Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
Speaker 1: She couldn't She cleaned and cared for her children and
Speaker 1: the man of the house, and of course she didn't
Speaker 1: talk back. She was both obeat, hint and soft by nature.
Speaker 1: She was a good woman who always made good choice.
Speaker 2: That ship, We're Good Mom's Bad Choices. Two single mom
Speaker 2: who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices
Speaker 2: and found.
Speaker 3: Out they were so bad after all.
Speaker 2: We're experts. Over shares and your new besties.
Speaker 3: Sit back and enjoy the ride.
Speaker 2: I can do a bad alone mom. I can do
Speaker 2: he me Mom, Flowers.
Speaker 3: I can play it back powers play as we have lived.
Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 2: I'm Mela and I'm Erica, and we are live on YouTube,
Speaker 2: y'all for the first time ever. We've got our shit together,
Speaker 2: and we are recording a live podcast, yes, with our
Speaker 2: online community and YouTube. So if you want to join
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Speaker 2: do it once a month.
Speaker 3: Yes, we're doing it on the third week of the month.
Speaker 3: I want to say a specific day, but I don't
Speaker 3: even want to put that pressure on us because it
Speaker 3: should be changing. Let's just say it's the third day,
Speaker 3: the third week of the month. We shall be going
Speaker 3: YouTube live.
Speaker 2: Keep your eyes field. I am.
Speaker 3: We're in LA right now and I'm seeing all the
Speaker 3: people in the chat. I just want to say hello
Speaker 3: to everybody in the chat. This is so dope to
Speaker 3: see all of you guys and be able to read
Speaker 3: all of your chats live.
Speaker 2: This is so cool, I know. I'm like, this is
Speaker 2: this is what we've been waiting for. Feel interactive. Oh
Speaker 2: my god, Oh my goodness. Someone said, I'm so glad
Speaker 2: you guys are officially back. Don't ever leave us alone
Speaker 2: along like that again. That was a long time.
Speaker 3: I know, we were gone for a long time. We
Speaker 3: needed to shut the fuck up for a secondly, But
Speaker 3: now we really needed to shut the fuck up. We
Speaker 3: really needed to just go integrate all the things that
Speaker 3: we've learned over the last six years. We've shared so
Speaker 3: much with you guys, of our lives and also the
Speaker 3: lives of other people, and just learned so share so
Speaker 3: much knowledge with you. I felt like every week I
Speaker 3: didn't even get to really integrate the knowledge that was
Speaker 3: bestowed upon me by a lot of our guests and
Speaker 3: even the things that we were sharing with one another.
Speaker 3: It was just like we were onto the next, onto
Speaker 3: the next, onto the next. So it was really nice
Speaker 3: to just take a second to breathe and read, take
Speaker 3: it all in and learn and keep shit to myself
Speaker 3: and scorpial vibes and you know, not just share so
Speaker 3: much and actually go live life. So I'm excited to
Speaker 3: share a lot of what's been going on over the
Speaker 3: last nine months over the next.
Speaker 2: Forty eight episodes of the year. I am too. I'm excited,
Speaker 2: and I know it's like there's so much happened, so
Speaker 2: I'm sure it will layer out and reveal itself because
Speaker 2: it's a lot to catch up one.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 3: So there's big news, big, major motherfucking news. I don't
Speaker 3: know if you know, but you're engaged, bitch.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I know. Actually, she took my ring this morning.
Speaker 2: I'm like, where's your ring? She went to take it
Speaker 2: to resize it. It was a little bit too big.
Speaker 2: But when she was like leaving, I was like, hey,
Speaker 2: hold on, can I see it one more time? I
Speaker 2: just I'm having separation anxiety. She's like, okay, I'll get
Speaker 2: it back to you tonight, you guys.
Speaker 3: Jamila got engaged over the weekend. Orlando proposed to her
Speaker 3: on one eleven at eleven eleven, and it was a
Speaker 3: big It was a big plan that we had to
Speaker 3: put together. I really had to put on my acting
Speaker 3: chops to just make sure that my nosy, motherfucking friend
Speaker 3: didn't find out, which I got really scared on the
Speaker 3: day of your engagement that you found out, and I
Speaker 3: was so stressed. I was like, Orlando's gonna kill me. Heaus,
Speaker 3: I think I'm trying to like fucking sabotage and I'm
Speaker 3: not even trying to. I was trying to be a
Speaker 3: good friend and tell the people to make sure they came.
Speaker 3: Then it wasn't just a good mom's bad choices season
Speaker 3: two parties.
Speaker 2: I had no fucking clue, which I thought, there's no
Speaker 2: way I'm gonna be able to do. They're gonna ever
Speaker 2: be able to trick me. We lived together, Everyone's location,
Speaker 2: I'm on everybody's phone, everybody's text message.
Speaker 3: That's why I was worried. I was like, this picus nosy,
Speaker 3: She's gonna go through his messages. We were in notes,
Speaker 3: messaging each other and shit, not texting a note yes,
Speaker 3: which yes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was totally shocked in surprise. It was really nice.
Speaker 2: It was in our living room and with all of
Speaker 2: our friends and you know, family and food and it
Speaker 2: was just very intimate, and I was I really did
Speaker 2: think it was a good Mom season two launch party.
Speaker 3: I know, so the other day or like, I guess,
Speaker 3: like two weeks ago, we're sitting here working tirelessly about
Speaker 3: like trying to figure out a thousand things, and I'm like,
Speaker 3: Orlando's like Orlando was like, yeah, I'm just gonna just
Speaker 3: have a tell her that people are just like swinging
Speaker 3: by in the area and they were just gonna come by.
Speaker 2: And I was like, that's a horrible fucking idea. That
Speaker 2: is a man idea.
Speaker 3: Why the fuck would all of her friends just be
Speaker 3: in the area just swoop on by for a fucking party.
Speaker 3: I was like, how about we make it a good
Speaker 3: Mom season two party and then under the guise of
Speaker 3: that and then be an engaging party. So we're sitting
Speaker 3: in here and I'm like, Mila, I'm like, we should
Speaker 3: we should have like a little like a party for
Speaker 3: our season two and she's like okay, and he's like, yeah,
Speaker 3: we should it at your house.
Speaker 2: She was like, oh okay.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, my Actually, I was like trying
Speaker 3: to be really casual about it. I didn't even look
Speaker 3: at her. I was just like, yeah, we should have
Speaker 3: like a season. And then I'm looking at Orlando like.
Speaker 2: It's working because I was like okay, and I was like,
Speaker 2: my house okay, because she knows I was gonna have
Speaker 2: a party, So I'm like okay. She's all cash like, Orlando,
Speaker 2: you're gonna cook. He's like yeah, yeah, yeah, Orlanda. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 2: yeah cook. The craziest thing is, though, Orlando is like
Speaker 2: there's only two days out of the whole year that
Speaker 2: I could ever propose. I was like my Birthday's Like.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm I'm a mad. He's like, now
Speaker 2: I'm like New Year's and he's like, I'm like naming
Speaker 2: every special holiday in our lives. And I never once
Speaker 2: that eleven eleven or one eleven is that a specific
Speaker 2: day for you guys? No, I take he just the
Speaker 2: one's numerality for it to make sense and to be
Speaker 2: on an angel number.
Speaker 3: New beginnings and New Beginning.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I was like I hadn't I didn't think
Speaker 2: of that at all, so I didn't even think of
Speaker 2: the date being one eleven or ever. I heard everyone's
Speaker 2: alarm going off in the house. I'm like, everybody has
Speaker 2: the same schedule. It's crazy.
Speaker 3: Then the day of the day of, I'm like, you
Speaker 3: want to go? Or the day before, I was like,
Speaker 3: I need to get my nails done. I want to
Speaker 3: go get our nails done together. And we are very
Speaker 3: specific nail people. We only go to like one place,
Speaker 3: but recently we stopped spending three hundred dollars every time
Speaker 3: we go and we've decided to just be basic bitches
Speaker 3: and just get regular nails. So I was like, okay, perfect,
Speaker 3: We're finally basic nail bitches. We can just go anywhere.
Speaker 3: And so I asked Mila. I was like, do you
Speaker 3: want to get your nails done? And I didn't know
Speaker 3: that Orlando had also asked her to get her nails done,
Speaker 3: which is very random and you're almost going to blow
Speaker 3: up your own motherfucker spot.
Speaker 2: And I was like, Orlando, everybody, I'm so popular. My
Speaker 2: wife and my husband want to get their nails done
Speaker 2: with me this week. He's like, oh, it's cool, you
Speaker 2: could just go with Erica because let me get my haircut,
Speaker 2: and I was like, okay, still thought nothing. I think,
Speaker 2: just said I'm so everyone loves me so much.
Speaker 3: So then I was like, okay, Orlando, I'm going to
Speaker 3: make a part of full which is like this like
Speaker 3: this app where you can invite people, and I'm going
Speaker 3: to send it to Jamila for her to share so
Speaker 3: she can invite whoever she wants. And then so I
Speaker 3: sent it to her and she's like, make me a host,
Speaker 3: and I was like, okay, I'll do it later and
Speaker 3: she's like okay, and then she.
Speaker 2: Asked me again. I was like, I just ignored her,
Speaker 2: not my OCD. I'm host.
Speaker 3: Why are you would now you want to be a
Speaker 3: hot No, no hosting. So then on the day of
Speaker 3: the engagement, because you, like I sent it.
Speaker 2: You wouldn't make me a host. So I couldn't see
Speaker 2: who's coming. So I had RSVP.
Speaker 3: She she rsvp's to her own party. I see, like
Speaker 3: Mila rsvp' and I had literally an hour before just
Speaker 3: sent out a blast from part of Fool saying, hey, guys,
Speaker 3: so this is this is not really a good Mom's
Speaker 3: Bad Choices party, this is actually Jamila's engagement, so please
Speaker 3: show up like get here before this certain time. Don't
Speaker 3: be late, don't buck this up, and don't tell her.
Speaker 3: And then like literally an hour later, RSVP Mela. I
Speaker 3: was like, why the fuck is this bitch rsvping to
Speaker 3: her own party.
Speaker 2: I wanted to see you know, I'm partiful. They only
Speaker 2: let you see the list if you're RSVP, so you RCPT.
