WEBVTT - Hoes With Hope 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.480 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.440 She couldn't She cleaned and cared for her children and 0:00:06.480 --> 0:00:08.840 the man of the house, and of course she didn't 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:12.200 talk back. She was both obeat, hint and soft by nature. 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.480 She was a good woman who always made good choice. 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.599 That ship, We're Good Mom's Bad Choices. Two single mom 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:22.280 who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:22.840 and found. 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:24.000 Out they were so bad after all. 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:26.599 We're experts. Over shares and your new besties. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:28.240 Sit back and enjoy the ride. 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:34.400 I can do a bad alone mom. I can do 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:40.480 he me Mom, Flowers. 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:47.360 I can play it back powers play as we have lived. 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:52.720 Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:57.680 I'm Mela and I'm Erica, and we are live on YouTube, 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:00.800 y'all for the first time ever. We've got our shit together, 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:05.160 and we are recording a live podcast, yes, with our 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:09.039 online community and YouTube. So if you want to join 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:11.800 the show and report live and get it early, then 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.040 you need to come subscribe to YouTube because we're gonna 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:14.600 do it once a month. 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:18.559 Yes, we're doing it on the third week of the month. 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:20.880 I want to say a specific day, but I don't 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:22.720 even want to put that pressure on us because it 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.360 should be changing. Let's just say it's the third day, 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:27.479 the third week of the month. We shall be going 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:28.120 YouTube live. 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:35.319 Keep your eyes field. I am. 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:38.880 We're in LA right now and I'm seeing all the 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:40.839 people in the chat. I just want to say hello 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:42.960 to everybody in the chat. This is so dope to 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:45.160 see all of you guys and be able to read 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:46.559 all of your chats live. 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:48.920 This is so cool, I know. I'm like, this is 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:51.880 this is what we've been waiting for. Feel interactive. Oh 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:55.320 my god, Oh my goodness. Someone said, I'm so glad 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:58.320 you guys are officially back. Don't ever leave us alone 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:01.360 along like that again. That was a long time. 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:03.080 I know, we were gone for a long time. We 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:05.160 needed to shut the fuck up for a secondly, But 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:06.880 now we really needed to shut the fuck up. We 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:09.760 really needed to just go integrate all the things that 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:13.079 we've learned over the last six years. We've shared so 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:16.639 much with you guys, of our lives and also the 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:20.840 lives of other people, and just learned so share so 0:02:20.960 --> 0:02:23.799 much knowledge with you. I felt like every week I 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.400 didn't even get to really integrate the knowledge that was 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:28.880 bestowed upon me by a lot of our guests and 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:31.120 even the things that we were sharing with one another. 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:32.960 It was just like we were onto the next, onto 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:34.519 the next, onto the next. So it was really nice 0:02:34.560 --> 0:02:38.639 to just take a second to breathe and read, take 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:42.239 it all in and learn and keep shit to myself 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:47.239 and scorpial vibes and you know, not just share so 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:49.679 much and actually go live life. So I'm excited to 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:52.840 share a lot of what's been going on over the 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:54.959 last nine months over the next. 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:59.920 Forty eight episodes of the year. I am too. I'm excited, 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:01.560 and I know it's like there's so much happened, so 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:05.080 I'm sure it will layer out and reveal itself because 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:06.400 it's a lot to catch up one. 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:06.639 I know. 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:14.720 So there's big news, big, major motherfucking news. I don't 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:18.360 know if you know, but you're engaged, bitch. 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:22.840 Oh yeah, I know. Actually, she took my ring this morning. 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.519 I'm like, where's your ring? She went to take it 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:27.079 to resize it. It was a little bit too big. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:28.600 But when she was like leaving, I was like, hey, 0:03:28.680 --> 0:03:30.239 hold on, can I see it one more time? I 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:34.120 just I'm having separation anxiety. She's like, okay, I'll get 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:35.640 it back to you tonight, you guys. 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:40.680 Jamila got engaged over the weekend. Orlando proposed to her 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:44.160 on one eleven at eleven eleven, and it was a 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:46.560 big It was a big plan that we had to 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:48.440 put together. I really had to put on my acting 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:52.760 chops to just make sure that my nosy, motherfucking friend 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:55.800 didn't find out, which I got really scared on the 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:57.760 day of your engagement that you found out, and I 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.560 was so stressed. I was like, Orlando's gonna kill me. Heaus, 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:02.880 I think I'm trying to like fucking sabotage and I'm 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:04.480 not even trying to. I was trying to be a 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:06.760 good friend and tell the people to make sure they came. 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:09.280 Then it wasn't just a good mom's bad choices season 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:09.960 two parties. 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:12.600 I had no fucking clue, which I thought, there's no 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:14.160 way I'm gonna be able to do. They're gonna ever 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:16.880 be able to trick me. We lived together, Everyone's location, 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:19.000 I'm on everybody's phone, everybody's text message. 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:20.960 That's why I was worried. I was like, this picus nosy, 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:23.360 She's gonna go through his messages. We were in notes, 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:27.479 messaging each other and shit, not texting a note yes, 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.000 which yes. 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:31.760 Yeah, I was totally shocked in surprise. It was really nice. 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:34.720 It was in our living room and with all of 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:38.680 our friends and you know, family and food and it 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:41.120 was just very intimate, and I was I really did 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:43.479 think it was a good Mom season two launch party. 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:45.599 I know, so the other day or like, I guess, 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:48.960 like two weeks ago, we're sitting here working tirelessly about 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:51.960 like trying to figure out a thousand things, and I'm like, 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:55.760 Orlando's like Orlando was like, yeah, I'm just gonna just 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:58.080 have a tell her that people are just like swinging 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:00.840 by in the area and they were just gonna come by. 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:02.880 And I was like, that's a horrible fucking idea. That 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:04.000 is a man idea. 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:06.480 Why the fuck would all of her friends just be 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:09.839 in the area just swoop on by for a fucking party. 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:13.200 I was like, how about we make it a good 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:17.000 Mom season two party and then under the guise of 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:18.840 that and then be an engaging party. So we're sitting 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:21.320 in here and I'm like, Mila, I'm like, we should 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:23.480 we should have like a little like a party for 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:26.560 our season two and she's like okay, and he's like, yeah, 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:27.480 we should it at your house. 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:29.359 She was like, oh okay. 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:33.039 I was like, okay, my Actually, I was like trying 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:35.080 to be really casual about it. I didn't even look 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:36.320 at her. I was just like, yeah, we should have 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:40.039 like a season. And then I'm looking at Orlando like. 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:44.360 It's working because I was like okay, and I was like, 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:46.840 my house okay, because she knows I was gonna have 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:50.520 a party, So I'm like okay. She's all cash like, Orlando, 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:52.800 you're gonna cook. He's like yeah, yeah, yeah, Orlanda. He's like, yeah, 0:05:52.880 --> 0:05:55.680 yeah cook. The craziest thing is, though, Orlando is like 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:57.200 there's only two days out of the whole year that 0:05:57.240 --> 0:05:59.360 I could ever propose. I was like my Birthday's Like. 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:01.080 I was like, I'm I'm a mad. He's like, now 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:03.200 I'm like New Year's and he's like, I'm like naming 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:06.279 every special holiday in our lives. And I never once 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:09.839 that eleven eleven or one eleven is that a specific 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:11.600 day for you guys? No, I take he just the 0:06:11.640 --> 0:06:14.120 one's numerality for it to make sense and to be 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:15.120 on an angel number. 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:16.040 New beginnings and New Beginning. 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:18.400 Yeah, So I was like I hadn't I didn't think 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:19.920 of that at all, so I didn't even think of 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:22.560 the date being one eleven or ever. I heard everyone's 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:25.280 alarm going off in the house. I'm like, everybody has 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:26.840 the same schedule. It's crazy. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.080 Then the day of the day of, I'm like, you 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:31.320 want to go? Or the day before, I was like, 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:32.720 I need to get my nails done. I want to 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:35.840 go get our nails done together. And we are very 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:38.200 specific nail people. We only go to like one place, 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:41.040 but recently we stopped spending three hundred dollars every time 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:43.680 we go and we've decided to just be basic bitches 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:46.480 and just get regular nails. So I was like, okay, perfect, 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:48.880 We're finally basic nail bitches. We can just go anywhere. 