WEBVTT - "I HAVE A PEN CAP STUCK IN MY ASS" 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.960 Hello, Hello, How are you? 0:00:05.720 --> 0:00:06.960 I am pretty good. How are you? 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:11.680 I am a gecko on the computer. 0:00:14.280 --> 0:00:15.400 Yes, that is true. 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:18.560 What's going on with your life? 0:00:20.160 --> 0:00:23.400 You know, not too much. I didn't really do that 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:25.160 much today, chilled at home. 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:32.760 Uh Adam. It says here that you have a pen 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:34.640 cap stuck in your ass. 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:39.880 Yeah, if you couldn't tell, I was kind of waiting 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:41.600 for you to bring that up. I didn't really want. 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:44.760 To, Okay. Uh why don't you tell me about this? 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:54.920 Yeah? So Friday night, you know, having some me time, 0:00:55.960 --> 0:01:00.520 and I had this pen and you know, this isn't 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:03.160 the first time that I have done something like this, 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:09.840 but you know, I put I used the pen, and 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:14.800 after the activity is concluded, I removed the pen and 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:18.720 guess what didn't come out? 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:19.880 The cap of the pen? 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:23.080 Right? 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:32.160 Okay? So you were this was a sexual pleasure thing. Yeah, okay, 0:01:32.760 --> 0:01:36.840 So you shove the pin up your ass in pursuit 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:42.400 of sexual stimulation and the cap is now lodged in there. 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:47.119 That's correct, yes, okay? 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:52.200 And how recently did this take place? 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:56.560 This past Friday night? 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:00.400 This past Friday night? Okay? And is the pens cap 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:01.120 still in there? 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:04.040 It is still in there? 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:06.840 Okay. And it is currently Wednesday, so it has been 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:11.160 about Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday is about it's been about 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:13.320 five days since pen cap has been in your ass. 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:17.200 Yeah, you're really driving the point home. 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:18.080 Okay. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:23.640 And am I the first person who you came to 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:24.160 about this? 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:28.400 Yep? That is correct. 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:35.760 Have you considered other people who might be better equipped 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:39.680 to help you with the situation, perhaps just throwing it 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:42.760 out there a medical professional? 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:49.240 Of course I have. But here's okay. You know, I 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:52.200 call it because I wanted to. Obviously that's the first 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:55.400 thing someone would say. But I have my defenses. First 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:59.359 of all, it's extremely embarrassing, you know, that's obvious. And 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:03.280 second all, I'm not in any serious pain or discomfort, 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:08.359 So you know, why would I spend all that money 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:11.560 going to the doctor or the emergency room or whatever 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:15.799 if it's not a serious issue to my health? You're 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:19.520 or you know, if it's not an immediate serious issue, 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:20.919 like I'm not in any pain right now. 0:03:21.080 --> 0:03:27.239 So okay, so you're wait, No, you're just gonna wait 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:37.640 until it becomes a problem. 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:41.160 Kinda or or until I get the courage to finally go. 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:45.240 Do you do this with other things in your life? Like, 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:49.800 do you always wait until a situation is a critical 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:52.080 emergency until you handle it. 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:57.360 I do have a problem with avoiding things. 0:03:57.240 --> 0:04:03.280 Yes, okay, and you're problem with avoiding things. Has it 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:12.840 ever in the past made any problems significantly worse for you? 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:13.720 You know it has? 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.279 Tell it. Tell me about a time where it has. 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:28.080 Okay, So I kept procrastinating renewing my tags on my car. 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:32.640 So I had gotten two tickets and I just paid 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:35.279 the fines. You know, it was whatever. And after I 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:38.520 paid the fines, I finally did it. I finally went 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:43.159 to get my tag renewed, but because it was a 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:46.040 year overdue past the year overdue, I had to end 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:48.760 up getting a new plate and it was way more 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:51.240 money than just renewing the tags. 