Speaker 1: I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive advocate.
Speaker 2: I'm Carolina Bermudez soy nika a wins it. But I
Speaker 2: was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
Speaker 2: and a worker bee.
Speaker 1: This is life in spanglish.
Speaker 2: You know. It's movements like this that make me so
Speaker 2: happy that I am not in the dating world anymore
Speaker 2: because TikTok is all over this new thing that is
Speaker 2: taking over, which, by the way, we shouldn't be surprised
Speaker 2: because TikTok has like all of the info. It is
Speaker 2: where all of the information lies. But this beij flag
Speaker 2: thing that is happening in the dating world, we must
Speaker 2: discuss this.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about it, because even though we're not dating. Carolina,
Speaker 1: when I was looking at this trend, I'm like, what
Speaker 1: is it? And they said it's like weird habits that
Speaker 1: are less than a deal breaker but are not a plus.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh wow, my husband got a bunch
Speaker 1: of ohs. What divorce them? But I'm happy about them.
Speaker 1: So I said, we're going to get into this beige
Speaker 1: flag trend and break it down for our listeners.
Speaker 2: So yeah, so beige flag less offensive than a red flag.
Speaker 2: So basically these are things that like are not deal breakers,
Speaker 2: Like they're not going to make you run away from
Speaker 2: the relationship, but they give you pause. They make you
Speaker 2: stop and say, who is this person that I'm with?
Speaker 2: I love this and I looked it up and somebody
Speaker 2: said a beige flag. It's like a trendy relationship term, yes,
Speaker 2: but basically it's where someone can identify signs on these
Speaker 2: dating apps that make you wonder about the person, whether
Speaker 2: or not they're really making the effort like this is.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of different interpretations for beige flags, so
Speaker 2: I get it, Like, if you're on a dating app,
Speaker 2: how would you know whether or not to move forward
Speaker 2: with somebody unless you like really start picking apart their
Speaker 2: profile so you can even pick You can even find
Speaker 2: some of these beige flags in their description in these
Speaker 2: dating apps. That's what I found out about this.
Speaker 1: If I was on a dating app, Carolina, you want
Speaker 1: me to give you a beige flag really quick? If
Speaker 1: I see this man with anything superhero related like a
Speaker 1: Superman T shirt or a Batman but a hell No,
Speaker 1: that's a beige flag. You could be fine, but I
Speaker 1: don't know, girl, I just cannot stomach a man that's
Speaker 1: obsessed with superhero anything.
Speaker 2: As a full blown adult. You cannot take if he's
Speaker 2: into Marvel DC, if he's the first one in line
Speaker 2: to see thor things of that, that's your beige flag.
Speaker 1: I could still date him, but it's gonna bother me
Speaker 1: the whole relationship.
Speaker 2: Okay, So perfect definition of a beige flag. I saw
Speaker 2: a definitely or I saw an example of a beige
Speaker 2: flag that I thought, oh, okay, I get it now.
Speaker 2: This one person said that whenever her date would ask
Speaker 2: for a fork at a sushi restaurant, that's a beige
Speaker 2: flag because it's like, how are you going to come
Speaker 2: to a sushi restaurant fully knowing that you need to
Speaker 2: be able to like be adept with chopsticks, and you're
Speaker 2: gonna ask for a fork, Then that's a beige flag.
Speaker 2: So that's what this one woman was saying, Like how
Speaker 2: because she's in the dating world and she's out there,
Speaker 2: and that's one thing that she said. She's like, I
Speaker 2: like to go out for sushi dinners or like, you know,
Speaker 2: just to test to see like if this is a
Speaker 2: beige flag for me, if the person asks a request
Speaker 2: a fork that.
Speaker 1: Feels evil, I don't feel like everyone in America knows
Speaker 1: how to use chopsticks, so I feel like I don't
Speaker 1: know she's being a little bit.
Speaker 2: That's a personal I feel like that's a personal beige flag. Right,
Speaker 2: So these people are all over the place, and then
Speaker 2: I start to think to myself, like, what are my
Speaker 2: beige flags?
Speaker 1: Oh girl, we would have to bring the guys in
Speaker 1: on this episode. I'm pretty sure we have a million
Speaker 1: beige flags.