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:50.800 And so I asked Mila. I was like, do you 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:53.160 want to get your nails done? And I didn't know 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:55.240 that Orlando had also asked her to get her nails done, 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:56.920 which is very random and you're almost going to blow 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:57.880 up your own motherfucker spot. 0:06:58.000 --> 0:07:03.480 And I was like, Orlando, everybody, I'm so popular. My 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:05.400 wife and my husband want to get their nails done 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:07.920 with me this week. He's like, oh, it's cool, you 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:10.000 could just go with Erica because let me get my haircut, 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:13.480 and I was like, okay, still thought nothing. I think, 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:15.480 just said I'm so everyone loves me so much. 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:18.400 So then I was like, okay, Orlando, I'm going to 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:20.440 make a part of full which is like this like 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:23.040 this app where you can invite people, and I'm going 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:25.560 to send it to Jamila for her to share so 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:28.240 she can invite whoever she wants. And then so I 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:29.920 sent it to her and she's like, make me a host, 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.960 and I was like, okay, I'll do it later and 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:34.160 she's like okay, and then she. 0:07:34.200 --> 0:07:36.840 Asked me again. I was like, I just ignored her, 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:38.800 not my OCD. I'm host. 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:40.400 Why are you would now you want to be a 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:44.880 hot No, no hosting. So then on the day of 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.880 the engagement, because you, like I sent it. 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:49.520 You wouldn't make me a host. So I couldn't see 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.040 who's coming. So I had RSVP. 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:54.120 She she rsvp's to her own party. I see, like 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:57.840 Mila rsvp' and I had literally an hour before just 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:01.800 sent out a blast from part of Fool saying, hey, guys, 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:04.960 so this is this is not really a good Mom's 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.920 Bad Choices party, this is actually Jamila's engagement, so please 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:11.920 show up like get here before this certain time. Don't 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:13.960 be late, don't buck this up, and don't tell her. 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:17.120 And then like literally an hour later, RSVP Mela. I 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:19.520 was like, why the fuck is this bitch rsvping to 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:20.280 her own party. 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:22.440 I wanted to see you know, I'm partiful. They only 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:25.160 let you see the list if you're RSVP, so you RCPT. 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:27.120 I removed you. Then you rcp'd again. I removed you 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:28.880 again that you are CUPT again. I was like, okay, 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:30.560 you know what, I don't know. I hope the text 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:34.000 doesn't fucking send to her automatically, but thankfully it didn't 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:35.640 because I was stressed. 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:38.199 I literally had no idea, not even to the second 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.280 I was like pouring a shot. Orlando was like, hurry up. 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:42.520 I was like, but I haven't poured my shot yet. 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:44.760 He's like, well, split it, and he told me and 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:49.200 I was like huh. I was like, what the fuck 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:51.679 is wrong with him? And then he kissed me and 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:53.360 usually you know he still love me, dobb kissing me 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:55.679 all the time, and then I then he got down 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:58.719 one Nane. I was like, these tricky motherfuckers. And then 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:01.080 I realized everybody had a video camera and her har 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:05.160 miss fucking Nisha's nineteen ninety seven video camera. So I 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:08.200 was genuinely surprised, and I was, yeah, I'm so happy. 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:11.600 I feel like like like Cinderella, like a fairy tale, 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:15.120 like single mom has ran off into the wind. I 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:19.400 woke up the next morning like Hose with Hope. Hose 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:23.440 with Hope. That's our new nonprofit foundation. So if anyone 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:25.600 wants to join Hose with Hope, it just means once 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:27.319 you're a hope, you're probably still a hope, but now 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:31.439 there's hope because you're a dignified hope with clarity and intention, 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:34.000 and you find your home. Man, you've healed first, You've 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:35.720 healed first, and now you can hope for your niggas. 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:38.079 Now you can hope for whoever you want. Yeah, you know, 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:44.199 and just Hoose with Hope. Well, I just want to 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:45.439 say I love you both. 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:49.959 There could never be a better couple that is ready 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:53.240 for marriage and just made for each other. Truly, I 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:57.920 knew it from the very beginning. And yeah you can. 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:00.400 You can never leave Orlando because I want allow it. 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:03.719 And Orlando's never leaving you, so I don't have to 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:06.040 worry about that because he's totally fucking obsessed. 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:09.079 And I can't wait for the wedding. I know, I'm 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.079 really excited. You know, Erica is the first person to 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.400 tell me that I think that's your husband. And I 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:15.600 was like giggling like a schoolgirl or in New Orleans. 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:20.080 He's like fucking talking to me, being silly, and eric 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:22.400 was like, I think that's your husband, and I was like, oh, yeah, 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:26.199 maybe I think so, and he is, this is my husband, 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:28.120 and I have like no doubt. So that feels really 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:31.880 good too, Like there's absolutely no question in my mind 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:35.760 that there's no one else made better for me. It's 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:37.839 almost like ridiculously even if I thought about it. 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:39.360 But you know what, I was talking to one of 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:44.800 my former bays yesterday, Happy Babe, who was a friend now, 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:47.679 and he was saying, oh my god, I saw like 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:52.280 Jamie's engaged. He's like, you know, I'll never forget in 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:55.400 Mexico on that boat, he's like Orlando, you know, he 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:58.040 was so he held he what did he say? He 0:10:58.200 --> 0:11:02.800 was like he really like he or Jamila was so 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.760 lit on that boat and he really held it together. 0:11:06.040 --> 0:11:08.000 You know, he really was like had a lot. He 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:10.160 was very dignified. I said, no, no, no, no, no, 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:12.920 he was proud. I was like, he didn't hold it 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.560 together like he was proud. There's a difference. 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:18.319 Try to hold it together, like God, I love this 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:19.320 bitch man, I hate her. 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:22.040 Jamila was basically but as naked on the boat, like 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:25.440 I had a bikini bottom on that. 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:27.920 Bikini Botby came off. At one point somebody took it off. 0:11:28.320 --> 0:11:30.360 You were about to just let it be though, and 0:11:30.440 --> 0:11:32.480 then someone was like, wait, hold on, maybe we should 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:34.280 put the body asked for them to do that. 0:11:34.480 --> 0:11:36.760 But the point was I knew I found my husband. 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.200 I was like, he'll say he can handle me, because 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:40.120 he didn't seem he doesn't. He didn't blink and eye. 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.080 It's like, that's my baby, and you really did. 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.920 I remember early on in the Good Mom's episodes, you 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:49.199 specifically said you wanted a man that is going to 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:53.120 see you dancing on tables topless and say that's my baby. 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:58.040 That's my bit and will there is literally I did. 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:00.800 I did say that. I know what episode it was in, 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:04.199 and it was don't don't show your tits around my 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:05.040 nigga or like that. 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:08.000 Oh, was that in response to an episode that we 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.480 did with Yeah, it was with It was with the 0:12:11.520 --> 0:12:12.560 Sick Podcast. 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:15.640 Yeah yeah, oh my goodness. And I specifically said, because 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:17.880 I said, if I'll trick you, if you if I 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:20.880 act like conservative the first six months and then the 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.720 seventh month, I'm in fucking Mexico with my tits outing. 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.480 You're like, who's this bitch? So I got him in 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:30.640 really quickly and he held himself together. Great. Actually, which 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:32.760 is not is not? You know, I know I'm not. 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:37.680 I'm not a traditional young lady. So wow, it's beautiful 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.040 meant to be. Thank you with hope, hose with hope, 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:45.360 with hope. I'm very happy. Good choice, bad choice. 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:48.599 Speaking of bad choices, as you know, we have a 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:50.800 segment on our show called Bad Choices of the Week. 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:53.440 And if you haven't joined our Facebook group, it's free. 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:56.760 Make sure you join our Facebook group. It's for the mama's, 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:59.760 it's for the mama's. It's for the ladies only. Sorry, man, 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:02.080 if you want, if the men's want to join, please 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:05.720 run our Patreon when you get access to our Discord community. 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:08.319 Shout out to any of our Discord family who's in 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:12.040 the chat. I see Ridica, Hey girl, I saw somebody 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:15.920 else in here. I think I saw fred Rick. Shout 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.160 out to our patrons and our and our discord community. 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:23.439 I fucking love y'all. Hey, my my, yesha too. But 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:27.079 we share bad choices of the week on Facebook, and 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:29.840 we have a bad choice of the. 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:30.600 Week and. 