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:54.479 So I guess that's really funny to hear you tell 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:57.080 this story while you currently have a pen cap stuck 0:04:57.080 --> 0:05:08.000 in your ass. Yeah, Adam, I think if there were 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:12.880 ever going to be a straw that broke a camel's 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:18.719 back situation where you finally decided you're not going to 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:24.640 procrastinate anymore and you began your journey toward facing your 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:33.200 issues head on, it would absolutely be this one. 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:37.880 I cannot argue with that, So. 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:41.160 Why don't you go head over to the doctor, tell 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:43.039 them that you had a pin cap stuck in your ass? 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:46.080 You have a pin cap stuck in your ass, and 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:53.360 live in the shame. Realize it's not that bad, and 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:58.760 that you should have gone on Saturday. And then next 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:05.400 time you're embarrassed or you're procrastinating on something, you'll think 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:09.839 back to this and you'll go, Man, you know, I 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:11.919 went to the doctor and I told him about the 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.000 pen that I had in my ass, and lo and behold, 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:17.200 he reached in there, he got the pen out, and 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:20.400 it wasn't that bad. It wasn't nearly as bad as 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:23.000 I had been spending all of this time in my 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:26.400 head building it up to be. Maybe this situation is 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:28.719 just like that time I had that pen cap stuck 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:31.320 in my ass, and I should just handle it head 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:33.800 on because it's not as big of a deal as 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:37.160 I'm making it out to be. This is your opportunity 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:38.080 to learn that lesson. 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:44.800 You know, you're kind of right, I really do need 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:46.520 to well, Okay, I definitely have. 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:52.800 Adam, Adam, Adam, Adam, go get that pen cap out 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:53.720 of your ass. 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:57.200 Okay, I'll do it. I'll do it for you. 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:00.040 Thank you for calling Adam. Anything else gonna say the 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:01.120 people of the computer before we go. 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.600 Yes, I know you don't like when callers read chat. 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:10.040 But someone asked how I poop? I poop fine, like 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:11.960 it still comes out. I just want them to clarify 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:12.720 for anyone wants. 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:20.160 Adam Adam, Yes, Adam, go to the doctor. 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:28.320 Okay, okay, by Adam? Bye? 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:34.320 Hello, Hi, Hi le Molly. What's going on with you? Man? 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:38.120 Not much. 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:41.200 I have a I have a weird thing that's been 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:44.840 going on the last few months that I was looking 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:49.120 for some insight or advice on what did the screen 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:49.800 are put down? 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:54.760 Let's let's read it. Uh, Molly, it says here that 0:07:56.160 --> 0:08:00.960 you have Okay, I'm gonna read this whole thing. Uh okay. 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:05.200 It says says that you have a nightmare disorder and 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:08.840 you have been having vivid sex dreams that make you 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:12.400 feel like you're cheating on your boyfriend. And the sex 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:18.520 dreams are of characters that you have created in writing 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:22.680 an erotic novel, and you're afraid that you're falling in 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:27.400 love with the characters from your dreams, and apparently that's 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:32.880 causing you to feel as though you are essentially cheating 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.480 on your boyfriend with characters that you have created. 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:43.480 Uh, so that's mostly true. It started off with right 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:47.080 around the same time I started writing this erotic novel 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:50.760 last year, I do you know what a fandom is 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:53.360 or science fiction? 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:56.360 Yeah? I know what a fan fa And in uh, 0:08:57.160 --> 0:09:01.920 in middle school, Uh, kids in my grade were obsessed 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.240 with writing one direction fan fiction and they and people 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.520 would like, write me into it and stuff is weird, 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:09.720 But no, I am familiar with fan fiction. 