WEBVTT - Second Date Update: My Ears Are Clogged With Love 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.040 Hey, we get a lot of new listeners to the pod, 0:00:02.080 --> 0:00:03.840 and we love that. Thank you for being here, whether 0:00:03.880 --> 0:00:06.360 you found us on like a viral TikTok or maybe 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:09.080 a viral Facebook where someone sold our. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.559 Audio or that bus stop where I've been riding like that, 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:14.760 Broke and Jeffrey, right, yeah, by that, it's small fun. 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:19.639 I appreciate that. That's gorilla marketing and that's finest. But 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:22.520 you're here, and this is the official Second Date podcast. 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:25.319 We've got a brand new episode coming for you, but 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:28.040 we always love to start by highlighting one of our listeners. 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:32.000 Yeah, Joseph Petrue said, Hey, Brook and Jeffrey Crewe. I'm 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:35.120 in college to be a business engineer, and I listen 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:36.360 to your podcast every. 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:37.560 Morning to help me get through the week. 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:41.360 I like to highlight the people with really smart future 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:42.519 careers to listen to us. 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:45.120 I see, Yeah, to prove we don't really cover business 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:45.880 or engineering. 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:47.280 I don't even know. 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:53.600 How they go together. To be honest, all right, let's 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:56.160 make this guy dumber. Your brand new Second Date update 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:57.080 starts right now. 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:01.120 Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning Date updates. 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:04.800 I know we've talked about this before, where you may 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:08.880 have a big plan for your first date. But plans 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:13.400 change and suddenly you're saying, oh god, I didn't realize 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:16.480 they remodeled this fancy steakhouse and turned it into a 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:17.959 chucky cheese. 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:19.759 And they got rid of the valet too. 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:24.160 Yes, yes, all those chucky cheese buildings definitely used to 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:28.520 house fancy steakhouse, right, thank you. 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:29.480 In my neighborhood. 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:30.920 They date and the entertainment. 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:32.679 Now you've got to adjust. 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:35.480 And apparently one of our listeners had to adjust on 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:38.600 the fly and deal with a change of plans for 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:42.080 her date, and she needs our help today. Her name 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:43.160 is Aria. 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:45.560 Aria. I'm assuming you didn't plan to call into a. 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.840 Radio show for help with your love life either, but 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:50.040 here you are welcome to the show. 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:50.960 Thank you. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:51.640 No I did not. 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:55.080 That's a good pivot. Can I ask before we get 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:56.880 into it, is it you that plan the date? 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.400 No? I did not plan the date? 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:01.600 Okay, okay, who planned it? 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:02.480 Ryan? 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:07.440 The guy went out with where you came at? So 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:12.639 we actually met through church. We both volunteer like when 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.880 they have events. We helped put out food and things 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:19.080 like that, and obviously we've seen each other around and 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:23.000 finally he asked me out that means you. 0:02:22.960 --> 0:02:26.720 Were hoping for it volunteering for the same area. 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:28.240 How did he do it? 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:31.480 I mean, he just literally just asked if I wanted 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:34.920 to go on a date. And I normally. 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:37.239 Don't do this, but I did let him come pick 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:37.919 me up at my. 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:44.080 Place because church, Yeah, hopefully you can trust. 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:47.640 Him exactly, That's what I thought. So I invited him 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.320 to come inside, and when. 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:53.440 He picked up right away, yes, because I was. 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:55.920 I was kind of frustrated at the time. 0:02:56.040 --> 0:03:01.440 I really like cooking and I have been for this 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:05.120 ingredient called aleppo. I don't to be heard of it, 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.720 but it's like a It's like a special chili spice. 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:09.480 Oh sounds like a drug. 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:09.880 I know. 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.320 It sounds like one of those late night infomercials like 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.600 ask your doctor if AO is right for you. 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:15.600 It kind of does. 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:20.160 But I have been looking online and then trying to 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:22.760 find if it was available at any stores, and I. 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:23.960 Just wasn't having any luck. 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:26.320 And it was for the socok recipe I was trying 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:31.280 to do for my family the next day, the guy. 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:35.120 You're scattered long unless aleppo is like some sort of aphrodisiac. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:38.160 Before the date happened, but I don't know, maybe not 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:38.880 not that I know. 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:44.040 Okay, So you in him in yeah, yes, and he 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:44.560 was being. 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.280 Really sweet and he offered He's like, well, let's go 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:49.320 find it. He's like, I know some grocery stores in 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:51.800 the area that has some cool stuff. So he's like, 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:52.760 let's go check them out. 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:56.280 So this must be the adjustment that you're talking about 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:58.760 where you had something planned and suddenly you're going out 0:03:58.800 --> 0:03:59.920 to pick up spy. 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:04.320 Yes. I thought it was really sweet. I mean, so 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:07.640 we went to like three different grocery stores. 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:09.920 But we finally ended up fighting it at like a 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:11.400 specialty fancy store. 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:15.680 Then did you finally get to go on your date? 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:17.400 WHOA? 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:21.159 So by this point it was really late, so we 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:25.080 just went back to my place and we did end 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:32.400 up making out air and run. Yeah, So, I mean 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:38.000 I felt a good connection and we planned on definitely 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:39.760 going on another date. 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:42.440 It's wild that you can't get a hold of this guy. 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:44.760 I mean, assume that's why you're calling us, because right 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:46.799 you volunteer with him at the same church. 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:49.320 I just don't know what happened, you know, Like I'm 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:51.560 assuming he had like a big plan for the night 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.039 and it felt through. But I mean, he he was 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:55.719 being like the sweetest guy. 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.039 They went on a second date. He doesn't have to. 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.200 But from the way that you're the way that you 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.080 just said that, did you not know what his plan was? 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:04.760 I did not. 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:06.720 That's the thing, because. 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:09.320 There's a chance that maybe he had something really big plan, 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:12.760 something really special, and he feels like he never got 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:13.320 to do it. 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:14.480 I mean, I. 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:17.120 Feel like he could have said that, you know, and 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.919 I want a guy to put in that effort, like 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:23.440 I want them to plan something special. 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:26.760 And so wait, are you disappointed that he offered to 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:28.599 take you to all those grocery stores? 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:30.080 I'm confused. 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:33.440 I mean, did he like just take me there because 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:38.760 he had nothing plan? Or I don't know, there could 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:39.000 have been. 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:40.960 A guy with a violin like on a park waiting 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:42.400 for you and you never got. 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:42.719 To get there. 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:46.840 So since that happened, have you been communicating and trying 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.719 to put together another date or what's happened there? 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:54.000 Yeah, it just feels like every time we do something's 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:54.880 always coming up. 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:57.840 Now another spice is missing and you have to do 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:02.719 another oseeing him. 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:05.400 Though no I haven't seen him. 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:08.200 Since, sure, but you are trying to put something together. 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.960 It's just never materializing into an actual meet. 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:14.480 Up exactly exactly, So I don't know what's going on 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:16.280 because I feel I mean, I had a good time, 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:18.520 even though I know we were just looking for spices. 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:22.400 Okay, so you weren't disappointed that there wasn't a grander plan. 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.479 I mean, if there was a grander plan, you know, 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:29.159 I don't know that it existed because we never got 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:31.880 to go out again. So I'd like to see it. 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:33.520 Okay. 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:36.000 Yeah, I can't imagine what would be grander than a 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:39.360 grocery store run to several different places around the city. 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:41.200 But if he really does. 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:44.160 Have something in mind, we'll find that out because we're 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:46.880 gonna call Ryan and try and get you your second 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:50.840 date update little spice on top of it. Yeah, I know, 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:53.440 I think we're all hungry. We'll get this done right 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:53.880 after this. 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.000 Hold on Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:57.440 Second date updates. 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:00.839 Just quick recap if this part one. 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:04.560 Two people met at church that would be our listener, 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:06.400 Aria and a guy named Ryan. 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:08.760 He asked her out, but. 