Speaker 2: I mean, listen, my husband could really break it down
Speaker 2: with me, because I feel like I am just in
Speaker 2: totality a beige flag. But yeah, like, for example, something
Speaker 2: that drives. I can offer myself up on this one
Speaker 2: and say I am probably the worst person to sleep
Speaker 2: with because I don't have just one alarm. I have
Speaker 2: three alarms, and I don't necessarily like allow myself to
Speaker 2: snooze because I am considerate of my partner. I know
Speaker 2: that three point fifteen is rude, It's like a rude awakening,
Speaker 2: but there are those times where I'm super tired, so
Speaker 2: I have three fifteen that I have three thirty and
Speaker 2: then I have three forty five. Is like, that's it.
Speaker 2: You're not gonna make it like you basically just have
Speaker 2: to like brush your teeth and get into the city
Speaker 2: type of vibe.
Speaker 1: You know, that is not only a beige flag, Carolina,
Speaker 1: that warrants you have your separate bedroom. If we were married,
Speaker 1: Oh yeah.
Speaker 2: That's that's a whole discussion that we were like, actually, like,
Speaker 2: the only thing is that I need Mark to put
Speaker 2: me to bed, otherwise we would be completely content sleeping
Speaker 2: in different bed pods.
Speaker 1: You know me, I love TikTok, So as soon as
Speaker 1: we said, you know, let's talk about beige flags, I
Speaker 1: went dive on TikTok and I saw one particular trend.
Speaker 1: A lot of women were saying that their boyfriend or
Speaker 1: husband's beage flag is that they're super unbothered to ask
Speaker 1: for any details that he'll be like, oh my best
Speaker 1: friend broke up with her man. Oh that's sad, zero details.
Speaker 1: Oh my sister had a baby, Oh congratulations, zero details.
Speaker 1: Is d a beige flag for you, Carolina?
Speaker 2: It's not a beach flag. But I feel like it
Speaker 2: depends on the person. Like there are some guys who
Speaker 2: are so down to give you like every dirty detail,
Speaker 2: like my one girlfriend is married to I won't. I mean,
Speaker 2: obviously I'm not gonna say who they are. But he
Speaker 2: is always down for the tea piping hot he wants it.
Speaker 2: He'll sit in the room with us while we're talking
Speaker 2: about other people. He just loves to be around it, Okay,
Speaker 2: And like whenever he tells the story, he gives very
Speaker 2: pertinent details. Mark Grossman, my husband is the type that
Speaker 2: would not even bring it up, like he could have
Speaker 2: been president for like the throwdown of all throwdowns, and
Speaker 2: he would not give me any info, unbothered, unbothered by
Speaker 2: the details. Where meanwhile, I'm like living for them. I'm like,
Speaker 2: and what was she wearing? And then did a titty
Speaker 2: pop out? Like what happened? Like does somebody have a
Speaker 2: black eye? Like can we discuss this? But he does
Speaker 2: not do that. Yeah, so I would say that's definitely
Speaker 2: a sign of a beige flag for some people, but
Speaker 2: for Mark, that's like completely normal.
Speaker 1: A lot of women complain about this. They want men
Speaker 1: to ask questions. I feel like I would need it
Speaker 1: to I can't tell you such and such got a
Speaker 1: new job, and you're not gonna ask me where you're
Speaker 1: not gonna ask me how much did it make you?
Speaker 1: Or you're not gonna ask me what the position is.
Speaker 1: That's a beige flag for me. I like to talk
Speaker 1: and a lot of women on TikTok are having the
Speaker 1: same exact beige flag problem.
Speaker 2: Well, also, you know what people are talking about beige
Speaker 2: flags in relationships too, Like this isn't just limited to
Speaker 2: the people who are single out there, like you know
Speaker 2: when when you have a partnership, and let's say, for example,
Speaker 2: like I started watching White Lotus. Okay, White Lotus was hot.
Speaker 2: I did not get in on White Lotus though, to
Speaker 2: be fair, until like close to the second season. Everybody
Speaker 2: was hyping it up. I was late to the game,
Speaker 2: so was I.
