WEBVTT - Pero WTF is a “Beige Flag”?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born

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<v Speaker 1>and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a body positive advocate.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Carolina Bermudez soy nika a wins it. But I

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<v Speaker 2>was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,

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<v Speaker 2>and a worker bee.

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<v Speaker 1>This is life in spanglish.

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<v Speaker 2>You know. It's movements like this that make me so

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<v Speaker 2>happy that I am not in the dating world anymore

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<v Speaker 2>because TikTok is all over this new thing that is

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<v Speaker 2>taking over, which, by the way, we shouldn't be surprised

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<v Speaker 2>because TikTok has like all of the info. It is

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<v Speaker 2>where all of the information lies. But this beij flag

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<v Speaker 2>thing that is happening in the dating world, we must

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<v Speaker 2>discuss this.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about it, because even though we're not dating. Carolina,

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<v Speaker 1>when I was looking at this trend, I'm like, what

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<v Speaker 1>is it? And they said it's like weird habits that

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<v Speaker 1>are less than a deal breaker but are not a plus.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, oh wow, my husband got a bunch

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<v Speaker 1>of ohs. What divorce them? But I'm happy about them.

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<v Speaker 1>So I said, we're going to get into this beige

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<v Speaker 1>flag trend and break it down for our listeners.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, so beige flag less offensive than a red flag.

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<v Speaker 2>So basically these are things that like are not deal breakers,

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<v Speaker 2>Like they're not going to make you run away from

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<v Speaker 2>the relationship, but they give you pause. They make you

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<v Speaker 2>stop and say, who is this person that I'm with?

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<v Speaker 2>I love this and I looked it up and somebody

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<v Speaker 2>said a beige flag. It's like a trendy relationship term, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>but basically it's where someone can identify signs on these

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<v Speaker 2>dating apps that make you wonder about the person, whether

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<v Speaker 2>or not they're really making the effort like this is.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a lot of different interpretations for beige flags, so

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<v Speaker 2>I get it, Like, if you're on a dating app,

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<v Speaker 2>how would you know whether or not to move forward

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<v Speaker 2>with somebody unless you like really start picking apart their

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<v Speaker 2>profile so you can even pick You can even find

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<v Speaker 2>some of these beige flags in their description in these

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<v Speaker 2>dating apps. That's what I found out about this.

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<v Speaker 1>If I was on a dating app, Carolina, you want

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<v Speaker 1>me to give you a beige flag really quick? If

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<v Speaker 1>I see this man with anything superhero related like a

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<v Speaker 1>Superman T shirt or a Batman but a hell No,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a beige flag. You could be fine, but I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, girl, I just cannot stomach a man that's

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<v Speaker 1>obsessed with superhero anything.

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<v Speaker 2>As a full blown adult. You cannot take if he's

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<v Speaker 2>into Marvel DC, if he's the first one in line

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<v Speaker 2>to see thor things of that, that's your beige flag.

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<v Speaker 1>I could still date him, but it's gonna bother me

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<v Speaker 1>the whole relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So perfect definition of a beige flag. I saw

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<v Speaker 2>a definitely or I saw an example of a beige

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<v Speaker 2>flag that I thought, oh, okay, I get it now.

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<v Speaker 2>This one person said that whenever her date would ask

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<v Speaker 2>for a fork at a sushi restaurant, that's a beige

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<v Speaker 2>flag because it's like, how are you going to come

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<v Speaker 2>to a sushi restaurant fully knowing that you need to

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<v Speaker 2>be able to like be adept with chopsticks, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna ask for a fork, Then that's a beige flag.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's what this one woman was saying, Like how

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<v Speaker 2>because she's in the dating world and she's out there,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's one thing that she said. She's like, I

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<v Speaker 2>like to go out for sushi dinners or like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>just to test to see like if this is a

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<v Speaker 2>beige flag for me, if the person asks a request

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<v Speaker 2>a fork that.

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<v Speaker 1>Feels evil, I don't feel like everyone in America knows

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<v Speaker 1>how to use chopsticks, so I feel like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know she's being a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a personal I feel like that's a personal beige flag. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>So these people are all over the place, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I start to think to myself, like, what are my

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<v Speaker 2>beige flags?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh girl, we would have to bring the guys in

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<v Speaker 1>on this episode. I'm pretty sure we have a million

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<v Speaker 1>beige flags.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, listen, my husband could really break it down

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<v Speaker 2>with me, because I feel like I am just in

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<v Speaker 2>totality a beige flag. But yeah, like, for example, something

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<v Speaker 2>that drives. I can offer myself up on this one

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<v Speaker 2>and say I am probably the worst person to sleep

