Speaker 1: Second date updated.
Speaker 2: You know, on dating apps now, where the average decent
Speaker 2: looking woman gets two thousand matches per day, and that's
Speaker 2: like two thousand guys messaging her and complimenting her, trying
Speaker 2: to take her out. It's more important than ever for
Speaker 2: guys to be creative and witty when they're talking, or
Speaker 2: at least google something creative and witty and then copy
Speaker 2: that like it's yours.
Speaker 3: So it's like, Hi, how are you not enough?
Speaker 1: Oh you're getting blocked?
Speaker 4: Stop stop yeah no all lower case letters ew.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But that's exactly what happened to one of our
Speaker 2: listeners May recently when she matched with a guy online
Speaker 2: named Doug, and their conversation apparently got pretty interesting, but
Speaker 2: his first line was just straight up asking her out.
Speaker 2: And May, what did you immediately notice from Doug's dating profile, Well,
Speaker 2: there is.
Speaker 5: A couple funny things on his profile. In his pictures,
Speaker 5: he had a woman in it.
Speaker 3: WI.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a bold thing on a dating app, like
Speaker 2: a woman his age or like a mom type of person.
Speaker 5: No, it seemed like like maybe a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Or girls do this too. And you know, I always
Speaker 1: slept left. I'm like, why would your main profile be
Speaker 1: you and some guy.
Speaker 3: To prove that you can actually go out with someone.
Speaker 1: So what did you write back when you saw that
Speaker 1: there's another woman in his pictures?
Speaker 5: I frankly said, is your girlfriend going to be okay
Speaker 5: with this girlfriend?
Speaker 4: I can't believe you still wrote him back, you know,
Speaker 4: but like, okay.
Speaker 1: Give me back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's good to call somebody out to ye like, hey,
Speaker 2: you know, did he have a response.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he responded that he doesn't have a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well I would believe him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good point.
Speaker 2: Just trust just whatever guys say, and all the time,
Speaker 2: trust the internet.
Speaker 4: So who is the woman? What did he say she was?
Speaker 4: What was the explanation?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 5: So I obviously asked, who's this woman in the photo?
Speaker 5: And he responds, Oh, that's my wife, but we're just friends.
Speaker 7: With a laughing emoji.
Speaker 2: Jo it's called sarcasm and sarcasm he doubled.
Speaker 4: Down to down like's so.
Speaker 1: That or did you think it was funny?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 5: I thought it was funny. I obviously knew it was
Speaker 5: a joke.
Speaker 4: Explain the joke after he said it.
Speaker 3: So that's cool though, So you guys are on the
Speaker 3: same page.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I really liked his humor. And he did this
Speaker 5: other thing that I thought was really funny too, is
Speaker 5: you know, he was telling me that dating apps are
Speaker 5: really hard for guys, and in his experience, it's been tough. Yeah,
Speaker 5: he's ghosted so many times.
Speaker 2: Sorry to say that he's been ghosted or he has
Speaker 2: ghosted other people.
Speaker 5: He said that he's been ghosts.
Speaker 1: Okay, but he.
Speaker 4: Really meant both.
Speaker 5: Yeah. He sent me a photo of him at a
Speaker 5: table by himself, laughing and said at this point he
Speaker 5: started dating actual ghosts.
Speaker 4: Oh, it's funny.
Speaker 2: I think he's being self deprecating, saying, like, see, nobody
Speaker 2: wants to go out.
Speaker 4: It's a dangerous area to tread because at some point
Speaker 4: it will start to make you look kind.
Speaker 3: Of sad empathetic, right at some point, like it's.
Speaker 4: Not funny anymore.
Speaker 3: You know how hard you going?
Speaker 2: Well, how many people showed up to my birthday party?
Speaker 1: I'm alone?
Speaker 2: Brook just helped me realize it's probably my problem. You
Speaker 2: just make fun of yourself a little too much. But
Speaker 2: you didn't feel that way. May You felt like he
Speaker 2: was just doing just enough to be humorous.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean you have to get somebody's attension. You know,
Speaker 5: it's hard there's a lot of options out there, and
Speaker 5: so that's.
Speaker 1: How he stood.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Well so you did you guys end
Speaker 1: up going out?
Speaker 5: We did? Yeah, we went out for drink.
Speaker 4: And what was that like the first time you saw
Speaker 4: each other?
Speaker 5: It was nice. I mean he seemed really nice, a
Speaker 5: little more spoken than I would have thought, oh.
Speaker 4: Because he was so bold and sarcastic.