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:14.920 So okay, okay. So I wrote a fan fiction last year, 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:19.559 and obviously it included a embarrassing to say because I'm 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:23.480 twenty eight an influencer. And right around that time, I 0:09:23.679 --> 0:09:28.280 started taking medication for nightmares that I've been suffering my 0:09:28.679 --> 0:09:33.880 entire life, like every single night, vivid grewesome. I like, 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:35.800 I don't even want to say it on the phone 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:39.200 because it's like fucked up what my dreams dreams. 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:39.680 Would come up with. 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.520 So while I was writing this, I got put in 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:47.959 the medication and I started having these dreams about this influencer. 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:52.199 But they weren't just sex dreams. I was falling in 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:58.880 love with this influencer, and eventually, as I guess you know, 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:01.520 I had as any dreams as I could about him. 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:05.360 It transgressed into the kid that sat behind me in 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:10.440 Spanish class one night, to my neighbor, to my uh 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:15.040 my boyfriend's brother, anyone that could come up with. And 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:20.600 they weren't just vivid sex dreams. I fell in love 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:24.280 with these people in these dreams. And still I don't 0:10:24.280 --> 0:10:26.320 know why I'm saying in past tense. And I wake 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:29.000 up every morning and look at my partner of nine years, 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:34.079 knowing I just had the most magical dream about Cole 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:38.840 hirsh You know, it's it's a lot. 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:40.720 You have. 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:44.640 You have you have dreams where you fall in love 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:49.040 with Cole hirsch Well. 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:51.960 Actually the sad part about that is I love him 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.840 a lot. And he was the only dream that we 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:58.000 went on a date. And neither one of us had 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:00.760 a good time. And I I don't know why it 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:05.080 was him specifically, but neither one of us really enjoyed ourselves. 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:07.040 We kind of were like looking at our watch. We 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.240 were like at a hot dog stand waiting to go 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:14.640 to Andrew's stand up show. But why I didn't love 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:17.280 Cole Hurst in that dream, but my neighbor from when 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:20.400 I was a kid growing up that you know that 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:23.480 wasn't fun, But people like Cole Hirst, I guess it's 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:24.560 a better example. 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:30.559 Well anyway, okay, so you're having these dreams about miscellaneous. 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:32.840 It's not just people from the internet. It's like, you know, 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:37.600 your brother's boyfriend, like just random people are like fictional characters. 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:40.960 Is all these people? How long? How long has this 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:43.080 been going on for that you've been having these vivid, 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:47.200 vivid love dreams about all these these different entities. 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:51.720 I started writing my novel and I started being put 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:55.679 on the medication probably in November, and it's every I 0:11:55.760 --> 0:11:59.560 have vivid dreams every night, and I have these love 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:01.920 dreams like five nights out of a week. 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:07.679 Okay, so they've been since November. So it's been like, God, 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:10.040 don't maybe do math right now, Like it's been several 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:11.880 months that you've been having these dreams. It's not been 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:13.040 like your entire life. 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:16.679 Yeah, okay, yeah, like nine months. I've been having nightmares 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:20.359 my whole life, but the love dreams, like nine months. 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:23.840 And have the love dreams replaced the nightmares? Or some 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:25.800 nights it's a nightmare, some nights it's a love dream. 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:30.600 Well that's the thing is why I am scared to 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:34.800 get off this medication is the medication has stopped the nightmares. 