Speaker 1: What's some y'all?
Speaker 2: Y'all Back from the Mother Lane girl. I didn't want
Speaker 2: to come back.
Speaker 3: Don't ask me about my hair, Okay, if it looked
Speaker 3: like it's mine, it's mine. Are Yeah, it doesn't be
Speaker 3: long distance.
Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Speaker 1: I get in my way, never out of my land.
Speaker 3: It's been like you one in the mom one, so
Speaker 3: it is gonna be baby squad.
Speaker 1: We've been to go deep.
Speaker 3: You running on us?
Speaker 2: What you need?
Speaker 1: Baby?
Speaker 4: Won't you keep me company?
Speaker 1: Give me something to do.
Speaker 2: And I get on.
Speaker 1: I just someone for you when we get home, if
Speaker 1: you let me put it when I at the town.
Speaker 3: What's up, guys, we are back with another episode of
Speaker 3: Humble Baddies. I'm surel Risotto, I'm Ashley Nicole.
Speaker 1: And I'm Alexis Sodamayer and we.
Speaker 2: Are the Humble Baby. What's some, y'all, y'all? Back from
Speaker 2: the Mother Lane girl.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to come back like you trying to.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2: I was celebrating my forty second lap around the Sun
Speaker 2: related thank you so much, Happy birthday, birthday, thank.
Speaker 1: You, thank you.
Speaker 2: It's pisty season, so shout out to my fellow Piscey's
Speaker 2: out there.
Speaker 3: Okay, So you had a good time you were in
Speaker 3: the NYC? I did.
Speaker 1: It's crazy to be back, like full circle. I go often.
Speaker 2: And the fact that my youngest was born there, and
Speaker 2: there's lots of footsteps there in New York and the big.
Speaker 1: City, a lot of time there. Yeah, yeah, we did.
Speaker 2: You know, it was an investment. And you know, if
Speaker 2: they say, if you can make it in New York,
Speaker 2: you can make it anywhere. So the fact that our
Speaker 2: family thrived there, they still thrive. We still have a
Speaker 2: name there, and you know, it's just good to see
Speaker 2: friends that are family that you just haven't seen in
Speaker 2: a while.
Speaker 1: And plus it was a nice change of weather. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and the vibes the people do. Was it snowing?
Speaker 2: No, no snow, no snow, But it was just chilly,
Speaker 2: just a little chili, you know, which I like a
Speaker 2: little brisk.
Speaker 3: Yes, well, we was in.
Speaker 2: The opposite We was in. Tell you what I mean,
Speaker 2: are y'all jet lag like I'm jetlag?
Speaker 3: I'm tired.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we was partying.
Speaker 3: This one had me outside every day every night until
Speaker 3: the sun came up.
Speaker 1: Wait, it wasn't. It was the promoters, and it was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not a party. I never let me write some
Speaker 1: notes about I'm.
Speaker 3: Gonna tell you what you need and your packing hit
Speaker 3: when you go there. You're gonna need Ivy hydration packet. Yeah,
Speaker 3: because there's no sleep. You're gonna have to charge up
Speaker 3: before you leave.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and just go with the flow. So it's not
Speaker 1: a relaxation vacation.
Speaker 3: Coffee and champagne. Like, oh, we were urinating the whole time.
Speaker 3: But you know what, shout out to everybody in Legos,
Speaker 3: everybody in Ghana, y'all showed out great care of us.
Speaker 3: Y'all really showed out, Like we're gonna hopefully we can
Speaker 3: upload some clips. We got some clips of us. Like
Speaker 3: when I tell you, the hospitality there was top tier,
Speaker 3: it was top tier. They showed us so much love.
Speaker 3: They were hosting dinners and I mean they really laid
Speaker 3: out the red carpet like it was very much coming
Speaker 3: to Africa like coming to America, but it was like
Speaker 3: coming to Africa really. So we went to Legos and
Speaker 3: then we also went to Accra in Ghana, and I
Speaker 3: just loved Ghana, Like for me, I want to spend
Speaker 3: more time in God we aren't going to be spending
Speaker 3: more time. We do have some exciting news. A Lottle
Speaker 3: Royalty has partner with a big development company over there
Speaker 3: and we're actually going to go over there soon. So
Speaker 3: it wasn't all play yeah, okay, okay, definitely, you know,
Speaker 3: had some business meetings. We're definitely going to get into
Speaker 3: the real estate business over there. It's a lot of
Speaker 3: new developments happening out there, and a Lord is going
Speaker 3: to be a part of it.
Speaker 2: I hear there are great business opportunities in the Motherland,
Speaker 2: especially Ghana and Nigeria.
