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Speaker 1: This is Okayop.

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Speaker 2: I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Frett and we read

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Speaker 2: the funniest stories on the internets, and John, I have

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Speaker 2: quite the story.

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Speaker 1: It's family drama, but like to the.

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Speaker 3: Max, I love it. Let's let's hit it.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for kicking out my brother

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Speaker 1: in law.

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Speaker 2: After he referred to himself as the father of my child?

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Speaker 4: All I mean, that's typically something you don't do as.

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Speaker 1: A brother of That's some Alabama craft going on.

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Speaker 3: Yes it is.

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Speaker 2: I know this title is a bit off, maybe a

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Speaker 2: bit Alabama, but let Op explain. Let Opa explain. Yes,

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Speaker 2: me and my wife welcomed our son into this world

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Speaker 2: a year ago. Both of our families are very accepting

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Speaker 2: of us, but my wife's family has this weird obsession

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Speaker 2: with passing.

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Speaker 1: On the family jeans, the.

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Speaker 4: Legacy, the throne legacy continues the bloodline.

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Speaker 2: Which made adopting out of the question very early on.

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Speaker 2: Me and my wife had always wanted to start a family,

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Speaker 2: but things got difficult when my wife found out she

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Speaker 2: was infertile. We knew her family would be understanding, but

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Speaker 2: I am terrified of pregnancy, terrified, terrified from what I've

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Speaker 2: been told I'm almost physically identical to my mom, and

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Speaker 2: my mom died during childbirth.

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Speaker 1: Oh, so that has led me to believe that I

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Speaker 1: will die during childbirth as well.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's terrifying.

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Speaker 2: It's like a fortune cookie, but a scary one during pregnancy.

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Speaker 3: Good god.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: They should make those for fortune cookies, like like really

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Speaker 2: like fed up fortune cookies where it's like, next four.

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Speaker 1: Moon, you will lose a limb.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, your spouse will leave you and sue you for

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Speaker 4: all your money because you left a pan out.

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Speaker 1: You want to get GODA three times this year?

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Speaker 3: I like three, you know, and actually you don't make

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Speaker 3: it four? What's a quarter?

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Speaker 1: What's a quarter? Or just like or like thrice or

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Speaker 1: every like?

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Speaker 2: I want some like ancient words like oh every fortnight,

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Speaker 2: every Yeah, that's what I look at fortnight. You shall

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Speaker 2: get to garder.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: After a few months of brains charming and being let down,

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Speaker 2: my mother in law suggested that we do IVF using

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Speaker 2: my eggs and my brother in law's sperm, my brother

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Speaker 2: in law's nut juice, using my eggs and my brother

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Speaker 2: in law's nut juice, and then let my wife carry

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Speaker 2: the baby. I was skeptical at first, but gave in

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Speaker 2: because the plan hit all the marks her family gets.

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Speaker 2: The jeans passed on. My wife and I get to

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Speaker 2: start a family and I don't have to carry a baby.

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Speaker 3: Sounds like a winning scenario.

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Speaker 2: So they went through extensive counseling and therapy to make

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Speaker 2: sure everyone was on board or not, to make sure

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Speaker 2: everyone was on board, on the same page and can

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Speaker 2: handle it. The procedure was a bit expensive, but my

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Speaker 2: wife's grandma happily covered the cost since our baby would

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Speaker 2: be the first of the new generation of the family,

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Speaker 2: the new generation. Everything was great. My wife loved being pregnant,

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Speaker 2: aside from the morning sickness, and we were more than

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Speaker 2: overjoyed to welcome our baby boy in the winter. The

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Speaker 2: problem arose last week we were preparing for our son's

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Speaker 2: first birthday when brother in law made a comment saying

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Speaker 2: how how he.

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Speaker 1: Should get to say on the planning as the child's father.

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Speaker 1: I was shocked.

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Speaker 2: I cringed and told him that he wasn't he just

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Speaker 2: provided the nut juice. He looked me straight in the

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Speaker 2: eye and said, yea ya, so he's our child. So

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Speaker 2: I look to my wife, whose mouth was wide open

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Speaker 2: and mother in law wasn't making eye contact. Before he

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Speaker 2: could say anything else, I demanded that he get out

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Speaker 2: of my house and that he'd been and that he'd

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Speaker 2: be able to come to the party. When he apologized,

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Speaker 2: he got angry but left when my wife started to cry.

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Speaker 2: My wife has always struggled with self esteem, and her

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Speaker 2: infertility really took a toll on her. For months. I

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Speaker 2: had to constantly reassure her that she was an amazing

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Speaker 2: mother and that she wasn't wrong. She faced a lot

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Speaker 2: of homophobia misogyny growing up. Sister in law called me

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Speaker 2: later that day and called me a big bee. I

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Speaker 2: argue that brother in law had no right to say

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Speaker 2: any of that, but sistern in law just kept yelling.

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Speaker 2: Me and my wife have cut all contact with her

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Speaker 2: family and has turned into something way bigger than it is.

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Speaker 1: But like, honestly, this is pretty big. This is a

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Speaker 1: pretty big.

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Speaker 3: Deal, pretty big, pretty big.

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Speaker 2: But I refuse to let someone call my family incomplete again.

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Speaker 2: Call me dramatic, but I grew up with a family

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Speaker 2: in and out and never know and never knew who

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Speaker 2: my real family was, and I refused to let this

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Speaker 2: same thing happened to my son.

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Speaker 1: My brother.

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Speaker 2: My brother in law signed away his rights, and my

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Speaker 2: brother in law signed away his rights and verbally agreed

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Speaker 2: multiple times.

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Speaker 1: That he's just an uncohol He agreed, come on, bruh,

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Speaker 1: has that the work.

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Speaker 3: Do what you say.

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Speaker 2: He's never had a problem until now, and it's kind

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Speaker 2: of out of the blue, and it is it is blue.

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Speaker 2: If he was starting to feel more of a connection

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Speaker 2: to my son, then I'd understand if he calmly spoke

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Speaker 2: to my wife instead of staking claim.

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Speaker 3: That's how you got to do it. If you're going

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Speaker 3: to do it, that's how you got to do it.

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Speaker 2: I've reached out to brother in law a few times

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Speaker 2: looking for a reason, but he's just thrown insults to

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Speaker 2: my wife and I. My wife is devastated over losing contact,

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Speaker 2: but neither of us want to forgive brother in law

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Speaker 2: until he apologizes, which he shines out, am I the

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Speaker 2: a hole.

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing. The brother in law could have had, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, that kind of involvement, but it had to be

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Speaker 4: way earlier. It had to be when they were like,

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Speaker 4: you know, figuring all this, but before he.

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Speaker 3: Signed those documents.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it has to like bring it up tenderly with care,

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Speaker 2: not just be like.

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Speaker 4: Well like and also the fact that now she's like

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Speaker 4: retroactively trying okay, like maybe we can have a conversation

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Speaker 4: about it, and all he does is throw insults at her.

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Speaker 3: Well, then what can you do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's kind of you're screwing yourself, brother, You're

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Speaker 1: being a little screwy man. Yeah, screwy mc dewey.