Speaker 3: I removed you. Then you rcp'd again. I removed you
Speaker 3: again that you are CUPT again. I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: you know what, I don't know. I hope the text
Speaker 3: doesn't fucking send to her automatically, but thankfully it didn't
Speaker 3: because I was stressed.
Speaker 2: I literally had no idea, not even to the second
Speaker 2: I was like pouring a shot. Orlando was like, hurry up.
Speaker 2: I was like, but I haven't poured my shot yet.
Speaker 2: He's like, well, split it, and he told me and
Speaker 2: I was like huh. I was like, what the fuck
Speaker 2: is wrong with him? And then he kissed me and
Speaker 2: usually you know he still love me, dobb kissing me
Speaker 2: all the time, and then I then he got down
Speaker 2: one Nane. I was like, these tricky motherfuckers. And then
Speaker 2: I realized everybody had a video camera and her har
Speaker 2: miss fucking Nisha's nineteen ninety seven video camera. So I
Speaker 2: was genuinely surprised, and I was, yeah, I'm so happy.
Speaker 2: I feel like like like Cinderella, like a fairy tale,
Speaker 2: like single mom has ran off into the wind. I
Speaker 2: woke up the next morning like Hose with Hope. Hose
Speaker 2: with Hope. That's our new nonprofit foundation. So if anyone
Speaker 2: wants to join Hose with Hope, it just means once
Speaker 2: you're a hope, you're probably still a hope, but now
Speaker 2: there's hope because you're a dignified hope with clarity and intention,
Speaker 2: and you find your home. Man, you've healed first, You've
Speaker 2: healed first, and now you can hope for your niggas.
Speaker 2: Now you can hope for whoever you want. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: and just Hoose with Hope. Well, I just want to
Speaker 2: say I love you both.
Speaker 3: There could never be a better couple that is ready
Speaker 3: for marriage and just made for each other. Truly, I
Speaker 3: knew it from the very beginning. And yeah you can.
Speaker 3: You can never leave Orlando because I want allow it.
Speaker 3: And Orlando's never leaving you, so I don't have to
Speaker 3: worry about that because he's totally fucking obsessed.
Speaker 2: And I can't wait for the wedding. I know, I'm
Speaker 2: really excited. You know, Erica is the first person to
Speaker 2: tell me that I think that's your husband. And I
Speaker 2: was like giggling like a schoolgirl or in New Orleans.
Speaker 2: He's like fucking talking to me, being silly, and eric
Speaker 2: was like, I think that's your husband, and I was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: maybe I think so, and he is, this is my husband,
Speaker 2: and I have like no doubt. So that feels really
Speaker 2: good too, Like there's absolutely no question in my mind
Speaker 2: that there's no one else made better for me. It's
Speaker 2: almost like ridiculously even if I thought about it.
Speaker 3: But you know what, I was talking to one of
Speaker 3: my former bays yesterday, Happy Babe, who was a friend now,
Speaker 3: and he was saying, oh my god, I saw like
Speaker 3: Jamie's engaged. He's like, you know, I'll never forget in
Speaker 3: Mexico on that boat, he's like Orlando, you know, he
Speaker 3: was so he held he what did he say? He
Speaker 3: was like he really like he or Jamila was so
Speaker 3: lit on that boat and he really held it together.
Speaker 3: You know, he really was like had a lot. He
Speaker 3: was very dignified. I said, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: he was proud. I was like, he didn't hold it
Speaker 3: together like he was proud. There's a difference.
Speaker 2: Try to hold it together, like God, I love this
Speaker 2: bitch man, I hate her.
Speaker 3: Jamila was basically but as naked on the boat, like
Speaker 3: I had a bikini bottom on that.
Speaker 2: Bikini Botby came off. At one point somebody took it off.
Speaker 3: You were about to just let it be though, and
Speaker 3: then someone was like, wait, hold on, maybe we should
Speaker 3: put the body asked for them to do that.
Speaker 2: But the point was I knew I found my husband.
Speaker 2: I was like, he'll say he can handle me, because
Speaker 2: he didn't seem he doesn't. He didn't blink and eye.
Speaker 2: It's like, that's my baby, and you really did.
Speaker 3: I remember early on in the Good Mom's episodes, you
Speaker 3: specifically said you wanted a man that is going to
Speaker 3: see you dancing on tables topless and say that's my baby.
Speaker 2: That's my bit and will there is literally I did.
Speaker 2: I did say that. I know what episode it was in,
Speaker 2: and it was don't don't show your tits around my
Speaker 2: nigga or like that.
Speaker 3: Oh, was that in response to an episode that we
Speaker 3: did with Yeah, it was with It was with the
Speaker 3: Sick Podcast.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, oh my goodness. And I specifically said, because
Speaker 2: I said, if I'll trick you, if you if I
Speaker 2: act like conservative the first six months and then the
Speaker 2: seventh month, I'm in fucking Mexico with my tits outing.
Speaker 2: You're like, who's this bitch? So I got him in
Speaker 2: really quickly and he held himself together. Great. Actually, which
Speaker 2: is not is not? You know, I know I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm not a traditional young lady. So wow, it's beautiful
Speaker 2: meant to be. Thank you with hope, hose with hope,
Speaker 2: with hope. I'm very happy. Good choice, bad choice.
Speaker 3: Speaking of bad choices, as you know, we have a
Speaker 3: segment on our show called Bad Choices of the Week.
Speaker 3: And if you haven't joined our Facebook group, it's free.
Speaker 3: Make sure you join our Facebook group. It's for the mama's,
Speaker 3: it's for the mama's. It's for the ladies only. Sorry, man,
Speaker 3: if you want, if the men's want to join, please
Speaker 3: run our Patreon when you get access to our Discord community.
Speaker 3: Shout out to any of our Discord family who's in
Speaker 3: the chat. I see Ridica, Hey girl, I saw somebody
Speaker 3: else in here. I think I saw fred Rick. Shout
Speaker 3: out to our patrons and our and our discord community.
Speaker 3: I fucking love y'all. Hey, my my, yesha too. But
Speaker 3: we share bad choices of the week on Facebook, and
Speaker 3: we have a bad choice of the.
Speaker 2: Week and.
Speaker 3: It's it's a goodie, it's a goody, gooddy giddy. So
Speaker 3: today's bad choice of the week is I've decided I'm
Speaker 3: going to tell my husband I want a divorce this year.
Speaker 3: He's whack with sexting bitches when I was seven months postpartum.
Speaker 3: We sleep in separate rooms, we don't have sex, he
Speaker 3: don't eat pussy, and literally, I ain't doing shit in
Speaker 3: couple's therapy. What the fuck? I've used the past year
Speaker 3: to really focus on myself and finding my voice.
Speaker 2: Thank you therapists. How do you not do shit in
Speaker 2: couple's therapy?
Speaker 3: And a bitch says it's time to go. I'm moving
Speaker 3: with love and zero fucks. Here's to choosing me in
Speaker 3: twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: That sounds like a good choice to me. Well, yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean bad choices are a noise. Bad choices. It
Speaker 2: sounds like the only choice of my love. Yeah, how
Speaker 2: are you sleeping at separate rooms? Not fucking you're sexing
Speaker 2: other bitches and you're not doing shit in therapy. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you ain't even pussy.
Speaker 3: That's the that alarming.
Speaker 2: Let's go put that at the first, at the top.
Speaker 2: Not gonna happen, my friend, you could do better. There's
Speaker 2: plenty of niggas that are eating pussy. Yeah, Amen to that,
Speaker 2: Amen to that. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I feel like, you know, for those that are in
Speaker 3: LA right now, you know, there's a lot going on
Speaker 3: out here. We've been like battling wildfires and all types
Speaker 3: of shit, and you know, and I just want to say,
Speaker 3: for all people in LA that have been affected by
Speaker 3: the fires, my heart goes out to you, my love
Speaker 3: goes out to you. I've been and I've been directly
Speaker 3: impacted by the fires with my own family. I feel
Speaker 3: like everybody in LA knows someone that's been impacted. And
Speaker 3: twenty twenty five is giving like we need to start over.
Speaker 3: We need to rethink everything. We need to rethink everything
Speaker 3: in God is like I'm gonna force you, bitch.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been a trying it's been a trying, trying year.
Speaker 3: And it's been it's only just started, bitch, is only
Speaker 3: like we're only fifteen days in.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm just saying in general this, you know,
Speaker 2: the inauguration, this fucking these fires. I'm just even this
Speaker 2: last past six months. You know, there's just been a
Speaker 2: lot of ups and downs, and that is like I
Speaker 2: think we underestimate how much that affects our nervous systems.
Speaker 2: Even things that are having far away from us that
Speaker 2: we know are happening, are still deeply affecting us because
Speaker 2: you know what's happening. You know, like the energy in
Speaker 2: the world is off, and especially in la like there
Speaker 2: is it's so it's there's a lot of loss and
Speaker 2: you can feel it. Oh man.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to also say for the people in
Speaker 3: the chat too, if you guys have any questions, things
Speaker 3: you want to share, please make sure you drop them
Speaker 3: in the chat. We're gonna be taking a few minutes
Speaker 3: throughout the episode to answer your question. So if you
Speaker 3: have any advice, questions you want to ask, if you
Speaker 3: can have anything you want to share, drop it in
Speaker 3: the chat. But yeah, I think it's really important to
Speaker 3: take care of ourselves more than ever right now. You know,
Speaker 3: at the beginning of the year is often like this reset,
Speaker 3: but I think we say this every year, like January
Speaker 3: is never really the reset, like it always kind of
Speaker 3: comes later, and sometimes it even comes past February. Sometimes
Speaker 3: the reset happens in the motherfucking middle of the year
Speaker 3: because you're still trying to recover from like the year before,
Speaker 3: and it takes six months to even realize like, oh bitch,
Speaker 3: I'm in a whole new year.
Speaker 2: And sometimes and sometimes it's it's even more burdening when
Speaker 2: you're like in January first, I was supposed to change
Speaker 2: and it's fucking June, and you're like, it makes it
Speaker 2: like it's like punches you all. You're down.