Speaker 1: People are coming back.
Speaker 3: As black people. We should definitely invest.
Speaker 2: Price points pretty reasonable to where you yes, absolutely really amazing.
Speaker 3: The units that we're partnering with, they're starting out at
Speaker 3: eighty four thousand and they have a great ROI ros.
Speaker 1: What you get English for those that don't know.
Speaker 3: Return investment Okay, yes, so yeah, I mean we're we're
Speaker 3: here to educate and you know, let everybody know. You know,
Speaker 3: I know a lot of people don't know about you know, investing,
Speaker 3: investing in real estate and investing in a whole nother continent,
Speaker 3: let alone another country. So we're here, you know, send
Speaker 3: us an email if you have questions and we would
Speaker 3: love to help you know, set that up. Yes, I
Speaker 3: love another great thing that I loved about Africa for
Speaker 3: us to go over there and you don't have to
Speaker 3: walk on eggs, you don't have to be a yes
Speaker 3: man or no like you walking in. It's it's generational
Speaker 3: wealth over there. Like you got powerful ass black men,
Speaker 3: powerful as black women over there just killing them. Like
Speaker 3: it was just so beautiful to see. It was kings
Speaker 3: and queens running ship.
Speaker 1: We're basically not the minority.
Speaker 2: Not basically we aren't you know, Yes, yeah, it was
Speaker 2: a beautiful thing to see.
Speaker 1: I love that. How was the food? The food was amazing, Yes,
Speaker 1: it was amazing.
Speaker 3: The food was amazing. We went and got a massage
Speaker 3: at a waterfall. I don't know if I don't know.
Speaker 1: If to say that, we're.
Speaker 3: Not gonna talk about that.
Speaker 2: Beautiful you're in nature, you're getting massage, just rest and relaxation.
Speaker 2: I mean why it was a little different. It was
Speaker 2: as different. The men in Ghana are very beautiful. I'm
Speaker 2: just a scam yeah, and.
Speaker 3: The big musculs.
Speaker 2: And this is who was doing the massaging or just
Speaker 2: in general. I just wanted my mic a little closely.
Speaker 3: We're talking about the messages, but in general, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: they're beautiful people, beautiful country, beautiful people.
Speaker 2: Yeah that so everyone was warm with you guys, and
Speaker 2: just warm and very catering.
Speaker 3: Yeah, everybody wanted to make sure like we had a
Speaker 3: great time and we did well.
Speaker 2: Ash did you you did say the last episode that
Speaker 2: you were looking for you know, prince.
Speaker 1: Okay, I want to know the people, do want to know.
Speaker 3: The matchmaker. But we know that men are very aggression.
Speaker 1: It's already.
Speaker 3: But no, they walked up to my friends, my single
Speaker 3: friend and was like, I want your number, give me
Speaker 3: your number.
Speaker 1: So no time station, no, none of that. It was
Speaker 1: more just very it.
Speaker 3: Was very straight to the very direct, assertive man.
Speaker 1: But did I give out my number?
Speaker 3: Did you?
Speaker 1: Did you?
Speaker 3: I didn't.
Speaker 1: There was no one that piqued your interests.
Speaker 3: No, okay, okay, well okay, I have to go back
Speaker 3: because I said we had a mission.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Ashley did say that.
Speaker 3: Okay, well that.
Speaker 1: Was that was good.
Speaker 2: At least I see and we see at least you
Speaker 2: went and like spreaking a little essence there.
Speaker 3: We'll be back. So it's fine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm gonna go this time. Are you gonna
Speaker 1: go with us?
Speaker 2: For real?
Speaker 1: I will?
Speaker 2: Okay, it was just a little conflicts of interest with
Speaker 2: my birthday everything.
Speaker 3: You know, maybe you may not want to come back.
Speaker 3: You want to be there for your birthday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there for your birthday.
Speaker 3: So next year, next year, let's make it happen.
Speaker 1: I love that for you all though. I love it's
Speaker 1: so much fun.
Speaker 3: Like yeah, and I was telling Ashley and everyone, like
Speaker 3: I did the ancestry DNA and I found out, like
Speaker 3: when it does a breakdown, I'm twenty six percent Nigerian. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I love that she's a Nija queen.
Speaker 2: Hmm.
Speaker 1: I love that. It's beautiful. But you're gonna love it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't wait. I can't wait.
Speaker 3: So, yeah, I need a break though. I'm tired. Okay,
Speaker 3: but you're about to go back on vacation. I know.
Speaker 3: I got one more trip with the kids, Like, you know,
Speaker 3: I owe the kids.