Speaker 1: I just watched the first season last week.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Okay, yeah, so I before season two
Speaker 2: came out, everybody was ridiculing me and saying, I can't
Speaker 2: believe you haven't watched White Lotus. So finally I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to commit myself to this. I'm going to
Speaker 2: watch the first two episodes because my girlfriend told me
Speaker 2: she was like, watch the first two episodes and like
Speaker 2: don't give up on it, like just trust me, Like
Speaker 2: be in it for the long haul. So I watched
Speaker 2: the first two episodes. Mark comes in on the second episode,
Speaker 2: is intrigued by it. Now it has become our show. Okay,
Speaker 2: now it's not just my show anymore. So that first
Speaker 2: of all was annoying to me. Then it became our show,
Speaker 2: so I couldn't watch it without him, which in turn
Speaker 2: made me delay me watching this whole thing. Right, there
Speaker 2: is an example of a beige flag in your relationship.
Speaker 2: Like he couldn't have been bothered before. He's not bothered
Speaker 2: with housewives. He doesn't even watch Below Deck with me.
Speaker 2: But when he got into White Lotus, then it became
Speaker 2: our show, and he was like offended when I watched
Speaker 2: without him.
Speaker 1: Girl, if I watch a show that is our show
Speaker 1: without NOONI you know what I do. I rewind the
Speaker 1: episode so that he doesn't know I watched it.
Speaker 2: Oh see, I can't keep a straight face though. That's
Speaker 2: the thing. It's like, I won't give myself I'll watch
Speaker 2: it again. That good. I am not that good. See.
Speaker 2: I wish I had that like ability because I would
Speaker 2: be like, oh my gosh, I can't okay, fine, just
Speaker 2: wait for it. Like I'm that type of person that
Speaker 2: will say that. So another user on TikTok says that, like,
Speaker 2: you know, beige flags are not just things that like
Speaker 2: affect that person. There are things that can affect you.
Speaker 2: Like So for example, if Mark says we're leaving at
Speaker 2: three pm, we are leaving at three pm, okay, But
Speaker 2: like other people will say like, oh, oh, we're gonna
Speaker 2: leave soon. Well, what does soon mean? Soon means different
Speaker 2: things for different people. Soon for you, honey, could be
Speaker 2: thirty minutes soon for Mark Grossman means five minutes. You
Speaker 2: know what I mean. So those are like examples of
Speaker 2: beige flags that I saw too, where it's like it
Speaker 2: doesn't just affect you, like it affects the partner.
Speaker 1: This beige flag right here that I saw, it's from
Speaker 1: a couple and she says that her fiance's beige flag
Speaker 1: is that he doesn't like to eat dinner in silence.
Speaker 1: That he will google a couple questions or relationship quizzes,
Speaker 1: and when they go out to a restaurant, he wants
Speaker 1: to talk the entire time.
Speaker 2: But see, I think that's so sweet. I feel like
Speaker 2: that's connecting and I actually applaud his effort because I
Speaker 2: will say this you know, the kids are gone, and
Speaker 2: Mark and I went out to dinner a couple of
Speaker 2: nights ago and we were sitting there and yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: finally we were discussing things like that, we have coming up,
Speaker 2: we have trips coming up, we have this, we have that, like,
Speaker 2: we have like all of these things that we had
Speaker 2: to like kind of square away on the calendar. Then
Speaker 2: I ever, like you talk about things and you work
Speaker 2: things out, then it's just kind of like, okay, it's
Speaker 2: not awkward silence, but it's like it would be nice
Speaker 2: to have other things to go to. So I actually
Speaker 2: applaud that partner for having like the foresight to say, hey,
Speaker 2: we're gonna need some shit to talk about.
Speaker 1: That's super cute. We just gossip during dinner, but that's
Speaker 1: super cute on his part. One beige flag that I
Speaker 1: can throw out there at Carolina is if he doesn't
Speaker 1: like the beach, that's a beige flag for me, Like,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna break up with you, I'll still date you,
Speaker 1: but I have a big problem with that. I love
Speaker 1: the beach, and if this man doesn't care about the beach,
Speaker 1: water tanning, or just relaxing by the sand, that's a
Speaker 1: beige flag.
Speaker 2: But see, beige flag means that it's not a deal breaker.
