and saying, this guy has terrible judgment. Why wouldn't 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:11.120 you respond to this? And the answer is, you know, 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.400 it's simple. It's like, do you see me in that 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:17.160 picture like they're when they're showing the drama, Am I 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:19.880 they are present? And the answer is no. So I 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:21.640 didn't know about it. I was left in the dark. 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:26.120 I only knew what the women brought to me. And again, like, 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:28.640 what I'm seeing is like a lot of what was happening. 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:30.800 I just kind of got bits and pieces through the 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:34.040 conversations I had, right, Yeah, And I think what people 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:36.720 need to remember is there's one of you and about 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.720 thirty women, so the ratio is off. You're not going 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:42.840 to be part of every single conversation in every single realm. 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:44.640 And I think how you said it is perfect, Like 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:46.840 if you don't see Clayton in the room, that means 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:48.920 he probably wasn't privy to what was happening in it. 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:52.800 And I know that even as a contestant, you know, 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.800 I remember getting dms being like, well, why didn't you 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:57.920 stick up for this person or why didn't you speak 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:00.880 up in this situation? And I had a similar experience 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:02.760 where a lot of drama happened the week of my 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.560 one on one day and I wasn't in the room. 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:08.440 So it was like, you can't be held accountable for 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:13.880 your actions when you weren't present to even act well. 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:17.200 And to both of your points, I mean, if anyone 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:20.000 watches the show, they obviously know there's a lead, there's 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:23.240 all the contestants, and there's a team of producers who 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:26.360 work on the show to really navigate every situation, all 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:29.600 of the dates, all of the conversations to a certain extent, 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:32.160 but in less Clayton, as you were saying, and less 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:34.760 a girl is sitting with you bringing up a certain 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:39.160 situation or certain drama. No one, producers included, aren't going 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.680 to go to you and be like, hey, Clayton, so 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:43.480 and so said this, So how are you going to 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.680 address it? It's really up to you to figure out 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.760 and navigate every conversation with the women face to face. 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:54.160 No one's telling you the dirt or the jews, really 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.240 until somebody comes to you directly and sits you down 0:09:57.240 --> 0:10:01.280 and really brings that to light. And so that's what 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.160 I want, you know, to anyone who watches the show, 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.680 to anyone who listens to the podcast, like Clinton, you 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:11.160 are a human. You are as one person is trying 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.280 to navigate this crazy world. And it's a world that 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:17.040 you had never watched before. You really had no idea 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:19.320 or expectations. You're just doing the best you can. So 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:22.440 I would really ask everyone to just have patience and 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:25.280 have a little bit of grace and wherewithal to know 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:28.240 that you're doing your best. You're just like everyone else. 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:30.480 You're trying to find love, You're trying to find a partner. 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:34.840 It just makes it very difficult when there's so many 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:38.080 people on social media popping up and coming out of 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:42.839 the woodwork and saying shit. And I know I was 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:44.960 kind of like you, I would say, in a way 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:47.760 where at first I was like, I have been given 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:51.040 this incredible platform and there's so much support and I 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:54.440 want to reply to everybody and thank them and really 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:57.400 you know, be as humble and as gracious as possible. 0:10:57.520 --> 0:11:00.480 And very slowly I realized like there's a lot of 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:02.400 haters out there, and there's a lot of trolls, and 0:11:02.440 --> 0:11:05.280 there's a lot of people who will say whatever the 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:07.880 hell they want to say to get their two seconds 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:09.880 of fame or they're fifteen minutes of fame, if you will. 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:12.560 And so I know, even like this week, crazy things 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:15.360 on social media have been popping up of things that 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:17.520 happened when you were single, when you were in your 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:20.480 twenties and just a man dating. So is there anything 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:22.920 that you want to address here first and foremost to 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:24.920 really get out there so all of our listeners can 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:28.680 hear it from you directly. Yeah, I mean there's so 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:30.199 much I want to address, and that's where I'm like, 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:32.880 I can I fit all into one podcast. Probably not, 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:35.000 But again I'm a big talk rest people will see 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:38.319 especially on these podcasts, which was a little bit different 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:40.760 from yeah on the show, where again I think that's 0:11:40.840 --> 0:11:42.800 something I've seen as people say, oh, like, he seems 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:44.240 that he doesn't have much to say to these women 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:47.199 who are giving him there telling them their life stories. 