Speaker 1: And it's just hard.
Speaker 3: So I gotta take the kids on their little spring
Speaker 3: break trip. Yeah, and then I'm setting my ass down
Speaker 3: because my mother like that. Yeah, I gotta take mine too.
Speaker 3: They don't start spring breaking until two more weeks from now.
Speaker 2: So this is the first year that I have three
Speaker 2: of my babies, or there's just it's three different schedules.
Speaker 2: So nobody's going on a group trip. It'll be more
Speaker 2: individualized because they're overlapping ones. One's on spring break now,
Speaker 2: then I have a sided coming in next weekend. Then
Speaker 2: she's a good week, and then after that is are
Speaker 2: the boys. So it's just all over the place. So
Speaker 2: all of March is spring break. Somebody's on spring break.
Speaker 1: Well, that's amazing.
Speaker 3: That is It's a blessing, right, it is blessing. They're
Speaker 3: wearing me out though they are.
Speaker 2: It's never a done moment with them because on spring break,
Speaker 2: do you feel like you have to put them in activities,
Speaker 2: keep them busy or is that a time for everyone
Speaker 2: to rest.
Speaker 1: You got to keep them busy.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm always trying to keep them busy,
Speaker 3: but I feel like for spring break it is a
Speaker 3: time for us to do something different, like get together,
Speaker 3: do something different, get out the house, you know, go
Speaker 3: on a trip something, even if it's not like far,
Speaker 3: just get them out of their environment.
Speaker 1: Show them something different.
Speaker 3: I feel like, you know, I can speak on myself
Speaker 3: be growing up as a child, I wasn't able to
Speaker 3: travel the world. So just showing them the world, giving
Speaker 3: them an exce parents said, I didn't have. I love that.
Speaker 3: It's better than just giving them money or hand for
Speaker 3: their time or put them in a summer camp, like
Speaker 3: let's go, let's go, let me show you the world.
Speaker 2: Hands on education. You just cannot get that back in
Speaker 2: those core memories that they'll take forever.
Speaker 1: It is. It's amazing to always travel with your children.
Speaker 3: But Chad, he reached out to me, you know, we're
Speaker 3: still nothing like that, but we still are a family
Speaker 3: at the end of the day, and he was like,
Speaker 3: have the baby ready. So Serenity's getting her hair done
Speaker 3: and the sisters are shopping.
Speaker 1: He's taking all his girls on a trip a daddy
Speaker 1: daughter spring breaks.
Speaker 3: So Serenity and her sisters where their dad leaves tomorrow
Speaker 3: to go to Dominican Republic. You wanted to make it
Speaker 3: a competition, you take them to d R. I'm taking
Speaker 3: the girls to Dubai jump So and Arianna both graduate
Speaker 3: in May, so their trip for me will be going
Speaker 3: to Dubam.
Speaker 1: That would be fun, all the girls, the older girls.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. Now, now when you travel, are
Speaker 2: the kids in first class?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: No, baby they gonna be in economy, but mama gonna
Speaker 3: be in first class. Mama gonna be at the head,
Speaker 3: and they could be at the tail. Do your kids
Speaker 3: travel first class too?
Speaker 1: They got kicked out a long time ago. They don't
Speaker 1: liquor first. They don't drink the liquor, they don't eat
Speaker 1: the food.
Speaker 2: And I mean it's funny because they were like, why
Speaker 2: are you in first I'm like, wait, what, Especially the
Speaker 2: boys when they met me in Japan, it was so
Speaker 2: tight in the back.
Speaker 1: I was like, look, I don't know what to tell you.
Speaker 3: And the old enough now, like they don't need to
Speaker 3: be like right sitting right next to the past class.
Speaker 3: I was thirty years old. It was like, no, it's
Speaker 3: a privilege. Yes, y'all gotta work for this. I'm gonna
Speaker 3: make sure y'all get there. Yes, y'all maybe in the
Speaker 3: back of the plane, but y'all got.
Speaker 1: To work for you.
Speaker 2: And you're right, I don't have to be under them.
Speaker 2: They're all stuff efficient. All the iPads are charged, the
Speaker 2: phones are charged, they sleep, they can watch whatever.
Speaker 3: They want't nobody's stealing.
Speaker 2: Yes, So like, what do you guys think of travel etiquette?
Speaker 2: I know, speaking of like traveling and these airplanes, it's
Speaker 2: real scary right now?
Speaker 3: Do you feel like it's a real thing?
Speaker 2: You know, travel etiquette is we might start teaching some
Speaker 2: lessons the travel.