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.680 Instead of doing their plan date for the night, whatever 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:14.240 that was gonna be, instead they went on a night 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:18.320 long grocery store run all over the city, trying to 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:22.760 find one particular spice to help Aria finish a family recipe. 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:25.080 Remember, it was his idea. 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.360 It was his idea to help her out and go 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:28.040 find this thing. 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:28.480 Yeah. 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:30.760 Absolutely, he was totally on board with that. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:34.000 But they never ended up going anywhere else except for 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:37.160 back to Aria's for a little C and K cooking 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:38.280 and kissing. 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:42.800 Oh. I was wondering about the food situation. Maybe he's 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:44.880 not calling me back because he's hungry. 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:46.760 She said. It was like a slow cooker, So I 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:50.200 was like, they're not eating the chili. Whatever ended up happening. 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.640 That was the last time the two of them saw 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.320 each other, but we never asked how long ago was 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:56.280 that date, Aria. 0:07:57.240 --> 0:08:01.000 That's the thing, it's then two weeks now. 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:05.000 While is it so awkward right now because you were 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:06.320 volunteering with this guy. 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:11.040 Yeah, and it's And that's why I don't know, I'm 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.120 weird about it because I feel like it was a 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:17.560 comfortable state, Like, I mean, it was good conversation. It 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:19.360 didn't feel awkward at all. 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:20.480 It's one of those. 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:23.040 Things, too, are you that like when you do just 0:08:23.160 --> 0:08:26.040 normal errands with someone and can still have chemistry, that 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:28.840 means that there could really truly be something there. 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:31.160 Yeah, yeah, that's what I thought. 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:34.400 And you know, and sometimes like it's it's timing and 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:38.960 it's like, now I feel like we're losing that spark. 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:39.719 I guess that we have. 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:41.840 You know, it'd be such a shame to have so 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:45.160 much potential cut down by a six sounds jar of 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:45.600 a leppo. 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:46.959 That just doesn't seem fair. 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.480 I mean, yeah, that's what I want to know. I mean, 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:50.840 it just was going so good. 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:53.200 I thought, well, let's find out. We'll see if Ryan 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.880 picks up the phone. I'm gonna dial his number right now. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:09:06.440 Hopefully he answers, but let's do it. Hello, Hey Ryan, 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:07.680 is this Ryan? 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.600 Yeah? Who is this? 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:12.160 Hey man? 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:14.240 My name is jeff from a show called Brooke and 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:17.280 Jeffrey in the Morning. Everybody's here, Hey Ryan, good. 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:21.439 Morning from a showy radio show. 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:25.400 Is this like a scam called I'm getting a lot 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:26.679 of those? 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:28.320 Yeah? 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:29.960 We hate those two weeks to Ryan. 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:32.040 Yeah, this is not a scam called. This is a 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:34.959 segment called a second Date Update where we're trying to 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.440 help out one of our listeners that you went out 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:41.000 with about two weeks ago, a girl from your church 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:43.880 named Aria. 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:44.560 Why. 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:49.120 Yeah, that's a cute response. 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:52.079 Well, why is she contacting you? We're still in touch, 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:53.080 like we're texting. 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:54.240 Yeah, she said that. 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:57.680 We got that impression from her. But what she's not 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:01.280 understanding is why the two if you haven't met up 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:03.720 a second time in the last couple of weeks. 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:07.439 I mean, it's just like a scheduling thing. Like it's 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:09.000 not like I haven't talked to her, you know, like 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:12.280 I don't know, you. 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.559 Can't find time in the last two weeks to even 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:16.600 just grab coffee with her. 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:21.160 I okay, I gotta be honest with you, y'all. 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:22.800 I mean, oh, I don't like that sentence. 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:26.040 I don't even know how to explain this, but I 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:28.720 have I have this feeling that I just sort of 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:29.360 can't shake. 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:31.960 Okay, can you take a pill for it or something? 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:32.600 Can you shake it? 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:37.280 With that? We're joking, we're joking. 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:38.040 What's up? 