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:38.360 I don't have nightmares anymore, but instead they're replaced by 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:42.000 these love dreams. So I'm scared that if I get 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:45.679 off of it, I'm going to go back into, you know, 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:50.480 watching my family get tortured and these horrible things. And 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:53.800 it's like a it's like a toss up. I'm like, 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.600 I don't know which which is better because I'm sleeping great. 0:12:57.679 --> 0:13:03.640 But you know, well, to start here, I assume you 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:07.480 have a psychiatrist. That is the person that that prescribed 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:13.480 you this medicine. Yes, okay, Have you been to the 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:17.080 psychiatrist and told them, hey, not, my medicine working out great, 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:20.280 but it's giving me these other dreams that I don't 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:22.560 want to have, and now I don't know what to do. 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:23.360 You have you told them that? 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:29.520 So I haven't because a lot of psychiatrists are kind 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:33.800 of like quacks. They don't really care, especially mental health psychiatrists. 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:36.160 They don't really care, just putting you on something and 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:40.520 then whatever happens happened. I more so have talked to 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:43.680 my therapist about this, and he was the first person 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:48.240 I opened up to about my fan fiction, and he 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:51.040 told me that he also wrote fan fiction about Dean 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:54.280 from Supernatural. I guess when he was younger. So I 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:57.679 felt comfortable talking to him about it. But unfortunately, he's 0:13:57.720 --> 0:14:02.280 my therapist, not my psychiatrist. And with nightmare medications, it's 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:08.280 a specific medication that like works for blood pressure, but 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:12.880 also works for people with PTSD that have nightmares. It's 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:16.079 one of those things where it's not specifically for nightmares, 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:20.480 it's somehow in case studies it's also helped this. So 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.600 I've been apprehensive he's just this old dude. 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:27.440 Yeah, so okay, so when you tell your therapist that 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:29.520 you're having this problem, what is What does your therapist 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:31.680 say you if you don't tell your psychiatrist. 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:37.800 I guess I haven't talked to him recently about it. 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:42.360 I've I can play it out in my head, and 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:44.920 I know what he's going to say that you know, 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:48.240 it's better than the horrible nightmares where you wake up 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:52.760 crying and covered in sweat, So what's the harm? But 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:56.480 I don't know it's I don't know if it's a 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.280 sect with my sex life, with my with my partner 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:02.280 or you know what I mean yeah. 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.000 So so the first like, the first thing I'm going 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:05.760 to tell you, and this is what I always say, 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:10.840 is like, you know, look, I know why you maybe 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.840 don't have a trust for your psychiatrist or your therapist, 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:16.480 but like, you know, if you're having this issue, uh, 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:20.800 you know, in with a medication that they're prescribing you, 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:24.160 you know, my gecko guy on the computer, recommendation is 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:28.880 to tell them about it. But let's see. Okay, but okay, 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:31.720 so you should do that. That's the first thing I'll say. 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:33.920 But let's say you do that, and then yes, let's 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:37.280 say your therapist says, well, you know, the the love 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.320 dreams are better than the torture dreams. Okay, let's get 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:45.520 into that. Why tell me about the conflicting feelings surrounding 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:51.120 the love dreams. Why are they such a big problem 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:51.320 for you? 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:56.720 I mean, they're a big problem. I've been dating my 0:15:56.760 --> 0:16:00.320 partner for nine years, so obviously I'm madly in love 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:04.600 with him. But after nine years, it's not the butterflies. 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:07.720 It's not where, you know, having sex every single night. 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:09.920 We can't keep our eyes off of each other. But 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:12.880 I love him. It's like that stagnant I love you, 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:18.360 not these like giant sparks or whatever. And I've heard 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:23.080 that this is kind of a thing with specifically women 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.880 that write romance novels or erotic novels that can actually 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:28.840 be kind of detrimental to their love life because they 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:33.280 create this ideal man in their brain and then no 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:36.760 other man lives up to it because they're literally creating 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:37.680 them on paper. 