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<v Speaker 2>with because I don't have just one alarm. I have

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<v Speaker 2>three alarms, and I don't necessarily like allow myself to

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<v Speaker 2>snooze because I am considerate of my partner. I know

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<v Speaker 2>that three point fifteen is rude, It's like a rude awakening,

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<v Speaker 2>but there are those times where I'm super tired, so

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<v Speaker 2>I have three fifteen that I have three thirty and

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<v Speaker 2>then I have three forty five. Is like, that's it.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not gonna make it like you basically just have

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<v Speaker 2>to like brush your teeth and get into the city

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<v Speaker 2>type of vibe.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, that is not only a beige flag, Carolina,

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<v Speaker 1>that warrants you have your separate bedroom. If we were married,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>That's that's a whole discussion that we were like, actually, like,

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<v Speaker 2>the only thing is that I need Mark to put

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<v Speaker 2>me to bed, otherwise we would be completely content sleeping

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<v Speaker 2>in different bed pods.

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<v Speaker 1>You know me, I love TikTok, So as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>we said, you know, let's talk about beige flags, I

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<v Speaker 1>went dive on TikTok and I saw one particular trend.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of women were saying that their boyfriend or

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<v Speaker 1>husband's beage flag is that they're super unbothered to ask

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<v Speaker 1>for any details that he'll be like, oh my best

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<v Speaker 1>friend broke up with her man. Oh that's sad, zero details.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my sister had a baby, Oh congratulations, zero details.

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<v Speaker 1>Is d a beige flag for you, Carolina?

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<v Speaker 2>It's not a beach flag. But I feel like it

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<v Speaker 2>depends on the person. Like there are some guys who

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<v Speaker 2>are so down to give you like every dirty detail,

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<v Speaker 2>like my one girlfriend is married to I won't. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously I'm not gonna say who they are. But he

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<v Speaker 2>is always down for the tea piping hot he wants it.

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<v Speaker 2>He'll sit in the room with us while we're talking

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<v Speaker 2>about other people. He just loves to be around it, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>And like whenever he tells the story, he gives very

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<v Speaker 2>pertinent details. Mark Grossman, my husband is the type that

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<v Speaker 2>would not even bring it up, like he could have

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<v Speaker 2>been president for like the throwdown of all throwdowns, and

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<v Speaker 2>he would not give me any info, unbothered, unbothered by

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<v Speaker 2>the details. Where meanwhile, I'm like living for them. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>and what was she wearing? And then did a titty

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<v Speaker 2>pop out? Like what happened? Like does somebody have a

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<v Speaker 2>black eye? Like can we discuss this? But he does

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<v Speaker 2>not do that. Yeah, so I would say that's definitely

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<v Speaker 2>a sign of a beige flag for some people, but

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<v Speaker 2>for Mark, that's like completely normal.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of women complain about this. They want men

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<v Speaker 1>to ask questions. I feel like I would need it

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<v Speaker 1>to I can't tell you such and such got a

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<v Speaker 1>new job, and you're not gonna ask me where you're

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna ask me how much did it make you?

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<v Speaker 1>Or you're not gonna ask me what the position is.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a beige flag for me. I like to talk

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of women on TikTok are having the

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<v Speaker 1>same exact beige flag problem.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, also, you know what people are talking about beige

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<v Speaker 2>flags in relationships too, Like this isn't just limited to

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<v Speaker 2>the people who are single out there, like you know

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<v Speaker 2>when when you have a partnership, and let's say, for example,

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<v Speaker 2>like I started watching White Lotus. Okay, White Lotus was hot.

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<v Speaker 2>I did not get in on White Lotus though, to

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<v Speaker 2>be fair, until like close to the second season. Everybody

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<v Speaker 2>was hyping it up. I was late to the game,

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<v Speaker 2>so was I.

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<v Speaker 1>I just watched the first season last week.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, Okay, yeah, so I before season two

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<v Speaker 2>came out, everybody was ridiculing me and saying, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>believe you haven't watched White Lotus. So finally I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to commit myself to this. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>watch the first two episodes because my girlfriend told me

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<v Speaker 2>she was like, watch the first two episodes and like

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<v Speaker 2>don't give up on it, like just trust me, Like

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<v Speaker 2>be in it for the long haul. So I watched

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<v Speaker 2>the first two episodes. Mark comes in on the second episode,

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<v Speaker 2>is intrigued by it. Now it has become our show. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>now it's not just my show anymore. So that first

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<v Speaker 2>of all was annoying to me. Then it became our show,

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<v Speaker 2>so I couldn't watch it without him, which in turn

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<v Speaker 2>made me delay me watching this whole thing. Right, there

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<v Speaker 2>is an example of a beige flag in your relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Like he couldn't have been bothered before. He's not bothered

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<v Speaker 2>with housewives. He doesn't even watch Below Deck with me.