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:36.719 It's it's a goodie, it's a goody, gooddy giddy. So 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:42.719 today's bad choice of the week is I've decided I'm 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:44.839 going to tell my husband I want a divorce this year. 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:48.479 He's whack with sexting bitches when I was seven months postpartum. 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:50.920 We sleep in separate rooms, we don't have sex, he 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:54.360 don't eat pussy, and literally, I ain't doing shit in 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.200 couple's therapy. What the fuck? I've used the past year 0:13:57.240 --> 0:13:59.520 to really focus on myself and finding my voice. 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:01.640 Thank you therapists. How do you not do shit in 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:02.480 couple's therapy? 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:05.520 And a bitch says it's time to go. I'm moving 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:08.719 with love and zero fucks. Here's to choosing me in 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:09.840 twenty twenty five. 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:12.800 That sounds like a good choice to me. Well, yeah, 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:15.240 I mean bad choices are a noise. Bad choices. It 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:17.920 sounds like the only choice of my love. Yeah, how 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.600 are you sleeping at separate rooms? Not fucking you're sexing 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:23.040 other bitches and you're not doing shit in therapy. Yeah, 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:23.800 you ain't even pussy. 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:26.440 That's the that alarming. 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:28.200 Let's go put that at the first, at the top. 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:31.880 Not gonna happen, my friend, you could do better. There's 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:35.400 plenty of niggas that are eating pussy. Yeah, Amen to that, 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:36.880 Amen to that. Yeah. 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:40.160 I feel like, you know, for those that are in 0:14:40.440 --> 0:14:44.120 LA right now, you know, there's a lot going on 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:49.960 out here. We've been like battling wildfires and all types 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:53.760 of shit, and you know, and I just want to say, 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:55.760 for all people in LA that have been affected by 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:59.080 the fires, my heart goes out to you, my love 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.720 goes out to you. I've been and I've been directly 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.040 impacted by the fires with my own family. I feel 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:08.960 like everybody in LA knows someone that's been impacted. And 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:14.240 twenty twenty five is giving like we need to start over. 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:17.440 We need to rethink everything. We need to rethink everything 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:19.000 in God is like I'm gonna force you, bitch. 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:24.400 Yeah, it's been a trying it's been a trying, trying year. 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:27.200 And it's been it's only just started, bitch, is only 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:29.680 like we're only fifteen days in. 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:32.360 I know, I'm just saying in general this, you know, 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:36.840 the inauguration, this fucking these fires. I'm just even this 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:39.800 last past six months. You know, there's just been a 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:41.880 lot of ups and downs, and that is like I 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:45.160 think we underestimate how much that affects our nervous systems. 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.480 Even things that are having far away from us that 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:51.040 we know are happening, are still deeply affecting us because 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:53.040 you know what's happening. You know, like the energy in 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.880 the world is off, and especially in la like there 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:57.680 is it's so it's there's a lot of loss and 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:00.720 you can feel it. Oh man. 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:05.160 I just wanted to also say for the people in 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.720 the chat too, if you guys have any questions, things 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:10.960 you want to share, please make sure you drop them 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:14.280 in the chat. We're gonna be taking a few minutes 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:17.640 throughout the episode to answer your question. So if you 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:20.080 have any advice, questions you want to ask, if you 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.440 can have anything you want to share, drop it in 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:26.400 the chat. But yeah, I think it's really important to 0:16:26.920 --> 0:16:29.840 take care of ourselves more than ever right now. You know, 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:32.080 at the beginning of the year is often like this reset, 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:34.440 but I think we say this every year, like January 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:37.400 is never really the reset, like it always kind of 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:40.800 comes later, and sometimes it even comes past February. Sometimes 0:16:40.840 --> 0:16:43.000 the reset happens in the motherfucking middle of the year 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:46.800 because you're still trying to recover from like the year before, 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:49.560 and it takes six months to even realize like, oh bitch, 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:50.560 I'm in a whole new year. 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:54.640 And sometimes and sometimes it's it's even more burdening when 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.200 you're like in January first, I was supposed to change 0:16:57.640 --> 0:17:00.280 and it's fucking June, and you're like, it makes it 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:01.920 like it's like punches you all. You're down. 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:04.480 It's so much pressure. It's like so much pressure to 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:09.240 like become this new person overnight. It's just not possible. 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:10.119 It's not no. 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:13.000 And like even like the woman who said she was, 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:15.600 you know, thinking about getting a divorced, like you know, 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:18.880 this year, Like you know, sometimes people are like leave 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:22.320 him right now, and it's like okay, but just giving 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:25.760 yourself peace and time and setting yourself up and not 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:29.560 being so hasty, not being so hard on yourself. Yes, 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:32.040 I'm like, I think me and me are both big 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:35.720 advocates for you know, not pouring into things that don't 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:38.160 serve you. But I also think like at this point 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.480 in my life too, like I realize, like I would, 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.200 I would like to have a at least if I 0:17:43.320 --> 0:17:46.920 can have a plan of action before I just hastily 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:51.200 make decisions, because I have been very impulsive in the past, 0:17:51.320 --> 0:17:54.960 and sometimes it serves you and sometimes it doesn't. But 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:57.719 you can have a plan of action to set yourself 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:01.280 up and not make life more stressful for your Like, bitch. 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:04.880 Do that? Yeah, I think, just not letting it take 0:18:04.960 --> 0:18:08.080 too long, you know, not getting too comfortable, but also 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:10.680 just being gentle with yourself. It's like, you know, what 0:18:10.800 --> 0:18:13.040 do they say, pyramids won't be built up overnight. Like, 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:15.680 just really being gentle with yourself. I think sometimes in 0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:18.359 like a season and things don't feel like progressive, or 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:20.080 you feel like you're not making any progress, or you've 0:18:20.080 --> 0:18:22.440 made the same mistake over and over. It's like you're 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:24.400 so harsh on yourself. And it's like in the bigger 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:26.440 scheme of things, when you look back over a lifetime, 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:30.000 it's like, is it even worth beating yourself up? Like 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:32.160 it's just you're a child and you got to get 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:34.320 back up and dosh, and that's life. There's always going 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:37.359 to be something. It's a journey. It's never it's rarely 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:39.440 going to be just smooth sailing. Nothing's happening in the 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:42.280 world now, there's always something, And that's like finding the 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:46.480 beauty in every every turn, every twist, every obstacle, and 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:49.560 just yeah, like preparing yourself with by taking care of yourself. 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:52.760 Even right now, I'm like thirty six, and I'm like, oh, bitch, 0:18:52.960 --> 0:18:55.600 if you want to still hang, bitch, you gotta you 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:59.200 gotta go to the gym. When are you gonna start? 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.080 I'm coming, I'm doing it. Come on, I'm doing it. 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:05.200 Is that asking gonna stay lifted forever? 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:06.040 Bit, I know? 0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:08.800 And that's the problem. And I always said that vanity 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:13.040 would get me there, So yeah, the ass is not 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:14.800 going to stay lifted by itself. And also I feel 0:19:14.800 --> 0:19:17.280 like I'll be a little addicted, and I think I'm 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:20.160 gonna just invest and get the membership at the place 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:22.080 I really want to get the membership that the classy 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:26.040 place and just you know, like become a fitness influencer. 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:31.800 Oh yeah, yeah, late in life, a late life fitness influencer. 0:19:32.119 --> 0:19:34.840 I'm going to be late life fitness influencer because that 0:19:35.760 --> 0:19:36.920 me Oh my god. 0:19:37.119 --> 0:19:42.160 On on our episode, uh, this week or last week 0:19:42.200 --> 0:19:44.479 if you're listening to if you're live right now, if 0:19:44.480 --> 0:19:47.000 you're if you're listening live, it's the episode that dropped today. 0:19:47.440 --> 0:19:52.040 If you're listening to this later, it's our third week episode. 0:19:52.040 --> 0:19:56.840 We're talking about late in life lesbian lesbians. Well, well 0:19:56.880 --> 0:19:58.800 it started off with a woman who wrote in to 0:19:59.000 --> 0:20:00.800 us and talked about how she was a late in 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:03.320 life lesbian and Memela like could never let it go. 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:07.359 Like she's like she like signed up, penned off like 0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:10.080 late live lesbian. And I was like, you know, I'm 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:13.440 a late life whatever. So everything we do late in 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:16.359 life like because I'm a late in life, what am 0:20:16.400 --> 0:20:17.639 I gonna be? A late life fitness? 0:20:19.560 --> 0:20:21.399 Remember the TikTok star on the Rise too? 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:24.760 Oh yeah, TikTok. I'm also TikTok. Well now I'm not 0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:27.680 TikTok stars Rise because TikTok's about to get banned, so 0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:29.800 I'm gonna be and it's do you think it's gonna 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:31.399 get banned? No sounds gonna buy it. 0:20:31.600 --> 0:20:34.320 I saw that there was some other app, some like 0:20:34.480 --> 0:20:36.800 Chinese app that was like number one on Apple and 0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:38.800 it was like literally like in Chinese like it was 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:40.800 I couldn't even read what the fuck is said. 0:20:42.240 --> 0:20:42.560 Over there. 