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:38.920 Tell me more about that. 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:47.200 Yes, so it's it's become a problem because my partner 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:50.240 Will couldn't live up to this character I created. And like, 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:53.560 the thing about fan fiction is you take this person 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:56.280 and the things you like about them, and then you 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:58.640 add these all these other things that you don't even 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.560 know about them. I didn't know Coule Hirsch, like hot dogs, 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.119 you know, like you create these things in your writing 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:09.320 or in your dreams whatever. So it it would turn 0:17:09.440 --> 0:17:13.880 into it was so weird, dude, because I have these 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:17.440 dreams of people that I was never attracted to, I'm 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:21.679 not attracted to, and I would still, like in my 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:25.000 dream I would wake up or in my dream i'd 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:26.360 be so in love with them and I would wake 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:29.479 up and have that feeling. And oh no, what I 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:32.920 was saying is women can't wake up with boners obviously, 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:37.080 but it's like the equivalent of like that, you're just 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:42.160 like wanting sex, but it's a weird feeling because it's 0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:44.160 I don't know, I don't know how to describe it. 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:51.639 And so it's is it creating a problem for you 0:17:51.680 --> 0:17:56.280 because you feel like it is making you to devalue 0:17:56.480 --> 0:17:59.439 your Did you say he's your husbands or boyfriends. 0:17:59.000 --> 0:18:02.640 Or he's my we've been together nine years. He's basically 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:05.600 my husband without the ranks, So whatever you want, okay. 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.880 All right, Yeah, let's do significant other nice. So let's 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:11.800 do partner perfectly. That's good, that's a good catch all perfect, 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:13.720 all right, So your partner, it's uh, do you feel 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:17.640 like it's making you value your partner? Liss? 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:23.440 I don't know, dude, Like when I first it depends 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:27.120 on the nights, the nights where the dreams are so romantic, 0:18:27.240 --> 0:18:32.320 so beautiful. Yeah, sometimes it'll be the littlest thing he'll 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:35.400 slip up on, like, oh, you didn't walk the dog 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:38.359 when before I got home from work. Great, and it'll 0:18:38.400 --> 0:18:41.840 be an extra ooms because I just had the dream 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:45.520 the night before that we're so romantic. But if you 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:48.280 know we have sex that day it's a little different. 0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:53.840 It's I don't know if it's I'm still very attracted 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.800 to him, and I feel like it makes it better 0:18:56.840 --> 0:18:58.920 that a lot of these dreams now, because my brain 0:18:58.960 --> 0:19:03.000 has literally run out of catalogs of how many influencer 0:19:03.119 --> 0:19:05.960 celebrities meant in my life to have sex dreams about 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:08.760 that most of them I don't find attractive in real life. 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:12.600 So and I'm kind of used to it by now. Also, 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:13.680 So I don't. 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:19.520 Know, m is this something that you have talked to 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:20.680 your partner about? 0:19:23.680 --> 0:19:26.679 I mean, he's in the other room listening to the stream. 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:30.160 I will if you're listening, Okay. 0:19:29.920 --> 0:19:32.480 Is this something that you're Is this something that your 0:19:32.520 --> 0:19:35.879 partner is finding out about right this very moment. 0:19:37.320 --> 0:19:41.960 He just left from the other room. Yeah, basically he 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:44.399 knew I wrote the erotic novel and he knew the 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:47.080 Influencer was about. But yeah, he did not know any 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:47.800 of this. Really. 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:51.879 Okay, what should we get him on the phone? Is 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:52.880 that would that be helpful? 0:19:54.480 --> 0:19:58.840 I will, he can be kind of awkward on the phone, 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:01.280 but sure, I will Garrison speaker for a mile. 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:04.920 All right, Hey, what's up man? What's your name? 0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:07.360 My name is Will. 0:20:08.119 --> 0:20:08.520 Are you doing. 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:09.200 How are you doing? Will? 0:20:10.560 --> 0:20:14.760 I'm doing all right. We're very very unexpected change of 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:15.800 events tonight, I guess. 