Speaker 1: He's writing.
Speaker 4: That's interesting, he'd.
Speaker 1: Be cracking jokes the whole time.
Speaker 5: But I mean it was fun. He seemed like a
Speaker 5: really good guy. He's interesting. He's in a band.
Speaker 4: There's another red flags. Nothing red flag, I don't know,
Speaker 4: just musicians.
Speaker 1: What's the reputation?
Speaker 4: Are you kidding?
Speaker 1: They're talented?
Speaker 4: No, I'm not talking about parody songs.
Speaker 3: There.
Speaker 1: I think he's a keeper. Don't let this one go.
Speaker 4: A singer, I say, I mean, it's cool that he's
Speaker 4: in a band.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I thought it was cool. I really enjoyed the conversation.
Speaker 5: I thought we really got along. We even kissed at
Speaker 5: the end of the night.
Speaker 1: Who and musicians never can wow? Okay, so what's happened
Speaker 1: since the date?
Speaker 5: I honestly just haven't really been able to get a
Speaker 5: hold of him.
Speaker 1: Is he ghost you, the irony that he's the one
Speaker 1: can play.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's a weird thing. Like he's like talking
Speaker 4: about how terrible the dating world goes.
Speaker 5: I just want to quickly correct myself. I'm not able
Speaker 5: to get a hold of him on the phone, but
Speaker 5: we are texting a little bit back and forth.
Speaker 4: Okay, it's not totally silent.
Speaker 5: I mean, the thing is, I have a lot of options.
Speaker 5: I have a lot of people asking me out, but
Speaker 5: I wanted to give Doug a chance because I really
Speaker 5: enjoyed my time with him. So I don't know. I'm
Speaker 5: just kind of thinking maybe he does have a wife.
Speaker 4: Or right, like like there's always some truth in every joke, right,
Speaker 4: Maybe he's just so used to being ghosted he doesn't
Speaker 4: know how to act around a woman who actually wants
Speaker 4: to be with him.
Speaker 1: She's like, let's go out again. He's like, don't mock me. Yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I hope I didn't duction by actually
Speaker 5: asking him to.
Speaker 1: We'll find out. We'll come back call him and try
Speaker 1: and get your second date update.
Speaker 2: Right now, second date update, if you're just joining us,
Speaker 2: We're on the phone with one of our listeners, May
Speaker 2: who in her own words, is a woman with lots
Speaker 2: and lots of other male options online.
Speaker 4: I mean, so she's a woman.
Speaker 1: Yes, she is quite the woman.
Speaker 2: Her bumble hinge notifications are blowing up on the rag.
Speaker 2: But she's not thinking about all those other dudes Thurston
Speaker 2: after her and her picks. She's thinking about one guy
Speaker 2: named Doug, Funny, simple, nice guy in a band, Doug,
Speaker 2: who went on one day with her and immediately got
Speaker 2: her attention. But now, for some reason afterwards they can't
Speaker 2: send a nail down a time to hang out again.
Speaker 3: Even though Doug went on and on about how terrible
Speaker 3: dating is for.
Speaker 2: Him, which has may worried that maybe he actually might
Speaker 2: be married. Right because they joked about the woman in
Speaker 2: his profile pick being his wife, Maybe it wasn't so
Speaker 2: jokey after all.
Speaker 8: You know.
Speaker 3: It's one of those things where he's like, well, I.
Speaker 2: Told her, how mad would you be if we get
Speaker 2: him on the phone and he told you that actually
Speaker 2: is his wife?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 5: I would be pretty upset because I don't accept lie,
Speaker 5: did you know what?
Speaker 3: Not as upset as his wife would be. I'm just
Speaker 3: trying to look at the positive here.
Speaker 2: Who would be angrier his wife maybe we'll find out
Speaker 2: in a couple of minutes.
Speaker 1: Here we make it a really angry Texan. Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: my husband. But now let's just call it Doug and
Speaker 1: see what he asked to say. You ready?
Speaker 5: I am?
Speaker 1: Okay, good job, Jeff.
Speaker 6: Here we go.
Speaker 7: Hello.
Speaker 1: Hey, is this Doug?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: This is Doug.
Speaker 2: Hey, Doug, you don't have to sound so skeptical. It's okay,
Speaker 2: nothing sinister going on on our end. We're just a
Speaker 2: radio show hoping to talk to you.
Speaker 4: Hey, Doug, what's.
Speaker 7: What's going on here?