0:20:42.720 --> 0:20:45.320 But then there's also Isaac Kayes's son has one called 0:20:45.400 --> 0:20:48.160 fan Base that everyone keeps talking about, and it's basically 0:20:48.280 --> 0:20:52.040 like a subscription app too for content creators, but it's 0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:54.680 created by a black man. I think he's got like 0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:55.800 a lot of funding for it. I think he has 0:20:55.800 --> 0:20:58.840 like five million dollars in funding. I saw Tamika Mawori 0:20:58.880 --> 0:21:02.080 post about it today actually, and I joined, but I 0:21:02.119 --> 0:21:04.880 haven't been able to explore it yet. But I don't 0:21:04.920 --> 0:21:09.000 know what it is about, Like why we trust these 0:21:09.080 --> 0:21:12.680 like foreign apps more than we would like be quick 0:21:12.800 --> 0:21:15.960 to support a black owned app like that? 0:21:16.760 --> 0:21:21.440 Historically, if you've ever been on Black People Meet dot com, 0:21:23.160 --> 0:21:28.680 you know it. It's glitchy over there? What is it? 0:21:28.920 --> 0:21:33.080 Black peopleneed dot com? Black planet was lit? Was it glitch? No? 0:21:33.240 --> 0:21:33.880 It worked great? 0:21:34.000 --> 0:21:38.520 Okay, I never got to black Planet air. I'm just kidding. 0:21:38.560 --> 0:21:41.240 I think we should support our people, we support our 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:43.520 we should support our own shit, we support our own people. 0:21:44.240 --> 0:21:47.440 I'm ten tones down with that. I do want the 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:50.320 technology to be up to part though, so that's all 0:21:50.359 --> 0:21:51.600 that I ask. But I'll go over there, what is 0:21:51.640 --> 0:21:53.680 it called fan base. Fan base. Yeah, look, it looks 0:21:53.800 --> 0:21:55.840 like it's it looks like they're doing some stuff over there. 0:21:56.000 --> 0:21:57.239 Is TikTok isn't the same thing. 0:21:57.760 --> 0:22:00.840 I haven't explored it yet, but I did download it. 0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:01.840 Step one. 0:22:02.560 --> 0:22:05.240 I'm also not a technology I mean, okay, I'm not 0:22:05.280 --> 0:22:07.280 going to say that I am a technology person because 0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:11.440 I am decent at it. I just don't fully enjoy technology, 0:22:12.840 --> 0:22:17.440 specifically social media apps, and so I've been slow to 0:22:17.560 --> 0:22:23.320 add another fucking platform to my thing. 0:22:24.000 --> 0:22:27.600 Yeah, I never opened the new what is it? The Instagram? 0:22:27.680 --> 0:22:31.320 Twitter threads? Threads? Is that still a thing? That's just dying? 0:22:32.520 --> 0:22:34.200 I barely can get on like I used to do Twitter, 0:22:34.280 --> 0:22:35.840 and I can barely figure it out. I don't know 0:22:35.840 --> 0:22:37.080 where black Twitter is still. 0:22:37.359 --> 0:22:39.760 And I just I've be seeing like I'm trying to 0:22:39.800 --> 0:22:43.080 promote threads in my like in my feed, and then 0:22:43.080 --> 0:22:45.440 I click it and then I can't. So I'm like, 0:22:45.480 --> 0:22:46.000 fuck this shit. 0:22:46.040 --> 0:22:48.280 I'm not as far as I get too like what 0:22:48.359 --> 0:22:52.040 they say. Oh never mind. Remember the other one, Clubhouse? 0:22:52.720 --> 0:22:55.360 Oh my god, remember when everyone was stressing us out 0:22:55.400 --> 0:22:57.400 about getting on Clubhouse and how we were missing out 0:22:57.440 --> 0:23:01.280 on thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars, like this 0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:04.200 is the problem, Like it's all this hysteria and like 0:23:04.280 --> 0:23:08.399 people literally start freaking out about shit and focusing all 0:23:08.440 --> 0:23:12.159 their attention all obsessing over things. Literally, this is like 0:23:12.240 --> 0:23:14.560 with part like this was really stressful for me. Clubhouse 0:23:14.720 --> 0:23:18.920 in particular were clubhouse stars. Literally Clubhouse made me feel 0:23:19.080 --> 0:23:21.640 like I was not doing enough and I was already 0:23:21.720 --> 0:23:22.800 talking every week. 0:23:23.520 --> 0:23:26.040 You want me to talk more, but don't you remember 0:23:26.080 --> 0:23:27.920 our friends that you're missing out? Who was it? 0:23:28.119 --> 0:23:30.560 It was a lot of you. It was like three 0:23:30.600 --> 0:23:32.320 people specifically that I can think of. They were like, 0:23:32.480 --> 0:23:34.600 you're missing out on thousands and thousands of dollars. You're 0:23:34.600 --> 0:23:36.040 not you don't have your own club, you don't have 0:23:36.040 --> 0:23:38.320 your own room, Like you're not on their weekly like 0:23:38.440 --> 0:23:39.000 daily talking. 0:23:39.080 --> 0:23:41.280 I was like, I didn't understand when people were on 0:23:41.320 --> 0:23:45.000 there all day fucking talking, particularly Joe Beden. He was 0:23:45.080 --> 0:23:47.520 doing so much talking there. And do you remember there's 0:23:47.520 --> 0:23:50.240 a couple there's like five main clubhouse people who were 0:23:50.520 --> 0:23:52.960 talking so much. It made me wonder if they had 0:23:53.000 --> 0:23:57.879 any friends. Sorry, there was just like few people in 0:23:57.960 --> 0:24:00.440 there who were I would just the alert will go 0:24:00.520 --> 0:24:03.600 off every second, and I said, wow, they have no friends, 0:24:05.840 --> 0:24:08.399 people have people then had more time on them. It 0:24:08.520 --> 0:24:09.879 was that around. It was. 0:24:09.960 --> 0:24:11.919 It was it was pandemic times. Yeah. Yeah, people had 0:24:11.920 --> 0:24:13.360 a lot of time on their hands. So I don't 0:24:14.080 --> 0:24:16.040 I don't know. I just I never got into the 0:24:16.080 --> 0:24:16.880 clubhouse thing. 0:24:17.000 --> 0:24:22.160 It was it was too much for me. Anyway. Anyway, 0:24:32.320 --> 0:24:34.320 enough of the enough of the socials that we don't 0:24:34.359 --> 0:24:35.399 understand and we won't get on. 0:24:35.600 --> 0:24:37.359 Well, we have some people that actually have some questions 0:24:37.400 --> 0:24:39.320 for us in this social on YouTube. 0:24:39.080 --> 0:24:40.119 Live okay, tell the. 0:24:41.960 --> 0:24:45.160 Bridget are asked, are we going to do any type 0:24:45.200 --> 0:24:52.040 of tour this year? This is our tour. We're alive 0:24:52.240 --> 0:24:55.520 right now. We're live with you right now, babe, this 0:24:55.680 --> 0:24:58.680 is our tour. Welcome live from La. 0:25:00.400 --> 0:25:06.200 You know, you know the thing about the Tories. Imagine, 0:25:06.280 --> 0:25:07.320 imagine this picture. 0:25:07.400 --> 0:25:10.040 This paint the picture, babe, just let them know. 0:25:10.320 --> 0:25:12.040 Let me just paint the picture for your close your eyes. 0:25:12.960 --> 0:25:17.760 It's you, your best friend and your nigga, just the 0:25:17.840 --> 0:25:21.480 three of you. It's beautiful. You book your flights, you 0:25:21.560 --> 0:25:26.000 get your hotels, and then you pack about tucas four 0:25:26.040 --> 0:25:32.080 to six suitcases. Two of them are merch books, heavy ones, 0:25:32.560 --> 0:25:35.000 and then two of them are your wardrobe because guess what, babe, 0:25:35.160 --> 0:25:38.480 you're styling yourself. That means you have no Let me 0:25:38.560 --> 0:25:40.480 correct ourselves because bitches like us, we want to have 0:25:40.600 --> 0:25:43.040 two outphit changes because we're not you know who we are, 0:25:43.160 --> 0:25:47.000 We're the fucking two show, fucking blue Man group. Okay, 0:25:47.440 --> 0:25:50.240 with an outfit change. So we have. You have fourteen 0:25:50.640 --> 0:25:53.560 stage outfits that you rush to figure out what the 0:25:53.600 --> 0:25:55.200 fuck they're going to be at the last minute. You 0:25:55.240 --> 0:25:57.000 threw them in there, and you probably threw in twenty 0:25:57.000 --> 0:26:00.280 eight because just in case. These boots, stripper shoes, glitter, 0:26:00.359 --> 0:26:05.840 regular outfits, long gloves, longmestones, fish nets, lingre and we 0:26:05.920 --> 0:26:11.240 even brought props because we're two extra bitches, I'll giveaways. Okay, 0:26:11.320 --> 0:26:13.840 that's that's about three bags there, not to mention the 0:26:13.880 --> 0:26:15.840 other clothes you have to wear the other fourteen days 0:26:15.880 --> 0:26:18.840 of the tour regular sweats and shit. Okay. Then your 0:26:18.880 --> 0:26:21.400 nigga has his own small, very small carry on because 0:26:21.400 --> 0:26:25.840 that's all he will allow. And then we map out, 0:26:26.080 --> 0:26:28.560 map it out. Okay. Sometimes we're flying, sometimes we're going 0:26:28.640 --> 0:26:31.600 on stage really scared, we're drinking tequila, and then we're 0:26:31.640 --> 0:26:33.560 going to the next place that night. Or the very 0:26:33.640 --> 0:26:36.199 next morning. And sometimes we say fuckay, we don't need 0:26:36.200 --> 0:26:37.359 a plane. We're just gonna do it in a car. 0:26:37.440 --> 0:26:40.560 We're gonna drive ourselves, aka, Orlando's gonna drive you. 0:26:40.840 --> 0:26:42.760 Oh wait, there's a sex party in New York. Let's 0:26:42.760 --> 0:26:45.840 stop by their first. Let's add that to the thing. Yeah, 0:26:45.880 --> 0:26:47.639 come on, Oh wait, you want to pay us for 0:26:47.720 --> 0:26:49.879 the sex party? Oh sure, come on, let's do it. 0:26:49.880 --> 0:26:54.040 It's a paid gig. We gotta stay. Then, then we 0:26:54.600 --> 0:26:56.359 say we have to come up with the two hours 0:26:56.400 --> 0:26:59.080 of a show. Oh shit, Oh wait, we're stand up 0:26:59.119 --> 0:27:00.119 comedians to. 0:27:00.119 --> 0:27:01.600 Be Do you want to be comedian? Do you want 0:27:01.600 --> 0:27:03.720 to be commedian? Today? I am? Oh do you know 0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:05.359 how sexy dance? Because I need to get that in there? 0:27:05.400 --> 0:27:06.960 All right? Can you teach me? Do you know any 0:27:07.040 --> 0:27:08.800 strippers or subs in six different cities? 0:27:08.840 --> 0:27:10.879 I don't know. Let me find the stripper madam of 0:27:11.000 --> 0:27:12.720 every city and the stripper pimp. 0:27:12.840 --> 0:27:16.280 Guess who does that? Us? And sometimes in Orlando has 0:27:16.280 --> 0:27:17.800 to be the shipper pimp because we all had a 0:27:17.840 --> 0:27:19.040 new the work. Okay, so we've got to be a 0:27:19.080 --> 0:27:21.520 stripper pimp that do you know how many? Do you 0:27:21.600 --> 0:27:22.920 know how many instagrams. 0:27:23.359 --> 0:27:30.280 Wait, have you ever have you ever searched strippers New Orleans, 0:27:30.520 --> 0:27:31.879 strippers Atlanta? 0:27:32.040 --> 0:27:34.439 Then then shippers don't work, no mail shippers, and then 0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:36.280 that won't work, so then you have to go see dancers. 0:27:36.320 --> 0:27:40.440 So then you just go black athletic, black workout, black fitness, 0:27:40.600 --> 0:27:45.119 black Fitness, Washington, DC. Then you start following random men 0:27:45.240 --> 0:27:48.560 with muscles that have good smiles. And then you find 0:27:48.600 --> 0:27:51.119 out there is a dark web of male shippers, and 0:27:51.520 --> 0:27:55.359 like all web cities anyway, that's another thing. So in 0:27:55.440 --> 0:27:57.800 addition to that, but then certain strippers don't dance for men, 0:27:58.240 --> 0:28:00.360 so then they let me out. They're out. 0:28:00.400 --> 0:28:02.760 They don't they don't do any performances where men are involved, 0:28:02.800 --> 0:28:03.879 so they're they're out. 0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:07.320 There's a very little there's very little ones that don't 0:28:07.480 --> 0:28:09.480 show their penis. You have to tell them, don't show 0:28:09.520 --> 0:28:11.960 your penis. And then also sometimes we say we don't 0:28:11.960 --> 0:28:13.880 need a supper, we need a sub. Let's find a sub. 0:28:14.040 --> 0:28:16.040 So then you're looking at for a sub New York, 0:28:16.760 --> 0:28:19.639 calling friends, you're figuring out how to be funny for 0:28:19.720 --> 0:28:22.520 two hours. You have to remember what that funny is. 0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:25.639 What are we supposed to do? Did you have to 0:28:25.640 --> 0:28:26.280 do your own makeup. 0:28:26.320 --> 0:28:27.680 Do you have to find a DJ in every city? 0:28:28.359 --> 0:28:30.320 Yes, you have to find a DJ in every city. Okay, 0:28:30.400 --> 0:28:32.840 so that's about We've already got about fifteen things we 0:28:32.880 --> 0:28:35.680 needed to employ for for this tour. And oh and 0:28:35.800 --> 0:28:37.160 then we have to sell tickets. 0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:38.840 There's that part. 0:28:39.560 --> 0:28:42.400 We love that power tickets favorite part. Every you know, 0:28:42.640 --> 0:28:45.160 you whores, you horse. 0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:46.960 You told us to come to your city. 0:28:47.080 --> 0:28:48.920 We're friends, right, could we just curse your out for. 0:28:49.040 --> 0:28:53.120 You bitches, you fucking you fucking host told us to 0:28:53.200 --> 0:28:54.080 come to your city. 0:28:54.160 --> 0:28:55.440 And then we're like, we have let's go. 0:28:59.400 --> 0:29:02.360 We're like famous, and you start, They're gonna they love us, 0:29:02.680 --> 0:29:04.840 all my friends are, and our tour manager, you've only 0:29:04.880 --> 0:29:08.440 sold twelve tickets the shows in four days. Are we 0:29:08.520 --> 0:29:09.120 gonna cancel? 0:29:09.320 --> 0:29:14.120 Are we gonna cancel? So in addition to that, you're like, 0:29:14.320 --> 0:29:17.320 oh great, I'm gonna go on stage in my fishnets 0:29:17.400 --> 0:29:20.640 and my fucking boot all my ship being a comedian, 0:29:20.720 --> 0:29:22.800 and there's gonna be four fucking people on the stage 0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:25.160 in the audience, and I'm gonna have to do it 0:29:25.240 --> 0:29:30.320 anyway and still be funny and not cry. And then 0:29:30.360 --> 0:29:31.520 guess what, And then we say you know we're not 0:29:31.560 --> 0:29:33.200 gonna do this show because we're gonna look stupid. And 0:29:33.280 --> 0:29:35.400 then everyone says, oh my god, why are you guys 0:29:35.480 --> 0:29:37.600 cancel the show? We were coming up. I was gonna 0:29:37.600 --> 0:29:39.680 book today, my friends and all my friends, so we 0:29:39.920 --> 0:29:42.480 were all gonna fly down there to support you, you 0:29:42.680 --> 0:29:49.320 lying bitch, fucking liars. I have lied trauma issues. I 0:29:49.360 --> 0:29:51.120 have daddy issues. He lied a lot. I don't need 0:29:51.280 --> 0:29:53.520 my friends to lie to me, even though I never 0:29:53.640 --> 0:29:57.960 met so so long story short one day, but I 0:29:58.000 --> 0:29:58.280 don't know. 0:29:58.520 --> 0:30:01.160 We just we have a little bit of tour trauma 0:30:02.400 --> 0:30:03.000 and we love it. 0:30:03.160 --> 0:30:05.240 We do love it fun. I fucking love it when 0:30:05.640 --> 0:30:07.680 every time we get off stage, we're like, we're so good, 0:30:07.760 --> 0:30:10.400 that was good. Whoa, We're like all like hy bar 0:30:10.480 --> 0:30:12.680 adrenolins going, we go to the sex party and then 0:30:12.760 --> 0:30:16.840 we crash hard and then yeah, and then we make 0:30:16.880 --> 0:30:24.360 two hundred dollars because we had to pay everyone. So yeah, 0:30:24.480 --> 0:30:26.640 just do that times five and stay away from your 0:30:26.720 --> 0:30:29.920 kids for three weeks and yeah, then maybe in two 0:30:30.000 --> 0:30:33.320 years we'll go on tour. Yeah. So that's so, yes, Bridget, 0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:35.680 that's the longest, Sorry, Bridget, that was not That was 0:30:35.760 --> 0:30:38.400 not directed towards you in anyway that's been built up 0:30:38.440 --> 0:30:41.080 in us for a long time. I'm glad we got 0:30:41.080 --> 0:30:43.320 that out me too, yeah, because that was that was 0:30:43.320 --> 0:30:43.640 a lot. 0:30:44.080 --> 0:30:46.360 That was a lot. That was actually part of the 0:30:46.400 --> 0:30:49.400 reason after we went off, after we ended the season 0:30:49.440 --> 0:30:51.400 in March, we actually went on tour and then I 0:30:51.520 --> 0:30:53.680 was we were supposed to come back like two months later, 0:30:53.800 --> 0:30:57.080 and I told Jamila. I was like, no, I can't 0:30:57.120 --> 0:31:00.560 come back yet. We have to extend this podcast. We 0:31:00.840 --> 0:31:03.400 just the tour traumatized the fuck out of me as 0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:06.680 far as like my nervous system, the alcohol, the stress, 0:31:07.280 --> 0:31:08.280 like it was it was too much. 0:31:08.400 --> 0:31:10.200 And you know what, I'm generally the one who will 0:31:10.240 --> 0:31:12.080 go go go, like even if I'm dying inside, just 0:31:12.080 --> 0:31:14.760 because out of my mind doesn't get that my body's dying. 