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:50.560 And I remember I went into the whole experience with 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:52.840 my family saying, Clayton, you're a great talker, but try 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:54.599 to be a really great listener, like make sure you 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:59.439 emphasize focusing on keeping your mouth shut and listening. And 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:01.800 I think that's what I did a lot early on, 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:03.160 and I had a lot of women say, hey, you're great, 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:06.240 You're such a great listener. But as far as like 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.000 the Chris isn't being like, hey, the guy doesn't really 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.200 say a whole lot, I think again it's kind of twofold. 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:12.800 On one aspect, I was trying to be really good 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:16.480 just a listening aspect. The other side of it, I 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:19.280 also it's you know, thirty women come in the house 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.200 and you're talking so far as is day four or 0:12:21.200 --> 0:12:22.960 five or whatever it is that people are seeing this 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.720 episode are and these women are starting to open up 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:28.559 and tell me some very personal stories. I'm still trying 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:30.600 to figure out, Hey, who this person is, what they're, 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:32.520 how they are, like, what are their inner workings, and 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:36.080 how can I best respond to something so personal? And 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:38.000 so I think, just because how the environment is, you 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:41.640 really jump into those intimate discussions very early on. But 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:43.840 if you don't, if you're still getting to understand that person, 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:46.600 I think at least I find myself being cautious because 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:49.079 I don't want to, you know, I'm still trying to 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:50.480 figure out who that person is and I don't want 0:12:50.520 --> 0:12:54.680 to say something that might be misinterpreted. That's something I 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:58.120 saw on the side. As far as addressing what I've 0:12:58.120 --> 0:12:59.880 seen online, Yeah, I've seen a lot of these tickto 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:04.800 that have come up as lately regarding my past, you know, 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:07.520 or the relationships that I had in the past, and like, listen, 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:11.680 here's the thing. I never claimed to be some saint 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:14.160 per se or some or celibate. For the last six 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:18.160 years of my single life, like I was single, and 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.720 you know, I enjoyed that singleness. There's a period of 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:23.800 my life where like, yeah, I wasn't looking for anything 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:27.120 serious and I was just having fun and enjoying that 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:30.800 aspect of it, and you know, I think that's just 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:35.040 something maybe everybody goes through in some capacity. And I 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:38.040 went through that, and so I am now starting to 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:39.559 see a lot of these things that are coming up. 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:43.640 I mean, listen, I I don't understand a whole lot 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:45.440 of white people bring it up per se, because I'm like, 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:48.959 I think we all went through this, but and maybe 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.560 some people more than others. But the thing was is like, yeah, 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:54.880 I went out and dated and and had my fun, 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:56.880 and really what it came to is like it came 0:13:56.880 --> 0:13:58.320 to a head on this year, Like on my twenty 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:01.360 eighth birthday, I realized that I was doing the same things. 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:04.840 I hadn't changed my dating life, per se. I haven't changed, 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.760 you know, my work. Everything was just kind of stagnant, 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:10.360 and I felt like I was going through the motions 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:13.920 and I realized, like, you need to start making changes 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:18.280 to see change, and that also can't cut into my 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:21.360 dating life. I realized that I can't keep going down 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:24.960 this path of just kind of loosely dating because that's 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.160 not going to bring me the happiness that I'm looking for, 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.280 which is ultimately another person in my life that I 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:32.320 can wake up to every day. And that's and they'll 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.240 be there with me along that journey of life. So 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:39.080 I see the things online, I think it's it is 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:44.480 what it is. Yeah, I guess for me, it's like yes, 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.000 and some of the what I've seen is absolutely ridiculous. 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:50.520 It's not factual. Like I've seen some things that it's 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:52.920 like I saw one today the guy said, hey, oh 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:56.080 he was this I walked down on him with my girlfriend. 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:57.760 I'm like, I don't even know who this guy is. 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:00.440 Or someone else said like I've been dating date him 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:03.240 for five years. I was like, how can you make that? 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:06.080 Like how can you say you date me for five years? 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:08.080 Like where is the evidence? But again, like there's other 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:11.960 It's just there's just so much and I don't know 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:13.840 I for what it is. I just want people to 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:15.880 know like, hey, I didn't claim to be this guy 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:19.680 who just didn't date around or it was just like 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:21.680 in my inner hole for the last five six years, 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:23.600 like I went and had my fun. I did, but 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:26.960 that obviously transitions. Once I hit my twenty birthday this year, 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:30.720 thinks I realized I started needing to make some changes. Yeah. Yeah, 0:15:30.760 --> 0:15:34.080 and I don't think you dating and living your single 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:37.920 life equates to you being a bad guy. You were single, 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:40.800 you were an adult, and you had every right to 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:46.320 date and have experiences, and you were a freeman and 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:48.600 now you're not. And I think that's where the line 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:51.320 gets blurry of people they're seeing you on the Bachelor 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:54.720 dating and they forget that this period of your life 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:58.880 happened before you went on the show, when you were single. 