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<v Speaker 2>But when he got into White Lotus, then it became

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<v Speaker 2>our show, and he was like offended when I watched

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<v Speaker 2>without him.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl, if I watch a show that is our show

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<v Speaker 1>without NOONI you know what I do. I rewind the

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<v Speaker 1>episode so that he doesn't know I watched it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh see, I can't keep a straight face though. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the thing. It's like, I won't give myself I'll watch

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<v Speaker 2>it again. That good. I am not that good. See.

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<v Speaker 2>I wish I had that like ability because I would

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<v Speaker 2>be like, oh my gosh, I can't okay, fine, just

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<v Speaker 2>wait for it. Like I'm that type of person that

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<v Speaker 2>will say that. So another user on TikTok says that, like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, beige flags are not just things that like

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<v Speaker 2>affect that person. There are things that can affect you.

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<v Speaker 2>Like So for example, if Mark says we're leaving at

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<v Speaker 2>three pm, we are leaving at three pm, okay, But

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<v Speaker 2>like other people will say like, oh, oh, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>leave soon. Well, what does soon mean? Soon means different

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<v Speaker 2>things for different people. Soon for you, honey, could be

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<v Speaker 2>thirty minutes soon for Mark Grossman means five minutes. You

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean. So those are like examples of

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<v Speaker 2>beige flags that I saw too, where it's like it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't just affect you, like it affects the partner.

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<v Speaker 1>This beige flag right here that I saw, it's from

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<v Speaker 1>a couple and she says that her fiance's beige flag

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<v Speaker 1>is that he doesn't like to eat dinner in silence.

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<v Speaker 1>That he will google a couple questions or relationship quizzes,

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<v Speaker 1>and when they go out to a restaurant, he wants

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<v Speaker 1>to talk the entire time.

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<v Speaker 2>But see, I think that's so sweet. I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>that's connecting and I actually applaud his effort because I

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<v Speaker 2>will say this you know, the kids are gone, and

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<v Speaker 2>Mark and I went out to dinner a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>nights ago and we were sitting there and yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>finally we were discussing things like that, we have coming up,

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<v Speaker 2>we have trips coming up, we have this, we have that, like,

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<v Speaker 2>we have like all of these things that we had

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<v Speaker 2>to like kind of square away on the calendar. Then

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<v Speaker 2>I ever, like you talk about things and you work

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<v Speaker 2>things out, then it's just kind of like, okay, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not awkward silence, but it's like it would be nice

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<v Speaker 2>to have other things to go to. So I actually

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<v Speaker 2>applaud that partner for having like the foresight to say, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna need some shit to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>That's super cute. We just gossip during dinner, but that's

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<v Speaker 1>super cute on his part. One beige flag that I

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<v Speaker 1>can throw out there at Carolina is if he doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>like the beach, that's a beige flag for me, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna break up with you, I'll still date you,

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<v Speaker 1>but I have a big problem with that. I love

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<v Speaker 1>the beach, and if this man doesn't care about the beach,

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<v Speaker 1>water tanning, or just relaxing by the sand, that's a

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<v Speaker 1>beige flag.

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<v Speaker 2>But see, beige flag means that it's not a deal breaker.

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<v Speaker 2>So you would really like if somebody came up to

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<v Speaker 2>you and said, I'm not down for the beach, like

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<v Speaker 2>you would stop dating them if it was like in

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<v Speaker 2>dating terms.

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<v Speaker 1>Nah, it's it's a beige flag. I could still date him,

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<v Speaker 1>but I have an issue with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, So when we come back, we are

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<v Speaker 2>going to continue the discussion of beige flags and whether

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<v Speaker 2>or not it's time to walk, So we'll we'll go

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<v Speaker 2>through that right after. Okay. So we were discussing something

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<v Speaker 2>and you and I both were researching beige flags, and

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<v Speaker 2>there was one that came up that I thought, oh

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<v Speaker 2>my gosh, if I would have applied this to my

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<v Speaker 2>own relationship, we would have never made it. So somebody

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<v Speaker 2>said that their beige flag is that the person that

0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:29.040
<v Speaker 2>they're with is never at one hundred percent health, meaning

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<v Speaker 2>like they always have like a headache or you know,

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<v Speaker 2>their their stomach is bothering them or.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, make them fake ailments.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's like it's like they're never at one hundred percent,

0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:44.200
<v Speaker 2>Like you don't wake up one day just feeling great.

0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.920
<v Speaker 2>Like listen, as we get older. I'll be honest with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I do wake up with like random aches and pains.