0:31:14.880 --> 0:31:17.880 And you would think that. The last time we had 0:31:17.920 --> 0:31:19.720 a great show in New York, we were going to 0:31:19.800 --> 0:31:21.240 a sex party. I was having a great time, like 0:31:21.280 --> 0:31:23.440 I was an all time high, and then just suddenly 0:31:23.600 --> 0:31:26.200 I broke down crying like I was just like malfunctioning. 0:31:26.600 --> 0:31:31.560 And I was like, was like, let's go in the 0:31:31.600 --> 0:31:35.440 other room at the sex party. Erica and Orlando are 0:31:35.600 --> 0:31:41.960 just holding me. They're like, what's these I think I'm 0:31:42.000 --> 0:31:46.560 really happy. I'm so happy. It's just a lot, you know, 0:31:46.920 --> 0:31:50.719 it's just a lot. So that was the first indication 0:31:50.840 --> 0:31:54.400 that maybe something was wrong. Yeah, we needed to take 0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:54.720 a break. 0:31:54.880 --> 0:31:58.960 Yeah, maybe in twenty twenty six, we'll revisit these thoughts. 0:32:01.840 --> 0:32:03.040 Anyway, any of the Christians. 0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:11.200 Anyway, we have another question, what about Oh well this 0:32:11.400 --> 0:32:14.840 is Frederic asked, how do you balance working on parts 0:32:14.880 --> 0:32:21.160 of your life and actually living working on parts of 0:32:21.320 --> 0:32:24.320 my life? I have to do both at the same time. 0:32:24.520 --> 0:32:26.280 I don't know, you can't. I can't. 0:32:26.320 --> 0:32:27.400 I can't separate the two. 0:32:27.520 --> 0:32:29.960 I have to live, right, It's a very hard balance. 0:32:30.320 --> 0:32:32.400 I mean, I guess sometimes I'm not working on parts 0:32:32.440 --> 0:32:32.960 of myself. 0:32:33.040 --> 0:32:33.560 This is the thing. 0:32:33.640 --> 0:32:38.160 I'm just kind of living and not working on shit. Yeah, 0:32:38.640 --> 0:32:41.400 And I think that's the thing. Is like giving yourself grace, 0:32:41.480 --> 0:32:44.440 giving yourself permission to just do the living and it 0:32:44.600 --> 0:32:48.360 not being perfect and you fucking up and maybe backsliding 0:32:48.440 --> 0:32:50.880 on your goals and your dreams, and then you come back, 0:32:51.200 --> 0:32:55.160 you know, and you know, hopefully having a tribe of 0:32:55.240 --> 0:32:58.000 people and community that are going to hold you accountable 0:32:58.000 --> 0:32:59.720 and be like bitch, you said you're about to do this. 0:33:00.240 --> 0:33:03.520 Where why are you doing this? So I think it's 0:33:03.560 --> 0:33:07.760 about just giving yourself the permission to kind of do 0:33:07.960 --> 0:33:11.560 both at the same time. Sometimes then also like take 0:33:11.720 --> 0:33:15.560 the fucking the crown off that you think you're supposed 0:33:15.560 --> 0:33:18.360 to wear all the time and just let it rest 0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:19.160 and live. 0:33:20.120 --> 0:33:22.560 Yeah, you know, it's so crazy. It's like it's the 0:33:22.640 --> 0:33:26.160 same thing, but we we are the ones who compart 0:33:26.640 --> 0:33:31.080 car compartmentalize those things, and like we're like, this is 0:33:31.120 --> 0:33:33.920 what working on yourself looks like. And then you're living, 0:33:34.120 --> 0:33:36.240 but you're not doing Like so basically you're saying like 0:33:36.480 --> 0:33:38.840 you're all living and so inevitably you're working on parts 0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:41.080 of yourself, but it's not fast enough, it doesn't look perfect. 0:33:41.240 --> 0:33:42.880 You're not going to the gym on through Friday like 0:33:42.920 --> 0:33:47.000 you said, you're not, you know. And but sometimes like 0:33:47.080 --> 0:33:50.160 the living is like your hardcore about work. Your head 0:33:50.240 --> 0:33:53.000 is down. It's only work. Because last night I was 0:33:53.120 --> 0:33:56.000 working on my phone and doing a million things. Souse, 0:33:56.000 --> 0:33:57.440 I have fucking eighty d and at night I think 0:33:57.480 --> 0:33:59.719 I should deal with things, and Luna I till Una 0:33:59.760 --> 0:34:02.400 got her phone and her and Orlando did and I didn't, 0:34:02.680 --> 0:34:04.120 and I put her to bed and she was like 0:34:04.240 --> 0:34:07.760 really upset with me, and she's like you told she 0:34:07.880 --> 0:34:09.320 was like not trying to touch me, and I just 0:34:09.400 --> 0:34:12.480 like laid there with her anyway, and she finally was 0:34:12.719 --> 0:34:15.640 like she finally like came and wrapped her arms around 0:34:15.680 --> 0:34:18.040 me after she was like trying to be in fetal position, 0:34:18.520 --> 0:34:21.560 and I felt her like one teer just like roll 0:34:21.640 --> 0:34:25.560 down my shoulder, and I was like, she's like me 0:34:25.719 --> 0:34:28.560 and Orlando got up our phones and you cult being 0:34:28.640 --> 0:34:31.520 on your phone and I was like, oh my god, 0:34:31.600 --> 0:34:35.040 I'm horrible mom. But it's like sometimes you think that 0:34:35.520 --> 0:34:37.960 being you know, productive, is what you're supposed to do, 0:34:38.120 --> 0:34:41.320 but like we're only just supposed to be living in 0:34:41.760 --> 0:34:45.239 coexistence with one another, and like that is what we're 0:34:45.320 --> 0:34:48.239 supposed to be doing, you know, everything else comes like 0:34:48.400 --> 0:34:50.920 when you realize that like the most important thing is 0:34:51.400 --> 0:34:54.520 being with your loved ones, Like then you'll be healthy, 0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:57.200 then you'll like you'll check in with your body. Like 0:34:57.239 --> 0:34:59.360 those things will come in evidily because you're being present 0:34:59.600 --> 0:35:01.960 in your community in a real way. But when your 0:35:02.040 --> 0:35:03.839 head is down doing the things that sometimes we think 0:35:03.960 --> 0:35:07.040 is what we're supposed to do, be productive, be successful, 0:35:07.360 --> 0:35:09.560 then you miss out on living, and the living is 0:35:09.920 --> 0:35:14.640 exactly like our divine purpose. So it's just a word 0:35:14.719 --> 0:35:17.320 from my testimony from last night where I felt like 0:35:17.640 --> 0:35:20.160 really terrible and then then I had to check myself 0:35:20.239 --> 0:35:22.920 and be like, it's okay, you know, it's this is 0:35:22.960 --> 0:35:25.719 a learning moment, this is important, this is this is 0:35:25.960 --> 0:35:30.319 you know, like it really that one tier on my shoulder, bitch, 0:35:30.520 --> 0:35:33.719 I was like, and for a minute, I started to think, 0:35:33.800 --> 0:35:36.160 like go down a rabbit hole of all this time 0:35:36.239 --> 0:35:38.400 that I've missed, And then I was like, no, this 0:35:38.520 --> 0:35:41.400 is a way to gently just reposition and check in 0:35:41.640 --> 0:35:44.279 with how you're spending your time and what you're actually doing. 0:35:44.719 --> 0:35:46.440 And that means like when I'm putting in my body, 0:35:46.520 --> 0:35:48.400 when I'm putting the phone down, Like I knew I 0:35:48.480 --> 0:35:49.759 needed to put my phone down, but I was just 0:35:49.880 --> 0:35:52.920 so curious to see this airbnb. You know, I just 0:35:53.000 --> 0:35:55.400 couldn't stop, and I knew I couldn't stop, and I 0:35:55.600 --> 0:35:57.560 just was like the fact that she noticed it, that 0:35:57.600 --> 0:35:59.360 sit really checked the shit out of me. And I 0:35:59.400 --> 0:36:01.719 will never like I feel like that'll be one day 0:36:01.719 --> 0:36:03.560 I'll be eighty and I'm like, I remember that time 0:36:04.239 --> 0:36:06.360 you know, and like, but that is why we have 0:36:06.480 --> 0:36:07.800 to be present and live our lives. 0:36:08.600 --> 0:36:11.680 Yeah, I think also at this season in my life too, 0:36:12.000 --> 0:36:14.560 and it's it's been a lot, it's been a season 0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:16.759 of trying to figure this specific thing out. Is like, 0:36:17.320 --> 0:36:19.280 you know, people always talk about the work life balance 0:36:19.360 --> 0:36:20.680 and how you do it, and I don't really know 0:36:20.719 --> 0:36:22.600 if there's there's really no real answer. You can go 0:36:22.760 --> 0:36:25.759 buy the fucking download of whatever. The fuck bitch said 0:36:25.800 --> 0:36:28.920 that she mastered it. Maybe she did for herself, but 0:36:28.960 --> 0:36:33.239 everybody's different, and like it's really for me personally, like 0:36:33.480 --> 0:36:37.560 I have to there is a regimen that I have 0:36:37.719 --> 0:36:40.520 to exist in ways for me to find balance. And 0:36:40.560 --> 0:36:43.040 I've realized that, Like today, I woke up at I 0:36:43.120 --> 0:36:45.000 went to a workout class at six am. That is 0:36:45.040 --> 0:36:46.560 literally the only time I can work out. I'm not 0:36:46.600 --> 0:36:47.319 going to work out at night. 0:36:47.400 --> 0:36:47.719 I tried to. 0:36:47.719 --> 0:36:49.160 I actually worked out last night, and I was like, 0:36:49.200 --> 0:36:50.920 maybe I could do this later, maybe I could do 0:36:50.960 --> 0:36:52.440 this more often, And I was like, no, bitch, no 0:36:52.719 --> 0:36:55.359 morning morning. I have to get that out of the way. 0:36:55.440 --> 0:36:57.800 And that's my me time I wake up early, I 0:36:57.960 --> 0:37:00.799 do that, I get home. She's just waking up now 0:37:00.840 --> 0:37:02.600 my daughter sets an alarm and she's waking up on 0:37:02.840 --> 0:37:06.920 waking up herself. So it's like creating a regimen for her, 0:37:07.200 --> 0:37:10.439 creating one for me. And then like after I haven't 0:37:10.480 --> 0:37:13.759 really talked about this much yet and I haven't really 0:37:13.800 --> 0:37:16.640 even shared the video going to this cave for my birthday. 0:37:16.680 --> 0:37:19.600 I went into this like dark cave in Oregon for 0:37:19.760 --> 0:37:22.799 my birthday, in isolation and darkness for like four days, 0:37:23.440 --> 0:37:25.839 and when I came out, I just realized how much, 0:37:28.120 --> 0:37:33.400 how how I needed to have more boundaries around work 0:37:33.640 --> 0:37:36.800 in general, and just like at a certain time, I 0:37:36.960 --> 0:37:39.920 have to shut it off because I won't shut it off. 0:37:40.160 --> 0:37:42.759 I don't know how to shut it off. I am 0:37:42.840 --> 0:37:45.279 such a workhorse. And I realized I look at my mom, 0:37:45.400 --> 0:37:46.719 I look at my grandmother, I look at all the 0:37:46.719 --> 0:37:49.840 women in my life, and they're like such fucking doers 0:37:49.960 --> 0:37:51.879 and they're not even all the way happy. 0:37:51.880 --> 0:37:52.880 Like they're not. 0:37:53.280 --> 0:37:55.400 And so it's like I can see myself heading on 0:37:55.480 --> 0:37:58.439 that trajectory of just being a doer all the time, 0:37:58.600 --> 0:38:02.240 and then like like having this little space and permission 0:38:02.320 --> 0:38:04.600 for living and it's like I don't, I can't. I 0:38:04.680 --> 0:38:07.920 can't live life like that, and I think luckily, I've 0:38:08.360 --> 0:38:11.719 I've been more of a liver than a doer. I 0:38:11.800 --> 0:38:14.440 think starting Good Moms and finding my purpose in this 0:38:14.560 --> 0:38:18.040 space made activated me in that way to like, oh, 0:38:18.239 --> 0:38:18.759 now I get it. 0:38:18.880 --> 0:38:20.480 Now, I get when my mom is so obsessed with 0:38:20.800 --> 0:38:22.520 creating her brand. Now I love it. 0:38:23.320 --> 0:38:25.200 I get it, and I get why, like you know, 0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:27.800 but there is there is. I know that I've missed 0:38:27.800 --> 0:38:31.440 a lot of things with Iri, and I have a 0:38:31.520 --> 0:38:35.920 lot of regret, regret, regret, regret around it. She's expressed 0:38:35.960 --> 0:38:39.120 it to me, you know, like multiple times. And I 0:38:39.239 --> 0:38:42.520 haven't always shifted. I haven't shifted all the way quickly 0:38:42.560 --> 0:38:44.919 even now. You know, it's hard. It really is hard 0:38:45.320 --> 0:38:48.440 when you are doing something that gives you so much 0:38:48.440 --> 0:38:51.239 purpose and so much joy that does require you to 0:38:52.560 --> 0:38:54.520 be on your phone. Maybe not on Airbnb, but like 0:38:54.600 --> 0:38:57.080 be on your phone and looking at some shit, or 0:38:57.120 --> 0:38:59.680 like answering an email and saying, hold on one second, 0:38:59.719 --> 0:39:01.520 I'll I'm going to watch the movie, but let me 0:39:01.680 --> 0:39:06.200 just handle put out this fire or whatever. But it 0:39:06.280 --> 0:39:09.000 does require also for me to say like I can't, no, 0:39:09.160 --> 0:39:13.160 I can't do that right now. Sorry, sorry, person on 0:39:13.239 --> 0:39:17.520 my team. I will respond tomorrow you know, and so 0:39:18.080 --> 0:39:20.360 you know, it's you have to find what works for you, 0:39:20.640 --> 0:39:24.000 and you have to know that it's not going to 0:39:24.040 --> 0:39:25.200 be perfect. You're going to fuck it up. 0:39:26.719 --> 0:39:28.319 And the fund up part ext I've read something about 0:39:28.320 --> 0:39:30.080 like having a ritual. The fucked up part this is 0:39:30.239 --> 0:39:34.320 like making it a ritual makes it the habit that 0:39:34.480 --> 0:39:37.200 you that makes the thing like that makes you feel 0:39:37.280 --> 0:39:39.000 productive and the thing that you want to feel productive 0:39:39.320 --> 0:39:41.360 like that is the only way to be able to 0:39:41.440 --> 0:39:44.359 dedicate time to all of the things is having set 0:39:44.480 --> 0:39:47.000 time and then dedicating it and then repeating it, you know, 0:39:47.080 --> 0:39:48.560 and it's always it's going to be out of flow, 0:39:48.719 --> 0:39:51.480 but like you have to start somewhere and try. 0:39:51.600 --> 0:39:53.600 Whether you want to call it a regimen, whether you 0:39:53.680 --> 0:39:55.800 want to call it a ritual, whatever the fuck you 0:39:55.880 --> 0:39:57.680 need to call it to do it. If it ritual 0:39:57.800 --> 0:39:59.480 sounds cuter to you, and it sounds more. 0:39:59.360 --> 0:40:02.400 Sacred, it's sacred. Am I rich you will? Am I 0:40:02.560 --> 0:40:03.000 richu will? 0:40:03.120 --> 0:40:06.279 Is that at at ten am I begin work, it's 0:40:06.320 --> 0:40:08.839 my ritual and then if I pem my end work, 0:40:08.920 --> 0:40:11.279 my ritual's over and I begin my new ritual, which 0:40:11.280 --> 0:40:11.919 is cooking dinner. 