Speaker 1: Hey, we get a lot of new listeners to the pod,
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Speaker 1: I appreciate that. That's gorilla marketing and that's finest. But
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Speaker 1: We've got a brand new episode coming for you, but
Speaker 1: we always love to start by highlighting one of our listeners.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Joseph Petrue said, Hey, Brook and Jeffrey Crewe. I'm
Speaker 3: in college to be a business engineer, and I listen
Speaker 3: to your podcast every.
Speaker 4: Morning to help me get through the week.
Speaker 3: I like to highlight the people with really smart future
Speaker 3: careers to listen to us.
Speaker 1: I see, Yeah, to prove we don't really cover business
Speaker 1: or engineering.
Speaker 4: I don't even know.
Speaker 1: How they go together. To be honest, all right, let's
Speaker 1: make this guy dumber. Your brand new Second Date update
Speaker 1: starts right now.
Speaker 5: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning Date updates.
Speaker 2: I know we've talked about this before, where you may
Speaker 2: have a big plan for your first date. But plans
Speaker 2: change and suddenly you're saying, oh god, I didn't realize
Speaker 2: they remodeled this fancy steakhouse and turned it into a
Speaker 2: chucky cheese.
Speaker 5: And they got rid of the valet too.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, all those chucky cheese buildings definitely used to
Speaker 1: house fancy steakhouse, right, thank you.
Speaker 5: In my neighborhood.
Speaker 1: They date and the entertainment.
Speaker 5: Now you've got to adjust.
Speaker 2: And apparently one of our listeners had to adjust on
Speaker 2: the fly and deal with a change of plans for
Speaker 2: her date, and she needs our help today. Her name
Speaker 2: is Aria.
Speaker 5: Aria. I'm assuming you didn't plan to call into a.
Speaker 2: Radio show for help with your love life either, but
Speaker 2: here you are welcome to the show.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 6: No I did not.
Speaker 1: That's a good pivot. Can I ask before we get
Speaker 1: into it, is it you that plan the date?
Speaker 6: No? I did not plan the date?
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, who planned it?
Speaker 3: Ryan?
Speaker 7: The guy went out with where you came at? So
Speaker 7: we actually met through church. We both volunteer like when
Speaker 7: they have events. We helped put out food and things
Speaker 7: like that, and obviously we've seen each other around and
Speaker 7: finally he asked me out that means you.
Speaker 4: Were hoping for it volunteering for the same area.
Speaker 5: How did he do it?
Speaker 7: I mean, he just literally just asked if I wanted
Speaker 7: to go on a date. And I normally.
Speaker 6: Don't do this, but I did let him come pick
Speaker 6: me up at my.
Speaker 4: Place because church, Yeah, hopefully you can trust.
Speaker 7: Him exactly, That's what I thought. So I invited him
Speaker 7: to come inside, and when.
Speaker 4: He picked up right away, yes, because I was.
Speaker 6: I was kind of frustrated at the time.
Speaker 7: I really like cooking and I have been for this
Speaker 7: ingredient called aleppo. I don't to be heard of it,
Speaker 7: but it's like a It's like a special chili spice.
Speaker 5: Oh sounds like a drug.
Speaker 8: I know.
Speaker 2: It sounds like one of those late night infomercials like
Speaker 2: ask your doctor if AO is right for you.
Speaker 6: It kind of does.
Speaker 7: But I have been looking online and then trying to
Speaker 7: find if it was available at any stores, and I.
Speaker 6: Just wasn't having any luck.
Speaker 7: And it was for the socok recipe I was trying
Speaker 7: to do for my family the next day, the guy.
Speaker 2: You're scattered long unless aleppo is like some sort of aphrodisiac.
Speaker 5: Before the date happened, but I don't know, maybe not
Speaker 5: not that I know.
Speaker 6: Okay, So you in him in yeah, yes, and he
Speaker 6: was being.