Speaker 3: It's so much pressure. It's like so much pressure to
Speaker 3: like become this new person overnight. It's just not possible.
Speaker 2: It's not no.
Speaker 3: And like even like the woman who said she was,
Speaker 3: you know, thinking about getting a divorced, like you know,
Speaker 3: this year, Like you know, sometimes people are like leave
Speaker 3: him right now, and it's like okay, but just giving
Speaker 3: yourself peace and time and setting yourself up and not
Speaker 3: being so hasty, not being so hard on yourself. Yes,
Speaker 3: I'm like, I think me and me are both big
Speaker 3: advocates for you know, not pouring into things that don't
Speaker 3: serve you. But I also think like at this point
Speaker 3: in my life too, like I realize, like I would,
Speaker 3: I would like to have a at least if I
Speaker 3: can have a plan of action before I just hastily
Speaker 3: make decisions, because I have been very impulsive in the past,
Speaker 3: and sometimes it serves you and sometimes it doesn't. But
Speaker 3: you can have a plan of action to set yourself
Speaker 3: up and not make life more stressful for your Like, bitch.
Speaker 2: Do that? Yeah, I think, just not letting it take
Speaker 2: too long, you know, not getting too comfortable, but also
Speaker 2: just being gentle with yourself. It's like, you know, what
Speaker 2: do they say, pyramids won't be built up overnight. Like,
Speaker 2: just really being gentle with yourself. I think sometimes in
Speaker 2: like a season and things don't feel like progressive, or
Speaker 2: you feel like you're not making any progress, or you've
Speaker 2: made the same mistake over and over. It's like you're
Speaker 2: so harsh on yourself. And it's like in the bigger
Speaker 2: scheme of things, when you look back over a lifetime,
Speaker 2: it's like, is it even worth beating yourself up? Like
Speaker 2: it's just you're a child and you got to get
Speaker 2: back up and dosh, and that's life. There's always going
Speaker 2: to be something. It's a journey. It's never it's rarely
Speaker 2: going to be just smooth sailing. Nothing's happening in the
Speaker 2: world now, there's always something, And that's like finding the
Speaker 2: beauty in every every turn, every twist, every obstacle, and
Speaker 2: just yeah, like preparing yourself with by taking care of yourself.
Speaker 2: Even right now, I'm like thirty six, and I'm like, oh, bitch,
Speaker 2: if you want to still hang, bitch, you gotta you
Speaker 2: gotta go to the gym. When are you gonna start?
Speaker 2: I'm coming, I'm doing it. Come on, I'm doing it.
Speaker 3: Is that asking gonna stay lifted forever?
Speaker 1: Bit, I know?
Speaker 2: And that's the problem. And I always said that vanity
Speaker 2: would get me there, So yeah, the ass is not
Speaker 2: going to stay lifted by itself. And also I feel
Speaker 2: like I'll be a little addicted, and I think I'm
Speaker 2: gonna just invest and get the membership at the place
Speaker 2: I really want to get the membership that the classy
Speaker 2: place and just you know, like become a fitness influencer.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, late in life, a late life fitness influencer.
Speaker 2: I'm going to be late life fitness influencer because that
Speaker 2: me Oh my god.
Speaker 3: On on our episode, uh, this week or last week
Speaker 3: if you're listening to if you're live right now, if
Speaker 3: you're if you're listening live, it's the episode that dropped today.
Speaker 3: If you're listening to this later, it's our third week episode.
Speaker 3: We're talking about late in life lesbian lesbians. Well, well
Speaker 3: it started off with a woman who wrote in to
Speaker 3: us and talked about how she was a late in
Speaker 3: life lesbian and Memela like could never let it go.
Speaker 2: Like she's like she like signed up, penned off like
Speaker 2: late live lesbian. And I was like, you know, I'm
Speaker 2: a late life whatever. So everything we do late in
Speaker 2: life like because I'm a late in life, what am
Speaker 2: I gonna be? A late life fitness?
Speaker 3: Remember the TikTok star on the Rise too?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, TikTok. I'm also TikTok. Well now I'm not
Speaker 2: TikTok stars Rise because TikTok's about to get banned, so
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be and it's do you think it's gonna
Speaker 2: get banned? No sounds gonna buy it.
Speaker 3: I saw that there was some other app, some like
Speaker 3: Chinese app that was like number one on Apple and
Speaker 3: it was like literally like in Chinese like it was
Speaker 3: I couldn't even read what the fuck is said.
Speaker 2: Over there.
Speaker 3: But then there's also Isaac Kayes's son has one called
Speaker 3: fan Base that everyone keeps talking about, and it's basically
Speaker 3: like a subscription app too for content creators, but it's
Speaker 3: created by a black man. I think he's got like
Speaker 3: a lot of funding for it. I think he has
Speaker 3: like five million dollars in funding. I saw Tamika Mawori
Speaker 3: post about it today actually, and I joined, but I
Speaker 3: haven't been able to explore it yet. But I don't
Speaker 3: know what it is about, Like why we trust these
Speaker 3: like foreign apps more than we would like be quick
Speaker 3: to support a black owned app like that?
Speaker 2: Historically, if you've ever been on Black People Meet dot com,
Speaker 2: you know it. It's glitchy over there? What is it?
Speaker 2: Black peopleneed dot com? Black planet was lit? Was it glitch? No?
Speaker 3: It worked great?
Speaker 2: Okay, I never got to black Planet air. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2: I think we should support our people, we support our
Speaker 2: we should support our own shit, we support our own people.
Speaker 2: I'm ten tones down with that. I do want the
Speaker 2: technology to be up to part though, so that's all
Speaker 2: that I ask. But I'll go over there, what is
Speaker 2: it called fan base. Fan base. Yeah, look, it looks
Speaker 2: like it's it looks like they're doing some stuff over there.
Speaker 2: Is TikTok isn't the same thing.
Speaker 3: I haven't explored it yet, but I did download it.
Speaker 2: Step one.
Speaker 3: I'm also not a technology I mean, okay, I'm not
Speaker 3: going to say that I am a technology person because
Speaker 3: I am decent at it. I just don't fully enjoy technology,
Speaker 3: specifically social media apps, and so I've been slow to
Speaker 3: add another fucking platform to my thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I never opened the new what is it? The Instagram?
Speaker 2: Twitter threads? Threads? Is that still a thing? That's just dying?
Speaker 2: I barely can get on like I used to do Twitter,
Speaker 2: and I can barely figure it out. I don't know
Speaker 2: where black Twitter is still.
Speaker 3: And I just I've be seeing like I'm trying to
Speaker 3: promote threads in my like in my feed, and then
Speaker 3: I click it and then I can't. So I'm like,
Speaker 3: fuck this shit.
Speaker 2: I'm not as far as I get too like what
Speaker 2: they say. Oh never mind. Remember the other one, Clubhouse?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, remember when everyone was stressing us out
Speaker 3: about getting on Clubhouse and how we were missing out
Speaker 3: on thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars, like this
Speaker 3: is the problem, Like it's all this hysteria and like
Speaker 3: people literally start freaking out about shit and focusing all
Speaker 3: their attention all obsessing over things. Literally, this is like
Speaker 3: with part like this was really stressful for me. Clubhouse
Speaker 3: in particular were clubhouse stars. Literally Clubhouse made me feel
Speaker 3: like I was not doing enough and I was already
Speaker 3: talking every week.
Speaker 2: You want me to talk more, but don't you remember
Speaker 2: our friends that you're missing out? Who was it?
Speaker 3: It was a lot of you. It was like three
Speaker 3: people specifically that I can think of. They were like,
Speaker 3: you're missing out on thousands and thousands of dollars. You're
Speaker 3: not you don't have your own club, you don't have
Speaker 3: your own room, Like you're not on their weekly like
Speaker 3: daily talking.
Speaker 2: I was like, I didn't understand when people were on
Speaker 2: there all day fucking talking, particularly Joe Beden. He was
Speaker 2: doing so much talking there. And do you remember there's
Speaker 2: a couple there's like five main clubhouse people who were
Speaker 2: talking so much. It made me wonder if they had
Speaker 2: any friends. Sorry, there was just like few people in
Speaker 2: there who were I would just the alert will go
Speaker 2: off every second, and I said, wow, they have no friends,
Speaker 2: people have people then had more time on them. It
Speaker 2: was that around. It was.
Speaker 3: It was it was pandemic times. Yeah. Yeah, people had
Speaker 3: a lot of time on their hands. So I don't
Speaker 3: I don't know. I just I never got into the
Speaker 3: clubhouse thing.
Speaker 2: It was it was too much for me. Anyway. Anyway,
Speaker 2: enough of the enough of the socials that we don't
Speaker 2: understand and we won't get on.
Speaker 3: Well, we have some people that actually have some questions
Speaker 3: for us in this social on YouTube.
Speaker 2: Live okay, tell the.
Speaker 3: Bridget are asked, are we going to do any type
Speaker 3: of tour this year? This is our tour. We're alive
Speaker 3: right now. We're live with you right now, babe, this
Speaker 3: is our tour. Welcome live from La.
Speaker 2: You know, you know the thing about the Tories. Imagine,
Speaker 2: imagine this picture.
Speaker 3: This paint the picture, babe, just let them know.
Speaker 2: Let me just paint the picture for your close your eyes.
Speaker 2: It's you, your best friend and your nigga, just the
Speaker 2: three of you. It's beautiful. You book your flights, you
Speaker 2: get your hotels, and then you pack about tucas four
Speaker 2: to six suitcases. Two of them are merch books, heavy ones,
Speaker 2: and then two of them are your wardrobe because guess what, babe,
Speaker 2: you're styling yourself. That means you have no Let me
Speaker 2: correct ourselves because bitches like us, we want to have
Speaker 2: two outphit changes because we're not you know who we are,
Speaker 2: We're the fucking two show, fucking blue Man group. Okay,
Speaker 2: with an outfit change. So we have. You have fourteen
Speaker 2: stage outfits that you rush to figure out what the
Speaker 2: fuck they're going to be at the last minute. You
Speaker 2: threw them in there, and you probably threw in twenty
Speaker 2: eight because just in case. These boots, stripper shoes, glitter,
Speaker 2: regular outfits, long gloves, longmestones, fish nets, lingre and we
Speaker 2: even brought props because we're two extra bitches, I'll giveaways. Okay,
Speaker 2: that's that's about three bags there, not to mention the
Speaker 2: other clothes you have to wear the other fourteen days
Speaker 2: of the tour regular sweats and shit. Okay. Then your
Speaker 2: nigga has his own small, very small carry on because
Speaker 2: that's all he will allow. And then we map out,
Speaker 2: map it out. Okay. Sometimes we're flying, sometimes we're going
Speaker 2: on stage really scared, we're drinking tequila, and then we're
Speaker 2: going to the next place that night. Or the very
Speaker 2: next morning. And sometimes we say fuckay, we don't need
Speaker 2: a plane. We're just gonna do it in a car.