Speaker 3: But did y'all see and I felt like that happened
Speaker 3: to me where I seen a news article where the
Speaker 3: plane had to turn around because the guy was excessively farting.
Speaker 3: That is how much do you have to be fighting
Speaker 3: for them to turn it down? Plane enough?
Speaker 1: Too? Are sick? Yeah, from the smell. That's horrible.
Speaker 3: That's all. Now I have let out a part or
Speaker 3: two Ashley. I'm sorry, but we're family. When I was
Speaker 3: texting you and b T, I was like, oh, y'all, like,
Speaker 3: I guess the food.
Speaker 1: So we was on the plane, on the plane, you
Speaker 1: know the altitude.
Speaker 3: I had that listen. I had the blanket seal because
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, my stomach is it was?
Speaker 1: Where can you have let it out? Something?
Speaker 3: Taking malaria, the malaria pills, making yes.
Speaker 2: You're eating at weird times and the playing around that
Speaker 2: is something.
Speaker 3: So you let one I had They was the solid ones.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 2: It's the silent killers you got. No one knows everybody
Speaker 2: that I think.
Speaker 3: Everybody's afforded one good little I'm saying because that's like
Speaker 3: a little yeah with Chad and I used to be
Speaker 3: on the plane and it was one time where I
Speaker 3: had bad gas and the people was looking at.
Speaker 2: They're not gonna think that it's the woman and she's
Speaker 2: so cute, but she's saying, I'm looking at it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you think that's funny.
Speaker 2: It's that's that is the farting to me is when
Speaker 2: people take their shoes off and their feet smell.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's nasty.
Speaker 2: I was sitting next to a guy going from like
Speaker 2: cross country and it's already a long flight and we
Speaker 2: were on those in those kind of like the pods
Speaker 2: to where it.
Speaker 1: Was two the right next.
Speaker 2: So I was like, he, and it's long, where you
Speaker 2: want to rest because if it's like most likely if
Speaker 2: it's a red eye, you know.
Speaker 3: So at first, at first, I was like, you're gonna
Speaker 3: make me sick.
Speaker 1: I was like, is it?
Speaker 2: It has to be him, you know, because at first
Speaker 2: you just just this overwhelming foot odor. Then I looked
Speaker 2: and I was like, yeah, I think it is. So
Speaker 2: I was like I tapped him. I was like, sir,
Speaker 2: do you mind, like, you know, covering up your feet,
Speaker 2: and he was like.
Speaker 1: He looked at me and he was just like kind
Speaker 1: of gave me the shoulder and kind of like.
Speaker 2: Turned, No he didn't because I was. But then he
Speaker 2: did end up covering up his feet with the blanket.
Speaker 2: But no, that that funk penetrated.
Speaker 1: It had it had to be fungused. It had to
Speaker 1: be something.
Speaker 2: But I feel like people think they're at home when
Speaker 2: they're on the plane and you forget it's a share space.
Speaker 2: And not only is the share space, it's a tiny
Speaker 2: shared space and you don't pay all this money to
Speaker 2: sit and you know, first it seems to be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: It's just not it's not cool.
Speaker 3: It was a crying baby on my way back from Africa.
Speaker 3: It was and the long leg, the long leg, that's tough.
Speaker 3: It is tough because I remember them days flying with
Speaker 3: my baby and they will be crying and I was
Speaker 3: just like, damn, I remember them days. But I feel
Speaker 3: like you should always be like the type of person
Speaker 3: because I will never forget this. There was this one
Speaker 3: flight my baby was crying, crying, crying, and this old
Speaker 3: white man was like, let me help you, let me
Speaker 3: help you. With your baby. And I was like no,
Speaker 3: like because you're just like I got my baby. I'm good.
Speaker 3: And he was like, just let me help me. And
Speaker 3: I was like no, no, no, I'm good. And then my
Speaker 3: baby just kept crying, kept crying. So finally he just
Speaker 3: took my baby. He didn't say nothing to me, he
Speaker 3: just grabbed him. And when I tell you, my baby,
Speaker 3: he just this was Philip when he was little. He
Speaker 3: just stopped crying just like that and went to sleep
Speaker 3: in that man's arm.
Speaker 1: And I looked at that man.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, like thank you so much.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna starting to cry because I really was having
Speaker 3: like a old time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you try to like, oh what people are
Speaker 1: looking at you?
Speaker 3: So I always feel like people should remember, like, you know,
Speaker 3: the mom is probably going through it right now. Like
Speaker 3: I always look for like the moms who like need
Speaker 3: a help a hand with their strollers and like, cause
Speaker 3: they got so much going on. Where you're traveling there,
Speaker 3: that's a lot, you know. Yeah, But in that moment
Speaker 3: in Africa, for a second, I was like I just
Speaker 3: want to go to sleep, of course, and then you
Speaker 3: remember that used to be you, that used to be
Speaker 3: so don't forget. And I was like, okay, just put
Speaker 3: your headphones in. Girls, your headphones.