0:40:12.120 --> 0:40:16.279 Maybe we don't call it work. Just money play, ritualize 0:40:16.320 --> 0:40:18.239 your life. It's what It's how I play when I 0:40:18.320 --> 0:40:21.640 want to make money. My currency play. You have a 0:40:21.719 --> 0:40:27.280 currency play date that means a workday. Okay. 0:40:27.280 --> 0:40:29.719 We have another question, which I guess can go hand 0:40:29.719 --> 0:40:31.640 and have. There's two different questions. What about retreats. 0:40:32.080 --> 0:40:34.560 How do you find your tribe of women as a mommy? 0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:39.640 Okay, so those are two different questions, and I think 0:40:40.320 --> 0:40:45.000 let me start with finding your tribe. You know, I 0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:49.520 realize that as an adult, it can feel really intimidating 0:40:49.600 --> 0:40:52.959 to make new friends. It can feel it can feel 0:40:52.960 --> 0:40:54.920 like the last thing on your list, you know, and 0:40:55.000 --> 0:40:57.560 then you're like alone at night and you're like, damn, 0:40:57.600 --> 0:40:59.320 I have no one to call. I have no girlfriend 0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:02.640 to like Kiki over this, this or that. You have 0:41:02.800 --> 0:41:05.000 to make it a priority. You have to go outside 0:41:05.000 --> 0:41:06.920 of your comfort zone. You have to go up to 0:41:07.000 --> 0:41:10.120 the friend in the bathroom and say, hey, bitch, want 0:41:10.120 --> 0:41:12.360 to hang out, Like I'm not going to promise you 0:41:12.400 --> 0:41:14.040 that you're gonna find your bestie. And you're in a 0:41:14.120 --> 0:41:14.719 mommy group. 0:41:15.080 --> 0:41:15.239 You know. 0:41:15.360 --> 0:41:17.360 Early on when I became a mom, like I was, 0:41:17.840 --> 0:41:19.680 I was also trying to find my tribe as well, 0:41:19.719 --> 0:41:21.880 and I was in like you know, like going to 0:41:22.000 --> 0:41:25.800 the mommy and me like play dates and you know, 0:41:25.920 --> 0:41:28.560 trying to even find my tribe at my daughter's school, 0:41:28.800 --> 0:41:32.360 and those moms weren't really were really it. It's spaces 0:41:32.480 --> 0:41:35.080 like this right here. Like if you fuck with this 0:41:35.440 --> 0:41:37.520 energy and this vibe, then there's a bunch of women 0:41:37.640 --> 0:41:40.839 literally right now in this chat that are probably your 0:41:40.880 --> 0:41:44.840 tribe right there, because they're already they're entertained by this conversation. 0:41:45.320 --> 0:41:47.879 They feel for this, they feel this conversation, they feel 0:41:47.880 --> 0:41:51.360 the energy that me and Mila and our guests share, 0:41:51.400 --> 0:41:55.200 and they understand. So I think it's about like connecting 0:41:55.280 --> 0:41:59.040 to the people and the communities that speak to you. 0:41:59.280 --> 0:42:02.600 Like that's really how you find your tribe. I mean 0:42:02.680 --> 0:42:04.320 for us, like we have our you know, we have 0:42:04.400 --> 0:42:07.000 our Facebook groups, like there's people in there and and again, 0:42:07.120 --> 0:42:09.480 like those things feel weird, right, You're like, so I'm 0:42:09.480 --> 0:42:11.279 going to meet someone on the internet, Yeah, bitch, you 0:42:11.400 --> 0:42:13.759 might have to, Like that's kind of the beauty of 0:42:13.840 --> 0:42:15.440 the internet sometimes, Yeah. 0:42:15.480 --> 0:42:17.759 Use it for what it's good for. Yeah, you know, 0:42:18.200 --> 0:42:20.960 cause technically we low key met via the internet and 0:42:21.080 --> 0:42:23.440 a lot of my friends that we've met through the 0:42:23.480 --> 0:42:26.240 podcast who are friends now are through the internet. 0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:28.719 Yeah, And like even in our discord, we have a 0:42:28.800 --> 0:42:31.160 channel specifically and they're called find your Tribe, And so 0:42:31.239 --> 0:42:33.600 there's women in there, like, Hey, I'm in LA. Does 0:42:33.640 --> 0:42:36.920 anybody like around want to like get lunch next weekend? 0:42:37.040 --> 0:42:39.200 I'm going to go to brunch next week? Does anybody 0:42:39.239 --> 0:42:41.239 want to come here? I'm in Houston. Like these are 0:42:41.280 --> 0:42:43.359 the ways that you are able to connect with people 0:42:43.480 --> 0:42:45.840 that you already know that are kind of on your frequency, 0:42:46.280 --> 0:42:48.120 and you kind of just have to step outside of 0:42:48.360 --> 0:42:51.680 not kind of you actually have to actively step outside 0:42:51.680 --> 0:42:54.040 of your comfort zone to meet your people. They're not 0:42:54.160 --> 0:42:56.560 going to find you, They're like sometimes they will and 0:42:56.640 --> 0:42:59.800 that's beautiful. But even me when I met Mila, like 0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:03.440 I was I felt so uncomfortable approaching her, but I 0:43:03.640 --> 0:43:06.279 was desperate, Like I knew that, like I knew that 0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:08.880 there was a woman out there that like was on 0:43:09.040 --> 0:43:11.600 my frequency because she was friends with my friends. So 0:43:11.680 --> 0:43:13.160 I was like, okay, Like that's step one. 0:43:13.400 --> 0:43:15.400 That's the same as being somebody in the tribe. If 0:43:15.440 --> 0:43:17.879 you like them, I'll probably like you yeah, like yeah, 0:43:17.920 --> 0:43:19.759 you trust it because it's like if you hang out 0:43:19.760 --> 0:43:22.040 with this person, then I know of them, we'll probably gel. 0:43:22.000 --> 0:43:23.840 Yeah, and then you use your discernment and then you 0:43:23.920 --> 0:43:25.680 figure out is it a go or is it a 0:43:25.760 --> 0:43:28.640 not go? And then you stay consistent like that's the 0:43:28.760 --> 0:43:31.000 that's the next part is like staying consistent with that 0:43:31.160 --> 0:43:34.000 relationship is like pouring into it how you want to 0:43:34.040 --> 0:43:36.839 be poured into as much as you would pour into 0:43:36.880 --> 0:43:38.040 a romantic relationship. 0:43:38.120 --> 0:43:40.560 Yeah, and not being scared to be like, hey, you know, 0:43:40.640 --> 0:43:42.920 what's up? What are you doing? And sometimes people won't respond, 0:43:42.960 --> 0:43:45.240 and not taking it personally and you won't always get together, 0:43:45.360 --> 0:43:47.960 but still trying. You know, I have some friends. I'm 0:43:47.960 --> 0:43:50.080 a friendly bitch, but I have friends who I'm like, Okay, 0:43:50.280 --> 0:43:52.680 I see that you really want to be friends. Okay, 0:43:52.760 --> 0:43:54.799 I see you girl, I'm gonna And that's because they're 0:43:54.920 --> 0:43:57.280 clear about it, you know. And it's just like sometimes 0:43:57.400 --> 0:44:01.200 I think we underestimate as women to the the divine 0:44:01.360 --> 0:44:04.399 timing of women coming into your life sometime when people 0:44:04.440 --> 0:44:06.120 are really trying to be your friend. I think sometimes 0:44:06.120 --> 0:44:07.960 people shy away from that when they're strangers or they 0:44:07.960 --> 0:44:09.719 don't know them or's not part of their immediate group. 0:44:09.960 --> 0:44:13.799 Sometimes that's God saying I'm fucking serving Ali youup right now. 0:44:13.960 --> 0:44:16.040 This is your friend, you know what I mean. And 0:44:16.160 --> 0:44:17.840 so it's just like you never know who's a message 0:44:17.880 --> 0:44:21.200 for you and or there's something you're supposed to supposed 0:44:21.200 --> 0:44:24.120 to birth together, And like, I've met so many friends 0:44:24.160 --> 0:44:25.400 that way, just being open to. 0:44:26.200 --> 0:44:39.080 Making new friends friends, friends, and I think we put 0:44:39.120 --> 0:44:39.560 so much. 0:44:39.400 --> 0:44:42.280 Effort into meeting romantic partners that we forget how important 0:44:42.400 --> 0:44:45.040 is to birth like friendships. Because a lot of your 0:44:45.080 --> 0:44:48.319 old friends that you've known for twenty fifteen years, they're 0:44:48.360 --> 0:44:51.080 still holding you to the old version of yourself. They 0:44:51.120 --> 0:44:53.200 haven't really Sometimes it's hard for your friends that have 0:44:53.280 --> 0:44:55.840 been your friends for a long ass time to accept 0:44:55.880 --> 0:44:58.440 you as this new version of yourself. And sometimes it 0:44:58.520 --> 0:45:01.440 requires that you meet friends on where you're at right now. 0:45:02.040 --> 0:45:03.200 So don't underestimates that. 0:45:03.280 --> 0:45:06.320 I think there's also another really important step to this 0:45:06.520 --> 0:45:08.640 process that I think is the reason why me and 0:45:08.760 --> 0:45:14.280 you became friends. It requires you to share something vulnerable 0:45:14.360 --> 0:45:17.680 and personal, like yes, you can meet those mommy friends 0:45:17.719 --> 0:45:19.799 and you can keep it surface, and that's exactly where 0:45:19.880 --> 0:45:22.640 you'll be. That's exactly where you'll keep it. That's exactly 0:45:22.719 --> 0:45:24.719 why you won't hear from her. That's exactly why you 0:45:24.880 --> 0:45:27.840 just see each other at the birthday parties. And that's it, Like, 0:45:28.000 --> 0:45:30.040 it really does require not only for you to get 0:45:30.040 --> 0:45:33.520 outside of your comfort zone and like and initiate the hangout, 0:45:33.800 --> 0:45:36.320 but then be brave enough and bold enough to share 0:45:36.480 --> 0:45:40.680 something vulnerable, because that's really the gel where someone's like, 0:45:40.719 --> 0:45:41.280 oh shit. 0:45:41.320 --> 0:45:43.320 Oh we are from Oh oh right, you know, And 0:45:43.440 --> 0:45:45.080 that's so true. I think about the first time we 0:45:45.160 --> 0:45:46.719 ever hung out, you know, like she did that thing. 0:45:46.800 --> 0:45:49.200 She came to the bathroom and she cornered me, and 0:45:49.239 --> 0:45:50.880 I was like, oh, okay, I didn't know her at all. 0:45:50.960 --> 0:45:53.080 I was very like I was caught off guard by it. 0:45:53.160 --> 0:45:54.880 But I really did want a friend who was in 0:45:54.960 --> 0:45:56.640 the same position as I was, as far as like 0:45:56.719 --> 0:45:59.839 parenthood very early, and that first time you hung out, 0:45:59.880 --> 0:46:03.560 like two days later you're like, hey, hey, how are 0:46:03.600 --> 0:46:06.000 you like trying to fill each other out, But there 0:46:06.120 --> 0:46:08.879 was nothing truly like deep about the conversation the first 0:46:08.920 --> 0:46:11.600 couple of times. It really wasn't until she came to 0:46:11.680 --> 0:46:14.399 the birthday party and shared the information about her being 0:46:14.440 --> 0:46:17.080 on tender and her like finding a really hot couple 0:46:17.160 --> 0:46:18.560 and that she had hung out with them that it 0:46:18.600 --> 0:46:20.640 made me feel comfortable to be myself and to really 0:46:20.719 --> 0:46:22.759 be like, oh, this is who I am and this 0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:25.400 is what you know, like where I'm at, and like, 0:46:25.719 --> 0:46:27.600 you know, just be honest about who I was because 0:46:27.640 --> 0:46:29.279 I felt comfortable enough to do that. So I think 0:46:29.320 --> 0:46:34.360 sometimes we're both both parties are being surface level because 0:46:34.400 --> 0:46:38.160 you're being fear of being judged or being too much. 0:46:38.280 --> 0:46:41.880 And I think we do ourselves a disservice by not 0:46:42.080 --> 0:46:43.960 just going deep immediately, like bitch, this is what I'm 0:46:44.000 --> 0:46:46.319 going through, you know. I think we try to save 0:46:46.360 --> 0:46:48.640 face all the time, so don't always like sometimes it 0:46:48.719 --> 0:46:51.120 requires for you to get especially in adulthood when we 0:46:51.160 --> 0:46:53.160 don't have a lot of time. We got to get 0:46:53.160 --> 0:46:54.160 to the nitty gritty quick. 0:46:54.360 --> 0:46:56.160 Yeah, like come on, bitch, I don't want to talk 0:46:56.160 --> 0:47:00.640 about canny little baby canny and his fucking colic, Like 0:47:01.400 --> 0:47:03.680 let's talk about his baby daddy ain't fucking there and 0:47:03.800 --> 0:47:04.120 fuck that? 0:47:04.520 --> 0:47:08.000 No kidding? So are you getting your pussy hater or 0:47:08.120 --> 0:47:08.400 what's that? 0:47:10.160 --> 0:47:14.000 Oh my god? And then as far as our retreats go, 0:47:14.160 --> 0:47:16.560 I mean that is obviously like that's like the level 0:47:16.680 --> 0:47:21.840 up of like really really really being committed to finding 0:47:22.239 --> 0:47:25.960 the tribe and integrating in person with them, Like our 0:47:26.040 --> 0:47:30.360 retreats are are really I don't even the sacred place. 0:47:30.600 --> 0:47:33.120 You know, there's probably some women in the chat right 0:47:33.200 --> 0:47:35.440 now that have come on our retreats, and maybe you 0:47:35.480 --> 0:47:37.600 can speak to it in like a few words if 0:47:37.640 --> 0:47:40.279 you're in the chat and just explain what happens there. 0:47:40.400 --> 0:47:43.479 But it's really an opportunity for you to actually meet 0:47:44.160 --> 0:47:48.400 the people that have are really dedicated to the calling 0:47:48.719 --> 0:47:54.200 of a healing, finding their purpose, igniting their self, restarting over, 0:47:54.320 --> 0:47:58.440 rebranding themselves, taking care of themselves, figuring some shit out, 0:47:58.520 --> 0:48:02.279 letting some shit go, allowing yourself to be taken care 0:48:02.360 --> 0:48:06.319 of for the first time, surrendering like all those things. 0:48:06.360 --> 0:48:09.400 Like that's really like what happens at our retreats. And 0:48:10.120 --> 0:48:14.320 we're actually about to leave to our annual Golden Gem 0:48:15.480 --> 0:48:17.759 retreat of Costa Rica. We do this one every single 0:48:17.880 --> 0:48:21.879 year in February first. It's usually either January thirty first 0:48:21.960 --> 0:48:24.200 or February first, And like I said, I think that 0:48:24.480 --> 0:48:26.239 for me and Miila, like our year really starts in 0:48:26.280 --> 0:48:30.239 February after this retreat. And I always tell people like 0:48:30.320 --> 0:48:33.120 if you are in a space in your life where 0:48:33.239 --> 0:48:37.480 you're ready to just just kind of do away with whatever, 0:48:37.640 --> 0:48:40.040 like just anything that's been holding you back, if you're 0:48:40.040 --> 0:48:43.320 ready to like rebrand your life, if you're ready to 0:48:43.560 --> 0:48:47.760 just meet the people that are committed to that process, 0:48:48.280 --> 0:48:50.000 and if you're ready to just kind of be taken 0:48:50.080 --> 0:48:53.080 care of for once. As moms now to take care 0:48:53.120 --> 0:48:55.800 of anybody else, I mean women, not even yourself. 0:48:55.880 --> 0:48:57.879 Really, we take care of you, right, like all women. 0:48:57.960 --> 0:48:59.360 I mean, I think all women need the retreats, but 0:48:59.440 --> 0:49:03.080 Mom's specific, Like we have such a hard time letting 0:49:03.120 --> 0:49:06.600 people take care of us and me and Mila at 0:49:06.640 --> 0:49:08.480 these retreats, like this is what we pride ourselves in, 0:49:08.600 --> 0:49:10.400 is that we take care of everything from start to finish. 