Speaker 2: So you would really like if somebody came up to
Speaker 2: you and said, I'm not down for the beach, like
Speaker 2: you would stop dating them if it was like in
Speaker 2: dating terms.
Speaker 1: Nah, it's it's a beige flag. I could still date him,
Speaker 1: but I have an issue with it.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, So when we come back, we are
Speaker 2: going to continue the discussion of beige flags and whether
Speaker 2: or not it's time to walk, So we'll we'll go
Speaker 2: through that right after. Okay. So we were discussing something
Speaker 2: and you and I both were researching beige flags, and
Speaker 2: there was one that came up that I thought, oh
Speaker 2: my gosh, if I would have applied this to my
Speaker 2: own relationship, we would have never made it. So somebody
Speaker 2: said that their beige flag is that the person that
Speaker 2: they're with is never at one hundred percent health, meaning
Speaker 2: like they always have like a headache or you know,
Speaker 2: their their stomach is bothering them or.
Speaker 1: You know, make them fake ailments.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like it's like they're never at one hundred percent,
Speaker 2: Like you don't wake up one day just feeling great.
Speaker 2: Like listen, as we get older. I'll be honest with you.
Speaker 2: I do wake up with like random aches and pains.
Speaker 2: I slept on my shoulder the wrong way the other night.
Speaker 2: I had like a thord shoulder. I was just like,
Speaker 2: are you being.
Speaker 1: So annoyed at you all day long? If you keep
Speaker 1: complaining about that shoulder?
Speaker 2: Well, and then it's also just like, oh, I'm so tired.
Speaker 2: So what this girl was saying about like a beige
Speaker 2: flag was just like when somebody is just never at
Speaker 2: one hundred percent, You're going to live the rest of
Speaker 2: your life with this person's ailments. And I thought to myself,
Speaker 2: that is a major beige flag for me, because there
Speaker 2: are times when like I don't need to hear about
Speaker 2: your ailments. I got enough of my own.
Speaker 1: I got friends that that's all they do, and I
Speaker 1: cringe when they call me because I'm like, I know
Speaker 1: the list of ailments is coming and it'd be like
Speaker 1: weird ailments. So I ate and I have a pain
Speaker 1: on my side that won't leave.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's like, you you have
Speaker 2: your own things to deal with, and then to have
Speaker 2: to deal with somebody else's like stuff like you know,
Speaker 2: hold on top of it. No, thank you, So no,
Speaker 2: that's another beige flag. Another thing that I found was
Speaker 2: like somebody said that if they eat pizza with a fork,
Speaker 2: another like food thing. A lot of these things revolve
Speaker 2: around food.
Speaker 1: That is alarming, correct, Tarrelina, That is not a beige flag.
Speaker 1: That is, as a new worker, that is a red
Speaker 1: flag to me, you are not all mentally up there
Speaker 1: if you are cutting up a slice of pizza.
Speaker 2: I do it all the time because my pizza I
Speaker 2: always have so many toppings on it that I want
Speaker 2: to get every topping in every bite. And I have
Speaker 2: no problem with myself.
Speaker 1: I am you get I know who you are. You
Speaker 1: get that pizza that's no longer pizza. Got it?
Speaker 2: I get like mushroom, black olive onion. But I want
Speaker 2: every delectable bite to have every single topping on it.
Speaker 2: And I see nothing wrong with my behavior. Don't at me, Okay,
Speaker 2: me on it. Okay, I want to have. If I'm
Speaker 2: going to indulge in pizza, I want it to be
Speaker 2: everything I wanted to be. Wait, no, somebody else wrote
Speaker 2: if they continue to wear underwear or clothes that have
Speaker 2: holes in them. Okay, now, other than like the trendy
Speaker 2: thing of like, you know, obviously wearing jeans that have
Speaker 2: holes in them. If you're a full grown adult and
Speaker 2: you're wearing your you know, underwear with holes in them,
Speaker 2: we need to have a talk. That's definitely a beige flag.
Speaker 1: Nah, drawls with holes in them, Nah, that's photos out.
Speaker 1: We can get you new ones. Underwears are not that expensive,
Speaker 1: my love.
