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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the COLO, our chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. All right, this is from Shelley and Ridgeland.

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Speaker 1: Shelley writes, my son is a ladies man, and I

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Speaker 1: have had too many young ladies tell me that he

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Speaker 1: ghosts them after sex. I've told him to stop bringing

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Speaker 1: them to meet me because it gives the wrong impression.

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Speaker 1: He's a junior in college now, so is he too

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Speaker 1: far gone?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he out there right now. But the lesson is coming.

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Speaker 3: The lesson is coming.

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Speaker 2: See. He uses them to bring them to meet you.

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Speaker 3: That's one of his ploys to get them hooked a

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Speaker 3: little bit deeper.

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Speaker 2: Then he ghost them.

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Speaker 3: It's a really stupid technique that your seun is applying

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Speaker 3: here because it's going to backfire.

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Speaker 2: So it's nothing you can tell him, but the life.

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Speaker 3: Gonna teach it to him because women are not not dumb,

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Speaker 3: and somebody gonna flip the script on homeboy. So that

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Speaker 3: not coming to meet you. He bring him to meet

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Speaker 3: you so he can get them hooked in tighter. Then

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Speaker 3: he ghost them.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, little boomerang with Eddie he was all about, yeah.

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Speaker 2: All right, yeah, let's see how long this's work.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Coelo. Coming up next is Irma in Indianapolis.

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Speaker 1: Irma says, Colo, you've been married for too long and

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Speaker 1: you're out of the loop on what's going on. I'm

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Speaker 1: your age and I have multiple sexual partners and enjoy

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Speaker 1: dating and having choices. Is it wrong to date multiple

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Speaker 1: people because you can't do it anymore?

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Speaker 2: Because you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, hey, lady, you can do what you

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Speaker 3: want to do, knock yourself out. But I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 3: you something right now. Though I don't know, a whole

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Speaker 3: lot of people buy and use tires expound.

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Speaker 1: What does that mean?

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Speaker 2: Please?

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Speaker 3: Well, you can keep letting everybody drive you if you

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Speaker 3: want to. Point in time, you gonna want to get bought,

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Speaker 3: and I don't know a lot of people buying.

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Speaker 2: You's tired, so you can go.

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Speaker 3: I can be old fashioned of what I'm gonna do,

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Speaker 3: and I'm just a little bit more traditional.

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Speaker 2: But it's not gonna work out for you, ma'am. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: In the words of Slick Hobby my daddy, you can't

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Speaker 3: do what I do and still be a lady.

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Speaker 2: So go ahead.

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Speaker 3: You can date all the men, you won't have all

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Speaker 3: the choices you want. You can knock yourself out. Make

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Speaker 3: that your choice. But when you get tired of it

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Speaker 3: and you ready to settle down, and you will, and

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Speaker 3: you gonna want somebody to take care of you.

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Speaker 2: Hardly get somebody to take care of you that was

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Speaker 2: only there to do you.

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Speaker 1: Oh she's your age, Steve, you do know that, right.

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Speaker 3: Irma, Well, you know you don't care. First of all,

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Speaker 3: very few people get married anymore, name Irma.

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Speaker 2: It's just I'm getting it in.

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Speaker 1: She's like, you're judging her, Steve's I.

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Speaker 2: Ain't judging her. She judged me, she told me, she

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Speaker 2: wrote me. I didn't write.

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Speaker 3: I don't even know her. She could have just been

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Speaker 3: living her best life. But you're gonna write to see

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Speaker 3: her Lord and tell me I'm out of touch and

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Speaker 3: all that.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna just be out of touch, yeah, she says she.

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Speaker 2: But in a minute, you're gonna get tired of getting touched.

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Speaker 1: Well, okay, okay, run, I guess you all will agree

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Speaker 1: to disagree on this one, all right. Moving on to

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Speaker 1: Arisha in Miami, Risha writes, I'm thirty six years old

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Speaker 1: and I have six children. I had two kids before marriage,

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Speaker 1: and my late husband and I had four more. It

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Speaker 1: has been two years since he died, and I would

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Speaker 1: like to remarry one day. Should I tell a man

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Speaker 1: that I have six kids upfront or wait a while?