Speaker 7: Really sweet and he offered He's like, well, let's go
Speaker 7: find it. He's like, I know some grocery stores in
Speaker 7: the area that has some cool stuff. So he's like,
Speaker 7: let's go check them out.
Speaker 2: So this must be the adjustment that you're talking about
Speaker 2: where you had something planned and suddenly you're going out
Speaker 2: to pick up spy.
Speaker 6: Yes. I thought it was really sweet. I mean, so
Speaker 6: we went to like three different grocery stores.
Speaker 7: But we finally ended up fighting it at like a
Speaker 7: specialty fancy store.
Speaker 1: Then did you finally get to go on your date?
Speaker 8: WHOA?
Speaker 7: So by this point it was really late, so we
Speaker 7: just went back to my place and we did end
Speaker 7: up making out air and run. Yeah, So, I mean
Speaker 7: I felt a good connection and we planned on definitely
Speaker 7: going on another date.
Speaker 1: It's wild that you can't get a hold of this guy.
Speaker 1: I mean, assume that's why you're calling us, because right
Speaker 1: you volunteer with him at the same church.
Speaker 7: I just don't know what happened, you know, Like I'm
Speaker 7: assuming he had like a big plan for the night
Speaker 7: and it felt through. But I mean, he he was
Speaker 7: being like the sweetest guy.
Speaker 4: They went on a second date. He doesn't have to.
Speaker 2: But from the way that you're the way that you
Speaker 2: just said that, did you not know what his plan was?
Speaker 6: I did not.
Speaker 7: That's the thing, because.
Speaker 2: There's a chance that maybe he had something really big plan,
Speaker 2: something really special, and he feels like he never got
Speaker 2: to do it.
Speaker 1: I mean, I.
Speaker 7: Feel like he could have said that, you know, and
Speaker 7: I want a guy to put in that effort, like
Speaker 7: I want them to plan something special.
Speaker 1: And so wait, are you disappointed that he offered to
Speaker 1: take you to all those grocery stores?
Speaker 4: I'm confused.
Speaker 7: I mean, did he like just take me there because
Speaker 7: he had nothing plan? Or I don't know, there could
Speaker 7: have been.
Speaker 5: A guy with a violin like on a park waiting
Speaker 5: for you and you never got.
Speaker 1: To get there.
Speaker 2: So since that happened, have you been communicating and trying
Speaker 2: to put together another date or what's happened there?
Speaker 7: Yeah, it just feels like every time we do something's
Speaker 7: always coming up.
Speaker 2: Now another spice is missing and you have to do
Speaker 2: another oseeing him.
Speaker 7: Though no I haven't seen him.
Speaker 2: Since, sure, but you are trying to put something together.
Speaker 2: It's just never materializing into an actual meet.
Speaker 7: Up exactly exactly, So I don't know what's going on
Speaker 7: because I feel I mean, I had a good time,
Speaker 7: even though I know we were just looking for spices.
Speaker 1: Okay, so you weren't disappointed that there wasn't a grander plan.
Speaker 7: I mean, if there was a grander plan, you know,
Speaker 7: I don't know that it existed because we never got
Speaker 7: to go out again. So I'd like to see it.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't imagine what would be grander than a
Speaker 2: grocery store run to several different places around the city.
Speaker 5: But if he really does.
Speaker 2: Have something in mind, we'll find that out because we're
Speaker 2: gonna call Ryan and try and get you your second
Speaker 2: date update little spice on top of it. Yeah, I know,
Speaker 2: I think we're all hungry. We'll get this done right
Speaker 2: after this.
Speaker 5: Hold on Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 8: Second date updates.
Speaker 5: Just quick recap if this part one.
Speaker 2: Two people met at church that would be our listener,
Speaker 2: Aria and a guy named Ryan.
Speaker 5: He asked her out, but.
Speaker 2: Instead of doing their plan date for the night, whatever
Speaker 2: that was gonna be, instead they went on a night
Speaker 2: long grocery store run all over the city, trying to
Speaker 2: find one particular spice to help Aria finish a family recipe.