0:49:10.520 --> 0:49:12.439 This is really a place for you to just take 0:49:12.480 --> 0:49:15.160 off the fucking mommy roll and just be the woman 0:49:15.280 --> 0:49:19.759 that you are and allow yourself to be guided. Allow 0:49:19.840 --> 0:49:22.840 yourself to be be guided by the feminine too, because 0:49:22.840 --> 0:49:24.520 I think as women were always looking for the man 0:49:24.640 --> 0:49:27.160 to guide us. But there's such deep healing and so 0:49:27.320 --> 0:49:31.840 much awakening and just magic and allowing the feminine to 0:49:31.920 --> 0:49:36.960 guide you as well. And yeah, so and we do 0:49:37.080 --> 0:49:38.880 still have some spots left, so if you guys are 0:49:39.040 --> 0:49:41.840 interested in coming to Costa Rica and it's last minute 0:49:42.040 --> 0:49:44.640 and you if you but shit, sometimes last minute. 0:49:44.719 --> 0:49:46.640 That's that's what it really when you need to go, 0:49:46.880 --> 0:49:48.920 some shit has happened and you need to make the decision, 0:49:48.960 --> 0:49:51.239 and it's prompted you and this is your sign and 0:49:51.400 --> 0:49:52.879 some things have happened and you're like, what the fuck 0:49:52.920 --> 0:49:54.080 am I gonna do? This is what you're gonna do. 0:49:54.600 --> 0:49:57.800 Just do the thing, don't think about it, and just 0:49:57.880 --> 0:49:59.319 let people come take care of you. I know, we've 0:49:59.320 --> 0:50:01.560 been talking a lot of like all the crazy shit 0:50:01.600 --> 0:50:03.840 that happens in the world, and like that has happened, 0:50:03.880 --> 0:50:05.719 and like how do you care for yourself and be 0:50:05.800 --> 0:50:08.319 gentle with yourself. It's like you're right a find your 0:50:08.440 --> 0:50:12.600 tribe because you need like nurturing. But go on vacation, 0:50:13.000 --> 0:50:15.600 like go get out of the environment of what is 0:50:15.680 --> 0:50:19.520 happening and be surrounded by people who care, and like 0:50:19.719 --> 0:50:21.520 this is one of those places where you're like, oh 0:50:21.560 --> 0:50:23.600 my god, is this a call? Everybody cares so much, 0:50:23.680 --> 0:50:26.000 everyone's so loving, and it's true, it's not a call. 0:50:26.080 --> 0:50:29.120 It's just a love fest. And it's because everyone comes 0:50:29.160 --> 0:50:32.359 seeking something, you know, and seeking and ready to give 0:50:32.520 --> 0:50:35.120 and it's just like an abundant feminine energy. And like 0:50:35.239 --> 0:50:37.480 I saw Frederic say, you know, she came and she 0:50:37.560 --> 0:50:40.720 spilled her heart about heart out about of a friendship breakup, 0:50:40.760 --> 0:50:43.560 and then she left with thirty new friends. Literally, you 0:50:43.760 --> 0:50:48.320 leave with twenty new friends. It's not even exaggeration. Like 0:50:48.840 --> 0:50:52.480 it's an amazing, beautiful thing when you allow women to 0:50:52.560 --> 0:50:54.239 take care of you, and you allow women to be 0:50:54.360 --> 0:50:57.000 soft and let them own their guards and just you know, 0:50:57.160 --> 0:50:59.799 really be there for each other. We are so why 0:51:00.320 --> 0:51:02.960 and like have so much information to give each other 0:51:03.040 --> 0:51:04.960 and so many lessons to share, and like I think 0:51:05.000 --> 0:51:06.880 that's really where the beauty comes in and the strength. 0:51:08.960 --> 0:51:11.600 I'm like, I think, especially with everything that's going on 0:51:11.719 --> 0:51:14.640 in La I literally cannot wait to just go a 0:51:14.880 --> 0:51:19.080 breathe fresh air, eat real food, eat real food, and 0:51:19.560 --> 0:51:21.440 just just unwind. 0:51:21.680 --> 0:51:22.600 Let go like this. 0:51:23.320 --> 0:51:27.400 We've been preparing for our season for months now, and 0:51:27.640 --> 0:51:31.520 like it's kind of like scary to like go into 0:51:31.560 --> 0:51:34.080 retreat mode in the midst of like what we're doing. 0:51:34.160 --> 0:51:36.479 But this is but that's just life, and that's life 0:51:36.520 --> 0:51:39.040 isn't going to slow down. There's no perfect time for 0:51:39.160 --> 0:51:42.200 you to take a trip sometimes, you know, like even 0:51:42.360 --> 0:51:45.320 us right now, like we're literally in the beginning of 0:51:45.440 --> 0:51:47.919 our season and we're like, bye, we'll be right back 0:51:48.120 --> 0:51:49.759 because we got to go take care of ourselves and 0:51:49.880 --> 0:51:53.399 some bitches, and like I never regret it. There's never 0:51:53.480 --> 0:51:53.960 a regret. 0:51:54.120 --> 0:51:56.760 God's always like, bitch, go sit down, and I always 0:51:56.800 --> 0:51:59.520 trust it and it always works out. Like little Johnny 0:51:59.560 --> 0:52:01.680 will it's teeth while you're gone for six days. I 0:52:01.800 --> 0:52:04.520 fucking promise you. And you know, trust the person you 0:52:04.600 --> 0:52:07.239 had a baby with, or like trust the assistant, trust 0:52:07.280 --> 0:52:09.319 the other person in your position, and all the people 0:52:09.440 --> 0:52:11.680 feel like they can't walk away from work. And sometimes 0:52:11.719 --> 0:52:13.880 it's like you can't do your work unless you do 0:52:14.280 --> 0:52:17.719 the thing for you, and like don't overgive to outside 0:52:17.800 --> 0:52:20.920 and not remember to give to you. So amen, I 0:52:21.000 --> 0:52:26.359 can't mother fucking white a man. Are you saw you pulled? 0:52:26.400 --> 0:52:28.839 Some you pulled? The Tarot time is a Tarot time. 0:52:28.880 --> 0:52:32.080 It's Tarot time, Terot time. I don't know if you 0:52:32.080 --> 0:52:35.560 want to pull, if I want to pull you pull, 0:52:43.360 --> 0:52:48.160 I pulled the High Priestess. Shall I look it up 0:52:48.160 --> 0:52:50.680 and look it up? I feel like it's it has 0:52:50.760 --> 0:52:53.920 lots to do with balance, can you say that this 0:52:54.120 --> 0:52:58.120 is our Mahogany tarot card. They're all black and brown 0:52:58.719 --> 0:53:02.239 representations illustration, and there's this one looks first of all 0:53:02.560 --> 0:53:05.640 B and J and I don't know what that means, 0:53:05.719 --> 0:53:10.560 but it looks like it's very balanced. Well, let me 0:53:10.600 --> 0:53:11.959 tell you what it means, baby. 0:53:12.640 --> 0:53:17.680 The upright means intuition, sacred knowledge, divine, feminine, and the 0:53:17.800 --> 0:53:22.040 subconscious mind. While the magician is the guardian of the 0:53:22.120 --> 0:53:24.640 conscious mind and the tangible world, the High Priestess is 0:53:24.680 --> 0:53:26.800 the guardian of the subconscious mind and the teacher of 0:53:26.840 --> 0:53:30.160 sacred knowledge and hidden mysteries. Sitting at the threshold of 0:53:30.200 --> 0:53:33.560 the conscious and subconscious mind, the High Priestess has an 0:53:33.600 --> 0:53:38.440 innate ability ability to travel between these realms effortlessly. She 0:53:38.680 --> 0:53:41.360 teaches you that the world is not always as it seems, 0:53:41.440 --> 0:53:44.680 and more profound influences are often at play. The High 0:53:44.719 --> 0:53:49.080 Priestess signifies spiritual enlightenment in her illumination, divine knowledge, and wisdom. 0:53:49.480 --> 0:53:51.480 She shows up in your tarror reading when the veil 0:53:51.560 --> 0:53:54.000 between you and the underworld is thin and you have 0:53:54.080 --> 0:53:57.080 the opportunity to access the knowledge deep within your soul. 0:53:57.680 --> 0:54:00.839 Now is the time to be still, so you can 0:54:00.920 --> 0:54:03.399 tune in to your intuition in Costa Rica. 0:54:03.880 --> 0:54:04.080 Yep. 0:54:04.600 --> 0:54:07.799 The answers you are seeking will come from within, from 0:54:07.840 --> 0:54:11.400 your deepest truth and knowing. Allow the High Priestess to 0:54:11.440 --> 0:54:14.160 become your guide as you venture deep into the jungle 0:54:14.600 --> 0:54:18.720 of your subconscious mind and access the inner wisdom. Connect 0:54:18.760 --> 0:54:22.200 with your intuition and your higher self through meditation, visualization, 0:54:22.800 --> 0:54:30.120 shamanic journeying aka mynashreams, and being a part of spiritual communities. Wow, welcome, 0:54:30.480 --> 0:54:35.680 Welcome to our spiritual community. Yeah this I mean obviously 0:54:35.719 --> 0:54:38.040 whenever we pull a card it always is like literally 0:54:38.400 --> 0:54:41.920 right on divine timing, and I think, uh put we 0:54:42.000 --> 0:54:43.880 put in the chat a link to the retreat if 0:54:43.920 --> 0:54:46.719 you guys are interested in coming to the retreat that 0:54:46.840 --> 0:54:48.680 we do have a few spots left. We have a 0:54:48.800 --> 0:54:52.360 solo room available, one more and a few more shared 0:54:52.440 --> 0:54:55.640 rooms available. So if you're feeling like you know what 0:54:55.760 --> 0:54:57.880 I need to fucking break, I need to get on 0:54:57.920 --> 0:54:59.719 this trip, please come and make sure you use the 0:54:59.760 --> 0:55:03.360 code Tribe at checkout. Use the code Tribe at checkout 0:55:03.400 --> 0:55:06.120 because you're gonna get a beautiful gift from us, and 0:55:06.320 --> 0:55:08.840 we have payment plans available too, So if like you're like, 0:55:08.920 --> 0:55:11.520 I can't afford this shit, don't worry, we will figure 0:55:11.560 --> 0:55:14.279 it out. You can come, I promise you. 0:55:14.880 --> 0:55:17.320 Yeah, make it, make it happen. Don't make an excuse, like, 0:55:17.520 --> 0:55:20.040 don't make excuses for yourself. Yeah, make it happy, like 0:55:20.080 --> 0:55:21.520 you make it happen for somebody else, like if it 0:55:21.600 --> 0:55:26.360 was baby, your little baby. I know. 0:55:26.520 --> 0:55:32.080 We did a little giveaway on Facebook in our Facebook group. 0:55:32.320 --> 0:55:38.319 We were giving away one hundred dollars mystery Bagoo mystery bag. 0:55:38.560 --> 0:55:38.920 Mm hm. 0:55:39.239 --> 0:55:41.120 We never we never really do a lot of giveaways, 0:55:41.200 --> 0:55:43.719 but I'm excited if you join our Facebook group, We're 0:55:43.719 --> 0:55:45.360 gonna be doing a lot more giveaways in that space. 0:55:46.800 --> 0:55:49.480 And so in this mystery bag, WEMLA were like, what 0:55:49.560 --> 0:55:52.279 should we include in this hundred dollars giveaway bag? And 0:55:52.719 --> 0:55:54.279 I was like, I think it's gonna be a little 0:55:54.280 --> 0:55:55.120 bit more than a hundred dollars. 0:55:55.920 --> 0:55:57.719 Yeah, probably so. 0:55:57.840 --> 0:56:02.080 Number one, our good Mom crew, Neck show the ladies. 0:56:02.080 --> 0:56:03.520 I feel like I'm on Home Shopping Network. 0:56:03.800 --> 0:56:06.120 This is your specialty, your expertise, wasn't it like go 0:56:06.200 --> 0:56:06.960 to I did go. 0:56:07.040 --> 0:56:09.560 I went to Home Shopping Network school. So you guys 0:56:09.680 --> 0:56:12.920 see this, This is a very rich beautiful cot and 0:56:13.040 --> 0:56:15.600 only the highest luxury for our bitches. 0:56:16.640 --> 0:56:18.640 It also includes the good. 0:56:18.520 --> 0:56:23.239 Mom beautiful puff paint, high quality puff paint because we 0:56:23.360 --> 0:56:26.440 only do the best for our extra puff. 0:56:26.880 --> 0:56:28.920 You can't really see it from here, but it's three D. 0:56:29.239 --> 0:56:32.560 It is three D and then boom on the back, 0:56:32.760 --> 0:56:37.320 we have our beautiful trippy happy face because we're some 0:56:37.400 --> 0:56:40.320 trippy bitches. So this is something that is included in 0:56:40.400 --> 0:56:40.880 the giveaway. 0:56:42.080 --> 0:56:48.160 And oh go ahead, we're also including this top of 0:56:48.239 --> 0:56:52.400 the line fourteen gold plated Bad Choice necklace. 0:56:52.640 --> 0:56:56.399 Orlando cut to Jamila, so speaking she can really show 0:56:56.960 --> 0:56:58.400 show the people you see this. 0:56:58.520 --> 0:57:01.160 It's blame every time you come. 0:57:01.200 --> 0:57:05.440 And I must buying bang yes, and I you know what, 0:57:05.520 --> 0:57:08.960 I love this, Mela and I wear these necklaces literally 0:57:09.040 --> 0:57:11.040 every day. We shower with them. We never take them off. 0:57:11.160 --> 0:57:13.640 They never turn like literally they do not turn. I 0:57:13.719 --> 0:57:15.480 know you all read. You know I just bought this 0:57:15.680 --> 0:57:19.120 fucking stupid ass necklace that I'm wearing here. You don't 0:57:19.120 --> 0:57:22.800 have to zoom into this. It was supposed to be 0:57:23.520 --> 0:57:26.080 non tarnish. It's just already tarnishing. 0:57:26.320 --> 0:57:28.040 Yeah, these really don't tarnish. I don't like to really 0:57:28.080 --> 0:57:31.880 take jewelry off when I shower because I'm lazy. I 0:57:32.120 --> 0:57:35.480 think I'm rich. It's diamonds, but it's never turns and 0:57:35.600 --> 0:57:37.600 it never like makes you itch earning those things. It's 0:57:37.640 --> 0:57:39.760 definitely like the gold plate. It is is gold plating. 0:57:39.880 --> 0:57:42.720 Yeah, it's it's beautiful. It's beautiful, and. 0:57:42.760 --> 0:57:44.280 It kind of lets people know, like, you know what 0:57:44.560 --> 0:57:46.640 kind of type time you're on. Bad choices, bad choices, 0:57:46.680 --> 0:57:47.360 bad choices. 0:57:48.560 --> 0:57:50.760 And last but not least, you know, I had to 0:57:50.880 --> 0:57:54.840 include a beauty blender. This is my favorite product. It's 0:57:54.880 --> 0:57:58.000 also my family business. For those that don't know, my 0:57:58.160 --> 0:58:01.640 mom was is also was also a single mom when 0:58:01.640 --> 0:58:05.520 she raised me. She was a makeup artist and came 0:58:05.640 --> 0:58:09.200 up with this on set. She used to be the 0:58:09.560 --> 0:58:13.920 department head for the show Girlfriends and started cutting sponges 0:58:14.280 --> 0:58:17.200 and created the beauty blender. And so this is a 0:58:17.320 --> 0:58:22.760 woman owned, Latina owned product. It's the original. So for 0:58:22.880 --> 0:58:27.160 all the other dupes that you see at the CBS's 0:58:27.400 --> 0:58:31.200 and the Walgreens that ain't this, this is the high quality, 0:58:31.640 --> 0:58:35.560 the original beauty blender. And so this I'm also going 0:58:35.640 --> 0:58:38.040 to throw into the bag and make sure you get 0:58:38.040 --> 0:58:39.480 it wet when you use it. You have to get 0:58:39.520 --> 0:58:44.120 it wet, squeeze it out, damp, bounce, and so I'm 0:58:44.120 --> 0:58:46.680 going to pick the winner right here live, Oh Lenny, do. 0:58:46.760 --> 0:58:49.080 The damn thing like I'm on wheel of fortune. Like 0:58:50.200 --> 0:58:52.360 I don't know why because it is a wheel. Look, 0:58:52.400 --> 0:58:53.840 it's been the wheel. Oh cute. 0:58:54.520 --> 0:58:57.560 Shout out to Terranny who hooked us up and figured 0:58:57.600 --> 0:58:58.720 this out for us because. 0:58:58.520 --> 0:58:58.920 I had known. 0:58:58.960 --> 0:59:00.800 Oh my god, it's so cute. See look at our 0:59:00.880 --> 0:59:04.320 pictures in the background, and shit, ah, okay, we're gonna 0:59:04.320 --> 0:59:04.880 spin the wheel. 0:59:04.920 --> 0:59:09.760 Live y'all. Let's spin. Let's spin. Everyone's in there already. Yes, yeah, 0:59:09.920 --> 0:59:11.920 this is interesting technology. 0:59:12.600 --> 0:59:28.440 Oh Crimson Doula underscore. 