Speaker 2: What's going on is a segment we do called the
Speaker 2: Second Date Update, and you're gonna be our featured star
Speaker 2: for the day.
Speaker 1: No, I don't believe you, Doug.
Speaker 6: He's honest.
Speaker 2: I think you're more excited than you're letting on because
Speaker 2: we're trying to hook you up with one of our
Speaker 2: listeners who you've already been out on a date with,
Speaker 2: and she just wants to see you one more time.
Speaker 1: Her name's May.
Speaker 7: Are you kidding me?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: Oh, that was a good surprise.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she sounds darling, and it sounds like you guys
Speaker 4: had a great time together.
Speaker 1: Yes, with all the noises, Doug, she's into you. That's
Speaker 1: that's a good thing.
Speaker 4: I thought dating was so hard for you, Like, this
Speaker 4: is like.
Speaker 1: You got one.
Speaker 7: I was like, you guys know a lot about me.
Speaker 2: Well, we've heard some stuff from you. From May herself,
Speaker 2: she we asked her to describe your date and she
Speaker 2: had glowing reviews.
Speaker 4: Honestly, she said you're really funny, and.
Speaker 1: She thought your profile's funny too.
Speaker 7: Yeah, she talked about the profile.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it came up, yeah, that you had a funny
Speaker 2: joke about the girl in your picture.
Speaker 4: Well, we asked because we thought that the girl was
Speaker 4: a ready Yeah, yeah, you should change that.
Speaker 1: That's not the reason why we call.
Speaker 2: We're not calling to criticize your dating profile though, yeah
Speaker 2: we could, But now we're we're really focused on May
Speaker 2: because she's really confused.
Speaker 1: She wants to see you. She feels like she's been
Speaker 1: reaching out trying to arrange a date and you keep
Speaker 1: avoiding her.
Speaker 4: Is she reading that right?
Speaker 7: I mean she does keep suggesting nights, you know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's usually when you say, yeah, Friday works
Speaker 4: great for me.
Speaker 1: Unless you're not into her, if there's some other problem.
Speaker 4: Married, Yeah, so.
Speaker 7: That's two Friday night. She asked to see my band
Speaker 7: and like.
Speaker 8: She wants to come to me and perform and like
Speaker 8: grab a drink after work.
Speaker 1: That's nice, you have a show.
Speaker 4: She's even interested in, like your hobbies.
Speaker 1: Why you're saying it like it's a bad thing.
Speaker 5: I don't, I don't, I don't.
Speaker 7: I didn't even know how to answer her, Like, what
Speaker 7: do you mean?
Speaker 6: You know?
Speaker 7: She was even asking for a one on one concert
Speaker 7: at my place.
Speaker 2: That's her flirting with you, Doug. That means she wants
Speaker 2: to see you, and probably.
Speaker 5: On a stage in my house.
Speaker 3: Too much pressure.
Speaker 1: You probably have to put on an entire concert. She
Speaker 1: just wanting to hang out.
Speaker 4: I don't think she cares about the basic bro.
Speaker 7: Oh, there's pressure when like she thinks that I know
Speaker 7: how to play guitar, you know, like I'm not really in.
Speaker 8: A band, Like I'm not.
Speaker 7: I'm not really musical at all.
Speaker 1: You said you're not a page. You told her that
Speaker 1: you're in a band.
Speaker 7: Well, I need something to sound cool like and make
Speaker 7: me stand out.
Speaker 4: You chose do something that you actually do. I'm sure
Speaker 4: there's something cool about you.
Speaker 7: Yeah, there's cool things about me, like, but you gotta
Speaker 7: have something to like really sticks out, you know.
Speaker 4: Well, I mean I get it, Like you're in a
Speaker 4: it's a lot of pressure, you're having a hard time dating,
Speaker 4: like with the apps and stuff. You want to stand out,
Speaker 4: and then suddenly this lie is snowballing, is what it
Speaker 4: sounds like.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and I really liked her and I didn't know
Speaker 7: what to do and she keeps asking me like.
Speaker 5: She looked.
Speaker 2: That's why you're not getting this date because she's asking
Speaker 2: based on the lie that you've told her that you're
Speaker 2: in a band and you're not.
Speaker 3: But that's a lot better lie than he was married.
Speaker 2: It really is.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's kind of cute.
Speaker 4: You're trying to impress her, you.
Speaker 2: Know, And that's that's a rough lie to go with, though,
Speaker 2: Like if you're not in a band, how are you
Speaker 2: ever going to prove.
Speaker 3: The panicked Jeff Okay came to mind.