0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.880
<v Speaker 2>I slept on my shoulder the wrong way the other night.

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<v Speaker 2>I had like a thord shoulder. I was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>are you being.

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<v Speaker 1>So annoyed at you all day long? If you keep

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<v Speaker 1>complaining about that shoulder?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, and then it's also just like, oh, I'm so tired.

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<v Speaker 2>So what this girl was saying about like a beige

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<v Speaker 2>flag was just like when somebody is just never at

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred percent, You're going to live the rest of

0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:14.520
<v Speaker 2>your life with this person's ailments. And I thought to myself,

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<v Speaker 2>that is a major beige flag for me, because there

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<v Speaker 2>are times when like I don't need to hear about

0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.280
<v Speaker 2>your ailments. I got enough of my own.

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<v Speaker 1>I got friends that that's all they do, and I

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<v Speaker 1>cringe when they call me because I'm like, I know

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<v Speaker 1>the list of ailments is coming and it'd be like

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<v Speaker 1>weird ailments. So I ate and I have a pain

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<v Speaker 1>on my side that won't leave.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's like, you you have

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<v Speaker 2>your own things to deal with, and then to have

0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.080
<v Speaker 2>to deal with somebody else's like stuff like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>hold on top of it. No, thank you, So no,

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<v Speaker 2>that's another beige flag. Another thing that I found was

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<v Speaker 2>like somebody said that if they eat pizza with a fork,

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<v Speaker 2>another like food thing. A lot of these things revolve

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<v Speaker 2>around food.

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<v Speaker 1>That is alarming, correct, Tarrelina, That is not a beige flag.

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<v Speaker 1>That is, as a new worker, that is a red

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<v Speaker 1>flag to me, you are not all mentally up there

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<v Speaker 1>if you are cutting up a slice of pizza.

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<v Speaker 2>I do it all the time because my pizza I

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<v Speaker 2>always have so many toppings on it that I want

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<v Speaker 2>to get every topping in every bite. And I have

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<v Speaker 2>no problem with myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I am you get I know who you are. You

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<v Speaker 1>get that pizza that's no longer pizza. Got it?

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<v Speaker 2>I get like mushroom, black olive onion. But I want

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<v Speaker 2>every delectable bite to have every single topping on it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I see nothing wrong with my behavior. Don't at me, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>me on it. Okay, I want to have. If I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to indulge in pizza, I want it to be

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<v Speaker 2>everything I wanted to be. Wait, no, somebody else wrote

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<v Speaker 2>if they continue to wear underwear or clothes that have

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<v Speaker 2>holes in them. Okay, now, other than like the trendy

0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:54.800
<v Speaker 2>thing of like, you know, obviously wearing jeans that have

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<v Speaker 2>holes in them. If you're a full grown adult and

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<v Speaker 2>you're wearing your you know, underwear with holes in them,

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<v Speaker 2>we need to have a talk. That's definitely a beige flag.

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<v Speaker 1>Nah, drawls with holes in them, Nah, that's photos out.

0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:12.440
<v Speaker 1>We can get you new ones. Underwears are not that expensive,

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<v Speaker 1>my love.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I know. And it's like you got a rotato

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<v Speaker 2>comes and see it was like you've got to make

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<v Speaker 2>sure that, like your game is on. Some of the

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<v Speaker 2>beige flags too that I thought were really interesting about

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<v Speaker 2>the dating apps in particular, And I think this one

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<v Speaker 2>is so, so so true. It would definitely bring up

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<v Speaker 2>like a moment of pause for me if they wear

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<v Speaker 2>sunglasses in every photo. What are you hiding? Bro? What

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<v Speaker 2>are you or what are you hiding? Sis? Because girls

0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:40.360
<v Speaker 2>do it too.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh for sure. And here here's why it's like borderline

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<v Speaker 1>beige red. Sometimes when people take off their sunglasses, they

0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:53.120
<v Speaker 1>look like a completely different human, eyes be wandering all

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<v Speaker 1>over the place. You might no longer be physically attracted

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<v Speaker 1>to that.

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<v Speaker 2>Person, right, So a beige flag in if you go

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<v Speaker 2>on somebody's dating app and there is not one picture

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<v Speaker 2>of them without sunglasses. It may be time to swipe.

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<v Speaker 1>Left or right. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well I think that's that, and I think it's left.

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<v Speaker 2>But then also somebody said, and this is really really true,

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<v Speaker 2>and I believe this. If they're competitive about everything, like

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<v Speaker 2>I get it. It's fun if you go to like

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<v Speaker 2>trivia nights or because that's like all a part of

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<v Speaker 2>like dating and getting to know each other. Right when

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<v Speaker 2>you go and do these fun things, Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure, but you got to get into it. Girl,

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<v Speaker 1>I beat my pits, be sweating. If we do anything competitive, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>give me another little sprits of the.

