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Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you

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Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe

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Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.

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Speaker 1: What arever the cases I want to hear from you.

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Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're

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Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help

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Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and

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Speaker 2: Hey Cheekys, I hope you're doing well. I freaking adore

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Speaker 2: you and your whole family the RIVERA. I freaking love, love, love,

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Speaker 2: Who you don't understand? I even freaking name my dog

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Speaker 2: Cheekies like my little York Cheekies. But I do have

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Speaker 2: a relationship question. I'm twenty six, I have been in

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Speaker 2: a relationship for about ten years. We're going on eleven soon,

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Speaker 2: and I just feel like he just emotionally isn't fair anymore.

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Speaker 2: I do try to tell him, like, you know, you

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Speaker 2: help anytime I do, say, Loko, I want I would

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Speaker 2: love flowers to show like you appreciate me. All of

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Speaker 2: a sudden, I get called entitled.

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Speaker 3: I tell him like I want to go.

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Speaker 2: On dayt here and there. Unfortunately, for some reason, I'm entitled,

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Speaker 2: like you'll go out with anybody and everybody except for me.

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Speaker 2: He's the in the world I haven't and still yet

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Speaker 2: it doesn't want to do anything with me, so too

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Speaker 2: Medici love you, girlie, Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Oh Mama, I love you too. Okay, I'm gonna be

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Speaker 1: real with you right now, Isa, I'm gonna be real.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be one hundred. This is the feeling that

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Speaker 1: I'm getting as I'm listening to your question. The feeling

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Speaker 1: there was another one and I forgot. But the point

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Speaker 1: is that in a relationship, that's what we're supposed to do.

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Speaker 1: We're supposed to communicate. We are constantly evolving, we are changing.

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Speaker 1: Especially if you guys met you said ten eleven years ago,

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Speaker 1: you were fifteen sixteen. How old is he? I don't

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Speaker 1: it's kind of like, and I don't know if this

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Speaker 1: he's not hidden me, he's not this Like yes, but

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Speaker 1: and it's how does he say that you're entitled? Hello,

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Speaker 1: Janet, do you seem like a very wise beyond your

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Speaker 1: as Latinos, we're very close, but sometimes what they believe

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Speaker 1: Put it on YouTube. We have social media, like send

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Speaker 3: dear Cheeky's episode where somebody asked you about painting your

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