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So 0:59:59.360 --> 1:00:01.720 make sure you check out our cutest fuck merch store 1:00:02.880 --> 1:00:06.479 and support moms who make shit. 1:00:13.960 --> 1:00:15.880 Oh oh mushroom, Oh not the mushroom. 1:00:17.280 --> 1:00:20.920 Oh speaking of mushrooms, guys, I don't know if you've 1:00:21.080 --> 1:00:24.320 seen me on Instagram talking about this mushroom tea that 1:00:24.400 --> 1:00:25.120 I've been drinking. 1:00:25.280 --> 1:00:26.600 Oh, Schedule thirty five. 1:00:26.800 --> 1:00:30.840 Yes, So this brand, Schedule thirty five, sent me their shit, 1:00:31.040 --> 1:00:33.160 and then I wasn't sure because I was like, first 1:00:33.160 --> 1:00:35.680 of all, how are you sending me mushrooms in the mail? Like? 1:00:36.160 --> 1:00:36.680 Is this legal? 1:00:36.840 --> 1:00:39.919 Apparently it is, because they send it all over the US. 1:00:40.000 --> 1:00:42.520 It is legal. I don't know how, but it is. 1:00:43.600 --> 1:00:45.760 Listen, don't don't. They're a verified brand. Okay. 1:00:46.160 --> 1:00:48.800 Anyway, I was like, let me, let me just try 1:00:49.040 --> 1:00:52.080 try it out. And so I started off with their teas, 1:00:52.160 --> 1:00:55.600 which I'm obsessed with. They have like a they have 1:00:55.680 --> 1:00:58.880 a two hundred milligram tea. They have like different like levels. 1:00:58.680 --> 1:01:00.600 Which one did you do? I did the two hundred 1:01:00.640 --> 1:01:02.400 milligram one, and like, but how'd you feel? 1:01:03.160 --> 1:01:05.479 You know, what I wasn't sure like how I thought 1:01:05.600 --> 1:01:07.200 maybe it was going to make me feel like a 1:01:07.280 --> 1:01:12.640 little like very relaxed, which kind of was what I 1:01:12.760 --> 1:01:15.280 was looking for, but really it wasn't even I was 1:01:15.360 --> 1:01:17.480 looking for my anxiety to go away, is what I 1:01:17.560 --> 1:01:19.680 really wanted, which usually I think I need to be 1:01:19.800 --> 1:01:23.360 relaxed for that to happen. But it actually gave me energy. 1:01:24.120 --> 1:01:26.400 It gave me energy, but like the anxiety was gone, 1:01:26.600 --> 1:01:28.920 and so it gave me energy. So I wasn't necessarily 1:01:28.960 --> 1:01:31.360 relaxed or I couldn't do shit because a lot of times, 1:01:31.480 --> 1:01:33.560 like when you're taking like I don't know, when you're 1:01:33.600 --> 1:01:36.080 taking like a pill like xanax, you have anxiety, which 1:01:36.120 --> 1:01:37.280 is because now you're gonna be laid out. 1:01:37.360 --> 1:01:38.640 Yeah, you can't do shit out. Yeah. 1:01:39.240 --> 1:01:42.320 So I really enjoyed. I really enjoyed taking this tea 1:01:42.400 --> 1:01:44.920 in the morning. I'll drink in the morning before our meetings. 1:01:46.040 --> 1:01:48.600 And it doesn't make you feel like how you would 1:01:48.640 --> 1:01:50.920 feel if you actually took like a lot of mushrooms. 1:01:50.920 --> 1:01:53.000 I think a lot of people it's microdocing. So a 1:01:53.000 --> 1:01:55.920 lot of people have misconceptions around plant medicine in general 1:01:56.000 --> 1:01:57.360 and think like, oh my god, I'm going to take 1:01:57.400 --> 1:01:59.960 mushrooms and I'm gonna be like seeing fucking tied eye 1:02:00.120 --> 1:02:04.000 rainbows and shit. But it actually made me feel really productive. 1:02:04.240 --> 1:02:07.240 It made me feel anxiety free, it made me feel 1:02:07.240 --> 1:02:10.320 really create It makes me feel really creative. And so 1:02:11.120 --> 1:02:12.600 for those of you, because a lot of people have 1:02:12.680 --> 1:02:15.680 reached out to me about this specific brand schedule thirty five, 1:02:15.760 --> 1:02:19.200 I'm gonna have tea, put the link in the chat 1:02:19.480 --> 1:02:22.360 and use code good Moms fifteen at checkout for fifteen 1:02:22.400 --> 1:02:25.200 percent off. Like I said, they ship all over the 1:02:25.320 --> 1:02:27.439 United States. So if this is something you've wanted to try, 1:02:27.600 --> 1:02:31.000 I highly recommend, if you've never even tried plant medicine 1:02:31.000 --> 1:02:34.800 at all, to either start with the two gram tea 1:02:35.360 --> 1:02:36.000 or the. 1:02:36.240 --> 1:02:38.560 Capsules same point is it two or point? 1:02:39.080 --> 1:02:41.880 Well, I'm sorry, it's two hundred milligrams, but the package 1:02:41.920 --> 1:02:44.040 has two grams on there. There's two grams worth of 1:02:44.560 --> 1:02:48.720 mushrooms in Yeah, and I think they they recommend three 1:02:48.800 --> 1:02:51.240 days on, four days off, three days on four days. 1:02:51.080 --> 1:02:53.160 Off to like kind of like acclimate your body. 1:02:53.360 --> 1:02:53.560 Yeah. 1:02:53.640 --> 1:02:56.120 So I don't know if there's any microdosing mommies or 1:02:56.240 --> 1:02:58.760 people in the chat, maybe throwing a mushroom in there. 1:02:58.880 --> 1:03:02.160 If you're if you're down with the plant medicine. 1:03:02.560 --> 1:03:06.040 It's definitely a good alternative for like for like anxiety 1:03:06.160 --> 1:03:10.680 meds or something like that or something. Because mushrooms saved 1:03:10.720 --> 1:03:11.640 my life twenty twenty. 1:03:12.720 --> 1:03:13.560 Yeah, they really did. 1:03:13.640 --> 1:03:15.560 They really did. They really did, really dead. 1:03:25.760 --> 1:03:27.480 And you know, even at our retreats, we do we 1:03:27.560 --> 1:03:29.440 do a much heavier dose. At our retreat. We actually 1:03:29.480 --> 1:03:33.480 go on an actual real journey during one of the 1:03:33.760 --> 1:03:36.800 last few days of the retreat. And that is so 1:03:36.880 --> 1:03:39.680 beautiful too, because we're literally in the middle of the jungle. 1:03:39.840 --> 1:03:45.760 It's such a safe container, and it's accompanied by sound, healing, reiki, 1:03:46.000 --> 1:03:47.920 all the things. But if you're just like, let me 1:03:48.080 --> 1:03:51.880 just dip my toe in try schedule thirty five, it's 1:03:51.920 --> 1:03:59.320 really a game changer. Well, we should get out of 1:03:59.320 --> 1:03:59.680 here soon. 1:04:00.120 --> 1:04:02.400 Okay, Okay, I've been having so much fun with our friends, 1:04:02.480 --> 1:04:04.240 but I guess we can carry along. 1:04:04.520 --> 1:04:06.560 Wait, but before we get out, I didn't want to 1:04:06.560 --> 1:04:09.680 share a hoory okay that someone sent us because I 1:04:09.760 --> 1:04:14.440 feel like it was really it was really something. It 1:04:14.520 --> 1:04:15.920 was really it was really something. 1:04:16.800 --> 1:04:21.800 So we have if you also, if you have. 1:04:21.880 --> 1:04:26.080 Any horries or bad choices of the week, or just 1:04:26.200 --> 1:04:28.160 something you want to share, like a secret that you 1:04:28.200 --> 1:04:30.160 want to share anonymously that maybe you've just needed to 1:04:30.200 --> 1:04:34.120 get off your chest. We have a link that you 1:04:34.200 --> 1:04:39.640 can click on in our Instagram or maybe I don't know, tea, 1:04:39.680 --> 1:04:41.160 maybe you can share it here. But either way you 1:04:41.200 --> 1:04:44.080 can find it our Instagram. You can share your stuff 1:04:44.080 --> 1:04:45.560 with us, so we can share and talk to you 1:04:45.640 --> 1:04:46.000 about it. 1:04:47.760 --> 1:04:52.680 But our hory, where is our hoorriy? 1:04:53.480 --> 1:04:54.080 We find it? 1:04:55.080 --> 1:05:03.960 It's time for horse stories. Mm hmm m m. This 1:05:04.120 --> 1:05:04.600 is a horror. 1:05:04.760 --> 1:05:09.600 And also I don't know this is This is definitely 1:05:09.680 --> 1:05:17.000 a secret safe because yeah, here we go. My bestie's 1:05:17.080 --> 1:05:18.960 old side, nigga is my new side? 1:05:19.040 --> 1:05:26.480 Nigga? Did she give him to you? And she doesn't 1:05:26.520 --> 1:05:27.000 know we talk. 1:05:28.880 --> 1:05:31.800 She's married and lives out of state and they haven't 1:05:31.800 --> 1:05:33.080 seen each other in over a year. 1:05:33.680 --> 1:05:36.040 Oh damn, she had a side, niggah. She was married, okay, 1:05:36.080 --> 1:05:38.280 her bestie. Oh oh, that's a real side nigga. Okay. 1:05:38.960 --> 1:05:40.680 I met him on a dating app not knowing that 1:05:40.760 --> 1:05:43.040 it was him, ended up talking to her about it 1:05:43.160 --> 1:05:46.040 casually one day and she said, wait a minute, who no, 1:05:46.360 --> 1:05:49.400 stop talking to him? But me and him vibe. We 1:05:49.600 --> 1:05:52.440 fuck good, We have a good time, and he's just 1:05:52.560 --> 1:05:56.000 the best eater I've ever had. I can't come up 1:05:56.040 --> 1:05:58.920 off him, and I know I need to, because ultimately 1:05:59.320 --> 1:06:01.760 he's not my nigga. A girl I used to talk 1:06:01.800 --> 1:06:04.400 to even ask me about him before, come to find 1:06:04.440 --> 1:06:05.680 out they were talking too. 1:06:06.600 --> 1:06:08.680 He's for everybody, he'd he'd be on the ass. Your 1:06:08.720 --> 1:06:10.520 friend needs to just understand he's for everybody. 1:06:10.640 --> 1:06:14.040 How do I leave this freaky ass nigga alone? I 1:06:14.160 --> 1:06:16.040 need it out so I can find my own freaky 1:06:16.120 --> 1:06:20.520 ass nigger. Oh I didn't mention he ain't got no car, 1:06:22.280 --> 1:06:25.320 live with his mama, Oh no, and barely got a job. 1:06:25.400 --> 1:06:29.040 Oh no, lord, And he'd be asking me for money. 1:06:29.160 --> 1:06:32.800 Oh no, Lord, No, I don't know. I reveal him. 1:06:32.920 --> 1:06:36.280 We listen and we don't judge, but please judge my ass. 1:06:37.440 --> 1:06:40.920 Sorry it came out too soon. Now you know that. 1:06:46.240 --> 1:06:47.560 Now the dick must be dick In. 1:06:47.840 --> 1:06:49.520 You know, broke dick is the best dick. 1:06:49.560 --> 1:06:51.800 Because I got somewhere, need somewhere to say, you know 1:06:52.040 --> 1:06:54.400 it's dick In, Because if this bitch said don't talk 1:06:54.440 --> 1:06:56.040 to him, I'd be like, if we don't take his luck, 1:06:56.120 --> 1:06:59.040 get his ass out of here. Sure, take him. Oh 1:06:59.240 --> 1:07:03.520 my goodness, Oh my goodness, he must be a girl. 1:07:03.720 --> 1:07:04.880 You need to leave that man alone. 1:07:05.320 --> 1:07:08.040 But I mean, maybe just get it in a few times. 1:07:08.880 --> 1:07:10.880 You know, you have you have until February first, bitch, 1:07:11.880 --> 1:07:14.720 your time is up on February first. That's when New 1:07:14.800 --> 1:07:18.240 Year's begins, and you gotta drop this nigga. Okay, no 1:07:18.560 --> 1:07:22.320 more broke, freaky ass side niggas on the February first, 1:07:22.400 --> 1:07:23.320 Let's do a deadline. 1:07:24.160 --> 1:07:26.960 You know what I will say on a positive note 1:07:27.960 --> 1:07:31.200 is at least you're aware that this is not your nigga, 1:07:31.280 --> 1:07:32.760 and that you're not trying to get him a job 1:07:32.880 --> 1:07:34.920 at your job, and you're not trying to set him 1:07:35.000 --> 1:07:37.200 up with a finance niggas so he can get himself 1:07:37.200 --> 1:07:39.280 a car and get him together. Because at least you're 1:07:39.760 --> 1:07:45.080 allusional illusional. I just waited them. At least you're lusional, 1:07:45.240 --> 1:07:47.760 which is the opposite of delusional. Hmmm. I like that 1:07:48.200 --> 1:07:50.720 you illusional. So like, sometimes we do stupid shit, but 1:07:50.800 --> 1:07:53.480 as long as we're aware of conscious that we're doing 1:07:53.520 --> 1:07:58.600 stupid shit, and like it's cold, it's called aware. A 1:07:58.840 --> 1:08:01.840 stupid aware bitch, You know you're not just a stupid bitch. 1:08:01.880 --> 1:08:03.880 You're a stupid aware bitch. Stupid. And you know I 1:08:03.920 --> 1:08:05.600 have a lot of respect for a stupid aware bitch 1:08:05.600 --> 1:08:07.760 because I've been there, You've been stupid bitch. We've all 1:08:07.760 --> 1:08:10.320 been stupidware beaches. Like I'm aware, I'm stupid bitch. Okay, 1:08:10.520 --> 1:08:12.800 I'm aware. You ain't gotta tell me. I'm telling you. 1:08:13.120 --> 1:08:15.760 You gotta tell me because I'm telling you. But all 1:08:16.160 --> 1:08:20.200 stupid aware bitchness comes with it. You know, there's a deadline, 1:08:20.320 --> 1:08:22.439 there's a you know, we can't you can't be a 1:08:22.479 --> 1:08:25.560 stupid aware bitch for twelve months because then you're just 1:08:25.640 --> 1:08:28.320 a stupid bitch. No, then you're just a stupid bitch. Fact. 1:08:28.520 --> 1:08:30.920 You know, there's a threshold, there's a timeline, there's a 1:08:31.120 --> 1:08:33.719 there's a quick timeline. And trust me, I know because 1:08:33.800 --> 1:08:38.280 I have grazed, I have gone penetrated far past the line. 1:08:38.840 --> 1:08:40.840 So just let me tell you, as this once stupid 1:08:40.880 --> 1:08:43.120 aware bitch turned stupid bitch, it. 1:08:43.160 --> 1:08:44.400 Can go quickly turned fiance. 1:08:46.640 --> 1:08:49.519 Have my ring damp turn fiance, okay, because you know 1:08:49.640 --> 1:08:52.000 you gotta sometimes you gotta. You gotta fall so you 1:08:52.040 --> 1:08:54.120 can walk, so you can run, so just take it 1:08:54.160 --> 1:08:55.599 for me because now I'm a fian. Oh my god, 1:08:55.640 --> 1:08:58.240 that's gonna be my whole spiel. I'm like, I'm a fiance, 1:08:58.520 --> 1:09:01.120 so let me just tell you some relationship advice as 1:09:01.200 --> 1:09:04.839 the fiance of this Oh god here, as the fiance 1:09:05.080 --> 1:09:08.080 of the podcast, I would just say, drop it low, 1:09:09.200 --> 1:09:12.760 suck it slow. Because I'm the fiance of the podcast, 1:09:13.720 --> 1:09:15.799 I can come to you with all my relationship advice. 1:09:16.880 --> 1:09:22.000 Signed xoxo Mila the fiance, And I'm gonna say it 1:09:22.040 --> 1:09:25.800 like that fiance because it's French. Oh my gosh. 1:09:26.800 --> 1:09:29.360 And if you'd like to donate to her nonprofit Hoes 1:09:29.400 --> 1:09:32.320 with Hope, you know, click the link in this episode description. 1:09:32.880 --> 1:09:35.439 Thus he hopes is direct fund that helps all hose 1:09:35.720 --> 1:09:38.479 who are stupid bitches come be stupid ware bitches to 1:09:38.560 --> 1:09:41.360 be Hose with Hope aka fiance and they will come 1:09:41.439 --> 1:09:43.800 on the retreat so they could do it deep intensive 1:09:43.960 --> 1:09:47.240 of being less stupid and more smart. When they come back, 1:09:47.479 --> 1:09:49.920 it's more hopeful, more hopeful. Have you seen scared straight? 1:09:51.200 --> 1:09:56.360 It's that but gentle with meditations and sound bowls and 1:09:56.400 --> 1:10:01.040 titties like at my titties, be free, be free. We're 1:10:01.080 --> 1:10:03.240 gonna save you to death to get that nigga all 1:10:03.240 --> 1:10:03.920 about your point. 1:10:03.960 --> 1:10:05.120 He's gonna be out of there. 1:10:06.479 --> 1:10:08.920 Besides you and saved you. You're gonna smoke that nigga 1:10:08.960 --> 1:10:10.880 out when you go back. You canna be allergic to 1:10:10.960 --> 1:10:15.960 his ass. Okay, So come on down to the gid Vibertrue, 1:10:15.960 --> 1:10:18.800 there's still time for you to be an aware bitch. 1:10:19.479 --> 1:10:27.599 There's still time. Let's take some meala moans from the fiance. 1:10:28.439 --> 1:10:29.640 Let's take a deep breath in. 1:10:33.439 --> 1:10:34.599 At least with sounds. 1:10:38.200 --> 1:10:42.439 Life is hard, the world is crazy. At least we 1:10:42.520 --> 1:11:05.479 have each other. Mm hmmm. You don't have to be 1:11:05.560 --> 1:11:09.040 fucking to moan. Sometimes just breathing is good enough. 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