Speaker 2: We're gonna drive ourselves, aka, Orlando's gonna drive you.
Speaker 3: Oh wait, there's a sex party in New York. Let's
Speaker 3: stop by their first. Let's add that to the thing. Yeah,
Speaker 3: come on, Oh wait, you want to pay us for
Speaker 3: the sex party? Oh sure, come on, let's do it.
Speaker 3: It's a paid gig. We gotta stay. Then, then we
Speaker 3: say we have to come up with the two hours
Speaker 3: of a show. Oh shit, Oh wait, we're stand up
Speaker 3: comedians to.
Speaker 2: Be Do you want to be comedian? Do you want
Speaker 2: to be commedian? Today? I am? Oh do you know
Speaker 2: how sexy dance? Because I need to get that in there?
Speaker 2: All right? Can you teach me? Do you know any
Speaker 2: strippers or subs in six different cities?
Speaker 3: I don't know. Let me find the stripper madam of
Speaker 3: every city and the stripper pimp.
Speaker 2: Guess who does that? Us? And sometimes in Orlando has
Speaker 2: to be the shipper pimp because we all had a
Speaker 2: new the work. Okay, so we've got to be a
Speaker 2: stripper pimp that do you know how many? Do you
Speaker 2: know how many instagrams.
Speaker 3: Wait, have you ever have you ever searched strippers New Orleans,
Speaker 3: strippers Atlanta?
Speaker 2: Then then shippers don't work, no mail shippers, and then
Speaker 2: that won't work, so then you have to go see dancers.
Speaker 2: So then you just go black athletic, black workout, black fitness,
Speaker 2: black Fitness, Washington, DC. Then you start following random men
Speaker 2: with muscles that have good smiles. And then you find
Speaker 2: out there is a dark web of male shippers, and
Speaker 2: like all web cities anyway, that's another thing. So in
Speaker 2: addition to that, but then certain strippers don't dance for men,
Speaker 2: so then they let me out. They're out.
Speaker 3: They don't they don't do any performances where men are involved,
Speaker 3: so they're they're out.
Speaker 2: There's a very little there's very little ones that don't
Speaker 2: show their penis. You have to tell them, don't show
Speaker 2: your penis. And then also sometimes we say we don't
Speaker 2: need a supper, we need a sub. Let's find a sub.
Speaker 2: So then you're looking at for a sub New York,
Speaker 2: calling friends, you're figuring out how to be funny for
Speaker 2: two hours. You have to remember what that funny is.
Speaker 2: What are we supposed to do? Did you have to
Speaker 2: do your own makeup.
Speaker 3: Do you have to find a DJ in every city?
Speaker 2: Yes, you have to find a DJ in every city. Okay,
Speaker 2: so that's about We've already got about fifteen things we
Speaker 2: needed to employ for for this tour. And oh and
Speaker 2: then we have to sell tickets.
Speaker 3: There's that part.
Speaker 2: We love that power tickets favorite part. Every you know,
Speaker 2: you whores, you horse.
Speaker 3: You told us to come to your city.
Speaker 2: We're friends, right, could we just curse your out for.
Speaker 3: You bitches, you fucking you fucking host told us to
Speaker 3: come to your city.
Speaker 2: And then we're like, we have let's go.
Speaker 3: We're like famous, and you start, They're gonna they love us,
Speaker 3: all my friends are, and our tour manager, you've only
Speaker 3: sold twelve tickets the shows in four days. Are we
Speaker 3: gonna cancel?
Speaker 2: Are we gonna cancel? So in addition to that, you're like,
Speaker 2: oh great, I'm gonna go on stage in my fishnets
Speaker 2: and my fucking boot all my ship being a comedian,
Speaker 2: and there's gonna be four fucking people on the stage
Speaker 2: in the audience, and I'm gonna have to do it
Speaker 2: anyway and still be funny and not cry. And then
Speaker 2: guess what, And then we say you know we're not
Speaker 2: gonna do this show because we're gonna look stupid. And
Speaker 2: then everyone says, oh my god, why are you guys
Speaker 2: cancel the show? We were coming up. I was gonna
Speaker 2: book today, my friends and all my friends, so we
Speaker 2: were all gonna fly down there to support you, you
Speaker 2: lying bitch, fucking liars. I have lied trauma issues. I
Speaker 2: have daddy issues. He lied a lot. I don't need
Speaker 2: my friends to lie to me, even though I never
Speaker 2: met so so long story short one day, but I
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 3: We just we have a little bit of tour trauma
Speaker 3: and we love it.
Speaker 2: We do love it fun. I fucking love it when
Speaker 2: every time we get off stage, we're like, we're so good,
Speaker 2: that was good. Whoa, We're like all like hy bar
Speaker 2: adrenolins going, we go to the sex party and then
Speaker 2: we crash hard and then yeah, and then we make
Speaker 2: two hundred dollars because we had to pay everyone. So yeah,
Speaker 2: just do that times five and stay away from your
Speaker 2: kids for three weeks and yeah, then maybe in two
Speaker 2: years we'll go on tour. Yeah. So that's so, yes, Bridget,
Speaker 2: that's the longest, Sorry, Bridget, that was not That was
Speaker 2: not directed towards you in anyway that's been built up
Speaker 2: in us for a long time. I'm glad we got
Speaker 2: that out me too, yeah, because that was that was
Speaker 2: a lot.
Speaker 3: That was a lot. That was actually part of the
Speaker 3: reason after we went off, after we ended the season
Speaker 3: in March, we actually went on tour and then I
Speaker 3: was we were supposed to come back like two months later,
Speaker 3: and I told Jamila. I was like, no, I can't
Speaker 3: come back yet. We have to extend this podcast. We
Speaker 3: just the tour traumatized the fuck out of me as
Speaker 3: far as like my nervous system, the alcohol, the stress,
Speaker 3: like it was it was too much.
Speaker 2: And you know what, I'm generally the one who will
Speaker 2: go go go, like even if I'm dying inside, just
Speaker 2: because out of my mind doesn't get that my body's dying.
Speaker 2: And you would think that. The last time we had
Speaker 2: a great show in New York, we were going to
Speaker 2: a sex party. I was having a great time, like
Speaker 2: I was an all time high, and then just suddenly
Speaker 2: I broke down crying like I was just like malfunctioning.
Speaker 2: And I was like, was like, let's go in the
Speaker 2: other room at the sex party. Erica and Orlando are
Speaker 2: just holding me. They're like, what's these I think I'm
Speaker 2: really happy. I'm so happy. It's just a lot, you know,
Speaker 2: it's just a lot. So that was the first indication
Speaker 2: that maybe something was wrong. Yeah, we needed to take
Speaker 2: a break.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe in twenty twenty six, we'll revisit these thoughts.
Speaker 2: Anyway, any of the Christians.
Speaker 3: Anyway, we have another question, what about Oh well this
Speaker 3: is Frederic asked, how do you balance working on parts
Speaker 3: of your life and actually living working on parts of
Speaker 3: my life? I have to do both at the same time.
Speaker 2: I don't know, you can't. I can't.
Speaker 3: I can't separate the two.
Speaker 2: I have to live, right, It's a very hard balance.
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess sometimes I'm not working on parts
Speaker 3: of myself.
Speaker 2: This is the thing.
Speaker 3: I'm just kind of living and not working on shit. Yeah,
Speaker 3: And I think that's the thing. Is like giving yourself grace,
Speaker 3: giving yourself permission to just do the living and it
Speaker 3: not being perfect and you fucking up and maybe backsliding
Speaker 3: on your goals and your dreams, and then you come back,
Speaker 3: you know, and you know, hopefully having a tribe of
Speaker 3: people and community that are going to hold you accountable
Speaker 3: and be like bitch, you said you're about to do this.
Speaker 3: Where why are you doing this? So I think it's
Speaker 3: about just giving yourself the permission to kind of do
Speaker 3: both at the same time. Sometimes then also like take
Speaker 3: the fucking the crown off that you think you're supposed
Speaker 3: to wear all the time and just let it rest
Speaker 3: and live.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, it's so crazy. It's like it's the
Speaker 2: same thing, but we we are the ones who compart
Speaker 2: car compartmentalize those things, and like we're like, this is
Speaker 2: what working on yourself looks like. And then you're living,
Speaker 2: but you're not doing Like so basically you're saying like
Speaker 2: you're all living and so inevitably you're working on parts
Speaker 2: of yourself, but it's not fast enough, it doesn't look perfect.