Speaker 4: Remember, it was his idea.
Speaker 1: It was his idea to help her out and go
Speaker 1: find this thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Absolutely, he was totally on board with that.
Speaker 2: But they never ended up going anywhere else except for
Speaker 2: back to Aria's for a little C and K cooking
Speaker 2: and kissing.
Speaker 1: Oh. I was wondering about the food situation. Maybe he's
Speaker 1: not calling me back because he's hungry.
Speaker 5: She said. It was like a slow cooker, So I
Speaker 5: was like, they're not eating the chili. Whatever ended up happening.
Speaker 2: That was the last time the two of them saw
Speaker 2: each other, but we never asked how long ago was
Speaker 2: that date, Aria.
Speaker 7: That's the thing, it's then two weeks now.
Speaker 1: While is it so awkward right now because you were
Speaker 1: volunteering with this guy.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and it's And that's why I don't know, I'm
Speaker 7: weird about it because I feel like it was a
Speaker 7: comfortable state, Like, I mean, it was good conversation. It
Speaker 7: didn't feel awkward at all.
Speaker 5: It's one of those.
Speaker 1: Things, too, are you that like when you do just
Speaker 1: normal errands with someone and can still have chemistry, that
Speaker 1: means that there could really truly be something there.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, that's what I thought.
Speaker 7: And you know, and sometimes like it's it's timing and
Speaker 7: it's like, now I feel like we're losing that spark.
Speaker 6: I guess that we have.
Speaker 2: You know, it'd be such a shame to have so
Speaker 2: much potential cut down by a six sounds jar of
Speaker 2: a leppo.
Speaker 5: That just doesn't seem fair.
Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, that's what I want to know. I mean,
Speaker 6: it just was going so good.
Speaker 2: I thought, well, let's find out. We'll see if Ryan
Speaker 2: picks up the phone. I'm gonna dial his number right now.
Speaker 5: Hopefully he answers, but let's do it. Hello, Hey Ryan,
Speaker 5: is this Ryan?
Speaker 8: Yeah? Who is this?
Speaker 5: Hey man?
Speaker 2: My name is jeff from a show called Brooke and
Speaker 2: Jeffrey in the Morning. Everybody's here, Hey Ryan, good.
Speaker 1: Morning from a showy radio show.
Speaker 8: Is this like a scam called I'm getting a lot
Speaker 8: of those?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: We hate those two weeks to Ryan.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is not a scam called. This is a
Speaker 2: segment called a second Date Update where we're trying to
Speaker 2: help out one of our listeners that you went out
Speaker 2: with about two weeks ago, a girl from your church
Speaker 2: named Aria.
Speaker 8: Why.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a cute response.
Speaker 8: Well, why is she contacting you? We're still in touch,
Speaker 8: like we're texting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she said that.
Speaker 2: We got that impression from her. But what she's not
Speaker 2: understanding is why the two if you haven't met up
Speaker 2: a second time in the last couple of weeks.
Speaker 8: I mean, it's just like a scheduling thing. Like it's
Speaker 8: not like I haven't talked to her, you know, like
Speaker 8: I don't know, you.
Speaker 1: Can't find time in the last two weeks to even
Speaker 1: just grab coffee with her.
Speaker 8: I okay, I gotta be honest with you, y'all.
Speaker 5: I mean, oh, I don't like that sentence.
Speaker 8: I don't even know how to explain this, but I
Speaker 8: have I have this feeling that I just sort of
Speaker 8: can't shake.
Speaker 5: Okay, can you take a pill for it or something?
Speaker 5: Can you shake it?
Speaker 1: With that? We're joking, we're joking.
Speaker 5: What's up?
Speaker 8: Well, this is gonna sound ridiculous, but I think maybe
Speaker 8: I feel kind of like I love her already.
Speaker 5: WHOA I can think.
Speaker 1: I will say, you know her more than just one
Speaker 1: date because you guys have been volunteering together, So I
Speaker 1: don't think that that is totally insane.