Speaker 1: In and go to sleep.
Speaker 3: I do as we're gonna create. We're gonna help Ashley create.
Speaker 3: Allowed for headphones the whole time we was in Africa
Speaker 3: because the music is loud. Ear plugs, yes, because I have.
Speaker 1: So it's like it's.
Speaker 3: Too loud for me in the I'm old, you're not old. Okay,
Speaker 3: well I don't know, but I do not. I can't
Speaker 3: do the loud noises in the club. So if you
Speaker 3: ever see me in the club or something in my ear,
Speaker 3: just ignore it.
Speaker 1: And it was super loud.
Speaker 3: So what I do if I don't have if I
Speaker 3: don't have my ear plugs, I will get a tissue
Speaker 3: and then I like get a little piece and I
Speaker 3: ball it up in my hand. I put it in
Speaker 3: my mouth so it can get a little wet, and
Speaker 3: then I roll it up in my hand and then
Speaker 3: I stuff them in my ears and it makes here
Speaker 3: and you hear if you try to talk to me
Speaker 3: in the club. But no, no, y'all can't hear you.
Speaker 3: As soon as I put them in, I can hear you,
Speaker 3: but I can't hear what like, So much loud, and
Speaker 3: I know people be looking at me like I'm crazy,
Speaker 3: and I know it's annoying, but I gotta do it.
Speaker 1: So actually going too with her own line of clubs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, y'all better said, y'all gonna be thanking me when
Speaker 3: y'all older, y'all can hear y'all go into the club
Speaker 3: every night.
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna put those maxes on, turn that noise
Speaker 2: cancelation and just max out.
Speaker 1: Never out of my name.
Speaker 2: It's like you and the.
Speaker 3: Mom next I say something different, booths, but you see this.
Speaker 3: Did you take your locks out?
Speaker 1: I did?
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, I'm in this hair journey of right now. Well,
Speaker 2: I would say it's been it's been over a year
Speaker 2: of me having the locks, which I love. It's something
Speaker 2: that I didn't know I was missing, you know, like
Speaker 2: in just my vibe, just my extra like a little layer.
Speaker 2: But I'm in the age of where they are locked,
Speaker 2: so I was. I'm in a lock reformation.
Speaker 1: Phase right now.
Speaker 2: So it took hours to take out the locks. And
Speaker 2: now I got a deep condition and had to cover
Speaker 2: up these grades and I'm getting them all relocked permanently tomorrow.
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, are you going to add extensions or are
Speaker 3: you just going to use.
Speaker 1: Your Yeah, I'm add these extensions.
Speaker 2: But like my hair grew so much, I had so
Speaker 2: much new growth, and they've already started locking. So it's
Speaker 2: just like a big step being forty two and only
Speaker 2: a week old, Like so much is going on, you
Speaker 2: know where I'm just like, you know, it's time, and
Speaker 2: that's your crown, you know, it's very very sacred, and so.
Speaker 1: Like I love how I feel in them. I love
Speaker 1: my vis thank you, thank you, thank you. So it's
Speaker 1: just my essence right now.
Speaker 2: And so I just wanted to make sure I was
Speaker 2: doing it the right way, the correct way. And so
Speaker 2: now I'm locking locking in literally and my boys, my
Speaker 2: boys have them for years. My oldest just cut his
Speaker 2: two years ago, and then my baby still has them.
Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna be like them and just rock out.
Speaker 3: One day, lock my hair up, to come on, my
Speaker 3: whole family can be yes, all right, you're the only
Speaker 3: one locked up. So one day when I get like,
Speaker 3: I don't know what age so long, it's so I'm
Speaker 3: gonna lock it though. To be doing this when I'm
Speaker 3: older in age, and I like it, I go I
Speaker 3: just especially living here in Mia. Eventually I want to
Speaker 3: cut all my hair off and go short.
Speaker 1: You should go right back to try it.
Speaker 2: I short hair before, like, we need we need a picture,
Speaker 2: we need some evidence because I got a question.
Speaker 1: I got a question.