Speaker 2: You're not going to the gym on through Friday like
Speaker 2: you said, you're not, you know. And but sometimes like
Speaker 2: the living is like your hardcore about work. Your head
Speaker 2: is down. It's only work. Because last night I was
Speaker 2: working on my phone and doing a million things. Souse,
Speaker 2: I have fucking eighty d and at night I think
Speaker 2: I should deal with things, and Luna I till Una
Speaker 2: got her phone and her and Orlando did and I didn't,
Speaker 2: and I put her to bed and she was like
Speaker 2: really upset with me, and she's like you told she
Speaker 2: was like not trying to touch me, and I just
Speaker 2: like laid there with her anyway, and she finally was
Speaker 2: like she finally like came and wrapped her arms around
Speaker 2: me after she was like trying to be in fetal position,
Speaker 2: and I felt her like one teer just like roll
Speaker 2: down my shoulder, and I was like, she's like me
Speaker 2: and Orlando got up our phones and you cult being
Speaker 2: on your phone and I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: I'm horrible mom. But it's like sometimes you think that
Speaker 2: being you know, productive, is what you're supposed to do,
Speaker 2: but like we're only just supposed to be living in
Speaker 2: coexistence with one another, and like that is what we're
Speaker 2: supposed to be doing, you know, everything else comes like
Speaker 2: when you realize that like the most important thing is
Speaker 2: being with your loved ones, Like then you'll be healthy,
Speaker 2: then you'll like you'll check in with your body. Like
Speaker 2: those things will come in evidily because you're being present
Speaker 2: in your community in a real way. But when your
Speaker 2: head is down doing the things that sometimes we think
Speaker 2: is what we're supposed to do, be productive, be successful,
Speaker 2: then you miss out on living, and the living is
Speaker 2: exactly like our divine purpose. So it's just a word
Speaker 2: from my testimony from last night where I felt like
Speaker 2: really terrible and then then I had to check myself
Speaker 2: and be like, it's okay, you know, it's this is
Speaker 2: a learning moment, this is important, this is this is
Speaker 2: you know, like it really that one tier on my shoulder, bitch,
Speaker 2: I was like, and for a minute, I started to think,
Speaker 2: like go down a rabbit hole of all this time
Speaker 2: that I've missed, And then I was like, no, this
Speaker 2: is a way to gently just reposition and check in
Speaker 2: with how you're spending your time and what you're actually doing.
Speaker 2: And that means like when I'm putting in my body,
Speaker 2: when I'm putting the phone down, Like I knew I
Speaker 2: needed to put my phone down, but I was just
Speaker 2: so curious to see this airbnb. You know, I just
Speaker 2: couldn't stop, and I knew I couldn't stop, and I
Speaker 2: just was like the fact that she noticed it, that
Speaker 2: sit really checked the shit out of me. And I
Speaker 2: will never like I feel like that'll be one day
Speaker 2: I'll be eighty and I'm like, I remember that time
Speaker 2: you know, and like, but that is why we have
Speaker 2: to be present and live our lives.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think also at this season in my life too,
Speaker 3: and it's it's been a lot, it's been a season
Speaker 3: of trying to figure this specific thing out. Is like,
Speaker 3: you know, people always talk about the work life balance
Speaker 3: and how you do it, and I don't really know
Speaker 3: if there's there's really no real answer. You can go
Speaker 3: buy the fucking download of whatever. The fuck bitch said
Speaker 3: that she mastered it. Maybe she did for herself, but
Speaker 3: everybody's different, and like it's really for me personally, like
Speaker 3: I have to there is a regimen that I have
Speaker 3: to exist in ways for me to find balance. And
Speaker 3: I've realized that, Like today, I woke up at I
Speaker 3: went to a workout class at six am. That is
Speaker 3: literally the only time I can work out. I'm not
Speaker 3: going to work out at night.
Speaker 2: I tried to.
Speaker 3: I actually worked out last night, and I was like,
Speaker 3: maybe I could do this later, maybe I could do
Speaker 3: this more often, And I was like, no, bitch, no
Speaker 3: morning morning. I have to get that out of the way.
Speaker 3: And that's my me time I wake up early, I
Speaker 3: do that, I get home. She's just waking up now
Speaker 3: my daughter sets an alarm and she's waking up on
Speaker 3: waking up herself. So it's like creating a regimen for her,
Speaker 3: creating one for me. And then like after I haven't
Speaker 3: really talked about this much yet and I haven't really
Speaker 3: even shared the video going to this cave for my birthday.
Speaker 3: I went into this like dark cave in Oregon for
Speaker 3: my birthday, in isolation and darkness for like four days,
Speaker 3: and when I came out, I just realized how much,
Speaker 3: how how I needed to have more boundaries around work
Speaker 3: in general, and just like at a certain time, I
Speaker 3: have to shut it off because I won't shut it off.
Speaker 3: I don't know how to shut it off. I am
Speaker 3: such a workhorse. And I realized I look at my mom,
Speaker 3: I look at my grandmother, I look at all the
Speaker 3: women in my life, and they're like such fucking doers
Speaker 3: and they're not even all the way happy.
Speaker 2: Like they're not.
Speaker 3: And so it's like I can see myself heading on
Speaker 3: that trajectory of just being a doer all the time,
Speaker 3: and then like like having this little space and permission
Speaker 3: for living and it's like I don't, I can't. I
Speaker 3: can't live life like that, and I think luckily, I've
Speaker 3: I've been more of a liver than a doer. I
Speaker 3: think starting Good Moms and finding my purpose in this
Speaker 3: space made activated me in that way to like, oh,
Speaker 3: now I get it.
Speaker 2: Now, I get when my mom is so obsessed with
Speaker 2: creating her brand. Now I love it.
Speaker 3: I get it, and I get why, like you know,
Speaker 3: but there is there is. I know that I've missed
Speaker 3: a lot of things with Iri, and I have a
Speaker 3: lot of regret, regret, regret, regret around it. She's expressed
Speaker 3: it to me, you know, like multiple times. And I
Speaker 3: haven't always shifted. I haven't shifted all the way quickly
Speaker 3: even now. You know, it's hard. It really is hard
Speaker 3: when you are doing something that gives you so much
Speaker 3: purpose and so much joy that does require you to
Speaker 3: be on your phone. Maybe not on Airbnb, but like
Speaker 3: be on your phone and looking at some shit, or
Speaker 3: like answering an email and saying, hold on one second,
Speaker 3: I'll I'm going to watch the movie, but let me
Speaker 3: just handle put out this fire or whatever. But it
Speaker 3: does require also for me to say like I can't, no,
Speaker 3: I can't do that right now. Sorry, sorry, person on
Speaker 3: my team. I will respond tomorrow you know, and so
Speaker 3: you know, it's you have to find what works for you,
Speaker 3: and you have to know that it's not going to
Speaker 3: be perfect. You're going to fuck it up.
Speaker 2: And the fund up part ext I've read something about
Speaker 2: like having a ritual. The fucked up part this is
Speaker 2: like making it a ritual makes it the habit that
Speaker 2: you that makes the thing like that makes you feel
Speaker 2: productive and the thing that you want to feel productive
Speaker 2: like that is the only way to be able to
Speaker 2: dedicate time to all of the things is having set
Speaker 2: time and then dedicating it and then repeating it, you know,
Speaker 2: and it's always it's going to be out of flow,
Speaker 2: but like you have to start somewhere and try.
Speaker 3: Whether you want to call it a regimen, whether you
Speaker 3: want to call it a ritual, whatever the fuck you
Speaker 3: need to call it to do it. If it ritual
Speaker 3: sounds cuter to you, and it sounds more.
Speaker 2: Sacred, it's sacred. Am I rich you will? Am I
Speaker 2: richu will?
Speaker 3: Is that at at ten am I begin work, it's
Speaker 3: my ritual and then if I pem my end work,
Speaker 3: my ritual's over and I begin my new ritual, which
Speaker 3: is cooking dinner.
Speaker 2: Maybe we don't call it work. Just money play, ritualize
Speaker 2: your life. It's what It's how I play when I
Speaker 2: want to make money. My currency play. You have a
Speaker 2: currency play date that means a workday. Okay.
Speaker 3: We have another question, which I guess can go hand
Speaker 3: and have. There's two different questions. What about retreats.
Speaker 2: How do you find your tribe of women as a mommy?
Speaker 3: Okay, so those are two different questions, and I think
Speaker 3: let me start with finding your tribe. You know, I
Speaker 3: realize that as an adult, it can feel really intimidating
Speaker 3: to make new friends. It can feel it can feel
Speaker 3: like the last thing on your list, you know, and
Speaker 3: then you're like alone at night and you're like, damn,
Speaker 3: I have no one to call. I have no girlfriend
Speaker 3: to like Kiki over this, this or that. You have
Speaker 3: to make it a priority. You have to go outside
Speaker 3: of your comfort zone. You have to go up to
Speaker 3: the friend in the bathroom and say, hey, bitch, want
Speaker 3: to hang out, Like I'm not going to promise you
Speaker 3: that you're gonna find your bestie. And you're in a
Speaker 3: mommy group.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: Early on when I became a mom, like I was,
Speaker 3: I was also trying to find my tribe as well,
Speaker 3: and I was in like you know, like going to
Speaker 3: the mommy and me like play dates and you know,
Speaker 3: trying to even find my tribe at my daughter's school,
Speaker 3: and those moms weren't really were really it. It's spaces
Speaker 3: like this right here. Like if you fuck with this
Speaker 3: energy and this vibe, then there's a bunch of women
Speaker 3: literally right now in this chat that are probably your
Speaker 3: tribe right there, because they're already they're entertained by this conversation.
Speaker 3: They feel for this, they feel this conversation, they feel
Speaker 3: the energy that me and Mila and our guests share,
Speaker 3: and they understand. So I think it's about like connecting
Speaker 3: to the people and the communities that speak to you.
Speaker 3: Like that's really how you find your tribe. I mean
Speaker 3: for us, like we have our you know, we have
Speaker 3: our Facebook groups, like there's people in there and and again,
Speaker 3: like those things feel weird, right, You're like, so I'm
Speaker 3: going to meet someone on the internet, Yeah, bitch, you
Speaker 3: might have to, Like that's kind of the beauty of
Speaker 3: the internet sometimes, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Use it for what it's good for. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: cause technically we low key met via the internet and
Speaker 2: a lot of my friends that we've met through the
Speaker 2: podcast who are friends now are through the internet.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And like even in our discord, we have a
Speaker 3: channel specifically and they're called find your Tribe, And so
Speaker 3: there's women in there, like, Hey, I'm in LA. Does
Speaker 3: anybody like around want to like get lunch next weekend?
Speaker 3: I'm going to go to brunch next week? Does anybody
Speaker 3: want to come here? I'm in Houston. Like these are
Speaker 3: the ways that you are able to connect with people
Speaker 3: that you already know that are kind of on your frequency,
Speaker 3: and you kind of just have to step outside of
Speaker 3: not kind of you actually have to actively step outside
Speaker 3: of your comfort zone to meet your people. They're not
Speaker 3: going to find you, They're like sometimes they will and
Speaker 3: that's beautiful. But even me when I met Mila, like
Speaker 3: I was I felt so uncomfortable approaching her, but I
Speaker 3: was desperate, Like I knew that, like I knew that
Speaker 3: there was a woman out there that like was on
Speaker 3: my frequency because she was friends with my friends. So
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, Like that's step one.