Speaker 7: Is gonna go with that? Or be a Formula one
Speaker 7: race car driver?
Speaker 2: That is?
Speaker 3: Those jackets are brilliant style right now for girls.
Speaker 1: And a guy that lives dangerously on the race track.
Speaker 2: Had no Americans watch, so you could say you're like
Speaker 2: from France, that's that one.
Speaker 7: At least I could have said I was in an
Speaker 7: off season right.
Speaker 3: Now, just driving your kia around.
Speaker 5: Okay, I've heard enough.
Speaker 1: Oh you have what?
Speaker 7: What? What?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Doug, he didn't know. That's May who's been listening
Speaker 2: on the other line right now.
Speaker 3: To being honest now, whether you wanted to or not.
Speaker 7: Yeah, look, I'm I'm sorry.
Speaker 8: Like you were like so pretty and then cool and
Speaker 8: like I just I wanted you to like me. I
Speaker 8: just I felt like I had to say something cool.
Speaker 5: You know, that's really sweet. But also we've spent half
Speaker 5: of the time I'm on our first date talking about
Speaker 5: your band.
Speaker 4: WoT bro.
Speaker 7: Here's the thing though, like immediately after already, like I
Speaker 7: signed up for piano lessons.
Speaker 4: Can't count the band not quite as sexy, usually the
Speaker 4: least sexy of a band as a keyboardist.
Speaker 1: But did you say you played guitar in the band though, Doug.
Speaker 7: Yeah, but the guitar lessons were more.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna play the triangle.
Speaker 5: May.
Speaker 4: Do you feel like you know anything about him?
Speaker 5: I know, like a couple of things about where he
Speaker 5: grew up, and look, it was just the band thing,
Speaker 5: like everything else was real.
Speaker 1: Do you hear that everything else he said was real,
Speaker 1: like the wife and his photos.
Speaker 7: No, no, not that.
Speaker 5: Everything else except for that I don't need any big,
Speaker 5: fancy career or any you know, super impressive hobby. I'm
Speaker 5: just looking for a really genuine, funny person.
Speaker 4: And besides, Doug, do you know that when she told
Speaker 4: us about the band, Alexis and I were both.
Speaker 3: Like red flag. It's true, red Flag. You can't trust
Speaker 3: a guy in the band. Apparently you can't trust a
Speaker 3: guy not in a band.
Speaker 7: And girls always loved mad boys in.
Speaker 2: Band, but not for long my friend, would you honestly
Speaker 2: have been interested in him if he did not say
Speaker 2: he was in a band?
Speaker 5: Yeah? The thing that attracted me to him was his
Speaker 5: humor and that he was funny.
Speaker 3: Well did he come up with a good band name?
Speaker 3: Maybe he had a funny band name?
Speaker 5: Yeah, he did the Chick a Noodle TU check out.
Speaker 1: I like it at the very least.
Speaker 2: May just talking to him now, he seems like a nice,
Speaker 2: sincere guy.
Speaker 1: He is coming clean.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And Doug, I'm going to give you twenty seconds
Speaker 2: here to say your final piece before we offer to
Speaker 2: send you guys out on a date.
Speaker 1: What do you want to say to May?
Speaker 6: I just I should have been up front. I'm super sorry.
Speaker 6: If you give me a second chance, I'll just anything
Speaker 6: you want to know, straight honest truth, and I'll bet
Speaker 6: my goofy normal self and you can either like me
Speaker 6: for that or not.
Speaker 4: That's good.
Speaker 2: Plus we're going to offer to pay to send you
Speaker 2: guys out on another date May.
Speaker 1: So what do you say?
Speaker 5: I will say that I do not like liars, and
Speaker 5: I also am very attracted to people who are super
Speaker 5: secure with themselves and who they are. However, I really
Speaker 5: enjoyed talking to you, and so I will give you
Speaker 5: a second chance.
Speaker 1: Person. Yes, okay, so.
Speaker 5: Yes, no, no, it's yes, I want to go and
Speaker 5: it's like.
Speaker 2: Okay, so to say, she's so excited to see you again.
Speaker 2: She can't wait to hear your first piano lesson once
Speaker 2: you figure it out.
Speaker 7: Yes, man, you have no idea having this liar back
Speaker 7: out less stressed.
Speaker 5: I feel that's really sweet.
Speaker 7: We can get together on Friday if you want.
Speaker 4: Piano lessons and weekdays and your wife's cool with that dog.
Speaker 7: Yes, my wife
Speaker 4: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,