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<v Speaker 2>Odor, Well, yes, because we want to get in that.

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<v Speaker 2>But if they're competitive about everything and they don't ever

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<v Speaker 2>let you win, not that they should let you win,

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<v Speaker 2>but if they're just like super aggie and like super

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<v Speaker 2>aggressive and like they need to win it everything, that's

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<v Speaker 2>a definite page for me. That would be a red

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<v Speaker 2>flag because it's like, why are you so intense? Like

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<v Speaker 2>I love to win too, but we don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>win everything.

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<v Speaker 1>If you had David Buster's doing the little basketball shooting

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<v Speaker 1>situation and he's elbow you to get out the way

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<v Speaker 1>I feel you that's a redfly for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, definitely. So I don't know, I feel like we're

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<v Speaker 2>very fortunate to not be in that space of having

0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:14.600
<v Speaker 2>to like decipher these beige flags or these red flags.

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<v Speaker 2>But also I think it's like good looking out for

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<v Speaker 2>those of you who are out in the dating game again,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. And like I will say this, my sister's

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<v Speaker 2>been out of the dating game for years, and she said,

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<v Speaker 2>every time I go back in, it is so overwhelming,

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<v Speaker 2>so daunting, because it's just a different game that's being

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<v Speaker 2>played now.

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<v Speaker 1>It is because my sister, she's been she's been single

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<v Speaker 1>for a while, and she dates, She used these dating apps,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes she just tells me, I'm closing it all down.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not messing with this. I'd rather just focus on

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<v Speaker 1>my career. I'd rather focus on traveling. This dating shit

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<v Speaker 1>is not for me. It is a mess out here.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like le Tinder, Sierra Bumbo Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>You get why, you know, I mean, she's that's the

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<v Speaker 2>only way that people are meeting though right now. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the thing that sucks about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, I met somebody, didn't meet somebody. I saw

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<v Speaker 1>somebody that I haven't seen in a long time and

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<v Speaker 1>she had a new boyfriend with her and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>how did you meet and she said, oh, my sister

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<v Speaker 1>introduced us. I was floored, Carolina, I have not met

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<v Speaker 1>people that met through other people in years.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything is I Oh, that's the move though. Who was

0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:29.119
<v Speaker 2>I talking to the other day? Okay, so it's a

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<v Speaker 2>friend of mine. Her daughter is in a different grade

0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:34.119
<v Speaker 2>and she was dating somebody they broke up, and she said, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>if you know anyone you know, like hook me up.

0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:39.040
<v Speaker 2>And I said, girl, I mean we pretty much all

0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:41.840
<v Speaker 2>know the same people, you know? And she said, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>convinced that the only way that I will find another

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<v Speaker 2>partner is through other people, because the dating apps are

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<v Speaker 2>that bad.

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<v Speaker 1>I get Banna. Thank god I grew up ten years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>because right now I wouldn't be able to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>They flags, red flags, all types of flags.

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<v Speaker 2>Well some of the other beige flags that you guys

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<v Speaker 2>can look out for. Somebody said, if they're always taking

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<v Speaker 2>pictures of themselves at the gym, if they're saying that

0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:12.159
<v Speaker 2>they're a regular at the gym, if they like to

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<v Speaker 2>describe their physical appearance when they literally have photos of

0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:20.520
<v Speaker 2>themselves online, like that's a beige flag. If they have

0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:23.359
<v Speaker 2>the word foodie anywhere in their profile, which that to

0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:25.200
<v Speaker 2>me would be like a great thing. I would think,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, like this person has the knowledge I

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<v Speaker 2>want to go out with them.

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<v Speaker 1>You would think. But I don't know. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just so many different things. Like I was on TikTok,

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<v Speaker 1>I saw at least thirty tiktoks. It feels like everything

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<v Speaker 1>is a beige flag.

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<v Speaker 2>They said, if they have multiple pictures of them in

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<v Speaker 2>the club, that's a beige flag, which okay, But then

0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:48.560
<v Speaker 2>like if you're single. That's why I feel like maybe

0:18:48.640 --> 0:18:51.840
<v Speaker 2>sometimes we're dissecting things too much, because if somebody's single,

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<v Speaker 2>then where do you want them to be taking pictures?