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:01.680 So you know, I don't think you have any need 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:04.200 to apologize for any of that. People are going to 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:07.400 come out and they're gonna say dumb shit, and you 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:09.920 know the truth. And I think that it's great having 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:11.880 you on the podcast because people are going to get 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:14.720 to see and learn more about who you are and 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:18.520 that you are a genuine guy, and that's gonna help 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:21.320 hopefully with this. There's always going to be haters, there's 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:25.200 always going to be trolls, but yeah, I mean, I 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:28.040 do want to ask you because you have been reading everything, 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:30.640 and I know when Beck and I went for drinks 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:32.840 with you, I think it was like last month you 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:35.680 were saying, you know, I like reading everything. It hasn't 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:38.080 been too bad, but I know that that does change 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:41.280 once the show begins. What do you think moving forward 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.920 like do you think you will continue reading everything? How 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:47.920 are you gonna kind of tackle all of that? I 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.160 was so naive when when I met up with you 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:53.360 guys a month ago. I have now seen that I'm 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:55.400 starting to see the light and it's shining bright and 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:58.240 blinding me almost. At this point, I had to take 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:01.600 a step back, and I don't think going forward, I 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:05.880 will be reading all the comments because it can be detrimental. Yeah, 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.080 you start to go down this rabbit hole of you 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.479 read one comment and then the next one piles on, 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:13.560 the next one piles on, and you just realize very 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:16.520 quickly you can't keep everybody happy. There's nothing you can do. 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:21.600 Like I saw recently a post that said they talked 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:25.560 about how Clayton is too reassuring to the women, like 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:29.320 he's giving them too much reassurance, and because of that, 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:31.199 it's like coach speak. For one, I'm like, yeah, I 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:34.080 was a former athlete, so I probably will use as 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:36.560 far as my vernacular, like it's gonna be pretty similar 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:40.359 to how like athletes talk because that's my entire life. 0:17:40.600 --> 0:17:42.439 But people critique me on that, and then now that 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:44.800 I'm being critiqued on, well, he's giving these women too 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:49.200 much positive affirmation where they're going to end up being hurt, 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:51.600 and it's like, so I'm giving them too much or 0:17:51.640 --> 0:17:53.919 not enough. It's just you realize it's all over the 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.399 board across the spectrum. I'm either saying too much or 0:17:56.400 --> 0:17:59.240 I'm not saying enough. Listen, I get there's certain things 0:17:59.240 --> 0:18:01.960 that I'm like, yes, are certainly annoying, like the licking 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:04.879 my lips thing. I didn't know I did that until 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:10.720 I noticed that they've never noticed it. When I'm watching 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.159 the show, I forget. I am so sorry because you 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:16.480 will Now that's all you'll see because once you realize it, 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:18.639 like I realized that because I'm I'm very hyper aware 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:22.119 of like myself and how I'm portrayed, So once I 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:23.720 saw it, I was like, oh my gosh. And then 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:25.399 certain then all of a a sudden, tweets start coming in, 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:29.479 and yeah, it's everything gets critiqued, and I don't know 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:31.600 why I do it. I think maybe it's a nervous 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:33.680 kind of tick per se or whatever it could be, 0:18:34.240 --> 0:18:38.240 but all of it, Yeah, it's just so heavily scrutinized, 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:41.119 and you realize that you're like, I can't keep everyone happy, 0:18:41.240 --> 0:18:43.080 so instead of me trying to maybe I should just 0:18:43.119 --> 0:18:44.680 go ahead and push it all away and just take 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:46.960 a step back and focus on other things that actually 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:50.919 do make me happy and stop trying to please everyone. Well, Clayton, 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:52.800 I don't know if you knew this, but sign up 0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:56.159 for the Bachelor, you're supposed to be perfect, like, you 0:18:56.200 --> 0:18:58.440 can't have a past, you can't have dated in the past, 0:18:58.480 --> 0:19:01.640 you can't have slept around. Basically, you can have no fun, 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:10.800 no personality, must personality. Listen you, I mean, you said 0:19:10.800 --> 0:19:13.080 it best. You're not going to please everyone. There's always 0:19:13.080 --> 0:19:15.840 going to people that say you do too much, too little, 0:19:16.280 --> 0:19:17.919 and if they don't say about you, they're saying it 0:19:17.920 --> 0:19:20.840 about somebody else on the show. It's just there's no 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:22.959 way to make everyone happy. So you just really have 0:19:23.080 --> 0:19:25.840 to focus on what's going to make you happy in 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:29.359 this world now that you're in it. One thing and 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:32.120 kind of going into that comment about how you're too 0:19:32.160 --> 0:19:34.879 reassuring to the women and then going back to what 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:38.080 you just previously said in one of your answers, is 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:42.520 you're listening so much, You're really taking in all of 0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:46.679 the things that these women are saying. It leads me 0:19:46.800 --> 0:19:49.560