Speaker 3: Okay, So what do you guys feel about men feeling
Speaker 3: like they have a say so what their woman does
Speaker 3: with their hair? Do they do you do? Do we
Speaker 3: need to get permission for them to make a big
Speaker 3: hair change, if we want to do a big chop,
Speaker 3: if we want to lock up. How do you feel
Speaker 3: about that? I think I say yes. You know what's
Speaker 3: funny conversation No, before we go into this. So I
Speaker 3: was on a plane coming back from Africa and this
Speaker 3: guy was sitting next to me and we were having
Speaker 3: a conversation. We was talking about everything, and he was like,
Speaker 3: is that your real hair? And I was like, no,
Speaker 3: I have extensions. And he was looking at it and
Speaker 3: he was like, I hate I hate women who wear
Speaker 3: the lace front. He said, it's okay, but if if
Speaker 3: it looks crazy, I don't like it. And the other
Speaker 3: thing I don't like is the smell of the smell,
Speaker 3: because you know, some hair thinks it has like a
Speaker 3: particular smell, a horrible smell, and I said, I understand
Speaker 3: where you're coming from, like that was his pet peep.
Speaker 3: I said, I totally understand where you're coming from because
Speaker 3: I hate that smell too, and I hate seeing when
Speaker 3: the lace fronts are just lift in and it ain't
Speaker 3: done right now. Okay, So I feel you with with
Speaker 3: your man. If they don't like that, I feel like
Speaker 3: you should take key to what they're saying. That's just
Speaker 3: like I don't know. I feel like, Okay, so like
Speaker 3: if he met me with my hair like that and
Speaker 3: he liked me enough to come and say hello and
Speaker 3: want to take me down blah blah blah blah, then
Speaker 3: I feel like then he gotta deal with it. But
Speaker 3: I feel like if he met me and I was
Speaker 3: natural and then maybe I switched over, then we can
Speaker 3: have a conversation about it. But I don't think he
Speaker 3: necessarily has to say in it, like you can let
Speaker 3: me know. I don't prefer that, but that's fine because
Speaker 3: I like this, So I think that's.
Speaker 4: What I know.
Speaker 3: But I feel like what I was taking from your
Speaker 3: question is, Okay, what if you Okay, your man met
Speaker 3: you met me, you just met him on the plane.
Speaker 3: So that's why I was saying that. But what if
Speaker 3: this is your man and you want to do a
Speaker 3: big change, You're gonna do a big.
Speaker 1: Change because it has to be a big change has
Speaker 1: to be I.
Speaker 3: Would consult with Hey, babe, I think I think I'm
Speaker 3: gonna try this.
Speaker 1: What do you think about it? I like their opinion.
Speaker 2: I think that's a good way to approach it. Like,
Speaker 2: especially that's your man. You know, y'all have this dialogue,
Speaker 2: y'all are friends. You have the conversation and going off
Speaker 2: of how he met you, that's what attracted to him
Speaker 2: to you in the first place. So what a big
Speaker 2: change like that comes sometimes a life change too, you know,
Speaker 2: because something could have triggered the haircut. It could have
Speaker 2: been anything, because it is it's it's a moment of
Speaker 2: your spirituality, your soul switching off because you want to
Speaker 2: change something and to your all point, like my swag
Speaker 2: switched up a little bit with the locks and the vibes.
Speaker 2: So like low key, the right partner would have to
Speaker 2: handle that, you know what I'm saying. If that's the case.
Speaker 2: But low key, I was talking to one of my
Speaker 2: friends about it. I was like, what do you think
Speaker 2: of it, like, you know, if I he was like, don't.
Speaker 1: Cut the locks.
Speaker 2: He was like, you need to consult your man if
Speaker 2: you're going to cut them locks off, because that's just dope.
Speaker 2: Like I was like, I kind of get that, you know,
Speaker 2: but I would definitely have that conversation.
Speaker 1: But I know that's what like is part of your vibe.
Speaker 2: Or your your your essence, so it is a part
Speaker 2: of who you are.
Speaker 3: You know how you stand about them locks being gone temporarily, Let's.
Speaker 1: Be back tomorrow, don't worry. Did you face someone not yet?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean, but you know, i'd be talking about
Speaker 3: your friend. They'd be like, let me go back to this.
Speaker 3: Somebody coming in and was like, let me go back
Speaker 3: to this Texas.
Speaker 2: You'll never know, you never you would never know. But
Speaker 2: you know, it's good to have friends everywhere.
Speaker 4: Guys.
Speaker 1: You know, let's just say this.
Speaker 3: Every time we talk about their friend and then don't
Speaker 3: get rid. That's buggy.
Speaker 2: You change.
Speaker 1: We're talking about hair. Okay, you brought.
Speaker 2: A friend up, a friend, like you know that means
Speaker 2: going to be back in.