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:43.280 Well, this is gonna sound ridiculous, but I think maybe 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:47.800 I feel kind of like I love her already. 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:52.040 WHOA I can think. 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:56.800 I will say, you know her more than just one 0:10:56.880 --> 0:11:00.360 date because you guys have been volunteering together, So I 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:02.479 don't think that that is totally insane. 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:04.760 But why wait, why wouldn't you call her back, she 0:11:04.840 --> 0:11:05.920 thinks you don't like her. 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:06.760 And you love her. 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:09.520 Well, I don't know. I feel like if we go 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:12.240 on a normal date, it's just gonna feel different. 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:14.560 What do you mean is what's gonna feel different? 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:17.920 I'm just nervous that if we like go to dinner 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:21.079 or drinks, it's just gonna feel different, like we did 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:24.120 such a boring kind of thing, Like I just want 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:25.800 to go to the post office. I don't know. 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:29.720 Okay, you're done with all the romantic aspects already. You 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:34.880 want to dive right into like boring chores, mundane forever, 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:35.840 love life together. 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:39.720 I mean, I'm not saying forever, but I'm just feeling 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:43.120 kind of stuck. And I mean it's funny that you 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:45.440 call because I think about her all the time. 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:49.240 You need to to take her out. 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:53.520 I mean, if chores are fun with her, then imagine 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:56.400 what a great night out is with her, Like that 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:58.120 will just only amplify the good. 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.000 Yeah. I don't know. I just feel like I might 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:04.840 mess that up. Like we have like this volunteering thing 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:06.600 coming up, and I kind of think we should just 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:06.960 do that. 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:11.839 Oh God, you're friend zone her because it's going too well. Listen, 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:12.440 to yourself. 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:15.000 I don't want a friend zone her. I want more, 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:17.760 but I think this might be the path to get there. 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:21.400 I think will be the same, not more, It'll be 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:21.800 the same. 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:23.840 Yeah, church volunteer, buddy past. 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:24.800 Yeah. 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:26.600 Yeah. I mean there's a lot of stuff running through 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.920 my head, like I feel like I'm in paralysis, and 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:30.280 I don't know what to do about it. 0:12:30.679 --> 0:12:32.760 Okay, well, you know, I think you don't have to 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:36.679 do anything right now. You could just stay paralyzed for 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:39.320 the moment and let Aria do all the talking because 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:41.720 she's on the other line waiting to jump in and 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:42.280 speak with you. 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:44.920 Yeah, yeah, right here, right now. 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:50.880 Oh no, oh no, I don't know. 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:52.800 You have some nice thoughts to say to you. 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:55.040 That's a lot of information though, for Ari. 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:55.640 Are you there? 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:57.319 Yeah, I'm here. 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.600 I'm trying to take everything in. 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:03.319 Look, I didn't know you were listening to all that. 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:06.400 So I take it back, or take or take a lot. 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:10.959 Of it back, just forget the last five minutes. 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:11.160 Of your life. 0:13:11.200 --> 0:13:13.040 I don't think you can take that back. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:15.600 Ryan. Do you want him to. 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:18.160 Take it back? Or did you like hearing that question? 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:25.640 I like hearing that, but I'm also concerned because I 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:26.680 want that romance. 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:31.920 I want that planned special date. And I did. 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.040 Have fun, like I told him, I really did have 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:37.640 fun just going grocery shopping with you. Absolutely, But there's 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:39.800 got to be more to it. 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.840 So you want me to do you want me to 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:45.840 move in or something? 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:47.600 Is what. 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:54.840 I don't know. I'm just I'm spitballing here. I'm distressful. 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:56.800 I mean, have you ever like. 0:13:56.760 --> 0:14:02.120 Planned a date before, I mean just something like some 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:03.120 kind of thought. 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.040 I mean I planned one with you. But we went 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.400 to the grocery store and then that was way better 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:09.880 than anything I came up with. 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:16.640 What We don't know that it was better or worse. 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:18.800 We were just going to go to dinner and drinks, 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:20.000 you know, the normal stuff. 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.480 You know, You're right, grocery store shopping is better. 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:26.160 I mean, I feel like that was what the magic 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:28.960 the spice was so speak. 