Speaker 2: That's the same as being somebody in the tribe. If
Speaker 2: you like them, I'll probably like you yeah, like yeah,
Speaker 2: you trust it because it's like if you hang out
Speaker 2: with this person, then I know of them, we'll probably gel.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you use your discernment and then you
Speaker 3: figure out is it a go or is it a
Speaker 3: not go? And then you stay consistent like that's the
Speaker 3: that's the next part is like staying consistent with that
Speaker 3: relationship is like pouring into it how you want to
Speaker 3: be poured into as much as you would pour into
Speaker 3: a romantic relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and not being scared to be like, hey, you know,
Speaker 2: what's up? What are you doing? And sometimes people won't respond,
Speaker 2: and not taking it personally and you won't always get together,
Speaker 2: but still trying. You know, I have some friends. I'm
Speaker 2: a friendly bitch, but I have friends who I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I see that you really want to be friends. Okay,
Speaker 2: I see you girl, I'm gonna And that's because they're
Speaker 2: clear about it, you know. And it's just like sometimes
Speaker 2: I think we underestimate as women to the the divine
Speaker 2: timing of women coming into your life sometime when people
Speaker 2: are really trying to be your friend. I think sometimes
Speaker 2: people shy away from that when they're strangers or they
Speaker 2: don't know them or's not part of their immediate group.
Speaker 2: Sometimes that's God saying I'm fucking serving Ali youup right now.
Speaker 2: This is your friend, you know what I mean. And
Speaker 2: so it's just like you never know who's a message
Speaker 2: for you and or there's something you're supposed to supposed
Speaker 2: to birth together, And like, I've met so many friends
Speaker 2: that way, just being open to.
Speaker 4: Making new friends friends, friends, and I think we put
Speaker 4: so much.
Speaker 2: Effort into meeting romantic partners that we forget how important
Speaker 2: is to birth like friendships. Because a lot of your
Speaker 2: old friends that you've known for twenty fifteen years, they're
Speaker 2: still holding you to the old version of yourself. They
Speaker 2: haven't really Sometimes it's hard for your friends that have
Speaker 2: been your friends for a long ass time to accept
Speaker 2: you as this new version of yourself. And sometimes it
Speaker 2: requires that you meet friends on where you're at right now.
Speaker 2: So don't underestimates that.
Speaker 3: I think there's also another really important step to this
Speaker 3: process that I think is the reason why me and
Speaker 3: you became friends. It requires you to share something vulnerable
Speaker 3: and personal, like yes, you can meet those mommy friends
Speaker 3: and you can keep it surface, and that's exactly where
Speaker 3: you'll be. That's exactly where you'll keep it. That's exactly
Speaker 3: why you won't hear from her. That's exactly why you
Speaker 3: just see each other at the birthday parties. And that's it, Like,
Speaker 3: it really does require not only for you to get
Speaker 3: outside of your comfort zone and like and initiate the hangout,
Speaker 3: but then be brave enough and bold enough to share
Speaker 3: something vulnerable, because that's really the gel where someone's like,
Speaker 3: oh shit.
Speaker 2: Oh we are from Oh oh right, you know, And
Speaker 2: that's so true. I think about the first time we
Speaker 2: ever hung out, you know, like she did that thing.
Speaker 2: She came to the bathroom and she cornered me, and
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, okay, I didn't know her at all.
Speaker 2: I was very like I was caught off guard by it.
Speaker 2: But I really did want a friend who was in
Speaker 2: the same position as I was, as far as like
Speaker 2: parenthood very early, and that first time you hung out,
Speaker 2: like two days later you're like, hey, hey, how are
Speaker 2: you like trying to fill each other out, But there
Speaker 2: was nothing truly like deep about the conversation the first
Speaker 2: couple of times. It really wasn't until she came to
Speaker 2: the birthday party and shared the information about her being
Speaker 2: on tender and her like finding a really hot couple
Speaker 2: and that she had hung out with them that it
Speaker 2: made me feel comfortable to be myself and to really
Speaker 2: be like, oh, this is who I am and this
Speaker 2: is what you know, like where I'm at, and like,
Speaker 2: you know, just be honest about who I was because
Speaker 2: I felt comfortable enough to do that. So I think
Speaker 2: sometimes we're both both parties are being surface level because
Speaker 2: you're being fear of being judged or being too much.
Speaker 2: And I think we do ourselves a disservice by not
Speaker 2: just going deep immediately, like bitch, this is what I'm
Speaker 2: going through, you know. I think we try to save
Speaker 2: face all the time, so don't always like sometimes it
Speaker 2: requires for you to get especially in adulthood when we
Speaker 2: don't have a lot of time. We got to get
Speaker 2: to the nitty gritty quick.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like come on, bitch, I don't want to talk
Speaker 3: about canny little baby canny and his fucking colic, Like
Speaker 3: let's talk about his baby daddy ain't fucking there and
Speaker 3: fuck that?
Speaker 2: No kidding? So are you getting your pussy hater or
Speaker 2: what's that?
Speaker 3: Oh my god? And then as far as our retreats go,
Speaker 3: I mean that is obviously like that's like the level
Speaker 3: up of like really really really being committed to finding
Speaker 3: the tribe and integrating in person with them, Like our
Speaker 3: retreats are are really I don't even the sacred place.
Speaker 3: You know, there's probably some women in the chat right
Speaker 3: now that have come on our retreats, and maybe you
Speaker 3: can speak to it in like a few words if
Speaker 3: you're in the chat and just explain what happens there.
Speaker 3: But it's really an opportunity for you to actually meet
Speaker 3: the people that have are really dedicated to the calling
Speaker 3: of a healing, finding their purpose, igniting their self, restarting over,
Speaker 3: rebranding themselves, taking care of themselves, figuring some shit out,
Speaker 3: letting some shit go, allowing yourself to be taken care
Speaker 3: of for the first time, surrendering like all those things.
Speaker 3: Like that's really like what happens at our retreats. And
Speaker 3: we're actually about to leave to our annual Golden Gem
Speaker 3: retreat of Costa Rica. We do this one every single
Speaker 3: year in February first. It's usually either January thirty first
Speaker 3: or February first, And like I said, I think that
Speaker 3: for me and Miila, like our year really starts in
Speaker 3: February after this retreat. And I always tell people like
Speaker 3: if you are in a space in your life where
Speaker 3: you're ready to just just kind of do away with whatever,
Speaker 3: like just anything that's been holding you back, if you're
Speaker 3: ready to like rebrand your life, if you're ready to
Speaker 3: just meet the people that are committed to that process,
Speaker 3: and if you're ready to just kind of be taken
Speaker 3: care of for once. As moms now to take care
Speaker 3: of anybody else, I mean women, not even yourself.
Speaker 2: Really, we take care of you, right, like all women.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think all women need the retreats, but
Speaker 3: Mom's specific, Like we have such a hard time letting
Speaker 3: people take care of us and me and Mila at
Speaker 3: these retreats, like this is what we pride ourselves in,
Speaker 3: is that we take care of everything from start to finish.
Speaker 3: This is really a place for you to just take
Speaker 3: off the fucking mommy roll and just be the woman
Speaker 3: that you are and allow yourself to be guided. Allow
Speaker 3: yourself to be be guided by the feminine too, because
Speaker 3: I think as women were always looking for the man
Speaker 3: to guide us. But there's such deep healing and so
Speaker 3: much awakening and just magic and allowing the feminine to
Speaker 3: guide you as well. And yeah, so and we do
Speaker 3: still have some spots left, so if you guys are
Speaker 3: interested in coming to Costa Rica and it's last minute
Speaker 3: and you if you but shit, sometimes last minute.
Speaker 2: That's that's what it really when you need to go,
Speaker 2: some shit has happened and you need to make the decision,
Speaker 2: and it's prompted you and this is your sign and
Speaker 2: some things have happened and you're like, what the fuck
Speaker 2: am I gonna do? This is what you're gonna do.
Speaker 2: Just do the thing, don't think about it, and just
Speaker 2: let people come take care of you. I know, we've
Speaker 2: been talking a lot of like all the crazy shit
Speaker 2: that happens in the world, and like that has happened,
Speaker 2: and like how do you care for yourself and be
Speaker 2: gentle with yourself. It's like you're right a find your
Speaker 2: tribe because you need like nurturing. But go on vacation,
Speaker 2: like go get out of the environment of what is
Speaker 2: happening and be surrounded by people who care, and like
Speaker 2: this is one of those places where you're like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, is this a call? Everybody cares so much,
Speaker 2: everyone's so loving, and it's true, it's not a call.
Speaker 2: It's just a love fest. And it's because everyone comes
Speaker 2: seeking something, you know, and seeking and ready to give
Speaker 2: and it's just like an abundant feminine energy. And like
Speaker 2: I saw Frederic say, you know, she came and she
Speaker 2: spilled her heart about heart out about of a friendship breakup,
Speaker 2: and then she left with thirty new friends. Literally, you
Speaker 2: leave with twenty new friends. It's not even exaggeration. Like
Speaker 2: it's an amazing, beautiful thing when you allow women to
Speaker 2: take care of you, and you allow women to be
Speaker 2: soft and let them own their guards and just you know,
Speaker 2: really be there for each other. We are so why
Speaker 2: and like have so much information to give each other
Speaker 2: and so many lessons to share, and like I think
Speaker 2: that's really where the beauty comes in and the strength.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I think, especially with everything that's going on
Speaker 3: in La I literally cannot wait to just go a
Speaker 3: breathe fresh air, eat real food, eat real food, and
Speaker 3: just just unwind.
Speaker 2: Let go like this.
Speaker 3: We've been preparing for our season for months now, and
Speaker 3: like it's kind of like scary to like go into
Speaker 3: retreat mode in the midst of like what we're doing.