0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:56.000
<v Speaker 2>If they're taking pictures with their cat in their living room,

0:18:56.040 --> 0:18:59.359
<v Speaker 2>then you're like, oh, beig flag, he's boring and out

0:18:59.400 --> 0:19:02.040
<v Speaker 2>of the club. See. I feel like there's just too

0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:04.800
<v Speaker 2>many like preconceived notions, and I feel like we're not

0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:08.480
<v Speaker 2>giving each other a chance. So take the beige flag thing,

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<v Speaker 2>like with a grain of salt, see if it works

0:19:11.920 --> 0:19:13.760
<v Speaker 2>for you or if it doesn't. And if you've like

0:19:13.880 --> 0:19:16.439
<v Speaker 2>encountered any of these beige flags, we definitely want to know.

0:19:16.480 --> 0:19:18.240
<v Speaker 2>But after this, we're going to go straight to the

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<v Speaker 2>salon unless you have more beage flags you want to

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<v Speaker 2>get into.

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<v Speaker 1>Honey, girl, my whole life is a beage flag with

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<v Speaker 1>this mamba continue.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Well before we go to the salon, Honey,

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<v Speaker 2>what page flags does NOONI have? If you said that

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<v Speaker 2>the whole thing is a page flag with him.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's just wee well his I think

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<v Speaker 1>my top of the list is that he uses his

0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:49.000
<v Speaker 1>phone with the volume up, no matter what he's doing,

0:19:49.040 --> 0:19:52.200
<v Speaker 1>no matter what he's watching. He does not have any

0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:55.960
<v Speaker 1>regards for me. If he's on let's say Instagram reels,

0:19:56.000 --> 0:19:58.639
<v Speaker 1>he'll watch twenty minutes of reels with the volume on

0:19:58.760 --> 0:20:00.879
<v Speaker 1>high and it's like, oh that a monkey, Oh that

0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:02.840
<v Speaker 1>was a car, Oh that was a comedian.

0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:03.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like Jesus Christ, I won't divorce you because of this,

0:20:05.800 --> 0:20:07.760
<v Speaker 1>but it's killing me.

0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:15.639
<v Speaker 2>Okay, wait Soonie, Noonie's beige flag, Poor Noonie. I feel

0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:20.000
<v Speaker 2>like he is just you too. Crack me up now, Darlinas.

0:20:19.520 --> 0:20:22.359
<v Speaker 1>He has ear pods, I'm like, I charged him and

0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:24.600
<v Speaker 1>I always bring him and be like you want ear pods.

0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:26.399
<v Speaker 1>He's like if I wanted EarPods, I would have grabbed

0:20:26.440 --> 0:20:28.280
<v Speaker 1>him and I'm like, well, I don't want to hear

0:20:28.359 --> 0:20:29.280
<v Speaker 1>what you're watching.

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<v Speaker 2>Why is he giving me old THEO vibes? Like that

0:20:33.160 --> 0:20:35.000
<v Speaker 2>is something that my THEO would do. He would be

0:20:35.080 --> 0:20:38.600
<v Speaker 2>sitting in a room and start watching Facebook, like full

0:20:38.720 --> 0:20:42.439
<v Speaker 2>blown volume in your regard for anybody else that's like,

0:20:42.760 --> 0:20:44.880
<v Speaker 2>that's full THEO vibe right there.

0:20:44.840 --> 0:20:46.680
<v Speaker 1>And there you go. We're gonna shame him him to

0:20:46.720 --> 0:20:48.600
<v Speaker 1>feeling like that's old people behavior.

0:20:48.640 --> 0:20:52.080
<v Speaker 2>So he could quit exactly. And you know that he

0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:54.200
<v Speaker 2>wants to be up on the trends, which, by the way,

0:20:55.200 --> 0:21:00.400
<v Speaker 2>sidebar his business. That car looked amazing. I know, I'm sorry,

0:21:00.400 --> 0:21:02.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm totally diverting from the topic, but like I don't

0:21:02.760 --> 0:21:05.480
<v Speaker 2>know if you guys know, but noone has a new business.

0:21:05.800 --> 0:21:07.720
<v Speaker 2>And what is he doing? Is he wrapping cars?

0:21:08.560 --> 0:21:12.760
<v Speaker 1>Yes, so he's always loved cars. So me, being the

0:21:12.920 --> 0:21:16.760
<v Speaker 1>amazing wife, I am encouraged him to go off and

0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:21.440
<v Speaker 1>get certified. He took two weeks and we launched his business,

0:21:21.600 --> 0:21:26.320
<v Speaker 1>New Design and he does car wraps, final wraps and

0:21:26.600 --> 0:21:30.600
<v Speaker 1>no he lives for Carolina. He'll wrap an entire car

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<v Speaker 1>for you. You pick the color, bring it here well to

0:21:34.160 --> 0:21:36.879
<v Speaker 1>the shop, and he'll take care of it for you. Yeah,

0:21:36.920 --> 0:21:38.680
<v Speaker 1>this is a whole new episode. I think this is

0:21:38.720 --> 0:21:43.520
<v Speaker 1>another episode, Carolina, because I felt like his career early

0:21:43.560 --> 0:21:46.840
<v Speaker 1>in his life was not what he loved. So I

0:21:47.200 --> 0:21:51.960
<v Speaker 1>decided for him that I want you to now explore

0:21:52.000 --> 0:21:54.800
<v Speaker 1>what you love. I don't care how much it costs.