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Speaker 3: Either way, it's gonna be shocking. What day you tell

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Speaker 3: him that you you can tell it to him on

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Speaker 3: the first day, or you can tell him after the

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Speaker 3: first time. Y'all entered it, By the way, tell them

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Speaker 3: before they ddom.

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Speaker 2: I hope you. I hope you enjoyed it. Yeah, how

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Speaker 2: would you say that? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You know, I hope you enjured. Was it good for

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Speaker 3: you? You know? I got six babies.

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Speaker 1: Just segue right on into it after that.

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Speaker 2: And they're young too, because she's thirty six.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's thirty six.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, oldest one probably eighteen. It's cool, you know, I mean,

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Speaker 3: you know it can happen. People find love anybody. I

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Speaker 3: don't want to be discouraging to you. But when you

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Speaker 3: tell them really ain't important. How they gonna handle their news.

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Speaker 3: Surely it don't matter when you tell them is how

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Speaker 3: they gonna handle the news.

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Speaker 4: They gonna sound just like Kevin Hard when he was

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Speaker 4: with Don Cheelah.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. That is classic, isn't it. All right, So

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Speaker 1: I like that, So Cilo, you're saying it doesn't matter

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Speaker 1: when she tells them. Okay, no, its okay, all right,

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Speaker 1: moving on, last one, last one, Steve. This is from

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Speaker 1: Fleming in Bethesda. Fleming writes, my wife thinks she won't

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Speaker 1: have to work after our baby is born. I told

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Speaker 1: her that's impossible because childcare is expensive. She said, She's

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Speaker 1: asked her family to help us, and it's all figured out.

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Speaker 1: What can I do to keep her from quitting her

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Speaker 1: good job? That's what the husband wants to know. Fleming can't.

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Speaker 3: I can't help you, brother, I can't help you. I

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Speaker 3: can't help you. I have my advice. I mean, well,

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Speaker 3: I have no advice for you. I don't know how

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Speaker 3: to get a woman to quit her job after she

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Speaker 3: done had a baby. I've never had a baby. It

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Speaker 3: looks pretty, looks pretty taxing to me. It looks like

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Speaker 3: looks pretty grueling to me. So keep working, Get on

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Speaker 3: back out there, get on your job. You ain't did

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Speaker 3: nothing but had a baby. I don't really know how

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Speaker 3: you're gonna breach this sabject, but she wants to stay

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Speaker 3: home and be a.

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Speaker 2: House Yeah more dog, you could just could what just

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Speaker 2: going to be the provider that you signed up to be.

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Speaker 1: There's that, But he's saying it's impossible because childcare is

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Speaker 1: so expensive. He is thinking about the money for sure.

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Speaker 3: Well, he said it's impossible, and it's not impossible. People

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Speaker 3: do it all the time. There are people doing it

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Speaker 3: on one household incomes all over the world. It is doable.

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Speaker 3: I admit it's expensive. Yeah, you're saying it's impossible. Uh,

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Speaker 3: you know, you went into this think marriage thinking it

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Speaker 3: was too equal endeavor to household income. And now she

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Speaker 3: don't want to go back to work. She wants to

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Speaker 3: take care of the baby. So it's about priority. So

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Speaker 3: good luck, man, I got nothing for you.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know. I'm the one work in

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Speaker 2: my house. I don't know what to tell you.

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Speaker 3: I don't know how to get nobody to go get

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Speaker 3: a job. Tell me the only one work in his house.

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Speaker 3: I don't know how to you can't. I don't know

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Speaker 3: how to do the job.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to become a uber broup. My wife was

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Speaker 2: trying to retire and we just got a dog. So

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Speaker 2: what she don't want to baby. You're just saying, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you're going to become an uber dron. Yeah, that got

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Speaker 2: people know the job. I gotta be back.

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Speaker 4: You can't have that heat on on hot and people

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Speaker 4: with you.

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