Speaker 3: But this is but that's just life, and that's life
Speaker 3: isn't going to slow down. There's no perfect time for
Speaker 3: you to take a trip sometimes, you know, like even
Speaker 3: us right now, like we're literally in the beginning of
Speaker 3: our season and we're like, bye, we'll be right back
Speaker 3: because we got to go take care of ourselves and
Speaker 3: some bitches, and like I never regret it. There's never
Speaker 3: a regret.
Speaker 2: God's always like, bitch, go sit down, and I always
Speaker 2: trust it and it always works out. Like little Johnny
Speaker 2: will it's teeth while you're gone for six days. I
Speaker 2: fucking promise you. And you know, trust the person you
Speaker 2: had a baby with, or like trust the assistant, trust
Speaker 2: the other person in your position, and all the people
Speaker 2: feel like they can't walk away from work. And sometimes
Speaker 2: it's like you can't do your work unless you do
Speaker 2: the thing for you, and like don't overgive to outside
Speaker 2: and not remember to give to you. So amen, I
Speaker 2: can't mother fucking white a man. Are you saw you pulled?
Speaker 2: Some you pulled? The Tarot time is a Tarot time.
Speaker 2: It's Tarot time, Terot time. I don't know if you
Speaker 2: want to pull, if I want to pull you pull,
Speaker 2: I pulled the High Priestess. Shall I look it up
Speaker 2: and look it up? I feel like it's it has
Speaker 2: lots to do with balance, can you say that this
Speaker 2: is our Mahogany tarot card. They're all black and brown
Speaker 2: representations illustration, and there's this one looks first of all
Speaker 2: B and J and I don't know what that means,
Speaker 2: but it looks like it's very balanced. Well, let me
Speaker 2: tell you what it means, baby.
Speaker 3: The upright means intuition, sacred knowledge, divine, feminine, and the
Speaker 3: subconscious mind. While the magician is the guardian of the
Speaker 3: conscious mind and the tangible world, the High Priestess is
Speaker 3: the guardian of the subconscious mind and the teacher of
Speaker 3: sacred knowledge and hidden mysteries. Sitting at the threshold of
Speaker 3: the conscious and subconscious mind, the High Priestess has an
Speaker 3: innate ability ability to travel between these realms effortlessly. She
Speaker 3: teaches you that the world is not always as it seems,
Speaker 3: and more profound influences are often at play. The High
Speaker 3: Priestess signifies spiritual enlightenment in her illumination, divine knowledge, and wisdom.
Speaker 3: She shows up in your tarror reading when the veil
Speaker 3: between you and the underworld is thin and you have
Speaker 3: the opportunity to access the knowledge deep within your soul.
Speaker 3: Now is the time to be still, so you can
Speaker 3: tune in to your intuition in Costa Rica.
Speaker 4: Yep.
Speaker 3: The answers you are seeking will come from within, from
Speaker 3: your deepest truth and knowing. Allow the High Priestess to
Speaker 3: become your guide as you venture deep into the jungle
Speaker 3: of your subconscious mind and access the inner wisdom. Connect
Speaker 3: with your intuition and your higher self through meditation, visualization,
Speaker 3: shamanic journeying aka mynashreams, and being a part of spiritual communities. Wow, welcome,
Speaker 3: Welcome to our spiritual community. Yeah this I mean obviously
Speaker 3: whenever we pull a card it always is like literally
Speaker 3: right on divine timing, and I think, uh put we
Speaker 3: put in the chat a link to the retreat if
Speaker 3: you guys are interested in coming to the retreat that
Speaker 3: we do have a few spots left. We have a
Speaker 3: solo room available, one more and a few more shared
Speaker 3: rooms available. So if you're feeling like you know what
Speaker 3: I need to fucking break, I need to get on
Speaker 3: this trip, please come and make sure you use the
Speaker 3: code Tribe at checkout. Use the code Tribe at checkout
Speaker 3: because you're gonna get a beautiful gift from us, and
Speaker 3: we have payment plans available too, So if like you're like,
Speaker 3: I can't afford this shit, don't worry, we will figure
Speaker 3: it out. You can come, I promise you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, make it, make it happen. Don't make an excuse, like,
Speaker 2: don't make excuses for yourself. Yeah, make it happy, like
Speaker 2: you make it happen for somebody else, like if it
Speaker 2: was baby, your little baby. I know.
Speaker 3: We did a little giveaway on Facebook in our Facebook group.
Speaker 3: We were giving away one hundred dollars mystery Bagoo mystery bag.
Speaker 2: Mm hm.
Speaker 3: We never we never really do a lot of giveaways,
Speaker 3: but I'm excited if you join our Facebook group, We're
Speaker 3: gonna be doing a lot more giveaways in that space.
Speaker 3: And so in this mystery bag, WEMLA were like, what
Speaker 3: should we include in this hundred dollars giveaway bag? And
Speaker 3: I was like, I think it's gonna be a little
Speaker 3: bit more than a hundred dollars.
Speaker 2: Yeah, probably so.
Speaker 3: Number one, our good Mom crew, Neck show the ladies.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm on Home Shopping Network.
Speaker 2: This is your specialty, your expertise, wasn't it like go
Speaker 2: to I did go.
Speaker 3: I went to Home Shopping Network school. So you guys
Speaker 3: see this, This is a very rich beautiful cot and
Speaker 3: only the highest luxury for our bitches.
Speaker 2: It also includes the good.
Speaker 3: Mom beautiful puff paint, high quality puff paint because we
Speaker 3: only do the best for our extra puff.
Speaker 2: You can't really see it from here, but it's three D.
Speaker 3: It is three D and then boom on the back,
Speaker 3: we have our beautiful trippy happy face because we're some
Speaker 3: trippy bitches. So this is something that is included in
Speaker 3: the giveaway.
Speaker 2: And oh go ahead, we're also including this top of
Speaker 2: the line fourteen gold plated Bad Choice necklace.
Speaker 3: Orlando cut to Jamila, so speaking she can really show
Speaker 3: show the people you see this.
Speaker 2: It's blame every time you come.
Speaker 3: And I must buying bang yes, and I you know what,
Speaker 3: I love this, Mela and I wear these necklaces literally
Speaker 3: every day. We shower with them. We never take them off.
Speaker 3: They never turn like literally they do not turn. I
Speaker 3: know you all read. You know I just bought this
Speaker 3: fucking stupid ass necklace that I'm wearing here. You don't
Speaker 3: have to zoom into this. It was supposed to be
Speaker 3: non tarnish. It's just already tarnishing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, these really don't tarnish. I don't like to really
Speaker 2: take jewelry off when I shower because I'm lazy. I
Speaker 2: think I'm rich. It's diamonds, but it's never turns and
Speaker 2: it never like makes you itch earning those things. It's
Speaker 2: definitely like the gold plate. It is is gold plating.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's beautiful. It's beautiful, and.
Speaker 2: It kind of lets people know, like, you know what
Speaker 2: kind of type time you're on. Bad choices, bad choices,
Speaker 2: bad choices.
Speaker 3: And last but not least, you know, I had to
Speaker 3: include a beauty blender. This is my favorite product. It's
Speaker 3: also my family business. For those that don't know, my
Speaker 3: mom was is also was also a single mom when
Speaker 3: she raised me. She was a makeup artist and came
Speaker 3: up with this on set. She used to be the
Speaker 3: department head for the show Girlfriends and started cutting sponges
Speaker 3: and created the beauty blender. And so this is a
Speaker 3: woman owned, Latina owned product. It's the original. So for
Speaker 3: all the other dupes that you see at the CBS's
Speaker 3: and the Walgreens that ain't this, this is the high quality,
Speaker 3: the original beauty blender. And so this I'm also going
Speaker 3: to throw into the bag and make sure you get
Speaker 3: it wet when you use it. You have to get
Speaker 3: it wet, squeeze it out, damp, bounce, and so I'm
Speaker 3: going to pick the winner right here live, Oh Lenny, do.
Speaker 2: The damn thing like I'm on wheel of fortune. Like
Speaker 2: I don't know why because it is a wheel. Look,
Speaker 2: it's been the wheel. Oh cute.
Speaker 3: Shout out to Terranny who hooked us up and figured
Speaker 3: this out for us because.
Speaker 2: I had known.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, it's so cute. See look at our
Speaker 3: pictures in the background, and shit, ah, okay, we're gonna
Speaker 3: spin the wheel.
Speaker 2: Live y'all. Let's spin. Let's spin. Everyone's in there already. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 2: this is interesting technology.
Speaker 3: Oh Crimson Doula underscore. Lenae, you are the winner of
Speaker 3: the Good Mom's Bad Choices giveaway. I've seen Crimson Crimson Dola, Lena,
Speaker 3: you are the winner.
Speaker 2: If you're in here, you won. You will be rocking
Speaker 2: all the Good Mom's Bad Choices merch no time.
Speaker 3: And if you haven't checked out our store, make sure
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Speaker 2: Oh oh mushroom, Oh not the mushroom.
Speaker 3: Oh speaking of mushrooms, guys, I don't know if you've
Speaker 3: seen me on Instagram talking about this mushroom tea that
Speaker 3: I've been drinking.
Speaker 2: Oh, Schedule thirty five.
Speaker 3: Yes, So this brand, Schedule thirty five, sent me their shit,
Speaker 3: and then I wasn't sure because I was like, first
Speaker 3: of all, how are you sending me mushrooms in the mail? Like?
Speaker 2: Is this legal?
Speaker 3: Apparently it is, because they send it all over the US.
Speaker 3: It is legal. I don't know how, but it is.
Speaker 2: Listen, don't don't. They're a verified brand. Okay.
Speaker 3: Anyway, I was like, let me, let me just try
Speaker 3: try it out. And so I started off with their teas,
Speaker 3: which I'm obsessed with. They have like a they have
Speaker 3: a two hundred milligram tea. They have like different like levels.
Speaker 2: Which one did you do? I did the two hundred
Speaker 2: milligram one, and like, but how'd you feel?
Speaker 3: You know, what I wasn't sure like how I thought
Speaker 3: maybe it was going to make me feel like a
Speaker 3: little like very relaxed, which kind of was what I
Speaker 3: was looking for, but really it wasn't even I was
Speaker 3: looking for my anxiety to go away, is what I
Speaker 3: really wanted, which usually I think I need to be
Speaker 3: relaxed for that to happen. But it actually gave me energy.