Speaker 1: So you can put all.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, yes, I don't know. I'm thinking about like
Speaker 3: if he'll ever cut his locks, because I met him,
Speaker 3: I've only known him with locks.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it goes both ways, even with the guys. Can
Speaker 1: you imagine that.
Speaker 2: I cannot because they have facial hair changes changes. I
Speaker 2: can't imagine him to grow a beard or not to
Speaker 2: grow beard, to go bald or not to be bald.
Speaker 1: Or I can't see chat with any hair real hair either. No,
Speaker 1: because but can't he grow hair. He can't grow hair.
Speaker 3: I used to be I used to be barber.
Speaker 1: So he's choosing to be balds. We look better balls. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't think he would look right. You like ball
Speaker 1: guys I liked.
Speaker 3: When we were together. I like that bald head man.
Speaker 2: But okay, but yeah, so I think it's also for
Speaker 2: men and me into I think you should consult if
Speaker 2: it's a big change.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I don't like a man asking if my
Speaker 3: hair is real or not. I feel like that's rude,
Speaker 3: especially for you as a black woman exactly.
Speaker 2: But you felt okay with that man asking that. What
Speaker 2: on the plane he was like, is this your real hair?
Speaker 1: I didn't think too much of it. I was like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I got some extensions in here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't like that, but you know, I'm old
Speaker 3: school when it comes to that, Like you shouldn't. I'm
Speaker 3: like I like back in the day when like we
Speaker 3: didn't know what you had going on in your head.
Speaker 3: But now it's like everybody, it's like a flex to
Speaker 3: be like I got that thirty inch bus down blah
Speaker 3: blah blah.
Speaker 2: Because it's an accessory. You know, we've embraced hair culture.
Speaker 2: Now we've embraced locks.
Speaker 3: And I'm not mad.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I love journey.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like, don't worry about it, don't your hair is beautiful.
Speaker 1: Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Don't worry about sweetheart.
Speaker 3: Don't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I understand what you're saying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I guess I'm old school, But
Speaker 3: don't tell you what I got going on in here.
Speaker 3: It's for all y'all want to know. And no, you
Speaker 3: can't touch it.
Speaker 1: But you know, you know, especially let me just be
Speaker 1: one hundred.
Speaker 2: You know, we prep for a trip for the protection
Speaker 2: of our hair. So whether it's braids, whether it's a
Speaker 2: deep condition or something, we're gonna switch it up for convenience,
Speaker 2: you know. So I feel like, you know, they shouldn't
Speaker 2: be asking. No one should be asking like why you
Speaker 2: got that?
Speaker 3: Why are you doing that?
Speaker 4: Right now?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: So, Ashley don't like a lot of people asking about
Speaker 2: don't ask me about my hair.
Speaker 3: Okay. If it looked like it's mine, it's mine, period. Okay,
Speaker 3: don't ask me, no question. And if you ask me,
Speaker 3: it's mine because I bought it, period.
Speaker 1: And that's that.
Speaker 3: And the locks up and you can't so you can't
Speaker 3: touch it, period.
Speaker 1: And do not ask a woman about their hair.
Speaker 2: No, let her come to you.
Speaker 3: All right, y'all, Now it's time for our favorite time
Speaker 3: is the Humble Batty's Mail time?
Speaker 2: Ye?
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 3: Who do we have today? This week's male is from Dominique. Dominique,
Speaker 3: she says, y'all, I'm stuck. So I'm currently going through
Speaker 3: a divorce and guess who else is my high school sweetheart.
Speaker 3: We recently connected after six years and the vibes are
Speaker 3: still there. It's like no time has passed. Now here's
Speaker 3: the dilemma. We both want to give this a real
Speaker 3: shot once our divorces are finalized. But he's in the military,
Speaker 3: which means we would be starting off this relationship long distance.
Speaker 3: And let me tell you I hate long distance, but
Speaker 3: I've loved this man for twelve years. So what do
Speaker 3: I do? Do I dive in and make it work?
Speaker 3: Or am I setting myself up for heartbreak? Help me out,
Speaker 3: humble Batties.
Speaker 2: Domini, Well, I'm gonna tell you like this girl, you
Speaker 2: are just coming out of a relationship, right. Oh she
Speaker 2: put the cards down for this because I just got
Speaker 2: out of a relationship, and go ahead and what nothinga
Speaker 2: uh huh No, I was no saying Actually with Charlie,
Speaker 2: go go okay, okay, listen, honey, Dominique, focus on you,
Speaker 2: heal you do.
Speaker 3: Whatever it is to make sure that you're happy, because
Speaker 3: what you don't want to do is get into another relationship.