Speaker 2: No, I know. And it's like you got a rotato
Speaker 2: comes and see it was like you've got to make
Speaker 2: sure that, like your game is on. Some of the
Speaker 2: beige flags too that I thought were really interesting about
Speaker 2: the dating apps in particular, And I think this one
Speaker 2: is so, so so true. It would definitely bring up
Speaker 2: like a moment of pause for me if they wear
Speaker 2: sunglasses in every photo. What are you hiding? Bro? What
Speaker 2: are you or what are you hiding? Sis? Because girls
Speaker 2: do it too.
Speaker 1: Oh for sure. And here here's why it's like borderline
Speaker 1: beige red. Sometimes when people take off their sunglasses, they
Speaker 1: look like a completely different human, eyes be wandering all
Speaker 1: over the place. You might no longer be physically attracted
Speaker 1: to that.
Speaker 2: Person, right, So a beige flag in if you go
Speaker 2: on somebody's dating app and there is not one picture
Speaker 2: of them without sunglasses. It may be time to swipe.
Speaker 1: Left or right. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I think that's that, and I think it's left.
Speaker 2: But then also somebody said, and this is really really true,
Speaker 2: and I believe this. If they're competitive about everything, like
Speaker 2: I get it. It's fun if you go to like
Speaker 2: trivia nights or because that's like all a part of
Speaker 2: like dating and getting to know each other. Right when
Speaker 2: you go and do these fun things, Oh.
Speaker 1: For sure, but you got to get into it. Girl,
Speaker 1: I beat my pits, be sweating. If we do anything competitive, girl,
Speaker 1: give me another little sprits of the.
Speaker 2: Odor, Well, yes, because we want to get in that.
Speaker 2: But if they're competitive about everything and they don't ever
Speaker 2: let you win, not that they should let you win,
Speaker 2: but if they're just like super aggie and like super
Speaker 2: aggressive and like they need to win it everything, that's
Speaker 2: a definite page for me. That would be a red
Speaker 2: flag because it's like, why are you so intense? Like
Speaker 2: I love to win too, but we don't have to
Speaker 2: win everything.
Speaker 1: If you had David Buster's doing the little basketball shooting
Speaker 1: situation and he's elbow you to get out the way
Speaker 1: I feel you that's a redfly for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely. So I don't know, I feel like we're
Speaker 2: very fortunate to not be in that space of having
Speaker 2: to like decipher these beige flags or these red flags.
Speaker 2: But also I think it's like good looking out for
Speaker 2: those of you who are out in the dating game again,
Speaker 2: you know. And like I will say this, my sister's
Speaker 2: been out of the dating game for years, and she said,
Speaker 2: every time I go back in, it is so overwhelming,
Speaker 2: so daunting, because it's just a different game that's being
Speaker 2: played now.
Speaker 1: It is because my sister, she's been she's been single
Speaker 1: for a while, and she dates, She used these dating apps,
Speaker 1: and sometimes she just tells me, I'm closing it all down.
Speaker 1: I'm not messing with this. I'd rather just focus on
Speaker 1: my career. I'd rather focus on traveling. This dating shit
Speaker 1: is not for me. It is a mess out here.
Speaker 1: And I'm like le Tinder, Sierra Bumbo Instagram.
Speaker 2: You get why, you know, I mean, she's that's the
Speaker 2: only way that people are meeting though right now. That's
Speaker 2: the thing that sucks about it.
Speaker 1: Come on, I met somebody, didn't meet somebody. I saw
Speaker 1: somebody that I haven't seen in a long time and
Speaker 1: she had a new boyfriend with her and I said,
Speaker 1: how did you meet and she said, oh, my sister
Speaker 1: introduced us. I was floored, Carolina, I have not met
Speaker 1: people that met through other people in years.
Speaker 2: Everything is I Oh, that's the move though. Who was
Speaker 2: I talking to the other day? Okay, so it's a
Speaker 2: friend of mine. Her daughter is in a different grade
Speaker 2: and she was dating somebody they broke up, and she said, oh,
Speaker 2: if you know anyone you know, like hook me up.
Speaker 2: And I said, girl, I mean we pretty much all
Speaker 2: know the same people, you know? And she said, I'm
Speaker 2: convinced that the only way that I will find another
Speaker 2: partner is through other people, because the dating apps are
Speaker 2: that bad.