Speaker 2: But why wait, why wouldn't you call her back, she
Speaker 2: thinks you don't like her.
Speaker 4: And you love her.
Speaker 8: Well, I don't know. I feel like if we go
Speaker 8: on a normal date, it's just gonna feel different.
Speaker 1: What do you mean is what's gonna feel different?
Speaker 8: I'm just nervous that if we like go to dinner
Speaker 8: or drinks, it's just gonna feel different, like we did
Speaker 8: such a boring kind of thing, Like I just want
Speaker 8: to go to the post office. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Okay, you're done with all the romantic aspects already. You
Speaker 2: want to dive right into like boring chores, mundane forever,
Speaker 2: love life together.
Speaker 8: I mean, I'm not saying forever, but I'm just feeling
Speaker 8: kind of stuck. And I mean it's funny that you
Speaker 8: call because I think about her all the time.
Speaker 4: You need to to take her out.
Speaker 1: I mean, if chores are fun with her, then imagine
Speaker 1: what a great night out is with her, Like that
Speaker 1: will just only amplify the good.
Speaker 8: Yeah. I don't know. I just feel like I might
Speaker 8: mess that up. Like we have like this volunteering thing
Speaker 8: coming up, and I kind of think we should just
Speaker 8: do that.
Speaker 5: Oh God, you're friend zone her because it's going too well. Listen,
Speaker 5: to yourself.
Speaker 8: I don't want a friend zone her. I want more,
Speaker 8: but I think this might be the path to get there.
Speaker 1: I think will be the same, not more, It'll be
Speaker 1: the same.
Speaker 4: Yeah, church volunteer, buddy past.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Yeah. I mean there's a lot of stuff running through
Speaker 8: my head, like I feel like I'm in paralysis, and
Speaker 8: I don't know what to do about it.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, you know, I think you don't have to
Speaker 2: do anything right now. You could just stay paralyzed for
Speaker 2: the moment and let Aria do all the talking because
Speaker 2: she's on the other line waiting to jump in and
Speaker 2: speak with you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, right here, right now.
Speaker 8: Oh no, oh no, I don't know.
Speaker 5: You have some nice thoughts to say to you.
Speaker 1: That's a lot of information though, for Ari.
Speaker 5: Are you there?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm here.
Speaker 7: I'm trying to take everything in.
Speaker 8: Look, I didn't know you were listening to all that.
Speaker 8: So I take it back, or take or take a lot.
Speaker 2: Of it back, just forget the last five minutes.
Speaker 5: Of your life.
Speaker 6: I don't think you can take that back.
Speaker 1: Ryan. Do you want him to.
Speaker 4: Take it back? Or did you like hearing that question?
Speaker 7: I like hearing that, but I'm also concerned because I
Speaker 7: want that romance.
Speaker 6: I want that planned special date. And I did.
Speaker 7: Have fun, like I told him, I really did have
Speaker 7: fun just going grocery shopping with you. Absolutely, But there's
Speaker 7: got to be more to it.
Speaker 8: So you want me to do you want me to
Speaker 8: move in or something?
Speaker 1: Is what.
Speaker 8: I don't know. I'm just I'm spitballing here. I'm distressful.
Speaker 8: I mean, have you ever like.
Speaker 7: Planned a date before, I mean just something like some
Speaker 7: kind of thought.
Speaker 8: I mean I planned one with you. But we went
Speaker 8: to the grocery store and then that was way better
Speaker 8: than anything I came up with.
Speaker 5: What We don't know that it was better or worse.
Speaker 8: We were just going to go to dinner and drinks,
Speaker 8: you know, the normal stuff.
Speaker 5: You know, You're right, grocery store shopping is better.
Speaker 8: I mean, I feel like that was what the magic
Speaker 8: the spice was so speak.
Speaker 1: Listening to her and hearing what she needs though too,
Speaker 1: Like she needs to feel special in taking care of and.