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:32.400 Listening to her and hearing what she needs though too, 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.920 Like she needs to feel special in taking care of and. 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:37.160 That's what I was trying to do. She needed a 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:39.920 spice and I was trying to help her find it. 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:42.880 Yeah, he wants to make her feel special by like 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.480 taking her to the pharmacy to pick up her medication. 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:49.920 And helping her, you know, organize her junk drawer in 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:50.880 her cabinet. 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:55.760 Those things are great. I think that any person would appreciate. 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:56.640 That, right, But he needs aaron body. 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.720 Yes, but I think that she needs she's saying, and 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:01.800 I could be wrong. Are you that you need a 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:02.800 little bit more? 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:03.880 Yeah? 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:06.840 I think the difference is like the love language here, 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:12.280 you know, like I need that quality time, that special time, 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:15.320 and he just kind of just wants to like do 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:18.920 the practical help and that just doesn't reach me as much. 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:22.160 Okay, Okay, that is a very clear message. 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.080 Yeah, Ryan, are you hearing her? 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:27.960 Yeah, Area, I am hearing you, and I hear that 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:30.360 you don't want me to help you anymore. And that's 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:32.360 fine what she says. 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:33.400 I don't think anybody heard. 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:36.400 How could she have communicated that more clearly? 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:39.560 Ears are blogged with love? 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:46.160 Okay? Well again, I think there's an ointment for that. 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:49.720 But I mean, I think you guys should probably talk 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:53.320 about it together when you're on a date. 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:59.240 Pay for half their dry cleaning or pay for dinners. 0:15:57.320 --> 0:15:58.160 Really up to them. 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.680 Maybe we can go to dinner and I'll bring my 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:05.000 taxes and you can bring your taxes and we'll do those, 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:06.360 could there. 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:08.360 Be a less sexy sentence. 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.520 Well, normally here we'd be asking Ryan if he'd want 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:15.880 to go out, but it sounds like Aria, he's fully invested. 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:17.400 He's already dropped the album for. 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.400 He's laid it down pretty hard. Aria. 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:25.440 Do you want to go on a date with Ryan? 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:27.520 And if you do, we can pay for that date. 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:33.320 I just feel like he's already halfway to the practical side, 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:37.240 and that worries me. But I'm willing. 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:38.239 To give it a shot. 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:45.600 Okay, Okay, you can learn to love practical sounds hot, all. 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:49.080 Right, Ryan? She has officially said yes, kind of. 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:50.160 Yeah. 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:52.880 So maybe bring a little bit of romance with you 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:54.400 on your tax dinner date. 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:55.360 Maybe some flowers. 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:58.640 I will pack some romance in my pocket. 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:02.920 Okay, that's where you keep your romance. 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:06.879 That looks in your right pocket, brooking Jeffrey in the morning. 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:11.919 I've been thinking we should advise more first daters to 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:14.280 say I love you right out the gate. 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:16.080 Oh my gosh, as soon as. 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:18.240 You meet up at the restaurant, hug them and whisper 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.920 I love you, so that you get all that awkwardness 0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:23.159 out of the way and it doesn't happen in the 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:25.720 middle of our second date calls, because that made us 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:27.600 uncomfortable and that's. 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:28.440 Not fair to us. 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:29.880 She definitely didn't say it back. 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:31.000 No, she didn't know. 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:33.680 She didn't know what to say when that came out, 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.200 and that just made it awkward for everybody. Even the 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:38.280 people listening felt cringe. 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:41.520 It may work out though, in the end. It's always 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:44.240 nice to be with someone that loves you more than you. 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:47.360 Like that baby, I feel like you know they won't 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:47.760 leave you. 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:51.280 I appreciate your hopeless optimism in. 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:53.720 A good way. 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:56.040 It's going to be tough for him to come back 0:17:56.080 --> 0:17:59.920 from but who knows, maybe miracles will happen. 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:02.640 You know, she's she's looking at a clock that she's 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:03.280 worried about. 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:05.560 So yeah, we're hoping that by the end of the 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:08.399 year her ears are clogged with love too, and. 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:09.920