0:21:55.080 --> 0:21:58.400
<v Speaker 1>I want you the second half of your life as

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<v Speaker 1>a working person to enjoy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, and he.

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<v Speaker 1>Loves it, Carolina, But I feel like that's a whole

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<v Speaker 1>other episode, switching gears. Getting a new career and feeling

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<v Speaker 1>fulfilled when you work, and that's something that he's feeling

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<v Speaker 1>right now. And I am so happy for him.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that for him. Yeah yeah, Karlina, he doesn't care.

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<v Speaker 1>They'll be like, oh, can you wrap a car today?

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<v Speaker 1>He'd be like, yep, pull up, and he'll work till

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<v Speaker 1>three am to make it happen. I've never seen I

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<v Speaker 1>never saw him with his old career even care to

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<v Speaker 1>get up to go to work. Now he don't sleep

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<v Speaker 1>so he can work.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, what is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>You know what it is? It's like he's filled his

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<v Speaker 2>spirit with something that he really enjoys, which is so beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's like, not everybody gets to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I saw some of the cars that he's

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<v Speaker 2>been doing, and I was like, whoa, these are like

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<v Speaker 2>works of art.

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<v Speaker 1>He's the man, got like the man got talent the man,

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<v Speaker 1>and he does. And he's always loved cars. There's always

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<v Speaker 1>been his passion. So I'm happy for him, and I

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<v Speaker 1>love this for me too, because he's gonna work hard,

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<v Speaker 1>he's gonna make a lot of money. I'm gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of money.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, listen, it's the trickle down theory. You know. Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>he's happy, you're happy, everybody's happy. Then we will take

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<v Speaker 2>it so good. Well, we'll have to do another episode

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<v Speaker 2>on that. But I did want to go to the

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<v Speaker 2>salon before we break because this one is good. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So this this comes to us from Deienna and she said, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>Honey and Carolina, I just wanted to write to you

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<v Speaker 2>guys because I'm having a dilemma. I've been with this

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<v Speaker 2>guy for two months or so. I finally brought him

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<v Speaker 2>back to my apartment. Things were going great until he

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<v Speaker 2>told me he hates dogs and to keep my precious

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<v Speaker 2>Rocco locked upstairs by the way. I had a dog

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<v Speaker 2>named Rocco, and she goes on to say, Rocco has

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<v Speaker 2>been my dog for over five years and this boy

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<v Speaker 2>is telling me what I can and can't do and

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<v Speaker 2>we're only two months in hell No, so I called

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<v Speaker 2>him an uber and sent him on his way. I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't spoken to him since. My friends think that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>crazy and that I overreacted, but I think I just

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<v Speaker 2>dodged a huge red Oh look, dogs was a huge

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<v Speaker 2>red flag. Am I the asshole? This is from Deanna

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<v Speaker 2>and Rocco, and she wants to know whether or not

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<v Speaker 2>she was in the wrong for sending this guy on

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<v Speaker 2>his way after he told her that he didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>the dog around.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta go, my man. Listen, this dog been here

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<v Speaker 1>five years, you'll be here two months. You probably just

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<v Speaker 1>trying to smash and you're telling me to lock up

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<v Speaker 1>my baby. You guss to go. I would have never

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<v Speaker 1>called him an uber, that's first of all. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>my dog would have been right on my lap the

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<v Speaker 1>whole entire man. He was there for that one time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know, Diana, like something about this is

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<v Speaker 2>really bothering me because if you were talking to this

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<v Speaker 2>guy for two months. There had to be a conversation

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<v Speaker 2>where you brought up your dog. I mean, obviously you've

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<v Speaker 2>had your dog for five years. You probably put your

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<v Speaker 2>dog in your dating profile, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>Like you're very aware that somebody has an animal or

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<v Speaker 2>that they're an animal lover, you know, like and I

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<v Speaker 2>told the story a million times, Like I had two

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<v Speaker 2>little dogs when I first started dating Mark z your question,

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<v Speaker 2>you came to my house or two little Yorkis yapping away,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, when we were on the phone having conversations,

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<v Speaker 2>you can hear the dog barking in the background. So

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<v Speaker 2>then he waited until he got to your house to

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<v Speaker 2>tell you it a lot. First of all, you're not

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<v Speaker 2>gonna tell me what to do in my own home.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the first thing.