Speaker 3: I don't know why you guys are ending your relationship
Speaker 3: going through a divorce, but you need that healing time
Speaker 3: and that's on some serious like find out what makes
Speaker 3: you happy. And because you don't want to bring whatever
Speaker 3: it is from your previous relationship, it had to be
Speaker 3: something because y'all are going through a divorce into this
Speaker 3: new relationship. If he's been your high school sweetheart and
Speaker 3: you still have feelings, take it slow, like you could
Speaker 3: communicate with him. You still can date him and date others,
Speaker 3: but find out what it is that you want, because
Speaker 3: it may seem like it's happy and butterflies right now,
Speaker 3: but it can be right. It can be something to
Speaker 3: like a temporary void. So you don't want to make
Speaker 3: you want to make sure it's not that temporary void.
Speaker 3: So focus on you. Do you date a little bit,
Speaker 3: and then we'll see where it leads to. That's my opinion.
Speaker 1: I agree and disagree.
Speaker 4: Y'all know.
Speaker 2: I'm the hopeless romantic. I feel being a divorcite. I
Speaker 2: feel like people do have an expiration date, and I
Speaker 2: also believe in divine divine timing. I agree with you
Speaker 2: saying you need to heal and you also need to
Speaker 2: focus on yourself, because that's one thing they do have
Speaker 2: in common, is one they're familiar with each other, but
Speaker 2: it's a different stage in life. They have both been
Speaker 2: through traumatic events, meaning like a marriage and a divorce
Speaker 2: and military y'all both know how that is. So that
Speaker 2: can also be taxing on just the mental and just
Speaker 2: really just an additive.
Speaker 1: Of with the healing journey and age shit.
Speaker 2: So you're adding that and plus you're you're adding still
Speaker 2: trauma from the previous relationship, if there was infidelity, if
Speaker 2: there was financial reasons, whatever the cause of divorce between
Speaker 2: those parties were.
Speaker 1: So I agree with healing, but.
Speaker 2: I also believe in again the timing is perfect in
Speaker 2: their own way, so they can heal together.
Speaker 3: I feel like I like both these answers. I feel
Speaker 3: like you can't go wrong with any either one of
Speaker 3: these answers. But I feel like with some of these questions,
Speaker 3: you know, y'all be knowing the answers, I feel like, right,
Speaker 3: and y'all just what, you're still married. We don't have
Speaker 3: married the voice. I don't married the voice like.
Speaker 2: I don't like y'all be known with we have some
Speaker 2: life experience, but this is my husband Colin. See we
Speaker 2: have some life experience on that way. So, yes, I'm
Speaker 2: filming my mad work.
Speaker 3: They we're filming.
Speaker 1: We're filming.
Speaker 3: Answer the question. I feel answer the question. Yes, can
Speaker 3: you answer this question? We have a question from a
Speaker 3: humble baddy. Can you answer it? The question? Is this
Speaker 3: girl Dominique, she just got a divorce, but she reconnected
Speaker 3: with her old high school sweetheart after six years.
Speaker 1: You're both going through divorce.
Speaker 3: They're both going through a divorce and they just rekindled.
Speaker 3: But he's in the military and they wouldn't get in
Speaker 3: a relationship. But it's but it's gonna be long term
Speaker 3: because he's in the military. What should she long distance?
Speaker 1: Put it?
Speaker 3: Put it towards some mikes it.
Speaker 4: What are they going to be long distance?
Speaker 3: Said, yeah, it gonna be long distance.
Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I said. I said. They be writing
Speaker 3: these questions knowing to answer. They just want us to
Speaker 3: sign some bullshit. That's the answer. Okay, thank you, babe,
Speaker 3: love you. I'm gonna call you in about ten minutes.
Speaker 3: It can be done. Okay, all right, okay, bye bye.
Speaker 1: I respect. Yeah, you know it ain't gonna work.
Speaker 3: It's temporary healing because they both need to heal. I
Speaker 3: agree and see what they really want. It feels good
Speaker 3: and it sounds good for the moment. Yeah, but it's
Speaker 3: not gonna work.
Speaker 1: Maybe they can heal together.
Speaker 3: Dominique, it's not gonna work. We don't know.
Speaker 1: If it's not gonna work, Dominique.
Speaker 3: Dominique, go and but.
Speaker 2: I say, data, mall a ma do all that, top one,
Speaker 2: But this ain't it.
Speaker 3: Just know that okay, and that's okay. It's okay girl,
Speaker 3: you see me over here and heaven we can't co
Speaker 3: sign everything all of us, okay, But anyways, thank you
Speaker 3: for writing us over here at the Humble Batties. Thank you.
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