0:20:15.840 --> 0:20:20.639 But so you are? Are are just sort of now 0:20:21.680 --> 0:20:25.280 hearing all of these these issues and about all these 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:27.399 dreams that your partner is having. 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:32.200 Yeah, I think there was maybe a small things you mentioned, 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:36.560 but I guess the scope of it, yeah, was probably 0:20:36.560 --> 0:20:38.600 not revealed until Yeah. 0:20:38.800 --> 0:20:41.119 Okay, And how are you? How are you feeling in 0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:42.679 this moment? What do you what do you make of 0:20:42.720 --> 0:20:43.160 all of this? 0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:48.560 You know, I I feel a little bit weird, but 0:20:48.600 --> 0:20:50.400 I don't feel like I can be mad at someone, 0:20:50.440 --> 0:20:52.359 So there's subconscious you know what I mean. It's like, 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:55.320 of course, I know we everyone has weird. I guess 0:20:55.359 --> 0:20:57.639 it's like I don't have as many vivid dreams, but 0:20:57.680 --> 0:20:59.720 I don't. She told me she's had a lot of 0:20:59.720 --> 0:21:02.040 mess of dreams, and I've never like, I've never held 0:21:02.040 --> 0:21:03.520 that against her because, like, I feel like you can't 0:21:03.600 --> 0:21:05.960 hold someone subconscious against them, right, because it's not like 0:21:06.000 --> 0:21:08.000 something it's not something they can control. That's kind of 0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:13.359 where I guess I'm looking at it interesting. 0:21:15.040 --> 0:21:19.479 I mean, what you know, I already told uh, Molly 0:21:19.680 --> 0:21:23.280 that you know, she should go to get better help 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:26.679 from her actual you know, psychiatrist and therapist. But you know, 0:21:26.800 --> 0:21:28.960 I mean you hearing all of this and and you 0:21:29.200 --> 0:21:33.880 knowing her as a person very intimately, you know, do 0:21:33.880 --> 0:21:37.760 do you have any kind of perspective on this issue 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:40.159 where things that that you think would be helpful for 0:21:40.200 --> 0:21:44.280 her to to do and in dealing with with these feelings, 0:21:44.359 --> 0:21:48.959 especially since they're a lot of these feelings are about 0:21:49.520 --> 0:21:51.320 your guys' relationship. 0:21:53.480 --> 0:21:56.719 That's a good question. And honestly, this is a this 0:21:56.760 --> 0:21:59.560 is a very kind of abstract issue that I don't 0:21:59.560 --> 0:22:02.320 even know how to really approach it, to be honest, 0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:05.159 I mean, I guess just being open about it, right, 0:22:05.160 --> 0:22:07.480 because I mean it's maybe I think maybe part of 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:10.159 it is her feeling like she's holding this in and 0:22:10.160 --> 0:22:12.560 that maybe that's creating the dreams more vividly. I don't know, 0:22:12.560 --> 0:22:14.520 you know what I mean, Like if you're suppressing something, 0:22:14.520 --> 0:22:18.240 maybe that's making it more intense. I don't know. No, honestly, 0:22:18.480 --> 0:22:23.960 I'm not sure. Besides me being open about it, honestly, mm. 0:22:21.760 --> 0:22:24.919 Hmmm, yeah, man, I think being open about it is 0:22:25.080 --> 0:22:29.760 uh definitely helps because another thing is and again this 0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:32.240 is why I you know, I wonder what her actual 0:22:32.520 --> 0:22:39.720 psychology team people would think. But like, is there is 0:22:39.760 --> 0:22:43.080 there a desire that she asked? Because you know, she 0:22:43.160 --> 0:22:45.080 said all that, she said she loves you, she said 0:22:45.080 --> 0:22:48.120 she's attracted to you very very much. But is there 0:22:48.240 --> 0:22:55.399 like a desire that she has that is not being fulfilled, 0:22:55.640 --> 0:23:01.680 Not because of anyone's ignorance or because of anyone's malice, 0:23:01.800 --> 0:23:04.480 but because of because we don't know what it is, 0:23:04.480 --> 0:23:06.359 because we haven't figured it out, because you guys haven't 0:23:06.640 --> 0:23:09.679 you know, maybe talked about it enough. And maybe if 0:23:09.760 --> 0:23:12.040 you guys talked to it, maybe if you were, as 0:23:12.040 --> 0:23:14.520 you were saying, very open with each other, got down 0:23:14.560 --> 0:23:19.040 to the bottom of well, what is my subconscious trying 0:23:19.080 --> 0:23:22.159 to hint that here you could find a good solution. 0:23:22.320 --> 0:23:24.440 I don't know what the solution is, but maybe that's 0:23:24.760 --> 0:23:26.119 a way that you could try to find it. 0:23:27.560 --> 0:23:29.600 No, that makes sense. Maybe there's some bigger issue that 0:23:30.200 --> 0:23:31.960 needs to be addressed here. I don't know. 0:23:33.840 --> 0:23:39.160 What do you think, Molly, I mean, I think you're 0:23:39.200 --> 0:23:43.920 onto something. It's we're a little vanilla in the bedroom, 0:23:44.200 --> 0:23:47.920 so it wouldn't hard to maybe explore That's, like I said, 0:23:48.000 --> 0:23:52.040 when you've been together nine years. It's a static level 0:23:53.040 --> 0:23:56.760 and the erotica I wrote, there's a reason why I've 0:23:56.800 --> 0:23:59.080 only let two people in my life read it because 0:23:59.119 --> 0:24:04.560 it is pretty raunchy and nasty. So and Will's read it. 0:24:04.760 --> 0:24:10.040 I mean, it wouldn't hurt if maybe we I don't know, 0:24:10.200 --> 0:24:12.399 tried some stuff in there. Maybe I don't know. 0:24:13.040 --> 0:24:15.920 Okay, all right, so I mean here, while we're here, 0:24:16.640 --> 0:24:19.800 what are we thinking? Are we thinking you know, some 0:24:20.000 --> 0:24:27.000 role play situation, you know, introducing new elements like what 0:24:28.200 --> 0:24:33.040 maybe you could brainstorm different ways to spice that you 0:24:33.080 --> 0:24:35.159 don't have to do it on this call right now 0:24:35.240 --> 0:24:37.760 if you don't want it, but but maybe. 0:24:37.520 --> 0:24:40.280 You think of different Okay. 0:24:39.760 --> 0:24:41.920 Maybe you could think of ways to spice things. I 0:24:41.960 --> 0:24:43.639 don't know. If you want Will to role play as 0:24:43.720 --> 0:24:46.480 Coal hirsh put on glasses and a mustang. 0:24:47.280 --> 0:24:49.879