Speaker 1: I get Banna. Thank god I grew up ten years ago,
Speaker 1: because right now I wouldn't be able to do it.
Speaker 1: They flags, red flags, all types of flags.
Speaker 2: Well some of the other beige flags that you guys
Speaker 2: can look out for. Somebody said, if they're always taking
Speaker 2: pictures of themselves at the gym, if they're saying that
Speaker 2: they're a regular at the gym, if they like to
Speaker 2: describe their physical appearance when they literally have photos of
Speaker 2: themselves online, like that's a beige flag. If they have
Speaker 2: the word foodie anywhere in their profile, which that to
Speaker 2: me would be like a great thing. I would think,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, like this person has the knowledge I
Speaker 2: want to go out with them.
Speaker 1: You would think. But I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's just so many different things. Like I was on TikTok,
Speaker 1: I saw at least thirty tiktoks. It feels like everything
Speaker 1: is a beige flag.
Speaker 2: They said, if they have multiple pictures of them in
Speaker 2: the club, that's a beige flag, which okay, But then
Speaker 2: like if you're single. That's why I feel like maybe
Speaker 2: sometimes we're dissecting things too much, because if somebody's single,
Speaker 2: then where do you want them to be taking pictures?
Speaker 2: If they're taking pictures with their cat in their living room,
Speaker 2: then you're like, oh, beig flag, he's boring and out
Speaker 2: of the club. See. I feel like there's just too
Speaker 2: many like preconceived notions, and I feel like we're not
Speaker 2: giving each other a chance. So take the beige flag thing,
Speaker 2: like with a grain of salt, see if it works
Speaker 2: for you or if it doesn't. And if you've like
Speaker 2: encountered any of these beige flags, we definitely want to know.
Speaker 2: But after this, we're going to go straight to the
Speaker 2: salon unless you have more beage flags you want to
Speaker 2: get into.
Speaker 1: Honey, girl, my whole life is a beage flag with
Speaker 1: this mamba continue.
Speaker 2: All right, Well before we go to the salon, Honey,
Speaker 2: what page flags does NOONI have? If you said that
Speaker 2: the whole thing is a page flag with him.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just wee well his I think
Speaker 1: my top of the list is that he uses his
Speaker 1: phone with the volume up, no matter what he's doing,
Speaker 1: no matter what he's watching. He does not have any
Speaker 1: regards for me. If he's on let's say Instagram reels,
Speaker 1: he'll watch twenty minutes of reels with the volume on
Speaker 1: high and it's like, oh that a monkey, Oh that
Speaker 1: was a car, Oh that was a comedian.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 1: I'm like Jesus Christ, I won't divorce you because of this,
Speaker 1: but it's killing me.
Speaker 2: Okay, wait Soonie, Noonie's beige flag, Poor Noonie. I feel
Speaker 2: like he is just you too. Crack me up now, Darlinas.
Speaker 1: He has ear pods, I'm like, I charged him and
Speaker 1: I always bring him and be like you want ear pods.
Speaker 1: He's like if I wanted EarPods, I would have grabbed
Speaker 1: him and I'm like, well, I don't want to hear
Speaker 1: what you're watching.
Speaker 2: Why is he giving me old THEO vibes? Like that
Speaker 2: is something that my THEO would do. He would be
Speaker 2: sitting in a room and start watching Facebook, like full
Speaker 2: blown volume in your regard for anybody else that's like,
Speaker 2: that's full THEO vibe right there.
Speaker 1: And there you go. We're gonna shame him him to
Speaker 1: feeling like that's old people behavior.
Speaker 2: So he could quit exactly. And you know that he
Speaker 2: wants to be up on the trends, which, by the way,
Speaker 2: sidebar his business. That car looked amazing. I know, I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: I'm totally diverting from the topic, but like I don't
Speaker 2: know if you guys know, but noone has a new business.
Speaker 2: And what is he doing? Is he wrapping cars?