Speaker 3: It gave me energy, but like the anxiety was gone,
Speaker 3: and so it gave me energy. So I wasn't necessarily
Speaker 3: relaxed or I couldn't do shit because a lot of times,
Speaker 3: like when you're taking like I don't know, when you're
Speaker 3: taking like a pill like xanax, you have anxiety, which
Speaker 3: is because now you're gonna be laid out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't do shit out. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I really enjoyed. I really enjoyed taking this tea
Speaker 3: in the morning. I'll drink in the morning before our meetings.
Speaker 3: And it doesn't make you feel like how you would
Speaker 3: feel if you actually took like a lot of mushrooms.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of people it's microdocing. So a
Speaker 3: lot of people have misconceptions around plant medicine in general
Speaker 3: and think like, oh my god, I'm going to take
Speaker 3: mushrooms and I'm gonna be like seeing fucking tied eye
Speaker 3: rainbows and shit. But it actually made me feel really productive.
Speaker 3: It made me feel anxiety free, it made me feel
Speaker 3: really create It makes me feel really creative. And so
Speaker 3: for those of you, because a lot of people have
Speaker 3: reached out to me about this specific brand schedule thirty five,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have tea, put the link in the chat
Speaker 3: and use code good Moms fifteen at checkout for fifteen
Speaker 3: percent off. Like I said, they ship all over the
Speaker 3: United States. So if this is something you've wanted to try,
Speaker 3: I highly recommend, if you've never even tried plant medicine
Speaker 3: at all, to either start with the two gram tea
Speaker 3: or the.
Speaker 2: Capsules same point is it two or point?
Speaker 3: Well, I'm sorry, it's two hundred milligrams, but the package
Speaker 3: has two grams on there. There's two grams worth of
Speaker 3: mushrooms in Yeah, and I think they they recommend three
Speaker 3: days on, four days off, three days on four days.
Speaker 2: Off to like kind of like acclimate your body.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I don't know if there's any microdosing mommies or
Speaker 3: people in the chat, maybe throwing a mushroom in there.
Speaker 3: If you're if you're down with the plant medicine.
Speaker 2: It's definitely a good alternative for like for like anxiety
Speaker 2: meds or something like that or something. Because mushrooms saved
Speaker 2: my life twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they really did.
Speaker 2: They really did. They really did, really dead.
Speaker 3: And you know, even at our retreats, we do we
Speaker 3: do a much heavier dose. At our retreat. We actually
Speaker 3: go on an actual real journey during one of the
Speaker 3: last few days of the retreat. And that is so
Speaker 3: beautiful too, because we're literally in the middle of the jungle.
Speaker 3: It's such a safe container, and it's accompanied by sound, healing, reiki,
Speaker 3: all the things. But if you're just like, let me
Speaker 3: just dip my toe in try schedule thirty five, it's
Speaker 3: really a game changer. Well, we should get out of
Speaker 3: here soon.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I've been having so much fun with our friends,
Speaker 2: but I guess we can carry along.
Speaker 3: Wait, but before we get out, I didn't want to
Speaker 3: share a hoory okay that someone sent us because I
Speaker 3: feel like it was really it was really something. It
Speaker 3: was really it was really something.
Speaker 2: So we have if you also, if you have.
Speaker 3: Any horries or bad choices of the week, or just
Speaker 3: something you want to share, like a secret that you
Speaker 3: want to share anonymously that maybe you've just needed to
Speaker 3: get off your chest. We have a link that you
Speaker 3: can click on in our Instagram or maybe I don't know, tea,
Speaker 3: maybe you can share it here. But either way you
Speaker 3: can find it our Instagram. You can share your stuff
Speaker 3: with us, so we can share and talk to you
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 2: But our hory, where is our hoorriy?
Speaker 3: We find it?
Speaker 2: It's time for horse stories. Mm hmm m m. This
Speaker 2: is a horror.
Speaker 3: And also I don't know this is This is definitely
Speaker 3: a secret safe because yeah, here we go. My bestie's
Speaker 3: old side, nigga is my new side?
Speaker 2: Nigga? Did she give him to you? And she doesn't
Speaker 2: know we talk.
Speaker 3: She's married and lives out of state and they haven't
Speaker 3: seen each other in over a year.
Speaker 2: Oh damn, she had a side, niggah. She was married, okay,
Speaker 2: her bestie. Oh oh, that's a real side nigga. Okay.
Speaker 3: I met him on a dating app not knowing that
Speaker 3: it was him, ended up talking to her about it
Speaker 3: casually one day and she said, wait a minute, who no,
Speaker 3: stop talking to him? But me and him vibe. We
Speaker 3: fuck good, We have a good time, and he's just
Speaker 3: the best eater I've ever had. I can't come up
Speaker 3: off him, and I know I need to, because ultimately
Speaker 3: he's not my nigga. A girl I used to talk
Speaker 3: to even ask me about him before, come to find
Speaker 3: out they were talking too.
Speaker 2: He's for everybody, he'd he'd be on the ass. Your
Speaker 2: friend needs to just understand he's for everybody.
Speaker 3: How do I leave this freaky ass nigga alone? I
Speaker 3: need it out so I can find my own freaky
Speaker 3: ass nigger. Oh I didn't mention he ain't got no car,
Speaker 3: live with his mama, Oh no, and barely got a job.
Speaker 3: Oh no, lord, And he'd be asking me for money.
Speaker 2: Oh no, Lord, No, I don't know. I reveal him.
Speaker 3: We listen and we don't judge, but please judge my ass.
Speaker 2: Sorry it came out too soon. Now you know that.
Speaker 2: Now the dick must be dick In.
Speaker 3: You know, broke dick is the best dick.
Speaker 2: Because I got somewhere, need somewhere to say, you know
Speaker 2: it's dick In, Because if this bitch said don't talk
Speaker 2: to him, I'd be like, if we don't take his luck,
Speaker 2: get his ass out of here. Sure, take him. Oh
Speaker 2: my goodness, Oh my goodness, he must be a girl.
Speaker 3: You need to leave that man alone.
Speaker 2: But I mean, maybe just get it in a few times.
Speaker 3: You know, you have you have until February first, bitch,
Speaker 3: your time is up on February first. That's when New
Speaker 3: Year's begins, and you gotta drop this nigga. Okay, no
Speaker 3: more broke, freaky ass side niggas on the February first,
Speaker 3: Let's do a deadline.
Speaker 2: You know what I will say on a positive note
Speaker 2: is at least you're aware that this is not your nigga,
Speaker 2: and that you're not trying to get him a job
Speaker 2: at your job, and you're not trying to set him
Speaker 2: up with a finance niggas so he can get himself
Speaker 2: a car and get him together. Because at least you're
Speaker 2: allusional illusional. I just waited them. At least you're lusional,
Speaker 2: which is the opposite of delusional. Hmmm. I like that
Speaker 2: you illusional. So like, sometimes we do stupid shit, but
Speaker 2: as long as we're aware of conscious that we're doing
Speaker 2: stupid shit, and like it's cold, it's called aware. A
Speaker 2: stupid aware bitch, You know you're not just a stupid bitch.
Speaker 2: You're a stupid aware bitch. Stupid. And you know I
Speaker 2: have a lot of respect for a stupid aware bitch
Speaker 2: because I've been there, You've been stupid bitch. We've all
Speaker 2: been stupidware beaches. Like I'm aware, I'm stupid bitch. Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm aware. You ain't gotta tell me. I'm telling you.
Speaker 2: You gotta tell me because I'm telling you. But all
Speaker 2: stupid aware bitchness comes with it. You know, there's a deadline,
Speaker 2: there's a you know, we can't you can't be a
Speaker 2: stupid aware bitch for twelve months because then you're just
Speaker 2: a stupid bitch. No, then you're just a stupid bitch. Fact.
Speaker 2: You know, there's a threshold, there's a timeline, there's a
Speaker 2: there's a quick timeline. And trust me, I know because
Speaker 2: I have grazed, I have gone penetrated far past the line.
Speaker 2: So just let me tell you, as this once stupid
Speaker 2: aware bitch turned stupid bitch, it.
Speaker 3: Can go quickly turned fiance.
Speaker 2: Have my ring damp turn fiance, okay, because you know
Speaker 2: you gotta sometimes you gotta. You gotta fall so you
Speaker 2: can walk, so you can run, so just take it
Speaker 2: for me because now I'm a fian. Oh my god,
Speaker 2: that's gonna be my whole spiel. I'm like, I'm a fiance,
Speaker 2: so let me just tell you some relationship advice as
Speaker 2: the fiance of this Oh god here, as the fiance
Speaker 2: of the podcast, I would just say, drop it low,
Speaker 2: suck it slow. Because I'm the fiance of the podcast,
Speaker 2: I can come to you with all my relationship advice.
Speaker 2: Signed xoxo Mila the fiance, And I'm gonna say it
Speaker 2: like that fiance because it's French. Oh my gosh.
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Speaker 2: Thus he hopes is direct fund that helps all hose
Speaker 2: who are stupid bitches come be stupid ware bitches to
Speaker 2: be Hose with Hope aka fiance and they will come
Speaker 2: on the retreat so they could do it deep intensive
Speaker 2: of being less stupid and more smart. When they come back,
Speaker 2: it's more hopeful, more hopeful. Have you seen scared straight?
Speaker 2: It's that but gentle with meditations and sound bowls and
Speaker 2: titties like at my titties, be free, be free. We're
Speaker 2: gonna save you to death to get that nigga all
Speaker 2: about your point.
Speaker 3: He's gonna be out of there.
Speaker 2: Besides you and saved you. You're gonna smoke that nigga
Speaker 2: out when you go back. You canna be allergic to
Speaker 2: his ass. Okay, So come on down to the gid Vibertrue,
Speaker 2: there's still time for you to be an aware bitch.
Speaker 2: There's still time. Let's take some meala moans from the fiance.
Speaker 2: Let's take a deep breath in.
Speaker 3: At least with sounds.
Speaker 2: Life is hard, the world is crazy. At least we
Speaker 2: have each other. Mm hmmm. You don't have to be
Speaker 2: fucking to moan. Sometimes just breathing is good enough. Life
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