Speaker 8: That's what I was trying to do. She needed a
Speaker 8: spice and I was trying to help her find it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he wants to make her feel special by like
Speaker 2: taking her to the pharmacy to pick up her medication.
Speaker 2: And helping her, you know, organize her junk drawer in
Speaker 2: her cabinet.
Speaker 1: Those things are great. I think that any person would appreciate.
Speaker 4: That, right, But he needs aaron body.
Speaker 1: Yes, but I think that she needs she's saying, and
Speaker 1: I could be wrong. Are you that you need a
Speaker 1: little bit more?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 7: I think the difference is like the love language here,
Speaker 7: you know, like I need that quality time, that special time,
Speaker 7: and he just kind of just wants to like do
Speaker 7: the practical help and that just doesn't reach me as much.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, that is a very clear message.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Ryan, are you hearing her?
Speaker 8: Yeah, Area, I am hearing you, and I hear that
Speaker 8: you don't want me to help you anymore. And that's
Speaker 8: fine what she says.
Speaker 5: I don't think anybody heard.
Speaker 4: How could she have communicated that more clearly?
Speaker 8: Ears are blogged with love?
Speaker 5: Okay? Well again, I think there's an ointment for that.
Speaker 2: But I mean, I think you guys should probably talk
Speaker 2: about it together when you're on a date.
Speaker 1: Pay for half their dry cleaning or pay for dinners.
Speaker 5: Really up to them.
Speaker 8: Maybe we can go to dinner and I'll bring my
Speaker 8: taxes and you can bring your taxes and we'll do those,
Speaker 8: could there.
Speaker 1: Be a less sexy sentence.
Speaker 2: Well, normally here we'd be asking Ryan if he'd want
Speaker 2: to go out, but it sounds like Aria, he's fully invested.
Speaker 4: He's already dropped the album for.
Speaker 5: He's laid it down pretty hard. Aria.
Speaker 2: Do you want to go on a date with Ryan?
Speaker 2: And if you do, we can pay for that date.
Speaker 7: I just feel like he's already halfway to the practical side,
Speaker 7: and that worries me. But I'm willing.
Speaker 6: To give it a shot.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, you can learn to love practical sounds hot, all.
Speaker 5: Right, Ryan? She has officially said yes, kind of.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So maybe bring a little bit of romance with you
Speaker 2: on your tax dinner date.
Speaker 5: Maybe some flowers.
Speaker 8: I will pack some romance in my pocket.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's where you keep your romance.
Speaker 1: That looks in your right pocket, brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: I've been thinking we should advise more first daters to
Speaker 2: say I love you right out the gate.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, as soon as.
Speaker 2: You meet up at the restaurant, hug them and whisper
Speaker 2: I love you, so that you get all that awkwardness
Speaker 2: out of the way and it doesn't happen in the
Speaker 2: middle of our second date calls, because that made us
Speaker 2: uncomfortable and that's.
Speaker 5: Not fair to us.
Speaker 4: She definitely didn't say it back.
Speaker 5: No, she didn't know.
Speaker 2: She didn't know what to say when that came out,
Speaker 2: and that just made it awkward for everybody. Even the
Speaker 2: people listening felt cringe.
Speaker 1: It may work out though, in the end. It's always
Speaker 1: nice to be with someone that loves you more than you.
Speaker 5: Like that baby, I feel like you know they won't
Speaker 5: leave you.
Speaker 2: I appreciate your hopeless optimism in.
Speaker 1: A good way.
Speaker 2: It's going to be tough for him to come back
Speaker 2: from but who knows, maybe miracles will happen.
Speaker 1: You know, she's she's looking at a clock that she's
Speaker 1: worried about.
Speaker 2: So yeah, we're hoping that by the end of the
Speaker 2: year her ears are clogged with love too, and.
Speaker 4: They finish their taxes together.
Speaker 2: Yes, all good things, and we want good things for
Speaker 2: you and your love life.
Speaker 5: Reach out to the show. We can call that person
Speaker 5: who's not calling you back.
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