Speaker 1: Yes, so he's always loved cars. So me, being the
Speaker 1: amazing wife, I am encouraged him to go off and
Speaker 1: get certified. He took two weeks and we launched his business,
Speaker 1: New Design and he does car wraps, final wraps and
Speaker 1: no he lives for Carolina. He'll wrap an entire car
Speaker 1: for you. You pick the color, bring it here well to
Speaker 1: the shop, and he'll take care of it for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is a whole new episode. I think this is
Speaker 1: another episode, Carolina, because I felt like his career early
Speaker 1: in his life was not what he loved. So I
Speaker 1: decided for him that I want you to now explore
Speaker 1: what you love. I don't care how much it costs.
Speaker 1: I want you the second half of your life as
Speaker 1: a working person to enjoy.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, and he.
Speaker 1: Loves it, Carolina, But I feel like that's a whole
Speaker 1: other episode, switching gears. Getting a new career and feeling
Speaker 1: fulfilled when you work, and that's something that he's feeling
Speaker 1: right now. And I am so happy for him.
Speaker 2: I love that for him. Yeah yeah, Karlina, he doesn't care.
Speaker 1: They'll be like, oh, can you wrap a car today?
Speaker 1: He'd be like, yep, pull up, and he'll work till
Speaker 1: three am to make it happen. I've never seen I
Speaker 1: never saw him with his old career even care to
Speaker 1: get up to go to work. Now he don't sleep
Speaker 1: so he can work.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, what is that?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: You know what it is? It's like he's filled his
Speaker 2: spirit with something that he really enjoys, which is so beautiful.
Speaker 2: You know, it's like, not everybody gets to do that.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I saw some of the cars that he's
Speaker 2: been doing, and I was like, whoa, these are like
Speaker 2: works of art.
Speaker 1: He's the man, got like the man got talent the man,
Speaker 1: and he does. And he's always loved cars. There's always
Speaker 1: been his passion. So I'm happy for him, and I
Speaker 1: love this for me too, because he's gonna work hard,
Speaker 1: he's gonna make a lot of money. I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: a lot of money.
Speaker 2: Well, listen, it's the trickle down theory. You know. Hey,
Speaker 2: he's happy, you're happy, everybody's happy. Then we will take
Speaker 2: it so good. Well, we'll have to do another episode
Speaker 2: on that. But I did want to go to the
Speaker 2: salon before we break because this one is good. Okay,
Speaker 2: So this this comes to us from Deienna and she said, hey,
Speaker 2: Honey and Carolina, I just wanted to write to you
Speaker 2: guys because I'm having a dilemma. I've been with this
Speaker 2: guy for two months or so. I finally brought him
Speaker 2: back to my apartment. Things were going great until he
Speaker 2: told me he hates dogs and to keep my precious
Speaker 2: Rocco locked upstairs by the way. I had a dog
Speaker 2: named Rocco, and she goes on to say, Rocco has
Speaker 2: been my dog for over five years and this boy
Speaker 2: is telling me what I can and can't do and
Speaker 2: we're only two months in hell No, so I called
Speaker 2: him an uber and sent him on his way. I
Speaker 2: haven't spoken to him since. My friends think that I'm
Speaker 2: crazy and that I overreacted, but I think I just
Speaker 2: dodged a huge red Oh look, dogs was a huge
Speaker 2: red flag. Am I the asshole? This is from Deanna
Speaker 2: and Rocco, and she wants to know whether or not
Speaker 2: she was in the wrong for sending this guy on
Speaker 2: his way after he told her that he didn't want
Speaker 2: the dog around.
Speaker 1: You gotta go, my man. Listen, this dog been here
Speaker 1: five years, you'll be here two months. You probably just
Speaker 1: trying to smash and you're telling me to lock up
Speaker 1: my baby. You guss to go. I would have never
Speaker 1: called him an uber, that's first of all. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: my dog would have been right on my lap the
Speaker 1: whole entire man. He was there for that one time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, Diana, like something about this is
Speaker 2: really bothering me because if you were talking to this
Speaker 2: guy for two months. There had to be a conversation
Speaker 2: where you brought up your dog. I mean, obviously you've
Speaker 2: had your dog for five years. You probably put your
Speaker 2: dog in your dating profile, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: Like you're very aware that somebody has an animal or
Speaker 2: that they're an animal lover, you know, like and I
Speaker 2: told the story a million times, Like I had two
Speaker 2: little dogs when I first started dating Mark z your question,
Speaker 2: you came to my house or two little Yorkis yapping away,
Speaker 2: you know, when we were on the phone having conversations,
Speaker 2: you can hear the dog barking in the background. So
Speaker 2: then he waited until he got to your house to
Speaker 2: tell you it a lot. First of all, you're not
Speaker 2: gonna tell me what to do in my own home.