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<v Speaker 1>He was probably like, Yo, she fly or whatever. I'm gonna,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, not care about the dog when I go

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<v Speaker 1>to her house, I'm gonna just tell her to lock

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<v Speaker 1>up the dog. But li did he know Deanna is

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<v Speaker 1>not just a dog owner. She is a fir mommy.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's where the problem served.

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<v Speaker 2>Well exactly, And the fact that you're going to request

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<v Speaker 2>that she keep her dog in the other room, Like

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<v Speaker 2>what do you what do you think is gonna happen? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>do you think that I'm just gonna lock up my

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<v Speaker 2>dog every time you come over? Don't you think this?

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<v Speaker 2>THEEDS a little bit further of a discussion. So, Deanna,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like you did definitely dodge a red flag. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>there's something about guys who don't like animals. There has

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<v Speaker 2>to be some kind of trauma that happened in the past.

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<v Speaker 2>Why don't you what's your deal with dogs? Like, let's

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<v Speaker 2>go there, talk to me about it.

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<v Speaker 1>One thing is you're allergic to dogs. That I could

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<v Speaker 1>understand bus straight up, like, I hate dogs. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be around dogs. You're not my type of

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<v Speaker 1>person because I am an.

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<v Speaker 2>Animal lover exactly, That's what I'm saying. So if this

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<v Speaker 2>is an animal lover, you've dodged a definite red flag,

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<v Speaker 2>not even a beige flag. But second of all, Babe,

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<v Speaker 2>why are you calling him an uber? He has a phone.

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<v Speaker 2>He could call the uber on his own. Next time,

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<v Speaker 2>you politely ask him to gather or whoever it is,

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<v Speaker 2>to gather their things and leave and let him figure

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<v Speaker 2>it out what he's outside on the sidewalk. I think

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<v Speaker 2>you were very generous and offering him the uber and

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<v Speaker 2>by the way, let me add this, the fact that

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<v Speaker 2>he hasn't even reached out after gives me definite weirdo

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<v Speaker 2>vibes on it, Like I would be mortified if somebody

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<v Speaker 2>sent me on my way, and like I would just

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<v Speaker 2>be like, hey, I'm sorry, there may have been a miscommunication.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'm just not sure if the dog would have

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<v Speaker 2>liked me, you know what I mean, Like, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that this guy was definitely a.

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<v Speaker 1>Buster at the US MAAMU. It was nice knowing you.

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<v Speaker 1>Good luck with the next.

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<v Speaker 2>One, Yeah, Deanna, definitely. I hope that you go out

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<v Speaker 2>there and you find somebody that's going to accept and

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<v Speaker 2>love your dogs. Almost to the point where, like my dogs,

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<v Speaker 2>they didn't even see me anymore after Mark Grossman came

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<v Speaker 2>in the picture. They like changed their masters, which they say,

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<v Speaker 2>like dogs never change their masters. These little mofos did.

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<v Speaker 2>They're like, no, bitch, you've been feeding us for eight

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<v Speaker 2>years of our life, but like we're gonna go with

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<v Speaker 2>this dude now because he makes us feel safe.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, that's the same thing to happen

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<v Speaker 1>to me with Roxy, Like Roxy was my dog. Then

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<v Speaker 1>she became Nuoni's dog. Then they developed like a romantic relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>And I used to argue because I would go lay

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<v Speaker 1>down and the dog was like on his shoulder licking

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<v Speaker 1>his face. I'm like, I need this dog out of here.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like me and her were fighting over his man competing.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, it's a full blown competition here. Erna will

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<v Speaker 2>like stake her claim. She'll get on the couch and

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<v Speaker 2>put her paw over Merk's leg like she has claimed

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<v Speaker 2>her man.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is my man. I don't know about you, Carolina,

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<v Speaker 1>but this mark is mine.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but I'm like, bitch, you only lived for

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<v Speaker 2>like ten to thirteen years, so whatever, We're straight on

0:28:11.520 --> 0:28:14.400
<v Speaker 2>that note. Now, you know what, Guys, you can always

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<v Speaker 2>email us, send us your saloon questions at l spanglish.

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<v Speaker 1>And hit us up on a gram. Send us over

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<v Speaker 1>or married. I want to know that I'm not out

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<v Speaker 1>here alone because I had a list of ten bage flags.

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<v Speaker 1>I just didn't give it to y'all. Hit us on

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