Speaker 2: That's the first thing.
Speaker 1: He was probably like, Yo, she fly or whatever. I'm gonna,
Speaker 1: you know, not care about the dog when I go
Speaker 1: to her house, I'm gonna just tell her to lock
Speaker 1: up the dog. But li did he know Deanna is
Speaker 1: not just a dog owner. She is a fir mommy.
Speaker 1: And that's where the problem served.
Speaker 2: Well exactly, And the fact that you're going to request
Speaker 2: that she keep her dog in the other room, Like
Speaker 2: what do you what do you think is gonna happen? Like,
Speaker 2: do you think that I'm just gonna lock up my
Speaker 2: dog every time you come over? Don't you think this?
Speaker 2: THEEDS a little bit further of a discussion. So, Deanna,
Speaker 2: I feel like you did definitely dodge a red flag. Also,
Speaker 2: there's something about guys who don't like animals. There has
Speaker 2: to be some kind of trauma that happened in the past.
Speaker 2: Why don't you what's your deal with dogs? Like, let's
Speaker 2: go there, talk to me about it.
Speaker 1: One thing is you're allergic to dogs. That I could
Speaker 1: understand bus straight up, like, I hate dogs. I don't
Speaker 1: want to be around dogs. You're not my type of
Speaker 1: person because I am an.
Speaker 2: Animal lover exactly, That's what I'm saying. So if this
Speaker 2: is an animal lover, you've dodged a definite red flag,
Speaker 2: not even a beige flag. But second of all, Babe,
Speaker 2: why are you calling him an uber? He has a phone.
Speaker 2: He could call the uber on his own. Next time,
Speaker 2: you politely ask him to gather or whoever it is,
Speaker 2: to gather their things and leave and let him figure
Speaker 2: it out what he's outside on the sidewalk. I think
Speaker 2: you were very generous and offering him the uber and
Speaker 2: by the way, let me add this, the fact that
Speaker 2: he hasn't even reached out after gives me definite weirdo
Speaker 2: vibes on it, Like I would be mortified if somebody
Speaker 2: sent me on my way, and like I would just
Speaker 2: be like, hey, I'm sorry, there may have been a miscommunication.
Speaker 2: Like I'm just not sure if the dog would have
Speaker 2: liked me, you know what I mean, Like, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think that this guy was definitely a.
Speaker 1: Buster at the US MAAMU. It was nice knowing you.
Speaker 1: Good luck with the next.
Speaker 2: One, Yeah, Deanna, definitely. I hope that you go out
Speaker 2: there and you find somebody that's going to accept and
Speaker 2: love your dogs. Almost to the point where, like my dogs,
Speaker 2: they didn't even see me anymore after Mark Grossman came
Speaker 2: in the picture. They like changed their masters, which they say,
Speaker 2: like dogs never change their masters. These little mofos did.
Speaker 2: They're like, no, bitch, you've been feeding us for eight
Speaker 2: years of our life, but like we're gonna go with
Speaker 2: this dude now because he makes us feel safe.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, that's the same thing to happen
Speaker 1: to me with Roxy, Like Roxy was my dog. Then
Speaker 1: she became Nuoni's dog. Then they developed like a romantic relationship.
Speaker 1: And I used to argue because I would go lay
Speaker 1: down and the dog was like on his shoulder licking
Speaker 1: his face. I'm like, I need this dog out of here.
Speaker 1: It's like me and her were fighting over his man competing.
Speaker 2: Oh no, it's a full blown competition here. Erna will
Speaker 2: like stake her claim. She'll get on the couch and
Speaker 2: put her paw over Merk's leg like she has claimed
Speaker 2: her man.
Speaker 1: So this is my man. I don't know about you, Carolina,
Speaker 1: but this mark is mine.
Speaker 2: I know, but I'm like, bitch, you only lived for
Speaker 2: like ten to thirteen years, so whatever, We're straight on
Speaker 2: that note. Now, you know what, Guys, you can always
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